Making men fall in love - Your moves?

goatismycopilot · 2019-02-03T15:13:27+00:00

Ignore people who say things like " you are damaged goods".

goatismycopilot · 2019-02-03T12:47:21+00:00

Speaking as a goat I find jumping on top of things and twirling around and knocking shit over is pretty effective.

we-are-men-with-ven · 2019-02-03T13:44:24+00:00

Avoiding all these sexual stragedy communities, would be a start. They work on a very particular type of person and I don't think they're the sort of person to want to date.

This is a difficult question. I think (albeit cliche) you have to love yourself first. Hone your social skills and self confidence (a job as a bar maid boosted my self confidence as it forced me too start striking up conversations with complete sttangers) and having a vibrant social life helps all kinds of areas. It helps you read men better, means you meet more of them and gives you more fun and interesting things to talk about.

I'm the mean time please try and be happy by yourself, there's nothing wrong with taking a break from dating for a while.

LUClEN · 2019-02-03T14:30:28+00:00

That's basically the premise of Greene's Art of Seduction. It's a staple.

_Tumbleweed- · 2019-02-03T12:33:55+00:00

What I did was picked a guy who was charismatic, funny, and intelligent, despite being really ugly and fat.

That way, I was waaaay out of his league looks wise and I knew for fact he couldn’t get anyone better looking than me. He also believes I’m smarter than him (I’m not). It’s a perfect situation of him being better than me, but him believing that I’m better than him.

So I built him up and encouraged him to lose weight, start lifting, and take better care of his appearance and now he is HAWT. He credits me for his transformation and wants to be with me forever. He is my perfect alpha bucks. He loves me even more now that we are on each other’s level looks wise.

We’ve been together since we were 18 and have grown and accepted each other in every different stage for the last 6 years.

Edit: RP tactics are creepy as fuck so I don’t give a shit what you all think of my strategy.

Edit2:

There’s a lot more to this story that I’m not telling. My boyfriend is/was the lead singer and guitarist in a successful band when I first met him. He is extremely captivating and charismatic. So he had that going for him. And he chased me, it’s not like I preyed on him because he was fat and ugly lol. My relationship and strategy came about organically.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-02-03T14:17:09+00:00

Be fun and sexy and eye contact blow jobs. Cook for him

ltdshred · 2019-02-03T15:41:19+00:00

Don't ask for advice on reddit.. especially this sub

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2019-02-03T16:19:56+00:00

Women don't need to be good at seduction or finding a s/o, just not bad. But somehow, even that is too hard.

throwaway-637 · 2019-02-03T17:10:02+00:00

Be attractive. The rules for women are simple. The rest doesn't matter.

You could even make a man fall in love with you as a person without him seeing you, but once he sees you and you're not attractive he'll lose all the feelings he had.

rosacanina_ · 2019-02-03T13:34:53+00:00

Ignore everything that you feel compelled to do in order to please other people. Drop the unrealistic expectations seen in movies.

You need to put yourself "first" and be aware of what your own true desires are. Not desires you think you have because you saw it somewhere. Your own desires. Don't buy into the hype.

This is something I screen women for. It tells me that she's in tune with herself, knows what she wants and has established a true strong core.

A big flag for me is women who imitate other popular women. It signals a lack of maturity to me.

I don't think there's a universal strategy to get someone to fall in love with you. You can be considered attractive and have a nice personality but guys have much more nuanced preferences than "attractive". If you don't fall into a guy's target type no matter how attractive and good you are it's unlikely going to work because you're just not his type. Guys obviously have preferences for looks and personality.

I also don't think you really want to trick somebody to fall in love with you even if you could. If there were such a thing as a love potion would you actually be interested deep down in a guy that you made to fall in love with you using a potion? It wouldn't realy be genuine love? That's at least my take on it.

It makes me sick that there are so many movements for men out there that teach men how to get sex and these strategies (unfortunately) work

The interesting question would be why this makes you sick? The sex happens based on mutual consent. In other species the male just leaves after sex... in other species the female kills the male after sex. We humans have it great in that regard.

The other interesting question is what do you want out of a man? Love, of course. But that's just an umbrella term. Once you know what you want out of a man you start fishing for one that you deem might be able to provide it for you. He'll do the same thing.

Uncommon_Sensed_1234 · 2019-02-03T13:20:25+00:00

If you keep on getting abusive men it's because you chose them and probably will again.

I feel sorry for the good guy that buys into your upcoming con.

quasirealikecreature · 2019-02-03T15:16:48+00:00

Uh....I've made a life long habit of only really being attracted and falling hard for intp nerds. You could try that?

wereallcrazyson · 2019-02-03T15:57:15+00:00

Identify your values, create boundaries, and maintain those boundaries. A good man will respect those boundaries and appreciate them. Also, work on yourself and learn about adult attachment themes. Take an enneagram assessment to learn about yourself.

flamingoinghome · 2019-02-03T14:15:09+00:00

Honestly? Get comfortable being the pursuing party. The kind of guys who like "the chase" are usually not pleasant people. So yeah, that means texting first, making plans, maybe even making the first move sexually.

Also, don't objectify men. They're people. So many girls end up in shit relationships because they want "a boyfriend" and don't bother to see if the guy is actually likable. You wouldn't start hanging out with tweakers because you wanted "a friend"; same principle.

ShawshankRetention · 2019-02-03T14:19:46+00:00

You know the Hot-Crazy matrix ?

The more a woman is hot, the more she know her partner will tolerate spending, abuse and even cheating.

In the same way, when you seek a "good men" you have little chance finding a high value one.

And I never want to be used again.

Okay, You seem to have grievances from your history, but remember that the non player types are pretty much used to being ignored rejected or even mocked. If you go to someone on the same level as you with this mindset, it will turn quite ugly.

I would recommend you to talk a bit to people, learn their stories, accept yours and perhaps find someone you can have connection and empathy for.

Crashlands · 2019-02-03T15:29:00+00:00

You came to the wrong sub for that lol

PuleaSpataru69 · 2019-02-03T16:49:22+00:00

WATCH. This woman is a genius

https://www.youtube.com/user/SheRaSeven1/videos

Isobella9 · 2019-02-03T12:36:59+00:00

It's very simple.

Find yourself a nice beta guy who's unlucky in love and will really appreciate that you enjoy spending time with him.

Otherwise, IDK, start actually cultivating hobbies you can stand to have in common with a man, work on your body, get the best skincare you can afford, etc.

Start actually being a person a high value man with options (the kind you most likely want) wants to do more with than just pump and dump.

Common hobbies that men also practice are rock climbing, mountain trekking, dancing, playing music to start. I'm sure you can find more.

Workaholico · 2019-02-03T13:28:57+00:00

And I never want to be used again. So, what is the best strategy for a woman to get a good man for a relationship? Are there strategies?

Many.

Construct the desired man from a lower value or young man.
Try as many men as possible, one should be good by chance alone.
Do not go for people who are pursuing you above average. (no stalkers)
Learn to love men of lower value. They will treat you well as you are precious, they aren't.
Choose to love people with a more "let the world be as it is" personality.
Do not deal with ideological people (religious included)
Try not forgetting your friendzone, there may be many good candidates there.
Do not show ease of control (controlling people hate these people)
use sex as a weapon.

I wonder why would you think there aren't none. I could stay here writing all day if you need.

azngirl7689 · 2019-02-03T15:54:48+00:00

Stand my ground. Say no. Have opinions.

I was attracting some real winners before I shined up my spine.

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classylassy28 · 2019-02-03T15:08:51+00:00

Don't go for the men who pursue you, usually they pursue everyone they can lol.

Go for men you see, like the qualities and ask for their number/make the first move. Shy ones are usually the best, but make sure you have yourself 'fixed' after all the shite relationships you've had.

Being able to be happy with yourself, having your own life and things going for you is attractive. When you become dependent on a guy only it will eventually go downhill.

Nodoxxintoxin · 2019-02-03T16:05:38+00:00

Get one who is ready to fall in love.

ArrantPariah · 2019-02-03T17:11:34+00:00

Invite him to your house for dinner and sex.

WestsideMoonWalker · 2019-02-03T17:33:43+00:00

Hmm. I can only speak for my SO, but things she has done that work. Cuddle me like a hibernating grizzly bear. Find every area of my body with stretchy skin and squish it randomly and make weird noises. Nerf gun wars, getting a chonky cat, being so derp that people think you are actually crazy. Also, just make weird noises in general. Shit is fun.

Apparently my advice boils down to "be so weird that the right person can't help but be mesmerized".

Also, mutual hatred of the same people. I can honestly say that my SO is really amazing. Part of the reason I love her is because we hated the same person so much, lmao.

WhatIsTheMeaningHere · 2019-02-03T17:52:03+00:00

Basically, make them orbit you and then take them in after a year or so. It probably won't be a very attractive guy who falls into it.

abaxeron · 2019-02-03T18:57:46+00:00

How do you get a man to fall in love with you?

You can't, "love" is undefined; it's a broad umbrella term - when you say "fall in love", it can mean several things, some of them are mutually exclusive. What do you want him to "fall in love" with you for? Sex? - He's probably already there, if you're at least mildly attractive. Something else? - Things get complicated there.

Sprach_McGrachan · 2019-02-03T22:20:04+00:00

> It makes me sick that there are so many movements for men out there that teach men how to get sex and these strategies (unfortunately) work!

The OP is a man.

woolleybear · 2019-02-03T22:46:42+00:00

and these strategies (unfortunately) work!

What do you mean by this? What's wrong with men wanting sex?

How long do you wait before having sex with a new guy? Maybe you should put in a hard rule of waiting 3 actual dates if you aren't already.

verticordia · 2019-02-04T00:40:59+00:00

Being really, really girly will always draw men to you. Don't believe that being low maintenance is the way to go. Politely ask men to do things for you (this makes them value you, because why would they do things for you if you weren't valuable), practice saying "Oh, I can't do that, I'd break a nail!". When a man has to take care of you, some part of his lizard heart opens up.

Be really sweet, make a LOT of eye contact in conversations, ask questions, make him do 80 percent of the talking, make him chase after you.

iamprosciutto · 2019-02-04T06:09:06+00:00

Looks are great and all, but if you want a relationship, you want someone who you will like being around. This should be your first priority in finding a partner. The things that make me swoon for a girl are kindness, interest in me, affection, caring about my wants, dreams, goals, and needs, not being too possessive but not being too aloof, sexual availability, the ability to hold a conversation about things outside of social media, having similar political views, not judging me for my emotions, and other things like that.

Just treat men like people who typically see the world in a very practical light. Men typically have lofty goals that they know they will probably not be able to complete in their entirety. They still want to be humored when they talk about them or even try to accomplish them. We are very egocentric. It feels nice to be complimented and admired and touched.

All that said, you shouldn't be trying "to get a man to fall in love with you." That reads as all kinds of manipulative and creepy. Love should blossom out of mutual attraction and enjoying each other's company. It's not something that can be forced out of somebody.

NiceGuyNumber4 · 2019-02-03T12:24:25+00:00

Minimum is to keep the balls empty and the stomach full. Not getting fat and talking less will go a long way. From there it depends more on the individual.

Aaren_Augustine · 2019-02-03T12:25:04+00:00

This should be very easy. Most women don't even need to try that hard but it seems without desire it's nearly impossible for some women.

Read First Kill all the Marriage Counselors. Its so fucking easy that this is the only book you need. It's basically how not to fuck up rather than how to be good at 'girl game'.

So, what ist the best strategy for a woman to get a good man for a relationship?

To be a good woman. And can you be sexually attracted to good men?

wokein · 2019-02-03T16:12:55+00:00

find female communities and share your experiences with them and learn from them.

PhoenixMDL · 2019-02-03T16:43:21+00:00

Sex and "relationship" are two separate things. Men have strategy for sex because it's usually required. We can't usually just walk up to some chick and ask of they want to play.

Guess what? If you aren't unpleasant in looks or demeanor, women can do exactly that and end up getting laid.

Quit comparing apples to oranges. Sex is not a relationship

fuckdr11 · 2019-02-03T17:03:03+00:00

How do you get a man to fall in love with you?

What a fucking joke.

gblyeti · 2019-02-04T01:24:12+00:00

Learn what a quality person is. Make yourself into one. From that process you'll learn what other quality people look like and you'll start to feel attracted to them since you know how hard it is to be someone like that.

reluctantly_red · 2019-02-03T15:43:13+00:00

This is dead easy -- go on dates -- talk to guys -- have sex with the ones you like. Why do people overthink this shit so much?

passepar2t · 2019-02-03T12:31:46+00:00

If you think you can "make" a man fall in love with you, you're doing it wrong.

Iamnotelephant · 2019-02-03T15:19:19+00:00

You can't "make" anyone fall in love with you. Be a person someone would want to be in love with and all else falls into place. Just my two cents.

DatasianAssssss · 2019-02-03T16:21:24+00:00

U gotta actually love him. You need to realize that ur loving a human person, not a magical creature who dont show emotion and walking ATM.

Its easy to make men Love you if you already love yourself. Im still single so uhm take this with peper and salt (lol)

This is how i make them love me and then drop them if i dont think they can catch up with my standard.

First, know him. Like from back to back cover. Ask him about his life, from the past, his bad habit, he's lowest moment of his life and see if you can deal with it after 50 years. If you cant drop it. Move on bc ull just give urself a headache.

Second, know his sex life, is he a slut before? How does he score or get laid? Is sex his love language and can u level with his libido? If no, drop it cos ull just get divorce after 2 years.

Third, does your life goal align? Does he want family? Is he religous? Is he someone that wants 2 kids? Or more? How stable he is? Financially wise and emotionally. Does he believe in gender roles? What kind of life style he want to continue once he have kids? Does he smoke? How's his health? Is he gonna die after 5months and leave u with the kids? This is important, also he have to be in the age of "settling" age bc (for me) relationship goal is have family/be family together.

I have more list but this major 3 that i use to filter men. You need to know what kind of man you want, dont be bullshit people who says "i have faith that he will fall in my lap" STFU okay? Its not true. Nobody is perfect and its OKAY!.

Dont have too much expectations , specially in his appearance. Men get bald (for me its hot at least) and its normal. Your boobs get soggy right? So those stuff will come so you need to be ready and see if you'll still want him to make love to you every morning with his morning breath and shiny head.

Im saying is that HE IS A HUMAN BEING and YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING , love doesnt make anybody magically become a super HUMAN without flaw.

Also the last advice is:

DO YOU KNOW YOURSELF ENOUGH? IF NO THEN DO IT FIRST BEFORE U GET A RELATIONSHIP.*

Happy hunting ;)

gasparddelanuit · 2019-02-03T16:28:49+00:00

Be attractive
Don't be unattractive

More seriously, even though the above is true and you cannot really make a man fall romantically in love with you unless he first finds you physically attractive, there are other characteristics which will help.

What will make you a guaranteed keeper will be whether you enhance his life or make it worse, from a male perspective, not a female one. So, things like the quality and frequency of sex, whether you are low or high maintenance, whether you are a nag, whether you are genuine, whether you accept him as he is and are not trying to change him, whether you are humble, whether you are kind, whether you are supportive, whether you are loyal, whether you are submissive, whether you help him where he wants help and give him space where he doesn't, whether he can be relaxed around you, will be the areas that you need to look at to distinguish yourself from other women and really win a guy over.

Alternatively, you could just date a BP simp or incel with low-standards and rely on them succumbing to the women are wonderful effect to win them over.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2019-02-03T17:33:33+00:00

You know how everyone makes New Year's Resolutions? They say, for example, that they're going to eat healthy food. But then, when they're actually faced with the choice of taking a bite out of that tasty tasty pizza, they forget their resolution.

This is the core of all Red Pill theory: the difference between the highly rational decisions of our frontal lobes - that is, the things we say we're going to do, the things we fully intend to do - and the true motivations of our behavior, which come from an entirely different part of the brain.

As an aside, it doesn't have to be this way. We could have discipline and exercise control over our choices. We could all eat right and exercise ...but most people don't. Our urges overwhelm the rational decisions we made on New Year's Eve.

The Red Pill is an attempt to understand what people actually do, disregarding what they say. If you were going to open a restaurant, and you only listened to what people say, then you might only serve kale (or whatever, I don't know, something healthy). Then you'd be confused and not understand why the pizza place across the street is doing so much more business than you.

If you want to make a man fall in love, you need to look at what has actually made men fall in love. You need to disregard what people (particularly men) claim they want you to do. You need to find out what has actually motivated them in the past.

A good place to start might be to look at general happiness research, particularly if it focuses on men. I think I've read that men are happiest when they feel they're accomplishing something. So, as a rough hypothesis, you might try getting a man to invest something in you, and then reward him for that so that he feels he accomplished something. If you'd like examples just let me know.

The key thing to keep in mind is to watch what what a man does, and ignore what he says. Every man is going to say that if you let him fuck you, he'll love you. And they might not even be lying. They might really want that to be true. But the part of our brain that feels love is not the part of our brain that knows how to spell the word "fuck."

...of course, you also have the problem that the men you date aren't trying to fall in love with you. That's not our job. We are only trying to fuck you. So, if you just outright deny sex entirely, a man (who isn't a total chump) is going to move on. On the other hand, if you negotiate some reasonable compromises like for example, "we'll have sex only after we both agree that it will be monogamous" then you're actually encouraging investment.

Good luck to you!

HostileErectile · 2019-02-03T17:57:28+00:00

As a woman you dont need no moves, thats why there isnt any movements out there for women.

If youre are very unattractive its too bad, no move will change that, unless youre very slutty or lower your standards. Being slutty though certianly wont guarantee any man to stick around after ge gets his.

But if youre reasonably attractive, you simply have to ask him.

i_have_a_semicolon · 2019-02-03T15:07:55+00:00

Dress very flatteringly to your body shape, extenuate your assets.

Find a guy who doesn't pursue you to the same extent the previous men did.

Find a guy who seems genuine and a little boring.

RightfullySqualid · 2019-02-03T15:33:49+00:00

First you need to start therapy so you can solve all your issues and you stop getting yourself in relationships with abusive men. Don't forget you're an adult with full mental capacity. You were a victim in those situations, sure. But they weren't an accident, specially when this has become a pattern in your life.

Stop dating men who are out of your league. If you're a 8, go for guys who are 7. Date men you're attracted to obviously, but when he's above you, looks wise, it's pretty damn impossible to get him to commit. Why would he, when he can get hotter women than you? Unicorns exist, but don't go about your life thinking you'll get one.

And then beyond that, you need to do proper vetting. You need to know what you're looking for in a relationship before you get the relationship you want. "A good men" is a very broad term that can mean completly different things. After you figure out what you want, start working on yourself. Why should your dream guy choose you in particular, instead of other women? What are you bringing to the table?

blackedoutfast · 2019-02-03T19:33:45+00:00

be hot

don't be a psycho bitch

Title	Making men fall in love - Your moves?
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Date	February 3, 2019 12:19 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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