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I know, right?
/r/askTRP04/02/16 08:12 PM
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Pretzel position (she's laying on her side/back, you're on your knees and fucking her with one of her legs over your shoulder) Spoon position (start by spooning, lift her leg, fuck her) Spork position (she's on her back, you're perpindicular and on your side)
/r/askTRP09/01/16 06:03 PM
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So... I can't kick her out. What to do :-? Uh... you kick her out? Everything you listed are excuses. The only thing stopping her from rolling up her sleeves and flipping burgers or finding another place with roommates, is you and your terrible enabling of her shitty behaviour. If she has enough time to fuck other men, she has enough time to work a part-time job and find another place. That simple.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 05:32 PM
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I can't believe this is actually a thing, I just saw it on Facebook. Yeah, OMG, let's take out our inability to deal with interpersonal situations on people that don't deserve it. Instead of... you know... moving the fuck on and being more selective with who you choose to spend your time with. Date stands you up? Holy shit, fucking next him, go get your dinner/lunch/whatever, and read a fucking book instead. Life goes on.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 05:22 PM
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And if you can't go on the internet without obsessively stalking any woman that disagrees with you, you should probably just stick to being the reclusive shut in we all know you really are. Run along, little omega.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 05:07 PM
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"Fool me once, fool me twice" She probably thinks you'll just dump her and ignore her for months all over again.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 03:56 PM
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Because there's a lot of thirsty ass dudes out there that just want to get laid. Some people will tell you abso-fucking-lutely anything to get what they want. Because they don't give a shit, they don't plan to call you after, they don't care about you in particular, they just want to get laid. So why would they be honest? "Oh yeah, I want a relationship and all those same things, too!" -- and sometimes it works. And each time the chick will rationalize how "that time it was different because he …
/r/askTRP09/01/16 03:50 PM
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lmfao and the insult to injury is the dad is still going to meet up with ex gf to "come up with solutions" 10/10 would cuck again
/r/askTRP09/01/16 03:45 PM
0

Well adjusted people do not stick around people who treat them like garbage. Both your friends sound like they have issues. If I was seeking a relationship, anyone that feels comfortable enough to flake on date #2 like that has immediately lost worth in my eyes if they use some piss poor excuse like "just not feeling it". I mean, I "just was not feeling" getting dressed up but still did. A guy just literally has to show up. If he can't manage that, then it sends up red flags.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 03:11 PM
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She eventually did by losing weight and finding someone she values. Also, some chicks lose count when they are desperate and end up locked in to a cycle with a new excuse each time from the guy, if at all. "This time it's different" is a powerful mantra sometimes that keeps people locked in to that shitty cycle.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 01:59 PM
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Pretty sure only crazies you want to avoid at all costs do that.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 01:48 PM
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Uh huh
/r/askTRP09/01/16 06:15 AM
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You lost frame, and went full on hamster with that last comment. You got whiny, and are not worth debating.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 06:08 AM
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Here's how low self esteem works when you're a fat chick: you basically take what you can get, because you find worth and validation through sex. It means "someone wants you", even if you're only seen in the context of small island syndrome, or only a slightly better alternative to a wet hole in the ground. Being fat for most women that don't have at least pretty or desirable features, is like hitting the wall before life even begins. Think about how anyone would actually cope with that. A guy c…
/r/askTRP09/01/16 06:03 AM
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This must be the male hamster in effect
/r/askTRP09/01/16 05:51 AM
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No, it doesn't work like that. Backing out at the last minute = hard next from most women worth being around. It takes some women minimum 1 hr to get ready -- shower, shave, dry & straighten hair, that's not including make up. When a guy flakes like OP did, you've basically wasted that time. Beyond that, you're forgetting that TRP narrative is that women are solipsistic -- flaking is universally seen as "he rejected me". Unhealthy women cling by trying to qualify themselves by trying to impress …
/r/askTRP09/01/16 05:49 AM
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By taking it slow. I don't have many male friends, but the male friends I do have treat me no differently than their male friends with the exception that they sometimes act a little "male feminine silly" (one of my friends gets these weird "inner girl" moment where he tries to set me up with his best friend and thinks we're all going to have these awesome double date tea parties or some shit -- completely RP save for those little moments). These aren't "insta-besties-friendsies omg" type friends…
/r/askTRP09/01/16 03:17 AM
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When I am dressed up to the 9s, I scare off first dates and I won't be approached in person but I've had a few ask around and look me up on facebook/VK after. Reasons I get are: they think I'm expecting them to have a lot of money or that I look "high maintenance". I have better success with zero makeup and just simple brushed hair on a first date. I learned to save dressing up for date #2 or #3 when they get to know me better.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 02:11 AM
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Coolidge Effect
/r/askTRP03/01/16 08:23 PM
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Yes. I started with one person. A couple months later another person came along in to the mix. Some months after that another person came along. In between then you'll have people that come and go, but the ones that stay behind and consistently hang out with you and each other eventually become your "group".
/r/askTRP03/01/16 04:41 PM
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tl;dr it feels good, promotes bonding
/r/askTRP03/01/16 04:37 PM
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Don't forget you are talking to a girl here (sadnesspickle). Has nothing to do with it. Truth is truth. She is generalising her individual preferences, solipsistically of course. Actually, I pulled 5 extremely typical qualities out of thin air to illustrate my point.
/r/askTRP03/01/16 04:25 PM
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You can't and shouldn't ever. Because as women, we're not sizing you up on those two things alone. Let's use the binary method (for simplicity sake) to calculate your SMV, and say there are 5 categories: Looks: 0 Game: 1 Career: 0 Education: 0 Ambition: 0 There are no "average looks"... there is either "would fuck" or "wouldn't fuck". So let's say you've got game, and absolutely nothing else going on for you. Congrats: you're a 2/10 and you have absolutely nothing else going on for you. Now let'…
/r/askTRP02/01/16 09:27 PM
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This isn't always true. Think of SMV not as just one stream, but the average of a collective of ratings. Think of it like school: you have average grades in English, Math, History, but science is off the chart high and brings your overall average up. SMV is the same way: if your looks are average, but your social standing and charisma are off the charts high, your overall attractiveness will increase as a result.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 08:49 PM
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Send all pics you have to me, I'll make some suggestions. As I said: you're good looking and have desirable features. Tinder should be easy mode for you.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 08:05 PM
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If youre a good looking guy but painted as a loser, the woman wont stay attracted. Because it is never "just about looks" regardless. Even a 6 can keep her hooks in a high SMV guy if she plays him right. Men like Berlusconi are the same, however the difference is Berlusconi was physically attractive for much of his life; and had the whole "I am but a musician" -- these types will latch on to any chick that will let them. And there will be plenty that will let them. The point is: none of the two …
/r/askTRP02/01/16 05:18 AM
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You're good looking but your face pic is terrible, and the uniform is screaming Dependapotamus bait.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 03:54 AM
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Berlusconi was actually an attractive individual particularly in his younger years, however, he is also insanely charismatic. That guy would still be rolling in pussy even if he was poor.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 03:10 AM
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Yeah, pretty much. OP, if you're in your 30s and doing this, you're going to be the desperate guy hanging around with people a decade+ younger because he can't get along with anyone his own age. This is like early mid-life crisis territory.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 02:27 AM
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No. Low dick count is about self-restraint/self-awareness/discipline. For example: if you're on a diet and someone presents you a menu of cake and ice cream -- if you can put it down without ordering it despite really wanting it, good work. If not: you will likely start to rationalize your choice. Likewise: look at her behaviour. Does she impulsively spend then justify it? Does she make choices contrary to her goals and rationalize it? If so, she will likely do the same to your relationship. Now…
/r/askTRP01/01/16 04:43 PM
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Here's how it usually happens for us: Guy sets up a date Guy stops talking We show up to date Guy is nowhere to be seen Which is a waste of time for us. So unless the guy maintains some light contact, we won't waste our time anymore. For us, radio silence = almost 100% chance of no-show.
/r/askTRP30/12/15 04:27 AM
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Talk about it in the context of how to make the best of things. Don't talk about it in the context of "boohoo, poor me, white womenz don't look at me because I'm brown/yellow/purple/blue" pity party. There is a lot of race specific stuff to discuss: hair care, beard vs no beard, cultural differences and how to overcome, differences in SMV between different groups, etc.
/r/askTRP29/12/15 10:50 PM
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No, actually, they aren't. There are 3+ billion women in this world. All of them are different. You fucked one chick with a rough play fetish (and I'm assuming by how little you know on the subject that she's the only chick you fucked and now you've decided to be an expert), and now you decide that is what all women enjoy, throwing around AWALT like some shitty old meme. Completely forgetting those of us that don't mind smacking men around, completely forgetting those with bi-tendencies, chicks …
/r/askTRP29/12/15 10:45 PM
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It's not "a fetish" if every woman has it. Oh, please continue to tell me what I do/do not enjoy. Being choked/smacked and in to rough play is a fetish and a kink. I don't enjoy it, but I can see why people would if that's what they are in to. And no, not all women have it. In fact, some of us even prefer either role depending on our mood. You must be an "independent womyn who don't need no man", or else there's something wrong with your self esteem and you have "a fetish". Please stop. You soun…
/r/askTRP29/12/15 10:00 PM
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How about: instead of calling them writing them off in to categories of "good" or "bad" (ie: sluts vs whatever), re-frame your approach in general. Some chicks more open to sex have a different view point: sex and emotion aren't bound together. Sex is something you do because it feels good and it's fun. Relationships are something you do because you enjoy the person you're doing it with. Believe it or not, some of those women are actually fairly open to wanting a relationship. Figure out what yo…
/r/askTRP29/12/15 07:48 PM
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how she's not being a good feminist or some shit What? Feminism has literally nothing to do with it. Sex preference shaming is pretty much the antithesis to Feminism. Chicks are conditioned to feel ashamed of their sexual preferences growing up, like anything other than missionary position on the night of your wedding by some "Prince Charming" straight out of a Disney movie means you're a "slut" and that there is something "wrong" or "taboo" about you. It seems like your girl has a fetish, and t…
/r/askTRP29/12/15 07:26 PM
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By figuring out what you actually want. I'm noticing there are a lot of guys that say they want one thing (no strings attached sex), and think they're okay with that one thing, but deep down actually want something a little deeper. Just through my interactions from guys wanting to take it slower, it seems they're more on board with the theory and idea than they are with the practice. And I think for many guys coming through this, it could be a "Blue Pill hangover" or unresolved desires from thei…
/r/askTRP29/12/15 07:11 PM
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It isn't worse than being a stripper. Camgirl = showing some titty over the internet Stripper = grubby ass hands all over her body, industry highly intertwined with prostitution If you don't like it and want nothing to do with it, that's your choice. You're free to not like it, but if you're not paying her bills, if you're not monogamous with her, if you're not living together, financially intertwined, or in any way sharing your lives together - you really have zero say. All you can do is remove…
/r/askTRP26/12/15 08:35 PM
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This is all that needs to be said. Quack quack. OP, She could be fucking other dudes, but isn't. She's showing some 720p titty to random thirsty betas most likely on different continents and time zones. How the fuck is this worse than being stuck in a dive bar surrounded by strung out chicks and being 1 good offer away from escorting? Worry when she's meeting up with dudes to fuck for money because at least that plays a health risk to you plus the added fear of being cucked.
/r/askTRP26/12/15 08:28 PM
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I was hit on by a married short guy (around 5'5). When I turned him down (because married men = potential drama), he shrugged and brought home some other chick instead. Game still applies. Work on your confidence and stop worrying about being in the "top 10%" Accept your height, work it Go to the gym, if not to look good then to keep fit and in shape Abundance mentality, so you don't get fixated on one person Pick some interesting shit to do or read about so you have something to talk about Ther…
/r/askTRP26/12/15 06:18 PM
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So, you have to be firm. People here are giving you TRP advice as it applies to a chick you're trying to fuck. I used to be like your friend when I was significantly younger, and the problem falls in to (what the equivalent could be?) is lack of abundance in friendship or at least people she can talk to. So you've become her entire social circle, in which you're carrying the weight of what several people should be carrying. Simply withold your replies. She talks to you, because you respond. If s…
/r/askTRP26/12/15 06:13 PM
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I was thinking about it, along with expanding on how SMV works from a female perspective and how certain attributes can skew the result. As well, re: escalation... I thought a bit about it as well, for example one of them indicated he preferred to be more dominant, so I didn't want him to feel emasculated so I'd let him take charge. Like while we were kissng/etc, I tried to give hints by putting his hands on my tits -- and he'd go for it, full on massaging, under shirt, etc. But... he'd keep it …
/r/askTRP26/12/15 05:25 AM
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Now that you mention it the girls who fucked me on the first date were more direct than the others. Never made that connection, interesting. Yep yep. Keep these chicks in mind and keep them in the loop. We're less needy, we'll message you here and there when there's something to message about, but more often than not if you're hanging out, sex is on the menu. Meet up with us periodically in between to let us know how you're doing between meet-ups, to keep you on our mind. My FWBs just sort of sa…
/r/askTRP26/12/15 12:08 AM
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Hell yes I sucked some dick, why not? If you like eating chicks out, wouldn't you do that after a long dry spell? Damn straight. I have a few female friends similar to me, and I have female friends that fill other interests and facets of my personality. My best friend is similar to me, just a lot more reclusive. I'd say I have a lot more female friends, but the few male friends I have are pretty much "bro level" -- not including the ones I met as FWBs. They ask me for chick advice, and I wing-wo…
/r/askTRP25/12/15 10:25 PM
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Because I took marriage seriously, because I don't like being a promise breaker. Even if you don't like the person you're with, you should at least respect them as a human. And to me, that's not doing "tit for tat" type of stuff like "oh he's fucking some chick, I'm gonna fuck some dude". He was my first boyfriend, my first time having sex, my first everything. This was someone I spent almost half my life with. We were supposed to have kids, have a family, etc. At one point he was telling me to …
/r/askTRP25/12/15 09:39 PM
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Never. If you're a programmer, you'll understand when I mean by saying: emotionally I take the "dev/null" approach. Most of my friends were female, and I would always avoid putting myself in situations that could be improper because that's what I expected from him. If I felt a bit of "tingle" happening, I am lucky to have the level of awareness to shut that shit down right away to avoid complications. It sucked, but it's like, if I felt it could in any way become a threat to my marriage on my en…
/r/askTRP25/12/15 09:02 PM
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Because it means more money to buy more things which feels like this
/r/askTRP25/12/15 08:25 PM
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I was pulling my weight of the work, and he was not. He was a very emotional individual and I'm just not that kind of person -- not to say I don't mind it and can't handle it. I don't mind being strong for a guy and still maintaining attraction, but it has to be a two way street. It wasn't, and it was just non-stop. Everything was some big emotional drama. I believed working through problems by communicating, reflecting, and striving to improve were the keys to success, whereas he felt it was ok…
/r/askTRP25/12/15 06:45 PM
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PM your pics and profile. A buddy of mine was having a similar problem until I saw the awful pictures he was posting. Once we took some newer ones and posted different ones, his success rate went up quite a bit.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 06:32 PM
1

Holy shit! Some of the coffee dates I went on were just abysmal. One guy was an Olympic athlete, so I'm thinking "Hey, there should be some interesting stuff to talk about" -- NOPE. Everything I liked, he liked. If he liked something that I didn't like, suddenly he didn't like it anymore in the form of "Oh yeah, me too, I agree". He also had a fixation on bitching about "immigrants ruining Europe". He was hot as hell, but there wasn't enough sexy in the world to un-cringe from it. I just wanted …
/r/askTRP25/12/15 06:25 PM
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Married at 17, I'm almost 30. 600+ matches on Tinder is easy as fuck when you're attractive, take care of yourself, have your shit together (financially, career, life plan, etc), and still sitting at a single digit dick count despite a (brief) rebound phase. Those matches were all done in under 3 weeks. It isn't difficult. I also have a healthy dose of abundance mentality outside of people in the form of pretty awesome hobbies and interests.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 06:13 PM
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29.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 05:41 PM
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HOLY SHIT LOL That is amazing! I don't put up with that shit at all with people, so those types of people are pretty short lived in my books. Life is just much better without them, even if there are small benefits, the bullshit just isn't worth it.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 04:57 PM
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No, it won't be very different. It is very much more of the same. you are too entitled lol k
/r/askTRP25/12/15 04:53 PM
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Oh shit, sorry to hear that! Dayum, lol. I cut my orbiters loose when I realized they were more like disgusting enablers rather than actual friends. Plus, all the time spent entertaining them could be spent doing things that add value. It's why some people never learn to solve their problems, because they can just complain about it and be told nothing is ever their fault; and if one person does tell them something they don't want to hear, they can keep thumbing through the orbiter Rolodex until …
/r/askTRP25/12/15 04:17 PM
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Well, I'm already pretty happy overall. But one can never be too happy, right? Happy Holidays!
/r/askTRP25/12/15 04:09 PM
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I was married for 13 years. I wouldn't recommend it at all.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 04:01 PM
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Bullshit women love sex This is true. settling Ask yourself... would you settle for 7/10 if you had a 9/10 option?
/r/askTRP25/12/15 03:54 PM
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Those "15 guys" are also unattractive in multiple ways and the saying "don't shit where you eat" also applies in most of these cases. I know plenty of people IRL that would do as you say, but they are: co-workers/colleagues, work contacts, family friends, or exes of friends. All no fly zones.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 03:50 PM
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Yes, because I am a giant slut that likes sex with attractive men.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 03:45 PM
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It depends what you're after, but generally you can pick up a very attractive escort for around $150/hr - $200/hr. If it's less than legal where you are, and look up reviews on the woman if you're going by Backpage or some site like that. I'd recommend against Backpage, to be honest. BP will be enticing because it's cheap, but also has higher legal risk. I'd recommend if you're new: go to a well reviewed agency, as those women will more than likely be screened, experienced, and far LESS* likely …
/r/askTRP25/12/15 03:41 PM
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Yes, now here's the other side: Being extremely picky, I had my choice of 600+ extremely attractive, well off men between the ages of 27 - 35. Flakes and penpals: the guys that make plans and constantly flake but want to waste your time texting Guys terrified of escalating: they get you back to their place, and they freeze up. Nothing you can do goes beyond light making out. They keep texting you to hang out, but at this point you're just kinda "meh" because they talked a big game and failed to …
/r/askTRP25/12/15 03:22 PM
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Condoms don't just feel shitty for guys; they feel like shit for a lot of women, too. But c'est la vie, we still gotta use one. I have had only bad experiences with latex before switching to non-latex based, but even still I would prefer zero condom although like you I worry about the other shit that could be picked up. The only thing I would think about: if they are completely unafraid of picking something up, I would question why that is -- likely because they may have already picked it up. It…
/r/askTRP25/12/15 12:58 PM
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lol no
/r/askTRP25/12/15 12:49 PM
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Because I am.
/r/askTRP24/12/15 10:33 PM
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You can be "dominant" while still being a nice guy and attentive. I am currently sleeping with a guy who is like this. I am pretty dominant in bed, but this guy is straight up Putin level dominant which is a new thing for me. However, rather than getting himself off first and ignoring me, he basically tells me how he is going to get me off and pretty much removes my choice in the matter (not my choice in consent, there was one situation where I flat out said "No" and he stopped immediately and w…
/r/askTRP24/12/15 09:58 PM
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Uh, no dude. "At the moment it doesn't work out" = "At the moment it doesn't work out" Sometimes a cigar is just a fucking cigar. She lives 8 hours away and has apparently been the only one making the effort. She's sick and tired of it when there's zero commitment for her. She's using all her resources while you have seemingly not lifted a finger. She had enough. You said she could see other guys. She graciously returned the sentiment to you to indicate there was no hard feelings and to try to b…
/r/askTRP24/12/15 09:44 PM
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It's not about people flocking to you -- it's about the people you approach being more receptive to you and allowing you in their life. We instinctively surround ourselves with people that add value to our lives. You need to figure out what sort of value you can add to a person's life, and whether that will be mutual. You're afraid of western women because the ones you have "success" with are, basically, shit-tier. The ones that would add value to your life have significantly higher SMV (studyin…
/r/askTRP24/12/15 04:42 PM
0

Except there aren't for the same reason why there aren't more hookers despite it being an easy as shit way to make legal money (depending where you live). If you want a room full of women sucking your dick, either become a male stripper or hire a room full of hookers.
/r/askTRP24/12/15 02:20 AM
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when the fuck am I going to get my dick sucked by a whole room of women?! When you become a male stripper.
/r/askTRP24/12/15 01:56 AM
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There is nowhere to turn, because you will find problems with women (or, rather, people in general) everywhere. Women from foreign countries may appear to be exactly what you want -- until you set them and their families up for life, and they cut and run the first minute they are able to do so. If you don't want to date shit tier people, stop picking the low hanging fruit and invest in quality individuals that add value to your life. If you are unable to do so, you should question where your sta…
/r/askTRP24/12/15 01:54 AM
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Hi! Woman to woman: this guy is wasting your time. You are there to provide a sexual outlet. He will promise you the moon and back just to hook up with you. Like the guys here say: pay attention to actions, not words. Also: stop hooking up with him and associating if you don't want to get attached and if you lack experience. He's trying to push you more in to physical things because you're letting him in the hopes you can use it to negotiate something you want from him.
/r/askTRP24/12/15 12:07 AM
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She wasn't managing to get paid, so not even that. I'm actually second hand embarrassed for her. This is like when a kid throws a tantrum and goes "I'm running away!!!", walks a few steps and says it again, etc.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 03:16 PM
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Not likely. This is highschool. This athlete from a team she is a huge fan of is high SMV in her eyes. It's like chicks at clubs banging the DJ.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 04:49 AM
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tall varsity hockey, which she is a big fan of. There's your answer.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 02:53 AM
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I would put my bets on her boyfriend not actually knowing at all; she just feels guilty after all was said and done. It is extremely common.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 01:32 AM
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So... you met a girl, she cheated on her man with you using the whole "oh, my boyfriend doesn't care!" -- after she banged you, she felt guilty, and rather than going "I cheated on my boyfriend", she puts the onus on her boyfriend so you won't be mad at her or think she's a cheater/slut. Nobody is at "fault" -- it isn't your relationship; her relationship problems are her own. Here's how I avoid the married/relationship types: "We're having problems, we're actually in the middle of breaking up".…
/r/askTRP23/12/15 01:28 AM
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Jojo's Bizarre Adventure Fist of the North Star Ninja Scroll
/r/askTRP22/12/15 05:47 PM
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I get that a lot.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 05:38 AM
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Who knows, maybe she just wants to have a decent friend for once. You had best resolve how you feel about her right now. As I keep saying to people: women don't put men in the friendzone, men put themselves in the friendzone. If you're ready to be "one of the girls" and tweeze her pubes and listen to her talk about random shit she'd talk to a girlfriend about without a chance of fucking her, then go ahead and be the "decent friend". Point is: don't go in as a friend and expecting more to come ou…
/r/askTRP22/12/15 02:34 AM
1

I wasn't blue pill, so much as I just didn't understand what RedPill was and never thought it applied to me as a woman. An RP friend of mine had an epiphany and pretty much said how my ex was behaving to me is how women behave to a lot of guys, and that I was the more dominant/alpha person in the relationship based on my behaviour and attitude towards emotion/affection/etc and based on the dynamic. My ex eventually had an affair with his ex that he had not seen in over 10 years, and demanded tha…
/r/askTRP22/12/15 02:05 AM
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I'm a lanky, greasy nerdy guy in his late teens My first thought is that she's trying to find a solid provider for a "partner" Much of what you're learning about TRP doesn't quite apply in the teens when it comes to this sort of thing, and I wish AskTRP would differentiate. A woman is not going to date downward (from a financial/etc perspective) for her provider role, when we know our best chances for someone that can offer stability is in their mid-30s that is more likely to have those resource…
/r/askTRP22/12/15 01:53 AM
1

Too many serious responses in here.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 01:46 AM
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Except it is a personality problem as opposed to a legitimate mental problem, and you don't like arguing -- you just like attention and are trying to rationalize your poor behaviour. Personally, I don't give a fuck, but you're fixated on it so whatever. If you want the world to think it's all about you, go right ahead. If you don't want people to believe you're full of yourself, then stop behaving that way. Pure and simple.
/r/askTRP20/12/15 06:07 PM
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A bit? lol You are seeking validation. You might not realize it, because narcs don't and will hamster away non-stop... but you are seeking validation. I have addressed your topic fully -- you think it is about you. I pointed out several situations where, y'know, it isn't always about you. You're sending me walls of text trying to convince me otherwise rather than simply saying: "Oh, I guess you have a point" Fact is: you don't know what is going on through a person's mind. You didn't talk to the…
/r/askTRP20/12/15 05:27 PM
1

Inexperienced girls think being a virgin is a turn off for guys. Younger guys I've found tend to want "girls with experience" so girls grow up thinking they need to have "experience" -- so they exaggerate experiences to be more desirable. They misunderstand the intention behind "experience": it's not about having sex, but rather knowledge in what good sex should be and how to please your partner in bed. Some older women also don't want to feel stupid when they feel they should have reached some …
/r/askTRP20/12/15 05:24 PM
0

with added details of me not appearing fugly/a loser it automatically means I'm out in the internet bragging and seeking validation. It's how you're going about it. "Obviously in to me", "I'm a pretty stand out guy", etc and centering the conversation entirely on you and about you. You're wanting attention, and arguing when the response you get isn't what you want to hear. It's classic narcissistic behaviour.
/r/askTRP20/12/15 05:00 PM
0

I disagree maybe you would initial a convo at a festival or concert with me but not at the gym, it is sort of a different environment. I'm at the gym 2x a day. It is a gathering of individuals, the same rules will always apply. In fact, the gym is a lot easier for women because men are almost always enthusiastic and eager/ready to help. Stop acting like you're the only one who goes to the gym, that it's some sort of "exotic environment", and stop trying to direct the examples in your favour just…
/r/askTRP20/12/15 03:49 PM
4

Holy shit, are you clueless? She literally put up a neon sign with runway lights leading straight to her pussy and you're like "hurr durr what should i do, guyz" What the fuck do you think? Reply: "This can be arranged", "Your place or mine", etc etc etc etc
/r/askTRP20/12/15 03:39 PM
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You're looking for your ego to be fed and rationalizing it with the rest of the garbage in your comments. A chick looked at you. Take a compliment. Not every woman at the gym is there to be noticed by you. Sometimes we just want to lift in peace. Sometimes we make bitchy/ugly faces because we're trying to make gains and it's par for the course. Once again: we look when we are curious and go about our business. If we're REALLY curious, we will initiate contact under the guise of something complet…
/r/askTRP20/12/15 03:30 PM
2

I'm going to give you lipo advice (I'm female looking for a breast reduction). You're fat. Nevermind fat, you're obese. Lipo isn't going to help you, in fact, it's going to make things a bit worse. Lipo is meant for localized pockets of subcutaneous fat (this type of fat that resides directly under the skin and is "jiggly" vs visceral fat which is what gives you beer gut and cannot be removed via lipo). You have the benefit of being a guy. Losing fat and gaining muscle via exercise is fucking ea…
/r/askTRP20/12/15 03:20 PM
-2

If a chick at the gym is actually "in to you", most likely she's going to invent any excuse to interact with you in the form of "Hey, I don't know how to use/do XYZ machine/workout, could you show me how?" -- not just stare at you. The fact you've stared at her long enough to be perceived as you "ignoring her" to notice a shift in facial expression means she's probably giving you a weird look because you're gawking at her awkwardly. Stop looking for validation from TRP in the form of passive hum…
/r/askTRP20/12/15 03:07 PM
4

So you JUST met him and you're already asking this? I'd say no, because if you come off this desperate online, I can't imagine what signals you're sending offline. Woman to woman (same age as you): don't be desperate for marriage with every guy you "just meet". Marriage is a legally binding agreement for the benefit of raising a family where the limerance you mistake for "love" should be secondary. Not only should you have the skills to assume whichever role it is you've determined you want to f…
/r/askTRP20/12/15 02:53 PM
1

Okay?
/r/askTRP19/12/15 12:42 AM
0

There's nothing to deal with, sweetheart.
/r/askTRP19/12/15 12:40 AM
1

Not even sure where to start on this lol just wow
/r/askTRP19/12/15 12:20 AM
1

Lawl, if you're the office "eye candy", congrats because it sounds like they are implying the sentence should be finished with "fun times are over... time to settle down... with me"
/r/askTRP18/12/15 11:07 PM
2

but feminists in their hatred of it show how they lack ANY sort of empathy for the problems average men go through. but it's a fact that women can get sex far easier than men. ... because the biggest problems plaguing men in relationships is "sex is just harder to get!"? I can't understand how, of all problems like courts favouring women for custody because of a societal bias towards women being "nurturing"; 3x national average suicide rate for men; stigma of male mental health support; stigma t…
/r/askTRP18/12/15 10:50 PM
1

Yes, for some women this is a normal reaction -- especially if they are extremely inexperienced, ignorant about sex, and raised in a "sex = shameful" home. A lot of women repress their sexuality because they don't know any better.
/r/askTRP18/12/15 07:54 PM
2

Glad to hear it worked out :) enjoy your date.
/r/askTRP17/12/15 02:04 PM
2

What you're doing is projecting aspects of yourself on to her in order to understand why. Don't try to understand it. Maybe tease her about it lightly, make it a joke, she might eventually pick up on it and make an effort or she will keep on being late. It sounds like she just has super shitty time management.
/r/askTRP17/12/15 01:57 PM
0

Lol you aren't "nice guy zoned". It was a compliment. Worry when you're trying to escalate and she rebuffs you with "look, you're a nice guy, but...."
/r/askTRP17/12/15 01:54 PM
2

She's tardy because there is no commitment in it for her. In her mind, she's not going to give 100% to something that doesn't deserve 100%. Why should she? You can't hold the plate to the expectations of an LTR. It's either one or the other. She's either a plate and therefore you expect nothing. Or she's an LTR, and yes, you're right to expect her to be on time.
/r/askTRP17/12/15 04:33 AM
2

This has nothing to do with "AWALT" -- that term is being thrown around far too much. Simply, the tactics the guy is using are emotionally abusive. A common dynamic with individuals susceptible to this is to behave in the way she is. Beyond that, when a guy is rating another guy -- that rating is different than when a woman is rating him. What OP rates as an 8, could very well just be a 6 guy in a woman's eyes. There are numerous studies on this. Women also rate other women differently than men …
/r/askTRP17/12/15 04:26 AM
0

That depends... are you: "You're a nice guy..." or "He's a nice guy..." or are you "omg SUCH a nice guy!!! <3" There's a big difference.
/r/askTRP17/12/15 01:54 AM
1

Look up how emotional abuse works. You condition a person by depriving them little by little. Then you throw them a bread crumb that sets the new baseline of expectation. They remember once upon a time it was great, and those little bread crumbs act as reminders of "remember when it was super awesome?" but also act as a way to tease: "if we break up, I will miss out on the possibility that it could be this great again". Also, it's perfect example of scarcity mentality in women -- this guy is the…
/r/askTRP17/12/15 01:51 AM
1

Volunteer firefighter. Seriously.
/r/askTRP16/12/15 04:02 AM
1

"Oh my God so and so I told you to stop asking me out, I already said no"
/r/askTRP15/12/15 01:42 AM
1

...wut
/r/askTRP15/12/15 01:18 AM
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Pay attention to what she says/does and judge accordingly. If she's a tumblr feminist, pump & dump. They are fucking useless. Invite her to a Movember fundraiser and judge accordingly. However, if she's a feminist in the sense that she believes she and others should be entitled to the choice of how they wish to live their lives, then keep your ears open for a different perspective. Chances are you both agree on most things, you just call it something entirely different. Don't let the label fool …
/r/askTRP13/12/15 11:25 PM
13

She doesn't see you as weak. She basically threw the Mongolian invasion of shit/comfort tests. Some women are not comfortable with men who are purely stoic/quiet at all times, so they poke and stab and slice and keep escalating until they get the reaction they want from you (in this case to see that you actually do have some emotion in you). In LTRs you have to balance emotion with strength. With plates it does not matter. Don't bring it up, don't get lovey dovey, just continue on as normal. Jus…
/r/askTRP13/12/15 08:17 PM
4

Some people have stubborn facial fat. If you're at optimal weight and body fat % then you may have to suck it up and look in to liposuction. Otherwise: shred shred shred. For a lot of people, facial fat disappears pretty quick. There's no way to target just the face -- all you can do is keeping working out and evaluate it when you're at your goal.
/r/askTRP13/12/15 08:13 PM
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Ignore and avoid. Don't "agree & amplify" because you're playing in to the shit tests. She's trying to get you to flirt, and shit tests are her way to provoke you in to a response. If she shit tests you, just shrug and go "I dunno". Shit tests are part of the whole flirting game -- when you respond accordingly or play in to it, you're acknowledging it. If she starts to ask questions, why you're acting differently, etc you can let her down gently and say that you feel work is work, and personal m…
/r/askTRP13/12/15 06:55 PM
1

What victim mentality? You seem to be projecting an awful lot. I am sitting here laughing my ass off at how butthurt some of you are being for not accepting the fact that a woman just may have thought you might have been a creep at some point and then watching each subsequent reply to my comments be complete 180 in opinion from what was said before.
/r/askTRP13/12/15 04:39 PM
0

Because it sucks being legally bound to someone you're sexually incompatible with.
/r/askTRP12/12/15 01:09 AM
1

Stop talking to her: this is going to be the hardest part. Because part of you will want to continue talking to her, and part of you wants to go in to self-preservation mode. However, when you do, you start to feel guilty when she tries reaching out to you because ultimately you still care about her and don't want to be awful to her, so at your own pain you end up engaging her. Don't do it. Accept your feelings: They don't disappear overnight. Acknowledge you still have them, acknowledge it's ok…
/r/askTRP11/12/15 11:39 PM
0

What are you doing here then
/r/askTRP11/12/15 05:32 PM
0

Lol no
/r/askTRP11/12/15 01:01 PM
2

Go to the GP, ask for a prescription for Retin-A. Use Retin-A (use once per day before bed after washing your face with Benzagel) + Benzagel (2x daily, morning and night). After 3 months (or sooner) your acne will be seriously reduced or pretty much gone. For some people it's gone for good, for others it is gone for a few years. If it keeps coming back or doesn't work, get a referral to a derm and look in to Accutane. If nothing else works, that shit will. Unfortunately, you need to get regular …
/r/askTRP11/12/15 03:55 AM
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As opposed to speculation rooted in zero experience am I rite Also it's hilarious you focus on me when this topic is littered with assumption that runs contrary to simple common knowledge/sense lol. Sock puppet harder tho.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 04:36 PM
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As opposed to you guys hamstering your wheels right out in to space?
/r/askTRP10/12/15 02:23 PM
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So let me get this straight: women are apparently incapable of making their own decisions, yet we are somehow capable enough of making the decision to get out of a tough situation? lol keep up with yourself, please. I've seen it first hand. lol this whole 1 time you saw something, vs someone literally explaining to you why it is done 99/100 times. First time Tinder dates do not fall in to any sort of category of needing validation from friends. Friends are there to provide a quick out. Guys pull…
/r/askTRP10/12/15 04:38 AM
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I can be as snarky as I want. The fact is: you're wrong. We don't give a shit about what a friend has to say unless we seriously consider him as someone to include in our lives. First time tinder meets do not fall in to that category. Hamster away, tho.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 04:06 AM
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Actually, it isn't. Safety in numbers A safe "out" This isn't a difficult concept to grasp. I do it all the time, and I'm the "friend" that goes with other friends that do it.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 03:26 AM
1

If you like her but don't feel comfortable saying it back, but otherwise have no problem with her: "You're awesome" and pull her in for a hug. If she asks why you don't say it back, let her know that for you "I love you" indicates something far in to the future, and that you're not wanting to rush things with her.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 03:16 AM
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There is no case to rest. You literally have no idea what you're talking about lol.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 03:00 AM
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No, actually, I don't. You guys, however, do lol. I do exactly what OP is describing for precisely these reasons. I also go with my friends for precisely the same reasons. My friend doesn't give a shit about my opinion, she just "doesn't want to be a bitch". We even "code" topics to talk about that let me know when to bring up a "omg we gotta go" thing. If a chick wants a guy, there is nothing her friends can say that will convince her otherwise. The hamster works both ways, dude.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 02:24 AM
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Make the time, or you obviously don't give a shit. It's coffee, it's like 30 minutes of your time maximum. Set a good impression of yourself, then keep shit going lightly over text until she gets back.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 01:17 AM
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What do you guys not understand about the meaning of "flaking"? "Heeeey so uhhhhh I can't make it, I have this thing... sorrryyyyyyyyyy.... :S :S Hope you're not maaaaad" That's flaking. "Hey, so I have this thing that I completely forgot about. Can we meet up after 8 tonight instead of 6? If not, how about Friday?" Is not flaking.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 01:11 AM
2

A man have been diagnosed with Cancer.His wife of umpteen years leave him alone,lodge a case against him and his parents for money and custody of his children.The man barely can walk by his own.He is forced to come to the court. 1: See: John Edwards "When Edwards first admitted to the affair, he stated that Elizabeth was in remission from breast cancer. However, it became clear that the affair was still ongoing, even after he and his wife made a joint announcement that her cancer had returned an…
/r/askTRP10/12/15 01:07 AM
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You are both reading too much in to it. Some chicks are incapable of saying "no, piss off". They get their friends to do it for them. It's having an IRL version of someone call you with an "emergency" when the date is going sideways.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 01:05 AM
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If it's a first time meet up, I meet in group or public for safety and to get a feel of who you are. Friends can provide you with an "out" if you need it. Likewise, coffee can also provide a cheap and easy out if you're just not feeling it.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 01:04 AM
2

You don't need to cut your hair, but you do need to reconsider your style (not hairstyles, but clothes/image). You are doing your hair zero justice doing the whole "John Lennon/Dirty Hippie" look. Like I said: the rock climbing pic is the most attractive out of the bunch, including the updated ones. There's this kind of look lately -- that typical Yoga "hot guy" look, sometimes they are wearing their hair in a bun or whatever but the guys are usually fit as fuck. That's what it reminds me of.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 05:11 AM
5

I am going to be blunt about this: Your pictures are shit -- I have zero idea of what you look like. I found a lot of the guys that have low success are usually due to this -- master the art of looking good in a photo. Most guys suck shit at "advertising" themselves. The rock climbing photo is good to show off your body/etc, it is actually a pretty attractive photo. However, you let it down with the rest of them. Your hair. For a lot of women this is a no-go. Some guys can pull it off, but with …
/r/askTRP08/12/15 02:59 AM
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Only if her views are "I'm entitled to whatever I want without having to work for it, it was good enough for my mom so it's good enough for me!". If her views are "I want to live my life by working hard and improving myself so I will never be in that kind of situation" then it's not a red flag.
/r/askTRP06/12/15 05:27 AM
1

If they're being over the top, be firm and simply state your boundaries: "I understand you're having a bad day, but I don't deserve to have you take it out on me". That is typically enough to have a person snap in to their senses and dial it down a bit or apologize immediately. Yes, while everyone has a bad day, and while it is okay to turn a cheek when people are having a bad day, nobody deserves to be treated like shit because of it. It is their bad day -- not yours.
/r/askTRP06/12/15 01:36 AM
2

Fuuuuck the bar culture. Fuck date night, tonight is masturbate night 8) Order take out, binge watch Rocky, and enjoy yourself. Then when you've had a night of feeling sorry for yourself, pick your ass up and get to the gym. Fill your time with meaningful shit. Take this opportunity to do anything you've ever wanted to do that you've found interesting. Be glad in the fact you did the right thing. Beta bitches would have "tried to work throuuuugh itttt" just to keep the cheater around but you sto…
/r/askTRP06/12/15 01:24 AM
1

planet umm what does space have to do with this
/r/askTRP05/12/15 04:45 AM
3

Like how every guy with low smv think they are entitled to an HB9.5 because... why again? Oh, right. People want what they can't have all the time. Fat chicks want the heart throb, just as fat neckbeards want the Victoria Secret model.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 09:00 PM
1

You're being downvoted because you're being ridiculous. Also, they are downvotes. They happen. Chill the fuck out.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 07:11 PM
4

Not every person reacts like a scene straight from a Lifetime movie. When something like that happens, it straight up shocks you and while some people react horribly over time, other people process it and go "That actually happened but there's nothing I can do except move on"; and some people just aren't phased enough to let it affect them at all. Besides that, I can promise you 100% a whole lot of people knew for a long time. I can also promise you that some people may have talked them out of d…
/r/askTRP04/12/15 12:29 AM
2

You go, guy! Great work. Seems like you both want similar things. As someone who hates clingy, I'll give some insight on to what we define as a "clingy guy": literally clinging to your hip, always needing to "touch" you slightly infantile behaviour, "smooochyyyy muumuumuuuu" kinda shit, or when guys try to make me the "pillow" or act like a koala (curling legs over me when I just want them to hold me) blowing up phone with 10 novels every few minutes, or the typical "yo... hey... u there? sup...…
/r/askTRP04/12/15 12:16 AM
1

I don't know what country you are from. I'm from Canada, so it is free for me. I phone up any women's health clinic, and they do everything there and I also get my screening done that way. It's covered through my provincial health or my work health insurance plan. I've never had to worry. I go either whenever I start seeing someone new, in addition to every 3 months to get routine screenings done and ensure I'm clean/safe. The easiest way is for both of you to go together (so you are both sure y…
/r/askTRP04/12/15 12:01 AM
1

100% correct.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 10:03 PM
1

Yeah this is WAY too soon for home preggo test, even a blood test wouldn't be all that much more by way of help. 3 days early has about 85% accuracy. 3 days after will have the appropriate amount of hormone level. Like I said, get her to a clinic first to get screened/pap smear, etc. They will also test for pregnancy as part of the blood work (it will show them a # level of the hormone). That will rule out everything and give you both piece of mind PLUS it will find potential invisible issue tha…
/r/askTRP03/12/15 09:41 PM
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She has no phone/iPod/anything that I can hit her up on. Just an FYI, when I'm being polite I will act like this is the case. I also advise my female friends to do the same as they sometimes have a hard time saying "no" when someone asks for their number, even if they don't want to give it. It is easier for them to simply say "I'm not really a phone person, sorry"; "I don't really have a phone except for emergencies", etc. I come to find out she's a home-dweller, doesn't go out much, small socia…
/r/askTRP03/12/15 08:18 PM
5

Don't do this. It's passive aggressive and about as pathetic when it guy does it as when women do it.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 08:12 PM
1

Yes, and it is easier than you think to push us away. A lot of the tactics being advised here are actually a great way to drive away the women you want and to attract troubled and unstable women that are often complained about here -- if you want a quick lay/hook up then whatever, but if you're looking for multiple encounters, then it's a bad idea. You sound like you've got a lot of problems, so maybe chill out a bit or hold off on meeting women until you grow up a bit. Nobody wants to be around…
/r/askTRP03/12/15 08:09 PM
1

Not to screw with you, but early detection are highly inaccurate and will spit out false negatives very often. I've gone 3/3 negative only to have it confirmed with a blood test. It's kind of a joke with women that it's likely a cash grab because the fail rate is stupidly high.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 02:11 PM
1

Home pregnancy tests are highly inaccurate before your period -- to the point where you can get many false negatives yet still be pregnant (even the "test up to 4 days before your period!" brands will show the percentage). Save your money, wait until 1 - 3 days after expected date of period (as in when you are ACTUALLY late)
/r/askTRP02/12/15 02:13 PM
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At this point you should guide her to the doctor as she is just becoming sexually active, she should be caring for her sexual health and getting screened and discussing better birth control options (in addition to condoms), and appropriate vaccination (hpv, hepatitis, etc). I would recommend both of you connect with a sexual health clinic for good hygiene practice. For women, a bacterial infection can become "invisible" or "silent" while doing damage. Some things as well, while technically not a…
/r/askTRP02/12/15 05:22 AM
1

Most likely not pregnant, she's probably just paranoid as hell. Also note that stressing about pregnancy can cause a delay in period as well (stress in general does this). Those symptoms associated with pregnancy generally don't appear until minimum several weeks in to the pregnancy itself. If she's having those symptoms after day 1, she should be getting checked for a yeast infection, UTI, or a bacterial infection (honeymoon disease, etc) since you mentioned you two were going at it quite a bit…
/r/askTRP02/12/15 04:56 AM
1

Pretty much what I said still applies, though -- don't stick your dick in crazy (obvious reasons), find someone on the same page as you (seeing eye to eye with where things should go), and avoid people with unresolved baggage in life (indicates they can't deal with problems or find satisfaction on their own).
/r/askTRP01/12/15 11:33 PM
1

Older women are awesome. I "date" younger guys (22 - 24) and sometimes older guys -- but I find younger guys to be much more fun and more likely to be on the same page as me, whereas older guys tend to be at a point where they want to settle down. Some women my age (29) just want consistent guy to sleep with that's hot as fuck; someone we can spoil here and there, and sometimes the younger guys do adorable as hell things that are extremely appreciated. I make a lot of money, so I can buy myself …
/r/askTRP01/12/15 08:49 PM
2

She's venting. If, as you said in another comment, she actually rants -- it's venting. Don't read in to it. When a girl is trying to hook you in, she's not going to bring up the ex or the kid at first. She's going to do everything she can to get her foot in your door before she goes "Oh, by the way, here's my kid and etc PS: it's an all or nothing thing" after you've already been reeled in.
/r/askTRP01/12/15 03:06 AM
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Plate is lost inside her own head and over thinking things. She has the potential to like you more, and probably hasn't just gone to hook up randomly before so she might be trying to process it all. If you just want a hookup, next her because of drama and inexperience on her part. If you're willing to put effort in to it, get to know her better and throw a bone now and then in the form of "lets just hang out, maybe I want to keep you around a bit" to put her at ease.
/r/askTRP01/12/15 12:20 AM
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You could not be more wrong. Reall? 180 days of radio silence and he hasn't figured it out? Yes, it is completely possible. Some people do not move the fuck on, and yes, some guys are just as crazy (if not crazier) than many women that pull the same bullshit. It starts out by being nice/polite and giving small responses. The guy initially promises he's changed, he's sorry, he just wants to be friends -- you feel a bit of guilt and obligation, because you don't want to hurt someone you cared abou…
/r/askTRP30/11/15 07:39 PM
4

LOL She served her pussy to you on a silver platter with a gift wrap bow. You're angry at her? What else was she supposed to do? She wanted to fuck, you made it clear every step of the way that you weren't interested in her, so she went with someone who showed her the interest. What the hell else do you want from her?
/r/askTRP29/11/15 12:01 AM
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You're getting shit advice in here. Another day? It was an open invitation. "Yeah, I'm free at x-time tomorrow". You guys need to stop assuming that any time a girl can't make it to a spur of the moment plan you spring on out of the blue that she's not interested.
/r/askTRP28/11/15 05:30 PM
5

Because she's still interested, she just doesn't feel too well. If she lost interest, she'd disappear on you. When a chick isn't "feeling well", there's usually a reason she feels embarrassed about disclosing. For me, "I don't feel well" is code for "I am bloated, gassy, and stuck on the toilet" or other similar things. I mean, we could give you the gruesome details: "My period came early, I'm cramping so bad and I've got painful shits" -- but it's really a lot easier to leave the malaise up to …
/r/askTRP28/11/15 05:24 PM
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She's right in this situation and you fucked up. You're behaving inappropriately with other women while you're in an LTR. Apologize and move on. If some random guy walked up to her and kissed her or behaved in a similar way, your post would be a wall of text and psychoanalysis of her behaviour and "hurrr durrrr AWALT AWALT" shit.
/r/askTRP28/11/15 05:16 PM
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"Manipulation" or covert/passive tactics are not biological. Consider the expectations of women being raised. Anger and the expression of anger is seen as "masculine" -- women are not trained to deal with anger. As a skill, this stays very undeveloped whereby women cope by repressing and bottling it up or acting out in passive ways. I've mentioned this here before, but as women grow up there are two things they are desperate not to be perceived as: "bitches" or "sluts". For a woman growing up an…
/r/askTRP28/11/15 04:26 AM
2

Not at all. The fact they have a choice and an opinion they feel is worth expressing is thanks to feminism. No intelligent person is going to take advantage of the benefits of something while claiming to be "against" it. That's hallmark stupidity, and not even worthy of acknowledgment.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 05:43 PM
2

No. You're over thinking that. She most likely still looks at your profile to keep tabs on you, like most scorned exes do.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 12:57 AM
3

No. It is none of your business. Cut her out and move on if you're all that bothered. When people are confronted with this shit, it's very easy to spin it in to you being the bad guy.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 12:03 AM
3

Ego: prevents someone from acknowledging their wrongdoing Defense mechanism: in defense of the ego, they rationalize their poor behaviour Seeking enablers: soothes #1, and reinforces #2. It's the equivalent to sticking your head in the sand. That is what she is doing, except if you stick your head in the sand you're vulnerable. She is surrounding herself with a "shield" to protect her while she behaves that way. Also, she was likely scoping out your profile when she was logged out.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 12:02 AM
1

Am I making the smart move by realizing these flags and moving on or am I missing viable opportunities? You missed the best opportunity in the world to break the ice. Maybe I could Agree & Amplify chiming in to her convo "He's so hot even I want his babies." ;) Join in and joke around. I would use that kind of shit test with guys if I'm trying to figure out if they're the jealous/whiny types or not.
/r/askTRP25/11/15 11:56 PM
1

By listening. Have fun!
/r/askTRP25/11/15 11:53 PM
3

Know what you want, and go for it. In the heat of the moment, there's very little that will bother a chick. I would suggest expressing it as what you want her to do, rather than you telling her what to do. When you can comfortably express yourself, the rest follows. So for e.g. rather than "You should get on top" (the bedroom isn't the place for "suggestions") -- say: "I want you to get on top" (better: indicates wants and desires and an action).
/r/askTRP25/11/15 11:51 PM
3

They aren't ex-feminists, nor are they terrifyingly intelligent. It's like claiming "I'm against men's rights! Except I believe men get the short end of the stick in the legal system, and are hurt in different but similar ways to women in today's society and I feel we'd be better recognizing this" It's stupid, and any woman claiming "I'm not a feminist, except I believe and will happily benefit from the feminist movement" is a dumbass. That's your first red flag. There is nothing in the feminist…
/r/askTRP25/11/15 11:01 PM
9

Former DINK -- when you get married, and when the marriage starts to suck, you start wasting money on small shit all the time. That small shit starts to add up all the time, because neither person in taking responsibility for the finances. They live outside their means in order to at least find some sort of happiness in a shit situation but have little overview. After all, it's always the really small purchases that catch up to you. Oddly enough, this compulsive need to go out for every meal, ev…
/r/askTRP25/11/15 01:46 PM
0

^ Spotted the guy without a job
/r/askTRP25/11/15 01:40 PM
1

And see my reply. Times change. Oh, and one more: tattoos were "frowned on" for possibly offending someone, ie: customer. Not due to "poor life choices" lol
/r/askTRP25/11/15 01:12 AM
1

If you're talking about some small ass 3 person office run by somebody stuck in the 50s, perhaps. But, no, tattoos are not all judged the same way. I would know, I am surrounded by thousands of office/corporate types working for oil companies/finance/etc on a daily basis some walking around with tattoos, some with pink/blue hair, some with dreads and beads, etc. Second, not all tattoos are created equally. Someone getting a basic bitch tattoo, or that stupid tear drop on the face shit, yes. They…
/r/askTRP24/11/15 11:56 PM
1

Are you?
/r/askTRP24/11/15 10:49 PM
1

I'm just here laughing at you. You're seriously fixated on me. It's cute.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 07:20 PM
1

Lol stay salty
/r/askTRP24/11/15 07:13 PM
4

I'm given more than 40 hours regularly -- I will stay, at most, an hour extra. Above that I bank towards additional paid vacation. People that willingly accept shit arrangements are the reason businesses get away with it which is what I already addressed above. With that said, do your job well and you won't need to worry. People need to understand that saying "no" won't get them fired unless they were already on the block to start.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 04:11 PM
19

Because why hire someone else when there's always someone who will work those hours and often without additional pay? This is what pisses me off about people who brag about doing 60 hrs a week on a salary, like I'm supposed to feel sorry for them or be amazed or something. You aren't a hard worker, you're a dumb idiot if you do this. When people do that, all I think is "Great, now they're going to start expecting me to work for free". Second, hiring additional employees means raising the overall…
/r/askTRP24/11/15 01:43 PM
1

Seriously, holy fuck. And from the sounds of it, the dumbass doesn't get screened anyway.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 01:38 PM
1

Oh okay, well you go have fun with that :) I'll have fun actually getting laid.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 01:36 PM
3

You should be screening with every new person you fuck anyway, even if you do wrap it up and having it done every 3 - 6 months if you're with a consistent person. You can still get shit even if you wrap it up, and through other things. For e.g. did you know you can get fucking herpes in the throat? No, you don't have a "broken dick". If it's any of the typical ones, they are usually gone within a couple days and like 2 pills (clap, yeast infection, etc). Even if you do have something like herpes…
/r/askTRP24/11/15 03:28 AM
1

You sound pretty angry.
/r/askTRP23/11/15 09:42 PM
1

You're adorable. :)
/r/askTRP23/11/15 09:36 PM
1

Oh OK, sorry to shatter your dreams bro
/r/askTRP23/11/15 09:19 PM
1

And if I was looking for a relationship, I would agree. Right now, I'm happy with this arrangement. It's good sex with hot/successful guys, and good times with no obligations to anyone but myself. If they're still around when I'm ready for a relationship, I'd happily consider it. But for now I've got what I'm looking for.
/r/askTRP23/11/15 09:07 PM
1

Once again, people are people. You guys want to believe that these situations are binary, that because "I'm a slut" that only low SMV guys will want me. I'm saying: I've had zero issues with high SMV guys. But they are people, too. Some of them developed feelings for me and were honest about it, I reiterated the agreement that I wasn't looking for a relationship. Others I started suspecting when they were dropping other dates to make time for me, asking me about other dates I'm on, or trying to …
/r/askTRP23/11/15 08:52 PM
1

Because I'm not looking for a relationship any time soon. Not everyone is desperate to settle down with someone, y'know? They're very attractive and I'm sure they'll make some woman very happy. It just doesn't happen to be me right now :p
/r/askTRP23/11/15 08:41 PM
1

I've got no shortage of offers from guys I want the offers from, so... shrug
/r/askTRP23/11/15 08:23 PM
1

And?
/r/askTRP23/11/15 07:59 PM
-1

I never really call or text back first. I let them want me instead. Only exceptions being if we actually have a more interesting connection (for e.g. niche hobby, similar career, etc) and I have a bit of respect for them, or I'm just super horny or something. Like I said, when the sex stopped for whatever reason, they keep calling to hang out and we still have a good time/good talks/etc. I'm still a chick, so I still enjoy shooting the shit with someone, especially if something new and exciting …
/r/askTRP23/11/15 02:50 PM
-1

I am a chick that goes after guys. I've been on asktrp for a while under another nickname, it just got annoying dealing with outside bullshit (people sending me whiny messages about how I'm anti-feminist or some shit). I used to go after solely beta/sigma types, now I've had a bit of fun with the outgoing-alpha types depending on my mood.
/r/askTRP23/11/15 04:17 AM
-2

It goes against the TRP narrative, or maybe they don't want to accept that "high SMV" isn't the be-all/end-all, nor are Alphas infallible. It's not that I don't give a shit about the person I'm with, but for e.g. Guy: asks something about me Me: answers question Guy: asks another question Me: answers question Guy: silence Me: silence Guy: "so is there anything you want to know about me?" Me: "Not really, no" Guy: "Oh... Alright..." Guy immediately starts chattering giving me plenty of material t…
/r/askTRP23/11/15 04:04 AM
-2

They know that a badass awesome guy that other women want isn't going to take them out on dates and respectfully wait to have sex. I dunno, it did for me when I treated them like shit right off the top. For e.g. post-sex, I get up and leave first. Pre-sex, I don't say or ask anything about them. If the whole "let's keep in touch" comes up I just say "Didn't really plan to, but you can do what you want I guess" Even after the sex stops, they still call to hang out and go for drinks. Win-win.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 11:12 PM
1

When I was younger, in my mind I would think: "oh, he's a player" Now that I'm older, my thoughts are: "hopefully he's screened but otherwise better chance at being good at sex" so it becomes a little more exciting. It just depends on what both your motivations are. PS: if "x" is her friend, rival, etc it could turn her off. It's a different beast entirely.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 02:39 PM
2

Preacher curls, Smith machine, leg press, most machine assisted alternatives will help you while reducing impact. I switched to assisted dips after fucking up my rotator cuff. Building muscle in your glutes will also help strengthen lower back, so targeting that in combination with the Smith (basically assisted squat) will help. Run it by a trainer and a doctor first.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 02:22 PM
3

No, it means your filling in missing blanks with her personality with aspects of your own to explain it. For e.g "I would only do that if I was cheating, so she must be doing that because she's cheating"
/r/askTRP22/11/15 02:19 PM
1

Simple: you keep doing exactly that it is you were doing at that moment. Also: clit. Most women can't get off on PIV alone.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 01:51 PM
2

This is where a healthy dose of abundance would be beneficial. Dude, seriously, if you're posting essays on TRP, chances are you know the answer you just don't want to accept it. Next her and move on.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 04:58 AM
1

I can promise you can handle finger banging or going down on a chick without blowing your load.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 01:15 AM
5

These are like old wives tales imaginary flags which are largely incorrect and mostly based off of a combination of shit guys don't want in women. Here are some actual red flags to look for: Divulges TMI within minutes of meeting (quite frankly, if you like a girl, as a guy you're going to go in to "protection mode" over any woman that was victimized -- think about it, if your sister or a female close to you admitted she was hurt by somebody, you're going to want to cut the balls off the person …
/r/askTRP21/11/15 11:42 PM
18

If you cum too fast, don't act like a little bitch about it. Laugh it off, make up some b/s excuse about how tight she is, then get ready for the next round of fucking or at least finger bang her senseless. Pay attention to vocalizations -- nothing is more annoying than when I'm grabbing his hair, screaming "yes, yes, oh my god, keep going, please, yes" and he stops and does something completely different. If it feels kinda okay, you'll hear a lot of "mmmm... ahhhhh"; when it feels good is when …
/r/askTRP21/11/15 09:26 PM
4

Treat it like a date -- an actual date. Too many couples go on dates, but fail to play the part. Use light kino, act the way you would with someone you just started to date. Don't be afraid of dancing, just rock it. I'm sure your wife may not be that great of a dancer, if she is, let her show off before pulling her close to you. Have stuff to talk about with your wife -- invite her in to conversation, overall, be positive and engaging. Don't forget to demonstrate this by engaging with friends/cl…
/r/askTRP21/11/15 06:01 PM
2

"Alright. Take care!"
/r/askTRP21/11/15 03:10 AM
2

This is wrong on so many levels it is unreal. Here is my experience as a female: I was in a relationship for 13 years, in which I gave up everything -- career, opportunity, etc and dedicated myself to my marriage and my husband. He took advantage of that multiple times, and multiple times I forgave him. I bailed him out of many fuck ups, I forgave him and helped him deal with his problems staying faithful, his emotional drama, and stupid financial decisions and so much more. When things split up…
/r/askTRP18/11/15 07:22 PM
1

She's not playing hard to get. She just probably doesn't want to date. I don't want to date, either. It doesn't stop me from going out and having fun. It doesn't mean I don't like the guys I'm doing it with. It just means I got out of a 13 year relationship a short time ago and don't really give a shit to go through all that again any time soon.
/r/askTRP18/11/15 07:01 PM
0

"Hey, I'm portable and convenient"
/r/askTRP18/11/15 06:20 PM
2

"See you x-date/x-time/x-place for a non-date then" From what you're saying here, she's really interested in you. She might be waiting for you to take the lead because she's definitely dropping massive hints.
/r/askTRP18/11/15 06:02 PM
1

Everyone here is talking out of their asses. Modern feminism is based on the theory of intersectionality -- that it is no longer just about "gender", but rather that different scenarios are at play. Largely it is accepted that a good chunk of women have it pretty good in most parts of the western world. However, saying "We've won! Feminism is over!" disregards other avenues of inequality that affect different groups in different ways. For example: native women are at a significantly higher risk …
/r/askTRP17/11/15 07:46 PM
1

A flake is: "Heeeeeeeey sorrryyyyy I can't make itttt :( Maybe some other time? I'll let you know when I'm free" The chick you're meeting with did not flake.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 10:19 PM
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Yes, it would work on girls. Just as it works 100% of the time on guys. Ego is ego, regardless.
/r/askTRP09/11/15 03:12 PM
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