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THEORYrp_lili/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 10:12 AM
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rp_lili/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 02:14 PM
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rp_lili/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 07:36 AM
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Yes I know I have a problem with this, maybe I shouldn't have posted the example since I wanted to discuss pride. The example was for me a time where I felt I hurt his pride a bit by not being supportive. I did reflect about what you said and yes I know my faults and I am working on them. I hope you feel better yourself by shutting me and my post down, have a nice day
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 09:04 AM
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Why are you being nasty about this ? I put myself and my mistakes out there to spark a discussion and I feel like you want to shut it down
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 08:15 AM
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It may be "easy peasy" for you but it's not for me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 07:57 AM
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Seconded
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/19 09:19 AM
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There is a rule of thumb concerning age gaps, it's your age/2+7. So this guy is 29, 29/2+7 = 21.5 which means 21.5 is the lowest age "appropriate". I know this sounds silly but it's actually a pretty good rule. As of the why, the most common reason is because very often those kind of guys are somewhat predatory and seek immature and naive girls. These girls tolerate their behavior better. For example here, the OP is questioning if it's her fault that he cheated on her.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 07:32 AM
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I'm also trying a new recipe every week :) This week recipe It will be my first time doing polenta edit : depends on the man I guess ?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 07:27 AM
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People have a hard time understanding online dating but nevertheless, your feelings are still valid. Yes you were betrayed but you know what ? You also learned a valuable life lesson. Don't give your trust easily, especially to a 29yo seeking a relationship with a 19yo (that's a red flag). I keep thinking about my faults that might’ve caused it. There were times when I would tease him about some of his interests and it came off as very demeaning and rude Don't do this to yourself. How can it be …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 07:24 AM
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Meditation definitely helps. I have the same issue as you OP and I'm trying to work on it. I found a phrase that I think could be useful to keep in mind before talking (I think they attribute it to Buddha) : The mouth should have three gatekeepers : - is it true ? - is it kind ? - is it necessary ? I reflected a little bit about the "is it necessary" because probably 50% if not more of what I say is not "necessary" and maybe that's the problem. Especially with my boyfriend, sometimes I want to h…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 08:54 AM
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That's a great idea, thanks !
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 08:45 AM
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You specifically said "I don't understand how..." then you went on to make a bunch of hurtful assumptions about my relationship and I'm doing the same with you now
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 03:40 PM
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Tell us more about how you and your relationship are better than everyone else
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 03:32 PM
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Thanks, this is what I needed 🙏
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 03:25 PM
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Did I accidentally post on r/relationships ?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 03:22 PM
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Yeah I'm not expecting that he cancels, and I'm not sure he will plan anything special (he's not a good planner at all) but at least I wanted to let him know how hurt I am over this. Not sure if it's a good idea or not
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 02:35 PM
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Oops sorry for the late reply : check this website loveisrespect.org
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 06:13 AM
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Ok so I think the first and most important thing is to know the abusive signs so you can filter the good ones from the bad ones. Then you'll have the most difficult task : determine if there's compatibility. I think it's inevitable to "waste" a little bit of time because the honeymoon period can make vetting extra hard. But if you're past a few dates I think you should already have checked deal-breakers and find out if your life goals align. I personnaly made a list, it has 3 columns : dealbreak…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 02:59 PM
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My post is not an historical essay nor an attempt to make us look like victims. My goal is to emphasize the importance of the process we call vetting in this sub. And I was talking about mediterranean rural culture not trying to make up an universality about women. I have always find it odd that feminism seems to suppress the stories of women in more independent or equity settings so they can push the victim narrative. I think this erasure started with Gerda Lerner's the creation of patriarchy, …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 03:04 PM
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cook healthy meals and eat lots of veggies meditate everyday journal (organize ideas/goals/objectives) be frugal
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 10:16 AM
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Oh and I agree completely, my man is high value in my eyes. But when we throw the term "high value men", followed by those kind of guidelines "high value men want a younger partner, high value men this and that" it can be confusing. I love RPW, don't get me wrong, I just think some of the things we say can be dangerous for young gullible women.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 05:27 PM
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I have seen some negative comments about RPW, stating that we were a bunch of women trying to manipulate men into marriage. When I see your comment I understand a little better why. I know we aren't like that, but if the only reason you're dating someone is because he's a perfect RP-guidelines man and leave nothing to physical attraction, I'm not sure you're going to be in a happy relationship. I think that we can't have it all, and it should be up to us to identify and seek someone who aligns t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 04:59 PM
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I don't know if it's your english influence because I also find it sounds funny. I only saw it on CVs and never heard someone actually say it. I had to google search the first time I saw it ahah
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 03:37 PM
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Yes, I found the article insightful because it showed that difference in ages between men's interest in marriage/relationship and flings/sexual fantasies. Yours is interesting, I agree with it (my SO is a year older than me), being of the same "generation" is important to me. I think it could be dangerous to tell younger girls to aim for a relationship with older men. We should (as we do) talk extensively about vetting and recognizing red flags. Age is a somewhat good indicator but there are bet…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 03:27 PM
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There is a general rule that is : never date anyone under half your age plus seven. I think this rule works pretty well (even though it's just a guideline, not something you should follow religiously of course). Generally speaking, age gaps are red flags when there is some kind of power play in the couple. I think you should be looking out for other red flags (controlling and abusive behavior) and if they exist in addition to a large age gap, vet hard and don't let yourself be taken advantage of…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 02:36 PM
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Ahah I agree, even in french it sounds a bit weird. I never heard someone say it but I have seen a bunch of french people putting it on their CV, instead of single/married they put "en concubinage"
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 10:54 AM
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I think making him dinner is the right move. When I was "dating" my SO, after a month or so I made him a delicious dinner and from that night on he invited me to meet all of his friends and introduced me as "his girlfriend" to them. edit : make sure you make him a delicious meal you already know how to do, if you have a "specialty" use that, don't try to impress him with a 5-course dinner with all recipes you found recently (unless that's your specialty :p)
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 10:51 AM
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That's beautiful :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 08:14 AM
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In portuguese, wife and woman is the same word (mulher), it's funny because it's not the same for men, homem = man and marido = husband. That's why it always feels weird when people say (even in other languages) "my woman/my man", I mean, for me it has a huge connotation that they are married (and in most cases they aren't)
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 04:22 PM
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I like your style :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 09:14 AM
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I love this thread : https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/5pt40s/the_five_faces_of_the_perfect_wife/
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 09:11 AM
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There is a word in french, it's "concubinage" and you would call your SO my "concubin" or "concubine" :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 09:07 AM
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Omg that's so clever ! I also do chicken stir-fry very often and I have my homemade chicken broth but somehow never thought of using it to cook the rice ! I'll definitely try this week :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 04:20 PM
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Yeah I know but my Sunday meal prep was making a soup and a quiche :P But I do plan on making a killer chicken stir-fry on Wednesday
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 04:06 PM
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Everything sounds so yummy ! Can I come live at yours for the week ? Ahaha
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 03:24 PM
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Way to go extrapoling RPW theories and coming into our own home to insult us... Too much TRP (or anything else for that matter) is bad for your mental health
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 02:36 PM
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Do all the prep before 4pm. For example if you're doing a chicken stir-fry, cut everything and put the ingredients at hand. When you get home, just toss them in the wok and you're good ! You can even take this to a whole other level if you have a vaccum machine.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 04:17 PM
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Ugh she sounds like a piece of work ! Follow /u/Zegiknie's advice and get back to us if you want, we often say "you can't change other people, only yourself" so make use of the fact that he is indeed a good husband and wants to help you, and let him find the best way to do it !
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:44 PM
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I just feel like by doing that you're acting like his mother since you're trying to find a way to "make him do something". AND you're trying to "make it fun" nonetheless... If he doesn't want to take charge, he doesn't fix things, and you bear the responsibility of "making ends meets" by your post, what does he bring to the table besides storing things properly ? And what does his actual communist/feminist mother thinks of him not pulling his weight in the chores department ?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 11:25 AM
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Ah sorry I didn't mean guidelines as in "your post breaks the rules", I meant theory. (English is not my first language) I wanted to link you a post but I can't seem to find it, basically it's "bring your captain your problem, not your solution". If you want to embrace RP philosophy in your relationship, you're going to have to decide if you want to follow your husband's lead. In your case that would mean, not nagging and not feeling like he has the obligation to clean up. If you vetted well and…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 11:14 AM
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Don't act like his mother and if you aren't familiar with RPW guidelines, do some reading first.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 11:02 AM
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Everyone will give you different advice because that's what works for them. In order to achieve your goals, you'll have to do some trial runs and see what works for you. The hard part is to find a balance between everything you want to do and the time/energy you're able to give to it. You already know what you like (and if you don't try some personality tests online or do a little introspection), try and search for routines that are aligned with you and your values.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 10:31 AM
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I agree. Vetting is not about making someone fill up a form, observing is much more effective imo. My bf's friends did a pretty good job at "selling" him to me, and very early on I heard him talk to his grandma on the phone on his birthday, he was so sweet ! Fast forward and I admire how loyal he is to his friends (and how they look up to him), how protective and sweet he is with his family and our values align very well ! It's the classic actions speak louder than words.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 10:19 AM
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make pretty journal pages - budgeting go take pictures finish reading the book I've started (A Wild Sheep Chase) - do a wild date night saturday
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 05:02 PM
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Dump -> nun mode -> vet better next time (feel free to ask for clarification if needed)
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 10:41 AM
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Yeah you're obviously better than everyone and have all the shit figured out
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 10:36 AM
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It appears to me you're applying your own bias to what you're reading on this forum. Most women here have goals and are doing everything they can to achieve those goals. Those goals differ by a lot but we all have in common that we want to be the best version of ourserves, first for us and then for our men. If you'd like to call "hacking" the fact of keeping our men happy with what we know will work (food, sex, and no nagging basically) then call it however you want, just don't try to bring peop…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 10:29 AM
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but almost like they’re trying to find the cheat code to finding a higher value man who brings a lot to the table, financially or socially while bringing as little as possible simultaneously with marriage being the endgame. Where did you observe that ? It's a very narrow-minded view of this forum. There's a lot of different kinds of women here but I don't think any of them wants to do "as little as possible". Rather, we want to do what makes us happy and that starts by "swallowing the pill" that…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 09:05 AM
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I just wanted to tell you that you seem lovely :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 02:58 PM
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Darwin award worthy!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 02:23 PM
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Ok now you're throwing xkcd at me, your coolness never ends :P (Love that one, it's exactly what I mean ahah)
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 02:21 PM
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Don't have sex on a horse, you'll break something. I'm dying ahahahah
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 02:11 PM
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The best thing about being a grown up is that you can do whatever you want (as long as you face the consequences). The other day I bought face masks and my boyfriend asked me if he could do one with me next time. I love how he isn't insecure or ashamed to do "girly" things since he has no reason to be. And girl, no one's ever too mature for silly eye masks (or anything else that you mentioned btw) !
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 02:00 PM
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Praise !
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 07:46 PM
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I hope that having weird thoughts doesn't make us weird but if it does, it would make two of us :p
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 07:40 PM
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I think we could talk about herbs and its digressions for a long while ahaha R.i.p your lemon tree :(
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 07:38 PM
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That's so lovely :) I actually had a weird thought one, it was "if I have a son and he makes me think of my boyfriend and a daughter who makes me think of me, will I love the son more ?" Your comment brings another perspective to it and I'm very grateful for that :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 07:16 PM
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Aromatic herbs are 😍😍😍 I can't stand the smell of perfumes and when I feel fancy I use palmarosa essential oil to perfume myself. But I'm deviating from the subject ! I buy my lemons organic, I don't think it's extravagantly expensive here and anyway I love lemons. I'll definitely plant a lemon tree in my dream house garden But I second you, aromatic herbs are free and so so good !
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 04:53 PM
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Ahaha that's too cute and funny 😍 They almost definitely have a different way to look at us than ourselves, sometimes I'd like to put his "lenses" on for a while, that would be fun I think.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 04:49 PM
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Yep, that's what I'm afraid of. When I put it in my hair I have a hard time with the smell and I usually dislike tasting things that smell bad to me
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 03:55 PM
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The kitchen glove thing is a great idea ahahah I do think you already look pretty sexy in your husband's eyes in everything that you do :) I can't wait to silly dance with my future kids :P
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 03:54 PM
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I actually saw someone on youtube who did both, lemon + acv. I was a bit afraid of the taste but I will definitely try (with and without the lemons) ! Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 03:15 PM
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This thread is amazing :) I'm happy to see that a lot of us mention the "hippie" side, I definitely have that and my dream is to live in a house near the woods and a river or lake and have a vegetable garden (permaculture) and some livestock. I want to be able to cook many things from scratch for my family. I also have an entrepreneur spirit and I'm in the process of starting my first business ! My goal is to have several passive income revenues so I can stay at home, and no matter what my boyfr…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 03:13 PM
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Being mindful is probably the key indeed :) I have watched some videos of "burlesque" gals teaching how to take off a glove, maybe you'll get some inspiration from this kind of videos.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 11:23 AM
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I think you could benefit greatly from therapy. How does one start on this journey? How do women become thoughtful and wise and measured, and not heated and reactionary like me? For me it was : 1. wanting to change 2. therapy (mindfulness techniques) 3. meditation 4. use of STFU (still working on that one) And reminding myself that this will be a long journey since my old ways are quite ingrained in me, but now I always apologize when I slip up and I'm honest with everyone (I used to lie to ease…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 11:18 AM
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This morning when I kissed my bf goodbye, he didn't wake up but he smiled, and that was the cutest thing ever.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 11:00 AM
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Sooo I still didn't get into my workout routine... I did eat very healthy and lost some weight, I hope that will motivate me to get moving in order to tone this body before summer arrives :) I haven't re-organized my pantry yet, I've been procrastinating as hell but march is not over yet :p On the good side, I have successfully incorporated drinking lemon water and eating breakfast at home in my morning routine, next thing is to learn the sun salutation (yoga) and do it also in the morning.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 10:56 AM
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Ok you sound like a pet names specialist ahahah Those are all uber cute :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 09:33 AM
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Gush moment : my boyfriend and I have such cute pet names, he's very tall and I'm very small and I call him [hisname]-bear and he calls me lili-bee. I love it. Also the occasional "babe" or "love" but we speak french so it's actually "bébé" and "mon amour" :P:P:P
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 09:30 AM
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Are you replying to the wrong comment ? I don't get the link between what I said and love languages
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 09:20 AM
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Kudos to you, filling that role in that manner was what was needed to get you through that part of your life. Thank you for this :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 09:15 AM
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My boyfriend is a gamer and I happen to game sometimes myself. We share a desk and he's often gaming when I'm just browsing the internet and he makes me freak out sometimes when he rages. As a joke, I bought him a desk punching ball and he actually loved it. BUT he never got banned and he doesn't spend ALL of his free time playing. I think that if you game too much, for too long, the "rage" will fill up inside. Since he got a 14-day ban I guess he's past that stage. A 14-day ban is really bad...…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 09:07 AM
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Probably LoL
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 08:56 AM
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Yeah, siding with your boyfriend is an important thing. That doesn't mean you can't do the opposite, especially playfully, but that would be in a more serious LTR and not in the dating phase. What you're aiming for is to get his friends to tell him how impressed they are with you/how much of a catch you are/etc. (and I'm not just talking about looks). I don't think laughing at his friend's jokes would be rude, and if you meet a man who thinks so maybe vet him some more before commiting because t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 04:13 PM
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I'm highly triggered by domestic violence but I actually agree with your advice. That said, I'd still like to advise the OP to look into sunk cost fallacy and abusive behavior, and ask herself if she did vet her fiancé right, and start the process of re-evaluating her relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 03:59 PM
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I seriously hope this is a troll post. If it's not, I'd advise therapy (only for yourself!) and getting out of your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 11:49 AM
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Yes, reading all the material here at RP (sort by top posts of all time and read them)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 06:02 PM
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When I did it in my kitchen, I emptied all the drawers and cupboards (except for the plates that were already in their best spot, but anything higher I emptied). It does 2 things : - you can see the stuff you have (I had forgotten about some of it) - you can deep clean - and then re-organize ! I have 2 smallish wood boxes (from Ikea what else) and I use those to store anything I leave outside of the cupboards so it looks nice, one for produce and the other is for empty glass bottles to recycle.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 11:08 AM
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I know this is a public forum but your advice is not really RPW. Although it's important to put an emphasis on the "don't change yourself for a theory" because the whole thing about RPW is to embrace your existing feminine side in your relationship (never use RPW in the workplace for example), I also think this is not the place to say things like "just do whatever you want" and those kind of feel-good phrases that don't help anyone. Personality can be a tricky thing when you're young and there a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 10:30 AM
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Girl, you're 20, you're going to be alright. I have a similar story. I wanted to be like my father and embraced very masculine traits (and I was proud of it). I also got into STEM and became "the guy friend with boobs" of my friend group. I was in a relationship with a very submissive man who did almost all the chores (and I bought him nice things) and I nagged him constantly because I didn't respect him. When I was at the peak of this, I felt really unhappy and started making changes for a heal…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 10:19 AM
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I second this. I had a real problem with clutter and hated cleaning/doing chores. That book changed my outlook and her method really resonates with me. When you use things that bring you joy, or you have a pretty storage with boxes, it becomes less of a chore to put stuff away and/or clean it because you're taking care of your home and your spirit :) I normally dislike arrogant books who call themselves "life changing" but this one was actually accurate :p
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 10:09 AM
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Are you seeing the same therapist or did you change in the course of those 10 years ? Maybe look for a therapist who is focused on "resolving" the issues with techniques like mindfulness or DBT, or support groups... the real advice is shop around until you find someone or something that truly helps you (and remember magic doesn't exist). Good luck on your journey <3
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 12:57 PM
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I figure you'll get a lot of practical advice regarding your questions but I just wanted to say, emotional health care is really important for a good appearance. If you feel good in your body and confident, that will translate in a glow that any make-up technique couldn't reproduce. The good part is that taking care of your appearance will make you feel good about yourself. My beauty recommendations : - meditate, smile (even when you're alone), look at the mirror and admire your best features an…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 11:26 AM
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-No hamstering about engagement timeline Damn that hit home ahah, good luck with yours!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 03:56 PM
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What's unhealthy is having such a narrow view of the world... it would be really hard for women if we felt attraction for every masculine act. Obviously I agree with TRP but it's never a good thing to take theories and such to the extreme. The world is not black and white, in my opinion people have a blend of masculine and feminine sides to them. Obviously when I talk about make-up with my male friends they're showing their feminine side, but sometimes I find myself in very testosterone-fueled c…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 08:17 AM
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I did a computer training course and my core friend group is all guys. I'm very close with 4 of them, however there's no sexual attraction between us and I keep things respectful for my boyfriend. Being very close means that I see them quite regularly, and we talk about our lifes/struggles etc. I think it's normal to sometimes feel attraction, people change and chemicals also have their say. But the important thing is to NOT put yourself in a position where attraction could develop if you're not…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 07:58 AM
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It's french but check out "methode lafay", it's a really nice bodyweight workout routine (I have the PDF at home if you're interested, send me a PM I'll send it to you later)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 11:16 AM
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If you stay with him, you have to accept him fully as he is. Being different from your boyfriend is definitely a challenge but I'm sure you can have a very rewarding life. You both need to respect the other and his need for stability/adventure and compromise a little bit. What makes me wary is this : but everytime I turn down goung out with his friend group because I want to go to the gym and eat a healthy meal, he feels he's making a sacrifice and a compromise and just kinda sighs into the air.…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 10:42 AM
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I think it's important that you tailor your dealbreakers to yourself. Best way to do that is to have a vision of the life you want, the values you think are important and even the silly stuff. For example, one of my "silly" dealbreakers is not liking cats. Another one that's not silly but very personal is alcoholism. My father was one and I won't re-live what my mother (and me) went through. I let my boyfriend know quite early on that if he ever has a problem with alcohol I'll do my best to help…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 10:15 AM
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I think the big strength of the konmari method is exactly that. Make you feel joy out of tidying up. I think it's a process in which if you follow her philosophy, you'll find yourself joyful of being in your own home and relaxing over the fact that everything has its own place (edit : even when they're actually out of place). I used to be the most averse-housekeeping person and now I actually fold my socks and stack them, and guess what, being able to see them like that is kind of awesome, and i…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 09:20 AM
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Force yourself to smile. It sounds dumb but it actually works a bit, then you'll actually be smiling because you'll feel like an idiot :) and when you're done, get up and do something for yourself (chores, shower, anything)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 09:14 AM
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He is intelligent and broadminded and curious but he seems to be too weak-willed to actually make use of it... Whatever you decide, make sure that you either accept or not who he is right now and not his potential. That will save you from a lot of pain in the future. Be strong, I know it's hard but in the end you have to look out for yourself and your future because nobody else is going to.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 02:29 PM
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Yeah he doesn't have a strong work ethic and that's at best an orange flag. I would say he probably doesn't like his work but is he doing something towards changing that ? I would be surprised. OP, I think it's time for you to re-evaluate your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 02:07 PM
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My absolute goal this month is to get disciplined with my workout routine, do stretching and eat clean. I also want to start trying a new recipe every week. And I'd like to declutter and re-organize my pantry. By the end of the month, I'm going on a road-trip/festival weekend with my boyfriend and his friends. It will be the first time I'm going to spend so much time with them. I hope it will be alright :) edit : another one : start prospecting to find clients for my business (prepare speech, wo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 11:22 AM
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This. Living alone can be hard and a pet will give you some company and something to take care of.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 11:12 AM
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Love it, thanks 🙏
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 06:46 AM
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That's awesome !
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 04:14 PM
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So you've made it better than his mother on your first try... that's a big win :D
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 02:03 PM
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I want to be careful with the advice I give you because I feel like a lot of people are jumping to conclusions. We don't know him. You've been with him for 9 months but you mention that you live 1h apart, how often do you see each other ? I think your relationship is not a standard "9 month relationship" because of the distance (albeit minimal) between you two. The age difference is also something to reflect about if you're going to re-evaluate things. I know RP advises older men but the questio…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 01:52 PM
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Do you have a source for that ? I'm not sure "stress" was a concept back then but I'm pretty sure women always had very much shit to deal with
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 10:10 AM
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Thank you for this comment ! My Portuguese grandmother had 8 children and almost all of them started working by 13-14yo or at least helped with the agriculture/animals when they got home from school. And they sure as hell didn't go to college. Privileged people will be privileged and complain about it... I do agree that modern women try somewhat to "have it all" and I think they have their reasons. But very much like with money, I apply the same principle that Paula Pant taught me... hers is "yo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 10:04 AM
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Well I definitely used to do it a lot more at the beginning of our relationship too, we also live together now but I also think it had to do with the fact that I felt unsexy all winter and lost the habit.. Ahah you look like a VS model to him that's what matters :p I agree with the vacation thing ! A few weeks ago we went on a weekend getaway and I wore lingerie every day. The last night, I put my best lingerie, heels, a dress and off we go to a nice restaurant... well we both ate too much and w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 07:15 AM
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I think it depends on your man, his trip, how tiring it was... you know him better than anyone so if you think he will appreciate the gesture go ahead ! Lingerie isn't an obligation for sex imo, sometimes I like to put some on just to feel sexy and good about myself and if my boyfriend is home he will get a nice show. It can even end in a relaxing BJ and you can make it clear that there's no expectation for sex and you're really very excited to see him :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 10:39 AM
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I'm currently buying quark ahahah damn that does sound yummy! Can't wait to try
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 05:35 PM
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Oooh now I want to try that!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 02:25 PM
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I eat it as a side with the stir-fry and usually do fried rice with the leftovers. It's great to finish up any vegetables you have in the fridge, sometimes I also add ham in it and then of course an egg. It's delicious! Oh I don't really appreciate dried fruits but they were great on the "sauce". I didn't eat them. But other people did so it wasn't a waste ahah, you could maybe try to do it without the dried fruits and replace with something you like just to give a bit of flavor ? But if you lik…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 01:35 PM
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Tell him that, tell him in a loving manner that he's more than enough of a man for you and that you'd really like to be engaged rather sooner than later (but I wouldn't put much emphasis in it because of your ultimatum history). I would ask him for a bit of reassurance and also give some to him if you think it can make things better. Then don't bring it up again, work on being your best self and trust his love.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 01:22 PM
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You're awesome and I want to be like you when I'm a grown-up! Ahahaha
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:48 AM
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Soooo, tell me more about that lebanese garlic sauce :p
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:29 AM
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One dessert idea keeping in mind what you said about simple and fresh : fruit salad !
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:28 AM
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Damn girl, looks like you got cooking game ! Now I want to make a tuna onigiri too :p
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:27 AM
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Quiches are quite soft imo and you could make one with her favorite ingredients. If she likes bananas, you can smash one in a yogurt, it's not pretty but you can make it so with some yummy decoration (berries, oatmeal..) and it's quite filling. It used to be my go-to food when I was little :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:25 AM
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This week I'm very excited to make seafood risotto! I recently made shrimp stock, which I'll use for cooking the risotto, and I plan on topping it with browned butter scallops and fresh herbs. Omg that sounds so yummy ! And except for pasta, we have the same staples ! Stir-frys and quiches :P I switched the pasta for rice. One thing I want to add to my staples is a nice roast, because it's so easy to do and often delicious. Plus leftovers! I do make a quite good roasted chicken, maybe I should p…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:19 AM
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Does he know you feel that way ? Of course you shouldn't bring all of your problems to him but this one seems like worthy of being communicated to him, make it sweet and vulnerable and not demanding.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:10 AM
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You desperately need nun mode
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:06 AM
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I remember the first time I posted to RPW, I was all over the place and someone suggested therapy to me. I really needed it but it wasn't something I had even considered. And I went and it was the best thing I did for myself. Now we are 2 years later, I'm still on the path to be my best self but I'm happy. RPW and therapy played a big role in it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:01 AM
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I did all of it. At the beginning I made my interest pretty clear (although I was quite sure he was interested too). Then I was the first to confess my feelings, I said "I'm falling in love with you" and he said "me too". AND I was also the first to say "I love you" a few weeks later. We were high on mushrooms in Amsterdam and I said "I don't want to say it first", he said "just say itttt" and I did :) For my defense, except that time I told him "I'm falling in love with you", the other ones I w…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 09:48 AM
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Don't forget that men control the gates of commitment, which means, he will propose when/if he wants and you can't do anything to make it happen sooner, at least you can't *make* him propose to you. And if he does because of an ultimatum or some shit like that it doesn't really feel sincere does it ? I think you have two choices, trust him and the fact that he wants to marry you and will propose some day and in the meantime make everything you can to inspire him to be a better man. OR re-evaluat…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 09:43 AM
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I think staring at someone and being attracted to them is not really the same. Maybe a fine line but still. In my book, there's "rational" and "irrational" jealousy. I mean, of course you're going to be jealous if you're boyfriend openly stares and flirts with someone in front of you, but you would be right to be, that's your emotions telling you something. Irrational jealousy is another thing, it's when some fears or insecurity are so rooted in yourself that even a quick "normal" look would tri…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 09:36 AM
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The big thing about handling jealousy is to find the root of why you feel that way. Make a phrase like "I feel upset when he does X because ...". Does it make you feel scary that he's going to leave you for someone more attractive than you ? Then think about it, if it's indeed true and your boyfriend is the kind of person who would do that, is he really someone you want to be with ? This was an example but the concept is to find the root of your feelings and then think about it rationally. Now w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 08:19 PM
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Ok so I'm really in need of getting serious with my healthy meals, we're going to start gradually so what I've planned so far for this week is : ​ - a tuna&peppers quiche - carrot soup - everything to make sandwiches (whole wheat bread, salad, tomatoes, a protein) - defrost some chicken curry and make rice (I have to buy brown rice!) ​ I don't like to plan "rigid" meals because I always find myself not eating what I had planned for various reasons. So what I do on my best weeks is to have some e…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 03:52 PM
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I'm not religious but the most important thing the bible has taught me is to be humble. Well, I do found it quite hard to put in practice sometimes but it helps with those feelings of arrogance. I'm not married so I don't really have experience on the rest of your post but I feel like it's important to feel appreciated somehow, and if you're really doing *so much* and get very little in return it may be time to re-evaluate the situation. Love languages are great to find how different people expr…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 03:41 PM
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