robikn22 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
511	Sex is truly the key 🔐	RELATIONSHIPS	robikn22	/r/RedPillWomen	13/11/23 02:40 PM
26	Relationship Prioritization	RELATIONSHIPS	robikn22	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 08:24 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	If your job skills were hopeless, would you rather be a sex worker or a housewife? Hahahaha ok whatever makes you sleep better tonight ✌🏻	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 04:16 PM
1	If your job skills were hopeless, would you rather be a sex worker or a housewife? Except when single, I’m building a life on my own with only myself to count on. In a marriage, I’m building a life with my husband and we both have our equally important and distinct roles. Hope you win the lottery one day and find someone compatible and I’ll thank my lord above that that person isn’t me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 03:59 PM
1	If your job skills were hopeless, would you rather be a sex worker or a housewife? Keeping the house clean (dusting, vacuuming, mopping, tidying, organizing), prepping the meals, cooking all the meals, Cleaning up after the meals, Raising the children, making the family doctors appointments, making sure the children have a social life, keeping up with kids school & after school programs, grocery shopping, doing laundry (cleaning, folding, putting away), staying within family budget with all of the above, helping pay with bills or handle family budget, handle pets if you have t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 03:34 PM
4	If your job skills were hopeless, would you rather be a sex worker or a housewife? Stay at home mothers and homemakers contribute as much to their family as their spouses do. Hope you’re not looking for a wife because that perspective will not get you very far.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 03:17 PM
2	If your job skills were hopeless, would you rather be a sex worker or a housewife? I’m very lucky, I’ve got an incredible one	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 01:51 PM
2	If your job skills were hopeless, would you rather be a sex worker or a housewife? Hahahaha nope definitely female	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 01:29 PM
7	If your job skills were hopeless, would you rather be a sex worker or a housewife? I would happily be a housewife and homemaker.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 09:56 AM
12	What made you willing to hook up? All of my casual sexual experiences happened in a two year period from 21-23. Went from zero to 4 in that time frame and then I met my husband. What was the thing that sealed the deal and made you go through with it? Not using it as an excuse to defend my choices, but every time I was very intoxicated. After college I moved to a big city and I really got lost there for a bit. I didn’t know who I was, what I wanted, what I deserved. I had few friends, all of which were new and no family nearby. A…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 04:54 PM
–	[nsfw][?] Women of PPD, what's your threshold for infidelity? I would consider infidelity as my husband having a romantic or sexual relationship with someone other than me, his wife. Simple as that. Sex, kissing, holding hands, an intimate or romantic relationship not including physical intimacy. I’d consider all of that being unfaithful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/24 08:16 PM
25	Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you? Yes. Marriage was (and still is) important to me. If my husband had verbalized that marriage wasn’t something he wanted or saw in his future, I would have ended the relationship. We had regular timeline touch bases to make sure we were consistently on the same page.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/24 08:13 PM
2	How do you split the finances? When we got married we combined our finances. There is no “his income”/“my income”, there’s no “his contribution” “my contribution”. There’s no split. Every dollar our family brings in goes into the same checking and savings account and every bill our family owes is paid out of those accounts. And we work off of one family budget. It has worked well for us and I can’t imagine doing it any differently.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/24 03:41 PM
2	Are you more attracted to calm, easy going or energetic, vivid personalities? I’m definitely more attracted to a calm and easy going personality. One of my favorite things about my husband is how securely he handles stressful situations or high energy situations. While I can get emotional and flustered-he is always calm and sturdy and I find it so easy to lean on him and trust him in those moments because of that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/24 09:33 PM
3	Gift idea for HVM I always love experiences. But, I also love planning a more elaborate date night for my husband. I’ll make his favorite foods, get his favorite drinks and we’ll do something he enjoys. Could be fun if you got him a few unique vintage games and y’all had a game night. Some music on in the background, great food & drinks. And with at home dates, the best gift can always be given to cap off the evening if you know what I mean.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/24 09:38 PM
9	Isn’t it better to have two incomes for one household? Depends on the couples income and lifestyle. My husband and I jointly make 100k and by no means live paycheck to paycheck. With our minimal lifestyle we’re able to save quite a bit and afford the entertainment that we want. Daycare is really really expensive. Like, one whole income expensive. So for some couples logistically they save money by having one parent stay home. With the wife more regularly willing and excited to do so (based on those in my life.) My husband and I may love the idea of …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 11:39 PM
6	Relationship Prioritization I wish my friends had a similar perspective, but I can’t demand their plans and wants to change just because mine did. So unfortunately we’ve just been seeing a lot less of each other. I could completely understand how frankly annoying that would be. I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who doesn’t put forth some effort towards the friendship either.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 10:45 PM
5	Relationship Prioritization God, you put everything I was thinking into words and this gives me so much reassurance. Thank you so much for your comment. We’re ttc right now and I think it’s just got me in my emotions a bit about all of the relationships in my life. I never want people I care about to feel like I’m purposefully or intentionally ‘leaving them behind’, I’m just not in the same chapter right now as I was before, we’re not super compatible right now and I think that’s ok.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 10:42 PM
5	Relationship Prioritization Maybe you’re right. I’ve honestly gotten a bit defensive reading these other posts because I really felt personal and like they were referring to me. I definitely don’t care for my friends any less now than I ever did before getting married. And I still love spending time with them. It just feels like we’re not really on the same page about a lot of stuff anymore. But, you’re right, maybe I’m just changing and I probably do need to talk to them. But I think I’m also internalizing these strangers…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 10:18 PM
13	Relationship Prioritization My friends go OUT, like leave the house at 10pm to start their night. That’s not something my husband nor I am interested in any more (alone or together). I wasn’t referring to dinner or brewery at 8.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 09:36 PM
3	Relationship Prioritization I do agree with you. And I don’t relate to the girls they’re talking about who go total hermit in their marriages. But, I personally have still found my circle shrinking. Naturally I want to hang out with those closest to me and those relationships haven’t suffered in the least with my marriage. Like, my best friend since childhood, my siblings, my parents, my group from college who, though distant in miles are still strong friendships. I think the women in the posts I’m thinking of found out th…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 09:27 PM
7	Relationship Prioritization I think that’s key, those that have never experienced it can’t empathize with it. My closest friends were incredibly supportive and respectful of my marriage and when we have children, I’d anticipate the same response. For me a lot of the change was due to lifestyle changes as well. We don’t “go out” frequently and that was a lot of my bonding time with my friends. I was just shocked reading some of these posts and seeing how jaded these women seem. It came off a bit entitled to me. Like they fe…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 08:42 PM
7	Birth Control Advice I use Natural Cycles-it tracks your ovulation date based on your daily temperature & LH levels (among other factors, but those are the two main ones.) I’ve loved it and my husband and I have had zero issues. But, you’d have ‘red’ days and ‘green’ days and have to act accordingly. So, red days do require taking extra precaution, but it’s been an easy transition for us. Been using it for 2 years.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/12/23 11:51 PM
0	How would you feel about a man making you wait to make you feel special because he "likes" you too much My relationship isn’t egalitarian so you would be correct. A relationship requires investments made from both individuals (money, time, energy, care, body etc.) with the hope that they will see a return in the form of what they want (marriage, sex, commitment, stability, loyalty etc.). If that is what you mean by transactional, you would be correct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/23 01:11 PM
–	Women, can you describe the guy with whom you've been the most in love with? What was it about that person? My husband. I can get into the other stuff, but there was an immediate spark and connection on our first date that was honestly undeniable. I’d never met someone that I’d connected with that seamlessly and that alone was the catalyst to our relationship. Physical attributes: I never really had a ‘type’, but when I saw him I was like oh, I guess I do. He’s tall and more on the burly side. I thought (still think) he’s incredibly handsome. Money/status: We’re simple people, living in a rural area. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/23 03:01 PM
13	How would you feel about a man making you wait to make you feel special because he "likes" you too much First date with my husband: Local Mexican restaurant for margs & apps-he probably spent less than $30 Second date with my husband: concert at a local venue with a $5 cover Third date with my husband: movies and pizza at my place Aka I never cared in the least how fancy a date was, just that it was intentional. He asked, he planned, he paid. That’s all I cared about. I didn’t compare our relationship with relationships from our past-they weren’t relevant to me. edited to fix a spelling mistake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/23 02:33 PM
27	Does body count actually matter? It mattered to me. My husband was in the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ camp, but when we talked about past relationships I brought it up and neither of us were concerned with our mutual numbers. (Both under 5) I didn’t see the necessity in detailing past experiences, but I did want him to know that I took sex and relationships seriously and that I recognized the impact it has outside of immediate physical pleasure. It was important to me that the man I planned on committing my life to knew all of me; …	/r/RedPillWomen	26/12/23 08:30 PM
5	When women are afraid a guy is going to leave them after they turn 25, how often has this actually happened to women? I met my husband when I was 24. I never feared he would leave me as I aged or I should say Because I aged. But, I did fear that we wouldn’t mature at the same pace and at some point we wouldn’t want the same things. I feared that once I was ready for marriage and family and a white picket fence, he wouldn’t be on the same page. Thankfully we did and both settled down about the same time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/23 04:30 PM
13	Dating Red Flags Oh I love how you phrased this. Spot on.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/12/23 08:50 PM
2	If the man doesn't like the woman more the relationship will never work out. Youtubers and red pill men need to stop telling women to pursue men. Men hate to be pursued and feel uncomfortable with a woman thirsting after him I never asked a man out, I don’t think I ever even approached men while out. I was never insecure or shy per se, but I just did not have that motivation to chase. My husband made all the first moves and I was very happy to follow his lead.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/23 08:01 PM
14	Question for women: What profession, if any, do you find most attractive in a man? My dad worked incredibly hard as a car dealer, but he was Always home by 6pm and was always at our games and school things. He just modeled that work/life balance for us kids so well. I always wanted the same for my kids. Even if it meant our budget was a little smaller. So yea, it’s a happy trade off for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/23 05:47 PM
30	Question for women: What profession, if any, do you find most attractive in a man? I honestly don’t think I find any specific profession more attractive than another. I considered work/life balance much more over his actual profession. I wanted my husband to regularly be home for dinner and have the schedule to allow him to be active in our kids lives.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/23 05:31 PM
0	Women : would you rather be rather be "forced" to work or be forced to marry ? Forced to marry (as long as I had my choice of man, preferably in this hypothetical world, I’d choose my actual husband.) I love being a wife, I’m my best self because of my family and I can’t wait to have children so I’d be perfectly happy as a SAHM.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/23 02:29 PM
15	When he hosts his friends Oh I love making apps for my husband!! (Seriously, I think it’s really fun!) Meatballs in the crockpot are so easy and will go quick; frozen meatballs, chili sauce and grape jelly-sounds bizarre, but trust me. Sausage balls are also very easy; hot breakfast sausage, bisquick mix & shredded cheddar cheese-my husband’s favorite. A cheese board is also always fun to put together; some meats, some cheeses, some jams and mustards, bread/crackers, nuts-can’t go wrong.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/12/23 03:56 PM
–	Guy asks girl who switches up the deal to leave. Subreddit goes wild. Many women agree to these ‘friends with benefits’ or ‘situationships’ and then catch feelings and want more from the relationship. I’ve seen it time and time again with my single girl friends. Rejection isn’t something that’s always easy to swallow, it’s natural that she feels hurt. She didn’t get what she wanted. But, no OP is not an asshole. He clearly defined what he wanted, they had a conversation about it, she agreed (and expressed equal desire for the same thing) and he never wavered. Wher…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 03:26 PM
16	I made one comment in this sub and I got banned from other subs wtf It’s automatic and not based on anything you specifically said. Intolerance at its finest. If other subs choose to restrict my access based on me saying something they don’t agree with, that’s no real loss on my part.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/12/23 06:59 PM
3	For anyone wanting to read The Surrendered Wife … Oh downloading!! Thanks for the recommendation!	/r/RedPillWomen	05/12/23 06:26 PM
1	Separation after a failed marriage with children, going no contact Don’t have any immediate advice, but I do have some questions that maybe you can expand on. You said there are children involved? How old are your children? How would you logistically envision going no contact with your husband while sharing custody? How do you foresee that affecting your children? They’d be my primary concern in all of this. How long have y’all been married & how long has it been heading in this direction? What things have you tried to reconcile your marriage? I take it his sta…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/23 11:59 PM
14	Something different from “I hear you”? What kind of discussion are you referring to? “I hear ya” as a response when I’m talking about feeding the cats is one thing, but when I’m talking about something that happened at work or in our lives, I would want more than I hear ya. I do a lot of ‘repeat’ responses, regardless of the type of discussion we’re having. If my husband reminds me to feed the cats, I’d more than likely respond something like “feed the cats, got it babe!” If my husband is telling me a story or something more active a…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/11/23 05:37 PM
19	Damaged sex life This is a really difficult situation to be in and I can understand your hesitancy as it’s been reaffirmed in the past. (I haven’t read Laura Doyle’s stuff yet, but I’ve seen it recommended time and time again on here so I need to check it out!) Do y’all ever have moments of intentional intimacy that isn’t sex specific? I’ve found that for me, emotional connection and trust are key pillars for a great sex life with my husband. So personally, what would help me, is getting a bottle of wine, puttin…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/11/23 06:04 PM