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Lots of guys with similar situations. I'm one too. I found that spinning plates kept me from applying game to my wife. I wouldn't bother putting in the work with her because I could just go fuck a plate with little effort. I quit the plates and put the effort to making her what I wanted. It seems to be working. There's no guarantee it will, for me or anyone else. You have to first answer the question: do you want to be married? To anyone, not just your current wife. Don't qualify it with stuff a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 02:18 PM
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I figured not. She's already pissed and moaned that I'm "muy fresco" doing my thing and being happy. Response: "sure am! Later" Looking forward to the post.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 05:06 PM
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Very timely. Mine has behaved poorly all week, so I'm pumping the time into me. I had a day off today, and have been spending it lifting, dentist, annual vehicle inspection, and will head to the gun range. At this point, I'm not explaining why. Will be interesting to see if she can correlate poor attitude with not getting attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 04:50 PM
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Timely post, mine is questioning why I'm different, lamenting that the old me is gone. "I'm working on me" is good. Then STFU. I answered "I liked how you were" with "that version sucked, I'm getting better" last night. Then out the door with the kids.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 01:11 PM
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Roger that. It seemed odd, as she had been behaving for a few weeks. A gambit for control makes sense. I owned work/career and athletics for many years, but ceded control of the marriage and home life. Just keep on with the plan. Thanks for keeping me on track.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 01:07 PM
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Thinking way back, she was visiting her aunt and uncle, and in the US for the first time, when we met. She always talks about how great she thinks this uncle treats her aunt, even taking care of/paying for multiple attempts at college for the aunt's kid. I was in the same profession, but 10 years younger than the uncle. I wonder if she thought I'd be the same beta as him?
/r/askMRP21/07/17 02:16 AM
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This is a good question. We didn't date at all for years- kids and work, that was it. The oldest is 14, and has watched the other 2 a few times, but that's been 1-2 hours. She kept talking about having an aunt come down and watch the kids for a weekend. She had the aunt come while I was on a 2 week work trip, so there went that. Today, she wanted us to all go to the mall after I got back from work. Fuck the mall- took the kids to the pool while she pouted.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 02:12 AM
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True. I was planning on beach over Labor Day weekend. My plan this weekend was fish with boys, work on house, lake the next day. I'll roll with that.
/r/askMRP20/07/17 07:10 PM
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Unless you have a thing for pretty toes. I had one that knew foot rub= rubbing cock all over her in short order
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:52 PM
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Physical- 5'7", 185.4#, 16.8% BF, 12 mm on the calipers, just finished a deload week after my first Wendler cycle back after surgery. Drop one more mm on the calipers and I'm at 15%. Haven't been this lean or weighed this little in 4+ years. Once I quit justifying dietary indiscretions because I had made so much progress in the gym, the weight started dropping again. Wife/women- done with the dating app and side stuff. It leaves my mind free to concentrate on mission and forces me to game my wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 01:20 PM
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Parsing it out a bit, the program teaches you to improve yourself, and you then can improve your situation.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 02:57 PM
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A lot of us come here not having owned some or all of our shit. Physique, household maintenance, kids, gaming the wife, work... it's a lot. Owning your shit makes you a better man (the point of all this), and puts your focus on you, not her.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 02:51 PM
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Read up on the 12 stages of dread, read MMSLP. Lift. Own everything you do. Be consistent, and give it time. She'll instinctively figure it out- so STFU and work the plan.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 11:12 AM
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Late post this week. Physical: torqued down and did it- 67", 187.4# 16.8% BF (was static for a month +). Heavy week on Wendler cycle: 280x8 squat, 225x8 bench, 300x8 DL, 155x8 OHP. Completed all cardio/300 workouts. Diet wired tight, and will remain so. That's the key, and no "I deserve it's" as rewards. The reward is getting jacked. Mental/internal: did some texting with girls from an online dating app. This is validation seeking, something that has really struck me in NMMNG. I tell myself it's…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 08:47 PM
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You stated it better than I, and first. OP: just remember: AWALT, and she ain't special.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 08:05 PM
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It's in your head. You're associating the new GF with wife/family thoughts, but the older women were just fuck toys. It takes a while to fix it in your head- the answer is to increase your SMV via lifting, sidebar, etc. she will then have to be sluttier and more forward with fucking you to keep you. This will change your internal view of her- she'll become a fuck toy first and foremost. Remember this is a woman's principal value to you, any woman. I know all this because I did just this, and had…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 08:03 PM
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I wouldn't put "tip I'm fully happy" as your qualifier. We shouldn't ever be fully happy- if we are (or think we are), then we're not striving, working to see what's over that next hill. Spend the time on you, and once your mission and frame are well defined, add something more serious with a woman because you want it. If she turns out not to add value, then it's easy to cut her loose.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 04:41 PM
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Been gone for work for 2 weeks. Did a lot of thinking, and have broken through on some important realizations. Physical- 190#, 18.6% BF. Stuck, but I know why. I didn't miss a single workout, it's my diet. I progressed, hiked a ton in my spare time. The last 5-6 days I "rewarded" myself with a bunch of bullshit overeating, put back what my looser pants said I had done. I've transitioned from 5x5 back to a Wendler based plan, with modifications to burn excess weight. Family- happy as fuck to be b…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 12:32 AM
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Thanks man. Just have to keep pushing. The biggest thing that's slid into place has been the DGAF. I've been giving less of a fuck for years, but MRP has really shown that it's not worth my time to worry what she thinks about this shit. It's all emotionally driven irrationality.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 05:32 AM
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And an understanding that the moment may be fleeting, but that there will be even better moments in the future if you're true to the mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 03:51 AM
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This exactly. I did this to myself. Still recovering- it occasionally produces a twinge, but I laugh at myself. MRP gave me the language to explain to myself why it was wrong, and what needs to happen to fix it (me).
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 03:47 AM
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Nice. Mine is very small- about 108#. I've gotten annoyed in the past and viewed it as being critical (same shit when I ran marathons and raced triathlon- "getting too skinny"). It's really a shit test due to improvements that are seen by her. STFU and use that strength. I like it.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 04:00 PM
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So true on the curves and planet fitness places. I was asked to leave a PF for deadlifting and "banging the weights" while traveling once. What do you say to your wife in response to "getting bulky". Mine shit tests when I powerlift- I'm 5'7, have been as high as 208# (400+ SQ/DL, but still very bulky)
/r/askMRP07/06/17 07:29 PM
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OYS #4 Physical- 67", 189#, 18.6% BF, 14 mm on calipers. No change. I'm now in my last bulk/strength rebuild week, neck surgery was 15 weeks ago, been lifting for 13 weeks, have not missed one session. It's getting heavy, and I'm ready to cut- 270 squat, 145 OHP, 200 bench/row, and 355 1RM on deadlift. Cut starts the 12th of June. I want to get below 180/15% BF to start. I'm tight and sluggish. Will start weekly yoga class once back from 2 week trip for other job. Wife/women: shark week, unsolic…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 09:08 PM
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I like this. Very solid.
/r/askMRP05/06/17 05:34 PM
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I would not have changed a thing as far as work and what I've put into it. That I did only for myself- the money is great, but having gone from fresh out of school (at age 33), to being a respected master of my craft and a leader in my other career field are why it was done. That work paid off. As for the ruck analogy- the ruck is me owning what I'm dissatisfied with in marriage. A long movement at dark, uphill, and in the cold rain sucks. That doesn't matter. You still have to move, so the best…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 08:07 PM
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So you've listed reasons she should be fucking you, and given excuses to not lift (work on you). Here's the deal- improve you, and it'll change. Maybe not her though- she may just be entitled at this point. If so, next her and have a much better time with the next woman. All these other women you could get are gold digging little skanks. They will exhaust and disgust you after a while. Fix you and then the right kind of girl will want you. Trust me man- by cheating, you are just avoiding the pro…
/r/askMRP04/06/17 12:22 PM
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This is solid advice. I've been here and am getting over it. You let it get to this. If you want to unfuck everything, quit the side shit, feel the anger we all feel, realize it needs to be directed at you, and fix yourself. Other than level of income, I could have written this same post. It's you man. Get to work.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 09:36 PM
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Once I think about that, I am. Was not the intent, but that's likely years of resentment built up. Massive covert contract- I broke my ass for the last decade, and feel like I'm not getting what's mine in return. Not how it works. The anger is great fuel in the gym and other areas, but is also poisoning me in my outlook and approach. Just have to STFU, shoulder that ruck, and keep walking forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 11:40 PM
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A very good point. Noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 11:37 PM
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Did not write last week, here is my 3rd OYS: Physical- 5'7", 190, I'm up 2 #. Progressing well on 5x5. I will go 2-4 more weeks (depends on if a place I'm going for 2 weeks for work has a squat rack if 4 weeks or not) of building, then I need to cut. Still at 18.6% by calipers, 19% on an impedance type monitor I tried out in a kids museum. The mirror agrees with these #s. My diet has slackened just a bit the last 10 days. Need to clamp that down to cut. Bench/row was 190, squat/DL 255, OHP 140 f…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 06:19 PM
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2nd OYS. Physical: 67", 188#, 18.6% BF based on calipers and chart. 1 mm less this week than last, I drop another mm and it's down to the next BF level (16.8%). Progressing well on 5x5, I do a set of pull-ups after each set of squats. 230 squats, 180 bench/row, 125 OHP. Next week will use a belt and a 25# plate to do pull-ups, will aim for 6-8 per set. Cardio 3x this week- 2 runs. I'm moving faster, goal is under 15 min on 2 miles (16:34 last fall). Will return to 400 squat and DL, 205 OHP, 315 …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 05:23 PM
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I prefer it shaved, so she does. Fair trade? Are you fucking kidding? She had zero worries and a great lifestyle that I provide. She can keep her pussy smooth as a grape because I say so.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 02:57 PM
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She claims to like it at about 5-7 days growth. That's the point I feel it needs shaved again. Bottom line- my head, I do it when I want. If she doesn't like it, tough shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 12:06 PM
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Why? The short answer is a lot of post-partum stuff combined with some (her side) family stuff, she went on an SSRI at 6 months. Worked, killed libido. Looking back, it's clear that the only answer should have been increasing dread. As it was, I talked, was butthurt, and got it on the side. I will own every aspect of my life, and make it what I want, how I want. No hidden bullshit on the side- it will all be in the light of day.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 02:07 AM
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In many ways, this is all nothing new to me- it's a better way to return to being me. There are always things to improve on, and I like this framework. A lot of it puts into words/gives a definition to things that I had a sense of.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 01:49 AM
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We will see. I view doing what I see as the correct thing and then NGAF about her response as the key factors.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/17 05:08 PM
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hopefully this keeps it brief- you don't want a new guy typing a fuckton, so here's my goals and what I'm doing to get there: 40, married 15, 3 kids- teen girl and 2 younger boys. Lifelong athlete, 2 solid careers (running concurrently). Low sex marriage after kid #3. My "fix" was to get it on the side. Ultimately unfulfilling. Need to be the man I want to be. If the marriage dies, it's because she's not with my plan, not because I'm a cheating asshole. Physical/health- Neck surgery 3 months ago…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/17 02:51 PM
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