| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | I know what I need to do, but have never had healthy examples in my life to show how to do it. Asking queens for advice. | DISCUSSION | seashellseashell52 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 05:19 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 24 | why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouthWhat I don’t understand is WHY. or HOW. Why and how can you be so mean! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:58 PM |
| 5 | Never trust a man who calls himself a feminist.Oh you have no idea. They were sooooo proud about finally being “free from the binds of society.” I was like, is someone gonna tell them or should I? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:37 PM |
| 48 | geee i wonder whyThis is the same logic that tells men women will get a loose vag from sleeping with 30 guys, but not sleeping with 1 guy 30 times. My god I’m so over this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 12:09 AM |
| 10 | Never trust a man who calls himself a feminist.I actually visited a “commune” in Santa Fe years ago and the same rules applied. Women took care of cleaning and children. Men “tended the garden.” But most of the women worked in the garden too so. Dunno where the logic comes from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 12:06 AM |
| 12 | Thank you to the queen who called me out on another sub! You’ve helped change my life.Omg are you me?! This is eerily similar to what happened to me and how I found this place! Same kind of situation that ALSO happened around my birthday. I swear finding this sub has been the most life affirming thing that has ever happened to me. I love this sub and the support we give and get from it. LOVE ALL YOU QUEENS! 🖤🍒👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 01:00 PM |
| 4 | It's as simple as thatOmgsh thank you I appreciate this so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 12:36 AM |
| 26 | It's as simple as thatWow thanks so much for sharing this research. Definitely puts things into perspective. Do you have a source by chance? I need to put this in my knowledge bank. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 10:02 PM |
| 91 | We create life and they mock us for the marks resulting from itI hate your comment, but only bc of its accuracy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 03:26 PM |
| 11 | This is why we say no to coffee dates. Before finding FDS, I agreed to a coffee date. He was supposed to text me a time to meet but never did. The NEXT DAY he asked me why I didn't wake him upI mean clearly he meant “wow” as in “wow I can’t believe how rude I was to clearly not prioritize your time or my time for that matter. You’re absolutely right in calling me out bc no, you’re not my mother, and I know my own mother would be so disappointed to see that I can’t get my shit together. So glad you’re healthy and confident enough to not put up with my bullshit. I wish you the best in life!” Edit: word missed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 10:25 PM |
| 6 | Real HVM shitOh no I know! I’m covered, haha. I’m just saying it exists out there. That’s usually my cue to exit stage left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 05:23 AM |
| 7 | Real HVM shit😭😭😭😭this is all I want! And I don’t even mean just having the money to spend on it. I mean having someone who encourages to be yourself, to learn, to enjoy your hobby without making you feel weird about it. Bc YES I have met guys who literally tease me for reading so much. I’m so confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 03:39 AM |
| 62 | Real HVM shitOmg i must read this! Link? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 03:37 AM |
| 11 | Something doesn’t add upYup. Can confirm. My ex still had underwear he got in high school. When he was a different weight and everything. He was in his 30’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 12:13 PM |
| 12 | Damn. That kind of hurt.Say this to every comedian who talks shit about themselves on stage. It’s just a joke, sheesh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:07 AM |
| 74 | Damn. That kind of hurt.Umm excuse me, how dare you make me laugh over my own faults. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 11:00 PM |
| 20 | When You Try to Help a PickMeI feel like this should be in fortune cookies or something. Excellent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Makes me laugh now 😂Well said. Hear, hear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:48 PM |
| 4 | Makes me laugh now 😂Lmao damnit Jeremy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:27 PM |
| 6 | Makes me laugh now 😂Yeah. Funny how life works out that way. You get treated like shit but are still capable of loving. Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 06:07 PM |
| 12 | Makes me laugh now 😂You guys are making me feel so much better. Was prolly the 2 most difficult years of my life. I’m better now. But there’s still a part of me that wishes him well and hopes he’s getting help he needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 05:57 PM |
| 100 | Makes me laugh now 😂My ex bought rings from Walmart and convinced me we were married spiritually after agreeing “never to fight again.” I was so love addicted that I convinced myself it was “romantic” and “creative.” Trying to laugh now but I’ll admit it’s still kinda hard to know I fell for that. But don’t worry, i didn’t stay long. ETA: last I heard about him was a few years ago when he referred to our relationship as a failed marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:57 PM |
| 26 | The audacity these men have. Haven’t even gone out with him and already pulling the attitude card. Fair to say I will be cancelingExactly. He doesn’t deserve a mature response since clearly he can’t give it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:15 PM |
| 18 | NEVER AGAINOmg I literally came here to say this ^ so sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:15 AM |
| 4 | When men pull up other men for their irresponsibility. Mod message to r/AskMen.MOD’s username checks out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 03:22 PM |
| 6 | Stay wokeWoah. This just blew my mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:57 PM |
| 3 | notice the double standardIkr. Although this guy’s confidence made him an idiot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:40 PM |
| 5 | notice the double standardYeah I feel ya. Also a lot of times it’s not even a guy saying “oh I don’t like stretch marks,” it’s just the fact that some guys point it out and react immaturely to it or worse they start acting like a goddamn scientist. I went out with a guy once (literally just one date), and he went off on how women don’t really have stretch marks unless they’re breast feeding or they’re just plain overweight. Like, bruh wut? But this guy also said it’s more likely for a woman to give a man an STD instead o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:37 PM |
| 3 | notice the double standard¯_(ツ)_/¯ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 03:35 AM |
| 45 | notice the double standardNasty fucks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:38 AM |
| 209 | notice the double standardSo like...not human then, eh? What I love most is when I meet a guy who doesn’t like stretch marks, but then THIS DUDE GOT STRETCH MARKS HIMSELF. Anyone else notice that?! These boys got the tiger stripes as well. TSK TSK Edit: stripes not strips although, potato potato. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:21 AM |
| 45 | “She has to be nice...pretty?...and obedient.” Excuse me?“Pretty but doesn’t know it” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:37 PM |
| 2 | They want women with low self-esteem so they can be manipulated easierOmg the HORROR. literally just admitted he’s a predator, but doesn’t even know it since he used “lowkey.” Also, r/menwritingwomen GROSS. I’m literally disgusted rn. Edit: also THANK YOU for calling him out and LMAO’ing in his ridiculous iMessage’s face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 08:54 PM |
| 5 | Flowers sent to my house even though he was seeing me later that day.I just need them to not die when I need a hug | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:30 AM |
| 53 | Flowers sent to my house even though he was seeing me later that day.I have literally NEVER encountered such HV traits in a man. I’m gonna die alone surrounded by (my own) plants. 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 08:51 PM |
| 31 | Harsh truthThis. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 03:18 PM |
| 51 | When the bar is so low, yet....Yes! Like therapy! Women are willing to explore the depths of mentality while most men consider it a sign of weakness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 05:23 AM |
| 72 | When the bar is so low, yet....There is no bar. The mattress is on the floor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 05:21 AM |
| 89 | If you are a woman, DO NOT join the military! They don’t give a fuck about you, and the men there pray on women and get away with it.First of all, thank you for your service. Second, it’s heartbreaking to hear about this reality from multiple sources. It makes you think, you know what country you’re fighting for....but what country are they fighting for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 03:41 PM |
| 54 | And that’s the tea!More props to you for even dealing with that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 06:04 PM |
| 62 | And that’s the tea!Omg you are so cool! (Not being sarcastic, I actually think this is cool) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 05:54 PM |
| 14 | Princess Diana’s iconic ‘revenge’ dress, worn the night Prince Charles publicly admitted to being unfaithful to her [1994]Very good point. Not to mention, dumping someone is usually waaaaay cheaper than a divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 03:55 PM |
| 20 | “Real men get vasectomies!”Dr Anthony Youn.Listen, I’m all for not harming someone to begin with, but even with all of these monsters out there today, if any of them came forward owning up their mistakes and having experienced genuine change, I’d be in full support. We are not perfect, and we are raised with the errors and shame and pain of past generations. What’s not acknowledged is someone’s bravery in saying “I was wrong.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 10:48 PM |
| 18 | “Real men get vasectomies!”Dr Anthony Youn.Does it not matter that he changed his ways? And openly speaks about this experience, promoting change? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 09:27 PM |
| 19 | “Real men get vasectomies!”Dr Anthony Youn.I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. Hoping he gets some enlightenment ASAP rocky | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 09:22 PM |
| 42 | The males are falling apart because COVID19 is forcing them to actually parent their kids nowThis...sounds eerily accurate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 03:31 PM |
| 12 | Let’s look up to great inspiration!And Betsy devos 🤧😪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 04:22 PM |
| 6 | Louder for the people in the back please!!Oof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 10:22 PM |
| 6 | This is some next level NVM bullshit. Could you imagine thinking your friends are more important than you wife in labour. Chuck him in the bin IMO.But it’s not about taking responsibility. No woman wants to put blame on anyone else, in fact, on the contrary, a lot of these women feel responsible for the men who abuse them and this makes it even harder for them to leave. A lot of women deal with codependency and self esteem issues and have taken such a mental beating from past relationships and family that they don’t even think they’re worth a better relationship. Society certainly hasn’t helped either. Red flags or not, they probably don’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 08:23 PM |
| 26 | This is some next level NVM bullshit. Could you imagine thinking your friends are more important than you wife in labour. Chuck him in the bin IMO.Mental/Emotional abuse is a very, very real thing. Look up Stockholm syndrome too. Edit: to be clear, I’m downvoting this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 03:43 PM |
| 22 | If she cheated on him, I'm sure he'd be just as understanding. I mean, no one's, invincible right? (/s) My patience is thinner than a contact lens right now.Let’s ask his pregnant (at the time) wife if this was a growth opportunity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 01:04 AM |
| 10 | Women who support women and build them up are automatically beautiful to me. Let’s be friends!How about we take make terms like “pretty” and “beautiful” from the damn patriarchy and redefine it by our terms. How about for once WE decide what makes a woman pretty or beautiful instead of letting society poison off a word bc it holds women to completely unfair and unrealistic standards. I tell women they’re pretty all the time. I tell myself I’m pretty all the time. Why? Because I know life is beautiful and we are beautiful resilient creatures that have literally dealt with bullshit since t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 05:50 PM |
| 3 | She's the bestSpoiler Alert Yeah pretty much. Like when she’s experiencing morning sickness and the doc says she ate a plastic wrapper so she must have a stomach of steel. Eh. 3/10 for that line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 08:27 PM |
| 7 | She's the bestYes I agree. That’s probably the only issue I have with the writing. Just bc someone is curvy doesn’t mean they’re constantly eating or can’t keep themselves from digging a donut out of the trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 08:20 PM |
| 5 | She's the bestTotally fine! It’s got it’s picky moments for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 06:58 PM |
| 2 | She's the bestIn the US the show is available on Hulu! Just rewatched it last month actually. ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 05:34 PM |
| 164 | She's the bestAnyone watch the mindy project? Definitely not as comedic as the office, but it’s a super funny rom com show. Cracks me up from time to time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 04:47 PM |
| 18 | **LVM; it’s not even always ‘a taste of their own medicine’ it’s just saying ‘enough is enough’Wow. I had the same experience. My ex was so loving and affectionate I never thought twice about him touching me. Only when I was telling my therapist about it did I realize what it was as soon as it came out of my mouth. One time we went to a bookstore, and it was quiet so we were teasing each other with whispers. Then out of no where he pinches my nose so hard I actually yelped. I kid you not I thought nothing of it as I walked around looking for the book I wanted, absentmindedly rubbing my no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:53 AM |
| 21 | **LVM; it’s not even always ‘a taste of their own medicine’ it’s just saying ‘enough is enough’Allwwwaaayyysss gotta be the one to train them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:46 AM |
| 15 | **LVM; it’s not even always ‘a taste of their own medicine’ it’s just saying ‘enough is enough’gasp the NERVE. No man has any right to give any OUNCE of advice on bc until he’s been on it already. Pfft. It seriously amazes me when guys pull that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:44 AM |
| 10 | The audacity. THE AUDACITY!Girl same. One night stands are so risky. You don’t know if they’ve been tested (don’t know to trust them if they say they are), you don’t know if you’ll get pregnant on accident etc. I hate when guys say it’s easier for women to “date” online. It’s only easy bc guys can literally fuck anything without feeling whereas women don’t give it up as fast. (Rightfully so) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 08:15 PM |
| 5 | The audacity. THE AUDACITY!Hahahahhahahahhahahhahahahahahhahhahahahahahahahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahjajajajajajjajajajjajajajajajjajajajjahahahahahahahhahahahahahhahahahahahhaahhahahahahhahahahjajahahaha. Thanks, I needed a laugh today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 08:11 PM |
| 10 | The audacity. THE AUDACITY!Tell him to go back to his mom’s tit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 07:47 PM |
| 10 | He also told me he cheated on an ex but he was “just being a guy”OOOOOOMMMMGGGGGGGGGG I swear. For one millisecond I would love to know what it’s like to have male privilege. To be able to live without facing the consequences of my decisions. To be able to live fearlessly (mainly bc I’m the one that causes fear in other women). To be able to get away with being heartless and selfish because people will say I’m just being a guy or I’m just dark & mysterious. Actually, I change my mind. I don’t want to be like that that all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 04:10 PM |
| 8 | Don't Forget - It's Okay. You Learned.Thank you for sharing this. Nice to know I’m not alone in feeling that shame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:38 AM |
| 2 | The future contains all possibilities. Never settle for less than what you deserve.I used to love her instagram when I had an account! She’s very, very inspiring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 12:58 AM |
| 20 | And this is how you spot HV relationships: 💚🚦💯Yes, more positive posts please! 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:19 PM |
| 4 | THIS. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.Self love is so, so difficult. I am struggling, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:10 PM |
| 3 | DON'T DATE SIGNIFICANTLY OLDER MEN.Where is this even from? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 10:13 PM |
| 103 | As if being single is a disease 🙄I think what upsets me the most is the fact that she answered when she clearly didn’t want to. Who the hell is this guy that he feels like he has a right to know her personal history? I’m willing to bet she wouldn’t have shared this with him if he didn’t push judgment on her. The biggest load of bull when a guy ends a statement like “well I just was curious...but ok.” Freaking creep. Also, she’s 22. If that’s a serious red flag to this guy that she’s single at such a young age, he’s got way bigg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 01:24 AM |
| 17 | Sorry boys, your PP ain’t that special 💅🏼Omg I was literally thinking about this the other day. I remember being a teen and never even thinking about virginity specifically. Maybe it’s just me but my only concern was getting pregnant, I never actually thought about viRgiNiTy. I almost slept with my first boyfriend without even telling him, that’s how little it mattered to me. I remember he got so offended, like how could I dare let him have this responsibility and not tell him? I could NOT understand what the issue was. Like what, you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 07:07 PM |
| 1 | can’t wait to come forward with all the fucked up sexist shit that’s held me back in my career only to have libfems bash me for it bc I’m hot and refuse to take on any kind of “digestible” victim identity Omgsh YASS QUEEN! I’m a writer and a script I’m working on now addresses these abusive relationships and all the shit women have to go through. Whenever I meet a guy who works in the industry, they tell me how cute I am and “you can do it babe” and I honestly don’t think they take me seriously. I left an abusive relationship a few years ago and moved to LA with literally nothing but a suitcase full of books and shirts (who needs pants?) and I’ve been working on breaking this industry for so long… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 12:54 AM |
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