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| 119 | Vetting Strategy: How soon should I meet his friends? | DISCUSSION | reddishfish13 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 12:33 PM |
| 1 | If you were looking for a sign that you're on the right track | GLOBAL RESISTANCE | reddishfish13 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 03:38 AM |
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| 10 | Little reminder about "red flags"I agree that a red flag is enough reason to cut someone off without explanation, especially during the initial vetting process. However, I've always made a distinction in my mind. In the literal sense, a red flag is a signal about potential danger if you go near a certain thing. We put them next to things like live electrical wires buried in the ground, holes and pitfalls, and other potential hazards that can cause harm. So when I think of a red flag in a relationship, I think of the potential f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 03:08 PM |
| 132 | How are you leveling up?A big part of decentering men for me was centering female friendships and investing in the women instead. I think pets can be helpful too for this, since you can cuddle more with a dog than your bestie usually 😂 Career, ongoing education, hobbies, family relationships, friendships, side projects - all of these are things that I would like to keep up with or without a significant other in my life. Decentering men isn't about that want. Decentering men is trying to escape patriarchal programming. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 12:07 PM |
| 3 | PSA: Feeling like you have to “do it all” to prove men wrong is *still* internalized misogynyThis is a great quote, but there is a duality of perspectives. We can be both: aware of the effects our existence and actions have on the male gaze and also aware that our actions and existence are inherently worthy of being measured on a scale of our own opinions about humanity and decency. Reclaiming my perspective has been one of the most powerful tools in changing my mental and emotional state. Your principles and morality and opinions are a garden to be cultivated. Only you get to decide wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 12:26 PM |
| 87 | My third grade French teacher hit on me at the gym today21 years ago student from the third grade WTAF. Love it when men in general feel totally ok commenting on women's bodies in public, it's so flattering! 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 09:05 PM |
| 714 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂That last slide made me lol 🤣 See also: CEO at self employed Engineer/data scientist/entrepreneur Come cook with me! I'm new to the area, show me around! 🐟🎣 Let's do these things together that I usually do with the boys! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 09:03 PM |
| 24 | Spotted this ad under "housing" on craigslist 😬My instinct is to downvote this so that the creep dies in oblivion. Instead I'll upvote you so we can all make fun of The Audacity™️ instead!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 12:58 AM |
| 10 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪This is what I was going to say, except it's almost more mean-spirited. "You're disappointed that I put in minimal effort to give you something I knew you wouldn't like? Fine, then it's your problem for not liking it, and you made me feel bad for calling me out on my bs so I'm not gonna do anything for you ever again." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:49 PM |
| 4 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?I would say yes to a point. What constitutes the "middle class" is a sociologically shifting demographic and always will be. But I think that in modern times people with different incomes, backgrounds, genders, races — basically any demographic category — are being radicalized to revert to their bases so that powerful people and institutions can benefit from those unquestioned loyalties. You might be interested in reading this article from the Brookings Institute about the definition of "middle … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:57 PM |
| 14 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?100%. I've dated down a few times before based on my own insecurities that I've worked to overcome. When you're out of their league they know it and they will react in different ways depending on the guy. I've experienced various combinations of these from LV and NVM: Resenting you for being smarter/fitter/better connected/etc 🚩 Putting you on a pedestal and hold you to unrealistic expectations 🚩 Making you responsible for his emotional state 🚩 Trying to lock you down quickly through manipulatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 11:46 AM |
| 93 | Part 2 of the sh*t scrotes say about women vs. how THEY look, inspired by a previous postIt's the men who don't get what they want out of the patriarchy 🤷♀️ so they choose to make women uncomfortable because at least they get to feel better than someone, even if they can't feel better than other men lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 09:24 PM |
| 14 | I love my friend, but she’s a pickmeisha.Internalized misogyny is also EVERYWHERE. Literally one of the biggest deconditionings I went through after joining this sub was teaching myself to recognize it, and it's f*ing pervasive. An intentional part of the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 09:18 PM |
| 8 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?Whenever he got drunk or into an intense conversation, he would start tilting his head back until he was literally looking down his nose at other people. He was lovely in a lot of other ways but immature and insecure under social pressure, hence the breakup. Funny though because when I informed my other friends that we were done, they all mentioned that one self-defensive tic and told me I could do better lol. I guess not really a 🚩in itself but went along with the insecurity. Could definitely s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 09:11 PM |
| 110 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherMine looked good on paper which was hard, but I started reading in between the lines in the relationship post mortem and realized that: he kept getting passed over for management rolls at work his ideas related to his job were consistently terrible, and wouldn't get implemented he was infantile when it came to communication and couldn't deal with people disagreeing with him he cared more about other men's opinion of him than he did about himself the girl he started dating after me (actually he c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:30 PM |
| 12 | Stoicism and the journey of leveling upLittle s stoicism is often used by men as an emotional manipulation tactic in my experience, like gaslighting (usually by lying to themselves too) or stonewalling. I like that real Stoicism is realistic about what can and cannot be controlled. I always found the internal/external locus of control explanations a little too simplistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 06:02 AM |
| 14 | Seemingly HV until you find out how he wants to raise your childrenYou just stirred a memory about my dad. He literally couldn't be bothered to be invested in my life, but would go through the motions, thinking that was enough. And then he would complain about me only ever asking him for "car keys or cash" when I was in high school. Thank you for validating that I needed more than financial support from this man, because that's all I got 99% of the time. Now I feel like I need to unpack that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:02 AM |
| 7 | Scrote BingoThe best I can say is that I've never dated someone unemployed. Guess that makes me a 💰⛏️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:35 PM |
| 16 | Want kids but dread raising them?I come from a family kind of like this, and it was really obvious in the dynamic between my dad and brother going up. In retrospect though, I got kind of lucky that I could see how gross that kind of behavior was without having my dad instill all his patriarchal values. But I know what you mean about the anger. It's taboo for women to feel angry, but this topic deserves all our rage. Female infanticide is still a HUGE issue, especially in South/East Asia. And it's an issue BECAUSE the patriarchy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 04:36 AM |
| 36 | The BARE MINIMUM: when he wants “someone who can keep up”Yeah either that or it's a subtle taunt to trigger a "not like other girls" response to match and prove that you're worthy 🤡 We see through it, scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 04:10 AM |
| 3 | This could be a good FDS readThe National Crime Agency of the U.K. did a study in 2016, which was only a few years after heterosexual mobile dating appeared. It said that there had been a 450 percent rise in sexual assault and rape in the U.K. related to online dating. The internet has brought unprecedented public access to our private lives. Social media is just a smokescreen - you can't know a person without meeting them in the context of a broader community, unfiltered, and even then, you have to be careful. This is why … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 03:08 PM |
| 66 | The random man I locked eyes with the other week shopping for cool ranch doritos and mountain dew 🥰🥰HAHAHA I tapped to reveal and then immediately tapped to hide again 🤢😂💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 02:28 PM |
| 5 | I have doubts…Someone I was dating - not even exclusively! - for three months who initially displayed HVM qualities started playing like this. He stopped putting in as much effort and clearly stopped valuing my time. It ended up blowing up over text when he invited me - the same afternoon - on a "date" to his house to "cook dinner together" (not cook for me! Cook together) and watch a tv show. I told him that sounded a lot like a night by myself lol. After things ended, he requested a post mortem. I met to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:44 PM |
| 17 | Emotional abuse can be as destructive as physical abuse & everyone needs to know this.My last long-term relationship fit this to a T, plus stonewalling whenever I did/said something to upset him (which was often because my existence was a challenge to him). That ended last year, but I still don't think he was redpilled when we were together. I think he behaved that way naturally because he didn't love me, but he wanted to be loved. It was pure cognitive dissonance on his part, and he couldn't deal with it. But let me tell you, the dread game works if you're a woman already attach… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 12:23 PM |
| 3 | I have a dog, just bought my first car (cash), for my birthday, I’m gifting myself my dream engagement ring, I could get a house, but prefer traveling the world, and I never wanted kids. Basically, if a guy wants a place in my life, he has to be really good in bed. Don’t need one for anything else.Sometimes I see a post that makes me wish I could meet up with the fab women of FDS in real life, because I also want pretty much exactly these things. The only other benefit that I dream about in a man is being my go-to travel companion, with him adding funds for my frankly expensive tastes and also suggesting experiences that I normally wouldn't pursue on my own. Friends could fill that gap too, and I'm currently working on building relationships with a couple of women who are borderline HVW/L… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 06:27 PM |
| 242 | Stop sending paragraphs to men that don't care about your pain! No more explaining - use that time to help other women leave toxic/soul-sucking relationshipsI'll never forget having sex with my last, pre-FDS boyfriend (who watched porn) and trying a new position. His dick started hitting my cervix, so I started making more noise because it kind of hurt, and he just got more and more into it. Afterward he asked what it was that made me make sound, and I was honest that it was because it was a little painful. He seemed shocked and maybe upset. I'll never know because we never talked about it or tried that position again. Porn is not teaching men healt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 05:55 PM |
| 120 | Keep SlayingThis is a Queen! I think many men perennially underestimate women's capabilities - in the workplace, at home, in academia, and basically in all facets of life - and that it sometimes becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Too often I've let men's perceptions of me as a woman change how much effort I put into parts of my life, even though I know I'm capable of so much more in different areas. I want to level up for myself and for other women, in spite of most men and many women who are puppets of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 12:14 PM |
| 12 | If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rulesMy finger is itching to down vote this lowlife. But it's important to realize how easy it is for men to be manipulative AND dishonest about it! No, you're not being paranoid. Trust your instincts, ladies. Always trust yourself over another person, especially when that person stands to gain something from you believing them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-inQuestion that doesn't deserve its own thread. I recently started seeing someone from a completely different background to me (born and reared in another country, different culture). How can I make sure to vet properly? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:26 PM |
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