“Real men get vasectomies!”Dr Anthony Youn.

Fitncurly · 2020-06-27T16:42:56+00:00

💯%. My husband and I have had this talk about whether we’re done or not (we’re pretty sure we are 😆) and what to do and he without hesitation offered to get a vasectomy. He fully understood what this doctor is saying and would never want me to have to go into surgery when he can just do this. If they love you why would they put you at unnecessary risk?

WillingBeing · 2020-06-27T16:54:43+00:00

Vasectomies are increasingly being seen as temporary birth control as well.

Many men can still plan a family post-vasectomy. Pregnancy rates after reversal range from 30-90%. There are doctors who specialize in reversal. Men can also bank their sperm prior to the vasectomy, just in case. They also still produce sperm after a vasectomy, it simply no longer mixes with semen and is reabsorbed by the body. Therefore, sperm can be withdrawn and used to fertilize s partner’s egg by IVF with a decent degree of success.

Also:

Vasectomies are extremely safe. There has never been a death attributed to the procedure. Side effects and complications are rare. Female contraception options have well-known side effects which can be severe, including death. Pregnancy carries its own set of health risks, including death, as well as disproportionate risk to women’s lives, including their social status, relationships, and careers.
Vasectomies are no more invasive than a woman getting an IUD implanted.
Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. If you’ve never read Gabrielle Blair’s viral Twitter post, here’s a link to the unrolled version. It’s a short, searing read.

JustDiscoveredSex · 2020-06-27T15:45:34+00:00

My husband wouldn’t consider it. He also refused to wear condoms pretty much ever. Birth control was always up to me.

So yeah, I agree with the Dr’s assessment.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-06-27T19:13:38+00:00

The same radio host I've mentioned before (hailed as a rp/mgtow figure) knows he doesn't want kids, goes out of his way to make sure he only has sex with women who are using their own birth control and are sure they'll abort if they get pregnant (he says he walks away otherwise) and said repeatedly on his show that he'd "pay the bill" but would want nothing to do with a bastard child of his creation bc "wImMiN tAke Ur mOnEy!!" and so forth but is too chickenshit to get snipped. He's a prime candidate to get a vasectomy but won't. People have asked and he's never addressed it.

manisfestationqueen · 2020-06-27T16:05:14+00:00

So true! I worked at urology and it literally took like 30 minutes to do the procedure. And it can be reversed too. Guys were shocked how quick it was, you can even request anxiety medication, like Xanax before the procedure.

HornetKick · 2020-06-27T18:28:39+00:00

This is why I am no longer intimate with men who refuse to wear a condom, plus men HATE, HATE, HATE paying for child support, but they'd rather just take a gamble on things. Men are idiots.

coolerthanyouravgmom · 2020-06-27T19:00:39+00:00

Yes!! My husband and I decided on him having a vasectomy over me having a tubal very quickly after doing research on both. Even my doctor kept trying to pressure me to go ahead and have a tubal done "while I was already open" for my 4th C-Section. But those side effects seemed like nothing to gamble with vs what he'd have to do/go through. He advocates for it very openly, but it's still amazing the mindset of some men we come across. "They ain't touchin' muh penis" groooooaaan

ichuumizu · 2020-06-27T15:09:57+00:00

Thats exactly why my partner is going to get the snip. Ive thanked him profusely in every way, especially since I have a stupid phobia of needles. We have five kids and I honestly dont care if 10 years from.now our fertility spikes and we get a surprise baby, but if I get pregnant after getting my tubes tied, its life threatening.

giftofnocondemnation · 2020-06-27T19:03:01+00:00

Men don't want to do it because they like the fact they can plant seeds in us to ruin us. Like they really accomplished something by orgasming. Idiots

asiancountrymusicfan · 2020-06-27T17:36:27+00:00

Yeah but… gl finding a guy who’ll condescend to do this… most men will laugh you off, shut you down, or act like you’re trying to emasculate them 😩

SaltyQueefs · 2020-06-27T20:24:13+00:00

My partner has told me today, after we've both been under the impression of having a child together alongside my daughter, that when my implant comes to an end (it's this year) that we will need to have a serious conversation as he is actually thinking about having the snip! Now I'm nearly 30 years old, it was the best thing I've heard, no more hormones being pumped around my body, no my scars on my arm, no more and I think it's just bloody swell af that he's taking that decision 🎉🎉🎉🎉

ms_monquis · 2020-06-27T20:40:20+00:00

Too fucking right.

Before we got married, my ex-husband and I had this conversation — neither of us ever wanted kids. (Imagine, some people DONT EVEN HAVE the conversation! My darlings, “love” doesn’t conquer all when you wind up with kids only one of you wants.)

Comparing the options, it was either major surgery for me or a quick in-office (reversible) procedure for him. There was no discussion about it, we both agreed that him having the procedure was the best option.

Would I have married him if he didn’t get the snip? Maybe. Would I have married him if he refused but insisted I did it? Nope. That kind of disregard for my safety (not to mention that weird fear-worship of their own genitals) would not have flown.

anonymousgirl99 · 2020-06-27T19:32:11+00:00

Another reason to love that man

2020-06-28T01:21:54+00:00

Basically, real men take responsibility.

Ishouldbewriting83 · 2020-06-27T14:59:41+00:00

sigh I'm going to have to say I disagree, and for a few reasons because I have actually been in this situation before. I wanted a tubal ligation. I did not want to have natural children for many reasons, including a health reason that unfortunately not all doctors take as seriously as I do. I had to go to a few doctors before I could find one willing to do it. All the other doctors said basically the same thing, "well, why doesn't he just get a vasectomy, it's easier?" Me, "why are you pushing to conserve my fertility and not his?" Him, "well, if he changes his mind, it's easier to successfully reverse." Me, "well, anyone getting this surgery should expect that it's a permanent procedure with no guarantee of successful reversal, so if that's how urologists are selling this procedure, they should have their licenses taken away." Doctor, "well, it's an easier procedure for him." Me, "I get that, but it's his body. I respect his right to control his own body as much as I want my rights respected."

The last thing I said to the doctor who I finally convinced to do it after basically the same push back I always got, "Here's the deal. As long as abortion is legal, I'm not having a baby. But, if my husband and I get divorced or he dies (which we did get divorced), I'M STILL LEFT FERTILE AND IT WAS FOR NOTHING. I could get raped and get pregnant. I could decide to become a swinger and get pregnant at an orgy. You seeing the pattern here? I'm still the one getting pregnant. I don't want to get pregnant ever, not just by one guy's dick."

Certainly, if a couple are in complete agreement about not having any or anymore kids, and a man is willing to do that for his wife, it is ideal. But, you can't tell someone what to do with their body. Think he's an a-hole and leave him,. totally your choice too. You're still able to get pregnant, and that hasn't changed.

berned-out · 2020-06-27T16:44:28+00:00

Biggest regret of my life is this birth control battle.

queen-wannabe · 2020-06-28T07:50:09+00:00

Reading all these comments about birth control methods got me scared. I don’t think I’m ever having sex, I think I’m gonna stay single for the rest of my life instead 😌🤣

Bovvsette · 2020-06-28T08:15:06+00:00

Exactly. I'm not having sex with a man if he is too chickenshit to get a snip in comparison to side effects and risks that come from any form of woman's birth control.

Allaboutb1 · 2020-07-31T14:40:57+00:00

Yes!!!!!!!

2020-06-27T15:58:13+00:00

Men are weak.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2020-06-28T17:44:04+00:00

After a reallu painful IUD insertion, I told my ex that if I ever have kids, 2 is the maximum. After that, I wasn't going to deal with another 20-30 years of birth control or IUDs. If my partner ever asks me to marry or have kids, the upfront requirement is that he'd get snipped after the second kid. If he didn't agree, it'd be a dealbreaker.

His response made it clear that he didn't see himself married to me in the future, and that he's too squeamish for a vasectomy. I asked him if he didn't think it was unfair, especially because he saw how shit the IUD was for me at the start, and he said yes... but seemed relieved that he wouldn't get married to a woman who'd ask him to get snipped.

We didn't last long after that.

From now on I'm not even going to wait until there are marriage talks, I'm mentioning my view on vasectomies from the start.

travenal · 2020-06-27T17:33:09+00:00

First time ever responding, please be gentle.

Although it is true that vasectomies are safer than tubal ligation, the point someone made about still being fertile is why I personally chose to go through the procedure rather than my husband.

I don't want any more children - ever. I dont care whether my husband does or not, I personally don't ever want to be pregnant again. Whether we stay married, split up, or as the example above stated: if I got raped, I don't ever, ever, ever want to be pregnant, give birth, or have any more children (I have 2 boys, ages 24 and 19, got my tubes tied when the younger one was 3 months old) and it was extremely important to me to do everything in my power to prevent any future pregnancies for myself. I am 40 years old (my husband and I had our oldest at 16) and am STILL of childbearing age for far longer than I am comfortable with. My doctor told me there was a 1 in 1000 chance it could "grow back" and I live in fear of that. My husband says it would be hilarious if we ended up having a baby at this age with grown children... Hilarious? Um, no.

I guess if you have truly found your HVM, and you decide together that a vasectomy is the best choice, you don't need to worry about getting pregnant, but I definitely think the tubal ligation is a better choice for a woman who decides that she herself wants a permanent method of birth control.

Thank you for listening :-)

CorruptSoulGem · 2020-06-27T15:14:06+00:00

There is complications for vasectomies, they’re just less so.

Title	“Real men get vasectomies!”Dr Anthony Youn.
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Date	June 27, 2020 1:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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