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robinhoodblows2021/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 09:34 PM
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robinhoodblows2021/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 03:48 AM
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Sounds like you're doing the right thing but try to get it over quick, before she has time to get other ideas in her head about what she "deserves". She sounds like a train wreck and will no doubt pull out all the stops and lies to screw you. Think about protecting yourself by recording her behavior and conversations with her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 04:27 AM
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2-2-5-5 schedule is great. You'll get the same days every week on/off with the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 02:26 AM
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Man, that's brutal. I'm really sorry and you're not the only one this has happened to unfortunately. Some things to consider that probably won't make you feel much better. 1) daughter didn't ask for any of this and is also a victim; 2) if you're on her birth certificate, you're still responsible for her welfare, at least for now; 3) You'll need a court order paternity test, or performed by a doctor/Lab the court recognizes for the results to be legit, legally speaking.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 05:18 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 02:45 AM
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No you shouldn't say anything negative about his mom. You'll have to wait to tell him (if he asks) when he's much older, like mid twenties. He's probably already sad and saying anything negative about his mom or placing blame (even though she's to blame) could result in a range of emotional issues, including identity crisis. Go to family therapy with him if you need to work on bonding, etc. Try to come up with a narrative that doesn't place blame, such as "we don't share the same goals anymore" …
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 11:29 PM
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This is a great idea but men would have to fund it and work to get donations from wealthy divorced men. Can PACs lobby and advocate or just raise money for politicians? Maybe a foundation is a better structure.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 04:40 AM
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You're allowing this women to have some serious control over your feelings bud. Don't let her do that. In fact don't let anyone do that ever, if you can help it. I'm sure she loves it. I'd go no contact if kids aren't involved.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 08:40 PM
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Happens to all of us... Only remembering the good things/times.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 06:35 AM
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Co dependency is actually very curable compared to many of the other personality disorders. Doesn't mean it's easy. Find a good therapist, join a men's group, attend co-dependents anaymous... And get out of your marriage if it's making you miserable.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 07:32 PM
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She probably won't go for it, but it's worth a try. Report back if you can!
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 03:12 AM
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You could use this opportunity to demand a postnup and include things like 50/50 custody, etc. If you ever actually divorce. If she won't consider such an agreement then you know it's over.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 02:34 AM
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Guitar? Drums? sax?
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 06:14 PM
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Have your attorney file for 50/50 right away. Also can define spousal and CS at that time. Just do it right away don't wait it only gets more challenging.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/23 04:09 PM
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I don't understand...so in order to save yourself from financial hardship from divorce, you need to get divorced? If you have a marriage that's working, it's actually financially advantageous to be married. If there is something you don't want to share for whatever reason, work that out in a post marriage agreement. Your wife sounds reasonable just explain to her you want certain assets to be separate property and have her sign on the dotted line.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 04:35 AM
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"I can't do this anymore."
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 04:38 AM
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I feel you brother. My ex is doing the same thing. Just a very low functioning person. I've been providing financial support so her and the kids have a roof over there heads, but she is just so disfunctional it's pathetic. Refuses to have any awareness or reflection. How did I ever get involved with someone who is such a hot mess? Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 10:49 PM
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One idea to kick the can down the road, maybe for your kids sake? Postnumptual agreement to establish debt as sole separate property. Surely your wife won't agree, but when threatened with divorce, she might. Could potentially be used to your advantage if you're willing to stick it out a little longer and would make divorce easier when you cross that bridge.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 03:08 AM
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Happy Birthday bro! Give yourself a birthday present and go consult with an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 08:37 PM
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I'd say living a lie and then bringing a kid into it makes you sound pretty terrible bro... obviously I don't know your whole story so trying not to judge too harshly, but damn man what were you thinking? I hope you're able to be honest and sort things out enough to be great co-parents for your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 01:31 PM
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Wow brother, I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Do you think your ex is able to care for him? My ex is pretty low functioning, but fortunately has a huge ego so rarely asks for help with things, which makes it easy on me. Congrats on your windfall! This goes against the general settlement in this sub, but I'm going to go against the grain. So far, generally, my ex and I have been mostly able to agree on what's best for the kids and it seems to me, what's best for your son (and probably you too…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 04:40 AM
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I'd say you're only bet is a kick-ass prenup. That's the only way I'll ever consider marriage again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 11:22 PM
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Totally get it. I hope you're able to resolve the conflict with your boys. Maybe get a 3rd party to sit down with you and your boys.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 03:33 PM
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Sounds pretty nuts. I've heard twin dynamics can be complex, and who knows how mom might have triggered one/both of them. Can you & your exwife sit down and talk it through with them to try and resolve the conflict? Like you said, enforcement of the parenting agreement is probably moot at this point and I'm assuming you want to resolve the conflict between bothers so things can return to normal. You could also ask a family therapist to meditate.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 05:15 AM
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Appreciate the advice! Good luck to you as well. Got to put the boxing gloves on so to speak and keep fighting until things are final!
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 03:07 AM
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It shouldn't be joint debt, but who knows what she and her attorney will come up with. Her monthly debt service could get factored into alimony payments, which would suck. I believe that it's against state law to incur new debt while your going through a divorce. I'll through l throw more money and my attorney to deal with it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 03:04 AM
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Thanks. We didn't have any separate agreement but state law does not permit entering into new debt without permission from spouse.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 02:59 AM
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Thanks, I still have to pay the note on her house as it's in my name. I pay for nearly everything for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 02:10 PM
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No, we have separate accounts at this point. I don't believe she is officially diagnosed, but I know she has discussed with her therapist in the past.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 02:09 PM
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You need to figure out a way to document her behavior. Sorry for what you're going through, but I think you know where this is going. How long did you know each other before you got married?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 01:15 AM
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Love that sub!
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/21 12:42 AM
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I'm in an almost identical situation except I have three kids and I ended up throwing in the towel. Once I realized who she was I knew there was never going to be any reconciliation, ever, as she was incapable of change. Covert narcs are nasty. I'm 8 months out, still going through the divorce process, but feeling better than I have in 9 year of marriage. Still a struggle though, don't mean to sugar coat. Keeping things cool and maintaining a good relationship for the kids sake is so hard, but n…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/21 05:59 PM
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Could be lots of things going on, including a personally disorder... With my first kid I didn't recognize her post partium depression but it's very real and typically worse than you think it is. At least it was with my ex. With that said, if she won't get help AND go to councling with you, then I'd have to tell you don't waste your time. If you're both willing to do the work then its probably worth a shot. Make sure you set and stick to clear boundaries. Also, maybe don't move back in with toget…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/21 12:07 AM
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