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Lol right. It's like "omg I keep buying houses, and leaving the stove on, and they keep burning down. How could they do this to me??? they expect me to turn the stove off? That's fucking crazy! " You're in a relationship, have sex with your god damn partner. And if you don't want to for whatever reason, then leave them so they can find someone else. This is a self inflicted problem
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:55 PM
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I'd say see a therapist. Seriously. The mentality is above our pay grade.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:38 PM
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You fucking leave him so he kind find someone who treats him better? That's not wrong advice either. You are being shitty and toxic towards him. I had a partner do the same thing, and I thought oh well maybe this is all I'm worth. Eventually I got fucking sick of a human-being I cared about not treating me with mutual respect, left her ass. I then got my confidence, game, sexual experience all back because I wasn't the problem, she was. Now I have a smoking hot gf who treats me like an equal and…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:13 PM
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I actually think this is a misrepresentation from the media. Most guys I know also aren't pleased with high numbers. Like it's not cool. They aren't proud of it, the ones with high numbers. It's a shame thing. Anyways the big reason, as I just reinforced from an experience from a friend; sleeping with lots of people is literally a hazzard, like it's not safe. Unless you don't give a shit about stds. But you should. It is not illegal, in most of North America, to not tell a partner about 'non-ser…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:44 PM
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You've displayed no logic mam.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 09:32 AM
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It's not strictly sexist at all. Having a high body count comes with its own issues. From a safety issue at least, you're exposing yourself to a ton of life changing diseases, even with protection, its very far from risk-free. But secondly, for lots of people, sex is the most intimate connected thing humans can do. It's really important to some people. So if you pick a partner who has lots of casual sex, it displays a difference of values. I'm not saying one is lesser, they are just different, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 09:29 AM
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Yeah, I actually have always found cold approach odd. I've never personally done it, just seems too weird. I do appreciate the danger women have to consider when considering a new man. That's definitely a thing, that I wish wasn't a thing :/ Congrats on the weight loss though! That's awesome :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 09:06 PM
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For sure, there's something to be said about vibes, the mannerisms and conversation that a guy has irl. I think that definitely exists to increase a man's overall attractiveness. Just photos don't work for that. To point out something however, I had read this once, that unnatractive people, especially guys, are almost literally invisible. You'll know there's like a person there, but they just don't register as being even someone to consider in a sexual way at all. Like seeing a really old person…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:53 PM
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I'm a dude, and I would have changed in a heartbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:37 PM
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Yup, drugs may have actually helped haha. Over thinking is a bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:33 PM
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I mean I am playing a bit of devils advocate here. I get what your saying and agree. One of the two only answers is what you are saying. A man needs to focus on working on himself. It's the only real way to see success. But the other answer, for some amount of guys, especially in areas like China or Japan, is to not bother trying. You can try and become an astronaut, that is a thing a person can do, but for some guys, those are about the same odds. Women's opinion of 80% of men is that they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:30 PM
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Nerves my man. I'm human, had a hookup once, got hard, but wasn't conformable with the chick and she said come in me. I was like nah it's not happening. Also years and years or jacking off. Sure fire way for delayed ejaculation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:28 PM
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I am sorry, just pointing it out. The answer is they eventually settle. And then eventually eventually get bored and ask for a divorce. Numbers wise anyways When there's an abundance of men, women become more selective. During big wars it actually flips, sorry more morose topics. But yeah when there are less men, they can become the selective ones. But when it's more like 50/50, women will generally put more selective pressure on. Edit: that's most mammals actually, so it would be silly to assum…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:21 PM
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I can assure you we do not
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:16 PM
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Men care about eating. Women care about eating well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:16 PM
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This isn't dissimilar to a rich person saying, I don't get it, you have two arms and a brain, why aren't you rich. I think it's just your attitude, it has to be. Look at me, I'm rich, and I'm just like you. See where I'm going with that? Of course they look normal. They are. But standards are rising because they can be. Women have lots and lots of options, so the margin becomes smaller for accepted men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:12 PM
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I've always considered this, to put it bluntly, fucked up. If I were showing genuine interest in a person, as in going on a date with the goal of continuing to date them, they have my undevided attention, and I would expect the same. That doesn't mean things will work out, or that you shouldn't explore options. But do so after you've decided it isn't going to work. Look at one option at a time. And at the very least don't be sleeping with other people simultanously. Jesus. Or if you are, fucking…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:14 PM
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On the one hand I'm jealous because of fomo and curiosity, jealousy of not being wanted like others are wanted. On the other it seems like a fucking nightmare with few upsides. Stds, pregnancy scares, crazy people who don't immediately read as crazy, dangerous situations, numbing of emotion from too many partners, inability to connect. Most people I know with high counts can't hold onto relationships, they have stds, they have had abortions
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 10:20 PM
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I know what the definition is. I've taken courses in it. I'm being a tiny bit facetious in pointing out that just because it has a definition, doesn't mean that's the actual message being spread.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:31 PM
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Yeah was going go say, aren't they still doing it now? Isn't that the whole patriarchy argument? Men are responsible for everything bad in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:16 PM
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400% agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:44 PM
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Sorry, left it in an edit on the post there. Above 15 partners is considered high by almost every study I read. 1-2 standard deviations from average For point two, the crux of the question was meant to dig at; does being promiscuous actually hinder a person's pair bonding ability. Have they actually damaged the part of their brain that allows them to properly fall in love and stay in love. So it's it's not in comparison to anything else, that's the specific hypothesis or question. I'm not really…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:21 AM
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Totally, I'd bet that number is higher for men. Although anecdotally, I've known more than a few women personally who don't use protection and have hookups all the time. Don't know how they do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:31 PM
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Vent away my friend. That's a mess yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 06:59 PM
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I agree with mostly all of that. The only argument I have for discussing it comes down to values. Sex means a lot to some people, for others is a casual activity like playing a sport, with strangers. Either one is fine, to each their own. But there is a difference of opinion there that could be incompatible. And yeah secondly, I would be really really curious to see any numbers on the amount of use of protection in casual sex, my instinct says it's not very high. Sleeping with multiple people an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 06:53 PM
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Ohh no my apologies, I misread a few words. Gotcha. But yeah thats also an interesting question, how does one do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 06:11 PM
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This was very interesting to read, thanks for posting. Out of interest, for someone who's slow to sex, how did you hit triple digits then?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:28 PM
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For sure, it is anonymous though, so why lie?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:17 PM
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This is super well put. I was going go say you don't need a high n count to practice sex, one partner would do. But you're absolutely right, it's not easy to find a ltr partner to match your standards, especially in certain locations. All of that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:12 PM
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It absolutely is, thats normal to find others attractive while in ltr, human nature. Thanks for the sharing thoughts and experience
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:03 PM
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Interesting also that so far those who have commented about having issues appear to be men, and those with high counts and women seem to do fine. Didn't expect it honestly, thought it cause at least some issues one way or the other
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:50 PM
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This is kind of what I figured, how could you not compare. We do it with everything else. I've eaten a lot of pizza from all over the world. I know my favorite place, and the others are good, maybe different, but not as good.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:47 PM
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Technically speaking anything over 15 is considered high I believe
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:42 PM
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Appreciate the honesty nonetheless
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:42 PM
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I am in this group, so far so good, one year in
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:31 PM
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Suppose I should have linked the article, was a lazy morning question I had haha. Averages are around 7 - 10 lifetime partners over all ages, roughly. Changes depending on the studies. The point that they sort of stop counting because it's high is somewhere around 15-20. That's like the 95th percentile. Think 25+ is the 99th percentile. Something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:37 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Thanks for the reply
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:53 PM
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Sorry, number of past sexual partners
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:53 PM
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Thanks for the insight
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:40 PM
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It definitely feels like the ROI is on the floor
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 06:30 PM
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Yeah for sure, that makes sense. Just a personal worry that I don't see any difference between me and most other guys. So, like how long am I going to last here before I'm put out to pasture sort of thing. Sorry I know complaining about that to people here is silly and doesn't do much. Just venting, thanks for understanding
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 06:13 PM
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It's funny, I started dating this amazing woman last year. Out of my league attractive, and kind and a that good stuff. What I find funny is she had a male friend I became friends with, and she has mentioned her and her sister couldn't date him because he was "just, not good looking enough". When I look at this guy that makes me so fucking nervous because like he's fine, he just looks like a normal dude. He's like 5'10, athletic, rich (legit rich), works in IT, has no social awkwardness at all, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 04:50 PM
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Haha funny, don't feel BP at all. Often talk about how imbalanced dating and whatnot is on reddit, all that kind of stuff. I mean I can't control anything but my own mindset and actions right. Stoicism kind of thing. I can't make my dick bigger, or grow to 6'3". Can't control how anyone else feels about me, or any of that shit. I can try and control confidence sure, but what even is that, always seemed like arrogance to me, over-confidence. Seems like ignoring actual risks in favor of thinking i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:33 AM
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I'd love to know what it is haha, i dont feel any different than anyone else. Thats why i try and stand up for other guys when i can, we're all just people. One of the tough thoughts I have is losing her because I get old, or lose my hair, or get boring, or whatever. Anyways you just try your best to enjoy the time you have and not dwell on that shit haha. Again, thanks for the kind words, means a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:34 PM
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Thanks so much 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:11 PM
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I mean it's interesting because I was In a 6 year relationship, sex couple times a week. So I've probably had 3-4 times as much sex as she's had, but she's had 3-4 times as many people. I struggle with it I think also because I find sex to be the most intimate thing humans can do, it should mean something no? and not all people see it that way, it's more of a side activity, like bowling lol. Her sister is with a new guy every week, and when I see that, i kind of feel bad for her a bit. Seems lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:10 PM
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Exactly, life's really short, 90% of things are working out. I don't love the 10% of things that aren't, but I'm human too and I'm sure I'm not perfect either. We do our best not to be hypocrites you know? Anyways thanks for all the kind words all!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:01 PM
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It bothers me, but she treats me really well, she's out of my league gorgeous, we fit together well, awesome sex, shared hobbies. And we've been together almost a year. I'd be total idiot to let her go. I try to be of the opinion that; how people treat me in the moments I'm with them, and not their past is how I should actually judge their character, unless there is some heinous crime they've committed. But it isn't easy, it's a mental hurdle. The thoughts bug me; am I good enough, am I big enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:35 PM
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Well that makes me feel better and worse simultaneously haha. My partner has 25+ I'm at 7. Knew she was in a minority, but didn't realize how much
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:46 AM
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Much appreciated :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:43 AM
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Depends on the study you read, where they sourced it, but it's usually more than 5 and less than 10
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:31 AM
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Could you link an article on the medians? I've always read them as what you said in terms of averages, but the averages are usually skewed because some small percentage of men bring the average way up, and the median guy is usually much lower than the median woman
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:27 AM
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Oh for sure, sorry I mean; meaningful only in terms of how many people there are with those sort of numbers. It's an extreme minority. Didn't mean to imply any judgment on them in particular. They are human beings with feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 01:34 PM
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Haha definitely for another day, enjoyed this chat though. I have nothing to debate there, I think we're on the same page. Men have the performance struggles, women have the image struggles. I think we'd all be better off if we let each other off the hook more, and ourselves most of all. I sometimes hear of the things women are concerned about in their bodies and think it's crazy, It's all attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 11:07 AM
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Yup I definitely agree with all of that. It's a really tricky thing, and just for some fun debate: Guys are just human right, and everyone gets jealous and dreams up problems. I don't doubt my partner is always thinking of me, just as I am with her. I've heard only good things so far. But as the oneous, to at least some degree, is higher on men to 'perform' in bed, it's also easier to judge us for the actual performance (i am by and large the one doing most of the actual energy spent, but thats …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:52 AM
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It's the first thing that comes to mind. Although it took me some mental hurdles definitely to not think, well beating out 30+ guys for dick size and energy In bed. The first time I couldn't do it, got to nervous to work. She was good about it. But yes that absolutely fucks with us. It's a LOT of competition. I'd sometimes picture 30 guys all standing in my apartment. My count is a small gathering, 30 is a fire hazzard haha So both answers I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:40 AM
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Jealousy, but not exactly how you'd think. Jealous because she had the ability to and most of us guys don't. I am 1/4 of my gfs count. I couldn't touch that if I tried. She got to have all kinds of fun, I didn't. It's a game most of us don't get to be invited to
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:35 AM
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Technically speaking, after reading most of the published studies, the majority of the bell curve sits somewhere between like 7-10 ish, something like that, for lifetime partners. Last study was 2015, so it could be a bit higher now because people seem to be fucking like it means nothing. But largely speaking anyone with an n-count over say 25 wouldn't really be statistically different than someone with a count of 200. N=25 is like 95% percentile or something. So no, the vast majority of people …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:11 AM
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Oh oh! This is great advice. I actually circumvented the whole approaching thing because I realized no chicks have ever really checked me out, and not wanting to come off as creepy or whatever, I just never approached any of them! :D Jokes aside, i actually got very little attention and I've spent most of my time trying to look attractive and be kind and funny, and all that good stuff. 6 ft, abs, educated, i am a genuine human, dont think the world of myself, blah blah. A couple of times in my 3…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:31 PM
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Subjectively, most of the women I know fuck like it's shaking hands, and only 2 guys I know have done the same. Strangely enough they aren't overly attractive and I still can't figure that one out to this day. But they both have 50-100 counts easily. 10 times any of my other male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:18 AM
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Average, not median. The average is skewed by a few men having A FUCKLOAD of partners, bringing the average way up. The median man is fucked, we'll actually lack thereof. The median women is doing great.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:11 AM
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Because so few see any success.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:29 AM
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I think that's wonderful. Sorry I forgot to add a bit. What you had was bravery. I learned to scuba dive. I was fucking terrified. I had no idea if I could go that far under and not panic. I didn't have confidence, I had bravery. I said I don't know how to do this yet, but I trust myself to learn how to. Similar to you and programming.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:29 PM
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Oops just saw this comment. Yeah agreed for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 12:52 PM
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I'd have to disagree. Confidence is knowing you have the capability to perform something. Niavity is believing that same thing without any evidence. I can be as confident as I want getting into the pilot seat of an apache helicopter, but that doesn't mean I'm going going to be able to fly the thing. Experience succeeding at something breeds confidence, prior to that experience it's ego or niavity. So like sure, its great not to care what people think too much, but we are social creatures, and it…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 12:52 PM
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This. Like I'm happy, it's just something about knowing if something were ever to go wrong, I'd be fucked. Or we'll lack there of actually haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:39 PM
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That is helpful, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:31 PM
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Sorry didn't see that, and new to this. Wasn't looking for advice per se, just perspectives, different sides of pro hookup or against maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:30 PM
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Hahah that's a really nice way to put it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:09 PM
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Only one, rest were relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:46 PM
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I'm not sure, I chalked it up to just being not good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:41 PM
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This is exactly it. Thank you. Much love
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:18 PM
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That's what I was sort getting at as well, it's a little frustration at the people who do get to partake. *I technically have all those things and still didn't make the cut so to speak, so idunno
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:06 PM
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Thanks, we'll put. Gotta drille that into my head. It often comes out instead as, well I gotta be the absolute best I can because she could have any guy she wants at any time she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:05 PM
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Oh I agree 100% haha, well aware of that sort of biased. And yeah trying my best not to be :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:03 PM
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Yeah I don't actually have any desire to go out now. It's sort of a comparisons of past things going on I think. I have someone golden now, I honestly don't like these thoughts and just kind of want them to stop. So figured some different perspectives could help. Glad to hear you're happy, it's the way to be 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:59 PM
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Well put ✌️🤟
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:57 PM
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Thanks, I have read a fair amount of the actual studies as well. My sense is things have changed kind of dramatically in the last few years since the most recent studies. Aside from that though this is kind of what I was hoping to hear I think, so thanks i appreciate your comment. My anecdotal experience is skewed, I think I needed some perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:56 PM
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Nope most of them were bomb, and have had some great sex
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:52 PM
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Haha alright fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:27 PM
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Thanks, yeah im really really torn on it. And it's nice to hear that actually. My inherent perspective is definitely skewed because of who's around me I think. Appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:27 PM
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Eh I'm more jealous of her because of what she's done I think, like she had fun, and I didn't get to
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:25 PM
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I've been lucky to have been in love a couple times now. So it may be grass is greener situation. The high numbers just shocked me. Outside of my experience. I sort of thought all the same things you mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:22 PM
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I have a couple guy friends that have like 50+ numbers and they aren't anything to right home about, I've even asked them like how? Can't really get a straight answer. They aren't anymore attractive and charismatic than I am, imo anyways, they are wondeful dudes though. But I guess in women's they are better? Maybe I give off relationship vibes more? Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:16 PM
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