rockintomordor Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
14	My story. Help/advice is appreciated.		rockintomordor	/r/ExRedPill	21/02/16 07:06 PM
2	Looking for self-improvement. How do I succeed before it really takes effect?		rockintomordor	/r/seduction	25/03/17 09:48 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Am I wrong to feel bothered that a woman referred to me as "small" despite being 6 ft 1? laughs hysterically in 5’5” In all seriousness, if she actually meant it/wasn’t actually flirting with you she’s literally delusional and can just be ignored.	/r/seduction	25/08/22 12:38 AM
3	women having all the power to select That’s the hard truth. The harder truth is that if you try to get people to talk about it, they get angry. Best advice is to work on yourself. If you’re at least 5’10” then your sex life is basically just a matter of how much time you want to spend at the gym. Try to use the situation to your benefit and don’t let anyone use you. You’ll usually be single, but it beats being used and abused.	/r/seduction	01/01/22 09:35 PM
152	How do you feel around beautiful women? Take this with a grain of salt, but my personal cope was acting like she was just like everyone else. Which might sound really strange when you’re in the room with somebody who makes you feel like you have no control, but I find it fun. Usually people turn to putty in front of attractive men AND women so I derive some pleasure in being completely unaffected by it and seeing them stumble when someone treats them like an ordinary human being. It injects an element of chaos into the situation which…	/r/seduction	09/09/21 08:31 AM
1	If I actually was attractive, getting girls wouldn’t feel so impossible I had a really long-ass comment, but I can bring it down to one thing I got from a friend of mine. Firstly, figure out why you posted this. Are you looking for advice? Validation of what you already know? Figuring out why is your first step to understanding yourself, and that’s the step you need to take to become your best self. Now here’s the thing: everyone has something they want to accomplish in life. You must want something in your life besides women. Figure it out and go after it. Somewher…	/r/seduction	25/08/21 09:03 AM
5	Where is seduction for women? Be careful about this kind of advice. I live in the midwest and I’ve met guys who like petite blondes, guys who can’t resist goth girls, and guys who got visibly more turned on when they learned Scarlett Johansson can deadlift 245 pounds. Myself, I’ve been attracted to a pretty broad spectrum of women, and if I were to tell you each person’s different qualities there would be no way you could possibly fit them all into one person. Best advice is do you as well as you can.	/r/seduction	14/05/21 10:33 PM
2	Where is seduction for women? Best I could recommend is fPUA, but like with pickup in general that’s probably a hit-and-miss affair. That said, there are some general recommendations that work for both men and women. First, accept you cannot attract everyone. Read that sentence again. Repeat until the lesson sinks in. If you need to, write it down. The fact is, some people will not be attracted to you no matter what you do. This is the most important lesson for keeping your self-confidence regardless of any results. Now that…	/r/seduction	14/05/21 10:22 PM
5	How many sexual partners have you been with? What age did you get the most hookups? Only 3, but largely due to me having a chronic predisposition to oneitis. If I had gone with all my available options, probably closer to 10. Probably my most opportunities were in high school. I’m pretty introverted and found myself required to be in fewer and fewer social situations as I got into college and the real world. I probably need to get into shape and start taking tinder seriously, because otherwise I’m basically limited to coworkers and as fun as it can be I don’t want to deal with …	/r/seduction	11/05/21 10:49 PM
1	Direct or Indirect open - What's brought you more success? No meme, it really is that simple. It took me a lot of frustration to just try it for the hell of it, but it’s actually true: it really is just that simple. And I mean, it makes sense, right? The species is designed to reproduce, so it’s actually NOT having sex that’s weirder than having sex, so it’s as simple as doing what’s natural. These days, we’re taught from birth about how complicated the world is, and it makes it hard to accept when things are just simple and straightforward. Allow me to…	/r/seduction	10/05/21 07:04 PM
2	Direct or Indirect open - What's brought you more success? It’ll probably piss you off like it did me when I was just starting, but you’re overthinking it. There’s actually nothing delicate at all. It’s funny you should mention cats, because almost every cat I’ve met has been friendly to me, including the ones who are normally unsociable. The ones I have are mostly friendly and loving. I’ve found the people who get bad experiences with cats are the ones coming into interactions with them seeing them as reclusive and unfriendly, and often even talk about…	/r/seduction	10/05/21 01:24 AM
1	Direct or Indirect open - What's brought you more success? I usually just live my life and go with the vibe. For example I matched on tinder with one girl who did stage work with my university orchestra when I was going through the program. She was pretty straightforward so I was straightforward with her. FWB of my dreams. On the other hand, another girl I dated before was just someone I met through social circles. I just interacted like I would with anyone else until I decided I wanted to see what would happen. I asked her to grab coffee and we did stu…	/r/seduction	10/05/21 12:43 AM
1	Abundance mindset vs High standards Well, you really said it yourself: conventional standards implies that it’s the standard used conventionally. Which is determined by..... who, exactly? High standards implies that anyone you’re not attracted to is lesser. But turn around and say a woman rejects you because she has “standards” but it turns out those are just a different type of man she’s into, and it has nothing to do with the fact you have 6-pack abs and are a multi-millionaire (just go with it for the sake of argument.) So she …	/r/seduction	01/05/21 05:28 PM
1	Looking for help? My best recommendation is not to worry about it. My outlook is like this: Either she finds you attractive or she doesn’t. If she doesn’t find you attractive and you try to make a sexual arrangement, there’s a 90% chance she’ll say no, in which case there’s about a 50-50 chance it will make things awkward and/or end the friendship. You’re clearly already aware of this, but it’s good to say it to clear the air. Except it’s still good if the friendship ends because you can put your mind at ease and…	/r/seduction	09/04/21 06:33 PM
1	What causes you to lose interest in a girl? What causes me to lose interest in a girl doesn’t sound like the issue here. In fact, there are lots of issues all rolled into one, but the short version is it’s not your fault. What’s going on is that the ones who don’t ask for your number are either daunted by asking someone they find attractive for their number, probably because they’ve had their own confidence shattered. The ones who do are the ones who got their confidence boosted and know most women will find them attractive enough to do w…	/r/seduction	22/01/21 06:26 PM
0	What did you fellas do? You learn to deal with it. It’s only like 20% of men that women actually find attractive, and the most important factors are the ones you can’t control anyway, so really it has nothing to do with you, and despite what society will tell you it’s nothing to be ashamed of.	/r/seduction	19/11/20 09:07 PM
5	Cold approach help needed ! Here’s exactly what to do to overcome this: move on. Let’s think this through. That’s her personal information, so why would the store care what she does with it? The simple answer is they don’t. She’s giving you a gentle rejection because the more blunt version of the conversation where she just says she’s not interested can be hurtful. Annoying? Yes, but it’s still a rejection. Seduction is less about overcoming women’s “no”s and more about sorting between the women who are interested and whic…	/r/seduction	10/11/20 07:15 PM
1	A girl not in my class caught my eye, but I struggle with whether or not I should approach Confidence is like cocaine to women. If you have it, somebody wants it. Flat-out telling her something about her made you want to break your usual routine is a great first impression. You don’t even have to tell her your normally shy-just don’t even give a reason, just say you don’t usually talk to people at random. A simple, tasteful approach is the best way.	/r/seduction	05/12/19 12:58 AM
5	Is my high ego good or bad ? ( Looking for any suggestions) Ego is something that’s served me poorly in the past. That said, it doesn’t sound like that’s your problem here. Your problem is you want one thing and the women you’re interested in want something else. Compatibility 101. Not that there’s anything wrong with what either of you want, but generally if you want different things both of you will be unsatisfied. The one place where your ego might be holding you back is that you may not be willing to compromise. Of course, when I say compromise what …	/r/seduction	29/11/19 02:06 AM
1	Do I have a shot or am I being delusional? No, that’s about all the context I need. Your big issue here is that she already has a Long-Distance relationship. THAT is the kind of detail you always want to make sure and include, because it makes a massive difference. Of course she’s going to feel a little uncomfortable under those circumstances. It probably still feels like cheating to her. Have you talked to her about it? Have you asked her why she seems to resist your advances when she said she’s attracted to you? Especially considering …	/r/seduction	20/08/19 05:29 PM
1	Do I have a shot or am I being delusional? There’s something that needs clarifying. Is she saying she doesn’t want to be FWB, or that she doesn’t want a relationship and wants to be FWB? The distinction is immensely important. That said, to me it sounds like she’s wanting to slow down. If she said she’s attracted to you but she wants to be friends it sounds like you two may not know each other very well and she just wants to get to know you better, which is pretty standard. On the other hand, you have consent to keep pursuing her sexuall…	/r/seduction	20/08/19 12:33 PM
5	How to approach reconnecting with an old flame... You’ve got a plan, that’s good. But remember an old military maxim that also works great with dating: plans are worthless, but planning is invaluable. You’ve got all the details in place for your date to progress all the way to a ONS if you want. Now, let go of your plans and expectations and just have fun. If you’re trying to stick to some schedule, you’re not focusing enough on her. That’s going to show through, and there’s no faster way to piss someone off than to try and run a routine on the…	/r/seduction	11/05/19 06:16 PM
1	Needy feelings despite now having abundant success with women It really depends on what kind of needy feelings you’re having. Different feelings need to be addressed in different ways.	/r/seduction	08/03/19 03:38 PM
12	I ought to just give less fucks Not a whole lot to give less fucks about. She teased you, you stayed cool. You pretty much did everything right. You heard a rejection and took it coolly. I don't really see a way you could have done better. If you give fewer fucks you're in danger of forgetting to ask for numbers altogether.	/r/seduction	18/03/18 03:06 PM
23	Dating a girl who's slept around a lot Okay, so higher number of sex partners means more likely to be dissatisfied with marriage. Well, yeah, of course, and that's exactly what I'm talking about. We're trained from birth by society to think poorly of women who sleep around, so it's no wonder those results came up. What I'm saying is it's all in our heads. There's no tangible effect. Does sex change a woman's appearance so that your average person can tell? It could impact her personality, I suppose, but not in ways you could establis…	/r/ExRedPill	14/03/18 06:14 PM
8	Dating a girl who's slept around a lot Not familiar with that one. Can you give me the sparknotes rundown?	/r/ExRedPill	13/03/18 11:22 PM
58	Dating a girl who's slept around a lot Buddy, I hate to tell you this, but you're a victim. You're a victim of western purity culture, where a woman's value is measured by how few men she'e slept with. Let it go. insert kylo ren meme here Think about this: There was a girl in college who was the self-proclaimed whore of our department. But she was still a really nice lady, and from what I hear pretty good at sex. But you would never have known looking at her. Probably not while having sex with her either. So ask yourself: do previous…	/r/ExRedPill	13/03/18 03:14 PM
30	Is it just me or is this blatant hypocrisy? See, it all comes down to your perspective on TRP. In theory, it's supposed to be about self-improvement, and seeing the world as is so you can make the best choices for yourself. American society (not european, or at least not Italian) does quite a bit of lying to both young men and women. There's lies that run the gamut from "phone company X will save you money over phone company Y" to "you just have to wait for the right person." Now, the red pill is supposed to be about seeing through the il…	/r/ExRedPill	04/03/18 05:19 PM
1	Advice for a guy with a good lifestyle but filled with anger. Firstly. Keep in mind. there are two types of depression. There's feeling bad because your life sucks (or rather, you feel like your life sucks) and there's being depressed because your brain chemistry won't let you be happy. I'm pretty sure the first is more common than the last. If it's brain chemistry, you NEED to see a doctor and get a prescription. One of my best friends nearly killed herself twice because of that, and it's nothing to fool with. If it's the first, it'll take time but you ca…	/r/seduction	09/02/18 02:35 PM
1	Last year of college, do I pursue this girl that I like? Bruv, what are you doing? You're asking what to do about a female friend in a relationship? You keep being friends with her and be thankful she took it so well. I'm going to lay some straight talk on you. You say you have trouble giving up on things, but that's only things you want. Let me show you why you don't actually want anything to happen with this girl. So you're friends. Either you want to be friends with benefits or date her. I'm going to guess it's the second. So, I'm assuming you want…	/r/seduction	23/01/18 05:53 PM
3	Would a woman ever love a damaged man? How did you ever afford all those hookers? In any case, I understand what you're saying. I read trp and I wound up realizing right before she broke up with me (we kind of realized it at the same time) that I was mentally and emotionally abusive to my ex. Before that realization, I thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. I think how I deal with it applies to this case. You say you're trying to live a different life. Having different goals and doing different things makes us…	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/18 01:21 PM
1	Useless rant about Tinder Honestly, tinder is pretty garbage unless you're so unbelievably hot you don't need it except to increase your numbers. I use it to mess with my irl friends. I know one or two people who have used it to find people they already know who might be interested in hooking up, but by and large any kind of online dating is a losing proposition. Depending on which study you read, somewhere between 70 and 90 percent of human communication is done through body language. Obviously, this spills over into da…	/r/seduction	21/01/18 07:46 AM
1	Lose weight first than go approach chicks? The thing about fitness is, yeah, it's attractive. But looking like He-man isn't as important as confidence. Yeah, I know, kind of a clichè answer, but it's seriously like magic. I've done it lately. I recently made the choice I was going to stop wasting my life and be positive and confident, even if I had to force myself to. The results are like magic. No, I don't have girls drooling over me, but I am actually aware of when women are showing interest. I'm 5'5" and in only two months my dating l…	/r/seduction	26/03/17 12:44 AM
3	I forgot how to be a human I'm right there with you. I still have some trouble viewing women as people sometimes. I don't know if this is particularly helpful, but something I've been trying is that I'm thinking of life as a series of choices. For example, I chose to take the red pill and now I'm choosing to discard the bad parts. Ironically, it's a very RP sentiment that you are in control of your own life, but it's a good one. I've been consciously reminding myself of my choice to ignore what TRP says and think of women…	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/17 12:28 PM
3	Incel on the fence Okay, buddy. What I'm going to say will probably sound a bit on the harsh side, but you need it. You're not trying. You know all these issues, and you have good insight into each one of them. So why aren't you doing anything about it? Untreated depression? Seriously? At any time, your depression could push you over the edge, and you'd off yourself, and you haven't gotten it treated? No way. You need to get yourself therapy. You need to find out what causes your depression. If it's chemical, they…	/r/ExRedPill	23/09/16 08:00 PM
2	Just wanted some advice Bro, blue pill is just a satire of red pill. Don't take them seriously. The whole point is just making fun of RP, they're not trying to put forth any philosophy. Now, since I don't think either of us are scientists in relevant field, let's not argue about hypergamy. Here's my advice: get to know your girlfriend. Eight months and you didn't know she liked sci fi? Come on, that's basic stuff. I get that it's bitchy of her to get angry, but you did kind of set yourself up for it. I don't know what …	/r/ExRedPill	17/04/16 05:27 PM
0	I'm very convinced that The Blue Pill considers itself better than the average man Bullies are never the good guys. Ever. The good guys are the ones who call you on your bullshit because they care about you, not because they want to make you feel like shit over your beliefs. If they bullied you, fuck 'em, they're the scum of the earth and not fit to lick your asshole clean after you take a shit. What's this male guilt? There's nothing wrong with being a cisgender, heterosexual male. It's who we are, and anyone who says that's wrong can go fuck themselves because they can't get…	/r/ExRedPill	23/03/16 02:08 AM
2	I'm very convinced that The Blue Pill considers itself better than the average man You don't like 'em? Cool, I don't either. Both of them are annoying. RP says their way is the only way, and BP is satirizing them. BP is just a satire, which annoys me, because it's hard to tell when someone's trying to make a point or just acting the role of a Red Piller. I'm that legendary master of sarcasm who is so good I sometimes go full retard, and it still pisses me off. They're both BS, and I don't care much about either of them. The wonderful part of the internet is you and I can just …	/r/ExRedPill	19/03/16 07:43 PM
1	Ex-redpiller here. I think I have quite a bit to share. Good for you, bro. I empathize with how hard it can be, and I'm glad to see someone else who got out.	/r/ExRedPill	19/03/16 07:34 PM
5	Going through a break-up and it's hard not to look at my relationship's failure from a TRP perspective It's hard, dude, but it happens. With the rise of gender equality comes a rise in women who value their career over their relationships. It's harder to find mates when we're younger, and that's just a fact. First things first, my best advice on avoiding Red Pill thinking begins with acknowledging that TRP has a couple of things right. But respect for yourself isn't a Red Pill idea, it's part of being a man. Now, with that out of the way, I think a big part of this is your anxiety. Part of a rela…	/r/ExRedPill	19/03/16 07:32 PM
3	'Hypergamy is good for the species in the long term, even if it makes low-value men butthurt right now'. Do you agree with this statement? I've always observed that the concept of applying numbers to define people's attractiveness is really fallacious. People aren't robots who just act based on numbers assigned to their attractiveness, which despite what the science says is more or less arbitrary. People do all sorts of wierd stuff. You're saying men always have to date women less attractive than them, so what does it mean when a short, fat guy who makes average amounts of money draws in beautiful women with his magnetic personalit…	/r/ExRedPill	19/03/16 07:08 PM
2	[more general musings] Is there a 'lower your standards' double standard? Okay.... cracks knuckles rant incoming. So you want to bang pornstars? Welcome to the "Everyone who's ever watched porn" club. Population: a shitload of other guys, but for right now let's just focus on you. Pornstars are MEANT to be unbelievably hot. That's their job. So, no, definitely nothing wrong with you being attracted to them. It would only be bad if you were angry they wouldn't have sex with you. Okay, so let's move on to the real point here. Yeah, women gush over celebrities. Is it rat…	/r/ExRedPill	06/03/16 07:02 PM
4	Am I wrong for believing these things? I highly suggest reading the link. It really illuminates a very important point, which is that people have sex for all sorts of different reasons. Just read it. You want to believe what you want, that's cool. Just read it and think about the story. I guess I should clarify. The tone I took to myself typing it out carried the unspoken meaning "He's thin, but it's better than fat." Like I said, I hang out with a lot of martial artists/rugby players and we all dig muscles on both sexes. Either way,…	/r/ExRedPill	04/03/16 05:11 AM
1	Am I wrong for believing these things? Hello, reporting in, that guy who knows everyone. I happen to have been best friends with a guy in high school who is now in a polyamorous relationship, actually with two women at the same time. You're not wrong for having your beliefs, but I think a couple might be misguided. Does that make sense? My buddy is actually engaged to one of the girls he's with. I don't know how that works, but the point is I don't know of her sleeping with anyone else. Think about that for a second, she basically ha…	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/16 07:51 AM
3	How much do you believe someone should alter their career path or life choices to improve their 'SMV'? Sharp eyes. I didn't even realize that seems contradictory. Okay, let me clarify. The point I was trying to make is that all I do is play video games and my instrument, which includes none of the typically "masculine" things trumpeted by TRP. So I am doing something with my life, but it's only two nerdy things (which I should mention I'm used to doing much more), which smashes the RP claim that you have to do A-Z things. Honestly, the only other possible thing in play would be my personality, be…	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/16 08:36 PM
1	Going to change the perspective here a bit... how do I stop seeing men from the TRP perspective? Don't internalize that. Red Pill is some major BS. Yes, okay, they have a couple of things right. Youth and fertility are turn-ons to guys. There are plenty of guys who put their needs above those of others. And yes, feminism has a lot of craziness and delusions to the point I know people who believe in equality between the sexes are jumping off the feminism bandwagon. Now we've got the concessions out of the way, let's talk turkey. You're feeling this way because that's what the Red Pill does. …	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/16 05:01 AM
1	Blue Pill, why do you rarely ever see a female doctor married to a male garbage man? Not blue pill, just felt like throwing in my two cents. Traditional gender norms, mostly. Larger, coastal, urban areas tend to be more progressive in terms of social trends for the sake of cultural cohesion, so it's probably a little more common out in New England than in, say, the midwest. Or maybe it's just because there's more people to make the statistics bigger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/16 04:26 AM
5	How much do you believe someone should alter their career path or life choices to improve their 'SMV'? You know what, I was going to rant about how military being last on this list was a hilarious difference from real life, but I'm actually going to focus on how tinder doesn't represent real life. In real life, EVERYONE knows that marine blues are possibly the number one panty-dropper in the US. If Tinder wants to have meaningless data, that's their (poor) business. Rant coming... In real life, I'm a college student in a music department where we constantly talk about how none of us are ever real…	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/16 04:18 AM
1	My story. Help/advice is appreciated. Anything and everything. How to talk to women without the red pill, how to effectively detox, anything relevant. I appreciate your taking the time to read.	/r/ExRedPill	23/02/16 07:07 PM