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| 4 | Don't Tell Her Shit - The Fallacy of DisclosureThe irony is that you started being more honest with her, which is the exact opposite of what this post suggests. Beforehand you were running a strategy (the 'nice guy say what you think she wants to hear strategy') - you just weren't running a very good strategy. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/02/18 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Age based anxietyNot to generalise or anything | /r/seduction | 22/12/17 07:19 AM |
| 3 | Age based anxietyThis is me with my gf (she's 23): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uulVccCE0Jk I've found as I've gotten older that it's been much easier to attract women in their early to mid 20s (much easier than it was at that age). However I don't have the benefit of hindsight to see whether I would be more successful if I went back to being 22 with the knowledge I have now. I also made this video Do Women Like Older Men? which may help. It's about how you compete with the younger guys as you get older. What… | /r/seduction | 21/12/17 03:34 PM |
| 1 | How do I reconcile a high sex drive with my quiet and introverted nature?I posted this Youtube playlist which may help: Dating Advice For Introverted Men | /r/seduction | 21/12/17 11:07 AM |
| 5 | Age based anxietyI'm 38, also in the UK. Men get more attractive with age - providing you keep committing to improving yourself year on year. Make sure every year you can look back and see how you are better than you were this time last year. If you were a woman posting this, you'd have a point. But you're not and you don't. | /r/seduction | 21/12/17 11:04 AM |
| 2 | I use too many interview questions with girls. How should I be more light and flirty instead?Welcome! | /r/seduction | 21/12/17 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Here's What's Happening if You Keep Getting Friendzoned After DatesNot listening or understanding. Ok. | /r/seduction | 20/12/17 06:13 PM |
| 7 | How does one practice without danger of being accused of "sexual harrassment" and treated like a predator?Learning social calibration - especially when a girl is into you and is inviting you to approach vs is just being polite - will go a long way. I think in the modern world, a deep empathy and understanding for how women feel when you are talking to them, and when you can/can't escalate is really necessary if you don't want to be on the receiving end of a harrassment charge. However, you have to have social interactions to learn this calibration. So it's important to understand there are environme… | /r/seduction | 20/12/17 05:06 PM |
| 4 | I use too many interview questions with girls. How should I be more light and flirty instead?Made this video with my gf a couple of months back. It should help: How to Talk to Women: 4 Dreadful Mistakes and 1 Top Tip | /r/seduction | 20/12/17 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Here's What's Happening if You Keep Getting Friendzoned After DatesWomen want to feel safe and protected. This is a fact. This has nothing to do with 'nice guy behavior'. They want to feel safe and protected, but how they get that feeling of safety and protection differes from woman to woman. Some women date abusers because that makes them feel safe and protected. They think that any man who is nice to them is a wuss, or can't be trusted. "I'm a worthless piece of shit - only people who treat me that way are honest and trustworthy." You've read a bunch of stuff… | /r/seduction | 20/12/17 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Here's What's Happening if You Keep Getting Friendzoned After DatesNowhere did I say you need to 'force a kiss that is out of place'. | /r/seduction | 19/12/17 01:28 PM |
| 9 | What would you do in this situation?You had nothing to say to the guy but you found a way of initiating conversation with him. What's the difference between this and 'just initiating conversation' with a girl? | /r/seduction | 18/12/17 08:21 AM |
| 1 | "I dont give my phone number to everyone"Right, because girls love it when they say 'no' to guys, then the guy acts like a stalker and tracks them down on FB. Guess the strategy after this is to like everything she posts? | /r/seduction | 18/12/17 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Telling women about prior illnessLots of fear based advice here 'don't tell her, what if she doesn't like it!' If she doesn't like it...she can fuck off. The key when you're sharing any kind of vulnerability is to own it. Don't be a victim about it, don't look for sympathy. You just talk about it like it's matter of fact - I went through some cancer stuff, it was serious at the time and was hard to go through, but I'm fine now. Then move on...'anyway, you were saying before...blah blah' If she wants to ask you more about it, th… | /r/seduction | 14/12/17 01:27 PM |
| 3 | Is Asking for Sexual History a Red Flag?It doesn't mean anything. We have nowhere near enough info about the context of the convo to ascertain anything here. | /r/seduction | 06/12/17 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Not being needy vs being way too aloof/uncaring?You don't need to be aloof. You need to be willing to walk away if she doesn't meet your standards of character/behaviour. So your attitude is not one of 'I'll pretend I don't like you', it's 'you seem great so far, but that could change at any time'. | /r/seduction | 14/11/17 07:59 AM |
| 1 | How to Make Women Chase You (Quick Tip)Haha I’ll set them up, you knock them down | /r/seduction | 13/11/17 08:15 PM |
| 1 | How to Make Women Chase You (Quick Tip)Ha well that strategy works a treat on my cat, less so in the local club though | /r/seduction | 13/11/17 07:06 PM |
| 1 | 40[M] going through a major dry spell - what can I do???Standard advice is work out, focus on your career, blah blah. Reality is...for many guys, they try to tell themselves 'I'm an attractive guy, I deserve a great woman'. But then that voice in their head pipes up 'no you don't, you're a loser'. This is a disparity between the conscious and subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is like the most critical parent ever. It watches everything you say and do (even the things you think about), it analyses your results and makes its mind up how worthy … | /r/seduction | 10/11/17 07:51 AM |
| 0 | How to Find the Woman You Most Want: A 10-Step ProcessBecause there is a conversation going on at the level of energy/presence which most men have no idea about. They are busy learning what to say and do, conversation skills, how to be charming etc. A strong energy bypasses the need for all this stuff. It's like having a machine gun against a water pistol. | /r/seduction | 09/11/17 09:42 AM |
| 6 | Does anyone feel like learning seduction has drained their soul?You're going down a very dark path here, my friend. You need to make a change asap. | /r/seduction | 09/11/17 09:40 AM |
| 2 | How to Find the Woman You Most Want: A 10-Step ProcessThat's a pity, because it's by far the most important. | /r/seduction | 08/11/17 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Strong Silent Type or Shy Silent Type?What do you get out of making comments like this? | /r/seduction | 31/10/17 06:52 PM |
| 1 | "The Sculpture In Blankets": A Question all Introverts Need To Ask ThemselvesGlad you liked! | /r/seduction | 20/10/17 03:29 PM |
| 1 | "The Sculpture In Blankets": A Question all Introverts Need To Ask ThemselvesI don't know what video you were watching. | /r/seduction | 20/10/17 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Enough is enough!Calmness trumps everything (inner calm, not outer calm). | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Enough is enough!Focus on the inner peace and happiness beyond everything else. I promise you, when you actually get this right (and you're not pretending anymore, you really are calm and happy), the rest of your life will start to take care of itself. Questions you are struggling to figure out right now will cease to exist because you'll be operating on an entirely different level. If I could give my 25 year old self one piece of advice it would be to focus less on 'skill moves' and conversation skills, wit, ch… | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Enough is enough!One thing I have learned in my 12+ year journey in all this...charm is massively overrated. So is confidence and humour for that matter. They are cool things to have, sure...but you don't need them. To think 'if I was more charming I'd get more attractive women' is a mistake. | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 12:07 PM |
| 1 | Something about 10s I'm curious aboutThe mistake most guys (especially in pickup) make is they make looks the most important thing. They also use it as a barometer to show how successful they are and how much they have progressed in game 'I used to only get 7s, but now I regularly get 9s and 10s!' What good is it getting 9s and 10s if you don't actually enjoy being with them beyond the sex? What good is it if they just lie there looking bored during sex? What good is it if they don't get your jokes, if they don't make you laugh, if… | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 07:53 AM |
| 1 | What are simple decent casual compliments to give to a girl without looking awkward or creepy?2 things: Make sure your compliment is genuine. You're not saying 'nice dress' because you think it could be a way in to talk to her. You're saying it because you think it's a nice dress. If you don't think it, don't say it. Be specific. Don't just say 'nice dress', say what you like about the dress. Say why you like it. Say why you prefer it to what other women are wearing (women love to be compared favourably to other women). | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 07:24 AM |
| 2 | I really cant stand shit tests, what should I do?This. When your energy doesn’t match the words coming out of your mouth, women feel it and test the fuck out of you. I used to get tons of shit tests, now get very few. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Questions to ask a girl to really get to know her better, and at the same time get her excited to talk about herself?Great thanks, glad you liked it! What did you take from it specifically? | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 01:47 PM |
| 5 | Tinder- matches; no conversationsGood: you're reading their profile and trying to write a unique message that gets their interest. Not so good: you're asking questions you don't give a shit about the answer to and that require too much effort for her to respond. 'Which plant would you recommend and why'...that requires more than a 2 word response, which she's unlikely to want to do with a guy she's not chatted to yet. Make it easier for her to respond. Anything that grabs her curiosity...'omg it's you!!!' or 'you certainly pull… | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 06:55 AM |
| 5 | Questions to ask a girl to really get to know her better, and at the same time get her excited to talk about herself?You can get pretty deep rapport within about 10 mins if you do it right. I made this video on how to talk to girls yesterday. By all means watch the whole thing, but in particular look at 11:30 where I introduce the onion model of rapport. I think you'll find it useful. Thinking of doing a longer video on that next week, if that would help - let me know. | /r/seduction | 08/10/17 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Friends vs Cold approachesEvery action you take, ask 'is this based in fear or love?' I know that sounds kind of wet...but it'll really help you decide whether you're doing the right thing. You're missing so many opportunities for fear of looking creepy. This girl likes you. She's matched with you on tinder. If you're not a creepy guy and your intentions are good...then talk to her. If she ends up thinking you're a weirdo (which can happen sometimes when people don't get along) then so be it. You have to learn to start p… | /r/seduction | 08/10/17 09:51 AM |
| 2 | I feel like being successful with girls has too much work involved for me.Most people are addicted to victim mentality. That feeling of 'poor me, I've been dealt shit cards in life, it's not fair, everyone else has a better hand than I do'. There are billions of people in the world who would look at you with envy. Fact is, you are where you are. Play the best hand you can with the cards you've been dealt. If you want to play the victim, great - less competition for the rest of us. If you want to take responsibility and do what is necessary to get what you want in life… | /r/seduction | 08/10/17 09:48 AM |
| 0 | How to tell if someone is lying to you. A breakdown of famous liars Bill Clinton and Lance Armstrong. Discerning Incentives and observing micro-expressions to reveal Pinocchio's. | Useful for seduction and life in generalEnjoyed your video. Found it very interesting and you obviously put a lot of work in. Still think I'm shit at spotting liars! | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 05:55 PM |
| 1 | What keeps you going despite the mistakes you make?It sounds like it's not the making of mistakes that's your problem...it's the not learning from your mistakes. If you make a mistake once, you need to review what you did, and fix the problem. And god knows what all that medication is doing to you. | /r/seduction | 06/10/17 07:17 AM |
| 2 | How am I supposed to go through life just having absolutely zero confidence?Start learning how you can make other people feel good about themselves. When you can make other people feel good, you'll start to feel like you have some value and your confidence will rise. | /r/seduction | 06/10/17 07:14 AM |
| 2 | Female Misleading communications?Few things: When posting, please split it up into paragraphs. Nobody wants to read a wall of text. Increases your chance of getting a reply too. Is 'super single' any different from single? Nobody knows what's going on here. People can guess, but the reality is...we don't know. Your best course of action is to stop trying to troubleshoot and figure out 'she did X, does it mean Y?' and attempt to move the relationship forward - ie arrange to go out with her again. Then if it goes well, kiss her a… | /r/seduction | 06/10/17 07:12 AM |
| 5 | How do I stop being so laid back and nonchalant?So what negative results occur because of this? | /r/seduction | 05/10/17 06:33 PM |
| 3 | How do I stop being so laid back and nonchalant?Why is being laid back a bad thing? You're obviously experiencing something negative from women that you're attributing to your nonchalance. What's going on? | /r/seduction | 05/10/17 06:28 PM |
| 1 | My girlfriend and I want to have a threesomeI found OK Cupid pretty good for this. There's some quite funky details on there that you can find about women to figure if they're up for this kind of thing. | /r/seduction | 05/10/17 07:25 AM |
| 3 | The Average Man on a DateYou might get the occasional test, but honestly once you get to a certain level energetically, you really don't get shit tests anymore. It's like women are already satisfied you're the real deal, and don't need to verify it every 5 minutes. | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 08:10 PM |
| 12 | The Average Man on a DateThis is the problem...you go from thinking 'I must try and impress her' to thinking 'I mustn't try to impress her because that's tryhard'... ...which is still a form of trying to impress her. The aim is to get yourself to a place where you're no longer interested in trying to manage her opinion of you. This is easy to understand, very hard to actually implement. As men we are almost hard wired to want to impress people (or the flip side of that, which is the fear of people being unimpressed by u… | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 05:04 PM |
| 5 | The Average Man on a DateDo you feel you could be more relaxed if you did the date again now, or would you still go into this anxious place? | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Best Source to learn game?Good question. It's very easy to say 'RSD' but there's a lot of RSD instructors, each with individual styles. I feel you can learn a lot from RSD but they can only take you so far. To assess whether a coach is worth listening to, ask yourself: Do you like them as a person? If not, best going somewhere else. You don't want to start becoming someone you don't like. Do you want their results? Not just in terms of pulling, but in terms of life. It may be they go out 5 nights a week for 6 hours a tim… | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 04:06 PM |
| 4 | Why do my friends exes hit on me?Not sure! Maybe you're just a fine piece of man-ass. | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 03:46 PM |
| 8 | Why do my friends exes hit on me?humblebrag | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Not hated by anyoneNo worries. You're may have to take a bit of a leap of faith before you get that confidence. You just have to go for it, and make peace with the fact that sometimes you'll get a 'no'. Over time, you'll start to naturally sense when a girl is interested, and when it's the right time to escalate. | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Not hated by anyoneSo if you knew she was interested you wouldn't have behaved differently? You wouldn't have gone in for the kiss? You wouldn't have invited her back to your place, knowing she wanted that? You wouldn't have done more to make it happen, instead of playing safe? | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Not hated by anyoneThese things are always a mental issue rather than a technical issue. Go back to some situations you had with women where it ended, but you didn't want it to. Go back and ask yourself 'if I had known, 100% without any doubt, she was really into me and wanted me to kiss her and have sex with her, what would I have done differently?' | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Is my issue lack of 'leading'?I don't want to say for sure, because I haven't found out enough about your problem. But the solution is likely to be found in 'doing vs being' which I've talked about briefly in other posts. I've promised to write a long post about it...but I'm having a tricky time articulating it (plus I'm quite lazy). | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Not hated by anyoneI'd have to ask you more detailed questions to discover exactly what's going on, but your problem right now almost certainly isn't a lack of game...it's thinking you need game. Right now I bet you're psyching yourself out either before you speak to a girl or during, eg 'she wouldn't be interested in me'...'oh she's being nice but I bet she's just being friendly' etc. | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 11:53 AM |
| 1 | Is my issue lack of 'leading'?Honestly, your entire energy is one of 'how can I impress her?' It's like you're trying to complete one of the old Mario games from the 90s..."if I jump over the gaping chasm, avoid the rolling log and beat the end boss, I get the girl!" "But if I get any of it wrong...I'm fucked". This is your problem. It's not a technical issue. It's what I call 'The Comedy Central' problem. If she was watching Comedy Central, she might be entertained for a short time and carry on watching. But the second the … | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Not hated by anyoneBased on this, it sounds like this particular area isn't the issue for you. If you have problems with women, I don't think it's because you aren't hated enough. | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Where to take girls if I don't have anything exciting going on?What happens to make them start becoming hostile? | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 09:21 AM |
| 5 | I used to slay but was a loser. Worked on self-improvement and became a better man. Now cant even get a girl interested in me. WTF happened?Yes, absolutely. I'm trying to figure the best way to write a post on this, because it's not the easiest to articulate in simple plain text. In the meantime, I can recommend a book called 'Letting Go' by David Hawkins. You can find it for about $10 on Amazon. It won't fix you as such, but it will get you thinking in the right way, and on the right path. | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Direct approach is needyNeediness is something that is part of you, not your actions. If you're needy, going direct will seem needy. Going indirect will also seem needy. Not approaching will also seem needy. If you're not needy, you can do whatever you want and not seem needy. | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 07:03 AM |
| 12 | I used to slay but was a loser. Worked on self-improvement and became a better man. Now cant even get a girl interested in me. WTF happened?It goes to prove that it's not external shit that impresses girls, it's the energy/vibe/presence you put out into the world. Can't tell exactly what's going on from the level of detail you've given, but I mentioned in another thread yesterday about a concept I borrowed from Buddhist philosophy and applied to dating, which I call.... "Doing vs Being" Doing is where you have a good job. You have good conversation skills, you take her on a date to the right place, you say the right things, you make… | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 06:43 AM |
| 3 | Attractive ways of making interest clear?Most women have an assumption that men are super needy, and will be interested in any non-disgusting woman who is interested in them. When talking with a man, they never get the feeling he is trying to find out if she is the right kind of woman for him - instead they feel he is trying to impress her. Trying to figure out how to 'crack the safe'. Hence, when they display interest the woman assumes it comes from this place of 'anyone will do, but you're in front of me now so I'm interested in you'… | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Girls get scared when they realize I have my shit together?You're going to have to get more specific about what happens when girls lose interest in you. Is it always at a particular point? (like several dates in) Is it always after you've said or done something? There's absolutely zero reason for girls to lose interest in you because you're not screwing up your life. What's funny is the number of guys at your age who say 'I am screwing up my life. I live with my parents and have zero career prospects. This is why I can't get a girl!' As guys, we always … | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Where to take girls if I don't have anything exciting going on?Ok...let me start by asking you - what's going wrong in your interactions with guys? What typically happens? | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 06:14 AM |
| 6 | Attractive ways of making interest clear?The premise that ‘approaching is neediness’ is not one I fully buy into. Yes, for most men it is very needy because of their underlying beliefs (‘I hope I can impress her/get her number’). But what if you approach from a place of curiosity? Sure, she looks great but what else has she to offer? If the answer turns out to be ‘not much’, you happily walk away. Is that needy? I think not. | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Should I (hard case) go to my college ball alone?Ever seen a man walk into a room who just grabbed everyone's attention, even before he opened his mouth? This is the power of energy and presence. Women especially are super attuned to it. If you feel like shit and your thoughts are all victim related, you'd better believe women can smell that on you from a mile off. | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Am I just a hopeless case...?Everyone screws up. Next time, you'll remember how you feel now (regret) and think 'no regrets this time!' You'll be able to accept the fear of rejection, because the lingering feeling of regret is far worse. For me, the feeling of rejection lasts about 30 seconds (max), but regret...that can stay for days and days. Longer in situations where I really messed up. | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Should I (hard case) go to my college ball alone?Right now you seem to be in very much a 'poor me' place where you're feeling sorry for yourself. That's understandable when things aren't going as you want, but it isn't attractive. | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 03:23 PM |
| 2 | How to turn small talk into a numberRight now, you don't want to hear mindset stuff. I wouldn't have done back when I was in your position either. I wanted top PUAs to give me awesome shit to say to impress the girl and 'get her number'. As opposed how I feel now... Men and women are meant to be attracted to each other. You don't build attraction. It's either there naturally, or it's not. When I speak to her, I'm feeling the energy between us to see if there's a natural spark (even though I might be talking about mundane shit like… | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 02:08 PM |
| 4 | How to turn small talk into a numberYou have a problem in that your mindset is always fucking you over before you've even started. Right now you're in a place where you're keen to impress her and you're analysing every conversation topic as to whether it's good enough, or not good enough. This puts you right in your head, into an anxious state where you're saying things and watching her to try and assess 'did she like that? Was that good enough?' You've put her on a pedestal and she's done nothing to earn it. | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 01:07 PM |
| 2 | Not hated by anyoneI wouldn't advise a course of action that leads you to attempting to become more hated! Instead, in each situation you find yourself, ask yourself 'how close am I to expressing myself honestly?' What many men find is the more attractive the woman gets, the harder they find it to 'be themselves'. They either try too hard or they become too shy. You'll find that if you express yourself honestly, there will be moments when you're controversial, because your view will differ from the norm. And there… | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 12:57 PM |
| 2 | I'm really depressed and don't know how to turn it around.How many good things have you done for other people this week? Generally the biggest problem with depression is apathy - the feeling of 'what's the point in trying, nothing works out anyway'. If you can help improve the lives of others (even in a small way), there's a good chance you'll start to feel better, assuming you're depressed because of low serotonin levels, or other brain chemical imbalances. | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 12:11 PM |
| 2 | What should I do if I’m on the edge of giving up and going mgtow?It's clear from your post you really don't like women. It might help to spend some thinking about the question "If I was in the shoes of the women I speak to, would I react in the same way?" When you gain some empathy and stop thinking they are all immature and stop calling them 'basic bitches' you might get to the point where you like women. This will be a big step to getting success. Your mindset right now seems to be one of 'I'll start liking those bitches when they like me'...in reality, the… | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Let's talk about how many approaches you need to be making in order to get good at thisThe main mistake guys make is they think this is a technical problem (ie 'if I learn more things to say, get better at conversation skills, learn some funny comebacks...one day I'll be good enough'). It's actually a mental/mindset issue. | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 11:49 AM |
| 5 | Where to take girls if I don't have anything exciting going on?There's a number of things in this post that need unwravelling. You not having fun things in your life stops you approaching and starting convos. Does it? Or is that just a handy story you tell yourself rather than 'I'm scared to approach'? If 90% of guys hate you, you are doing something wrong. If you're the kind of man who women in general like (and you're not being some fake badboy overcompetitive 'alpha male'), men tend to like you too. If you want I can ask you more questions to find out wh… | /r/seduction | 03/10/17 11:04 AM |
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