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I don't find it that cringey as long as it doesn't veer into full fledged toddlercon grown-ass-adults-walking-around-with-pacifiers-in-their-mouth territory. Truth be told it's one of the few kinks I can actually see the appeal of. On a personal level I don't like pet names or play acting, so it's not for me, but I see why people are into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:46 PM
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Ok, well I can't really comment on what I do unconsciously.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:34 PM
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Ok? What does that have to do with anything
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:23 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:03 PM
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Hot sex, average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:02 PM
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The men in my family are short. At least three of my friends have dated guys shorter than them. I can't imagine anyone in my life caring about his height. Again, for me it's less about "showing him off" and more about making sure he doesn't embarrass me. Besides, if he were too short I wouldn't be attracted to him in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 01:57 PM
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The looks test is whether I'm attracted to him or not. If I'm attracted to him I don't care whether my friends find him attractive or not, and I'm not embarrassed if they don't. Whereas with presentation it's nearly the opposite -- I honestly have pretty low standards for grooming/style in a guy, attraction-wise, but I want him to be well-groomed and styled when we go in public because it's embarrassing if he's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 04:24 AM
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She's embarrassed, knows he has a lot of red flags and/or doesn't see long term potential with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:51 AM
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Very important. I couldn't be with a man I was embarrassed to bring around my friends and family. For me it's less about looks and more about his presentation (hygiene, clean clothes etc.) and his personality and social adeptness. If a guy constantly makes jokes that don't land, puts his foot in his mouth, compulsively lies about stupid shit, can't read a room, speaks with authority on things he clearly knows nothing about etc. it makes me cringe to death and I couldn't deal with it. It'd be lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:45 AM
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No, all the guys I've dated were really quick to commit and it didn't diminish my attraction at all. It's exciting to know that a guy wants to claim you. I think something that a lot of guys here don't understand is that wanting a relationship doesn't have to come in the form of desperate pussy begging. Like, there's a difference between a guy asking you to be his gf or sheepishly telling you he has feelings for you or whatever, vs. just deciding that you're his and making it so. My husband and …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 01:35 AM
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That's probably because you can't read.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:13 PM
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There is nothing in the wikipedia definition you cited that negates being needy and weak. If you can't see how things like sensitivity and humility are closely correlated with weakness and neediness then you should be embarrassed, because that speaks to a lack of critical thinking and pattern recognition on your part. The reason you can't find feminine women who aren't "weak and needy" is because those traits are the other side of the coin of the positive aspects of femininity. It's like asking …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:11 PM
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Why don't you quit being a dick and actually engage with people in good faith?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:08 PM
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Which seems to be what you're doing. Can you describe to me a feminine woman who isn't "weak and needy"? How do women behave when they are "embracing who they are and being themselves"?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 10:47 PM
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??? Are you just trolling me at this point because you don't want to take the L? I never said she changed, I said that people's values can differ from their family's. Have you ever known someone who came from a very conservative Christian family but was gay? Or someone who came from a religious family that was atheist? A vegetarian whose whole family eats meat? Do you truly not know anyone who diverged from their upbringing, ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 09:57 PM
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Well that's silly, not everyone adheres to their family's values when they grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 09:51 PM
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Feminine women are weak (from the male perspective) and needy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 09:48 PM
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Where? She said her family is conservative, not that she herself is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 09:44 PM
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I would assume she is probably not but I don't know her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 09:33 PM
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I never said it couldn't work? I said that most "basic" women wouldn't want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 08:42 PM
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Yeah. I mean like I said one of my best friends has a stay-at-home husband/soon to be dad and he's honestly great, and I have no doubt he'll do the bulk of the work when the kid comes along. It can work with the right people, I just don't have the personality for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 08:25 PM
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How on earth did she "own" me?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 08:08 PM
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I'm just too conformist for that and would find it embarrassing. I'm not so traditional that I don't want to work and bring in income, and I don't even mind making more than my husband, but supporting a man just feels wrong. My family is very conservative and traditional and would look down on him for not working and I would get tired of justifying it to them. My experience with "stay at home dads" is that the woman still does most of the work at home. Taking care of domestic stuff (cooking, cle…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 08:08 PM
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The man will do all the same things for Becky that he would have done for Stacey. looooooooooooooooooooooool
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 07:31 PM
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"Aggressive" dysmenorrhea is not "average severe," that's a contradiction. If you want to know what aggressive/severe menstrual cramps feel like, imagine the worst diarrhea cramps you've ever had, double it, imagine if you felt it all the way down to your legs, and make it last a week. And no over the counter pain killers help. Muscle relaxers might help, for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 04:08 PM
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Yeah that's my experience too. I know way more about random hookups than I do about boyfriends or husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 03:23 PM
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Sex, dating and relationships are young women's interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:53 PM
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So you're using "super duper basic" to mean "not basic at all," cool, makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:24 PM
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I am a millennial woman with more degrees and a higher paying job than my husband. I would never support a stay-at-home dad, and the only women I know who would be okay with it are nonconformist alternative types. I have one friend who's actually doing it and she is legitimately the least normal woman I know. A lower-earning male is not a STAY AT HOME DAD, and head nurse is not a high-flying corporate career.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:10 PM
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Then she's not "basic." Basic is a girl who works a low-stress 9-5 making 35k and just wants a house and kids and a white picket fence. Basic=conformist. A basic Becky is the last person who's going to marry a low-status guy and have a nonconformist female breadwinner/SAHD arrangement, she's much more likely to be a SAHM herself. I'm not familiar with whatever "corporate Becky" archetype you're talking about but a hyper ambitious career-driven woman is the opposite of basic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:07 PM
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Super duper basic Becky doesn't want a stay at home dad
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 01:57 PM
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Depends on what you mean by "date." Most professional women or women seeking a serious relationship/LTR wouldn't go for this guy. But assuming he's decently attractive he'll have no problem getting casual gfs/hookups. Depends on his age too; the starving artist thing is cute and sexy in a young guy, not so much if he's 45.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 01:20 PM
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We know. We talk about it, and we spend enough time together that we often witness each other's hookups (not the actual sex, obviously, but your roommate brings a guy home and you see him leave in the morning, you see your friend sneak off to a bedroom with a guy at a party or leave the bar with someone, you spot a hickey on your friend's neck, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 12:41 PM
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Yeah, I had male roommates when I was younger and I learned way more than I ever needed to know about the labial configurations of the girls they slept with (some of whom were my friends), among other gory details. If they were willing to talk about those details in front of me I can only imagine what was shared among just the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 12:40 PM
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By the rules you've stated I'd be able to have 10 bio and then go for an adoption but I don't think that's your intent. No, I specifically said you can't do that. Whichever scenario you choose, those will be the only kids you ever have.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 12:33 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 12:29 PM
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Hi bearsaint
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:16 AM
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Ehhh. I’m a young guy and I’ve had some fwbs and typically we’d just chat about each other’s lives a bit, then hookup and go on our separate ways. Again, I wouldn't classify this as a FWB, I'd classify it as booty call/fuckbuddy. Like, I get that that's what you call FWB but it's not what I had in mind when I wrote my comment. I had friends in college who were what I consider FWB. They were actually friends, shared a social circle, hung out all the time, grabbed lunch all the time, etc. They wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:15 AM
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Well then it shouldn't be hard to understand why I don't see the appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 01:48 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 01:41 AM
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No, I've never had repeated sex with someone who didn't eventually become a boyfriend. But what I'm saying is I wouldn't intentionally enter a FWB relationship knowing that's all it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 01:20 AM
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I LOVE YOU, AIN'T THAT THE WORST THING YOU EVER HEARD
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 01:11 AM
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That sounds more like a booty call than friends with benefits. I thought friends with benefits were friends who you hang out with socially/platonically and also have sex with. If you only see someone when you want to have sex with them that's not a FWB in my opinion. Honestly a booty call type situation makes more sense to me than a FWB. Either way I don't see the appeal because unattached sex is just not that important to me and I don't consider being in a relationship "dealing with drama." I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 01:05 AM
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I don't understand the appeal. If I like someone enough to be friends with them, and I'm attracted enough to have sex with them repeatedly, I would have a crush on them. So I don't see a FWB situation being emotionally tenable for me, and I don't crave or value sex in itself enough to bother trying. Don't care what other people do, but it's not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 12:17 AM
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In the general election, candidates from different parties are running against each other. The country is deciding who they want to represent them as a whole. In a primary election, candidates from WITHIN a party are running against each other and constituents are deciding who they want to represent their party in the general election. It's an internal election. The members of that party have a vested interest in choosing that party's candidate; people outside the party don't (unless it's for ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 11:35 PM
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A worthy endeavor!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 11:23 PM
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Totally fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 11:22 PM
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Are you male or female?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 11:06 PM
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This was my suspicion and is largely how the thread has played out so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 11:05 PM
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For the married redditors, why did you marry? Getting married has been part of my life script since I was old enough to think about such things. I was never the type to daydream about a proposal or a fairy tale wedding or anything like that (and indeed, I didn't have either of those things), but I always knew I wanted a husband and a family. I'm fairly conformist in that regard I guess. I like family and domesticity and home life and routine. I married my husband specifically because I love him,…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 11:02 PM
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the universe blinks out of existence when you die, i dont give a shit about leaving a personal genetic legacy behind me. Certainly not in some abstract theoretical realm where i never even get to see my kids Yeah this is exactly how I feel. It's hard for me to wrap my mind around wanting to reproduce just for reproduction's sake. I don't judge it, just can't relate to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:53 PM
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You can't contact them. Closed adoption. I suppose if you like you can assume that they're safe and happy (maybe their parents give you frequent updates or whatever). But you will never know or have a relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:43 PM
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Ugh yeah, I thought about this when I wrote the hypo lol It's not perfect, but what I'm trying to get at with the question is whether people place more value on the relationship aspect or the genetic aspect of parenthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:39 PM
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That's fair! Childfree women I'm sure would prefer that option.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:34 PM
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Well you wouldn't be giving birth in either of the scenarios I've presented. In one case you adopt, and in the other case you have 10 kids via egg donation (so someone else is carrying/birthing them). But yeah, I suspect the answers to this will largely be split along gender lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:24 PM
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Yup same for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:22 PM
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Same, it was like night and day difference. I did a lot of physical and mental growing up in the summer between senior year and college.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:21 PM
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Interesting, so even if it was adopted kid you get to raise vs. bio kid you get to raise, you'd adopt?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:19 PM
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Whatever the circumstances would need to be for you to be willing to adopt a child. So in your case, married.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:17 PM
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Also I would find it painful knowing I had children out there that I never got to know. Agreed. This wouldn't appeal to me in any scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:16 PM
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To answer for myself, I am a woman and would rather have the single adopted child. Ideally I'd like to have a child that's biologically mine and that I get to raise (actually, ideally I'd rather raise multiple bio children), but ultimately the point of having kids for me is having the relationship and someone to love me when I'm old. I don't really value "spreading muh genes" in and of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 10:07 PM
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That's what I thought too at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 04:08 AM
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Yes my bad for focusing on the words that made up the vast majority of your OP. If you didn't want people to focus on that you should spend more time fleshing out your actual point and less time writing a ridiculous hypothetical. My thesis is this. It's better to gauge a guy for sexual prowess before going to bed with him. That way, when you do go to bed with him, you can go with the flow and let him lead and still have a good time because he knows what to do and is invested in creating a mutual…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:59 AM
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You said a mouthful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:58 AM
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This picture of John Mulaney and Andy Samburg has been making the rounds on Twitter lately and has given me much to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:56 AM
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I mean sure I don't disagree with any of that but that's totally not the message of your OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:51 AM
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I don't see how it's "staging" if the guy is an equal participant and he's the one pursuing and leading the interactions (which in my case he always is). What you described had kind of a bossypants femdom flavor to it. If your point is just that women shouldn't have sex with guys they're not turned on by or who they think will be bad in bed then okay, I guess I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:50 AM
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I don't like the word submissive because of gross BDSM connotations, but yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:37 AM
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I've read so many Reddit tales about men who seem perfect after months of dating then are awful in bed. They probably seem "perfect" on paper because women are judging them on things that make a good boyfriend/husband, not necessarily things that make him a good lover (the things I mentioned). A lot of women seem really uptight and out of touch with their sexuality so they're not even considering sexiness when evaluating a partner, and then they're all surprised Pikachu when they get into bed an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:32 AM
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No. You can tell a lot about how a guy will be in bed by the way he touches you (outside of sex), the way he interacts with you, how he dances, how he kisses, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:17 AM
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suck my clit I've been on top and cummed several times LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:12 AM
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He was doom_and_gloom or something at one point, I can't remember his other names. But the needlessly aggressive tone and relentless "women hate sex" hobbyhorse are unmistakable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 02:35 AM
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It takes me a while to get comfortable enough with a person to have sex with them. I only ever hooked up with guys in my social circle who I'd known for a while. So yeah, if I like a guy and I'm attracted to him and comfortable enough to have sex with him, then yeah I'm open to a relationship. But that wasn't my goal per se, that's just how it worked out most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 02:33 AM
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Sure. I'm not saying women are owed this, just explaining why they like it, which was what the OP asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 01:43 AM
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This is at least his fourth ban-evading alt account that he uses for the sole purpose of this insane hobby horse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 01:42 AM
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Yeah but I said mix CDs downloaded off of Limewire which is distinctly millennial imo I feel like people think millennial just means "young person" and forget that current millennials are in their thirties and entering their forties. My brothers are the youngest possible gen Xers/oldest possible millennials (born 79 and 81) and they were already well out of high school by the time Limewire was a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 12:36 AM
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Yeah we have talked about getting a queen but both agree a king is just insanely and unnecessarily big. Imagine making one of those things every day?! If we do get a queen it will be after we get a new place with a bigger bedroom because, like you said, space is a factor. We just don't have room for more than a full right now. And tbh we practically sleep on top of each other anyway, I honestly think we'd do okay sharing a twin lol One of my friends is 6'9 and has a California king. That thing a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 11:36 PM
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My husband and I share a full sized bed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 10:03 PM
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Ok first of all I want to be clear that "casual sex" is not something I value in and of itself. It's just part of dating. All but one of my casual partners eventually became boyfriends. So it's not like there are "casual sex" standards vs. "relationship standards." With that out of the way, idk, they're both important. A hot guy isn't going to make me want to have sex with him if he can't seduce and flirt and interact in a way that turns me on. Likewise a guy can flirt and seduce me all night lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 09:52 PM
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Obviously he would need to be attractive to me but it's not like I was banging male models. And I like white and hispanic men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 09:45 PM
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I don't know what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 09:42 PM
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yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 09:29 PM
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Get the queen's name out your mouth
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 09:24 PM
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Obviously yes she needs to be attracted to him for it to matter, I can't believe we keep having to specify that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 08:56 PM
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You misunderstand me. It's not about him being "only after sex." A guy can be only after sex and still make you feel like he wants sex with *you* because he finds *you* sexy, as opposed to you just being the most convenient warm body with a hole. In the past I've described this as the difference between thirst and lust. Thirst is indiscriminate, spontaneous horniness in search of any willing target. Lust is desire for a specific person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 08:31 PM
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Cyber sex isn't "sex" so that's a stupid gotcha anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 08:24 PM
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No I don't have a problem with casual sex. I literally just don't crave or think about sex at all unless/until I experience chemistry and seduction and then I crave sex with that specific guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:58 PM
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There wasn't a guy in my life at the time who made me want sex. I still got horny sometimes and would take matters into my own hands but sex itself is a very out-of-sight-out-of-mind thing for me. I can’t go more than a couple days before I feel like I’m about to explode I feel that way when I'm in a relationship or spending a lot of time with a guy I'm attracted to. But in the absence of that I don't crave sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:36 PM
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Well I mean there was also my teenage years which is the horniest I've ever been in my life. I masturbated once or twice every day as a teenager. I still never craved "sex," I craved orgasms and it didn't bother me that I was giving them to myself instead of getting them from a guy. No I've never been on any of those drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:33 PM
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I lost my virginity at 19. Then in my 20s I went a little over a year without sex and didn't miss it. When I'm not in a relationship I miss nonsexual touch (cuddling, backrubs) a lot more than I miss sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:30 PM
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Yeah this is how it is for me. When I was single and horny I never experienced it as a "need for sex" per se or even a desire for sex, at most it was a desire for an orgasm which I could take care of myself. I only desire sex qua sex as a reaction to attraction/chemistry/comfort with a specific person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:24 PM
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For that woman it may be, but that's atypical for women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:14 PM
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I would try to and think I could forgive it in time. It would be much harder to do if he was actually in love with her. I'd have a much easier time forgiving a one-time impulsive hookup than an ongoing affair. I think having a kid with another woman is the one thing I could never forgive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:53 PM
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I hesitate to use this word because it seems to trigger people for some reason, but women are used to being objectified. We're aware that guys want us, but it's more like they see us as a series of holes they could put their penis into for a while. You could be any girl, really, because it's not about you, he just sees you as Penis Receptacle #9928. Being seen that way isn't sexy, it's frightening, humiliating, and dehumanizing. So when a guy wants you specifically, when he displays interest in …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:49 PM
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Hahaha I love that, never knew there was a name for it. I was the proximity maneuver queen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:14 PM
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Nah my way is more fun
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:12 PM
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I am a millennial, objectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:39 PM
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I was born in 1988. What about this is "gen x"?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:21 PM
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Wearing a low-cut top and getting really drunk only works if you want a one-night stand/ fuckfriend. Weird because that's exactly what I was doing when I met my husband. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:01 PM
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See also: some guy named Jesus
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:37 AM
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🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:35 AM
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Not from an ugly girl, which is what I was
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:46 AM
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Oh yeah I did this kind of thing all the time lol "Fancy meeting you here! What are the chances!" had literally been staking out the place for hours waiting for him to show up
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:32 AM
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Yeah, once I realized that being a female beta orbiter wasn't a winning strategy, I figured out that the best thing you can do is just put yourself in a guy's proximity and look cute when you do. If he likes you he'll do the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:25 AM
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Buy him food, bake him cookies, stay up all night downloading songs from limewire and making him a mix CD with custom MS Paint album art thank you very much, dye my hair red, dye my hair black, buy a t-shirt at his band's show and wear it on a day when I know I'll run into him, buy him a book and write a thoughtful note on the inside of the front cover, post inside jokes and song lyrics on his Myspace, etc. If all of this sounds like lame high school shit that's because it is. By age 18 I learne…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 03:57 AM
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You don't think guys who think a woman having simple conversation with him is needy, or a loser? No, I think they're just guys being dudes. I also think they're largely correct, as most women don't have long conversations with random guys just for fun or out of kindness. Moreover, I'm not doing anything I wouldn't do to a female neighbor who said hi to me. Not because I think they're needy losers but because I simply don't think every passing hello to a stranger, even a neighbor, merits a full-f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 11:52 PM
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I think I'm decently attractive but this isn't about me specifically, any adult woman (or man for that matter) will tell you the same thing. If anything physically unattractive women don't have to worry about this at all because they don't have random men striking up conversations with them because, again, men really only do that out of sexual interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 08:51 PM
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lololol this is hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 08:09 PM
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I was born and raised in a small town and currently live in a gated condo community full of old people (in Texas, where people are known for being friendly and chatty with strangers). OP is talking nonsense. I definitely introduce myself to neighbors and say hi if I see them out and about, and I have even had neighbors do me a favor in a pinch and vice versa. But no one's going out of their way to have full-on conversations with random neighbors for no reason, and it's certainly not "rude" or a …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 07:00 PM
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Do you realize how much time a young attractive woman (and let's be real, that's who you're talking about) would spend in conversation with her neighbors if she stopped to talk to every single one who said hi "until the conversation ran out"? We're talking HOURS of her day, every day. Most people who are out and about do have somewhere they need to be, that's why they're out in the first place and that's why they generally don't say more than a passing hello unless there's some specific reason t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:36 PM
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You're not giving him the impression that he has a chance by showing basic human decency to them. Yes, you are. If "basic human decency" is having frequent extended interactions, most guys are going to take that as a sign of interest. Again, it's not 100% but it happens often enough that it makes sense to assume that's the case and act accordingly. but by having this attitude you're treating all guys that you aren't interested in like they're needy losers in order to save yourself time and menta…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:33 PM
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I'm saying it's better to shut down those advances preemptively by not engaging in more than passing pleasantries, instead of giving him the false impression that he has a chance which creates bigger problems down the road.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:25 PM
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I disagree, we're talking about fundamental human interaction here and when you excuse yourself you're saying its not worth you time. So exactly how long does she need to talk to you before you don't consider it rude for her to disengage? A conversation has to end sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:16 PM
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Most women learn from experience that a guy going out of his way to talk to you on a regular basis is most likely sexually/romantically interested and will make a move to that end at some point. Even if this isn't true in 100% of cases, it's true often enough that it warrants being guarded against that sort of thing if his interest isn't reciprocated. This is especially prudent when it comes to men who live in your general vicinity, because if a guy develops a crush or obsession or thinks he mig…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:12 PM
2

Lololol that sounds incredibly frustrating for everyone involved
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:11 AM
42

Lasting a long time in bed. No we don't want you to premature ejaculate like a teenager on prom night, but 8-10 minutes of pumping is plenty. Lasting TOO long is often a bigger problem than not lasting long enough. Every time I see a guy brag about his ability to last 45 minutes I cringe inside, but I know this is a prominent trope on TV shows etc. and that's why guys believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 08:44 PM
15

Being "more like family" is the entire point and exactly the reason I want marriage. I like family, I wanted my husband to be my family. The fact that I'll be spending every day with him for the rest of my life is a feature, not a bug.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 07:03 PM
6

Exactly what I was gonna say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 12:01 AM
2

Female. I both give and receive love via touch and acts of service. My husband primarily gives via touch and gifts and primarily receives via touch and words of affirmation. I like the love language theory but I think it's an incomplete model, especially when it comes to how men show love. For example it doesn't account for protectiveness, which is a huge oversight imo
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 07:07 PM
4

Nothing, but he didn't get me anything either that I know of.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 02:27 PM
2

Aww man, I'm sorry dude. You talked about that dog a lot. That really sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 02:07 PM
12

This is a great comment and I think what you've said is such a huge blind spot in these conversations. No one ever seems to consider that a man commits a out of a desire to lock the woman down as much as a desire to be locked down himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 02:01 PM
1

That sounds amazing!! Seeing the northern lights is on my bucket list for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 05:37 PM
3

Yeah I'm the worst secret-keeper of all time. I've spoiled MULTIPLE surprise parties over the years. If I manage not to spill before the 29th it will be a miracle but I'm trying really hard!!! And I'm not sure what you find funny, my flair is 100% serious. You're probably just jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 05:35 PM
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Yeah my husband's birthday is the week after Valentine's Day so we usually make a bigger to-do about that. I'm taking him to an elephant sanctuary where you get to feed an elephant and help give it a bath, and I have to keep it a secret until the end of the month and it's KILLING me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 05:22 PM
3

My old roommate and his friend used to go to hot yoga every Saturday, weren't creeps, were cool stoner dudes (so not "Chad" either). They both banged a couple of girls from yoga class.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 02:12 PM
4

Yeah, anyone who says shit like this or starts their post with "I come in peace" is pretty much guaranteed to be a smug jackass.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 01:44 PM
1

Chicken breast is basically just a good vehicle for various spices and flavors. By itself or insufficiently seasoned it just tastes like rubber.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 01:29 AM
1

TIL there is going to be a baby Joe Jonas, omg
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 11:19 PM
1

To my eye, the first guy has a more masculine face. He's very cute/boyish as is but seems like he'll age into a really good-looking, more masculine guy. I find the second guy more attractive because he's just closer to my personal preferred aesthetic, but his features are more delicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 10:45 PM
3

He's by far the cutest and there's nothing "shitty" about his body at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 05:58 PM
1

If they're not religious they're not "trad"cons, they're just conservatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 04:50 PM
2

cute thin guy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 01:51 PM
3

Men don't "value hard work" when it comes to attraction, which is the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 01:44 PM
2

I don't care about "man slut" but no to the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 01:40 PM
1

They are. Evangelical Christians adopt tons of kids. The people getting IVF are not tradcons. You're wildly conflating a bunch of different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 01:30 PM
4

lol I love your flair
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 11:19 PM
2

How is that contradictory? Is it contradictory that I like to give my husband a blow job even though I wouldn't want him to get one from a dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 11:15 PM
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Yet, if you sexually experiment with a guy, all of the sudden the topic becomes how you are coming out or trying to understand your sexuality and not the fact that you just violated the relationship. I've been noticing this recently on relationship subs. A woman's husband will start cheating with men and she'll make a post asking how she can learn to live with it and "accept who he is" as he "explores this part of himself," and the replies will mostly encourage and praise her for being open-mind…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 06:20 PM
5

*born againcel
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 04:57 PM
7

Say "yikes" next, I've almost got a bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 04:18 PM
1

Why have a preference for big boobs when they're not an indicator of higher fertility or better ability to nurture and infant? Our lizard brains are dumb and like what they like. The traits correlate well enough even if it's not a 100% accurate heuristic. Besides which, most women like characters more than actors. We don't know Chris Hemsworth and Jason Mamoa IRL, we know them as Thor and Khal Drogo, who are tough characters. If Jason Mamoa was typecast as the lame feckless sitcom dad he wouldn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 01:39 PM
6

I've seen too many fuck buddies become boyfriends and too many ex-boyfriends become ill-advised drunk booty calls to believe that these are two totally separate pools of men. In my experience the average guy's dating life looks very similar; a few girlfriends with a few drunk hookups/fuck buddies sprinkled in between. The average guy in my universe is having SOME casual sex between relationships. And my universe is not full of high value shredded Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 04:01 AM
3

I think his point is that women like hot gay actors who "look tough" more than they like actually tough/masculine men
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 02:32 AM
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Average age of marriage for women in the US is 27. Average length of engagement is 1-1.5 years, and average length of dating before engagement is around 3 years. Which means the average woman is pairing off with her eventual spouse around 23-24 years old, shortly after college. Most women don't marry their first serious boyfriend, so we can assume there's at least one or two other LTRs in hs/college/early twenties. This comports with my experience and observation as well. Most women don't spend …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 10:49 PM
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Depends on the man and where he's at in life. My husband has been there done that with the MPDG's. There's a reason he married me and not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 04:02 PM
6

Both.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 10:48 PM
11

Does your apartment smell like curry?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 09:43 PM
1

I never said women don't like looks at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 01:49 AM
4

Been saying this for years In fact other resident swiftie u/LSTW1234 and I have talked about writing a master post of red pilled Taylor lyrics lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 02:15 PM
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I married at 29. We met at 22. I'd have preferred to marry in my early twenties ("peak age"), but my husband wanted to wait until we were older, so we dated/lived together for six years first. I could have married in my early twenties like I wanted, but it would have been to a person who made me very unhappy. I'm happy I didn't rush into marriage just because I always wanted to marry young. So that's why I thought my story was relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 02:03 PM
1

Yeah I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 01:46 PM
9

It's a doozy. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 02:05 AM
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Yeah. Like someone else said this isn't that uncommon in small town/rural areas which is where we were. My two childhood BFF's both got married at 21 to guys they'd been with since they were 15-16, it was pretty normal where we're from. Plus this guy and I both had conservative religious upbringings (I was raised Church of Christ, he was raised Mormon). Neither of us were still religious but those values were still pretty ingrained at the time. There was always the assumption that any LTR was ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 01:56 AM
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Not at all. I can't even imagine how miserable I'd be right now if I'd married him. That said, I did meet the person I married when I was 22. The person I'm referring to above was the guy I dated from 18-20. He very badly wanted to marry me, and I very badly wanted to GET married, but he wasn't the one and I'm glad I realized that in time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 10:52 PM
1

lol this is very true
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 07:46 PM
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Yeah 1 is a more casual thing and isn't that weird to me. 2 is what I was referring to when I said I'd only seen it among religious whites and immigrants, and what I mistakenly thought OP meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 07:19 PM
2

That's not at all the same thing but good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 07:12 PM
2

Ok gotcha, that's more casual than what I was envisioning. Yes I've seen that happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 06:12 PM
2

Ok I mean that's not really getting to the heart of what I'm asking. So the mom is friends with the girl and she asks if she'd be interested in a date with her son. If the girl says yes, what happens? Does the mom give the girl's info to her son and let him reach out and set up a date? Or does the mom arrange the date and tell the son when and where to be in order to meet this girl? I'm trying to discern what exactly you mean by "setting up" a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 06:08 PM
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To clarify... when you say the parents "set you up on a blind date," which of the following scenarios is closest to what you mean: Mom A and Mom B are coworkers. Mom A has a 22-year-old son and Mom B has a 20-year-old daughter. The moms get to talking and find that both of their kids are single and have a lot in common. Mom A tells her son, "My coworker has a daughter I really think you'd like, here's a picture of her, why don't you give her a call?" and the son proceeds to reach out to the daug…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 05:54 PM
1

Ok, I admittedly absolutely zero insight into east coast UMC culture so I'll take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 05:47 PM
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It's not something I've ever observed white people doing outside of evangelical Christian culture. Seems like something that mainly happens in faith-based and immigrant communities.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 05:43 PM
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I forgot super culty evangelical people who are born here do that. Yeah, I was just thinking about this too. My first thought was that white/western people don't do this, but then I realized I did see a little bit of it growing up in the church.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 05:40 PM
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No, I'm white.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 03:25 PM
3

Would you marry a man that doesn't take physical care of his kids? How would you know that before you have kids with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 01:49 PM
1

More men are naturally beta than alpha, but at an individual level it depends on the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 02:47 AM
1

Well my point was that my husband and I went to schools like that and there wasn't much bullying or clique stuff to speak of at either of our schools, everyone pretty much got along. I mean there was some but not nearly as much as I saw at the big high school I taught at. But that was just a hypothesis about the reason behind the patterns I'd noticed, I guess it just had more to do with the culture of those particular schools. Like, my husband was in band and debate AND on the football team at h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 06:56 PM
2

Yeah this is one of those situations where trying to use Muh Science to argue with someone backfires. If someone says sex makes the vagina looser, that claim doesn't need to be dignified with an argument more complex than "lol no it doesn't." Trying to claim that no it doesn't, and in fact it actually makes it STRONGER just makes YOU* look like an idiot because that's just as untrue and baseless as the original claim. *general you, not you OP
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 06:25 PM
1

Oh interesting! It must have been something unique to the culture of the particular school I taught at then.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 04:28 PM
1

Did you grow up in a small town? My experience was similar to yours; my high school was small and because there was only one middle and high school in town, we had all known each other since we were 10 or 11. So there wasn't a whole lot of bullying or clique-ishness. My husband went to an even smaller school and reports the same thing. When I taught at a large urban high school though (about 45 minutes from where I grew up, so not a huge change in culture otherwise), I was shocked to see the ste…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 04:03 PM
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The Samson story is referenced in one of the most beloved popular songs of all time (Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah). Aside from just being familiar with one of the foundational texts of western society, which is valuable in and of itself, knowing these stories gives you a greater understanding of artifacts of pop culture as well. Stories from the Bible are referenced in SO many places, basic knowledge of it is essential for anyone who wants to appreciate and enjoy western art, literature and music.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 03:35 PM
1

Yeah that makes total sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 03:09 AM
2

It may just be a coincidence but it is a pattern I've noticed in my universe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:30 PM
3

Yes and I know several college students/college-aged people who are married, way more than I knew when I was that age. Also the younger millennials I know (those your age, who I consider a gray area between millennial and gen z) seem to be settling down earlier than my cohort of older millennials. I see the tide shifting and I think we'll see more of it in the next few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 09:56 PM
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I suppose Generation Z (the generation after millennials) will follow the same pattern. I'm not sure this is a safe assumption. If my circles are anything to go by, Gen Z-ers are much more eager to settle down early than millennials.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 09:42 PM
5

Look I'm sorry you got divorced because you sent your wife too many memes but do you honestly not see how condescending and worthless your comment was? Maybe I'll get divorced someday, who knows, but I'm not going to tell my husband to stop texting me because it ended badly for some internet stranger. Like what am I even supposed to say to your sob story?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 09:26 PM
3

Save your prayers for someone who needs them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 09:24 PM
3

I mean I don't think my husband is looking to "pay dividends" by texting me, he just likes me and wants to talk to me 🤷 Wasn't trying to give advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 09:21 PM
3

Well yeah an LTR is a totally different beast and you definitely need voice/video in that instance. I'm not talking about using texting for "maintaining a relationship," I'm talking about just chatter throughout the day with someone you're already in a relationship with and see in person regularly. That's literally why I said "casual chatting," idk why you're making it about like big relationship talks. Like there is absolutely zero reason to pick up the phone and call my husband at work to tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 09:16 PM
2

voice >>> texting for most things once a relationship is established I think this is a generational thing. I agree this is true for serious relationship talks (although those should ideally be taking place in person anyway imo), but for casual chatting most millennials and younger far prefer texting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:09 PM
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Wouldn't be for me. I like checking in throughout the day, sharing funny stories that happened to us, sharing memes or interesting articles or songs we discovered etc. My husband and I chat all day while we're at work, to the point where if I haven't heard from him by lunchtime I start to worry that he's dead. Some people don't like that kind of constant communication though and that's fine too, I wouldn't necessarily take it as a red flag or a sign he wasn't into me. Although going entire weeks…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 06:48 PM
1

Yes I agree with you. I was just adding to the convo not really trying to argue with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 06:26 PM
6

Women judge each other extremely harshly, what are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 06:12 PM
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Same. My husband and I have been together nearly 8 years, lived together for nearly 7, and have NEVER shouted at each other let alone gotten physical with each other. Even our worst fights didn't involve shouting. I have never hit another human being in my life or felt remotely compelled to (and I come from a family where hitting/shouting/fighting is pretty common, so it's not like this is foreign to me, but I've personally never had the impulse).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 05:51 PM
3

Being indiscriminately nice will get you walked all over and taken advantage of in all aspects of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:51 PM
1

I have two years of details that I'd rather not go into but the most egregious was trying to poison my pet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:39 PM
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My husband. I won't post his pic for obvious reasons, but a celebrity he resembles is Javier Bardem. A big celebrity crush of mine is Eli Roth who I don't think is particularly "pretty."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:34 PM
9

Yeah lol wine moms love their minions
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 04:08 AM
16

Yeah, the women I know who are obsessed with Baby Yoda and the like all have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 01:38 AM
4

I'm on Tumblr and I've seen a ton of posts from sjw-leaning people I follow defending Johnny Depp.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 09:57 PM
1

I always wash my jeans on hot and always have, that's how my mom taught me to do it. As for t-shirts they're usually just old ones that I sleep in or wear around the house so I don't mind washing them on hot. If they're nicer shirts they go in one of the other loads and wash on cold. Anyway it doesn't matter, sort your laundry however you want and wash it in whatever temperature you like, I don't care. I'm just saying I know that housework for one or two people can be done in a single day becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 09:36 PM
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One load for whites, including socks and underwear One load for towels and jeans One load for darks One load for sheets, and I can usually throw a few t-shirts in with that load too. I did laundry earlier today and these were my loads. This is typical for our household. If you're doing seven loads of laundry a week as a single person you're either making your loads way too small or you're changing clothes multiple times a day. How does one person create a load of laundry per day???
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 07:50 PM
2

That stuff takes lot more then one day. No it doesn't, I literally do it all in one day every week. The only thing I do multiple times a week is vacuum but that's takes 10-20 minutes, it's not like I can't vacuum and then go out for the evening (not that I do lol, I prefer to stay home, just saying I could easily go out 3-4 nights a week if I felt so inclined, and I did it all the time when I was younger.) I cook every night but that's because I'm married now. When I was single I just made a bun…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 07:44 PM
3

I do all of that stuff on Sundays. Why does a single person with no kids need to do housework multiple times a week?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 07:29 PM
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Exactly lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 07:17 PM
2

I mean I guess we had drama but I don't really see what the big deal with "drama" is (obviously something like getting falsely accused is an extreme case and that is fucked up for real). Like, yeah maybe some guys would fight, maybe some girls would talk shit, maybe people will spread rumors and some people will believe them and some people won't, that's life and idk why that kind of thing should deter people. Again maybe this is just my upbringing talking but to me a little drama is not the end…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 04:25 AM
4

Oh for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 02:33 AM
13

Well that's just them being in denial. If being the side piece wasn't shameful/low status they'd just own it, not try to twist it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 02:31 AM
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I'm not saying it wouldn't be flattering. But if it's within his morals to jump to different woman depending on who is the most attractive to him at the moment, would it not be shortsided to finding a lasting relationship? This is just a weird thought process to me. I don't think it's a question of morality and I don't buy into the "if he did it to her he'll do it to you" line of thinking. People break up for all kinds of reasons or no reason at all. Meeting someone you like more than the person…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 12:18 AM
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You're framing it oddly. By saying "a guy who would do that," you're moralizing it, which isn't the point. The fact is that if a guy leaves another woman to be with you, he wants YOU, wants to claim you and prizes you above her. How would that not be flattering? Whereas the side piece is a shameful secret he hides from the world while another woman gets to be the one he publicly claims. Do most women think this way? Most women definitely think it's better to be the girl he leaves her for than th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 11:45 PM
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A guy leaving another girl for you is rewarding. Being the side piece is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 11:29 PM
3

Wouldn't that be thicc?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 09:01 PM
4

omg why is this so accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 11:21 PM
1

Third from the right looks exactly like me at ~18. Except maybe with smaller eyes, hard to tell since she's squinting.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 09:56 PM
2

I mean that's fine when there's a clear-cut "offending party" and when everyone in the group agrees to never hang out with them again, but in my experience it's usually not that simple when everyone's been part of a tight-knit group for years and goes to the same bars multiple times a week. Which was the case with my social circle. It sounds like in your case the person was an outsider who was cut off when they broke up with the friend who was actually part of the group. We had that happen somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 09:39 PM
2

I mean I guess it's forgiveness, idk, I never thought about it in those terms. I certainly reached a point where I wasn't bothered by it anymore because I had moved on and so did he. What I meant by blow over was more that it just becomes a non-issue for everyone and stopped being awkward or a topic of conversation/gossip in the group. It's not like I was buddies with my ex and the girl he cheated on me with, but it also wasn't a big deal if went to a party or a show and they were also there. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 09:35 PM
1

Who said anything about forgiving? You just live your life and deal with the fact that sometimes you may cross paths with people from your past. If I had cut out everyone in my social circle associated with my ex, I never would have met my husband. Why limit your options like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 09:28 PM
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There was awkwardness and people may have reshuffled a little depending on where their loyalties lied, but I never saw anyone being totally "outcast" by the group or anything like that. For example. My ex and I broke up when he cheated on me with the girlfriend of another friend of mine. Up until that point the four of us had all been friends and had a lot of mutual friends. After the original couples broke up, the two cheaters started dating each other. Our friend group kind of took sides in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 09:07 PM
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Because sex involves our body being literally invaded, and unless we're turned on it's not only not pleasurable but actually physically painful. Plus our lizard brain knows that sex = babies and is revolted by the idea of being inseminated and carrying the seed of an unattractive/inadequate mate. Besides that, sex is GROSS for women, just objectively. Having a guy insert his penis into you and splooge into you and subsequently having to walk around with that splooge in your body until it comes o…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 08:07 PM
3

Oh wow I look almost exactly like one of the girls in the 6 row lol. Good to know I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 04:34 PM
9

This was the norm when I was younger and I think people are shooting themselves in the foot by establishing rules about this. Nearly every LTR'd/married couple in my group of friends started out this way. My group in college/early 20s was very incestuous and I never witnessed all this drama and friendship-ruining that hooking up in your social circle supposedly causes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 04:16 PM
1

5-6 Yes I went from ugly to attractive to less attractive now that I'm in my 30s. In my prime I was probably a 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 04:08 PM
1

Same reason as when men describe their nightmare psycho gfs and women say "That's just your bad taste in women, my friends and I aren't like that!" Men and women see the ugly side of each other that their same sex peers largely aren't privy to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 04:08 AM
5

A sandwich if they know what's good for 'em, am I right fellas
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 02:10 AM
1

What if they (the parents who conceived it) don't want to give it up for adoption?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:43 PM
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What makes you think that platonic cohabitating parents wouldn't fight? Sure you'll remove the sexual/romantic component which is one source of conflict, but there are plenty of others. Have you ever known good friends who became roommates and ended up hating each other and never speaking again once they moved out? Or siblings who love each other very much but fight? No matter how much you like and respect someone, sharing a space with them is going to stress you out at times and you're going to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 01:59 PM
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What happens if one of the extramarital relationships results in a baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 12:15 PM
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No lol, I was just joking. Do all the drugs you want and enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 02:46 AM
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How about a little drug called the Bible you heathen
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 02:01 AM
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I like subject matter first and foremost. Sex/relationships/marriage dynamics are something I've been interested in for a very long time, and this is the best space I've found to discuss those things. Conversations here often intersect with other topics I'm interested in too, like culture, anthropology, history, generational theory etc. Aside from that, it's just fun to debate, but I don't like politics, so this is a fun place to debate something besides politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 09:24 PM
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Same. I don't care if he leans left or right but I generally just don't get along with people who are super invested in politics one way or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 04:17 PM
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Awww good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 01:20 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 01:01 PM
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Last year you said you were 27 but now you're claiming to be 28???? 🤔🧐 what is the truth dot gif
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 04:15 AM
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She doesn't have a gut lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 02:45 AM
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I've had a Soul for two years, bought it used (it was a rental car before), about 60k miles on it and absolutely no trouble with it so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 02:44 AM
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I have two ex boyfriends. One was a pretty huge piece of shit and I suspect had several undiagnosed mental illnesses. The other was one of the best people I've ever met in my life. Edit: Ok, judging by your definition of "wholesome" downthread the second guy might not fit the bill. He liked to drink, smoke weed and party. He was also a science teacher at an underserved rural school and went above and beyond for the kids in his community, was very involved in his church and was just an all-around…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 10:17 PM
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This happens in my state too, in fact I went to high school in the county with the highest teen pregnancy rate in the US at the time. We had an alternative school and some girls went there either because they had complicated pregnancies and couldn't attend regular school, because they wanted to take classes at their own pace or because they wanted to graduate early. They weren't "made" to go there as like some punishment for getting pregnant, they elected to go there (or their parents made them)…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 06:50 PM
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Again, I'm not talking about changing anything. Including the romeo and juliet laws that are already there. You said that there should be a hard cutoff at 18 and objected to the idea presented in the OP which is actually already the law in many if not most states. Everyone can see your comments, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 03:57 PM
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Most states already have Romeo and Juliet laws so yeah, if you want a hard cutoff at 18 you are the one wanting to change things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 03:27 PM
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Or what about parents with pictures of their kids? I have a photo of my 18-month-old niece naked in a bathtub on my phone as we speak, should I be arrested just because there's a chance I could distribute it to perverts online someday?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:55 PM
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Pretty much how I feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:33 PM
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I don't respect "men," I respect individual men who are important to me who have routinely conducted themselves in a manner that earned my respect. If I only respected perfect people who didn't have any dark impulses I wouldn't respect anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:31 PM
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That's why I put whore in quotes. She's not literally a whore, she's a chaste good girl who acts like one for this one particular guy. By which, yes, I mean she's good/adventurous/enthusiastic in bed with him. I agree it's not a contradiction and that's not what I was saying. I'm just saying the original person you quoted is wrong about what the Madonna-whore complex is. A guy with a Madonna-whore complex wouldn't WANT his girl to act crazy and adventurous in bed with him because of his sexual h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:10 PM
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Ok well that person is just wrong about what the Madonna-whore complex is. I think what she's saying is true of most men (that they want a chaste/low-n girl who's a "whore" for them) but that has nothing to do with the Madonna-whore complex, in fact it's pretty much the exact opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 04:32 AM
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No one has ever claimed that the Madonna-whore complex is "typical behavior of a normal man." It's a sexual pathology.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 03:37 AM
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Exactly. And I also think it's prudent to avoid environments/scenarios that could foster chemistry. People will scoff at things like the Billy Graham rule or not hanging out one-on-one with friends of the opposite sex, but setting boundaries like that is how you ensure that you're never in a situation where "it just happened." Don't start none, won't be none.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:37 PM
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It was a joke, thus the placement under the automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 09:26 PM
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Maybe by castrating him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 08:24 PM
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You literally described him as tall and good-looking but you can't figure out what draws women to him? If he's tall, good looking and charismatic, and women don't know upon initially meeting him that he has a criminal record, why WOULDN'T they be attracted to him? I don't see what's confusing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:54 PM
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I wouldn't be romantically/sexually involved with him anymore because I don't want that drama in my life. I might still find him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:41 PM
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Yes, and those traits are attractive. There are also a lot of guys who have those traits in some capacity and aren't felons.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:27 PM
2

Well even if it were due to nutrition it still wouldn't be "your fault," since it would mostly be due to nutrition in your first few years of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:17 PM
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Rope.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:10 PM
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I mean, I assume he doesn't go around announcing his criminal history to women in bars and clubs so why would that factor into their attraction? If he's tall and good looking then he's attractive, and there are probably some personality/charisma factors at play too (note: "personality" doesn't mean "morality.")
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:09 PM
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dear god
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:25 PM
2

...dare I ask what a "poop knife" is?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:22 PM
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Oh yikes, I wish I had not done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:45 PM
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Yeah it's just a screen and I don't want to see annoying shit on it. I don't block people for being offensive or hurting my feelings, I block them when they're obnoxious and don't add anything worthwhile to the conversation. In fact I largely agree with the FDS girls, I just can't fucking stand them and I think their threads are bad faith wastes of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 05:18 AM
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Also, my craving for clitoral orgasms is something entirely different from my drive for PIV sex. It’s like an itch I desperately need to scratch, and then the satisfaction of it is immense. If I go a couple of days without a clitoral orgasm, I start to feel really frustrated. My need for sex, although I have sex often, is not something I experience as viscerally, if that makes sense. Yes, 100% agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 02:52 AM
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Can't speak for anyone else but I was never on any sort of birth control until I turned 24. I've been masturbating and having clitoral orgasms since I was 11, very healthy libido, but I don't find PIV to be particularly pleasurable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 02:05 AM
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Atlas nailed it. PIV feels "good" in that when you're aroused it feels exhilarating and satisfying. It doesn't feel good the same way direct clitoral stimulation feels good, which is a physical/tactile pleasure response. Physically, mostly what we feel during PIV is just warm pressure, it's not a tactile sensation. Pressure applied to certain areas in the vagina can trigger a pleasure response but that isn't the default. Personally my anatomy doesn't seem to be set up for that, the spots that ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 08:28 PM
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Men: Prostate cancer is a huge issue, why is nothing being done about it!!!! Women: Yeah that sucks, you guys should probably advocate for awareness the same way we did for breast cancer. Men: No, we want YOU to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:02 PM
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I have probably a dozen people blocked, I'm very liberal with the block button.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 03:53 PM
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100% agreed, I have a lot of them blocked because I find their tone, character and argument style every bit as annoying as the incels
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 05:32 AM
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Interesting, because I've made a thread a while back Do we have an innate desire to reproduce or is there only a desire to have sex? And people were denying and underplaying the innate desire to reproduce. Which in my opinion turns most people on. Or at least their lizard brains on. Yeah I remember that thread and I thought the replies were ridiculous. Also the rub a finger in the cheek inner walls analogy is a bit misleading, because the clitoris wraps around the vaginal canal... so at least pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 05:26 AM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 05:24 AM
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Yeah idk that's why I hate this type of question
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 12:28 AM
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Or maybe she is embarrassed about making a fool of herself around him/you Yeah this is my guess. Sounds like she kind of acted like an ass and she's probably embarrassed to show her face in that group now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 11:02 PM
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Maybe the wife told the friend to back off and stay away form her husband lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 10:03 PM
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I mean I believe you, I'm just saying I doubt any man I know was aware such an article even existed. I doubt my dad or brothers have ever read a single NYT article. "America's newspaper of record" is their own self-important tagline that you've bought into. Millions of people across the country have never laid eyes on an issue of the New York Times in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 09:47 PM
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Yeah I mean it would be great for men overall I just don't see how it would have helped in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 09:35 PM
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All I know is if my husband described his female "friend" as a "unicorn girl" we'd be having some words.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 08:48 PM
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What would a paternity test have accomplished in this case? He knew he wasn't the dad but was (initially) willing to raise the kid anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 08:08 PM
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I'm not saying you or she are lying, I just don't understand what "refuse to cooperate" actually means in this case. She wasn't suing you for child support, the state was, so I'm unclear on what they needed her cooperation for.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 08:07 PM
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The male and female version of this sub are both so stupid. ZOMG people age, what a revelation
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 07:14 PM
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Yes so what do you mean she "refused to cooperate"? Cooperate with what?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 07:03 PM
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It's like, you see food and have physical reactions, why is sex different? And again not like, immediate horniness but some internal movement toward the possibility seems normal and healthy for such a species Because women don't crave sex like they crave food. You keep describing sexuality in male terms and wondering why women don't behave that way lol, it's hilarious Women don't experience a "drive" or "hunger" for sex most of the time. Our sexuality is responsive to being desired by an attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 06:48 PM
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That's because you're assuming male sexuality as the default and that women must not have male sexuality because it was "damaged" out of them. Women are not men, never were, it's as simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 05:18 PM
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ITT: Men not understanding the question OP isn't asking if you'd date the female version of yourself, they're asking if you as a woman would date a man like you currently are. It's a dumb question but it's a different dumb question than the one y'all are answering lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:14 PM
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Yeah 45 minutes is way too long imo. It's nice every once in a while but not every time. For most women 8-12 minutes of piv is plenty, after that you just start to get sore and sweaty and exhausted and just wish he would nut already. Sorry you got cucked though, that isn't cool
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:25 PM
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That's so cool! Congrats! Also LOL @ "A little wine, as a treat"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:22 PM
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Literally me every day. I work on a college campus and when students are there the parking situation is pretty grim, so sometimes it's quite a hike to get to my car. And then my evening commute is pretty shitty. Sometimes I just sit in my office for like an hour internetting because I don't feel like dealing with all that yet lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:03 AM
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I agree but a lot of men feel differently, especially in my generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:47 AM
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Aww haha. I was helping an older client the other day with a technology thing and she said "Be patient with me, I'm one of those okay boomers!"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:04 AM
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Yeah that's kind of what I'm getting at too. Most people could afford to raise a family on a single income in that they would have food and shelter and be able to survive, but there's nothing wrong with wanting better for your family than the bare minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 12:43 AM
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That just sounds like "I want to fuck". All the other extra stuff is basically what OP said in his list of 'is she psycho" "is she a serial killer". Of course I don't want to fuck a serial killer so in a sense I guess you can say that attributes to her "vibe, demeanor, presence". There's more steps to it, people don't just fuck on the spot. No, I'm not talking about screening a man for safety or not being a psycho or whatever. I'm talking about the non-physical things that are ATTRACTIVE and sed…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 12:32 AM
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She means how long does a typical "session" last
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:35 PM
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Ha, well I have two English degrees and one is in technical writing which basically teaches you to write about any topic in accessible, easily-digestible language. Zero interest in writing a book though. But thanks. Also yeah if you have the right length and curvature to your dick then it's possible you have better access to the erogenous zones.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:32 PM
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Wow did my comment get linked in some incel discord or something because like five drydicks have swarmed my inbox in the last half hour
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:20 PM
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Productive and thought-provoking comment as always, Jack.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:19 PM
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BUT MARITAL RAPE WERE LEGAL THEN SO IT WAS BETTER
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:14 PM
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Female, purple, married ~2.5 years/together ~7.5 years I prefer sex 2-3x a week and it usually lasts like 15-20 minutes. This includes making out (WILD, I know), oral/manual foreplay, me having an orgasm, then PIV. I'd say the time is split pretty evenly between foreplay and PIV.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:12 PM
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I don't believe that's happening in any real number. But sure, there are always exceptions. There are probably men who need soft mood lighting and an hour of gentle kissing before they're ready for sex, too, but it's not the norm. Spare me the Chadfishing screenshots and passive-aggressive digs at my "ignorance"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:01 PM
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No it doesn't, it means my vagina, like most vaginas, is made out of vaginal tissue
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:00 PM
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Obviously it depends on whether there are extenuating circumstances, which you already acknowledged, but in general I'd say 1-4x a week is a reasonable expectation, or at least not UNreasonable, for a post-honeymoon phase cohabiting LTR/marriage. Edit: I will caveat that it also highly depends on how big of a production the guy expects sex to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:44 PM
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I’ve had many (not all) women shaking and whimpering when I’d slowly fuck them in doggy style. Like literally every inch of movement was ecstatic to them. There was no clit stimulation involved. They’d often be saying (softly to themselves) “Jesus that feels good” Now, are they lying? Just trying to stroke my ego while this is simply no different from rubbing a finger? Most likely it was a combination of putting on a show and then getting caught up in the emotional/psychological high of PIV. Don…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:23 PM
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(Ok the flair says q4men but OP also says "Ladies feel free to answer too. :)" so plz don't delete mods!) I think it depends on what you mean by "afford." My meth head brother-in-law and his wife have three kids and live off disability checks, food stamps and handouts from family, neither one has had a steady job in years. They can "afford" it but they live in squalor in a trailer behind her parents' house, neither of them have a car, their kids will go to terrible schools and in all likelihood …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:13 PM
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-_-
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:01 PM
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Spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:33 PM
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Yes I'd agree with that. Moans and screams are often just a performance for the guy's benefit but that other stuff is harder to fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:32 PM
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Ohhh ok that makes more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:43 PM
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Yeah. I mean neuter literally means removal of the testicles so like, duh. The sex without testicles behave as if they don't have testicles??? You don't say! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:40 PM
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Yeah I mean there are always exceptions and alcohol can certainly tear down a lot of those hangups.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:39 PM
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oh no problem!! This stuff is actually one of the most interesting things about conversations here. Like we tend to focus on all the social/political/cultural aspects of sex, but it's fascinating to me that when it comes to the actual physical experience of the act, men and women exist on different planets.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:38 PM
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Yeah. I mean just physically sex requires arousal on the male's part but women can have sex unaroused and have historically done so for all kinds of reasons. I definitely think women compartmentalize sex more than men do, and contrary to popular belief I think men are far more emotional about sex. For women the emotions come from all the stuff surrounding the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:36 PM
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Yup. In fact it almost feels weirdly insulting if you feel gross and a guy tries to make you feel pretty/sexy lol. Like "Not only am I hideous but now I have to deal with this fucking liar!!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:34 PM
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Lol nah I think a lot of guys really don't realize it, and it's not something women exactly advertise lol Some women say they can have orgasms from PIV alone and I believe them but personally it's never happened for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:21 PM
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I'm not claiming either of those things. I personally get nothing physical from PIV sex, I get all my physical pleasure from foreplay. For me PIV is about what feels good for the guy and about the emotional/psychological enjoyment. Some women can have G spot orgasms or fornix orgasms and maybe those require a bigger dick, idk, you would have to ask them. But for most women PIV is not what they orgasm from. It has nothing to do with the guy being good or bad at sex and no amount of "motion" is go…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:19 PM
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Clitoral stimulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:14 PM
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I don't really understand what you're asking. Most women require clitoral stimulation to feel pleasure from sex. Absent that, just straight PIV feels pretty neutral, like the hand thing. Unless she's dry or unaroused which is when it can hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:13 PM
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Yup, I've seen this and actually I think I made a thread about it here a long time ago. Pretty spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:05 PM
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No it's not a mental thing, I mean it physically doesn't feel like anything. There aren't many nerve endings in the vagina. u/atlas_b_shruggin always uses this example and it's spot on. Do this with your hands: 👌 👈 then put your index finger in the hole and move it in and out. That's roughly what vaginal sex feels like a lot of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:55 PM
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This makes me wonder: do hot women feel themselves sexy more often and easily? I would say absolutely yes. And yet it does not stop gays from loosing their assholes. I have heard gay men describe bottoming in similar terms. It doesn't "stop women" from having sex either, that wasn't my point. Just that there's a certain feeling of vulnerability and powerlessness that comes from being the penetrated partner. But in the case of PIV, the risk of pregnancy and the lizard brain knowledge that sex can…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:53 PM
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Wouldn't talking about it BE "pointless virtue signaling on social media"?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:48 PM
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Well first of all we don't experience this: Is she attractive? Yes. Ok I want to fuck. It's not a linear process from find person attractive > want to fuck. It's more like, "Is he attractive? Yes. Ok, I'm amenable to him seducing me and if he does then I will want to fuck." Please don't interpret this as some "looks don't matter" nonsense because that's not what I'm saying. Looks are crucial to getting her to the point where she's amenable. But it's his personality (and by that I don't mean "mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:24 PM
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That's not the only factor. It depends on the spouse's financial situation and whether they work, how long you've been married and also highly depends on where you live (alimony is pretty much non-existent in a lot of states)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:42 PM
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Welp that's the second great idea I've had this month that someone else had first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:06 PM
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Every fucking school year, I have to fill out the exact same shit for the kids. Is there an option to say "nothing has changed since last year?" There is not. I guess their school system is like a goldfish; every time a new year begins, the last year may as well have not existed. Heaps of forms. Are they electronic forms at least?? I remember passing out forms in my homeroom when I was teaching and then hounding kids for weeks to bring them back and wondering why we were pretending it was the '9…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 01:50 PM
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Do your kids use water and electricity? Do they require medical care? Glasses? Braces? Does it require gas to get them to and from school and extracurriculars? Are you saving for their college? Food and clothes aren't the extent of their expenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 01:37 PM
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Is there like a way I could start a business where I do people's paperwork for them? I would love to quit my job and just spend all day every day filling out forms, OMG, a dream
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 01:31 PM
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"Dude, I don't live in a trashcan. I'm not a member of the Grouch community." This made me LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 01:25 PM
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Lol my thoughts exactly. It would never occur to any of the men in my life to even consider what the New York Times has to say about owning a firearm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 01:16 PM
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Yeah I get that, it almost makes more sense tbh I think it's related to my being a shy person in general. Like I have trouble making eye contact with people anyway, let alone during sex, for example. It's not really fear of being judged, idk, shyness is a difficult thing to explain because it's not a conscious thought process at all or rooted in anything rational. On the other hand I can give a presentation in a room of 100 people without breaking a sweat, lol. I have very strange selective shyn…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:07 AM
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Depends on what you mean by feelings. Without love? Yes. Without some kind of emotional connection/chemistry? No, or at least I've never tried or been compelled to. Also it requires a certain level of comfort with a person for me to feel uninhibited with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 02:00 AM
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I mean, at one time boobies were vitally, life-or-death important.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 01:41 AM
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Ugh me too, it's not the same without him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 11:55 PM
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lol I will if I the name comes to me or if I stumble across one of their comments. It's escaping me at the moment
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 11:44 PM
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There was a new person who was around for a couple of weeks who I strongly suspected was him. I can't remember the name now but I don't think I've seen it in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 11:41 PM
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Reddit has taught me that a successful relationship consists of: Complete and utter honesty and transparency about everything, including your most disgusting fetishes and hurtful impulses Constant, relentless, in-depth sharing of every feeling you've ever had or ever may have in the future Lots and lots of therapy. How can you know you're doing your relationship right without assurance from an uninterested third party? Absolutely no jealousy, reliance or attachment to the other person. In fact, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 11:34 PM
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haha thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:31 PM
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omg I totally had one of these in high school too lol We never dated, never kissed, never did anything and weren't really friends outside of our shared activity but we always sat together/fell asleep on each other on bus trips
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:31 PM
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Basically Patreon for noodz
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:25 PM
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My fiance's last serious ex is the exact opposite "type" from me which is a weird feeling. But his celebrity crushes are closer to what I look like Haha this is exactly me too. His last two exes are practically physical carbon copies of each other; petite brunette alterna-girls with tattoos and piercings. I'm a tall blonde with zero tattoos, piercings or any kind of alternative styling. His celeb crushes are all over the board but one of them is Scarlett Johanson who I guess is a similar type to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 06:33 PM
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I'm not sure I'd say jealousy, but at one point I did realize that I'm a very different physical type than my husband's exes, and that made me feel insecure for a while. But as far as like, "Did she get something I'm not getting?" or "Did he love her more?" or feeling like I'm competing with a memory... never. My husband and I cross paths with one of his exes on a semi-regular basis because we still have a lot of mutual friends so we'll see her at weddings and things like that. I actually knew h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 04:50 PM
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I respect that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 04:05 PM
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I asked her that and she said she'd think about it. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 02:12 PM
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Physically: Lean mesomorph, taller than me, thick dark hair, brown eyes, swarthy white or hispanic, clean cut (short hair and no facial hair or light scruff). Personality: Creative, energetic, charismatic, boyish, passionate, frantic/hyper energy. MBTI xSxP or xNFP types. Brendon Urie is my go-to example for my "personality" type. He's not bad to look at either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 02:09 PM
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Lol nah it's a legit research firm
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:52 AM
4

Yes exactly. Obviously everyone has their unrealistic pie in the sky ideal scenario, but the point is figuring out what you need to be happy/satisfied/fulfilled and not compromising on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:39 AM
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How are you going to give it the same legal benefits of marriage while also making it financially painless to leave? The legal benefits of marriage are what creates the financial entanglements.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:17 AM
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I didn't say men pursue sex for lust, in fact I specifically made a distinction between thirst and lust. Lust = inspired by a specific person, thirst = desire for sex itself and searching for a target. Lust = reactive, thirst = spontaneous. Are you really saying that men don't experience physical horniness more than women do? I don't doubt that men crave sex for validation, social/emotional reasons etc. but the point is those things manifest physically as horniness and a spontaneous desire for s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:09 AM
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You're arguing semantics. If 90% of women became morbidly obese, you could also make an argument that "men aren't thirsty, they wait for some (thin) girl to inspire lust in them". Would men just stop wanting sex if all women were morbidly obese? Or would they continue to want sex and be sexually frustrated because there aren't any attractive women around to have sex with? For women, sex is mostly an out of sight out of mind thing. In a world where 90% of men were unattractive, women's sex drives…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:06 AM
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I'm blackpill in that I think male physical attractiveness is mostly about bone structure. I just don't think physical attractiveness is all that matters for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 03:58 AM
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A while back I participated in a study for a tech company... I can't go into too much detail but it involved committing a fake crime and being interrogated about it. They just emailed me about another one that involves getting very drunk at their expense on a Friday afternoon while hooked up to various gizmos and gadgets. I signed up for that one too so hopefully I get chosen because that sounds like a good time lol And they say women don't contribute anything to technological advancement! I'm g…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 03:55 AM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 02:38 AM
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Yes I already acknowledged that a woman will make exceptions for a man they want. The point is a man has to inspire that in her. Women don't get spontaneously horny and go out trawling for a target like men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 01:41 AM
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Ok so you're just completely out of touch with reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 01:24 AM
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That's not my proof, I was just correcting what I perceived to be you insinuating that I'm a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 01:21 AM
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I already provided my evidence by listing ways in which men demonstrate thirst and women don't: If women have the same level of thirst why aren't they as indiscriminate in their attraction? Why don't you hear women saying "Doesn't matter; had sex"? Why don't women approach and pursue at the same rate men do? Why doesn't the lesbian sex scene look like the gay sex scene? Where are the gloryholes and strip clubs for women? Why is there no female equivalent to "show bobs and vagene"? I also provide…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 01:18 AM
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They do, your entire point wasn’t wrong it was just that last part. Who does what? Women approach and pursue at the same rate as men do? You honestly believe that? What is your evidence for "female thirst"? One thing I notice men never take into account or talk about is a woman’s menstrual cycle. First of all I'm a woman. Second of all what does this have to do with anything? Can you like, say more words? If anything the menstrual cycle proves my point, not yours. Women are only fertile for a sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 01:11 AM
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I really don't understand how anyone could disagree with this. If women have the same level of thirst why aren't they as indiscriminate in their attraction? Why don't you hear women saying "Doesn't matter; had sex"? Why don't women approach and pursue at the same rate men do? Why doesn't the lesbian sex scene look like the gay sex scene? Where are the gloryholes and strip clubs for women? Why is there no female equivalent to "show bobs and vagene"? I'm going to go out on a limb and guess your an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 12:56 AM
3

Which part?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 12:52 AM
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Hmm ok I guess that makes sense. But for some guys the act is literally like, a blow job. If your girl won't have a threesome with you and her sister and you find out she did it before and you're pissed then fair game. If she won't do something basic like give you a blow job or have anything but lights-off missionary once a month and you stay with her anyway... that's kind of on you imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 11:52 PM
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Because women have a responsive sex drive. Men walk around wanting to fuck something and jump at the first acceptable/feasible target. Women walk around in a state of sexual neutrality until someone inspires lust in them. They don't chase guys below their league because they have no drive to. And they don't sexually respond to guys below their league who pursue them because they have no incentive to, because they don't have the "thirst" that men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 11:24 PM
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Waiting in the bushes also implies a degree of forward planning not typically present in the alpha male On the other hand, he basically food-cucked the other dude. Peak alpha. Really a tough call.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 11:13 PM
8

me irl
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 10:06 PM
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I don't care about yachts and designer handbags and I'm constitutionally opposed to anyone but me paying off my credit card debt, so it wouldn't bother me. If I cared about those things I would date a guy who was willing to do those things, whether he did it for someone else in the past or not. Similarly (since I know this is what you're getting at), if a guy cares about hot pornstar sex then he should date a girl who's willing to give him that now, point blank period. I don't understand being f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:54 PM
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imo it's no different than the rise of other kinds of influencers/bloggers/vloggers. People see it as a money-making opportunity, and stay-at-home moms/wives are a natural demographic for this kind of thing since they have the free time and don't work outside the home. Blogging/vlogging becomes their "job."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 08:20 PM
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Q4All: Is this man alpha or beta? https://www.fox7austin.com/news/austin-man-arrested-for-stealing-burger-king-meal-from-ex-girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 07:37 PM
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Feminism and the sexual revolution are literally the only reason casual sex is even a thing lol Do you think people were having MORE casual sex before the emancipation of women and the sexual revolution?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 06:00 PM
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Not me but my dad, brother and sister-in-law all quit with Chantix. It sounds silly but when my dad quit he replaced cigarettes with lollipops. The chantix got rid of the physical addiction but the habit and oral fixation was still there. So he carried around a bag of lollipops and any time he would have reached for a cigarette he grabbed a sucker instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:55 PM
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I'd move back home and work hard to foster relationships with extended family. Otherwise I'd do mostly the same things I do now. I'd still need to work to live and save for retirement etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 01:53 AM
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Agreed, this is a disingenuous cop-out argument. Emotional needs are a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 08:29 PM
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While it usually takes two to tango, on of them can be a worse person. I don't see why either of them are bad people. OTOH, there's a third option no-one has thought of. The Royals might actually want a bit of Royal news that isn't Prince Andrew allegedly fucking kids. Yeah, I definitely think this is a factor too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 07:15 PM
1

This is one of my mom's favorite movies so I've seen it a handful of times. I always liked it but then I'm a sucker for anything with dancing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:26 PM
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Their friends don't show up at the sunday bruncheon saying "I'm walking funny because I bootie-called Juan last night." Most casual sex activity is not reported to the FSM because muh slut shaming. Like OP assumes only sorority girls (aka 'sluts') do this stuff, she's probably the last person her friends would spill the beans to, You could not be more wrong lol. Young women talk and laugh about their hookups with their friends all the time. Not to mention we hang out with our friends and live wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:02 PM
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Right. My husband is an introvert who will go entire days without talking. He was actually the "quiet one" in his group of friends (which consisted of him and three other guys; two were your typical fratboy type and the other was a tatted up musician manwhore with 0 impulse control). But when he is interacting with people, he's light-hearted and teasing and flirty, and he's that way with everyone - friends, strangers, little kids, his sisters, my grandma, Walmart cashiers. That's just what he's …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:33 PM
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I have been told point blank more than once on this sub that my husband (who is funny, friendly, flirtatious and gregarious by default) is "putting on an act." Some men here genuinely believe that no man actually just has a personality like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:14 PM
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As a normal safe Becky I can confirm that I don't give a shit about being seen as cool/sexy/exciting and am well aware that those things are not my wheelhouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:00 AM
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What? I don't understand what you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 03:20 AM
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It seems like an amalgam of a bunch of different female stereotypes weirdly rolled into one. The millennial hipster liberal arts major + suburban wine mom + Netflix-watching basic bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 02:07 AM
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I have an office job with a lot of downtime and when I'm home I'm pretty much always on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 02:01 AM
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Bota box is suspiciously close to beta bux I see u sublime
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 01:02 AM
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Yeah we went to Rocky Mountain National Park for our honeymoon and had all sorts of hikes and stuff planned but ended up spending most of it inside watching movies because I was sick. Oh well. (I also spent a lot of time here because the inaugural purge week started the day after our wedding, lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 12:58 AM
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Yeah I work in distance ed so I'm online all day every day. I have three monitors at work so I use two for work stuff and one for Reddit and other internet time wasters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 12:04 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 10:51 PM
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2 is kind of meaningless if you don't control for age. I would imagine a huge portion of that 20% is older couples. 6 applies to me. I had the flu the day I got married. I crashed the second we got home. I have friends who didn't have sex on their wedding night either. I think it's pretty common because people are often exhausted and/or intoxicated after the wedding and just want to go to sleep. And it's not like people are saving sex for marriage anymore so really the ~wedding night~ isn't a bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 07:14 PM
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Pennnylame and Gridrexx are both urban childfree women in their 30s, they don't remotely fit the wine mom stereotype
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 06:55 PM
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Harry has always been the rebel and is cut from the same cloth as his mom. People acting like the evil seductress Meghan swooped in and stole him away from his family are ridiculous. If anything I think this was his plan all along and marrying Meghan was just part of the plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 05:42 PM
1

A full head of hair is just a reverse beard Makes u think
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 04:12 PM
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The fact personal maintenance is often grouped with femininity is what results in everything else. This PARTICULAR form of personal maintenance is grouped with femininity in the US because generally it's only done by women and twinky gay men. Shaving legs and underarms is not "personal maintenance" for straight men in the US any more than wearing makeup is. Some men shave or wax their chest and back hair, but even those men have hair on their legs most of the time. It's simply not an expectation…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:58 PM
7

What a weird leap. Body hair isn't unhygienic and it doesn't make you fat (????)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:47 PM
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It's not that it's particularly attractive, but it's not UNattractive. And lack of it IS unattractive for a lot of women because it reads as feminine/gay. A little sweat isn't a bad thing on a man. If it's just a tiny bit of hair it's whatever but when it becomes obvious that someone has hairy legs and armpits it looks like they don't care to maintain themselves. This seems like a you thing. Or maybe a European thing or something if you're not from the US. I have never heard a woman express this…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:42 PM
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armpit and leg hair are unattractive on both men and women. What? Armpit and leg hair aren't unattractive on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:34 PM
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Oh hi, it me. I mean it's just like anything else people do and don't find attractive. It's just an aesthetic preference. It's not some "rule" I've set, I just happen to prefer both thick hair and a clean-shaven face. Some guys objectively look better with beards but I'm not personally attracted to them. I would never advise a guy who feels he looks better with a beard not to grow one because I know my preferences are far from universal. My husband occasionally grows facial hair (not a full bear…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:33 PM
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Oh no, I'm so sorry. Best wishes to you and your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 01:23 AM
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Yeah idk. I've talked about this before and people here of both sexes acted like I was a lunatic so I don't know if I'm just weird or what. I got with my husband when I was 22 which is why I didn't leave a top-level reply to the OP, because he's talking more about the 25+ crowd and I was done with my "hooking up" phase long before then. I could see this type of thing being less common in that age group, but making out and a blowjob seems like a pretty standard college hookup to me 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:49 PM
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I mean usually I was getting something out if it too. Making out, fingering etc. I don't know why everyone thinks when I describe this I'm talking about randomly giving some dude a BJ as like, charity? Or to get him to like me? It's weird. If I was alone and comfortable enough with a guy to go down on him it's because we had already been making out and doing other things that I was enjoying. I love making out in and of itself, I don't see at as like some lame substitute or precursor to sex, so m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:07 PM
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I did this quite a bit when I was younger. IME the trade was usually BJ for fingering, not BJ for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 05:31 PM
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Some women (cant remember who) said they sometimes gave a blow job because they didn't want to have sex and it 'satiated' the man. That was me and I thought it was pretty normal but evidently not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 04:16 PM
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then how else can a ugly guy get sex with a hot girl without paying Why do ugly guys need to have sex with HOT girls? Why can't they fuck ugly girls? Are you suggesting that hot girls are better than ugly girls in some way that makes them more preferable to fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 07:29 AM
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So not only do I have to share the one good guy with three other women, I also have to fuck the ugly guys regularly? No. Why the hell would any woman do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:49 AM
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Do you consider a "cohabitating couple with no intent to marry" to be in a commited relationship? Sure. Cohabitating is a commitment, it's just not as much if a commitment as marriage. If you lived with a cohabitating-only partner, would you have his children? Why or why not? No. It would be an embarrassment for me and my family. What portion of millenials (ballpark % is ok) do you think will be in cohabitating situations through their 30s and 40s? I don't know, but just judging by my circles, n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:45 AM
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do you think you can’t see and or feel how big his dick is through jeans? Oh I guess you missed the thread where we learned that this is in fact impossible because adult men apparently don't get boners from making out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:16 AM
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What are these above-the-waist sexual activities?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:56 AM
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Yup. I had it bad for one of those in college and he really liked me too but I just knew it would lead to nothing good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:23 PM
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idk, I'm pretty sure I was in love with my husband before having sex with him, and with another guy too. But I believe men need the sex before they can fully fall in love. Either way though I think people can know whether they want to have a relationship with someone before they have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:04 PM
7

Being a musician.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 10:55 PM
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This is how all my relationships formed too. I don't know if we were ~in love~ before sex but there were certainly feelings there. The beginnings of love, at the very least. With my husband in particular he had an on-again-off-again gf for the first year we knew each other. We were hanging out almost every night in our friend group and were flirty with each other (when his gf wasn't around, lol) and there was an obvious mutual crush/feelings, so by the time we finally DID hook up it was pretty m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 10:53 PM
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Ah okay, that makes sense. I really, really love food that's terrible for me lol. So if I want to pig out on a greasy burger or bake a cake or cookies or something, I have to restrict myself so I can afford the calories.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 10:42 PM
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Well for me my metabolism slowed down around 26 so maybe you're just lucky. So you just eat everything you want all the time without counting calories or restricting yourself at all? And you don't gain weight?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 10:15 PM
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I assume you are young and haven't had to work hard to maintain your weight yet. I would have thought it was weird when I was younger too. You'll understand when you're 30+ lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 10:10 PM
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Lolwut. No they don't. If someone told me they starved themselves so they could eat cake I would assume they have an eating disorder. I literally did this yesterday (except for burgers and fries and a shake). If I ate everything I wanted to eat all the time I'd weigh 500 lbs, so I had to delay gratification and skip breakfast and lunch so I could enjoy a really good dinner. People with self control do this all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 10:05 PM
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Yep that's me, sucking strange dick in bar bathrooms, do it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:50 PM
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No, either way it just sounds like the ramblings of a drunk idiot at the bar. One just happens to be a hot drunk idiot. I've never hooked up with a stranger and I don't like crass, overly-forward come-ons like that. I'm not saying I'd find it offensive but it wouldn't be effective on me either. It would be something funny to laugh about at Denny's after the bar closes, that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:38 PM
2

I'd be like "lol ok buddy" and turn to talk to my friend or whoever I was with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:27 PM
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Either she is a liar, which means she is not relationship worthy, or she sees you as a backup for all the alphas she failed to get into a relationship into, which is also not relationship worthy. Or she... is telling the truth and actually has a low n count?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 05:14 PM
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Hi BearSaint
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 02:10 PM
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I don't deal well with sudden confined spaces either. I once got stuck on a freight elevator at a retail job and it took them an hour to fix it, during which I pretty much had a complete hysterical meltdown. Funny enough my mom won't even go through one of the carwashes like you're talking about because they make her claustrophobic, and that's with the doors open!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 04:31 AM
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They should really have signs about that or something. Ugh just reading this gave me heart palpitations
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 04:22 AM
2

Holy shit this would have been panic inducing for me too. I'm from the country where we had these (in fact, going through the car wash was one of the only "fun" things to do in my small town lmao) but I had no idea the doors closed??? I have never seen that before. I guess maybe it never got cold enough where I lived.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 03:55 AM
1

The girl fucked her own uncle?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 06:09 PM
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My cheating ex, now with her uncle who was my only OPP for last year, is using "girl code" to state we can't talk, she got her friend to excommunicate cause her feelings were hurt. wat
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 05:54 PM
2

That's what I wanna know
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 04:10 PM
1

I guess my question is, if there are other ways to connect with people, what is it specifically about the sharing of feelings that some people find so necessary and important?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 02:32 AM
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I feel connected to people through shared experiences and history. I reject the idea that emotional word vomit is the only way to connect with other humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 01:18 AM
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I'm not talking about women though, I'm talking about men. True or false: a man who goes out, parties, drinks, does drugs, and doesn't limit himself to women outside of his social circle is more likely to have casual sex than a man who refrains from those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 12:14 AM
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Not to sound like Atlas but omg what is with you weirdos wanting to share your feelings or wanting other people to share their feelings with you? Everyone just shut up about the damn feelings!!!!! Problem solved! Feelings aren't for sharing, they're for burying deep deep deep inside until they become an ulcer or a heart attack and kill you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 10:55 PM
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Sorry but I don't buy this bizarre narrative on this sub that men don't actually like fun things and are just socially pressured into doing them. Either way though, this is beside the point. Whatever their reasons for wanting casual sex, my point is that it's bizarre that they don't even seem able to grasp that casual sex goes hand-in-hand with partying/drinking/drug culture and that it's difficult to achieve if you're otherwise straight-edge.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 08:39 PM
2

And why is it specifically directed to people with jealousy issues, who are unlikely to find any upside to this arrangement?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 08:13 PM
5

They all wanna be Hank Williams, they don't wanna have to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 08:06 PM
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Okay, everyone is reading something really weird into my comment. It's like yall read the first half of my sentence and just stopped. I'm not saying I'm baffled by them wanting casual sex. I'm saying I'm baffled by them seemingly wanting casual sex in a vacuum WHILE being morally opposed to everything else that comes along with it. Like they're tradcons when it comes to partying, drinking and "degeneracy" but not when it comes to NSA sex with lots of women. They want to be straight-edge morally …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 07:57 PM
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you wouldn't have remembered most of the drunken ones anyway I always think about this when the topic of "alpha widows" comes up and for some reason the assumption is always that it's some ONS guy that rocked her world and ruined her for other guys. Most ONS are sloppy drunk affairs that both parties barely remember the next day, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 06:51 PM
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Yes I understand that, that's why I'm baffled. A lot of guys on this sub want to be a winner like Chad but don't want to do what Chad does to win. I've had conversations with guys on this club who were aghast at suggestions like getting drunk/doing drugs, getting involved with "degenerate" subcultures, going to bars, working in the service industry, fucking people in their social circle etc. These are the things that lend themselves to casual sex but these guys I'm talking about weirdly focus on…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 06:13 PM
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I want children so I'm answering hypothetically. It would matter if you want to live with this person and eventually merge finances with them. If you get married, their credit score will affect the loans and housing that are available to you. If one person makes a lot more than the other, they'll either have to adjust their lifestyle down to match the lower-earning partner's, or pick up their financial slack. Then there are lifestyle factors like food, hobbies, travel, etc. Again, the higher-ear…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 05:09 PM
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Thank you for making this post. This is something that's been on my mind for a while. I'm baffled by all the men who want casual sex but seem so averse to the rest of the lifestyle that generally comes with casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 04:57 PM
1

My job is entirely collaborative and most of the people I work with are in different officies/cities/sometimes states, so communication is very important. Don't feel the need to respond to everything. If someone sends you a "heads up" email that doesn't merit a reply, don't bother sending one. If they feel the need to follow up to make sure you got it or whatever, they will. Otherwise they'll probably be grateful to have one less email that just says "Thanks!" cluttering their inbox. If somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 04:50 PM
1

Might want to switch the order of those last two
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 09:52 PM
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NO
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 09:49 PM
1

Buddy go take a nap
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 05:51 PM
3

you do know though, because you can in fact replace the noun "girl" in your argument with any noun capable of suction and be making an identical argument. I said girl because I assumed that's what you have experience with. I'm not making an argument, I'm literally just trying to parse what you're saying. I couldn't tell if you meant that you don't care about physical pleasure or if you literally don't know what physical pleasure even feels like. Sex certainly isn't ALL about physical pleasure, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 05:44 PM
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I mean I don't know but that's kind of beside the point. My question is, are you saying you don't experience physical pleasure at all, or do you just not care about it or prioritize it when having sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 05:33 PM
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So like, if a girl sucks your dick it's just a neutral sensation? It doesn't feel good?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 05:24 PM
2

So... it does exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 01:04 PM
3

Congratulations!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 03:18 AM
1

It gives me heartburn every time. Sucks because I really like the taste of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 10:30 PM
4

I've been wondering about him :/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 10:28 PM
2

Exactly. I used to drive to Amarillo for shows all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 10:06 PM
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It's not at all. There's a bar and music scene in Amarillo, anywhere you have that you'll have a niche subculture. I have friends who are involved in the alternative scene there. I went to college in Lubbock 90 miles away and was involved in the indie/emo scene. Midland, Abilene and San Angelo are even smaller and I have friends involved in the music scene in all of those cities too. I'm not as familiar with the Midwest but I have friends in Omaha and Kansas City who are involved in the art and …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 10:04 PM
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When I was in college there was a club that allowed under-21s in. It largely attracted LGBT and kink/fetish people although I didn't really realize it at the time. My friends used to go there to dance since it was one of the only places we could get into before we were 21. I was there with my college bf one time and this older couple came up to us and started talking and being really friendly, gave us their number, said to let them know if we wanted to "hang out" later and told us they had alcoh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 08:51 PM
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I have a hard time believing this guy has any experience with small towns or rural areas if he thinks it's easy to get a white collar job in rural America. I grew up in a small town in the middle of nowhere and unless you want to be a teacher or a nurse, you're not getting a professional job there because there literally aren't any. He seems to think "rural" means "suburb of a major city." That or he's just talking out of his ass and being contrarian.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 07:44 PM
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Tulsa and Jacksonville don't count. Why not? There are party scenes in those cities. Tulsa has a great art and music scene. I spent my early twenties in a city smaller than either of those and partied all the time. I have friends in Amarillo, Omaha, Beaumont, Laredo, Albuquerque etc. who have active social lives. I'm sympathetic to people who live in isolated rural areas where there truly is nothing to do, but if you live in a small city and don't have a social life it's because you're not tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 06:21 PM
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Also seems like she's concentrating on keeping her footing, which is difficult to do in this position anyway, let alone next to a pool where it's probably slippery.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 04:51 PM
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I've never dated a guy who went to the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 02:25 PM
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Fear of being vulnerable has to do with your own self-image and/or your comfort with the person, not your attraction to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 11:10 PM
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Birthdays, Anniversaries, and Valentines Day are three days out of the year. A scheduled weekly date is only a date that occurs 52 times out of the year, and monthly, only 12. I think any of those numbers you just mentioned would equate to a deadbedroom, if not, at least an unsatisfying sex life This assumes that these are the only instances of romance taking place in a relationship, which ideally isn't the case. Just like ideally not every instance of sex is duty sex. It's just something you do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 10:55 PM
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Ugh, I'm sorry, that's the absolute worst. I'm not sure there's anything you can do or say. It's just an unspeakable tragedy. A family friend lost a baby a few hours after birth several years ago. After the funeral, my dad said, "If I never have to go to a funeral with a coffin that small again, it will be too soon."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 09:44 PM
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How could gender essentialism say that their natures are determined biologically but not that sex hormones are a part of determining their behavior? Aren't the differences in sex hormones the biology they are referring to? Yeah I was confused about this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 09:41 PM
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Seriously that was some bullshit. I'm moving back to tornado alley where when they say "severe weather" they MEAN it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 07:24 PM
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Awwww
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 07:21 PM
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I'd have divorced him for hashtagging #LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 05:25 PM
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Actually I think the idea of "maintenance romance" is more culturally accepted than maintenance sex, we just don't call it that. Like others have mentioned, things like birthdays/anniversaries/Valentine's Day fall under this category. A lot of couples I know, especially those with kids, have a scheduled weekly or monthly date night. Things like buying flowers "just because" -- sometimes it's genuine, sometimes it's "Oh shit I haven't done anything romantic for her in a while." The advice to "kee…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:31 PM
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We were supposed to have some last night but it ended up being like an hour and a half of mild wind and rain. I was hoping my car would get beat to shit with hail and I'd get a nice insurance check, but alas.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:06 PM
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Yeah, if I'm tired enough I can and will fall asleep in pretty much any situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 05:13 AM
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I suffer from chronic SBD. Sadly, there is no cure. In seriousness, usually it was either because I was drunk or on cold medicine. Also my husband sometimes initiates early in the morning and I acquiesce to the best of my ability, but to say I am not a morning person would be an understatement, so I have been known to nod off.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:22 AM
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You got Smoogsed. Happens to the best of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:06 AM
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Yeah this happens to us sometimes lol. Also we usually sleep naked and we're very snuggly sleepers so sometimes we wake up practically having sex already.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:55 AM
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I'm not a mom but I've fallen asleep during sex, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 02:25 AM
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Oh you're absolutely right, and that's kind of what I'm getting at. People are artificially limiting their kids by only buying them these gendered toys. And even the stuff that shouldn't be gendered often is these days. Instead of a normal easel and paints, it has to be branded with Disney princesses or whatever. My brother bought my niece a little trampoline for Christmas and there were two color options: pink or blue. EVERYTHING is gendered now and I find it worrying tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 01:01 AM
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Would you also say it's acceptable for a woman to say good luck finding men who work, raise kids, and also want to eat you out? Yes, lol They're not nonexistent but this is definitely a needle in a haystack type of thing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 11:37 PM
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Man. I'd still want a heterosexual marriage and biological kids. Plus wouldn't want to deal with the fallout from my family if I dated a woman. It would just complicate my life too much. Might have a few flings with women but nothing serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 10:28 PM
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Yeah, I was never a girly-girl and didn't like the typical girl play activities like dolls, tea parties, playing "house" etc. I wasn't a tomboy either though; I didn't like sports or rough housing or action figures either. What these conversations always weirdly elide over is the fact that there is so much play that is gender neutral. Is riding your bike a "boy" or "girl" activity? Finger painting? Play-doh? A toy keyboard or drum set? That's the kind of stuff I liked as a kid and I don't consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 08:14 PM
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Yep and that's fine too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 06:43 PM
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Exactly! Same. Sometimes some half-asleep missionary is all you have the energy for and that's okay. (Key word sometimes.)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 06:27 PM
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Girl... I feel this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 06:25 PM
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I'm a woman and I've lived around rednecks and meth heads my whole life so I've seen my share of men with rotten teeth. I also know which bars to avoid if I don't want to run into them. If this is really a frequent problem for you you should consider hanging out at nicer places.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 06:06 PM
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If you're running into guys with rotten teeth on a regular basis you're hanging out at some seedy-ass bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 05:54 PM
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Totally agree with you and Aaren, but would also add that in order for this to work, the man has to be okay with occasionally having less-than-stellar sex. A lot of guys on this sub turn their noses up at "duty sex" and say if she's not totally enthusiastic and raring to go then they're not interested. Not saying guys should just suck it up and accept resentful frigid starfish sex, but don't expect it to be a porno every time either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 05:11 PM
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This thread was dumb the first time you posted it and it's still dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 03:57 PM
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Ah gotcha. Yeah there was a situation here about a year ago where a guy donkey punched a dude outside a club and the guy fell on the pavement, got a brain injury and died.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 02:53 PM
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Is your hometown in TX by any chance? That happened in a town near me recently too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 01:52 PM
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No, idk why so many people in this sub spell it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 01:44 PM
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Obviously I was being tongue-in-cheek/dramatic with the gaslighting thing. I'm just saying it's kind of funny and frustrating when you search for small phones and all the articles list phones that are 5-6 inches. That's not small. Thanks for the link, I hadn't found any of those phones in my search.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 01:14 PM
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It's literally sexism because the dimensions of phones are too large for the average woman to hold or carry comfortably. A product we all have to use every day is built for hands much bigger than ours. I don't think it's intentional sexism. I don't think the phone company people were sitting around rubbing their hands together going "Muah ha ha, we will design phones to make the ladies' hands cramp!!!!" But it's something that was obviously not designed with women in mind, which is a pretty huge…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 01:12 PM
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They sound like finicky bitches then tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 01:06 PM
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Totally. And I will do the “girls night out” activities (getting dressed up to go drinking and dancing/bar hopping) with my husband happily so it’s not like I don’t like drinking and dancing. Right, exactly. All of my husband's and my early "dating" was just partying and drinking and going out to bars with our friends, and we still do that on occasion in our mixed-gender group which now mostly consists of couples. But I wouldn't do it with just girls. A college friend was recently in town for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 12:01 AM
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Ohhh yeah I see how you read my comment now lol, that's my bad for not being clear. Yes!!! All the selling points are like "OuR BiGgEsT sCrEeN eVeR!!!!!" and I'm like that's nice and I'm very happy for all the people who want big screens, but can I please just have one phone that fits in my hand and isn't made by some sketchy Chinese company I've never heard of? Apparently Sony or someone makes a micro phone that's credit card sized which is smaller than I would like but honestly I think I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:43 PM
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My thinking on it is that, at worst, it's going to cause some drama between the girls. But I don't see why that's your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:38 PM
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Yeah I'm not denying the pockets thing at all, it's very real and annoying. Just saying personally I find that the most problematic everyday form of sexism I encounter is the size of phones. I have exceptionally tiny hands and I literally get cramps from using my phone, and it's not even one of the "big" phones (it's a Galaxy S7). I was researching it because I kind of want a new phone and there just straight-up aren't any phones under 5 inches anymore. I have a friend who still has an iPhone4 a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:36 PM
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Nope, that would be the size of cell phones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:23 PM
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Maybe it is generational or something because I'm with you. "Girl's night out" connotes single girls going out drinking/dancing/trawling for dudes. A couple weeks ago I went out with a group of girl friends for a friend's birthday. We got dinner and a couple of drinks and then went to see another friend in an improv show. I would never refer to an outing like that as a "girl's night out" although technically we were girls enjoying a night out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:18 PM
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Like others have said, make sure they know you mean that you share a house/apartment with other guys. At 20, when people say roommates sometimes that literally means roommates. Otherwise I can't imagine why a girl would be turned off by a 20-year-old guy having roommates. Definitely beats the usual alternative at that age which would be living with your parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:15 PM
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Yeah this is what I was thinking too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:07 PM
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He was honestly probably the least conventionally attractive guy I've dated. But he was cute to me, and really fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 09:08 PM
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If the former fwb is her best friend she probably already knows they used to hook up. I mean like I said this happened in my social circle all the time and no one really thought it was weird. Sometimes there was awkwardness if someone involved still had feelings for the person or whatever, but that's life in your twenties, things get awkward sometimes. Life goes on. The old fwb will eventually find another guy she likes and start fucking/dating him and won't give a shit that her friend is dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 08:49 PM
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Because my experience in my early twenties was that everyone kind of dated around in the social circle. If you meet someone at a party or social gathering or through mutual friends, chances are they're going to be someone's ex or best friend or sibling or roommate etc. It sounds like OP knew both the fwb and the friend independently of each other (as in, he didn't meet the friend through the fwb, they're all part of the same social circle). This girl he likes now just happens to be the friend of…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 08:34 PM
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This just sounds like normal social dynamics in your 20s. I don't see anything wrong with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 08:05 PM
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Yeah it's always funny to me that the examples of universally attractive "hot guys" are, like, Brad Pitt and Chris Hemsworth. Who are obviously very attractive guys but to me they're complete sexual blanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:03 PM
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This is by no means an exhaustive list but... Blond-haired blue-eyed guys are a non-starter for me, it's like I don't even see them. Too "clean," metrosexual look. Bad breath Whiny voice Behavior that makes me cringe/embarrassed on his behalf (making a lot of jokes that don't land, talking out his ass on a topic he clearly knows nothing about, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:36 PM
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Probably the guy who took my out on the best dates was my most recent ex. It was definitely not as fancy as taking me to Paris lol, but he was an amateur competitive swing dancer and would always take me dancing or to jazz/blues clubs. We broke up amicably when he moved out of state.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:20 PM
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To an extent. I definitely start to feel annoyed and smothered if I spend too much time with someone, which can kill attraction. And I think having space to miss someone can keep things exciting. My husband and I occasionally spend a week or so apart from each other; his work requires some travel, and I travel pretty regularly to visit family. We're always really lovey-dovey for the first few days when we reunite after those absences. But I think frequent, extended absences would just make me fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:36 PM
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Happy birthday! You share a bday with my dad :) 27 is a good age.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:11 PM
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Is today your birthday?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:07 PM
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I think he's confusing you with a male poster here named SlimLovin. Which tbh I did too at first, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:21 AM
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Same actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:12 AM
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Neither is the "victim" unless there was some actual violence or something similar. This moral language around breakups that always comes up here is so odd to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 07:21 PM
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Oh man, I'm so sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:53 PM
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Yeah I didn't think of this either. My mom gave me tons of apperance/grooming/diet advice (and criticism, lol). It didn't occur to me to list that as dating advice but I guess in a round about way it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:47 PM
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You can buy them anywhere you can buy regular condoms. I literally got them at Walmart. I used the Skyn ones too sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:32 PM
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Haha. Maybe just for special occasions
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:24 PM
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I didnt have casual sex as yet but I had one night long make outs with strangers (I know how childish this sounds). My blueballing sista. I did the same thing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:18 PM
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Haha I saw your comment right after I posted mine and clocked this as well! Yay moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:07 PM
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The only advice I remember my dad giving me was that lambskin condoms feel the best (I honestly have never tried them, but I having a feing he is right; ha!). I have a latex allergy so I used lambskin condoms. Every guy I slept with had never used them before me and was amazed at how (comparatively) good they feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:03 PM
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TL;DR my parents did a lot of back-end moral building so when it came to dating they didn't say much, they just sat back and let me do my thing. They assumed those values would survive against American dating culture, and for what it's worth they were largely correct. Yeah, my parents weren't immigrants but this is pretty much how it went for me to. They had expectations for my conduct and character, and those informed by dating decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:00 PM
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My mom always told me that the person you marry will make 90% of your happiness or your misery, so choose carefully. She also emphasized that you don't just marry a person, you marry their family, and vice versa. She told me love was necessary but not sufficient to make a marriage last, that it also took hard work and shared goals and values. And she told me never to let a man know that I'm handy around the house because anything a man learns that a woman can do somehow magically becomes "woman'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 05:55 PM
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I definitely talk about my feelings way less than the average woman. My mom and female friends sometimes even get mad at me because I don't share enough with them. And I share even less with my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 05:23 PM
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Lol not at all a stereotype. Every man in my family owns multiple firearms. My parents own some land that's been overrun by wild hogs in the last several years. My dad sits on the front porch in the evening drinking a beer and taking out hogs with his AR-15.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 04:26 PM
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Lolol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 04:22 PM
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hallucinationogens
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 05:45 AM
2

Huh. That's an interesting analogy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 05:16 AM
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I sometimes just sit on the floor next to his computer chair and put my head in his lap so he'll play with my hair, lol He's pretty good at reading me though, I think he pretty much always picks up on when I'm upset and sometimes he'll be like "Do you need to talk about something?" 90% of the time I'm like "Nope" and that's that. I'm very glad we're both physical touch people and not words/quality time people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 04:36 AM
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If you live with someone you can usually tell they're in a bad mood by their body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, habits, etc. I can tell my husband's in a bad mood when I come home and the lights are off and/or he's in sweatpants and/or he doesn't say hi to me when I walk in. I don't need him to tell me with words. When he's in the worst moods he doesn't talk to me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 04:24 AM
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No, you can have hugs and physical affection without talking about the problem at all. Trust me, this is like 90% of the comforting that takes place in my relationship lol Sometimes I will just say "I'm sad, can you rub my back for a minute?" and my husband will rub my back and that's it. I guess "I'm sad" is talking about feelings but it's not the kind of deep heart-to-heart sharing that I assume people mean in those other threads.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 04:20 AM
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Sometimes. Sometimes I don't want to be touched or interacted with at all, I just want to be left alone. But even if you want to be hugged, physical affection doesn't require talking or sharing feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 04:16 AM
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He is not some kind of autistic retard who is all needs me to tell him that I am sad that my father died in order to do things to ease my everyday life in the immediate aftermath. He did plenty. This exactly. I hate the idea that "talking" is the only way to support someone. Neither my husband or I are good at giving or receiving that kind of support so we help each other in other ways. When his mom died and he was distracted and despondent I just started doing things for him that he normally wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 02:17 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 01:14 AM
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Sure. I realized that my initial comment came off as me calling you selfish, which wasn't my intention. Rather I was just trying to illustrate that while you find gratification in your partner experiencing pleasure, some guys don't, and some guys actually find gratification in the opposite (receiving pleasure at the expense of their partner; something about the validation of what she'll withstand/put up with to please him...) Also, a LOT of guys only feel motivated to please a girl if they find …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 11:47 PM
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I was about to type this exact comment but with Obama. lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:37 PM
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Yeah this is a good point. I think young people think their lives will revolve around their friends forever but that rapidly changes usually starting in your late 20s, and accelerating once people start getting married and having kids. I can't even remember the last time I hung out with a friend one-on-one, male or female. It's mostly dinner parties or group outings these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 11:33 PM
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I think there's a spectrum of selfish to selfless, but I think there is a tinge of self-interest in just about everything we do. But I was mostly just trying to get across to OP that men who aren't generous in bed are doing what turns them on, same as him. He's saying "It turns me on to get a woman off, so I don't understand men who are selfish in bed" and I'm saying those men simply aren't turned on by the same things he is. (I go into further detail in subsequent comments.) And yeah it was lol…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:16 PM
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Generally women choose from among the men who approach/pursue her. But sometimes she will encourage his approach by sending IOI's and putting herself in proximity of the guy she likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:11 PM
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I don't think you ever REALLY know anyone. The best you can do is observe their behavior and make educated guesses as to how they may behave in the future. But you have absolutely no idea how unforeseen circumstances might bring new aspects of their personality out of the woodwork that even they didn't know were there. My mother-in-law's death turned my husband into a person I didn't recognize for the better part of a year. Not all of the changes were bad, but they were surprising. And I imagine…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:01 PM
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Yes I agree and you'll notice I made this exact distinction in later comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 09:50 PM
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Good thing I wasn't complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 09:42 PM
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and sound kinda boring besides kinky sex. If the only thing that makes you interesting is kinky sex then maybe work on that. Why would a woman want to LTR a guy who isn't interesting outside of sex? That's LITERALLY why they only want sex with you. If I wanted to PnD I'd pretend to be Chad which I don't. OK but this doesn't matter to the women looking at your profile. I am not talking about your motivations, I'm talking about how your profile looks from these women's point of view. They don't kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 08:27 PM
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Because guys will say anything to get girls into bed, including "I'm looking for an LTR." A guy saying he's looking for an LTR on a dating site will be taken with a huge grain of salt by any woman with experience and half a brain. But if a guy says upfront that he's looking for kinky sex, there's 0 reason not to take that at face value. So, at best, women see your profile and think that you're a guy who prioritizes kinky sex but might be open to a relationship too. At worst they'll think you're …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 08:12 PM
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I assume they are complaining about the guys who aren't like OP, who aren't particularly turned on by getting the woman off and who just do what feels good for them with no regards to her pleasure. Like I said, I really, really didn't articulate my point well and that's on me. I am not at all trying to say "OP, you're just as selfish and just as bad as those guys, shame on you!!!" I probably should have quoted the specific part of the OP I was replying to, which is this: but I find it strange ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 08:06 PM
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I mean yeah that would probably be the only way to truly have selfless sex. I think most people have sex at least partially because they want to get something out of it. Most people aren't just doing it out of the goodness of their hearts, nor should they be. To be clear, again, I'm not saying this is a BAD thing. I'm just trying to illustrate that if OP recognizes that his wanting to get his partner off is at least in part motivated by his own gratification (which again, is great and fine!), it…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:45 PM
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I think it's fine, but there should be boundaries in place. My lifelong best friend is a guy. He's the one who introduced me to my husband. We've known each other since we were in diapers and were roommates for several years in our 20s. And to be honest, what you're describing in your OP crosses a lot of lines for me. I would never invite him over for dinner unless our partners were there too and it was a double date type thing. I would certainly never go out drinking or dancing (?!) alone with …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:30 PM
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Well like I said, I'm not criticizing it. I agree with you that if she's getting off in a way she likes then she shouldn't nitpick about what his motivations are. But I do think "I get my partner off because it turns me on!" is a selfish motivation. Or perhaps it would be more accurate to say it's not entirely selfless. Edit: Also, I'll copy and paste this from another comment because I think my point kind of got lost in the weeds, which is probably my fault: But ultimately my point isn't to sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:26 PM
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I mean he literally described himself as wanting to get her off because it's a turn-on for him. The implication, for me, is that if it wasn't a turn-on for him he'd be less interested in doing it. It'd be different if he had said, "It's important that we both enjoy ourselves, plus it's a turn-on for me too!" But that isn't how I read it. There's a difference between doing something for someone else and your own pleasure being a by-product of that (unselfish), and your own pleasure being your mot…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:23 PM
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By putting your sexual proclivities on your dating profile upfront, you're (unintentionally, it seems) broadcasting to women that you're looking for sex first and foremost. Women see that and think "This is a guy who's looking for kinky sex, not a relationship." Like yasee said, there's a time and a place for discussing kinks and fetishes, but if you're looking for an LTR, your dating profile isn't it. Find a girl you like, meet up with her, see if you hit it off, and then screen for sexual comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:17 PM
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Yeah lol it's really baffling. But I think often times it's something that worked on another woman in the past and they got a huge thrill out of it so they're looking to recreate that experience with the current one. So when the current one is like, "Meh, no thanks," they feel kind of deflated and maybe even think that the past woman didn't like it as much as she let on either. It's understandable, but frustrating in the moment on both ends. Also good insights. Nothing says cooperation like mutu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:00 PM
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Read your post again and really think about what you're saying. You enjoy getting your partner off because it's a turn-on for you. This is great and I'm not shaming you for it at all, but you admit yourself that you have selfish motivations for wanting to please your partner. Now imagine a guy for whom getting his partner off isn't a big turn-on for him, and whose biggest turn-on is *her* getting *him* off without having to invest much in her pleasure. Both of you are selfish, it's just that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:44 PM
2

This is really cool! You will have the time of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:26 PM
3

Yeah it seems like he's describing some unholy amalgam of Tumblr SJWs and VSCO girls, not "art hoes"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 04:03 PM
1

I'm under 35 and the last of my single friends will get married this year, to people they've been dating since they were in their mid-20s. This is not my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:08 PM
1

There are lots of clubs even in the US that let under-21s in, they just put X's on their hands. There were at least three in my college town.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:24 PM
9

Unattractive men have casual sex as well Especially in the kink scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:11 PM
2

"I'd like to take you out to X on Saturday" = date "Hey, wanna go to X on Saturday?" = friendly platonic hangout Also generally over the course of a date the guy will try to maintain close physical proximity, make flirty comments, touch her hand/back, etc. If he invited her in a manner similar to option #2 and he didn't get physical with her throughout the night most women would genuinely assume it was just a platonic thing. But tbh I think what she did was gross even if it were just a friendly …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 04:45 AM
1

Ah ok. Yeah I used to sub at a school like that in Austin. It was a very interesting environment, the magnet school (one of the best public high schools in the country) was upstairs and the low performing school was downstairs. I usually worked at the magnet school but sometimes would fill in downstairs if they needed someone while I had a free period. It was like two different worlds in one building.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:42 AM
1

Don't answer if too personal but was this school in TX by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:03 AM
2

Haha well it's Austin, we have a lot of alternative types and transplants here. My current stylist was mindblown when I told her I blow-dry my hair. She said I'm her only client who does. Girls in Austin are more about the earthy natural hair kind of look, while women in the rest of the state blow dry and tease to the heavens (I'm originally from Lubbock which is basically mini Dallas). If women here do a blowout it's either after a haircut or at one of those blow bar places for an event. A lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 08:33 PM
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The "grandmas" in this sub are like 60 tops and there's like two of them. If they were alive during the sexual revolution, they were babies. The 40-50 year old women who make up the bulk of older women on this sub came of age well after these changes took place. My mom is 63 and her parents no-fault divorced when she was a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 08:13 PM
5

That's exactly what the question in the title implies: How did you expect men to respond to the changes in dating... I'm not saying that the implication is that the women on this sub are responsible for these changes, but rather that the implication is that we were around prior to these changes in order to form any kind of expectation about them. To expect something implies some prior knowledge/anticipation of the event, which isn't possible because these changes were in place before most of us …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 07:48 PM
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It's a silly question because it's not like the women on this sub were alive when all these changes were being orchestrated, so how could we have planned for or expected anything? We grew up steeped in this culture the same way the men here did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 07:39 PM
2

ok, our experiences are different. I knew exactly one guy who shaved his head in high school and it's because he was balding prematurely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:37 PM
15

Holy loaded question Batman!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:31 PM
2

First of all, the Rock is not young and this thread is about men going bald at a young age. There's a reason you don't see high school and college aged guys shaving their heads for aesthetic reasons unless they're already going bald. Baldness is not considered attractive in young men. As a man ages and gets a more rugged look to him he can look good bald and some women really have a thing for that look but they're usually older and have begun to develop a taste for more "distinguished" guys. Sec…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:26 PM
2

Yeah I think so too. It gives you a distinctive look that catches people's eye. And sure there are some men who are just not into short hair and never will be but so what? That's true of almost any look.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:20 PM
2

Yes I'm positive. Is this a serious question?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:17 PM
2

Yup, this was exactly my experience although mine actually was a pixie (but with long bits in the front, similar to this but with more side-swept bangs). Men can say long hair looks better on every woman till they're blue in the face but I watch what they do, not what they say. And what they do is hit on me a lot more when my hair is short, lol I have a very long face and it's kind of nondescript. My eyes are my most/only striking feature, and short hair draws attention to them. So when my hair …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:58 PM
2

I personally call myself agnostic rather than atheist because of this distinction. To me atheist implies the latter, a positive claim of "there is no God." I personally don't believe in God but I'm not confident/invested enough in that belief to claim definitively that there isn't one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:43 PM
2

rather than spend an hour a day dealing with their aging hair to make it look like that of a 19-year-old Instathot. Which she isn't going to accomplish anyway, no matter how much work she puts in. That's partially what I mean by long hair aging a woman; at a certain point trying to look young just draws attention to how not-young you are. It's kind of like an older woman dressing too young for her age. All the youthful trendy clothes in the world aren't going to make her look younger, they're ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:30 PM
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You can also use wrinkle cream and makeup but your skin will still show signs of aging. Women's hair loses luster and body with age, it just does, and for MOST women at a certain point it just makes sense to have something more short, manageable and sophisticated rather than use products to try and capture the natural sheen and life of youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:17 PM
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Report me then, I don't give a shit. I'm not going to just give a single word yes or no answer when I actually have an opinion and experience with a topic and want to provide a more nuanced point for discussion. OP asked if short hair accelerates the wall in older women. My response is that if she's older she already hit the wall, and if anything cutting her hair is a response to that. It's not my problem that you're too [redacted] to understand a simple point. Edit: Removed personal attacks, sr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:13 PM
1

My point is that cutting hair is often a RESPONSE to having already hit the wall. I don't believe that young women cutting their hair makes them hit the wall faster. It might make them less attractive to some men but that's a different thing from "the wall." Long hair can make old women look older, but I've never seen short hair make a young woman look older. If you see a woman with short hair and think she looks old, chances are she would look just as old or older without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:11 PM
1

That's not what you said before. Yes it is, you're just a fucking idiot foreigner who can't read. It rarely can be much earlier than that. Most pre-wall women who have short haircuts would have good hair if they had them longer. Yes but we are talking about POST WALL WOMEN IN THIS THREAD. Jesus Christ you're [redacted] I said that "past a certain point" long hair ages a woman. Call that point the wall, call it middle age, call it whatever you want. I never said or implied that long hair ages you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:08 PM
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Dude you need to say more fucking words, I literally have no idea what your point is. I am talking about the wall too. I disagree with you that the point at which long hair ages a woman is 50+, it can be much earlier than that. Especially if she's had children which can cause her hair to thin and become coarse well before middle age.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:04 PM
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...and? Where did I imply anything else? I don't understand what you're arguing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:02 PM
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I didn't say otherwise? This thread is about "older" women which in colloquial English implies middle age and up (although this is PPD so I guess I should assume "older" means, like, over 19). That said, I'm not just talking about gray but also hair thinning and becoming more coarse and dull, which for a lot of women happens after childbirth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:00 PM
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Yeah exactly, it's not just that it goes gray but that it gets dry and limp and spindly. An older woman can pull off that look if her name is Tree and she lives in a Winnebago and makes her living selling handwoven tapestries at flea markets, but normal women not so much. My husband loooooooved short hair on me and tells me I should cut it again all the time. I want to eventually but haven't yet because A, I've gained weight in my face and I feel like that look only works on me when my face is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 04:45 PM
1

I think it varies a lot by make. I loved my Honda but it had the least comfortable seats I've ever sat in in my life. I did some research and apparently Hondas are notorious for having uncomfortable seats. I drive a Kia now and it's much more comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 04:16 PM
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Me either, as someone who's had both and really loved having short hair this wasn't my motivation whatsoever. And if it were, it would have been very unsuccessful because men loved my short hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 04:03 PM
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Age is not kind to women's hair, especially if they've had children, and after a certain point long hair just ages you. An older woman with long, dry, gray hair is sad in the same way a balding man with a comb-over is. Like they're desperately clinging to the fading remnants of youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:32 PM
3

"I was in the pool! I WAS IN THE POOL!!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 04:58 AM
1

Not me but I just remembered that some girl my friend hooked up with told him she wanted to "floss her teeth with his cum"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 04:57 AM
4

To be fair I did an hour or two of deep cleaning at a time, punctuated by binging two seasons of Great British Bake Off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:38 AM
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I've been off work for two weeks and spent last week deep cleaning snd organizing every room one by one. Spent way too much money at the Container Store and my back hurts like shit but oh my God so worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:18 AM
1

Dude "what's" with all the "quotes"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:36 AM
1

Ah so you're starting from really short, that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 12:38 AM
6

idk why you think that. A lot of men (and women, please don't @ me MRAs) are prone to frequent anger and violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 12:36 AM
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I say this every time paternity tests come up. It's a terrible idea to wait until your wife is pregnant (and experiencing pregnancy hormones) to being up paternity tests. I think bringing it up when you first start discussing kids, in the dating stage, would mitigate a lot of the drama because then it's not about HER. The other option, which I prefer and which is way simpler, is to just do the test after the kid is born and not tell her. Then you'll have peace of mind (assuming it's yours) and d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 12:32 AM
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People get mad and want to hit someone, a lot of the time it's no more complicated than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 12:22 AM
2

Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 12:18 AM
5

If it's righteous anger directed at a worthy target, yeah it can be a turn-on. Petulant anger taken out on a dog or something wouldn't be sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 12:10 AM
1

How long is your hair after four or five months? If my husband grew his out that long it'd be past his shoulders.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 11:58 PM
3

That's how it is in Austin too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 11:54 PM
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Not sure if this counts but the first time I had sex with my husband he got a huge nosebleed in the middle of it and it took a while before either of us realized it. We had to stop and clean up and take the sheets off the bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 09:42 PM
1

The only gym experience I have is early morning swimming at the Y. I'd say 60/40 female to male for lap swimmers and about 85/15 female to male for water fitness classes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 09:36 PM
3

I loved Knives Out!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 09:34 PM
2

It was ridiculous and I loved it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 09:24 PM
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I'm seeing Cats by myself. The movie starts in five minutes and I'm the only person in the theater. This rules. Update: A middle aged man just walked in, also by himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 07:08 PM
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I mean like I said I wanted a relationship but there wasn't anyone around who I wanted one with who was single. Cuddling or hooking up with some rando I don't really like or don't see a future with would just make me more unhappy. So I just enjoyed being single and hanging out with my friends until a guy came along who I clicked with and who pursued me. Then we broke up and the cycle began anew. I'm talking ~2 years here, not decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 06:56 PM
2

Big Bend <3 Love that place.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 06:50 PM
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I had friends and was social. I wasn't living in an isolation chamber or anything. I wanted a relationship but there weren't any available guys I was interested in. And random sex or a short term bf to pass the time doesn't do anything for me. I'd rather just hang out with my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 06:37 PM
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I've gone years without sex and could easily do it again. "Getting laid" is not a priority for me. I did have to become more laid-back, fun and outgoing in order to get sustained attention from men and relationships when I was younger. I didn't hate the person I became, I was just a less uptight version of the person I was before. It was freeing. But I guess to answer your question in better faith, I would rather be single/celibate indefinitely than be in a relationship that makes me miserable. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 06:16 PM
2

Yep, spot-on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 05:18 PM
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You will get pick me girls who want to prove they are not like other girls doing this. Why is this a bad thing for him, especially if he's looking for an ONS? I agree "all my exes are crazy" is a red flag but usually it takes some experience to figure that out. Younger, more naive girls will hear that and think "Aw, this poor guy, he's so sensitive and evil harpies just take advantage! I would never treat him like that!" Young inexperienced women love the wounded baby bird narrative. Not saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 05:04 PM
1

🛎️🛎️🛎️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 03:38 PM
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I'm not speaking about my experience with those four guys, I'm speaking about my observations of these dynamics in the real world, which apparently Kandy isn't qualified to comment on because she's fucked too many guys which I guess makes her a weirdo who doesn't know how normal people function or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 03:35 PM
2

You could do it as a q4all, would be interesting to compare male and female responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 07:32 AM
5

You're pregnant with a Sour Patch kid. The work of Sour Patch Chad, no doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 07:30 AM
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He should be my type, he's got the dark swarthy thing that I like, but he's too slick and polished and pretty. There's also something about his chin I don't like. Plus he has pierced ears 🤮 He's objectively a near-perfect looking dude, just not my preferred aesthetic. Edit: For the record because I know it's coming, no I am not saying this guy is somehow beneath me or that I can get a hotter guy than that or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 05:47 AM
2

I don't "long" for my twenties but they were fun and if I somehow woke up a 20-year-old tomorrow I wouldn't be mad at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 02:55 AM
1

You should follow @ChrisIsHumble on Twitter, sounds right up your alley. I'm pretty sure he's a fraud but I'm fascinated by him and his following lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 02:53 AM
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I've fucked four guys and my experience is the same as hers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 02:49 AM
2

To each their own. It's not for me but I don't begrudge anyone else doing it and I can see the appeal for both the older and younger partner. (Purple pill woman)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 08:49 PM
2

The boomer dad energy is off the charts, you love to see it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 06:27 PM
7

Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 06:25 PM
1

OP isn't asking for advice, it's a CMV
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 05:58 PM
3

Get out of this "I'm a beta bucks" mindset. A cute girl invited you over. Relax and go with the flow. She's at least open to hooking up, I can almost guarantee it. Take some alcohol over. Doesn't have to be anything fancy, a cheap bottle of wine or a six pack is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 03:40 AM
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Update on my FIL: triple bypass yesterday went well, he's resting but still his same goofy self. Should go home early next week and spend a few weeks on the mend. In an adorable turn of events, my dad (who had his own heart attack and surgery a few years ago) has been posting diet and quit-smoking tips on my FIL's Facebook wall
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 03:38 AM
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Why do all the men on this sub say "hawt"? That's a word goth girls used semi-ironically on xanga in 2003.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:58 AM
2

us femoids 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:56 AM
3

Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 04:38 PM
6

Personally I'm just not into bald men. Some women are. If you are balding then shaving would probably be the best course of action because no hair is generally better than sparse hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 04:36 PM
7

What do you mean how? It just isn't attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 04:31 PM
7

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 03:40 PM
3

Married at 29, met at 22 but started dating at 23.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:46 AM
3

Like nine teenagers on Tumblr say sapiosexual and everyone else makes fun of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 05:10 PM
5

It's socialise in British English.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 04:31 PM
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Number 4 is absolutely wrong unless we're talking about freakishly attractive 10/10 women. Most women, even thin women with good bodies, will see a noticable difference in how they're treated by men when wearing vs. not wearing makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 03:43 PM
1

Thanks. He'll be going into surgery soon. It seems like he'll be fine, just has to take it easy for a few weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 02:55 PM
1

Ugh I go back to work on the 6th after two weeks off and it's not going to be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 02:54 PM
3

FDS
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 02:32 PM
3

Well, our new year's turned out to be pretty eventful. I spent all day yesterday preparing some snacks because we planned to have some friends over for a game night. When my husband got home from work at 3:00 we went for a run and while we were out we came across an emaciated kitty who immediately started following us around. We decided I would stay with her while he ran home to get the cat carrier and we would take her home and feed her and get her to a vet/shelter the next day. We were only li…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 04:57 AM
3

A lot of men's "natural selves" are irresponsible assholes. I'd say the majority of young men's natural selves are. I'm sorry but I don't believe that most men drink, do drugs and fuck because they "have to." They do it because it's fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 08:28 PM
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how did u get a fancy font in ur title
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:43 AM
2

Probably this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:40 AM
1

Nothing matters at all, but I was born and I have to live for 90 years or so so I might as well have a life that's enjoyable and doesn't suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:36 AM
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[deleted] definitely isn't, she's been around in various forms since before jammerly. Lilith may be though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 05:13 AM
3

Love the attention to detail here
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:56 AM
2

Lolol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:56 AM
4

I'd be disgusted and heartbroken.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 12:23 AM
1

Also, if you kill someone in Texas, we will kill you back.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:31 PM
1

Nope but neither do most other states. There are mountains in the west but nothing like the Rockies ofc I do love Colorado but would never live there, too cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:20 PM
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Hello, I am from Texas, lived here all my life. "Redneck infested" is a feature, not a bug. The rednecks are the thing that makes Texas great. They're friendly, hardworking and know how to party. Also it's huge and we have a variety of topography. Don't like flat? Move to the hill country. Don't like humidity? Move the panhandle. Don't like dry? Move to the coast. Etc. Cost of living is low even in the cities. Tons of good art and music has come out of this state. No state income tax. Cheap gas.…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:14 PM
3

Why you so dope
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:06 PM
2

I have not but perhaps in another life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:56 PM
3

Lol it was a serious answer but I probably should have put a joke answer
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:55 PM
2

I've lived in Texas all my life and have really only traveled in the general "neighborhood" that Texas is in (the southwestern desert-ish states). I'm going to the northeast this summer which will probably feel like traveling to a foreign country, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:49 PM
3

Oh wow. I really don't know because I've never traveled outside of the US and have barely traveled within the US so I'm pretty ignorant when it comes to what other countries are like. Maybe Australia or New Zealand? Are those foreign enough? Otherwise maybe a Spanish-speaking country since I can speak Spanish. Maybe Panama or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:36 PM
5

Four. 34F. Innie. Ironically my belly button is an outie.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:33 PM
3

Asleep, as usual. I was out of town for a week and got back Sunday night and she proceeded to spend the next 24 hours glued to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:16 PM
5

AMA
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:13 PM
4

ITT: Men confusing pitch for volume
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:13 PM
3

Ok but that's you, not "men." Do you think American frat boys are drinking to numb the pain? Lol You also didn't address the low-n/virgin part.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:56 PM
5

You think most men would prefer being low-n and abstaining from drinking and drugs?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:40 PM
5

Women used to wear a garment called a slip under their dress to prevent visible panty lines. Or they wore long underwear to prevent them. This was a concern long before the "thong era."
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:38 PM
7

I mean, yes, they're judged heavily for it, mostly by other girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:34 PM
4

Those ride up like nobody's business, they're the least comfortable underwear there is imo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:33 PM
11

Because I only know McDonald's, charge my phone, twerk, be bisexual, eat hot chip and lie
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:10 PM
6

His nick was IncomeByEthnicity. He was only around for a couple weeks before he got banned. He was some Danish-American guy who really really hated the English and the Scottish and thought that the rest of the ethnicities in the US should band together and wage war against them. Edit: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/8xtqr5/which_defines_you_more_your_sex_or_your_ancestral
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:04 PM
4

🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:57 PM
2

fartslut is the funniest word I've ever heard, I'm dying
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:47 PM
7

Oh my sweet Danish prince, you were banished from our kingdom too soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:46 PM
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OK, This is the paragraph where I explain your own comment back to you. I clearly didn't actually read your comment, and if I had I would know that this paragraph is unnecessary, but what matters is that you see my many many words on your screen. Like I said, I'm explaining what you already explained in your comment. An explanation is when someone takes a concept and rephrases it in the hopes of garnering understanding from the reader. This is the paragraph where I say the exact same thing I sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:42 PM
7

Pretty good but you forgot to say "cutie pies"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:32 PM
4

This guy's actually been coming back around lately, but as always he deletes his comments after five minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:32 PM
8

No. (But if you say fuck off a few more times it's possible you could coerce me into doing so.)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:22 PM
14

They wear them to prevent panty lines. Idk why you think 14-year-old girls aren't concerned about looking cute in their clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:08 PM
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100 female, 84 male. Right between feminine and undifferentiated which is pretty accurate. Female, purple pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 04:31 PM
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wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 02:29 AM
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As far as I can tell the girl in this scenario just gave in because she felt bad, didn't want further confrontation and/or was tired of saying no. Sucks for her but I really don't consider it coercion. The guy was persistent but he wasn't actively pressuring or threatening her. She never even made any attempt to leave. I've said it before and I'll say it again. If you're the type of woman who has trouble with confrontation or saying no, don't go alone with a guy unless you're okay with the prosp…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 12:54 AM
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Anyway maybe you could grab like 100 guys and cut them each into 100 pieces and reassemble them into 100 "average" guys. Lol yeah I was thinking if we are really applying the mathematical concepts literally it would have to be something like this. Some kinda Harrison Burgeron shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 09:16 PM
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Ok, would this guy be the midway point or the average? And whichever one it is, how do you find the other one?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 09:04 PM
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I can think of a lot of situations where I said no initially but was persuaded or steamrolled and ended up doing the thing anyway because frankly I'm kind of a pushover lol I don't think I've ever said no when I meant yes in the moment though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 07:17 PM
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Almost everyone in the west does.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 01:49 PM
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Yeah exactly. When I think of an average guy the examples that come to mind are people I know IRL and obviously I'm not going to post their pics. If you Google "average guy" you get photos of Shutterstock models in t-shirts. And there are no average-looking celebrities. I guess I could browse r/rateme or something but who has the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:08 AM
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Yeah I don't remember mid-range being taught either
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 03:55 AM
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I took middle school math 20 years ago and frankly I didn't understand it then. "It's used in soccer statistics" lol. Soccer statistics aren't esoteric? Do you think the average normie woman gives a shit about soccer statistics? Your explanation makes sense using numbers but how do these concepts translate to male attractiveness? Would the midway point be a middlingly attractive guy while the average would be a guy whose appearance is an amalgamation of every man in the population? How do I "sub…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 03:35 AM
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I'm not a math person, this literally makes no sense to me and I'm sure I'm not alone in that. You're not going to get many satisfactory responses by posing your question in esoteric statistical terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 03:00 AM
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Yeeee come play with us
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 02:06 AM
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This is how I feel about my parents. Took me a while to understand it but I do now and find it admirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 12:49 AM
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Musicians in general are weird. Also a lot of those soundcloud types are on hella drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 09:18 PM
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Why are you friends with "lots" of women like this if you find them so vapid and uninteresting?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 06:25 PM
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Even sex that feels good in the moment can leave the woman sore the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 06:04 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 04:36 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with doing either of these things until you agree to be exclusive with someone. Dating itself isn't an emotional connection, it's the process of looking for one. If you find one, then be monogamous and forego your other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 07:06 AM
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Suburbs are fine, they're just not a good place to meet single people. They're where people move when they're coupled up and ready to settle down. (Generally speaking.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 01:20 AM
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Lol yeah that's what I was thinking, last time this happened was in high school and I guess we "handled" it by both going out with him at different times. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:37 PM
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...what? I didn't even mention sex in my comment. If you think that's all Maslow's hierarchy is used for I don't know what to tell you. It's used every day in my profession and it has nothing to do with sex. Yeah some people on the internet reference it when making that argument but that doesn't invalidate it as a model for being useful in other contexts. Sex would fall on the same level as family, friends and community on the hierarchy. It's not something people will literally die without but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:24 PM
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you didn't have to call me out like that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 08:52 AM
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Absolutely. I think the expectation that your spouse be your "best friend" is very new and frankly I think it's giving people some really fucked up ideas about what a relationship/marriage is supposed to be. Traditionally men and women occupied very different social spheres. The exaltation of common interests and similar personalities between romantic partners seems incredibly shallow to me, like people don't want to fall in love with another person who complements their strengths and weaknesses…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 07:23 AM
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omg I literally just made this joke in another comment then scrolled down and saw this lol, dammit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 07:06 AM
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You forgot twerk and eat hot chip
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 07:06 AM
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I had the opposite experience, I was the cool chick/"one of the guys" who was constantly passed over for more stereotypically feminine women. Then again it did seem like the guys enjoyed hanging out with me more than their gfs and maybe they would have cheated on their gfs with me had I been open to that kind of thing so I guess the OP has a point. I think most normal guys want a feminine woman even though he might not get along with her the way he gets along with his bros. That polarity creates…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:29 AM
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They do what they feel they need to do to survive, what their instincts drive them to do, what they feel obligated to do, what they feel they're supposed/expected to do, what makes it easier to get through the day... and after all that, if they have some energy left over, they might pursue what makes them happy. Think of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. The things on the list that could be interpreted as "happiness" (self fulfillment, personal freedom, self-actualization etc.) are in the top two run…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:55 AM
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happy hour
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:42 AM
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Depends on where you fall on the sandwich alignment chart. This is a hotly contested issue that's been fiercely debated on the dumber parts of the internet for a decade or more, with no resolution. Personally I am structural purist/ingredient rebel and I do not consider a hot dog a sandwich. If anything I'd say it's closer to a wrap, but tbh I think foods that end in "-dog" are just kind of their own category. My husband is a radical sandwich anarchist and this has created no small amount of str…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:39 AM
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I guess starting the night at one party and ending it at the other isn't an option? tbh I think I'd go to the fancier party because it sounds like a kind of once-in-a-lifetime thing or at least a pretty cool unique experience. If the host of the other party is a good friend then it's not like you won't have chances to make it up to them. If possible/necessary maybe tell a little white lie that you've already committed to the other party.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:35 AM
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Yeah. I don't think the thought process is really "Having kids will make me happy," it's just this gnawing need that wants to be fulfilled, like hunger.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:26 AM
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Happiness is a fleeting emotion. At any given time if you were to ask a woman with kids and a woman without kids how happy they are, the one without kids will probably be happier. However if you were to measure lifetime fulfillment for both women once they're older I think you'd find much more parity. The payout for having kids generally comes later in life; the actual business of raising kids when they're young is a lot of worry and exhaustion with moments of joy mixed in. I also think it's fau…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:07 AM
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I don’t think there is any sort of objective moral duty, i think it’s personal to the person. Sure I agree and I'm just giving my personal opinion and how I'd handle/feel about it. I’m just wondering if you draw the line somewhere. Oh yeah you probably missed my edit to the earlier comment. I'd draw the line at something that hurt our kids or other loved ones. Basically anything that actively harms someone other than me that I would have the power to stop if I knew about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:50 AM
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I interpreted it as whether it’s morally correct as in the interests of the third party wife. I still don't think she has a moral duty to tell. She's not the one deceiving, cheating or breaking her vows. She was an unknowing accomplice in someone else's transgression. I don't see why she has any moral obligation to confess to a gf she doesn't even know. At most maybe the bf has a duty to come clean, but I don't see why the mistress who was honestly a victim herself has any kind of moral duty to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:17 AM
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Yeah I've always preferred forums and anonymous platforms. I like Twitter but I use it similarly to how I use reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:12 AM
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I'm freaked out and disgusted by the body I've been living in for 31 years, it would definitely take more than a month to get used to having a dick to the point that I'd want to look at it or play with it. I would ignore it and pretend it wasn't there, to the extent that that's possible. I do it with my toenails so I'm certain I'd do it with a dick. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:02 AM
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There’s no good for the mistress in telling, but that’s not how I interpreted this op. The OP asked if the mistress should tell. IMO she shouldn't, because it's very unlikely it will make things better for anyone, and most importantly it certainly won't make things better for her except maybe slightly alleviating her guilt (and tbh I don't think she should feel guilty anyway since she had no idea he was taken at the time). You have no line here? None? I really have trouble explaining this to peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:01 AM
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Yeah I'm not blaming the mistress for creating the problem, I just don't see what good comes from her telling the gf. Especially since it isn't her crime to confess and there could potentially be blowback on her when she's an innocent party. > What if it’s huge debt or some felony charge or some illegal business or something? I don’t understand why cheating on this level in particular is not any different than many other examples of deceit that a lot of us would want to know about. Honestly if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 03:49 AM
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First of all this isn't really true or is at least very oversimplified. Working class women have always worked. That aside, for most families who could afford it, it just made logistical sense. Running a household back then was a full-time job in itself. And before reliable birth control when family had tons of kids, Mom was frequently pregnant or had small children/babies who were still nursing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 02:26 AM
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Lol this is a good point. Kind of funny that both sexes ultimately show off to impress women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:56 AM
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True. See, this is a good argument and you've actually provided something tangible that could have real consequences for her. Thank you. Edit: You also taught me a new word so thanks for that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:53 AM
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I'm not forgiving his infidelity and I don't think either sex's infidelity is worse than the other. I just don't think it's the mistress's business or obligation to tell, especially since she didn't even know he was taken. She is not obligated to involve herself in a situation that could potentially be damaging and dangerous to her because of someone ELSE's transgression.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:46 AM
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This is spot on. I know tons of women who have found out about their husbands' infidelity, stayed with him, did their best to forgive him or at least made their peace with it, then did their best to live as normal and for all intents and purposes act like it never happened. Frankly I have known more women who have done this than women who have left over his infidelity. Wouldn't it be much easier and much more merciful for such women to live in ignorance? It's not living a lie if they don't know …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:10 AM
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I 100% would. Why would the genders change anything? Edit: I'm a woman, fyi
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:08 AM
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I guess if it's some kind of slow-moving cancer that isn't likely to damage their health or kill them before something else does then they might rather not know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:07 AM
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Yes, because with cancer illness/dying is an inevitability whether you know about it or not. It's not a situation where life will potentially carry on as normal if you don't find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:03 AM
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Then the gf will find out eventually anyway because he's sloppy and sucks at covering his tracks. All the more reason for the mistress to cut ties and not get involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:59 AM
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Why is any of this the mistress's problem though? If he's a sloppy cheater then the gf will find out eventually anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:58 AM
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What I'm learning in this thread is that "moral" means "Whatever assuages MY guilt and makes ME feel like a good person, regardless of how many other people's lives in ruins."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:54 AM
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What is she doing that's immoral? She didn't break any vows to this woman. She didn't even knowingly sleep with a taken man. Why does she have a moral obligation to confess to someone else's crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:52 AM
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Maybe it never explodes and dies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:50 AM
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Why? The "danger" of living in the fantasy is that you might find out and destroy the fantasy someday. And your solution to that is... to destroy the fantasy now. Lol No one can explain to me the REAL, TANGIBLE effects this lie has on a person who never finds out. It's all just a bunch of woo-woo language.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:40 AM
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I assume she's a breastfeeding mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:31 AM
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That would entirely defeat the purpose. The kind of person who doesn't want to know bad things is going to be freaked the fuck out by this kind of message and make themselves sick coming up with 10,000 horrible things it could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:27 AM
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It wouldn't faze me at all, I know several guys who don't have social media or have it but barely use it. I'm not very active on social media myself. Honestly the bigger red flag would be if he was really active on social media. 31F, TX
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:20 AM
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What does it mean that "I" am a man? Do I have my exact brain, personality and memories but my body is now male? If so I would probably make up some illness and take a LOA from work and hide out in my apartment until I changed back because I would be too embarrassed having to explain it to people. Otherwise things would probably not be that different. I could still run my errands and get groceries and stuff, it's not like people who see me out and about who I don't know would find anything amiss…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:08 AM
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Well that's a shame because I think I'm one of the more open-minded and amenable people on this sub and have had my view changed on a number of things by people here. But I have no interest in conversing with a smarmy shithead who can't go two comments without reverting to passive aggressive shaming tactics so I guess we'll leave it here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:54 PM
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Why? Says who? What moral system? If someone DOES NOT WANT TO BE GIVEN THAT CHOICE and would RATHER NOT KNOW, why is it a moral good to do it anyway? It's only good if the person wants that, but you don't know what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:46 PM
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Or it could be she's so devastated and heartbroken that she can never fall in love again, whereas if she never found out she may have died happy and in love next to her husband of 40 years. You don't know. You're not Nostradamus any more than I am. Why is your assumption safer than mine? Consequentalist morality is for the birds. Oh well when you put it like that my mind is totally changed, very convincing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:44 PM
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and some people would rather have the truth, even and especially if it hurts. We don't know which she is. Right, you're taking a risk either way, so why is it better to assume that she would want to know?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:42 PM
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Okay but how is her actual situation improved by finding out? Before she finds out, she's happy and in love and raising a family with a man who's faithful to her. No he isn't actually faithful, but as far as she knows he is, and that's the life she's living. If she finds out, her heart is broken, her family is broken, her life is worse in innumerable ways than it was before. Yes the lie is out there floating around somewhere but it's having no tangible effect on her life until she finds out. Som…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:36 PM
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Right, so neither one is a good outcome. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He has no intention to change given he asked her to keep it secret instead of working with his partner together I don't know what this has to do with anything I said but cool
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:04 PM
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And then you leave him and your family is broken up and you're raising the baby alone. Or you stay and have to deal with the knowledge that you're living and raising a child with a cheater. I'm not condoning cheating, but can you really call either of the above a "good" outcome?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:00 PM
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I don't think anything good comes out of telling, for anyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 10:44 PM
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I'm 31. I find (attractive) men around my own age - mid 40s most attractive. It has changed over the years. It wasn't until recent years that I stated finding 40+ men attractive. Most of my friends are late 20s - mid 30s with a few outliers in both directions. The biggest age gap was 3-4 years, I can't remember exactly. I was attracted to him for the same reason I've been attracted to other guys. I don't really consider anything <5 years an "age gap."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 08:25 PM
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When I worked in a kitchen with a bunch of black guys they called me Wonder Bread.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 06:04 PM
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On new Reddit, find "User options" in the side bar and click on that and the flair options should show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 02:01 PM
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Looks like BearSaint's back.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 01:29 PM
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LOL @ asking if the sub is an echo chamber and only letting men answer
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 01:34 AM
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None of the "Boomer post wall hags" are mods here, I think the oldest female mod is like 28.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 01:32 AM
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Crazy is worse because it actually has the potential to ruin your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 05:58 PM
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It's not a rule of nature if women naturally live past their reproductive years. You're suggesting we artificially shorten a woman's natural life just because other animals die earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 04:55 PM
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Isn't this like the exact opposite of what you said in this comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 04:24 PM
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Didn't you just describe the same sport twice or was one of those supposed to be soccer?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 04:00 PM
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OMG y'all it's not that deep. I hate American football too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 03:58 PM
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Dude do you actually think I really believe that Moses received the rules to various sports on stone tablets from God? Is it possible I was making a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 03:58 PM
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And they say romance is dead. (NSFW)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 06:09 AM
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Ackshually Moses carried the rules to baseball, basketball and football down on stone tablets from Mount Sinai. Rugby is a fictional sport invented by JK Rowling where the goal is to be the first team to capture the golden snitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 05:18 AM
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He's never lost a debate on Reddit! 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 05:14 AM
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inb4 this post gets removed for breaking the 12 hour rule and OP flips shit, gets banned and goes to some other sub to whine about his persecution
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 04:45 AM
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Gender swap threads in both directions are super common on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 04:02 AM
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I had to Google rugby player body because we don't play made-up sports here. It's a very attractive build, but not necessarily more attractive than a skinny guy with good bone structure. imo. Edit: Jesus Christ I'm sorry for saying rugby was made up, it was a bad joke, please stop being British at me, go eat a crumpet or something
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 04:00 AM
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suicide being the leading cause of death behind unintended accidents for young men between the ages 10-34 Ok, to be VERY clear I am not trying to downplay the issue of male suicide. One young man killing himself is too many. But this statistic drives me crazy. Obviously accidents and suicides are going to be the leading causes of death for young people. What else are they going to die from? Young people don't die of natural causes. The same statistic exists for young women. Again, any young pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 01:39 AM
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Yes, and for the third time, none of that is the vagina being "stretched" to accommodate the dick. I already acknowledged that there are positions and techniques that allow you to slide past the cervix. I don't know why you think that negates my initial point that length causes more problems than girth. Girthy dicks don't require these positions and contortions, just a little lube. I'm going to let you have this one because it's Christmas morning and I'm tired of arguing with your dumb ass. Yes …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 04:59 PM
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Poking into the cervix isn't a limit on stretching. Yes it is. Are you saying he can like force the cervix up with his dick? To be clear I'm not saying the cervix renders the vaginal tissue incapable of stretching. To use another anatomical example, you can grab your bottom lip and pull it forward and side to side. What you can't do is pull it back into your mouth because your gums and teeth are in the way. Obviously that isn't to say the lip "can't" stretch in that direction, but that other par…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 04:47 PM
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Going up behind the cervix can be done but that isn't the vagina being "stretched." You're accessing a deeper part of the vagina that was already there. Hitting the fornices is also a very specific technique and not something that just happens normally in PIV intercourse. Accomidating width is actually the more difficult part because it involves stretching the muscular lining. Muscles resist stretching and are oriented circumferentially. I don't think there are any significant longitudinal muscl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 04:32 PM
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Uh, yes it does. The elasticity applies to the width, not the depth. The cervix is a hard stopping point. It moves slightly during arousal but there is still a limit to how much a woman can "take" depth-wise, but not really width-wise (though obviously past a certain point it's going to hurt). You can't "stretch" a vagina to make it deeper because the cervix is always going to be there, it's a literal cock block. It's not like a balloon. With a balloon you're holding it and pulling it whichever …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 03:22 PM
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When women talk about a dick being too big to take all the way, they're talking about length, not girth.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 06:53 AM
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Lol yeah this is pretty much what I was thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 03:59 AM
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Literally no one means dread locks when they talk about a good hairstyle. Good grief.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 10:20 PM
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HECKIN SMOL PUPPER DOES A BAMBOOZLE
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:46 PM
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Yeah, where I'm from it's alcohol and meth.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:23 PM
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I'm obsessed with this Twitter that's posting kids' letters to Santa from the turn of the century. https://twitter.com/TweetsofOld/status/1207437280132190208?s=19
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:22 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/eevigo/q4w_think_of_the_least_conventionally_attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 02:58 PM
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Lol my husband is #6 out of 7 kids; three brothers and four sisters. Due to birth order he grew up mostly around the sisters, as his brothers were both out of the house when he was very young. He's kind of my mirror in that way, he's a guy who grew up around a lot of female influence and while he's a masculine guy he gets along great with women and isn't remotely intimidated or mystified by them. He's also a pro at tuning out female chatter, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 05:36 AM
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Same. I have two older brothers and lots of male cousins and until my late twenties I always had mostly guy friends. I've been surrounded by boys my whole life, and while I love my female relationships and value them very deeply, there is just something so fun about chilling with a group of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 05:01 AM
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This guy sounds like my type
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:53 AM
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I think everyone is just feeling trolly and lighthearted because it's the holidays
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:42 AM
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Their broad shoulders and chests and how tight they hug you and how their firmness feels against female squishiness (not just talking about genitals although that's a good metaphor, my bitch Mother Nature really knew what she was doing) How funny they are Libido, not just sexual libido but like their drive and determination and will to impose themselves on the world idk man I'm pleasantly buzzed and hanging out with my husband and three of our good friends from back in the day, and they're all g…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:38 AM
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Probably the guy who was my one and only one night stand. He was hispanic (maybe half hispanic? He was light skinned but definitely had the features and the last name so idk), not really skinny or fat or fit, just kind of average for a young hispanic guy who drinks a lot. He had jacked up teeth, an asymmetrical face and wore a lot of gel in his hair like a Jersey Shore guy. That description makes him sound a lot uglier than he was tbh, I always thought he was cute. My friends def made fun of me …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:15 AM
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Yep, for sure. It's also why they can't understand why having an endless buffet of rando sex isn't as appealing a prospect for us as it is for them. I don't even blame them, it's just an unbridgeable divide in our perception.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 02:38 AM
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I explored the cave when I was 14 or so by sitting on the floor spread eagle with a hand mirror. It literally terrified me and I haven't looked at it since.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 02:00 AM
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Yeah, I think defiant might have been a better choice of words there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 12:48 AM
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I wouldn't say so. I'm generally a pretty go-with-the-flow person and am happy to defer to him on most things, but he's the same way so I don't think me being "submissive" is an accurate description of our dynamic. Edit: I've always really liked this old RPW post on relationship dynamics and find it more descriptive and useful than the basic dominant/submissive paradigm. Based on this theory my husband and I are a LLL couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 11:47 PM
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Hmmm interesting, you might be on to something there. I really do get the impression that some people on this sub don't care much for the experience of sex itself, they care about the validation of their partner desiring or servicing them in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 11:22 PM
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Part of it is the unique relationship a woman has with her genitals, which is very different from the one a man has with his. Our genitals are hidden from us, they're mysterious and kind of shameful, and until we're sexually active our main experience with them is that they excrete various liquids and discharges, including lots of blood once a month. Not to sound dramatic but it's low-key body horror. So, there's that for starters. Our genitals themselves are kind of frightening to us. Then ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 10:37 PM
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Elsewhere in this thread he compared sex to moving furniture or changing a tire so...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 10:11 PM
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Ok, so what's the equivalent to a BJ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:49 PM
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No, I disagree with you that a good relationship is one in which the man is constantly at the woman's beck and call and doesn't have a social life and hobbies of his own. My husband is a whole person. I am the most important thing in his life, but I am still just one thing in his life. I don't take it as an insult or a loss if he sometimes wants to do something other than hang out with me. When you're in a relationship do you give up all other activities and social outlets besides your SO?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:46 PM
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The question was what's the equivalent. It seems obvious to me that the equivalent to oral sex is oral sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:45 PM
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To be fair just as many people were saying to just work shitty service jobs. Yes which is a good strategy when you're young and just looking to meet people, have fun and get laid. No one's saying you have to make a career out of it. It seems like everyone on this sub wants the kind of easy casual sex that comes with party/drinking/drug culture without actually participating in the partying, drinking and drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:32 PM
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Why do you all think you need to PLAY music to be active in a music scene? I met my husband in the music scene, he was out SEEING A BAND at a bar, same as me. He wasn't a musician, he was active in the scene and went out to live shows several nights a week. The "scene" consists of the guys in the band AND the people who frequent the shows/venues.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:28 PM
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The point is you don't need to be one of the guys in the band to be part of the scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:26 PM
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Cunnilingus.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:48 PM
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I don't think a man is "bad" for having his own life and not wanting to be up his wife's/gf's ass 24/7 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:25 PM
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Which would be akin to a man being not in a mood of talking or listening to her or even seeing her. "Nah babe after work I will go with my buddies not feeling like being with you tonight babe". This literally happens all the time...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 06:42 PM
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There was a whole thread about this a day or two ago, but anyone who suggested getting involved in a music or art scene was shot down because apparently doing this requires taking up music or art as a full-time job and foregoing all other future or career prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 03:36 PM
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Yes. I have a condition that causes pelvic pain so most of the time it's because of that. I've turned him down a handful of times for other reasons. Usually I will give him a BJ instead but sometimes he will just say nah it's okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 01:16 PM
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Hahaha I'm glad we're not the only ones. "What's for dinner tonight?" "Oh I put the cat in the crockpot an hour ago, should be nice and tender by the time you get home."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 01:00 PM
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That's why I said pretend. Like make the motion but not actually follow through.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 04:09 AM
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I'd make the sandwich and then probably do something stupid like pretend to throw the plate to him frisbee-style or tell him the meat is actually our cat, who I just killed and skinned myself (we have a running inside joke about mutilating and eating the cat, it's not weird, you're weird)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 04:06 AM
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My husband does too. His mom was his confidante until she died in 2015 and now it's his oldest sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 03:57 AM
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Mom says “never learn to mow the lawn or how to bbq.” This was advice she got from his mother before their wedding and it always made me laugh. Lol my mom gave me this advice too. She's very handy and used to have me help her with things around the house, then say "Never let a man know you know how to do this!"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 03:02 AM
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I mean good for you but surely you're aware that drunk people are out there fucking each other all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 02:37 AM
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I'm thinking about this and wondering if my friends and I were so comfortable dating within our social circle because we were all from small towns where you didn't really have the option of dating someone who wasn't known to your group. For example, there were 50 kids in my husband's high school. If you date in an environment like that, it's impossible to avoid going out with someone's ex or sister or cousin etc. When you're used to an environment where everyone you could potentially date is par…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 12:08 AM
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My mom was when I was younger but tbh I deserved it lol. She wasn't critical of things I couldn't change, but she was critical of the way I dressed, groomed and presented myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 04:05 PM
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Lol yep I've heard that one a bunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 03:33 PM
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Woke
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 03:26 PM
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It's really like talking to aliens sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 03:58 AM
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I've literally never met a white trash incel and I've been around white trash all my life. Anyway, the point is you don't have to be some attractive college student with a career trajectory to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 05:48 PM
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My husband was part of the local music scene. That's how we met. He was neither a musician nor a woman, he was a guy who liked music and went to the shows. Do you think there are no men in the audience in music venues?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 05:06 PM
1

Do you think methed out trailer trash aren't fucking each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 04:58 PM
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What do you think hookup culture IS?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 04:57 PM
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I'm not artistic or musical but I hung out with artists and musicians. I spent 3-4 nights a week in live music venues when I was younger and got to know everyone in the scene. Went to a lot of art shows and campus events too. You don't have to BE an artist/musician to socialize in that scene. The guys I dated and hooked up with were there for the same reasons, they weren't artists or musicians themselves but they were into the culture. That said, if you don't have an interest in art or music eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 04:53 PM
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It's fine now. Not so much when I was young and single and wanted to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 04:31 PM
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Yeah those kind of parties are fine. I mean the kind of schmoozy Christmas party that doubles as a networking event where you will lose face if you don't attend. I worked a job like that for a while and that kind of office culture is just not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 02:52 AM
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Sounds like anxious-avoidant but I'm not too well versed on the theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 11:49 PM
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It’s subtle yet proactive. This exactly. It's not as simple as "just sit there."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 11:18 PM
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Oh it's absolutely draining being self-conscious all the time lol, you're right. I am envious of people who have that mind-body connection that makes their movements so fluid. I'd kill to have that. I'm not as shy as I used to be but I am still VERY aware of my own body and the space it inhabits. I literally have muscle spasms in my neck and shoulders from keeping them so tight all the time, it's ridiculous. I first noticed how rigid I am when I was student teaching and I was told to video mysel…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 10:37 PM
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I don't think it's really an attachment issue, it's just shyness and social awkwardness. My attachment style in a relationship is not avoidant at all, if anything in a relationship my style is more anxious. I just don't know how to carry myself in initial interactions with people unless I have a "script" (I'm great at job interviews, for example, but organic social interactions trip me up, especially when it's an attractive man because then I have the butterflies and flusterment on top of my bas…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 10:30 PM
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Shy girls tend to pull into themselves, and try to take up as little space as possible Yep, this is me 100%. Unless I make a conscious effort not to, I sit with my legs crossed tightly at the knee, arms folded, hunched, not making eye contact with anyone. Might as well have a neon sign above my head that reads "DANGER, DO NOT APPROACH."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 10:17 PM
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Somewhat. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 10:01 PM
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Confident women make themselves more approachable. They're more likely to send discernible IOI's and communicate interest via open body language and eye contact. When approached, they are more open and flirtatious. They're generally just better at playing the game. Shy women are awkward and avoidant. They may avoid or break eye contact. They're less likely to send clear IOI's. When approached, they'll be more closed off, and even if she is interested, she won't communicate it as clearly which ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 09:25 PM
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He deleted. It was weird, I was in the middle of a convo with him and then POOF his account was gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 06:15 PM
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And I'm saying it's a faulty assumption that dating a person of the same sex will lead to less conflict. At best it will lead to different conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 05:37 PM
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Any time you're dealing with two individuals there's going to be conflict. My brothers fight like cats and dogs and they are the same sex, same race, from the same family and close in age. Gay couples fight all the time; lesbians in particular are notorious for this. I agree that relationships generally do better if people share some common ground in terms of culture etc. but you're kind of throwing the baby out with the bathwater here. Conflict isn't the end of the world, it's inherent in inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 05:33 PM
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k you have fun, I'll be over here enjoying my mixed race heterosexual relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 04:44 PM
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I find it unsurprising. I am married because I don't base my life decisions on some study or worst case scenario. Tons of bad things can happen over the course of a lifetime, especially if you choose to involve other people with their own demons and motivations and shortcomings. But you can't bubble wrap yourself and refuse to live just because it might end badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 04:07 PM
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Break up with your girlfriend...yuh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 03:27 PM
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🤓➡️🌋
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 04:22 AM
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True.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 04:14 AM
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I think i'd rather off myself than spend any amount of time "celebrating" "christmas" at an office "party", kissing ass/sucking dick, when that time could be spent with family and friends. Its all a little too slimy and corporate for my tastes. God, no kidding. I'm glad neither I nor my husband have jobs where we have to do this kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 04:12 AM
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Well, I'll caveat that I've never really done online dating, but if I did I think I'd want the experience to replicate the IRL experience of meeting and getting to know someone as closely as possible. And when you meet someone IRL, you don't open by asking whether they've been divorced or what kind of relationship they're open to. It's uncouth, it's no fun and it makes the whole interaction feel like an interview when it should be more fun and natural and organic. Personally I'd prefer to screen…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 03:27 AM
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Yeah this seems overly forward, invasive and tactless. Initial interactions should be light and fun. If you click and meet up then there will be time to figure out that other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 03:07 AM
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I don't necessarily think it's settling. I'm just saying it's not really a conscious thing where they're like "Okay, I am done fucking around and now I will Go Out And Find The OneTM." They meet a girl, start fucking her, like her, slide into a relationship and they're comfortable and they figure it's time to settle down so they do. I don't think people really put much conscious thought into these things. "Decide" was probably a poor choice of words on my part.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 06:12 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/user/Jeebus217
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 05:26 PM
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I'm attending three weddings next year. Two of them are guy friends who when they were younger were the two biggest manwhores I've ever met. Even players settle down eventually. Sometimes it's with a unicorn, sometimes it's with whoever was around when he decided he didn't feel like being a player anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 05:08 PM
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If you jump to commit to the first girl who talks to you, sure. When you actually want to be with someone, though, there's not a lot of ambiguity. Exactly. There's nothing pussy about deciding what you want and taking it. But of course for some reason men on this sub can't wrap their minds around the concept of a man choosing to be with a woman vs. a man desperately begging a woman to be with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:30 PM
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He didn't move on to greener pastures, he got banned for being an alcoholic lunatic who only comes to the sub when he's drunk to ramble and attack people. He pops back up on a new alt like once a week, he was here just last night in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:21 PM
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I did exactly this for two years lol Moms are not excited to hear their daughter moved in with a bf, at best they're ambivalent
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 04:28 AM
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I wear makeup nearly every day and probably spend about $200 a year on it. The average woman who isn't a makeup artist/hobbyist is not breaking the bank with her cosmetics budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:39 AM
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You must not spend much time around children then. Tons of kids (pre-teens) have low self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:35 AM
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Yeah I don't get it either
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:13 AM
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I think it depends on what we mean by struggle years, and I probably didn't make myself very clear so that's my bad. I'm not talking about being young, broke, driving a shitty car (or no car), struggling to get started in your career and all that stuff that just naturally comes with being an early twenty something who's just starting out. I am fine with sharing those years with someone. I DID share those years with my husband. In my experience, that isn't what people are talking about when they …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 01:59 AM
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The answer is obviously being an exclusive FWB to a 23-year-old with a private jet
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 01:31 AM
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Rhymes with pansplaining
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 01:29 AM
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And you will never see me trying to convince TRPers to date single mothers and rape victims. I have tried to talk men in my own life IRL out of dating single mothers because I think it's very rarely a good idea (not that they listened). The kind of struggle I'm talking about goes beyond "shitty economic prospects." I'm talking about legal trouble, illness, addiction, extended unemployment, single parenthood, family drama...some of those things are in a person's control and some aren't, but this …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 12:49 AM
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Ditto. After we'd been dating for a year my husband wanted to move to a different city. He told me he wanted to be with me and would like it if I went with him and lived with him, but if not, he was going anyway and I could decide what that meant. I went with him. Before that my ex wanted me to move in after like six months and it was me pumping the brakes and saying it was too soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:58 PM
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This happened to my bff after she had her first. She was always kind of chubby and she really ballooned up during pregnancy, but she lost it all and then some while breastfeeding and was kind of scary skinny there for a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:34 PM
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To be clear, all the guys I've had sex with were guys I knew for a long time, sometimes years, before we had sex. (I don't mean to say we were "dating" during that time; we knew each other through our social circles). All my relationships started out with casual sex. If he's known me that long and we've been intimate for a few weeks and he's still not sure if he wants me to be his gf then that tells me all I need to know. When my husband and I first started hooking up he was hooking up with at l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:15 PM
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I suffered a bout of stress-induced insomnia when I was 23 and it quite literally broke my brain. I was getting probably 2-3 hours of (poor) sleep a night for the better part of a year and eventually I just went nuts. I was like manic depressive for a while and thought about suicide a lot. I have never suffered from mental illness before or since and I really think it was just my brain shutting down as a result of not getting enough sleep. That's kind of an extreme anecdote but the point is slee…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:12 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:03 PM
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Ok? I'm not denying that, I'm just saying the whole way you've presented this scenario is odd and it's not how screening a spouse works IRL. It's so odd that I'm not really even sure what you're asking, are you just curious what people's dealbreakers are?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:03 PM
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This is a weird framing of the question. It's not like you don't know this person at all, then decide you might want to marry them so you sit them down for an interview. You learn these things about them over the course of dating, that's the entire point of dating and the pre-marital relationship. There are tons of things that would rule a person out as a potential spouse, from major lifestyle disagreements (e.g. I want kids, he doesn't) to smaller more superficial incompatibilities. Dating is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:54 PM
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Ohhh okay so I didn't totally make up the Canada thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:02 PM
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I'd say a couple of weeks max. In my experience if a guy likes you and wants a relationship with you he doesn't wait longer than that to lock it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:40 PM
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You should know that this person literally took a homeless woman off the street and married her made her his gf specifically so that she would be entirely dependent on him for everything. Not knocking him or his life decisions, just saying his values and motivations are probably quite different from yours and you should keep that in mind when reading his comments/advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:37 PM
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He's desperate to keep you hooked to him. Ding ding ding. Normally I would think it's a good thing that a guy is forward about wanting to marry you and start a family with you. But in this instance it's 100% just because he wants her to be tied down to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:34 PM
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On top of that he has BPD and has a grievance with everyone. Yeah you need to cut ties with this dude. This is never going to change and eventually you'll become another addition to the long list of people who have wronged him. He will never take responsibility for his life, he'll just keep finding more and more ways to pile it on you and make it your fault. I'm pretty sure my ex was BPD too although he wasn't diagnosed as far as I'm aware. Who cares if some dudes on the internet think you're hy…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:22 PM
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My college boyfriend (who was my first boyfriend) was going through a "hard time" when we first started dating. He had lost his job, didn't have a car, was estranged from his family, his dad (who he had only recently started speaking to after being no-contact for years) had been diagnosed with cancer, etc. When we first got together I thought "Damn, this poor guy is really going through it" but the longer we stayed together the more I realized his "hard time" was just his life and he brought mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:07 PM
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Why did I think you were Canadian
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:10 PM
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Also for some reason if you even discuss class on here people think you're claiming to be upper or upper middle class. I've frequently been accused of LARPing as UMC when I have never been anything but open about the fact that I'm basically trailer trash and anyone who's paid attention to my presence on this sub over the years would know that. Of course you're going to think everyone on this sub is a bunch of UMC wannabes if you assume that about anyone who even tries to discuss class as it rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:00 PM
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It's like watching a baby deer stand on a railroad track with a train coming in the distance
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 05:41 PM
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Hahaha accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:06 PM
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Yes, I find it very attractive and would feel unloved if he didn't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:59 AM
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I actually loled
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:58 AM
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Whaaa, I had no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:18 AM
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We literally cannot win lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:53 AM
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You can't validate a feeling that isn't there in the first place. Maybe it's different for men, but for women, we don't BELIEVE we're attractive until we feel it ourselves. If I hate my smile, no amount of people telling me I have a pretty smile is going to convince me it's not hideous. If I feel fat and gross, it doesn't matter if a guy says I'm sexy, even if he really means it, I still think I'm fat and gross so I'm not going to feel sexy. Likewise, if wearing lingerie makes me feel sexy, it d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:33 AM
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Yeah, I wonder why they didn't go the car in the garage route. Much more peaceful, cleaner and they could go out together instead of one having to do the messy work of killing the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:23 AM
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For sure. That's why I said it has "little" to do with him, not nothing. The point is no matter how sexy a guy thinks we are, if we don't think so, we're not going to get into it. His attraction can definitely contribute to a positive feedback loop but we have to be feeling ourselves first.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 12:44 AM
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I just learned about an elderly couple in my hometown who died just after Thanksgiving. It was a murder-suicide; the husband shot the wife, called the cops on himself, and by the time they got there he was dead too. It turns out there was a note and they had planned all of this out far in advance. They had their family over for Thanksgiving one last time and then did it. The wife was very ill with Parkinson's. It's a really sad story but I also find it oddly romantic? But God, how terrible for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 12:18 AM
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Yeah it strikes a nerve when some drydick loser who doesn't know the first thing about me puts words in my mouth and insinuates that my life is perfect and I've never experienced anything difficult, and that the moment I do I'll stab my husband in the back. People react when you insult them, wow, shock.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 11:48 PM
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I'm currently going through the worst, most difficult, most heartbreaking thing I've ever experienced in my life so you can shove your sermon up your ass. I never said everything is perfect. I do have a great husband and I am thankful for him every day, I'm sorry if that bothers you and I'm sorry you have the reading comprehension of a third grader who thinks that if someone lists positive things on a post asking for positive things, they must not have ever experienced anything negative. You hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 11:22 PM
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I don't understand, what about my comment seems like fantasy? I'm describing things my actual husband does for me in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 11:09 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 10:55 PM
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We can't get into sex unless we feel sexy, and whether we feel sexy has surprisingly little to do with the guy. It's about our own self-image.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 09:23 PM
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Personally I don't think I'd want an age gap larger than five years in either direction. I can't say for sure that if I met someone I really liked and they fell outside those parameters I wouldn't go for it, but it would definitely give me pause. For me it's less about attraction/disgust and more just practical considerations. I want to be at the same stage of life as my partner. I don't want to spend middle age caring for an aging/ailing spouse. I always wanted to build a life with someone and …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:59 PM
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He is fun and funny. He makes me laugh every day. He is bomb in bed. He makes me feel safe and cared for. He makes me feel good about myself. I always know that no matter what, there's someone who's proud of me and in my corner. He gives me something to look forward to every day. I am always excited to come home and talk and hang out with him. He refuses to let me drag myself down with negative self-talk, which is a bad habit of mine. He holds me accountable and motivates me when I'd rather be l…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:46 PM
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No, I generally only assume that if the guy has a reputation in my circle for that kind of behavior. At the same time I definitely don't assume that an attractive guy is a chaste good boy or that he hasn't broken a heart or two in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:42 PM
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Oh man, I can't even tell you how much I despise the whole "work spouse" thing. That is so fucking inappropriate and disrespectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 04:11 AM
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Maybe I am wrong about the nationality but some foreigner used to make a lot of posts about his sister dating his bully and you have a very similar vibe
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:36 AM
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Is this the weird Iraqi guy who's in love with this sister
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:24 AM
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Just guys bein' dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:21 AM
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He's not like the other girls!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:15 AM
2

No one has ever given as many fucks as this guy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:12 AM
3

Holy shit lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:11 AM
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Every once in a while there's a beautiful occurrence when someone makes a post so stupid that for a moment all sides -- red and blue, male and female, black and pink, boomer and zoomer -- are united in the common goal of reading the OP for filth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:09 AM
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Yeah, that's me. I'm a competent cook but it's something I do for practical reasons, not as a hobby. My ex cooked as a hobby and he had a much more vast knowledge of food and culinary history than I did, because it was a passion for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 11:12 PM
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Yeah I know, I've heard tons of women say they hate it. I still think it's some meme, like women feel like they're "supposed" to hate that word so they all do this performative "ewwwwww" thing every time they hear it. idk I just feel like it's fake news, maybe it's just because I can't relate to being that bothered by a word so I feel like they're all faking it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 11:03 PM
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No one's saying people know everything in their 20s. That doesn't mean people in their 20s are children. I'm sure I'm dumber now in my 30s than I will be in my 40s and 50s. So what? I'm an adult. Adult doesn't mean "finished learning, knows everything." People in their LATE TWENTIES are quite literally adults by every possible metric, they may still do dumb shit, lots of adults do dumb shit. They're still ADULTS. It's just extremely gross and off-putting for me to see grown-ass adults, my peers,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 11:02 PM
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I don't think it's cheating, but that doesn't mean it's okay or appropriate. To me, flirting is anything that creates sexual tension/energy in an interaction and/or hints toward sexual interest from one party to the other. For me personally where it crosses the line is if it's an ongoing dynamic or if there's too much familiarity there. If my husband banters with a waitress or some girl in line at the grocery store, whatever, that's a one-time interaction and he's never going to see her again. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 09:22 PM
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Then I'm not sure what your point is. Okay, it's not uncool. It's still a hobby and it's still focusing on "autistic details" that laymen don't care about. Just because the overall topic is "cool" doesn't mean the tiny granular details are. Sports are "cool," but guys who memorize years and years worth of baseball stats are geeks. Makeup is a similar thing. You can wear makeup for social gain and to get ahead in life without knowing about the autistic details. I know because, again, that's my re…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 08:59 PM
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So it's not a hobby unless most people find it boring and a turnoff? What an odd definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 08:51 PM
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And if they hit it right, you have a way to look good and thus you get ahead in life. Yes, but SHE is the one doing my hair and makeup because it's fun FOR HER. How does SHE "get ahead in life" by doing MY makeup? What is she gaining from me looking better (usually for no one else to see because we do this at home for fun)? autistic details are generally the uncool shit that regular old normie people don't care about. Yes and I'm tellign you that women who are into makeup as a hobby care about t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 08:45 PM
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I assume those women become make-up artists, and then it's no longer a hobby but a job. No? That's like saying everyone who enjoys playing an instrument becomes a musician or that everyone who likes to cook becomes a chef. Some people just do it because they enjoy it. For example I have a friend who will sometimes text me because she's bored and wants me to come over so she can do my hair and makeup, because she enjoys doing hair and makeup and because I have very different hair/skin tone than s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 08:39 PM
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Beauty bullshit isn't a feminine hobby, it's something they do to get ahead in life It's absolutely a hobby for some. I'm one of the women for whom it isn't, who just does it "to get ahead in life" and my relationship with/knowledge of beauty products is far different and much shallower than that of my friends who genuinely enjoy it as a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 08:35 PM
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I believe in love. I don't believe that love is unconditional or necessarily eternal, I don't believe in "soul mates," I don't believe love has some magic or supernatural qualities. But I believe in various forms of love between humans. I believe romantic love is a combination of affection, attachment and sexual attraction. Early 30s, female, three official relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 06:34 PM
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Happy birthday!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 06:30 PM
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Yeah that's a good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 05:31 PM
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Yeah I think it's a result of the extended adolescence much of my generation experienced. idk I just find it very annoying, like it sucks if you had to live at home into your twenties but that doesn't make you not an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 05:16 PM
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I don't hate it, I've always felt like people hating that word is a meme and no one actually cares about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 04:49 PM
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Besides, 26 is still a kid. No it is not, 26 is an adult in every possible conceivable sense of the word. I am so fucking sick of hearing how people in their TWENTIES are "kids." They aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 04:34 PM
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My husband actually does this on a somewhat frequent basis. Sometimes he just has moods where he doesn't feel like talking or touching and just wants to be left alone, to the point where I'll go in to hug/kiss him and he'll be like, "Not right now." Usually it's because he's stressed about something, has something on his mind or is just in a bad mood for whatever reason. The first few times it happened, it upset me because I thought he was mad at me. But eventually I learned the pattern and lear…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 04:27 PM
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I said the same thing a couple weeks ago and was shot down. I hate this stupid rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 03:25 PM
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He isn't Asian.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:39 PM
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My bad, for some reason I interpreted your question as asking if medals for high school sports were a thing in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 03:04 AM
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https://twitter.com/IdahoBones/status/1162354558628171777?s=19
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 11:50 PM
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I didn't do sports but I did academic competitions and we got medals for first, second and third place but only for regional or state competitions. I think athletic competitions worked the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:12 PM
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Leaving for someone else would hurt worse. It's adding insult to injury.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 05:11 PM
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Yeah he really likes to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:54 PM
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Do those countries claim to have free speech?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:50 PM
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And I've yet to meet a man on this Earth who I can gossip with as well as my girl friends. Perhaps your relationship with your significant other isn't supposed to be the same as your relationship with your same-sex friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:39 PM
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Right? Me either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 04:20 AM
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If anything I would just shower at a friend's place. Gym showers are never satisfying, the water pressure always sucks. But I just got home and we've got hot water for the time being thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:24 AM
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Built in the 70s I think. Not too old. But I'm thinking it's time to replace the boiler system. We've got hot water for now though! 🚿
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:23 AM
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To be clear I'm not objecting to this criticism, I'm just saying that PPD is not the place to discuss ANOTHER subreddit's rules. If someone gets banned from FDS for reasons they feel are unjust, that sucks, but PPD is not the place to air those grievances. Sometimes I feel like since PPD is kind of neutral ground to discuss sex/gender issues, people think we're like the Supreme Court of gender wars subs and they can appeal to us if they got banned or their post got removed on another sub. It's r…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:02 AM
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Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:01 AM
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If you're also average looking (which most people are) you won't get those comments very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:50 AM
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Hot to me, average looking to everyone else. Female.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:19 AM
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I've been friendzoned. I stayed friends with them, maybe distanced myself for a bit mostly out of embarrassment but eventually everyone gets over it and moves on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:14 AM
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In my opinion FDS discussion should be allowed but what's starting to get on my nerves is the meta discussion of the sub itself. Like for example, "FDS advises women to employ X strategy, is this an effective strategy for women?" is a fine topic of discussion. Things like "Why doesn't FDS allow opposing viewpoints on their sub?" or "Examples of FDS users promoting violence against men on their sub" or "Why do the FDS mods run their sub this way?" are not discussion topics for PPD. This isn't r/c…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:51 PM
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We've had moratoriums on other topics before. Most recently abortion. They're not banning the topic, just putting a lid on it for a few days because we've beaten it to death this week.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:48 PM
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Yeah we will probably do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:12 PM
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They've been repairing it pretty much non-stop all week. Apparently there's a leak (or multiple leaks?) and they can't locate it. They fix it periodically for a few hours then it goes out again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:11 PM
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We've lived here for three years, and before that we lived in another complex managed by the same company. We've had nothing but good experiences with them until this boiler situation this winter so I'm trying to be patient but oh my God it's maddening.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:41 PM
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🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:39 PM
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Why would anyone on PPD know the answer to this question
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:18 PM
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When did anything Hitler said seem like a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:14 PM
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Why would this be the place? If they're promoting violence, that breaks site-wide rules and you should report it to the admins. PPD isn't the FDS complaint and suggestion box.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:13 PM
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Is this sub now just a catch-all for any and all complaints about FDS? This is getting ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:03 PM
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The hot water has been out at my apartment for the past several days because our complex is on some old-ass boiler system and it keeps breaking and they apparently can't fix it for more then like two hours before it breaks again. I haven't had a hot shower since Tuesday. On top of that I was "voluntold" (to quote my boss) to help with graduation this semester so I was on my feet from 9am-8pm yesterday and will be again today. All I want is a hot shower and if I get home tonight and the boiler is…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:54 PM
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No, I just don't but people presents if I don't feel like it. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 05:36 PM
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Both ftw
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:58 PM
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Ok that makes sense, was just curious what you meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:48 AM
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By what metric can he not take care of a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:37 AM
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"Her"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 11:42 PM
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Whenever either of you describe your early relationship with you husbands I think it's eerily similar to mine. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 11:12 PM
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Couldn't you like...wash your hands
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:10 PM
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¿Qué? ¿Downvotes?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:00 PM
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idk. I have friends in LA and they're pretty much the same as my friends here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 02:26 PM
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I did, but now I live in Austin which is a liberal city full of millennials. We definitely have our share of SJW types but they're not difficult to avoid if that's not who you want to hang out with. This stuff is exaggerated on the internet. Most people are just normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 02:03 PM
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I was born in 1988. I don't spend time in safe spaces or hang out with people who are afraid of their shadow and don't like to have fun. In fact I am the no-fun killjoy in my friend group and even I'm more fun than the average redditor. It's not hard to avoid those types and find fun people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:45 PM
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Yeah I don't get this. If I like someone my crazy ass isn't waiting a week to see them again. The summer I started hanging out with my husband I was taking summer classes from 8am-noon and working from 4-10. Every night I got off work, went to his house, stayed up till like 4am, got up for my 8am (usually with a hangover) and if I was lucky I got a nap in between class and work. It was completely retarded and probably shaved like two years off my life lol, but if I like someone I can't be like "…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 02:38 AM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:44 AM
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My grandmother lived in a tent through several Oklahoma winters when she was a kid during the depression, along with her parents and eight siblings. I promise she knew that it sucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:39 AM
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I'm a straight man and no matter how hot another man is, I could never be attracted to him in that way. So it's completely different. It's not completely different. This is how women feel about men they're not attracted to. Just because a repulsive man happens to share a sex with other people who are attractive to us doesn't make him any less repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:34 AM
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What's stopping you from doing that now? Get married next year, divorce in 2040. Last time I checked you can still do those things. Don't let your dreams be dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:45 PM
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Not even sure what your argument is at this point. What is your basis for claiming boomers had BETTER marriages? That they got married more doesn't mean they had happier partnerships. If your friends were getting together in 1979 instead of 2019 they'd be getting divorced after ten years instead of just splitting up. How is that better?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:43 PM
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No drugs required, I am just a person of refined tastes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:30 PM
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better marriages The boomers and their parents have the highest divorce rates on record. All the divorce horror stories you hear come from those two generations, all the latchkey kids who grew up in broken homes were the children of boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:06 PM
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Because it's gross and trashy and it will never not be.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 10:07 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:28 PM
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Not really a problem, just something I've noticed. But also like...lots of guys don't shave every day. Surely you are familiar with the concept of beards.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 08:50 PM
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No guy I've dated shaved every day. You also only shave the lower half of your face. The nose and forehead are where most of the oil buildup is and you don't shave those.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 08:43 PM
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and also get to fuck young julian casablancas Ugh, the dream
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 08:38 PM
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I feel the same way except I was born in the late '80s. I would have liked to have been born in the late '60s and experienced the 90s as a 20-something. I love the music and pop culture from that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:36 PM
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Wow that is super interesting! And, I imagine, very unpleasant for you! I have chronic sinus infections so now I'm wondering if I've ever encountered a super smeller who got a bad impression of me because of it, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:18 PM
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The '70s, for the aesthetic. And no I am not kidding, I genuinely love everything about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:09 PM
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Something maybe noteworthy though. He's technically a fawn, which is the beige/orange coat with grey skin, dark eyes, and dark nose. My cat was a Siamese mix. He had blue eyes, a pink nose, and pink skin. I feel like that might be more noteworthy than fur length to be honest, because I'm not sure if I smell it with amber or green-eyed orange cats. Also while he was technically tabby, his coat was white dominant. Ohhhh I bet you are on to something here! My grandma's cat who didn't smell was a da…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:55 PM
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I'm not sure, around 2012ish they kind of overhauled their format and made it more like Twitter instead of a more traditional blogging platform like it was before. idk if you ever used Livejournal or Xanga any of those sites back in the day, but on those platforms you could join a "blog ring" based on whatever you blogged about (there were blog rings for different bands, TV shows, fan fiction, poetry, whatever). On Tumblr it was a similar thing except it was curated tags, so there were moderator…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:34 PM
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I am so glad someone else has noticed the orange cat thing lol. Everyone thinks I'm crazy, even my mom who agrees with me that blonde people stink. Does your dog have long or short hair? My dog is "blonde" but she's fluffy and I don't notice it with her. I also didn't notice it with a long-haired orange cat my grandma used to have. For some reason it's always short haired animals, like yellow labs or short haired orange tabbies. idk, it's very weird!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:29 PM
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Don't really agree or disagree so I'll comment under automod. I was part of the emo/indie scene in high school and college and everyone wore glasses in that scene (not just any glasses, but the thick black Buddy Holly style frames). Even people who didn't NEED glasses would wear non-prescription ones lolol. Anyway I met my husband in that scene and he has always worn those types of glasses and still does even though I don't think they're really the style anymore. He sometimes thinks about switch…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:55 PM
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No, my face gets oily but the rest of my skin/scalp is very dry. I only wash my hair twice a week. I do get sweaty especially in the summer but wiping down with a washcloth and re-applying deodorant takes care of that. I mentioned elsewhere in this thread that years ago I did an experiment where I wasn't using soap, shampoo or deodorant, just showering with water only and using natural moisturizers. When that was going on I did shower every day because I felt like I needed it since I wasn't usin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:56 PM
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I'm going to guess you are just very unobservant and haven't noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:09 PM
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I shower every other day unless for some reason I got really dirty/sweaty. On the days I don't shower I just wash up with a wet washcloth.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:07 PM
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Yes. Everyone does. You realize women have to have trash cans in the bathroom for menstrual products, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:04 PM
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It was hilarious watching y'all talk past each other and you were both right. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:01 PM
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I think you're using narc to mean narcissist and he's using narc in this sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:46 PM
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I'm starting to think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:07 PM
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Yes I have heard that one too!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:02 PM
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Yeah, I actually am planning on getting one of those soon!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:00 PM
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It does. That's what he grew up with so he had to do that for most of his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:00 PM
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I have always kind of wanted to become one of those people who wears the same outfit every day. What a simple life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:58 PM
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Yeah it doesn't smell great but if it's in a can with a lid it's not too bad. Fortunately I've trained the habit out of my husband but he still slips up sometimes, usually after visiting his dad lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:53 PM
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Haha really? I've been on Tumblr since 2009. I call it the Hotel California of websites because no one ever really leaves. Although I'm way less active on there since I started using Reddit. The people I follow and interact with aren't really your stereotypical Tumblr types. There's a lot of variety on that site and there especially was in the early days. My ex and I started chatting because we were both part of a group (which is actually not a functionality that exists on Tumblr anymore) for yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:46 PM
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No it's not just my family (and my mom is the only other blonde in my family anyhow), I've noticed it with blonde friends, blonde students, blond guys I've kissed, even "blonde" animals like I said. Blindfold me and put me in a room with a black cat and a yellow cat and I will sniff out the yellow cat in 10 seconds. It's not a BO smell, I'm not sure I'd even describe it as "stink" although I do find it unpleasant. It's like a dull musty odor. I once had a black neighbor who said white babies sme…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:25 AM
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Ehhh I disagree that people keep the same hygiene habits they had in middle school. I'm not denying that there are plenty of adults who are gross but even by high school most kids don't smell as bad as they did 2-3 years before (I've taught both ages and say this with high confidence). Like I said, at that age it's less about laziness or lack thereof and more about just learning how to take care of a changing body that's suddenly secreting fluids you didn't even know existed. Most people figure …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:11 AM
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Most women don't mind body hair generally, but back hair (unless it's just like a stray strand here or there) is widely considered pretty gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:05 AM
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A week or two ago in a similar thread someone suggested that men should shave their buttholes and one guy was like "Do you have ANY IDEA how difficult it would be to shave a sensitive part of the body you can't see?!" 🙄 Yeah, what would women know about that...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:03 AM
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Hair type and gender aren't the same thing...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:12 AM
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Yeah my bad that was poor wording on my part. What I mean is they don't shower daily and if they don't shower their face isn't washed either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:12 AM
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Oh man my brothers were the worst about this growing up. Reminds me of Friends when Joey gets a girl roommate and suddenly doesn't understand why his towel feels and smells different and she's like, "It's because I washed it, dried it and hung it up!" Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:52 AM
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I definitely have a very acute sense of smell, it's annoying honestly. My mom does too, my dad says we're part bloodhound lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:51 AM
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Lolol yeah when he and I lived with a roommate, he (the roommate) told him to, and I quote, "Stop doing that beaner shit." I had half Mexican cousins growing up who did it too. I always assumed it was a quirk of their family until I learned it's just a Mexican thing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:48 AM
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he showers everyday and then gets out of the shower and puts on the same underwear. What in the absolute fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:47 AM
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Yeah I think we need a refresher on banned content, I'm confused too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:57 AM
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In fairness middle school is a very weird age for both sexes, and for girls especially you start getting discharge and periods and it takes a while to learn how to deal with those things. Lots of very embarrassing trial and error, and accidents because your cycle is usually irregular at that age. Your date might have literally got her first period that day or bled through her pad and didn't realize it. Middle school classrooms are fucking rank because kids at that age aren't used to their new bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:25 AM
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Yeah that is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:16 AM
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I used to have a neighbor who had so much back hair you literally couldn't see the skin through it. It was the wildest thing I ever saw in my life. If you're wondering how I know about my neighbor's back hair situation it is because he shamelessly walked his dog shirtless in front of my apartment every morning for a year 😐
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:59 AM
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Yeah, to me blonde hair has a very distinctive odor that other hair types/colors don't get. I've also noticed this with animals, I would never own a yellow cat for example because they smell horrible to me. Not just normal cat smell but like a very distinct "yellow cat" smell. I wonder if it's a histocompatibility thing or something. I have never been attracted to blond men, not specifically because of the smell thing but I feel like on some molecular level I clash with blondes. I have no idea l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:55 AM
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To me that's why you wash your hands when you use the bathroom, not necessarily because they got dirty while using the bathroom but because it ensures that you're periodically washing off all the other nasty stuff accumulated throughout the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:18 AM
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My husband has a very dry scalp and thick, wavy hair. He only shampoos once a week or so but conditions every day. His hair is amazing, I'm jealous tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:15 AM
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That's interesting! I wonder if someone in his family somewhere down the line grew up in drought conditions and passed along the habit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:12 AM
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I did the au naturale thing for an entire summer in my 20s. No deodorant, no soap, no shampoo. I showered daily with water only. All the blogs and forums I read said that eventually my body would find a balance and my pits would no longer smell and my hair would no longer be oily. Never happened for me but maybe it does work for some people's body chemistry. I will say I have blonde hair and I firmly believe blonde people stink more and more quickly than other people. idk why that is or if there…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:10 AM
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An astonishing number of women do this too. Disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:06 AM
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Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:05 AM
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When my SO and I first moved in together he wouldn't flush the toilet after peeing and leave the stale pee there for hours. 😐 Fortunately that stopped after I yelled at him the first time I found it. Aside from that his hygiene is fine. Omg my husband does the same thing sometimes. He also has a habit of throwing his toilet paper in the trash can instead of flushing it. He grew up on the border and apparently both of these things are common down there because of water shortage and bad plumbing, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:03 AM
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True but I assume the men's in those places are bad too. Drunk people aren't known for their cleanliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:00 AM
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I guess if they shower every day nothing, but the guys I'm thinking of don't. Which come to think of it I guess is a hygiene problem in and of itself lol, but I can't throw stones on that one because I don't shower daily either. I do wash my face though!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:58 PM
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My husband uses Aussie shampoo and conditioner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:44 PM
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I can deal with a lot of lowkey grossness but I cannot deal with bad breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:43 PM
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Women's bathrooms are "messier" in that there's more stuff everywhere (hair products, makeup etc.) but there generally aren't sticky bodily fluids all over the floor. (Believe me, if we didn't clean it up there would be; periods get really messy.) Public women's restrooms tend to be dirtier because those are usually the ones kids use too. When I had a job cleaning an office (so no kids using the bathroom), the women's bathroom was always practically spotless despite women outnumbering men in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:39 PM
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Dental hygiene is the most egregious one I've observed from otherwise clean men in my life. When my husband first started staying over at my place when we were dating, I remember being astonished and impressed that he brushed his teeth TWICE A DAY! And did so thoroughly for several minutes! Every guy I'd dated or lived with (which is several; I have two brothers, had two ex boyfriends and a few male roommates who I shared bathrooms with) only brushed their teeth once a day for like 30 seconds. G…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:27 PM
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I was exactly the same way when I was younger - pretty, thin, well dressed, wore makeup etc. and couldn't figure out why my friends got approached and I didn't. Two words: body language. Guys will say this doesn't matter but it ABSOLUTELY does. If you're stiff with tight shoulders, closed off, avoiding eye contact, sitting at an angle instead of facing outward, not smiling etc., you may as well have a neon sign above your head that says "DO NOT APPROACH." When I became aware of this about myself…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:05 PM
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You probably have closed off body language and a resting bitch face. Yep, assuming she really is decently attractive I can almost guarantee this is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:59 PM
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We get it and don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:40 PM
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lol - notice - nothing about wtf these supposed HVW's do for their HVM's (aka simps) Because that wasn't the question? The OP asked what a HVM is, not what kind of woman deserves a HVM. Make your own thread if you're looking for that info.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:10 PM
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If a guy has sex with a virgin she will be ruined for the next guy, just like the woman he's having sex with was ruined by the previous guy(s). If other guys' dicks are ruinous and degrading then yours is too. I have heard men talk about the women whose virginities they took. It is generally not in glowing, respectful terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:59 PM
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I guess it would be my most recent ex, kind of on a technicality. We met online (on Tumblr, not a dating site) and chatted for a long time before realizing we lived near each other and decided to meet up for an ostensibly platonic hangout, but that first meeting ended up making out before I went home. We talked every day after that and the next weekend I visited him again and that's when we had sex. He was attractive to me but objectively I'd say he was the least physically attractive guy I've d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:57 PM
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I don't think most women prioritize it above everything else, but yes for most I think it's a baseline requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:35 PM
2

Distinction without a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:29 PM
1

Not really. Lol. It's still pretty bad and takes a couple washes to get the smell out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:27 PM
1

Did you get your teeth fixed or did you just learn to accept it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:18 PM
1

I'm actually currently growing out my hair to get a perm right now 😆 But not like an '80s poodle perm, a beach wavy body perm. I had one in 2009ish and it was the best my hair ever looked tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:17 PM
3

Then you understand. Imagine if it was your nose or your jaw or your boobs instead of your teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:14 PM
3

Have you ever known someone who hid their smile until they got braces or veneers?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:12 PM
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I don't see why I would mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:10 PM
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Did I say anything about you? Or that every single man cheats? Enough men cheat that it's something a girl should look out for and assume is going to happen at some point. And it's not just something "bad guys" do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:38 PM
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1) What's the shortest and longest a dude has lasted, and which do you prefer? Not sure on the first question. I prefer like 20-30 minutes altogether, 10-15 minutes of foreplay followed by 10-15 minutes of piv. 2) How often / If ever do you orgasm during sex? Both PIV and oral? I have orgasmed during PIV (from clit stimulation) like five times in my life. I cum from foreplay (oral or manual) every time. There were just a few times I didn't and it was mostly for hormonal reasons. 3) Did the size …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:55 PM
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My dad was a cheater, if that's what you're wondering. I get along with him fine and he and my mom have been married for 43 years and have a great relationship now although that wasn't always the case. But this belief didn't stem from some kind of daddy issues, it came from observing that men (including but not limited to my dad) cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:48 PM
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Ulta.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:37 PM
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An out of context male body doesn't turn me on by itself, and that's doubly true of individual body parts. This should be a Q4Men. Women don't work like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:34 PM
1

I could believe this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:11 AM
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I think about this quote all the time on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:36 AM
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For comparison, a lowkey trad woman is socially liberal in most ways, but she still loses some attraction to men who show emotional brokenness or passivity. By this definition 99% of women are "low-key trad."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:30 AM
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I'm not saying a man can't be nice to women he has sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:58 AM
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Nah. I drew this conclusion from conversations I had with my guy friends as a teenager and they don't fit either of these descriptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:34 AM
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Are you telling me that if a non-chad guy is given the option between a more attractive girl and a less attractive girl, he'll choose the less attractive one?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:34 AM
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Yep. I don't think this is at like the forefront of a guy's mind when he's having sex or anything. But I think it's always the subtext.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:10 AM
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No matter how much a guy likes (or claims to like) a girl's personality, sense of humor, etc., he'll go for the hotter girl 100% of the time if he can. Water finds its level and people tend to get with their equal. Not necessarily "looks match" but also in terms of status, popularity, background etc. Star football player dates star cheerleader, leading man and leading lady in drama club date each other, etc. Guys lose respect for girls they have sex with. Even if he loves her, some part of him f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:50 AM
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My parents attend church together every week and have for 40 years. Didn't stop my dad from cheating on my mom multiple times lol Did stop my mom from divorcing him over it, so, there's that I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 12:34 AM
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Ok, I misunderstood what you meant then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:45 PM
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Sure but that's kind of my point. No one matters in some objective, universal sense unless there's some higher power that decides that we do. So all that's left is mattering to the people in our lives. How can anyone on this sub answer whether you're "invalid" or not? We don't know you. Do you have people in your life who care about you and/or rely on you and/or value your existence? If you do then you're not invalid in any way that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:43 PM
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If there is an all-knowing and all-loving God, then everyone matters. If there isn't, no one does.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:51 PM
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Ime it's compatibility issues rather than lack of know how or effort. Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:45 PM
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