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Guy is a class A loser
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:46 AM
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Any man who gets involved me another married woman is a total LOSER! There is no exception. None!
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:46 AM
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Don’t trust it will go as planned. Most judges failed law school.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:43 AM
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I paid around $45k plus $25k legal expenses, $75k all in
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 03:35 AM
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Absolutely! They make us take a test for almost everything else, even becoming a notary, but sign here and you’re legally binded to someone for years. Part of mine is she thought I had a bunch of bitcoin but 1 Bitcoin is actually 100m Satoshi…. I might have said I had millions of them (she isn’t very good w math as on our financial disclosure she claimed I had 26 Bitcoins worth “$2.6 Million” because she prob doesn’t know how many zeroes are in that, this was back in March), but they still wante…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 11:22 PM
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The dueling FFCLJs is so rare there’s nothing on the books that says which one is valid, the first or second. We can presume he made a mistake but w no clarification I’m at the mercy of some guy saying 1st or 2nd.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 11:14 PM
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Oh no no no, I do not want this woman back, would never take her back, and there’s no chance of that. I would say out of everyone I’ve met in my life I dislike her more than anyone, and she prob hates me (I’m sure she blames the fact she went through this emotional whiplash on me). I do agree with you that any man who’s married to a woman who uses the D word needs to move on. I also agree family court is scary biased against men!
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 06:37 PM
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I mean the judge can basically do whatever they want. There’s no way I trust them to get this right.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 03:32 PM
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My ex didn’t take care of anything and asked for over 10X more than yours did…. 6 yet a marriage, no kids, she didn’t contribute anything, slept in late and went out drinking most of the time. Then wanted close to $300k of mine.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 02:51 PM
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She was not on the title or mortgage. But the judge himself claimed in one of them “this doesn’t mean I overcame the burden of marital presumption” so the judge ordered an equalization payment. Maintenance was ended, and the judge ruled in both that the house was my separate property with my father and was not subject to division, yet still ordered a specific $96k (he did the math) payment. He did not put how I was supposed to pay her. My hope is that he couldn’t legally figure out how to give h…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 02:41 PM
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Thanks! It’s all good. At first I was like most of us, in shock. I was using the time we didn’t have a baby on the way to make as much money as I could so I could semi retire. It wasn’t until after the marriage I ran the odds and almost could prove she was actively not trying to have a baby with me, as we were both fertile and the odds were almost impossible. Especially when she’s pregnant 6 months after leaving. But I’m fine now, changed up my entire life. I’m no longer having kids, I’m very su…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 02:36 PM
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That’s pretty damn accurate!
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 02:13 PM
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After we clarify the judgment, I absolutely do! I stand behind this, it’s easily top 1% craziest divorces in the country, I think it’s even higher. This woman has been concealing her address while cohabitating and collecting maintenance for almost 2 full years. She claimed she worked for my business for free to pay the mortgage, asking for both assets she never contributed $1 to, both I owned years and years prior to meeting her, that are absolutely not hers and seperate property. I could go on …
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 02:11 PM
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Not mine. The ironic thing is, we dated 5 years where I refused to try to have a child until we were married. I wanted a kid more than her the entire marriage. In hindsight, after therapy, I believe she knew having a child with me would give her less control, and if she ever wanted to leave, there would have been no question who’d getting custody. After she left, she was pregnant within 6 months. Now her man is 7.5 years younger, she controls everything, they live in a mutual apt, and if they br…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 02:07 PM
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For me, I got married at age 35, my wife 30, because I wanted to have a kid. Wife didn’t want to stop partying and drinking, until she left me and my stable life for a guy who didn’t even have his own place. She’s moved 3 times since in less than 3 years, I still live in the same house she tried to take from me that I’ve lived in since 2001. And not only did she try to take half, she never paid 1 dime towards it (I wouldn’t let her…..just in case).
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 02:04 PM
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You don’t know the details, and absolutely! Ex was going after “$3-6M in bitcoin” that didn’t exist. Surprised me w fake screenshots the morning of the trial after it was almost 3 years! She never worked, no kids, she spent $123k in 2.5 years of our separation. She left me 41/M for a guy 29 years old. She was exactly 36, or 5 years younger. Her new man is 6.5 years younger than she is.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 01:08 PM
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It’s not my child. She had it over 18 months after leaving me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 01:05 PM
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I just went through this. I was never worried as we hadn’t had sex in like a year, and I was right, she def considered sex w me cheating on him. Now maintenance is cut off, I wish the new family well 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 03:02 AM
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Yes, yes pretty offensive of her, and like you’re supposed to just snap out of it and be a good dad to her child…. 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 03:01 AM
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The judge found my ex never contributed anything to my business or house and made less than $12k/year w no kids, paid no bills, she got over $40k in temp maintenance and she almost got another 6 figure payout. This is a woman who didn’t make $100k in her 30s gross, and it would have been a windfall payment. I would have appealed it though if the judge hadn’t changed it himself. Even if you have a rock solid, slam dunk case, you’re still in trouble in family court if you’re a man.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 04:04 PM
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Yea I had a built in backstop as I owned house 15 years prior to marriage. Judge still sided w her, but couldn’t figure out how I’d pay her in writing, so he filed an updated verdict. Emotional whiplash like she gave me when she told me she was leaving.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:49 PM
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Judge couldn’t order house split as my father was on deed and mortgage. If he could have, she would have gotten a huge payment. Judge had no way for me to pay her a huge liquid payment unless house was ordered sold.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:45 PM
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Staying together is also miserable. I’d say it’s one of those things where every situation is unique. I grew up in a family where my parents didn’t divorce until I was 16 and it was a nightmare growing up as they should have when I was 6.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:29 PM
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I’ve been the kid (son) and HELL NO would I ever latch on to another man (I was older and have a great dad… mom tried to say otherwise and we hardly don’t speak almost 30 years later where dad is best friend). Be a good dad, that’s what matters!
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:27 PM
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I went through this and it’s true, you’ll have to wait until she has it and a father is adjudicated. I just went through this, was an extra year.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:24 PM
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Same thing happened to me, minus her coming back, she got pregnant and moved in w AP during divorce. She didn’t have any issues (she lost the case but it was close as hell and she didn’t even get mentioned for cheating and having the baby).
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:23 PM
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What’s sad is some women genuinely need help to get away from an abusive situation, what’s even sadder is the amount that pretend they do for leverage and money.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:21 PM
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Mine gave me one offer, huge huge payment (would have to sell my house) or trial…. I had to go to trial, and even w all the evidence it took a judge being unable to split a house or she would have gotten 6 figures.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:20 PM
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We got you man, this sub is great for support. Us guys gotta watch out for each other in family court as it’s just stacked against us period.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:19 PM
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My ex tried to get anything she could out of me.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:16 PM
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Had same issue, ex would NOT budge off getting 6 figures+ from me, she may go to trial. She made one offer, it was around quarter million (this woman never made over $30k in her life, and now has a baby w a guy 12 years younger than I am)…. She had told everyone she was getting a huge check and had to go to trial to save face. I just won this week, and it’s really bad for her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 03:13 PM
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I just went through this and I had to wait 3 years (my ex wife is nuts and I am financially very well off). Just rent something and save until you get the judgement. Don’t trust the courts to do what’s fair.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 01:58 PM
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She’s nuts OP! Your kids won’t be able to deny it soon.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 02:22 AM
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Is he one? Prob not. Was he acting like one? Absolutely! Anyone who says “I do” twice is almost by definition an idiot.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 01:09 AM
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They’re jealous!!! Trust me
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 02:01 AM
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It does sting telling another man I can’t help him. And I don’t mean anything personal w the “idiot” jab, but hopefully other guys see this and it burns in their brain “NEVER EVER do it AGAIN!” Especially a man such as yourself that was burned after 10 years. You weren’t married a year and a widow. I do wish you luck!
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 07:09 PM
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I’m sorry, but no sympathy for a 2nd marriage. You KNOW what a scam it is and then go do it again!?? Need to find a different forum as there’s no defense against being an idiot. Have fun fixing that mess. Other gentlemen, NEVER, EVER, EVER marry twice unless you wanna be this guy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 06:35 PM
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That makes them feel less guilty sometimes, as they can get someone to agree with them that you’re not perfect, allowing them to ease off themselves about the cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 06:01 PM
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Oh I don’t think you are. If there was a clear reason why she was leaving you, she would have already filed. She knows the truth is she started seeing someone else, wants to see someone else and isn’t certain about blowing her benefits being your wife yet, but she’s very close. She was def heading out the door when she mentioned the counselor, now she’s just lukewarm on committing to her AP. The sooner you leave her, and the more the narrative is that you are leaving her, the better off you’ll b…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 05:56 PM
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You def should file. I won my divorce and went through it 3 years and counting, and if I could do anything different I would have filed first. I personally didn’t want to file either, as she was cheating on me (and I wasn’t convinced myself yet if was actually over) but if I could do it over again I would change this just for my own confidence (and I’ve spent a lot of time repairing that, it’s totally normal they’ll destroy that before they give up). Good luck OP. The sooner you can get to accep…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 05:40 PM
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Exactly! She wants to be able to tell everyone (including herself) this was your idea and you filed for divorce, she’s totally OK taking OPs money and whatever else comes w that, as long as it’s OPs idea, he filed, she had no choice but to move in w the new guy.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 05:37 PM
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100%….. in my divorce trial, my wife didn’t have anything bad to say about me other than at the very end after trial in her closing briefing she claimed we tried and failed to have a child, implying that’s why she left me. OPs girl is the same way, she has no narrative other than she’s cheating to explain to anyone who actually knows OP or them why she’s leaving OP, except maybe “he’s controlling” or “he’s a narcissist”, those would be the most common as a successful hardworking husband most lik…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 05:33 PM
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He’s giving out very harmful advice. If your WIFE (which is why I don’t think this person has been married) says she wants a divorce, she’s fucking serious!! You should not waste any time trying to make anything up to her, and the more you do, the more her and her new man will think you’re pathetic! That’s why he’s never had a wife as you don’t joke about divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 05:22 PM
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100%. My wife forgot our date of marriage on the stand.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 02:28 PM
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You sound like a troll or someone that’s never been married.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 01:35 PM
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What????? This is so unhinged.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 01:34 PM
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Scam, and yes of course file OP. She’s done, she just has zero reason other than she’s cheating, so wants it to be your idea. My ex did same exact thing.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 01:33 PM
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My wife tried to take me for 6 figures at least, and I’m hoping she’s gonna be owing me money here very soon!
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 05:41 PM
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I’m sorry OP, you don’t deserve this. You’ll rise again, you need to move on, she is tainted goods.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 11:35 PM
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If it’s inherited property, you should be protected.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/25 01:30 AM
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Yes, I almost fired my lawyer and I gift wrapped the win for him. He wanted me to settle so many times and was literally working w OC to try to make that happen.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/25 12:07 AM
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I got my ex back so good and do everyday! She left me in December 2022 when BTC was $16k…. Every time it hits a new all time high I picture her losing it!
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 04:15 AM
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When it gets like this, look out. They’re allowed to be as pushy as they want (mamma bear) yet they can be disgustingly evil and petty. Divorce court is a place a man can rarely win any sympathy, most of the time it’s just assumed the man owes the woman. For women, 50/50 is a loss. For us, it’s best case scenario.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 12:55 AM
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What a total POS this guy is!
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 11:08 PM
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Appearance Education Fitness
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 05:28 AM
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Yes but it’s not a switch you flip. It’s takes time. Sometimes I read posts like this and it can sound like “once you realize it it’s so much better.” Yes but with time. Nothing substitutes the time and if you try to make up to that it usually costs you more time in the end. I’ve slept alone almost every night for 3 years, but my life has got a lot better. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/25 02:32 AM
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Honestly after having been through it, been cheated on, had a wife who made no money come after assets I had for years, and to top it all off I didn’t see it coming, I can’t say I’d want it any different than it is. She totally ripped me off and tried to destroy my life, but I’m glad I could clean break her off where she’s a stranger to me now. If I had to do anything for her, my life would suck, and thank god we didn’t have any kids. I’m enjoying my life more than I ever have by a huge margin a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 04:48 PM
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This frustrated me so much in the divorce. I can’t even fathom getting rewarded for cheating on and leaving my spouse. I will never get married again and came out of everything OK due to my absolute refusal to let her pay.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 10:00 PM
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I try not to have regrets. We all make mistakes. We’re better off where we are now. I would do a million things differently if I could, and nothing during the divorce process would make the top 10.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 03:19 PM
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My divorce could literally be over today, and I would go celebrate and spend some money on myself… I’m almost sure I’m going to win, but our trial was on 4/30, and written final judgement can be issued literally any time. Went through 31 months of a BS seperation where I was treated like shit, name drug through the mud, all that stuff, but I won the trial and I’m going to win the verdict. It’s a long drawn out process and it’s still going on for me, but it will be worth it when it’s all over. Ke…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 03:17 PM
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No I have not, mine was absolutely batshit nuts. If a woman who you weren’t cheating on, didn’t abuse and were a “good husband” to, left you, she’s more than likely crazy. I think aging hits women a lot harder than men, in general. Looks to a woman are more important and a bigger part of her identity than looks to a man, usually. Looks fade for everyone as we age. This can do crazy things to a woman’s brain, and the better looking usually the more crazy. This is just my experience and opinion, a…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 01:08 PM
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Yes this is exactly it and you’re so vulnerable right now, especially if you’re still trying to make it work. It’s like giving the cops an interview without a lawyer. Anything you say or do can and will be used against you in court.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 02:13 PM
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It’s SOOO BAD!!! My ex wife made a total of $28k total during our 6 year marriage. Do the math. No kids, she brought zero assets into the marriage. She married me after I had owned my own home 15+ years. Because she was the woman, I made the money and she…..partied…. She got over $40k cash in temp maintenance from me during the divorce. She sealed her address (they all can… can you imagine if I had sealed my address and said I was afraid she’d show up?! They’d laugh me out of the room!) w zero e…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 08:42 PM
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Dude you’re 31, I have people telling me I’m young at 44 (I’m not) You have plenty of time! Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 06:20 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 12:30 AM
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Yea but he prob has been lying for years (he has) and she is never going to believe that. I’ve been cheated on. This is a mess. He was playing with fire and he got burned. She wasn’t lying, she wasn’t saying we are sexually OK. She was implying it and he was lying to her that it was OK, hence him wanting to go back. She isn’t really wrong here. Yes he absolutely deserves sex, but he let the no sex culture fester and also made her think he was OK with it. Is she a good wife? No. But it’s not her …
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 09:19 PM
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He should have left her years ago. He didn’t. This showed his wife he was OK w no sex. Him trying to get back is showing her he’s OK w that. It’s not OK to lie to her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 05:00 PM
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Cheating is never OK. I went through and I’m still going through the damage it does.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 04:59 PM
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Yes, as a recently divorced man I’d agree. You are never going to have a healthy relationship, and yes it is your fault. No judgement it’s good you’re taking the blame. 10 years bro? You’re not going to get those back. Keep going and take care of this. Get 50/50 or as close as you can and move on with your life. You had to have been lying your ass off so your wife has no legit reason to trust you. This is going to be miserable and any time you spend trying to fix it will be wasted eventually.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 04:57 PM
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So go to trial 100%. She is bluffing you. She is NOT going to get more than 50% unless you have something you’re hiding from us. It’s not going to happen.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 07:42 PM
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You won’t be going to trial if she’s making offers this soon. Mine made 1 offer and that was it. She rejected the one I made immediately. There may be some mental health issues as well. (A trial really benefits no one, it cost me close to 6 figures to pull off what I did, and she got to keep close to half.). I should mention I’m on the wealthier side (which fueled her delusion)
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 07:27 PM
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The loser almost always pays for themselves. It’s so rare that someone would win a trial and the loser would pay for the winners fees, I doubt it’s ever happened (I prob had a good shot). My divorce trial was so rare, there are things that have prob never happened before in the history of my state. You don’t just have a weird case if you’re going to trial, someone is delusional almost on a clinical level.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 07:24 PM
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The best part, is I’m about to buy my dream house the day the ruling comes down, and she lives in an apt w her AP 12 years younger than me who’s a delivery driver (I own a large company).
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 07:19 PM
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Her lawyer has told your ex? Then yes! Get a bulldog trial lawyer and head straight to trial. Sometimes it’s better to have a guy that knows her lawyer, and sometimes it’s not. Depending on your case (are you hiding anything?). If not, go for the guy that doesn’t know her lawyer. If so, go for the guy that does, and convince him you’re not, and he’ll convince her lawyer your ex is nuts.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 06:46 PM
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Dude I almost got into a fist fight w my lawyer before the trial! If I could do it over again I’d use someone else. I still won though
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 06:44 PM
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The ruling will be anytime from 90 days after 5/16… she accused me of hiding $6M in bitcoin, the whole shebang. The first few days after, it was so much gaslighting I fell back into a funk like when you first hear the D word. (Except after the trial I have negative respect for her, not zero, negative!) After I got the transcripts I ran them through a TON of AI models and legally she has zero way to get money from me anymore. IF she had money, the judge would order her to pay me $27k in maintenan…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 06:40 PM
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If that’s the case bro, take her ass to trial! Just prepare for anything you did during the marriage that’s on the record to be brought up in public in front of everyone. I didn’t care, as I’m a good dude and she didn’t have any dirt.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 06:33 PM
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Less than 2%.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 06:32 PM
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Mine was $25,000 straight fee, plus another few grand for experts and process servers. Also, it’s a judge, not a jury.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 06:31 PM
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I just went through one and I will win for sure, a clean break. She lied and it was so much gaslighting even a week and a half later I’m still in shock. I had no choice, a judge had to tell this woman she is not entitled to ruin my life because she decided to go fuck another guy and have his baby. It’s not my fault she ruined her life. Short of that, she was NOT going to be reasonable. She made me one offer, $100,000k cash or $50k and 4 more years of maintenance. I was so delusional, I thought s…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 06:30 PM
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I didn’t mean that to be pessimistic. I’ve just found myself really getting frustrated since my divorce trial. She gaslit me and abused me bad during the trial. I’ll be honest ChatGPT helped me see a lot as it was a nuetral source, I have used it on private from her point of view and she was gaslight and cheating on me. She blindsided me after pretending nothing was wrong and gaslit me so bad. She claimed that I kicked her out, yet had this narrative the whole time like she was afraid of me and …
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 03:19 AM
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Im 44.. it sucks but you have no choice. I always wanted a kid and a family and that was stolen from me. Sometimes I don’t know if I’m more or less happy I have no kids. It’s a lonely life at times, but it’s better than being totally abused. I would never consider getting remarried. It would be nice to date but I’ve pretty much given up on that too. I’m extremely successful financially but that only gets you so far. I get upset and frustrated no one cares a lot, but then you realize no one cares…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 09:10 PM
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Please sir file for maintenance and DO NOT feel bad for it. I had to pay my ex over $40k and she doesn’t even work, she’s a total drunk delusional nutcase. You do not feel bad for this, you deserve it. I paid yours if that’s the way the universe wants to account for it. I’m so sorry this is happening, you’ll be much better off eventually! Make sure you tell your lawyer everything you told us, and you come back here or DM me if you think anything funny is happening.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 05:25 AM
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I just had to pay 27 months of support to the biggest liar I’ve ever heard of. She used this to buy Amazon presents and hang at the bar, oh and her man bought an incredible amount of bass fishing equipment. She is 39 years old, healthy, doesn’t have a child of mine, and makes $853/month working 10 hours/week as a bartender. You file for your maintenance! Tell them I said so.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 03:14 AM
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I can feel your pain! But you aren’t accepting reality. My ex wife did this to me, and she used me trying to get back w her against me in the divorce. She pretended to be trying to (after she moved out) and I let her help me w something I needed help with, I didn’t need her, I just needed someone I could trust. She pretended to be this person and then in the trial she said “I helped him do this so I own half”…. He is manipulating you. I noticed you responded to others and not to me, but I was be…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 03:01 AM
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I’m sorry but I think he’s done. I have been in your spot as a man; it’s called emotional whiplash. He is keeping you doubting your own judgment by gaslighting you, and this way the divorce will go much much easier for him. I know this is a forum for men, and you can check my post history, I am a man who supports men in divorce, as we usually get the short end of the stick. But I see the patterns and I can tell this is what he is doing to you, and male or female, no one deserves this abuse. Good…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/25 11:34 PM
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Oh yes! You need to keep what’s yours, do not give in to giving her anything because you feel sorry for her. She will backstab you so fast if you give her any chance.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 11:51 PM
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I can’t stand that women get together on FB and talk shit about single men in the area. That makes me so upset as if we as men did that (and yes, I know there are some) we’d be considered stalkers or weirdos.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 11:44 PM
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I’m not sure about NC law. But get out and stay out. She doesn’t care about you anymore (she may never have)…it took me a couple years and an extremely traumatic divorce trial to see she never ever cared about me. It’s hard to accept, as until the trial, I assumed at one time she had to have, but that was one of those assumptions.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 11:42 PM
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You just heard the surface. It was like 4 years of extreme abuse / gaslighting. She got our date of marriage wrong. She told the court I owned a company “very briefly before marriage.” I started my company over 14 years ago (3/1/2011) and I didn’t even meet her until 2012, we didn’t get married until 8/12/16 (she said “August 2014”). It was so bad for 24 hours I was in a state of complete shock. I expected SOME kind of honesty. Not only that about the crypto. I did send her one small amount, 0.0…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 12:47 PM
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She claimed I have 31 bitcoin worth between $180-190,000 each. This was the ULTIMATE GASLIGHT DIVORCE of all time and I feel like I was ran over by a steam roller and I think the odds I won a clean break are 99%. 27 Months of maintenance at $1600/month No kids, she grossed a total of $28k during the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 12:35 AM
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I’d rather become addicted to crack than get married again. I think it would be less damaging to my life.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 01:37 PM
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It’s abuse it’s so long. My ex is really abusive.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 01:36 PM
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It will be 5/14 now. She is a lunatic. Tries to impute millions of dollars of crypto I had 10+ years ago w zero evidence. It just goes so deep. I never knew humans could be as cruel as they are until I got married. If you have done through a divorce and you get married again, you just like self harm.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 09:11 PM
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Hahaha I keep joking I wonder if her man has canceled his layaway at Bass Pro Shop yet 🤣🤣🤦‍♂️ Literally two people planning a life off me. Cohabitating for 18 months while he pays all her bills and she keeps their addresses sealed as tight as whatever you think is tight…. Woman accused me of hiding millions in bitcoin when she had no idea…. We subpoenaed her man, father of her child they had together, and dude ducked service. Her witness list? Me and the appraiser, didn’t even put herself on it …
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/25 03:55 AM
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Ask ChatGPT to find the best divorce attorneys in your area. Make fun of me all you want, but I spent $25k on a lawyer and he literally forwards stuff from ChatGPT I send him. ChatGPT has been a LIFE SAVER literally in my divorce. If I had to do this all over, that whole “fool for a client” thing doesn’t even apply anymore. You have ChatGT… laugh all you want guys, but you will be shocked when I finish my story (trial is Wednesday morning)
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/25 01:15 AM
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Code for “I can’t manipulate you with sex as easily as I can other men”
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 11:52 PM
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Yes! My ex wife thought I’d go away and give her half my money so her and her new man could shine! Now she’s worth less than $0 and I’m the opposite!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 11:50 PM
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Yes!!!! I do too! And I was also very very down!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 11:49 PM
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Wow 55 pounds! Congrats! OP you moved on quick from being blindsided. That’s the worst because most the time you’re starting from full blown love. It took me 2 years to sort things out before I even considered dating. We are all on different times lines and congrats that you’re taking it so well. For me it was really hard, then I went through a period of time where I felt much better 50% of the time but still felt really bad maybe 20% of the time. Then this will slowly change to where you only f…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 11:49 PM
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You kids will know.. she will someday
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 02:01 AM
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I would personally just be a good dad. There’s a lot of shit that goes around (don’t date until 1 year after divorce is finalized, mines been going on 31 months and we haven’t seen each other outside court) this is one of those that is true. They will see the truth one day if you are a good dad who has his shit together. Let your life do the talking!
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 02:00 AM
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As a child of divorce when I was 16, moved out w my dad while my 2 younger bros stayed w my mom, he never trashed my mom until I was an adult. I still don’t know the full story and do not want to. It was ugly (mine was actually worse) and my mom and I still don’t really talk. I would recommend taking the high road as I respect my dad for not trashing her before I understood why. He still respects she is my mom but as an adult having been through this myself, I can see why what happened happened.…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 01:57 AM
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Imagine it?? I’ve lived it!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 11:30 PM
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So unfortunate. It’s like imprinted in them. Was there some movie we watched as kids that had subliminal messaging? Must get married… must gas light husband and blame him for my unhappiness…must date someone less prestigious as my husband… most destroy husbands self esteem…. Was it like a Disney movie or something? Or was it the Backstreet Boys?
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 05:39 PM
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I have really spent a lot of time on this and for me, I’m just over the age I’d want to be to have a child. I mean no disrespect as this is a personal decision for everyone and that ship has sailed. It’s my choice, I shouldn’t say she ruined it, but I did have heart to heart serious discussions with her pleading for her not to take my chances away. I got married at 35, her 30, and she put it off (was even mocking me “kids kids kids” in text when I’d apparently bug her (my wife as a late 30s man)…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 01:25 AM
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Mines been 31 months. She hit pregnant and had a baby, that delayed it like 15 months alone by the time the hearings happened. It should be over by Friday!
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 01:03 AM
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I have a dog and he’s amazing!! At first it was harder than I thought, living alone. But if you’ve never had kids I highly recommend it as it does give you a sense of having to take care of another life. He’s not my first dog, but he’s the first dog that’s totally mine and mine alone. I got a French Bulldog because they’re low maintenance, they don’t need tons of exercise and my guy is the sweetest little thing, and he’ll follow me around wherever I go, and he’s always here waiting for me when I…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 01:01 AM
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I doubt it. I doubt I could ever trust anyone that way again. Fully. Before I knew how horrible humans could be.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 09:23 PM
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How could she ever hate you?? I’m in position where I always wanted kids and my ex pretty much ruined that for me. It’s a long story, but I’m 44/M divorced and haven’t even dated yet. We are coming up on the end of 31 months of her abuse after she abandoned the marriage and 31 months of me accepting I’ll never be a father. I don’t want sympathy.. I don’t want to hear it’s not too late. I don’t need to hear an apology. I just want all of you to realize how lucky you are you have a kid! Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 09:18 PM
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Congrats!!!! Mine is coming up 4/30, hoping to settle for clean break before then!! Freedom is delicious boys!
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/25 02:57 AM
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You really need to be driving a $1k car? Is this US money? I’m sorry but I lease a 2023 Mach E GT that was close to $80k new and it’s costing me $700/month and I think I’m paying too much. This car doesn’t use gas so it’s cheaper than most cars as I charge it up at home. Why don’t you (and don’t KILL ME for saying this) trade your car in and buy a used Tesla (everyone hates them and I see why) as in your case you can get one for extremely cheap, and right now as homeless, I’d be aiming for extre…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/25 02:57 PM
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You need to get a better job, or get your order modified. No one wants you to be homeless. Are you a felon? Is there a reason you can’t get a better job?
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/25 02:53 PM
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One hundo! I don’t want to date and actually have women throwing themselves at me IRL. I’m just happy w my own life, I’m always busy and literally wish there was more time in the day!
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 02:41 AM
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Great advice! It’s hard because you see yourself on the other side as happy, and what that looks like to you is prob in another relationship. You have to let go that you can find happiness without a relationship, and that really is the goal of life is happiness. Would you rather be in an unhappy marriage, or happy single? I think most would say single. We are always single, we are always alone, no one can get inside your head and think with you. It’s always been and always will be us alone. If y…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 01:19 AM
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It’s going to get much, much better if you put in the work (what else are you doing, other than being a good parent and working?)
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 04:49 PM
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Cheers my friend, better times are ahead for you no doubt… good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 02:58 AM
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Oh I’m not telling you how to do anything lol… you know more than I do about this no/s… respect… at your age you know yourself well enough you don’t need that time… good luck my friend!
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 02:50 AM
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I think you’re underestimating the time it takes to get over a divorce. You can either take a great majority of the guys on this forums advice (I’ve been here over 30 months) and focus on yourself and your well being, or you can try to move on your way and tell yourself you’re over her and ready to date, and find out the hard way there’s a reason why the majority of guys feel this way. Also, I can tell you’re still thinking about her (and do not blame you, I lied to myself too for a while) but p…
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 02:25 AM
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No no no… this will backfire spectacularly, w her discovering you’re pretending and all that comes w that (I personally wouldn’t blame her for thinking you’re pathetic and neither will her new BF). I’ve been right where you’re at, and I tried to make it work while she gaslit me for almost 2 years. It’s a waste of time my guy. You need to get back to looking out for number one and that’s yourself. Focus on you and your life. You’re not going to believe me, but your marriage is already over. The s…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 11:40 PM
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Yes, over $38k … she was trying to extort me, then she got pregnant… she’s actively accusing me w zero evidence of hiding “millions” in bitcoin in her fantasy world she lives in we bought in 2016 together. It’s baseless and it’s going to implode on her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 02:56 AM
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Actually it’s not, my life is amazing! What happened in my divorce case is going to blow your minds, I’m going to do an AMA when it’s all over it’s so epic… for the first couple years it was rough but the truth came out in the end and Id feel really sorry for him, if I wasn’t so indifferent about it. It was the best gift anyone’s ever given me. And this is exactly what will happen with your divorce too if you put in the work!
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 02:08 AM
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I can pinpoint the month my ex started cheating on me (at least thought about it) by going through her bank statements, out of nowhere she starts tanning. That right there is the beginning. Also my divorce has gone on 30 months, she had a kid w AP a year ago so do the math (seperated in 10/22) and she was tanning early 2022, all through first half of 2023… she hasn’t went tanning in over a year. It’s proof positive they change and change right back.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 01:56 AM
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Been at it 29 months, trial set for 4/30 will make it 30. She thinks I have a bunch of hidden bitcoin. I disclosed all of it and she writes on her FDS “XX Bitcoin checks acquired “Together” and 2016 for date and in value she writes (no joke) “$X.X Million” STBX and I never bought any crypto together ever and yes I had some in 2016, doesn’t mean I still do. 6 year marriage, no kids, she made $30k gross in 6 years. She did not mention any crypto on her first FDS filed in early 2023. This is a mont…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/25 11:59 PM
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Whenever I see these I always say “be careful grass isn’t always greener” and I get a ton of downvotes. He’s such a good guy and a good father but I’m just not in love with him anymore. I don’t know, there’s no spark. I deserve to be happy and I’m just not happy with him. Marco at the gym pays so much attention to me, he actually listens and wants to hear what I have to say. My husband is always so tired or short, and he just works all the time, never has time for me and my needs. I know this wo…
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 02:19 PM
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I go on it regularly. It’s a total lemmings fest; I’ve seen exact same comment w 15 upvotes have 10 downvotes . It’s like people just clicking around. 43 year old man dating 28 year old woman? Ick!! 45 year old woman dating 33 year old man? You go girl boss!
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 01:29 AM
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Tik Tok
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 11:22 PM
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Plus we as men are taught “never quit”. It was super hard for me to even hire a divorce attorney at first as quitting something hard just goes against everything I was ever taught and also pushing through the hard times has usually worked in the past for big complex problems. I’m a man who loves a challenge, I have a massive ego and I hate to give up. This has usually worked very well in my favor; but with women it’s the complete total 180 opposite. W a relationship, whoever cares least has the …
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 11:11 PM
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There’s a lot to it. But I know as a man it’s so tough to be the sole supporter. I believe no marriage will work unless both people are committed to putting the work in. The work never stops, there’s never a point when you can think OK things are good, she’ll never leave me now. My wife didn’t even attempt to participate in our marriage, like not at all. It was so confusing to me she would put in the work to build a life w her AP, not me, the man who supported her entire life, married her, paid …
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 11:00 PM
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I really see your life improving like mine. Before I met my wife I was a single insecure broke kid. I actually look at it as a blessing in disguise and before when we were young it was hard to get women. Now being older I assume you’re at least late 30s early 40s, that us being good guys that have our shit together are rare. And women from age 30 and up are after us like heat seeking missles. It’s actually awesome to be single and secure!
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 01:15 AM
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Dude this story is so much like mine (minus the kids) I own a large business and I’m a super good guy. At first I was scared she was going to go trash me to everyone in the community because I completely got lost in my job and I found out later that everyone thought I left her. They couldn’t believe I was even with her and I didn’t leave her way before. People are going to see right through her. In my exs case, I find women are the most pissed at her doing what she did to me. I think you’re goin…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 01:05 AM
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Good luck bro! It really does get better. For me, things were up and then down, and then more down… then up and more up, and then just OK. Then finally one day I just got sick of feeling bad and just decided anything that made me feel insecure or weak I would take it head on. My ex had really beat up my self esteem. Let me ask you (as my situation was out of the blue) had she been different? My ex had been so mean for the last I’d say two years. There were times when I’d be happy about something…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 12:48 AM
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It’s not easy, and honestly the only thing that truly works is time. I’ve been seperated 30 months, I haven’t even been divorced yet, lol… I have a hearing coming up Monday where there’s like a 99.9% chance of her losing her alimony. She went and told the judge when our case first started that “she was afraid if I knew her address I’d come to her house” which was complete BS. I was going through my sent box the other day (it’s my 14th business anniversary on 3/30) looking through some old stuff,…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 12:21 AM
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It just forced me to become the best person I could. It’s been a long contentious divorce w her accusing me of hiding money; she actually had a kid w the AP! It’s been a joke, but trial is coming up on 4/30 and her alimony is getting canceled on Monday. Plus I’m just finally really peaking, life has never been so good for me. It would have never been this good if I was still married. I absolutely should have left her a long time before she left me, but don’t dwell on the past. I’m happy for the …
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 12:43 AM
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100%! I’m actually super thankful it happened now, my life is better than at any time during my marriage and I’m killing it. Would have never left my wife and she cheated, it was like winning the lottery when I think back on it. Actually, I’d rather things be the way they are now than to have to go back and actually win the lottery. It’s better than that!
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 12:36 AM
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Yes! Horrible!
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 11:25 PM
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Step father
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 06:27 PM
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I have went out and banged other dudes you mean.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 04:05 PM
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It does get better my friend. It may not seem like it because it will get even worse, especially if this was your life plan. It not only fucks up your present, but your future and your past. But it really will get better for you. My wife totally back stabbed and cheated on me, gas lighting me the entire way. I threw all my pictures, etc. from that entire decade of my life away as if it didn’t exist. It’s really raw for a while and there still is an emptiness. It’s like a new car; if you crash th…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 01:44 AM
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Yea I’m really glad I have my own dog now, he’s so much better behaved and she has nothing to do with him. In hindsight I’m glad she didn’t let me see our dog as I wouldn’t have wanted to see her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 07:22 PM
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Ex and I had dog together for 8 years, I picked him out when he was a puppy, got the kind of dog I wanted (French Bulldog) she had never even heard of the breed. I would wake up everyday at 6AM and get him up and food him, I’d come home from work at noon to feed him lunch and let him out (ex was usually still sleeping), and most nights she’d be at the bar when I got him so I’d take him for walks and feed him dinner, usually all 3 meals. But my ex didn’t have a job so she’d sit at home w the dog …
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 07:20 PM
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I’m going on 29 months and counting. STBX thinks I have millions in bitcoin yet has no idea. She is cohabitating, and has a kid w AP. We have a hearing coming up as I was just able to prove cohabitation, and hopefully this will end maintenance. (Anyone know why it wouldn’t? This in in WI) I had her voting records from latest election w them having shared address, but she’s been collecting maintenance this entire time and did not make anyone aware that they got an apartment together. Also she has…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 12:47 AM
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I’ve had a very similar experience to yours, tons of ups and downs but just in a total funk. I didnt understand it as it had been 28 months. All of a sudden one day I looked up IVF and realized that I could have a kid if I wanted one without my STBX and this for some reason snapped me out of a deep funk. I haven’t felt sorry for myself since then and I’m completely over my ex. We will be finalizing our divorce soon, we have a trial on 4/30.. I still haven’t dated anyone but I just think the depr…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 08:24 PM
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OP my life sucked for the first couple years, and now when I think back on her I’m SOOOOO GLAD she left me. I saw her the other day in court and she’s unrecognizable as far as who she is. Let me just tell you this, when she was with me, she was firmly against Trump, even more than I am, and she is now a Trump supporter. I also don’t hunt or fish and the entire 10+ years we were together we never discussed this except I do remember once I told her I’d never be able to shoot an animal, and she agr…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 05:48 PM
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Yes exactly. 100% OP she’s cheating on you and doesn’t know how to break it. Even if you swear she’s not, you’ve been with her, etc., she’s cheating on you. This is a note for her to feel better about herself and it won’t surprise me one bit if she’s telling herself she’s a good person for breaking it off before she goes and commits to AP. I’m very very sorry but you need to lawyer up and move on. It takes two and there’s nothing you can do to change her mind. Take advantage of her being in affa…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 05:44 PM
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What is TO?
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 01:20 AM
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I have a trial coming up, deposition, and she has nothing to lose, and it’s a horrible situation. Glad to found out you’re happy! I’ve been having to pay mine half my check w no kids, she’s just been raking me, it’s shit.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 10:14 PM
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I’ve been the kid and I completely agree!
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 09:57 PM
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It’s insane when 1 spouse gets the kids during the week and the other weekends, and I know a lot of men that were forced into this. I’m glad I don’t have kids at all, but I know what it’s like as I’m a child of divorce as well.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 07:16 PM
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The fact is, this isn’t his choice. I did everything possibly to avoid divorce and it just wasn’t my choice at the end of the day. If it’s gotten this far, counseling won’t help much. In fact marital counseling almost never works. Almost everyone I know that’s ever been to marital counseling says the counselor picked someone’s side. In fact in my own marriage this is exactly what happened (counselor told her the truth and it was in my favor as she was cheating on me, ex wife just claimed counsel…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 07:13 PM
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Gentlemen it just got even better. I received her vocational report with a lot of interesting things on there. For one, she lied to the vocational expert saying she lives alone. Which makes the affidavit that was filed this morning even more of a V day treasure. I just might go out tonight and celebrate solo!
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 09:36 PM
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Guess what I got my ex for Vday??? An affidavit challenging temp maintenance w proof she’s cohabitating in the form of voter records showing her and AP share an address. She just yesterday filed contempt against me as I haven’t paid the maintenance since I found out and have been having trouble begging my lawyer to challenge it. She’s been totally ripping me off the entire time and she lied to the court she said she was scared of me so they made her address private, and it’s been private on anyt…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 05:08 PM
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If he wanted the divorce, why would she ask him? It’s all good man, I’m not trying to be offensive…. That sucks, once they ask you gotta give it to them…. The woman you married is gone… I love and miss my ex wife, but she died when she was like 36, the woman who is in her body now is not the woman I married. I know it’s much easier said than done, but you gotta let it go. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 08:41 PM
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No he didn’t want the divorce, I don’t need to ask that. You can tell by his tone what happened. If you had it happen to you, you don’t need to ask that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 08:25 PM
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She’s ducking service? What an immature thing to do. She does know ignoring her problems don’t make them disappear right? I mean I certainly wouldn’t be surprised if she doesn’t.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 08:24 PM
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Let’s just be honest, this is most likely the right answer. Nothing against you OP, actually it’s a compliment as she knows you’re capable of paying her bills and being an adult. I’ve dated women like this that have an absolute mess of a life, they’re at least 10 years younger than their actual age mentally, and they like men (like me and I’m assuming you) that can provide while they go fucking life up again. She sounds a lot like my ex wife.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 04:59 PM
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This is such an attempt to get back in your life and gaslight you. “What she did wasn’t so bad, she didn’t know you were the love of her life until she left”. She’s prob going through a break up where the new guy left her and now she realizes it wasn’t worth it to blow up her life and your marriage, and basically you’re the easiest way for her to get back to having a man take care of her again. I highly doubt this person is reaching out without your exs permission. I would guess it’s at her dire…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 04:57 PM
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I don’t see abuse by you here. Well let me put it this way, if you were abusive, it should be obvious to you. This seems more like she has someone else lined up, her head is in another place thinking about him, and you’re just trying to figure out which was is up. If I’m wrong, I apologize. I know from experience, if you think she’s gaslighting you and you have any evidence, I would assume she is.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 12:03 AM
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Honestly I can see some gaslighting here. My STBX did the same and hard. I couldn’t figure out why everything I did for almost two years was wrong and how no matter what I did we’d end up in some kind of strange argument or disagreement. Then I found out she was with AP the entire time. That will change things. It’s such BS that she gaslit me wasting years of my life because she didn’t want to have to be responsible for paying any bills or taking care of herself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 12:00 AM
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A lot of lawyers want payment up front.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 05:43 PM
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I disagree. Relying on the ChatGPT solely isn’t very helpful because it won’t get too deep into your case “you really need to talk to an attorney”. It is however good for simple legal questions and research, it’s certainly better than relying on an attorney alone. I have had to dismiss an attorney for not doing his job and relied on ChatGPT to tell me that he was much later than usual w responses and w production. If you’re not experienced legally, you’ll just assume your lawyer does it how they…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 05:42 PM
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Dude 30 mins?? It takes me 30 mins to get to the other side of the city where I live. Those state lines aren’t real, you’re just moving down the block.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 09:26 PM
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I mean there’s a few ways of looking at this. You can be a great dad, and your kids will want to spend time with you because you’re the one and only father they will ever have regardless of whatever she says or does. You can be a great dad, and the court will see this and let you see them because you have rights. You can be a great dad and eventually the kids will become adults and there is nothing she can do to get in the way of you seeing them. I went through a nasty divorce of my parents when…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 09:24 PM
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It was a gift, thats how I see it too.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 03:58 AM
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Man I know very well how frustrating this is. I’m going through it right now, it’s been 27 months, she’s since has a baby w AP… I posted last week about my discovery request, well the answer was no, she did not submit discovery. She did not admit to service, like she pulled some trick over on me. Well I had my lawyer serve her w formal discovery (she failed to comply w subpoena) but since she did not admit to service, and we had a deposition scheduled I had my lawyer just serve her w interrogato…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 03:56 AM
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100%, they will say even if they slept in your bed last week, they are married but haven’t had any connection in years and it’s been X months since they’ve had any sex. I’ve seen women do this kind of shit to their BFs let along husbands. I’m sure men do it too. I want nothing to do w cheating and a woman would have to straight up lie to me for me to be in any situation like this. If she does, I’d leave her for that reason alone, and it’s not an easy lie to keep up. I’ve had someone lie to me ab…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 02:42 AM
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I def think it would be easier for a woman to find a sexual partner irregardless of whether she’s married or not. So while I blame women for cheating more, it’s tough because there are men out there that couldn’t care less if she’s still married. One of the first questions I ask any potential date is how long she has been single. If this isn’t a long period of time where there’s no possible way she could get over her ex, I just move on. No sense in being a rebound. I’m not looking for casual sex…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 02:37 AM
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I cut my own hair, lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 01:30 AM
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Sooooo this! Part of my exs rage was due to the fact her AP is 12 years younger than me, and she needs to get more of my money because I have exponentially more, but she also wants to leave me as damaged as possible. This is due to insecurity in leaving me, an established successful businessman with financial resources, for her AP who is just getting started in his career as a UPS driver. The more she can damage me, the less she’ll second guess her decision to leave as well as enrich herself and…
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 01:29 AM
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Hopefully it was a decent place.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 06:27 PM
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Oh 1,000,000%… never ever ever would I ever let a friend date a bartender. I wouldn’t let you date one! My ex was the classic hot bartender when I met her, and I had just quit drinking, so it made a good match for a long time, as I was never down there drunk or asking for free drinks. But, the other side of that is every time she worked she drank, and she started working all the time (so she said, I wouldn’t have known). When I first met her she worked at a decent bar, but then ended up getting …
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 05:50 PM
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Why? Why should OP help this woman? All it’s going to do is tip her off so she has some story ready on why it was overblown and exaggerated and shouldn’t be a huge deal. Why are some of you guys insistent on helping this woman when all we know about her is she’s manipulating her husband into admitting her has a problem with anger, when they’re going through a rough patch in their marriage and they have a child. What is the benefit in giving her a heads up? Some of you guys I can tell have been a…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 04:49 PM
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Anti depressant I assume? I got on Alprazolam for anxiety after my wife left, and it helps but it’s as needed.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 12:49 AM
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It’s all good, but thank you. I just don’t want to come on here and read I wish my wife had cheated and been more difficult after divorce when I’m still working on getting myself back together after being totally destroyed mentally and emotionally. It would be like going on to a bankruptcy forum and saying man I wish my business had failed, or going on to an abuse forum and saying I wish I had been beaten worse, it was just a broken wrist.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 04:02 PM
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You don’t know what happened you werent there. I’ve never had my teeth forcefully brushed before and this doesn’t sound like it was a normal thing. It wasn’t OPs choice to report, let the counselor do her freaking job.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 02:46 PM
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Why the hell would he do this? His ex attacked his kid, he took his kid to already scheduled counseling, kid told counselor, she must report. This has nothing to do w OP, he took his kid to her counselor as scheduled. If I was OP I’d just let them take it from here, the more he talks about it the more he’ll be accused of manipulation.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 02:39 PM
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DO NOT WARN HER!!!!! Let the counselor speak for herself. If you warn your ex, you’ll be getting involved. What happened happened without your involvement, leave it be, let the counselor do her job. I had to hire a vocational expert to do an evaluation on my ex and I so badly wanted to tell him what to look for, but he stopped me the second I stared to talk because if he had to testify, he’d have to say I tried to influence his thoughts. If you warn your ex, she WILL accuse you of trying to infl…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 03:59 AM
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I’m saying after finding out my wife had been cheating on me during the last 18-24 months of our marriage while I was desperately trying to start the family I’ve always wanted; then coming home to an empty house and wondering what was going on for months; finding out she was pregnant w a guy 12 years younger than me after 6 months of wondering what was going on; and then having to go 27 months and counting through a divorce where my ex wants me to support her for 48 more months and give her a ch…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 02:14 AM
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You don’t want to incite her. If she agrees to have a camera on in the house at all times, make sure you have access to the recordings without her being able to wipe them. The whole thing about this is you have to be careful because you never know when she’s recording. I would get a pair of those glasses and don’t tell her why, just have it be a new toy you’ve been playing with. It’s still good to have an independent POV which is why I think those glasses would be so useful for you. I don’t have…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 02:01 AM
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100% they can. I’ve never touched my ex wife, she’s attacked me a few times physically, and once seriously injured me, almost cut my ear in half w a vodka bottle and no I’m not Johnny Depp. True story have the scars to prove it. Anyway, during our divorce, in order to hide she was cohabitating w her AP, she told court she was scared if I knew her address I would come to her house. They immediately granted her a TRO and kept her address a secret in every single form, and it was assumed I was abus…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 01:43 AM
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Wow man you need to get out of this NOW! Look into buying a pair of those meta glasses, for $200 to have the ability to start recording immediately hands free anytime will prob be worth it to you. This way you won’t incite her to do anything by holding your phone up if you need to record her. This sounds like bad news, and you need to be extremely careful. I’m not kidding, I’d be heading to BB tomorrow to pick up a pair of these glasses and get to know how to use them very well. Start wearing th…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 01:40 AM
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Def helpful and def worth the time. I’ve done a similar thing (I write) and I still have some from 20 years ago. It’s very interesting and also helps to keep up your esteem and it’s a great reminder that you’ll always be alone in a sense. I actually like being alone and I like revisiting things that happened to me when I wasn’t. I’m also ready to get back out there and continue my life again. Never thought I’d ever be single again and now I think of it like I’ll never give up being single again.…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 09:17 PM
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It’s hard to find friends when you’re older. I’m 44/M, there’s not a whole lot of other guys my age who want to go hang out on the weekend or after work. Most of them have families and their own shit going on. It’s a lonely time, especially if you were married to an insecure or controlling person. Whenever I went out and did stuff without her (aka with friends as we aren’t talking about hooking back up w the couples we knew) she made it so miserable for me, that I lost touch with most of my frie…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 09:14 PM
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Reading this, I’m SO GLAD she left. I had same exact situation bro, come home from work to let the dog out and the house is empty. She was an emotional roller coaster out to control our entire relationship, was the first woman I’ve lived with and I just thought that’s what wives do, I mean growing up I’ve always seen men talk shit about how stressful marriage is, and I just figured hey this is what it’s like. I married her when she was 31 after dating for 5 years, in order to start a family and …
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 09:07 PM
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This is insane. Sorry but after going through 27 months of pure hell after going through 2+ years of being gaslit in a dead bedroom while desperately trying to start a family before I got too old, this seems almost inappropriate to post here. Trust me, you do not wish you were dealing with this, and I wouldn’t wish it upon my ex wife who has become my worst enemy, let alone you. Don’t offend us, if you’re not having a hard time with it that’s great, and we’d rather you say something positive abo…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 06:58 PM
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Thanks man, yea I didn’t deserve it objectively, and there’s nothing anyone can do. That’s why as a successful hard working man dating is always going to be so hard. I have so much to lose and I have to put it on the line in order to be with someone and basically at any time for any reason they could disappear. It’s really hard to have faith in someone and trust them after I was gaslit and my trust violated so badly. I don’t trust myself to be able to judge whether I can trust someone or not, it…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 05:07 PM
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Hey man, I’ll be one of your online friends as that’s where most of my social world is too.. I was also left, but we can pull ourselves through this… DM me sometime
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 12:19 AM
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It’s not just us man, I’ve read about or seen this happen so many times. It is astonishing how alike they all are though, and it’s because we were all (Americans anyways) raised with the same culture… women see these Disney Movies and especially since SM because it’s just a filter of the best of the best of the best. I could take my wife on a fancy vacation, stay at a super nice hotel, eat out everyday for a week; not only pay for everything but do all the work too; drive everywhere, plan everyt…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 12:15 AM
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100…. And they also totally distort the past too. I bet if you talked to my ex, she’d tell you she didn’t leave, I made her leave and she never cheated on me (was “in a relationship with AP” less than 2 weeks after she told me she wanted a divorce), it wasn’t until after she left her and AP started dating. She also was pregnant within 4 months, after being married to me and supposedly trying to start a family over 6 years.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 12:10 AM
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I’ve been living on my own single now for 27 months and counting, and I would say this is exactly right. Also, I’m a much stronger person now and I have my own identity again. I talk to women all the time but haven’t found any that I would settle with, and I’m not really looking. I’ll let them chase me this time. This is a gift, and I would not have it any other way, after not wanting to live at first.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 11:41 PM
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Yes it will get better. If you’re still thinking about the ex, you have a long way to go, but go through it. Let it all hit you and don’t get married again. Unless you’re starting a family, there’s no advantage for a man to get married ever.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 11:37 PM
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Everyone is nervous. I don’t know your situation so I don’t want to give you too much advice other than if you think about it a lot, get it over with. It’s no way to live life.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 11:36 PM
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I 100% agree with this, and it’s super interesting.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 09:11 PM
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I 100% agree with you here! If it’s not one thing, it will be another. I don’t think there’s anything I could have done differently in my marriage, my wife would have cheated regardless and she will cheat on her next man too. She is just never happy and she is seeking out happiness in others. She would sit at home and complain about her life and think it was my job to make it better. I as the typical man did that, but it pushed me to work more naturally, and I was around less…. Absolutly recipe …
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 09:09 PM
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It is astonishing how right this is. Also wanted to say the worst time of the entire thing is the 18-24 months after she’s made her decision. During this time she doesn’t make you aware, as she’s not sure enough to be out the door yet, so she has to play it off like the reason your relationship is having issues is due to you. She may not even tell you, so you may not even be aware there are serious issues. But you will notice sex is almost non existent. It will start with small things like her n…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 09:03 PM
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It’s all good man, this happened 2 years ago now. It is funny how the reason she left me was “all I care about is money” and now that’s all she cares about w the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 03:24 AM
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This is horrible, but similar behavior happened to me. Was trying to have kids really badly, and for two years she claimed she couldn’t have sex due to health (yeast infections (multiple or so I was told). Then I found out she had been cheating, so didn’t want to cheat on her AP w me.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 01:06 AM
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God I hope so!!!!! She’s already gotten $38k in support. She married me w one asset, according to her own FDS. Married me, brought the engagement ring into the marriage, lived for free for 6 years w her telling me “we aren’t ready for kids if I have to work” whenever I suggested she get a job. Didn’t work at all for 4 years, then gets a job bartending and grosses $28k during the next 3 years. She wants me to pay her $180k for that time. It’s absurd and I can’t believe her lawyer hasn’t told her …
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 05:38 PM
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$1600/month for 48 months in maintenance It’s her offer, I’m absolutely not going to accept it. This woman moved into my home out of her parents house at 26, I was 31. I had owned him since 3/2001, we got married in 8/2016, so it was 15 years and 5 months before I got married I owned my house. She chose not to work for 4 years, and ended up grossing a total of $28k during 2020-21-22, and she never once paid one penny towards anything towards the marriage. Anything that was for both of us, it was…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 02:39 AM
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My ex was pregnant within 4 months, after being together for 10+yeats and married for 6. She now wants me to support her AP (who’s 12 years younger than me) for the next 48 months. It’s insanity, don’t even know where some of these get the gall. It’s entitlement and basically the younger they are the more entitled they will be IME.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/25 09:32 PM
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What if I just decide to pull the trigger right in the middle of things? No kids involved, well none of mine (she’s had one w her AP).
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 11:51 PM
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Can I declare right in the middle of a divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 11:50 PM
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I’m wondering what is going to happen after I file bankruptcy in the middle of divorce. Is my wife responsible for half of my businesses tax debts? It’s only her business because we are married, she never helped financially or physically. I’m not really going to do this, but really want to threaten it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 11:50 PM
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I’m in EXACT same situation in WI. We don’t have kids and I’ve already paid her over $40k in maintenance. Owned home over 15 years prior to marriage. It’s the most unfair thing I’ve ever had to go through.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 11:27 PM
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In my case 25% of this amount, and I’ve already paid her more in maintenance. I’m asking for reimbursement because she has absolutely nothing else to lose.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 11:25 PM
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I’m in this situation but on the other way. Owned home and business 15 years prior to marriage, but my wife never paid one cent towards anything. I am lucky the house is in mine and my father’s name. I am basing my entire case on that she came into the marriage w nothing, we have no kids, married 6 years, and she grossed $28k during this time. I will not pay her more than her gross income during the marriage. I’ve already had to pay her more than that for maintenance and I’m seeking reimbursemen…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 11:24 PM
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I’m lucky but I built up so much wealth owning my own home. But it has to be strategic, don’t just buy one.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/25 01:32 AM
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For sure!
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/25 01:05 AM
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Dude no! There are SOOO MANY, literally an infinite amount of looks. There was nothing special about your ex, I get that she was prob your perfect type, as mine def was, but there are so many other beautiful women out there, and again, there is nothing special about the way your ex looked. If you posted a pic of her on here, there would be guys who think she’s ugly. I’m just saying, DO NOT let that detail get in your way at all, you will think someone is much hotter than your ex, as soon as you …
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/25 01:04 AM
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I would be super super cautious and honestly I’d never be able to accept being cheated on. What sucks is they pull the technicality game and say “I never cheated, we were already broke up” as if that matters; as if that fact changes the fact that she gave up everything and left; and the fact is it didn’t go how she planned, and now she’s either stuck at Plan B or stuck w no plan, and you’re the best option. If they left you once, they would not hesitate to do so again, they’ve already painted a …
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 02:22 AM
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The fact is she was prob already checked out 2-3 years ago. This is the most damaging part, is that for the last 2-3 years of your marriage, you might have been (I was) making a genuine effort to make things better and she was working against you the entire time. It really is depressing after the fact.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 12:27 AM
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I did not. In fact due to the fact she was ashamed she was cheating on me, she hid this from everyone. 6 month after D Day I get a “friend request” (which bizarrely is the only time I’ve ever gotten one of these) from FB saying I might know this guy who was pictured with my wife. It was this guy who was in a full blown relationship w my wife since 2 weeks after she told me. It was so out of the blue and we had been together over a decade so for me it wasn’t like a light switch I could just turn …
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 12:24 AM
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Man you wouldn’t believe the shit my ex pulled on me. She was cohabitating w a baby and totally lied her ass off about it and I’ve had to pay her almost $40k in temp maintenance. Just think of everything that happened w you. Then imagine getting financially rewarded for all of this. My wife was cheating and got pregnant. The thought that she is getting financially rewarded for blowing up my entire past, present, and future is so out of this world bizarre and insane to me, I can’t even comprehend…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 08:12 PM
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Thank you! Yea I’m kind of really just at a point where I can enjoy my hard work. It was a struggle to keep everything together like that and always make sure that mortgage payment is paid and payroll is taken care of. Sometimes I look back on it and wonder how I pulled it off. But I like to help people and give back to others, that’s honestly what makes me the happiest. Even giving a good piece of advice on here can really make my day; and I find this forum is a really good place to find suppor…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 02:29 AM
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I wouldn’t say I’m young, def don’t feel that way. I’ve owned the house I live in since I was 20 and I’ve had my own business now coming up on 14 years. This was our biggest year ever as far as revenue and net profit and last year was our second biggest. Whether or not that she left me in Dec 2022 has anything to do with it, I couldn’t tell you (prob). She left me because I work too much and all I care about is money. Her AP is 12 years younger than me, and 7 years younger than her. They are mor…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 12:04 AM
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Well thank you! That made my day believe it or not.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 11:55 PM
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Yea, I’m super glad we didn’t have a kid. Whenever I get in a bad mood I just think about how much worse it would be if I had to put on a happy face and be a single dad. I also always wanted a family more than anything, and we had a DB for 2 years when I was 39 and she left me at 42, I’m about to turn 44 tomorrow, and part of me is sad I’m still alone (haven’t even tried to date yet, and I’m not lonely; but I thought at 44 I’d have a kid and a wife. Now I’m just going to enjoy the rest of my lif…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 11:26 PM
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It’s different when you own the place and have kids, much different.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 11:21 PM
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Exactly! It’s amazing how shitty I let someone treat me due to the “happy wife happy life” lie!
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 07:28 PM
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Mine had a baby during the divorce w her AP. It’s been over 2 years, and it absolutely sucks. I’m not mad she left, it was a gift, but the way she’s done it makes her an objectively person, which makes me even happier she left.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 07:27 PM
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Same here. Been over 2 years since she left, and the thought of dating or letting anyone else move in my house I’ve lived by myself (other than the 10 years she lived w me) since I was 20 years old. I look at my walls now and think how bizarre it was I let a stranger hang up pictures and decorate the place. Never again. I almost have it paid off.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 07:25 PM
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You just can’t think about what she’s doing. I know it’s hard and it takes time but you’ll get there. It should be zero concern of yours what some woman does w her dating life, and that’s all she is to you know.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 04:44 PM
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Yea bad advice to find a woman. That’s like telling someone w a drinking problem to stop drinking beer and get himself some good whiskey. Stick to the golf, you’ll have a lot more fun and it will be a lot cheaper.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 11:35 PM
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Omg man the similarities in our cases are eerie. My STBX drank almost every other day. If I went out to the bar with my best employees for a beer, I was a total drunk. If I talked to any woman, she would passive aggressively call her a whore and make it be known she’s very unhappy. The worst thing of all, she was OBSESSED with this band that I didn’t like in the slightest. These guys were around my age. I’m a very successful business executive, and I’m into technology, etc. hippies are not my sc…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 06:32 AM
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Man I know this feeling as I did the same exact thing. I couldn’t be happy unless she was, and she never was. It was also always my fault. Here’s the thing. I just recently went through thousands and thousands of old texts (I have like 10 IPhones as we give them to our employee and I own the company so use the extra ones sometimes when I lost my phone or or broke, and it would sync up, I’d get my phone back and throw it back in the drawer). So because of the deposition, I needed to familiar myse…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 06:16 AM
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I think a lot of times they want to destroy you as it’s easier to justify their decision for leaving. My ex wife is totally broke but is just flat out lazy and unmotivated. She sat on the couch smoking weed and eating and right before I’d get home from work she’d jump in the shower and go to the bar. She’d stay out so late sometimes, I would run into her getting up in the morning to go to work. Then she’d be so hungover that day, she’d be bugging me to bring her food and then she’d “make it up” …
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 08:22 AM
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Yes!!! Agreed OP! I don’t have children, always wanted to start a family, but after being with my ex for over a decade, I feel I’ve already put in my time.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 08:13 AM
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Ok my dude, glad I could help! But you do NOT want the ring. When I bought my wife an engagement ring I started w something that I thought was amazing, but put like half down and had my buddy try to find perfect diamond. During this time I was making insane progress in my career, and I started out w like a .5 carat solitaire and got this all the way up to a 1 Ct and all the four “C”s were as high as they could go, if I took one more step up in clarity it would have doubled the price. Ended up be…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 06:34 PM
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They just haven’t lost her yet. It’s coming.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 06:34 AM
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For me, actually talking through the “last day of our marriage” helped me. I was in the middle of it, maybe 6 months in or so, and I was talking to myself about the last time I saw her, and literally said to myself, “that was the last day of our marriage.” It helps to put a beginning and an end to it, as until that point I still through our last day was yet to come. When you realize the story is already over and been written, it helps you to see the real perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 10:05 PM
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Just gonna say this, I’d fake death for the next one too
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 09:46 PM
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It’s such a myth!! It’s laughable
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 09:44 PM
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I know the feeling man, you’re so right, almost anything you can imagine her actually doing, it will be so much worse. It’s been almost 26 months since she left, and during that time I’ve pieced together that I hardly knew this woman I would sleep next to every night. Her morals were nothing like she always claimed them to be, and that was one of the main reasons I chose to marry her. She has empathy, and won’t do me dirty. I had a lot of assets before marriage she “would never go after as that’…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 03:27 PM
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And if she finds the air tag, it will be bad for you, real bad… like restraining order, you’ll be cast as a stalker bad…. Trust me… w my ex, I found her new underwear in the laundry (oh I just like to look good for myself), she was staying out all night, telling me she was working and the bar is closed (she was a bartender, stay away!), telling me she’s at her friends when I drove by and she wasn’t, and STILL denied it right to my face. Found out months later after NC after I got a friend “sugge…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 02:45 AM
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Haha. She is 100% cheating. Sorry bro, happened to me too.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 01:00 AM
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NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN!!! Fixed that for you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 12:35 AM
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Be prepared, she is almost certainly dating someone else, and she will look you directly in the eyes and tell you there’s no one else and you’re crazy to think so. Just assume there is, trust me on this.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 12:31 AM
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I’m hiring one right now, she’s making $1250/month and is capable of $40k according to my lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:40 PM
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Dude I’m in the same spot. I’m winning tho.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:37 PM
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You still need to pay attention to your case, even w a good lawyer. My lawyer was $25k to start, and I still ran the show, and he’s my second one, because my first one was terrible. You can’t just hire the lawyer and expect them to do everything (although they should, but in practice that’s just not the case) you need to be a squeaky wheel so to speak sometimes, so you can get the grease.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:35 PM
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Not something you should be asking here. It just gives off triggers. But I understand.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 02:09 AM
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It was the worst decision I’ve ever made…. It’s too long of a story, it wasn’t like a catfish, we were married 6 years, but she contributed less than $10 to the marriage if I’m being very liberal. I am just staying away from women period, I have too much too lose and 90% are evil and just after money. I don’t care what you want to argue about that; it’s my experience in my area and I’m not relocating for a vagina. You do you. Thanks for being kind.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 11:41 PM
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Because I made a huge mistake and she conned me. Yes it does make a difference. If you want to hand all your assets to your ex wife because it’s “fair” have fun w all that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 10:05 PM
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Correction: Never get married again. (Period)
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 09:46 PM
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Congrats! Your life will get much better soon.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 09:45 PM
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I have some questions, why are you going after her home she bought before marriage? That’s such a scummy thing to do; 99% of the time it’s women.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 09:44 PM
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Why does this kill you? I’m sorry from a guy who’s went through it already, you haven’t even started.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 09:25 PM
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I had a talk w my lawyer about this today, he says they can request discovery up until the current time but he’ll argue that it’s going to be date of separation as I’ve done so well since (we’ve had best two years of business this year and 2023, she left in November 2022). I said that doesn’t really make me feel confident, I should just stop taking on work for next year if she’s going to get half of it. He said he will make a very strong argument and the judge will usually agree. Still doesn’t g…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 09:17 PM
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I would hope so, I’ve been here all alone for over 24 months. Thanks for your input!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 03:52 AM
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Thank you! Appreciate your help!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 03:51 AM
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Thank you sir, good luck to you as well!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 03:51 AM
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Yes!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 03:50 AM
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I have learned my lesson and there will never be another marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 03:50 AM
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Also, can I ask you, would it be strange for someone you’ve worked with before to hire you and then request that their OC pay 1/2 of your fee? I’m aware you’ve never done work for both parties, and you seem like an ethical person (I am as well, and have strong morals), so I thought I’d ask you even if you have no personal experience, assume you means “one” Thanks again!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 10:05 PM
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It says right in the order “…appraiser hired by STBX.” So is it out of line she asked? Thanks by the way. Also, I saw in another email, she said “the appraiser we are hiring and paying for.” I have an idea she knows this isn’t going to be pretty for my STBX after finding out the home is jointly owned w my father (deed and mortgage)
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 10:01 PM
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Oh I said helllll no! I’d rather pay for my own and make her pay $600 for one. I don’t trust this shady person. My STBX is known as one of the worst lawyer in my area, her google reviews are insanely bad, and they match my experience. The appraisal company she hired has similar ratings. I just wanted to know how crazy this request was. But I guess it’s not that crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 09:58 PM
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6 year marriage, I own home w my father, purchased when I was 20 years old, I got married when I was 35.5, so I lived there 15.5 years before marriage. She lives there the next 6, not paying 1 penny towards my expenses repairs, she had no role in the home, no chores or anything, no cooking or cleaning. She cheated on me when I was 41, left, had a baby w a guy that’s 29, and then her and the guy have been living off my maintenance since 3/2023. I respect your opinion, but why should I pay half wh…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 09:49 PM
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I mean that’s not the case, it’s 2 years old and trial is coming up. I just can’t believe she would even ask me to pay for 1/2 the appraisal. She recently became aware (although has been in discovery over 18 months), is the the home is jointly owned w my father and the most she could get is 1/2 of 1/2, not 1/2. I have a feeling she is regretting insisting on an appraisal as it may not be worth the money for her as it may be considered separate property (very good chance). After reminder her lawy…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 09:40 PM
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Thanks man! Wish me luck
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 06:41 PM
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Yea we are attempting to do the same. Going to prove that she never contributed anything by her own words. Who would think they own a house yet not know anything about it? Don’t know the payment, don’t know the lender, don’t know how much it is, don’t know when it was bought, can’t answer anything about it, but it’s half hers. We are going to attempt to show that she’s been cohabitating w her baby’s father and hope the judge sees she left me and now wants all this money because she has a new bab…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 06:39 PM
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The problem is the “fair” part. Is it fair that my STBX get a payment for 50+ years of her gross income because I have assets and she doesn’t?
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 06:10 PM
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How long did it take to get the judgement after trial?
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 06:09 PM
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How did you win? Just curious what happened. I have a trial coming up that’s completely insane, one of the craziest situations my lawyers seen in decades. Just a very very unusual situation where she has absolutely nothing to lose and I have a LOT. STBX came into marriage w her one and only asset being her engagement ring I bought, never had any joint finances, she moved into home I owned over 15 years before marriage. She grossed a total of $27k during 6 years being married, or an average of 10…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 06:06 PM
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I’ve been told you can basically impute $40k on someone w both arms who can walk (according to my lawyer anyways, and that’s as it should be). Of course I’m “super super rich” according to my wife who’s never made more than $15k but is working 14 hours a week right now. If she worked 40, she might be rich too.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/24 11:59 PM
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Thank you!! Got a good one!
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 06:18 PM
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Yes, maintenance
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 06:17 PM
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Oh I was just kidding. I personally would never even make eye contact let alone say anything.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 05:57 AM
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Bro you’re gonna be fine… read my post history, I’ve been here for a couple years, it fucking sucks, but at the end of the day, when I think if I still had to take care of her narcissistic ass while she criticizes everything I do, disrespects me and our marriage publicly, and always expects me to be miserable, or shed make sure I was, even just having the last two years of peace without being constantly abused, it’s worth the pain. You’ll see it, it sounds ridiculous to you now and sounded that …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 05:21 AM
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I’d ask his name, and no matter what it is, I’ll get it wrong and make sure I get it wrong for the rest of my life, or the rest of his, whatever comes first.. Hey I’m Gary, hey Jerry how ya doing?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 05:02 AM
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If you let her
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 04:11 AM
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Like I told you this morning PK, I had two of them already…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 04:10 AM
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Downvote him all you want but he’s right and he’s prob saved men millions of dollars in the past couple years… never had anyone come on here and say “guys I just got out of prison for hiding assets in my divorce case”. If you wanna disclose, disclose, be just as fair as she was to you right…. If you wanna dance w the devil (it’s not even close to that big of a risk, I don’t know what’s bigger, speeding on the interstate or failing to remember an asset she can’t prove you have because it’s prob 9…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 04:05 AM
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Thank you very much!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 03:08 AM
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Shit dude, sounds nearly identical to my story, except I hit the jackpot and another dude 12 years younger than me, and 7 younger than her, knocked her up! It was absolutely amazing, she had me cornered, pulled the pin and dropped the grenade before she could throw it. I have to fight the temptation to send him a Xmas gift, one of the most selfless things anyone’s ever done for me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 12:28 AM
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My god my man that sounds absolutely miserable dealing w someone like that. Her looks are gonna fade quick, then what’s left? Sooo many times I’ve seen that answer be nothing or even worse.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 12:07 AM
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Good luck w that…. Sorry man
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 11:53 PM
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It was all your fault though. She didn’t do anything, you forced her to get some new cock, and now she’s gonna force you to pay her off.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 11:46 PM
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There’s always someone new. Women just do not leave men who provide for them. They need to get another provider lined up, get everything into place, then they can stop lying and pretending they care about you. How many of you had a wife who left, and when she moved out she “‘just wanted a place of her own, just wanted to see if she can do it”? I’m betting more than a few. That’s what they always say. Like another poster said, the worst part is they get to slowly unwind and fall out of love at th…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 11:43 PM
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Yep; they don’t care… as soon as those feelings start for the new man, you’re just like a filled up trash bag, time to throw you out and put a new one in.. Extra points if she’s jealous another woman may someday like you, and needs to destroy everything so no one would even consider it…. Also the more of your money she takes, the harder it will be for you to get back out there. She doesn’t want to ever see that, she never wants to regret her decision, she will make sure she did the right thing.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 10:04 PM
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How could anyone even consider marrying again? The thought repulses me!
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 10:01 PM
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100% she has a replacement, they never leave until they do.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 10:00 PM
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Hey bud, I know your user name, can I PM you?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 06:25 PM
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What? My father and I just bought it together, I lived w him a couple years and then bought him out under the table and he got another house. I’ve never refinanced, it’s all still like it was back in 2001. I married her in 2016.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 06:20 PM
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I’ve been in this as a kid. It’s miserable to have your parents fighting all the time. I was 16, and wish my parents had split up sooner. I’ve also been through a divorce as a man, and it sucks, but I don’t think you could be the best father you could be if you’re unhappy all the time. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 03:38 AM
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My lawyer was $25k to start, worth every fucking penny.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 03:35 AM
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Same. I give all you guys out there props who have to go through this shit w kids. I can’t even imagine.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 11:46 PM
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I look at myself as the prize now, and any woman wanting to date me better have a lot going on, or she won’t make the cut. I don’t have to lie about my credentials as they speak for themselves (job title, car, house, etc.), basically I’m OK, but my watch sick, and my drop sick and my knot thick, muthafucka I’m it Or something like that
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 11:41 PM
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Man, sorry you’re going through this. She sounds totally unhinged. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 11:37 PM
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I try to think about how awesome my life is now. When I do think about her, I think about how bad it’s gotta suck to be the AP, she’s got a 7 month old baby w him, and they share an apt. She moved out of my almost paid off house, to get an apt w some dude 12 years younger than me and they’ve since had a baby.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 08:47 PM
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Drop her off at the butchers lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 07:44 PM
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This guy knows what he’s talking about, all of you should be listening to him.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 05:48 PM
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Well nothing is normal, if that satisfies you guys there is nothing wrong with that. I would think a 40 year old married man would want to have sex more than 8-9 times a year. If we assume once a month, that’s going a year without any sex every 3 or 4 years. But there is no normal as long as you’re both happy (which you aren’t or you wouldn’t be here). I’m just saying most happily married people have sex a lot more than that statistically.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 12:26 AM
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8-9 times a year? Do you think this is normal for a marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 06:19 PM
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When I say that, I meant that I was going through thinking about the day she left, the last day that I saw her. It was a normal day, I had left for work and when I got home the house was empty. She took our dog and I still to this day never saw him again, he was 9, and we were together for 11 years. At the time this wasn’t an unusual day, until I got home from work. When I was thinking back on it months later, I thought to myself, that was the last day of our marriage. Until I thought about it, …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 11:33 PM
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Wow man my marriage was eerily similar to yours in ways you’ll never know (as I seriously could have wrote this). The second I tried to flip the dynamic between her controlling me vs me standing up for myself, our marriage was over. Only in hindsight have I discovered this, but that was like an instant switch. Of course she was too weak to communicate anything with me, so she just went out and found herself a new man while I was working late to save money for our future child. In the meantime sh…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 02:23 AM
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One thing that helped me, and this was after a year or longer of separation but before divorce, but in one of those moments when I was thinking of how it all went down, I said to myself, “and that was the last day of our marriage”, and I realized that yes it was. Until that point I had always thought of it as a current ongoing thing, even though we had been totally separated over a year. It helps to acknowledge and admit to yourself that it’s already over and in the story of your marriage that l…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 01:15 AM
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Yea it sucks that a divorce is a total split of families. I used to be close to my sister in law and mother in law, but haven’t spoken or seen either since the day she left. Her sister made me all these Xmas ornaments each year we were together, super nice and personal, I have absolutely no idea why my STBXs family would want them, but they’re gone as it’s total war. If sucks especially as men even most of us are taught from the day we were born never to quit and keep trying, that mist of us do …
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 12:25 AM
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Not only that, but they’re told they have a right to be happy, even if its discarding a good man who provided for her for years, her friends will all congratulate her on finding the new man and how she deserves to be happy! And I do think everyone deserves to be happy, but not if it means destroying someone else’s happiness, self esteem, judgment, trust, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 01:59 AM
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Yea I don’t think I’ll ever be the same person again. It’s been over a year and a half since separation and I still feel traumatized sometimes, like that feeling you get after you’ve been through a crazy event, just worn out and almost in a strange place.. I’ve been trying to find different kinds of happiness now and I’m not out there looking to replace my STBX. The thought of dating feels exhausting. What really sucks is I’ll never get this time back and I’m not getting any younger, that’s why …
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 01:44 AM
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My STBX had me stored as FMGB in her phone, which are my initials. This was before I knew the Dbomb was coming. Also, someone I went to HS with messaged me on FB out of the blue to tell me to “stop talking shit about her and start being a husband to my wife”, this was insane as I hadn’t thought about this person in years and had no clue what she was talking about. I asked my wife about it and she just blew it off and said she ran into that person randomly and she had no clue what she meant.. a f…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 09:32 PM
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I always tell guys who show up on here and their wives “just want to be free” or in my case, “just want to be on my own for once” that she’s probably cheating, as I can remember a time when someone first told me this and I too thought “not her, not us, she would never!” After years of being gaslit and projected upon, it’s hard to believe what we will believe sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 10:09 PM
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WI….
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:23 PM
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Sorry so late, but I respect your comment (I know who you are on here and you give some of the best real advice)… I already have my dad paid off, but she doesn’t know that and also he is fine w staying on the deed.. I owe less than 10% of the homes value….
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:22 PM
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The gaslighting is so damaging to the person being gaslit…. It has changed my trust forever, I will never have trust in anyone like I did my STBXW before the affair and after being gaslit about my suspicions… I have never had another person betray my trust so badly and the fact that you question your own sense of reality and judgement after allowing yourself to be gaslit…. Coming from the person you’re supposed to be able yo trust more than anyone in the world, being gaslit has to be total emoti…
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 02:33 PM
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It’s just one of those things you have to accept… no one wants her to leave or you would have left
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 02:25 AM
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Yep… I haven’t contacted my ex in so long now I forgot her number and it feels amazing… I’ll let her do her, I couldn’t care less… thankfully we don’t have any children
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 02:24 AM
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This
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 02:23 AM
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Yea you’re right. She’s already been doing this. She gets tips at work and doesn’t report them, so she can afford to go out drinking all the time, yet she’s claiming she makes almost nothing. And you hit it right on the head w “verified shitshow”!
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 02:27 AM
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My STBX did the projecting thing all the time. If I was 30 mins late coming home from work I was out cheating. Always accusing me of cheating when I’ve never even considered it. And what do you know? She was out cheating on me for years. They think “what would I be doing if I was him?” And this is how they react. Why do I come home late from work? When I’m cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 02:24 AM
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Yep, it’s such a bad look when anyone has a public breakdown on Facebook.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 02:18 AM
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I’m getting official paperwork from the court, it’s not her lying.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 02:07 AM
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She’s getting support now from AP. My lawyer said that should affect it, but it’s all up to the judge.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 02:06 AM
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I’m so sick of hearing about all this abusive shit, my STBX was so abusive, I met up w a good buddy of mine today I hadn’t seen in years and she literally turned me into a completely different person… it’s so sad what they’re allowed to get away with, especially for all us good guys.. can you imagine if a man did that to a woman? But when it’s the other way around society is so quick to see the abuse… us guys get told to just shake it off, it’s our fault we were weak, but it’s just disgusting wh…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 02:41 AM
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This gave me a flashback to my marriage… my STBX would sleep in almost everyday, and I work during the week… I’m talking sleep until noon-1-3 some days, and on the weekends I could only sleep until like 930 at the latest… I’d wake up and start my day and wouldn’t want to wait until she got up and she’d be pissed at me if I wasn’t home when she rolled out of bed at 2… this morning I was just thinking how awful it was for me to feel guilty that I got up and didn’t want to waste the day waiting on …
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:39 AM
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Just cracks me up, grabs his clothes and his TV and he’s out! Lmao!
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 01:35 AM
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Yea after being abused and controlled for 12 years I don’t find myself in any rush to get back into a woman telling me what I can and can’t do..
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 05:27 PM
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He had a lot to offer her, that must have been one hell of a television! lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 05:26 PM
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You have to let it go. It doesn’t matter what she thinks anymore, and you don’t have to forgive her so stop wasting your time trying. Just move on with your life w your focus on you and stop thinking about her or what she thinks or what she thought when you were married. These people change at the drop of a dime. The wife you knew no longer exists and for all intents and purposes she’s gone. The woman who is in your wife’s body is someone you don’t know.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 12:05 AM
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I agree with you, no way a female would be asked to pretend. It’s crazy how sexist society is these days and it’s disgusting there are women who take advantage of this. My STBX made her address protected in our case to put off the image that I was abusive to her, as if I had her address I would go over to her place and harass her. It was absolutely absurd and at first gave everyone the image that I was to blame for our divorce. After she announced she was pregnant during discovery, that changed …
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 03:22 AM
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Hey man I don’t fault you one bit, just saying maybe in court you could play along…. I don’t think what you’re doing is abuse in the slightest bit to answer your question, what she did to you is absolutely abuse and it sounds like she’s put you through the ringer… can’t say I blame you at all for not being able to pretend.. but if your own lawyer is critical of you in court, maybe bite your tongue and play along… I wouldn’t be friends w her either and she’s obviously trying her absolute hardest …
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 03:11 AM
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Honestly the more she tells people the less respect she will have… I don’t respect anyone who airs their dirty laundry in public
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 03:02 AM
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Give her time, tell the server to wait a couple weeks and try to catch her when she comes home from something.. divorce is not a fast process and even if you manage to get her served sooner than later it prob won’t speed up your case.. in the grand scale of things a month or two isn’t that long.. it’s a scary thing if you’re new to being sued to know some stranger is looking for you…. She probably just doesn’t understand she’s not in trouble or anything… Have the server stop trying for a few wee…
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 05:34 PM
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Thanks man, appreciate it! I started by myself in 2011 (over 5 years before marriage and a year before we even met) w literally $10k, we should gross close to $2M this year. During the entire time we were married she grossed less than $6/day, and now she’s asking for 4 years of alimony (no kids) for a 6 year marriage, on top of the 12 months she’s already gotten in temp maintenance. I’ve already given her more support than she grossed the entire marriage. Was so glad she left me, she’s not pregn…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 05:41 AM
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9, 10, 15 and 16 are absolute heaven! I’m a business owner, have to take care of everything, President of the company and we have around 40 people working for us right now. I was just thinking earlier today how when I was married I would be watching the clock all day to try to hustle up and get everything done by 430, or I’d have to ask my wife permission and provide a good detailed excuse (which she didn’t even understand) if I had to stay an extra 30 mins to an hour late to get something done.…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 03:35 AM
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I honestly felt bad about what I wrote… not for her, I took it easy on her, I don’t think I insulted her enough, but for you. You have to understand, she is a horrible person. You say self esteem, so I assume you are afraid of facing life alone, and you think if you leave this women you’re not a desirable enough of a person to find anyone else who would replace her. Self esteem means that there are things, either mentally or physically that you yourself think that others would find undesirable. …
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 02:49 AM
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Buddy, I’m going to say this because you seem like a good dude, but now is the time you need to get control or yourself and start telling yourself you are worth it. You need to fix this situation for you, not her! I’m going to assume you’ve been truthful with us here, and I did read this entire thread, I was going to say your wife seems, but fuck, your wife is an absolute piece of fucking shit! She’s total garbage, the absolute lowest of the low. She is a complete trash, I don’t even know how to…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:28 AM
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My STBX moved out of her parents and into my house when we met. The house I’ve owned since I was 21 (now 43, she moved in when I was 31).. She once told me she was going to lock me out, I told her there was no way she could ever lock me out of my damn house, I lived there for 10 years before I met her and I’ve had to break in myself more than once because I locked my keys inside (before I had a garage door opener and a digital lock)… Of course she tried and I was inside within 5 mins…. she also …
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:10 AM
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I am the boss and I have had quite a few “other halves” call me and say some whacked out shit, always makes me laugh, and it really pisses them off when they hear… I couldn’t care less what you do when I’m not paying you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 12:13 AM
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Lmao!
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 12:11 AM
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It’s funny, I almost have my $600k house paid off at 43, bought it for $140 when I was 21. Even if my STBX gets the $80k payment she’s asking for, she wouldn’t be able to get a place like mine if her AP was making double my income and she used everything for a down payment. She left me to start over and virtually never ever have a paid off mortgage, she’ll more than all likely be renting for the rest of her life. I’ll never understand why these people do this to themselves, but I’m glad they do!
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 11:54 PM
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Damn my STBX is getting $1600/month, she’s asking for 48 months more after I’ve been paying her the last 12, she’d end up with over 5 years for 6.5 marriage
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 11:47 PM
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My STBX is 38, together for 12 years (married 6.5), and she’s now pregnant w APs baby, we have no kids (married when I was 35, her 30)
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 11:43 PM
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Do not voluntarily acknowledge paternity until a DNA test has been done, period! If you do, they can literally make it so you cannot test to find out down the road. It’s worth the few hundred bucks before you sign the next 19 years of your life away!
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 11:42 PM
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It is worth it to hire the lawyer, vs 18 years of supporting a child that isn’t yours… DNA doesn’t lie (thank god!)… I have studied this entire subject in great depth as it’s happening to me right now, and as long as it’s not yours, and NEVER EVER acknowledge it is without a test, even if you believe there’s no possible way it could be anyone else’s… And gentlemen let me be clear, during my research the things I have read about would shock you to your core, so bad that I would actually recommend…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 11:32 PM
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In the last year I have built up my life where I’m actually truly happy alone, and I have absolutely no fear of being by myself… What I fear the most is (and I thank god several times a day) would have been that I was actually the father of the child she’s now pregnant with (not possible, but it gives me chills thinking about it!)
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 11:23 PM
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If I could give this post 1000 upvotes I would! This same thing happened to me… I supported my wife for 8 years, she moved into my house from her parents, and did nothing but sit on the couch and complain about when I was going to come home from running my own company to bring her food… she gaslit and controlled me so badly, it’s taken a year for me to recover… during that time she’s turned down completely generous and overtly unfair (against me) settlement offers to try to squeeze every last pe…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 11:16 PM
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Lol I’m sure you would, but eventually you’ll get over that… I was the same way… I’m serious though, I’m not one of those people who thinks you should take the high road and forgive her, but truly not give a shit…. In all reality I hate her, but there’s just not enough feelings anymore to even do that… will I ever think she’s not a horrible person? No.. will I ever not think of her as a total piece of shit? No… but to want her AP dead would mean that I care, and I don’t… in reality, she’s going …
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 04:25 AM
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No… do not do this… If you so she will turn you down and it will make her feel better about herself that she’s so hot she can treat you like shit and you’ll still want her… do nothing, or maybe a “you too” and that’s it
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 01:55 AM
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No response… love it how they think they’re so important that you’re hurt… show her she doesn’t have that power
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 01:52 AM
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Your best revenge is he’s the one who has to deal w her
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 01:52 AM
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I don’t care about my ex enough to hate her
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 01:48 AM
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Lol, I wouldn’t say I’m making money, but def saving money.. my STBXW had never lived on her own before and had no idea about how the real world works… she’d sit at my house I paid for (I paid all bills) and eat food and watch cable TV all day w the heat/AC blasting on high, doing unnecessary laundry so she could tell me she did something with her day, and was confused when I started to resent her… she would set the AC on 68 in the summer and the heat at 72 in the winter (which makes no sense to…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 01:20 PM
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I also did this, but not in a body of water, but out of a car window… hoping someday someone finds it and has a great day!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 07:37 PM
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I just find it hard to believe someone with no assets could marry someone with a lot of premarital assets, make less than $2/day, initiate a divorce and end up with a few hundred thousand dollars, no kids, no job… how is this not unjust enrichment? I do have a lawyer, a good one
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 03:40 AM
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She’s not getting half of the business as I could quit and it would be less than $0 as we are a contractor that would get sued to oblivion
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 03:34 AM
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I knew I’m never getting married again that’s for sure
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 05:57 PM
5

They’re almost always cheating
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 08:09 PM
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You seem like a good guy and just know you did not deserve what is happening to you.. no matter what a married person should not be going on any dates with anyone else, especially when a child is involved.. the more you respect yourself, the better off your child will be in the future and I hope you get through this with your head up high and you will find happiness, with or without someone else! I know how painful this can be and it took me time to realize it was really over.. it’s a blessing i…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 07:51 PM
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I am sorry this is happening, it’s not going to be fun or easy, and it will take time to accept, but the sooner you can start doing what’s best for yourself and your child, the better off you will be… there’s no way the marriage can be saved as a happily married woman does not go out on a date with anyone else except her husband… good luck to you and your child!
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 07:29 PM
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You are correct, low contact is what I mean
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 07:24 PM
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Low contact then, excuse me, you are correct
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 07:23 PM
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It’s better for the children to grow up with two happy parents who are not together (and trust me, you will get over this) than two miserable parents that are married, I was one of these kids, I know first hand
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 07:22 PM
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It’s over OP… get an attorney and go NC!
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 07:19 PM
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I know, I’m embarrassed too… at the time you’re thinking ok whatever I can do to help out, but it was above beyond a lack of respect… I also paid all the bills and supported us the entire time, and when she left she told me it’s because I work too much… of course she was cheating on me… so while I was away all the time working to support us, she was out having fun and met a cool new guy to cheat on me with… I have no respect for anyone that would date or even hang out w a married person who’s sp…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/23 07:58 PM
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God my wife would do this to me too.. she’s off all day but has me pick up groceries on the way home.. just total lack of respect
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 12:13 PM
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Yea tell her you’ll be waiting on the couch for the cops to come… sir you’re being charged with canceling your wife’s insurance…. The audacity to think someone else should pay for your insurance when you left them, how do these women sleep at night..She was telling me at the time she just wanted some time to herself to “figure out shit”, she moved out Dec 1st… come to find out her FB lists she’s w a new man and they’ve been “in a relationship” since Dec 17… I don’t know what would be worse, that…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 03:07 AM
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I should pay to insure she’s good and healthy for her AP… and this doesn’t come close to the craziest shit she’s said
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 01:02 AM
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Lol that’s pretty much what she said… how can you cut off your wife’s insurance (it was $500/month), and I’ve since found out she was already in a relationship w her AP… like I’m going to be paying her health insurance when she’s in a relationship w another man… these women are fucking crazy
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 12:53 AM
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Mine told me it was illegal to cut off her insurance after she left, lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 12:17 AM
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