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Thank you for your response and advice! It really is helpful to hear from someone else who has ADHD as a woman. I do think it’s the main reason I get irritable sometimes and it makes me feel the complete opposite of feminine. That’s a great idea to just change the tone in which I’m speaking to him. It’s simple but effective. I always greet him when he gets home but I’m not always the sweetest when I’m in the middle of something. He tends to do some projects around the house after work too, so it…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 06:29 PM
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So we actually do crab legs which are much easier! I’ve never made lobster either but remember that scene too LOL. Crab legs you cook similarly I believe - just boil in water!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 03:18 PM
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I would say most of us on this sub would recommend having a degree/job and financial independence for yourself prior to marriage. Many believe this, but that you should know your job isn’t what is going to make you high value as a woman. This is part of the RP beliefs but I think it varies from person to person. Having a job shows that you know how to function as an adult, manage responsibilities, and be a good steward of your money (thus there is less risk of you only being with him for his mon…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 04:46 PM
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If you are happy with your relationship, he treats you well, and you see a future with him, I don’t see any reason to end it just because you have some self improvement to do. You are very young though, so if you don’t see it going anywhere and/or you aren’t happy, you still have a lot of time left in your 20s for dating. How long have you two been dating? To put it in perspective, I had my first serious relationship around your age (18ish-21) and it taught me a lot. But like you, I had a lot to…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 04:22 PM
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I agree - I read it this way too and I think it’s going a bit far. It’s one thing to be aware of your surroundings and proceeding with caution, another to completely segregate yourself from any male that isn’t your husband/father. Do I have male friends? Not really, nor would I go out of my way to spend time alone with a male that isn’t my beau or ask him to go have a drink with me. But if a male enters my house, likely one of our couple friends or bf’s brother or friends - I’ll greet them with …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 04:09 PM
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It definitely varies in the winter vs. summer! We are homebodies, me especially, in the winter. So we rarely go out and I’m okay with that. We live in the mountains so the constant 3+ feet of snow and negative temps outside make it hard to leave. We’ll normally make a fire, watch a movie or show together, he’ll have a whiskey, sometimes red wine for me. We may play cards or work on house projects/clean. Depending on how the week went we may cook something to make it feel more like “date night” o…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 03:52 PM
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I was browsing on here and so hoping someone would make a post about Valentine’s Day! I love reading about what others do and finding new ideas :) I think we will likely celebrate early on Saturday - with it falling on a Monday and the super bowl on Sunday. We live together so we’ll be together either way, but it feels more like a date night on the weekend! My bf is planning to spend some time with his brother that day, so it’ll give me plenty of time to get the house (and myself) looking nice. …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 03:40 PM
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Thank you for this! You are so right, and I know we will have a fulfilling life no matter what we decide. It also gives me hope that we have time to make that decision still and it’s okay that we don’t feel ready right this moment. While I understand how aging can make it more difficult to have children, it’s still possible and we have time. I completely relate to that… it’s a big decision and there is so much anxiety surrounding it. I am happy to hear that you were able to have a baby and that …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:44 PM
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Thank you for sharing this response - it was comforting to me read and know that if we do decide not to have children that we still have our relationship and life ahead of us. It also serves as a reminder that your relationship should always be the top priority and how you can set that example for your kids. I think that’s part of what scares me about having children - is seeing how some marriages seem to fall apart as a result because the relationship no longer becomes a priority.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:39 PM
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Yes! I feel this so deeply. I also wonder about that when it comes to a entering a lifelong commitment with someone… it seems like the bar may be set higher or the relationship not as strong when you don’t have children/family. I so badly wish I had that strong instinct to be a mother but I don’t - I’m open to it changing with age. But it definitely has me feeling insecure at times.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:35 PM
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This is very true, thanks! I think it’s been on my mind more as we discuss marriage, and also my own fears and concerns surrounding infertility and the possibility that the choice could be taken away from me. I agree though, I do not want to live on a timeline and feel like I have to hit certain life milestones just because they’re the “norm” or I see people my age doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:31 PM
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Thank you - I appreciate hearing a different perspective on this! I have noticed the same things with friends and family, having kids vs. child free. The last thing I want is to bring a child into the world and then end up hating being a parent. I’m definitely on the fence, part of it being because I do still have that desire to have a “blast in my life” lol. Bf and I are very adventurous and love to travel and always jokingly talk about selling our house to live on a sailboat or remote island s…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:29 PM
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Thank you so much for this, for sharing your story and all of the advice. It is really helpful and made me realize some things - especially your coworker talking about not liking other people’s kids. That makes so much sense, I am just coming back from a 10 day vacation with the bf’s family and his nieces and nephews who made me a little crazy, and I think that’s part of why I’m in more of a negative headspace around it right now lol similar to your experience as a librarian in the summer. I am …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:23 PM
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Thank you so much for this! I am 100% going to check it out and appreciate that there is actually literature out there to help with this. Especially in an objective, non-biased way.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:09 PM
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Thank you for sharing your experience! This does give me hope that we can open our minds and hearts to it especially as we get older (if we do end up getting married). That was smart to have a serious discussion about it at a certain age because I am sure at that point it has to become a definitive yes or no…because unfortunately the clock keeps on ticking. That is so interesting you say that, and now that you do, I can envision people in my own life on both sides and some clearly are more negat…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:08 PM
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Thank you so much for your response and advice - I truly appreciate it and it gave me lots to think about. I definitely need to spend some more time researching and truly think about what I want out of my life and what could possibly be holding me back from wanting children. I think therapy would be good too. It has been on my mind a lot lately, not just because of marriage hopefully being around the corner for me, but realizing that I AM getting older and while I know I have time, the clock is …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 04:59 PM
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Yes this makes sense! Maybe once we are married (assuming this happens) the security that marriage provides will make me feel more ready… I think that could be a big part of it, because I’m approaching it more as an individual in which case I would say heck no I’m not ready lol. Thank you for sharing your story and advice - I love what you said - that kids were something to do together or not at all.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 04:52 PM
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Yes agreed with you on both fronts!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 08:37 PM
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I would focus on losing the weight and self care. Make yourself feel beautiful and sexy and maybe that will help you get into the right mindset. I say this as someone who also struggles with a lower sex drive (to all you ladies with a high one - I’m jealous!) I also have mental health issues. I know it’s easier said than done. But when you take better care of yourself and feel confident in the woman that you are, it should leak over into your sex life. You don’t have to put on a dress or a full …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 05:50 PM
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Agree with all of the comments here so far. The only thing that I would add is that it may be worth actually talking about with him. (Bring him the problem, not the answer!) Of course I agree that you should avoid turning down sex. However I also think maybe you can ease into it, having sex every single day after just having a baby doesn’t necessarily seem like a realistic goal to me. I don’t know what you were like before baby, if that was the norm. Figure something out that you’ll both be happ…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 03:53 PM
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Love that you mentioned Gilmore Girls! I actually really like that show despite it being quite the opposite of RPW (Lorelei specifically). I also think Emily is a good example… not her personality, but the way she cares for Richard and her family, keeps up with social events, etc. For a similar reason I like Friday Night Lights and Eric/Tami’s relationship. Even though Tami chooses to keep her job, I think she’s a really good example of the type of wife I would aspire to be. She’s supportive, ch…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 03:43 PM
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I’ve seen these videos too and read about her on r/FundieSnark and r/Tradfemsnark and I agree with you all. The people in those subs truly enjoy dragging others. Sometimes they make a good point, but I find most of the posts there to be unnecessarily cruel. There’s a lot of grasping at straws, and like you said, trying to dig up dirt to continue to hate on people. Even for superficial things like the clothes they wear or the food they eat or the way they decorate their home. They drag these Chri…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 03:29 PM
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Agreed!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 06:04 AM
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I suppose I should add to my question about Christmas! But I will be going home to spend the holidays with my parents in two weeks. We have been doing Christmas separate over the last several years of dating (although it makes me sad!) We both just know how hard scheduling can be as you get older and everyone is getting married and having kids. So we have prioritized spending time with our respective families over the holidays but will spend them together in the future if we are to get married. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 08:58 PM
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I have two questions! 1) Does anyone have a good vacuum recommendation that is safe to use on wood or artificial wood flooring? 2) What is everyone doing to get into the holiday spirit around home? Do you have any Christmas traditions you share with your bf/hubby?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 08:52 PM
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Agreed with counseling/therapy, I would consider doing it both individually and together. There are also “sex therapists” who may be able to help with this specific situation.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 06:01 PM
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Yes! I am obsessed with the holiday season and love decorating my home for Christmas even though it’s just my bf and I. The lights make everything so cozy :) but I agree with buying some things each year to slowly build your collection! I personally find Target to have a lot of cute, more reasonably priced decor.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 05:05 PM
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Trying to be more positive and generally happy/content with where I’m at in life. Sure there are some things that stress me out, but for the most part, I am extremely lucky and I want to be more grateful for that and appreciate it while I have it. Lately I’ve been a little down in the dumps, negative, and a shorter temper and I’m hoping to change that. I’ve had more people asking me “what’s wrong” lately so I know it is evident to those around me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/21 08:50 PM
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Yes! I so relate to this and also hope to improve on it this winter.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/21 08:39 PM
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I think the other comments do a good job of explaining how you can bring femininity into stereotypically masculine jobs. to answer, no I don’t think it would be off putting. In terms of feminine careers. Stereotypically some would include being a nurse, teacher, childcare provider (daycare/nanny/preschool), secretary, working in retail. Some others that I think get overlooked are things like interior design, graphic design - what I personally do and it makes me a very visual/aesthetic person whi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 05:53 PM
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I agree, but I do think we may have views on what boundaries are. I don’t see boundaries as a means to change a person, but rather the guiding principles you hold yourself and your marriage to. What is acceptable, and what isn’t? What crosses a line? Of course the vetting stage should help, especially for ensuring your compatibility and alignment on values/morals/goals/etc. But inevitably, life throws things your way, and while your overall character should be a good indicator of how you’ll hand…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 05:32 PM
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I actually posted something very similar not long ago (26&30, together 3 years, living together)! I got some good advice there if its helpful to read. I’ve wondered and struggled with the same thing. How can I check in without coming off as nagging him or ruining the surprise. Do you talk about your future/marriage/kids at all? That may be helpful to know the extent at which you’ve discussed it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 08:34 PM
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How exciting! I really would try to focus on how you will look after braces and the new found confidence that will come with straight teeth. I’m currently in a similar situation, my teeth have shifted since I had braces as a child and I am trying to figure out what route to go (braces, Invisalign, veneers..) I don’t love the idea of how I’ll look with braces, but I do think it would be worth it in the long run. My mother actually had braces when I was a kid (in her 30s?) and she was till very fe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 08:27 PM
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I wear both contacts and glasses, and have been since I was 10 (now turning 27). I used to only wear my contacts, I would just use my glasses before bed and when I woke up in the morning. Now that I’m a bit older, stare at a computer for a living, live in a dryer climate, and have learned how expensive my daily contacts actually are now that I pay for them myself… I’ve been wearing my glasses more! Probably half of the week or a little over half. I’m not sure if you’re single or in a relationshi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 06:43 PM
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I am obsessed with sundresses and they’re such a staple in my summer wardrobe. I also love that I’ve been going to so many weddings in the past few years and have had the opportunity to dress even fancier :) My struggle is how to wear them in the winter! I live in the mountains and it snows SO MUCH and realistically I probably wouldn’t be wearing them outside the house in the cold months (don’t really go many places anyway!) I have a few sweater dresses that look okay with leggings underneath. B…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 06:16 PM
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As a person with naturally really thin eyebrows, I am jealous! Funny how we always want what we don’t have haha 😂
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 05:07 PM
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I agree, but I do think it’s also important to set boundaries within your relationship and acknowledge those as a couple, including what happens if those boundaries are crossed?
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 05:02 PM
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My parents actually made all of us (3 siblings and I) learn to play piano — biggest regret for me is quitting! I could be a piano superstar now if I kept up with it hahaha! But I also played guitar when I was in high school and loved that so maybe I’ll look into that too. Already feeling excited about all these ideas!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 10:26 PM
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I love dancing and yoga! Belly dancing sounds interesting, so you just watch YouTube tutorials? It’s not something that is offered as classes where I live. I really enjoy painting too but I’m thinking maybe I need to find a tutorial to follow along with :) I’m really intrigued by the idea of starting an Instagram page or blog or something too! I’ve had some good success doing it for my business but I think it would be fun just to have one for my hobbies and girly things. Thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 10:15 PM
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I love doing my nails too! I got a UV lamp and gel polish during quarantine and it’s been a really fun skill to learn, and saves some money :) I haven’t ever tried to do any art with it though, but that is something that sounds interesting to try at least! I love the idea of embroidery and the clay polymer earrings too - I’ve been seeing those everywhere and have wondered how they’re created. Thank you for all the suggestions, and I’ll check out skillshare too!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 10:11 PM
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All of the things I listed - sewing/knitting/crochet are all things I am actually interested in learning, I personally bucket them into the same category. But I don’t know which one would be the most beginner friendly or lower cost starting out. I’m okay with it involving a lot of supplies if it turns out to be something I truly enjoy, I have my own office/workspace for storage. Likewise, if I find something I love and it is expensive, that isn’t a dealbreaker either. I just don’t want to invest…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 10:08 PM
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This is the exact opposite of my goal lol! I feel like I monetize every creative skill I have in my life, and I would like to be able to find a way to express myself without trying to turn it into a means of making money. Maybe if I got good enough at something I would be open to it later on, but for now just looking for another past time
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 10:00 PM
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Oh I love houseplants and interior design both! I’m curious when you say studying, is is something you purchase books about the topic, or researching online?
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 09:59 PM
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Thank you! What a beautiful scarf. That looks like a great tutorial to start with.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 09:58 PM
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I would LOVE to get into embroidery! I joined that sub and wow all of the creations in there are amazing. I think those would make such cute gifts too, and even better that it’s relatively inexpensive to get into. It would be really neat to learn how to apply it to dish towels or other fabric materials! I really enjoy puzzles too - this isn’t even something I would’ve thought of, but now I’m feeling inspired to get some new ones! That’s so smart to use a poster board too. Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 09:54 PM
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I don’t think there’s much difference in a 15 year old and 18 year old boy, to be honest with you. This is why I would really encourage you to date up, I don’t think he’s at the maturity level needed to be a serious partner. Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but I would really think long and hard about it. People can change and grow and forgiveness is a thing. You can forgive him and move past this, but I don’t think he’s a candidate for a serious relationship. Saying all of this with …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 03:43 PM
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I don’t have kids yet, but I’ve wondered the same thing, especially as I get closer to that stage in my life, so I’m interested to hear what others say. I grew up in a mild RPW family though. Raised Christian in the church. We went to a Presbyterian and non-denominational church, so there were never any strict rules about dress, modesty, hair, etc. But we had a very traditional family unit, as did everyone else that attended church with us. I really do look back fondly, going to church and comin…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 03:36 PM
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I agree with this! I think it’s great that you have some things planned, but reading through it all, it seems like a lot. (Ie - cooking 3 new meals a day, cleaning his entire house, as much sex as he wants). I am sure you are so excited and grateful to be staying with him, but I think you need to strike a balance. You know him better than us, but I would also make sure he’s okay with you doing all of the cooking/cleaning since it is his home and you are a guest
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 03:17 PM
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If you have a connection with him otherwise and like him, I would give it another shot! Have you been on actual dates with this guy too? As others have mentioned, it’s actually more common than we realize. Things like medication he’s taking can impact that too. I know it’s hard not to feel bad about it, or feel like it’s your fault. But it isn’t! This has happened to my bf before too and I understand that feeling. But try not to get too into your head about it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 02:29 PM
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I do not think that relationship is worth it. Sure, people can change after cheating, but there’s a reason “once a cheater, always a cheater” is a popular phrase. Cheating is a betrayal of trust and crossing a boundary. I would stick to your boundaries and not go back to him. 3 months and 9 months isn’t long and it would be better to cut your losses early before you get even more attached. And as a side note, I wouldn’t recommend dating men younger than you. Age gaps don’t matter as much when yo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 05:20 PM
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I am a person who has always struggled with being naturally “happy” – I have mild anxiety/depression and ADHD, and as much as I want to be that woman who is happy and joyful and warm and bubbly all the time, it doesn’t come easy for me. Now I’m in a very different spot in life than you - I don’t have kids and I’m only in a LTR right now. I can only imagine how challenging it must be raising 4 kiddos on top of working and taking care of your home. So feel free to take my advice with a grain of sa…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 03:39 PM
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Right! Hoping to get my expenses down closer to $1500 but they’ll stay high until I finish paying off my course. Because I am self employed, my income fluctuates, which is another reason I think I struggle sometimes. For example, last month I made around 5K, this month I’ll bring in $1400, next month 4K. I think what I really need to do is set up a savings account or just be more mindful about where my money is going, so I can account for the months when less money is coming in. I also need to f…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 03:02 PM
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I have recently been getting back into cooking too! I am 26, I had a few years where I was really into it, but got a little lazy with it the past year or so. Now I’m trying to polish my skills and keep improving. One thing I have been doing is really focusing on perfecting a few specific dishes. Some examples for me would include chili, lasagna, chicken pot pie, pot roast, and chicken enchiladas. These are all meals I know I can make and people will LOVE (especially my man!) I feel like it’s so …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/21 10:39 PM
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Hi there! Here’s a breakdown - • Rent: $950 • Car insurance: $50 • Medication: -$20-$40 • Health/Dental Insurance: around $250 at the moment, I may be shopping around for something different in 2022 • Peloton subscription: $43 • Groceries: $150 • Fuel: $40 (if that, I rarely drive!) • Business expenses: Will be around $100/mo. Currently it’s $800/mo due to a digital course I am paying off and will be done with in February Some of the expenses, like groceries and rent, I do think could be negotia…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/21 10:14 PM
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I love Yoga with Adrienne! I will say I find most of her videos to be more relaxing and focused on flexibility, but I think they are a great place to start especially as a beginner. If you find you want more heat, there are lots of virtual instructors to choose from! (Free and paid). I really enjoy yoga just casually in the morning, and if the weather is decent where you live, I also think getting into the habit of going on walks is smart! You get fresh air, vitamin D, and some exercise in :) Li…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 04:16 PM
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Generally I think it’s smart to go for an older man, but 15 years is quite the age gap. I also think it depends on your ages, where you’re at in life, how dating has been going for you, etc. Adding on that he has a kid(s?) and lives with his parents, I think that is something I would likely try to avoid. You’ll get the short end of the stick when it comes to the time and energy he has to devote to you, and it may be challenging to “break in” to a tight family unit like that. I’d also be curious …
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 04:02 PM
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Your pros and cons list isn’t what will convince him to want to marry you. I agree! Just to be clear I don’t think my “pros” or “cons” are what will make him marry me or me increasing sex to 3x a week and wearing a dress will magically get me a ring. I just wanted to be forthcoming in this post about our relationship, the value I bring to it, and the areas I do need to work on improving and nurturing looking at this through a RP lens. I remember you mentioning something about “our land” and “our…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 03:54 PM
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I just wanted to say thank you for your response and providing this perspective! It was a good reminder for me that I need to be secure in who I am as a woman and the value that I can bring to our relationship. It’s also a good reminder for me to tell him these things too, and really express my gratitude to him out loud. Of course I think a lot of these things, but I could do a better job of making sure he knows it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 03:41 PM
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Thank you for your response! I agree I 100% don’t want to have him propose to me out of obligation - I want him to genuinely want to do it. And after reading through these different perspectives, really thinking about him and our relationship, and having a conversation about it again on Friday, I feel much better. I think my post really came from a place of insecurity, impatience, and honestly a little bit of resentment and bitterness because everyone is getting engaged this time of year. I feel…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 03:39 PM
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Thank you so much for your response! I really appreciate hearing all the different perspectives on my situation. I will say overall your thread did resonate with me, which is part of why I’m feeling a little stuck at the moment. I don’t want to withhold “wife benefits” or the kind things I do for him that I know he appreciates. I feel like that would totally be flipping a switch on him. Like you said, I also don’t want to just stay silent about it! I feel like the less open I am about how I’m fe…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 03:27 PM
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Thank you for both of these! Great way to put it and I’ll try it out :) im glad it worked out for you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 05:08 PM
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I live in a place where it’s snowing 8 months out of the year, so I feel your pain! A lot of good suggestions here - sweater dresses with leggings or dresses/skirts with tights underneath. Here are some other ideas - • Faux leather pants: here’s an example these are very stylish right now so you can get them at a variety of price points. I have some in black, and camel brown from Zara. They look great with a fitted mockneck bodysuit or sweater. • This leads to my next point - bodysuits!! I have …
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 01:55 PM
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Thank you for your response and advice! I appreciate it. While I know there are many things I can do better and will be working on, I agree that he would’ve brought it up with me. The biggest issue was alcohol for me but I feel as if that is something we resolved together. How we moved in together is sort of a long story lol. But essentially I had a terrible roommate, moved into a one bedroom apartment I could barely afford to get away from the situation (contributed to my financial issues). The…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 02:00 AM
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Thank you for your blunt advice - I do appreciate it and this is what I came here looking for. It sucks to hear about the age thing, but I agree with you. It is something I have thought and questioned too - it’s not like we’re in our early twenties here. I suppose I’ve justified it because of many of our friends who are in similar situations, but they also aren’t RPW. He also has good reason to not see me as wife material and I know there are so many areas I can improve upon. I 100% am on board …
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 01:43 AM
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I agree with you, thank you for the advice. I have been very upfront about it throughout our relationship, however, I haven’t done a good job of actually sticking to those boundaries, especially now that so much time has passed. We are having a date night tomorrow so I think it will come up organically and I will ask these questions. I definitely need to try to control my emotions more when it comes up, not my strong suit
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 01:25 AM
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Thank you for your response and feedback! I guess despite trying to avoid “nagging” him about it, it does come up in conversation quite a bit. We’re at that age where we are going to so many weddings and it seems like every day one of my friends is getting engaged. But for the most part, it’s something we joke about or talk about light-heartedly? At least in our everyday interactions. For example: we’re chatting with his mom on the phone and it comes up and he says in a joking tone, “there’s so …
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 01:23 AM
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This is great, thank you! I will definitely start thinking about it this way. I like the example that you shared as well. I really do need to start thinking more critically about my purchases, right now I impulse buy things and don’t even think twice. But later, much like your example, I run out of money and instantly regret all the mindless purchases I made
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 06:44 PM
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Wow, that is amazing! I have heard about that app before on some finance subs but couldn’t wrap my head around paying for something when I’m trying to budget lol! But I will actually check it out because it seems like it has really worked for you. I do have a separate business account but I actually don’t even have a budget for it which is probably another big no-no and reason I’m overspending. I am going to look up that method you shared too. Right now I need to go all in on my debts but I real…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 06:39 PM
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I will watch this! Thank you for the recommendation. I am sure it will be eye opening for me. I know I waste so much money on frivolous things, so I really should try to think about it through the lens of not even having it as an option
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 12:12 AM
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This is a wonderful idea, thank you! Right now my goal is to pay off my debts, but I don’t know if that’s even enough motivation for me, even though it should be. But I will try to think of it through the lens of saving to pay off debts to then be able to buy or save for something I truly want. I will look into getting a savings account set up too! I had one before but it was the same bank as my checking account and I ended up treating it like money I could withdraw and spend vs. actual savings
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 12:11 AM
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This is a good idea, thank you! I honestly think I could go months without spending (having a surplus of hygiene products and toilet paper, and boyfriend typically purchases our groceries). It’s just a matter of setting my mind to it and sticking to it. It will definitely be a withdrawal, but I know I need to do it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 11:56 PM
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Maybe 2-3 times per week, on a good week. I would like to increase the frequency of it, but I have a lower libido. :( Trying to work through that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 04:44 PM
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