riversmoke Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	It drives me how wild how society raises men to be soft, but craves men with edge. Nice is helping someone because you want something in return or you're trying to meet their expectations. Kind is helping someone because they need it, with no expectation of something in return. Getting yourself mentally healthy allows you to see the difference in yourself. The difference of living by your expectations and not theirs. When you can keep your kindness and live by your own expectations of yourself then you can ignore 90% of the BS around seduction. It is the heart of the "Be yours…	/r/seduction	23/02/22 02:58 PM
0	How does a booty call go down? Yes but... Some people can't see what is obvious to you (or many of society). This sub is intending to help them. And if not it's a circle jerk. Which do you want to be apart of?	/r/seduction	19/02/22 07:32 AM
2	I fucked up a second date and can’t forgive myself Take a deep breath. There are more out there and when you get yourself into a better place (in a few months or more) she may give you another shot. We all have off days and we all get down on ourselves. The key thing is how much you're beating yourself up. That indicates you're not in a good place yourself. Until you feel better about yourself you'll struggle to have others be attracted to you. I say this as someone whose dealt with his own self-confidence issues nearly life long (it ebbs and fl…	/r/seduction	05/01/22 12:32 AM
1	The intuition chick Don't lie about your intentions. At 41 yrs, you don't play games. State your intentions clearly in your actions, body language, and words - in that order.	/r/seduction	24/12/21 02:24 PM
1	Message for the guys that feel like giving up You're trying to be sarcastic but it sounds like you're bitter about the idea of working on yourself. Most people (all genders) want to be around someone who is the better version of themselves. Focusing on yourself doesn't mean you ignore others. It means you follow yourself first. Yeild to others because that's common decency, but you do it because you want to be decent, not because you're trying to win them over.	/r/seduction	18/11/21 04:48 PM
4	Seduction is an on-going process. This is why it's important to have male friends where you can let your guard down. Heck, maybe even female friends but it may mess with your ability to constantly maintain the frame until it becomes more natural. To cope: meditation (it will also increase your awareness and help you maintain frame). Read philosophy. Get a therapist (but don't let them talk you out of frame). The stoic philosophy helps a ton. Remember, if you truly know why you're doing something and you truly want the goal then …	/r/seduction	18/11/21 01:51 PM
2	Has a woman ever randomly said she doesn't want to have sex with you in the middle of a non-sexual conversation? crazy it seems like dealing with women is kinda like walking backwards You can think of it more like dealing with someone that is used to being changed all the time. You can degenderize it too which might help conceptualize this. Someone who is used to being pursued all the DAMN TIME is tired of fending people off. They're going to develop strategies to more easily fend off those that aren't worth their time. There are so many that aren't worth their time and it takes a time to figure out if the…	/r/seduction	01/11/21 09:20 PM
1	A Meaningful connection is much better than chasing random sex. Honestly, I was drunk and thought I had a flash of insight here... Turns out it was just gas	/r/seduction	12/10/21 01:39 PM