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sbarrowski/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 03:08 AM
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Thanks and we, well most of us anyway, know that most women don’t have goals to ruin their husband’s life if they get divorced. We are the unfortunate minority where once the love is gone, all compassion and respect goes out the window.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 05:40 PM
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Agree for sure. I still cherish the memories of all my former girlfriends and both ex wives. Life is better with women in it, even if it doesn’t work out. Also for a lot of us there’s children that continue to be a great source of joy.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 04:40 AM
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Had to go back and rewatch the Milking the Prostate scene from Road Trip
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 08:34 PM
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Start doing a lot of strenuous aerobic exercise. If you have time start lifting weights too. I guarantee it will help. We all get this anxiety. It’s because we have lost a whole lot of what we worked for, and our subconscious is afraid it will happen again. Even though it won’t unless you get involved in a bad relationship
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 07:16 PM
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A month after she left
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 06:54 AM
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This is a great story and thanks for sharing. It’s great to point out that many aspects of our lives are better after divorcing a wife who caused a lot of problems.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 01:36 AM
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When your kids are grown up it’s way better.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:26 AM
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It won’t make any difference in your property and assets settlement so it doesn’t matter, unless it bothers you for moral reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 04:10 AM
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Who did you use? I would not mind selling mine but I don’t want to pawn it for a quarter of its 450 dollar original price.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 02:50 AM
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If it’s a nice ring, sell it so maybe some other guy that needs a break in life, can get a break. Odds are 50 50 it will find a new lifetime home. Throwing it away is a waste and will only be satisfying briefly.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 03:51 PM
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It’s great to see a lot of good advice, explanation of why women do what they do, and support in these comments. This is a great community. Among couples with some education 30 years or older, 80 percent of divorces are initiated by women. Think about that, 8 out of every 10 divorces. Sometimes they have good reasons but very often there’s no rational reason at all for them to leave. Do not allow her to walk away with more of your shared assets than half. She is entitled to half and you should k…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 05:40 AM
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These will help you be able to keep the car. She has claim to the car if payments were made together during your marriage. See above comment for how to divide.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 10:55 PM
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Usually assets are split 50-50. Find the private party sale value for the car and find a way to give her half that amount.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 10:53 PM
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Your case is perfect for using a mediator. It’s much less expensive than a lawyer and they will make sure the divorce documents are all properly filled out. Divide whatever assets you have so that it’s half and half, and stipulate no alimony going forward (unless she earns way less than you). Also you don’t have to pay taxes on retirement accounts transfers as part of divorce settlements. Once the paperwork is filled out by a mediator, make copies for each of you, take it to the proper courthous…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 04:43 PM
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We used a mediator. Only one house, she got the nicer car but she didn’t make me pay half her substantial nursing school loans that we kept pushing off. Mediator was 200 dollars. Both daughters over 21 so no issues there. I bought her out of her home equity using retirement savings money. Filed for 160 dollars and three weeks later it’s official. There’s taxes due on 401k withdrawals she took out without paying enough up front. But no lawyer fees. My state is small and basically no fault so gett…
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 04:19 AM
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This is something to consider before thinking about marrying a woman with a wealthy family. If you divorce and have disputes, guarantee her family will pay her legal fees while you rack up massive legal debt. Choose very carefully
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 03:44 AM
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Agree to unreasonable settlement it will be far less expensive in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 07:23 AM
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There you go. Walking around in yesterdays underwear until you feel like getting dressed is a great feeling. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 09:41 PM
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I feel you brother. Citicard absolutely sucks. I had a payment arrangement with them on 7k in debt because they were wanting 300 a month minimum. This was over a decade ago, anyway I thought the arrangement would automatically stay in place until the amount was paid off. WRONG. At the end of the year the agreement expired without a single word from Citibank. I had no idea I had to go back to the website and renew the agreement myself. As soon as that happened, despite not missing any payments, t…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 09:38 PM
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The immediate relief of NO LONGER having to walk on eggshells. Going wherever the F you want on vacation. I guarantee every one of us has wanted to vacation somewhere that the wife said no to. There’s a lot more. It’s not all bad. You’ll probably have more clear picture of where your money goes too. A lot of women spend money on all kinds of stuff they don’t need, just because buying stuff is fun. And you can look at Pornhub without feeling guilty 😉
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 09:34 PM
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Thank you I thought this sounded ridiculous
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 06:57 AM
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This story is about as close to what happened to me as I have seen here. Except we were in our house for 19 years, and her future plans cannot be fulfilled living in the house we bought together. It’s going to cost me most of my retirement savings to give her half the equity, but I could never afford to buy another house in my city with just my income. I am very lucky that she doesn’t want to live here whereas I rather like the house.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:40 AM
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There’s no way 80 percent of step parents abuse their kids. It’s far less than ideal, but unfortunately women will continue to dump their husbands at alarming rates regardless of any commercial. And the odds are if you have kids, your ex will eventually marry again. I doubt Publix was trying to advocate women getting divorced frivolously.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 01:14 AM
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I didn’t even start my 401k until I was 33. It’s currently at an appropriate level thanks to generous matches from my employer. You can easily make up the lost money.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 12:43 AM
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Those numbers wouldn’t scare me away. Take it slow and get to know her as well as you can. Meet her family when appropriate. What are they like? Did she grow up in an abusive household? The other red flags will appear the more you interact. You have all of us to ask questions as you go along! We want you to succeed.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 12:04 AM
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It gets better. I’m several months from her walkout date and after about the third month you are decently adjusted. Keep exercising whatever form of that you like. Very important. Talk to a therapist and keep following this subreddit. Following the stories of other men really helped me.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 07:13 PM
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I guess a long term or permanent job isn’t necessary. But men who do a lot of job jumping are known to not be good long term relationship partners. Probably fine for casual dating.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 02:12 AM
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I agree I’m going to sell mine too
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 01:59 AM
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Sell it on Facebook marketplace for two thirds original cost. Polish it first. It will sell fast
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 01:58 AM
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This is many indicators of Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD. Get divorced as quickly as possible and thank goodness you didn’t have kids!
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 04:15 AM
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Really interesting story. As long as it benefits you in the settlement good for you. The odds of them succeeding long term are crazy low but it’s not important. A good settlement is, and you hold all the cards as the primary parent. Wishing you the best and hope you find a woman that is a bit more well adjusted. Your STBX would have drained years off of you in the long run. Sounds like a stressful person to be in a relationship with
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 03:46 PM
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Seek therapy please. They will help you see what happened to you in a very different perspective. Also they will give you coping mechanisms to help through the difficult times. It gets better with each passing month.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 11:26 PM
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Excellent question. Many people on here have suggested that men should wait a year before dating again after a divorce, especially from a long marriage. So avoid the freshly divorced guys like me lol. I would avoid men that were divorced because of unresolved substance abuse, are not employed full time in a long term job, or men that are still in the middle of a contested, expensive divorce with custody battle issues. Those guys will need extra time to recover from all that.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 03:12 AM
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I couldn’t remember what the meme was called and couldn’t find it. It sums up perfectly what so many of us have to go through. Thanks again for posting.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 10:45 PM
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Thanks so much for sharing this. I saw it several months ago, knowing I would eventually come home to an empty house. Last month I was officially dumped, and this is terribly accurate except thank God both kids are in their 20s.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 10:43 PM
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I agree don’t have kids with this woman. She’ll either fail to see it through or leave as soon as they’re grown
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 02:29 PM
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Sadly I am starting to believe the same thing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 02:39 AM
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I tried for a few years to make positive changes in our marriage. I read books on how to be a better husband, sought advice from the newly or nearly divorced. When my wife got a good enough raise that she could afford her own condo, she abruptly left. We are in our mid 50s, so the kids are grown and she is looking for the lifestyle that most of her higher income friends enjoy. I lost my wife because I’m not a millionaire, but I’m better off not living with someone who is not happy unless she’s r…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 04:27 AM
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Thanks for the advice. I just picked up all the necessary paperwork for an uncontested divorce from the District Court Self Help program. It’s supposed to be 20 dollars but it was free. I have a couple other steps to complete before we go to a mediator to make sure all the forms are filled out properly. Based on what I have learned here, unless you have a lot of disposable income, hiring an attorney just leaves you and your STBX with a lot less assets at the end. Of course that’s assuming the ST…
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/23 09:01 PM
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Thank you so much for the info
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/23 07:00 PM
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Excellent advice especially about the quitclaim. What is the least expensive way to have a quitclaim written up for buying out an STBX equity in our house?
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/23 06:24 PM
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Excellent point and as long as we have online dating apps, there’s no need to worry about getting into a live-in committed relationship again.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/23 08:29 PM
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Thanks. To her credit she’s being reasonable so far too
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 08:39 PM
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100 percent agree and thanks to you and others that mentioned this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 01:22 PM
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No it adds value to the division of property
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 01:21 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 12:34 PM
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Excellent response thanks
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 04:22 AM
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This has several interesting points but I am not concerned with why she left. If she really doesn’t want to be with me I can’t fix that and it’s none of my business what she does now. More interested in how much it helps to have given her the much more valuable car.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 04:20 AM
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