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I feel every word. Im same boat brother, time and distractions help. I had to move to another state get my shit together and heal. Takes 2 to mess up a marriage u cant carry all that blame, she played her part as well. Good journey brother
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 08:09 PM
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I know someday this will be me. Im 8 months in still working on myself. I know when i find out ill be upset, im sorry man really…i hope you find the one for you and give you the happiness that you deserve brother
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 05:16 AM
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Fck yea man i forgot to mention i stopped drinking. I was constantly hammered and depressed. Its horrible that these women will never know the amount of damage they cause and pain they inflict, all we got is eachother while they out there “living they best life” gtfoh then they wonder why nice guys turn bad. God speed brother happy to see you thriving
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 12:21 AM
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Hey bro, this shit hits me hard, similar situation she blew up our life when i caught her having an emotional affair and everything went down hill after that…lost everything including my job and had to relocate to GA to rehab (i also blew out my knee again) had surgery but its all for a new career path. My point is its been since november and its July and just now im starting to come to terms with it. My kids were dying for me to leave their mom for yrs and i had their blessing to go and chase a…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 06:38 PM
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Lmao. Thanks dude
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 06:09 PM
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Nah man just say its been a really long time since u been with someone if a problem arises. Dont divulge too much info dude, they can weaponize it and use that, and remember everything u say and do she will share it with her friends, so lay down the hammer. Go downtown make her finish and then ur golden, enjoy man 90% of this is mental gymnastics, have fun dude and good luck
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 03:37 PM
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Make sure you trim the hedges, smell good down there and remember this and repeat this in your head… she can be with anybody else but shes here with me, im in this bitch so enjoy it and have some fun lol.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 02:14 PM
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Buddy i was with my stbxw for about 17 been 8months since she blew us up. Its been tough as fck. But as somebody who lost everything, time and distraction help the most. As much as i heard go to the gym them fckers were right, it helps. Hang tough brother im hoping for better times ahead. Just dont be sitting around feeling bad cuz sure as shit our exes arent. Kill em with your success.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 02:31 AM
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Im with you man i had to leave to another state after almost 20yrs. Left behind 2 small kids but its for a new career and im waiting on that, been seperated since november of last yr and ill be real fck that stupid bitch, i rather be alone than a PoS liar. It gets better brother, just stay distracted but focus on yourself
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 04:46 AM
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I quit drinking got in shape moved a state away i lost everything in a manner of months, went no contact but recently shes been reaching out she saw i was in shape and hitting goals now shes considering talking and maybe in the future trying again. Guess what i dont think i want it now, she didnt want me when i had nothing now that im getting it done she wants to talk? Fck that dude, focus on you and go dark watch her crawl back. Takes time brother its been 7-8months since we separated and ive b…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 02:14 AM
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I have my moments brother. I really do. I miss her but the reality is that i have to mourn the woman i married cuz the person she was is dead to me. Time and distractions are whats gonna help. As cliche as it gonna sound go to the gym and exhaust yourself, it helps. I was never a gym person and i just joined last week. It does help
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 03:13 AM
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Closure isnt something she gives you its something you take. I had to move to another state during our separation leaving my kids behind but it’s to pursue a new career and at my age (45) it may be my last chance to do something like this, I’m staying with my brother but it’s gonna be a long time before i can go back home but I’ve accepted the reality of all this it’s taken months but I’m slowly getting better. Your kid will know how much you love her but love yourself to be selfish with yoursel…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 05:57 PM
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No more mr nice guy. The alchemist. Tuesdays with Morrie
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 03:17 AM
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She still lives with you? If she does ok i get it, but if she doesnt then why the hell not? Cmon man you got some hot chick wanting you and you’re way too into your own head here pal. Stop over thinking it and go get it! No more Mr nice guy!
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 06:42 AM
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I know maybe i shouldnt say this and may be downvoted for it but dude go bang the hot chick. Itll build confidence and your passing up an opportunity to have a good time. Same way your ex is out living her life you need to start to live yours. Shit u never know what can happen down the line…be selfish and get out there man. Be happy brother, make sure you get jimmys and strap up lol
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 02:38 AM
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Gotta keep showing up man. Thats it. Be present with them every second you are with them. Once they get older they will see it. Be patient it will all work out. Kids know who loves them
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 07:44 PM
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Brother, man im sorry but they are knocking boots. Thats terrible, id beat the pos to death but hey look ur not alone. Dont drink and get black out drunk, when i went thru it id just have a bit to take the edge off. Then i cut out the booze. Gotta go thru the pain, it’s either gonna hurt now or later but its still gonna hurt. Hang in there man it gets better. Im 6 months in still living with my pos stbxw and i feel pretty damn good. You will be ok brother
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 07:11 AM
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Youre mourning the life that couldve been brother. Its painful, im in the middle of it now. Theres good and bad days but im hoping to come out of it better for it. Not your first rodeo theres more life to live, you are not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 04:59 PM
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Id go full custody. 50/50 seems like too much for someone who clearly has severe mental illness, and have your kids around some drunk? No bro go all out and try for them kids
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 05:33 AM
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Brother same thing happened to me. I went to this POS house who she kissed and he wouldn’t come out like a coward. But in hindsight im glad he didnt im in the process of getting a job and any negative police involvement will disqualify me. Im so sorry u feel this way but u are not alone. Im going thru it its been 6months for me and i have good and bad days. Keep ur cool and stay away. Its over man, i still live with this fckn lying POS until the end of the yr. I wish i had a place to go to. Im h…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:27 PM
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She had an emotional affair and kissed another dude. That killed me. It took few months to realize i started to emotionally detach and now shes just a ghost that walks around until i leave in a few months
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 11:48 PM
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Hey bud. Kids are resilient, mines im lucky that mines support and know whats going on (13,11) their POS mom cheated and they found out while i was on a work trip and my daughter recorded a conversation between her and her sister. They do resent her but the end of the day i have to move on with the broken pieces of myself and keep going. You will be ok brother, you are not alone. Show up every day for him, be the best version of yourself for him. Show him that his dad doesnt tolerate disrespect …
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 02:07 AM
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I loved her more than anything, now…I fckn hate her. Mind you im still living with her. If i could id leave tomorrow but im waiting on the finalization of everything.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 02:22 AM
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Prettier they are the more nuts they are. Crazy pussy is the best pussy tho lol. Im 0-2 in that department. I have piss poor taste in woman, doesnt help im shallow and choose looks over personality.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 03:23 AM
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Ok here we go. I was you 20+ yrs ago. DO NOT LET THEM MEET. Huge mistake on my part, i had the same agreement and the first conversation turned into a full blown argument. It put the biggest strain in my relationship that went on years. It was a disaster. If you want your kids to meet her, its your life brother. I say introduce them in a causal setting for an hour or so. Do not let her control you. I didnt do it right the first time, i let her dictate so much i ended up blocking her when my kid …
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 01:22 AM
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I have a daughter too. My older brother has a daughter that went thru this exact scenario. She got married and my bro wanted to take his new fiance and she said no. He didnt go he was crushed. But yes if shes young of course try but if shes grown, you gotta have ppl in your corner to support you. She should be his biggest cheerleader
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 11:24 PM
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Why not just go no contact? Im at the age where if you want to be in my life and be a positive thing ok if not fck that i dont have time to be stressed out and miserable. If your daughter wants a healthy relationship, great. If shes there siding with the ex then explain that if she cant behave as expected then go kick rocks. Youre going to lose somebody thats important to you for what?
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 06:36 PM
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Thank you for this brother. Everything you wrote is the process im going through.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 02:19 AM
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Your not alone brother im 5mon in and 17yrs wasted on a lying POS. I still live there and cant wait to leave. Its so hard mourning a living person who you still care about.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 03:01 PM
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Go with a mossberg by the bed and ccw immediately
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 03:14 AM
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Time to strap up buddy!! get a restraining order ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 03:13 AM
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Hes just a boy. My son is that age. He needs to take this a lesson and know the red flags for next time. No kids is a miracle, he got off lucky. He cannot go back! He needs to strap in and stay resolute! Good luck to him!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 09:12 PM
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Holy fck man. This is just some spectacular writing first and foremost. This hit me like a piano off a building. Thank you for this. It was tough to read just because im in the exact emotional position and in the middle of it. Seriously thank you for this, good luck brother, i hope you find the one that makes you feel wanted and loved the way you deserve. Shit i hope we all do one day
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 01:05 PM
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Mines are same age, fck that i told them the POS cheater their mother is after they overhead us argue when i caught her. Im better now but brother i promise you just started and its gonna fckn suck bad for a good long while but a lot of us can say this…it does get better, allow urself to feel it, i cried for days dude. 17yrs wasted, your mourning a living person, a life you once had. If you need to talk bro hit me up, YOU ARE NOT ALONE BROTHER.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 10:54 PM
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Kick that bum to the curb. She dont get to live another life while you out here busting ass being a good father. Sorry brother, im in the same process it gets easier it does but no man, this aint right at all
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 10:28 PM
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Thank you for this. I really needed this. I’m hoping there’s light at the end of this fckn insane ride.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 09:16 PM
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In the middle of mines and i cannot wait to never have to speak to MIL ever again. I feel bad for my kids that have to deal with her…even they cant stand her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 08:49 PM
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I needed this brother. Thank you for this. I’m rooting for you brother really i am.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 05:15 PM
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Same. I avoid her as much as i can, kids are used to the nuclear fights we have, they cant stand her and i know once im settled they gonna come with me at some point, dont give up. I have to move out of state hopefully end of the yr for a new job waiting for me and its all for them. Im almost glad this happened now so i can really see the piece of garbage she is and how she has no accountability for blowing up our family. Ill let karma handle that.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 10:24 PM
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When she cheated on me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 10:12 PM
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Im here for this. Im 45 right smack in the middle of it. Same scenario as u brother, only im still living with that lying piece of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 06:18 PM
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You not alone brother. You’re hurting and the mind is stronger than you can imagine. You need time to get your head right (pun intended) then the body will follow. I got nobody, this sub is one of the few avenues i have to cope. Just try and keep busy. I’m in the middle of it myself and each day it gets a bit better mixed with some shit days. But i know we will come out ok
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 03:02 AM
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Dude you have the answer already, youre just waiting for somebody to say it out loud repeatedly. Its clear what you want to do, its obvious how bad things are looking, do not feel guilty for wanting to walk away. You got this brother, be smart and remember the scars we carry are to remind us the past was real. Dont fck it up again
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 04:17 PM
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You sir are lucky to have seen that train wreck…i wish the poor bastard that gets with my stbxw suffers the same fate to that cheating POS that she is.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 01:34 AM
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Man let that fool find out on his own!! Dont ruin the surprise!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 01:27 AM
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Im petty as fckkk, my stbxw made me a bitter asshole. Im old too man, i realized that if the woman i married took a shit on me then nobody is worth fully trusting. At this point im waiting for this divorce to end so i can get the fck out of here and one day have stories to tell. Its a game to them so just play right along, id do it just to see her expression when u walk in.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 02:37 AM
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Id go back…i see her ill be like “heyyy (name) man u missed on some good food the other day, anyway hope ur good and see ya around” that will have her spinning dude. The fact ur unfazed…watch her hit u up. Then take ur time responding back. I hope it works out man, i fckn hope you find somebody amazing
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 12:56 AM
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Im in same boat, she was the one who decided to step out the marriage and have an emotional affair. That was enough to break me and consider moving out of state. Im at a dead end job and have a new career opportunity in another state that will be financially huge for me and the kids but i have to leave them behind to pursue it. If its best for you, go get it brother…we got to make sure we are good financially to be able to remive ourselves from bad situations
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 03:25 PM
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Do a quicksale. Call a realtor asap and get it sold now. Might get a bit less but hurry.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 08:15 PM
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Im in the middle of mines. 4months in found out she was having an emotional affair. But as life is i was planning to leave the state to start a new career out of sheer anger but i suffered a severe knee injury and had to pause my plans. Im still here fckn in perpetual hell. Theres days i fckn miss her man and theres days i wanna spit in her fckn face for destroying my life and our kids. But it gets better brother, everyday i feel less and realize this was a long time coming. I hope nothing but t…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 11:11 PM
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I have to agree man. If thats your vocals dude u have a gift and with the guitar. Amazing track brother
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 10:02 PM
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Damn this song was amazing. Hits deep with how exactly im feeling right now
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 08:36 PM
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This is all i can hope for. This here
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 12:32 AM
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Need more context brother. Are u seperated? Divorced? Middle of the process?
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 12:30 AM
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Yes i am. Why i commented. I understand completely. Im currently waiting for my old job back and recovering from major knee surgery, just gotta thug it out here til dec so i can get out of dodge and start a new career hopefully. I just cant be here any longer, kids are getting older and they gave me their blessing to go.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 10:49 PM
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Itll get better in time. Slowly building myself back mentally and emotionally, and as far as shes concerned they never take accountability for what they did, she chose this, she put these events into motion, hoping karma gives us something to look forward to and bites em in the ass soon for what they do.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 10:38 PM
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Youre in FL? So am i. In Miami im planning to move to GA to join academy myself for PD i cant be here with this lying cunt any longer, i feel for u man i do. Im sorry thisnis happening to you an i hope nothing but the best for u an the kids, the kids will know the truth one day. I promise you that.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 07:28 PM
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Wait how could you lose your job if you did nothing wrong? Where is the evidence? You were in academy? Thats bs man thats not right. This shit pisses me off, they make shit up, ruin lives and get away scott free…good luck man im rooting for you brother
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 06:11 PM
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If there was no infidelity on her part and its just lacking in certain areas, then give it one last shot. If my wife didnt have her emotional affair and she truly wanted to make it work id be all over that chance. if you feel theres a shot then take it and if it doesnt work out then you gave it a shot and you conscious is clear you gave it all you had. Be happy dude, be selfish, if you arent getting the love and intimacy you need then you need to let go, we all deserve to be wanted and satisfied…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 04:36 PM
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Damn good advice.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 04:29 PM
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Thanks man ima take you up on that offer
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 04:16 PM
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I lost my job last month. Required a surgery that i needed to get to clear medically for that job thats waiting for me in the next state. Im lickybi called my old boss for my old job with a huge paycut but itll get me thru the next 9months. Im here with you broken emotionally and physically. I hop nothing but the best for you. If you want a friend to lean on just drop me a line brother. Good luck and we WILL get thru this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 06:55 PM
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In 45, lost 17yrs over this bitch. It does get easier, i still live with her and can’t leave until December! Imagine the misery im in. But I’ve lost weight, & quit drinking heavily. Focusing on me now and the best revenge is to be the best version of yourself bruv. We got kids that need us, don’t let em down and be the hero they know you are
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 04:54 AM
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This gives me hope brother. Seriously am rooting for you to get everything that makes you happy and somebody who appreciates you. We all here to grow from this shit. This place had given me strength and reading this just keeps helping. Thanks and good luck brother!
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 02:15 AM
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Hang in there brother! You got this!
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 02:17 PM
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Brother wish i could buy you a beer. Wow im a few months in, still living here but sane roller coaster of emotions. Im sorry this happened, shit I’m sorry for all of us who really tried to save our marriages. But this is great input and advice. 3&4 we’re on the mark. Thank you for this and i hope we ask get thru this nightmare for the better! Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 01:55 PM
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How are you holding up? This is exactly what im going thru and done the begging to keep our family together. But ultimately i realized how pathetic i must have sounded. I’ve come to accept the circumstances but like OP she made me feel like it was all me. Im 45 and have until Dec to leave the state, leave the kids behind so i can rebuild and start a new career. Im terrified but i got kids green light to go and they will follow down the line hopefully
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 01:41 PM
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God lord this is great advice. I needed it more than OP
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 01:36 PM
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This is the realest thing brother. They think in their mind its our fault somehow. Im sorry that ur shit character makes u think being a cunt is my fault lol unreal!
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 08:50 PM
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Kids are resilient. Ive had multiple talks with my younger kids (13 and 12). Be honest, ask them how he feels afterwards. That he is the main priority to you and yall will have happier times together. But its gonna be ok and both yall love him, and the 2 xmas and double bdays they end up ok just as long as you show up for him.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 08:23 PM
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Damn dude i wish i could buy you a beer. This hit me in the gut. Im going thru it (same issues) but few months from being able to leave. Great advice brother! I hope you are doing fckn fantastic
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 01:28 AM
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Came here for this, if she blurted this out shes been thinking about it for a while. Possibly already checked out emotionally/mentally. If you can speak to a lawyer get some advice for your specific situation. Good luck brother, i hope for you to be happy and find somebody who appreciates you
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 11:36 PM
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This place is for men. Sorry about how you feel but this place is for us.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 03:47 AM
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That was just what i needed. thanks brother
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 12:01 AM
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She had an affair blamed me for being distant and quiet, not liking her family, not being home (travelled for work) enough. Complained about work. Kids are always against her because of me, i brainwashed them into hating her. I mean cmon already theres no accountability on her part. Im stuck here till December and its gonna be a grueling 9months
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 09:34 PM
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Man erase all that shit brother. No need to see that stuff ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 08:03 PM
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If you getting some action we all gotta pay for it at some point or another. Im old school though so im the type to pay. But i better be getting paid back jn other ways lol
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 10:14 PM
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Im gonna move in the next few months. May come back once i get the career settled but unlikely. My kids gave me their blessings, they know why im leaving.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 04:15 PM
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Pain into strength!
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 11:55 PM
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Damn i just got told that 10min ago. I got a ways to go before i can leave this cesspool. I just feel so bad for my kids having to deal with this monster
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 08:30 PM
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You are not alone brother. You need to dump this off your soul. We hear you man. Im going thru these exact same emotions, a lot of us are, some have moved forward. Boys will know who loves them i promise you that. Hang in there and stay resolute!
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 01:03 AM
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Good luck brother, you are not alone. Same exact situation here.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 04:50 PM
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I got 9months before i move away to another state. I got my kids blessing to go, new career and they made it clear that they want to be with me once i get settled. But i got to do this for me and for them to be able to provide for them. I cant do that where im at now. So do you have to do, they will understand why. Be clear and honest as to why you have to go and once they get older they can make the choice of going to be with you on a permanent basis
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 04:44 PM
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No bro. My stbxw went thru that hoe phase, started with a work cruise. Dont do it bro
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 10:12 PM
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If you need to talk just shoot me a DM im going thru same thing. Its hard, good luck my brother
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 03:08 AM
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Dude. You’re young its gonna be ok man, time will heal you. Most of us are in a bad place, a lot of us have seen the light and are happier this happened. But you need to stop with that negative talk seriously. I been there man and its no good. Everything you mentioned is in your head, you have become your own worst enemy. The dick dont work? Theres a pill for that, but i bet its mental along with everything else. Its gonna get better
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:13 PM
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Fck yea man. Be selfish, while shes there enjoying herself, you do the same brother YOU deserve it! We out here suffering for a life we lost and they act like its another day. Fck that go do whatever the hell makes you happy! Good for you man. Hope this is the start of you feeling better every damn day!
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 03:09 AM
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We out here busting our ass for what? For them to go thru that hoe phase? Fckn pathetic, but remember that reflects their character not yours. We gonna be alright in the end brother believe me. Karma is a bitch
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 02:30 AM
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Hang in there itll be over soon. You will wake up and that shit show wont be there no more. Let her be the “good mom” kids will see right thru that shit. Kids know who loves em and who tries to buy them. Im in the same exact boat brother. Exact scenario. Im with u man
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 01:57 AM
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I just got a softopper for the bed of my truck in a pinch i can use it to sleep if needed. Better than being in this shit hole. Im in the same boat
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 12:41 AM
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Lots of things i missed in hindsight too. Kids know who loves them, we do what we can brother for our kids. My oldest is in college he’s 23 and he still remembers the stories i used to tell him. So it matters to them im hoping the young ones remember later on
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 03:49 AM
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Helps that i wanted to be a writer when i was young lol. Heres a cheat code, use a movie or book you like and just change the names of the characters and pretend its your own original story. In a pinch comes in handy. My kids are grown enough where story time is gone but i gave em the memories and thats the point. Its not the story itself its us being there and them hearing our voices and have them fall asleep. Some of my stories were shit but if you do the funny voices u can hear em giggle and …
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 01:54 AM
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I never used books for my bedtime stories, i always made em up on the fly, id ask them what type of story they wanted, space, magic castles, haunted forest type stories and i just made em up as i went along and didnt have to worry about books or anything else
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 01:37 AM
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Id do that myself its no crime to call someone a cunt
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 08:36 PM
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Im proud of you brother. I hope one day i can be where you are. A lot of us are in the thick of it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 03:05 PM
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Lmao 31??? Cmon man your not even in your prime yet!! You got this dude!! I’m 45 and feels like I’m a walking mid life crisis. Be patient wear a jimmy please
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 04:26 AM
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Lol i just lost my job tore my acl and cant help but shrug my shoulders and keep on going. Im still living with the bitch so this is just the worst. But i know things will get better
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 10:41 PM
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Fck hell man i found out a similar way. Shit is crushing. Im sorry man i hate to see that this is something thats so common as of late. Stay strong brother you are not alone
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 12:37 AM
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Truer words cannot be said.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 02:55 AM
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Exact same situation damn. Im sorry man really i am i know exactly how you feel brother
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 02:28 PM
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Look brother. We all have our opinions. Im battling with mines. But that lack of hygiene needs to be corrected. Thats gross. But just sit her ass down and slam your hand on the tabke and lay down the law. Ultimatum…either fckn change or you walk. Why waste the best yrs of your life miserable and a slave? Nah brother u deserve the best, we all do
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 01:33 AM
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My thoughts exactly but guess what, she will let that shit pile up and he has to do it anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 12:51 AM
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Well maybe for the kid? Its grandma
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 09:40 PM
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I’m sorry dude really i am. Maybe this will the time to reconnect with mom
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 09:19 PM
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Got one at 33…im 45 fck that im done with kids i got 23,13,12 im finished with that lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 05:53 PM
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Allow me to be blunt… fckkkkk that! Thats what she signed up for, if it was reversed you think she would be willing to pay it? Nah. Not a chance. Let her pay it why should you? You already allowed her to keep $500 a month thats doing her a favor
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 02:15 AM
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Im right in the middle of this too brother. No sleep lost a ton of weight, shit comes in waves im mid 40s and my whole life feels like its falling apart. But we gotta keep going for them kids. The world doesnt stop for us and nobody cares this is the only refuge i have… is yall to get me by. Im hoping things get better for all of us that are suffering
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 05:09 PM
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Im sorry man that has to suck.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 12:39 AM
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God speed brother i hope to be where you are one day
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 07:55 PM
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So fckn lucky you dont have kids brother. Im fcked with my stbxw im literally having to move to another state to start a new career at 45. Im crushed as well man but i got to try an do more so when my kids are a bit older they can move with me. Its a shit show here, you got off lucky brother
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 02:20 AM
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Damn bro i needed to see this. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 09:29 PM
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Its like you gonna sit in a pit of snakes! Its all her family side, imagine how she painted you to be. Nah man fck that. I did it the first yr, never again. I blocked her 12 yrs ago my son is 23 and we have the best relationship. Im not losing my peace of mind for anyone ever again
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 08:50 PM
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Dude really? Dont fckn go! Just tell ur son, hey i got something special planned next time i see you. Thats your moms party, we gonna have our own at my house. I never went to my kids bday parties with my ex. I celebrated everything on my own
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 06:01 PM
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Its like i wrote this. Holy fck man same exact shit happened to me couple months ago. Im in the process of leaving the state for another job and she can go fck herself man you dont need her, she crossed a line and you will never be able to be at peace now with her that doubt will always be there. YOU deserve better.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 05:51 PM
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Takes a lot for someone to admit they fcked up. I think as men and we get older we realize that theres trauma that never was dealt with, cuz boys dont cry, boys dont show their feelings…we feel everything. But we hide it. This right here is what a man does and owns up to what he did. I really fckn hope that it works out for you man. Remember that when things seem like they are falling apart..thats when things are coming together. Hang in there bud. I hope she finds this and reads this. I hope fo…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 03:36 AM
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We all here to support you man!! You got this! Good luck my brother! Godspeed
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 12:25 AM
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If it wasnt ordered by the court i didnt give her a dime. I was doing the exact same shit as you. I had him same amount of time, she took me to court and she got half of what i was giving out the kindness of my heart. Fck that bitch, when she asked why i ended our insurance for cars and the extra shit i was paying for, i simply told her im paying what the court ordered and she is on her own. If she cant take care of my kid, then i will, but she never got a red cent extra again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 09:28 PM
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Man fck that dont respond. She wants to say “happy” new yr? Pfft dont break and respond, let the silence be her answer.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:40 PM
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Itll be ok brother i think most of us have been there. I know i was there, the pain is too fckn much cant sleep or eat or even think. But time brother thats all thats gonna fix it, as cliche as it sounds its time. Allow yourself to feel it, scars remind us the past is real. This is just a scar, you will see past the darkness, it cant rain all the time, sun will come out eventually. Who knows down the road you will meet your soulmate, but you cant do that if you quit on urself. We all got ur back…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:02 PM
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Hey kiddo, let me say that dad is hurting and it seems in a bad way. We all hurt going thru this especially when we get replaced by some new guy when we were there the whole time making it work for our family to be replaced is fckn hard on a man. I know hes being kinda of a dick but you need to explain to him exactly what u wrote on here. Hes hurt and he should be glad his lil girl still wants to hang out. I hope my daughter grows up and still wants to hang out with her ild man. Dont give up on …
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 04:36 AM
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Damn brother im sorry to read this. But its always darkest before the dawn. If this is bottom then theres nowhere to go but up. Dont give up man please. Fight the good fight. The girls will know how hard their father fought for them. I know its hard and theres days where that darkness sets in deep. I come here everyday to try and do my part for our fellow man and be there when nobody hears us screaming in silence. If u need to talk feel free brother to hit me up, we all here to help us get up wh…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 04:26 AM
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Im sorry brother. It must gut wrenching but let me try an put this nicely, its your home. You make the rules. If she wants to hang out then she needs to do it somewhere else. Its already hard that shes seeing someone, gotta set boundaries here and either send her packing or it needs to stop. Good luck man i hope it gets better for you, we all in this fight everyday
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 02:06 AM
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Dont know you man. But im reading the comments. Im in the middle of it and im fckn lost within myself. Ive been thru fckn hell the last few weeks. This sub has kept me alive and this post is something that we all need and i thank you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 02:58 AM
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Gives me hope reading this post. Im struggling to cope right now waiting for the other shoe to drop, in a similar situation and im just trying to not lose my fckn mind. Suffering in silence
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 06:44 AM
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Holy shit this is insane, this is exactly how it is. Verbatim of my life
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 05:14 PM
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Damn i needed to see this.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:31 PM
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Least from what you said you don’t have kids. That is huge believe me, you’re better off than most of us
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 05:38 AM
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Yall still together? Cuz im on the verge of calling it quits, ive tried and tried an she wont budge on trying to save this. 16yrs down the fckn drain
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:49 AM
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How the hell do you do it. Same boat and im fckn dying inside brother. I cant think eat or sleep. Ive been in a fog for so long and being mid 40s im terrified as to what lies ahead
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 03:13 PM
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Lets say this…if i had 2 bullets, with Hitler and that bitch…id shoot her twice
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 01:34 AM
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Preach brother
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 04:11 PM
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I dont even have friends. Just my kids and stbxw were all that mattered. Now its like wtf do i do now sigh.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 02:55 AM
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Man i cant imagine meeting someone after 16yrs. I mean back to zero? Shit terrifies me tbh. Im 44 and couple kids. How do you even meet women without an app? I dont know the first thing about dating apps. Not looking forward to that at all
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 09:48 PM
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You are super young man. You will be just fine, just takes time thats the only thing that makes it better. Im 44 losing it all, trust me it can be worse, you still have time on your side son.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 07:47 PM
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Thanks fellas im struggling im trying to stop but in the exact same spot as OP and im having a hard time as of late.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 07:59 PM
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How do yall keep from drinking? Im sitting at my desk with severe anxiety and all i want is my vodka and to feel at ease for a bit. This is fckn rough fellas
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 06:40 PM
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Dude ffs please at least get a dna test. If you want to stay and work it out thats ok. Your life, buttt kid might have a chance of not being yours id take the test at least. Good luck brother
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 06:42 AM
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This is terrible and in sorry dude. Im going thru something similar myself. Been together for 16yrs and im battling myself to either go or stay, we got 2 kids a home and all that. Im torn in what move to make as well. I hope we find a solution. Fckn women bro.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 01:57 AM
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Wow. Thanks for sharing i needed to read this today
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 02:39 PM
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I was in my early 20s when i had my first so i didnt own shit, nothing to split never got hitched so that saved me to a degree but i sure as shit paid CS for 18yrs. The system is rigged for us to lose. We never get a fair shot. Itll be ok brother, theres no price in peace of mind, and in the end you will have that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 02:00 PM
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I told my oldest son (22) never get married and try hard to avoid having kids. Its brutal out there for us older guys i cant imagine the world now being that young.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 06:54 AM
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I was 32 when i got it lol. Fckn lucky bastard
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 03:14 AM
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Had one with the worst fckn bitch…and then my dumbass had 2 more with my current wife. I love em all to death but hells fck no!! Shouldve had it done at 18 and avoided kids all together.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 02:46 AM
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I can tell you right now thats what caused the issue. She got in your head dude. If you got no issues handling yourself then youre good. But damn she needs to learn to stfu. Maybe you should compare your last partner as Niagara falls and came 10x back to back. Give her a damn complex lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 05:00 PM
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Dude you sound defeated. Get yo ass up an fight for them kids. Why you laying down? Get a lawyer and fight back we got rights and you can see your kids and split money and the house. Man up dawg cmon
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 01:13 AM
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Damn lucky you didnt have kids. You will be laughing soon enough.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 10:57 PM
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Good for you man. This makes me happy and good luck to you!!
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 05:21 PM
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Im sorry for all this. And im even more sorry for mentioning this, but you really believe her story of SA? I mean straight to the shower? Doesnt bring up at all until therapy? Women are conniving spiteful creatures its possible that she had an affair and now pulls the victim card? Then says nothing as u still have relations. No brother, best thing to happen is this. Thats blatant disregard for your health and trust.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 12:42 AM
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I can guarantee that someday…later rather than sooner, you will wake up and it wont hurt anymore. It WILL get better. Its fresh, allow yourself to feel it, ugly cry in the shower, but you keep a brave face for them kids. Before you know it you will be laughing and wondering how tf you managed to live that life. Itll happen but as cliche as it sounds…it takes time. Its Gonna be ok dude.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 02:31 AM
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I stopped paying child support soon as my son was 18. Call the child support number confirm your end date. You need to get on this before it gets worse. If you have 50/50 you never shouldve been paying her anything to begin with. Soon as the oldest moved in i wouldve asked for an adjustment.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 06:08 PM
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This makes me happy to read. Good for you man.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 04:20 PM
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Thanks brother! Much appreciated
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 11:17 PM
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Hey man that what we all here for. Some of us are just going thru it, some have been there and seen some shit lol. I love this sub, theres not enough love for a mans mental health. We all in this together
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 11:17 PM
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Gets easier. Thats what everybody says lol but it does. It creates a bond that becomes unbreakable. 22 yrs ago this happened to me, now me an my oldest kid are rock solid tight. Have everything in common (never pushed on my hobbies), as much as it sucks now it gets better. She wont forget all the time and effort you put in trust me. Just keep it consistent.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 02:41 PM
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Update me 2 days
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 04:37 AM
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It’s all in your head sometimes (no pun intended) seriously just dont dwell on it. Remember she can be with anyone she wants but she wants to be with you. Be flattered bro, have fun, our mind can be our worst enemy so enjoy this. Take some yojimbe bark, some ashagwanda, and some horny goat weed as natural supplements to get that libido going. Avoid that pill crap its no good for you. Dont think just do. Oh and slap a jimmy on last thing u need is the clap.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 04:37 AM
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ill be there someday soon brother. may i ask how old are you OP? cuz im getting up there in age myself and honestly i dont think i can do another rodeo. just dont have it in me to start over after almost 20 yrs
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 08:19 PM
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Whats he gonna do? Ive been there. She decides to get knocked up her prob, u think he has a chance to get full custody? Pffft courts never side with us. Get real. All he has to do is make sure the kids are good and happy theres not much else dude
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 08:04 PM
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Be glad thats not your problem. Thats not your problem anymore brother if you have kids with her then they are all that matter
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 07:00 PM
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Lord Huron..fck man, he gets me thru the tough days. Seeing it thru your lens that must be tough for that im sorry. Im not there yet but i feel one day soon ill be there. Alone and trying to figure out life with 2 kids. Sigh hang in there man, i dealt with this in my early 20s with a kid in tow..it works out, but being in relationships has made me realize i have terrible taste in women. I think after this one is done i may fly solo for the remainder of this thing called life.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 03:38 PM
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Im in the same boat last 5-6yrs have been a nightmare. Its constant arguing, i deal with it cuz i have 2 kids 12-11yrs old. Ive been holding on as long as i can. But lately its been so damn hard, im miserable, i drink a lot to cope with my depression im counting the days for when they get a bit older where they can somewhat deal with it better, but theres times where ive almost left and they have balled their eyes out. I cant just walk away from them. But my physical and mental health is at its …
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 02:20 PM
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First take a breath. Next if you feel in your gut that shes up to no good, then most likely she is, that sucks im sorry about that. Something is wrong here, but dont let anger cloud your judgement, maybe consider a consult with a lawyer? im in a similar situation in regard to my kids, and i dont want to leave them behind. But my mental health is gone as well so i get it. Best thing i can say is be selfish, take care of you and yours cuz any moment that spin class asshole can ruin it and your lef…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 02:48 PM
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When my son got his phone at 12yrs old . I blocked all communication. If he needed to be picked up hed text/call me. I paid CS support for 18yrs…i decided then im to paying to not hear or deal with her shit. That was over 10yrs ago and shes still a cunt from what my son tells me here and there. They never change brother. Ever
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 02:10 PM
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This poor sap is getting fleeced. Lawyer up bud, a lot can change real quick!
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 10:06 PM
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Fck that stupid cu@t. Been 10 yrs on block. Havent spoken or heard of her in that span. Me an my son made it out, not unscathed but we made it, hes 22 now and doing fantastic
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 04:09 PM
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Dude im 20 yrs ahead of you. Theres nothing you can do. Alimony and CS will be in your future unless you can prove she was unfaithful. We have no rights as fathers. I got screwed for 18yrs on CS i got lucky in the end that my son hates his mom. Thats the only win i got. Good luck man i mean it and lawyer up
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 11:55 PM
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Man i wouldn’t do it, if you do expect her to snatch the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 06:34 PM
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Feels like i wrote and didnt remember to post it. Scary how similar this is. Im just here for the kids man. Shit is perpetual hell everyday. Good luck in the future brother
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 01:00 AM
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Got your whole life ahead of you. You will be fine, money comes and goes. All wounds heal in time brother
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:49 AM
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Id record it and send it to her. Just cuz im petty like that lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 07:52 PM
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WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN, YOU ALWAYS HAVE FAMILY. THEY WILL ALWAYS BE YOUR PRIORITY, YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. AND A MAN, A MAN PROVIDES. AND HE DOES IT EVEN WHEN HE'S NOT APPRECIATED OR RESPECTED OR EVEN LOVED. HE SIMPLY BEARS UP AND HE DOES IT. BECAUSE HE'S A MAN… this quote gets me thru it. Everyday is perpetual hell. My kids need me and I’ll endure it for them as long as i can.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 03:57 AM
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Bravo sir!! Impressive
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 01:53 AM
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Bravo Benji…damn good advice
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 04:01 PM
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I’m in Miami born an raised, this place is a cesspool depending where you go. Consult a lawyer i doubt she can move with the kids unless you ok it. I believe here in FL you have to consent to that. My advice make it work man.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 04:15 AM
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Takes time brother. Thats all it takes, one day you will wake up and it wont be there anymore. The grief the resentment all those negative emotions keeping you up. I can promise you that. Kids will grow up and realize whos who. Kids cant be bought they know who loves them. Keep at it devil dog
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 12:46 AM
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Dropping gems on these cats
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 12:41 AM
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Everything gets better that i can promise, pain goes away just takes time. One day you will wake up an not feel this way, when i was going thru it, i didnt cut my hair or shave for months. I allowed myself to grieve for 6 months. Then boom one day i woke up and it didnt hurt anymore. Remember that nothing ever stays the same. Good or bad everything changes and nothing lasts forever brother.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 04:19 AM
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Thanks bro
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 03:41 AM
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Cuz im fckn stupid. First one we didnt get hitched, but she ruined me mentally and payed child support for 18yrs. Then my dumb ass got married in my early 30s, here i am on my bday drinking my ass off to hide the fckn misery from my younger kids pretending its all good.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 01:01 AM
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I was there brother in my early 20s i got taken advantage of bad. I still got taken to court still paid CS for 18 years. Soon as they seeing you doing good shes gonna come and ruin that for you by any means. Nobody wants to see your ex doing better than them. Im telling you man cut her off and if the kids names dont comeup, hang up. Best believe she will use the kids as a reason to call, be smart bro. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 02:33 PM
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Dude wtf is wrong with you man? Stop thinking with your fckn dick and use some goddamn common sense. You sound like a bitch, sorry to come off like this but man has some damn dignity. Ive been there man so i can absolutely say this to you. You have to cut all ties, if it aint about the kids then its no contact. Its over, move on cuz she is using you and playing with you like some puppet…and she knows it! You know it too but here u are on reddit like some punk kid with his tail between his legs. …
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 11:54 PM
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50/50 here in FL you dont gotta pay nothing. Sounds like your lawyer is messing around
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 10:21 PM
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Dont go. You dont owe her nothing, she walked out if your life. Pointless
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 02:01 PM
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This is fckn great.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 05:30 PM
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I went through a really bad bout of severe depression last yr in may, marriage was on the rocks, super stressed out. I developed a drinking habit thats still a prob today. Im 44 and yea man i thought i had ED at one point. Went to the doc same story all good no issues. I did the exact thing you did, no xxx no nothing and still had trouble. Finally realized that it was all mental and the depression was kicking my ass. Tbh i had to stop caring, i stopped giving a fck and everything was back to nor…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 04:05 PM
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Dude. Bravo…well fckn said. Read the first comment and being able to relate to that its tough, its safe to say im right in the middle of what you described and im scared of the outcome, ive experienced failure with the mother of my first son, i was young made a ton of mistakes a 20yr old kid makes. Now being in my mid 40s with two small ones 10/11 its been an honor and privilege to wake up to them everyday. Im doing everything i can to keep us all together, keep my family, its exhausting. I feel…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 10:18 PM
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I too came here for that triple income line. How many kilos do i need to start with?
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 01:43 AM
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Trump is an excuse shes using. He isnt the problem theres something else shes not saying.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 06:18 PM
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As cliche as it sounds bro, its time, time is whats gonna make u feel better. Once you accept the loss it does get better. Youre grieving the loss of your marriage thats normal its similar to grieving a death of a loved one. Detach, let it go and be there for the kids. She will realize later on how she fcked up. I remember like it was yest, soon as i was happy and met my current wife she came back begging for a second chance. Guess what…time fixed me and i said no way..best thing to realize that…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 04:05 PM
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Definition of cant put a price on peace of mind
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 06:54 PM
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My current wife been with her for 15 yrs, we both had kids when we met, we both know our first kids always were first. Then we had 2 kids together and my oldest lives in NO in college, but she loves him like her own. She needs to understand they are a part of you, packaged deal brother. She knew this going in no reason to be so selfish. But then again women are spiteful controlling people so good luck man.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 07:49 PM
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Brother its time for a vasectomy. Stop making kids man, sucks but kids come first. GF is being unreasonable kids need thier dad too
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 07:16 PM
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