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Because of the current state of our culture, I would consider the possibility that he’s afraid that he could possibly be accused of having non consensual sex with you while you were drunk. I’m not saying this is the exact reason, but keep it in mind. I know a lot of guys who are genuinely terrified of this. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment, so I think you made a mistake by giving him sex without him giving you any form of commitment. It sounds like you d…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 03:50 PM
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I think the best thing at this point in time is to remove your ego from the situation and have a serious conversation with him. Your ego has been hurt so you are attacking his ego, which is making things worse. Men place a lot of value on their sexual performance, so it’s extremely hurtful for you to blow up on him for his inability to get an erection. There could be a lot of reasons why he’s not having sex with you (depression, porn addiction, medication, low testosterone, unknown medical condi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 07:52 PM
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You need to ask yourself why you’re overeating. Overeating is always a reflection of your mental health. It seems like you view yourself in a negative way. You won’t lose weight until you work on that issue. I tried losing weight for years but until I actively worked on my self esteem, the weight would always come back. Although it’s admirable that want you to look attractive for your boyfriend, it’s more important that you’re wanting to lose weight so you’re comfortable in your own body. The ab…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 09:48 PM
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IMO by asking for proof as a response to a man saying he’s divorced is not a good move. It shows him you have trust issues and you have trauma from the past you have not healed from. You should be able to tell from context clues whether or not he’s actually divorced. Some clues could be: he barely texts you, when you start dating he’s weird about you coming to his house, when you go on a date in public he seems paranoid, he only wants to hangout at night, he can only hangout for a certain amount…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 02:15 AM
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Don’t change in that way. Try changing your behaviors in the ways I talked about in my previous comment. My previous comment didn’t talk about changing how you treat him sexually. Keep that the same.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 10:44 PM
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In the book it talks about how life is like a mirror. His actions are a reflection of your actions. I think it would be more beneficial to try changing your behavior first and see how he reacts vs talking to him first. It’s not fair criticizing him for his behavior if you’ve put in zero effort to change yours.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 10:28 PM
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I think he’s gotten way too comfortable and he probably feels like he doesn’t need to try anymore. You’re doing wife duties for him when you’re not even married. Why are you doing his laundry for him? I think you need to learn the difference between being submissive and being a doormat. It’s also possible that you “mother zoned” yourself. You’ve put yourself in the mother role by taking care of him as if he was a child for the last few months. You’ve turned him off by assuming this role, which h…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 09:54 PM
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It’s amazing, I couldn’t recommend it more! It has great advice for all areas of life, not just dating.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 06:41 PM
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I think we need to know a little more information... I don’t exactly understand the problem, or how this affects your relationship. It seems like you’re upset that he’s not meeting your specific expectations, even if he’s not doing anything wrong. He might not give physical presents to his friends and family, but it’s possible he offers gifts in other forms (need more information to know if this is the case). “I don’t hate him for it but I wish he felt at least a little awkward”... this statemen…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 05:34 AM
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I think if you’re aware you have an anxious attachment style, you should seek counseling. Our attachment styles develop from childhood, so simply finding a hobby won’t solve the problem. A therapist or counselor can give you tools to help you change your attachment style. Having a strong, stable partner is also useful, but you need to make sure you’re not becoming codependent on him. The first step is recognizing the problem, which you have already done, you’re off to a great start! :) Although …
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 05:11 AM
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I’m not going to sink to your level by calling you names. I’m open with my plastic surgery because I’m secure with myself. The opinions of others don’t bother me, nor do they influence my decisions. I feel sorry for you that go through life with so much hatred.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 06:16 PM
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You didn’t address anything I said and you deleted your previous comment. You don’t know anything about the red pill. You’re trying to push your own personal agenda disguised as the red pill. I didn’t say conservatives were oppressed. All I said was the term “pick me” is directed at conservative women 99% of the time. Please don’t put words in my mouth. Even if you use the term to describe women who justify emotional neglect and hookup culture, it’s still not ok. These women are broken and need …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 06:00 PM
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I agree that there are women who do the whole “not like other girls” act in order to impress men. Every time I’ve seen the term “pick me” used was when it was directed at a conservative woman. I’ve seen a woman called a pick me for saying she cooks dinner for her husband. We won’t end abuse by “holding men accountable”. It’s not our job to hold men accountable. Men should hold other men accountable, just as women should hold other women accountable. Fatherhood has been neglected because we have …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 01:27 AM
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Have they ever mentioned any of their interests? For example, they’re really into drinking wine, so you could get them a nice bottle of wine. Maybe you could get them a gift card for a couples massage, I know a lot of spas offer really good couple package deals around this time of year. If they have a favorite restaurant, you could get them a gift card to go out to eat a few times.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 07:10 PM
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“Pick Me” is a term made up by feminists to describe any woman that disagrees with them, specially a woman who won’t get on the “all men are trash” bandwagon. I love how they think women are smarter than men, yet at the same time they will actively shame a woman for having a different view point than them. It makes zero sense.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 08:50 AM
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Men do know whether or not they want to marry a woman. There’s no incentive for him to marry you because you’re already acting like you’re married without him being 100% committed to you. Maybe you should try bringing him your problem instead of your solution. Instead of saying something like, “I’m upset that we’re not engaged yet and I want you to purpose” say “I don’t think you’re 100% committed to this relationship and our future and it makes me feel as if you don’t value me” and let him come…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 03:00 AM
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This is a little concerning to me that he can’t be honest with you about how he’s feeling about this situation. Does he have a difficult time with confrontation? How do you tend to act when you guys get into an argument or disagreement?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 01:00 AM
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I think may have shot yourself in the foot a little bit. He associates those duties with being a wife, hence he calls you “wifey” when he sees you doing those things. He’s most likely hesitant to propose because of this. The moving into your own apartment thing seems like an excuse. He has already been living with you, despite his brother being there too, so I’m not sure why you two need to live by yourselves before he purposes. If anything, you’re going to end up doing more wife duties if there…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 12:53 AM
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It sounds like you’re playing the wife role, while still being his girlfriend. What duties are you providing him with now, and how are they different to the duties you would provide him if you were married?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 12:37 AM
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I would say that you messed up by even going over to his house in the first place... it’s your first date. You also messed up by saying that you’re not having sex with him on the first date because you don’t want him to think you’re a “whore”. You didn’t stop yourself from sleeping with him on the first date because you think it’s wrong or it’s something you wouldn’t do, you were concerned about his perception of you. I’m sorry, but I think you need to move on. He doesn’t seem interested. We all…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 08:43 PM
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Thank you for posting this! I’m also grateful for this community because I also have a very difficult time meeting friends that I’m able to relate to. I also had a traumatic childhood and it definitely contributed to becoming redpilled. I became a binge eater due to being abused, which made me gain weight. I put no effort into my appearance. I tried to be one of the guys and I was convinced men prefer a funny and educated woman. I was confused when guys were never interested in me because I was …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 05:24 PM
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Men in this day and age are used to seeing women dressed provocatively. All they have to do is google a four letter word and they have access to millions of videos of naked women. My advice is to dress in well fitted clothing, but not to reveal too much. It leaves room for imagination, and from what I have observed, it drives men wild. Learn what your body type is, and wear clothing that flatters it. If you’re going to show some cleavage, don’t show your legs and vice versa. Avoid necklines that…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 10:17 AM
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Read the wiki for r/RedPillWomen. It covers this topic :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 07:10 AM
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Even though you dress nicely for him, you put more effort into dressing nicely when his friends are around. I’m not sure what’s holding you back from behaving like that in front of him all the time. You’re clearly capable of behaving that way.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 04:55 AM
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This is not healthy. It seems like you have more of a desire to be sexy for your husband’s friends than you do for your actual husband. Your husband is not stupid. He will eventually realize that you treat him better in front of other men, and he will know you’re doing it for the sole purpose of getting attention. How do you think that will affect your relationship? This sounds like hypergamy, so I’m going to link a section of the RPW wiki below that I think would be helpful. Tips for combating …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 02:51 AM
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This is the equivalent to a guy with a feeding fetish saying he wants his girlfriend to stop eating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:40 AM
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That’s why I worry when a guy says he’s against porn. The guys who are “anti porn” always seem to be into the nastiest, most depraved porn that exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:46 AM
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True, but all my favorite dinner places are quit pricey lol. I’m also frustrated because a lot of the times they want me to plan the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:36 AM
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What are some examples of high effort dates for teenagers? I personally am working full time, but most guys my age are in college and don’t have much money. I don’t expect a guy my age to spend all his money on me but I’m tired of guys being like “let’s go on a drive” and stuff like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:31 AM
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Hey girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:27 AM
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The first pic is probably from when he was 10 years younger. And we got men out here saying that “the wall” only applies to women🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:34 AM
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The comment saying that women should be on birth control is disgusting. It’s a joke that women are expected to be on birth control, when male hormonal birth control can’t even make it past the testing stages because men complained about the side effects, despite the side effects being very similar to the side effects a lot of females experience on a regular basis while taking hormonal birth control. I personally will not be sacrificing my happiness just so some fool can get his weenie wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:31 AM
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Thank you. I needed to hear this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:06 AM
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You’re right. I honestly just needed to get this off my chest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:01 AM
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That’s why FDS encourages women not to sleep with men until you are in a committed relationship. This still is not fool proof, unfortunately. Most guys who are in it for only sex won’t wait for commitment. Men will think of you as easy if you sleep with them right away. There’s really no getting around that. I’ll say it again for the people in the back...CASUAL SEX DOES NOT BENEFIT WOMEN. Hookup culture is hurting women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:24 AM
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That’s a negative, ghost rider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 06:16 AM
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I one time told a guy that I liked his haircut, and later I found out that I was supposedly “leading him on” even though I had very little interaction with him. Guys always complain about how they never get compliments. It’s because you can’t give a guy a compliment without him thinking you’re romantically interested in him. I can tell my girl friends they look gorgeous without them thinking I like them. I stopped complimenting men I’m not interested in because it always leads them to believe th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:42 AM
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Ok but can someone tell me why the fuck incest porn is being normalized?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:54 AM
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That’s I was thinking. It was very kind of him, but filming it kind of ruins it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:50 AM
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Ok but side note... ladies learn to cook for yourself! Don’t go through life eating mediocre food
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:43 AM
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This reminds me of those posts from middle school where they were like “Tag this post to ten friends🙈🙈🙈and you’ll meet the love of your life in three weeks❤️❤️❤️If you ignore this post you will have bad luck for the rest of the year.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:57 PM
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I think instead of taking the red pill, they all took the retard pill🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:39 PM
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I find that a lot of them want open relationships. I don’t know if you have observed that. They will also never offer to take you out on a nice date. They always want you to come over to their place and fuck on the first date. They also can be very aggressive and drink a lot. I tend to stay away. There are a few exceptions, but it’s like finding a needle in a haystack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:19 PM
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Are you from Colorado? There’s a bunch of military scrotes near me. Somehow the military attracts the most degenerate types of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:05 PM
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So true, that’s why I never guess people’s age. And if I’m forced to, I guess lower than the age I actually think they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:22 PM
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He couldn’t even go through the effort of selling that ring and buying another one. He didn’t even get the ring professionally cleaned for god sake. This has to be a joke. I don’t know how girls let crappy relationships get this far. There had to be red flags before this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:16 PM
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Starfish Sex = Me regretting this sexual interaction and praying it ends as soon as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:12 AM
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I am emotionally available but I have become very protective of my heart. I’m also very sensitive. I don’t know if it was because she was a Sagittarius lol my friends don’t have to act like that with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:35 PM
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I’m a Sagittarius :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:28 PM
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I think this quote applies to friends too. Hold high standards for the people you surround yourself with. Don’t surround yourself with pickmes. They will not hesitate to pick a LVM over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:53 AM
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That sounds amazing. I’m also working on myself right now (weight, appearance, organizing, education, career). I’m trying to be the best person I can be and I know I will eventually meet a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:38 AM
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Then you’re fine! It’s not your fault all these men expect sex to go down like a fucking porn scene. It seems like your partner was not good at pleasing you. You shouldn’t have to learn to like a certain style of sex. Never settle for bad sex and don’t have sex with men who can’t handle criticism about sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:33 AM
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It’s ok :) I wouldn’t worry. We all have to learn at some point. Intimacy with a partner should be fun and exciting. You shouldn’t have to be concerned about being judged. I’m not sure if your kissing is actually an issue. Here are a few tips I’ve learned: Let him take the lead. All you have to do is follow what he does. Don’t pucker your lips too much. They should be relaxed so they feel soft and gentle. When it comes to tongue, less is more. Don’t shove your whole tongue down their throat. I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:27 AM
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Men and Women tend to have different wants when it comes to intimacy. For example with kissing, on average men want “wetter” kisses with more tongue than women want. I wouldn’t take it to heart. Maybe if two separate partners commented on the exact same thing, then it might be something you’re doing. I don’t think it’s wrong to give someone corrections with things relating to intimacy. What I disagree with is that it wasn’t constructive criticism. They were just insulting you. For example when I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:06 AM
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1.) This is extremely hard to navigate. At some point he’s going to consume some type of pornography, even if he’s porn free. It’s everywhere. You also need to understand that men don’t give up pornography for the reason women want them to. Men don’t give up pornography because porn isn’t ethical. They give it up for reasons regarding their health/performance. 2.) I don’t think there’s a specific place to find men that don’t watch porn. Porn consumption is a huge issue among all demographics of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:53 PM
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Lord of the Rings, goblin-ass lookin bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:20 PM
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“SeE SwEeTiE, EvEn ScIeNcE SaYs It’S BeTtER NoT tO WeAR a ConDoM. I DoN’t WaNt tO WeAr A cOnDoM sO YoU DoN’T gEt DePpRESsION🤠” Ok let’s pray to god LVM don’t see this study because we already know it’s already a verbal MMA fight to get them to wrap it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:33 AM
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Me too girl. I was so desperate for male attention I would literally make any excuse for toxic male behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:24 AM
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If you haven’t look at the sidebar, you should check it out. It has FDS approved youtubers, podcasts, and books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:57 AM
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My parents do this a lot. I have one “friend” who happens to be the daughter of my parents’ friends. I don’t want to be friends with her and my parents make me feel bad about it. She is a typical pickme, which drives me crazy. I have let her stay at my house for extended periods of time when she wasn’t getting along with her family. In return she talks badly about me to other people. I was also having major medical issues while she was staying at my house. She lied to all of our friends and told…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:26 AM
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Do both! Here’s a video where Wayne Goss explains the technique: https://youtu.be/EyQsVyGadbY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:24 AM
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Try the NYX shine killer. You should do a layer of translucent powder on your face before you apply foundation. Also I would invest in an all day setting spray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 05:50 AM
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We’re going to need to have a chat with the CEO of men because too many of them believe this is true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:14 AM
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Like why would any women every pay for dick when she can hop on tinder and find a guy to fuck within minutes lol. I swear some guys will fuck anything that moves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:08 AM
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When will men understand that their dicks are low value and abundant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:52 PM
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I like it because it makes things easier, but it also makes me throw up in my mouth a little. Ya feel? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:07 AM
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The act of having sex with your landlord is not illegal. On the other hand, having sex with your landlord in exchange for lower rent might be a very different story. There’s other issues with the whole sex in exchange for tenancy idea. A landlord cannot specifically advertise that he wants a female tenant. That’s discrimination in itself. A landlord cannot discriminate based on gender. Second if he was to happen to get a female applicant, he wouldn’t be able to bring up this idea with her. That …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:31 AM
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I’m a paralegal that works in landlord tenant law and this is 100% illegal. Also this is just plain gross and disgusting. Ok let me edit my comment: not all aspects of it are illegal. But it’s not enforceable and could lead to a lot of problems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:45 PM
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It sucks to watch your best friend go through this, but she needs to learn on her own. You’ve tried to help and now it’s taking a toll on you. You might need to distance yourself from her if it’s seriously affecting you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:26 AM
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I agree, I think it’s all about context and personal preferences. It’s not a yes or no answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:59 AM
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I’m probably going to get down voted for this, but I personally don’t think it’s wrong. Sex isn’t always a lustful thing. In cases like this it’s about showing love and comfort. Personally I feel very comforted and safe when I have sex with someone I love. I do understand where you’re coming from, but I think it really depends on the context of the situation. For example, it’s different if a guy I’m in a relationship is comforting me while I’m upset and it leads to sex than say some random guy a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:58 AM
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Totally agree! Low self esteem clouds your judgement and leads you to believe you deserve less than you do. LVM prey on girls with low self esteem. Protect yourselves, ladies <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:33 PM
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Text him back and say he should be spending his time in quarantine working out instead of texting you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:21 PM
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Typical pickmes sigh... this whole situation makes me very uncomfortable. I would dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:48 AM
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I’ve never listened to it, and after listening to your brief description of it, I never want to spend my free time listening to this piece of garbage. This podcast sounds like a pet on the back for LVM. LVM want you to believe this stuff is true. This stuff is true for only LVM. The reality is most men can’t even pull a “7” on their best day. I’m a year older than you for reference. LVM will cheat no matter what. Literal supermodels get cheated on. Is dating at this age hard? Yes. Will you meet …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:41 AM
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I didn’t say that everything from a guys past was ok. You’re comparing apples to oranges. I was talking about pasts regarding previous relationships. Obviously if a guy was a prior felon or hard drug addict, no one from FDS would want a relationship with them. FDS states in the wiki that guys who have purchased prostitute services are also a big no. It should be assumed that any active participant in this sub agrees with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:31 AM
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Imagine doing all of this for a man you’re not even married too. She’s taking care of his daughter for the love of god. He can’t even say thank you. All he does is bitch about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:03 AM
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Are his friends assholes? Do they regularly encourage him to make poor decisions? I think it’s a red flag when guys have bad friends. People tend to hangout with other like minded people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:01 AM
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It depends on what mental state he’s in. We all have a past. We’ve all been hurt. A lot of us have had bad experiences with past relationships. It’s important that he’s moved on and grown from those experiences before dating you. I think it’s weird that he seems to be bringing her up so much to the point that it’s a turn off for you. He seems stuck on her. It’s a red flag if a guy talks about his past relationships too much. I would end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:58 AM
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I hate that “vanilla sex” even has a name. It should just be called sex because that’s what it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:03 AM
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I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. That whole situation sounds absolutely repulsive. I think if you even need to question a guy’s hygiene then you should dump him. He can go scurry around with the other rats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:01 AM
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I’m gonna be real, dicks are such a neutral thing for me. I’ve never been aroused by staring at a dick and I’m 100% straight. Ok maybe 95% because some of you gals do be looking pretty cute. I think that’s why a lot of guys are so eager to send dick pics. They think we will become instantly horny from seeing their dick because that’s how it is in porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:55 AM
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There’s some studies that have been done that show guys who are porn addicts are more likely to be bald, or something along those lines. I could find it for you if you’re interested. It sounds like he only recently gave it up. Unfortunately just because a guy doesn’t watch porn doesn’t mean he’s an angel. He was only into nofap to get more girls by retaining testosterone. Apparently it makes guys more attractive to us ladies lol. He didn’t care about the ethical or moral implications of porn. Ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:54 AM
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Here’s a few signs 1.) If he’s overtly sexual...i.e. talks about sex before you guys even go out on a date 2.) He doesn’t care about pleasing you 3.) He rushes into sex and doesn’t focus on foreplay 4.) If he has any issues with this penis...i.e. can’t get it up/keep it up or finished too fast/ takes 45 minutes to finish 5.) He’s too rough in general before sex... i.e. grabbing your boobs too hard 6.) He’s into bdsm or very rough sex 7.) During sex he flips you into a different position every 2 …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:24 AM
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I guarantee the guy that posted this is bald
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:05 PM
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This guy is just exposing himself, he’s short and has a small dick... thank you, next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 07:22 PM
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This reminds of another post on FDS where it talked about no matter what the guy looks like he always thinks he deserves top tier beautiful women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:12 AM
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Elon Musk is also having a baby with a singer named “Grimes”...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:01 AM
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LVM only are nice when they want to fuck. Imagine seeing someone seriously in need and being like, “nah they don’t make my pee pee hard so I’m just going to walk away”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:36 AM
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Yeah then you would be totally fine. You should go for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:32 AM
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If you use it in moderation it’s ok. If you use it a lot then I would presume it would cause some sexual dysfunction. It wouldn’t cause permanent issues, so if you find it affecting your sex life then I would cut back on it or take a break. I recommend the pro satisfyer 2. It replicates oral sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:26 AM
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That is a really good response! I don’t know why men can’t get that stupid “body count” number out of their heads once you tell them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:31 PM
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True! I genuinely don’t know how to respond when a guy asks about sexual history/“body count”. I know this is off topic but if anyone has any good responses let me know please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:15 PM
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I think this is a great example of why sexual history should not be discussed with a man. They’ll somehow use it against you. She’s exhausted from taking care of two young children and this guy doesn’t even care if his wife is ok. All he cares about is his weenie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:56 PM
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Thank you so much <3 it’s inspiring to hear from women like you who were able to grow past this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:23 AM
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That’s my reasoning too. Also in order to improve with a therapist, you have to be honest. I would have a hard time sharing my experiences with a man and I think some of things I would want to share would also be inappropriate to share with a dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:58 AM
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I have a difficult time staying away from men like this because for so long I was attracted to the idea of serving a man in every way possible... I know that sounds bad. It’s how my mom raised me, unfortunately. I’ve also have had many men treat me poorly. I have been doing a great job of this lately. I agree tho, it’s not a personality trait. It’s like when guys make fun of girls who watch “The Office” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:56 AM
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I do tend to jump the gun sometimes so thank you for accepting my apology! I don’t think it is discussed. I’m genuinely confused about this. I think it would be a great post or addition to the FDS wiki about what long term financials/responsibilities in the relationship should look like... I have a general idea as well but my ideas are clouded from what society tells women to do/be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:53 AM
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1.) Weight loss 2.) Educating myself (reading books and looking at colleges to apply to) 3.)Working on my overall style 4.)Practicing makeup techniques 5.) Mental health (I have very bad anxiety, and I’m currently looking for a therapist but it’s very difficult to find a FEMALE therapist whose taking new clients in my area) 6.)Building strong relationships with my girl friends 7.)Staying organized and cleaning my room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:48 AM
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Read my other message haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:43 AM
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Ok so I misinterpreted what you said and I just re-read everything, I agree with you when it comes to long term expenses. Sorry my b <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:42 AM
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The handbook states that “there should be no splitting the bill”. A generous man is a must... if you go to the wiki it’s under FDS ideology, bullet point 6
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:40 AM
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No men should 100% pay for dates per the FDS handbook. That being said some women on this sub only take pits and pieces of FDS and then apply that to their dating life. They should not be labeled disciples if they don’t follow basic FDS “rules”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:33 AM
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I agree. I hate how people get shit on for enjoying vanilla sex. Stop normalizing “kink”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:06 AM
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Also Liberal Feminists waiting for casual sex to actually benefit women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:14 PM
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Omg. I’ve gotten multiple PMs from guys asking questions about my vibrator... also I hate when guys talk about sexual compatibility. You don’t need to have sex with a guy to know that y’all are sexually compatible. 1.) Do you both find each other attractive? 2.) Do you have chemistry? 3.) Are you both good at communicating? 4.) Do you care about the other person? 5.) Are you both interested in sex? If the answer is yes to all these questions, then congratulations!!!! You’re sexually compatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:12 PM
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They are definitely a little more on the expensive side but they’re so worth it. The pro satisfyer 2 is around $50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:41 PM
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Of course. I’m sorry it really sucks moving on. And I’m sorry if it seemed harsh. You will be so much better off without him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:25 AM
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I also was a pick me for a long time. I don’t think you should be ashamed or embarrassed. You just wanted to fit in. I don’t think it’s something you should hold on to. It was a learning experience. You know better now, you’ve changed you’re behavior, it’s now time to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:01 AM
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“You can flirt with my man. If he flirts back he’s yours” - Nikita Soni He made the conscious effort to sext this girl back. He will never be a HVM. He’s not going to change. Please for the sake of your heart, move on. Block him on everything possible. Cut all contact with him. Never take an Ex back. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:47 AM
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Of course. I think you should go for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:33 AM
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If you do it too much then it could impact sensitivity. Everything in moderation. You could put it in a clothing drawer or some other random place that your son wouldn’t think to look
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:11 AM
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I will have to look into the “Womanizer”. Every friend I have recommended the pro satisfyer to has absolutely loved it. I think it’s worth the investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:40 PM
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Ladies, pro tip, if you’re worried about your hormones controlling you, please get a vibrator. I recommend the “pro satisfyer 2”. You’ll thank me later ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:57 PM
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My parents pay for everything currently. I work full time but have nothing I have to pay for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:43 PM
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True that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:34 PM
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How do you fellow queens divide your paycheck in terms of spending vs saving? I’m pretty young and not good with money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:07 PM
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You can tell this guy is delusional when he thinks “IG Models” are on top of the beauty tier. Not hating on girls but all Instagram “models” heavily edit their pics. You should link him the r/Instagramreality sub reddit lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:56 PM
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Yes, you’re absolutely right! That is the saddest part. Men are defending this scrote. Men cannot empathize with women or their experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:19 AM
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You literally be sounding like my friends when I try telling them their boyfriends are absolute garbage lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:08 AM
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The saddest part is that thousands of strangers are telling her to break up with him but I guarantee you that she’s going to stay with him :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:05 AM
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The love languages book specifically clarifies that “touch” does not include sex. Most men don’t know that. I don’t understand how there’s only 5 love languages. I feel like there’s so many more. I just think the 5 love languages is a stupid marketing gimmick for broken relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:46 AM
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It’s hard not to reply, but it’s a waste of our time. We won’t change their minds. They don’t care what we have to say. The majority of men cannot handle criticism from women. It’s sad and pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:36 AM
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Men are so entitled that we aren’t even allowed to have a female only space where we share experiences and opinions without them sending us creepy pms every time someone posts something or someone makes a comment. I’ve gotten some of these weird messages too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:29 AM
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I think it depends on your lifestyle and morals. Personally I’m ok with a guy smoking weed from time to time, but I have many friends that are not ok with it. Some women smoke weed often so obviously they would be ok with a partner that smokes weed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 07:33 PM
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Yes exactly, I don’t know why they’re so eager to lick the hole I literally shit from. I mean it’s clean but still🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:57 AM
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I’ve had my ass eaten and it literally feels like nothing. It’s such a neutral feeling. It’s the same as if someone was to lick your elbow. You can feel it, but it’s not pleasurable. It’s such a porn concept. Guys think that girls actually like their assholes being licked lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:41 AM
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Let’s call them parasites. They’re disgusting, hard to get rid of, and they depend on the host for survival. Only the parasite benefits from the relationship and they literally suck the life from you. Oh not to mention, they’re everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:29 PM
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I wonder how his daughter would feel knowing her dad is jacking off to girls her age?🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:20 PM
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Imagine using an international crisis as an opportunity to get the attention of men🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:17 PM
36

Why is this not a surprise? He even said he has kids! What if he has a daughter? She’s going to be a teenager eventually. It’s disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:06 PM
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Ok he might be a healthy weight but I guarantee you he’s either bald or looks like a sun dried tomato due to sun damage over the years. The guys who are the most critical about their wife’s appearances are always the ugliest. On the inside and the outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:18 PM
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This reminds me of when my dad was telling my how much hotter my mom would be if she lost weight. Take in mind he’s overweight himself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:14 PM
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I love my parents to death but they gave me a horrible example of what a marriage is supposed to look like. I’ve had to define for myself what a healthy relationship is. I’ve told them this before and they agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:49 AM
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I was sharing my personal experience. I’m sorry it didn’t apply to you. The vast majority of people with depression have issues with hygiene/taking care of themselves. Even the original post said that. A symptom of depression is issues with tiredness that makes small tasks difficult (https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/symptoms-causes/syc-20356007).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:32 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:28 PM
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Same and I literally wanted to barf afterwards. He revolted me to the max. He was not attractive and I didn’t like how he kissed me either. Also he was so rough. Even when he was grabbing my breast he was very very rough. Why do you guys grab so rough? Is it just me or have you experienced guys grabbing you in a really rough way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:26 PM
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I totally believe it. I think a lot of girls give, what I like to call, “pity pussy”. The definition of pity pussy is when you’re not really into a guy but he’s begging for your coochie and you think to yourself “ehh I guess he’s nice enough” so you end up giving in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:13 PM
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I think anyone who is mentally ill needs to voluntarily take them self out of the dating pool. People need to fix their own problems before getting into a relationship. It is not fair to make someone else put up with your mental illness. If you are depressed, getting into a relationship isn’t going to magically fix all your issues. Also people with depression cannot take care of themselves. I’ve had depression for years and during the hard times it’s been difficult to do tasks such as brush my t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:07 PM
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Amen to that. And yet we’re told women are the emotional ones🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:42 PM
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I don’t understand why they get so angry?? I was so confused. Like you said about your friend’s bf, my friend’s bf was acting like a child throwing a temper tantrum. My statement was true anyways. Casual sex sucksssss. Men cannot emphasize for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:42 PM
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Thank you so much, I needed to hear that💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:41 PM
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Also sorry to rant but the night before I was over at his house and we were cuddling and messing around and he was literally begging to fuck me. I told him no I can’t do it and he kept saying things along the lines of “don’t worry, you’re mine forever” and other bs like that. The next night after we had sex, it was getting late and I had to go home and I was hugging him and saying that I wish I didn’t have to leave. I looked him in the eyes as I was walking out the door and I said, “do you promi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:15 AM
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We’ve barely talked since it happened. We spoke a little after because I was scared I was going to get pregnant and he literally did not do anything to be supportive or calm my anxiety. He just told me I’m dramatic and that I’m overreacting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:04 AM
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I think porn in the early two thousands was more similar to what you’re describing. In my opinion porn has evolved to a whole new level. Guys who are my age (19) have an incredibly high set of standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:34 AM
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This is exactly how it is tho. If you have casual sex, or sex with a porn sick man, he only cares about HIS PLEASURE. He doesn’t give a fuck if you’re in pain or you feel degraded. All he cares about is getting himself off. Ladies do not give yourself away like this. You are all worth so much more. Having sex with men like this will make you feel like a sex doll. I have such a similar experience to the girl in this story. I lost my virginity recently and the whole time he kept moving me around i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:31 AM
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Ok maybe I’m crazy but not only does porn seem to feature beautiful women, it features women who are perfect. Their skin is so smooth it’s almost doll like. Seriously I’ve never seen any blemish or stretch mark on anyone of those girls. You don’t see any ingrown hairs or darkness around their genitalia. I’ve never met a human being in real life with skin like that. They must do some sort of editing to the videos to make their skin like that. Ok sorry for ranting, but my point is that it makes me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:05 PM
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Thank you so much! I do need to focus more on myself. I’ve been working on self care lately and that seems to help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:57 PM
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Do you recommend trying any specific types? I’ve been going to therapy for 4 years. It doesn’t seem to help very much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:55 PM
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