ruhri Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Do you do favors for girls if they ask you to? A genuine willingness to do things for other people is a very admirable personal characteristic. People appreciate generosity. Just be sure to not let people take advantage of you for it. It's not just women that will do it to you.	/r/seduction	05/07/16 03:13 PM
1	Any tips for a hiking first date? Basically. Put your arm around her for a while or hold hands with fingers interlocked and then initiate the kiss when you feel the time is right after having looked at the scenic view for a while.	/r/seduction	10/06/16 04:09 AM
1	Any tips for a hiking first date? I've done this before and it went well and was fun. Go at a comfortable pace that allows the two of you to be playfully chatty and flirty. In these situations it's more about enjoying the scenery and getting to know the person you are with than trying to get to a certain destination. Take frequent stops to just look sit and rest, observe your surroundings, goof off, etc. Makeout sessions with dramatic scenery as the backdrop are quite pleasant and fun imo.	/r/seduction	07/06/16 07:29 PM
1	Does a intellectual, zen-like and collected personality work? Do everything you possibly can to fill your head with positive thoughts on a daily basis. Tell yourself something enough times and eventually you'll start to believe it.	/r/seduction	01/06/16 12:55 AM
3	Does a intellectual, zen-like and collected personality work? But today I thought: what if this is just an illusion? What if I have litterally been doing things wrong all this time? After all, I'm 24 years old. I'm not 15 or 18. After all, it could be argued that interpretation is not reality. Maybe those things are actually working against me, putting me in a pre-friendzone of some sort? I find it really hard to find solid ground in these matters. Do not dwell on such thoughts. They are not helping you. Many men are late bloomers and, quite frankly, 24 yr…	/r/seduction	31/05/16 08:21 PM
7	Does a intellectual, zen-like and collected personality work? Your whole post tells me you don't believe you are an attractive person worth dating. You sound neither confident, nor comfortable with yourself. You are comparing yourself to other people and falsely assuming that you have to be like them in order to be an attractive male, which is a common pitfall. Social and dating success starts with focusing on the thoughts in your head. You must think well about yourself and see yourself as a viable dating option before any woman will. Make that your start…	/r/seduction	31/05/16 05:26 PM
1	Swag vs. Class - What's the difference and which one is less attractive? When it comes to the topic of "having class" the phrase "SHOW, don't tell" is everything. You follow? Next time someone asks if you have swag, assume they're throwing you a bone to crack a joke.	/r/seduction	29/04/16 04:29 PM
1	What books should I read to help me become a better person and a more interesting man for women? The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is always a highly recommended read.	/r/seduction	29/04/16 05:37 AM
0	Love is dead and technology killed it After sifting through the author's own personal biases and large generalizations about society, I'd say there are some valid points being made.	/r/seduction	27/04/16 04:13 PM
2	[deleted by user] You were probably in the moment and not stuck in your head. Things happen naturally when you aren't trying or overthinking. Keep doing that.	/r/seduction	16/04/16 08:54 PM
3	It's not about girls Couldn't put it any better.	/r/seduction	01/01/16 07:52 PM
1	[30M] I'm sick of women being so insulting and toxic in the dating game and that my only option is to accept it and move on. It's making me hate women. I understand where you're coming from man. But keep in mind we men do just as many things that women can gripe over and get pissed off at. People are assholes. To be human means you're flawed, regardless of gender. That being said, there are plenty of girls out there who are worth your time. It's up to you to find them. Sifting through all the bullshit is a necessary part of this process, and that's not a bad thing. It will be worth it when you find the girls who for you are actually worth spend…	/r/seduction	18/12/15 06:25 PM
1	The difference between confidence and self esteem I'd say I've got the inner peace part down pretty good but not the external vibe.	/r/seduction	16/12/15 06:25 PM
1	What's the name of that PUA that's bald, buff and tattoed all over? He can be a bit pompous at times, but he very much walks the walk and has some good stuff out there to watch.	/r/seduction	12/12/15 11:01 PM
1	What's the name of that PUA that's bald, buff and tattoed all over? First name that comes to mind is Arash Dibazar.	/r/seduction	12/12/15 07:15 PM
1	Improving Body Language? I'd love to learn how to carry myself properly -- when I stand, when I walk, when I sit. Confident, attractive body language in common scenarios. Build your self-esteem and confidence. There's no way you can give off an air of confidence if you don't feel comfortable with yourself inside out. Focus on that like crazy. There is a ton of solid advice out on the web that teaches how to go about that. As for getting down the actual body language and mannerisms, just observe other people's body langu…	/r/seduction	12/12/15 04:35 AM
3	How do you approach a girl while she is in a group? Engage the group first. If they don't like you it's almost always game over, and the easiest way to make the rest of the group hate you is by neglecting to build rapport with them when you first approach. You need their approval as much as you need her's because when you bring someone else into your world, you directly and indirectly bring OP's entire social circle into your world as well.	/r/seduction	01/12/15 06:06 AM
2	Girls that have self-defeating behaviours, such as self-sabotaging their own relationships. Is there hope for dating such girls? If someone isn't in a healthy mental state, it will be hard for them to form and maintain relationships. That's not to say that someone who is currently like that will always be that way. Plenty of people overcome diseases like depression and such that drastically affect their own relationships. So yes, there is always hope for people who self-sabotages their relationships. But you can't guarantee that someone will someday overcome their demons either. All you can really do is wish them well and…	/r/seduction	01/12/15 12:06 AM
2	Will I always feel as strongly towards my gf as I do now? Depends how much of a consistent long-term effort both of you give toward maintaining and strengthening your relationship.	/r/seduction	27/11/15 01:14 AM
1	Introversion and Social Anxiety Introversion is not an adjective for being shy or socially anxious, nor is extroversion for being outgoing. You can painfully shy or super outgoing regardless of which category you fall under. Those terms refer to how you generally get and use energy during and outside of social interaction. It's an incorrect mindset to think that one is "good" and the other "bad". There are pros and cons to both, and you can become a very happy, social and outgoing person regardless of what category you fall un…	/r/seduction	11/11/15 06:02 PM
3	My club promoter friend says I can't talk to his girls? He doesn't have ownership over the women coming to his club, and he has no right to tell you to stay away from them. He simply doesn't want competition from you. That's his problem. If there's a girl you want to talk to, then fucking talk to her. Him getting all butthurt over you talking to girls at his club is his problem, not yours.	/r/seduction	11/11/15 05:09 PM
1	Sometimes you just gotta be honest with yourself I'm going to work a lot on inner game. I've got a long term plan worked out for tackling this. I've done a good job in the last couple years with improving my fitness, personal style and even just social skills in general. Working on what's going on inside my head is the next piece of the puzzle I need to place.	/r/seduction	26/10/15 06:50 PM
2	Here is a very helpful audio conversation between a couple guys and their female friend about approaching women I could've sworn I included it before. Let me just go add that lol.	/r/seduction	17/10/15 10:51 PM
2	I am so proud of myself I think so too.	/r/seduction	15/10/15 06:48 PM
3	Has anyone read "models: attracting women through honesty"? It's a very good read.	/r/seduction	13/10/15 03:44 AM
1	I quite literally live in the middle of fucking nowhere Seasonal employment where I get food and housing and a decent pay. I don't currently have the finances to live anywhere else, so I'm using the opportunity to save up. I planning to move to a large metropolitan area approx. 12-18 months from now.	/r/seduction	07/10/15 02:29 AM
4	The Portfolio: 6 Steps to getting her physically and emotionally invested in you! This is really good. Thanks!	/r/seduction	29/09/15 01:00 PM
1	[deleted by user] I found The Art of Seduction to be an interesting read. I wouldn't call it a "how-to" title though. It's largely an analytic and objective discussion of what seduction actually is, but still very engaging.	/r/seduction	27/09/15 11:19 PM
2	[deleted by user] You don't have to go to bars by yourself...	/r/seduction	27/09/15 07:14 PM
1	[FR] she flirted with another guy on our date Just because she talks to some other attractive guy for a tiny bit doesn't mean it's a red flag for anything. It would be a different story if she had exchanged numbers with him or something, but that didn't happen. From my perspective it just sounds like she had a polite conversation with the waiter, which is not an unreasonable thing to do. I work at a resort and politely chat up the guests all the time in order to make the day go by faster. Even if she found him attractive it's irrelevant, be…	/r/seduction	24/09/15 03:33 PM
1	Should I try again? Keep talking to new girls and being as outgoing as you possibly can.	/r/seduction	22/09/15 11:39 PM
2	How does one get invited to parties? Start by being courageous enough to put yourself out there and join some clubs. The more engaged you are with things on a regular basis, the more likely you are to be invited to stuff. Meet people. Talk to them. Ask them questions and figure out who you have mutual interests with so that you know who you can relate to. Work simultaneously on finding your closest friends while becoming friends with people across the board. I started doing all this about a year ago and my quality of life has incre…	/r/seduction	04/09/15 02:57 PM
2	How do I approach girls at the clinic I work in? Don't shit where you eat. Eventually it comes back to bite you.	/r/seduction	06/06/15 04:31 PM
3	Guys - Listen to this. How so? I've only listened to the one video from him, but it was basically just ideas founded in Eastern philosophy and religion, which I see nothing wrong with.	/r/seduction	06/06/15 04:10 PM
1	How to shoot down stereotypes? Or avoid them altogether. If it were me I'd simply do the following: In 2-3 sentences say that you study CS, say why you like it or what you're going to do with it and end with a funny comment before changing the subject.	/r/seduction	18/05/15 07:04 PM
3	Jesus Christ I have no game Care to elaborate on that a tiny bit?	/r/seduction	06/05/15 03:30 PM
48	Response for when a girl says "Tell me a secret." "Only you can prevent forest fires"	/r/seduction	06/05/15 02:51 AM
1	Lost two girls with in 5 minutes last night. What's wrong with me :( Exactly how drunk were you?	/r/seduction	02/05/15 06:01 PM
4	How (do I even need to) do I keep interest when date is not for another week? Like Mr. Wayne said, most people suck at it, and it's really easy for something you say to be misinterpreted and make things awkward It's also common for guys to get overly emotionally attached to talking to a specific girl via text(this happened to me once or twice), and inevitably if you aren't careful you start acting out in ways via(without realizing it I might add) that makes start looking really needy. You know you are texting her waaayyy to much when you start getting bent out of shape be…	/r/seduction	01/05/15 10:25 PM
2	How (do I even need to) do I keep interest when date is not for another week? Just keep the texting to a serious minimum. Long text conversations are a no-no, that's where a lot of guys including myself have fucked up. But an occasional witty or funny text once or twice a week that elicits a laugh isn't going to make a difference.	/r/seduction	01/05/15 07:00 PM
1	Pro Tip for getting girls to come back to your place Agreed, sphinx cats are awesome.	/r/seduction	30/04/15 04:32 AM
3	What's the best dating sites for an average (at best) guy? So much this.	/r/seduction	19/04/15 02:01 AM
1	Seddit listen up. Relationships are hard work. If you are not ready to work hard then don't start one. Amazing relationships have a tendency to feel effortless. The result is that you become oblivious to how much hard work you are actually putting into making that relationship awesome, especially when the relationship is relatively new.	/r/seduction	14/04/15 05:22 AM
4	Seddit listen up. Relationships are hard work. If you are not ready to work hard then don't start one. Bullshit. It applies to every relationship.	/r/seduction	13/04/15 09:21 PM
2	Being dominant is not the same as being an asshole So much this.	/r/seduction	12/04/15 11:26 PM
11	My advice to those starting out Kudos for starting to make change though. Just keep learning and finding ways to improve, and you'll find your way.	/r/seduction	12/04/15 07:42 PM
1	What doesn't work. And a constructive long term approach. Good post. Hopefully the guys on this sub who could benefit the most from it will pay attention and start seeing the bigger picture.	/r/seduction	01/04/15 04:24 PM
4	A simple but incredibly effective tip Been aware of this for a while now. I'd say it's about time I actually start doing it.	/r/seduction	30/03/15 05:52 PM
7	Shy Girls: How do you escalate them? Well it was a pretty adorable relationship to everyone watching, so I'm not surprised you feel that way lol.	/r/seduction	29/03/15 10:00 PM
41	Shy Girls: How do you escalate them? I dated a girl for 3 years who was like this. A few thoughts based on personal experience. Just keep building rapport. Build rapport like crazy. Build rapport until she becomes the chatter box that she probably is around her family and closest friends. Continue showing your interest with tiny playful kino things and testing the waters every now and then like you are doing. Just calibrate yourself with her. I remember with my ex that in the beginning it was a lot more effective to playfully use t…	/r/seduction	29/03/15 02:32 AM
1	I keep realizing too late she was interested Thanks for the advice! This was very helpful and reassuring.	/r/seduction	27/03/15 03:55 AM
2	I keep realizing too late she was interested Noted.	/r/seduction	27/03/15 02:29 AM
1	Men: Have you ever been seduced by a woman? How did it turn out? I had a fwb relationship for a while with a woman who made the first move and took a lot of initiative in pushing things forward. And there have been other times in a bar here and there where I get a cold approach from a woman. Depending on who it is it can be a fun or not fun experience when it happens, but I don't ever count on it or hope for it to happen. Being a man who takes the initiative to approach is more important.	/r/seduction	23/03/15 12:52 AM
1	How to deal with your gf's nice guy friend I agree with this. She's gonna have male friends that she's maybe close with but are firmly in the friendzone. Flex your social skills and get to know him. He probably already knows deep down that he doesn't have a chance with her anymore if he ever did before, otherwise he would be dating her right now and not you.	/r/seduction	13/03/15 04:29 PM
1	I simply cannot fucking do it. Beating AA isn't happening for me. Tell me, what's your inner game like? What does the dialogue inside your head sound like? How high are your levels of confidence and self-esteem, self-worth and so on? Is it possible you might need to place more focus on addressing what does(or doesn't) go on inside your head? Just throwing it out there because many guys including myself find that working intensively on inner game somehow sets something in motion that lets everything else fall into place over time. It is crazy how much the subco…	/r/seduction	05/03/15 04:38 AM
2	What you think people see when they look at you vs what they actually see Ever heard of inner game?	/r/seduction	22/02/15 07:55 PM
1	How do you deal with girls who want to hang out first and not date I won't argue that time is a valuable thing, but jeez dude, have some fucking patience. Stop focusing so much on desired outcomes and simply enjoy yourself.	/r/seduction	17/02/15 06:57 PM
2	Getting signs from a cashier at my local shop, and all I can manage to do is tease. Be bold and ask her something that would essentially be an invitation for starting a small conversation. It's gonna feel awkward at first, but hey, but that's usually how it is when you start a conversation with someone you don't really know. If she's interested in getting to know you she'll engage you in whatever conversation you try to start, if not, then she won't. Just think of something to say and go for it.	/r/seduction	17/02/15 05:59 PM
4	Do something bold tomorrow. I think this is a fun idea, but you shouldn't get so butthurt if other people think it sucks. Who cares if other guys on here think it sounds creepy or lame. If it works for you, then that's really all that matters, right?	/r/seduction	14/02/15 07:13 PM
2	It's better to play it like a ninja I don't know why the article tries to make this approach to seduction seem newly invented. It's far from new.	/r/seduction	14/02/15 04:56 PM
4	I've lost my desire to game anymore.... Cool story bro...	/r/seduction	13/02/15 09:31 PM
2	Why are many of us afraid of women? I'd guess you're thinking too much about wanting to bed her and putting too much pressure to not fuck that up. Stop thinking in those terms. Go out to have a good time with people, not to just pick up chicks. Take women off the pedestal and just talk because you feel like talking to people.	/r/seduction	08/02/15 11:21 PM
-1	How do you respond to "I have a boyfriend"? Look her in the eye, smile and ask "are you happy with him?"	/r/seduction	07/02/15 12:17 AM