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I will try to answer this as best I can in my current state, it's labor day weekend after all. Been with tons of Women over the years, now 33, and had plenty of natural wingman. The real consideration for a natural, is what do you bring to the table. It's not calculated like you think it is. One of my most successful friends back ~15 years ago, the deal was that I would be the DD and he'd get us into parties and to meet people. I think the distinction is that most men don't actually want to go t…
/r/seduction01/09/25 07:20 AM
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Because they are in the middle of nowhere with a 10x markup compared to Europe? It’s probably cheaper and easier to fly into the Netherlands or Germany than go to some isolated town in Nevada.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 05:42 PM
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This is just untrue. I went to the UC school most known for partying, and was in Engineering. I went out to the most parties of almost anyone, not in a fluff major, generally 3-4 times a week. Maybe that’s why I got a 2.7 and it took me 6-7 years to make it to a FAANG, but I digress. I was generally pretty familiar with most women in STEM with the exception of bio majors,since I was extremely sociable, and could talk to and did talk to most of them at some point, because I wasn’t trying to sleep…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 07:14 AM
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Yes, in the sense that making more than 100k makes you more happy. Almost every study suggests that above ~100k it has a small effect on happiness. I have a n count of 40, and was up until the layoffs working as an engineer at a FAANG. I wasn’t much happier making 200k, but I was more fulfilled and far more confident in my abilities having been able to succeed at a higher level. It’s similar with success with Women. There were exponential benefits psychologically from 0 to 10 women. But after th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:42 AM
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The bar, festivals, trivia night, rec sports leaugues, volunteering, educational classes etc. You can meet people at any number of events. And I don’t want to hear some bs about how only degenerates go to bars. I’ve met tons of men and women who make 100k+ and are well adjusted people in these sorts of venues.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 07:47 PM
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If that were the case we expect lesbian couples to have lower incidence of divorce, not higher
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:03 PM
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I think its different with actors / actresses who were already famous a la Natalie Portman, Emma Watson, James Franco, and Mayim Bialik (not Ivy but similar setup). Those who got in on academic merit are like 95% intelligence or above, based on my many friends and classmates who went to them. Not geniuses necessarily, but at least 2 standard deviations and above the mean. My point was that if you get into an Ivy thats the only it makes sense to study theater since the name gives a big enough bac…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 06:38 AM
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Regarding the IQ thing... I know there are different kinds of smarts, but really smart people don't do theater. I agree with most of your analysis, but I have to push back on this portion. We can assume that almost everyone who makes it into an Ivy on academic merit is really smart. Or at least above the average of my UC Engineering classmates. Look at all of the famous alumni of the Yale drama department. You can also look to: Matt Damon / Harvard, Conan O’Brien / Harvard, David Duchovny / Prin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 06:30 AM
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I mean the Netherlands provides sex credits for the disabled to see prostitutes a few times a year. Then again the Netherlands is far more progressive: some of the earliest acceptance of homosexuality and gay marriage, tolerance of marijuana and mushrooms, physician assisted suicide, prostitution etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 09:01 PM
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She committed the purgery and tried to ruin an innocent man’s career and life after she turned 18, shortly after the incident.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 06:32 PM
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No, after they were dragged through the mud for a year in the probably the biggest media story of ‘06 and suspended from university while being the top lacrosse team in the nation, they won their case. Nancy Grace brought it up everyday on national television.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 06:28 PM
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We can also use the duke lacrosse case as an example. The men were suspended. The other stripper said that the plaintiff was blantantly lying. The prosecutor was disbarred for gross misconduct or negligence. The Judge said that the boys were innocent. She wasn’t given any penalty nor sent to Jail. Don’t worry, she’s in jail now… a few years after she was let off scott free she committed a murder, since she wasn’t behind bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:19 AM
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It doesn’t have to be more than one Woman. Look at Matt Ariza over the last year. She lied to him about her age, was breaking the law in San Diego about being out past curfew, perjured herself considering he wasn’t around at the time of the incident. How is she not in Jail?! Video footage from earlier in the night: https://youtu.be/b2QD1kwMse8
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:10 AM
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Read “no more mr nice guy” and implement some of its recommendations
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 10:27 PM
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It’s interesting seeing the other side of things. I grew up in CA and would every once in a while meet a celebrity organically. Like when I was refereeing their kid in sports or when my dad ran into one with me that he had played pickup games with at the rec center. Or at the yearly charity event my parents would go to, and I went twice? With my girlfriend, I’ve been able to get a behind the scenes peek so to speak. She’s friends with at least 5 celebrities who have wiki pages, including one who…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 10:37 AM
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It will be taller than that. Something like 6’8 is going to be the optimum warrior size which will be the male ideal. This is largely due to the difference in growth rate of surface area and volume. At a certain point there are more issues with injury and clumsiness as an individual gets taller. We won’t ever naturally reach a true homeostasis however since shorter women have better childbearing success and greater height disparities have more successful relationships. But if everyone starts CRI…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:41 AM
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Men who identify as Red Pill maybe. Men who agree with most of the ideas of the Red Pill, absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:41 PM
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As a man would understand the definition of opening up, No. What they really mean is they want you to show your true colors as long as they exude positive masculinity. I have opened up to several Women and cried in front of them about my Mother's passing. They have actually been receptive and kind and thoughtful in respect to that event. That said, there's a reason for it... your Mother won't pass away twice, which means its a non issue going forward, and it shows that you actually have emotions…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:45 PM
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Being rich, actually provides very little benefit. If you inherited it, you are just going to be taken advantage of. If you are earning a high wage, the work and stress obligations aren't worth it Ceteris Paribus. If you've earned it yourself from an entrepreneurial venture and make at least 500k a year or have a net worth of 5 million plus it starts to make a substantial difference. I'm pretty in tune with the people in this demographic from birth / upbringing and working as an engineer at a FA…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 02:41 AM
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It does however make it easier to develop the attractive characteristics. Better food / chefs, more interesting stories after being able to afford travel / do more things, personal trainers, better clothes for pea-cocking etc. It lowers the activation energy for a lot of things. Just because many dudes don't use the better tools available with more money doesn't mean they couldn't. I don't think Mark Zuckerberg would have taken up kickboxing if he hadn't been able to afford a private instructor.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 11:50 PM
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Firsthand Experience? I'm at an N-count of 40. I got with plenty of Women who were much more-so normal than exceptional. There were plenty of women I've hooked up with in the past who had 'normal' trajectories but would have no ability to lock a guy like me long term. I've also seen firsthand, ton's of the top dudes getting ridiculously special treatment in the dating arena. Sure, I used to be pissed that I had to work stupidly harder in that arena than the most attractive men, but I also knew I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:03 AM
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It's not about the a..hole, it's about allowing him access to something. I've had it with a few, ~5 women. I haven't found much difference between it and normal sex, personally. What I will say though, is that it is very fulfilling when a Woman you are attracted to, is willing to let you push boundaries in that way. At the end of the day, we really do love a woman who is willing to let us do stuff that they normally wouldn't, because they are so attracted to us. And just as a reminder, a large a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:36 AM
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Does that mean Britney Spears, Kim K, Olivia Wilde, Jada Smith, and Madonna all have pedorific tendencies then?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 12:41 AM
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Men should get a reasonable amount of time from being notified in writing to make a decision. Say one month, to be able to object in writing and not consent to fatherhood. If not, you’ll have people wait til past the deadline to inform their partner to get around the law.
/r/MensRights25/09/22 07:15 AM
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Can vouch for this. Mom was a tech PM after being an engineer. I'm a software engineer at a top company. Code switching is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:53 AM
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No, I've got to disagree. Missionary is obviously the baseline generic default. But the best for any long-term relationship sex? No way. In general it is a less dominating position. Sure you are on top of the person, but parallel to them, which means is much easier to roll you over than if you are perpendicular, obvious for anyone who has spent any time on the mat. In terms of view, clearly reverse cowgirl or many other positions give you a much better viewpoint to oggle at your long-term partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:20 AM
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So really, this just comes down to a difference in terms. You said 'Attractive' which I and most people would instinctually take to mean in the top 80-90% of Women as a lower bound. If I said rich in a comment, I would assume that to be at least 5M net worth or 300k a year, as a lower bound in the USA. That's not a problem, but it's important for us to actually sus out what everyone's contribution actually means.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:53 AM
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With all due respect, I looked through your profile and you are mis-representing yourself in the comments here. I took you at your word without further investigation. That's my irresponsibility. I don't mean that as a 'dis', I mean that for accuracy. My girl is easily in the top 5% of eligible single women in the PNW as a lower bound. Men and Women here are definitely below average of the USA, but I can easily put a more realistic value of this. My girl is easily in the top 10% of single eligibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:45 AM
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Nah, it's that very attractive women don't understand where they show detrimental traits. Most men, are willing to put up with these things in a short term relationship, or even in a long term relationship, but they are very detrimental for marriage. Desirable Women think that means that men don't want to tie them down, but really it's that they don't meet the long term requisites. They haven't learned normal human interaction. I'll use my girl, regardless of our current ups and downs and breaku…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:20 AM
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Women don’t produce in aggregate, so it’s largely irrelevant. When women start creating fortune 500 companies, doing the dirty jobs, or pay more than they consume in taxes then that discussion makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 09:42 PM
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It is obviously possible to overcome it. How much work it takes depends on your starting place. The truth is that world treats you differently depending on your status in the social hierarchy. If you are lower in the hierarchy having good game / attitude can make up for being lower but it does take much more effort and perseverance. This is why any reasonable person would encourage you to do both: increase your status in the hierarchy and increase your ability to interact with the world. Active …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 08:07 PM
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Creator of the red pill and author of the rational male series.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:31 PM
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This entirely depends where you fall on the social strata. In an upper-class family the sons are generally more favored, in lower-class families the daughters are generally more valued. We can see this from dowry vs bride price. Source: Somewhere in The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature which I recently re-read for the Nth time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 06:20 AM
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1) The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley. This book should have been required in any college biology class, but that's not the way things tend to work. 2) Models by Mark Manson 3) How to Win Friends and Influence people by Dale Carnegie 4) No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover 5) When I say No I feel guilty by Manuel J Smith I think the above 5 give a pretty well rounded intro into different areas of the topics you mentioned above. I think there are some that are def…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 05:56 AM
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You probably could do better and make more in a big city. I think the sweet spot is as a senior engineer at a mid size company. Its not like I have to work that much more at at a FAANG, but I do have to be much more on point, have less freedom on what I work on, and the work is generally less interesting. Making an application or having a big say in the design of a full application is much more fulfilling than being a cog in big tech. But yeah , if we were talking about success in RMV & SMV, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 05:54 AM
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No, I don’t think it is. I think about $120k is the sweet spot. Good enough to afford everything you need, while not gaving to take on the extra responsibility of higher pay/work obligations. E.g. being a physicians assistant vs doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 04:46 AM
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Money really doesn’t matter that much unless you are making 500k +. At least not to conventionally attractive women, its different if you’re talking to some nerdy Ivy League chick or whatever. Sure there might be some women who will leave you or won’t get into a relationship if you don’t make enough money, but as long as you aren’t working some menial job it won’t matter. And the money doesn’t really generate interest unless its an obscene amount. I make 200k+ at 30 for reference. My ex was a so…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 12:05 AM
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It’s like 5% who can get lots of 9+ women. For those men there’s no real reason to wait towards your peak age to settle down. Sure its more fun, but at a certain point it becomes routine and there’s no point in waiting. Most men can become desirable in there 30s if they work their ass off, and then relationships are worthwhile. Particularly because women have more well rounded expectations. If you’re a normal dude and stay a normal dude then relationships/marriage probably aren’t worth it. The p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:20 AM
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No, you should pursue excellence and get as much casual sex as you can from the current hookup culture. If you can get a lot of 9+ women, then maybe you should go for relationships earlier and if not you should be going for the best relationships you can get in your 30s. If you have worked hard as a man and put yourself out there enough, relationships are still worth it with women when you reach your 30s if you can elicit genuine desire. The problem with prostitution is that it is never as fulfi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 08:42 AM
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You don't escape the fun friend zone, you avoid it all together. The question is how do you avoid this? There are many ways, like showcasing pre-selection or speaking bluntly about what you want or talking about how you don't want anything serious etc etc. If you need to get out of it, you get the girl jealous by getting some other girls into you so that she starts to get jealous. You can up your status by hitting the gym, or making other noticeable changes that she will recognize. That said, al…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:52 AM
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It usually works, and can be done for ~5k in Turkey. I ran into a guy who had just gotten it done on a flight back from Europe. I think its not unreasonable to throw it in is a possibility, just like how most Women can find a way to afford breast implants if they really want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:15 AM
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I genuinely think this is just due to men caring way more about being accurate in specifics, particularly n count, than Women. Not malicious intent or anything of the sort. I remember being pretty pissed when I couldn’t name every women I’d slept with at 23 when I had been been able to at 21. Theres no ‘rational’ reason for this. But yes, men care more about statistics and accuracy than women, and that’s probably actually a downside in most regards. In regards to the statistic its night and day …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:58 AM
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I really can't conceptualize how you look at the world if that's your viewpoint. I get that you might not be aware enough or it might be too high of level for you to be introspective enough to understand the cascade of cause and effect throughout society, but I really can't understand why you are so adamantly opposed to what I said given that's the case. Like, how many successful men do you know and how many top-tier women do you know? How many people have you've met or who are around you have W…
/r/MensRights13/08/22 08:18 AM
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Remove Women's right to vote. I realize that the suggestion of this is sacrilege, but that's the only actual long-term solution. Mind you, that doesn't mean that we should remove any women's rights or do anything negative against women. In fact, I'm horrified by some of the recent attacks on women's bodily autonomy. But, if you took away that one right, everything would sort itself out over the next 50-100 years or so. Slowly but surely, bad incentive structures would self-correct, and things wo…
/r/MensRights13/08/22 07:38 AM
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SoCal, but that's irrelevant. The reason to bring it up is that I got exposure to lots of 'successful' men through different strategies. I've also been able to see the change in the RMV/SMV over the generations. Making money clearly has much lower value than it did in the past. Like I've been lifting for a decade and have been pretty much topped out since 23~24. That lifting is clearly worth more in the dating market than a 200k a year job. Similarly, height while always an advantage, has become…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 07:49 AM
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No. I'll elaborate. The halo-effect is quite obviously real. As is the committed men will work harder because they have responsibilities, and the committed men have more structure so they will be more on point. But this just obfuscates correlation vs causation. What I mean by the above, is that the time expectations of relationships with Women today, do not result in a net higher income over time, all else being equal. Sure, if you have more confidence and less risk adverseness that will help yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:57 AM
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I agree. I'm a dude, but I shave: my armpits regularly for chafing, my face for acne control once a week roughly, my pubes every say 2 weeks because I don't like a forest, back every 2 months, and lastly my chest every month or so. Actually, it was tough for me to stop shaving my chest because my now ex girlfriend of the past year prefers a shaved chest. I think this is one of those things where people who have higher expectations in the body hair department want people with higher expectations,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:55 AM
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Just a reminder that the woman who made the false claims against them is in jail right now. She committed a murder a few year later. Maybe that person would still be alive, if she had been forced to take responsibility for her actions.
/r/MensRights08/08/22 05:41 PM
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You’re talking about men’s healthy percentages not women’s percentages. Women need higher body fat to survive than men, so their percentages are higher for the same healthiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 02:24 PM
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The problem is that a vocal minority of unattractive women will screech to high heaven that men should never approach women because they MIGHT be busy, and socially unaware guys will take those women seriously. Really they should just ignore those irresponsible women in the first place like they would ignore drug addicts on the street or racists. Guys with a decent amount of social savvy will approach regardless of where a women is, if they aren’t giving off flustered/busy vibes, and excuse them…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 06:31 PM
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Tattoos signal lower trait inhibition. In general, that signals worse prospects for having a good easy going long-term relationship. It also in the same vain, suggests lower class over upper class. They fall on the alpha phux side of the spectrum vs the beta bux side of the spectrum for men or women. The relative amount they illuminate these traits changes depending on the culture/society. I don't have any tattoos, in case it would negatively impact me in the C-Suite in the high tech world down …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:55 AM
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Honestly, you are over analyzing shit. Don't think that Intelligence is a universal benefit. It has huge downsides, if not it would have spread much more widely. It CAN be a benefit, but that's a much bigger dive into Epigenetics. Anyway, my deployment in Bangalore succeeded so I'm tapping out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 11:28 AM
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I think that you just really don't understand the male imperative. Like, I don't think you understand how much of our current society is upheld by normal men believing that the current status quo is beneficial. I'm not a normal man, 1% by income or so, 1%er by family wealth, slept with a high number of Women etc, but I was more shocked that people were surprised when the pompass hollywood kid shot up my school, than that it was an inevitability. It seems that most people tend to think that the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 10:34 AM
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It's not a problem if you have high self esteem and/or a lot of practice and habits. In fact, it sometimes feels like a bit of a fun game and it makes things more entertaining and interesting. I hated having to do these things in college, but its not a big deal to me now at 30. You have fun seeing how far you can push things, dealing with the ambiguity etc. I'm not sure how much of this change is due to getting older vs rising up the SMV ranks. I tend to think the that the naturally charismatic …
/r/seduction22/01/22 07:30 AM
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The ideal form is some combination of Push and Pull. Almost no men will be successful showing 100% distance and almost no men will be successful showing 100% interest. The key is to sometimes push and to sometimes pull. Guys who are most successful with the hottest Women, tend to do much more push than pull, because top-shelf women don't need as much validation. The same level of push and pull will cause you to fail with lower tier women, who require higher amounts of validation. Let me try to d…
/r/seduction22/01/22 06:40 AM
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Depends on the timeframe. Top tier women have more advantages than a top tier man from mid teens til early 30s give or take. And yes these upsides make up for the downsides. You don’t see many top tier men getting free vacations or the same handouts as top tier women during their peak. Over a long enough timeframe the attractive man will win. He can get a sales job and easily beat the competition, or ride the corporate fast track to a top management position. Those advantages are more consistent…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 06:05 AM
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Because it makes it seem as if you’re buying their time which is unsexy. So if you use it sparingly it can help but too much and it makes it seem like you’re overcompensating for something. Like a holiday weekend out on the water with female friends helps vs say inviting girls out from the bar hurts your chances versus just gaming them normally.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 05:18 PM
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Best friend has a yacht. It can be useful, but it’s tough playing it off without being seen like a chump.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:51 PM
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29 but I’m not basing this on just myself. I have plenty of guy friends who are 32-33 that fall in the same boat and express similar experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:03 PM
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This, this right here. I’m pretty sure that most people who say that money matters don’t have access to wealthy people and certainly aren’t themselves. I was born into wealthy California money, and have done pretty well myself as a FAANG engineer. Y’all are tripping if you think that money actually helps you in dating in this day age. It made a difference in my parents age of the 80’s but it basically means jack now. Now I do fine in hooking up /dating but that is almost in spite of my access to…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 03:15 AM
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I mean it’s a bit of an unattractive indicator. I’m a dude and know exactly 0 attractive men who pursue rock climbing. Sure some of my software buddies do it… but I said attractive. Rock climbing tends to draw in shorter skinny awkward dudes who care about technical things over skills like socializing. You know darn well that the popular high SMV dudes aren’t about it as a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:06 PM
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Sure, this is simple. In California, my good guy friend and my best female friend were caught in their underwear by the cops. He was 19 she was 17. The police very explicitly told him that he and only him would have gotten a Misdemeanor had they been slightly more indecent. This despite the fact that 17 has historically been an acceptable age in almost all western countries. Since most relationships feature an older man and a younger women, some of the push for harsher age of consent laws can be…
/r/MensRights16/09/21 02:56 AM
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I wouldn’t confess my feelings in the first place. In fact I would never let my feelings develop in the first place if they weren’t romantically interested. Sure, sometimes I got invested before, up through say age 19… but then you learn from your mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:13 AM
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It’s not overrated, because it’s not just the sexual success. It’s the social validation, the better treatment, the easier socialization, etc etc etc. I would gladly trade my 1%er income for being in the top 5% of the SMV chart, and that’s from someone who has mostly hovered in the low 80s and gotten to have experienced plenty of the chad-lite, for myself, or chad existence of close friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 05:14 AM
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Nah this is off. It’s more like 70%. First off guys in the 70s get lucky a fair amount, they just can’t consistently pull. Second, there is a lot of churn between guys in the 70s and 80s where when they start doing worse they start to refocus on game and socializing, or they knowingly sacrifice some amount of SMV to focus on career or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 05:07 AM
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No it doesn’t, because if it did women on here wouldn’t keep complaining about young adult women being manipulated or groomed by older men. If we hold a 21 yr old man who is less mature responsible for their actions, then we can sure as hell hold a similarly aged women much more responsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 07:58 PM
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I didn’t say they should. I’m just trying to look at actions as a system and you haven’t suggested a system that leads to a better longterm society for the individual or the collective. Misogyny means hatred of women. I haven’t said anything to warrant that accusation. I just said that I haven’t seen anything to suggest that women would actually uphold a civilization, and that’s having spent tons of time with millionaire women, uhnw women, top 1% by IQ women all of which would be the most likely…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 04:16 AM
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It’s a bit more nuanced than that. I pay 50k a year in taxes to benefit society. If I didn’t think that my efforts would have a significant positive impact on my ability to raise successful children in the future, there’s no way I would have worked as hard as I have. I could be fulfilled living on an income 75% less. You multiply this effect across many men over many generations and yes you could say ‘give me a reasonable chance towards sex/family or I won’t put in beyond the minimum effort nece…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 04:11 AM
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Why would they step up when a man doesn’t have a realistic path towards a wife and/or children? I imagine they’ll just give up holding it up. And I haven’t seen any evidence to suggest that women will uphold a society or run/create a new effective paradigm so…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 04:04 AM
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Ok sounds good, now do you think men will play nicely when they don’t have sexual success? What do you do when the vast majority of men give up on society? Do you have a plan to deal with the ramifications of that? The data, anecdotal and statistical, shows a decline in sexual success of men and in increase in the rate of that decline, so we’ll reach that point quicker than people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 02:10 AM
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Yes, IQ does predict a huge amount of the variance, followed by, to a much lesser extent, trait conscientiousness. In fact I don’t know of any of my classmates from middle/high school California, in the high IQ class who make less than the median household income in the USA in our late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 08:21 AM
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It’s pretty strange that this is your take. I’d argue that money is at the lowest importance it’s ever been. There’s vast amounts of research that shows an extremely high correlation between IQ and lifetime earnings. I mean, shoot, the reason I’m probably here is due to the huge sexual selection pressure for intelligence during the industrial revolution. You could have way more kids when you are smart enough and successful enough to provide for them. If you throw away the provisioning aspect, ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 05:58 AM
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These values are based on relative economic mobility not absolute economic mobility. The comment you replied to mentioned 200k a year which isn’t even a 1% income in the USA. In low tax states like Washington that works out to 145k a year post tax. Where in the heck in Europe do you stand even a slim chance of making 145k a year post tax? excluding being an entrepreneur, which is tougher in the EU.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/21 04:52 AM
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Oh I wholeheartedly understand. I think we tend to forget how much the difference is depending on where in the world you are. In some ways what you’re saying feels like ‘80s USA to me. Like I can’t Illustrate how little monetary success matters here on the west coast of the USA. I’m somewhere around an 85-90th percentile man, but no amount of money/succcess will bump me to 95th percentile. In fact, I think this is why my uncles second wife was from South America.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 08:45 AM
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In the USA people are still wealthier, with higher income than in the past. We can debate all day about the distribution of productivity gains relative to worker’s real wages…. But in no study, do workers actually make less than they did then in absolute terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 08:33 AM
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I mean I was basically describing the life my mom and her siblings lived in the 60s / 70s. Grandpa was an engineer at the today equivalent of google. Of the children there are 2 engineers, 1 doctor, 2 nurses, 1 stay at home mom (left teaching due to a handicapped child). Like I understand that people want to do what’s best for their child, but so much of it is just waste. I went to a public college, just like both of my parents and work a FAANG job. The truth of the matter is that people used to…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 08:25 AM
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What are you talking about? There are plenty of men where that’s what they want. Sure there aren’t many of those men in Manhattan, but there are plenty of guys who have a simple life that they are perfectly content with across the USA. They spend Sunday’s watching sports, Saturdays are for their hobby,say fishing, Saturday night is a potluck dinner with friends etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:55 AM
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Most men can’t afford it at modern women’s expected standard of living. If they were ok with 1 family car, 1 meal out a year, no out of state vacations, a small house etc like in the 50s there are plenty of places in the middle of the country where an average man can.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:00 AM
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Women’s disdain for short men is far higher than men’s dislike of tall women. I’m 5’11 and ‘maybe’ have a .5/10 preference for shorter women. That said, it tends to be the taller women who put up harder boundaries. I tend to approach taller women less because I just go off of a multiplication of odds vs attraction. Women 5’9+ tend to give me more shit than other women, when I honestly don’t care. So I approach them less since it’s more hassle, and when I do I make sure to pick them up [carry the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:47 AM
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Because it doesn’t matter. Every study shows that on average past about 80k, maybe double that in the most expensive places, money doesn’t bring more happiness. You combine that with the opportunity cost of making such money and it’s often a net negative. Sure you can buy some status, but the sheer amount of money you have to spend to get any benefit and without looking like a tool, just isn’t worth it this day and age unless you’re ~30 million net worth or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 06:41 PM
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Intense staring only works when you are already very attractive and can read the subtext well. It’s not a move for normal men. You just don’t have the social skills to make it build attraction. Now onto how to approach. If it’s on public transit you need to keep it very indirect. You don’t want to go to direct. Something like, I love your headphones are those the new Sony …. Then if you have a good banter you can say to her ‘Hey I really enjoyed chatting with you, we should connect, do you have …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 07:51 AM
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I’m a pretty successful man in most areas. Have a pretty high n count, gym maxxed body, top tier job etc. I’ve gotten more compliments from gay men in my life than straight women. Just imagine what normal guys go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 07:16 AM
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Nah, this is a mistake. Relationships and serial monogamy are perfectly fine in high school. In fact I’d encourage them. Spend a bunch of time with women to familiarize yourself with them, learn how to make genuine connections, learn how to have good sex where you are comfortable/ screw up and simp and see how detrimental it is etc etc. When you head off to college or on your own, that’s when you focus on spinning plates/playing the field/ hooking up with chicks etc. The older you get the more t…
/r/seduction22/07/21 09:36 AM
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Both of those guys are on hella steroids. Jason Statham on the other hand is a more realistic top natty physique, and serves as a better example.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 10:43 PM
1

Read So Good they can’t ignore you. You need to create your own meaning in your work. Here’s a synopsis.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 04:16 AM
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I’m kind of hamstering it right now. The real answer is just experience. It’s like if you’ve seen the situation enough times or messed up enough times you can read the subtext. Reading is good for knowing the why or pointing you in a direction. I also just did list of stupid stuff to learn what really causes what. Like pulling girls without ever asking their name or flipping off a chick to see if I could then approach apologize and real it back in. I’d also say that the more situations you are i…
/r/askTRP08/06/21 06:46 AM
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I think the key to dropping frame, is to only do it on purpose when it’s necessary or useful. Frame is really just my interpretation of the world is right, and I’m going to follow that interpretation regardless of what is going on around me. Never acquiescing doesn’t build comfort. I’m sure kevin federline one was still something like 95-99% attractive frame 1-5% frame dropped comfort. TRP guys want to never drop frame like Clint Eastwood when they would be better off occasionally dropping it in…
/r/askTRP08/06/21 05:31 AM
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I’ll also add that there is a bit of tailoring this to your audience. Attractive women need more attraction and less comfort, less attractive women need more comfort and less attraction. Where the women falls in that scale is relative to how attractive she perceives you. You can and sometimes should drop frame to build comfort. Let me give an example, I make a lot of money. Sometimes women, even good looking women, will feel incompatible/inferior when they learn my title. They think, like why is…
/r/askTRP08/06/21 04:23 AM
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Don’t say I guess. It lowers the effect, and drops frame. Remember you are a high value man, everything is a compliment. If she criticizes you for being a player for example you just say “ I can’t help it that girls like me”. If she criticizes your outfit just say “Yeah, sometimes I just like to make picking up women more of a challenge.” This is what hvm do naturally.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 03:52 AM
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Thank you. Then steer the conversation to something completely irrelevant. Then build comfort.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 03:41 AM
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Point out how their setup is incorrect and then ask them to fix it. If they don’t fix it and continue to ask you remind them of the changes you recommended. If they still persist say you aren’t comfortable with bandages that increase technical debt. If they still persist call a meeting where you go over your recommendations and explain why you think they are necessary, then assign them action items after the meeting. Don’t do work for them if they aren’t willing to meet you at least halfway.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 03:34 AM
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Hey come inside real quick I have to check X or come inside real quick I forgot about Y. You Really don’t need a reason. Just come up with some low investment excuse and she’ll come along.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 08:24 AM
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Back hair is with man groomer pro backshaver. All other body hair is with philips norelco body groom. For shaving your face, use a double edge safety razor like a merkur with, once you have experience, feather blades. Safety razor will exfoliate your skin and help with acne. Shave down until you learn your hair grain patterns. Finally use a multi blade razor to finalize your junk after the body groom if you feel like it. Oh and don’t use crap shaving foam. Use either synthetic or a badger brush…
/r/askTRP07/06/21 07:31 AM
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She wanted you to qualify her. You could have just said ‘I don’t hate you, I think you’re really cute. Come here.’ Then you grab her face and make out with her. She wasn’t asking you a real question. Now how aloof is too aloof? When you miss opportunities because of your aloofness. When you miss party invites or connections with people. And yes, the more attractive you are the more aloof you can afford to be.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 07:23 AM
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Yes, but I wouldn’t purposefully seek it out. I’ve lived many years in San Diego, which is one of the toughest dating markets for men. It’s much easier to standout in Seattle or to pull in NYC after competing in SD. Austin was also much easier. But, I don’t think that learning in a hyperbaric chamber if you will is worth it. Life is short and I would rather maximize returns than learn in the toughest markets.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 07:15 AM
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Sounds like you need to watch some Jack Denmo on YouTube. Trudeau isn’t stopping them.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 12:49 AM
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It seems like YOU ditched your social circle. Hit them up and say how it’s been forever and it’s awesome getting to hang out again. Don’t say it in a jealous fashion, more like you were off at sea for a year and glad to be back in town.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 12:47 AM
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She is below the average women her age in SoCal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 04:32 AM
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“I apologize for upsetting you. I’m a bit of a jokester and I say what I want when I want. Let me make it up to you. Let’s go out and do ....”. You might question why not use a more alpha DGAF attitude, it is because any women that is this sensitive and a pushover is most likely very young. She isn’t looking for you to be more attractive, your verbal punches are slapping too hard, she is looking for comfort at this point.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 09:25 AM
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Write down your goals in a planner. Schedule things out. Make sure you have attainable goals. I hit the gym 3-4 times depending on the year. But if I blow off the gym early in the week then I force myself to hit the gym to complete it by Sunday. Over time you should always be adding new goals at an appropriate rate for yourself, accepting more responsibility, to where you eventually are more worried about having enough time rather than wasting time. If you’ve taken on an appropriate amount of re…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 09:14 AM
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Get bigger. Get better. Get more social currency. Be more fun more exciting. They are giving you shit because you are lower down on the social dominance hierarchy and giving you shit solidifies that. Figure out what ways will work for you to rise in the popularity/dominance hierarchy. Let’s say you’re short and un-athletic. Ok so be the social connector who meets /introduces various groups and throw the best parties and be a cool dude. Let’s say your a tall athletic socially awkward dude, when t…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 09:08 AM
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Reframe the situation. Make sure to provide positive support for her pegging infatuation by recommending you have a threesome with some chick who’d be into it. She may bring it up again, but just sound like a broken record and show full support for having a threesome. Either she’ll stop asking or you just act slightly more annoyed and say “well hun let’s go find our third. I’m down to help you out. Tonight let’s go find a chick”. You keep this pattern up and eventually things will work favorably…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 08:59 AM
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Chat up some girls and just say you’re looking for friends. Don’t escalate on them. Use them for social proof and approach other women when they’re with you. Once they’ve seen other women interested in you AND you don’t hit on them, they’ll be more than happy to join your social circle or welcome you into theirs.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 08:52 AM
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Why not have them meet you at your place and then carpool to the beach? It gives you talking time, you get to take the lead behind the wheel, she’s less worried since she can text her friends your address for safety, etc. Plus it makes it quite simple to suggest she’s comes in for a minute after you get back, and then progress from there. If you really want to up your game, ‘Forget’ something inside when she first gets there and bring her inside briefly so she has familiarity with your place. Sh…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 08:46 AM
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Gym time is meditation time. Honestly, this is the best time to reflect on your goals, your trajectory, where you’re going right and where you’re going wrong.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 08:55 AM
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So? It’s not illegal to approach people. Who cares if you get called a creep. If you literally approach saying what I just said that isn’t creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 06:16 AM
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The issue isn’t that you still can’t , it’s just that it won’t happen organically. And if you’re the type who didn’t put in the effort when it is more organic you most likely won’t after that time. I mean you could at any time find some location whether a bar or a library or the street and walk up to some low attraction women and say hi I thought you looked cute. Now If you did that many times , you’re bound to have one of the girls be willing even if it takes many beta bucks dates to happen. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 05:02 AM
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It’s a case of runaway sexual selection. If a women doesn’t jump on the height train her kids will face a huge genetic disadvantage. Why height? Well first off other traits are less valuable than in the past. Like intelligence to make more money is worth less today than in the 1880s. Tall men have an advantage in dominance assuming there are enough calories going around to where they don’t end up a beanpole compared to shorter men. As such, the the human species will continue to grow taller, lik…
/r/askTRP11/05/21 02:52 PM
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Nah you want to exaggerate it when you say it. It comes off as I’m a cool enough dude that it doesn’t matter that I don’t have friends, since i can get some albeit not great ones in just a few minutes. Approaching women to have them find you cool dudes oozes, some guy that gets it. What you said works less well, but it’s better if you can’t pull off the self deprecating humor.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 06:25 AM
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Walk up to a group of girls in the bar and say “Hey I don’t have any friends I wanted to meet you guys” then talk about how you just moved and howthe cute girls always know the coolest guys and ask them to introduce you. Since you aren’t trying to hit on these girls they are usually more than willing to help.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 06:11 AM
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Being a surgeon isn’t BP. Sure BPers tend to do well in medicine due to high agreeableness, but there isn’t anything not RP about being a surgeon. In fact surgeons have one of the highest frequencies of sociopaths of any profession, and one could argue that sociopaths tend to be as naturally close to RP as you can get.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 06:03 AM
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Women don’t misunderstand what high value means. They just try to reframe / twist the meaning of it to help their imperative. That same imperative is why there is always some word that’s bad that we aren’t supposed to use anymore, even if it was invented by the same people in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:50 PM
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You’re confusing different groups of women. Some women, particularly undesireable/socially awkward women are advocating for the above. There are plenty of normal women who aren’t advocating for the above, but do wish they were getting asked out like in the 50’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 05:18 PM
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It largely works. You do need outer game though too. Essentially the red pill gives someone good insight into the internal game and outlook that they need to be successful. It is a bit lacking about the specifics of outer game you need to be successful, but that’s because it came out of the seduction/pua community which overfocussed on those aspects. In my own experience I didn’t really read the red pill until the pandemic, but it’s largely matches my experience in the world. I first read the ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 01:37 AM
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Yes, to your first question. The second is a bit harder to answer since success in the dating market is based on a few variables and most people don’t succceed in all of them due to revision to the mean. Like there aren’t many 6’4 good facial symmetry guys who make 200k + and are yoked with great game. Generally people stop working when they get the results they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:29 PM
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A 6’4 guy will be shown a bit more respect/ dominance / attraction than an average height man who is at their genetic max for lifting. It’s that big of difference. My dad is 6’4 and I’m average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:15 PM
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Join some coed sports leagues. That’s your best bet. Make friends with guys who are at your level; even if they aren’t the right one for you, they may have friends who are. Most of the good successful men I know at your age aren’t really actively looking for women. They are too busy in the gym or grinding leetcode or getting an online masters /mba and they can’t compete with the older men, since spitting good game at that age requires a lot of mental and actual effort as well as time. Most of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:41 AM
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Women are a whopping 3% of alimony payers source
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 04:43 PM
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David d Angelo was the person most known for it. Double your dating was his book. He was around the same time the game was happening. There was a big debate between inner game / outter game a few years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:25 PM
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Save the cash. Financial security is worth more. Girls don't care much about what car you drive. It won't get you laid. Guys care a bit, but it won't make you much cooler. I did the bmw convertible, now I don't have a car by choice.
/r/askTRP08/04/21 05:13 AM
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Good social skills is the ability to lead a conversation,organize a group, bring different groups of people together, integrate into any group, and the ability to make people think highly and favorably of you. In sales it would be, can you make the sale or not. Like I don't understand why I have to explain something so simple to you. And yes I'd say I have pretty good social skills, I've slept with ~40 women in my life, was popular at the top party school in the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 03:37 AM
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I guess if you define 'good social skills' as not having a panic attack when having a conversation with people. But that's a far cry from having actual GOOD social skills. Like if you think if you think that's enough you must live in some rinky dink place. That bare minimum won't fly in SoCal if you are actually going to have a super successful social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 09:29 PM
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Good social skills are much easier to learn if you are good looking. Sure you can brute force it if you are average or below but it's tough. I'm average by looks, genetically speaking, but put more work into learning social skills than getting into FAANG. That said learning social skills is much more rewarding.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:34 AM
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Maybe you live in a small city in the center of the country if that's your experience. I work for a fortune 50 company, make in top 1% for my age (29), went to a top 50 college, lived next to another one of the top state schools in the country for a few years, was in the smart kids class at a super wealthy area high school. I can assure you that there are absolutely tons of women from anyone of those places across 3 states who fit the description I laid out. I mean I can name 10 women offhand wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 05:49 PM
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Should I have worded it as focussed dating / meaningful dating? I mean most of these women do go on some dates, but they go with the flow moreso than putting dedicated effort into finding a life partner. I know plenty of these Women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 08:51 AM
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It's not the career that's the issue. It's putting the career ahead of dating that's the issue. The problem is that many career women put off dating until their 30s and don't get the success they'd hoped for. Since they are a very vocal minority, men often counter their arguments since men like fixing issues, debating, and getting to the root of issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 08:27 AM
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Focus on in person. See the problem is that Gen Z men don't realize that online dating is only one of the methods to meet women. Women are still open to being approached, particularly at parties. Just do what men had been doing for the previous 50 years and approach them in person. Sure it's tough to learn and you get blown out a bunch, and yes looks matter a lot, but you can learn to spit game in person. In fact young Women seem to be even more into being approached in person than older generat…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:19 AM
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Teaching in the US doesn't pay enough, we're all aware of that Teachers in the USA are in the top 10 in terms of pay across all countries. They earn incomes that are in line with the median Household, not individual, income. They are paid enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 05:57 PM
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Because the slur was towards a man or because it was in reference to skin color? Because if it was related to skin color that's doesn't invalidate the implied object of women don't get fired or doxxed or kicked out of school (for attacking men on the basis of being men).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 11:27 PM
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Top 20% can get any woman they want, just on the basis of their looks. No, just no. It's that the top 20% of men have a decent amount of women interested in them and can get casual sex. Most of these men, it isn't solely based on great looks, it's more like top 5% for that. And even that top 5% won't be able to get any woman they want, just lots of very attractive women. The men who can get virtually any woman they want is more like .5% .
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 07:14 PM
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I have to wonder how much that's guys from OLD vs in-person? OLD is for the 5% best looking men and guys who can't approach/succeed person who are basically buying a lottery ticket. The other 15% of guys who do well in person but not comparitively well online just find it to be a waste of time. Like if I can get laid every other weekend when putting in the work / approaching what's the point in online.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 12:41 AM
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Seattle men are substantially below average in terms of things that are attractive to Women. It's filled with betabux and a lacking of extroversion and masculinity. SoCal and Texas have much more competition, it is much much easier to stand out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 11:39 PM
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There's a reason why men respect women's gymnastics unlike most sports. The women are highly competitive, must work extremely hard, and are able to do something most men aren't capable of doing themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 08:20 PM
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Why should men have to change their gender expectations just because women wanted to overturn the societal status quo? It seems that women want men to do more than ever before. And before you suggest that women need to work outside the home, that's really only the case in high cost of living liberal areas. A single earner household can still survive in most of the non-coastal USA just fine if they aren't wasteful. This despite the feminine advocating for increased immigration and taxes to erode …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 06:09 PM
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This is shitty advice if op actually cares about his academic success. You may win the battle but will lose the war in the bigoted school system. The ben shapiro approach, talk in class as you'd like and write the bs narrative in the blue book / exam, could work depending on the school system. Let's be real, no women in a college feminist studies class is going to listen to logic or reason from a similarly aged man. They will only start to listen to reason and rationality when successful, famous…
/r/MensRights11/02/21 11:45 AM
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Men are from Mars Women are from Venus is the original guide to this distinction
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 09:59 AM
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97% of alimony is from men to women source. Should women who were doing more of the 'unpaid labor' be forced to continue doing that after a marriage? Should the divorced wife have to come over and clean her exes house?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 01:43 AM
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Nurses in the USA make the second most of any country on the planet source and Teachers in the USA make in the top 10 source. When people complain about these profession's pay they are doing nothing more than narcissistic virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 01:36 AM
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Fat still increases strength overall. As in, two guys with the same muscle but one is low bodyfat and the other with higher bodyfat, the higher bodyfat one is stronger and will usually still win in a fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 01:23 AM
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they can choose not to feel any. This is generally related to testosterone levels and/or dominant personality traits. Some men find it very easy and others not so much, although all probably find it much easier than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 10:45 PM
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Ehh this might explain most men's behavior, but its not really the case in the top 20%. We have plenty of female friends that we aren't repulsed by but aren't interested in. They are useful for setting us up with their friends, pre-selection, getting a female perspective, shopping, getting into a party etc... We just look at them similar to how most women look at their male friends since we aren't thirsty most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 07:44 AM
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Right?? I'm sure that every 13 yr old boy naturally realizes that their mother would give them incorrect, destructive, advice. Advice that wouldn't have worked on themselves. It's just so obvious!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 03:41 AM
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Men won't tell you the truth if it gets in the way of their imperative. Of course I don't slut shame women who I want to get one night stands with, it would be counterproductive. I also won't discount promiscuous women, if women in my social circle would find out I suggested something of the sort. But if you don't think that I would prefer a women with a lower N count for anything serious, I don't know what to tell you. Guy's will talk about this around the boys, but its social suicide to say th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 12:27 AM
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Yes and no. The answer is that men often sleep with women for validation from other men, but sometimes we just need to get laid from a pure physical need/desire. This is why my/our standards will often drop a bit if we're in a foreign country where no-one will find out and need to get some.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/21 08:05 PM
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They don't care. Game / social skills / looks matter stupidly more. I've done the whole sports car convertible and make 200k a year in software. It does not matter when it comes to attracting women. I often don't tell girls about my job because it often hurts more than it helps, it makes things weird and you less relatable.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 03:48 PM
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A small portion of the field will get to that type of comp at top companies. 200k is one promotion at a facebook/google/apple etc. Check out levels.fyi
/r/askTRP11/01/21 09:40 AM
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Men who listen to Society (Men + Women) generally end up unsuccessful. Women who listen to Society (Men + Women) generally end up successful. Women who listen only to Women, generally end up unsuccessful. Men who listen to only Men, generally end up successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 08:41 AM
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Is it Society or other Women who tell them this? I always here women talk about how they were told to do XYZ by society, but when you break it down they are almost always listing what other women told them not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 12:54 AM
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I mean, I know a fair number of guys who said that sort of stuff in high school in the 00s. That said hookup culture / social media wasn't quite as pervasive then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 04:47 AM
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They are all still fairly relevant as long as they're callibrated. It also matters where you are in social value; if you're high up they'll just call you an asshole move on. You only get truly called out if you mess up terribly and drop frame. In fact some of these things work better since more and more guys are worried about being called compared to the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 04:44 AM
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It's just easier to learn game if you are a Chad. Your rejections aren't as harsh, you get access to more events, there are some genes that probably come with that help... etc, etc. But being tall and good looking doesn't guarantee good success, it just points you that way and encourages the easiest path to success.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/20 10:27 AM
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You can tell... Not perfectly, but you can. For reference, I'm at roughly ~40 partners. I was speaking with a longtime female friend the other day who has only been with 2 men in the past 6 years. I would have pegged her at ~30 partners in college due to her behavior, description of events, willingness for intimacy etc... Naturally, she only really opened up to a guy like me, since she knows I'm quite promiscuous. She's had 50 partners. Now I don't really look down on that, because who am I to j…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 10:03 AM
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That's because historically USA men have been rewarded better for focusing on the Provider and Security traits, e.g. being stronger / tougher / and richer. In Europe there is more of social safety net, capped salaries comparatively due to higher taxes, less violent crime / less perceived safety threat, and so there is more incentive to focus on style/looks historically. I'll also mention that looks plays a more important role when you see people more often in the generally more urban European ci…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 02:49 AM
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Sounds like y'all need to read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus . Men often feel responsible for fixing something, rather than just empathizing, and end up withdrawing into their cave to recharge and engage again later. Its something for both partners to work on communicating with the opposite sex.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 02:28 AM
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Guys don't care for a hookup, but they absolutely do care for who they settle down with. In general, guys with high N counts care less about it, but would still be bothered if she had a higher count than us. It is hardwired into men to care about how promiscuous a woman is even some of us can desensitize ourselves to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 10:56 PM
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Some good books on the subject: Models or Superior Man or Way of Men or Open Her or Nice Guy or Double Your Dating. The long story short is that Women want a Strong man, both mentally and physically, to lead them and to escalate the interaction with them. After enough time / experience you can start to learn the mating dance that leads to successful relations with Women. If you want a stupidly over-complicated breakdown, which often hinders people because it is too over-complicated / unnatural, …
/r/seduction25/12/19 07:44 AM
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Approaching is like working out. If you do it a lot it is just part of your routine, if not it is a momentous undertaking. There is a flip slide to this though, that if you stop approaching your anxiety will build back up over time.
/r/seduction06/09/19 01:22 AM
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I think the main thing for people who aren't too familiar with kissing is to not be too aggressive. Sometimes it works to your advantage to me more aggressive, like when its a girl you met on the dance floor who is traveling and is just looking for a quick fling, but you almost never mess it up by going slow. When you watch a teenage romcom, with a mainly target female audience, the kiss is always sweet and slow. It lets the girl anticipate and lust for more. As a guy your natural inclination is…
/r/seduction03/09/19 02:08 AM
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Yes you can. It is harder, but the most successful guy I know is 5'6 . I hung out with him most weekends for a summer when we were in college, and I counted 12 girls he slept with that summer. He is very self-assured, comfortable with himself, and he didn't try to out alpha other guys since it wasn't a game he could win. I think what also helped him a bunch, was that he would always bring the girls he met to hang out with other people / kickbacks we went to. Social proof > height.
/r/seduction14/04/19 02:37 AM
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They are just feeling your vibe, and you're probably an attractive guy but not sexual and flirty enough to trigger the 'I want to hook up with this guy' feelings. Try being more flirty and less serious. You need to have a fun playful vibe. More teasing and push pull. Try to make conversations more sexual. Most importantly make sure you are touching the girls you want to hook up. Anything you can do to touch the girl you're interested in will help you in hooking up. I'd reckon that most girls I'v…
/r/seduction05/07/18 03:05 AM
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The easiest way is building up the physical touch. Just going in for a kiss can be a pretty big jump. It certainly works sometimes, but its much easier to escalate up to it. If you have already touched her arm a bunch, grabbed her hand leading her through a crowd, given her a hug, touched her hair, touched her thigh for half a second, had your arm around her shoulder, it is much easier to kiss her. Look up the kino escalation ladder. I would start off your next date with a big hug, followed by m…
/r/seduction05/07/18 02:57 AM
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The first step would be to get a good social life with easier going people and constantly build up. Have people over at your house at least once week. Become the person who people will say 'Oh I am just going over to francoIsLit's place for pregame. I usually hangout out there most weekends'. Then when you meet new people, you can invite them to come to your kickbacks and build up a social circle that way. How to meet these new people? Join meetups. Be friends with everyone. Get people's phone n…
/r/seduction10/01/18 05:25 AM
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Everyone is giving good advice about how to handle the situation. I would also mention that a big helper is spending time around very attractive girls to help acclimatize yourself to their presence. I would highly recommend trying to friend zone some attractive girls that you don't try to go for for a couple of reasons: for the social proof, for good advice, and to be able to see their perspective on things.
/r/seduction10/01/18 04:16 AM
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I would move to NYC. It's got some of the best ratios and educated women in the country. Raleigh-Durham would probably come in a close second for me. I would advise you against west coast cities of which almost all are heavily male dominated. I grew up in San Diego, known as man diego, and can assure you that it is a tough place to game. Austin, where I currently live, is much better than San Diego but a far cry from what I've experienced when visiting NYC.
/r/seduction26/12/15 10:49 PM
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Ask yourself why you like this girl. If she is showing interest to both of you, she probably doesn't have serious feelings for either one of you. Now she might just looking for attention or she might be looking for something more serious, which she feels either one of you might be suitable for. Ask yourself if that really is the girl that you want to be the object of your affection. I'd still take a chance because you miss all the shots you don't take, but I'd be wary.
/r/seduction24/04/15 04:17 AM
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I recently graduated from a top party school and was pretty successful. Here are my recommendations: Check out the videos from the 21 convention by Francis Adams. Nick Sparks, Hshudo, and Dream also have some good college specific advice from the same source. Pick up a copy of Conquer Your Campus by Mark Redman. It has really good college advice. When you first get to college you will have a couple of weeks where it is insanely easy to talk to anyone. Use this to your advantage. You can open wit…
/r/seduction14/08/13 03:08 AM
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I think that both ways work, its just an issue of semantics. Since she was being more receptive I think your way might work a little bit better in this case. For the girls who are little bit more full of themselves, I think the idea I outlined works a little bit better.
/r/seduction13/08/13 09:45 PM
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Don't say anything until Wednesday. Shoot back with "You totally missed out, ___ was so much fun" . She'll kind of have a what the hell attitude and be slightly upset. It also shows non-neediness and that you are doing fun things. Then it should be easier to ask her to go do something else.
/r/seduction13/08/13 08:02 AM
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