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Exactly. Though men WITH money do often enjoy giving their women lavish gifts or plan expensive trips, etc if it’s of their own accord
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:47 PM
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you can do 9 holes especially twilight hours for like $30-40 per person that's pretty cheap imo
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 07:25 PM
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muni golf is like $30 for 9 holes per person esp if you go around 3/4pm....that is NOT expensive. a lot cheaper than a meal and a couple drinks per person. but there's lots of other cheap activities that i've done on dates: bowling, mini golf, paddle boarding, walks, etc. idk why some men on here make everything about money i make more than average but i wouldn't say it's insane
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 07:24 PM
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LOL. none of those activities are expensive. a walk is free. 9 holes of golf at a muni course is pretty cheap, but most people i've dated in my current city belong to a country club/golf club so either free or pretty cheap. putt putt is cheap, bowling is cheap. i made about $170k last year in a MCOL city. i belong to a CC myself and have no trouble affording all my expensive hobbies. but if a man wanted to split the bill on a first date, i'd consider that a red flag, but i've also never had a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 08:57 PM
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as a woman who's gone on a lot of first dates over the years, i VASTLY prefer activities to dinner/drinks on a first date. i've gone on walks, played golf (usually 9 holes - but i've done 18 on a first date, also putt putt), played tennis, etc. and usually these activities lead to us getting a meal after anyways because we're enjoying our time together. it's also a more natural way to meet people imo vs forced conversation over a meal. i honestly dread going on drink/dinner first dates bc i usua…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 08:39 PM
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i wouldn't really consider STEM high value tbh....and i say that as an engineer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 04:22 PM
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I might find their face/body attractive, like I think Tom Hardy is hot AF on screen... But once I realize they’re shorter, I don’t want anything else to do with them really. I only have sex with guys I could see myself dating and I would never date someone shorter than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 02:12 PM
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I’m 5’9” and a guy just has to be taller than I am. I have dated guys the exact same height also. My bf is 6’2” and I definitely LIKE that he is taller, but that isn’t a requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 01:18 PM
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Shouldn’t that be the fathers job? My dad is the strong, silent type. He didn’t tell me anything about what boys and what to look out for. My mom taught me all of that. Mothers should teach their daughters and fathers should teach their sons. Idk why mothers would be telling their boys how to pick up women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 05:06 PM
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i don't always see it as a compliment. it's definitely been use in derogatory ways..."why aren't you more affectionate? most girls would be begging to be my girlfriend by now, but you haven't even asked" etc etc. when you look girly and feminine, men expect that you act girly and feminine. they can be both pleasantly surprised when you're not an annoying girl and at other times disappointed when you don't act like a typical girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 09:48 PM
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this morning my bf said i am incredibly unlike other girls...and it's not the first time i've heard that either. superficially, i look like a typical girl though. that said, i don't go around saying that to people. ..seems cringey. people will figure out your personality - you don't have to tell them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 08:24 PM
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high value man: UMC/UC, attractive, tall, earns a good income, socially successful, has hobbies other than video games and watching football. those men want a woman who is smart, cultured, educated, of similar socioeconomic class, can hold her own during dinner parties with executives and their wives, can teach their children on a variety of subjects, hobbies, or instruments, read classical literature to their children. he wants a woman who makes him look good and raises his children to be succe…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 03:36 AM
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ya i live in denver and average female here is nowhere near that fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 02:46 PM
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i mean i wouldn't date a guy if he wasn't attractive, socially-adjusted, and had "provider" qualities. and it's never been that hard to get boyfriends who met those criteria. so then why does TRP act like such men are hard to find?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 05:07 PM
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oh so ALL of my bfs were alpha buxx?? mmm ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 04:57 PM
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i mean, if you're REALLY not in the mood, it's still not that hard to fake it...getting into it makes it more enjoyable. no reason to starfish and make it awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 04:30 PM
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don't date a guy if you don't want to have passionate sex with him regularly. it's not that hard. i'd gladly have sex 2x/day every day with my bf. and i've kept up that pace in prior relationships. if you don't want hot sex with him on a regular basis, that's a problem. my very first bf didn't like sex enough and that put a huge strain on our relationship. it's not just a guy thing to want passionate sex with your SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 04:22 PM
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women know that most men are unattractive and only used for providing not because women find them sexy, all of my boyfriends have been both sexually attractive and had "provider" qualities. i dated them because i liked them...the relationships were pretty egalitarian. sex never slowed down. you're kind of delusional. your whole argument rests on the idea that women can't find a guy attractive and have provider qualities, which is not true. maybe spend some time around normal, well-adjusted peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 03:19 PM
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lol. i've checked out that sub periodically over the years. the men that post on there are not mentally healthy. half the stuff they post is dramatizing, a lot of it is blatantly false and easily disprovable (see here - this is flat out untrue. men are much more likely to remarry than women). you just don't like that i'm calling bullshit on the victim mentality the men have in that sub. if they don't like the way their life is going, they should take steps to change it. but it's much easier to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:20 PM
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i wrote that comment after spending roughly 15 minutes browsing the MGTOW sub. try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:59 PM
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if they truly didn't give a fuck about women and wanted to be left alone, they wouldn't be blathering on about women like they're obsessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:29 PM
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uh no, i guess not everything is about sex. but sex is DEFINITELY part of a relationship. that's basically what distinguishes friends from romantic interests. you're not romantically interested in her, so why are you even considering this?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 05:55 PM
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I wasn’t interested. how is that not your answer then???
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 07:56 AM
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it's also because if a man doesn't escalate, then he either: isn't interested enough in you is not confident enough to ask you out both of those are deal breakers. women shouldn't chase after men imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 05:20 PM
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actually they kinda are now that i think about it. they have their shit together, they've had lots of sex. granted, i'm 25 and i'm talking about earlyish 30s. never EVER was into them when i was in college...seemed weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:10 AM
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Men think women don't care about their looks because they don't care about women's looks. Lol really?? I’ve had multiple exes tell me straight up that part of the reason they broke up with prior exes was because they weren’t attractive enough. Also...you’re way more likely to be asked out/hit on if you’re an attractive female. Guys definitely care about female appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 06:19 PM
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idk i seem to get asked out most often when i'm wearing gym shorts and a tank top, haven't washed my face, no makeup, and my hair is in a messy bun. it honestly makes no sense to me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 06:05 AM
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idk i'm a girl. just telling you from my experience that most guys want to settle down and get into a relationship, ESPECIALLY once they hit 27 or so. and i've had exes tell me casual sex is unfulfilling after a certain point; they want someone to share more than just sex with, someone they have an emotional connection with. i honestly don't understand where the idea that men don't want commitment comes from, because it is so far off from what i experience in real life, even for men who can easi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 04:44 PM
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More like sex of variable and unknown quality, with girls you might barely be able to stand, which requires time and money, all for sex that might end up being pretty mediocre in the end. Versus regular and consistent sex with someone you actually like spending time with and have sexual compatibility with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:22 PM
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IME a lot of guys want a relationship over casual sex, but will settle for casual sex. and by the time they get to be in mid-late 20s, most guys seem to be bored of casual sex and are looking for a serious connection or to settle down. that has been true in my experience. i've had a couple exes tell me how fucking randoms isn't all it's cracked up to be: emotionally hollow, time intensive, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 05:52 AM
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join a sports league. or a climbing gym. or a book club. or a hiking club or a cooking class...or whatever interests you and has you regularly interacting with the same people in a social setting. be friendly, always say yes when invited to do stuff, don't have too many expectations. eventually you'll make some friends that stick. that's literally all you have to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 05:55 AM
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YOU don’t care if your boyfriend finds you attractive? I’m sorry but I just don’t believe that. In general, women want to be desired. I’d say I’m pretty “logical” for a girl (even had bfs say as much), but I STILL want (and honestly expect) that my bf finds me attractive. But I’m not delusional( I guess if I was ugly, I might feel differently idk...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/19 06:49 PM
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i'm a girl. i'm telling you from my personal experience, it bothers men when they can tell you're not totally attracted to them. doesn't matter if you love them and care about them and fuck their brains out, they are still people and people like being validated, especially relatively hot people IME. also, i care about having a hot partner as a female. i want to desire them physically and have hot sex. and that doesn't happen for me with physically unattractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 04:19 PM
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Attraction can be more than looks, though. Beauty is skin deep after all. a lot of guys can tell when you're not actually PHYSICALLY attracted to them. that alone can seriously tarnish relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 03:53 PM
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i had an ovarian torsion. i had to have surgery in the ER and they ended up needing to remove that ovary. ovarian torsion is no joke. it was also the worst pain i've EVER experienced in my life. i literally didn't know i could be in so much pain. it also came out of nowhere. i've had 4 IUDs inserted and always found that pain to be nothing more than minor cramping as a comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 07:39 PM
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i have never thought about finding the man of my dreams. dating was/is mostly trial and error until i learned what qualities i needed in a partner and what qualities were nice to have, but optional. learned this pretty early, like 19.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 07:26 PM
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Can we all pls shed a tear now for my fallen soldier? it's soooo hard to find a bag you really love. when i was 23 i bought a chloe marcie which i'd been eyeing for over a year...it was like $2k. i think i'd be more upset about losing the neverfull tbh. it's just funny to me because i use to be so averse to them; i could never understand why anyone would spend such a ridiculous amount for a canvas bag lol. i feel like i look so basic every time i carry it but whatever, it's way more functional t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 07:14 AM
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I think the implication is that women are not pursuing serious relationships men are also becoming incredibly passive and not pursuing women the way they have in the past. my 64 year-old dad employs lots of construction workers and superintendents and even HE has commented that men are a lot more passive towards women than when he was young. and my dad never pays attention to that kind of stuff, so for him to notice, it must be pretty apparent. women as a whole have never been the pursuers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 05:20 PM
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i thought LV was so overrrated and just a basic bitch status symbol until i got a neverfull. yeah...you can pry that bag from my cold dead hands. i like to think handbags are analogous to men and their guns.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 05:14 PM
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That comment by the doctor in the piece lamenting having to date someone without a bachelor is a good example. Does that not strike you as particularly shallow? i'm guessing that it's a way for her to screen for partners who have close to the same intelligence as herself. i couldn't imagine marrying a guy who was significantly dumber than i am. i mean, i have dated a guy who was significantly dumber and i often ended up feeling like a mother figure more than a girlfriend, there were many things …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 04:58 PM
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It sounded like something they heard from their fathers. i get this kind of stuff from my mom and i'm a girl. i'm 5'9" and on multiple occasions she's been like, "date a guy between 6' and 6'2" so you have tall sons but your daughters aren't too tall". when i was 21 or whatever, i was like "ok ya sure mom..." now it kind of makes sense i suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 05:05 PM
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the study shows that intelligence and promiscuity are positively correlated. that's all. it's not saying all smart people are promiscuous, obviously, nor is it saying all promiscuous people are smart or highly educated. it also viewed the top 1 and 5% promiscuity wise, not only the top 1%. That narrow sliver that the author is studying is the top 1% alone. ok...and? those people exist...and the topic was "intelligent women". regardless, my whole point was questioning OP's premise that "intellige…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 04:44 AM
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The General Social Survey contains a 10-word vocabulary test that has been shown to have a high correlation (r = .71) with sophisticated IQ test results. it's an approximation. now do you have a source for your original claim or are you just going to strawman all day?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 09:49 PM
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that's not true. i just pulled up a report that says women with higher IQs are more promiscuous than their less intelligent counterparts. this makes sense; high IQ people are more likely to suffer from addiction, depression, and other destructive behaviors. Both men and women in the top percentile of promiscuity report higher intelligence scores than do their less well-traveled peers. This also holds true for women but not men in the top 5% of promiscuity. Top-five percentile men have IQs only s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 06:03 PM
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nah. he said that over text and wasn't trying to get in my pants. i'm pretty sure he was seeing someone else at that time too. like i get what you're saying, but that was not the case in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 05:23 PM
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my ex said something like...no other girl had ever gotten him off quite like i could. this was after we were broken up and he'd been fucking around.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 04:54 PM
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Who even remembers how other men fucked, I dont remember men I lived with for 8 years like at all let alone how they fucked really? i can remember how the sex was with every guy i've fucked. bad, good, great, along with what i didn't like about it or what i really liked about it. obviously i can't recall every instance of sex with really long term partners, but i can definitely remember how they fucked. I cant say other women dont "compare" and dont deliberately settle for men that dont give the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 04:48 PM
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there were a couple bad ones with guys i started seeing...didn't last much longer than that lol. as for anyone else i've dated for an extended period of time, they were all good in different ways, though two guys in particular stand out as being the best (for different reasons).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 04:40 PM
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What do you mean, nothing? I'm handsome, well built, a great cook, and fuck like a stud. i'm confused why you think that is somehow special. i'm also attractive, in shape, cook, and am good at sex! it's REALLY not hard to find a guy who can do all of what you listed...even one who wants to commit (maybe minus the cooking part but that's not all that important tbh). i dated a guy who thought like you do. major turn off and ultimately why i didn't really care to keep seeing him or put much effort …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 06:32 PM
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My mom had me watch that movie when I was like 10, but I barely remember it. Sounds like a good book but it’s so damn long...I have too many other books I’d rather read lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 07:22 AM
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Was thinking the same thing. Also she sounds kinda mentally unstable from those few passages. I don’t think she represents all women, I definitely wouldn’t want a relationship like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 04:18 PM
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I mean, technically I’m single right now so I am “available”. I’m just not interested in dating any of those guys I mentioned above. They aren’t that persistent, just the occasional text or whatever. Still, I’m not naive enough to assume that my guy friend just wants to have a friendly chat. But ya I do agree with your premise. There was one guy who I went on one date with, I wasn’t feeling it, but he texted me for literal months (even after I’d completely stopped responding - he would STILL con…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 07:41 PM
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How do you honestly expect me to know that? I’m sure it varies. Most are average guys in their late 20s: not fat, not short (I’m 5’9”), not awkward nerds. One of my coworkers from amy old job has a girlfriend and still hits me up semi frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 04:16 PM
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I mean, it has its downsides. Girls assume you’re bitchy, get jealous, or don’t wanna go out with you because they’re looking for a boyfriend or whatever. Guys get crushes on you, old men at work try to talk you about literally ANYTHING (“I see you drive a Honda”. I drive a prius” ok???). Other men will assume you only got a job because you’re attractive and you have to prove them otherwise. I work with mostly men and my friend group just has a lot of guys...can be awkward and kinda sucks someti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 03:29 PM
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oh god...drama drama DRAMA. chaos, complaining, fatigue, fighting, pettiness. lots of emotions...i imagine it would devolve to real housewives level drama. also, nothing would get done, at least not efficiently. idk if an entire group of average women could survive for like 20+ years on a remote island.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 08:58 AM
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as a girl, i disagree. most of my single guy friends seem to get crushes on me, which honestly sucks. and even if they didn't, i would never be close friends with a guy the way i would with my girl friends. i wouldn't hang out one on one and would rarely text him...unless we were doing stuff together or sending something funny. like we can be friends, but not close friends. unless neither of you are attracted to the other, it doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 08:44 AM
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men do not want to destroy, or even harm, the woman that they desire. Uhh lots of guys have kinks for that stuff. "actively looking for a partner" is better than "hunting to consume" Have you ever read like frat memos to their members or the way young men talk about getting sex? The parallels to hunting prey are quite obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 04:43 PM
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No. I let guys make the first moves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 10:26 PM
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how does one figure out what they have to offer as a woman? If I had to guess: be attractive, enthusiastic about sex, playful, pleasant, not entitled...maybe have some original thoughts and opinions. Guys seem to like those traits IME.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 10:11 PM
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1 of course. IMO if a guy isn’t pursuing, he doesn’t actually like you THAT much. no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 09:48 PM
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Again, that's selecting for a certain type of man Yeah I still disagree. The same man who would pump and dump one woman might commit to another; they’re not mutually exclusive. I’ve fucked boyfriends the first night I met them only for THEM to bring up marriage and kids a few weeks later. Same situation with the guy I’m seeing right now. And they had other options for casual sex. And I’m pretty sure there are plenty of men who will wait a few dates for sex without any intention of commitment. Ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 08:08 PM
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The making him wait for months strategy doesn’t apply to women with options. I guess OP should clarify that then as I don’t think it’s an optimal strategy for all women. And I definitely don’t think you can discern sexual chemistry without actually having sex, which is a big deal for me at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 07:27 PM
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I still disagree with her premise. I don’t have casual sex and I don’t have that high of a n-count; I’m definitely relationship-oriented. Still, I don’t wait to have sex and it has never seemed to dissuade the men I’ve been with, even the more conservative ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 06:44 PM
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I’ve fucked all my boyfriends very quickly after meeting them and those were longgg relationships. And same with the guys I’ve dated. None of them lost interest 🤷‍♀️ If a guy is interested in you, I haven’t found that he particularly cares that you fucked right away. But if you have nothing else to offer but sex and a bad personality, then obviously guys aren’t gonna stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 06:13 PM
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i mean, i'm 5'9" and 34-25-36 at 25 years old. and i don't watch what i eat at all. i honestly just don't find those measurements THAT unrealistic, especially if you look at them from a historical perspective. marilyn monroe had a 22" waist, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 09:32 PM
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average model measurements are like 34-25-35. that isn't an unrealistic standard in and of itself. it's only "unrealistic" because most people today are massively overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 09:21 PM
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You’re missing my point. I don’t understand why people need a subreddit to teach them how to form relationships with the opposite sex. Most stuff on RPW could be boiled down to: be attractive and don’t be a controlling bitch...which seem plenty intuitive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 02:37 AM
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why do you need a subreddit validating your relationship behaviors and choices in the first place? why are the only two options RPW and radical feminism? like i'm an anti-feminist female and i avoid all of the subs you just mentioned. i guess that's what i'm trying to get at...why is a subreddit necessary at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 11:38 PM
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RPW might be its own echo chamber, but it’s better than the echo chambers that encourage you to grow your armpit hair and get fat. you needed RPW to tell you not to get fat and grow armpit hair? doesn't that seem kind of obvious? i honestly don't understand where this mindset comes from...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 11:12 PM
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do all of you just blindly follow whatever TRP tells you to? like you all spout the exact same lines. If a man opened up to you about his emotions you would lose all attraction in my 10 or so years of LTR experience, this has yet to happen. i like being there for my bf when he's going through a rough time, i might not be able to fix the problem, but at least i can comfort him and try to make him feel better about the situation. i have become frustrated/turned off when my bf lacks motivation, how…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:37 AM
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that is not what i take issue with. i take issue with you telling me that i don't know myself. and i'm not fundamentally incorrect. a bunch of women on here have already agreed with me. TRP is for casual sex and does not care about female's LTR preferences. so i was incorrect in that sense, which i've already admitted multiple times in the thread. but keep telling me how i PERSONALLY experience things...maybe that'll make it come true. probably not though lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 01:45 AM
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i am not convinced that reading other people's experience on the internet will ever be a substitute for real life experience and the accompanying embarrassment, pain, and joy of human interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 12:03 AM
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ohhhh so YOU are created YOUR own definition of stoic. mmmmk.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 11:59 PM
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no i'm not lol. stoic : a member of a school of philosophy founded by Zeno of Citium about 300 b.c. holding that the wise man should be free from passion, unmoved by joy or grief, and submissive to natural law; one apparently or professedly indifferent to pleasure or pain source i'm not attracted to that. you will never convince me otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 11:51 PM
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TRP is a short term mate strategy. alright, i guess i forgot this when i was typing the OP. you're correct. TRP is for men, not women. though personally, i wouldn't go for stoic even if it was just a short term thing. natural players are not stoic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 11:38 PM
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I'd argue a sensitive man would be better for women who have had past trauma or dealing with some immense struggle in the present, because they will be her "soft place to land" as well as her "rock". this is exactly it. i don't need a man to protect me, i want a man who will be there for me both physically and emotionally. also i wasn't trying to create a strawman. obviously it's based on my personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 11:31 PM
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oh get off your high horse already. every single comment you've made in this thread had insinuated that i'm delusional and don't REALLY know what i want, which i don't appreciate. i'm not completely delusional. despite him being the most objectively attractive person i've seriously dated from a life partner perspective, this is one of the least emotionally fulfilling relationships i've been in. and i'm about ready to end the relationship because of it. that's how i know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 11:02 PM
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Maybe you've seen a sentence saying "don't show emotion", but they don't literally mean any emotion. there are tons of posts on TRP about being stoic and not showing emotional vulnerability. how can you have intimacy without emotional vulnerability? TRP seems to ignore the fact that natural players are ExFPs, who are not emotionally reserved in the slightest. Your OP outlined that you're unattracted to men who have a superiority complex over women no i didn't. i'm not attracted to men who have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:34 PM
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Case in point, you said you dated an RP man and he presumably smashed, so does that make you mentally ill? possibly. but i'm not attracted to him BECAUSE he's RP. i'm attracted to him because he's politically conservative, intelligent, attractive and taller than i am...which is a hard combination to find, at least in denver. we also have overlapping hobbies which i enjoy doing with him. and of course i had sex with him. how else would i know if we're compatible? Also, the dunning-kreuger effect …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:28 PM
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you missed the emotionally reserved part, which is key. it's a relationship, not strictly a financial partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:04 PM
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i suppose. that said, i still think TRP advice is targeted at mentally unstable women. just look at all the reports of false rape accusations, baby trapping, threats of women killing themselves if they break up, etc. that is not normal behavior. so i suppose it's TRP offers good advice if those are the types of women men want to attract.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:01 PM
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TRP is also a way of filtering for a specific kind of girl. yup completely agree. i think it filters for women with mental health and personality disorders. Just because something doesnt turn you on doesnt mean it doesnt turn other women on, for the people that cry about AWALT, you sure love to push AWALT whem it suits your narrative. agreed. but nothing you said really changed my view. TRP works on a subset of women and is counterproductive for the rest. but certain terpers have success with em…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:34 PM
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None of those are incompatible with passion and intimacy. this is true. this is probably the closest to changing my view. but TRP discourages men from showing emotion, which i'd argue is necessary for intimacy. What TRP advocates is becoming a sexually attractive enough man that the woman self-selects (i.e. voluntarily opts) into those situations, and picking a woman who won't require the exercise of harsh control to behave with his finances (if given). i would voluntarily opt into a SAHM situat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:26 PM
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Women aren't witches.They can't do magic. no, but we can read between the lines. a man doesn't have to explicitly say he finds women inferior. you really think men don't ever say offhand things that women can piece together?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 05:59 PM
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if TRP is correct, then why are so many men on TRP (or MRP since i'm assuming there's fewer foreigners on there) still struggling with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 05:33 PM
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i was asleep. and no, i didn't take the least generous interpretation. RP tells its men to be stoic, yes? and it encourages the view that women are inferior ("women are children", "women don't know what they want"), yes? how was the an unfair interpretation?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 05:29 PM
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Men internalize their problems - they blame themselves even if it's apparent at times that it isn't their fault. lol what are you talking about? not only has this has already been proven false by the scientific community, it's also common knowledge that women are more likely to internalize their problems than men. it's one thing to decide to be done with women and leave it at that, it's another to make up all kinds of false rationalizations to support some inane movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 10:53 AM
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yeah i'm not quite sure why they think women would WANT to be with a man who doesn't really care about or prioritize having a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 10:42 AM
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no i'm just impatient and like saying meow :p
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 03:22 AM
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why would women tell other women they've been cheated on by their husband in the first place? people shouldn't openly discuss their partner's infidelity if they want to salvage things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 08:37 PM
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i care very little about the physical aspect of cheating. like if it was a strictly pump and dump scenario, i wouldn't be that upset. i guess i'd wonder why they didn't just fuck me instead and would feel like i wasn't "good enough". but i have forgiven this exact situation in the past and i had no trouble with it whatsoever. any emotional engagement would be very upsetting though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 08:30 PM
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I'm an INTJ personality type, all I see is objective reality. lol. anyone with inferior Se does not see objective reality, they see their Ni version of objective reality. you have to be a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 08:18 PM
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I also dislike blowjobs. I give them to my husband for a few minutes out of duty but that's only because he's my husband. i feel bad for both of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 08:05 PM
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Yeah. More playfully bratty than actually bratty...also flirty. I guess I do this naturally around certain men and ex-bfs. I hadn’t really thought about why, but i think it makes the man feel psychological dominant and protective and more receptive. This is also why I tend to approach male bosses with questions on their opinion on something, rather than saying “we should change X”. Or just kinda dumb myself down a bit when talking to them or asking then to explain something to me. They love that…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 05:40 PM
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You don’t have to pout and act like a baby to have “childlike responses”. You can just be playful, silly, not serious, not afraid of asking questions or being wrong. Idk guys find that shit cute or something IME. And it’s not like every conversation is like that...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 06:58 AM
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It wasn’t hand waving. Stop assuming things from my statements. I’m skeptical of the CAUSATION. I think it’s much more likely that women with higher bonding ability are intrinsically dissuaded from casual sex and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 10:05 PM
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Yes. Did I say anything to the contrary?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 07:09 PM
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Plenty of studies show the effects of promiscuity on the long term personality and ability to make connections in women They show correlation, not causation. Its just as likely that women with low bonding ability are more likely to have lots of casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 03:57 PM
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No. It’s take care of the kids and run the household, while he earns the money. It’s an agreed upon division of labor. One that certain men are very happy to be in. That was my parents setup. My dad wouldn’t have wanted it any other way; he wanted nothing to do with running the household/kids in all its monotony. My mom OTOH missed being a lawyer at times. Edit: It’s also a lot harder to fuck around when you have kids to take care of. The working parent has an easier time cheating IME (owning ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 03:47 PM
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Million dollar trust fund kiddos are no less attractive (success wise) than someone who’s grinded their way through undergrad + law school + a short career in corporate law. yes they are. have you ever dated a trust fund kid? my ex found out his grandparents were super wealthy after we'd been dating 2-3 years. after that, his ambition went out the window. even now, i'm pretty sure he's fucking around while receiving checks from his grandparents. it's not attractive. when i first started dating h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 06:21 PM
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Yes. I used to take the light rail through downtown Phoenix when I was 14-15 in high school. Or the bus. My UMC parents gave us lots of freedom. For whatever reason, they assumed I wouldn’t abuse the privilege. And yeah, SOMETIMES I’d get sketched out and would take appropriate action. But it was the minority of the time. And I haven’t found it correlated with height. Though now I live in Denver and everyone seems so passive here, i very rarely feel scared. The shitty drivers are scarier and mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 03:42 PM
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as a very skinny girl who even my younger sister could break in half, this makes no sense to me. there's a difference between a weird guy in a sketchy parking lot and a normal guy riding the train or walking down the street. it's like TRP's "all guns are loaded" mantra. both just seem like very scared and cynical ways to approach life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 07:36 AM
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That is not why AWALT is controversial. You think AWALT is controversial because women are physically attracted to attractive people? because that is just common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 03:09 PM
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What were you doing when you had hormones surging through your body ages 12-18? Did you have your head buried in the sand? It was clear as day to me in 6th grade that attractive people are more desirable to the opposite sex for relationships. Girls would get crushes for the sole reason that a guy was hot. Like, why did it take an Internet forum for yourself and other TRP men to realize the above phenomenon is what I don’t understand. Just look around. And it’s not exclusive to TRP or even a new …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 04:40 AM
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Unless a majority of women are having casual sex with short "nice guys" who are out of shape, I'm not really sure you have much of an angle here. This is not a TRP thing, it’s something every person (both genders) should have figured out by the time they’re 18 at least. Do people just ignore what’s going on around them in middle/high school and college?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 04:01 AM
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Sex to women is a mean. Women use sex as means to obtain resources. Then why do women have ONS?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 06:55 PM
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More like neurotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 06:48 PM
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The average woman would lose all control and start humping random strangers like a dog if she were subjected to the baseline urges of a sexually mature male, having not had a lifetime of social conditioning forcing her to learn self-control. I am so glad we don’t have to deal with this 24/7. I get insanely horny around ovulation and it’s like nearly every thought revolves around sex for a couple days.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 04:29 AM
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Yeah. Happened with my ex. He always got extremely hurt by my criticism. But after we broke up, he ended up making many of the changes I’d brought up. I also fixed things that had bothered my ex, though it wasn’t intentional. They were changes I had wanted to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 03:34 AM
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Or getting another girl. Wat? I don’t care if my SO watches porn and it doesn’t interfere with our sex life. I would absolutely care if he was fucking someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 08:41 PM
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I’ve even filmed some myself with my boyfriend, but I don’t put it online My ex and I made so many videos that at one point he actually categorized them in folders with various titles so he could find them easier lol. For whatever reason, I found the titles pretty funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 03:35 PM
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I don’t care about porn use as long as he’s having sex with me frequently. I would only care if it started affecting our sex life. That girl just sounds self conscious because she’s fat and doesn’t want her bf looking at skinny girls. She should lose weight so she doesn’t feel self conscious when her bf watches porn (and hopefully stop bitching). Oh and the phone thing is super creepy. Wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 03:01 PM
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I’m 5’9” and a size 0-2. I’m 25 and have been this size since I was 15 (i was always chubby before that). I try to eat healthy, but i generally eat whatever I want (pizza, burgers, candy when I’m craving it). I lift weights and am generally an active person, but I rarely do cardio for the sole purpose of doing cardio. The idea that all skinny women are obsessed with their food intake is wrong. Edit: also I may be skinny but I do still have a booty and guys really like it. It used to be tiny thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 05:59 PM
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Do you eat a lot of carbs or sugars? I weigh like 128 lbs and eat 2000-2500 calories/day. Probably closer to 3000 calories leading up to my period. No idea how I stay the same weight, but I eat A LOT of fat and protein.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 05:50 PM
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Your paper is about conservative politicians not people. it applies to people as well. attractive people are more likely to identify as conservative. here's another source with additional publiciation links. and you DO realize that people in hollywood are outliers, right??? and i already said this in another comment, but compare people's appearance in conservative areas like orange county/dallas to liberal ones like denver/portland/SF.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 09:35 PM
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how is that at all relevant to my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 08:48 PM
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Provider status is irrelevant for casual sex. Attractive women DO have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 05:16 AM
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i have never seriously used a hashtag in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:11 AM
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RP in its current form is a place for low value men to rant about their victimization by the female gender. And “women” already have their own form of TRP; its called third wave feminism. FWIW I used to agree with RP...like 5-6 years ago when it was ACTUALLY about helping men and not just blaming women for everything wrong with the world. I do not agree with its current form.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 07:27 PM
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your comment reads like the equivalent of an RP rationalization hamster. it also fails to explain why exclusively MEN need an acronym to describe people's propensity towards shitty behavior. But when women suck and a guy complains about it, everyone tells him "It was just her! Not all women are like that!" (NAWALT) where is this happening? are men telling their bros that "not all women are like that"? no...they're going on about how "bitches be crazy blah blah blah". and when catty women get tog…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 05:43 PM
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i didn't say that anywhere; my final line was a question TO YOU which you refused to answer. do you think women are supposed to marry their very first LTR and anything else is unnecessary carousel riding? what if they realize they aren't compatible? what if they move away from one another? most people don't marry their first serious bf/gf...maybe they'll marry the second or third...and in between they'll casually date and probably have sex. i fail to see how normal dating and looking for a suita…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 05:22 PM
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how are any of those examples exclusive to WOMEN? just swap the genders: "my bf cheated on me! what an asshole!" -she gained weight or whatever, he behaved baldy. "i kept trying to flirt with some guy but he got my friend's number instead! what an asshole!" -she was not attractive/low status in his eyes. he treated her as such. "i spent 15 years of my life with my husband, i ruined my body to bear him children, i've cooked and cleaned up his dirty socks and underwear for years, and now he's chea…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 04:50 PM
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but women love riding the CC when it's on their terms. i don't know any females around my age (25) who have just fucked around for as long as possible at the expense of any relationships. usually it's more like: LTR, eventual break up for whatever reason, fuck around for a while until you find another suitable LTR...rinse and repeat until you meet your eventual spouse. like do you think most women wait until they're 30 to enter an LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 04:29 PM
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women (once you live with her) have this instinctive urge to drive you absolutely insane. PEOPLE tend to drive you insane when you live with them: roommates, siblings, parents, spouses, bf/gf, kids. that said, your wife sounds like my ESFJ roommate and she drives me up a fucking wall with her constant nagging more so than anyone else i've ever lived with...and i've lived with a lot of different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 04:21 PM
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Reddit meetups are high efforts, I don't see why they would do it, it's an extrovert thing, therefore majority of the people you see at meetups are going to be extroverted. and this is why my initial comment still stands. meetups are not high energy: it's talking to a bunch of strangers you may or may not ever see again in an attempt to meet people. and idk why you assume a meetup would be mostly extroverts - i would assume the opposite. i went to a couple girl meetups when i first moved to my c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 07:56 AM
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you said in your comment that introverts are "unlikely to provide actual efforts" and count reddit as social interaction. i don't think i misconstrued anything. feel free to correct me if i'm wrong though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 07:28 AM
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all your comment boils down to is that people want what they can't have. if all men got all the casual sex they wanted, most would likely tire of its ultimate futility and want something more meaningful and fulfilling...like a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 06:11 AM
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my theory is similar, but the premise is the opposite. conservatives are more competitive and less likely to cater to emotions, so they work harder at being attractive because attractiveness confers all sorts of advantages and aids in success. so conservatives are more likely to go to the gym, dress in what is considered attractive by society, the women are more likely to be well-manicured, to get plastic surgery. liberals think we should be accepting of literally everyone and believe in equal o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 05:52 AM
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YOU think that way because you’ve likely never had much casual sex and can’t imagine a man ever getting bored of it and wanting anything more meaningful. Fucking randoms all the time loses its luster and many men find more fulfillment in an LTR with the right person. Every guy I’ve had an LTR with could get casual sex without much effort. Yet THEY still wanted to be in relationships. And only one of them was over 25 when we started dating. One of my exes actually broke up with me after 4 years b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:23 PM
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A normie that thinks introverts don’t socialize and that reddit counts as social interaction? Hmm...okay
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:10 PM
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You joke, but right leaning people ARE statistically more attractive. I have multiple theories on why, but anyways...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 03:51 PM
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I am an introvert and I don’t consider reddit a social outlet lol. And it all introverts are hermits, some socialize quite a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 03:38 PM
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The point of TRP is to get casual sex, not relationships. Women here are saying that the bar for casual sex is lower than for an LTR which is in direct contradiction of what TRP teaches about men being the gatekeepers of commitment and women of sex. It also begs the question that if MORE men are suitable for casual dec than for relationships, why are there so many men on TRP having trouble getting casual sex but not relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 08:19 PM
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Where are you getting this idea from? Lots of non desperate guys offer commitment. All of my exes have been able to get casual sex and all offered commitment, I never asked. Most men DO want relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 04:35 PM
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Plenty of men are rather fuckable, a few are worth spending life with. Agreed. It’s weird that this isn’t discussed more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 04:24 PM
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That is my experience as well: men trying to lock a girl down, including those who can get casual sex relatively easily. From what my exes have told me, casual sex gets old and is not very fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 04:13 PM
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Hah no. This question is definitely coming from a Ti and Ne user. ExFPs do not ask these types of logically consistent, albeit seemingly random, questions. He literally ask “what conditions move that line” which strikes me at Ti. Like this question seems so stereotypically ENTP to me, but then I’m a Ti user.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 03:06 AM
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😭
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 01:45 PM
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I met my ex on tinder and he started talking marriage and kids like 2 months into dating. Also starting seeing another guy from tinder and he did the same thing like 1 month in to seeing each other (and we hadn’t even had any sort of exclusivity talk yet). A lot of guys on tinder are looking for relationships or are at least open to one IME.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 05:12 PM
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i mean...i used to be the chubby girl up until i was 15 but i didn't like that it seemed to limit my opportunities so i lost like 35-40 lbs in 6 months and never gained it back. and it really sucked when i was doing it but it improved my life so much. now everyone just assumes i've been super thin with a fast metabolism my whole life when that's not the case, which is kinda frustrating to hear sometimes lol. and im a freaking chemical engineer with a cs minor. like i know a lot of really nerdy s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 06:09 AM
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Wow you are one incredibly cynical person and I don’t know how you can have such a shallow view of relationships. I’ve cared and devoted a lot of time and effort to my relationships and been there for my exes through all sorts of shit. And men do NOT want to be told what to do when they are legitimately upset, especially by their wives/gfs. They want to be comforted and that is all. In fact you don't care for a solution (or worse, actively hate the idea of a solution existing). No. Most of my bf…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 11:41 PM
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no actually, that bf had lots of beta traits and we had issues surrounding sex later in the relationship due to a hormonal imbalance on his part. i've never loved anyone else the way i loved him. my next bf i had was much more chad-like (lol) by all objective measures. breaking up with him was temporarily difficult, but didn't have the same long-term impact. i want to date a real person. real people have emotions when they go through tough shit. i WANT to be there for my SO. if they didn't turn …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 08:46 PM
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Sounds like selection bias. I’ve had a couple friends who are like that. If they like a guy, they don’t mind (and maybe even prefer) being the one doing the pursuing, especially if it’s at a bar/club type scene. However the vast majority of women are not like that, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 06:06 PM
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I loved one of my exes even when he wasn’t doing shit for me. He was choosing to work less, earning less, contributing less to the household chores, was going through a depressed period. I still loved him and tried to do things with him that would make him feel better. Idk what he did for me in that time period except decide that sowing his wild oats would cure his depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 05:28 PM
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What? No. When I used tinder I had hundreds of matches lol. And of the ones I talked to, the vast majority were taller than I am and a lot of them were 6’+. But then I looked for tall white guys with decent jobs when I was on tinder. There are A LOT of guys who will say they’re 5’10/5’11 and either be shorter than I am or the exact same height though lol. Edit: I honestly can’t stand tinder though. Too much weird artifial effort and those stupid convos get so boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 04:58 PM
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as a 5'9" girl, i would totally approve of this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 04:27 AM
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Fits with my experience dating too. I’ve had almost only LTRs, but also some shorter things and the guys always get more quickly attached. I think it’s partly because men pursue; they already KNOW if they’re interesred in a woman. They also just seem to make their minds up faster.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 09:19 PM
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Obviously I’m assuming two men of equal attractiveness for their respective ages. Otherwise it’s a completely useless comparison. Like there are fit 35 year-old women who are hotter than a 20 year old obese feminazi; doesn’t make it a useful example though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 08:50 PM
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Kind of wrong. Most men will have a higher SMV as they age. yall are delusional if you think men's SMV keeps increasing with age. their COMPARATIVE SMV relative to women's increases. but a 45 year-old man is never going to be as attractive to a 25 year-old woman as a 30 year-old man. a 45 year-old man will probably be more attractive to another 45 year-old woman than he would have been when they both been 25, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 05:09 PM
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You're just arbitrarily defining this stuff No I'm not. Upper class: the upper class, as distinguished from the rich, is often considered to consist of those families that have for many generations enjoyed top social status based on their leadership in society. The main distinguishing feature of the upper class is its ability to derive enormous incomes from wealth through techniques such as money management and investing, rather than engaging in wage-labor or salaried employment. The American up…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 04:49 PM
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That is how the social classes are defined. Most UC don’t even HAVE to work for a living, they have generational wealth. If you HAVE to work to make a living, probably not UC. Like /u/sadomasochrist said, most people in this sub for whatever reason think the bar for UC is much lower than it really is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 04:10 PM
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i'd argue no. both parents are working for a living. unless they have generational wealth and trust funds, they aren't UC. my dad's income often varied when i was growing up, but there were years where he made over $1M. still, i always considered us UMC. there was never any expectation that i'd have a trust fund or that we'd have multi-generational wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 11:59 PM
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If your parents can dump out $200k on a bs liberal arts degree, you're UC. the UC have trust funds. the UMC get their college and grad school paid for by their parents. Any UMC person doing this is going into massive debt and will be working at Target post-graduation. that would mean they're simply MC.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 11:47 PM
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yeah. i went to private schools growing up. even my middle school was mostly MC/UMC, few UC. my high school was a combination of MC/UMC/UC. this was generally how it goes... UC: gets luxury car at 16, has a trust fund, parents donate buildings to the school. my sister has a good friend whose parents own the arizona diamondbacks and they donated multiple buildings in an effort to influence the direction her high school was going (can't remember what they didn't like exactly). another friend's par…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 08:37 PM
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These are not UMC/UC values. That is so classist. It's simple smart person vs not-smart person values. those are absolutely UMC values. i don't know why you find this offensive. smart people are more likely to make smart choices which is how they end up in the UMC (obviously there are exceptions). UMC vales: getting a college education, no kids OOW, waiting to get married until late 20s, care about social connections and maintaining the proper appearances, volunteering/charity/social signaling a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 07:51 PM
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yeah...i break it down like this: UC: has trust fund UMC: parents pay for college, first car, probably help with first down payment if those don't apply, then they are not UC/UMC.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 07:02 PM
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so you were raised with UMC values: no kids OOW, expectations of marriage, private schools so you have grown up socializing with people of similar class values. i plan to get married late 30s to a woman in early 30s/late 20s with a solid prenup. this is my plan for now and is subject to change. i dont see what this has to do with the difference in the dating market. so you plan to get married to an educated woman with similar (UMC) values of marriage, no kids OOW. those ARE UMC values. you don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 06:49 PM
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idk imagine a LMC couple: the man and woman both work 45 hour weeks, but she ends up doing 20 hours of unpaid household labor a week (childcare, cooking, cleaning). so she spends nearly 50% more time doing work. it's unlikely that he is bringing in 50% more income than she is. i can see how frustrating that would be for the woman. when i lived with my ex right after we graduated college, i was making like $70k. he was CHOOSING to work only 20 hours a week for my dad's company, so he was bringing…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 06:26 PM
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did you grow up UMC? did you parents pay for your college tuition? did you go to private schools growing up? is it expected that you get married? if not, then you were not raised on UMC values.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 05:43 PM
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I’ve always wanted to be the prettiest girlfriend my ex-bf’s ever had. Like I want my bf to think he can’t do better than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 01:39 AM
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yeah its kinda like how every guy says "dont you love my big dick baby" during sex regardless of whether their dick is objectively big or not lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 06:11 PM
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It’s not a myth. My cervix is placed very high so personally I like bigger dicks. They feel better. Also it’s hotter to give a blow job to a big dick than a small one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 05:17 PM
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No shit. Its not like I’d jump into bed with losers who had bad jobs or traits I actively dislike. Even the guy I met on tinder had a good job, we shared similar values and political views, had similar interests and life goals. I do screen men based on a variety of criteria before having sex with them, I haven’t had sex with that many people in my lifetime, but all my relationships have started off by casually hooking up. But for me PERSONALLY as a high libido female, sexual compatibility is an …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 10:08 PM
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That’s luck, my dear. How many of those LTRs worked out for you? well my first LTR, we started making out at football games in HS and that turned into a 4 year relationship (started dating at 15). my second LTR: he was CLEARLY interested in me (we had a class together in college and he was also a good friend of my roommate) and we started hooking up, then he wanted me to be his girlfriend. 3rd LTR i met on tinder after the previous LTR ended and i would say that was mostly luck; we had amazing s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:34 PM
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my last bf almost said he loved me for the first time after we had sex in the shower and were laughing about something. and i was like "nonono too early don't say it yet" lol. we had only been together like a month at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 04:48 PM
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like all of my LTRs have started from casual sex/fwb situations, so i'd say the process is very similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 04:30 PM
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no, i've had the same experiences as /u/tylmin. i think people on PPD/TRP underestimate the degree to which men want relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 03:53 PM
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plenty of attractive men want relationships too. they're just not gonna settle for some average chick that they can easily fuck without commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 03:48 PM
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I haven’t found dating hard at all. If you hole up in your bedroom and never leave the house, then dating will be hard. go to any social event, be nice and talkative, and guys will approach. Also keep in mind that if you’re not gonna settle for anything less than a high status businesssman, you’re probably not gonna find him in a dive bar. Where and who you socialize with matters if you have exacting standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 02:23 PM
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especially 20-22 year olds. why would they? so much baggage when they can have men their own age to have fun with. you're also grossly overestimating the SMV of the average man in his 30's yeah. TRP thinks college-aged girls care about money and status WAYYY more than they really do. college girls are not serious about life and their main priorities are classes, parties, various hobbies, and friends. a guy in his 30s doesn't want to go to college parties, bars on weeknights, concerts. the colleg…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:24 AM
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because they'd literally say, "i want you to be my girlfriend" or "can we make this an official relationship now?" after we'd been seeing each other for a few weeks. and i'd usually say yes and we'd go on to date for 1-4 years. there was one case where i said i didn't want a relationship yet and we stopped seeing one another. usually i try to do a slow fade before they ask because i hate letting guys down once they're emotionally invested.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 09:52 PM
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i mean, every guy i've gone on more than a couple dates with has offered up commitment so i wouldn't say they're just telling me what i want to hear. i am attractive though so maybe that's why idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 08:57 PM
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i was never trying to be a serial monogamist. like i said, i'd get out of an LTR and just be looking for something casual. and then the guy would press for a relationship and i liked them well enough so i'd say sure. it wasn't that i got out of an LTR and then immediately went looking for another one. that's just how things worked out. even after taking that 6 month break, when i started dating casually again, the very next guy i started seeing wanted more commitment than i was ready for so thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 08:49 PM
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Every woman can make her body sexy by hard working no. a woman with broad shoulders, a poorly defined waist, and narrow hips is never going to have an 0.7 WHR, even if she's super slim. think of female swimmers for example. if the woman isn't fat, she's fuckable for most men. for men with very low standards, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 04:51 PM
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they are comparable in that they are innately unattractive traits to the opposite gender. which was my point. you are trying to make my argument into something that it wasn't. generally, men don't find fat women attractive. generally, women don't find shorter men attractive. that one can be changed is irrelevant. I already know females preferences in men are genetic traits, but men prefernces in females aren't men have a biologic preference for an 0.7 WHR, symmetric and neotenous faces. like wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 04:31 PM
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Most people (men and women) don’t understand the difficultly of dating/getting laid until they’re out of a LTR. idk. every time i get out of an LTR, i end up looking for something casual, which just ends up turning into another LTR. i had to consciously not date or have sex for like 6 months just to break that cycle when i realized it was not healthy to have literally never been single. i never sought out relationships either, it was always guys who were pressing for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 04:21 PM
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yeah most guys i've dated recently want to settle down. seems like around 27-30 they start thinking about marriage and kids. even when i was younger (like HS and college), guys always pressed for relationships. the idea that they just want casual sex is not consistent with my personal experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 04:08 PM
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So? It’s still innately unattractive to most men just as shorter men are to most women. The fact that height isn’t changeable doesn’t make me any more attracted to guys who are shorter than I am. Sucks for incredibly short guys, but life isn’t fair. Most men are taller than most women anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 01:35 PM
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No, I don’t think it’s sexist and I never said anything of the sort. People can have whatever dating preferences they want; its THEIR dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 01:32 PM
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uhh pretty common all throughout history. think of the mad men era. or french/english/japanese courtesans of high society. upper class men frequently saw women on the side. not doing so seems to be a relatively new thing that came along when women joined the workforce and didn't need to tolerate it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 06:35 PM
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i wasn't replying to you obviously. and if you actually read my comment, i even said: most women's innate biological desire to raise their own children
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 04:28 PM
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If I was a women I would certainly prefer to work to being SAHM. well you're a man so you obviously can't relate to most women's innate biological desire to raise their own children, especially when they're young. most women don't want to ship their babies off to daycare so a stranger can raise them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 03:49 PM
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having a child OOW as a woman is definitely stupid and more "dangerous" than being a legally married SAHM.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 03:43 PM
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I don't know if that really happens often, i don't think it does. i've had some truly crazy experiences in my life that sometimes make it sound like i'm just making shit up. or maybe i just inadvertently attract drama idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 12:27 AM
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i meant that as in an economy where both partners generally have to work to provide a household income sufficient to support a family versus earlier decades when one income was often enough to support a wife and a couple kids. i make above the median household income by myself and i find that's adequate for my personal spending habits and savings goals. based on that, i would not feel secure enough financially to be a SAHM in my HCOL city unless my husband made at least 3x the median household i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 07:35 PM
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well my mother was a lawyer until she had me at 36. so she had a career, she just stopped after having children since my dad made a lot of money anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:34 PM
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i'd love to be a SAHM AFTER i have kids, at least when they're young. do i think that will happen in today's economy? unlikely. also there is the issue with getting back into the workforce after having kids. my ex also said he'd ideally like a SAHM after kids, though realistically he wouldn't have been able to support it where we live. we both grew up with SAHMs so maybe that's why we'd prefer it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:30 PM
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oh i understand why it happens, i just can't personally relate, even though i have also invested lots of time and gotten hurt in prior relationships. still, i have never felt guarded when dating someone new. it has nothing to do with fairness either, it's just not something that crosses my mind. they're a different person, i'm not gonna base my treatment of them on stuff prior boyfriends did.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 07:29 PM
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In my experience I have to agree with you, men are even worse. yeah and i started realizing this as i've started dating again after taking a hiatus after my last LTR ended. honestly, it kinda bums me out now when i think back to the beginning of my relationship when i was dating say my 20 year-old bf vs now and the amount of emotional baggage men have (like men 28-30, i am 25). they're more closed off, they might have trust issues, they've been with crazy girls so they're might be apprehensive/l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 06:57 PM
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The first partners got a trusting sweet person and the last man gets whatever is left after the damage is done. honestly, i think this phenomena affects men more than women. i frequently see men talk about how they're jaded from relationships and more closed off after failed relationships, never to be as open and trusting again with a new partner. i don't really see many women talk like that. it may have something to do with a girlfriend/wife being a man's main emotional outlet and it being more…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 06:18 PM
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Well I just put in my two weeks at my current job so it’s a moot point now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 03:51 PM
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what is your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 05:14 AM
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Seems like man's height is as important as woman's waist. Or WHR. Or face. i mean, yeah? i'd say height and facial attractiveness and being in good shape are the most important things for me. but everyone has their preferences. some guys don't care for boobs or a big butt. some women don't care about height. but most women do care about height just like most men care about WHR. evolutionary there reasons both of those traits are generally considered attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 05:13 AM
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Women are attracted to men who are TALLER than they are, evolutionarily this makes sense. Ive found my personal preference is like 3+ inches taller (and it has nothing to do with wearing heels). However, I’m 5’9” so I have dated guys who are only like an 1” taller, because height isn’t the only thing I care about. But it is something I’m incredibly innately attracted to. Idk I’ve been in relationships where I’m not that attracted to the guy and it just sucks for both parties. You seem to ignore …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 08:23 PM
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But like the vast majority of women share my tastes regarding height. It makes sense from an evolutionary and biological perspective. There is no conspiracy amongst women to not date short men, which is what you seem to be implying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 07:48 PM
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Totally agreed, but I also think there are a subset of guys who don’t continue with the false hope. Obviously they’d love if it happened, but they accept the situation for what it is. I have a coworker who I’m still friends with after I turned him down. He is obviouly still attracted, but he doesn’t seem to have any false hope or think I’ll change my mind. he just enjoys my friendship and chooses to put himself in a situation where he’s friends with someone hed like to be with. It’s weirs how TR…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 07:44 PM
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so let’s do it like they do on the discovery channel 😋🎶
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 07:19 PM
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I’m just not attracted to men who are shorter than me. Just like I’m not attracted to non-white men. Can’t help it, can’t change it, it’s just my gut reaction. And since I have options, I won’t. I have nothing against those people, I will just never be physically attracted to them. Lots of men feel the same way with fat girls and I think that’s 100% understandable. I wouldn’t wanna hook up with a fat girl either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 06:59 PM
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Did you just link me to a student thesis that starts out with “First and foremost, I thank my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, for guiding me and teaching me in my experience” omg lol 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 06:40 PM
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Then they probably weren’t THAT into you. And imo that just seems kinda insensitive. I try to limit mentions of my dating life or any relationships around said coworker; there is no reason to rub his face in my rejection of him. And /u/gridrexx talked about this in another comment, but girls don’t usually get infatuated the same way men do. Maybe because we generally have more options, are used to being pursued, idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 06:24 PM
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I don’t believe the manosphere belief that women are just taking advantage of men who want more by stringing them along. Sure it happens but I don’t think it’s the majority of friednzone situations. That has been true in my experience. The men that were more interested in a relationship than friendship will usually just limit contact. The guys who actually value the friendship will willingly continue the “friend zone” situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 06:16 PM
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When I was a freshman in high school, this guy who was my date to our winter formal and who clearly liked me a lot bought me like a $200 Tiffany necklace and gave it to me before the dance. I felt soooo awkward accepting it. I wore it to the dance and then just put it back in the box when I got home. Idk why he thought it was a good idea, it boggles my mind, I never EVER asked or even hinted that I wanted any type of present from him. Still, I felt so bad/guilty about the situation for quite a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 06:09 PM
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Men and women can be really good friends from my experience, even if it's rare. If there is no attraction by either party, then yes. If it’s one-sided, then the friendship will always be just sorta watered down. I am still quite good friends with my coworker: we joke around and talk all day long, we’ll text each other particularly funny reddit posts or memes occasionally. But he clearly filters himself around me and there are certain things I don’t talk about with him out of respect for his feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 05:51 PM
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But mostly because women intuitively know, that if the other person isn’t matching your level of crush, the relationship is a dub. We don’t really believe in trying to convince someone to like us. There are certain girls who don’t seem to understand this, usually they’re unattractive. They’ll blab on and on about some guy who clearly isn’t it to them and just using them for drunk sex. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 05:19 PM
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One of my coworkers who sits right by me at work got a huge crush on me. We honestly are good friends and get along really well, similar sense of humor, can talk all day. Anyways he kept asking to go out, I kept saying no and distanced myself for a little while and he got the hint. I felt really terrible about it though for a while. I kept trying to figure out if I had been leading him on. This all happened a few months ago and we’re back to normal. I can tell he’s still really into me, but he k…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 04:32 PM
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i always just had competitions in my head to see if i was the most attractive out of a group of friends and felt insecure if i wasn't. we didn't really point out each others' flaws the ways you guys are describing. and i spent 3 years at an all girls' high school. maybe because most of my friends and myself all looked different enough. (i.e. we weren't all thin blonde girls, some were curvier, some had the more alternative look - we just all had different appeals).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/19 06:56 PM
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Yeah my mom ALWAYS talked about my appearance when I was growing up. First, it was to give me shit for being chubby (which did sorta work and I lost the weight, but probably not the best idea). Then it was to always say what a “pretty girl” I am and how I can do better (I was dating some losers for a while). Now it’s usually about how I’ll always have it easier than my sister. Moms can be the harshest critic of their daughters appearance, but in a weird way. Like they just understand the value o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/19 06:00 PM
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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4371377/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/In-group_favoritism https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4327620/ it's well documented scientifically that humans and animals have in-group preferences. now answer my question... anyways im a white female lol. i wouldn't date a man of other any other race, that's just my preference. can't change it, don't care, don't see why anyone else should care or see it as a problem. why does it have to be a WHITE ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 11:21 PM
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people have biologically ingrained in-group preferences, which might explain why most people date within their race. what is wrong with an indian woman being with an indian man? your example is “racist” by your own definition because it has to be a WHITE man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 11:00 PM
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yup. honestly, if that ovarian torsion hadn't happened to me at 22, i probably NEVER would have realized how important it is to me and now i'm hyper vigilant about my reproductive health. most women don't have much reason to think about it until it's too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 10:14 PM
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i just turned 25 and am probably going to freeze my eggs this year, since i had an ovarian torsion and lost one ovary at 22. i would be devastated if i couldn't have kids; it's one thing that really gives me anxiety...probably because what happened to me was really rare and made me realize how fragile fertility can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 09:33 PM
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/r/skincareaddiction has PLENTY of scientific articles on what active ingredients actually work, cheap and expensive alternatives for products with said active ingredients, recommendations. there are a lot skincare products that ARE snake oil: formulated in ways so their ingredients won't work. but there is plenty of scientific evidence that skincare ingredients work. you just have to buy the correct products with properly formulated active ingredients.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 09:05 PM
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really? i've never heard of them as an ideal match. i always thought ENFJ + ISTP, ESTJ + INFP, etc were the ideal since they share the same cognitive functions just in opposite order. even just sharing two cognitive functions seem to aid in communication between people ime. i believe on of the confounding issues in MBTI "compatibility" is the sex of the members. agreed. i've heard ISTPs ideal match is an ExFJ, but the idea of dating an Fe-dom man rubs me the wrong way lol. genders swapped though…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 04:05 PM
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i dated an INFP for four years. and i'm not trying to be critical, just offer advice so please don't take this the wrong way. you guys can be impossible to talk to when there's issues (and i'm a damn ISTP - though a very extroverted one). i would beg him to just tell me what's going and he'd just keep it all in, further infuriating me in the process. i could always tell when something was wrong even when he'd try to hide it; just the slightest facial expression is sometimes all that would tip me…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 03:58 PM
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INFPs can also be super difficult to have any type of serious conversation about the literal future (not their Ne fantasy future) or anything mildly emotionally triggering. ENFJs are the literal opposite and want to discuss everything, then the INFPs just shut down. i'm amazed an ENFJ and INFP could even sustain a relationship for long; the communication issues would be nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 03:43 PM
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yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 03:38 PM
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guess that depends on your definition of hot. they're not going to be the top 20% of the females in their age bracket, they're gonna be at at best average or maybe kinda cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 07:50 PM
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They also want to date women in their mid 20's but women in their mid 20's don't want to date them, who they do not want to date women who are their looksmatch in their age range. yes and the early 20s females who ARE dating men in their later 30s-40s are NOT hot early 20s females. they're the females who can't land attractive males in their own age range. just look at the sugar subreddit if you need more confirmation; those girls are not attractive for their age, they're just young.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 04:58 PM
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The thing is the former type doesn't stay in the SMP for very long. Men recognize their value and lock them down. i tried to say this in another thread and some girl accused me of being a man lol. but yes, this exactly. so many people in their 20s don't have their shit together. being attractive, financially responsible, having interesting opinions (not just MSM regurgitation), and actual hobbies and friends...and BAM you're going to be very attractive to the a large group of men almost immediat…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 04:42 PM
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*Btw, I looked at one of your posts, and it looks like you reference “your wife”. lol that post is in a damn parody sub. like that post is a literal parody of something off /r/personalfinance. should be pretty obvious. i am absolutely a woman. go through my post history, i reference being a woman, talk from a female point of view, am consistent in my life stories as a female, talk about female fashion lol. how someone looks at the one post in a circlejerk sub and ignores the plethora of evidence…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 04:18 AM
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and having an OOW child at 16 without the means to provide for it or give it a stable home IS responsible? children born OOW statistically do much worse than those born into a stable family. you're likely setting up the embryo for a life of hardship. how is that the "responsible" choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:07 PM
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The girl shouldn't have thought that just having sex with a hot guy might make him stick around. i don't believe most girls actually think that way or go into having sex on a first date for the purposes of getting him to stick around. if they have sex on a first date, it's because they want to for whatever reason. these are things girls learn at the age of like 15...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 04:03 PM
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i am a woman and i agree with every single thing he said. i honestly think it's the best advice in this thread. women who get pumped and dumped or kept as fuck buddies only are aiming above their league and hoping to secure a guy through sex. if a man is clearly interested in a woman, her putting out immediately is not going to hinder commitment from him unless the sex is terrible or she turns out to be crazy after.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 05:05 AM
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so a woman can only want commitment, but not sex? there are women who want both. like i have never used sex to secure commitment; i had sex early on because i wanted to (with the exception of my first serious bf who waited like a year - i just wasn't that into him tbh) and my exes pressed me for commitment soon after. or there were a couple where i lost interest/things faded out. i suppose i could wait some arbitrary time to have sex, but why? i'd rather be having sex with a guy i'm interested i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 04:40 AM
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Most of these answers will be useless since they’re coming from sex/relationship starved men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 05:40 PM
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I mean...yeah? What is wrong with that? If we’re not yet exclusive, then I expect the man is seeing/talking to other women. That’s how dating works.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 05:26 PM
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but casual sex would mean that I am considered objectively attractive to many women i mean, are you objectively attractive? because if you aren't then many women finding you attractive is a fantasy. and I can pick and choose who I want to fuck. you can pick who you want to fuck. relationships are mutual agreements. Relationships aren’t for everyone, and I don’t think I’m suited for them and would pick casual sex over it. sounds like you've just have shitty relationships tbh. you might feel diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 09:25 AM
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not sure what your point is... crack and cocaine do not have the same effects. freebase cocaine (aka crack) does not affect someone the same way as regularl cocaine. likewise, smoking meth does not have the same effects as taking adderall. i don't agree with drug sentencing laws; i think all drugs should be decriminalized. but to act like crack users and cocaine users experience the same effects or act the same way on the crack/coke is just incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 11:05 PM
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yes, the baking soda turns cocaine into a freebase form allowing it to pass through the BBB faster and hit harder. just compare meth to adderall. which do you think is worse? because it's the same thing: the methyl group on methamphetamine allows it to pass through the BBB faster making it more addictive than amphetamine.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 07:07 PM
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hmm you remind me of an ex that i dated for four years, moved to a new state with after graduation, lived together, talked about marriage. well we broke up at one point because he felt he hasn't sowed his wild oats (we were 23, so i could understand, even though it still really hurt). he regretted that decision, he tried to get me back multiple times, he said all the meaningless sex was ultimately unfulfilling. what made him happier was having good friends, goals, a community to be a part of. wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 06:19 PM
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i feel the exact same way. never waited to have sex when starting a relationship. don't want to waste my time on bad sex when it can easily be avoided.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 06:03 PM
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Doesn’t matter what I do, it’s all just meaningless if I can’t be a Chad. seriously? you can't just be an average person like most other people on the planet with more realistic, but still fruitful purposes in life? you need therapy. being pretty and having people want you doesn't make you happy. it just doesn't. sure it's a nice ego-boost, but if you're unfulfilled now, being pursued by randoms doesn't really help all that much. it gets old quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:37 PM
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there are a couple hot guys at my gym and we definitely mutually check each other out and notice the other doing it lol. but the people who go to my gym are a pretty regular group, most people know each other somewhat, though usually just superficially. so if it didn't work out, it would be super awkward. and it's the best lifting gym in town. so no, not gonna mess with that. but like if i need help with something in the gym, i have no problem asking for help (100 lb weights can be hard for me t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:17 PM
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yup i spend $220 every 12 weeks for cut and color. $50 for a large bottle of shampoo (lasts a few months), $50 for a large bottle of conditioner (lasts a year).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 09:47 PM
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are you REALLY trying to argue that the hormonal and body-changing effects of having an abortion at 4-6 weeks are the same as carrying a pregnancy to term at 40 weeks? And the abortion itself no matter how its done leaves a wound on the uterus where the placenta was attached that her body has to heal up. which is farrrrrr less difficult to recover from than say a c-section or vaginal birth. i have a piece of metal permanently stuck up in my uterus and my body is just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 11:08 PM
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yeah the chad archetype is basically an ESFP: charismatic, flirtatious, but only ever doing something because HE wants to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 11:30 PM
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ahhh yup i could definitely see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 01:42 AM
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i am a skinny girl 😋 probably why i can’t drink more than 4-6 drinks without being seriously affected. my drink of choice is white wine, unless im at a bar and then it’s tequila sours alll night plus lots of dancing!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 01:40 AM
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i believe mothers are squashing in introverts extroverted functions entirely with their smothery helicopterign an ddiagnoses today and the internet and games etc are inhibiting INTJs extroverted functions yes totally agree. my current generation is already significantly affected by the lack of socialization that went on in our later adolescence with myspace, facebook, and whatnot. and it wasn't nearly as bad then as it is now. future generations are going to be seriously screwed. but that's one …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 01:34 AM
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ooof this is low balled. A good haircut (in SoCal or Dallas) starts at around $50, more if your hair is longer. If you color and/or highlight and do any kind of salon deep conditioning treatment add more. yeah i spend $220 every 12 weeks for cut and color in denver (in san diego it was more like $330 iirc). i don't wear much, if any makeup, though i spend $100 every two weeks for lash extensions because they're addictive (seriously don't start if you haven't already). i spend A LOT on skincare a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 12:26 AM
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it wasn't so much the drug taking exclusively that made me think /u/MercedesBenzoAMG was an SP, though that certainly contributed. i could be mixing up users, but he seems more of a sensation seeker than most INTJs are described to be. seems like both of you just have well developed inferior Se tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 12:15 AM
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i'm a very extroverted ISTP and a lot of your comments remind me of myself. you definitely seem pretty impulsive while still logical which i guess is why i assumed STP. it's actually not entirely uncommon for STPs and NTJs to superficially appear similar, especially the more evenly split ones on the Se/Ni axis. I basically just came up with an internal system for people which by this point has become second nature to me so I don't need to think about it consciously. It just constantly runs in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 11:47 PM
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i'm surprised. i totally get an SP vibe from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 11:21 PM
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TWELVE drinks?!? that’s asking a lot for most women. i generally stop around 6 because otherwise i will turn into a barf dispenser or start blacking out 😂 and nobody likes those lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 10:33 PM
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do you know your mbti?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 10:30 PM
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sounds VERY similar to my last serious ex. it just came naturally to him. i don't think that personality type is something one can easily fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 08:40 PM
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what you are talking about are things required to get INTO a relationship. i am talking about sustaining a relationship and meetings men's needs once your in an LTR. you haven't mentioned a single female need inside of an LTR. have you ever been in an LTR? say 2-3 years or more? once the honeymoon phase has fully worn off...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 08:35 PM
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ok so my original point still stands; you just confirmed it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 08:04 PM
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Everyone has needs but men usually have much less needs to be met. why do you believe that to be the case? don't give some fluff answer, be explicit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 08:02 PM
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i know lots of completely average males who had casual sex in college. who do you think less-than-attractive chicks hook up with?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:56 PM
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oh really? have you ever dated a man? lived with a man? people have certain (and often different) needs in a relationship. and there is nothing wrong with that. i'm not faulting men for having needs, women have needs as well; it's perfectly natural. i'm faulting men for not realizing that they DO have needs and that once they get into a relationship they start to assume that the woman meet more and more of their needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:54 PM
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as do men. when i start dating a guy, he takes me on lots of dates and activities, spends lots of money on me. he doesn't even WANT me to pay, he doesn't expect me to cook him dinner, or clean his apartment, or go pick up things for him at the store because he's too lazy, or be his emotional tampon when he's going through shit; he somehow manages to do it himself. and he makes A LOT of effort for me. after dating a guy for a while, they start to expect that women do the housework and female emot…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 04:19 AM
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Someone says, "women prefer sexual partners they're attracted to." In their minds it means "being good in bed is just being hot." god yes this 100%. for men, a physically hot woman is usually enough. for women, a hot man who sucks in bed is not attractive in any way. good sex for a woman is so much more than just physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 06:55 PM
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i used to be red a few years ago, but now i'm more purple because it seems to have gotten worse over the years. RP men overestimate what they contribute to relationships and then are shocked when they get "divorce-raped". women don't divorce for no reason; they divorce because their needs haven't been met for a long time. RP seems to think only men's needs are relevant; that any expectations placed on them by women are "demanding" or "nagging" when in a healthy relationship, both partners have n…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 06:49 PM
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overestimation of what they contribute to the relationship, kinda relates back to the mommies concept. men want a woman to take care of him, satisfy all his needs (sexually and otherwise), clean, cook, do the emotional labor required to sustain a relationship. ask a man to take out the trash and that's "nagging", even if the woman has cleaned the entire house and just wants a bit of help with one thing. give a guy a 20 minute bj and he might return the favor for like 1-2 minutes. a tendency towa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 06:22 PM
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uhh all the time. my dad frequently had dinners or weekends at resorts with his investors/business partners and my mom was always expected to be there, look nice, and socialize with the wives. that's just how it's done. UMC/UC professionals are expected to convey a certain image.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 10:22 PM
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i mean, yeah if you have a regular cleaning service coming to your house it shouldn't take long because your house can't get that dirty in a week. Also, y’all let food actually spoil inside your fridge? do you only keep processed and/or frozen food in your fridge? do you throw away your food before it spoils? produce goes bad quickly, usually it's in the produce drawer. same with like expired condiments that i never use. it's not like i have 3 month expired milk, cheese, and meat in my fridge. d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 10:11 PM
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this is even more just proof that you have no idea how long it ACTUALLY takes to deep clean something. take everything out of the fridge, sort out the food that's gone bad, scrub all sticky stuff off the surfaces which takes A LONG time and a lot scrubbing (cold surfaces are much harder to clean), put everything back in. i mean, i guess if you don't keep much food in your fridge, then no it won't take long. but for anyone who actually cooks and uses a fridge, doing all of that can easily take an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 10:01 PM
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yup. i have never pushed for commitment, actually i've always been apprehensive about making my relationships official. my last serious ex frequently mentioned marriage and kids and i was definitely not ready for that with him. men want commitment too. i've talked to a couple exes who've even said they don't find casually sex very fulfilling anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 07:32 PM
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i did a deep clean this week: vacuuming, mopping, dusting every surface, literally scrubbing all the sticky stuff that ends up stuck on the kitchen floor, cleaning the appliances...took me like 2-3 hours. and that's for a 1000 sq ft apartment lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 07:25 PM
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Women wont admit it but all things equal between two candidates the woman (esp if attractive) has the better chance at getting the job. lol what. i 100% admit that being an attractive female helps with getting all kinds of things, including jobs, especially when being hired by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 07:18 AM
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I did feel resentful but there was something curiously generalized about my resentfulness... I knew somehow it wasn't just him, it was all guys. That AMALT. That they are only ever going to try to fix it after it breaks, not stop it breaking. damn i really relate to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 07:13 AM
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a woman in a coma will not be aware of any of the effects I described...but like that doesn’t apply to 99.999 percent of women giving birth. you’re using an extreme and acting like it applies to most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 07:34 AM
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that link just reaffirms what i am saying. a woman in a vegetative state is not going to be impacted by the hormones circulated during pregnancy and childbirth. she's in a fucking COMA; she has no feelings, the hormones aren't going to impact her mental and emotional state during and after pregnancy. she already has no quality of life so the possibility of intensive surgery, post-partum depression and suicidal ideation, or even death are not even going to impact her. the vast majority of women a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 11:53 PM
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yup. if i end up with saggy tits, loose skin on my stomach, or separate ab muscles, you BET i am getting a mommy makeover. diet and exercise will never fit those things even if you're fit and slim. some women can bounce back, but it's highly dependent on her skin elasticity as well as the physical size and number of babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 11:42 PM
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no it doesn't. my mom had two 9.5 lb babies in her 30s. she's 5'9" and has never weighed more than 140 lbs, usually closer to 130 lbs, except when pregnant. and she still had a flabby tummy and had saggy breasts until she got a breast reduction. she worked out, she ate healthy, but two 9.5lb babies will actually cause separation of your ab muscles and loose skin that can only be removed via surgery. some women are lucky: some women have small babies that don't cause their abs muscles to literall…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 11:32 PM
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NO. i do not think it's fair to bring a child into the world without a stable loving family. i also don't think it's realistic for 99% of women to go through 9 months of pregnancy and post-partum hormones and complications just to give a baby up. a woman knowingly going into pregnancy just to give the baby up for adoption is not going to put the same amount of care into the growing fetus as she would if it was going to be her own child. and why would she? she would have to have a completely diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 11:15 PM
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Not about to permanently ruin my body and go through crazy hormones so someone else can adopt my cute white baby. I think most women would rather have an abortion than be pregnant just to give up the child anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 03:58 AM
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early term abortion doesn't seem like a big deal imo. you literally take a couple pills and while apparently it can be quite painful, you don't even need to have surgery. so i don't agree with OP. i'm pretty sure the abortion pills are only like $500 or something WITHOUT insurance. that's easily affordable and WAY cheaper than a kid that's for sure. i have never had an abortion fwiw, but i did have a scare once even though i'm on BC. if i had been pregnant, i would have aborted as soon as possib…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 10:13 PM
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i'm not really sure what point you're trying to make. i'm 5'9", weigh 125-128 lbs, and i consume around 2500 calories a day when i'm not active. AND i'm a female so my TDEE should be lower than yours. but it's because your energy intake doesn't exceed your energy output. fat and protein are less efficient sources of energy, so people can eat more calories on a low carb diet than on a high carb one and they'll STILL lose more weight. source. edit: here's another easier to understand article on th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 08:28 PM
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Men will overlook a massive number of glaring personality issues in a women who's smoking hot that they never would in a less attractive women. not if they have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 08:10 PM
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are you talking out of your ass? See also, every Type I diabetic, ever. yes and type 1 diabetics often gain weight on insulin therapy due to insulin's fat storing effects. my sister is a type 1 diabetic. type 1 diabetics die because their blood sugar gets too high since they don't produce insulin, so the sugar doesn't get stored in cells as fat, and high blood sugar leads the body to shut down. insulin is necessary; excess insulin is not. No, from consuming too many calories. The fact that it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 07:20 PM
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It corrects the omission of your "muh insulin" comment. no it doesn't. fat is stored via insulin. that is a fact. carbs have the greatest effect on insulin response. also a fact. protein has a small effect on insulin and fat almost none. "Most people are fat from consuming too many calories. Carbs aren't evil." most people ARE fat from consuming too many carbs, because it's a lot easier to eat 3000 calories from carbs than it is from fat and protein. carbs are not sustaining, they are quickly br…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 06:40 PM
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Muscle is also created via insulin. does that dispute anything i said? main anabolic hormone of the body. There is a reason why mass monster bodybuilders inject insulin. exactly. active people TRYING TO PUT ON MASS should eat more carbs, since carbs are easily converted into glycogen and stored in cells (for non-active, fat people, their muscles are usually easily saturated with glycogen so they don't need anywhere near as many carbs). it's like everyone in this comment chain is purposely ignori…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 05:51 PM
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Carbs are just an instant fuel, that's why it's best to use them whenever you have to do physical work. yes, agreed. Cutting them completely might really hurt thyroid. i never said anything about cutting them completely. i said that a lower carb diet will be more satiating than one higher in carbs, especially for people trying to lose weight and eat fewer calories. lower in carbs being like 30-40% of daily macros.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 05:20 PM
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lol whatever helps you sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 02:01 AM
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So no, you don’t understand the different metabolic pathways. Carbs are 4cal per gram, fats 9 cal per gram . Water is 0 calories per gram, does water provide you with sustained energy for long periods of time? Calories from carbs and calories from fat are NOT processed the same way by the body. Carbs are broken down and stored as body fat most quickly and with the least amount of ATP (energy) required.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 09:16 PM
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It’s not bro science at all. Have you ever taken a class on biochemistry or metabolic processes? It’s basic shit you learn in university. Protein, fats, and carbs all go through different biochemical pathyways in the body; carbs require the least amount of ATP to be broken down AND they provoke the highest insulin response. Insulin is what causes fat cells to store calories as fat. Please do even just a small amount of research on the subject before dismissing it as bro science.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 08:58 PM
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Obviously. I referenced FAT people in my original comment. Maybe you missed that part. Personally, I’d rather not spend 1-2 hours a day doing cardio just so I can eat more carbs and calories - been there, done that, not a good use of my time. I’d rather lift weights a few times a week, play sports, and eat a lower carb diet, though tbh I usually eat whatever I want and have a BMI of like 19.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 08:42 PM
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Are you trying to start a straw man argument? What you said does absolutely nothing to refute my argument. Of course people who work out for a living eat lots of carbs: they need quickly release energy (aka carbs), they aren’t trying to lose weight, and they burn a ton of calories working out all day. They are obviously not the FAT people I was referring to in my previous comments. When I did CC and was running 8-12 miles a day, I ate a TON of carbs. I still eat a fair amount of carbs, but I’m n…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 08:33 PM
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Do you know anything about biochemistry or metabolic processes? Fat is stored via insulin; carbs have the greatest effect on insulin response. Consumed fats have almost no effect on insulin response. Carbs are rapidly converted into stored fat. Fat has to go through a much more metabolically demanding process to get stored as fat. Plus its a lot easier to eat fewer calories if you eat high protein + high fat because they sustain you for longer and you don’t end up with insulin spikes and crashes…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 07:58 PM
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It’s not just sugar; the insulin response to high glycemic carbs and sugar are not all that different.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 07:39 PM
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Lol I’m a size 2 and I eat steak and burgers all the time. It’s all about the macros ;) Most people are fat from eating too many carbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 07:17 PM
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guess i just don’t know any UMC guys who seek out obese, non-white women to have out of wedlock kids with. my assumption could be wrong though 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 05:32 PM
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Who wants a white woman? white women are the most sought after race, at least in the US. And guess you never hung with the wives and GF's of sailors. no. i'm UMC. you clearly are not lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 08:18 AM
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i never said i was special. i just said that those "fuckboys" do commit if they're actually interested in a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 08:13 AM
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Really? Cause I lived in San Diego back in 2017 and all the white, non-Hispanic women were pretty thin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 08:26 PM
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Mmm size 14/16 might be average for middle aged women or those living in the south. I don’t see too many size 14-16 women in their 20s in Denver. A size 10 has a 30” waist for reference...that’s quite large and would generally be considered an unhealthy weight. You’re telling me thick starts at literal obesity? Thick imo, is a girl with maybe 30 extra lbs but big butt and legs, not fucking obese lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:51 PM
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My ex was hot and fun (though irresponsible), so those guys DO commit. The girl just has to bring something to the table that the man can’t get with any of the other girls he can easily fuck. So like I said, it’s girls fucking about their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:42 PM
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Nah. Girls who don’t have to write “no fuckboys” don’t write it because they don’t feel ANY need to. They haven’t had bad experiences with fuckboys. Guys want them and guys want to commit to them. Even the ones that will seem original, they are only emulating behaviors from their EX boyfriends. Lol. What makes MEN so much more interesting than women TO YOU? My male coworkers’ hobbies are mostly video games and the occasional workout and talking about cars. My hobbies include playing 3-4 sports, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:34 PM
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5’9” is not short, but it definitely isn’t tall. It’s slightly below average for the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:15 PM
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Ehh I’m sure most fitness models weight around 120 lbs if they’re of average height. I’m 5’9” and weigh a 128 lbs. But 120 lbs is definitely underweight for my height....I’ve been that skinny before and it did NOT look good either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 03:54 PM
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Do I live in the UK? Cause In the US a 10 is pretty large....
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 03:50 PM
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uhhh...no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 05:09 AM
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Yup I agree 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:45 AM
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If she's attractive, she'll get hundreds of messages. "no more fuck boys" is her way of preemptively disqualifying the players to reduce the noise in her mailbox. As a female, I really don’t believe that is why. I think it reflects recent bad experience with with guys who won’t commit. Plus writing “no fuckboys” isn’t actually going to screen out the fuckboys in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:44 AM
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i believe theres a couple of things at play. i think women find it attractive when men give up their wild ways and are ready to settle down, and they dont realize men find womens "wild days" repulsive. Agreed. I honestly can’t understand for the life of me why other girls think it’s a useful thing to write in a bio, seems like a turn off for guys (i would imagine) and a demonstration of low value more than anything. I’m a female ISTP btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 03:45 AM
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Cause most girls have nothing interesting to write: no hobbies (except “live love laugh” and “wine” lol), few insightful thoughts, and arguably a lack of insight into what men find attractive. It’s not just the words that are the same either. They take the exact same types of pictures, use the same stupid Snapchat filters. Idk if it’s an xSFJ thing, but soooo many of my friends just lack originality especially when it comes to tinder profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 01:26 AM
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Idk I kinda agree with OP, it means girls are fucking above their league. I’ve been dating more casually lately after multiple LTRs and I don’t get “fuckzoned”, even when I put out on the first date. My last relationship actually started from being purely a hookup and he just wanted to keep seeing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 01:09 AM
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If you actually want to get a guy off, then blowjobs are mostly technique imo. I don’t think technique can really be learned without at least some enthusiasm for giving blowjobs since it takes practice to learn what feels good for guys. I’ve had a few guys initially tell me they don’t get off from blowjobs and I didn’t have trouble with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 05:54 PM
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No, but I have a high libido. My LTRs have been 1.5-4 years and I still wanted sex with each of my ex-bfs nearly every day I was dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 02:02 AM
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I said that men simply need to be the same height as woman, though a couple inches taller is preferable. The average man is 5" taller than the average woman. Therefore, men who are of average height (5'9" for the US) should not using their height as an excuse for not getting dates. Where was the strawman in my argument, pray tell?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:24 PM
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If they don’t want to settle for their equivalent, then they should stop complaining. That goes for both men and women. Either work on yourself so you can get the type of partner you want (within reason), settle for who you can get, or don’t complain. Those are the only three reasonable options imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 05:03 PM
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Im not being obtuse. I’ve SEEN men on Reddit complain about being 5’9”. I’m 5’9”. I know plenty of men who are shorter than I am who have no trouble getting girls. I have a coworker who is maybe 5’6” and not only does he always seem to have a girlfriend, but the one he brought to our company party was surprisingly hot. My roommate is like 5’1” and her long-term boyfriend is around 5’5”. Another coworker is maybe 5’7” and his wife is like 5’2”. I see it all the time. I’m not disputing the fact th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:13 PM
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Oh sorry I was pretty tipsy last night from dinner lol and my reading comprehension suffered. I agree with your last comment. Though tbh, where I live, the average girl in her 20s isn’t fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:00 PM
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And average women can’t get the LTRs they REALLY want. Average people have to “settle” more than above average people. The quicker they learn to accept this, the happier they might be.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 03:48 PM
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I’m only referring to guys I’ve been in long term (I.e. 1.5 years or longer relationships) with. The whole premise of TRP is that betas get into relationships to acquire aex and alphas get casual sex. By that very premise, I’ve only dated betas (which I would dispute, but that’s besides the point). All of my exes have acquired casual sex partners incredibly quickly (from a few hours to a week) after us breaking up. If a guy can get casual sex within a week, I don’t really consider that challengi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:47 AM
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No. Sooo many terpers complain about being like 5’9”, as if they don’t realize the average American woman is 5’4”. It’s ridiculous. Granted I’m 5’9”, but if a 5’9” guy can’t get laid, it’s not because of his height.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:34 AM
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Nah. My ex-bfs have all hooked up with attractive, not fat, white girls. I’ve seen what they look like...because unfortunately my exes don’t leave me alone after we break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:24 AM
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I mean, not really. According to TRP, chads don’t commit (lol). So why is your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:22 AM
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Sooo your best retort is that my ex-bfs are lying AND I’m oblivious. Sorry, but no....I know that my ex-bfs have had no trouble getting casual sex. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:21 AM
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Women not having a damn clue of how hard it is for the average man to get pussy. None of my ex-bfs have every struggled with this. I honestly think the guys who post this are just significantly below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 02:53 AM
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I won’t date any guy shorter than I am, but that’s it. I’d prefer he be at least a few inches taller, but it’s not an absolute requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 02:51 AM
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LOL. i honestly don't understand how anyone can get through high school without realizing that appearances matter and attractive people are generally prioritized for all manner of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 10:28 PM
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That just seems bizarre imo. I lost like 35 lbs when I was 15, because duh nobody wants a chubby girl when they can have a skinny one...that just seemed like common sense. Plus it’s hypocritical. Are the newly skinny girls going after ugly guys? I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 05:36 PM
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i was never in love with him. it was just a fun and exciting relationship, hard to give that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 12:49 AM
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I will say, it was a lot harder of a decision than I’d like to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 11:49 PM
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Sounds like my last ex tbh. Granted he’s only 28, but it’s the same situation. Can get casual sex really easily, but deflects taking responsibility for his actions, is bad with money, refuses to learn from his mistakes. He was a lot of fun and the sex was great (probably why I stuck around for so long), but it was anxiety inducing thinking about a future with him. I don’t want a husband who would saddle me with debt or fail to prioritize our children’s needs above his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 11:38 PM
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Validation, feeling desired, sex is fun, relationships are work. Plus it’s a distraction. I had an old roommate who broke up with her long term relationship and went off the deep end: shaved her head, started partying alc the time, hooked up with like 30+ guys in a year (it was disgusting). The amount of time she spent on tinder, meeting new guys, talking about said guys...it just seemed like a giant distraction from the mess that was (and is) her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 11:01 PM
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So a prostitute?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 05:28 PM
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I’d already had a very unstable, emotionally abusive (and I don’t use that term lightly) long-term boyfriend by that point lol. I literally thought I’d never get another boyfriend. Wish I could go back and knock some sense into myself. Probably one of my only regrets was not breaking up with that bf like 2 years earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 09:36 PM
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That would be me up until I was about 20. I still remember during my sophomore year of college, a guy who was an actual male model kept sitting next to me and trying to flirt in a giant lecture. I figured he was way out of my league and not actually flirting until we ran into each other at a party a few months later.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 09:28 PM
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Even when I was catfishing as a hot girl on some very trashy apps Can I ask why you even bothered to do that??? I’d rather pull my hair out than seriously use a dating app and I’m an attractive female lol...they’re painfully tedious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 07:49 PM
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Lol what??? “Don’t move the goal posts” is a perfectly reasonable request on a DEBATE sub. My whole argument was “going to the gym increases female attractiveness”. You clearly have no counterpoint to my argument if the best response you can muster is “you’re an autist lolol”. What men do in the gym is irrelevant when talking about female attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 05:47 PM
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I mean, personally I have a BMI of like 19 and I never starve myself, go to bed hungry, or lack the energy to do anything. My point above still stands - you’re eating the wrong foods if you’re having those problems. Do you eat a lot of fat and protein? Or do you eat a lot of sugary or artificially low-cal foods? Do you work out or do you just try to starve yourself? Starving yourself or simply focusing on calories over macros isn’t a sustainable or healthy way to lose weight and I speak from exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 04:56 PM
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It’s autistic to say that girls can benefit from going to the gym? Lol ok. So you’re telling me that most men would rather date a girl with a BMI of 19 who has a flabby stomach, cellulite, a flat and unshapely butt versus a girl with a BMI of 19 and a tight stomach, shapely legs and butt? Muscle building does way more for a man's attractiveness. I never said otherwise. I said going to the gym increases female attractiveness. Don’t move the goal posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 04:42 PM
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the 80/20 thing doesn't really apply to women like it does to men. a woman who is only a little better than average can still Mmm ok. Sounds like male hamstering. Why would the Pareto principle explicitly exclude female attractiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 05:38 AM
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Eggs are healthy and take less time to make than ordering a pizza. Same with spinach salad, unflavored Greek yogurt and berries, protein shakes with a healthy source of fat... You’re eating the wrong foods if you’re lying awake with a growling stomach and haven’t got energy for anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 05:33 AM
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On the other side, putting in a lot of gym time actually helps guys. Lol what? it helps girls too. Skinny fat isn’t attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 05:27 AM
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Based on life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 02:36 PM
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Idk I’m an introvert. I literally just went though airport security looking grumpy and the guy tried to flirt with me with absolutely no IOIs on my part. IME just being around men seems to work pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 06:48 PM
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Do you not understand how to follow a logical argument? If two people do an equivalent job, why should one be viewed as less than equal because that person has a vagina and a pretty face? Job position has literally nothing to do with it. I’m not sure why you’re even bringing up the pay gap as I take no issue with the bogus “pay gap” nor did I once mention it. My entire argument was that men don’t think attractive women are genuinely competent, even if they’ve proven they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 03:11 PM
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As an ISTP with multiple ESFP ex-bfs, that is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. Better? 😝
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 03:05 AM
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If a woman can do an equal or better job than a man, why shouldn’t they be treated equally? What an inane question...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:37 PM
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If we seem cold and unemotional, it's not because we're hiding our soft side and trying to act tough. It's because we don't have nearly as many emotions as you do. Lol. As an ISTP female with multiple ESFP ex-bfs that is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 10:47 PM
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yeah. men assume attractive women are incompetent and/or lazy. even if a woman has proven her competence, most men still assume that it's because she got help through her looks (rather than her innate intelligence, work ethic, personability, etc). men do not see attractive, competent women as equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 10:11 PM
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What do you mean by disposable? From an evolutionary perspective, sperm is cheap and plentiful; eggs are not. One man can impregnate hundreds of women in the time it takes for one woman to carry a pregnancy to term. For a population to survive, you need far more women than men, thus men are “disposable”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 05:41 PM
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Mmm sort of. I’m a 32dd. A 34d has a band size that is too large for my frame. Technically a 32dd cup size is the same as a 34d cup size but the band is different which has a significant effect on fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 04:57 AM
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my favorite response in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 09:23 PM
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Must just be a male thing. An ex bf got into an argument about what bras would fit me, how comfortable they’d be, even what my cup size was (he was convinced I couldn’t possibly be a DD - which was easily provable). It took him about 10 minutes before he finally realized that he was talking out of his ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:27 PM
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If you make less money than a woman you will lose value in her eyes. This does not mean she wont fuck you, or date you, or marry you, but some part of her will value you less as a mate for your ability to provide and provision. Female hypergamy dictates maximization of utility in partners, and this requires a male with access to MORE resources than her. In todays day in age, thats more money, honey. Ignore the peanut gallery that scoffs at this. Its always been true and always will be. If you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 08:27 PM
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Most emotionally abusive men do not show their abusive side at least until the honeymoon phase is over. It’s very confusing to have a partner who seemed warm and caring suddenly change. You’d be surprised by how often the “nice guy” can become manipulative and controlling once he feels comfortable in a relationship. There are “tells” that a guy may become manipulative and controlling, but unless a woman has previously experienced it, she likely won’t know what to look for.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 06:41 PM
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A large part of dating as a woman, in my experience, is being pleasant and then just making yourself available. Men come to you if they’re interested. So I’d say the above comment IS gender specific advice for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 06:28 PM
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having a vibrant social life Yeah this is probably the best advice (in addition to being sane, presentable, kind). You’ll never meet a man if you aren’t socializing with them. The best advice I can think of is to find some social hobbies you enjoy and where you’d meet the kind of men you want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 06:24 PM
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Maybe this is because she was raising children. She might not have been the same way when she was younger, for example. i am a 24 year-old female and i am the EXACT same as the mom in the example. i'd gladly take a pill instead of having to cook and eat healthy meals. to me, food is basically a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:58 PM
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My mother and sister are so uninterested in food that they basically do not eat. They'd take a pill once a day instead of eating meals, if that was an option. this is me. i'd 100% sign up for a HEALTHY meal replacement shake, but they don't exist. i usually make myself pretty boring, quick, healthy meals. i used to cook actual meals when i lived with my ex, but it's too much work for myself imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:56 PM
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It's also extremely disheartening to learn that men will find airheaded simpletons at least as attractive, if not more so, than a level-headed women with actual accomplishments. my experience doesn't align with this IRL. most high intelligence men don't want some airhead...they would be bored and unfulfilled by such a relationship. they'll fuck an airhead, but they won't consider her for a long term partner. my BF's have always said one thing they really liked was how "pretty and smart" i was. a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 06:12 AM
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The final point is, most women don’t feel attraction in that way until a guy makes moves on her, regardless of how ‘good’ other men think he is. it is astonishing that men don't realize this. i don't generate interest in a guy until he has shown some interest in me. i know some girls are different, but they're generally the ones who can't attract the guys they want in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 06:27 PM
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yeah i had an ex-boyfriend like that. he couldn't handle the slightest criticism and would turn it back on me, much like the girl in the OP. he had kind of narcissist tendencies, but i think it was more just him being an only child and ESFP.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 06:17 PM
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lol even my boss uses steroids. he makes A LOT of money, has an engineering background, oversees a company of engineers, but 100% uses steroids. they're way more common than most women realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 05:45 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 03:44 AM
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Lol no. I have a friend group because I CHOSE to join social activities where I’d meet people in a new city post-college. Was it awkward at first? Yeah. Was it easy? No. I have upvotes because I’m not a lazy complainer making excuses.I didn’t have friends in my current city so I joined activities to make friends. Can guys do the same? Absolutely. Does it help being an attractive female? Maybe, but not significantly so. I don’t have a social group BECAUSE I’m a female. I have a social group becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 04:36 AM
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With your experience do you think the girls in the video are being coy or are genuinely naive? No I don’t think they’re being coy, they’re just answering exclusively from the female POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 02:28 AM
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huh? I wasn’t “invited”, I joined those activities of my own accord. I assume males can do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 02:22 AM
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no, they can't. i'm a 24 year-old female working with 95% males, also most of my social activities have significantly more males than females. i have always been very careful, especially at work, to never give anyone false hope, while still being friends with my coworkers. it just doesn't work. i joined a pool league with one coworker, because we got along really well and i wanted to learn to play, he took that as an indication of interest. so now i only do things with coworkers if it's a group …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 01:37 AM
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that’s not being asked out though. I’ve had guys yell out of windows or from across a busy street, doing the type of stuff you’re talking about (asking for “advice” in grocery stores or whatever), but unless a guy actually advances the conversation beyond that, it’s irrelevant to OP’s point. For every 50 guys that do the above, maybe one will actually make advances. I have been asked out in the most innocuous situations like sitting at a red light driving home from work, but that kind of stuff i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 09:53 PM
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That’s just not true. Maybe SOME some of those men are too oblivious to realize they have options, but not the majority of them. If they didn’t, women wouldn’t be complaining about “where all the good men have gone”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 04:06 PM
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The vast majority of men will leer at you VERY obviously, but not actually hit on you, unless you’re at a bar/party/etc. So I guess if women are going to bars daily, then it seems like a completely reasonable statistic, but I doubt most women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 04:01 PM
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I have no idea what your trying to say. You think those men don’t have options? I know very few married woman (outside of my parents generation) who don’t work at all; the rare exceptions have husbands who earn way more than $100k and only stopped working after having children. Those women both previously had professional careers making good money. It’s a matter of economic necessity. I’d love to be a SAHM after I have kids. Am I counting on if? Definitely not. That would require having a husban…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 03:45 PM
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Seriously? A 30 year-old man making $100k+ per year would be in the 90th percentile. So 10% of men make what I would consider to be the absolute minimum to support a SAHM. Those men aren’t going to settle for any lazy woman who doesn’t want to work. Where is the line of men making $120k+ waiting to wife up lazy women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 03:20 PM
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I have seen some men around here talk about it like women have an opt out button they can hit any time and some white knight will come to save them from the drudge of working outside the home. Which isn't true or possible. it's like these men don't realize the median income per capita. the vast majority of working men in the US couldn't support a stay-at-home-wife/mom even if they wanted to. where are all these high income men waiting to marry every working woman who'd want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 04:38 AM
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A 40+ year old woman can get a job an earn a living. HOW? how is someone who has been out of the workforce for 20+ years going to be competitive when applying for jobs? most employers would scoff at a 1-year employment gap, much less a 20-year gap. do you have a professional job? because you sound so out of touch with the reality of actually getting a job. and she did contribute to the household division of labor. if a couple made an agreement to divide labor where one person works at a job and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 03:24 PM
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You're better off paying cash anyway no, you're not. financially, you're better off putting 20% down to get the best interest rate on a mortgage and then investing the rest in an index fund. 7-8% returns (adjusted for inflation) beats a 4% interest rate on a mortgage. and that's not even factoring in things like mortgage interest tax deduction. of course that assumes you have the self control to invest the other 80% and just let it grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 04:19 AM
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even for housewives of middle class families so what do you expect a 40+ woman who has been out of the workforce for 20+ years to do? couples where one partner is a SAHM make a joint decision to have one partner stay at home and manage the household and children so the other partner can focus on their career in ways that they couldn't if both partners were working. it frees up the working partners time by alleviating them of child rearing and household duties. the whole point of alimony was for …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 04:06 AM
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high IQ race mix this is somewhat redudundant.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:56 PM
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some women were already in the workforce. it was nowhere near as prevalent or expected as it is today.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 04:30 PM
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when you force a flood the labor market, supply goes up, demand goes down, and wages adjust accordingly, thus you end up with our current situation where two incomes are often required to provide for a household. feminism pushed for women in the workforce, leading to the aforementioned situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 07:39 AM
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i don't understand how more people don't see this as an issue. video games, social media, apps, vloggers (which i honestly can't believe even exist, much less profit). it's bizarre. i know many people who spends HOURS a day playing video games or on social media or a combination. and it starts at such a young age. social anxiety is more prevalent now, which i highly doubt is unrelated. people get excited about the latest app that lets them not leave their house and interact with the outside worl…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 07:20 AM
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if one of your ultimate goals in life was to start a family and if it was something you knew would fulfill you, to suddenly have that taken away from you would be devastating. i have no idea what i want most of the time, but i do know i want kids one day. and while i'm only 24, it's a legit fear of mine that i wouldn't be able to. i wouldn't kill myself, that's for sure. but to act like it's not horribly devastating is close minded.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 07:01 AM
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My worth was systematically attacked, dissected, and used against me. weird because i've dated guys who definitely made me feel that way and i thought it was very strange. are men oblivious to the faults in their own gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 06:37 AM
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Yes and in that example the girl will have to pay for gas and driving expenses, her OWN electricity which doesn’t magically evaporate just because she’s at your place one night. The girl is also spending significantly more of her time to accommodate you at your place. Time is money...I guess I don’t understand what “access” the guy is providing. My prior boyfriends never provided access to anything that I didn’t already have at home with greater convenience to boot. What access is the guy provid…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 05:07 AM
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Oh, I do reciprocate. I’ll pick up groceries or food or just random things that I know they need, I go way overboard for Christmas, birthdays, the like, pick up coffee and breakfast, etc. Once I’m in a relationship, I get a bit pushier about offering to pay for stuff. I sorta believe its my responsibility to reciprocate and feel guilty when I’m being financially burdensome. However I believe lots of men and women DONT feel that way. My point wasn’t about me personally per se... My point was that…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:43 AM
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You said you are indirectly spending money on her when she comes over. I’m saying that’s a poor example.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 04:54 AM
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I’ve dated guys who made less than I did, but they still wanted to spend money on me. I have absolutely no qualms about sharing expenses and I feel kinda guilty when guys spend a lot on me, but they’d insist. I don’t necessarily think it’s solely women who are perpetuating this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 04:20 AM
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And she is indirectly spending money on gas to drive to your place. She’s also spending the time and effort to drive to her house, prepare her stuff for the next day, then drive over to yours. As someone who’s done that A LOT, I’d much rather pay the small amount of electricity that I would ALREADY be paying, then go through that routine regularly. Also, she still has to pay for the utilities at her apartment, even if she isn’t staying there on a daily basis. The argument that you’re indirectly …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 04:16 AM
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You should seriously be pondering abortion and/or adoption. Men do not want to marry single mothers (and not just TRP men, but normal men). You will still be able to provide for and nurture a child once you’re in a stable marriage. This isn’t your only chance to be a mother. However, it will be your only chance not to be forever branded as a single mother.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 08:19 PM
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Anyone can make up their own definition of what attractive parents are, there isn't any science to that. scientists can measure certain physically desirable traits, like the dimensions of the face, symmetry, ratios, etc. it isn't subjective to the researcher's personal opinion. they can perform surveys on who is considered attractive and who is not. there are all kinds of methods to determine whether a person is considered conventionally attractive by the majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 06:26 AM
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yes, of course. that's why attractiveness is a more valuable trait for females than males.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 06:08 AM
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attractiveness is highly subjective It’s really not THAT subjective and science has proven so. There are universally desirable traits like an 0.7 WHR, neotenous face, full lips, straight teeth, clear skin, etc. Are you trying to argue otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 11:56 PM
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really??? I think foundation makes skin tone look worse in many cases. Plus it looks fake. I only wear makeup when I’m going out on the weekends and haven’t noticed much of a difference in how men perceive me. I thought guys weren’t into the heavily made up look??
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 11:48 PM
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I would be shocked if people who were attractive somehow were more likely to have female children. Like somehow if you are an attractive male you shoot out more X chromosomes? i thought it was weird too, but i've provided the sources. you don't have to take my word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 10:39 PM
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then why do women need to wear makeup? we don't NEED to wear makeup. some choose to. i'd argue part of the reason is to remain competitive with all the other girls who also wear makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 10:38 PM
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sure, but it seems to be a hot topic on this sub that women consistently rate men overall as less attractive than men rate women. and people immediately point to women's unrealistic standards as the cause. but if women, due to evolutionary pressures, actually do get more attractive compared to male counterparts, then it makes sense that men would rate women higher overall. as women actually are more attractive. you could also make the argument that people want to be at least "looksmatched" and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 10:28 PM
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you just described the billing process for basically every medical procedure covered by our current ridiculous health insurance setup. it is in no way exclusive to vasectomies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 10:38 PM
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she isn't expected to get an abortion. she's expected to pay for her child if she doesn't want an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 09:43 PM
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i find this to be pretty accurate ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 08:47 PM
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Do you live in the US? The market for bachelors degrees is so oversatuarared that most paralegal positions require 4 year degrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 06:58 AM
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Many women are fine with giving up their career to have children IF their husbands can provide. Female doctors in particular are known for retiring or severely reducing their workload after having kids. And paralegals absolutely require a 4 year degree, some even have masters, and even most receptionist positions require a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 06:18 AM
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Statistically, teachers come from the bottom of their class in university and cosmeticians aren’t known for being very intelligent. But my point was more that if you are going to go to college and spend the money to get a 4 year degree, why not go in to a higher paying career than a receptionist? And why would that harm a woman’s relationship value? For many people, a job is just a job and a way to pay the bills. Why would a woman making $80k be less desirable than one making $30k?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/18 05:51 PM
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Women need to work, at the very least, until they get married. It would be naive for a woman to bank on finding a wealthy husband and not work herself. There are smart, feminine women who go into high paying careers simply because it appeals to them or they have the intelligence for it. It also doesn't make sense from a financial standpoint to go into a low paying career if you can easily excel in a higher paying one. Both my parents were lawyers. My mom quit once she had kids. She has never bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/18 05:29 AM
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Yeah, but what did they do before they became SAHMs? My parents were both lawyers, but once my mom had kids she became a SAHM.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/18 07:07 PM
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