sarahindewoods Archive

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85	I just found out that my boyfriend had a sexual relationship with his aunt and an all-around shady sexual past. I don’t think this is a debate. You have to leave him. He is 23 (seeing from your other posts), this was 3 years ago. That is too little time to have processed and dealt with this in a healthy way. If you want your future kids to be safe, do NOT have any with him. I am not saying he is a bad person, but he is severely damaged and you cannot fix that. For your own (mental) safety, and potential children, I would leave this relationship ASAP. Also from a RP perspective: this is a man with no contr…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/08/18 03:06 PM
4	I need genuine advice Wow, this is quite a story. I think you did the right thing to leave. You have to understand that he is in no state to even appreciate or value you and your efforts fairly. He is clearly a toxic person (or in a toxic period of his life), and it is not doing you good in any way. Being RP is indeed also understanding and knowing your value and your worth. It’s not just being a safe place for him to land, without any responsibility from his side. You are worth more than this, and you took the right…	/r/RedPillWives	12/08/18 07:14 PM
3	Help me with advice before everyone wakes up Hey! That is definitely an uncomfortable position you are in. As it is your family in law, I personally always have the feeling you have to indeed make it work no matter what. So I fully understand your decision to stay. When your husband comes back I would greet him immediately with a hug and a passionate kiss, and ask him if he managed to get a good night sleep. Show him you support his decision to go. Then shortly check with him if he is angry with you for not joining him. If so, ask him to d…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/08/18 08:30 AM
3	Following RPW makes me feel like an outcast I have been going through something similar in the last year (except my social circle is 25+yo). Nobody seemed to have any sort of intention to settle down, let alone in an RPW way. I felt uncomfortable talking about moving in together, marriage, children. Nevertheless it was on my mind and I wanted to share with them. Slowly I have been trying to sneak in conversations or topics that are sort of red pill oriented without naming it red pill. And to my surprise people are more susceptible than yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/08/18 07:15 AM
2	[Advice] Apologies if this isn't quite the right forum, but I have a question about PMS and mood swings... I fully get where you come from. For me it has helped to explain to my SO what happens during PMS (feeling very sad for no reason, getting angry for no reason, feeling extremely insecure about myself and/or our relationship, etc). By explaining this to him, and once it’s happening informing him that I feel bad, we have found a way that works for both of us. There is two things that I can recommend: 1) Call in a time out whenever necessary. When you feel you are getting unnecessarily angry or ann…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/08/18 02:31 PM
1	Young, educated, well traveled, well read....and expecting? That is very sad to hear. Here people are guided through the process quite well, resulting in ‘better outcomes’ for them. E.g. having mandatory waiting days after an intake conversation, to ensure you have thought it through. So in that case an abortion clinic would not be beneficial for the OP..	/r/RedPillWomen	31/07/18 05:05 PM
5	Young, educated, well traveled, well read....and expecting? First of all, don’t be ashamed. As far as I can tell from your other posts and your contributions to RPW, you have gotten your life pretty sorted out at a quite early age. Even though this has an immense impact, things like these happen. You are in a really good position compared to many others, and you made that happen for yourself. So compliments for that. Second of all, I cannot speak as someone who knows what your situation is like. But I can speak from the perspective of a child that was bo…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/07/18 07:15 AM
1	Oral sex and me... need some advice You seem to be open to discussing sex and your desires with him. You can try to bring it up during sex, but if you do not feel comfortable with that, try it in a intimate but non-sexual situation. Ask him questions about him that are interested in knowing, and build up to more intimate questions. This way you create an environment where you show that he can be open about personal things without any pressure. Be prepared to also be open about yourself. You ask him about his sexual desires and the…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/18 10:21 PM
4	Oral sex and me... need some advice Or he doesn’t have the experience that women are into that, or he has a short string of the tongue, or he indeed feels he is inadequate at it, or he sees it as something special he does only occasionally? Could be many reasons, someone who doesn’t do that is not immediately suspect to be gay. I wouldn’t get hung up on it, seems unlikely in this scenario.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/18 10:11 PM
1	Meal planners of the RPW, unite! A friend of mine is really into organic/biological food. She just started an Instagram page where she shows what she cooks for her little boy. Definitely worth a look: https://www.instagram.com/harveys_wholefoodkitchen She makes very nice dishes, and plans ahead for a couple of days.	/r/RedPillWives	29/06/18 07:34 AM
7	Was it right? Wow, what a story. I am very impressed by your honesty and self knowledge. It’s amazing to read how you have been able to coach yourself into being a woman most women dream of being. You’re an inspiration to many. I don’t have any doubts you will find the right partner. Just don’t give up. The only advice I could give is try to date. And with dating I do not mean kissing/having sex. Meet men, go out for a drink, chat with them. You seem to bring a lot on the table intellectually as well, so even…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/18 02:37 PM
2	What to do when you can’t go along with the fetish? I think judging and vetting are two different things. Relating to the latest back to the basics post about TRP being amoral, certain traits or preferences of your SO can be considered amoral. Whereas how your SO acts on those can be considered (im)moral. as such you shouldn’t judge a person for its fetishes (it is the same as men wanting more women, its amoral). The (im)morality comes into play when your SO acts on it (eg pushing his fetish on you while you have indicated you are not willing to …	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/18 01:33 PM
1	How do you sustain a mutually awesome sex life? I agree with a couple of the post above that you should talk to him about this. Sex is not an individual act, you do it together and together you build an environment and set boundaries (unconsciously most of the time) in which both of you can thrive. As such I do not see how you can “fix” this without him in the equation. This doesn’t mean that you don’t have to work on it yourself. From your post I can see that you are a lot in your head while having sex (or in the moments leading up to sex). …	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/18 07:50 AM
2	What to do when you can’t go along with the fetish? I haven’t looked into this lady’s profile, so I don’t know if your comment is applicable to her. I know however that a lot of other women do take your comment more generally. Boyfriends are not husbands, but the factual difference is a signature on a piece of paper. The emotional significance you give to it differs in everyone. As such I don’t feel advice to “judge boyfriends because they’re not husbands” is a valid point. I would never judge my boyfriend like that, because I respect him and jud…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/18 07:36 AM
2	What am i supposed to do? What has been said before, and in addition to that: visit the TRP sub. I think you might be able to learn something from that with regards to vetting. Good luck with this situation first though, sounds like you’re going to need it.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/18 08:17 PM
42	How much say should he get to have over reproduction? First of all, congrats with your pregnancy. Second, I would like to point out that anything I will say is purely my opinion and not based on own experience or well-thought out theories (or RPW-theory). When reading your post, the first that popped up in my mind was: girl, chill out (and I mean this respectfully). I think this is an extremely important topic, but the urgency is very low. You are having quite a difficult pregnancy so far, and you have another 17 weeks (and 1 day) to go. What about…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/05/18 09:19 AM
2	Am I simply wasting my time with the wrong guy? First of all I’d like to say that I am impressed by your honesty and openness to feedback. Not just in your OP but also in the comments. With regards to your story/question, I notice that there are a couple of moments you describe, that you can work on (e.g. no drama over text). However you also seem to recognize these issues. Key is to act on them. The no drama is rather easy: just stfu. Count till 10 (or longer) before you respond. The thing with your past is more complicated as this is someth…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/18 10:16 PM
4	I need help about 2 guys. It sounds like you’re just a plate to number 1, and number 2 sounds like BP. I would not waste your time on either of the two men. Find someone that has more interest in you, but with the right (TRP) mindset. You are still very young and there is no rush in finding a man to settle down with. It’s more important to be with the right type of guy rather than be with a guy now. You’ve maintained your virginity for quite a long time, make sure you lose it for a person worth your while.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/18 08:58 PM
2	Living Together Before Marriage To me and my bf marriage is not a big topic, so when we decided to move in together that was based on our desire to spend more time together, come home to each other each night, etc. I think it’s obvious you shouldn’t move in with someone you do not see a long term future with. So, if you both see that together and both feel the desire to live together, why wouldn’t you? With regards to your family, I have learned (quite recently) that if you want something and you believe in that, stick up for …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/18 04:07 PM
3	What have you found helps when you’re heartbroken or just going through a tough time? Try to keep your spirits up most of the time, to take your mind of the situation you are in. But then every once in a while watch a really sad movie and cry uncontrollably. It’s a great emotional relieve without having to go into detail why you feel sad or without having to deal with the reason of your emotions.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/18 03:45 PM
24	Something so obvious that I only realized recently I think what you are trying to say is that men are more aware that not everybody is attracted to them. Whereas women feel that if they like someone, they assume they can be with that person when they want to. Am I correct in my brief summary? I think this is true in a way. Women are used to getting attention from men most of the time. Obviously there needs to be some attractiveness, but mostly physical and not personality wise. Many BP men will put up with shitty behaviour/personality because th…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/18 07:25 AM
2	RP women in relationships, how important is obedience to your bf/husband? No one has said anything about sin in this thread. Are you afraid you are sinning? Hahaha no, not at all. With sin I meant ‘a bad thing’. As I explained, I don’t think getting married or not getting married should matter, and neither of the two are in principal a good or a bad thing when we’re talking about submission and commitment. But this obviously bothers you. Why? It does not bother me on a personal level, I just disagree with your approach. I respond to it, because I feel that the other s…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/18 06:31 PM
2	RP women in relationships, how important is obedience to your bf/husband? What girlwithabike is saying is exactly what I meant. I am not saying marriage is a bad thing or you should randomly get involved with any guy and submit to him. I am talking here about emotional commitment, trust, vulnerability. Submission should not be a reward for your man after tying him down in legal contracts so you can get your ‘fair’ share after he dies. If that is what you want in life, then marriage as you describe it is definitely the way. But if you want commitment there is way more …	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/18 04:16 PM
3	RP women in relationships, how important is obedience to your bf/husband? I guess it really depends where and how you were brought up, but for me marriage is not the end goal. It’s the commitment towards each other, the love that you give each other, the sacrifices you make. Whether you commit by telling each other and trusting each other in that, or by formalizing that through marriage, should not matter. And therefore submitting and being obedient before marriage can be perfectly fine. If the captain/1st mate dynamic isn’t there before marriage, what makes marriage …	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/18 06:41 AM