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qclady/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:00 AM
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I did reply to the correct person. I felt that you’d tell me that it was a minority of men doing those things so I addressed it upfront. As far as blaming women, if you feel there is contempt for men, is it coming from other men or women? The tone of your post feels that you believe the negative feelings about men are untrue. If you believe that they are untrue but women are feeling them anyway, that invalidates what they feel. Do you feel the negative feelings about men are valid?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:29 PM
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I would. I like children. The only stipulation would be is that if the other parent is in the picture that they have a positive co-parenting situation. I wouldn’t enter into a hostile situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 09:43 PM
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Consider the impact of technology on your point. I grew up without internet. I never saw a flasher. No man ever just showed me his penis out of no where. When I was a minor I never had an old man send me letters trying to get me to expose myself on camera. You may say that it’s a minority of men and you may be right. But, I’m pushing 50 and still get men of all ages sending me unwanted pictures of their penis. The sheer volume of penises sent to women without their consent is staggering. How man…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:31 AM
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I do have male friends. However, they are not super close friends. I don’t confess my secrets and deep feelings to them, spend huge amounts of time with them, or talk with them excessively. I have never detected any sexual tension or attraction in my male friendships. They are in relationships or married and I’m married. There’s never been inappropriate comments or any hinting about being closer or intimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:52 PM
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No. I’m not interested in male social groups. Makes in groups are either boring or irritating to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 02:59 PM
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I’m pushing 50. I’ve gone to realize that the attitudes of younger women today are very similar to how I thought when I was younger. I thought I knew it all. I probably think that I know it all now and some 89 year old woman is looking at me like I’m a damn fool, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 02:51 PM
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Maybe you are thinking of alt right women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 02:48 PM
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Older woman here, approaching 50. I absolutely do not resent younger women. Quite the opposite. I feel a mothering care for them. While they absolutely are adults, I feel nervous for their safety and well-being sometimes. I don’t think that they are children but I do feel protective of them. I don’t criticize or shame them at all but I do try to warn them if I feel or see something sketchy. To think that I would be sexually threatened by younger women is hysterical. I don’t see a lot of younger …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 02:17 PM
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Financial needs are more determined by socioeconomic status rather than gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:31 PM
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Women in Texas are still having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:08 PM
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If they have a fetish, fine, have it. But leave me out of it as I was absolutely not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:36 PM
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I worked in a male dominated field early in my marriage. Men called me sexy, made sexual comments, and hit on me while I was visibly pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:53 PM
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If technology advances so that men can become pregnant, your rights can supersede those of the non-living entity inside your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 01:09 AM
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Women pay child support. Women have been jailed for failing to pay child support. A father who accepts custody of his child at birth can also relinquish the child via Safe Haven. I read a piece that was written by a lawyer and they claimed that it is illegal for a woman to give up a child via Safe Haven if she knows who the father is but I do not know how this is determined or enforced.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 01:07 AM
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There are ways a man can prevent having a child with the exception of him being sexually assaulted. A vasectomy or abstinence are choices that are available to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:59 AM
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The rights of the woman supersede the rights of a non-living entity. The rights of a child supersede the rights of an absconding parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:38 AM
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I don’t think so. Previous generations of men feigned ignorance or refused to learn when it came to childcare and domestic issues. Women viewed their partners as domestically incompetent and requiring near parenting and openly discussed how helpless they were. Today’s man changes diapers, actively parents, can wash his own clothing, and prepare his own food. We don’t see them as incompetent. Are women annoyed at dick pics and thirsty men? Absolutely. However, most women see most men as competent…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 11:04 PM
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My outlook on body counts is that I don’t care. For most people, the older they get the less that they care. If you care, fine, whatever. Date or reject who ever you want. I don’t care. When it becomes ridiculous is when people expect or try to influence society as a whole to conform to their standards. If you actively shame people for them not meeting your standards, it’s ridiculous. Openly making fun of people who are choosing to remain virgins or people with high body counts is ridiculous.Hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 09:35 PM
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It’s not like women are going to stop wearing make up because you think it’s unfair. Men can start if they wish to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:15 PM
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Also, all time is not the same. One hour of stripping a bed at 2 am because a kid threw up is not the same as an easy hour at my husband’s job. A stressful hour at my husband’s job is much more difficult than me cutting vegetables and putting them in the crock pot. We are so busy that no one has time to make comparisons. We are just happy that we don’t have to do it all individually.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:52 PM
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I believe most people don’t understand the enormous job having kids is until they are in the trenches with kids in elementary school. They forget about all the homework, projects, and appointments. The OP thinks that two people are working 40-50 hours per week, both are going to the gym, maintaining numerous friends, and looking stylish. The people in the example either have lots of help or do not sleep. Those people would be dead from exhaustion in two months without a huge amount of help. EDIt…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:24 PM
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No house work. He does yard work though. We have two kids, 9 and 10. If you only consider the appointments they have: Per year: 2 well child each per year 2 dental for each two kids 2 dermatologist each for two kids 4 ADHD doctor for two kids 1 vision each for two kids That’s before anyone gets sick. If a kid gets a fever at school they have to get a Covid test and quarantine at home for 5 days. We had 15 quarantine days this year (2 quarantines for one kid, one for the other). No full time job …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 01:08 PM
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He works 40, I work 0 outside the home. He values what I do and does not want me to return to work. He has a job that he cannot miss days unless it’s a true emergency. Our kids have appointments, sick days from school, numerous activities. Meeting those obligations would destroy any job that I tried to have due to missed time. We have no family where we live so 100% of kid related things are up to us. Once kids come into the picture, other factors beside housework come into play. Working 49-50 h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 12:26 PM
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Whatever. Let them be frustrated if they act like toddlers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 12:48 PM
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My husband took me to my favorite art museum on our first date. So, activity dates where you can have a shared experience. Stop getting drinks and dinners. Go out and do something interesting. The museum cost less than a decent dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:38 AM
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I’m not attracted to people that cannot control their anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:12 PM
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Not everyone is tall, very attractive, slender, and has a full head of hair. That doesn’t mean that their partner is not attracted to them. It just means that they know that their partner is not conventionally smoking hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:23 PM
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Marriage failure statistics do not show the whole picture. If, say 30%, of marriages end in divorce that does not mean that your marriage has that percent likelihood of failure. There are specific risk factors that increase a marriage’s likelihood of failure. The key is to reduce those risk factors and thus reduce the risk of divorce. Each marriage has its own likelihood of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:04 PM
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Your ego is overinflated. I did tell my husband about your post and he said that you sound ridiculous and like a failure of a man. I don’t think he’s going to be doing any discipline on your behalf, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:57 AM
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I’ve heard of it and I find the idea to be repulsive because it infantilizes women. If you married an incompetent partner, it’s you that needs help making better decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:15 AM
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The only couples that I know with this sort of arrangement are cult members. I live in the US and have been in a trad marriage for 14 years, we are nothing like that nor are other couples that we are close to. Perhaps this is a regional situation or something specific to your relationship but this is not the common arrangement.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:05 PM
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Are you currently living in this set up? Do you actually find this to be typical amount traditional couples that you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:14 PM
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Are you confused? I feel like you are confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:14 PM
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I see a lot of attractive men. However, I do not want to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 02:13 PM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 05:32 PM
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So only a few men are gatekeeping marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:53 PM
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Are you saying that most of the available men are low quality?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 01:58 PM
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It’s just not something most adults talk about or care about. Maybe 20 year old who just started dating go into all these theatrics but regular adults do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:07 PM
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Because it’s none of their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:37 PM
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Men say it because it gives them the impression that they have power. As if all women are desiring relationships and waiting for men to grant them the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:29 PM
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Men do not gatekeep relationships. It’s not difficult to get into a relationship with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:05 PM
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Naw, I’ll take marriage and sex over that mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:43 PM
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You do that if you want to. Literally no one is stopping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:42 PM
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It’s not hiding. I’ve lived and seen what people intended vs. what people ended up doing and it’s usually vastly different. Sometimes the low earner ends up becoming the high earner, sometimes there is disability, sometimes inheritance, financial decisions bloom beyond expectations or fail in the worst way, there’s a lot of surprises in life. If you think any couple is going to end up doing exactly what they intended, you are in for a giant surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:52 PM
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These decisions aren’t usual made early on. Everyone has their hopes and preferences but often life will dictate if both are working or one is home. I started out with the intention to stay working after children and was also the high earner in the family. Covid happened and we needed someone at home. My job was better for us to sacrifice because it was easier to replace when I returned to work. Since then my husband has taken a higher paying job with a very difficult schedule for us both to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:37 PM
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How do we know which ugly men will not be able to find partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:42 PM
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That’s not something that I worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:15 PM
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There’s a lot of ground between online dating and seeing escorts. Perhaps make a good effort to meet people outside of online dating.
/r/ExRedPill18/02/22 04:51 PM
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No. A father has the right not to be forced to give up his DNA profile. What ever the government will or will not do with it does not matter. It’s his DNA profile and he’s not being charged with a crime or abandoning a child so why should he be forced? DNA testing is already available to those that want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 02:39 PM
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A number of the potential jobs you have listed are very demanding and have long absences from their partner. Doctors work a lot of hours, soldiers often deploy for long periods of time, cops are never home holidays or weekends, Those jobs might initially sound attractive but are actually difficult to successfully partner with unless the person is very independent and accepts the sacrifices of the job. If you want a partner that’s home weekends, holidays, nights, and has reasonable vacation time,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:06 PM
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I think it would be more enjoyable for everyone to meet people naturally while participating in a shared activity. Also, people might get form same gender friendships that would promote meeting new people, and possibly partners, through the new social connections.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:32 PM
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Activity groups. Instead of swiping people, you could swipe local activities created by members. You could see the ratio of different genders who have chosen to attend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:11 PM
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Exactly, have any standard you want. It’s you that has to live with your choices. I don’t care what someone else’s standards are or why they have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:04 PM
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We use the services of a financial advisor. They handle our investment accounts and built a family budget that includes everything from groceries to savings for Christmas to our yearly vehicle registration. Every dollar is intentionally spent, saved, or invested. It’s all mostly hands free. Our bills are all paid electronically and certain accounts are funded weekly like my grocery budget.
/r/RedPillWives09/02/22 10:56 PM
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lol, I had no idea how to spell it. Spellcheck didn’t correct it but gave me the red line. I assumed it wasn’t helping me because it was a naughty word.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 01:24 AM
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I guess he doesn’t want grandma on Facebook to see his wiener.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:08 PM
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You aren’t the CNN victim are you? That’s a new one going around.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:15 PM
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You can become immune to this scam by preemptively sending your nudes to your entire contact list. Checkmate, scammer. There was one the other day where the scammer threatened to send nudes to CNN, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:11 PM
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I’ve never seen a case where they actually send the nudes. A scammer’s time is better spent setting up a new scam than sending nudes, getting their account banned, and having to set up a new account.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:09 PM
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It is very common and I imagine it is profitable. Men who have been scammed by this show up in the scam subs and Facebook groups several times a week seeking help.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:46 PM
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If you read the scam subs you will find that men are often the victim of nudes blackmail scams. The men think nothing is suspicious with a 10/10 woman happily exchanging nudes with him. They don’t stop to consider if the woman is out of their league or if they be deserve the complements, attention, and nudes. Turns out it’s not a woman, it’s a man who goes on to threaten to send the man’s penis pictures or video of him masterbating to his friends and family on social media. No matter how much he…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:19 PM
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Going on 15 years, monogamous, two kids, happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:03 PM
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There’s plenty of women who don’t want marriage either, they will be good matches for these men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:50 PM
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The reason we can’t single out adultery is that it’s usually part of the relationship circling the bowl. Rarely are things ideal between the partners when one of them cheats. Cheating is usually accompanied by numerous relationship issues, fault of both of the partners. Trying to untangle issues in a relationship can be an endless cycle of blaming and finger pointing. It’s truly impossible for the court to accurately assess blame on so many points of relationship failure. I feel like you are see…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:23 PM
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People also start voting for their wallet over their fellow man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:36 PM
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I’ve found that it happens with age. Younger people tend to be more liberal and older people are more conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:21 PM
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I’ve given zero thought to this and I will continue not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:10 PM
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They are female incels, I don’t think any should bother with them until they get some therapy and recover from the mindset they are in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 01:57 AM
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How much is cheating worth though? What if the person who got cheated on was an asshole? Are there fees for that? I suppose you could sue in civil for emotional damage or therapy fees but the courts aren’t going to award alimony for hurt feelings. Alimony is for support for the lesser earning person to establish themselves, usually reserved for stay at home parents who did not establish a career or education due to maintaining the home and children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:59 PM
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Do you expect them to put people in jail for cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 11:54 PM
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Divorces of the past were notoriously ugly and expensive for everyone. People wanted no-fault divorce. At a time when both parties are starting out on their own people didn’t want the expense and length of a long court involved divorce. No fault divorce has helped many people move on with their lives. It wasn’t done to reward the cheater. Alimony isn’t a concern in many cases so why struggle in court? There are still cases where a betrayed spouse can reclaim funds spent on the affairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 09:57 PM
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I regularly exchange DMs with people from one of the subs I’m in.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:39 PM
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Groceries and kids? Are you serious? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:05 PM
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I don’t care. It would be nice if there was also “No DM December” though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:58 PM
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All the lifting of heavy stuff at my house is already easily managed by one man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:46 PM
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It would be much better to raise children with other women than to raise children with numerous men. Numerous men seems like an exhausting hassle. I’d never go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:16 PM
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No way. As a woman I would much rather have sister wives than extra husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:11 PM
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Marriage already has tax incentives and child tax credits for children. Divorce laws did used to penalize cheaters. People decided they didn’t want that so it’s going to the wayside. People clearly do not want the ideas that you are suggesting. People want to choose their partners and the terms of their relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:53 PM
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Forcing people to partner with those they don’t want to is not going to happen. People would die and kill over this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:44 PM
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What are the options? People are going to do what they want to do. There’s no reasonable way to partner people up without violating their rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:42 PM
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I feel that we are moving toward temporary monogamy rather than lifelong partnerships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:32 PM
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No. However, I was pretty excited about the possibility of our daughter having red hair when I was pregnant (he’s ginger, I’m blonde). Our daughter is ginger and our son is blonde.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:11 PM
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I have a 9 and 10 year old 0530 Wake 0600 First kid up 0800 Last kid gets on the bus Have coffee and make myself breakfast 0900 Put away dishes in the dishwasher, start laundry, throw old things away in the fridge, take out trash, mostly kitchen/laundry things depending on the day 1000 Feed and clean bearded dragons, cat tray 1030 Go to the store if I need to, run errands Make myself lunch 1230 Vacuum one of the floors or mop kitchens or bathrooms 1330 Administrative stuff like bills, making app…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 11:32 PM
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I think I know my own opinion and personal preference on this subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:24 PM
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No. It’s not even the money though, it’s the reasons and behaviors that cause the brokeness. I don’t want to be with someone who is lazy, irresponsible, or who makes bad decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 01:27 PM
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It depends on how willing you are to leave. If there’s a breakup it’s best to go. Also, after a workplace relationship has failed, it’s super drama filled to find another relationship at the same job.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:53 AM
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It used to be one job, one partner, one town, and one home for most of one’s life. Now job or career changing, living in several homes, moving by all over the country, and having more relationships is the thing. To look back and want relationships that match the old times when none of our other behaviors match it, is a misfit to reality. Monogamy for life is a fading concept. I think things will continue as they have been trending. Single parenthood or step parenthood will continue to grow. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:18 PM
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Simps, orbiters, bars, and dating apps exist in countries where prostitution is legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:08 AM
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It depends. If he’s 600lbs and wiping his ass with a paper towel on a stick I’m out. Normal age wear and tear or weight gain is no big deal and I’d stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 11:32 PM
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The US has a divorce rate of about 50%, I have little doubt that many of the cheated or are cheating but those relationships were probably circling the bowl for a number of reasons and would have ended with or without cheating. In truly happy, committed marriage, I think cheating is probably very little.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 06:43 PM
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I don’t think as many people are cheating as you think. Maybe in relationships that are already circling the drain for other reasons but not so much in happy relationships..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 12:09 PM
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Guys over 40 are like abandoned houses.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:46 PM
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The needs of the child come before the needs of the parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:23 PM
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Go ahead, give that a shot. Let me know how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 10:09 PM
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It is what it is. There’s not exactly anything you can do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:43 PM
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Asking anyone to date anyone that they aren’t interested in is unrealistic. I would not want to date someone who was not interested in me. Why would anyone want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:14 PM
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Even if we aren’t interested in them? Asking women to date men they are not interested in is an unrealistic expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:16 PM
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I think men are more aggressive about dating. While a woman may join a dating app, a man will join all the dating apps. The thirstier men are, the more the gap widens.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:44 PM
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Men are thirsty and join the apps. These days men are even trying to hit on women via Linkein. It’s too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 01:52 PM
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Not for me. We do have roles/specific tasks in the household but he’s not a child nor does he act like one. Some of my tasks do include things that care for him like meals, meal prep for lunches, laundry, etc. but I’m a SAHM so that’s household stuff to me and falls into my role. I do my responsibilities, he does his.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 04:35 PM
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I feel like it’s because single mothers represent a woman that they can’t have because she doesn’t meet their standards. They are angry at her for not being for them. Otherwise, the single mother’s wouldn’t even be on their radar. Not interested? Move on and not give it any thought. The seething anger says there’s more going on than absence of interest.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 03:23 PM
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Don’t care, don’t need you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:29 AM
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I’ve never heard anyone say that in person and I am in an age group where it may be expected. I have seen it online though. I’ve seen it used by women who don’t describe themselves as having a lot to offer but seem to feel entitled to a certain type of man. It just reeks of entitlement. The only viable situation I could see it used without implying entitlement would be a very small town or tight religious community where the actual number of partners is limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 03:32 PM
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I’ve heard that gay men have an easier time getting sex. However those seeking real relationships are riding the struggle bus with the straights.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 05:29 PM
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Kody Brown has entered the chat
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:16 PM
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These are the reasons those men are alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:57 PM
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I like them. Apologies for being unclear.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:24 PM
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Not under weight or obese, heavy side of normal is best. Bald or military short hair. Height doesn’t matter. Race doesn’t matter. Body hair is better than none but isn’t a deal breaker either way. Beard is good on some, but not on others, depends on their overall look. Positive body language - this isn’t exactly a physical feature but it’s observed visually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:51 PM
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“She’s always uncomfortable with physical contact” Then stop touching her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:49 AM
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No. I’d be fine with him watching videos about it but that’s not something I want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:18 PM
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Promiscuous is a state not a number. A person can be previously promiscuous but not currently promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 03:01 PM
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If you are finding, attracting, and partnering with people of your standard set that’s pretty good feedback that your standards are appropriate. That’s assuming the relationships are healthy. If not, it may be time to raise your standards. If you are unable to find, attract, or partner with anyone that meets your standards it’s likely that your standards are set unrealistically. In this case, it may be possible to improve yourself to be found acceptable to those you want to attract.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:49 AM
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Please don’t try to advocate for women based on your own needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 11:09 AM
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Most of society is doing fine. Just because your issue is shared by some turds on Reddit and incel forums doesn’t make it the majority. Besides, who exactly is going to burn down society? A handful of scrawny incels and a few neckbeards on mobility scooters? And for what purpose? To attempt to force women to be with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 01:26 AM
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Should infertile people just roll over and die then?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 12:21 AM
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Burning down society because your dick is dry is not a valid reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 11:55 PM
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It’s going about as well as MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:36 PM
2

There’s no reading to buy a home if you are living in a place temporarily (military or college) or if you are waiting for a change in the market. We rented when the kids were born, living below our means. Moved to a different state and put a big down payment on the house which is now paid off in about 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 01:19 PM
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An advantage would be having kids early so you can have an early empty nest and enjoy that phase of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 12:27 AM
2

Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 11:03 PM
0

It’s still going to be up to each state. We’ll just make vacations out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 11:01 PM
18

That women get turned on during mass shootings because, for a moment, the shooter is Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:14 PM
-1

Apparently she was riding in a car of pussies.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:58 PM
3

We can hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:05 PM
2

No. She is clearly in her 50s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:00 PM
-2

No one say you had to help. If you are scared or unable to assist just move aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:00 PM
3

I’m not going to put my business out here but rest assured, I know what the limits are and how to conduct myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:48 PM
-1

I understand what’s appropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:41 PM
3

It’s probably my age (48). I am in good shape but my attraction has aged with me. Men in my age group tend to have dad bod.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:39 PM
-3

I’d assist, CCW.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:37 PM
9

It’s okay, step aside so decent people can assist. Chances are you wouldn’t be able to help anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:23 PM
1

Young men are irritating. I suppose it’s possible to date one as long as they do not communicate in anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:20 PM
2

Dad bod.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:57 PM
20

That woman is in her mid to late 50s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:56 PM
1

Maybe it happens after menopause? Bring it on!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:29 PM
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His girlfriend should leave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:17 PM
2

I’m 48, still waiting for my cloak of invisibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:01 PM
1

But does it turn lesbians straight?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:48 PM
1

A lot of bad boy types are very outgoing which really helps in the dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:35 PM
-1

Thirsty guys are annoying as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:34 PM
0

Are they outgoing? Surrounded by friends? Very socially active? Extremely well liked? My friend is. People with dwarfism don’t roll over and die alone or are only able to date disabled people, they are out their living their lives. Some are miserable and some are flourishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:21 AM
2

He is not in the film industry. I won’t say his career but it’s something in the sciences. I don’t know why you find this impossible to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:14 AM
0

I do actually know this guy. And those were not hookers and didn’t have any physical disabilities. I know this to be fact. The ones I met seemed very normal women. The dude is a really awesome person, everyone likes being around him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:00 AM
0

I know a dude with dwarfism that gets attractive average sized women. He’s a pretty cool dude, everyone likes him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 05:23 AM
8

Naw. We can prevent future incels by selecting against them. A brighter, more attractive future!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:47 AM
8

The wife would just poison the unworthy husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:42 AM
2

If the men cheat with partnered women wouldn’t that keep things even?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:39 AM
2

I thought we were already all sharing 20% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 09:50 PM
0

As if all women do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 06:41 PM
2

Sure, go ahead with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 05:55 PM
1

I feel it’s just tough to base an opinion on people because of their sex life. Like BDSM people, how am I supposed to know anything about them as people because of their sex life? I can form opinions about promiscuity in general but not the people. Personally, promiscuity is not for me. I’m romantically and sexually monogamous so being promiscuous would be stressful and unsatisfying for me. I do not think I could enjoy that sex. I’m not monogamous because I feel that promiscuity is wrong or sham…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:08 AM
2

But I don’t know any promiscuous women nor do I have a lot of reading material about them to base any opinion on them. Am I supposed to guess and make opinions based on that? Same with furries, it doesn’t seem like anything I would be interested and looks a bit silly but I really don’t know anything about them or what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 03:42 AM
19

Dude, I’ve been married for 14 years so I have no dog in this fight, I literally don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 10:03 PM
51

If I’m not in a relationship with someone and someone else has sex with them how am I wronged? That person isn’t reserved for me because I’m interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 09:14 PM
66

They are making their own choices for their own reasons. They are adults and can do as they please. I’ve got nothing to say either way. Their reasons and journey are not my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:27 PM
43

There seems to be the idea that women are going to be flocking to men they aren’t attracted to when, in reality, they will continue not to want men they aren’t attracted to. They ain’t coming.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:19 AM
1

I feel like this guy could use a different hairstyle.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/21 09:44 PM
13

He is not in the top of physical attractiveness. He’s average and does look nice in that outfit.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/21 02:20 AM
19

That outfit does look good on him.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/21 02:14 AM
4

I agree, a lot of people don’t plan well. As a SAHM, you have to also consider what will happen if you are widowed or if your husband becomes unable to work. Even if your marriage is solid, things can happen beyond your control. In my mind, being a SAHM entails a lot more than forgoing college and quitting your job. Even with my earning ability as a backup plan for our family, we also use a financial planner to maintain a strict budget with every dollar accounted for, creating savings, investmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:02 PM
4

It depends on how you set up your life. I’m a SAHM but I got my degree, worked to establish my career and pay my loans off before I had kids. I can go back to work at any time. I may start off a little lower that when I left but it won’t be long before I’m back where I left. I’m a Chemist, not a fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:48 PM
2

I only know my own body so I can’t speak to the group average.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:25 AM
7

I had my children at age 37 and 38. I had no changes. I was in pre-pregnancy pants in about 4-5 weeks after my second baby. I was older and had babies 12 months apart. I wasn’t excessively fit, just normal. I completely bounced back, boobs, belly, and all. I can only guess that it’s a matter of genetics and maybe activity level.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:14 AM
3

Both genders feign helplessness when the task is something they don’t want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 09:39 PM
4

Do single mothers even want them?
/r/ExRedPill13/12/21 12:16 AM
1

I’m going to guess that they are married. I would refuse to sext and go right for meeting up in a public place. Don’t let married guys waste your time to get their jollies off.
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:01 PM
3

That’s strange because it’s such a large area. I figured there would be some people on there.
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:44 PM
3

Have you tried Tinder?
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:35 PM
4

It’s always kitchen stuff for me. What I’d really like this year is some shelving so that I can expand my kitchen stuff storage out into the garage.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/21 07:34 PM
2

It depends on their budget situation. I have my own household account that is funded by a fixed amount each week. What I do with that money is for me to decide. Sometimes I save up for large items or luxury items for the house. We also have a home improvement yearly budget that we mutually decide on. That can be anything from appliances to furniture. Given that I plan and maintain the home, my preference is usually given the most weight. Also, I’ve demonstrated over many years that I do not friv…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 05:41 PM
4

I’m a SAHM. There’s nothing wrong with it. You probably aren’t seeing a lot of SAHM representation because you are not internet surfing in areas where it’s discussed often like homemaking, parenting, and marriage forums.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:24 PM
42

I feel like women tend to have bigger social networks primarily with other women and tend to meet men connected to those friends or while out with her friends. I see a lot of guys in bars and clubs going it alone or with one other guy but women usually have 3-4 other women with them. All it takes is for one of the women to see a guy she knows and he’s suddenly part of the circle meeting her friends (provided the woman he knows is on good terms with him).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 02:55 AM
4

It’s not. Our life is pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 02:39 PM
3

Nope, if you do wise financial planning you can live on a modest income.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 02:32 PM
15

Have no one interested in dating or sex until age 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 11:25 PM
2

We can’t even get them to stop sending us pictures of their dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:16 PM
2

Cold weather is demotivating me. Having the heat on feels snuggly and my home goals are dragging out. On the upside, it’s baking weather and now we have too many cookies.
/r/RedPillWives03/11/21 02:17 PM
3

If you are suggesting a wide spread men’s movement for shaming women who’ve had more partners than what ever number you feel is acceptable, good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 05:29 PM
-1

Your post history dude… Are you obsessed with picking up techniques?
/r/seduction01/11/21 02:05 AM
3

It’s a numbers issue for me. The top 10% of men don’t have the time to have sex with all of the women who are having sex. In order for this to work, the men would have to be having sex with numerous women day and night. The women would end up seeing the other women come and go.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 08:36 PM
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This. I’m happily married but I still get harassed by some men even after they know that I’m married and not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 05:00 PM
9

No, I feel bad for them because I know rejection sucks.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/21 11:26 AM
45

You did it when you wanted to and now are upset that no one wants to wait. Also consider that women who want to wait for marriage may not be interested in a reformed sex addict.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:01 AM
4

One can hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 11:32 PM
7

Menopause hits hard and fast? I’m 47, still waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 11:26 PM
17

My husband was in the military when we married. I quit working (am a chemist/microbiologist) when I was pregnant with our first. I returned to work when they were in preschool and since have returned home to stay. Things just didn’t work as well at home with both of us working. I went to college on academic scholarships and had very small loans which I paid off before we had our first baby. His education was free with the GI bill. He’s a math teacher now going into the police academy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 06:24 PM
159

The girls may have had a pact to leave together to prevent an intoxicated (and later regretted) hook up. If someone is intoxicated, it’s best to exchange numbers and let them go. You can try to arrange a date another time.
/r/seduction15/10/21 05:24 PM
1

I feel like the existence of sexually active lesbians is proof enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:29 PM
5

See your gyro and discuss hormone level tests. There’s no way to absolutely test fertility as there are a lot of unexplained infertility cases. But your hormones drive your monthly cycle so you can get those tested.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/21 06:39 PM
3

About 3 months. I was a chemist so it wasn’t exactly safe anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 09:07 PM
6

Why would I do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:53 PM
7

Not entirely, there is a category called “unexplained infertility” where everything checks out but the couple may end up needing help conceiving. Additionally, some couples may experience numerous miscarriages with no explanation. There are things you can check but there’s no 100% guarantee of a baby.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 01:26 AM
2

I’m married. I think I’ve got it covered.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:50 PM
27

I didn’t want men with crappy behavior, let other women fight over them if that’s what they want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:00 PM
21

We were both exhausted and really focused on the babies so that was our life the first 6-8 weeks. He didn’t mention sex or express any sexual desires, just wanted food and sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 04:37 PM
44

Neither of us were feeling frisky while adapting to newborns so it wasn’t an issue in my house. Once things settled down, we carried on as usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 04:00 PM
6

I was hit on and sexualized by older men since I was about 12. I found it to be extremely repulsive. I married a same age man.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 01:11 PM
0

B. He’s more in line with things that I like to do. Not A because I wouldn’t date anyone who drinks. And I wouldn’t date anyone who goes to church.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:52 PM
2

I mean how to resolve conflict in a relationship. In a relationship setting, that would be controlling you own emotions, no personal attacks, choosing battles, staying on topic, creating compromise, active listening, solution seeking, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:21 AM
3

Emotional maturity, conflict resolution skills, ability to communicate clearly, goal oriented, responsible, self aware, knows what they are looking for in a person/relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:00 AM
4

You can barely defend yourself on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:46 PM
3

But you said that we should be grateful to men because we have not been invaded by Islamic terrorists. So, you meant those men, not you. Gotcha. I hope you are grateful to them as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:43 PM
3

So, you claim the victories made by other men when it’s convenient for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:32 PM
2

Where were you deployed?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:14 PM
2

So were you one of those guys who served like my husband? Or one of those guys that didn’t, yet try to claim the accomplishment as their own because they are also a man when, in fact, they haven’t done shit? Where are your scientific achievements published? The same journals as mine?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:11 PM
3

Women also serve and have been instrumental in the fields of science and mathematics which have propelled our country forward. Men did not lay the foundation for me being able to have an education or a vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:42 PM
3

I am absolutely treated better. Prior to marriage, I went to college and had a career in science, that wouldn’t have happened in the 50s. Because I was financially independent, I was able to take care of myself until I found the right partner rather than be rushed to choose. My husband did all of the courting behavior and I married him. One thing that’s dramatically different is how he is as a father vs. what fatherhood looked like then. He’s really involved with the kids and was by my side duri…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:24 PM
1

I mostly agree with this. My children’s daycare was $1600/month which is crippling. I worked for about two and a half years when they were preschool age into kindergarten and first grade (mine are 12 months apart). I ended up stopping work when Covid switched us to homeschool. Giving time to get the children into school would be a major relief to both parents and allow for potty training and breastfeeding. Before and after school brief care is much, much more affordable. When the house is heavil…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:48 PM
1

The part where you are talking about your feelings is the problem. Child custody isn’t about your feelings. Child custody is about the children’s access to and relationships with their parents. I’m a mother too and I get the pain of being separated from your kids. But, I stopped putting my feelings first when I got married and a second time when I had kids. My feelings are important but they are equally as important as my husband’s and less important than my kid’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:36 PM
1

I don’t know. I feel like some guys overrate themselves while some underrate. I find some guys who are not traditionally attractive to be very attractive. I don’t really have a look that I go for, it’s all on an individual basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:14 PM
1

You are outside my age group but I think you look like a handsome dude. You could up your look with a different hairstyle. A lot of younger black guys are doing for locks these days and I feel like that ups their attractiveness but I’m not connected with what younger women look for or find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:12 PM
2

We chose to work out our marriage so that it didn’t become an issue for us. We had even considered the idea of nesting, where the kids stay put and the parents rotate in and out. Nesting would have worked for us because our house is almost paid off. We could have paid it off with saving and each rented studio apartments for ourselves. Nesting would be a nightmare for people that are not emotionally mature though, it would just give them more to fight about. We wouldn’t have had that problem but …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:06 PM
1

I feel that housing is a major issue for some non custodial parents. In order to have shared custody, both my husband and I would have to both have three bedroom homes. Usually during a spilt there is one person that leaves and one stays in the home. I feel like a lot of non custodial parents aren’t in the position to run out and get a multi bedroom home.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:27 PM
1

I gave birth but I don’t feel that I’m more invested in my kids because of it. My husband has as much love and investment in the kids as I do. What you are saying suggests that a mother who used a surrogate or adopted would not be as invested as a mother than gave birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:24 PM
2

The courts force you to stay in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:19 PM
1

Touchy touchy gets stabby stab.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:08 AM
3

I don’t tolerate any of that crap in the workplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:48 AM
8

I am flat out against fathers who have safe, stable homes not having access to their children. A father-child relationship is vital, IMO. I’m happily married but there was a time when our marriage wasn’t doing so hot and we were considering divorce. We both agreed that our feelings had nothing to do with it and that we’d each have equal time with the kids and their needs were greater than our feelings and needs. We ended up working on our marriage and it didn’t come to that, but it would have ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:50 PM
7

We often send each other sexy/flirty texts while the kids are in the living room with us. Sometimes I initiate, sometimes he does. I put something on the tv to distract the kiddos and serve them a snack then we sneak off upstairs. Sneaking away is fun as is exchanging flirty texts. It is a lot better for us to have sex before bedtime because the bedrooms are all on the second floor and we have more privacy. Also, we’re not tired and ready for bed. Plus, one of our kids is a bedroom invader, lol,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 11:24 PM
3

I didn’t see the tattoo until I read the messages. Yikes!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:11 PM
2

If she receives enough child support to cover half of daycare and half of the child’s expenses, she will be able to work full time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:50 PM
11

That works and some people do it. Some people have very effective co-parenting plans. There’s still some financial exchange or balanced paying for extras like insurance, sports, daycare, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:41 PM
6

You should have used the same weights every day not some random barbells at the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:31 PM
1

I don’t hate incels. There’s nothing to hate, they aren’t even on my radar or any part of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:18 PM
2

And you have no plan to make sure that child are cared for. You just hate women for not having sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:14 PM
3

So fathers do not pay for children and mothers do?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:09 PM
2

So you want an elaborate oversight system that would employe tons of people, require the staff to have technology, office space, additional courts, court staff, and court spaces but do not have a plan to fund it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:08 PM
2

Are you going to pay higher taxes to afford this level of oversight?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:04 PM
5

He probably only wants to pay taxes for the roads he specifically drives on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:29 PM
2

The men aren’t paying half of what it takes to raise a child. Go hate on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:22 PM
2

We should really be talking about increasing child support. For full time daycare where I live is about $1600/month. The difference between a 1 and 2 bedroom here is about $300. Add in 1/2 if the food, utilities, clothing, medical care, toys, sports, etc. and we are easily at over 1.5-2K per month from the father. At that rate, the child would not qualify for welfare and the mother could work full time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:15 PM
10

Are the fathers going in too?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:38 PM
34

Don’t like paying high child support? Keep your dick in your pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:02 PM
53

The money isn’t for the woman, it’s for the child. In many cases child support alone is not enough to meet the needs of the child. Don’t like welfare? Increase child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:55 PM
3

Interesting. You do realize that by indulging in these thoughts that you are also increasing the frequency of them, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:26 PM
2

Find something that you enjoy which includes other people and social opportunities. Having friends and being social is key. What do you do now that is social?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:18 PM
4

How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:51 PM
1

We have kids and a traditional (but not Christian) household. Our kids are able to have the benefits of having a full time caregiver, that can’t happen unless you live with family. He has the benefit of only having to work, everything else is done for him. If he were single, he’d have to work and care for his household. I have the benefits of not having to work and only care for the children and the household. We are 14 years in and still have sex and neither are fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:50 PM
5

They don’t owe you sex because they’ve had sex with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:38 PM
49

It does happen. I’m happily married and 47 years old and I have guys trying to orbit. I avoid them like the plague and have told them that I am not interested yet they continue to try to form a friendship. This isn’t regular friendship guys either, it’s guys that have expressed their interest and have been told no. The thing is, guys who do this aren’t wanted by the person that they are trying to orbit. They are guys who won’t accept no. They aren’t a threat to the relationship or a backup plan …
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 02:18 PM
2

We’re both almost 50, still going strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:53 AM
2

My husband enjoys being in a family. He wanted kids as much as I did and loves being a father and raising our kids in a happy home. I stepped out of my career to stay at home parent. All of his needs are met at home, domestic and sexual. It doesn’t seem like he’s suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 12:55 AM
1

No, I wouldn’t want to be around them. And I wouldn’t run away either if something happened to them. I’d grab something and try to help out, summon help, or call police.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 11:28 PM
4

Why are you with her? Why not seek out someone who is more aligned with your beliefs?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 05:13 PM
0

2
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 03:47 PM
1

Interesting study, thank you for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 09:43 PM
2

Have you been raised a boy? They need a lot of nurturing before they turn into teenagers and hide in their rooms. Who doesn’t pick up and cuddle their baby boy? Who doesn’t ease their wounds when they fall and hurt themselves? Make sure that they have all of their needs met? Read them stories? Kiss them goodnight? Listen to them when they give you a 20 minute monologue about their video games? Moms do all of that. Ones who don’t aren’t good parents. Im talking about projecting their relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 09:18 PM
17

I would say first learn to have relationships with men first. Not romantic relationships but actual connection and caring with other people. If you are not attracted to men, this will allow to to learn about many factors of a relationship without romance and sexual desire being part of the situation. Learn emotional responsibility (taking responsibility for your own emotions and reaction to them).
/r/ExRedPill05/09/21 07:25 PM
1

I often go against the grain with parenting. Like “sharing”, I think that it’s ridiculous. If something was given to both of my kids with the expressed intent that they share it, they must share it. But if a child has something that the other wants, they do not have to share. It tells the child without that they are entitled to something of someone else’s simply because they want it. It also tells the child with the item that their feelings and ownership of the item are irrelevant. My kids are r…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 07:16 PM
9

A lot of men’s primary experience with women is their mother (not sexually, you perverts). From their mother they received unconditional love, care, and emotional support by doing nothing other than being present and expressing their needs. Often men will try carry these expectations over into their relationships with women who are not their mother. They haven’t been socialized to understand that they aren’t entitled to love and understanding from women and they become resentful. And before anyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:50 PM
3

You won’t know what your skin will do until you’ve lost the weight. I’ve seen some pretty amazing comebacks from obesity that did not end up requiring surgery.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 01:08 PM
15

I’m monogamous. Relationships take work and a shitload of patience. I don’t have the energy to that with multiple people. Too much damn emotional for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 06:55 PM
16

I’m married so I don’t have a dog in this fight but I can tell you what I brought to the table when I married a same age man in my 30s: A well paying job/degree Clear expectations Experience budgeting Fantastic cooking skills Emotional intelligence/wellness Ability to fully run a household Serenity/calm Internal validation vs external Able to communicate honestly and clearly Now, I’m not saying that younger women can’t bring that but as a younger woman, I didn’t. I went to college before my marr…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 05:14 PM
-1

Dating in the early 20s is a hot mess. Everyone’s brains are still developing, alcohol has recently been introduced, no one knows what they want, conflict resolution skills aren’t fully on board yet. It’s a mess. Things start to level out in the late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 05:53 PM
1

It’s possible but it’s also possible that she may have been trying to learn from you.
/r/seduction02/09/21 02:16 PM
1

I accept it because I’m not responsible for the actions of others and I have no power over them. I can’t MAKE people be accountable, doing so only brings me frustration and disrupts my mental flow. I focus on me. Sure, I’m human and I slip on this at times and every damn time that I do I become resentful and bitter and lose focus on myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 12:44 AM
1

The thing is, if someone isn’t truthful with themselves about their actions, they aren’t living in a mindful, happy, serene headspace. They may outwardly seem happy but their life and mind are going to be in a state of drama and chaos. There’s not going to be the emotional and mental calmness that comes from responsible and accountable living. There may not be an accountability that you can see happening but there’s always a price to pay, nothing is “free”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 12:16 AM
1

I believe in accountability for all. Man or woman, we are responsible for our actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 11:59 PM
6

Is the lonely man not responsible for his actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 11:49 PM
2

Woman here. A lot of women restrict their children’s father’s access to the kids over matters of child support or things related to the relationship break up rather than based on the father’s parenting of the children. Women often mind other’s business way too much. This is why we see a lot of Karening and gossip.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 09:43 PM
24

Eh, I’ve never concerned myself with what my partners did before or after me. I’ve been in long term relationships that weren’t great and then they moved on and gotten married to the next woman, I figure that they probably were more compatible than we were. It wasn’t anything wrong with me, just a bad fit. I don’t ask about previous sex in my relationships. I don’t really care, they are choosing to be with me and seem to enjoy the sex so I assume all is good and as expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 10:44 PM
7

Being lied to for the sake of trying to force an interaction is insulting.
/r/seduction28/08/21 01:43 PM
1

This, 100%
/r/seduction26/08/21 01:18 AM
12

No. I don’t like them at all. I save the dick pic and send it to the next man who sends me a dick pic and so on. It’s like pay-it-forward but with pictures of dicks.
/r/seduction24/08/21 06:37 PM
2

She herself has some pretty bad romantic relationship behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 06:16 PM
3

One particular person has a boatload of baggage and mistrust from previous bad romantic relationships but that doesn’t bleed over into our friendship. Maybe she doesn’t view me with the same skeptical view as she does her romantic partners or likely she does have the same expectations for me as her friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 05:50 PM
2

They are good friends just bad dating material. Yes, they know. They admit this about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 05:34 PM
1

There’s no number game here. You can make no assumptions about 80/20. I have an undisclosed number of women friends, only some of which aren’t catches. I have an undisclosed number of male friends which are catches.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 10:54 AM
9

They are good to me but have difficulty in their relationships with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 12:59 AM
12

No, all of my women friends are not catches. In fact, some of them should come with a warning label. Oddly enough, I feel like my men friends are catches.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 10:03 PM
2

The exact same amount of straight men and women are getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:53 PM
3

Most of the Tinder or Bumble marriage matches shown on their respective forums feature average looking guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:36 PM
6

I usually start off with a position of empathy with all other people. If someone cuts me off in traffic I consider that maybe they have had a shit days and are frustrated rather than they set off to piss me off. When someone makes a shit decision, I reflect back to shit decisions that I have made and I get that feeling. Sometimes people are going through things that I can’t directly relate to but I can relate to their feelings rather than their circumstance. Even when people hurt me or do me dir…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 12:14 AM
2

I call it Male Pattern Optimism.
/r/seduction22/08/21 10:25 PM
17

I have no idea who my husband follows on social media and I don’t care. I know his character and I trust him; I don’t have anything to be concerned about. If I did find out that he was following attractive women specifically to look at their pictures, I would not care. You do you though, if it makes you feel uncomfortable talk to him about it. I would first though identify the feelings that you are having rather than just being uncomfortable. Are you jealous? Worried he’ll roam? Don’t answer tho…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 12:04 AM
6

Being educated and having a family don’t have to be separate pathways. Personally, I’d grab as much education as possible until you meet someone. Also, consider what kind of man you would like to meet. My husband is educated (engineering) and preferred his partner to be educated. Our conversations are very stimulating for us both. I am a homemaker now that the kids have come along but I have a degree and experience in science and this has been extremely valuable in educating my children and expa…
/r/RedPillWives17/08/21 06:48 PM
2

I usually make eye contact with people and smile at most of them.
/r/seduction16/08/21 06:15 PM
11

These choices stink. I’d rather be with a man that I love and who loves me and then we have kids together. This alpha/beta shit doesn’t fly with me. All men are unique people and bring different things to the relationship. That being said, if I was presented with an option of a so called alpha man or a so called beta man, I’d grab the beta man in a heartbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:54 PM
0

Detaching from half the people on the planet seems really isolating. If one ignores women and only has friendships with men their social circle will shrink as those friends partner up and or move away. Eventually the person may be completely isolated. Instead, I suggest forming healthy relationships with both genders and eventually partnering up to form your own family if that is something that the person wants. People are social creatures and isolation often leads to depression and an unhealthy…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:14 PM
6

That seems like a really unhealthy mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:13 AM
12

Alternatively men could stop making assumptions about a woman’s intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:22 PM
30

I generally only complement other women. I feel like men may get the wrong idea if I complement them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:01 PM
3

Covid pushed us to get them laptops for school and they are a great learning tool. It also gave them a lot more access at an early age. Fortunately, they are laptops so they do their games, videos, and surfing while they sit on the sofa with us. Previous generations mostly had desktops which were often in another room so surfing was done more privately.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:13 PM
6

I do not allow my kids to have access to porn. As far as addiction, almost anything can become additive and unhealthy so I raise my kids to not become overly focused on any one thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:04 PM
2

I don’t need to feel like a person is going to protect me. However, if shit goes down, please get your ass kicked along with me. I’ll have your back too.
/r/seduction09/08/21 05:52 PM
4

Are you saying that you are 52 and date 18-30?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:50 AM
2

I’m an intelligent optimist so I wouldn’t choose either of those people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 07:15 PM
1

If one wants to hire a sex worker, go get one. That’s how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:31 PM
1

Perhaps the sex was bad.
/r/seduction02/08/21 06:37 PM
14

Not everyone sits on their phone. People do things, non phone things.
/r/seduction02/08/21 12:56 AM
1

In a lot of ways it would be a huge relief. A lot of women are hit with unwanted and inappropriate advances when we are just trying to go about our lives. How would it possibly impact dating? Hmm… I’m not sure. It’s possible that being able to feel comfortable and have a more relaxed guard might result in women being more toward in finding matches. I guess the best way to get insight in this would be to look to groups that have different cultural norms in regard to who approaches who and see wha…
/r/seduction31/07/21 04:12 AM
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