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Lol thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 02:31 PM
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Hey aren’t you Godspeed and good luck dude? Where’s the signature? Also can you tell me exactly what is funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 04:43 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:08 AM
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Google exists
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 11:53 PM
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Lmfaooo no one is marrying anyone on the spot. Rich guys will screw you over. Handsome guys will screw you over. The only way to determine if a man is of good character is by sweating him out. Typically men will fail around the 3 month mark. But 3 years? Either psychopath or reliable dude. Then it’s a coin flip and you gotta protect yourself financially and socially even if you do get married. This post only shows that men are desperate and will project desperate behavior that they exhibit onto …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:42 PM
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Imagine learning how to read in elementary school, but never applying the skill critically.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:38 PM
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No. I think that girls find different guys attractive. Didn’t you read my first follow up to the main comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:21 PM
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I addressed this point in the first sentence of my first follow up comment. I elaborated with my current bf to emphasize that it may not be the only reason for why OP observes girls acting that way. My overall point stands — girls are attracted to ALL of the guy. Not the rough edges and lines of how they can or cannot look good in a photo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:20 PM
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No, it’s exactly what OP is talking about. He’s just assuming it’s because of the guy’s looks. Note what his example girl says. “He doesn’t look great in pictures.” Is that not what I wrote about? “The Mona Lisa doesn’t look good in 150x150” is what someone who really likes that painting would say if they had to compress it into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:00 PM
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I’m proud of how he looks IRL, not in photos. Because photos capture him in one pose and one expression. It doesn’t capture him in his full life. It’s like trying to express the beauty of a classic painting in a thumbnail the size of a Reddit icon. It doesn’t look like much. If you tried to show me the Mona Lisa in 150x150, it wouldn’t look that great. Even though it’s a wonderful and beautiful painting. That’s why we’re always embarrassed. Because our man is wonderful and handsome but photos on…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 07:58 PM
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Because he looks really good to her but he’s not a stock model. I’ve been wildly attracted to guys my friends said were ugly and vice versa. It’s like, you do you boo he must be absolutely sparkling irl. Edit: my bf is a very very handsome guy. Think Jacob Elordi but hotter. I still get embarrassed and say “he’s better IRL” when I pull out a photo of him. Why? Because I’m attracted to how he looks and how he moves and a photo simply cannot convey how hot he is to me. And a lot of women are like …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:24 PM
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Women look at men holistically, men look at women in two dimensions — tits and ass + is she not a bitch. If you’re trying to gamify women’s attraction like how women can gamify men’s attraction, you will lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:17 PM
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🏆 take my poor gal’s gold
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:10 PM
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You know how your dick feels when horny? It’s that feeling, but in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 11:44 PM
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Sure sounds like it! And I was also a virgin before I turned 22! Her allergy to uppercase letters is a very young Gen Z tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:49 PM
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So why do you think the original commenter is capping?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:24 PM
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I gave a shit about how men perceived my zero body count. I would always always judge men based on how they reacted to my body count — if they got excited that I was a virgin, it was time to dump them. If they expressed impatience, it was time to dump them. That’s how online discourse affected my dating. I now have a body count of 1, and that’s because when I told my bf I was a virgin, my bf was like. That’s cool, we’ll take it slow then. And then I said, I’m probably going to wait til marriage.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:19 PM
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You seem to doubt that women can be virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:06 PM
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All girls become women on their 18th birthdays. This is fact. The government sends a man to their parents’ house on their 18th birthday.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:05 PM
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The most I’ve done was a rejection of his date ideas, not a rejection to the date itself. Mainly because I was sus since no one of his caliber had ever expressed interest in me. I didn’t want to be the butt of a joke and I was testing his sincerity since imo he had a lot of girls into him the night we met. To be clear, what I said was along the lines of “That date idea doesn’t really work given the weather lately” and “sorry not interested in that particular thing”. Then he mentioned something t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 12:51 AM
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But as a woman who’s looked into all these things, imma say he’s spitting facts. This guy knows Sephora.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 07:17 PM
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Think of a workplace — what is the difference between a good boss and a tyrannical boss and a weak boss? A good boss doesn’t think they have more inherent value than you. They are your advocate to the higher ups. They help you grow. They assign reasonable work within your abilities and work hard themselves. No matter the workplace, they make day to day work bearable and you know you can trust them to lead and protect. That’s dominant (they ARE your boss, not your workplace buddy). A tyrannical b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:13 PM
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If you’re mad at someone and want to hit them just hit them! Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 05:18 PM
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Huh? Where did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 05:17 PM
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So you want me to tell guys I’m dating that they are wrong about their observed and lived reality? Gaslighting much. I’m sure it’s a spectrum and guys can be on one end or another and so long as everyone is mature, aware, and consciously working towards a healthy relationship it’s something that I don’t think is a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:51 AM
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Yeah it can definitely come off as disgusting, but if that’s the truth of how they’re wired I very much prefer they 1. Say so and 2. Actively work with their biology to accomplish fruitful relationships. Everything my bf has said and done has indicated he only wants healthy LTRs and I trust him fully.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:22 AM
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Controlling: do this or else I will do something bad to you. Boundaries: do this or else I will leave for my own sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 10:20 PM
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This is normal for me lol. I’m Asian but most Asian guys don’t desire me since I do not fulfill the uwu anorexic pixie vibe. I’m quite healthy and athletic and attractive by American standards, which focus on having a toned/hourglass shape. When I talk to guys I’m attracted to most of them are kinda just “ok I’ll hold convo with you until that girl who really fulfills my desire comes over here.” So I just exit after I catch that vibe. I also have a big ass face lol. I have a friend who is the li…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 05:46 PM
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Yeah instead of cheating they eXeRcIsE oPTiOnS
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:24 AM
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Just piggybacking off your comment to say that men who are self aware will also avoid having sex with a woman they like too quickly. It apparently does something in men’s minds to tell them “this woman is for fucking only”. Speaking from my bf’s perspective when he purposely avoided sleeping with me early.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:22 AM
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He doesn’t have sex on a pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:16 AM
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Nope. My guy is not a trad guy and was definitely willing to wait til marriage. All you have to be is fucking irresistible — not a cooking cleaning way, a personality way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:15 AM
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Yeah and as a woman who values chastity, I think you’re absolutely disgusting. N count of like 5? Totally fine and normal. N count of 15? Ew. Yes it is a little more relaxed for men but you’re totally delulu if you think chastity doesn’t matter at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:05 AM
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Married men live longer than single men. How can you say you’re a dad if you don’t take on parental duties? That’s more of an ego flex than an actual intent towards being a father. If you don’t want to get married just don’t marry. Not my problem, the trash is taking itself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:02 AM
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Him standing out — physically, socially, etc. if you already stand out in a negative way (ie short/ugly), owning it and standing out in a positive way (funny/empathetic) is very good. In a room full of conservatives, the liberal will stand out. In a room full of sheep, a man who speaks his mind without fear of repercussion will stand out. Obviously if your mind is shit then you’ll stand out in a shitty way, but we’re assuming you actually have positive ideas of your own. In a room full of hoodie…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:55 PM
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Lol is this some gotcha? Of course we’ll notice guys more if we’re single.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:39 PM
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My metric is “reasonable/exceptional progress given life circumstances.” Too exceptional I’m sus but willing to give a chance. For example, guy who skipped two grades and went to an Ivy at 16. Overemphasis on academics led to underdevelopment in certain areas. At 18, I would have expected a fellow 18 year old to be where I was — at a reputable college and moved away at home. At 20, I would expect a fellow college student to be doing well in their studies and also have a few extracurricular activ…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:26 AM
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Ewwww. First kisses for me were always slow, with tension, and intentional. Sloppiness = we’re fucking = not gonna happen til I know you a lot more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:10 AM
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Yes. The resulting relationships NEVER were fun. I stopped doing it. Now I’m happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:14 AM
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My guy is definitely a person that gives off “frat bro” vibes if you spend maybe 10 min with him. But spend an hour with him and he starts talking philosophy. Spend a couple hours with him and he’ll talk about God. Spend 1.5 years with him and he’ll open up about the traumas that no one knows of besides me. I feel honored that he trusts me with his full range of emotions — I’ve seen him cry, I’ve seen him cocky and suave, I’ve seen him everything in between. I’ve heard him talk about his demons,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:12 AM
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Lol no one at 25 owns a house + luxury car that’s worth dating — if they own a house it’s daddy’s money and that’s not a guy worth your time. But as for the rest? Throw a rock and it’ll hit one in my social circle. Like I make 100K and I’m the lowest earner out of everyone I know. Why I deserve a man like that? Deserve is a strong word, but I think men like that are a good fit for me culturally. Not necessarily because of the income (I cannot do finance bros) but because men I want (Asian or whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:19 AM
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Agree with all your points except #2. At his place, I’m vetting him to see how he hosts. Does HE clean well? Does HE cook well? I’m not going to take initiative to vacuum or mop or take the lead on dinner. I’ll do what is required of me as a guest, which is to help do the dishes and act as assistant cook while he leads. At my place he’s vetting me to see if I can host well, and I’m vetting him to see if he can help as a guest which is the same thing — dishes and helping do small stuff while I ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:08 AM
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Thank god. I thought I was going crazy by the way everyone looks at me like I have four heads when I tell them I have a timeline and I’ve communicated this timeline to my bf lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:04 AM
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Or just plain young.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:02 AM
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A religious woman won’t marry a non religious man, no matter how “community oriented” he is. You gotta have full buy in or else you’re just planting a bomb to blow up later.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:51 AM
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I’m my boyfriend’s first real gf. There is a bit of “training” that I had to do, but I tend to attract + pick guys that don’t have real relationship experience. Not on purpose it just happens. Honestly it is slightly a pain in the ass, but probably less of a pain in the ass than a guy who’s gone thru multiple girls. What matters to me, more than if a guy had gfs before, is that he 1. Has a purpose and a goal for his life and 2. WANTS to be a good bf. If he only has #2 but not #1, he’s not going …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:47 AM
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It must be hard as a celebrity to find someone to relate to (understands fame), meshes with their schedule (tours, acting locations), and isn’t there to take half the billions and run (both men and women are capable of this), on top of having personality and life plan compatibilities. I’m not surprised that Taylor is yet unmarried. She’s been through enough when she was a younger celeb to be sus about men. And frankly, obscenely wealthy people do not reflect real life. They have money. They will…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:52 AM
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Drowning and dehydration will both cause one to die. This is what men don’t understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:49 PM
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My perspective is, you’re usually not hitting on a girl because she’s relationship material, you’re hitting on her because she happens to have a healthy BMI and isn’t butt ugly and you want to stick your dick in her. Therefore, if you don’t have much emotional stake in her, it shouldn’t matter when she turns you down. It’d be totally different if you’re attracted to / like a girl for her personality and want to ask her on a date. That I can sympathize with when rejection happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 05:45 PM
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I don’t think it’s a marriage without teamwork. Teamwork is fundamental to my definition of marriage. I don’t care if it’s 50/50, 60/40, 70/30, SAHM and breadwinner, SAHD and breadwinner, as long as everyone is pulling their weight according to their ability and with their partner’s support and respect. If a SAHM decides to just party and neglect the kids, divorce. If a SAHM gets sick, that’s different because she literally cannot do her share. If a breadwinner dad gets laid off / fired, that ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:15 AM
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So what if the first person has already decided to stop moving, but wants to keep being on the rope for the benefit of sharing in the second person’s work? You don’t think that’s messed up?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 12:59 AM
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Two people are pulling a heavy rock. One stops walking but hangs onto the rope. The second person keeps walking, trying to pull the rock and the first person along while asking them to please get up and keep pulling. Second person, after a while, lets go of the rope and walks away. Who is at fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 10:53 PM
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ah I get your point now. It's typically older people who feel more comfortable sharing, as you said. Younger married people are often more caught in the rough, in the struggle years and aren't 100% sure they made the right choice. It's like, typically near the end or the steady state of an experience one would be confident in having a strong opinion one way or the other. Happily married men in their 30s or 40s may also not feel they have the authority to share. But also, recommending marriage to…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 05:28 AM
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But no one is going to hunt you down on the street to sell marriage. Like there is never going to be a mass movement to sell marriage. Maybe weddings? But not marriage as in, 60+ years of hard ass work and euphoric joy. Are you around married people? Parents, family friends? Do you ask them about marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 05:18 AM
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They’re not going to “sell” it, you have to go and ask them and they’ll recommend it. It’s like, I won’t walk around yelling “MY SHOES ARE AWESOME” because I’m a busy person, no matter how much I appreciate my shoes. Now if you ask me, hey, I want comfy shoes, I’ll tell you how great my shoes are and recommend you find something similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 05:11 AM
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Because no one tells you how to find the right person, so everyone has a different idea of “right”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 05:10 AM
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Happily married people don’t invest their time in “selling” marriage, they’re too busy putting in work and loving on their spouses.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 05:07 AM
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It’s not a chance though. You get to take a long ass time to vet your woman and her family and judge her character and, oh, even do a prenup if you’re paranoid. Unlike a coin flip, you have a significant amount of control over the outcome. Now if you’re marrying to check a box off the “list of things to do”, for the guarantee that you’ll have a woman in your bed every night, to have someone to make kids with, then it is a coin flip. But if you approach marriage with the sobermindedness that it d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 05:05 AM
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I’ve done bondage in a previous relationship. Not doing it in this one Bc my bf and I are just too busy / he doesn’t have the patience for tying ropes given our living situation. With everything else… current mans has gotten much more of me. And as for sexual history, the man absolutely should consider it. I’m not perfect, and I absolutely want my husband to go in eyes wide open being 100% ok and appreciative of my entire history.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:08 AM
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I take it you have never had morals, ever, and never made a mistake that redoubled your resolve, ever? I can see you’re operating from the perspective that “women must be perfect in order to have a happy ending.” Do you also believe that men must be perfect in order to be considered a respectable, good man? News flash: pobody’s nerfect, and plenty of people have happy endings without lying about their past. I could tell you how silly my current (way hotter, taller, and more respectful) bf thinks…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 07:39 PM
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Ohhhh you’re not OP. Maybe I am autistic, I don’t know! And idk, maybe I know when I’m aroused and have enough self control to not pursue it. Guys should learn from that!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:34 PM
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He did not finish with me HAHA. It was like, dick in mouth, I don’t like this, hm no, ok bye bye boy. Also he was really wanting to stick around and work through his commitment issues but the constant “I wanna have sex” put me off and I dumped him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:33 PM
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Guys I’m always interested in getting to know more / are arousing: guys who dress a cut above the norm (not too vain, just more smart casual), do everything enthusiastically / with purpose, who smile a lot and don’t give a shit about what others think of them. Of course baseline is that they have morals and aren’t doing illegal things. Ie: short, skinny guy at a karaoke night who absolutely just owned it when he sang/danced even though no one else danced during their turn, wore a nice untucked b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:04 AM
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“I provide a lifelong recurring benefit that involves dedication and work and expect appreciation and reciprocation” vs “I do a one off event that is very easy and want an outsized compensation”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:48 AM
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For 3, we met organically and had the nice bit of “will we won’t we” innocent flirting and butterflies that’s common of young infatuation, and for 1 of those I was actually old enough to trust my vetting skills to have intercourse. For all 3 we were also the same age and were official bf/gf for many months before anything happened. All this happened when I was 18+. For one of the 4, he was a couple years older studying at the same university doing a PhD, pretty cute, pitbull physique which is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 11:30 PM
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Including BJs, I’ve had sex with 4 guys. Intercourse, just one. First dates? Countless. I cannot remember how many dates I’ve been on. Like at least 30? I’m 22 btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 07:08 PM
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AF in WMAF relationship. Definitely realize my experience is not universal, but hoping to give a different perspective. I only dated Asian guys for the longest time. Wasians are the most attractive to me, followed by East Asian, then S Asian, then assorted middle eastern races, then white, then Latino, then Black. However, that’s only the physical stuff. Wasians of my generation tend to have mommy issues from the Asian tiger parenting on the mom’s side. I’m always happy to see counter examples t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 08:14 PM
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I definitely do have a very hot bf (girls check him out constantly before I come up and they realize he’s taken) and do not put out. We’ve been together 1.5 years since college. He is not Amish and he has an extremely high sex drive, would def have a very high count if we didn’t get together at 21. I wouldn’t consider my girl game to be THAT good, I kinda just have crazy “trusted advisor to the king” vibes. I will say not many gals in my cross section (age, region) bring value to the table besid…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:38 PM
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Gym bros can’t last on a hike lol, they skip cardio so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 12:12 AM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 11:29 PM
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Yes we do. Low N women don’t want disease dick. 1-5 is a good number, anything more and you’re an untrustworthy playboy. I’ve rejected men for having too high of an n count for their age (in their early 20s), and rejected a man for lying about his n count (he said 3, it was actually 1, I didn’t care about his n count, I can’t stand lying).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 11:26 PM
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I once had an immense crush on someone PPD men think are the poorest of the poor: 5’6, Indian male, a lil fluffy, super nerdy. Confident as hell. Spoke with absolute certainty about his values and his worldview. Looked homeless half the time (he had the genius crazy professor aesthetic) and never cooked. But was a very good listener, maintained a LDR with his long time girlfriend faithfully (never once made a move on me, never cheated, sometimes asked for advice on how to deal with a relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:36 PM
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It’s hard when your love language is “labor of love” soup and his love language is plain ass unseasoned pasta 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:33 AM
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Honestly that’s a pretty insulting question. A better question would be “what’s your favorite dish to make?”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:32 AM
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Hell to the no. Y’all want to debate about women’s body counts as “history” but single parents are still up for debate? I think it’s good for women who love kids but don’t ever want to have their own (physical reasons) and for men who are good people but are kinda too incompetent to attract a childless woman, but who still want to have a family. There is a lot of pressure, stress, and pain placed on kids in both scenarios, which is why men should be encouraged into staying with whatever children…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:49 AM
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Well have fun. Unfortunately I’m in the majority of women who don’t sleep around and have never been tempted to but gl
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:28 AM
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Smart intelligence wise doesn’t mean smart relationship wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:07 AM
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You want casual sex, you’re basically gunning for stupid women. “What do women want” becomes “what do stupid women with mental issues want”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 04:50 AM
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So you WANT the stupid women who are attracted to looks only?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 04:49 AM
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I got wet once when a man finely chopped onions in front of me. He made it look so easy. And the onion pieces were totally uniform. Your personality is making me dry as a bone hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 04:46 AM
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I didn’t find dating success until I articulated my standards to myself and stopped settling for less. This meant I would date a guy for a couple weeks rather than 8 months before realizing he didn’t fit my standards and moving on. This enabled me to meet my now bf at an opportune time. If I had still been with the guy I was seeing before him, I wouldn’t be in this wonderful, 2 year long relationship with the best man in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 03:54 AM
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I clicked on this message preview hoping for some sort of explanation so I could understand your perspective but wow. Nothing of substance beyond the preview.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 12:12 AM
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Yeah that makes a lot more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 07:33 PM
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The thing that stands out to me about these images is that the women have dignity, even in the nude. They’re not sexualizing themselves, they’re just existing. Although in the second nude one, I would wonder why the artist is painting her nude in that state. For what purpose? To get men to enjoy a naked, vulnerable woman? I can’t see the artist’s vision in that one. It certainly is a technical accomplishment, in terms of shadowy lighting and realism. Idk I think naked and vulnerable women is alr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:57 PM
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My hypothesis is that it’s mainly women with issues who prefer older men — maybe I’m wrong here but I cannot imagine a normal woman who wants kids to have their father pass earlier than he should, and to be in her golden years when he is ailing. And I’ve never known a real life woman who prefers older men — it seems like mainly a Reddit male wish fulfillment fantasy, or a Reddit horror story about an utterly stupid woman in an unhealthy relationship. I know gay people, I know non-binary and tran…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 04:04 PM
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Life is different for everyone. You can choose to live however you want, that doesn’t mean that someone is obligated to give you a chance. Show me a 40 year old man I’m attracted to, they literally don’t exist. Maybe when I’m 30+ I’ll be attracted to 40 year olds, but for now they still look dad-ish rather than dateable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:49 PM
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If you’re that hot, are healthy, and can build a business, what’s wrong with you? What’s the catch? Why didn’t you start dating at 20? Hot 40 year olds don’t magically become hot — they’ve always been hot. You never thought that your life is something to be shared? You view women as material assets, not personal assets? If that’s the case, go for the hot, young women for the sex. But don’t expect true love. If a man who’s 40, never married, hot, and successful approaches me, a 22 year old woman,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:33 AM
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Don’t worry, I think you’re a young man who should be dating young women. Because you can’t even use “case in point” correctly, I’d judge you to be around 17.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:25 AM
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22F here and very strongly against significant age gaps. Every normal woman my age is against significant age gaps — it’s the women who are super immature and have mental issues who like older men. But if you like young, hot, and crazy then go for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:59 AM
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Answer: hot guys are getting 80% of girls that men see. Around 50-60% of the female population isn’t really noticed. Inb4 someone says I’m fat — I’m not and never have been. I had acne, didn’t wear makeup because I didn’t want to make it worse, and wore sweats. It’s more like 20% of men are getting 30% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 09:52 PM
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LMAOAOOAOAOAOIA As a (former) nerdy girl, no. There’s just this look of disgust when hot guys think you’re looking at them or trying to interact with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 09:31 PM
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Oh no, how sad, offering advice to a younger, barely legal sibling.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:07 AM
2

He’s. My. Brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 09:52 PM
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Holy crap dude. Shifting goalposts. Men will whine and whine about how only 6+ Chads get attention but one woman writes about how much she loves her 5’8 bf and suddenly men will be like GASP what about the poor 5’1 dudes??? I’m 5’4 and have dated 5’3.5 (the 0.5 was quite important to him) and have made out with a 5’4 guy. They are both doing very well for themselves on the dating scene. How tall even are you??? Virtue signaling much? My brother is 5’4 and I’ve lightly made suggestions on bulking…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 12:01 AM
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There literally is lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 03:13 PM
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Why haven’t YOU settled down yet? Shouldn’t you have been in a mature enough position to settle down when you were 25-26?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:02 PM
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As a 22 year old, I agree that a lot of my peers and our generation is infantilized. I frequently get weird looks when I ask people in relationships what their plans are for marriage and kids — for all, marriage and kids are still shadowy, elusive myths to be tackled in their 30s. (But they’re my friends so it’s not so much weird looks as being a little taken aback and having to stop and think) My perspective is, what’s the point of dating if you’re not looking for your future spouse? Everything…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:16 AM
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FDS is how I nexted a bunch of inferior men so that I was “on time” to meet my LTR. Men don’t like FDS because the gist of it is, men need to bring something to the table in order to be worth your time and energy. There’s a lot of literature of holding off on sex because women tend to get attached to the wrong guy if they have sex prior to getting. There’s also an emphasis on men having proper hygiene — ie, if the man is a slob he will always be a slob. Do you want a perpetual slob as a partner?…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 02:53 AM
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You really think men are attracted to the women they hit on? It’s more like “I want to have sex, she’s not ugly”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 03:06 PM
2

Aw thank you! Will try :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 03:00 PM
2

Not terribly — I make sure I get a veggie, a carb, and a protein every day and make sure to go for a walk but I could definitely care for myself better 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 02:56 PM
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I can imagine my nurturing, protective side coming out in this sort of situation. I’d probably also be a lot more confident because I’d not be stressing about my looks / choosing outfits. I’d probably find this experiment very freeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 11:28 AM
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Agree with your edit. UC Berkeley for the record :) I think it’s around 15-20% women in the computer science program
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 05:37 AM
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🙋‍♀️ was in an engineering program. Was single for 2 whole years. My prettier friend had crushes on guys but was single til senior year. Pretty sure you mean women who dress nicer than engineering t shirt + skinny jeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 02:14 AM
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We’re not talking about visibility, I was talking about how many women have a hoe phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 02:04 AM
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I was only comparing millennials and Gen Z since they’re the focus of PPD — 18-45 people. And thanks for mentioning the friendship paradox! It’s quite reassuring :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 02:02 AM
2

HIMYM had a fun little episode about this! Didn’t realize it was a widespread phenomenon
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 02:00 AM
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To any woman over 25 who is marriage minded, maximum length of a relationship should be 2 years. Men know very quickly who they want to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:55 PM
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Gen Z (around the early 20s) is actually less promiscuous compared to millennials at the same age. Men are more likely to sleep with promiscuous women because non-promiscuous women usually aren’t on Tinder / don’t say yes to approaches / usually don’t present in a way that is very sexually appealing. It’s confirmation bias — women who are more willing to go out with you typically have a lower bar for wanting to sleep with someone. As a newly minted non-virgin, I never got IRL approaches til curr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 12:37 AM
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If you would be ok with a random guy approaching you somewhere, that’s usually where it’s ok to approach a random woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 12:28 AM
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Men: how do you feel about subjecting yourself to mandatory STI tests every month? After all, women are more susceptible to the symptoms of STIs. No, we’re not accusing you of cheating, it’s jUsT iN cAsE so that we can make sure we’re not infected!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:19 AM
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Women evaluate on a yes/no scale, men evaluate on a 1-10 scale. Yes is very broad, no is also very broad, and they’re mainly calculated for relationships. If he passes the looks threshold + has built a strong emotional connection with me, a guy who other guys think is “hotter” is not going to be able to compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:21 PM
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They weren’t lying. Arousal and attraction are different — attraction is mental and somewhat controlled by the conscious, arousal is completely subconscious. People can be aroused by images that they consciously find horrifying — which is the lie? To say that they are attracted to it or that they are aroused by it? Granted, mens overlap between attraction and arousal is 90%, while women’s is 50%. This is not about honesty. This is about how our brains are wired differently. Edit: as an example, …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:53 AM
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ChatGPT lol, good job
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:46 PM
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Thanks for sharing your experience! Although I have multiple male friends my age or younger, I’ve never been able to get their honest dating experience stories, so I appreciate yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:26 PM
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None of us deserve anything. But if a woman chooses to submit to anyone, he should be all those things I listed. Submission means that you are putting your life in his hands. Not your literal breathing life, but your daily living. No woman deserves an untrustworthy man who doesn’t care for her as if she were him. If a man is to be the “head”, he has a huge impact on his woman. What type of man should be allowed to have that level of impact? A competent, trustworthy man. Submission only works if …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:36 AM
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Doormat: saying “yes” 100% of the time without question. No thoughts head empty. No boundaries. Blindly trusts her man and hasn’t vetted him properly, obeys him because “he’s a man and I find him hot and I crave a dominant man in my life” Submissive / agreeable: saying “yes, why?” Instead of “no, why?” As the default answer. Eyes wide open, trusts the man enough to not question every decision he makes, but if something isn’t adding up will absolutely step in and ask for his reasoning. Has bounda…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 05:37 AM
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Were you looking at average women? Because average women don’t hook up. Were you looking at partiers? Or were you looking at women who don’t wear makeup, who quietly do their thing at coffee shops and libraries?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:04 PM
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True. If even a salesman doesn’t believe in himself (his product), why should anyone else? If I can make a man think better of himself, what’s to stop someone else to also sway his mind? A man should believe in himself and have an honest evaluation of who he is that cannot be changed by anyone else’s opinion — ergo, an enthusiastic salesman is more likely to succeed and I’m more likely to think highly of him than a bad salesman. This is where the analogy falls apart xd
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 06:33 PM
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What’s the point of talking to salesmen if they can’t do a good job? You can have the greatest product in the world, but if you can’t articulate how it’s a great product no one will buy it. No one will invest in you. That’s not on them for “not seeing your potential”, that’s on you for not marketing your product effectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 04:22 PM
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You didn’t mention anything about this guy. 5’11 is his height — how does he treat women? Having sex is not a win for women. Successful, healthy, long lasting relationships is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 04:18 PM
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Get a new job — Leetcode, application spam. Figure out a workout that I genuinely enjoy doing solo, and ideally for cheap/free. Running is the most ideal but I struggle to enjoy it. (Yes, I play music) // corollary: lose 10lb of fat, gain more muscle. continue improving my diet — cook more, eat more fruits/veg. I really like how I feel when I eat a lot of grapefruit and yogurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:07 AM
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Who’s raising the children then? What does that count in economic value?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:02 AM
4

This is a moot point. My question is, why aren’t men mating at their most fertile years?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:39 AM
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So why aren’t younger men better? Supposedly more capable of leadership? (Rhetorical, I am dating a great guy my exact age)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:09 AM
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Seems to me that most women continue working after marriage from that data. It’s not at 20% even.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:42 AM
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So why didn’t they get married to them sooner?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:34 AM
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RIGHT
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:29 AM
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So why lead someone on? Why not just break up the moment you know you don’t love that person and they’re not suited to be your lifelong partner? Why waste years of another persons life for free sex and cleaning?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:29 AM
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That makes sense to me. Thanks for your response! 5-10 seems like a reasonable gap, my main point of contention is the 15-20 year gap with the men who realize that they need a caretaker once they get old and are aging out of the “women find me hot” phase of life lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:28 AM
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Wow. Which decade are you living in? How many stay at home wives make up the total number of married women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:26 AM
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Right, so why lead someone on and dangle marriage if you don’t actually want to marry them? Like you said, men who are dating someone short term are sometimes just leading you on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:21 AM
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Marriageable women at 23 have a job. Why are 23 year old men unable to have a job? No 23 year old wants baby car house right away. It’s a slow growth wealth building that you do with someone who has something to bring to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:21 AM
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If you’re seeking out short term relationships, that means you’re not seeking out long term relationships at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:16 AM
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As a 23 year old woman, that’s cap. You’re specifically seeking out women who only care about money, not actual marriageable women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:15 AM
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You’re an adult. What country do you live in where 13, 14, 15, 16, 17 aren’t considered teens?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 06:34 PM
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Do you… do you even know how to read? Would an older man seek to protect you from the attention of older women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 06:05 PM
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Older men are jealous of younger men. Older women are concerned for younger women. You’re projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 05:40 PM
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They absolutely can. For example, if a grown man was hitting on a teen, it would be warranted to yell, scream, call the police, whatever was necessary to prevent illegal activity. If an older man is hitting on a young, adult woman, then it’s her prerogative to accept or not. But of course, any woman with common sense would advise her to tread carefully. No yelling, screaming, or police involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 05:38 PM
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👏👏👏 THIS IS IT! Treating a grown woman like a child = calling the popo the minute you see something sus. Treating a grown woman like an adult who has blinkers on = giving caution and advice
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 05:37 PM
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Definitely your personality haha
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 04:15 AM
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wahmen That’s probably why
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 03:55 AM
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Bad faith argument, you’re trying to make men look like victims. Major turn off, self-victimizing men are gross 👎
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 07:35 AM
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Exactly — women are looking to have fun. They’re not going to holistically evaluate men, they’re going to pick the hottest, most charming one for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 07:32 AM
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Consider — short guy doesn’t pass the looks threshold, it’s pretty clear she won’t like him, she just turns him down. Average guy passes the looks threshold, they dance a little, she decides he doesn’t pass the vibe threshold and turns him down. Wow, almost like women have the free will to interact with men they find attractive, and the free will to turn down attention from men they don’t find attractive. Consider also the quality of men and women at nightclubs. Are you really expecting to find …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 06:35 AM
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Q4W
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:44 PM
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Thank you!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 04:01 PM
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I’m really sorry to hear about your story and am glad that you’ve found happiness now. You’re right, I don’t think that this is something most women relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 04:00 PM
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Im a zoomer (don’t feel like it oof but I’m 22) and yeah, COVID hit during my second and third year of college, so 1.5 years of school was online. I did a lot of OLD during that time when I should have been going to bars and actually meeting guys irl. For anyone younger than me, I can imagine it seriously hindered their social development.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:58 AM
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Ok, but what if I want a man who is really in love with me, not just “eh she’s good enough”? Check out Song Jia from Single’s Inferno and how she’s treated vs the “girl next door” type.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 11:03 PM
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Maybe that is it! Well, in any case, makeup is fun lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 09:42 PM
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People smile at me more, will hold the door open for me more etc. it’s like before, people would pretend I’m invisible, whereas now when people see me they “brighten up”. And I say it’s significant because I don’t want to go outside without makeup anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 09:34 PM
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As a woman — men are nicer to me, women are friendlier, when I have my makeup done. It’s very subtle, most people don’t think I have makeup on but I do. Brow gel, concealer on the under eye + acne scars, tinted lip balm and a bit of blush goes a long way. I think it’s a significant social advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:17 PM
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I agree! What does that have to do with men (who we know always want sex) having lots of sex without a cap on how, when, or where he gets it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:01 PM
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Didn’t you just say men don’t notice when something’s wrong since their woman is still hanging out with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:56 PM
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It is when you want a man to treat you well. Sure, men will date you because they want to sleep with you (duh) but they won’t really look at you like you’re the most wonderful thing to ever happen to them. Hair and fashion matters — a woman with long, smooth hair will be more attractive than a woman with chlorine damaged, frizzy, or dyed hair. A woman in Costco sweats and a ponytail (nope, not the cute kpop ponytail, the practical type) is less attractive than the woman in well fitting jeans. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:54 PM
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Men who pursue women for the sake of “I want to have sex” or “I want to get a gf” don’t actually love the woman who eventually says yes to them. It’s more of a “thank God, someone picked me!!!” But since they don’t actually have any special interest in the woman, simply that she’s attractive ENOUGH and doesn’t kill puppies, they aren’t invested in keeping the relationship going. She’s “a woman” not “my special woman”. Inevitably, depending on how stupid the woman is or how sloppy the guy is, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:43 PM
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As a woman, it’s taken me 4 years to find a fashion style that’s comfortable, decent quality, and makes me feel attractive and confident. 2 years to figure out a hair routine that makes my hair “effortlessly” long, wavy, and “natural”. I have been working on my skin since puberty and it’s still not where I’d like it to be (let’s say 10 years? But actively working on stuff for a year). Admittedly fitness is not something men look for, simply “not fat”, and I’m lucky that I grew up playing sports …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:37 PM
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But it’s weird that it happened twice. Men are definitely capable of asking a woman, hey, what’s up? Because sometimes I have a sour face because I’m annoyed and don’t even realize I’m showing it on my face. My bf will ask me out of concern and whether it’s minor (forgot a book at home) or a little more important (I feel disrespected when you do xyz) we always end up on the same page. I didn’t know men could see emotion on women’s faces besides a broad smile before I started dating this current …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:23 PM
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For a man to sleep with a lot of women means he’s a slave to sex and doesn’t have self control.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:10 PM
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I could tell my friend’s gf was going to break up weeks before they actually did. This happened twice with two different friends. It was pretty clear the gf wasn’t engaging and was just hanging around until she could figure out the right time to break up with him. The signs are there so clearly that people outside the relationship can tell. Men unfortunately just don’t happen to be observant and assume that if she hasn’t broken up with you, she’s happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:03 PM
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Men literally will still give women attention lol. You want women to act differently, get off online dating. Yes, most women are on the apps for entertainment and to get an ego boost (tinder and bumble mostly, Hinge etc is different). You don’t like it? Leave! The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:23 PM
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Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:12 PM
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I take it you don’t look at women on Instagram?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:03 PM
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is on a platform where men outnumber women 4 to 1 complains about women not putting in effort Idk, it’s simple economics.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:00 PM
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Why get a girlfriend if you can’t love her?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:19 AM
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Would you actually treat your hypothetical unfortunate looking girlfriend the same as you would a hot banging 9? Would you love her and dote on her? Or would you ditch her the moment you could afford to date models?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:03 AM
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You never know what you have until you lose it. Naive men will crave trauma because they’ve never done anything difficult in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:06 AM
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Hey, no judgment, that was purely a hypothesis since I don’t know any women with a high sex drive. Happy to be proven wrong!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:36 PM
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Abbreviated for narrative purposes, but it was actually bro talk between them and my bf. Doubt they’d straight up lie to another man about this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:35 PM
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How about this — I’m the only woman I know who has had anything sexual happen and who has dated a lot. My friends are pretty sexually conservative. Most are on their first bf at 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:34 PM
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Missed the part where I said I don’t do ONS haha. and pity away, no ring, no sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:32 PM
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Normal women don’t have a hoe phase. Typically it’s women with a bad relationship with their parents, are extremely extroverted/spoiled, or just plain have a high sex drive. I’m the only one I know who had anything resembling a hoe phase (long story, tl:dr never had sex but was a bit of a dating addict), and I have had a terrible relationship with my parents. I’m rather unique in that I was able to separate my need to connect from sex. Connection =/= sex. A lot of women in hoe phases don’t have …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:48 AM
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Yet men still quote 80/20 and AF/BB like it’s the gospel.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:31 AM
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Men will ditch women when she gets sick more than women will ditch men. Who loves who now?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 03:37 AM
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Inexperience and awkwardness works because it seems more genuine than the guy throwing out his rehearsed pickup line. You’re explicitly filtering and attracting women who really want to be with you. You’re standing out, and women will notice you and decide if your character is worth their time — if it is, they’ll want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 11:27 PM
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They’re usually quiet and reserved, not stupid. A lot of guys will be quiet in public because they don’t feel the need to run their mouth, and if they find a woman who is attractive, they will woo her in their own way. And a lot of women are also quiet and shy. “Better to be silent and thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.” — Thomas Jefferson.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 11:23 PM
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The point I was trying to make was that women generally don’t feel like the next woman is competition. Men feel like other men are competition. This a narrative that an older woman is inherently jealous of a younger woman is just male projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:36 PM
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That’s a very male way of thinking lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:40 AM
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Not OP, but in my opinion men are not men until they are financially independent and know what they want from life, and women are not women until they are financially independent and know what they want from life. For a number, I’d say 22. Any man or woman who’s still “eh idk what I want from life, taking one day at a time, yolo” at that age begins to be a turnoff and not someone I want in my friend circle, and definitely not someone dateable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 08:05 PM
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He gave up a consistent FWB to date me so… lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:51 PM
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Good looking, but not dateable. Never had a ONS but that would be my criteria. Absolutely ensure he’s someone I wouldn’t pursue a relationship with before I hop in the sack. He needs to be hot, seem charismatic and sexually open/dominant, and at the same time be “safe”, ie I need to be reasonably sure nothing untoward is gonna happen to me, and be completely, utterly not compatible romantically. Ie, if I would date him, why would I ONS him?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 08:13 AM
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I love how many options I have in clothing. It can sometimes be overwhelming, but it also ensures that each woman will look different than the next. I like the social expectation/encouragement of personal artistry and playfulness. I can wear makeup and play with color as an adult and it’s considered normal. I love how when I say please and thank you or compliment someone, it visibly brightens their day. I appreciate that I have almost full control over reproduction, and that when I do want a chi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 10:53 PM
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Has, or could obtain if they wanted to? If average men were in average women’s positions, they would act much differently than the average woman actually does.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 05:24 PM
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If she’s extremely stupid and poor, sure! Average men get average girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:22 AM
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I believe it is my responsibility in a marriage situation to ensure the family is fed and healthy, take care of the small “unnoticeable” tasks, and take the lead on children’s education. My future husband has the responsibility of keeping a roof over our heads, managing finances, and being a present parent with our children. Ultimately I believe both of us should know what each other is doing — ie, he understands the small tasks I do and appreciates my efforts, I am fully up to date on household…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 01:25 AM
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My maternal grandparents are really good together. My grandpa is gentle, wise, and loving. Everyone in my family respects and loves him. My grandma is definitely wise and loving, but she’s a whoop ass and not gentle. My mom and her had a rough relationship because she was so strict with all her kids. She tells it like she sees it. Both my grandparents are very devoted to each other and do their best to care for their adult children and grandchildren. Now, my grandpa is old and blind and my grand…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 01:13 AM
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I prefer a low n count. I know men get the ick about women who have slept with a lot of men, and I get the same ick about men who sleep around. What goes through my mind is usually — “really? You’re that pussy obsessed?” And it makes me lose respect for him. There’s usually something mentally wrong with high n count men (for my age, I’m using the number 10+) as there is with high n count women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:45 AM
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Kids will pick based on which parent is “nicer” lol. Best test of parenting is how you’re treated in old age by your kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:33 AM
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👏 My femininity really started blossoming with my bf when it had never done so before with anyone else. He has proven to me time and time again that he is a safe haven for my femininity. He was attracted to me because of looks + standout outward facing personality, and really appreciates my soft feminine interior. I started wearing makeup for the first time after we started dating. I started wearing more dresses and blouses after we started dating. I have this sweet and bubbly demeanor towards h…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 03:46 AM
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My brother is shorter than you and a couple years older. It doesn’t bother him, as much as I can see. Right now he’s very goal driven — he’s working on securing internships and getting his career set up so he can start working right out of college. He does so much cardio which makes him extremely lean. I suggested weightlifting and eating more to bulk up, but he refused because he is really proud of how fast and how far he can run. He’s had a girlfriend before but isn’t the type to pine after gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 08:02 AM
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Here’s the missing puzzle piece: young women that go for significantly older men (7+ years older) have issues. They are either insecure about financial stability, have daddy issues, or cling to the false idea that dating someone older “proves” that they are “mature for their age”. Sure, you may be getting attention from these women, but these are not healthy, well-adjusted wife material women. Normal women are with men their age or within 4 years of their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:44 PM
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Women who are on dating apps are on dating apps for a reason. I was only ever on dating apps at the peak of my insecurity and anxiety. Normal, well-adjusted, healthy women are not on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 05:31 PM
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Liberals want conservatives?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 05:48 AM
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LOL Good thing I’m not trying to sleep with Jesus??? Also can’t see why “chaotic life”, “passivity” and Jesus are the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 09:14 PM
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Laziness — red pill claims men are human doings, women are human beings. They are right in that that is what the opposite gender finds attractive. Laziness is the biggest boner killer. Besides that — victim mindset, over-aggressiveness, passivity, blandness. A sort of “we’ll see where life takes me” attitude is also annoying. On the other side of the spectrum, violence, lack of honor, anything that makes me afraid is a dealbreaker. Under 5’7 and over 6’ is a no go. Round glasses (think fobby) is…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 06:05 PM
1

Men are plots of land. When you pick one and build a relationship with them, you are building a house on that plot of land. The quality of the relationship correlates to the quality of the house. Is it a shallow relationship where you’re only focused on looks/money? Then you have a pretty looking house with horrible foundation and internals. Is it nothing to sneeze at from the outside, but you are deeply in love with each other? Then a plain, small house that is built with care and maintained fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 05:47 PM
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Not quite sure where you got “crazy in love” from? Good relationship = I can trust this person, I can go home to this person even when we have a fight. When the guy starts acting strange, or his actions don’t line up with his words, or when you simply don’t trust him anymore, that’s when the relationship is failing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 05:24 PM
3

It’s a personal thing. Dating isn’t and shouldn’t be one size fits all. There is “one size fits 99%”, “this will never fit anyone”, etc, but other situations are very subjective. This is one of them. To me, this is a dealbreaker. My bf immediately broke off his FWB the night we met. I broke off my FWB after our first date. This is evidence of our clear intent and interest in each other. I am not a fan of juggling multiple men in the talking phase — it dehumanizes them and makes me feel more powe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 03:36 AM
1

What exactly did she say that was so offensive? The book was very well written and informed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 03:17 AM
2

Yes. Sex is sex, it’s lustful. It happens between two horny people. Physical intimacy is between two people who love each other. Touching my cheek, kissing my nose, hugging, that’s all physical intimacy. Sex is part of it, but not as significant a proportion as American media makes it out to be. Yes, but not in a bad way. It’s like when I’m going through some crazy mood swings and my bf is there to hold my hand and console me, I know I’m not the most pleasant person to be around but he does it b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 12:06 AM
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And yet I am happily in a LTR with a non icky man and have many men in my life who I love and respect 🥰 Sounds like you’re incapable of not being icky.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 06:41 PM
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The sexy behavior is to acknowledge the compliment and move on. Sexy men don’t need validation from Stacy. Edit: ok. Saw that you edited. The high school girls/male teacher dynamic is way out of my breadth. I was referring specifically to adult men and women and age gaps between them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 06:38 PM
3

“Not yet set in her ways” is code word for “I don’t know how to interact with another human who is my equal so I need to play build a bear to build my ideal gf.” You don’t want an attractive woman with social media? Don’t date an attractive woman with social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:43 PM
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The ick can turn the sexiest, hottest, most relationship-minded man into the scum of the earth. being mean to someone on the basis of race, age, gender, disability, etc. If it sounds like it could happen in high school, it’s icky. Pretty much all PPD men are excluded by this. consistent childish behavior. I’m all for babying my bf on occasion and bundling him up when cold, letting him snuggle into my chest for comfort etc. if it’s every day and multiple times a day, then it gets icky. I think on…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:38 PM
1

🙋‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:06 PM
1

🙋‍♀️ This is how you keep your n count low!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:04 PM
1

Physique matters. I will date someone not in my ideal body shape, but they can’t be too skinny or fat. More jacked than I prefer is ok. I will not date someone who I cannot be physically attracted to though, that’s not fair to either of us. Physique won’t be the primary source of my attraction (I live in a college town and pretty much all the D1 athletes are NPCs to me) but it is a dealbreaker / must have. Athletic is my preferred physique. My formative years were spent on the swim team so I fre…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:54 PM
1

Personally I sometimes struggle with recognizing a guy is hot. My unconscious brain goes like “oooh… hehe.” And I get flustered and shy. Then conscious me is like, why am I acting weird??? And maybe 5 min will go by before I realize, “oh, I must have thought that guy was cute!”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:55 PM
2

Curious — what exactly do you mean by “daddy issues”? For example, my father kinda yeeted out of my life early on and I got a stepdad a few years later. I don’t have the most fantastic relationship with my mom and my stepdad but we do our best around each other now. I acknowledge that in my relationships I often feel fear that my partner will just leave me. I also find safety and security in my relationships with men. I used to be clingy when I was a teen, but now I think I’m pretty normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:31 AM
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It will increase the birth rate. Men who take it, are not going to take it as routinely as women —> ineffective. Men largely have one-track minds — if they’re doing something else and it’s time to take the pill, they’re going to forget. Women are more likely to remember to take the pill, both because they’re more likely to remember appointments etc, but also because there’s a very real, very tangible negative incentive to not taking the pill. For men, the negative incentive (child support) is in…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 10:27 PM
1

Of course! I like it when men treat me and my friends well :) If there was a guarantee, then that wouldn’t be fun. If you want a guarantee, pay for an escort!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 06:16 PM
2

Ah! Yeah the clubbing thing was before I met my bf. Thanks for the concern 😂 we are still together and going on 2 years now :)) I definitely wasn’t against kissing etc as a single lady since it’s very low risk haha. I’ve also had multiple LTRs before him (tho idk how serious you could count them since I was under 18) that never progressed past fondling.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 04:00 PM
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Admittedly outside of this clubbing experience, all I have to work off of is what I’ve read and what my bf tells me about the male perspective. I don’t get approached often in daylight, and didn’t start going to bars until I got together with my bf. (Edit: my bf was the first and only guy to approach me, specifically me, ever, in my adult life.) I am imagining the scenario where a Quasimodo approaches me the same way a Prince Charming approaches me… Yep, Quasimodo would get politely declined, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 07:55 AM
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I’m bored and just putting thoughts out here: Imagine your future wife. Let’s say she’s never been clubbing before. How would she behave at a club? Sure, she’s feeling sexy, she appreciates the male attention, but is she the type of woman to throw away all regard for her safety by going to a stranger’s home in pitch black darkness? Or, is she the type to do hookups with strangers? Now imagine the sexiest guy you can think of. And she’s interacting with him. She still says no when he tries to esc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 07:23 AM
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Lol he didn’t have a chance with either of us since we only went to the club to check it out, not to sleep with anyone. You can only win with girls who let you win. AFAIK my friend is still a a virgin, I’ve only slept with one guy and he’s a LTR who had to wait 8 months before I was ready. It was tall guy first btw. Sound bite: “you can only game girls who play”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 07:11 AM
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Walk over with a smile and a relaxed walk, offer to buy us all drinks (yes, even the girls who aren’t as attractive) and chat us up! A broad smile and “hey, how’s it going?” Is the best opener. If you’re short/skinny/have a bad hair day, stand tall. Chest back. Don’t slouch or cower. Stride, don’t scuffle. You’re a fucking king goddammit. You have worth. You are funny. You are smart. You are charming. Don’t get in your head about it. We absolutely will judge you by the way that you walk and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 06:42 AM
1

Bullet dodged then, shoes off is the bare minimum of cleanliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 10:41 PM
2

“I like a good partner, so good to the point they won’t beat me regularly” that’s what you sound like lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 09:47 PM
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Servd!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 06:37 AM
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I got my bf a card from Trader Joe’s that’s sappy and corny so totally up his alley lol, going to write a cute lil caption. Also got us a couples card game and got him a Bible since he’s taking steps to build his faith :) We’ve decided that it’s his responsibility to make dinner plans so hopefully he follows through, also he said he’s getting me flowers. I’m just looking forward to a nice evening where we can be silly and romantic and celebrate our love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 10:23 PM
1

Me: I love my bf and think he’s the best thing since sliced bread MegaGigaTeraCap: this is an example of why women suck
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 02:47 AM
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What women care about: he’s a good communicator. Sometimes the words come out wrong and I feel hurt, but he always tries to elaborate and say what he means. He always tries to communicate, he doesn’t hide or avoid tough conversations. he notices and sees me. I grew up with a family who never cared how I really felt. The first time I had a “meh” or “concerned” expression on my face around him, he noticed as soon as he looked at me and asked what was wrong. I thought he was a mind reader 😂. He alw…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 07:55 AM
1

The former! As in actual rape
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 05:22 AM
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I’m in one of these groups. I trust my bf a lot, this is just a “fly on the wall” thing just like being in PPD. All the posts I see are of women reporting unsafe, pushy men. Sometimes they’ve been SA’d. From my perspective, it genuinely helps women out. Sometimes there are women who bash on a guy for being socially awkward, but the other women call them out on it. I think with the rise of online dating such groups like these are useful for women. As for doxxing — it’s just a public picture of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 03:47 AM
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Learn your skin undertone. Wear clothes that flatter it — ie, if you’re an Asian that leans more golden than pink, stay away from ashy greys, bright or baby blues, etc. Golden = warm, so wear deep browns, burgundy, warm pink, etc. there’s a wealth of info on this if you search “skin undertone clothes”. Wearing colors that don’t flatter you can make you look sick, tired, or too red, etc. If you see an attractive woman, she’s always wearing colors that flatter her skin tone. There will always be s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:03 AM
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Fellow bi woman seconding this comment! Especially the bit about “performing the feminine things therefore she should be seen as pretty” Sometimes it does hurt when I hear a guy say that some average woman isn’t pretty even though she’s clearly out a lot of effort into her appearance — I definitely feel for her. At the same time, I acknowledge that she simply isn’t on the upper end of attractiveness and I don’t think she’s pretty either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 08:44 PM
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I once dated a guy who made it sound like he had sexual experiences with 3 different women. I was a little sus of this, and didn’t like that he’d only had casual but never thought to ask a woman for a relationship. Months later, he confessed to the truth — the sexual experiences was all just with one woman. I ended things with him for this among other reasons, but on this matter, I would’ve been just fine if he had just told me the truth from day one. I don’t need someone with a nonzero n count,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:24 AM
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Evolutionarily — Sex is RISKY for women. It’s only in the past century that we could reliably give birth without dying. So ofc it takes more for us to be attracted, and more time for us to have sex. And assuming all other needs are met, there is very very little imperative for us to seek out men and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:59 AM
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My boyfriend thinks I’m weird, crazy in the neutral sense (I make batshit noises and have a few ungraceful mannerisms), but also very wise, perceptive, mature, honest, loving, and affectionate. I’ve introduced him to vegetables too, and now he feels invincible at the gym haha. I was a true no makeup gal with acne scars when we met, and am facially around a 7, so I knew from day 1 that he was with me for personality and values. Also we didn’t have sex til 8 months in because of my virginity, so w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:55 AM
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I just want to add another point that as an average girl, the men that turn me on the most are my looksmatches, plus they have very mature, no nonsense personalities. I can acknowledge hot guys, but they’re like paintings or sculptures in a museum — everyone agrees they’re handsome, but I wouldn’t want them in my home. I like the art that speaks to me alone. Give me the weird, the thoughtful, the flawed in the beautiful. Another woman already explained the gun and trigger metaphor, and that’s de…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:27 AM
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Sure, I’ll give you that. I’m only 22 so I can’t speak for much but I can relate my own experiences and the experiences of other UMC, educated, Asian American young people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:09 PM
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How’d you go through 15 exes LOL, how old are you??? I also don’t speak for all 5’4 women, I’m just saying that 6’4 is about as appealing to me as 5’1 in that they’re both turnoffs. I’m a data point that you can point to and say, not all women want 666!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:01 PM
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Eh, I’m talking about how they’re easy to obtain for me, since most guys I’m around are in the 5’9 to 5’11 range and make 150k+. If you’re a woman set on 6ft+ idk how to help you lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:59 PM
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6 figure income is the norm among my region and social circle, so 100% of my dating offers clear that bar. 5’9-5’11 is my sweet spot. 6ft guys and above are too tall for me, since I’m 5’4. It’s giraffe territory up there. Physically, there is an UPPER LIMIT to what my vagina can handle, and 6 in, like 6ft guys, is uncomfortably long. The numbers are easy to obtain. You completely missed the qualities that are actually difficult to find in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:18 AM
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As a woman, hard agree. Being picky means maybe I turn down a cool guy or two. But it also means I’ve avoided 99% of unpleasant and uncomfortable experiences that other women have gone through.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:32 PM
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Doesn’t know how to cook. It really depends on your life growing up as well as how many years you’ve been living without your parents. At 22, men around my age range who don’t know how to cook is a little sus, but acceptable if they’re actively learning. On the flip side, men who are INCREDIBLE cooks at my age range gain a lot of sexy points. Ngl I once got aroused at how precisely my date was chopping onions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:57 PM
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So. I’m hearing you wouldn’t date anyone except one-person business owners??? Nurses are male lmao, baristas are male, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:54 PM
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Totally fair! Hm, I consider HVW qualities to be feminine in demeanor (pleasant, friendly, down to earth, clean and neat), competent in both supporting oneself financially as well as household tasks (investing in s&p 500, contributing to retirement, frugal, cooks healthy food, and organized), dependable, physically fit. Edit for your second q: I believe HVM and HVW are rare. I don’t claim to know many HVW, I only speak for women I respect and look up to among my friends and acquaintances. Howeve…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:56 AM
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That explains it!!! Dang. I always find my looksmatches to be hot and butterfly-inducing, but actually hot guys are more… painting or sculpture level of attractiveness. Objectively nice to look at, but they do nothing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:37 AM
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Ah true. I don’t rly ask my friends about their sex life when they’re in a LTR 😅 it’s not something we talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:34 AM
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I’m happy you have a happy relationship! And that woman definitely sounds out of the norm, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:01 AM
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Mm. For context my friends care more about their career than men — since they’re in male dominated industries it’s quite easy to secure commitment if you just try to keep fit lol. I sometimes ask my bff “what type of family do you want? What type of man do you want?” And she’s more concerned about the tech startup she’s gonna build one day LOL. Also she has zero problem with dating, like ten orbiters even tho she’s in a relationship. Also I’m setting expectations way low for my STEM lady homies …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:00 AM
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OP asked for where they can find women who don’t have casual sex and also can pay their own way and I answered lol, idk why you’re upset about this
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:46 AM
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Then… don’t date the type of woman I described? These are the women I hang out with, super down to earth and emotionally regulated (I’m the slut and crazy one and I’m nowhere NEAR legit slutty/crazy) but if you really need sex more than once a week and women who dress in any aesthetic other than normcore… these wholesome women are not for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:45 AM
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Also, I’ve noticed that most redditors on PPD are not representative of the wealth distribution of the US. It skews UMC in this sub, which is why I feel comfortable making generalizations about UMC women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:43 AM
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I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want a man who makes more. BUT. That’s very different from a man who was BORN with more. I like men from normal middle class homes who decided to advance their family by studying and working in something lucrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:42 AM
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Women who don’t have a religious reason to not have sex, AND don’t have sex means… they don’t rly like sex all that much. They might find it fun occasionally, but there’s usually a myriad of other things that are more interesting and stimulating to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:40 AM
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Not to similarly studious, nerdy, mellow dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:36 AM
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Idk what women you’re hanging around then. I consider the women I surround myself with as HVW, and unearned wealth is pretty boring since all of us are in the 1% of earners in the US. We’d rather date a man with a lot of potential than an old man who has nowhere to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:25 AM
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High income and well educated women. I don’t mean bachelors degree in accounting, I’m talking masters or PhD students, engineers, law students. These women have usually been studying since they were young and consider casual sex to be a waste of time. You do have to be ok with the low maintenance, ACTUAL no makeup woman. Not “no makeup makeup”. These women will usually pair up with other engineers and grad students. They will not be at bars. They will not be at clubs. They will not be at malls. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:23 AM
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Ambition is sexy and high value. If you’re born rich, there’s a VERY high chance you’re complacent. Unearned wealth is sexy to women who don’t have any more to offer than their bodies, but is very boring to a HVW. Show me a man who is hungry and ravenous to achieve his goals, and it is guaranteed that there are women who want him in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:12 AM
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I care. I was once dating a guy who had a nearly “perfect month” after a bad breakup, and it gave me the ick the few months we were seeing each other. Ultimately, like a high n count for women, it was a symptom of deeper issues — in this case, raging insecurity. Current bf has a functional n-count of 3 (I don’t include 2 because they were pretty sad circumstances) and I wouldn’t care if he had up to like, 7 or so given his attractiveness (gets gawked at by girls when we’re out together type of h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:47 AM
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Depends on the reason. I was a very angry, awkward, proud, and vulnerable girl in high school due to family issues. Dating was my only outlet for building intimate relationships without the fear of punishment. Dating mellowed me out a little, and dating in college mellowed me out more. Now I’m much more secure, reasonable, and positive, and I’m sure if I hadn’t dated then I’d be stunted socially. I’m sure that people who grew up in healthy, communicative families don’t necessarily need to enter …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:06 AM
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Yikes! Sorry to hear that. Well from our interaction you seem pretty solidly mature and self aware, and I hope that you find someone who matches you in those respects one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:53 PM
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Oh, it used to bother me for a while but I’ve made peace with it — I want men who can approach me after we speak and they like my personality. And I just hit one year with my (white, kinda ridiculously handsome) bf, so definitely not upset anymore. It’s just the cold hard truth. Ironically it’s after I started dating my bf that I started dressing nicer, learning how to do makeup, and working out more. A large part of me wants to look good for him, whereas I really wasn’t motivated to get the val…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:26 PM
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Haha. That would be interesting! And I am in a male dominated space (software engineering, before that computer science at university) but even so — men who choose this line of work would rather be alone than approach a woman who isn’t what they envision as hot. It really doesn’t help that although I’m chinese I don’t embody classical Asian standards of attractiveness, and that most men I’m around are, as you might guess, Asian. Disclaimer: I’m not fat and no one would ever consider me fat, I ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:15 PM
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Ah. Then for women who are used to sexual validation, hot ones yes, anyone below a 7 no. Speaking as a woman in the 5-7 range lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:50 PM
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Mm. From my experience, men seem to take being listened to and believed pretty for granted (IRL, not here on PPD).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:41 PM
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Understood! I’m well aware of how important sex is for the male psyche, it was just a cheeky comment to the previous commenter who didn’t seem to understand how important emotional validation was to women, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:02 PM
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Haha! Appreciate it. And I understand the importance of sex, it was a cheeky comment lol. Have a good night!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:06 AM
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Idk. How is sex useful?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:58 AM
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Venting is wanting a man’s emotional involvement. We want sympathy and understanding. Nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:43 PM
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Frankly, I don’t know. I have a very weird relationship with casual sex, in that the sex was one-sided in my benefit. I’ve never pleasured a hookup, they’ve only pleasured me. I had emotional lows where I needed physical touch and pleasure, and was able to obtain that with zero risk to my comfort. Never gave a blowjob, never even touched a hookup’s dick. I was also able to move on very quickly from FWBs due to this. And never had to worry about getting pregnant lol. I do believe that my approach…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:36 PM
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Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski should be required reading for sex ed classes, and for anyone who is a woman / is interested in getting with a woman sexually. It’s illuminated A LOT about how my body works, and I’ve seen improvement in my sex life with my bf after even reading a few chapters. It would honestly solve a lot of the PPD discussion / CMVs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:14 PM
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Men shouldn’t be dating if they can’t firmly tell a woman what they want. Aren’t y’all supposed to lead?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:42 AM
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Maybe I’m built different then. If a man clearly states he wants a relationship (not necessarily with me, just that he’s looking for one), that means he’s mature enough to want one and is actively evaluating me as much as, if not more than, I am. I then want to be my best for him. When my boyfriend started reading relationship books in order to consider whether or not he wants to marry me, it motivated me into working out more frequently and doing my makeup more. I also feel more secure in the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 02:41 AM
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Are men incapable of communication? Men are also capable of defining a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 02:05 AM
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We’re dating. If you’re talking to me, the lowest bar is that you’re not wasting my time. This goes for anyone in life. If I’m sitting at a table with you, we’re both there in good faith and honesty. Parents, friends, coworkers, etc. there is some abstraction with politeness, but everything should be clear enough so that we both know what’s going on. If I say I’m looking for “something serious”, a guy should understand that I’m looking for a long term relationship leading to marriage. That’s wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 02:03 AM
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Huge fear — it’s why I didn’t have sex until I was totally financially independent. My boyfriend waited for almost a year until I was ready. By the time we started having sex, I had interacted with his nuclear family multiple times, met his grandma, his grandma’s sister, and knew their entire family history. I knew that they were people with morals and a sense of duty, and even if my bf decided to shirk his responsibility if I got pregnant, his parents would whip him into shape. It’s not a fucki…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:22 PM
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Oh I absolutely understand daddy issues. Birth father — crap excuse for a Chinese man, ran off to China when I was 7. Zero sense of responsibility for me and my brother. Ghosted me a few years back. Stepfather — an improvement in that he’s loyal and sticks around. Mental age stuck at 14. Thinks that just because he’s financially contributing he is exempted from any criticism on his shoddy character. Endlessly critical of me and my brother. Made home not feel like home. Me: had a long string of (…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 10:23 PM
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Hot take: 20 year old men should be ready and willing and mature enough to be in an adult relationship with children and a wife. Uncomfortable with that? Then 20 year old women should not be in adult relationships with 30 year old men getting ready to get pregnant and have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 08:39 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I’m well aware of the clock and will not hesitate to dump my bf if there’s no formal commitment within a reasonable timeline.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 07:16 PM
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Software engineering, top 10 school, SF/Bay Area. People were actually concerned that my job offered a salary that was too low for my skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 06:48 PM
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So here’s the thing — there’s not a single man in my social/career circle making less than me. I’d actually have to go on the apps to meet men making less. My bf makes around 1.5x as much as I do. If you’re in my field and making less than me… idk bro you haven’t tried at all in life. I realize how this “limits” my dating pool but I like my dating pool limited — fewer options means less wasted time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 06:22 PM
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I don’t date for shits and giggles, I date to evaluate for marriage so it’s just gonna be one answer for me. I have no desire to be pressured back into the workforce before the youngest of my children turn 5. I want to be there as their mom, not a daycare teacher, not his or my parents. This may mean I’m out of the workforce for 6-10 years, depending on how many children we end up having. I am so excited to be a mom and I intend on giving it my all. Therefore, I want a man who takes pride in and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 04:31 AM
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Today I learned something new! Very cool!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 04:10 AM
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Mine is suppressed by years of purity culture so it’s pretty frustrating for both me and my bf, but I’ll try to explain my side. For me it’s — dominant, attractive, good to me, and determined with intent. A dominant, attractive man who wants to have sex? Meh. A dominant, attractive man with a track record of kindness to myself and the people around him? Ok now I’m horny. A dominant, attractive, kind and attentive man who really, REALLY wants to win me over and make out with me? Pls fuck me daddy…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 04:08 AM
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I want to cook 10 times in September. It’s fairly easy for me to skip dinner because my company reimburses lunches (so I eat a lot at lunch and skip dinner) but I miss the relaxing, ritual nature of preparing a nice meal. I want to run 3 times a week this month. I like how I feel after a nice run and I’d like to improve my speed so I can run with a faster friend instead of alone. I want to make use of my yoga membership 4 times this month. I want to get better at handling my family and my boyfri…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 12:45 AM
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Hey just fyi, homely means ugly. I think you meant homey?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 12:37 AM
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Oof, that’s not how math is supposed to be taught. Then this probably isn’t the right major for you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 11:19 PM
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It’s difficult if you overestimate your abilities. However if you’re inclined to math and technical subjects it’s a doable major. Most things in life are hard, you just need to pick what is worth slogging through. I thought it was completely worth it and probably the best 60K ever spent.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 03:03 PM
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Ah gotcha, misunderstood your sentiment.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/22 11:04 PM
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Reddit has a lot of majority male subs. It’s not too much to ask for an exclusively female sub.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/22 10:03 PM
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I’m not so concerned about my bf’s masculinity as I am about simple respect. I’d phrase this as “how do you see our lives once we’re married and have a baby?” And do an open ended question like that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 03:47 AM
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Seconding this comment! And definitely split it up among your housemates and rotate chores each week. You should not be cleaning up after 3 men lol. Also, no app is necessary, just have a written schedule with all possible permutations of chore division, and like have a little magnet that points to which permutation y'all are doing that week.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 09:41 PM
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The violence is completely overblown and sensationalized. Yes, these incidents happen, but the American view of India is that it’s horrifyingly misogynistic to women, and we do not understand why women choose to stay there 🤷‍♀️. So the reality is far from the horrifying news you see. The United States is vast and all but the most conservative regions are very multicultural. My brother (Chinese American) didn’t have any friends who WEREN’T Indian growing up.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 07:31 AM
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I struggle with girly femininity, but I remember when my boyfriend commented on how feminine I was for the first time. I froze. I’m a t shirt and jeans lady. I’m a “never wears makeup” because I found it fussy — lady. I said, there are so many other feminine women out there at our school. I always thought I was rather masculine in comparison. He replied, “yeah, there are a lot of girls who dress well and are hot, but idk… they’re a little combative and I feel like I’m their competition. Your mot…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 04:46 AM
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Sorry I put the appearance stuff first because I’ve been there, and it SUCKS not being seen as a Woman but as a sexless Ugly Girl. Onto the Advice: Get into fashion a little bit. It’s overwhelming for women but I’m happy to help if you want to dm me sometime. Getting a pair of jeans that fit me well and a comfortable, cute pair of shoes gave me the fake confidence I needed to spend more time on campus and saying hi to people in the library, in class, at office hours etc. From there you can build…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 04:34 AM
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Hi! I’m a Chinese woman with wavy, frizzy, thick hair. Greatest thing I did was looking up the curlyhair subreddit! Just r slash curlyhair. Brief TL;DR of how I got my hair from frizzy mess to thick, glossy waves: [ONLY DO THIS ONCE] wash your hair with a shampoo that includes sulfate. Your basic Pantene will do. Obtain shampoo and conditioner without sulfates and silicones, respectively. There’s a tool on the subreddit that will help you interpret ingredients. I use Tresemme botanique shampoo a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 04:24 AM
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You don’t need to find a lot of men, you just need to find one. Things I’d advise compromising on: - ethnicity/culture of origin - specifics of attractiveness, I read your standards below and they’re reasonable if you’re being truthful to your nature - hard measures of intelligence such as grades, IQ etc, educational background within reason Things I’d never advise compromising on: - shared morals and life goals - general timeline (2-3 years off from yours is not a big deal, 5+ is a dealbreaker …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 04:13 AM
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22F, only very recently lost my virginity to my bf who I’ve been dating for almost a year. I feel you. I have been horny for many years. And the advice I got at the time was “masturbate or otherwise get rid of the horniness”. It sounds trite and dismissive but this is the way to go. I’m very happy my major sexual experiences were with this current man. Get a reasonably sized dildo (not too large), read some smut, and release the horny. I also second another commenter who said to unsubscribe to t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 03:37 AM
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I’ve never dated over 5 years my age or under 1 year my age, but from my limited experience, different stages of life don’t correlate AT ALL to maturity or masculinity. For context, I’m currently 22 and in a relatively long term relationship with another 22 year old. Before him, I’ve dated guys who are financially independent and have their own apartments and are making 200k+ (software/quantitative analysis) who were 2-3 years older than me, but these were usually the type of guys who sucked at …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 09:47 PM
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I think you’re falling into the “not like other girls” mindset. Most girls are like this — if not explicitly submissive, most of us want to chill with people we trust and live a low key life. But you will never see them out, because… they’re also at home with their boyfriends and their roommates who they bake and cook and play board games with. I am also quite lonely. I’m 22, working professional, and live with my boyfriend and 5 male housemates (big house haha) but I feel the need for female co…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 10:45 PM
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100% helps. It helps you realize that the ex isn't some sort of demigod, he's a real person and his talents and skills are attainable. It humanizes him and other men so you can approach dating in a more sane way. Source: My ex worked out and did pushups and planks, I trained myself to do the same. Definitely improved my attitude towards dating.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 04:38 AM
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Hey! They came in :) Too long for anyone under 5'5 tbh, but super soft and cozy and cute. I'd recommend!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 10:56 PM
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Hey, also 22F professional gal here. I just finished school as well. I second the other commenter, it does sound like you're burnt out! Instead of diving full time into feminine/homemaker/baker/sexy lady, I think you just need to make some time in your schedule to rest and recharge. I love cooking and making the home feel soft and welcoming along with an assortment of other feminine activities, but I also love working and contributing to projects and writing code and getting that bread. The only…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 10:50 PM
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Macy's has great variety and good quality. Natural materials are better than poly. If you want silky/satin, buy actual silk, not polyester. I went to Lively's 2 for $50 tab and got a few cute sets for $50 each, no word on quality yet since they haven't arrived but I'll update when they do! https://www.wearlively.com/collections/2-for-50-mix-match-your-way
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 06:57 PM
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I genuinely don’t see why you feel guilty about saying what you said… I’m concerned about his behavior towards you in public and his refusal for you to treat your vaginismus.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 09:12 PM
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Not enough info for us to help you. We need your: Age, current occupation, religion (if any), location (region, [urban, suburban, rural]), current evaluation of your mental health, physical appearance, and social skills. We need your guys': Age, religion/political orientation, where you met him. It is entirely possible to go on 100+ dates and not find someone suitable if you're: a) looking in the wrong place. b) not ready to date. c) too picky. We simply don't have enough info to help you yet. P…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 11:06 PM
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I think you handled this situation well. As for your question, I'd ask your fiancé first. It's understandable to feel fear in situations like these, you're not crazy and you're not alone in this.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 08:59 PM
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Your parents chose to invest in your future, and everything that you have experienced and learned in college eventually led you to your current (happy!) state. It's good for you to feel a sense of indebtedness to your parents (more people should), but try to channel your gratitude in healthier ways. How often do you visit them? Visit them more, if possible. How often do you call? Call more, if possible. Let them know you appreciate them and love them in ways other than your state of employment.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 06:25 PM
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It’s a good thing he’s just a boyfriend, otherwise I’d not have good advice. I dated someone like this. Lasted 2 months before I got sick of it and broke up with him. He asked for feedback, I cited this as a main reason, he couldn’t wrap his head around why it was wrong / irritating. I moved on to a man with strong morals but also a very curious and explorative mindset. Dating is for vetting. Marriage is for maintaining. If you’ve already emphasized how important peaceful discourse is to you and…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 05:21 PM
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That isn’t going against traditional values. It’s going against basic trust and honesty.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 06:04 AM
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Difference is, men don’t have sex with other men. Women act as “emotional tampons” to each other.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 06:15 PM
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Was with you until the housing prices knock. The only reason I’ll be able to buy a house in the area I grew up one day is because I’m in the 90th percentile of earners. Lots of people earning a normal income are planning on leaving the state. My older, boomer neighbor was an elementary school teacher when he bought his house near ours. Was it because he was just a better saver? Hell no. Housing prices to average income ratio was a lot better for the normal person.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 11:58 PM
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If being educated on these matters is important to you, don’t stop. Worst thing that can happen is you damp down how much you love STEM and constantly feel stifled in a relationship where the guy expects to be the expert and feels insecure about your expertise. I’m much more intelligent than my boyfriend and we get along great. He acknowledges my higher all-around knowledge base and intelligence as a fact of life (“something would have to be seriously wrong with the world if I knew more than you…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 01:10 AM
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Ew
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/22 06:08 PM
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Clean HIS room????
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 04:52 PM
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So you’re telling me my bf is straight up lying? He was genuinely surprised when I told him the same — that men literally never approached me irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 03:33 AM
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Men seem to think that women lead this charmed life, full of handsome male suitors approaching us and taking us out on dates. That's true for like, the top 10% of women who hide their personality. I have a friend who is swarmed by male attention but it's because a) she has a pretty face + is skinny and b) she never ever says anything even mildly spicy, all she does is nod and smile and blandly agree with other people when in public. I'd rate myself an honest 7 and I've only ever been approached …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 11:23 PM
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Like a leader is. How do you expect someone to follow an incompetent, whiny, self absorbed man child?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 09:16 PM
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You say the changes happened after the birth of your child. A very common mistake for men is to underestimate the drastic effects of childbirth and infant care on their wife. How much sleep is she getting? How much are you pitching in to make sure the mother of your daughter isn’t overwhelmed? Chances are she sees you as useless and that is the root of her contempt. Be useful. Be a man. Don’t be a whiny pussy like you are in this post.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 09:09 PM
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is something preventing men from complimenting each other? I'm happy with complimenting my significant other, but it's just not appropriate to compliment single men because they always, always take it as a sign of interest.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 09:53 PM
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Hey, I'm about to graduate college. I study Computer Science. I understand and empathize with the exhaustion and the hopelessness that a lot of people our age feel. Why work? Why try? The world is going to shit anyway. Why do anything except cozy into our little cocoon where we feel safe and protected (by a man) and do the little cutesy things that we like to do? Why do anything difficult and not absolutely idyllic? I will say this – high school is rough and everyone is immature. Even past high …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 08:51 AM
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Do you know what “over the moon” means?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:53 PM
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I hate bracelets and rings because they get in the way of coding, so I’d want a gold necklace with some precious stone, either jade, diamond, ruby, or amethyst. I’d like the proposal to be private. A nice meal and a quiet walk in a sentimental location would be perfect. Both of us should be feeling safe, loved, and relaxed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:25 PM
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