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That text exchange was before they were even married, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 10:39 AM
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Omg this hits so hard about men who need female attention and validation so much they’ll hassle you all through your breaks. Or even when you’re trying to work sometimes - I actually got called out for being ‘too chatty’ at one job, because male coworkers would constantly drop by my desk to chat at me! Also sooo many of my shitty male managers in the past have acted like complete tyrants then been all hurt hurt that people won’t forget that behaviour when off the clock and are genuinely surprise…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 04:31 PM
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Same reason why he’s now questioning if he ever loved her. He obviously did at some point but now he’s devaluing her to lessen his guilt. If you are unsure of your feelings, The time to figure that out is before you say it out loud! Honestly scenarios like this are my worst nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 03:19 PM
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The sad thing is the girl in the story was probably even expecting to go 50/50 anyway lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:38 PM
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The fact that he even made her suggest the place and then was like ‘oh no, that’s too special for you, actually’. She just got a glimpse of her future - you do all the planning but if you pick something he doesn’t like he’ll whine until you downgrade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:15 PM
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‘That place is for anniversaries and stuff’ Yeah, he’s saving it for the 20 year anniversary of his last date lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:12 PM
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Yes exactly this. I was raised to believe that men were not only the prize, but also that male acceptance was the only route to social success, in general. Later, when I became more invested in feminism, the lib fem attitude of the day was that 50/50 is a way of keeping yourself safe, that if a man felt ‘you owed him’ after a date that you were putting yourself at risk. This was then somewhat confirmed for me by dating a high income man who used his wealth to cover his disrespect (“oh, I’ll be l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 10:33 AM
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Let’s all give this dude roses for not emphatically agreeing with a pedo and maybe thinking something mean about him in his head lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:53 PM
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Sooo many people on the original post are defending the second guy and saying he made it clear he was uncomfortable and it’s hard to speak out to a stranger. Like forreal GTFOH cuz I’ve been telling creepy old men to fuck off since I was 14 so I don’t see why this fully grown man in a public place was apparently so scared. Like you don’t need to go Mike Tyson on his ass, just a simple ‘fuck off dude’. This is honestly such a perfect example of why rape culture is so pervasive. Say we give 2nd gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:23 PM
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I’ve been thinking this for a few years, this situation with Kanye isn’t funny and his mental health deteriorates every year. Now he’s lost the only people invested in keeping him well, he’s surrounded by yes men and has the money for any noxious scheme he comes up with. This will for sure get worse before it gets better. I think Kanye has also been publicly supportive of OJ, iirc. I think he’ll end up kidnapping them kids tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:48 AM
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If Kanye were a woman she wouldn’t be famous. She’d be put out to pasture as soon as she started showing the first signs of instability - look at azealia banks for example. Unless you’re a reality star or influencer literally packaging up and selling your trauma and instability as the product, it has no place in the media apparently. I guarantee if Azealia was playing it up for the press, like Trisha Paytas or some shit, she’d be more famous than Cardi B rn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:43 AM
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As much as people bitch about tik tok I’ve actually found it to have the best algorithm of the socials. I rarely see something I’m offended or grossed out by which is rare on socials IME. I’d say after about a day it got my vibes. If you make an account and look for fds type content you’ll find what you’re into real quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:19 AM
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Clearly has done absolutely zero research on what that might do to the child developmentally- mentally or physically. We literally have the worlds combined knowledge at our fingertips but this dads too lazy to even research this before having ‘the talk’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 11:07 AM
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Exactly. Maybe he found it by himself, but he’s also barely hit puberty - he could be being groomed by an older child or adult, he could have been abused and is acting out sexually, he could have questions about his sexual orientation etc. But these parents have no intellectual curiosity at all? It’s just boys will be boys hur de hur. Then people wonder why toxic masculinity is so hard to shake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 11:04 AM
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Exactly. What is this service if you have to rely on your personal email? No service at all. She’s literally just charging for access to her address book. Just like a madam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:27 PM
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“2 cures for love: 1 - don’t see him, don’t call, don’t write a letter. 2 - get to know him better” Wendy Cope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:19 AM
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Hey now, he could also be doing drugs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 05:10 PM
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I was waiting for this to show up here lol “He’s a good Christian man goddamit!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 05:07 PM
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Did you see that super hypocritical interview Lily James gave, stating that we’re all complicit in Pamela’s treatment? Yeah that may be true pet, but I’m pretty sure the people literally profiting off this tv series are just a bit more complicit then those of us who were literal children during the events in question (and have never even seen the tape) lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:00 AM
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It really just shows how 2 dimensional they think we are. Do they think the ‘one that got away’ stopped still for 10 years? That she’ll be the same person? That a decade of idealising your past relationship leads to realistic expectations for a rekindled partnership? Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 04:47 PM
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One thing I wanted to raise is that the ‘nice dudes’ might still be raising red flags which her subconscious is picking up on but her conscious mind doesn’t yet recognise. I dated a guy who seemed so loving and attentive. Never kept me guessing, would do thoughtful things like pop out in the morning whilst I was still asleep to get me a surprise lunch to take to work etc. Very communicative and open. But there was a bad feeling I couldn’t quite shake off and, after a couple months, I realised I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 12:12 PM
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Have you ever met him or his wife? No? Then you have no idea what the substance of their relationship is like. Also, I’m so over giving roses to men for the bare minimum. Being nice about and protective of his wife in press interviews!? Bring me the fainting couch for I must swoon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:36 PM
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I can’t remember the details but there was quite a big medical scandal in the UK involving that vaginal mesh iirc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:06 PM
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What’s especially annoying about it is that everyone’s just sleeping on the fact that Pierce himself has aged significantly. He’s not fucking James Bond anymore you donuts, he’s 68 and looks every bloody day of it. Colonel Sanders looking ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:01 PM
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Your life is your female ancestors wildest dream! Don’t be sad, they are cheering you on from the beyond x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 11:57 AM
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I do remember seeing some PUA posts back in the day where they advised this tactic - the idea is that you are showing that you remembered her birthday (oh, shucks, I’m sooo impressed) but if you only acknowledge it afterwards you can get away with not giving a gift or a birthday date. The idea being she’ll be so relieved you remember she’ll be too nervous to bring up the lack of effort on her actual bday. Literally just trying to train women to accept table scraps lol. As if having to celebrate …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 10:01 AM
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The kicker is that even the sitcom moms who were slim and attractive were still treated like an inconvenience at best and a harpy at worst! Married with children, king of queens etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:33 AM
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Yep, I’d rather be alone than be stuck in some petty back and forth war of attrition in my own house. That’s what colleagues are for lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 02:29 PM
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All my friends exes look like perfect dads on Instagram! Despite seeing the kids about once a fortnight and paying as little as they legally can in support…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 02:27 PM
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Very obvious neg. Translation: Soap is stupid and girly. My girlfriend is very passionate about it so I must gain power by not only refusing to use her soap, but by dismissing the necessity of soap entirely. Despite the fact I am literally damaging my skin in order to p0wn her, I am the supreme logician to whom you all should bow. #nohomo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 01:41 PM
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Yeah that was passive aggressive as hell. Say, I was hanging out at a friends booth who sold artisan liquorice, would I EVER tell a customer of theirs that I hate liquorice and would prefer to eat plain rice instead? Hell no! I’d insist it was the best damn thing I’d ever eaten and that they must buy immediately as my friend was the best liquorice maker in the world. WTF dude?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 01:38 PM
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The sex was mediocre?! In the back seat of a car in a park at 2am? With a stranger???? I’m shocked, shocked I tell you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:47 AM
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Are the women unsuspecting though? I would never date a recent widower or even someone who’d recently been dumped. If you are flirting with someone over his wife’s hospice bed you get everything that’s coming to you IMO. Not the main villain, for sure, but hardly innocent either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:30 PM
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One thing you’ll start to realise, now that you are safe, is that you don’t need anyone but yourself. It will take some time, and some courage, because someone else spent a long time convincing you that you are incapable and useless and that being alone is the worst thing ever. You’ll also have to do some work on convincing yourself, because for a long time you told yourself that even if the relationship was terrible, it was better than being alone. That was a way of rationalising whilst you wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:27 PM
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That’s exactly it - he wanted a way to shift the blame for his crimes away from himself and on to porn and he hoped that the anti-porn campaigners might see him as an asset so powerful they’d lobby against his execution. I think this is a great post but we shouldn’t be using the voice of men like Bundy in our campaigning, that’s exactly what he wanted, to be seen as a victim himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:19 AM
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Because they need us to birth and indoctrinate their next generation of worshippers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 10:06 AM
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Yes, even Buddhism has a huge problem with female leadership. The Buddha never reincarnates as a woman now does he? In fact, none of those top roles, which are passed down through reincarnation supposedly, are ever born a woman? Sure sounds legit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:37 AM
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AFAIR isn’t the biggest split in Islam (Shia v Sunni) because Mohammad wanted his daughter to lead the religion after he died and his former closest advisor was like ‘nah, tho’ and split off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:26 AM
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I really cannot wait for the forensic accountant to expose her trash family. I hope she bankrupts tri star and everyone involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 09:01 AM
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On the upside, TIFU is the home of all of Reddit’s amateur fetish writers, so I’m really hopeful this is just some scrotes imagination (one without access to women or their food) and not an actual first hand account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:12 PM
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When I was 15 a friend of mind was ‘dating’ (read: fucking in the back of his car because he was afraid his parents would find out) a 25 year old. He had her convinced it was because she was ‘so mature’ and I remember struggling so hard to make her realise that was not the case, but without the right words to articulate it, everyone just thought I was being a bitch to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:09 PM
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Yeah sounds to me like the classic devaluing that people do when cheating. He’s devalued her so far in his mind (so that he doesn’t have to feel guilt about cheating) that he’s now actually resentful and angry even being near her, which makes him feel entitled to be cruel. Chumplady explains it really well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:56 PM
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Also these ‘silver Fox’ examples they use are like, Hollywood actors, models etc. These are men who already have one in a million faces, like the 98th percentile in looks and who have a job which relies on them up keeping their appearance with skin care, exercise, diet and almost certainly cosmetic procedures, if not full on facial surgery. And even then I have pretty much always thought George Clooney, Piers Brosnan et al looked old when everyone was trying to push that they were at the peak of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 07:55 AM
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Her mom was caught sharing a bed with Monjack not long after Brittany died, too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:36 AM
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Well yeah, cuz then he’d be down to 3.5 mil lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:18 PM
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The 'world's oldest profession' is midwife, not prostitute. That's just another bit of casual misogyny we have to endure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:59 PM
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The line that got me is ‘porn is nothing to be concerned about as long as it’s not used compulsively’. Uhhh, your letter writer JUST said he’s struggling with a porn addiction so severe it’s caused ED. Wut!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:32 PM
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In the linked article, one of the families quoted literally sold their daughter in law in exchange for transport to Kabul. The women are being sold to fund the escapes of their male relatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:59 PM
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In Afghanistan, raping young boys is not only permitted but encouraged. Look up Bacha bazi. As we often say here, misogynists reserve all their love and admiration for other men (I’m not suggesting they love the boys they rape, but I more mean that their whole existence revolves around other men). Women are just servants and incubators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:55 PM
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I won’t link to it but if you dig around a bit, he had a Reddit account and there are lots of screenshots of his comment history. In one I read, he did admit to having some women approach him when he was in college but he turned them down, so he did have a chance, albeit self reported (I wonder what the other side of the story would be). Like all incels, it’s not just that they want a chance with a woman, they want someone who they can control in every regard. Who will dress as they want, perfor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:15 PM
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Yeah, Dunblane was the name of the town where that happened. As far as I recall, after that you could only get long range guns for pest management / livestock protection or hunting. You definitely can’t get a gun licence for defence in this country so I wonder what reason he gave on the licence application.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:56 PM
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I can’t believe he had a gun licence. I legit thought you had to be a farmer or have significant land to manage in order to get one in this country. Lots of articles are saying friends / family had serious concerns, yet no one took the gun away? Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:46 PM
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Whenever I read one of these posts I’m always very aware that his wife may not agree with his assessments of himself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:56 AM
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What pisses me off is that they are desperate for women members - they are all massively oversubscribed by men and the women’s profiles which are active are like 50% chat bots or fishing for only fans followers - yet they offer absolutely no incentives for women to join. I mean, I don’t use them anyway, but even the dingy local nightclub in backwater, nowhere know to offer free entry / free drinks on ladies night lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:55 PM
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When I was a teen I was terrified of walking past parked vans and would sprint past them or walk into the road to give the back doors a wide berth. I got really paranoid at one point and thought I might be being stalked by a particular van. I always just thought it was a weird phase or an irrational fear, but just recently I’ve realised it was in response to being constantly harassed by men in passing vans for years, being honked at, shouted at and splashed with puddles etc. I was legitimately c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:59 AM
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I hate this trend, but one I hate even worse is any time anybody uses the phrase ‘small pp energy’ in ANY sub (except here lol) there’s an immediate ‘can we not body shame small pps’ response lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:48 AM
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I wish there was a nunnery for witches. I’d go live there in a heartbeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:28 AM
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Even worse, a disembodied womb. Sometimes they sell the woman to someone else after shes given birth for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:06 PM
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https://www.hrw.org/news/2019/10/31/chinas-bride-trafficking-problem According to this the women come mostly from Myanmar, Cambodia, North Korea, Pakistan & Vietnam. I’m sure them not being ethnic Chinese encourages even worse treatment from the families who buy these women. Many of them report never being able to leave the house and being hidden away in secret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:17 AM
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Yeah everyone is feeling v self congratulatory ITT but I just keep thinking ‘blessed be the fruit’. Yet one more reason I feel fortunate to be functionally sterile lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:03 AM
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But unfortunately, many of those families will respond by trafficking ‘brides’ in from poorer countries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:57 AM
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What’s interesting to me is the way the usage has changed. Whatever-porn used to imply excess, gluttony, unobtainable - food porn was a term to mock the nigella-style gushing over ingredients, for example, or the way food adverts are filmed. ‘Shoe porn’ would be like Carries closet in SATC - beautiful but impractical and outrageous, easily worth tens of thousands of dollars, excessive. Whereas now, it basically just means ‘good’. Like if I were to say something was ‘succulent porn’ it would just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:55 AM
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They are halfway to joining us sis, they just don’t wanna admit they’ve been played by the lib fem ‘appropriate your oppression and call it empowerment!’ narrative yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:10 PM
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There was a really funny thread on askwomenover30 the other day where lots of women were like ‘I’ve been over there to check it out, and they have lots of good points, but it’s a *ERF sub and they are basically terrorists so I don’t stay’ or ‘yeah I lurked a bit, they had some good content but they hate men so much that I’m back over here. They are bitter right? Do they seem bitter to you? Is it true I’d be banned here if I join?’ and ‘I liked the content but I don’t want people to think I’m a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:27 AM
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Cyber pimps, it ain’t nothing new
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:28 AM
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You did not need to come for me like that sis 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:35 AM
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Jesus, I just looked at that thread and don’t have the constitution to wade in! Thank you for your tireless efforts x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:32 AM
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Any subreddit that allows selfies has been overrun with OF performers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:06 AM
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Just once I’d love the libfems attempt some of this ‘normalising & empowering’ for other jobs which are deemed as undesirable, but largely undertaken by women. Where’s the campaign to empower our cleaners, our carers, our nannies etc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:05 AM
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I think you got it a bit twisted boo. They feel ENTITLED to bully the woman because they pay her £5 a month. In fact, they feel she deserves it because men are entitled to sex and him having to pay her for it is disrupting the social order or some shit lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:01 AM
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You literally can’t escape these tales in any corner of the internet. I was on a website the other night reading first hand accounts of near death experiences. One was by a woman who attempted suicide. She didn’t want any friends / family to find her body and be traumatised, so she climbed Snowden Mountain (not all the way), got off the beaten track, took something and then sat and waited to die with a note pinned to her chest. She passes out, sees the light, has her NDE. Next thing she knows sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:50 PM
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See what I mean? That’s why I always thought it never met an editor! I could barely understand it. I guess maybe it was super popular with people who aren’t big readers, and so the readers assumed any difficulty they were having with the text was due to their own comprehension? Which is really sad, come to think of it. You aren’t bad readers, it’s awful writing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:48 AM
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I’m not sure. And same, I’m no literary snob, I love a trashy thriller and I read all of the twilight books! But this was unreadable bad, like run on sentences, repeating sentences in the same paragraphs, spelling errors etc. You know that joke they make on menwritingwomen, about things being written one handed? That’s what it seemed like to me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:28 AM
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I tried to read a few pages once and it was so bad it made me feel like I was having a stroke. Was it even professionally edited? I remember spying spelling mistakes etc even on the 2-3 pages I skimmed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:11 AM
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Yah people who need a lot of props are maybe not the most accomplished lovers in the world. I had this friend growing up who had never had sex, fooled around or had a boyfriend til she was, like, 23. When she finally got a boyfriend and started having sex, they went for about 2 months before she was visiting sex shops to buy toys and accessories. Now maybe she was just excited to try new things but I was just sat there like ‘you’re bored already? Yikes’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:06 AM
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I thought it was about getting more girls to watch? Like not many young girls will search for rad fem content but most all of them will search for make up tutorials...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:12 PM
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Yeah that whole series was chefs kiss casting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:42 AM
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I literally had to unfollow all the ‘ladyboner’ subs because women would post endless ‘dad bod appreciation’ posts and I kept having half naked fat dudes appearing in my feed out of nowhere. Also, guys would constantly self post and, despite looking like literal vermin, would be gassed up to a nauseating level. Even when we try to objectify men we end up pandering to them. Edited to add: the final straw? Remember when Will Smith posted that unedited, tighty-wighty shot recently? They picked that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:27 PM
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Sexual release is a basic human need which is why mother Gaia, in her infinite wisdom, gave us the ability to masturbate lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:48 PM
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I have severe menhorragia which means without the pill I would literally bleed to death (both extremely heavy and constant bleeding, I’ve had to have blood transfusions in the past). When I asked about a more permanent solution, something surgical instead of pharmaceutical (as I’m not interested in having children nor am I physically able to) they literally laughed in my face. I can’t even have kids and they still won’t even consider it. I’m also 33, and i know the guidelines have changed on thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:17 AM
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Women who hate other women are trying to select out of their oppression by aping the behaviour and viewpoints of the oppressor. They are fooling themselves that they are part of the privileged class by becoming an enforcer or enabler for the patriarchy. But obviously they’ll always be seen as the ‘lesser’ sex in the eyes of the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:54 AM
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He said he had no problem with it (except that I was getting much heavier lol) but explained how it could look to other people, how older men often prey on young women, how women are often expected to be affectionate with unwanted hugs etc. I was maybe 10/11. It’s not so much that he said I couldn’t, instead he explained to me why people might think it was inappropriate now I was older. Once he explained, it was quite a loss of innocence moment, and I didn’t really want to anymore because I didn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:18 PM
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Some countries / states allow for the emancipation of teens but not all (and i think it’s only for 16+ generally)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:34 PM
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Suddenly feeling so grateful for the day my dad sat me down and gently explained why I was too old to be sitting in his lap etc now (and that he’s never done or said anything creepy to me in general)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:33 PM
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There is no such thing as a moral billionaire. There is literally no way to amass that much money without exploiting workers on a vast scale. Additionally, even if you did just wake up tomorrow a completely innocent billionaire somehow, you’d still be immoral for as long as you hoarded that money whilst children starve and people suffer. I’m not saying you’re immoral if you don’t give every penny away, but if you are sitting on more money than even your descendants could spend in multiple lifeti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:34 AM
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Well seeing as the powers that be are doing a great job of convincing everyone that this is a consumer problem and the solution is personal responsibility, and that women still do the vast majority of household shopping and management, I’d say the groundwork has already been laid...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:31 AM
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Boys cannot learn by rote, repetition and the enforcement of calm, respectful behaviour? Psshh, tell that to every elite private boys school in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:25 AM
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The same thing is happening now to the beauty industry. Very few of the men I’ve seen leading campaigns lately are actually skilled with make up, they’ve all just got that purge-mask-fillers-meets-sticky-elf look going. Have you noticed they only ever make up themselves? The test of skill for a MUA is really in being able to adapt your skills to a variety of different faces, skin tones, ages etc. Being able to do your own make up well is a pretty basic skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:05 AM
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I lost respect for Beyoncé the day she responded by taking Jay back instead of starting her own rotating harem of hot boyz, as I would have done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:02 AM
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Why isn’t the dismantling of capitalist patriarchy our number 1 aim? It used to be pretty high on the feminist agenda but now it seems to me that liberal feminists just want the freedom to be treated like men. Why are we content to try and squeeze ourselves into the little pockets men have left for us in their tapestry of misery? Fuck trying to succeed in the world built for men, why are we not pushing to remake the structures of society in a more comprehensive way? The world that men built is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:38 AM
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Yep, Ive often found myself asking ‘Why is it that every ‘female empowerment’ song is accompanied by a woman shaking her thonged ass at me?’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:32 AM
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I’m not sure it’s even that conscious. I think it’s just a slavish, unquestioning performance of masculinity. Like they truly believe it’s un-masculine to not be constantly attempting to sow oats or something. I also think that low self esteem leads them to automatically devalue anyone who is willing to be with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:19 PM
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To get internet points from fellow pickmes and all the dudes who populate 2x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:54 AM
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Eh... I dunno if FDS is about turning a LV/NV into a HV. I’m not a rehabilitation service for scrotes. But tbh I don’t think they even see the pattern in order to address it. I can see it very clearly from the outside, but my days of giving out free dating advice or investing into asymmetric friendships with men are done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:32 AM
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Always makes me laugh cuz they can hardly get one date, but the minute a woman shows interest they are like ‘hmmm, I dunno, I’ll have to see if I can make room in the harem’. They are all so concerned about remaining free to ‘play the field’ that they don’t realise there is no one else on the field with them. Almost every single guy I know has been trapped in this pattern for years. It’s sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:11 AM
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Totally unrelated but why do all tik toks have that weird beep/screech noise in the background? Is it me or is this a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:25 PM
15

A friend of my sisters had a kid with a cop. They broke up because he hit her, she wasn’t going to report (because who would she report to?) but still he didn’t like that and got all his cop buddies to intimidate her by turning up at her work and following her around for months afterwards. It was pretty low level, like saying hi in the grocery store etc, but why does every cop in the city seem to know her name all of a sudden? Way too much to be a coincidence. He also threatened to report her to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:02 PM
7

I know we’re talking about driving but I’ve been hit by 2 male cyclists on separate occasions as a pedestrian (both times their fault, in my city cyclists tend to use traffic lights more as suggestions). One guy was actually really nice about it, but that’s mostly because I actually fell and people stopped and it became a bit of a scene. The other time he just hissed something about how stupid I was and cycled off. Another guy on a bike almost hit me on the towpath the other day, but that’s part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:18 AM
82

Lol whenever they ask for directions I always say I don’t know and then you can feel the split second when they are about to say “you must know it it’s literally over there, you moron” but quickly realise that would give their game away so they usually just sputter out a “uhh, are you sure?” instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:39 AM
1

I’ve done some very gracious things for undeserving, horrible exes in my past, but this is next level. Facilitate your kids spending time with dad and siblings? Yes. Become his free nanny whilst he alternates insulting me and pretending to be catatonic get out of childcare? Fuck no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:14 PM
3

Also she apparently works from home whilst wrangling 5 kids? Madness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:51 PM
2

And referring to OP as his child minder the whole time too I bet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:50 PM
74

Not just gods gift, but also his prophet as he heads out to share this gospel with the world lol. His wife must feel so lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:25 PM
5

I had one once. He was a very old Indian man who told me I should stop shaving my pubes. In hindsight, he was alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:39 PM
181

The last guy I was dating was like this too. He was really intelligent and interesting, so I didn’t mind too much, but he’d definitely monologue on the reg. One night he said, out of the blue, ‘you don’t talk very much’. ‘You don’t ask many questions’ I replied. He said ‘oh, yeah, sorry’, looked chastened for 30 seconds, THEN WENT BACK TO THE MONOLOGUE. Lol clueless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:04 AM
102

I distanced myself from a lot of male friends over the last year. I just realised the emotional support had never been equitable and, actually, a lot of the things these friends had said to me under the guise of advice had actually been really damaging and cruel (the two that stand out the most are that ‘you always date these really hot guys who treat you badly so you need to lower your standards to get someone nice’ and ‘well you’re really good in bed so guys will always lie to you so they don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:55 AM
219

Haha I’ve had this experience so many times. The worst one, I’d barely gotten 2 sentences our all night. You know that thing when your lips fuse together because you’ve not spoken in so long? That happened TWICE lol (I was only there for 2 and a half hours total). One of the sentences had been to say that I was just about to go away for work for 2 weeks and would be uncontactable. Of course he didn’t listen so in those 2 weeks kept texting me and eventually got butthurt I wasn’t responding and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:48 AM
108

I work in the festival industry and there is nothing sadder than the sight of a woman who’s been convinced to drag the kids along to a multi-day camping festival and her husband is waiting nonchalantly by the bar whilst she wrestles with 2+ kiddos, pram/trolley, nappy bag etc at the portaloos. My friend is a single mum and she came one year to one of my sites (which is marketed as being particularly kid-friendly) with another mum friend and 3 x 12 year olds between them and she said even at that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:51 PM
70

The funny thing is, if you asked her back ‘who she’s fucking’ she probably wouldn’t even be able to show you because the dudes would get mad at her for trying to ‘claim him’ online or some shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:12 PM
188

Also centring men in an argument between women. Why would a man ever be a reflection of my worth? It’s irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:13 AM
67

I’ve never heard of her but as soon as I saw she’d tagged Slutever I got what she was about. I used to love Karley Scirotino, Alexi Wasser et al too but after I while i realised I was taking dating / life advice from people who never seemed to have happy romantic relationships and probably had all their bills paid by mommy / daddy so I started looking for a different kind of content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:12 AM
19

If anything they should be fitter if they’ve got young kids to run around after
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:27 AM
16

Right? Why not both teams? Why not a slightly higher league? This would be like me going from being a highly paid Michelin star chef to being a volunteer lunch lady. I’m not trying to rag on girls sports at all (the boys would be equally boring at that level) I’m just saying he’s gone from working with the best athletes in the world to reporting on fucking growth spurts, minor injuries and college scholarship rumours. If he was coaching instead of reporting I could see it - a new challenge and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:18 PM
30

Yeah the whole ‘they went with Ted cuz he’s so handsome’ was totally made up to sell papers. He wore a fake cast and asked for help getting stuff into his car. You might think ‘well that’s dumb’ but it’s because of the serial killer craze in the 70s / 80s that we actually learnt about a lot of these luring ruses. You can’t blame someone for falling for a trope that didn’t exist yet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:12 PM
12

I’ve never been to America and even I know the Cheesecake Factory is not an ‘expensive meal’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:20 PM
8

How strange that most of his photos seem to be of lone young women. Must be a coincidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:45 AM
17

Men think we avoid eye contact in public out of fear / deference, when really it’s just to avoid giving them an opportunity to make conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:33 AM
25

2 of my cousins are electricians and they the only ones who can afford for their partners to be SAHM’s...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:52 PM
33

Tbf there was a lot of negative discourse around Kate when she first got engaged to William. Stuff like the photos of her modelling in a sheer dress and lots of hack articles about her families (lack of) status and wealth. It didn’t go over very well with the public because they were trying to set her family up as undeserving poors / dirty commoners when in fact they are more wealthy than, like, 80% of the British public. It never went anywhere near the level of vitriol Meghan has had to suffer …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:41 AM
36

Her only work experience is her failed foray into politics. How would that not come up in a job interview?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:35 AM
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For me it’s the ‘I’m sorry, not all men, down the pitchforks’ edit on EVERY fucking post. Their mods must be fucking asleep because every poster is hounded into making that pandering, protective edit. It makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:26 AM
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I just cannot believe that men are still pretending they are just finding out how dangerous it is being a woman after dark. Again. No matter how many times this conversation happens, it always seems to revolve around men being shocked by this absolutely new information and I’m fucking over it. They know. They all already know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:02 PM
1

It’s vice so they were probably paid in exposure bucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:53 AM
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Hun the term bootlicker is older than your country, it’s not American slang lol it’s derived from ‘foot licker’ which has been use since the 1600s x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:30 PM
12

Exactly, Naomi never pretended to be a role model or a champion of female empowerment. She’s just herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:15 AM
7

So many of the first episode pixie cut girls get sent home. It’s like a traditional sacrifice at this point lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:14 AM
24

Often the new hair cuts they give them would limit the range of work they’d be able to book. Unless you are at supermodel level, bookers don’t generally want models who have a distinctive ‘style’ they want girls who can be a blank (yet specifically proportioned) canvas for the clothes / make up / whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:11 AM
52

Surely it’s just a coincidence that the girl with the waist length natural hair always ends up with a pixie cut, no? Not like good-condition-butt-length-natural-hair would be an asset any serious agency would fight to keep, noooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:05 AM
7

Seconded. Great book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:40 PM
9

Omg the libfems are all over the comment threads with this ish lately. I’ll start caring about men with small pps the day I stop hearing them make fish jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:35 AM
102

Lol you can’t believe any OF performers claims re income. They are like MLM’s - people pretend to be doing great so that other people believe the hype and subscribe themselves. Also as others point out, it’s hardly empowering to be honest and admit you’re showing your bare ass to strangers for less than $180 per month. Put it this way - if it was that easy to make big money, why are there poorly disguised ads (usually in the form of a very awkward, yet slightly revealing, selfie on a sub that ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:04 PM
13

Yeah I thought there were plenty here who would rather be single than settle but I guess not? Or perhaps they don’t see having to play this weird balancing act for their whole lives as settling? I’m perfectly fine alone, why would I force myself to become manipulative and craven with my affection just to keep a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:41 PM
23

I’d rather take no relationship than one where I have to be with someone I don’t fully love or manipulate a partner into thinking I don’t fully love them. Sounds so unfulfilling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:29 PM
63

If I wasn’t concerned about hurting feeling and wasting ladies time I’d be out there trying to convert myself right now (well, post-pandemic at least)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:35 AM
190

LVBF: it’s not about money, you can show affection in other ways Oh, you mean ways like making sure your date gets home ok from an unfamiliar place? Fucking trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:38 AM
7

Yeah me too. Like I wear a lot of ‘underwear as outerwear’ too, it’s pretty common in punk / goth type subcultures. Likewise chokers and other stuff some people might think is coded ‘BDSM’. In my experience though, most men find this type of look pretty off putting / intimidating. The more ‘straight’ I look the more cat calls etc I receive. But something about her just felt very inauthentic. Like maybe she was wearing a collar in a ‘choke me zaddy’ way which is just eugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:13 PM
12

The thing is I actually liked her content enough I was willing to look past the 3 inch lashes, the ‘daddy bought me this apartment’ exposed brick and the all day erry day lingerie. Her interpretations weren’t always spot on but she came at a lot of traditional concepts from an interesting angle. But yeah, I’ve been on Twitter like 2 weeks and already witnessed like 3 cancellations so trying not to get to integrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:35 AM
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If it’s the girl I’m thinking of she’s been ‘cancelled’ on Twitter now. She got caught broing out in some alt right chat room or something, simping with racists for crypto currency crumbs. I was not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:17 AM
6

You are the best x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:23 PM
8

Omg please share those receipts! I’m still so mad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:41 PM
31

How could you sleep at night, if you knew you not only torpedoed your wife’s business, but you also lost like 13 people their jobs? At the start of the biggest jobs crisis we’ve ever seen? Just because you couldn’t handle a 3 year old on your own whilst having literally no other responsibilities? I couldn’t live with the shame! Edited to add: I bet that in that relationship she is still grovelling to him about the time she ‘made him out to be a monster’ in print and she’s probably also given up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:40 PM
56

I once went to Eton College to meet the Head Librarian about borrowing some engravings for an exhibition for my job. It is insane there and now makes total sense to me why they all come out of there so outrageously entitled. The whole village around the school is only set up to serve the students, the place looks and feels exactly like hogwarts but without magic, women or poors. They have to wear top hats and tails every day from age 7, so you are surrounded by tiny monopoly men. It is a seconda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:12 PM
20

No, it’s batshit crazy to everyone. Healthcare is a human right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:23 AM
19

Because in the US ambulances cost the patient about 500 bucks. If the patient can’t pay they often go after whoever called them out, even if they are a stranger to the patient - I’ve seen that query come up on legal advice pretty regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:05 AM
28

The song is by R Kelly, it’s not about the content of the song. Although, now that you mention it, I have absolutely no idea what ‘remix 2 ignition’ is actually about lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:20 PM
4

Rest in power Ms Dworkin ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:04 PM
5

Strapless balconette bra if I had to guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:39 PM
3

They have tons of sock puppet accounts doing astroturfing constantly. If you keep an eye out you’ll notice they almost always include a line about ‘making it into the top 20% of earners in just a few weeks’. Also, not unlike an MML, part of the way the girls advertise themselves is to exaggerate about their ranking and earnings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:10 AM
3

Such a good comparison. They have so many similarities to an MML. Especially the fact that everyone pretends to be ‘in the top 20% of earners in just a few weeks’ (all their victims and sock puppets use that exact line constantly)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:06 AM
44

Oh yeah, that’s the other thing. I’ve no desire to learn who in my extended network has been perving on me. Your dads second cousin? Your favourite tutor from college? Your best friends most significant ex? All can now see your bare ass for the low, low price of 10 bux a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:15 PM
102

Average monthly income on OF is <$180 per month. And there are tons of secondary markets for the content - some guys subscribe just so that they can steal content to post elsewhere and the performers don’t get paid a cent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:34 PM
63

Just a reminder, the average monthly income on OF is <$180 a month. They make out like anyone can instantly start making bank, but realistically, unless you already have a large social media presence, you’ll just end up making bespoke porn for pocket change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:31 PM
131

Sounds like an incel trying to trick people into doxxing themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:58 PM
15

Literally every post on 2x has a ‘not all men’ disclaimer. It really irritates me that we have to self-censor even on the biggest ‘feminist’ sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:56 AM
26

NEVER date a cop. Not only do they have a higher preponderance to domestic violence, but if anything goes wrong you are relying on his buddies to protect you. A friend of my sisters left her copper boyfriend because he hit her. Then he got all his cop buddy mates to follow her around and intimidate her until she gave in to his desired custody agreement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:00 PM
36

He’s met lots of guys who are tens but only one woman as high as a nine... curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:49 PM
54

If I wasn’t so worried about wasting ladies’ time and hurting feelings I’d be out there trying to reverse-gay-conversion myself right now tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:34 AM
6

Yes! That’s her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:32 PM
43

What I liked about her when we were younger (early 20s) is that she genuinely didn’t seem to give a fuck... she used to live in this squat in London with a load of nutters, they were all attempting some sort of weird house-wide polyamory shit and taking loads of drugs. It was like an art school version of Geordie Shore and I loved it. A bit of a ‘Hunter S Thompson for 20 something females’ vibe. But since she moved back to the states it just seems like her life has become quite pretentious and b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:07 PM
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I actually loved the author (Karley Sciortino) when I was in my 20s but as she’s gotten more ‘legit’ assignments and grown older, the tone of her pieces just has this quiet desperation about them. Actually same thing happened with a number of my fave bloggers etc. I guess, once you are known for creating this sort of ‘single gals’ content it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:50 PM
14

Yeah most men I know show, at the very least, a certain adoration for the male form at some point. You catch them looking all the time. Also I’ve definitely had exes who were crushing hard on one of their friends and in denial (not saying a crush makes them homosexual, I get girl crushes all the time but they’ve never been strong enough for me to pursue sexually)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 04:27 PM
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Yeah, I’ve always found it strange that some gay men attract status by being loudly, graphically and dramatically disgusted by the vagina but the same men also love to bump and grind with women on the dance floor and grope tits. It reminds me of how some straight men in sports are virulently homophobic whilst enjoying extremely homoerotic activity followed by group showers. I believe Kinsey was right, being 100% homo or hetero sexual is very rare, most people fall somewhere along the spectrum. M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:00 PM
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Girl, my friends ex did this to her. Lived in the house her mother owns and rented to them for an extremely cheap rent. They’d been together 6 years at this point. He still insisted they live with room-mates to make it even cheaper (they are in their 30s), my friend is on a low income and he basically guilted her about their shared expenses until she gave in. Last year it came out he’d secretly been saving so much money that he had bought an investment property in another city (bought outright, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:29 PM
60

Yep, apart from my best friend who is a gay man, I now view all my other male friends as ‘good time gals’ and treat them accordingly. You want someone to emotionally coach you through a big life event? Not the one. You want a drinking buddy or festival crew? Sign me the fuck up. I don’t think for a minute that men and women can’t be friend and all that sexist bullshit. But the level of effort and deep relating is just incomparable with a female friendship most of the time. I don’t think we need …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:46 PM
40

Chumplady is a goddess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:38 PM
22

I mean, you’re not wrong, but I also wonder if that wasn’t just some elaborate excuse. The vast majority of patrons of the arts in that period were men, artists probably would have had a hard time courting said patrons if all their work gave them an inferiority complex about their dick lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 03:47 PM
24

My nipples are not very sensitive, but I’ve just given up trying to explain that to dudes. Any time I’ve said ‘harder’ they either ignore me completely and carry on doing something I can barely feel or go so hard I feel like they are about to twist off. Firm but gentle seems to be a concept which escapes them completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:43 PM
76

Yeah, it’s basically diluted pee. There have been multiple studies that all reach the same conclusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:38 PM
8

I can’t remember what film it was but I saw Charlie Hunnam doing an absolutely comically abysmal Scottish accent and that almost finished off any attraction I had for him for good. Now to find he’s a Peterson fan too? Spell broken!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:24 PM
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That’s the thing, even if you start out completely happy, healthy and sane, the constant objectification and disdain is going to do a number on your mental health. Also there are dudes constantly trying to trick you into providing free content so you’re having to be really guarded against that, as well as all of the other health and safety concerns. If you lurk on r/clientcringe you’ll see all the abuse these women have to deal with daily. Also Only Fans have recently been on a huuuge astroturfi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:18 PM
5

They most likely are. The daily heil seem to have a real knack for getting women to write these click bait pieces, making themselves absolute cannon fodder for misogynists. The authors are either total handmaidens or cynical tories who will wrote whatever the editor wants for a few bucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:34 PM
10

Clever parody in the daily heil? I think you are being a bit optimistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:30 PM
14

Omg I used to work on Oxford Street and it’s not even an ‘interesting’ shopping area like Carnaby Street or Seven Dials which are literally 5 mins walk from there. Also it used to take me over 15 minutes some days just to leave the tube station because of the insane crowds. What absolute hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:19 PM
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Hey, Just wanted to say I had an almost identical experience a few years ago. Had been dating a guy for 2 years, one day he breaks up with me out of nowhere and refused to give me any explanation. I felt like I was losing it, had no idea what I could have done wrong, and out of desperation, checked his fb messages. The top 3 (simultaneous) message chains were: 1) conversation with his best friend where he complains about things being ‘a bit difficult’ between us. When his friend suggested my ex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:16 PM
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Omg I’ve been downvoted so hard for saying I only date guys my height or taller (I’m 5’9), never have I denigrated short guys at all, just stated my personal preference. What’s funny though is I could count on one hand the amount of times I’ve been asked out by a guy shorter than me... because, quelle surprise, most guys want to date a woman shorter than them! But that never seems to come up, somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:59 AM
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Seems like an advertorial to me - I’ve seen a few of these on reddit too lately and they always include that line about ‘very quickly making it into the top 20% of earners’. Not saying it’s not happening as the article describes, but I think they also have a very aggressive recruitment strategy including this type of astroturfing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:40 PM
23

Honest to god I think the only acceptable situation is, like... a war draft
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:54 PM
53

Literally the only one I can think of is ‘have a secret fuck off fund in case he becomes abusive and you need to escape’. This isn’t the first time I’ve seen a scrote equate that to lying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:08 PM
4

Right? Pretty but extremely basic. He must mean he wants a girl who feels awkward and uncomfortable in everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:16 PM
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They are not crazy, it’s just good old fashioned misogyny. It makes their pp hard to make women uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 02:27 PM
13

*about 5’9 = less than 5’7 I’ve never met a man who didn’t know his exact height down to the millimetre
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:40 PM
16

That’s what’s so pathetic about it. He thinks he’s using his cunning to trick women into sex but I’m certain the vast majority of those women were DTF anyway and weren’t enthusiastically calling for 2am mario kart battles. Men like this honestly think women are so dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:32 PM
7

Right? I bruise extremely easily, even a very gentle sexual encounter will leave me with some bruises (usually small finger print shaped on my thighs) and I have never had anything even approaching this level of marking. The force he must have used to inflict those bruises makes me feel sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:28 PM
24

I dunno boo, but if I paid for it with this vag ima damn sure use it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:37 PM
8

I also can’t stand this exchange, which only ever seems to happen with men in my experience: Him: have you been to x place? It’s actually really wonderful, I used to live there a few years back Me: oh wow, how long were you living there? Him: about 2 months! I went to Mexico for 3 months last year. Never would I describe myself as someone who used to live in Mexico lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:34 PM
17

Some of them are great accomplishments, sure, but some are just holidays. I do a lot of travelling but I don’t see it as something to be particularly proud of, I just happened to be fortunate enough with money and flexible enough with work to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:33 PM
8

Of course he’s a cancer lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:49 AM
8

If it’s anything like Ashley Madison, it’s just a load of dudes talking to bots and catfishers. Ashley Madison was found to have 0.03% genuine female accounts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:49 AM
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You can use the label or not, whatever feels right for you. But please bear in mind that virginity only became a notable quality once women’s chastity became profitable to men. I’m so sorry this happened to you and you should block that rapist cunts number. You don’t owe him the emotional labour of entertaining his feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:56 PM
5

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:38 PM
12

The thing is you know that will work on plenty of those ‘my man is king’ masochists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:36 PM
25

So basically he’s looking for a trust fund kid with an extreme mommy/pickme complex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:35 PM
25

Same. When I left school and started getting male attention it felt like I was in the twilight zone. At my school the bullying was so pronounced I was legit like a leper - I had a small group of friends but with the guys they were totally closed ranks. Any guy who was nice to me, or even just not outwardly horrible, was ostracised himself. So none of them (except the skater boys who were pretty badly bullied themselves) would talk to me. It was completely head spinning to go from an environment …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:51 PM
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I was bullied so badly in high school by boys I still have a warped idea of my looks today. Like, I don’t want to gas myself, but I modelled professionally on and off throughout my 20s. I attract very good looking men, many of them have modelled professionally too. Objectively, I know I must be attractive. But when I look in the mirror I mostly just don’t think anything or if I think too deep on it I just feel confused. I don’t hate the way I look at all, I just feel extremely... detached from i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:22 PM
19

Well, see, she must be mentally ill not to realise what an absolute catch this guy is /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:56 AM
72

Exactly. I stopped fucking with FWB shit when I realised guys actually became much worse friends the minute they saw my cooch. Also people use this term for dudes they just met - honey, he ain’t your friend he’s just some guy you’re fucking periodically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 10:08 AM
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Look I don’t buy in to the whole men and women can’t be friends without there being some history, as I have many close male friends who I have known for years without even so much as a too long hug. However, the difference is I would never allow a male friend to be this weirdly invested in me or centre me in this way - they should always have their partners back first and foremost. If I felt I was being put on a pedestal like this that would be a clear sign to me that they had caught feelings an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:56 PM
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It means he doesn’t want you to fuck any other dudes whilst he’s busy trying to fuck other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:51 AM
13

No adult man should be using tiktok or snapchat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:38 AM
16

Yeah that’s a really good point about onlyfans (presuming those women wish to stand with us and don’t think it’ll hurt their brands) but tbh I’m much less concerned with reforming Reddit after this ban wave. My main sub (chapotraphouse, yes I’m a commie don’t @ me) is gone and if this one goes too there’s basically no reason to be here. I’ve been refreshing my feed all day like... is this all there is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:52 PM
4

Oh cool no worries then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:39 PM
86

Waded into the trenches at said it. Unlinking because NSFL but here are names: NSFW Subs promoting sexual violence: RapeKink hentaiamputee pain degradedfemales slaveauctions freedomispatriarchy snuffrp politically_NSFW abusedsluts degradingholes ropedancers hentaibeast MisogynyFetish barelylegal Rapeconfessions rapefantasy deadeyes SheObeys sex_violence_art dolcettkingdom brokenfucktoys womenintrouble strugglefucking rektwhores abuseporn2 inbreeding guro softguro slasherchicks (Involuntary Porno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:59 PM
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Exactly. They were compiling a list this morning for one of the users to pass to a journalist friend. I looked back an hour later and it was gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:29 PM
3

Also, depending on his relationship status / background, could be giving out really shitty advice? Has he ever had a successful relationship? Is he teaching you to find a life partner or is he teaching you how to get laid or be a cool girl? Because I can already do the latter 2 all on my own, thanks - I decided to level up. But at the same time different strokes for different folks - if sis finds it helpful I don’t see any problem spreading the word here. Just wanted to add a critical lens to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:16 PM
2

My main concern with something like this would be brigading / doxxing. If you take a look at some of the mod chats etc that have been leaking they are actively following users to new platforms with the intention to derail discussion / dox users. It would need to have very strong privacy / safety features for me to consider it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:36 PM
14

I’m glad you’ve found it helpful and I don’t doubt your judgement, I just object wholesale to the paternalistic idea of a ‘fairy god father’ educating the wimminz on how to date. Even what you’ve described, so he tells you the text means X and the other 9999 women in the group just heel? I also highly doubt that someone who describes themselves as a fuckboy has good advice on how to attract / maintain a long term romantic partnership of equals. I would question how many LTRs he’s actually had an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:42 PM
24

Lol I rarely take a mans advice and especially not one who describes himself as a ‘good hearted fuckboy’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:29 AM
16

See I hated her character in New Girl and thought it was terrible writing - clearly they just felt they needed a stand in love interest for Nick whilst Jess was on maternity leave and they decided just to make her ‘opposite-Jess’ so it wouldn’t be too obvious or step on the actresses toes or whatever? But she didn’t fit in with the group at all and just became a very poor straight man to the rest of the crews antics. However, I thought Megan Fox did absolute wonders with the terrible (imo) chara…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 11:08 AM
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Yeah pretty much all the popular feminist subs are focussed around liberal feminism. It’s a shame GC is seen as being so controversial as there isn’t really another outlet for more radical feminism (I mean there is here of course, but this sub is focussed on dating and levelling up, not just a general feminist space)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:57 PM
20

Yeah I was just letting people know in case they want to use an alt. If they have any identifying stuff in their profile they may not want to risk being accused of being a ‘terf’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:34 PM
77

Just a warning that I engaged with a few posts from the gendercritical sub following cross posts here and was banned from multiple, unrelated subs (vegancirclejerk, Feminism, asktoronto (I’ve never even visited that one so it must have been a mod who banned me from all their subs at once) and others which I forget) even though I only lurked / commented there a couple times so be careful when following the link. I’m not telling people not to participate over there, just letting you know it may ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:28 PM
13

Yeah I’m pretty heavily tattooed and I’ve never touched my collarbone / front of the neck. It’s an extremely bold placement as you say (probably the first thing people will notice about you) and can look very masculine if you don’t have the right body type. Very strange placement if it’s her first / only tattoo - any good artist would strongly advise against that, but unfortunately there are plenty of shops with poor ethics who’ll just take your money and tattoo you anywhere - hence why we’re se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:06 PM
20

The devil has no need for an advocate so why don’t you just go ahead and tell me your shitty opinion?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:03 PM
4

Same, my life is in no way set up to accommodate children... because I’m childfree! He has the childfree life on steroids and still thinks he’s going to have a mess of kids somehow lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:54 PM
2

Oh I would have turned around and drove home after the first 2 hours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:13 PM
18

r/asablackman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:10 PM
6

I honestly think he decided how many kids he wanted at about age 9 and then literally never thought about it again. He came from a big Italian American family and I think he just imagined he’d have the same one day. But the lack of self awareness was startling. He was one of the worst anxious-avoidants I’ve ever met so having loads of kids being needy all the time would be hell for him. Having to be home by a certain time or have to stick to a schedule = hell for him. Also, though he is successf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:08 PM
8

There are some high end bars that will pay you just to be an attractive girl in the club! Clubs with table service and thousand dollar bottles etc. They need the club to look busy so the people who’ve reserved tables keep spending. I did it a few times in college and it was a pretty good gig (literally didn’t have to do anything but be there and have a vagina) but I’d always be wary as I’m sure some clubs would expect you to talk to / sit with the high rollers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:00 PM
13

My ex is in his early 40s and his job means he literally lives out of a suitcase, he has no apartment. He’s successful and definitely on the upward swing in terms of his career so no hint of lifestyle changes on the horizon. When we spoke about kids he said he wanted ‘like 10 kids one day’. Fucking bonkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:55 PM
6

Not even a soft, polite no like ‘oh, not sure that’s for me’ lol. You were legit like ‘ew’ and the guy was like ‘hell yeah, I can turn this around!’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:29 PM
7

Yeah all subscription boxes and food deliveries are facing unprecedented demand right now as people avoid trips to the shops. She’ll be lucky if she can resubscribe demand is so high in some places!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:54 AM
6

I know I’m still so angry about it! Also annoyed at myself for not making more of a fuss but just wanted to get away from them both!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:40 AM
5

I hear that! I live alone but now I’m starting to feel uncomfortable with the men in my apartment block. It’s like they’ve been cooped up so long they are pouncing on any woman they see. If I go outside for anything (bins, post, looking for my cat etc) some man appears and tries to force me to converse. Two separate men TOUCHED ME uninvited yesterday, in the middle of a fucking world wide pandemic! One of them, who I actually know quite well, noticed a scratch on my back (from the cat) and actua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:32 AM
18

Oh, only a third? You’re right, what a totally negligible sample /s I agree that the majority of abuse victims do not go on to offend themselves, but to pretend that a third is not a large number is preposterous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:16 AM
1

laughs in Venus retrograde
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:11 AM
2

Her instagram is like extreme r/uncannyvalley these days. Looks nothing like her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:39 PM
8

Yeah I thought they were the ‘new rules’ coming in and that’s why he was upset? Indicating that he sees sex over 3 mins as a chore? Probably because jerking it to pornhub takes <3 min?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:32 PM
15

Ok girl, but be careful. Dreamy looks are much harder to resist IRL x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:29 PM
13

So if it’s not his looks, what is it that’s clouding your judgement? Because based on what you’ve written here it seems a bit overcast tbh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:26 PM
52

The saddest thing is that defence actually worked. Elon won that case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:28 PM
58

Bill Gates is magnitudes richer today than he was when he decided to start ‘giving it away’, so he’s not quite as philanthropic as they’d have you believe. Also his foundation have had some pretty well publicised scandals which show that, perhaps, having lots of money doesn’t automatically qualify you to operate in spheres like public health or international development. Further, many of his investments actually serve to increase his fortune or influence, if you look into them with a more critic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:04 PM
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You don’t get to be a billionaire by being a good person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:23 PM
2

I felt the same way, it actually made me feel sadder in a way as it was so repetitive! Now I just make a few gratitude statements out loud when I wake up which feels much better for me, less formal and more spontaneous. Plus I don’t read back on myself and get down about how small it all feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:30 PM
14

Tbf some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever met have had this sort of anti-beauty, non-conformist kinda style. They get so sick of being constantly pestered by men or having other women make bitchy comments out of jealousy that they go for a grungy look so they don’t attract the same sort of attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:10 PM
9

Yeah all I’m getting from this vid is that her boyf likes her to be uncomfortable, both during and after sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 11:16 AM
7

Or... Man: my girlfriend (21) earns 12k a year and I (44) earn 120k a year. I want to split bills 50:50 but she says she literally can’t afford it. How do I get her to stop being such a gold digger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:57 AM
1

You are so right about men overvaluing their attractiveness but it’s not just that - for me it’s also about the lack of effort. People find different things attractive, but a blurry pic in a dirty mirror is just low effort trash. If these guys had made an effort, got dressed up, paid for professional photos etc I’d be a lot more forgiving. I’d still think they were slightly delusional for pitting themselves against literal supermodels, but whatever, at least it would be less annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:24 PM
15

The other dating subs are the worst! A load of post-wall men giving self-serving dating advice like ‘always approach guys first, they never get compliments so it will definitely work!’ (leaving out the fact that most guys will fuck anything so whilst it might get you laid it’s unlikely to lead to a relationship) and their cool girl cheerleaders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:44 AM
3

Yeah I’ve been banned from multiple subs for lurking (not even subscribing) over at gendercritical (following linked posts from here mainly) so I’ve been wondering how long it’ll take til I get my first FDS-linked ban
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:47 PM
2

That’s a great idea! An FDS linked podcast or YT would be great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:53 PM
4

I’ve really been thinking about this lately, like is there a career change I could make that would help to empower women and girls? I’ve been looking but a lot of roles, such as DV counsellors or guidance counsellors etc require a degree and I can’t afford to retrain like that (I have a degree but it’s not really relevant). I’d love to be doing something which was helping to educate and empower young women and keep them away from these life ruining LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:48 PM
41

She doesn’t even mention leaving in the update, I think she’s resigned to staying, it’s so sad. She’s even buying him a new games console ffs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:20 PM
8

r/justnoso is pickme Mecca. I just want to rescue them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:16 PM
45

Have you noticed how often men post selfies to r/ladyboners and r/altladyboners? Like, literally comparing themselves to professionally photographed a-listers and models without a hint of self-awareness. Shits cringe. One of the mods of alt actually argued with me because I called a dude out for some terrible, blurry mirror selfie where you could barely see him. Pickmes abound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:11 PM
6

If a man is over 25 and still using snapchat he ain’t worth dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:58 PM
6

One guy I dated was not into giving oral sex (no complaints about receiving tho, go figure!). We once had a conversation where he was basically telling me he doesn’t understand why he can’t keep a girl and I really had to bite my tongue lol! Obviously, I did not date him for long either...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:50 AM
13

Exactly! This super hot guy who was friends with my ex (so off limits the first time we met, about 8 years ago) got in touch. He’s asked me if he can take me out once the lockdown ends, and that’s cool and all, but I’m by no means getting my hopes up. Guys are just bored and want people to talk / flirt with. I’m basically ignoring him now because I don’t play all that penpal shit. If he gets in touch and comes correct once lockdown ends? Great! If not, I somehow doubt the pickings will be slim o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:24 AM
4

That and they have some version of the ‘women who care about height are bitches’ argument about once per week. Exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:36 AM
14

In the 90s you used to hear choking jokes, but they were mostly centred around dudes who died from auto-erotic asphyxiation...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:37 AM
5

It’s funny because clearly the girl on the left, with coloured hair and tats is supposed to be the ‘damaged’ one, but all the porn I’ve ever seen features women who look more like the right. Without the captions I’d think this was a straight up incel meme, it’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:34 AM
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Thanks for this, our studios are a bit more like dorms, so we share bathrooms, shower, laundry room etc so it’s a bit more analogous to sheltering with roommates, than a strictly apartment block situation. But you are so right that I need to be more vigilant and not let people into my actual studio! This particular neighbour is gay and I’ve known him about 5 years, which is what I meant about not having that concern with him, but you are so right about limiting my interactions with men. I will b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:45 PM
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The last guy I dated, when I got thrown off a horse and almost broke my back and had to be bedridden for a week, used that time to just pester me constantly for nudes because he knew I was in bed. He maybe asked me once or twice how I was, after the initial injury. Worst thing is, I was so loopy on opiate painkillers I just did it, without even stopping to question myself why I was putting myself through the pain of moving (it was so bad I could barely make it to the bathroom and even moving abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:43 AM
6

Yes, thank you OP. I’m just now realising I’ve been a lot friendlier and open with my neighbours at the moment than I usually would, even just things like leaving my front door wide open when I go to take the trash out - I figured ‘well no strangers can get into the complex rn so what’s the harm?’. Interestingly, just yesterday a neighbour came by to ask to borrow something and whilst he was here he picked up the baseball bat I keep by my door and was like ‘you have this for protection?’. I don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:31 AM
8

Rape has been decriminalised in practice. Conviction rate is below 5% in the US and below 3% in the UK. Technically it’s illegal, but in practice not so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:22 AM
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The ‘men never get any compliments’ thing always makes me laugh because it’s like, well how much effort did you put into your appearance this morning? Because if the answer is ‘I showered’ I’m not really sure why you’re expecting compliments. Women get compliments because we make an effort in our appearance and, generally, compliments about things we have zero control over (nice ass or great legs!) are not appreciated and are creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:45 AM
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Luckily, a lot of people who are terrible cooks are oblivious to how awful it tastes. Shoutout to one of my homegirls who has no idea how to pair spices. Her concoctions are truly bizarre but made with love and she’s always so proud of herself. I’ve not the heart to tell her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:21 PM
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I thought we didn’t do these types of posts here? Congratulating men for basic human decency which would be totally ignored if it was a woman? Keep it up and this sub will go the way of 2x.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:14 PM
3

Yep one of my exes recently set up a new Facebook profile to get around my blocks then messaged me simply ‘hey’. I wrote back saying ‘if you have anything of substance to say now is your chance...’ and he responds ‘no, just wanted to say hey’. Yeah, sure dude. Blocked immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:17 AM
3

The only functional poly relationships I know are ones where the couples only play together. Is that still poly or is it swinging? Not sure the correct term but I know of 2 couples who’ll invite in a third or another couple very occasionally and it seems to work for them. I think the key is though that it happens naturally - none of them are on OLD trawling for partners, they just go to a lot of creative industry parties (exhibition openings etc) and seem to do quite well there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:11 AM
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Most of the ones I’ve come across don’t even show the mans face or cut off both partners at the neck. As if any woman is going to be so desperate to fuck them she’ll take a gamble on their faces or get in to a drawn out convo before ‘exchanging pics’. Just no. I mean I’m not looking to be a unicorn but especially not with some mousy losers who can’t even be open about who they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:34 AM
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And every second comment is ‘I’m a man but here’s my opinion...’ Any negative comments about men are downvoted into oblivion. Regular brigading etc. It’s a mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:13 PM
5

B is a total pick me though. Why make an album putting your man on blast and let the whole world know he’s a cheater, then take him back and try to convince us that’s some queen shit? Nah, sis. She should have left Jay and formed a harem of hot dudes who worship at her feet ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:54 AM
5

He’s trying to get her to suck his dick for hours even though she doesn’t want to. That’s literally it. This whole production is designed just to increase the frequency and length of her blow jobs. It’s fucking psychopathic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:46 AM
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I got accepted there and started accurately rating the men like 2s, 3s etc and never got removed. I just stopped because it felt mean and pointless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:34 AM
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I used to get really offended too by some of the fucking ogres friends would try to set me up with, but OP is right. People are just falling into the misogyny trap that ‘nice’ guys are entitled to a woman, they are literally thinking no further than that. The guy they know is nice enough and he’s sad he doesn’t have a girlfriend and that’s enough to get people mobilising on his behalf. Women exist to serve men, you are a woman, job done. It’s only when you ask them to engage their brain (by aski…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:50 AM
12

Same. My picker isn’t usually the best, but at least I’ve always been able to sniff out a good lay! The few times I’ve had bad sex I literally never saw those guys again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:42 AM
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Yep my older female friends (50s/60s) seem to fit into 2 categories: 1) single and fabulous or 2) fabulous and looking after a similarly-aged man with addiction/health/money issues who they are not married to yet still seemingly stuck with. Men who look like potatoes with eczema. I know which i’d rather be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:40 AM
3

‘Commies’? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:06 AM
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Well done! I know exactly what you mean about those pleasant but shallow entanglements. The last relationship I had like this I kept convincing myself I was the problem, because he was perfectly nice and treated me well and didn’t do anything wrong exactly (the bar is on the floor lol). One day I was really dragging my feet getting ready to meet him and then it hit me - I was dreading going to meet him, because it was so boring spending time together! He wanted to stay in all the time as he got …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:00 AM
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Yeah everyone acting surprised he managed to get another woman to have an affair with when we know sex workers are readily available. I bet he paid a pro in some sort of weird power trip game and got caught. He’s clearly not above paying for sex seeing as he’s actively looking for a green card marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:45 AM
5

WTAF even is that show? The whole premise is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 10:39 AM
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Literally all my exes have cheated on me and when I think back to the lengths they went to to hide the truth from me so that they could keep fucking me, it really makes me sick. It does feel extremely coercive because I always say early on in a relationship that I think cheating is one of the worst things you can do to people and i will leave immediately at the first suspicion. So they’ve all known full well how I feel about cheating and that there is zero way I would even talk to them, let alon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:29 AM
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I cannot believe she even took it upon herself to come up with this system to keep him entertained in the first place. This is like something I would do for a toddler. Mortifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:26 PM
5

‘Yeah sure sweetie, I’m just going to pop outside to call and check my balance. Brb’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:49 AM
7

Never. In my experience if they are that desperate to get in touch they’ll find your defunct Pinterest or your old MySpace or some shit and start messaging you there to get around the block. I had one ex make multiple new fb accounts to get around the block. Obviously he’s still LVM supreme, but my point is if they are desperate for an explanation they’ll find you somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:03 PM
3

Will do :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:38 PM
14

Sweet of you to say but I actually hope he doesn’t show any more interest. I’d rather know where I stand than give him any opportunity to play games. I actually think the only way to have a happy relationship with a man is to be with someone who loves you more than you love them. But that just feels so craven and empty to me - if he can’t meet me at my level why bother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:49 PM
12

Yeah, don’t like the way it’s made me feel the last few days and I promised myself I wasn’t going to let other people affect me like that anymore so we’re already off to a bad start. I can’t follow FDS guidelines about dating multiples at the same time (can’t think of anything I’d rather do less right now than begin multiple new male pen pal ‘relationships’) so I actually don’t think it’s healthy to be engaging with him - he’s got more much mental real estate than I’m comfortable with already. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:33 PM
6

Yeah I know! I guess I’m trying to frame it in my mind like beanie babies lol. Yes, beanie babies are abundant and low value. Yes, there are some very rare and unique ones which are less abundant, but in the end they are all trash haha. Easier said than done though, when what feels like a one-of-a-kind comes along. I actually think it’s easier to just not date at all, the older I get the less I want to open myself up to being lied to and used by men - HVM who I am actually attracted to must be l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:51 PM
11

Fatherhood theatre
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:18 AM
37

Just finished jerking and knew he wouldn’t be able to get it up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:07 AM
44

Eugh, I really struggle with 4. I’m extremely picky so I know if it doesn’t work out with one guy, chances are it’ll be a year or two (at least, currently in about year 3/4 - just met someone but pretty sure he’s LVM) before i find anyone I’m interested in again. But I need to remind myself that rare does not equal high value. Four leaf clovers are extremely rare but basically worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:59 AM
45

Honey if they don’t have the time for correspondence now it’s because they don’t wanna talk to you. I’m going through the same thing - met a cute guy just before this all became really serious, got along great but now he’s not texting, breadcrumbing. I know he is quarantined with his mama in the countryside and not working so he literally has all the time in the world to text / call if he wanted to. He’s not cuz he doesn’t want to. Stings but it’s true. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:22 AM
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I bet that guy looks back at that exchange as the time he was a really great friend too lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:23 PM
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Also, y’know maybe she had nausea from fucking chemo and this asshole won’t change the cologne that’s bothering her? Fucking trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:26 PM
56

He was the strongest of the troop! :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:41 PM
38

Love it when men think they can police your feminism. You should ask him for his analysis of the SCUM manifesto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:24 AM
13

Messaged a handful of OLD matches, just to be polite, to say ‘I’m not dating right now, for obvious reasons, but feel free to hit me up when this is all over’. I don’t know why I bothered... literally every one replied ‘WhY, aRe YoU qUaRaNTiNeD?’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:02 PM
4

Day 4 of the quarantine and my magic wand has broken. Simultaneously my sexy (but obvious fuckboi) neighbour has suddenly gotten a lot more friendly. Playing this one on hard mode ladies, wish me luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 12:39 PM
2

Flabby nosferatu. Spot on. Thank you for helping me to place the resemblance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:28 PM
14

Nooo you don’t get it. I mean, yes, he’s gonna make her drive to his place, probably won’t have anything to eat or drink there and will make her pick what they are going to watch, but it’s not zero effort because he had to ask and don’t you know that men being expected to ask women out first is a form of societal torture? Jeez grow some compassion /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:20 PM
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Also, whenever a guy says they haven’t had a blowjob in ages I always immediately wonder when is the last time they went down on her? I know in previous relationships that was the quickest way to stop me doling them out. Guys get lazy, stop reciprocating, then wonder why they aren’t getting blowjobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 12:27 PM
29

Big fish small pond mentality. Soon he’ll just be small/medium sized fish in an ocean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:26 AM
14

Pickme supreme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:59 AM
15

Ah yes, that homogeneous culture that spans an entire continent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:16 AM
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Also he’ll seem like the more stable option in the inevitable custody dispute, as a lawyer who owns his own house, the house the kids are used to. If he wanted to he could totally screw you there (though chances are he’ll want you to take the kids too once he tires of y’all)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:31 AM
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My friend just went through something similar - partner of 8+ years, they lived together in a house owned by her family and paid rent. Had FOUR housemates (at his insistence) so that rent would always be dirt cheap (even though they could have afforded it alone). Turns out he’d used all of those savings to buy a secret investment property in another city which he never told her about. He was a fucking landlord with a substantial second income for years and she had no idea. They broke up and she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:28 AM
7

I mean, I’m sure a small minority of them do have a genuine addiction, but most of them it will just be a severe case of entitlement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:59 AM
3

Hopium is a hell of a drug! Plus she said she took it almost immediately for resizing - if it was super loose she may have just put it back in the box and taken it back to the store without looking at it too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:58 PM
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Yep, plus in my experience it just ends up with them resenting you. They believe they could do better if only they had the confidence, so they convince themselves they are ‘stuck’ with whatever woman approached them (even though that is clearly, literally, the best they can do). I went out with one shy guy and about 10 months in I found this notebook (he left out in the open near this pile of stuff for recycling, I started skimming to see if it was included in recycling pile or not) full of obse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:14 PM
17

Yeah they are having issues with this with the universal credit roll out in the U.K.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:00 PM
4

Omg I had an ex like this. Would always send me cards and letters telling me he loved me but only once said it in person. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:44 PM
17

Probs been trying to get with the housemate for ages and was trying to make her jealous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:40 PM
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Yeah screams of boundary testing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:35 PM
9

Literally the only hot guys I meet are gay or married
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:47 AM
6

First read I thought this said ‘patriarchy potato’ and i kinda love that as an insult
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:46 AM
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‘Looking for something casual’ ‘Want kids someday’ That was almost every guy in my age range (35-45). When the fuck these jokers think is ‘some day’. Media really need to do a better job of teaching men about their biological clock - I legit think they all believe their sperm is perfect until they die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:41 AM
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Same. Was getting repetitive strain injury from all the nopes. I’d like, perhaps, 1 in 1000. It just became a chore - I’d try to spend 15 mins a day swiping, as all the pickme dating advice out there tells you it’s just a numbers game and you gotta invest significant amounts of time searching through the haystack. Nah sis, it just made me more depressed having to sift through the dregs of humanity like that. Now I just don’t bother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:38 AM
15

Tbh I’ve read that the reverse is also a problem - men volunteering at rape crisis hotlines because they get off on the tales of abuse. See Ted Bundy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:17 AM
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Yep, like I said, no matter how good your friendship was before, the minute sex is involved they see you as less than, disposable. It’s pure misogyny, albeit subconscious in many cases. Unfortunately my guy is still in my mutual friend group so I have to see him occasionally, but there were a few instances of predatory and disrespectful behaviour since the FWB days (one example is him turning up to a small gathering at my house, then sending away all our other friends whilst I was in the bathroo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:08 PM
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I mean, I hear that, but in that case I think you'd be better with a ONS. The last FWB I had had been a genuine friend for many years, we had many mutual friends and I trusted him so I thought, why not? As much as we were good friends, we were not at all relationship compatible so I wasn't worried about getting attached. However, he basically immediately stopped treating me as a friend and starting treating me like a free hooker - cancelling 'dates' at the last minute, hot and cold texting, just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:46 PM
18

I was really shown how men value other men they don’t even know above women they do the other day. Caught up with an old university friend who I’ve known for 12+ years the other day - we don’t see each other often as his job means he’s almost always on the road. He asked about my dating life and I told him I don’t date anymore, then told him what I thought was a funny story about how this absolutely gorgeous young man had moved in next door to me but he’s the most comedy fuckboy (tattooist, cons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:36 AM
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Every other comment on that sub is ‘I am a man but here’s my opinion anyway’. It’s askwomen you fucking moron, no one cares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:51 AM
3

I think it means that when guys propose the open relationship, it’s because they’ve already got a particular third in mind and has probably been laying the ground work for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:34 PM
8

With the guys it’s ALWAYS some old friend they’ve had on the back burner for years. They can’t even attract new strange. They are just hitting up the newly single chicks they already know. Another reason to avoid like the plague, it’ll never be casual if she’s been pining over him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:10 PM
12

Exactly. Same, the guy I lowered my standards for was the worst of them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:48 PM
2

I hear you about safety. For me it’s a very fine line between pandering to them and being polite though. The more polite but cold I try to be, the more they see it as a way in, no matter what words are coming out of my mouth. For that reason I’ve found the best response is just to reply briefly, calmly and disengage (such as ‘ok, bye then’ or ‘no thanks’) then remove yourself from the situation. If you stay sat there they think they can just keep talking at you, trying to get you to engage. If y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:47 PM
2

I’m wouldn’t say I’m pro sex work, but I’m not against it either. Hell, when I was struggling through university I even looked into it extensively but ultimately decided against, so I know not every woman is coerced, pressured or finds their way into that line of work due to major trauma. However, any intelligent person can see that many pros are coerced or forced and even those that are not must get diminished over time having to deal with daily ego and power struggles and constant vigilance. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:39 PM
7

Also seems like the unicorn blew through a lot of boundaries just up and walking into the bedroom. Of course hubs followed instantaneously. But doesn’t sound like they talked about boundaries, contraception, what to do if someone felt uncomfortable and wanted to stop, as you rightly point out - the CLOSED FUCKING DOOR etc. That would not happen with a professional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:13 PM
3

Oh yeah I only really use it to make it clear to people that their input is unwelcome and means nothing to me. See also ‘cool, thanks’ leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:48 PM
20

‘Lower your standards. You always go for these really attractive dudes with great jobs, but there’s loads of women after them so you should lower your standards so they feel lucky to be with you and commit’ Lol no kid, I aim high and still have never met my match, why would I aim even lower!? In hindsight I think he meant ‘lower them to my level so I have a shot’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:38 PM
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I think it’s quite a fair response to an unprompted comment from a stranger Rando: You are wearing green trousers Me: I know! Thanks Fair enough if you are already engaged in conversation it might be a bit out of step. But if some drunk guy comes schlubbing over to you, interrupting your conversation to breath ‘you’re gorgeous’ all over me I think ‘yeah I know, thanks’ (with ‘now go away’ as the unspoken implication) is quite appropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:57 PM
7

It’s such an odd way to spend ones time. I don’t even think I’d chase my dream man that hard, let alone someone I barely wish to interact with. Must be for the ‘still got it’ ego boost. Like I said, pathetic,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:59 PM
11

Going their own way directly to your inbox lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:04 PM
9

Yeah, I don't even think the majority of male users are looking for hook ups now. I think it's just become an ego boost game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:01 PM
9

Thanks for this. Yep, that’s what I’ve been working on the last few years and why I’ve been single. I’ve been very much in the ‘don’t need a partner to make me happy, but cool if one shows up organically’ mindset and focusing on my career. Just starting to get a bit disheartened as it has been a few years and anyone (romantically) interesting I have met has been in a relationship already. Nowadays I tend to flit between ‘seriously happy single for life’ and ‘will I ever have regular sex, again?’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:47 PM
5

What a nice way of looking at it. Sounds like something Bob Ross would say :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:37 PM
17

I don't even think it's that deep, I think they are just thinking 'new is always better, and I deserve the best'. Pretty much every dude I went through this with would then spend years trying to get back into my bed, even when they had 'committed' to other women. Grim. And what would be on offer, should I lower myself to give them a second chance? Just more of the same! One dude kept making new facebook profiles to get around my blocks. Kept finding new ways to get in touch (as I had him blocked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:57 PM
10

Good tip! Most of the courses I do are just one-day things, as the ongoing short courses (6-8 weeks) are often priced prohibitively (in my city is ranges from c. £250 - £900, depending on subject matter, institution etc), so not much opportunity to form lasting friendships, but perhaps I need to commit to one of the meet-up groups with a bit more regularity. Though I would say I've literally never had a successful set up by a friend - everytime someone has tried to set me up with someone it's be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:39 PM
9

"Right now, I'm not looking for anyone. I don't know what I'll do when I want to start dating. Right now, I believe that actively dating isn't for me, I'm going to do what I like and if a good man shows up at the right time and place then I'll deal with that then." This is exactly how I feel. I'm happy as I am, it would be nice to have someone to share more of my life with, but I don't need to force it, which is why I quit dating. However, its been a few years now of trying to meet someone the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:30 PM
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Yes, I got very little interaction on Bumble. I'd message soon after matching and always with something thoughtful I'd picked up from their profile. Without tooting my own horn, I know I lean more towards the 'conventionally attractive' end of the spectrum. I also work at a very well known music venue in my city (think 'Radio City Music Hall' or 'Carnegie Hall') which I included in my profile as an easy conversation starter. But nothing. Absolute crickets. Definitely a grass is greener sort of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:13 PM
19

This is exactly why I stopped dating. No matter how promising the start, it always ended up being downgraded to some type of bullshit, casual situationship. They start taking you for granted so quickly and then convince themselves that they can definitely do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:20 PM
13

If I had a dime for every time a male boss or co-worker told me I was very confident as a criticism I'd be so rich I wouldn't need to work with these morons no mo. See also: getting annoyed when they expect me to cry but I don't, like when I've received legitimate criticism they think I'm not taking it seriously unless I start sobbing. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:53 PM
1

I also used to look for someone to complete me. But then when I started looking at these men objectively, completely apart from myself and my desperation for a relationship, I realised none of them were fully grown. None of those guys felt like a complete person either. Then I realised I don’t want to be half a person, looking for half a person. I want to be complete, whole, 100% fully me. And I want to find someone who is whole, complete, fully them. Now I’m not looking for someone to complete …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:45 PM
7

Just paying to talk to bots, yeah. Almost all the women’s accounts were set up using Ashley Madison email accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:24 AM
6

20 million accounts that were active, according to the study. As in had actively logged in and checked inbox at least once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:40 PM
10

So that’s what you need to work on. When you’re starving to death you’ll eat shit to survive. You need to have a full belly (a full life) full of fun, friends, learning and self-improvement before you try to find someone. You are looking for your match, your equal, not someone to ‘make you whole’ or ‘complete you’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:46 PM
22

They were all just talking to robots yeah. Paying x a month to talk 1s and 0s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:10 PM
2

Should I really have to work on being attractive? I mean I know there are whole industries out there for women’s beauty, fitness, hair etc, but I’m a man! I’m just baseline attractive, obviously, and even if I’m not my wife should fuck me anyway otherwise she’s a shallow Stacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:56 PM
1

But that’s also what made it sound so suspect - so despite ‘getting shredded and putting on bulk’ he’s the exact same weight? In another comment he says he basically developed an eating disorder and starved himself. But he’s still the same weight and level of attractiveness as when they married? Whut?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:52 PM
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Same. I regularly see women I’m attracted to and have enjoyed the odd kiss etc. But I have never taken it any further cuz when I try to imagine actually having sex with a woman I find it kind of gross? Even though intellectually I know kitties are beautiful magical things. Because I’m straight! Despite my best efforts. Also how I know people truly are ‘born that way’ - if you could choose to be gay I’d know because I’d have done it years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 07:33 PM
18

That whole family are incredible pick-mes so it’s not surprising. How many time’s did Khloe and Kourtney take back their disgusting baby-daddies? All the money in the world and that’s how they allow themselves to be treated!? It’s insane. I’d be sunning myself on my own private island with a harem of men’s health models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:54 PM
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Oh, of course, I was just surprised by the figures! Over 20 million individual male users, to about 1500 women! And that’s just actual, verified users - I’d bet that even within that 1500, once the men started talking to them many turned out to be sex workers not genuine married women seeking extramarital affairs. But men definitely don’t cheat more than women, it’s a character issue, not a gender issue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:11 PM
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Yeah no way would this have gone down the same way if they knew the dude. If they did you’d get at best a ‘not getting involved’ scenario and at worst a significant escalation of the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 12:16 PM
3

Yes, very good point about intuition. Most of them I'm certain its about sex, but there were one or two who really were just very wealthy, so what might seem outrageous to me is nothing to them, especially where they've already booked everything and just have some extra space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:37 PM
3

Yeah, that's what I always thought. Not worth the risk. One of the dudes does genuinely invite other people from the retreat we were on too, but still seems like I could get stuck in some pretty sketchy scenarios.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:34 PM
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There were so many dudes in the comments like ‘it’s not sexist cuz I love it when people buy me manly shit, like tools. I use them for my hobby’. Like how is that comparable, unless husband thinks his wife’s hobby is cleaning? It is a completely impersonal and dispassionate gift. Like what you’d get for a colleague in a secret Santa, if it had a stupidly high suggested spend. I’d be seriously reconsidering my relationship if it were me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:18 PM
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Yessss! I have seen this happen again and again with the men in my family. They don’t marry the girlfriend who was most compatible, they marry whoever is there at age 30-32 then have an absolutely miserable time, always involving some kids they decide to pop out, and are usually single again in <5 years with regret babies for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 08:28 PM
31

Probably trying to dog whistle for something younger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 12:43 PM
16

Anyone of us could be forced into refugee status, it’s not generally through any fault of the refugee. We don’t get to choose where we are born and it doesn’t make you any better than someone that you were born in a (currently) stable country. Also, depending on the region, the first people to leave are often the most educated - the educated see the issues arising before most and also are targeted because repressive regimes often first target the intelligentsia. Read a fucking book. Don’t get me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 04:23 PM
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