| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | r/femaledatingstrategy has been banned. Admins continuing their wave of subreddit bans.Private | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/04/22 08:08 PM |
| 87 | Pick female doctors whenever possibleEnough Internet for one day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 10:33 AM |
| 21 | Can you be a HVW and date (reasonably) older men?I tried flirting with men who were 10 years older than me just out of curiosity and during a phase where I was so frustrated with men in general... I ended up finding one man who looked SO great on paper. Like, a perfect match for me, but 12 years older. I actually thought I'll try to get over the physical difference and give him a chance. (Never think that, btw...) But after we talked for a bit, it was absolutely clear to me that this would never happen. The difference is too much. Mentally, ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 05:23 PM |
| 77 | A recent post here got me thinking… who are women you look up to? In media, history, or even fictional characters?Ripley from the Alien franchise She's my idol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:45 PM |
| 0 | I matched with a man on OLD and posted his ass on the local Facebook group for his gf to findI'm into Shibari. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 12:44 PM |
| 9 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpIch weiß, in welcher Situation du bist und versteh dich voll und ganz. Das ist irre hart, aber lieber ein Ende mit Schrecken als ein Schrecken ohne Ende. Er wird sich nicht ändern. Wenn er bis jetzt nicht in die Puschen gekommen ist, wird nichts was du tust oder tun könntest ihn dazu bringen. Das is hart und tut weh, aber es ist so. Der Typ ist ne Pfeiffe und hält dich nur von deinem wahren Glück ab, was auf dich wartet. Denk dran dass solche Typen damit arbeiten, dich abhängig zu machen. Brich … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 10:23 PM |
| 9 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpTu mir den Gefallen und wirf den ganzen Mann einfach weg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 10:14 PM |
| 203 | What are some good dating green flags?I have one, I believe. Spoke to him about my best girl friend and he was a little curious about her opinion on him. I proposed to show him the chat, just one bit of the conversation, but he declined and said (roughly translated) "don't show me. Women need to speak to each other unsupervised. Just tell me in a few words" and I liked that a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 12:09 PM |
| 4 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?I don't think he writes often at all. The way I understand it he's just been doing it for a long time whenever he finds a little spare time to "indulge" in his hobby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 09:15 PM |
| 36 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 06:59 PM |
| 61 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?What does SA stand for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 06:58 PM |
| 13 | How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS?I think I found one back in October but ghosted him for a dude with whom in hindsight i only trauma bonded with. At least I can learn from my own stupidity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:38 AM |
| 7 | Ladies please share your experiences with gamer guysLived with a single dad gamer and his toddler. He lured me in by playing the perfect father for a few months and when I wanted to move, I suddenly couldn't move into the space I had planned to. So he offered I could live with him and since I had no place to stay and he was such a great guy and father (oh lord this hurts to share) I moved in with him. Soon after that he turned on me and showed his real face. He neglected his child, didn't feed her until 12 or change her diapers. After coming from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:09 PM |
| 7 | I just saw the movie Mother! I hated every second.I thought you meant another movie which is called "I am mother" but is really good. I can recommend that one to make up for the shitty one you watched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 08:55 PM |
| 67 | Be careful out there ladies - they're finding new ways to target usThis is terrifying 😨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 12:31 PM |
| 4 | FDS is BACK!Ladies, I've missed you so much! Checking this sub is my daily routine to keep me from falling back into old habits and it SHOWED. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 11:17 AM |
| 6 | Struggling to HealI recommend therapy. It helped me immensely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:15 PM |
| 10 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?Since I'm the last person of my family who can carry on my family's quite rare surname, I'll ask him to take mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:36 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Check-in(Not a native speaker!) Would you consider a man who is at most 1inch shorter than you? I'm asking because I've met someone for who this is the case. Mind you, I'm tall af. Also I'm curvy and he's slim but muscular and works out several times a week, so I just feel so much bigger than him. Do you have any advice on why it makes me feel insecure or how I could improve my view? When I tell him about my insecurities, he's very loving and affirms me that I shouldn't think that. I might add that I ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 09:32 AM |
| 88 | Pick me-ism is a hell of a drugHad a similar thing happen to me. Met a guy via OLD and the chemistry was perfect. Dated for a while, ignored a few red flags because we got along so well, big mistake. Had great Sex and I mean 11/10 but at one point I had to snoop. Found out he was in a long term relationship. Told him I was sorry and then send her everything I had, a million Screenshots, told her every detail about him in bed because she didn't believe me. She still didn't believe me after that tho. So I lured him into my car … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 08:05 PM |
| 5 | Does anyone else have a low value male father?Mine is in jail in another country. I've never even seen him. So, yeah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:40 AM |
| 244 | Definitely a HVM from among many LVM fantasizing about being house husbandsI have EDS and reading this hit deep That's how it should be but it rarely is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 09:06 PM |
| 8 | Pretending men in public are invisible: a new game I like to playI do this with my creepy old neighbour. When I first moved here, he would try to talk to me as soon as he saw me outside and it made me hella uncomfortable. So at one point I decided I would never speak to him again. Since that day he still stops several times to look over when he sees me, but I just treat him like air. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 08:23 AM |
| 10 | The bar is on the groundI STILL have this initial "oh he's a keeper" reaction when I read something like that and it proves how deeply rooted this issue is. The bar for men really is on the ground. It helps me to imagine myself in that situation and I would never force my partner to continue when they're uncomfortable. It's really not difficult to not be a rapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:13 PM |
| 23 | Misery loves company- a LV friend will drag you down with themThis reminds me of the story my older sister told me about our aunt. When my sister was 15, my aunt took her on a vacation to Italy and they were camping near the ocean. There were two men in their late 20s and apparently my aunt had an eye on one of them and made him stay in their tent so my aunt could get laid. She left my teenage sister with the newly 30 year old stranger and told her she would be sleeping in his tent for the night. My sister told me the guy wanted to have sex with her but sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:08 AM |
| 4 | LVM interactions with your pets that set off alarms?I bought a beautiful used aquarium in perfect shape for a great price from my student money and was so happy about it. But I wasn't able to transfer my fish into it at that time. The only place we had where I could temporarily store it was in my now ex boyfriends work room, in which he smoked all the time. He promised me to smoke outside until the empty aquarium was moved and then I caught him smoking in the room. Like, the balcony was 3 feet from his desk. How little can you do for your partner… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 11:43 AM |
| 12 | He forced her to buy him a PS5 for Christmas, but claims that SHE'S the materialistic one! Nah, sis. If you see this... take your PS5 and leave him!I just love how he gets torn apart in the comments | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 09:03 AM |
| 9 | This is very sweet.Reminds me of that one boyfriend I had in high school. Weeks ahead he told me he was busy that day (it was during the week) which made me sad, but he promised to celebrate on another day when we both had time. So valentines day comes and I get home from school to find a trail of candles and rose petals up the stairs that lead to my room and into my room, round in a circle to a love letter and my favourite treats and once I had read it, my boyfriend stepped out of my closet, a stuffed animal in h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 08:31 AM |
| 12 | Ladies, how are you treating yourself this Valentine's day?I thought I'd start the day off with cake for breakfast and my favourite tea. I'll be spending the day don't things I enjoy and in the evening I'll take a nice rose petal bath before dinner. For dinner I'll prepare myself a nice serving of entrecôte with perhaps roasted fennel and red wine or sparkling wine and watch my favourite TV shows. It's the simple things for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 10:27 AM |
| 1 | LVM boasts about being in a relationship with his adopted daughter (Story and translation in comments)I can't download the video and can only share the link. Rough translation of what is being said: Him: many of you are disturbed by the fact that I'm in a relationship with my adopted daughter but how could I have known 17 years ago in the orphanage that she would turn into such a bombshell? Which one of you would have said no?! Her: daddy held himself nicely (like, he looks good) I'd say. Him: haters gonna hate. Firstly, I really, really for the love of God hope that this was meant as a joke and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 10:20 AM |
| 1 | Single LVM expects to be married by doing the bare minimum. The audacity.That was a depressing read but the AoT link at the end cheered me up. Are you a fan? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 08:06 AM |
| 7 | Dating should be fun. If you feel guilty about dating around, it’s centered in internalized misogyny and patriarchal norms.Just read it and I have to say that it was brillant! Thanks for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 11:28 PM |
| 3 | I saw a huge difference between pics and bio of women and men on OLD apps. Let’s just say it’s a curse to be a straight woman. :(I like to play his one game on nightmare difficulty and I agree 100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:05 AM |
| 4 | Dating is like a box of chocolatesI send this to my married sister who doesn't know fds and she only replied laughing emoji and "true" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 09:00 AM |
| 20 | The tradcon guide for the modern womanI have to admit that I actually did that in the past, but my reasoning back then was that that person invited me, provided a nice party and so I would load the dishwasher for them and carry cutlery and plates to the kitchen. That's not your role as a guest at all, so I concluded that it was only sugar coated pickme behaviour. Not doing that at all anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 08:53 AM |
| 45 | And guys wonder why they are getting ignored. I deleted the match already but I'm dumbfounded. My bio talks about my hobbies, things i like to talk about, my current goals etc. Him: 🚘🏎️🖥️✌️🤪I'm on this one Chat app and it saves any conversation you've had with somebody except when you delete that chat entirely. I can't count the number of times a man has sent me a long very detailed message and then send me the exact same one 8 months later. Literally zero effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:55 PM |
| 16 | And guys wonder why they are getting ignored. I deleted the match already but I'm dumbfounded. My bio talks about my hobbies, things i like to talk about, my current goals etc. Him: 🚘🏎️🖥️✌️🤪Men just ain't got character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Dating a gamer is never the move.I can confirm this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 06:23 PM |
| 13 | I know my worth, I've paid dearly for every ounce of it. I make no apologies for loving myself and finally living my best life.Such a pleasant read! Thank you for sharing. Truly inspiring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 11:33 PM |
| 4 | “I love a woman with a sense of humour.” Translation: she must laugh at my shit jokes.Some "friends" actually just recently told me that I apparently didn't have a sense of humour. The situation was, that we went for a walk in the forest with my dog and at no distance at all they started making "jokes" about how long my usual walks were and that nobody did that, except me. So at some point one asked me, if I was annoyed by him and I straight up said "no, I'm offended" and then decided for myself that I wouldn't take them with me on walks anymore. May I add that both of them asked… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 10:07 AM |
| 7 | what are you proud of?Today I walked my dog for 6 miles after I had to get knee surgery back in September. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 04:03 PM |
| 5 | Anyone else follow Awards for Good Boys on Instagram?I do now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:03 PM |
| 20 | Girl wants to send her boyfriend nudes but feels self conscious, predictable replies ensueCan't save them all... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:01 PM |
| 9 | (Ex ) Redpill/anti-feminist/conservative ladies, how did you find FDS? How did it change you?I joined a few low libido/ dead bedroom subreddits in January because I thought I suffered from it because I was somehow broken and my then bf just had a very high libido and that's why every argument ended in him asking for sex to solve our problems. He was narcissistic and gaslighted me to the point I believed what I just wrote. At one point I finally managed to break up, but was still struggling with what I believed. And then reddit just recommended me the fds subreddit. I looked at it, thoug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 09:21 AM |
| 22 | Pretty is not the rent you pay to exist in the world as a woman.Thank you for sharing this. Posts like these make my day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 06:35 AM |
| 10 | I’m so over OLD. Yes, please scold me for not messaging you first. Fastest way to my heart (translation in comments)My reaction in one word: kotz | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 12:57 AM |
| 8 | I’m so over OLD. Yes, please scold me for not messaging you first. Fastest way to my heart (translation in comments)I'm from the South. But it's good to know about you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 12:55 AM |
| 14 | Me @ my ex who always needed homework helpOh God, I felt that. I'm a linguist. Constantly trying to get me to translate shit for them and read over things, but then trying to criticise me for my work and never. NEVER. even once did they look over MY essays in return. But guess whos a Masters student now! Pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 12:36 AM |
| 2 | They know that I'm on the FDS subredditYes, sorry just realised I didn't mention that. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 05:23 PM |
| 11 | The irony of this post is that the comments are full of people saying that they had experienced abuse and were using BDSM as a coping mechanism. The lack of self awareness and denialism within the kink community is just astounding.I actually am! Thank you for writing that. It's good to know that it's going to get better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 03:45 PM |
| 9 | The irony of this post is that the comments are full of people saying that they had experienced abuse and were using BDSM as a coping mechanism. The lack of self awareness and denialism within the kink community is just astounding.Thank you for your kind words. I've actually been in therapy for the past two years for other reasons but I'll have to talk about this issue eventually. It's just that it's a really uncomfortable topic to talk about. At least for me. But I'm working on it, one step at a time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 03:44 PM |
| 104 | The irony of this post is that the comments are full of people saying that they had experienced abuse and were using BDSM as a coping mechanism. The lack of self awareness and denialism within the kink community is just astounding.I've actually just recently started to realise that violent sex was the only thing that would turn me on because of past issues. Now that I know, I struggle a lot with low libido. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 10:57 AM |
| 4 | I can’t remember the last time I was up until 2:20 am on purpose.Me reading the title at 8am after pulling an all-nighter to binge watch Netflix: 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:49 AM |
| 14 | Im never letting a man dictate who my best friends are. I regret losing my best friend over who I thought was the LOML. Warning pickmeisha stuff here. This was way before I found this reddit. Still trying to wrap my head around why he was jealous of my FEMALE BFF.My narcissist ex tried to separate me from my female best friend who suddenly acted off. Turns out he tried to intimidate her when she was mindlessly drunk to make out with her when nobody was with them at her birthday party. I and her boyfriend at that time were present, her brother as well. When I confronted him, he acted like nothing ever happened and wouldn't even apologise to her or me What a piece of trash. She's still my friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 01:01 PM |
| 3 | Can't walk my dog in peace.Oh I love them! My childhood dog was a bernese mountain dog and border collie crossbreed. My boy is a German sheepdog, translated it would be Oldgerman Fox. I have a picture of him on my profile if you're interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 04:16 PM |
| 4 | Can't walk my dog in peace.This makes me happy that my dog looks intimidating enough to scare these scrotes away. Got no problem with them when my good boy is with me. Bless large dogs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:59 PM |
| 13 | Page 10 of the handbookI just googled what you meant with being a Bahai and I'm shocked in a positive way. This sounds so peaceful and morally correct. I'm glad I found your post! Had no clue this existed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 07:31 PM |
| 17 | Y’ALL. I can’t tell if this is a legit profile or we’re getting trolled???A field. Never seen one of those before. Sarcasm off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 07:20 PM |
| 38 | Never let them get comfortable!I don't get why men make these awful comments about marriage and call them "jokes". My uncle is married and posted an image with a quote in the group chat of his daughter who was about to marry her fiance. The image read: Son: "daddy, why are all the cars over there blowing their horns?" Dad: "because people are getting married there." Son: "but isn't blowing a horn actually a warning?" Dad: "exactly, my boy, exactly." And I was just shocked. My cousins closest friends had made that group chat t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 06:24 PM |
| 23 | i started my own business, and men are revealing their true selves!Two of my ex bfs were mechanics and after 6 months they couldn't even "find the time" to do an oil change on my car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:28 AM |
| 12 | How many men have actually given you orgasms?I'm in my late 20s and had around 25 men. It's been five minutes since I read your question and I can't recall anyone special. Most of my life I just straight up believed my body was broken because I would never orgasm during penetrative sex. Turns out men just suck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:20 PM |
| 153 | The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this"This is what my therapist taught me to think of my mother. "I don't need her anymore, I can just hang up or leave if she makes me feel uncomfortable." It was life changing and works for all people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Ad for a pickme of his very own! Don’t worry 18+ only 🤢Oof. Being straight forward seems to be his own quality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:03 PM |
| 3 | STIs. How to avoid?Firstly, if you casually ask them for a check up and they react defensive or repelled, you've already got your answer. Secondly, protect yourself with a condom. I actually had this experience with one ex. However, at that time I was battling heavily with pickme behaviour so I didn't piece it together until it was too late and I had already been gaslighted to the moon and back. When I told him to use a condom, he did the first time, but then the second time he tried to put it in without protectio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Just saying 👏🏼The audacity of some lvm who know this and still try to insert themselves into our lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:36 PM |
| 2 | Yeah, just think about that 🙈I feel so sorry for the girl getting involved with my narcissistic ex. These guys try to break you just for fun. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:34 PM |
| 4 | If you really feel the need to fix damaged menOh God, i remember when my ex got angry because i told him to seek out a therapist for his issues. He was mad because apparently that was my job as his gf. Like, wth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:31 PM |
| 3 | The venn diagram of things LVM do and things babies do is almost a circleTrying to change a man is literally the worst thing you can spend your energy on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:28 PM |
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