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Story time ☕rendervelvet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:32 AM
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This should be in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:20 AM
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You should put your edit with the correct title in the top line of the post as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:45 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:30 AM
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How about BMM, bare minimum male? NVM, LVM,BMM,HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:39 AM
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The fact you sensed they recall your being injured and laugh often speaks a lot about where they derive their self esteem: on taking talented people down and not their own skill and accomplishment. Total L. V. M.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:26 AM
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Your fantasies might be an indication of attachment issues. These form with our parents and caregivers in childhood and we seek similar in our romantic relationships until we learn to heal them. Attached is a great book with the basics on this. A securely attached child grows up to find a secure attachment based partnership. They’ve internalized that love is given and received with ease. Someone with an insecure attachment learns love is scarce and must be earned or love is fleeting or love invo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:09 AM
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I had similar with an herbalist (female) that a friend recommended. I finally got a hold of her and every interaction has been low key awkward or unprofessional but the tinctures worked so I kept seeing her. The last exchange she was super late shipping my order but last minute apologized saying she’d pay express shipping but was picking up the broken pieces of her life. In other words, she was seeking emotional validation and support from a client for barely doing her job every single time. I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:19 PM
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Loved your reply. I love older generations too, classic films and am close to my grandmother. I bet you brought a lot of joy living in the nursing home. Honestly we should have more living places that mix generations. I think it’s not healthy to be stuck only with your peer group whether it’s a college dorm or a nursing home. To bring it back to OPs topic; female friendships, much like men we date, should expand our perspective and open up new wonderful worlds for us. To me that’s a marker of hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 08:39 PM
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There's a great film analysis dissecting all the ways this film is so brilliant and underrated. One of the things that hit me hard was it pointed out how in this film, the villian/predator/depraved P.O.S. wasn't some cunning intelligent mastermind just a lowly scum bag. That's what most abusers are in real life...not these criminal geniuses so many films make them out to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:36 AM
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I refuse to go on a date with a man who can't make his own doctors appointments and wash his dishes....whether that will lead to a relationship requires more vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:24 AM
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Pathological triangulation .... I hadn't given that much thought but I think you're onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:39 PM
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Yeah, like I said I agree with what you're saying... the only issue I have is the unacknowledged privilege required to really heed this advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:17 PM
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I strongly agree with your post. Who you surround yourself with creates your reality dating or otherwise. Settling isn't neutral. I honestly don't think neutrality exists in most ways we use it. I just have to say (I'm sure I'm not the only one here) that through no fault of my own my family did a complete shit job of raising me and it has set me back tremendously. From the moment I set out for college including now I have continued to take responsibility for my life for to the fullest extent of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:39 PM
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And if you educate yourself on history further you discover that women did a hell of a lot despite the obstacles. Much of these achievements have been systematically erased, minimized, miscredited to or stolen by men. Which makes these women a million times more bad ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:49 AM
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I see what you’re saying. Women can take up to an hour to become fully aroused. Everything that makes for fantastic female driven sex isn’t interesting to watch. You have to be the actual participant. But I do see this as harmful as an addictive drug in society. I’m glad there’s people like you out there bringing attention to the issue. 😊🙌🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:39 AM
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Well sex does have to do with porn, but it’s sex with a very specific agenda and it’s about power and abuse. But sex is a much much broader topic and has many more expressions than shown in porn. I wish there was more awareness of female-pleasure oriented sex...not women pretending to like porn sex. You’re not a conservative prude for knowing the difference. I’m actually quite liberal politically but I am a feminist grounded in reality and FDS speaks to that. I hope you keep speaking out, some p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:44 PM
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I hope this movement grows and we can more easily spot each other in the wild!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:17 PM
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It’s astounding when you think of the disparity between what you’re defending and what she is defending. You want to address violence against women, sex trafficking, pedophillia. What is she fighting for? The right to access a form of media that sexually arouses? I don’t even want to argue with people I can’t establish the most basic shed of common moral ground with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:16 PM
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I agree that vetting is crucial and learning FDS this year makes me see a lot of what was invisible before so it’s gonna take some getting used to. In my defense I’m not angry they wanted to keep their relationship private, I’m angry he was also trying to rope me in emotionally and being secretive about their dating each other. She only became poly a few months ago. I met her as a married woman. I’ve never had a close female poly friend so I didn’t realize how it could impact me. But as you say …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:06 PM
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Knowing something intellectually and living it as truth are not mutually exclusive. I don’t just say that as an insult against him. It’s this weird paradox of human intelligence where we can “know” something but live in contradiction from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:59 PM
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I don’t care if someone is poly, I don’t poach anyone’s boyfriend because I am not and never was poly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:56 PM
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If I had met him somewhere randomly outside my friend group then yes, no foul play. What upset me is the fact that he is my friend’s boyfriend and met me in a group with her. He was aware of her friendship w me but kept their relationship secret while flirting and PMing me. That’s lying by omission. I wasn’t just a random person in the group not to her or even him which meant the secret wasn’t just their privacy, it became deceitful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:55 PM
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I would have been triggered at that talk on porn. Video and photography are relatively new technology in the history of man. As is the internet. We know that even social media can alter your brain so the biology argument is BS. Nothing like this has been available to men for centuries. Also...gambling is an addiction and can derail people’s lives, same w alcohol. They’ve been around for ages. It still doesn’t mean people aren’t susceptible to addiction that harms them and others. Women arguing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:47 PM
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I think he needed the secrecy not her. She talked openly about the relationship and when he came to town to visit she invited him to an event I was at. If they had attended I obviously would have known his identity. I told her not to share w him I had a crush (esp as the crush died as the truth surfaced). She agreed to honor that but was worried how she was gonna explain to him why she revealed his identity to me. It clearly was gonna be a thing that I knew him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:41 PM
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Wow. You really summed it up so well! All the secrecy just really rubs me the wrong way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:37 PM
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Girls and women are conditioned to question their own intelligence, intuition and authority in a way that men and boys simply aren't. In fact men and boys are often validated and given the benefit of the doubt. So I'd say you have the added obstacle that he doesn't of learning to own your badassness. I notice men communicate often in absolutes whether they know what they're talking about or not. It's competitive communication just trying to sound like the most knowledgeable. Women try to communi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:54 PM
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Me too. I wish I knew how that kitty's story ended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:15 PM
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r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:14 PM
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Get out of there!! He's trashing other women to you as a way to bait your pity, but what he's really showing you is what shit sob story he'll tell the next girl about you. Find a HV woman to teach you chess, watch what a mutually respectful and enjoyable experience it is to learn from someone who doesn't confuse teaching/helping another person with being superior intellectually or otherwise. I bet you're probably smarter than you give yourself credit for and he is trying to tear down that confid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:11 PM
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It wasn't duplicated because I changed the lock myself and yet another intrusion happened. The lady never got her cat and moved a few months later :( My cat was allowed outside (when I was home) so he knew the terrain and didn't get lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:46 PM
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Not a romantic relationship but I was shopping for a psychologist last year. I normally prefer women but this one worked in modalities I prefer so I gave him a chance. The entire meeting he just felt completely devoid of human emotion. I get that some therapists like to hide their own feelings and project this calm neutral state but this guy took it to a whole 'nother level. I felt no human emotion behind his eyes. Total psychopath vibes. Never went back. I listened to my gut and acted on it imm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:18 PM
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I had someone trespassing my apartment. The only reason I knew was because I would come home from work and my cat would be outside waiting to be let back in! The first time this happened another woman in the apt complex had her cat go missing. I told the office that maybe maintenance were letting themselves in without our knowledge or consent. They said they keep all the keys locked in a safe and only give them for the duration of work done in the apt unit. Basically "Wow, tHaTs StRaNgE, nOt OuR…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:44 PM
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I love the advice on here. You listed so many red flags and I am so proud you realize you need to get out before you invested even more. Give him a short explanation no room to argue, your mind is made up, then block and delete. Get some girlfriends as accountability buddies to keep you from caving and feel free to post here for support. My first relationship felt like such a big deal to end and even though he was a total LVM I still was sad about it for a while but that feeling passes with time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:32 AM
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Vice did a video on ‘non-offending pedophiles’. These men feel sexual or even romantic attraction to children but recognize it is wrong and don’t act on the behavior. They find therapies to address it without stigmatization hard to find. I’m in no way trying to defend anyone who sexually exploits children but it made me wonder what creates pedophiles and any resources and services that can protect kids and treat this mental perversion, I fully support. The video didn’t discuss whether porn playe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:59 AM
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The Obamas are such #relationshipgoals ! I saw a YouTube Video showing them dance together at his inauguration compared to the Trump's inauguration dance. It was a night and day difference. The Obamas are true equals and the mutual love and respect is electric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:52 PM
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So if we extend that logic farther out then perhaps men should cook more because they tend to require more calories? What about sex? Style/frequency.... If valuing something less excuses your participation or support that really speaks to the level of partnership you are capable of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:47 PM
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The costs of being a woman are not discussed enough. I can think of so many things women pay for that have no male equivalent. Our reproductive systems require more maintenance in the form of menstruation products, Pap exams. Often birth control falls on women. Managing breasts is expensive. Bras are expensive. Bikinis are like having to buy two swimsuits just to be seen in public. We must adhere to insane beauty standards compared to men and all the products and services to go along with that. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:34 PM
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I love Marilyn as much for her saavy and resourcefulness as for her staggering beauty. I often wonder how her life and career would have played out in a later era. I think she played the rough hand that life dealt her and navigated the misogyny of the 40s & 50s like a queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:16 PM
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Love this idea!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:11 PM
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This is such a good question btw!! I saw somewhere on this sub an analogy to hiring a new employee. You are critical and looking for problem areas, you don’t gush over one positive feature but stay cool and level headed. Like an outstanding job candidate, HVM will shine through your doubt and scrutiny...but you catch the LVM before you waste much time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:33 AM
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Those pink caddys have this iridescent shimmer to them now too! Always catches my eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:26 AM
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Same! The video feels like a complete performance for the male gaze, a total pick-me entourage. What cool sh*t would they be doing instead if they stopped trying to impress/seduce men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:07 AM
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Thanks for sharing this! I hadn’t heard of Andrea Dworkin before and I’m definitely going to be reading more of her stuff! I hope her wish for her memory/legacy comes true..to be “in a museum when male supremacy is dead”...”an anthropological artifact from an extinct primitive society” !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:52 AM
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I'm so doing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:46 PM
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I'd get the child DNA tested to find her relatives on her father's Scottish side. A) I'd imagine they would want to know they have a grand-daughter/niece/cousin and B) It would help shame him into at least doing the bare minimum to contribute financially to the well being of his child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:20 AM
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Demonstrating Acts of Service as a love language can be an appreciated added gesture or going above and beyond for your partner. Conflating "choreplay" with foreplay is offensive because it suggests that the household chores default to the woman and for the man to do them is so incredible that he deserves extra credit for the same damn task. Here's an easy way to test it....offer to do laundry/dishes/vacuum in place of blow jobs for him and see how well that goes over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:30 PM
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I sh*t you not, the post DIRECTLY above this one on my feed was a dude with no bed frame and an acoustic guitar (a Top Broadcast Live video). I can't speak to his empathy but damn that's an eerie coincidence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:54 PM
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Can we just agree that a 24yr old guy dating an 18 yr old is creepy? It's easy to see how a man in his 40s dating women in their 20s is creepy but a 24-25 yr old dating teenagers is just as messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:31 PM
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In the video footage I've seen of Drs and Nurses in China fighting COVID-19, I've noticed the staggering majority are female (85%+), which is all the more incredible when you consider China has one of the highest male to female gender ratios in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:13 PM
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Thanks for this post! It really resonates! That satisfactory “hit” of getting a response from all the ignoring is not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:51 PM
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If your goal is marriage you might consider using sex and commitment to him as leverage for his proposal. How to go about doing this is up to you. Maybe sex can happen after you're engaged or together a long time with things really escalating towards marriage. But, basically if he is still courting you and wants you as a girlfriend, you say you're looking for a husband not a boyfriend and wont commit. If he is serious about you being the one he'll stick it out and try and win you over. If he jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:46 PM
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