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REMINDER 👑seadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:21 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:54 PM
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DISCUSSIONseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:12 PM
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RANTseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 09:20 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:29 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:54 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:27 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:03 PM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:53 PM
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 REDDIT HATES WOMENseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:52 PM
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#JustLVMThingsseadragon6/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:22 PM
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God, that's so disturbing about them preying on your being a widow. I find this to be so consistent with how men capitalize on our suffering to be the knight in shining armor. When I was more open about my trauma, men FLOCKED to me. It's easy being a "HVM" to a broken person, but not so when you make them do more than the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:00 PM
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I have sparsely dated for the past year and a half, with my standards being so high because of FDS. I've also built myself up after recovering from a messy breakup with a LONG shadow period. When I see friends, they tell me I'm glowing inside and out with balance and self love. Ironically, though, the result has been not-so-good for the male gaze. Years ago, when I was really nervous and weak, I got approached very often by scrotes. It's funny how sociopaths can easily identify nervous body lang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:28 PM
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Totally agree. I find myself being so hard on my mother, but oftentimes the mother is a victim of systemic misogyny as well as abuse within the individual relationship with a man. It's so ingrained in us to judge mothers because they should respond to "instinct" and "bonds" when fathers claim that doesn't exist for them. They love using pseudoscience to shirk responsibility and throw it all on mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 06:20 PM
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I can't upvote this enough. I'm really tired of hearing this narrative from "reformed" criminals and murderers who go on to become "motivational" speakers and memoirists after murdering and hurting others. They're profiting from a misogynistic idea that all of their problems stem from their mothers rather than their abusive or absentee fathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:23 PM
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THIS! I had one boyfriend who would get SO angry when a car got close to his when turning (not close enough to hit his car, but I guess he had an issue with this regardless). He would honk at them and yell. A few months after I noticed this, he started punching walls when he was angry. Every argument ended with my apologizing and comforting him after he had a freakout or accused me of things I didn't do. One time, he gave himself a black eye in front of me, and that's when my therapist got real …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:22 PM
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Ah, yes, the cold weather cousin of the hallowed "field date"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:27 PM
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The only pic I'd send is all of his shit on the front lawn waiting for pickup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:43 PM
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I'm not that talkative and can be very private about my inner thoughts. I always felt my partners trying to conquer me or "know me fully," so I would fill silences. When I was younger, I thought it would be lonely to have private thoughts and feelings you don't tell anyone about, but now these parts of myself are my greatest treasure. No more codependency, no more empty words. Just happy silences filled with gratitude for my solitary life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:40 PM
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Love this! Good for you. Building a foundation that’s more than a physical bond is rare these days. No wonder so many couples end up hating one another, even if they stay together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:01 PM
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I recommend reading FDS-recommended dating books. Over and over, if need be, until you feel more confident and embody what they preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:26 PM
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Yeah, this gives me a bad feeling too. The more he tells himself it’s heroic, the more he can justify risky investments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 02:23 PM
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This post is so good. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 12:26 AM
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A new caveman fossil has been discovered, and it is this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:03 PM
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Love his surprised icon. That’s his face every time a woman says “F*** you” to his stupid suggestions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:33 PM
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They relate more to ducks in oil spills then human females (“Soap is feminine”)? I’ll never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 09:35 AM
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Is this real?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 03:50 AM
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The most classic line in the book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:22 AM
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I hate a roommate right out of college who was a very sweet, kind white woman. She was telling me once about her husband, who was in the military (red flag). She was like, "It's so funny, he told me that he had a major thing for Asian women when he was in high school." I'm Asian. It's really awkward—and I hope by now they're divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:32 PM
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Agreed. Real sex requires desire, whereas porn sex is based on hatred and degradation. It's funny how that makes us "prudes"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 04:07 PM
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How are these the same? I can't wrap my mind around it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:54 AM
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"My parents got a divorce when I was seven, and my dad was angry a lot." To this day, their lack of resilience and self-awareness shocks me. I wish we would stop excusing people's bad behavior with "You don't know what he's been through." The only thing that matters is how you treat people today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:56 AM
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Someone in this sub once mentioned touch starvation and said she would schedule days where she and her mom could hug. For me, I make sure to hug friends (I have a Covid circle of less than five, all of whom are very careful) and cherish those conversational touches (touching someone's arm when you laugh at a joke, grabbing a hand when it's emotional). It's not going to replace the companionship of a romantic partner, but I find it gets me 90% of the way there, because I value my chosen family ov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:49 AM
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WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 05:47 PM
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I’m really proud of you. I had to recover, and it took years. You will get there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:27 PM
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Shani Silver is one of the most FDS-minded writers out there right now, and I love her. Treat yourselves, ladies! I LOVE spending the holidays to heal and enjoy time by myself, without any man or nosy relative ruining it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:24 PM
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Amen to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 11:18 PM
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PREACH!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:51 PM
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My mind goes first to the most mature approach to personal victimhood. We talk in this sub about how you can’t tell a misogynist/narcissist how they hurt you. The best route is to detach, break all ties, and heal with people and in places where you are safe. Privately and without posturing to get the attention of the abuser. So on a collective scale, I wish we could find spaces where women could heal without feeling the need to broadcast their pain for men. I understand the desire to do it becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:44 AM
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I understand exactly what you mean. But I think there is a difference between us sharing and collectively healing, versus normalizing, if that makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:22 AM
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Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders! I hope all goes well and you can maintain that well-deserved and hard-earned HV composure 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:04 AM
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Being HV is within you. I know it can be hard to practice, but you shouldn't be too shaken if you've done the work to become a HVW. If you still need to work on it, that's fine too—but keep in mind that ultimately you will be unfazed by scrotes. When I see an ex-flame, I either look at them like a stranger and keep walking, or, if they approach me, I'm nice and breezy, but end the conversation first and wish them well. If they are someone who victimized you, keep walking and take a deep breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 12:03 AM
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This borders on parody. I wish God gave men more self-awareness because this is embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:09 PM
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Oh my goodness…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:25 PM
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I spat out my tea HAHAHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:30 PM
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A woman who is independent WITHOUT an ending where she has to apologize or repent for being "selfish" so she can be with a mediocre man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:29 PM
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That’s six years of… basically r*pe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 06:17 PM
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Never a “wife” gift such as sheets or towels. I feel like both The Rules and Why Men Love Bitches briefly mention that you want to give something small and thoughtful. But if he appreciates an extravagant gift, he’s not a provider—and we can’t have that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:35 AM
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Communicating opens the door for men to manipulate using their words, rather than their actions. It also promotes codependency as it forces you into the mindset that you owe your partner your pain and personal emotions. You honestly don't. They should be treating you so well that it's a rare occurrence to share with them when you're hurting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:56 PM
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Thanks for sharing! I am SO happy for her—she's very talented! Something that is VERY funny to me is that she didn't make a Virgo pendant. I'm a Virgo, so I was looking, then I remembered... so was John Mulaney. My Queen does NOT f*** around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:40 AM
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Where can I buy her art? She’s one of us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:47 PM
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It’s just like people who hate cats… they tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:58 AM
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We can’t be sure any man is a HVM. And I’m not trying to be disrespectful toward you, but I’m not sure it was the time for you to ask—that isn’t Queen energy. I recommend reading The Rules and Why Men Love Bitches to give clear guidelines on dating and how to stay unfazed during the beginning stages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:40 AM
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Thank you for sharing—we need to stay strong on our anti-BDSM stance. I used to be into it, and thanks to FDS, I’m free! Right before I came to the realization that it’s ALL abuse, I received a message from a LVM I was hooking up with saying he wanted to give me sleeping pills then have sex with me. Even then, I knew it was wrong, so I blocked and deleted. I tried to explain that it made me uncomfortable, but he yelled at me and said I just “love drama.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:31 AM
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OH my. After such a tragedy, my vibrator certainly charges up in a jiffy... unlike a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 10:49 PM
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Of course it’s an age gap relationship 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 01:12 PM
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Get out of there. Doesn’t matter if she’s not a pickme. I’m sorry this is happening to you, but it’s not your responsibility to allow them to treat you this way to show your friend she’s in an emotionally abusive relationship. You are not collateral. You should not be in the line of fire. Be cordial but don’t associate yourselves with them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:10 PM
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That’s a great point. Come to think of it, I wish we didn’t internalize “domestic” in “domestic abuse” as familial or even pastoral. But I think a lot of men do, just as they do with “domestic duties.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 02:55 PM
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This is disgusting. I want to add that Zayn also used the “private matters” phrasing in his response. So many abusers say that abuse should be handled outside of the public eye and behind closed doors. This is how men continue to hurt and treat their wives (and other women related to them) like property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 02:08 PM
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I have to repeat myself about this to my girlfriends, and I’m tired. It’s honestly easy for men to make six figures by thirty—it’s far more common for them to get jobs coming out of college, and many don’t even have student loans. If you slowly climb in your twenties, yes, you’ll probably make six figures rather quickly. I dated a 23-year-old who was making $96k with a bachelor’s. So, when a man who makes this much pays for a $150 dinner, it should be NOTHING to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:32 AM
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Take stock of who surrounds you. When you feel uncomfortable, do you defend YOU or OTHERS? You learn to gaslight yourself from conditioning, NOT instincts (which are build to protect you), so literally write down who's closest to you. Who do you ask for advice? Now you can be more conscious of what they tell you to do when you're uncomfortable or when someone disrespects you. Cut people out who tell you that you're overreacting or use the phrase (my favorite) "one-off" EVERY time you are disresp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 07:45 PM
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I’m so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:12 PM
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When I hear men say (or even THINK) "Women aren't funny," I remember how many times I have cried laughing to y'all's comments. Thank God we have this community!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:57 AM
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If you build a man, he expects you to do the maintenance. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:12 PM
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So how is entertaining dating a “blind” social follower high value/FDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:36 AM
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I can’t think of a female friend with a boyfriend who didn’t help their LVM get jobs. I’m guilty of the same. And then the man complains about how that’s not enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:57 PM
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Holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 06:38 PM
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Love this post. I will say that while I believe it's probably widespread amongst scrote colonies, never have I EVER heard someone utter the words “men age like fine wine." It takes idiocy and being surrounded by completely delusional people to hear that enough and thus internalize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:27 PM
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Oh my God. If only I could sit through an orchestra or play without an old man coughing every minute. And note every woman will be absolutely still and quiet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:23 PM
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This is not FDS material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 12:37 PM
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This is so infuriating, especially because it was MAKEUP. How passive aggressive and horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 10:03 PM
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The Holiday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:25 AM
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I think it must be a redpill tactic, but men who say they “feel used” are deliberately abusing you and turning the narrative around so you feel like the abuser. Get out of there safely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:17 PM
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Wow, gonna go ahead and pile on 5 years of singledom and avoidance of men to my life thanks to this. This is TERRIFYING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:08 PM
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Not shaming you at all! I think it is a brave thing, not to mention helpful to others. Just a reminder to trust yourself always 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:59 AM
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You know the answer if you posted about it sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:33 PM
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Don’t drop charges. This is horrible, and I’m sorry, but keep fighting. Do not bend to his will or back down. My abuser accused me of assault, harassment, and threatening. It’s actually extremely common for abusers to do this. Please get a therapist or mental health professional to help you through the mental aspect, and keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 07:45 PM
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Dead. "I'd rather not waste my food on him in the first place." Yes! I did want to quickly flag that if Tiki is your real name, please remove! I don't want you to get the automatic ban for giving personal info.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 08:14 PM
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I'm with you there. I do think when reading these dating books (as I am reading only the FDS-approved ones), it's important to take the advice about being a self-possessed, confident woman with your own hobbies and values. You should stand up for yourself if a man has the nerve to criticize you. But... why would I want to date a guy like this anyway? One I have to play "dumb fox" with because he's an asshole deep down? I'd love more discussion on this, or for an FDS apprentice/expert to break do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 11:48 AM
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She looks exhausted. And now I am too, having listened to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:36 PM
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Thank you! He ended up reaching out to say we aren't a good fit based on my future plans. I honestly don't mind the rejection as much as ensuring I presented myself in a respectful manner and abided by The Rules/FDS. Maybe now I'm a pickme... but for the handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:27 PM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:28 AM
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I hate to ask for advice as I know many of the responses I'll receive, but I did want input from you Queens! I went on a nice date recently. He asked me out after we matched and talked on Hinge (I'm extremely selective about OLD and leave it running in the background until someone viable comes along). He asked me for my number after he arranged a date with me, which I politely ignored as I didn't want to hand out my number before meeting him in person. As should be expected, he made reservations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:25 PM
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Thank you for posting this. I'm a WOC as well. I will say that the most valuable mindset shift I felt as I was reading the coverage was that we should be angry at men for exalting white women and only caring about them because of white supremacy and ingrained racism. A lot of my anger is no longer directed at the white women who benefit from coverage after being victimized by domestic violence, but at men, and honestly, men of all races think white women are the "best" of us (just take a look at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:53 PM
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This used to exist and was featured in Dirty John, but it was taken off the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:38 PM
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It is genuinely terrifying, and to this day he BRAGS about it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:01 PM
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Men have been using us for free meals since the dawn of time. They were killing animals while we were gathering vegetables and herbs. We made the food delicious and figured out ways to cook it. They are the OG free meal diggers, so the projection stretches back much further than even the industrial age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:59 PM
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One of my exes LOVED gore porn and has been watching it since he was 12. He loved watching videos of people being hit by cars, getting killed, etc. So glad I've found FDS...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:25 AM
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I was told a story once be a HVM boss I very briefly worked for. A colleague he'd had in wilderness leadership had come to him once to BRAG about how before he proposed to his now-wife, he took her to the wilderness for three days (this part was planned), but he didn't tell her he didn't bring a drop of water. He did this to test if she could physically handle not having water. For three days. And she "passed" his test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:19 AM
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I wonder sometimes if most women having sex with men is a trauma response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 02:19 AM
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Thank you for this post—I'm sure it wasn't easy to write, esp as FDS addresses racism in ways that are productive, rather than counteractive. I want to share a story with our community here that has haunted me since it happened. On Christmas Eve last year, I stumbled upon a domestic violence incident in my apartment complex. A woman begged me for help because her boyfriend wouldn't leave her apartment, and of course there was a newborn baby in the next room. She was mixed, he was black. She was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 01:13 AM
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Capitalism continues to prey on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:15 PM
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YES!! I loved it and the roasting of scrotes intertwined!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 01:15 PM
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A man can be surrounded with society’s misogynistic “when’s” but can always find a hypothetical misandristic “if.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:52 AM
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This is the funniest thing I’ve ever seen 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:32 PM
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How is this comment on FDS? I’m a little bit shocked here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:02 AM
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https://people.com/human-interest/wyoming-woman-dies-after-falling-from-mountain-cliff-during-hike-with-husband/?amp=true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:27 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:57 AM
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The physical appearance of the ring alone makes my stomach turn. I can’t even get into how sick it is on an emotional level bc I’m so nauseous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:22 PM
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Just in case he needs to propose 😤🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:03 PM
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After reading this, I’m injured too 🤕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:28 PM
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I wish he’d spelled it “DIVASTATED 💅” but alas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:19 PM
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This is probably an unpopular opinion, but I find it dangerous to vet based purely on the job. LVM are in every field and at every bracket. Men are born with entitlement and are thus bred to be narcissistic… seriously it’s so hard to find a HVM, and even in a room full of CEOs, he would be a needle in a haystack. The big ones to avoid would obviously be cops and, in my opinion, men who do a physical job and mentally think that makes them superior (this is how abusers maintain their dominance, es…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:38 PM
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We really can’t make this shit up ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:05 AM
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What women-led company would hire a man named Chuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:02 PM
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When I was in college, I dated a man who didn't have a lot of money because he was constantly providing for his mom and dad, who were financially irresponsible. He often paid for his younger brothers' expenses as well and worked two jobs to make sure they were provided for because his parents were struggling immigrants and he wanted them to be able to rest on their days off. Even so, he INSISTED on paying for every single thing I ever wanted. Meanwhile there are men out here who won't even bothe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:41 PM
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Please beware. Narcissists are famous for this tactic. Once they lose their (new) narcissistic supply months of years after YOU have left their lives (breakup, move to a different city, etc), they tend to reach back out to you. This is to get validation and feel better, not to rekindle with sincere kindness. Sometimes people apologize and mean it, but in most cases I’ve seen, they just want back in to continue the old behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:07 PM
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I’m living for all of this. Your comment, username, everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:00 PM
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Sis stop 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:38 AM
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This is true, and of course they are simultaneously committing mass shootings and killings. It has always disturbed me to my core that despite the fact that men are responsible for the vast majority of killings in the world, they blame women for the declining population because we won’t birth more victims of their violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:42 PM
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He’s patient and she’s chaotic, but she’s the one who runs the show and he’s the one who’s basically a big annoying baby. Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:01 AM
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So she can get off him… bc he’s a lazy fuck and and makes her ride him, on top of everything else?! Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:08 AM
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This is a metaphor and we all need to unpack this!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:08 PM
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I had a hard time admitting it until my twenties, but when I was a little girl and watched the end scene in Shrek where Fiona becomes an ogre, I cried. I cried because she turned ugly. It's so funny in retrospect that I kept that to myself. Everyone was like, "Girl that's horrible and vain!" Now I know it's not. I didn't want Fiona to dim her light to be with a stinky ogre! Still don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:05 PM
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I just witnessed three men the other day talking like this publicly at an outdoor bar. My girlfriend sitting with me said, “Why does this one guy in that group keep mentioning child support?” They’re starting to talk like this in public, in broad daylight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:17 PM
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I couldn’t even finish reading this. FUCK someone please help this woman. This is abuse and he needs to be put away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:10 PM
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Thank you so much for this! Such a HV post. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:06 PM
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Wow. What really stood out to me is how he’s aware “cOmMuNiCaTe” tends to be terrible advice, but... I bet he’d tell any woman that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:47 PM
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This got me!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:31 AM
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There is absolutely NO such thing as a “last minute date.” That’s not a date, that’s a booty call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:23 AM
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On purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:33 PM
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They already see us as subhuman without porn, so there you go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:18 PM
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Thank you for sharing that—it’s really hard to look back at these stories, and I appreciate you being open about your past. That being said, F U C K that guy and I hope you will never be subjected to the same treatment ever again. Glad we have both found FDS and are on to better days 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:16 AM
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I’m crying tears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:24 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:03 PM
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I’m DEAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:59 PM
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I almost stopped reading at “I want to get some bongos,” but it got so, so much worse than I thought it could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:37 AM
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Wow, someone please remove this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 02:37 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:06 PM
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We need a social media platform created by women who think the way do... but unfortunately the platforms available are to some degree misogynistic because they are built by men to collect and sell people’s data.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:20 AM
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I call it the “Mr. Big Rule.” If he acts like Mr. Big, he’s NOT into you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:29 PM
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Dollface on Hulu!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:57 AM
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Genius
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:49 PM
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This is beautiful and I’m so glad this is part of the feminism discussion. I’ve also been thinking about how many conversations between women revolve in some way around oppression and prejudice against women—like when you see your girlfriends, you spend time discussing what it is to be a woman in the world because a friend has been stalked, hurt by a LVM, treated differently at work, harassed by someone at the store... it sounds like an exaggeration, but how much time are we spending just to cop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:42 PM
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Great father but can’t spell “nonstop.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:07 PM
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I had a similar experience where I was dating a LVM and he kept defending Drake when he was grooming Millie Bobby Brown. He was straight up pornsick, and jury’s still out on whether he’s a pedophile since no women will date him. But it is very telling. A HVM friend of mine and I were chatting the other day, and he was more extreme than I was in cutting contact with anyone who’s demonstrated similar behavior. We had a high school teacher who is now dating a FORMER student but my HVM was nauseous …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:55 PM
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HVM will say, unprovoked, that pedophilia is messed up. For example, a HVM who hears about Woody Allen would say, “God that’s disgusting. What a pedophile” without you having to push him in that direction. Because it’s a human instinct to PROTECT children, and pornsick to want to have sex with children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:44 AM
5

I have so many Gemini friends who are women. But Gemini men hit different!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:00 PM
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I stopped at Gemini...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:54 PM
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I left social media and have one platform (LinkedIn) that I still use. I liberally block anyone I don’t want in my network anymore, including exes AND their friends, if they make me feel negatively in any way. In the past, I wouldn’t have wanted to “burn bridges” or “ruin my career.” Life is short. Block and delete them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:03 AM
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Your wording nailed it on the head—I got your drift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:02 AM
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The fact that there are subreddits where men rate our bodies but also our vaginas is proof of this. I have been on the subreddits where women post pictures of their vaginas and men say “This picture doesn’t meet our standards, it has to be shaved and smaller.” I actually want to leave this planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 09:26 PM
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I couldn’t help but notice that he could afford to groom his beard. Beard oil is expensive, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:56 PM
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I'm sorry you went through this, and I want to congratulate you for finding your way out of an unhealthy and toxic relationship! I think FDS is very aware of this, but LVW (and LVW) have a tendency to be addicted to social media/internet consumption in general. The reason why I point this out is because the positive contribution of the internet is that we can learn anything at any time. The negative is that many positive things are ruined by bad people (tale as old as time). We are living in an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:49 PM
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I want to add that holding men accountable is key to carrying out FDS. Women are socialized differently and thus, even as you cut pickme's out, it's important to be compassionate while still maintaining your boundaries. LVM are the true poison in the world, but LVW will carry out their dirty work and we still have to watch out for them. I don't want to sound like I hate women or hold them to a higher standard because I don't. But we have to stay woke about EVERYONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:42 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I'd advise you not to get in touch with her again and disclose to your HVW friend you introduced her to that you feel anxious about the way things have gone. I'm speaking a little bit from pain, but since joining FDS and going through intensive therapy, I've had to cut a lot of women out of my life. I decentered from men, and weirdly, many of my female friendships fell apart as a result. This is why HVW are rare and pickme's or pickme behavior can be so damaging, even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:40 AM
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Also beware of the way "soft bois" will go about this. They will say that your concerns make them feel anxious, inadequate, and small. They will treat you like bringing up normal and healthy issues makes you abusive. If a man makes you feel bad at all for expressing your needs in ANY way, it's a huge red flag and you can end it right there. You can ask any woman here, I'm certain they can mark a time in their toxic relationships when this happened the first time, and they could've ended it there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:23 AM
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I'm crying y'all! Stop!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:56 PM
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Ayoni - Wife You Up! Lyrics: Do you think I was made for your pleasure You want a playground made of skin I guess that you don’t have a mother who you treasure Cus if you do how you have sinned But I am not your property (not your property) A play-thing with no warranty (with no warranty) A pile of skinny bones (skinnybones) Or one good fuck If you think I was made for your pleasure You’re dumb Cus I won’t be yours So don’t be a bother Can be damn sure That there’s impending karma I’m never gonn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:49 PM
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I just deleted all of my apps last night because 10/10 of them asked me on walk dates. I'm done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:53 AM
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I guess I’d agree with that, but why is it women don’t have a ramp up period? We have to do three therapy sessions for them until they listen to us because they’re “nervous”? I stopped going on dates with a guy the other week because he didn’t listen to a word I said. I told him and he said it was because of work, which was blatantly untrue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:14 AM
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I’ve noticed it too. Even the “good” guys are like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:09 PM
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Men have never been lonelier and uglier (no haircuts, grooming) and would rather eat alone in their nasty, uncleaned apartments than pay for a beautiful, intelligent woman’s meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:13 PM
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I think it’s more insidious because it doesn’t bring either party joy for them to think so little of women. I don’t think the men who’ve asked me on walk dates are laughing about it, but rather thinking, “I’m gonna meet her to see if she’s physically my type (rather than FaceTime to vet during a pandemic) but make sure I don’t spend a dime on her until she proves herself to me.” It’s still depraved. But it’s so insidious because they go online and find other men who advise walk and coffee dates …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:56 AM
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This sounds amazing!!!! I dated a software engineer who intentionally took a demotion because he was so combative with his managers. He stayed at the same company but moved jobs laterally twice then asked to be demoted. I stopped seeing him after he told me a story about his “horrible boss,” who asked him to be on time to work. He got a speeding ticket because he’s lazy and doesn’t like to wake up early and had the nerve to come into his boss’s office, throw the ticket down on his desk, and blam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:10 PM
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To support this post, I wanted to share a Brené Brown clip that touches on this same topic. She says how the kindest people are also the most “boundaried.” https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5U3VcgUzqiI Two years into therapy, with strong boundaries that are tested each day, I have learned how to be a kinder and more forgiving person. I may not be sweet anymore, but my loved ones receive more of my attention and presence now that I don’t give it to just anyone out there. The kindest thought I have on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:52 PM
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It’s super common. No joke, in the past two weeks, I have gotten four walk date requests. This is with extreme vetting already on the apps (I am MEGA picky). When I was a pickme, a man asked me on a walk and I agreed to it. 20 minutes before meeting at a big park in town (I chose the meeting location because it’s densely populated and busy all day), he said he had a flat tire. An hour later (sundown), he asked me to come to his apartment complex where there was “a coffee shop and a great view of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:11 PM
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Thank you for bringing this up. I say “I love my parents, but we’re not close.” The most I’ll say about my brother is that we’re estranged, and that’s the MOST I would say months in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:45 PM
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Yes!!! These days I see ugly/short guys with NO bio out here saying they want “something casual.” I don’t know what came first, the audacity or the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:19 PM
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I LOVE the way you worded that. What do we women have to audition for? To lick your balls?? Obviously that’s where this coffee date is going. In my experience, men will ask you to coffee and a date in his part of town so he can coerce you into sex at his place. Mark my words: coffee dates lead NOWHERE good and can actually get a man into the mindset where you need to prove yourself to him. That actually happened to me and I was in a relationship for 5 months with a man who insulted me and made m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:07 PM
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Since I joined FDS, I leave guys who ask me to coffee on read. Men really use the pandemic to justify their laziness. I get asked on walk dates 9 times out of 10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 03:53 PM
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I’m so sorry you went through that! Glad we’re together on FDS. We have to look out for each other... you already know Ronnie in the show was an FDS expert 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 06:51 PM
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I swear he just admitted casually to beastiality too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:14 PM
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This was in Dirty John!! When I was in college, I noticed how often sororities acted as this database (warning freshman girls about predators) whereas fraternities functioned to protect the same predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:07 PM
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YES! I cringe so damn hard at Carrie pursuing Mr. Big. Some of these shows are a perfect pick me guide/FDS what NOT to do. I’d love to meet women from all over the world too! Perspective is everything and we as women all need to share knowledge and insight with one another!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:23 AM
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I got on Bumble BFF and have met some amazing women through that. My old friend group is hard to be around (pickme's or people who aren't trying to level up or even be happy). I keep thinking FDS needs a conference at the end of COVID (although scrotes will ruin it). We need to do a watch party with a chat function... I feel like FDS would roast the shit out of Sex and the City and a lot of romcoms, which would be so funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:55 AM
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Reading this gave me the same feeling I had when I read Attached... or, as I like to call it, ATTACKED!! Who interviewed my ex? 😭 So thankful I found this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 08:29 PM
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Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that! I had a conversation with her and told her that, and she took it really well. I definitely don’t think she’s a narcissist (I used to be a narcissist magnet and am still recovering) or intentionally hurting anyone, but she certainly acts out of insecurity. She’s always been such a thoughtful friend, and I want her to love herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:27 PM
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Hi everyone, newbie here! I made the decision to become a therapist a few months ago and since have been evaluating the "idiot compassion" I used to provide when friends went through things with clearly LVM. Actually recently, a pickme friend told me she blames me for how bad her last relationship was with a LVM, even though I really helped her in the relationship before that as he was a NVM who was leeching off her, not paying rent, and cheating on her. In any case, I am wondering if y'all coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:52 PM
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