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"I think I'm waiting to be cheated on" She's way ahead of you, mate. She's been getting side dick for some time now.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 12:30 AM
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Teasing, it's supposed to be playful but it has an edge to it. Can get brutal fairly quickly. It's supposed to be used amongst friends.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/26 08:35 PM
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Good talking with you. I tend to agree, the only tricky part is "roasting" and how that shit can go too far.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/26 09:31 AM
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Thanks, it's a concept that I think about. I work predominately with women, and it's sometimes a challenge to determine what is a "joke" and what isn't (acceptable vs unacceptable). This is on top of the shit testing in other interactions with women. Generally, I believe that if one has to tell a woman to be respectful, it's already too late, and telling her defeats the purpose. If her opinion of you is so low that she's insulting you, it's difficult to overcome that, and really...should you eve…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/26 06:45 PM
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You can - and should - as a man tell women that their behavior is unacceptable when it is not acceptable. Serious question: if you have to tell someone to respect you, isn't it too late? What she did was blatantly shitty and disrespectful, she had to know this, wouldn't it be futile to set some sort of boundary on her behavior when there is such a lack of respect?
/r/TheRedPill22/07/26 08:49 AM
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Awesome post, mate. Too many men depend on female validation. It's really quite pathetic.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/26 09:58 PM
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You should be scared of marriage: very scared indeed. Date, have fun, but never take women seriously, and never fall in love.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 08:23 AM
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What kind of sociopath would say to her ex, “it’s the best day of my life,” and then high five? She was trying to troll him. She knew exactly what she was doing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 07:42 PM
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"She then said "What? Our divorce is finalized, it's the best day of my life!" Openly tried to fuck with you and insult you. I'm glad you didn't take the bait. Ghost her from now on.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 07:41 PM
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I'm a teacher who works in a school that is staffed overwhelmingly with women. I lost track of how women I met in my profession over the years who cheated on their husbands. One was so brazen, she allegedly fucked the male principal in her classroom after dismissal. When I write "allegedly", I mean I literally never saw him stick his dick in her, but it was so obvious and tacky. It was a running joke in the building, everyone talked about it. I have male friends in other schools, and they tell m…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 08:19 AM
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Don't fall in love. Don't take women seriously. Follow those rules and you'll spare yourself a ton of bullshit and heartache.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 02:49 AM
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Absolutely. Some people are sadists, pure and simple.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 08:06 PM
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What a cunt. If the cheating wasn't enough to get you to move on, finding the ring certainly was. Sell that fucker at a pawn shop and buy yourself something nice, and don't ever give your heart away to a bitch again.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:52 PM
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I'm not 100% able to write "true love" off between a man and a woman from the woman's end, but I'm 99% there. I don't think they are capable of loving a man the way a man loves a woman. If she has options, her heart's never going to be completely with a man. Hypergamy is a bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:50 PM
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This is why you never take them seriously, and never fall in love. If you just had fun with her when you could, you wouldn't be suffering like that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 06:12 PM
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Agree with everything except forgiving your ex. Leave her in the dust, ignore her, but don't forgive. BUT, if forgiving her aligns with your religion, do so, but privately. Telling her you forgive her just gives her another opportunity to fuck you over again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 05:56 PM
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"You are here to level up, and the universe will make sure you do that one way or the other." I sent you a private message, please take a look when you can.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 07:34 PM
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Excellent post, the tough love is needed. We need more posts like this!
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 05:45 PM
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Is this thread being brigaded? I don't know why OP is getting fucked with for advising men to not marry on a divorced men sub. Feels very odd. I would think some of you would know better and would have learned your lesson, provided you are not trolling.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 05:27 PM
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Whoever you'd rather be fucking, then.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 01:19 AM
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I couldn't make it past the first paragraph of the screed.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 12:52 AM
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OP: are you still fucking her? If so, close your eyes and pretend she's Megan Fox. Have some porn going in the background, too. Sorry, man. This is another reminder out there for any man reading this, that her looks are going to fade, and for some, sooner than later. Just a matter of time... That cute 20-year old that you banged in college isn't going to look like that forever.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 12:45 AM
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I said it a million times, it's harsh, but true: While you are thinking about her, she ain't thinking about you, but she is taking another man's dick. Don't mourn the loss of someone who isn't mourning the loss of you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 03:03 AM
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Not trying to fuck with you here, but seriously dude... I don’t care for that though You don't want some free, fun sex? I don't simp for women, but fucking a woman who is cool would do you or any man out there some good. Just go out and have some fun, don't take it too seriously.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:59 AM
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"Next woman, hot as hell, TONS in common, like actually more than anyone I’ve met….. she’s in her hoe phase, still lives with her ex and only wanted to fuck. Like I said she was hot as fuck too but I’m not in the position to be casual yet since I’m not out of our house we shared and I don’t want to do anything with anyone in it. She was major damaged goods too." You mishandled that one, my guy. Should have fucked her without getting attached, why not? Just don't fall in love with these hoes, and…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 06:16 PM
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Don't fall in love, and watch your six. Local cops love to harass and fuck with guys looking for action in my area. Go somewhere where it's legal if you can.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 08:51 PM
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Yep, works for me too. While you're sitting around missing her, she's bouncing on another man's cock. It's repulsive, but true, and helps you get over her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 04:29 AM
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She checked out long before you even had a clue, OP. They plot their exit months and years in advance, she's most likely been fucking some other man (or men) during this time.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 03:11 AM
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She's been fucking and sucking him long before you saw the pickup, mate. Monkey branching every time, guys. Never forget it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 07:32 PM
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Raising another man's orgasm...no thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 02:29 AM
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She fucked him. Just a question of how many times and how she took his dick.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 06:34 PM
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47omek 100% accurate.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 02:50 AM
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"If I remember correctly we had our last sex sometime in January, then she had very painful period and basically since then nothing." She can't suck your dick? Give you a handjob? My Golden Rule of dealing with women: if she cares about you, she'll drain your balls. If she doesn't care about you...well, I'm sure you can figure out the rest. You don't have a wife anymore, you have a housemate.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 02:47 AM
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Just remember that while you are thinking and even obsessing over her, she's getting porked by some loser. She's as detached as it gets, you need to get there for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 02:35 AM
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Odds are she's been fucking him before she asked for the divorce in December. Monkey branching 101.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 02:29 AM
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Nicely played.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 10:49 PM
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You are being kind with that 6 rating...
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:06 PM
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If she's fucking you, who cares? If she's not fucking you, why are you wasting your time?
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 05:52 AM
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"What's up with this glp stuff turning women into soulless wolves?" With this, the internet bullshit (Tinder, Facebook) and their harpy friends encouraging them to cheat and/or "trade up", this is what you get. Sex and the City and that horseshit plays into it, as well. The world is evil and fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 06:27 PM
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Women love to invade male spaces (the NFL and so on). You very rarely see men do the same to their venues. That should tell you a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 05:43 PM
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The fact that she even "asks" tells where her mind is at. It's either a (shit) test, or she plans on cheating, or has done so already. No offense to OP, but times like now I'm glad to be single.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 04:30 AM
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Seriously, man...get some Viagra and get your ass to the gym and fucking live there if you have to. Get on rogaine and consider cosmetic changes if needed. It's not that bad, and it's only pussy even if it is.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 10:18 PM
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Yes, it's just much easier now and socially acceptable. It's been going on forever, and will continue, but with more frequency and ease. This world is fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 03:09 AM
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I might get shit on for this, but paternity tests are not a bad idea. Cheaters are the worst, you caught her this time, but who knows how many other times she fucked around.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 02:51 AM
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Just so I can pay for the date and eventually provide for you etc That's why you always keep it casual, don't take them or any of it too seriously, and never fall in love. Harsh, but it keeps you safe and sane.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 03:15 AM
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Someone to hang out with, watch dumb movies and eat junk food while being content at home. Someone to go to concerts with and go out. Someone who doesn’t need to be impressed? Like someone who doesn’t need anything fancy and would be content with damn Olive Garden on a simple date night. That's what your real friends, your male buds are for. I can't imagine wanting to spend time with a woman unless I'm going to fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 03:12 AM
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If it's legal, I'd go for it. If she's a willing participant, who cares? Just two consenting adults fucking each other. Edit: "which has been good in some ways but has led to anxiety about stds." Your average bar skank is just as risky as a pro, in my estimation. With modern women, there's always a chance of getting more than you bargained for.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 01:23 AM
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Be careful if you go the escort route. Local cops love to run stings out of no-tells and fuck up people's lives all the time in my area.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 01:15 AM
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Makes sense, I see why you made your decision. I'll all about having fun without long term commitments.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 04:36 AM
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"We had CRAZY chemistry but our life goals dont line up and we ended things officially last night" Couldn't you have kept some type of relationship going? Not everything has to be a long term plan for marriage. Seems to me you could have kept it fun. Maybe call her back and give it another go. Just don't take her too seriously, just have fun.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 01:43 AM
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I cut ties with a buddy who would have literal panic attacks over the environment (polar ice caps melting, whatever else. I tuned him out). He did fuck all about this issue, and was too old to ever see the consequences of what he feared, but he let the issue eat him alive. It was a complete waste of his time and energy. OP is right, focus on yourself.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/26 05:05 AM
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having female friends and listening to them talk openly Yeah, I'm a teacher. The things I hear in the staff lounge makes a biker bar look tame. Any quotes that you heard that stand out for you?
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 11:27 PM
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You'll make a complete ass out of yourself if you do anything even resembling what you are considering. She'll laugh at you and get off on the attention, making her an even bigger bitch than she already is. Don't fucking do it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 09:47 AM
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"Full transparency: My ex wife can’t call me for shit. Not a ride, no handy work, she can’t even ask me what time it is. I wouldn’t pull her out of a burning home, nor would I call 911 and she is fully aware of this. No reconciliation, no friendship, no nothing. Couldn’t care less whose she’s texting, she’s blocked on social media, only communication we have is pertinent information pertaining to our son. That’s it." Fucking awesome. The only way to handle yourself. All of that good guy horseshi…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 05:47 AM
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"I just apologize" Stop doing that. The keeping your head down part is the way to go, however.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 11:34 PM
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"turned off her location, stayed attached to her phone, and done nothing but criticize and break me down over every misstep and mistake." I have to disagree. She's cheating and making you out to be the bad guy.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 08:35 PM
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"Do you want her to think about you as that asshole, or do you want her to think - he really was a standup guy and great throughout the divorce." Who cares what she thinks? She's obvious cheating, and treating her husband and the father of her kids like shit.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 08:33 PM
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Agree with everything except forgiving the ex. Move on, leave her in the dust, but don't let her off the hook. The shit she's putting you through is far from over.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 10:22 PM
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Agreed. Who cares? Let them think or say whatever is easiest for them in that situation.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/26 05:06 AM
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Great thread. Basically, predators sense weakness, and will pounce on you given the chance. I had a weak spell in my life, when I was insecure and doubting myself at work. Even the "ladies" went out of their way to fuck with me and they tried to make me even more miserable. Once I found my courage and stopped caring, I was in a better place. Doing everything you can to project confidence and self respect, of face the consequences. Those consequences won't be pretty.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/26 03:58 AM
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OP: there's no nice way to say it: you are way too soft, and she's abusing you. She's your enemy, and needs to be treated as such.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 08:51 PM
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Agree 100%. This forgiveness kick that is promoted in our society is weird and unhealthy. If she's an asshole, she's an asshole. No need to let it slide.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 09:11 PM
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"She text me to say that she cant stop crying and that she needs to find rent money in a day or two or she gets evicted." That's a problem for her and her new man. I wouldn't even respond.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 10:01 PM
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"Over the past 10 months she’s developed a new friend group goes to the gym almost everyday fixed her diet and honestly looks the best she ever has" You could have stopped there. She's jumping on some other guy's dick. It's over.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 12:34 AM
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"Women fucking HATE seeing a dude having a good time or relaxing. It's in their nature to be miserable." I read somewhere years ago that women love to see men in pain over them, since it shows the man is invested in them. "I'm causing him intense torment, that means he loves me!" That kind of batshit crazy thinking. Also, as you wrote, if you're having fun without her, that's when the jealously begins. It explains why women are always invading male spaces (the NFL, videogames, and so on).
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 05:23 AM
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Which is impossible, you are going to slip up at some point, no man is perfect, so she'll see you stumble eventually. I agree with you 100%, by the way.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 05:22 PM
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I just like to point out the heterosexual divorce rate is 50% With women initiating an estimated 70% of those divorces.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 02:50 AM
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Always remember, whenever you are sitting around missing her, she's got her new man's dick in her mouth or in her vag.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 02:13 AM
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OP: you must be a good looking Chad to get that many responses. It's great that you are trying to motivate the men here, but online dating is a cesspool unless you are a top level guy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 06:20 AM
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but my ex wife, with her affair partner (still her partner) She messaged some time later, suggesting it shouldn't be awkward, and that I should have come over and said hello and Mr new guy would be "more than happy to shake my hand". "Hi, I'm Chad. I'm the guy who fucked your wife so good while you were married, she left you for me! Now we're looking for jackets!" She really thought you would be cool talking to that asshole? I wouldn't speak to either of them. You are being way too soft about al…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 02:22 AM
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But in her mind, it is. She’s emotionally done long before you ever know something’s wrong. Monkey branching. They plan their move months and years before the man has a clue of what's going on. They are very sneaky and calculated in this, and it happens all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 02:07 AM
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I dont even know it it's worth trying to date again. It's very debatable. Safest bet is to just have fun and don't take things too seriously.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 02:30 AM
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"They just don't love like we do" Yes, it's conditional and for what we provide, not for who we are. Dark territory, but it would take a lot to convince me otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 05:40 PM
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"and someone in my wife’s affair partner’s orbit was willing to talk to me and confirmed my suspicions." Can you tell more about this specifically? How did this person know, etc?
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 05:23 AM
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The fuck would you waste time, money, and your backbone on that bullshit? She probably threw them right into the trash. Or laughed at it, or got off on the attention. In any event, it wasn't good.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 01:52 AM
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Hate me all you want for being brutally honest, but she's fucking someone else, OP. Women don't lose 40 pounds, ditch their husbands, and magically have 'time of their life' for no reason. It's better to be pissed at her (rightfully so) then pissed at yourself. She's leaving you, don't blame yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 04:15 PM
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Indeed. 3 months after the snip just to confirm that it actually worked. As you wrote, that's post surgery. The consultation and waiting for the actual procedure is another story.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 10:04 PM
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"The mask slips once the divorce kicks in. Thats who she really was and no doubt still is." You will never see a woman's true face until you see her in divorce court.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 05:28 PM
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"I think I’m just gonna quit and wait five more years and see if the female collective mindset adjusts for women 40-56." Barring some incredible worldwide event (the apocalypse, etc) it's only getting worse from here in all aspects of life, including dating. This world is fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 05:14 PM
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Entire post is spot on. Brutal truths in there about the nature of women, but truths all the same.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 06:05 PM
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"I want to be comforted by her but she is gone" Never to return. You know the truth, it's not ideal or even pleasant, but it is the truth. Once the divorce is finalized, never speak to her again. Block her out of your life, and your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 06:04 AM
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Just use the situation for what it is. Don't fall in love, don't commit. I wouldn't dump her unless you actually knew she did something foul, but I sure as shit wouldn't take her or your situation with her seriously.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 02:35 AM
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I hear you, man.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 02:32 AM
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I totally get what you are saying. I've seen all of that firsthand. I just think if OP spells it out for her, he can at least know he tried. Anyone reading this should run a Google image search for 'Superman Hypergamy". Now pretend if Lois Lane had a gaggle of her divorced friends in her ear. LOL
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 02:35 AM
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I recently saw this play out at work. A woman who I genuinely liked and respected divorced her husband of 20+ years. Two of our divorced female colleagues were in her ear about the "joys" of dumping their husbands, and they influenced her to kick her husband to the curb. She's in her late 40's, and she is beginning to realize that being single at her age, and with her baggage, the dating game isn't so fun after all. So OP, I would sit your wife down and be as blunt as possible: "Honey, these "fr…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 01:27 AM
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If she's not fucking you, she's fucking someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 04:58 AM
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"she ain't thinking about me at all." Very important for any guy going through it to remember this. So many guys dwelling on women who don't give a shit about them. It's really sad.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 02:56 AM
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While you are sitting around obsessing over her, she's fucking and sucking some other dude. Or multiple dudes. She doesn't care about you, why do you care about her?
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 05:00 PM
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"They would prefer to fit in with a bunch of dumpy, old, ugly, unloved broads who all go home to their miserable lives and cry themselves to sleep while convincing themselves that they’re empowered feminists." That's not how the divorced women promote their lives. Abandoning your husband is glamorous, empowering, and all that bullshit. Live, laugh, love, and so on.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 05:23 AM
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"She started hanging out with a bunch of middle aged divorced women." You could have stopped right there. Sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 03:24 PM
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She's on her best behavior now. Many years ago, I was told the following: "You will never see her true face until you see her in divorce court".
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 03:32 AM
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A wife sharing intimacy with her husband is as basic as it gets, if she refuses to do that, what good is she?
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 02:41 AM
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Just make sure you don't turn into her emotional tampon.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/25 04:18 PM
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If she likes/loves/lusts for you, she'll find a way to fuck you. If she doesn't like/love/lust for you, she'll find a way to NOT fuck you. A woman will walk through walls for you if she cares. Think of your "dream" woman. Jennifer Aniston, whoever. Would you turn her down, once, or worse yet, on a consistent basis?
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 04:02 PM
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I disagree. She will change. She absolutely will get worse. Much fucking worse.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 03:21 AM
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"Yes, there are things beyond our control. IE, I’ll never be 6’ tall, have a full head of hair, or be a young man again. Fuckin wahhhh. But there are numerous steps I CAN control, and I can continue to move towards MY ideal version of ME." Awesome reminder. Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/25 04:27 AM
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"Women are cheating left and right and I always knew this, small town, my wife who works high profile job told me many stories" I'd like to read more about this, it seems like it would be a good read. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 06:08 AM
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"her lawyer advised her to come back and stay 12 hours per day so she doesn’t forfeit custody." Amazing that she tipped her hand so badly. I can't imagine why she'd want you to know that.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 05:22 PM
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"Don't look him directly in the eye or touch his ears- he'll smash up your house with the ferocity and strength of twelve gorillas." Or serve him dinner two minutes late. Or speak in his presence if he's watching his favorite show. Or ask him to close the door behind him in the dead of winter. Or...
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 05:09 PM
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OP: Nobody warned me about jack shit in my life, so I want to warn you. Don't do it. Just fucking don't. You absolutely will regret inviting her and her problems into your home. I'm 100% certain.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 05:03 PM
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Looks like your marriage was the ultimate shit test. She tested your boundaries/what she could get away with, and you failed. You gave away your home, job, location...put up with her lies about not flying, and your reward is she cheated on you (the guy in Paris, probably an "Alpha" with higher social status and money) and dumped you. I guess the lesson learned is don't ever fucking get married, and don't give away your life for anyone. She'll lose respect for you, not gain it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 03:13 AM
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Everyone takes a turn.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 05:14 PM
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Agreed, a whore has no value. The normalization of that behavior is one of the reasons we are where we are.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 05:23 AM
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Like others have said, she's "empowered" now by fucking as many men as she can. /s She's a damaged person, there's no going back. It's much easier said than done, but ignore her, cancel her out of your life, and move on. The woman you loved and married is long gone.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 05:17 PM
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Maybe not. I'd want to know if my STBX had turned into a doorknob.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 05:11 PM
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Not gonna lie, I would have tried to fuck her again after the "Let me make it up to you" text...
/r/TheRedPill28/08/25 02:20 AM
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"I go to the ER, and move on. She’s texting me, etc., but I block her." What were the texts like?
/r/TheRedPill27/08/25 04:04 AM
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TikTok is definitely a problem, but I still say that a woman's circle of "friends" influence her more than anything else. One in the circle will get divorced, and then watch how many others follow suit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 06:47 PM
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I totally get being bitter, but 20 years is such a long time, mate. Be glad you are free from her. 20 years with a total bitch would have been much worse, and would have felt like 200 years. Be grateful.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 06:09 AM
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Adopt some pets, my man.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/25 06:30 AM
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Harsh reality warning, do not read any further if don't think you are ready for it yet (although it will help you in the long run) Always, always remember: while you are sitting around obsessing and missing her, she's sucking and fucking some other dude(s). Easier said than done, but forget about her and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 04:15 AM
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dating sites are trash man. Agreed. Even mediocre women (and of course high value women) have every man in a 50 mile radius trying to fuck them, there's no need for a woman to go on a dating site at all. Everything else you wrote is spot on, as well.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 04:01 AM
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"She also started putting more energy out away from our relationship and more into her friendships. She also started losing weight and dressing differently a little more risqué. Also got new piercings and a tattoo (and this was not like her at all, historically)." Yes, she's cheating on you. "Unfortunately, I can see google results on the computer. She’s been browsing rental properties. She’s been researching divorce, alimony, and child support. I haven’t said a word to her about seeing this tho…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 03:42 AM
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"She has a good job and earns around $15k/month from a property portfolio." Thou must saveth this damsel in distress at once, fair whitest of knights! Uh, no. Fuck that. Do you really need advice on this matter? She's trying to fuck you, and not in the good way.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 03:12 AM
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Really great thread, there's a lot to unpack here, but for now I'll say this: Western culture (which is dogshit in almost every conceivable way) encourages and provides incentives for women to initiate divorce. Cash and prizes through the court system, "you go grrrrrl!" comments from their friends, Hollywood glamorizing "blended" families and all that, just take a good look at what's going on in the world around you. It's not natural. Nothing good comes from any of what you're seeing on a daily …
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 09:37 PM
4

"She’s not interested. If a woman really likes you, she will respond immediately. I bet if you were some big celebrity or the church billionaire she would have responded in 2 seconds" Can't be stressed enough. If a woman likes you, she will walk through fire to get with you. Most women are also attached to their cell phones. There is no excuse at all for not returning your text. She absolutely received it, and chose not to respond.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/25 05:18 AM
12

In the instance I wrote about, they had kids and were married for 20+ years.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/25 05:04 AM
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I've got a very long story, but I'll give the condensed version: I knew a guy whose woman "loved" him where times were good. He was making money, taking care of the house, etc. He fell ill, and the same woman showed nothing but contempt for him. It was no fault of his own, he was hospitalized and her entire way of interacting with him changed completely. Take away from that story what you will...
/r/TheRedPill04/08/25 09:34 PM
3

Please don't feed the trolls.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 08:26 PM
5

"Do you care to share your tips on processing and moving forward" Always remember: while you are sitting around pining for her, she's getting her back blown out by her new guy. She doesn't give a shit about you, why should you give a shit about her?
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 04:24 AM
1

Do what you gotta do, and protect yourself. The dead bedroom situation is more than enough reason to bail, also she's relieved when you aren't there which is very telling. To be blunt, it doesn't sound much like a marriage at this point. I wouldn't lose sleep over ending it without being formal about it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 09:04 AM
4

"You're getting sized up and evaluated either for themselves or their friends or their daughters and their friends daughters." I work with a woman "A" who just finalized her divorce. Her best friend, "T", set her up with a guy in T's neighborhood. He's a single guy, makes very good money, nice house, the works. Now T never gave two shits about this guy, he was just a well off bachelor in her neighborhood. As soon as her friend became single, T ran over to the dude's house to sing the praises of …
/r/TheRedPill30/07/25 06:39 AM
1

"Why pay? They get this for free from everyone in modern society." QFT
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 08:04 PM
54

Great post overall, and I want to quote this: "Brother, I’m happy she’s kind to you. But you’re describing basic human decency like it’s a revelation. Do you even like this woman? Or are you just shocked someone finally treated you like a man?” You are a good friend, not too many guys I know would have the balls to say that.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/25 08:03 PM
1

Always trust your instincts. There's books and studies done on this. Tread carefully, my dude.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 09:46 PM
1

"If you are 'that guy,' to her, she would move heaven and earth just to be near you." 100% accurate. If she wants to be with you, she'll find a way. If she doesn't want to be with you, she'll find a way to make that happen, too.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 04:41 AM
2

You didn't write about that at all in your message. Build off of that success.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 07:02 AM
3

You need to like yourself before you can ask someone else to like you. Do what it takes to get you there: keep going to the gym, develop a new skill, forgive yourself for past mistakes, etc. If you are not happy in your own skin, women will avoid you like the plague. Try reading some redpill or seduction communities here or elsewhere.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 06:42 AM
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"Women on these sites aren't the best of the best either and have their own issues." Understatement of the century. Hot women who are not complete train wrecks have so many men chasing them, they don't need to go on websites.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 06:37 AM
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"but now I’m thinking maybe she had something with this person while we were still married" Very, very strong possibility my dude. Monkey branching is real, and happens all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 05:25 AM
8

I never understood the concept of "winning" anyone over. Women will walk through walls to be with men they desire. If she wants you, she will find a way to be with you. It's that simple.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 04:23 AM
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Actually, thinking about her fucking other guys helped me get over her. I can't miss someone is a skank. So don't block that line of thinking. Embracing the idea that she's debasing herself will help you move on.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 05:33 AM
7

Best cure for letting go is reminding yourself that she's getting piped by some jobless loser while you are sitting around thinking about her. Tinder, her friends setting her up with dudes and enabling her, some random guy at a bar that she'll blow in a parking lot: that shit happens all the time. "Your" chick is involved with any or all of that behavior. "She was never yours it was just your turn".
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 09:03 PM
3

"She traded her life and her OWN kids to go play Mommy with some random dude." Pre-selection! He got someone else pregnant, so she internally sees him as a worthy mate. Or something. It's amazing how stupid all of this is when you really think about it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 05:04 AM
3

You're strong willed, good for you. Splitting with a woman who I still would want to fuck would be a little rougher for me.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 04:58 AM
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"I've just been in the gym and eating right and losing myself in work." Stay the course as far as that goes. File before she does, and leave her in the dust. You can pretty much bet she's getting piped by some loser as you read this. "Live life" my ass. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 07:18 PM
2

You need to not seek validation from any woman or friend. When you can validate yourself, shrug off 10 consecutive rejections, love your painful predicament.... Then you will find you are your own best company and be able to bang 10 women in a row and be juggling them. Fuck your ex and those 2 bitches and everyone on earth for that matter, who cares what they think. Quoted for Truth.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 05:13 AM
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Stay tough, dude. It sucks now, but you'll get through this. Keep yourself busy with your hobbies, get to the gym, read some books on topics that interest you. Believe it or not, you are going to improve and become a better, stronger version of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 07:16 AM
1

"you have got to be a cool customer" Absolutely. Don't take the bait. Show anger and you are toast.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 08:18 AM
1

"Novitsky’s career path away from clinical medicine isn’t an anomaly among young women physicians. According to the University of Michigan’s Intern Health Study, almost 40% of women physicians scale back their medical practice, or leave the profession altogether, early in their careers." Accounting for scaling back on work, it's close to 40%. So yes, 60% is obviously higher than 40%, but those are still odds I wouldn't want to take if I was considering marrying a woman physician, for example.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 06:50 AM
1

I just did, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 05:18 AM
1

https://www.aamc.org/news/why-women-leave-medicine "According to the research, within six years of completing training, 22.6% of women physicians were not working full-time compared to 3.6% of male physicians. The gap between men and women expands for those with and without children (30.6% versus 4.6%). That compares to 10% of physicians overall who were working part-time (30 hours or less) in 2018, according to a recent survey of nearly 700,000 physicians conducted by the research firm Merritt …
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 05:17 AM
1

Agreed, the whims of a judge determine the validity of a prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 07:00 PM
9

"You know why? They married women who were financially equal to them and never fell for the SAHM scam." That doesn't guarantee that she will stay financially equal. I know of a few cases where the wife was making bank, quit her job for some silly reason, and then never worked again. Just because she's at a certain level in any aspect of life, doesn't mean she's staying there.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 06:57 PM
3

Please fuck off.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 04:49 AM
4

"Lots of data that incidence of divorce goes up substantially when a woman has a close friend who divorced - talks her into filing suit." 100% accurate. I've seen it unfold multiple times in person. "Girl, getting divorced is the best thing to happen to me! You need to leave that loser!" And so on.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 04:45 AM
1

It's far more likely than not that's she already fucking some other dude. Women very, very rarely leave one man without having another lined up.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 06:53 AM
2

"She didn’t show up for me when my family was in town. She was at a friend party for deceased sibling." I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want a woman I was seeing to meet most of my family. She probably did you a favor.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 05:22 AM
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"Quit the 2nd job, get a note from your doctor that it is not sustainable to do so, and is ruining your health." Agreed. Get people with clout to vouch for you in some way. Maybe a psychologist who can attest to your declining mental health?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 02:48 AM
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"They create a narrative in their heads that justifies everything they do," Yes, also they get plenty of encouragement from their friends/support network. I'll link to this again, important reminder: Starts at 3:15, Eddie is hilarious, but man does he tell the truth. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Un5gabl3zA8
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 02:29 AM
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"She ended things 2 months ago, out of nowhere on a Monday afternoon." I say it over and over at this subreddit, and I'll say it again: It was out of nowhere for you, but not for her. She planned this months and possibly years ago. She's either fucking another guy and has been for a while, or is at least planning to. All of that information should help you move on. If it pisses you off, use that anger to motivate yourself to create a new and better life. Be glad that your parents are there to su…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 03:27 AM
3

I wasn't being a dick at all. She's coming home late, working out at the gym, c'mon. Nobody told me shit when I went through this, so I'm trying to help.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 07:49 PM
2

"Of course, she never really had a sex drive." She certainly does now, and not for you. Why do you think she's doing all that work at the gym? She's getting piped on the reg from one or more men, and she wants to look hot for them. Coming home late, "hanging out with her friends"? That's code for fucking around. Hate to be so blunt, but there's no point in sugar-coating it. The woman you married is long gone, time to move on. Get lost in your fun hobbies, it's also time to recreate yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 07:33 PM
8

Part of me wants to tell you to hit it and quit it, part me of wants to tell you there are too many ways for even that to end badly. If you do take the plunge, wrap it up, don't put a ring on it, have fun but watch out for the other perils of fucking around. Also, you could handle it this way. Find a quarter. "Heads", you go for it. "Tails", you take a good shower and never touch her. Flip the coin. When it's in the air, think about how you hope it lands. Are you hoping for "heads", so you can g…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 06:58 AM
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"When it's out of the blue like this, it means she's been planning this for a while." This can never, ever be stressed enough. They plot this shit out months and years in advance. She didn't roll out of bed one morning and think to herself "Hey, I think I'll nuke my marriage and fuck up my family forever. I'll tell him tonight if I remember". No, this has been brewing for longer than you will ever know. She also has a guy she's been fucking, or will very soon. Lawyer up now and protect yourself,…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 04:01 AM
1

'A woman will show you her true face in divorce court' An older dude told me that years ago, I'll never forget it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 09:44 AM
1

My thoughts as well. Going for the long con, instead of the short con.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 09:42 AM
5

Monkey branching, monkey branching, monkey branching. Never forget it, they map out their exit months and even years before you will have a clue.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 02:56 AM
1

When they check out mentally, there's no going back. The key is they do this well before you even have a clue. They plot their exit and have things lined up months and years before they tell you. Google "money branching".
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 07:19 AM
2

Authentic cabinet? Or the Arcade1Up replica?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 04:00 AM
2

Adopt some cats! I know there is that "cat lady" meme, but I'm being serious.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 03:06 AM
3

What was the reason for the divorce? Just curious. You did a lot of compromising, but at least you had some good fucking with a hot chick for a while. You could have done a lot worse. I've been reflecting on my life a lot lately, too. I guess it's best to remember the good times.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 02:41 AM
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She thought it was hilarious, so you are taking it worse than she did. Nice to see you on a subreddit titled "Divorce_Men".
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 07:21 PM
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"Even now I try to help her and make sure she is ready for things" You have to stop doing that for many reasons, my dude. Cut her out of your live completely, and move on. I wish the best for you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 01:42 AM
3

Yeah, it's very fucked up out there. I know you're done, but if any man reading this wants to date, just do "Netflix and chill" dates. Invite her over (or invite yourself over, better yet) to watch a movie. Make your move during the movie. You either get to smash, or you move on with your life with minimal loss of your time, money, and sanity.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 01:40 AM
2

Thank you. Some people are sadistic and get off on seeing men suffer. My colleague is absolutely one of those people.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 07:28 PM
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"She started hooking up with other guys nearly immediately." She was sucking and fucking plenty of other dudes long before she officially left, my dude.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 03:10 AM
1

No, I think they just like shitting on men. They know what they are doing.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 12:23 AM
4

It is a support community, for divorced men, yet here she is...
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 12:07 AM
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"Can anyone help me understand what may have gone on?" Fuck it, who cares? For whatever reason, it's over. Leave her in the dust and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 04:10 AM
1

Ha ha. I figured the same.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 08:30 PM
17

Yes, you made a mistake. (I didn't read anything other than the title, nor do I need to)
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 12:06 AM
13

"though I did support her during med school for about 1–2 years and sponsored her green card." Methinks that was worth a fuckload more than 30 grand. Talk to a lawyer, do NOT agree to nor sign anything.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 12:04 AM
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Not bitter at all. You pedestalize women and write about "needing" them. Plenty of other rambling that comes off as weak and needy. Good luck with all that.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 04:40 AM
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"They are simultaneously aware of 15 things that “need” to be done while we are aware of maybe 5 things." Much, if not all of those observations from women are meaningless, and are just mindless nagging. As far as what your ex did for your kids to help them, I get the feeling you would have done the same if she wasn't there. It seems like you give women too much credit, and yourself and men in general not enough.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 03:41 AM
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"We need them." False. The moment you start thinking that way, you are doomed.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 03:13 AM
3

Exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 12:42 AM
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NEVER tip your hand when you are making a life changing decision. Looking for a new job? You sure as fuck don't want to tell your co-workers or supervisors. Getting a divorce? Your soon to be ex is the last person on Earth who should know this. She's lulling you into complacency and making her moves. Be careful.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 12:03 AM
3

Spot on.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 11:59 PM
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"Ask her how much she's lost and she's down 20 pounds." She's looking for attention and validation and you fell for it. Just ignore her from now on. Who cares? Move on with your life and leave her in the dust.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 11:58 PM
5

Great post all around, but this really hit home with me: "It is easier to run with five than to drag one." So fucking true.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 12:12 AM
1

Agreed. I bet she was mentally checked out/preparing the divorce/getting fucked on the side long before the divorce was finalized 7 months ago. Anyway, who cares? She's moved on, she's fucking someone else, there's no way she's sitting around worrying about him.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/25 09:52 PM
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A wise man once told me "you will never see a woman's true face, until you see her in divorce court".
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 03:11 AM
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"And don't get married" Should have stopped right there.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 02:02 AM
9

She fucked him long before your talk, mate.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 04:12 AM
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Rule of thumb: just because you found out about her fucking some other dude(s) yesterday, doesn't mean that's when the fucking around began. It's been going on for a lot longer than the day you got the news.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 04:10 AM
3

You are being naive as fuck. She fucked other dudes long before her bullshit routine when she asked "for space", or whatever that nonsense was.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 01:50 AM
1

She's looking for someone to treat her, a single mom with two illegitimate kids from two loser badboys, like a queen. Madness.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/11/24 12:28 AM
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Meanwhile, she's sucking and fucking some other dude. If you got hit by a bus tomorrow, she wouldn't know or care. Move on, my dude.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 05:13 AM
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"I just can’t seem to get over her." She's gotten over you, and doesn't think about you at all. She's most likely getting fucked by some other dude as I type this. You are wasting your time and energy on someone who forgot you even exist. Put your time and energy into something else.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 05:36 AM
4

"Do you think men should learn to be more business minded in relationships?" Men need to focus on "hit it and quit it", and forget any long-term entanglements. I know so many married men who would love to go back in time and do it differently.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 06:32 AM
5

"That my wife could possibly move to another "branch" so fast." She's been fucking him for a lot longer than you suspect. This is nothing new.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 09:43 PM
32

It's time for the beta provider to rescue her and raise other men's children! What a deal!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/05/24 11:11 PM
2

Adopt some pets. There are many looking for a good home, and there's a ton of information out there that will help you with their care. Just make sure you have the time and resources for them.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 02:21 AM
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She's trying to get you to care. She's fishing for a reaction. It seems to be working. Stop taking the bait.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:55 AM
14

After almost a decade it only took 2 and a half months to be in an official relationship with another guy. She was fucking him or some other dude long before that, my guy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 11:35 PM
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If you haven’t got through the mental bullshit, what the FUCK are you doing jumping into a relationship, or even dating for that matter. My shit-for-brains cousin is on his third marriage, and that one appears to be rocky at best. She brought four kids into their dysfunctional marriage. Nothing tops raising another man's orgasm. /s I have a buddy who literally took a homeless drug addict off the streets, and tried to wife her up. I lost track of how many hopeless simps I know. So to answer your …
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 01:07 AM
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If a woman wants you, any behavior will be forgiven. If they do not want you, nothing will be good enough. "She makes rules for betas, breaks rules for alphas".
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 07:44 PM
2

It is 16 months for OP, but she checked out of the marriage long before that. "Spending time with another guy" means she's fucking him, just move on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 11:33 PM
11

Great post, and always remember: she checked out mentally and left your ass in the dust long before you found out. They will plot that shit out months or even years before you even had a clue.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 01:20 AM
2

As I told my ex wife: “if all I get out of you is a clean house once a week and sex once a month, it would be cheaper to get a maid and a hooker.” That is awesome, I love it!
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:20 PM
10

But yeah, I'm out. Too bad you didn't follow through on that.
/r/AntiFeminists25/12/23 02:41 AM
14

She demanded a divorce 6 years ago Your marriage was done well before that. She mentally checked out a long time ago. Don't be surprised if you find out that she was fucking around in that timeframe.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 03:19 AM
2

Most guys think they are invincible and that the party is never going to end. Then they wake up one morning, and realize how wrong they were on both counts. Societal and family pressure doesn't help. Then there's the endless manipulation by their bride to be as well.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 01:18 AM
0

Dude has an agenda, no doubt.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 01:40 AM
4

Bears repeating: “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” — Albert Einstein
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 05:35 PM
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If you were looking to stick your hand on a hot stove again, which features would you like the stove to have?
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 08:52 PM
5

I'll have to quote myself: "redditrock5625 points ·3 months ago I'll always remember what an older guy at work told me: When a woman gets divorced, watch how many of her friends do the same soon after. He told of one woman he knew. She got divorced, she told all of her friends how liberating and awesome it was to be free again, and sure enough, every one of her friends was divorced within a few years." https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/147t7a3/if_your_getting_married_in_the_us_rememb…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 07:02 PM
3

"I'd like some features of [Christine's] home, to be quite honest," he quipped of her home. In documents, Christine claimed the rental house is not adequate. "Unlike Kevin's Beach Club Compound, [the rental] is on the mountain side of the freeway. It does not have beachfront access, nor is it walking distance to the beach, and has no scenic view," her lawyers stated in a court filing, arguing the kids should live in a "comparable house when they are with Christine." On Thursday, the former handb…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 07:28 PM
2

She belongs to the streets. It's all you will ever need to know about her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 03:35 AM
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"Alpha lays, beta pays".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/08/23 11:40 PM
2

There are guys who loved to be abused by women. Just look at those guys who are in cucked relationships. There's even a whole porn fetish out there for cucks. I like this one porn star, and she's very popular and mainstream, and she did a cuck scene not too long ago. It was fake as could be, but she fucked some "other guy", while her "husband" sat a few feet away. The porn company was marketing that bullshit to somebody. I'm not a psychologist, but some dudes hate themselves, worship women, and/…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 02:46 AM
4

Again, some guys love the abuse. It's some strange dynamic where they wear the shit that they take like it's some badge of honor. "Hurr, durr, looks like I'm getting fucked in divorce court again, derp derp." I work with guys like that. Their supervisors know who they are, and exploit them with extra enthusiasm.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 01:11 AM
5

I think OP gets off on being a pushover. It seems to be his whole identity.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 09:10 PM
4

It's not crazy at all. Marriage is a known horrible "deal" for any man, and you should have learned your lesson the first time.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 04:39 AM
1

Prenups aren't worth the paper they are printed on.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 12:42 AM
1

True, and it wasn't boring ol' starfish sex neither. Other dude was getting every nasty fetish he wanted, and then some.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 11:15 PM
3

She said that “I’m happy” shit to fuck with your head. It wasn’t enough that she was cheating during the marriage and initiated divorce she had to get some more shots in so you really knew how much contempt she has for you. FTB. Spot on.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 11:12 PM
2

The only thing that got to me was when she said “I’m finally happy”. She kept smiling at me Anyways her text was about her going out with her BF because he wanted to go out to eat and that she’ll be quick and back blah blah blah. I didn’t need to know any of that yet she felt inclined to tell me Classic shit stirring/trolling/trying to get a reaction out of you. ​ My ex wants to help me with what I’m feeling…depression. I got this diagnosis when we were “figuring” things out. I’m having a hard t…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 11:07 PM
67

Albert Einstein reportedly said, “Women marry men hoping they will change, and men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed.”
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 12:06 AM
6

Just cover your ass and make sure it never gets back to you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 07:04 AM
2

That's not a wife, that's a housemate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 12:30 AM
3

We had a dead bedroom for 27 years. I stopped reading right there, but I should have stopped at: ​ Long story short, she divorced me and not in a friendly manner. There is no nice way to "say" this: you need to read some books or take a workshop on self-respect or something. I really can't imagine why you would want someone who treated you so horribly to be in your life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 02:04 AM
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I'll always remember what an older guy at work told me: When a woman gets divorced, watch how many of her friends do the same soon after. He told of one woman he knew. She got divorced, she told all of her friends how liberating and awesome it was to be free again, and sure enough, every one of her friends was divorced within a few years.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 07:47 PM
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Stop trying to understand, figure out, or otherwise interact with your STBX. You are in the process of terminating your relationship. That means physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially.Your goal is indifference (to all things). Excellent advice. What she wants is meaningless. Avoid her at all costs.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 03:48 AM
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"Raising another man's orgasm" is always good, too.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 06:15 PM
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Pre-nups aren't worth the paper they are printed on. Any judge can toss them out on a whim.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 01:56 AM
8

Living well is the best revenge. Wanting her to suffer is proof that she still controls your thoughts and emotions. She is still getting reactions out of you.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 05:24 PM
10

"She makes rules for Betas, and breaks rules for Alphas".
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 05:34 AM
5

Guarantee it's probably been physical if he is even remotely in the area. "If she's not fucking you, she's fucking someone else". The rest of your post was awesome.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 01:36 AM
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^This. 100% accurate. Always remember, if she ain't fucking you, she's fucking somebody else. Every time.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 04:10 AM
3

Your freedom is priceless. Enjoy it, and congratulations.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 08:12 PM
9

She does her brother in laws business books for him, So I need to figure out a way to tell him about what's going on without her finding out. I'm kind of worried she could be swiping money from him as well. Meh, I wouldn't stick my neck out to help him. You have to worry about, and protect your ass right now, mate.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/22 02:39 PM
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I agreed to these ultimatums out of loneliness… Shit test failed. Sorry, man. You seem to be miserable, and having her stay there is not a long term solution. I would either leave, or tell her to get the fuck out. If you get lonely in the future, get a pet, or spend time with friends or family. EDIT: Actually, just throw her out. You are the breadwinner. She works part time, minimum wage? Let her try supporting herself, how she is making ultimatums is beyond me
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 09:29 PM
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