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This. It's a dealbreaker for me too. I don't mean being insecure about a few things, it's the "crippling" low self-esteem as you say. Men with really low self-esteem have always treated me worse than those with a normal one, even just as friends or acquaintances. Controlling behavior or constant competitiveness with me were the main things I noticed from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:41 PM
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Right? Like don't do it because it's a mistake and doesn't let you grow, that's the main reason, not because it's just selfish and morally wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:32 PM
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Lol what a minefield. The only minimally decent sounding dude is the one who told him the mature thing to do would have been to suck it up and break up after the weekend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:26 PM
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Tbh this doesn't sound like a man wrote it, it sounds like a woman. I mean, what do they mean by "ample fat"? For most of human history food wasn't produced at the scale it is today, and foods that were high in fat and sugar were scarcer and more expensive. Women - contrary to popular belief - definitely did labor-intensive jobs like working in the fields. The natural state is definitely not model skinny, but it's not being overweight either. I find this idea that women are naturally kind of ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:54 PM
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This is probably it. Either 1) It wasn't actually that amazing for her, 2) He convinced her like you said and maybe she felt societal pressure to not be a prude, or 3) Both. I just can't believe that this would come as such an "out of the blue" surpeise for him if he had really been paying attention to how she felt. The age differencr sounds really iffy to me too. If she was 30 and he was 35 it wouldn't be an issue, but girl has probably not even finished university, probably never earnt a full-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:33 AM
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For real, romance books (especially written by women) are god sent for maintaining higher standards for men. Most media is written by men and the relationships showcased are awful or "I have no idea why she's so in love with this character".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:52 AM
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Upvote if you also thought you were aromantic, asexual or demisexual at some point but you were just turned off by most men's behavior 🙋‍♀️ "I formed a healthy image of a good man with the help of FDS" Oddly enough me too. I had one when I was a kid or an early teenager and I was a lot more confident about them not being that rare, but when I got older and I discovered porn and social media that went downhill. Even with men I interacted in real life, when the topic of relationship or sex came up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:46 AM
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It's only an unpleasant effort if you feel like you have to and not because you want to. I chased men I was interested in and although I was nervous, I was more excited about them saying yes, being able to talk/spend time with them, how everything was coming together for them to start liking me... etc. This is not a good strategy for women as people in FDS know, but the point still stands. That's because I actually liked them, not because I was doing it out of obligation by following social conv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:16 PM
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I made it clear I didn't want to have sex. He obviously would have liked to but didn't push and said he understands I'm not there yet. For me I already start feeling uncomfortable that he would be ready to jump to sex if I said yes. Like is he really that eager to sleep with someone who is still practically a stranger? 5 dates is like what, 2-3h each at most? I see this is a yellow flag. To me this would make me think that he's more interested in sex, even if he wasn't, that's the impression I g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:05 PM
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It's a subtle neg to call someone traditional for that imo. Like if you don't feel ready to fuck someone who is still basically a stranger you're politically conservative and a church-prude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 02:54 PM
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I'm a bit suspicious that the pseudonym for his girlfriend is "Stacey" lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:48 PM
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I used to speak to this guy who I got into debates with and he jumped to conclusions like crazy, always to the one that would mean I was not understanding the argument, that I didn't know what I was talking about or that I was simply dumb. At first I was even a bit intimidated and wondered if I really was wrong or not that smart. Then the fog would disappear and I would be more outraged at how arrogant he was than anything else. Jokes on him because I learned to persist and after not backing dow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 04:51 AM
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I remember watching Buffy as a kid and I thought all the romance was a waste of time and distracting from the real plot. Angel - At first I liked him because be looked like the mysterious, caring-deep-down guy, but my impression of him changed because he was always sulking in the corners and being a "woe is me" character. I didn't get why the scenes between Buffy and him had to be so somber all the time. Spike - For most of the seasons I thought he was a clown who pretended to love her so he cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 03:15 PM
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Women need to laugh at him more. Sounds like it works at making him salty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:40 PM
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I generally agree with this sentiment, but say there is another financial crisis where people start being laid off en masse and there are literally no jobs being offered for months? What if it comes at a point where he's over 55 and companies don't want to hire him anymore because he's too old? Ideally there is enough saved up, but shit happens too. Maybe you need that money for a surgery or basically anything else that is urgent and needs to be done. What I'm trying to say is that no matter how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:34 PM
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This is so sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 10:32 AM
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Just as most people here, I found it because people were saying in the comments what a delusional and nazi-like place this was. I checked the subreddit out expecting it to be like incel or mgtow subreddits. The tone of the subreddit drew me aback at first but a lot of things started to make sense. Especially the "if he wanted to, he would". And if he doesn't, he's not that into you. I had asked relationship advice before on the usual subreddits about a problem that was essentially that, and all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 10:08 AM
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I only read until "I could go on and argue every point" No one cares, sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:31 AM
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Parental alienation is such bullshit in practice. I'm sure it happens how it's supposed to according to the definition, but I've seen it happen more when one parent is abusive. The judges and psychologists are dumb, malicious or just lazy to not recognise when it's justified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:22 AM
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I'm familiar as well with courts and the legal system and it amazes me that judges and psychologists are often fooled by narcissists or abusers putting on a nice act. You'd expect that they would have got used to sniffing them out after watching so much human drama as part of their jobs. My theory is that they see things so much worse that they think it has to look like that for something to count as abusive. Like if the father is not a drug dealer with face tattoos and has multiple witnesses of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:19 AM
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Exactly. What do they think is going to happen? No matter how much you tell them that treating women badly is wrong, the kid will be like "idk what my father is talking about, the porn actresses seem to love it".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:08 AM
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The mental disconnect between thinking that violence and degradation towards women is not okay but allowing your son to watch porn because it's normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:04 AM
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I say "yes, but I don't have the usual opinion on several things".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:06 PM
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Emotions that are too intense, everything feels like the end of the world to him or it will be unless you do something for him so he doesn't get upset. He'll also use it when you say "no" to him. He can't be a bit sad over you not staying over one day because you're busy, no, he'll cry his eyes out or say that you don't love him enough. Someone says something slightly rude? He'll react by "putting them in their place" and/or raising his voice. Think of Karens but male. Something good happens? It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:31 AM
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"What men (in general) want is submissive women" "...to which he replied that I was being selfish in making the discussion about myself!! Rather than caring to explore his feelings" So which one is it then? So men in general (but not him) want submissive women, but then he wants to talk more about it because those are his "feelings"? Sounds like it was his thoughts all along. He also used that type of pseudo-therapist language. Ugh. "After I scolded you the other day you seemed to feel remorse f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 12:12 PM
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This has always been my strategy as well, but instead of thinking that they're already taken, I assume that they're not attracted to me or if they are, not enough for me to notice. After FDS we all know that if his attraction to you is only slightly noticeable, he's not that into you and should still treat him like any other man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:44 AM
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I read something similar the other day. One guy said that he was "afraid" of commitment because he stressed about how long it would be before they found out how bad he really is. I never understood why people seemed afraid of commitment until that moment. Wary? Sure, after all, you have to think commitments through, but afraid? If someone is confident and secure in themselves and they choose to be committed to someone they love and trust, there is no reason to be afraid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:56 AM
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I bet that there are comments saying "better late than never" or "he's made progress, why are you so mean!?" when someone calls him out. Edit: I still don't think he sees women as humans. Notice how being in a relationship with one is the goal. If he really suddenly realized what he said he does, he'd feel like shit for us because he would empathize with all the bullshit women go through or even what he put women through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:56 AM
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When he said she baby trapped him I thought that she took out the sperm from the condom. Now I don't know what to think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:41 AM
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He asked her WHAT? Giving a blowjob while the man is driving is so degrading. Ultimate LVM ego trip. I've always thought that was incredibly arrogant. And he asked her several times to do that?? There's more to unpack obviously but this detail was enough. I would break up if anyone asked me to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:29 AM
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It's not only that. Even if it doesn't get to the point of getting turned on at the idea of raping and beating women explicitly, they start believing that disrespectful hurtful shit is not disrespectful. Had one guy argue with me that being very disrespectful towards the woman (like calling her names, spitting, acting really selfishly towards her) was not a true reflection of the man's respect for women because it's just a kink. This person had drank so much porn kool-aid that he stopped recogni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 10:35 AM
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They'll say that men who were already violent are the ones watching violent pornography... except it's not only them. Go to the frontpage of any porn site and at least one video will be violent towards the woman. At a minimum, it will be a slap, spitting on her, it will be insulting her, it will be spanking her really hard... etc. At worst it will be one of those BDSM videos where you can imagine what goes on there. On any given day you have men on a certain subreddit dedicated to sex advice say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 10:28 AM
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Yeah the "what ifs" are a good test. Asked an ex what he'd do if I got so ill that I became disabled (but still able to communicate) and he said "probably leave you". I was hurt because I would have stayed for him, but after finding FDS I realized that was a sign of his level of love/care for me. If you haven't been going out for them for long, instead of asking it like that, ask him what he'd do if "his future wife" becomes really ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:09 PM
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Agreed. If I was a man I don't care how unlikely it is that her birth control fails, I'd always wear a condom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:04 PM
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This is why I'm on the fence about telling men that I would abort. I do have some qualms about it, I don't think I'd have the heart to abort if I'm in the later stages. I'm completely pro-choice though. But the moment you're like "I would 100% abort", LVMs think they can get away with being irresponsible because she'll shield him from the bad outcomes. Had one guy say "what's so difficult about abortion? In most cases you take a little pill and boom, problem solved". Well how about the excruciat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:01 PM
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Yikes at the advice of dating women 4-6 years younger. For me there is a big difference between someone being 24 and their partner 30 compared to 34 and 40. I'm in my mid-twenties and men above 26 seem too old for me. Not because of their appearance necessarily, but I feel like we're in different stages in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:42 PM
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Would you say that OMGyes was worth it? Asking for a friend and for science of course
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:45 AM
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What the hell! And he was so young. He didn't need therapy, but a rehab center...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:40 AM
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That's so gross. He knew he was a pervert with incest tendencies, that's why he said it first lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:50 PM
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You'd be surprised. Sometimes they think it's a bit bad, but not to the point that it would make them an asshole, or that yes they were an asshole but not that much of an asshole to warrant their girlfriend's reaction, or that it was just a joke... etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 11:10 AM
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Sickening to see how psychos like these behave when they know no one is looking. This is why we should try to lift other women up. The more a man thinks no one would be looking for a woman and investigating, the more likely it is that they'll think she's another sex doll they can abuse like that. They fear other people, not their conscience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:58 AM
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I just realized after reading your comment that most AI's I've heard of that interact with users are "female". Technology reinforcing the view women as "carers" or servants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:54 AM
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This is the classic homoerotic nature of misogyny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 11:47 AM
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I literally did this in my last relationship before FDS. Was going to do something for him, realized that he had never made that kind of effort for me and I stopped myself. That's when I started realizing that something wasn't right. At the time I thought that if I tried steering him in the right direction (you know, communication) that he would slowly start doing those kind of things. Or that if I refrained from doing things that he didn't do for me then it would be a reciprocal relationship. N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:33 AM
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It's indicative but also very misguided imo. In one of the links I provided it said that around 19k women and 12k men are diagnosed with a cancer caused by HPV a year. To me it doesn't sound like it's so much more lower. Maybe part of the reason is that gay men are more likely to suffer from this type of cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 03:53 PM
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Notice how he mentioned his degree and his specialization and hers was like "yeah one in this general discipline". He even mentions she'll do a PhD and doesn't even say on what. He only mentioned her degree at the very end in an edit and still without saying what specialization. Dude, no one cares that you do mobile apps either. It's not just his friends, he looks down on her too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 03:12 AM
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It would be interesting to see if there is a higher prevalence of cervical cancer in women whose husbands were promiscuous before (or after) they got married. Edit: There is a test a man can get to see if he has HPV, the key here is that it's not routinely used because there is no way to cure HPV, it's quite common and men are at a lower risk of developing cancer, so whoever decides this in healthcare thinks it's not worth including in routine testing . Source: https://ro.co/health-guide/hpv-tes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 02:48 AM
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It's a myth that older guys = more mature. I used to think the same, but trust me there are mature guys your age. Age doesn't give maturity, character and willingness does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:27 PM
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If he's minimally good at his job he won't be able to fail you if you present air-tight arguments with a lot of evidence to back up your claims. You need to spend a lot of time writing a good essay. Message me if you want more advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:13 PM
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Paying for everything doesn't make him a HVM. You cannot call him a HVM when you've only been on a date with him. You have to bet someone thoroughly before you can start considering him a HVM. That means getting to know them and experience things together so that you can see his character in certain situations. What stands out to me as red flags is: 10 years older than you? That's a lot of difference. Why doesn't he want women his own age? He's already 39 and he's considering now to start a rela…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:01 PM
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I have not seen such a mess of red flags in a long time. Good for you for spotting them! Edit: Your response to him saying that not wanting to tell him where you live is a red flag is gold!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:35 PM
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This is exactly my view as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:07 AM
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No, I'd be frustrated. At that point it's not even that he bas been living wilfully under a rock and likes it down there, it sounds like when you try to explain it to him, he doesn't think it's a valuable thing to be aware of. It's not that be doesn't understand it, it's that he doesn't like not keeping his privileges and he pretends to keep them at your expense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:06 AM
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Yeah the way he said "get some action" rubbed me the wrong way. It sounds like he is condoning wanting to sleep with as many women as possible because they're sex dispensers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:51 AM
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They probably didn't know. What kind of teenager is going to tell their parents? It's super easy to delete browser's history as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:46 AM
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I have so much respect for her to be saying this when she's so young. It's really useful that she's using her platform to reach so many people with this message. At least it will get people talking and it proves that you don't have to be a pearl-clutching repressed church lady to say that porn is harmful. There is SO MUCH backlash every time someone tries to say that porn in itself is a problem. There are always the average LVM saying "porn is not the problem, it's how you use it" and they act a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:44 AM
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"It plainly shows what we put up with as the "lesser evil" instead of expecting men to control themselves" Basically the reason behind every liberal feminist idea lately, like prostitution (as you mentioned) and "if men are going to sexualize us anyway, we migh as well get money and try to feel empowered about it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:55 PM
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These are the kind of people who will try to normalize hiring a prostitute at work next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:48 PM
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"This is definitely normal" Or you have definitely watched too much porn, have too much free time and don't respect your friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:47 PM
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"I didn't want my parents to think she was weird" ?? That has to be one of the lamest lies I've ever heard. How would the parents learn about her towel in the first place? Why would they even care? He was just annoyed about the towel because he didn't understand it and he's very controlling. She cannot do anything that he thinks is nonsensical, and if she does, he will go as far as to sabotage her like he did here. This is one of those huge red flags that don't seem to matter that much when you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:47 AM
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I'm seeing some comments that seem victim-blamey. Can we stop insinuating that she's an idiot for staying with him and camming despite having an MBA and a previous career in finance? There are several circumstances here that made her more vulnerable to falling victim of this piece of shit. She lost her job during COVID and clearly had no one to rely on. She must have had previous self-esteem issues which combined with the abuse doesn't bode well for enough mental clarity to realize that her life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 10:04 AM
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They like to say that but if you visit the BDSM subreddits there's mentions of crap like "a good dom knows how to push your limits so you discover more pleasure". Which sounds exciting but if you actually analyze it, it seems like it's just doing things to the sub that they don't like until the sub gets used to it. Or they never get used to it but try to convince themselves it feels nice because they don't want to disappoint the dom or they're afraid of them like in this instance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 09:49 AM
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I always have a feeling that women like this who say they are into BDSM would burst into tears if they experienced what making love gently feels like. Like it feels as if they've never been treated kindly during sex and using BDSM is something that distracts from the fact that there is no real connection with their partner. The difference between sex as a pastime because it feels nice (or not even that) vs. sex because he loves you and you love him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 09:44 AM
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Funny that he's so offended by the truth. His daughter is really brave and determined, not many people would answer to that "well if he doesn't want to be seen that way he should change".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:44 AM
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You're not in the right headspace to be dating. Take a break from it because it seems like it's affecting you negatively. It's not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you. There is no point in even wondering if your personality is so bad that you can't "keep" a man because those men weren't even considering your personality, they just wanted sex so they were only focusing on sex. There is no way to keep a man who donesn't want to be kept. When you meet a man who is also relationship orien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:00 PM
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This is true. I once watched an interview where he was talking about archetypes in myths. He had all of this archetypes for men and things that men should do, like be the hero and slay the dragon (as in conquer your troubles, insecurities). Then someone in the audience asked him what archetypes women have and he was like "I guess the Virgin Mary?" He went off to list other suffering mother tropes in myths. So men's destiny is to become the hero of their story, take control, become more responsib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:00 AM
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Exactly. Fine let's call it an incurable mental disorder, at some point during development their brain clearly went wrong, but then measures like this should be taken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 10:30 AM
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While I do agree that "minor-attracted persons" is a way to sugarcoat paedophilia, I don't think that people who study paedophiles and acknowledge that not all have committed crimes (probably not yet) are necessarily excusing them. Whenever I've read on the subject a lot of the times these people have been paedophiles since basically puberty. At some point during development something must have gone wrong in their brain the same way that psychopathy is arguably something a person can be born wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 10:26 AM
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She does it because she just cares more about it! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 10:00 AM
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And she doesn't work hard that she has enough time and energy to do that? At 18 she's probably in university or working in a minimum wage job for long hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:57 AM
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The funniest part about that emoji is that initially it was used by feminists to talk about the wage gap, but Korean male anti-feminists decided to get salty because they thought it was to mock men's short penises. Way to make it obvious that they're insecure when no one was even victimizing them. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:54 AM
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When women put up with blatant, hostile disrespect you tend to lean towards radical feminism because they see the disrespect in real life and on themselves. I feel like a lot of libfem pickmes have lived a sheltered life or an extremely brainwashed one (like their family being very religious) but they don't seem to have been around men who are directly very hostile towards them, especially in their formative years, at least the women I see on the internet. In countries where the hostility and di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:46 AM
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I'm sorry but Western men are far less hostile in general than non-Western men. All "Islamic" countries (as in they try to implement some form of Sharia) are way, way worse towards women than the West, and in an extremely hostile way. Look at Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Egypt or Pakistan and with special mention India, even though its laws are not Islamic. Of course there are regional differences between countries, but I'd never think it's remotely possible to be stared at, followed and sexually …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:25 PM
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I don't see it is as holding it over your head so much as using it as a benchmark on what behavior you'll accept. If a woman has a reputation for being promiscuous, then men will feel even more entitled to her body, because in their book she'll always be willing to sleep with anyone. And if a woman's been abused, for many of them, that means that it's more acceptable to treat her like shit because she's used to it so they can drop the act and behave however they please. Some will treat a woman w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:36 AM
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I wouldn't be able to live with a man like this. Eventually I'd be so resentful that I'd completely explode on him. It's not worth it, much better to dump him quickly. It's a huge disappointment when you feel you have to be nagging your partner constantly to get them to do bare minimum chores. The only way I'd understand is if they were going through a bout of severe depression and they normally had initiative (without me having to tell them to do it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:43 PM
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Interesting how he kept saying "if you don't like it then leave" but when you said "then yes I'm done with you" he suddenly comes up with the question "Are you gonna accept me or not?" If I actually wanted someone to stop contacting me and they said yes, I'd be jumping in joy and I'd immediately take them up on that. I wouldn't ask again if they really didn't like my flaws. Sounds like he didn't think you'd actually do it and he was using it as a manipulation tactic. It's similar to men who answ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:32 PM
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What's a sneaky link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 05:55 PM
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Didn't think I had kinks until this comment 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:47 AM
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People reading your comment will imagine a scene where the man acts extremely callous and obvious in his lack of care. Like the woman asking "what about me"? and the man saying "well I got mine". In reality what they do is act as if women are the ones with the problem, that it's too hard and difficult for them, that after they nut their libido evaporates, that they don't have time... etc or they do a half-assed attempt and then say that the woman is too difficult to please. Even when women tell …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:02 AM
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The captain sounds like a HVM. I know it's not enough to know just from this alone, but the fact that he ordered this and stayed for so long to help everyone that he went down with the ship is an indicator. I really admire when people can behave like this in moments of crisis Other captains in recent shipwrecks like the one from the Costa Concordia in Italy or from that ferry full of high-school children in South Korea were one of the first ones to abandon ship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:43 PM
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I saw this thread. There were so many missing the point entirely and saying that this strategy was only realistic if you were handsome like Jage Gyllenhaal. No mention of how sociopathic it was. When some people did point it out, they received responses like "isn't flirting always manipulation to some extent?". Lol telling on themselves. I think the funniest comments to me were people saying that this movie wasn't sexist or an archetypal "Men Writing Women" because the protagonist never loved an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:25 AM
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Exactly! Actually improving so people eventually learn they can count on you because you already proved it vs. Demanding that people count on you just because
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:43 PM
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I've never heard a man say this in real life, haven't even heard of men that are friends of a friend saying this. For me it's either been men that seem HVM or that more of a gentleman enjoying doing things for others. It looked like they felt useful in the sense of being glad that they were able to help but never said anything like this. The other category are men who enjoy women doing things for them because they see being a gentleman as a burden. I can't imagine them saying this phrase. After …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:32 PM
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This is fascinating, I've never heard of this before. At most I thought pin-up pictures were used to boost morale during WW2. What the Israeli government did is so malicious. I can't imagine that Palestine was a very safe area for women and girls before that (not that Israel doesn't have its sexism too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:09 PM
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Every time there is a famous rape case in India and people complain about how porn fuels misogyny in India, they never look at what's closer to them. The same videos are available to anyone online, what makes people think that men in their own Western countries are not looking at that shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 08:33 AM
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I always thought demisexuality was another of these new zillion labels that I didn't care about. Someone suggested I may be one and when I read the description I just thought that being demisexual was the average behavior? I can't say I know every single person in the planet, but I always thought "demisexuality" was the norm and that being asexual or wanting to sleep with someone while barely knowing them (consistently, so it is actually a sexuality and not a one-off) just from how they look wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:22 PM
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I don't see how these women are coping? Hitting the cervix is a real thing and it's awful 😭 I've never had sex with someone that had less than a 6 inch, but longer just hit my cervix and there were a lot of positions we couldn't do because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:24 AM
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It starts early. Boys used to do this to me CONSTANTLY when I was in elementary school. The only advice I received was to "walk away" or "not pay attention to them", but how am I supposed to do that if we're in the middle of class? They also stole my things and then put them back where they originally were to make me look crazy and shame me for "overreacting". They enjoyed seeing me annoyed and angry. The teachers only did a half-hearted "hey you, stop annoying her" after I complained or the cla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:13 AM
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"Yeah that's bad But more importantly, why did you snoop in his phone??" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:18 PM
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Imo this is the way. Rich LVMs can easily spend a lot of money on jewellery but does he actually care about what his future wife prefers? Throwing a 50k diamond when she doesn't like diamonds is an obvious example of how spending money on it isn't everything. He should be excited to tailor and search for a ring because he knows that it is an indication of how serious he is about his partner, whether it is from societal norms or his partner's feelings. He should take the role of finding out a sui…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:38 AM
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This. And phrases that keep being repeated over and over on Reddit like "he's allowed to feel disappointed and hurt" when it comes to sex miss the addition of "but he should not mention or show it at all so as not to pressure his partner". Men like the ones in this story think "oh okay, I'm not yelling, threatening her or physically hitting her, so I'm good". No, getting salty, like you said, is harmful as well. It's even more insidious because we already know that women in general have been con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:48 PM
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"pOrN iSn'T tHe PrObLeM, iT's LaCk Of SeX eDuCaTiOn" This is the kind of comment that always springs up in general Reddit. But why not both? Provide proper sex education about respect, dignity, pleasure, boundaries and feeling safe AND get rid of a societal disease that negates every one of these lessons. Sadly, it's not the first time I've heard of this type of horrific situation. It's not only Australia, here in Western Europe we have had the exact same scenario. I'm sick of it. It's not just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:37 PM
26

For real, I thought he was in his thirties until I read his age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:36 PM
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A local lady that worked for a woman's shelter gave a talk at my school once and she said that if the man offered a "she provoked me" as an explanation/justification, it was a sure sign that he was a domestic abuser. That exact phrase was very common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:35 PM
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This is where the moronic argument of "women abuse as much as men" comes from. It was started by the manosphere but now a lot of average dudes started repeating it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:23 PM
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I'm out of the loop, what happened prior to her being found dead? What was the dashcam incident about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:21 PM
43

It's funny how LVMs complain about HVMs because they know women would like to be treated better, and then turn around and say that women are attracted to abusive assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:18 PM
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It depends on many things: Earning an average or even a small salary is normal for young people, in this case, is he hardworking? Is he responsible with money? Is he trying to improve his chances of getting a better job/being promoted? This would include studying for an extra certification, learning skills that are high in demand, learning a new language... etc. If I was older I wouldn't mind him earning less so long as it's not significant enough for us to have different lifestyles and cause ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:07 AM
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Agree on everything except the first point. I think that's a bit extreme, especially if you live in a hot climate, there are ways of wearing a V-neck and a short skirt that are tasteful. HVMs will treat everyone with respect regardless of what you wear, but I do agree that sleazy lazy fuckboys will try it first with women who wear very revealing clothes because they think they're easier. No fault for the woman, just something for her to keep in mind so she's prepared to fend them off. That being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 09:50 AM
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"they weren't into it before their gfs wanted them to do that stuff" So they just mindlessly had to obey of course. We can't expect critical thinking or firm values about respect and love /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:35 PM
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This is a HVM reaction. If anyone needs to calibrate if their bf's reaction was good or bad for this type of instances, this is the benchmark
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:31 PM
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Blah blah another deranged dude. Next. Good advice for everyone to stay safe, I just think this type of guys sound pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:35 PM
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Someone has to take responsibility as in it takes at least one person to prevent a pregnancy. The rest of my argument agrees with you, thay due to the negative effects of female contraceptives, men should wrap it but a lot of them evade responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:18 AM
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This annoys me so much because it's such an irresponsible, dumb argument. "The same way it's your choice to be on birth control, it's his choice to wear a condom". Except every other contraceptive method for women may cause pain, a nightmare of side effects, depression, may even give you cancer in the long term or kill you if a IUD perforates the uterus. Yes some of these are unlikely, but why risk even being one of the 1% when men's condoms are so infinitely more comfortable and safe? If no man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:54 AM
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They're not afraid anymore because of course they tried changing the narrative online: STDs were portrayed as nothing to be ashamed of, easy to treat and almost everyone has had one! Now they're trying to call them STI (illness) instead of disease to de-stigmatize them. If you do everything in your power to avoid them like prior testing of both partners and wearing a condom, and you still get one somehow or because someone cheated on you, then yes, it shouldn't be stigmatized. But when it's so e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:43 AM
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I have always been so attracted to gentle men. I've met a few men (few) who kind of irradiated this aura of kindness that shocked me, to be honest. People often confuse them with woke self-proclaimed soft boys that pretend to be all empathetic but in the end are still self-serving. The men I met were decisive when it was needed and they respectfully disagreed with opinions they didn't support because they had firm values. They tried to help people and had a kind demeanour towards others, without…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:31 PM
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No I meant that if you appear too ambivalent and don't say you want a relationship a HVM might move on because he doesn't wanna do hookups/FwBs. Sorry that wasn't clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:26 PM
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I read in another subreddit that 80% of suicide attempts are from women in Afghanistan. I'll try to find the source. Found it, the article is from 2018, so it's probably worse now: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-44370711.amp The rest of the article is gut-wrenching. A third of women in Afghanistan gets married before they're 18 and 62% of women have suffered at least TWO forms of the following abuse: psychological, sexual or physical, while 87% of women have suffered on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:38 AM
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This is too true. And when they disagree with something that really doesn't sit right with them but know men generally like it goes something like this: "Imo, correct me if I'm wrong, I don't want to shame anyone for their needs, maybe this is not okay? Personally for me it feels like there isn't something right here, but maybe someone can offer a different perspective" On a post about say, men asking for an open marriage because she's gravelly ill and can't have sex. I wish I was joking that I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:30 AM
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It's funny because they think that allowing men and women to comment is automatically a badge of honor in the non-sexism awards. Red pill men and other salty manosphere sympathizers will say that FDS is worse because unlike here, women are allowed to comment on their subreddits. "We say that women should know their place as needy servants and give us sex whenever we ask or she doesn't respect us, but hey we allow them to comment on the post so clearly you're the real bigot here".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:23 AM
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Very true. Beware of the woke man that frames having sex with him as mainly beneficial for you too. This is important advice for virgins on FDS or those that don't have much experience. They'll say that you have to be more open-minded; that your standards are silly because relationships don't work like that in real life and that you're getting your idea of romance from silly fiction written for women; that you have to try something first before you can say if you enjoy or not; that you have to e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:17 AM
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"Not every woman is insecure" 😂😂😂 LVMs have convinced pickmes that the only reason why you wouldn't like your boyfriend thrusting after other women is because you're insecure. The concept of respect either doesn't matter to them or it doesn't compute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:09 AM
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Well in FDS the usual advice is to not be so overt because they can just lie to get sex. I'm not sure how common it is. There have been a few stories on here of men who said they also wanted a serious relationship the moment she said she wanted one. Then when they finally had sex they ghosted her, or when they started kissing they asked for a blowjob and when the women refused, their "boyfriends" complained "but why?? I'm your boyfriend now!!". For example a guy I knew said how he didn't watch p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:01 AM
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Technically because terrorism uses violence for political aims. Them randomly killing women in a breakdown doesn't fit strictly into this definition. I'd argue that incels do have some form of political aims though, but they're just so vague and laughable that no one takes them seriously: e.g. government-mandated girlfriends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:40 PM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:31 PM
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If society properly compensated women for the unequal burden of motherhood and all sexism was eliminated, then I'd understand conscription. But the fact that they do none of that and are still trying this is laughable. The draft shouldn't exist for anyone in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:30 PM
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It is generally recommended against because it leaves you in a very vulnerable position. He may work 8h a day, but many LVMs expect you to always be picking after them. Even worse, they think that because they work, they shouldn't be expected to do any housework or help with the kids (aka you'd have a 24h job). Some even minimize your role and get passive aggressive because they think you should be more grateful since "you don't provide or pay for anything". Many women find themselves having to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:20 PM
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Ah this makes more sense. A status thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:27 PM
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I still don't understand why those that complain about not having sex can't just have a wank. Before anyone says "it's not the same", notice that they're only complaining about sex, not lack of someone to love and a relationship. If they just want a woman for sex because they view them as sexual gratification dispensers, what's the difference with their hand, a sex toy or a silicone doll?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:59 PM
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Lol FDS motivated me to take crafts as a hobby too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:43 AM
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Shooter: Literally visits and comments on a certain "Rights" subreddit and an Incel subreddit, says he dislikes FDS Reddit on a thread about banning subreddits that motivated this individual: FDS is so toxic, it needs to go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:39 AM
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Assuming this is real, I simply don't trust people who can be violent if it's not some form of self-defence. Often when someone uses violence for a "just" cause it can seem justified, but they can easily start applying the justice concept arbitrarily and it just leads to more aggression. A HVM would help her build a case against the ex so he can be in jail and he'd help find a strategy so the ex can never get near her again, even better if they find a way of warning other women. Beating the ex u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:26 AM
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Tell me you don't understand hyperbole without saying you don't understand hyperbole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:01 AM
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This is excellent then. Thanks for answering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:14 PM
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The media is being so irresponsible framing this as 'just a male mental health crisis' Every time I hear this I think of normal men that are depressed or have other mental health issues and are trying their best and going to therapy. When they frame it like that it sounds as if the natural progression of being depressed and a man is going into a killing spree, which it obviously isn't. The difference is the misogyny and selfishness. Deplatforming works, they should try it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:20 PM
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Just proves that they don't see prostitutes as completely human. This man has violent tendencies and hates women, sure let's give him a vulnerable woman, that sounds like a good idea. Prostitutes are good to sacrifice them for the good of wider society but not good enough to protect apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:08 PM
11

How do you know that account was from the Plymouth shooter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:59 PM
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Do you know if it the deleted comments and posts using this tool will still show up when you use certain websites to see deleted Reddit posts & comments?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:55 PM
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I never understood why they seemed so hurt about this. Every time I hear POC people criticize white people for certain racist behaviors or say that they prefer to support POC owned businesses or give priority to making friends with other POC people, I don't care. Even when they say they hate white people. I know it doesn't apply to me and that they have their reasons. You can either understand where they're coming from and check your behavior every now and then to make sure their criticisms stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:15 PM
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This Tik Tok is just... chef's kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:12 AM
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She's not an idiot, almost all of us have been a pick me at some point. She already realized that she's resentful and she is not trying to paint him in a better light. I'd say she has a foot in the door already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:33 AM
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It may not even be by her husband alone, libfems and self-serving LVM keep repeating that if you dare be skeptical of a choice that a 18-24 young woman made, it automatically means you're unfeminist and misogynistic because you're infantilizing her. It creates this situation where women in that age group will make a bad decision and instead of realizing it was a mistake and leave, they will hear all the libfem/LVM mantras in their head. "You're an adult! Doubting the decisions women make is unfe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:16 AM
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Oh they pulled the card of criticizing actions that make it more likely for women to end in a bad situation because of men means that we are infantilizing women. "ThEy tHinK wOmEn ArE hElPlesS vIcTiMs" These excuses are so 2014.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:53 AM
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I've been on FDS for around a year, and have never ever seen anyone here praise older women being with considerably younger men. What are they smoking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:49 AM
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The narrative that being anti-porn is being anti-sex/sexually repressed/religious at this point is a coomer argument. It's like alcoholics saying that if you don't want to drink alcohol you're anti-having fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:24 PM
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LVM know that there are a few men who are HVM, but when they meet them they feel insecure and often verbally attack them. There's a reason why simp has become a common insult. Another time I saw an Instagram post where a few men commented that they didn't watch porn. Cue LVM accusing them of lying, saying that they were gay, that they weren't real men... etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:20 PM
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So he didn't start thinking of himself strictly until she was so turned off by him that she didn't want to have sex anymore? I'm beginning to understand where all those complaints about women "withholding sex as punishment" come from 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:35 PM
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That's such a sweet detail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:17 AM
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This is my no. 1 pet peeve when it comes to men and dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:36 PM
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"We actually have to put in effort to get laid" I don't count lying and deceiving because you're a desperate horndog as "effort", sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:29 PM
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You're right, I didn't notice that she was asking for the exact percentage. That's petty as hell and she has no right to complain. Not a HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:26 PM
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It's not the same to be married and have a child in common than to be the second wife/husband. I know FDS men have more of an incentive to provide, but (provided that he's not a millionaire) he left a very sizeable portion or all of his money to his second wife instead of his own kids, I would think he's irresponsible and/or controlled by his dick. In that sense, all fair. If I have kids, everything goes to them. There is something about her idea of how she envisioned inheritance in family that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:16 PM
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Okay after reading all the comments here I am glad to confirm what I thought: Yes, these jobs are gross and sexist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:03 PM
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"Sex work and sexualizing women isn't about the explicitness of the act, but the intetion" Say it louder for the people at the back! This is what should matter when men harass women in little ways. When women call them out they're told that it's not a big deal. What really matters is the intention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:58 PM
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This is both hilarious and pathetic. Seriously, it's so pathetic to get so triggered over pinching hands in ads that weren't even about dicks. Don't they notice that they're telling everyone that they're insecure about their small dick? If I was a South Korean woman I'd think their reaction is the most ridiculous thing I've ever seen, and I'd lose all respect for any man that got salty about those ads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:06 AM
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I had a wilding therapist tell me that I should fake orgasms with one of my exes and that eventually they would become real Ah typical "you're not orgasming because you're nervous/too worried about getting an orgasm". I noticed that when it's hard to accept the fact that their boyfriends are simply lazy in bed, women start thinking this. Then they go on relationship or sex advice subreddits and people tell her that she is too apprehensive about orgasms and that she should just let it go. No shit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:47 AM
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They should really use a different catch phrase at this point. "IT's JuSt a FaNtAsY" is not gonna continue being an effective excuse for much longer in the mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 12:33 AM
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People generally consider this a toxic subreddit but lately I've seen more comments defending it, including comments by male Redditors saying that a lot of FDS advice is just common sense. Funnily enough, an incel in a thread I saw was the most adamant about hating FDS. I think the moment other men saw that an incel hated FDS passionately, they didn't want to be grouped in the same category and started (finally) pointing out that people cherry-pick and take out of context certain comments that d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:49 AM
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This is so true. I always had this strategy, but when I started to get on social media and consume all the libfem kool-aid, I started believing various hues of bullshit. The one you mention, that the men we want don't exist because we have an ideal from the female perspective, but also I believed all that generic relationship advice about how opposites attract or how you need someone who complements you (aka not the same as you). I particularly dislike the "complementing each other" advice. It o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:41 AM
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The ending sent me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:13 AM
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If he was just a really extroverted person, he'd have a lot of male friends too. He has some good points which is why you're hesitating, but it seems to me as if he has low self-esteem and tries to improve it by becoming emotionally dependent on all those women. Notice how many of them are "fixing" him. One helped him a lot after the suicide attempt, another is his dating couch, another gave him comfort at a lonely hostel... etc. I find it strange that he's always meeting them for the first time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:05 AM
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For real. From the perspective of a woman, she's always enjoyed orgasms when she masturbates, ZERO worries about anything, just enjoying herself, completely relaxed. When she starts having sex with a man, that all goes out of the window. If she's lucky, she will still be having satisfying orgasms frequently, so the only thing that changed is his presence. HE is the variable that introduces all the anxiety and discomfort. Let's be real, few times are men and the sex women have with them so absolu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 12:30 AM
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"I could feel my body and mind trying to communicate my stance, but there was a very heavy sense of ingrained evasion. (...) because I knew inherently that he was going to immediately tell me that I am wrong and that I don't know what I'm talking about, and that in fact the ribs were GOOD" This is actually a perfect example of how women are conditioned since birth to not be able to say "no" or express strong opinions. For any LVM who ever wondered why a lot of us can't just say "no", this is how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:27 AM
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She's been brainwashed to think that she can't possibly expect both. That would be too mean! Too much pressure on him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:20 AM
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😂😂😂😂 I wonder for how long she'll think this way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:18 AM
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I'm so out of the loop with porn. I have never heard this before, it's been around 3 years without porn. Once you stop visiting and look at it from a distance, you really start noticing how plain strange most porn concepts are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:01 AM
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The difference between a porn tag/fetish/concept that turns him on vs genuinely wanting to know if you enjoyed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:59 AM
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Someone has been reading FDS 😂 Even if she hasn't literally been going to this subreddit, I definitely noticed a before and after FDS in other social media platforms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:52 AM
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Don't forget the "I'm not good at writing a bio, ask me anything"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:25 AM
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Was thinking the same thing! As I was reading this excellent post I thought I'd use it to make friends or unexpected networking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:17 AM
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This right here. Men on there are not even grateful for all the sacrifices these women are making. Yesterday I read a comment from a guy complaining about how "girls on OF all use the same boring poses now".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:34 AM
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The texts were good but what made me cackle was his last message. It makes him sound like a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:27 AM
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Will there be ways to get around it? Yes, but it is a step in the right direction. Funny how in other subreddits were saying "think about the children"... but defending that 15 year olds NEEDED access to pornography. Yes, I'm sure 15 year old Günter absolutely needs to learn more misogyny and rape by watching title after title about "surprise anal", gangbangs full of grimaces from the woman and insults towards women. Such a service to the world 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:41 PM
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Girls getting in trouble for hitting boys who were threatening or hitting them. Tale as old as time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:23 PM
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When women do it it's news and an outrage. When men do it it's just Tuesday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:21 PM
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They leave the same kind of comments on porn websites, especially under particularly messed up videos. Things like "This is horrible. Still fapped" or "I'm going to hell for watching this". Alternatively, when a video looked wholesome or sweet, I also saw comments saying that they couldn't fap to it because it was too wholesome. So they know that the violence/coercion/humiliation they're watching isn't right and they also realize that they've desensitized themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:19 PM
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This guy is writing gay fanfiction where the protagonist doesn't know he's gay yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:39 PM
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Men saying they will love to cook for you or bragging about well they cook a certain dish. I used to think "oh great! He knows how to cook and enjoys it, I won't be expected to do this housechore all the time". Nope. I've been seeing a lot of OLD profiles that are weirdly insisting on cooking, and judging from the rest of the profile, you just know that they're not foodies. I also know a few men in real life who said stuff like this and they don't do many housechores if any at all. They're only …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:23 AM
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I don't understand why women feel sorry for men who have disturbing and harmful fetishes like this. He's ashamed of having fantasies of killing you and continuing to fuck your corpse? As he fucking should!! Would she rather that he wasn't ashamed? We've seen this shit time and time again in other subreddits. Men or teenage boys will come forward saying they're disturbed and ashamed of their fetishes, and the crowd will be like "Oh you poor thing! Those negative feelings come from living in a cul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:26 AM
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Sounds like he was doing something shady in the bathroom and he was terrified that you might have been doing it too. Tinder? Porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:14 AM
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This thread is sooo different from another in average Reddit about this topic before she made this statement. There were so many people saying that maybe she prefers being in a conservatorship, that mentally ill people can still do their job but struggle to do daily tasks, that at some point she had said she wanted the conservatorship, that we don't know the whole story, that super rich people like her need help managing their money... etc. Funny that she mentions sex trafficking because this ki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:50 AM
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But the courts favor women right?? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:54 PM
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Gonna read this book ASAP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:09 AM
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While this is good, I wish the pornography producing companies would get some lawsuits too. If it's not Pornhub, it will be some other website hosted in Russia unfortunately. Still something, it will have to be one by one I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 07:28 PM
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No whispering sweet nothings? Sensual touching? Passionate kissing? Cheek caressing? Combing through your partner's hair? And gasp could it be? No sexily asking for consent and asking if the other person is enjoying it, looking for genuine feedback? No? Okay nevermind then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:13 AM
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I agree with you. Our personalities are not even "masculine", things like being direct do not belong to men exclusively. I get where she's coming from because a lot of the "feminist" men just like their girlfriends to do everything for them, but as you say, the answer is not a man who needs to feel like a patriarch or something. I can only see something similar working if you're letting the man carry something for you, pay for a date and plan dates, so you can see that he has initiative. I canno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:30 AM
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Yeah they're hard to find but if it wasn't for certain romance books/movies/any other format, I wouldn't have had any examples of a FDS romantic relationship to look up to. I still haven't personally seen a FDS relationship in real life but I know they're possible. I find that men complaining about romance media for women are usually just complaining about meeting those standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:05 AM
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I'm in this picture and I don't like it 😂 Seriously though, spot-on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:05 PM
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This sort of behavior comes from a fundamental place of feeling insecure and unworthy. Feeling like she's got to make up for her existence in the world because she's a woman or because she was abused as a child. You hit the nail in the head. For a few years I had a phase when I was like her, I prided myself in paying for all my stuff and even paying for dates, never asking or expecting any traditional male behaviors (like carrying heavy groceries, paying for dates, having them open the door). Re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:49 PM
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I'm not the person you replied to but I'll expand on the neoliberalism part: It basically refers to a shift in policies that used deregulation in favor of corporate interest and profit. They wanted government to intervene in the market as little as possible. What this really meant is that government started delegating its powers to the private sector. It was also paired with the idea of freedom.The argument is that if the options in the market were actually shit, they would naturally die out bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:36 AM
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Now that you mention him, I may have read articles from the same guy? Was looking once about that study that showed that most porn has violence towards women, was met with an old male psychologist that said "aCtUaLlY" violence in the context of BDSM is not violence so most porn is not violent towards women. Even if one thought BDSM was all fine and dandy, how is the recording of a porn video even remotely similar to two practitioners who have this deep trust that BDSM "experts" always like to ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:24 AM
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1) How was that video in any form marketing herself to men 2) "Then men's judgement is the only thing that matters" > That's a non sequitur if I ever saw one They're grasping at straws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:16 AM
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I've seen so many garbage articles in PsychologyToday that at this point they're no better than an opinion piece written in a magazine or newspaper. Because it's written by psychologists people think they are as valid as an actual peer-reviewed psychology study.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:44 PM
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I argued with some guy on Reddit about this because he supposedly didn't understand what was so creepy about this. He said he was shocked and felt it was an attack on masculinity that women were creeped out that men who they thought was their friend or their co-worker were masturbating to them. "What harm does it do if they will never know about it?" Dunno Kyle, maybe women are disappointed that they're mostly a sex object to you? You may not be aware of this, but maybe being a coomer prevents y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:06 PM
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I'm really interested in this from a historical perspective. I've never heard of it. Would you mind expanding please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:17 AM
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No problem! I agree with you completely on keeping a really lowkey online presence. I use pseudonyms in all my social media and I've never posted a selfie online. The link you provided is really informative too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:58 PM
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No I meant that you can delete the metadata of any pictures before you upload them to social media, from your computer or phone. However, if you download a picture from Instagram (idk if that's even possible), or from Twitter or Reddit, and then on your desktop you try seeing their properties, there won't be any identifiable info. You can also check if images you download have metadata with an EXIF data viewer online. In this link you can see which social media sites strip geolocation data off i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:53 PM
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For your peace of mind, most social media companies delete metadata off pictures posted on their platforms. For anyone reading that wants to delete their metadata, right-click the image, go to "properties" and delete the details. I agree with you that people are too eager to reveal their face online though. It's not only creeps, people can use random people's faces for scams, catfishing... etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:52 AM
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And here is why men who sleep around are a far worse social issue than women who sleep around. Even if they use condoms, accidents can still happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:43 PM
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Most of the men I've spoken to about the porn industry live in constant delusion about it. Every time I mentioned the violence, coercion, manipulation and trafficking that goes on there their answers are: A) "They're not actually suffering, it's acting" B) "It's not actually involuntary pornography, they just make it look like it's their sister or a creepshot" C) "There is no human trafficking because there are controls" D) "There are no minors, because whoever is responsible would have already …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:40 PM
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"Real women", they don't even consider prostitutes human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:34 PM
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It kills me that there are even parents in America who prefer to cut off their kid's foreskin to "prevent infections" instead of teaching their kid when they're old enough the importance of cleaning his own dick 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:45 PM
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It's their insecurity peeking through. You're right, they really make porn actresses act as if seeing a dick makes them orgasm on the spot. It always looked so ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:43 PM
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Lmao I'm gonna start doing this to every guy who ever complained about girl boss movies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:44 PM
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Muaic to my ears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:35 PM
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I'm sorry what? "Inspiring" you? They know they're shit but the only way they are going to change their behavior is if their gf/wife happens to "inspire" them? That's a weird way of saying the girlfriend is going to bend over backwards to help him, try to change him, or constantly say what bothers her and he might listen to her if he feels like it. Entitlement and lack of accountability at its finest. What is this bullshit??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:36 PM
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Most men I spoke to about the porn industry see it as something that "just happens". Women "happen" to want to be brutalized, men "happen" to always want to see women under 30, men "happen" to want to see violence and humiliation against women. Pornographers know exactly what they're doing, they are psychopathic manipulators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:48 PM
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The solution is to change the culture and campaign in favor of bills so that this type of paid leave is accepted. If we repeatedly curb female rights in case employers don't want us, it will stay the same. Most women won't need to use this paid leave anyway, but it would be amazing for those suffering from endometriosis, PCOS or for anyone whose period is extremely painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:33 PM
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This is what equality (equity) and not the 50/50 libfem equality looks like. I used to have period pains so bad I would pretty much slightly overdose on pain killers and sometimes they didn't even work. I still had to go to school, even trying not to sob from how bad the pain was at times. Periods were so taboo back then so I couldn't ask to miss school. Of course there was also the extremely annoying response of "oh feeling pain is normal, get used to it". I'd be very happy to kick any NVM in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:25 PM
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"Not all men" but if a man is handsome he is OBVIOUSLY going to be a manwhore? My only HVM ex was so attractive, I won't give details because privacy but it's one of those times when it's not a matter of opinion. He waited 8 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:43 PM
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This is what I was expecting as well. I've watched those TV shows where they remodel a van into a cozy small home with full amenities. I was thinking that his case wasn't so bad. I've seen women on those same shows who went for the van lifestyle and they're proud of all the work they've put into it, until I read that he didn't have a bathroom. His dating pool should be women who are into the lifestyle as well, even better if they have their own caravan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:58 PM
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If there are people who deserve to burn in hell, it's this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:59 AM
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This is so vile and utterly dehumanizing that I'm lost for words. How does it get to this point that HUNDREDS of men think this is funny, upvote, and even ask where they can watch the video? Porn actresses really aren't human to them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:57 AM
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Men who sleep around and women who sleep around are not the same. Women who sleep around are increase their chances of getting pregnant. Men who sleep around are potentially causing multiple pregnancies for which they are not going to take any responsibility for. The parents probably think that he's just depressed and that they need to allow him a girlfriend to improve his mood, that way his grades will magically get better. I would have been grounded for a month and my console hidden under lock…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:52 PM
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A HVM will treat everyone with courtesy and respect, a LVM/NVM dismiss people who he thinks is beneath them. He will be more overt when he is sure that there will be no repercussions (service workers, poor people, co-workers with a worse position) and he will tread the waters carefully with people he is more cautious of, to see with how much disrespect he can get away with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:50 PM
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If I knew which men have been Johns I wouldn't speak to them even for greetings or touch them even if it was with a 6-foot pole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:32 PM
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Male sexual selfishness is responsible for prostitution Perfect quote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:28 PM
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After watching countless stories of violent men portrayed as misunderstood, heroic figures with their little flaws, cool, and badass, I'm over it. I'm not interested anymore. It's so overused, it's ridiculous that they're portrayed in this grandiose manner when in the real world they'd just be your average thug with the emotional maturity of a 2 year old. The lame guy turns into a hero and gets the girl... while not fundamentally changing anything about his character. He usually only learns to c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:15 PM
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She is even controlling her facial expressions to be pouty. Can you imagine if men cared about such minute things like speaking with a different voice, looking with hooded eyes, and keeping their mouth in a pout just to try to look sexy? Just as there are micro-agressions, there are micro-performances of being a sex object that some women are constantly aware of. Their lives are controlled by imaginary men looking at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:06 PM
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Libfems have done so much damage with their choosy choice feminism. Yesterday a report came out that nearly half of women and girls worldwide don't have control over their own bodies. Meaning they're raped, denied access to abortions, forced into marriages, pressured to have sex when they don't want to... etc. One genius commenter said it was so horrible that women could not decide to sell their bodies lmfao. I wonder why prostitution has always been present in history even when most women were …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:28 PM
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New Zealand has been doing amazing lately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:07 PM
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The evil part of me wants him to have a surgery and get a taste of his own medicine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:06 PM
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That's a good way to put it. Courts are just another tool for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:57 PM
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That's so horribly negligent by the court that it's making my head hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:57 PM
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Oh I didn't know about that case, I'll look into it. Thanks for telling me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:55 PM
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What the fuck. "Innocent until proven guilty"... more like "we'll try anything to keep you technically innocent"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:41 PM
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This is very true. Abusive manipulators mess with their victims' heads so much that their compass of what is fair becomes completely skewed. At some point it's going to be a choice between what they perceive as being selfish, or continuing on the path of getting your soul destroyed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:37 PM
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Abusive fathers use the "parental alienation" bullshit excuse so much. It's like that guy in another FDS post the other who complained that his ex was kidnapping his son when she gave him so many options to pick him up and he agreed to work late. Those kind of fathers use it to dominate the mother, to "win". It's about their pride, not the child. They didn't care that much about the kid before or they treated them badly, but the moment there's a custody battle it's all about "mY rIgHtS aS a FaTh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:19 PM
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Can someone copy the article for those who can't read it please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:00 PM
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Oh gooood your last paragraph is one of my biggest pet peeves. So true, and they're aware of what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:56 PM
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I love how FDS helps women in other aspects of life, not only romantic. Congrats on levelling-up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:54 PM
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Literally having to go through the frustrating work of fixing your own mistakes is what makes people responsible. She shot herself in the foot by fixing their mistakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:51 PM
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How did they manage to convict him? I thought that whenever there is a "he said, she said" the police say they can't do anything, so what mechanisms did they use?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:22 PM
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Your comments really puts things in perspective. I can't watch sexual violence on women in a screen anymore, it's so obvious it's gratuitous entertainment, not even a big deal anymore. Yet for women it's a reminder of what can happen to any of us if we're unlucky. They don't care how it makes us feel, and the few times I've seen this mentioned they just made fun of women by calling them snowflakes when it literally triggered memories of rape for some of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:54 AM
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I'm so glad I scrolled down this far. I've wanted this type of female character too for a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:52 AM
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Very good analysis. Also he wants to "experiment" and have a family eventually but he's already in his mid-thirties?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:09 AM
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Not men encouraging insecurity in women as an attractive trait 💀🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:44 AM
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This right here. If it was really about finding someone compatible for a relationship he'd be much more selective. When I was on OLD I'd chat with maybe 4 men in a month, because there just weren't that many men to choose from that looked like who I wanted. I bet he goes to those "alpha" dating coaches that tell him to swipe on anyone, that it's a numbers' game, that he has to pretend to be someone else... etc. They're setting him up for failure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:40 AM
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All of his "advice" is essentially just telling you not to stand up for what you think is right 😂 Of course he would have been more comfortable if you didn't call him out. He would have wanted so much that you relented and doubted yourself or undermined your argument in whatever discussions you two had instead of saying "no, I know I am right".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:21 AM
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James Franco has always been very suspicious. How much of a coincidence is it that he has several roles where he is an older man who grooms younger women? He also sent sexual messages to an underage girl, and later played the "I didn't know she was underage". So what? She was still like 15 years younger than him, creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:10 AM
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Could they be any more obvious 😂😂😂? Criticizing violent and disrespectful behavior is now hate speech against men? Imagine making your porn-induced fetishes part of your identity lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:54 PM
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People also used to say that it's not anyone's business if a man hits his wife 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:43 PM
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He's dumb, if he does talk shit about you, you can just show all of his contacts this message. This combined with the fact that he sent you that after you dumped him will tell everyone what they need to know about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:42 PM
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I once had a nightmare where I did this. I'm not kidding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:11 AM
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Exactly! She's offering him a solution, even being considerate, and he's thinking of legal battles. She wants to be cooperative, but this man thinks he's playing Poker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:58 AM
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Why is he asking Reddit about legal advice as if he was about to have a court battle when the event is gonna happen that day and it's so easy to solve? I can't stand men who act so grandiose about being a father and are so outraged that their rights are supposedly being infringed when he clearly cares more about his pride (not perceiving that he is "losing" against the mother) and fucking around with the mother. If his priority was his kid and preventing stress for the kid he'd say no problem, I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:55 AM
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Having so many terms for sexual activity is exhausting. Like in online spaces being a "bottom" is seen as being a submissive, shy and girly person and being a top means that you're a dominant and daring person. When you can just be on top or underneath depending on the position, level of pleasure, and how tired you get??? Why make it a personality trait or a fetish? From what I've observed in people who use that kind of lingo, it ends up limiting their sexual activity and enjoyment. Labelling ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:55 PM
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I love that they get offended when you accuse them of being exactly what they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:39 PM
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This is a man who gets his ideas of what dating is from teen movies and fantasies online of men saying they had crazy sexual experiences in a single night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:37 PM
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I made the same decision to never listen to Chris Brown's "music" again voluntarily. He's not getting a single cent from my Youtube/Spotify.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:34 AM
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These guys can't possibly want to be in the kind of relationship where they're putting in equal effort. This is true. I had a woke classmate in university who once told me that if it was up to him, he'd never change a diaper or do unpleasant things like that, but that he'd have to do them because his future wife would not put up with it. In other words, if she lets him, he'd do the bare minimum or not even that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:49 PM
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I just can't wrap my head around how they ridicule men who are good people and defend women. It's always calling them white knight, gay, simp... and here his insecurity is so blatant. Does he not realize how insecure he looks? That someone calling out his behavior is interpreted as being arrogant and goody two-shoes? It's like their argument is that men are filthy sex-obsessed creatures who are all deep-down the same and they get mad when a man rises above that level, but then they complain abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:32 PM
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They've been trying to ban abortion though. At least they're consistent with being more pro-life and pro-normal-sexuality rather than only controlling women. They're doing both. I just wish that these kind of bills stay and the anti-abortion ones are kicked to the curb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:31 PM
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Someone very wise in this subreddit said that if you have to start hiding from your family and friends how bad he really treats you because they'll think badly of him, it's time to dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:44 AM
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Exactly. There is a type of OCD called pure OCD that makes people have impulses of things that are completely against their moral compass. Like a person will get a mental image randomly of them killing a puppy when they absolutely love animals and are instantly horrified by this thought. Point being, they are not more likely to commit that act, quite the contrary. The evil piece of shit enjoyed every second of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:52 AM
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Okay she needs proper therapy because after all this absolutely evil shit I can't believe she's still understanding. Funny thing how she also suffers from impulses but she's never gone so far. Makes you think. He knows exactly why he did it, but is too much of a pathetic coward to say it to her face. He doesn't even see her as human, fuck. I hope he gets a long sentence for attempted murder, and that she has access to therapy to undo all the damage. She must be so scared and hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:46 AM
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Oh I didn't know that. It's always better to protect yourself because yeah, none of those wives or girlfriends expected to be cheated on, you never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:10 AM
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Same. I'm never going to argue with a whiny man about how condoms don't feel as good ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:18 PM
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My grandma told me the same when I was about 14. I told her that was dishonest, and then she told me that in one of those radio programmes she listened to where people call for advice, a young man had called recently. He was crying because he went to a brothel, cheated on his girlfriend by having sex there, went back to normal life and had sex with his girlfriend, and he had just found out he had contracted HIV and probably infected his girlfriend. That made me change my mind pretty quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:16 PM
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Even if they don't feel as good, they're still orgasming far more than women. I'd take that over knowing it's more likely I don't orgasm with a man than not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:11 PM
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This kind of comments make be believe that sexism in America is off the charts. I live in Western Europe and had to take Uber often for 3 months before I could buy a car and it's never happened to me. Most of the time they were silent or small talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:02 PM
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That's so true. Really puts things in perspective. Once I even found a subreddit dedicated to light eyes (so not brown/black), sometimes it was a naked woman with light eyes, other times it was just a close-up of the eyes... and all the men there masturbated to it. So weird and gross. I don't criticize people for things they can't change, one thing is to not be involved because you find them unattractive and another is making fun of them. However I'd like to see the same leftists criticize how w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:36 PM
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I feel that they're really dismissive about side effects. I was only on birth control for 5 months and I felt more gloomy and annoyed. When I switched to a different type of contraception I told this to the doctor and she pretty much told me I must have been imagining it. Even my boyfriend at the time noticed I was different and told me I should get off birth control because it wasn't worth it (the only HVM ex I've had)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:15 PM
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and men posting that if a woman was enjoying the sex, they can't get off to it. Another FDSer today posted a video with Gail Dines talking against pornography in a debate. There was this man who said that "nooo most men actually get turned off if they see the woman is not enjoying herself" (he was blatantly lying and has a vested interest). It's both, they get off to pain either way. There are the ones who actively seek expressions of pain (physical or emotional) to get off. Then there are other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:22 AM
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This is such a different attitude from what I see in Western social media sites. Isaac, a 15-year-old boy, watched as a group of men grabbed a young girl. It was a bustling new year's eve in Kibera, Kenya's largest slum, and he knew she was in trouble. He also knew he didn't have the strength to fight off those older, larger men. Having been taught to intervene if he sees predatory behaviour, Isaac called over another man to help confront the group. The boys are taught about respect, consent and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:05 AM
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It's almost as if deadbeat fathers don't provide a good example of good masculinity and boys resort to the most obvious "masculine" role-models in media, who also usually happen to be the embodiment of toxic masculinity. There are plenty of mentally absent fathers who are physically there but can't be bothered to actually parent. This can be even worse because it can cause massive insecurities in the children, and if they're a boy, they will again, resort to obvious masculine figures in media an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:43 PM
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This highlights how men care more about male opinion than women's. Hundreds of women and a dozen of men weigh about the same for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:47 PM
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I love hearing stories here of women dumping their abusive boyfriends. Your ex sounds like an insecure guy who needs constant validation that he's "the best". Between this experience and boundary-setting therapy you're gonna be more prepared when you encounter another abusive guy like this, but most importantly, you'll be more relaxed and confident!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:31 AM
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They don't even need a friend. It's not that hard to set a timer in the camera, they could just pick a nice outfit, choose a nice background, brush or style their hair, groom their facial hair and boom, done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:18 AM
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Was that only pills or other contraceptives with hormones too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:37 AM
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When so much depravity and abuse is normalized in sex work and prostitution that being a bit nice and not fucking her every time seems wholesome in comparison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:52 AM
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Libfems often argue that the way to rid society of the Madonna/whore complex is for women to do more sexual things. As you said, we've gone from encouraging all women to be more like Madonnas to encouraging all women to be more like wh*res. There is nothing women can do about the Madonna/whore complex. It's men, men have to change their attitudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:37 AM
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You're welcome! I'm just glad that I can do the original story and Shaw some justice. Very happy that you made this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:07 AM
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Actually George Bernard Shaw, the original writer of My Fair Lady as a play (Pygmalion) was adamantly against Eliza going back to the male lead and was horrified that in both the movies and in representations of his play the ending was changed. He reportedly said to a theatre director who changed the ending: "Your ending is damnable; you ought to be shot.” In a postcript (he wrote several endings trying to convince public opinion that the male lead and Eliza should NEVER marry) she opens a flowe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:46 AM
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Good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:13 AM
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Many men use red pill behaviors without knowing or labelling it as "red pill". The majority of advice on the internet about how to be masculine, sexy as a man, an alpha... etc. are influenced by the red pill. Top results when I search "how to be masculine" on Youtube has a lot of style advice, posture, going to the gym (which, fair) but then the rest are about being an "alpha". There is one creepy Voldemort looking guy with multiple results, most of them have around 500k views. This guy recommen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:12 AM
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Interesting points (taken from the conclusion): Traditional factors that once explained sexual difficulties in men appear insufficient to account for the sharp rise in sexual dysfunctions and low sexual desire in men under 40. While non-organic sexual dysfunctions have been presumed psychological in origin, and therefore the province of mental health experts, the unexplained sexual dysfunctions now rising sharply in young men (ED, difficulty orgasming, low sexual desire) are, to the extent they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 10:58 PM
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Reddit often demonstrates how abusing children is crossing the line but women are fair game apparently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 10:07 PM
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he also always complained if I didn't seem excited enough when he got home Omg I had a guy in mind when I talked about men who hated cats and he did this too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:01 PM
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"Not all men" until it gets to "men built civilization", "men invented everything" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:53 PM
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I get what you're saying, I thought the same as you a few years ago. But, it doesn't need to get to literal murder or punching for it to become problematic. I include this dynamic when it's people in a relationship or people who do know each other. Being given orders, especially if it's about doing things for the one giving orders, is degrading. Because if they're both supposed to be equals, why would a person obey? You wouldn't just pick up what another person dropped because you were told to. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:45 PM
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You are still allowed to pick your own partners no matter what the dynamic is supposed to be Yes and no? Yes women should choose their own partners. And no, we're telling them, for their own physical and psychological wellbeing, that getting into BDSM, especially as the submissive, is not recommended. It's not about controlling women's choices, it's about counteracting an internet and media culture that constantly shoves it down your throat as something innocuous and fun, ignoring that it is ver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:22 PM
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This is excellent research. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:11 PM
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It's all laughs until a man does murder or attempt to murder one of them and they're not believed or the perpetrator argues that she wanted it too. Young women need to be reminded more often about how sobering it is that men do, in fact, choke women until they die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:04 PM
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Men who hate cats aren't thinking about maintenance. From what I've seen, it comes down to two factors: 1) The cat doesn't have automatic adoration for them like dogs usually do and 2) Cats won't obey them even if they try to make themselves the alpha, while dogs do seem to have that kind of social hierarchy. It's fine if they like both cats and dogs but prefer dogs, but men who specifically hate cats and love dogs have this kind of thinking. They will want a girlfriend to have automatic adorati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:32 AM
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I would recommend reading erotica, researching erotic scenes from normal scenes, recalling a sexual experience that you liked, basically anything that is not just porn. At the start it's not going to cut it, but if you do any of these things for 10 minutes and use the rest for porn, or alternatively switching back and forth, eventually your brain starts associating the other stimuli with feeling good. With time you won't need porn. Focus on the feeling rather than what you're seeing. If one of y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:45 PM
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They're incredibly insecure. Subconsciously or even consciously they assess where they are in their imagined hierarchy many times. They want to keep women beneath them because they already feel like they're at the brink of being an underdog. It's very difficult to find a man who is so secure in himself that he doesn't care about how he looks to his bros or how he looks to other men in general, even if he doesn't know them. Calling men who are nice to women or who defend them simps or white knigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:58 PM
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"Tell me you watch porn without telling me you watch porn"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:39 PM
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"You really like it that much?" It's such a perfect response. Really puts things in perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:38 PM
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I would tell myself that he's just a wolf in sheep clothing. Why was he not as nice all the times he made you cry and treated you badly? If he cared he would feel so disgusted and ashamed about how he treated you that he wouldn't dare circumvent all the ways you've blocked him lest he makes you uncomfortable. Ask with your school to explain this is a special case and that you want him blocked. If you really don't want to talk to him, maybe the school can send him an email saying that the user bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:03 AM
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I wonder if one day you, her or everyone who knows about this group of shits can gather evidence and report them? Personally I wouldn't ask her out right after breaking up with your ex. Not only because you need time to process everything, but also because she might be the one to think you're a player now. In any case this is goals for female friendship (and maybe more) and solidarity. Your date just proves that women are more of a gentleman than the average man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:55 AM
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They really do talk about it in other subreddits as if it was so sweet of them sometimes. Like there are so many naked women on the internet but they say getting nudes from the women they talk to is "different" and more special. Women may read that think "aw I'm special and he has some feelings for me". Nope, he's just so used to porn that he has a constant hunger for new, naked bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:18 AM
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Even the Department of Justice got bullied (or hijacked?) by the "wOmEn Do It As MuCh As MeN" crowd. The ones supposed to stand firm, everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:51 AM
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Men and not asking questions. A classic combo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:46 AM
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Don't the numbers on slide 2 and 3 sum to 7068? Or are those the downloaded ones without adding the times people listened without actually downloading the file?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:43 AM
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Oh it's all his current wife's fault. Of course, he only acted like that because of her 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:38 AM
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A lot of the times they're not that empathetic, but were taught that if they don't put others' onerous needs before theirs they're a selfish, horrible person. It's more out of forced guilt than true altruism. Women are put in positions where they are the ones who need help or consolation, yet they they are the ones expected to give by the people taking advantage of them unless they want to be considered evil. It's a particularly insidious gaslighting where women feel like shit after helping and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:32 AM
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This is so true. FDS helped me to finally do a slow fade on a toxic "friend". Cutting contact overnight would probably cause retaliation because she's a narc (especially since we have shared friends), so in cases like mine, it's better to slowly fade and become boring to talk with. It's better to make them believe the friendship ended because we "somehow" grew apart rather than by a conscious effort to not engage with them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:15 AM
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They would rather women bleed to death, scared out of their minds because they don't know what's happening, than to let them be free. I've reached new levels of disgust. I don't know what American citizens can do against this but I really feel for women in those states.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:43 AM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:01 AM
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This is the kind of response I've seen too from HVM. I was so used to the "not all men" that I had to do a double take when they agreed with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:00 AM
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Am I the only one who thinks this is actually really rude to the boyfriends? For the ones that seem slow or infantile, am I supposed to think that's cute? It just seems that the girlfriends are making fun of them like "look at my dumb little child, no one will want him even if he wanted to cheat". Does society infantilize men so much that this trend is seen as cute and not insulting? Genuinely asking about people's reactions on Tik Tok. Like I wouldn't want to date a man that spends a fortune on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:49 PM
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If it's an honest mistake that they just assumed I didn't know because it's a pretty niche topic I'm more friendly and say "Yes I know! I became interested in this topic when I... do you also like this aspect of it?". If the man consistently assumes I'm stupid or ignorant I repeatedly say "Yes, I already knew" or "Yes, I'm aware". When they're being extra arrogant and mansplainerish I say things like "No, if you knew as much of this topic as you say you do, you'd know this and that". If it escal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:32 PM
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At no point growing up did a male friend of theirs say "you're being pretty weird bro"? No, they did not. I like men with some muscle, I really do, but I don't go to every sport selecting men to masturbate to and leaving comments only about how sexy I find them. As someone who has played several sports, it's both rewarding and challenging to work hard to improve your skills. I can't imagine leaving a thirsty comment on a male sport video like that. It essentially says "yeah yeah you play some sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:17 PM
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I'm so glad she has the option to be living with you instead of with her father's messed up family. You're a blessing to her. I hope you get full custody or that she turns 18 soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:15 PM
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Yes I meant the ones who don't promote sex work. Should be common sense that if we don't support the porn industry and prostitution as empowering, you're not allowed here, woman or not. It's annoying how choice feminism has really warped supporting women to mean "support a woman because she's a woman choosing something, regardless of whether it goes completely against feminism". I didn't know they even tried to share their promo code here. They're like MLM representatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:24 PM
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My suspicions: Men think more sex regardless of quality counts as having a "good sex life". After all a lot seem to like quickies and what I call "masturbatory sex", where there is no effort, but at least he orgasmed. While 50% of men in relationships said their sex life had improved during the pandemic, only 29% of women could say the same 45% of men said they were having sex more frequently compared to 29% of women This last statistic 😂. When sex is so bad that women can't even call it sex. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:17 PM
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But that's the opposite of what we say here? I've been here several months and on the contrary, we are against sex work (not sex workers) because they are the ones who have to deal with violent sexual behavior from men. I've seen former sex workers here, they're not excluded from this subreddit. We repeatedly say here that the argument of "prostitution is actually good because it decreases sex crime in society" is nonsense because it sacrifices prostitutes and sex workers for the worst kind of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:03 PM
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The sexist ones will see this graph and say "feminism has gone too far" or that feminism is dooming civilization 😂 This looks about right for a society where you're supposed to prepare for your professional career and start building it in your late teens and early twenties. People have more options and possibilities than never leaving their village in their life and start having babies to tend to the farm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:50 PM
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That's a truly thoughtful gift. Love the wholesomeness. Edit: And he made the case as well?? 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:44 PM
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What has worked for me is literally saying "I'm not listening to you or answering this unless you stop speaking to me like that" and ignore them until they calm down. The first time they might rage or argue that you're just saying that to "win" or to avoid the topic, but be persistent, it's worth it. After a while they do learn to not speak to you that way if they want you to listen to them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:38 PM
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Aside from generally showing he cares about you, I think it's crucial to build up sexual tension. Verbally teasing you during the day, the typical push and pull but without making it feel as if he's just playing with you without going anywhere. A few apparently innocent or accidental touches, and not just focusing on your chest, bottom or private area. In my experience that often feels as a "oh he's looking for sex", while if he lightly touches your arm or other non-sexual areas, it feels more l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:26 PM
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His texts and what you wrote in the moving banner are so disconnected. How can he say that he saw you as a friend when he sent you and did all of that?? "Made me feel like a predator". He's the type that knows deep down, but he's not responsible enough to admit it. Instead he uses this strategy to make the other person feel bad, so that if they say "maybe I was too harsh, you're not really a predator", he can immediately go back to thinking there is nothing wrong with him. The funniest part is h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:31 PM
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Seems like the best favor we can do to men sometimes is breaking up with them really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 04:13 AM
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Normally I want to give male lurkers who say FDS helped them a vote of confidence and it does give me hope to see instances of this. But 6 months sound like way too little time to radically change, he seems to be on the good path though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 04:12 AM
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It's some bullshit that if you're under 25 (maybe 24?) doctors flat out refuse to give you a pap smear. All the more reason to date later in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 04:00 AM
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Others have already said how fear of retaliation makes you speak up less and less... But a lot of women don't even get the ability to speak up because it's robbed from them at an early age. They simply get used to everyone, especially men, not being considerate of them. I really noticed this after puberty, in me and in people around me. If you called out selfish, abusive, or rude behavior every single time you received it, you literally wouldn't be able to live. The mental toll of not only ackno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:51 AM
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But... the 4 year old can really do a better job than him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:35 AM
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They're gonna get more mad anyway at being ignored than at losing in a debate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:26 AM
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It's almost like they are disgusted with themselves but project it onto women who would still not be as promiscuous as them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:36 AM
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It's even funnier because a lot of PUAs do scam their fan base and they're infamous for doing so. They hype themselves up a lot by essentially lying and misguiding to convince their fans to pay for their courses, but these courses show the most basic of basic social skills or give useless advice but they cost like $200.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:57 AM
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Let's popularize the hashtag: #RefuseToClick It's been around 2 years since I last entered a porn website, and I'm not entering one ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:21 AM
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"I don't mean to reduce a woman to an object" After he just reduced a woman to an object and says it's the perfect analogy Seriously though. I lose all respect for men who are so worried about impressing other men. If it was just being insecure I would feel sorry for them, but it's the throwing others under the bus or using them that I despise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:59 PM
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If I shut down emotionally it is "triggering" for men's anger, but if I bring up my emotions, I have to do it how he wants it, or it's "triggering" for the men's anger. I think that the #1 thing you should look for in men (boyfriends or friends) is that you can be completely honest with them. I don't mean that you look for men, but that you look out for this in the men that happen to be around you. Once you know them enough to know that they would not get violent or abusive when confronted with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:13 PM
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Level up bro is not the correct flare for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:49 AM
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They miss the point that one of the goals of this subreddit is to reaffirm ourselves in our opinions and standards, to become more assertive. They just want to make us second-guess ourselves against our best interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:30 PM
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Why are they acting as if being friends with the woman you like is a sacrifice? (Hint: They don't actually like her as a person). This is a problem that they themselves cause on their own, by thinking they have a chance based on no evidence, but it's women's fault? 😂 Compared to that, by engaging in casual sex women risk pregnancies, have a higher chance of contracting STDs, most likely they will not orgasm, sex will be disappointing, and to top it all the man will treat them disrespectfully. No…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:22 PM
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"HeR bOoBs ArE gIgAnTiC bEcUsE oF aRtStYle!!" I hear you. I have never been involved in the "anime community", never went to forums or anime cons because of male fans like you say. I don't understand how women who watch anime don't see the same things you see. My theory is that they must have been convinced by other male fans that "iT's NoT lIKe tHaT", because it is THAT obvious. I personally can't stand the excessively cutesy and dumb female characters. I can't even call it paedo (although that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:29 PM
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Ask the dorm managers if you could install locks from the inside so that you can sleep in peace. There are some small cameras that you could leave recording every time you leave the room. If you want to check for secret cameras (those tiny ones), watch this video . Make very clear that no one is allowed inside your room, so 1) They can't jokingly make any excuse if you catch them and 2) If other roommates see someone entering your room, they'll know that something is up. Never give men unsupervi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:01 PM
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I think you've done everything that you could then. She's hell-bent on her path and only she can change that. No matter how much you keep insisting, she won't listen. Be there for her for when they eventually hurt her, but keep your stance. Remind her every now and then, but this is something that will either take time to internalize and understand, or until she gets hurt again. Aside from showing her by example, which is just you following FDS for your own benefit, and directing her to this sub…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:12 PM
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You're not being unreasonable at all. I think you should direct her more towards questioning her standards or why she thinks a certain way than you flat out telling her that her boyfriend is trash. She's getting defensive with that approach (you not following your own advice). Every time she is so enthusiastic about a new guy ask her for example why she thinks he doesn't reply to texts or takes a long time. If she says that he's busy or not much into texting, ask her if she wouldn't bother respo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:11 PM
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I'm definitely going to read Bend Sinister after your analysis. I really liked 1984 and Brave New World so this would be right in my alley. In Brave New World the ruling elite also encourages casual sex to distract the masses. It's common for people to go together to cinemas to watch porn movies, have orgies and little kids "fooling around" sexually is also seen as normal and is encouraged. People there are sex and drug addicts. I never saw 1984 from that point of view but you are right and I re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:50 PM
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I just want to highlight a few things he said: "I knew this man for eight years, and he fucking did it. There are monsters amongst us that look like us" "Were there signs in my friend's behaviour over the years towards women? The answer is yes, and then he raped my friend" A common argument is that "normal people" don't rape and murder and that nothing can be done to stop those men. But a lot of the times it can be people who seem normal, they don't have psychopath and future rapists written on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:54 PM
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We love to see bros level up. To those willing to learn and be better people, keep up the good work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:06 PM
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You have good taste
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:02 PM
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Depends on the anime. If they are not critical of the paedophilia tendencies in anime, and don't mind or never noticed the the extremely stereotypical and servile portrarayals of women in most anime, then yes they are LVM. If they watch some of the better anime and are aware of those flaws, I wouldn't flag them as LVMs because of that alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:09 PM
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He sounds exhausting lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:36 AM
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Oh Lord not this. I saw it yesterday on The Guardian and there were so many men WHO DO NOT UNDERSTAND RESEARCH METHODS FOR STATISTICS but who kept insisting that the study is shit. Before FDS I doubted myself and my own beliefs when men were so sure and insistent that their opinion was a fact and that I was wrong. After FDS I have a lot more of healthy scepticism and confidence to not assume that they know more than me and are more logical. It's not as if I believed that men were naturally smart…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:46 PM
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It is plausible that there can be bad apples in FDS, but not in this way. No one here would say they were going to kill their neighbour because he didn't have sex with them. That's exactly the kind of behaviour we complain about from men, it is never something that would be celebrated here and the mods would delete that shit immediately. They are trying so hard to portray FDS as a female incel sub, and failing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:58 AM
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Boys in mine would disrespect girls all the time, they would pull their bra straps, rate them, slut-shamed them just for kissing a boy or for clothes, and harass them until the girls lashed out. They enjoyed making them angry. Not all the boys were like that, but there were only two you could count on, the others started doing similar shit when the main bullies were finally expelled. If a girl happened to be better than one of the bullies, particularly at a sport, or not act servile or giggling …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:03 AM
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Wow they are being disgusting to her. I don't know why she misconstrued FDS like she did but I feel sorry for her, and that was just on Facebook! "Caricature" though 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:26 PM
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Your last paragraph speaks to me. I used to not want to ask, even with my exes, because I didn't want to seem like a crybaby. When the men felt pressured (not by my doing) they would mention how traditional/old-fashioned the setup was, or be kinda salty. I live in a good area and seldom venture out at night (just from lifestyle), so I haven't thought of this in a while. Next time I won't have an issue asking. I'm still going to invest in bear spray though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:59 PM
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If it's hate speech about women why would they criticize her? Not trying to question you I'm just curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:26 PM
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And yet we have 'not all men' trending. To think this is the priority right now... 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:54 PM
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People who say that are the ones who ultimately don't value sex workers at all. By that theory, sexual crime supposedly decreases for "normal" women, but sex workers pay the sacrifice for them. The rapes, sexual assaults, violent assaults, trafficking, harassment and murders of sex workers don't count. There is a whole industry who makes millions off showing women get slapped and humiliated on screen but all that counts is that the rest of women (Madonnas) are exposed slightly less to sexual vio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:54 AM
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Cold approach female students on campus This had me rolling 😂. Who does that anymore? It always comes across as creepy, desperate or both. These pickup types spend so much time reading guides on how to appear suave while talking to women this way, but women just think they are weird, their intentions are obvious, and they want him to leave. How can he be so deluded? Even if female students will laugh and seem okay with him, he will make a reputation of being the overly touchy, kinda creepy guy w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:28 AM
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You can't have it both ways This is what they to try make us believe. Yes, you can. It always seems to be opposites like this to benefit men or maybe they just have really poor expectations of them. He can't be handsome AND nice He can't be good in bed AND good outside of it He can't be a normal person AND not watch porn ...etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:17 PM
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Number one priority should be that they develop empathy and learn to listen (not just hear) to others. We should also try to give them good self-esteem, so that they are confident in their moral compass, opinions and self-worth. It helps if they also develop a deep sense of curiosity, so they are always willing to learn new things, and admit when they are wrong when new, contradicting information comes up. If a boy is confident in himself, and he's been taught good values, he is less likely to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:02 PM
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Imo, several reasons. First, once the victim stops resisting, like arguing, defending herself, getting angry, abusers stop having a challenge. As long as she is not defeated, they get blind with rage to overcome her, to shout louder than her, to impose what he wants. Nothing else matters. Once the victim starts crying they are still riled up, so their negativity now that they've reached their objective turns into disgust. It's partly too because some small remnant of their conscience tells them …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:44 AM
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They really think that not making another person orgasm feels as bad as being the person who not only not orgasmed but was uncomfortable as well (we all know how uncomfortable it feels if we're not that turned on or it's been half an hour)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:08 AM
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They are scared of getting accused of rape "after the fact". In their mind, since they supposedly didn't notice anything wrong while they were having sex and she accuses him of rape after and not right then and there during sex, they think it comes out of the blue, it's made up, it's unfair... etc. Yes there can be false accusations, but there also seem to be many more guys who just do whatever during sex and then have a surprised pikachu face when she didn't like it. As per this article: Dr. Ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:49 AM
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men take it as a challenge [deleted]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:40 AM
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Honestly it is probably a woman running the seminar. Women who have an OnlyFans get money from convincing other women to sign up to OnlyFans as "content creators". In that aspect it works similarly to pyramid scheme recruitment. I'd like to add that there is also the argument that OnlyFans is better than doing porn or regular prostitution because they eliminate the middleman or pimps so women are the ones keeping the money from their work... except the company takes 20% of their earnings. In Onl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:40 PM
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I have heard of her before. The amount of men, even proclaimed surgeons, who think adding clitoral anatomy to textbooks is unnecessary because the procedures that affect it are rare (not anymore with the rise of porn-induced complexes about labia resulting in labiaplasty) is astonishing. You have these "medical professionals" telling her that clitoral anatomy is not important without any shame. When she reminds them of loss of sexual sensation, they keep saying it is rare so it's not important. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:46 AM
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This needs to be pinned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 03:25 PM
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All those quirky articles saying how cool and healthy BDSM is... yet the smarter ones come with a full paragraph of disclaimers about how BDSM should be safe and consensual, needs a lot of communication, a whole Ted talk on boundaries... etc. The average young woman or even teenager reads all those disclaimers and thinks she knows what and what not to do, as another commenter says, most of the time she will have an illusion of control. She actually relinquishes control, to be controlled by someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:19 PM
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This "argument" is so flimsy that it should even be considered offensive that it is presented seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:58 PM
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The men who want female submission don't think of it as a favor women do to them, they see it as a woman's place. They will still preach about how sexually empowering female submission, maybe even about how it's such an act of kindness and virtue, or how they totally see it as women doing men a favor just so they will convince more naïve or brainwashed women into it. "It shows respect, it shows deference, it shows love" are the lies they tell women. Pickmes believe what those men say. Normal men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:46 PM
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Sustainable items are usually more expensive. Things that will last for a decade tend to be more expensive too. Even if its not a dinner, non-materialism doesn't necessarily mean cheap. I would consider high value as well if a couple decided to not spend much on themselves but spend it on charity.
/r/askFDS04/03/21 08:43 PM
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lol just watch it, it's not even that bad And this is how some men start becoming desensitized to female pain. Woman is killed by an angry incel/ex/partner? Yeah it's terrible and all that but that's just Tuesday. Woman is raped? Yeah that's bad but false rape allegations are worse. That or they might not be desensitized, but they never want to hear about it because it's too horrible. They end up not knowing anything about how much violence women endure globally, the nuances involved in it, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:11 PM
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In this scenario the only reason why she suggests starting over with a smile is because she feels guilty about saying this because it will make him feel bad, it's not enough reason to break up... etc. The first time is enough of a reason to break up. You are the one harmed but still worry about how bad he feels? Or worse, run away from any man who starts to cry and say how bad he feels when you tell him how he hurt you like this. He shouldn't putting you in a position of consoling him when you'r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:29 PM
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This is tricky. Because if they need to be told in the first place they're not HVM, they should not like those things in the first place. But then if you don't say anything you would find out by experiencing it. There was a great post in this sub once about how you can have a better idea of how sex will be with a man from how he treats kissing, how affectionate he is without turning sexual, how he hugs you, how he treats making out when it doesn't lead to sex... etc. Maybe those could be more he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:23 PM
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"B-but what if she actually consented and likes it? It is unfair that a man can go to jail when he would be innocent in that situation" You are not innocent, if you were kind enough you would feel uncomfortable harming someone so much, and would be too scared of accidentally killing her to even try. Nevermind that it's more likely that you're lying or are so delusional and self-centered that you knew or didn't realize that she didn't like being strangled, as obvious as it is for anyone with an o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:09 PM
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it was so important to him to perform a sex act a lot of guys are squeamish about. I understand what you say, I've fallen for that before too. But most women love it, so there was no need to ask, especially that early on, knowing there is a high chance you'd like it anyway. I am willing to bet it was just an excuse to get a picture and that he's not even that good at it.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 11:02 AM
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It was already looking bad but the moment he asked about your pussy it was bleak. He is 100% a LVM and definitely not looking for a relationship despite all his supposed Christian morals. Don't answer sexual questions from men unless you two have progressed into an exclusive relationship/about to. Yes sex is important but when you're looking for a relationship it's not the first, the second or the third thing you want to know about. Yes, it's a red flag. It doesn't matter how much he says that h…
/r/askFDS22/02/21 10:13 PM
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If these women were being treated properly and had respect for their husbands their libido would still be there. For real. The way they are talking about them, they sound as if they see their husbands as an annoying and needy child who will whine if she doesn't give him what he wants. There is no better libido-killer than dreading having sex with your partner because they will become pouting and teary if you don't. Imo this is more insidious than a man getting angry because you say no to sex, be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:14 PM
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It's the feeling guilty part that gets me. Maybe if there weren't so many angry men online complaining about women "withdrawing sex" or supposedly punishing them by not having sex, we wouldn't have so many women brainwashed. How could we forget the ones who say they NEED sex, even comparing it to the need for food and water. Every time a man says that, they should be celibate for 5 years. He doesn't die? No terminal illness? Oh who would have thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:06 PM
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But are modern manifestations of the genre still a socio-political response to Japan? Why do they always think that disturbingly violent or disgusting stories made by sexual deviants are actually complaining about socio-economic or political circumstances? Can they never admit that some guys are just sick in the head? Why is every sexual psychopath a closeted political genius? 😂 Trying to normalize sick fetishes is not bravely going against the socio-economic/political zeitgeist, it's for their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:40 PM
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To be honest I find Frozen boring, but it has nothing to do with not liking an independent women. I hope he watched it with her after making the joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:27 PM
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Now I understand that more civilized men are justifiably annoyed that people's default attitude towards men is that they only want sex, or only want sex. However they always make it seem as if it is "society" without seeing the origin of the problem. You cannot agree that men hooking-up with a different girl every week is okay as long as they're honest, friends with benefits with someone that they don't really like is okay as long as they're honest and then complain when people think that men wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:01 PM
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supposedly showered in nice compliments every day According to men in those subs I have strangers constantly offer to open doors wherever I go, they lay their jackets on top of a puddle so I don't stain my shoes, they shower me in compliments and give me money for existing, I have a line of eligible suitors with flowers outside my window every day. I just have to smile and there will be a man paying my debt and giving me a job/promotions. Women don't feel pressure to be financially successful, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:01 PM
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That kind of titles are so subtly manipulative. They are wording it as if it was shameful for us to initiate and take charge, and women generally really wanted to but held back. When actually most women have never thought like this because men came to them. It makes impressionable women think "oh maybe I should really do it!" thinking it's something radical and new to try, when they didn't even think about who initiates first because they never needed to. Is it just me or this "take charge" make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:43 PM
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I only shave my legs in the summer and even then not religiously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:32 PM
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I felt this post in my soul. I used to think that they were just boring or not good at texting/communicating, now I see that they simply had no interest. Men will ask you some questions at the beginning, after that, few will want to genuinely get to know you even if they say they want a relationship or that they like you. They have no curiosity about your thought process, why you are the way you are, your opinion on things... etc. I see this especially with teenage girls. They spend hours agoniz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:21 PM
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I'd be wary of very religious people from Abrahamic religions. If they turn to a book that's 2,000 years old and don't change or adapt anything so it is compatible with modern thought, you can expect them to be quite bigoted. As another commenter said, you need to find out what his actual expectations of you are under his religion and once married to him. Does he expect you to take care of most of the housechores and childcare? To quit your job if you have children? To live with his family and d…
/r/askFDS18/02/21 03:36 PM
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No, it only matters that they are willing to listen, aren't selfish and do their own research. Virgin or not. Same as the other commenter, vetting isn't different That's your choice. Personally I wouldn't, if I'm promising to spend a lifetime with him I'd like to know what I'm getting myself into.
/r/askFDS17/02/21 04:25 PM
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The brainwashing worked with this one, unfortunately. Imagine if it was the other way around: "But John, you should communicate with her. Different people have different standards for their relationships, if you don't like her ogling men in the street and following 100 swimsuit male models on Instagram and leaving fire and heart emojis in their comments you should have told her. It's not as if she can read your mind! She is still with you right? Then what are you so worried about? Women are hone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:19 PM
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What happened to you is unfair and infuriating, always remember that your ex and the police in this case are 100% at fault. I'm sorry this happened to you. The normalization of violent kinks is the last straw. Even when victims have skull fractures the rapists' and murderers' defense lawyers try to pass it up as a sex game gone wrong. I have seen several articles of kink "practitioners" (who coincidentally always have a book they just wrote, a BDSM shop or other kind of practice) say how unfortu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:56 PM
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It tells us that they can't be rehabilitated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:30 PM
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I completely agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:39 PM
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Then it is definitely unjust. If a woman is attacked and she has a weapon available, maybe it is even more likely she will kill the attacker than a man, out of necessity. If a man keeps in mind that using a weapon might get him a prison sentence, he might try to risk not killing the attacker because he can grapple with him again (if they are of similar weight and strength) and survive or beat him enough that he has a window of time to escape. If I, weighing around 115 lbs, am attacked and during…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:29 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:58 AM
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"People say sex is just sex and that you don't owe anyone an explanation". Peak gaslighting, who the hell says this?? Sex is not a handshake, you're putting yourself in a very vulnerable position, especially if you're a woman. If there is no emotional investment at all (which I'd identify as a red flag anyway), the other person should be at least considerate of the vulnerability, or would you give a stranger a gun and tell them to play with it while you're still in the room? Do they expect women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:12 AM
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You hit the nail in the head 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:07 AM
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"I don't need my girlfriend initiating sex, giving me blowjobs or saying how hot she finds me to know she is sexually attracted to me. I already know she is because she doesn't look at other men like that. It's the insecure men who need those things to boost their low self-esteem"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:03 AM
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To the point of making me stay awake till 6am to find him links to watch Wtf did I just read... I'm glad you're here, you deserve so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:17 AM
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We all know someone like this don't we 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:08 AM
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This is why it's especially stupid when men tell women to "just carry a gun then" when women complain about fearing being assaulted. "Just call the police", "why didn't you call the police when he was being abusive?". So many women call the police multiple times, and the police doesn't help them. They give the man a "warning" and then they leave. In my country (Western Europe) a woman was killed by her ex even though she had gone to the police 12 times. Women get abused, psychologically and phys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:59 AM
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I just don't think I'll ever view men as human beings with actual emotions anymore. Yes, they are and they do. I'd only say this of psychopaths, pornsick or lazy men still have their struggles and emotions, they are just not good for us or compatible. But FDS should be better than to cross this kind of line. We let the ones we don't like go and in the meantime we focus on ourselves, simple as that. Human history has been progressing towards valuing human rights and realizing the importance of em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:25 PM
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I always do this. It's more effective for making them help with tidying up than glaring at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:31 PM
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Libfems: Racism and sexism is wrong! Sexual assault and abuse are wrong! We need body positivity for women! Porn: Has constant racism, sexism, rape, violence, actresses getting multiple plastic surgeries and cosmetic procedures, or there's a constant rotation of very young women Libfems: This is fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:54 PM
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Is there an effective way to push back against the normalization of dangerous fetishes and pornography? The only way is to have a counterculture. Pornsick LVMs have no qualms about talking about their fetishes, pornography and sexual tastes everywhere, and they try to get everyone on board with them. They are constantly putting this message out in the press, movies, series, social media, even somewhat professional articles. They are a never-ending machine. It is not a coincidence that we have su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:50 PM
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Instead of shaming people's fetishes, we should be teaching them to share their interest in a way that doesn't harm others But what if your fetish is literally about hraming others, tho? This is a textbook example of Doublethink from the great novel 1984. As per the Wikipedia article: the subject is expected to simultaneously accept two mutually contradictory beliefs as correct, often in contravention to one's own memories or sense of reality Any person with common sense and a normal level of em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:39 PM
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I'd go comment under every tweet a Chinese ambassador or politician who is supposed to face to an international audience makes. You mention how China is a disgrace for allowing paedos to openly roam the internet with zero consequences. Use hashtags strategically. Go to every company or state sponsored media social media accounts and start commenting this. Go to rival international media (for example the BBC which was recently banned in China?) and comment this news. If this website is supported …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:08 AM
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I'm glad to hear all of that. To be fair your parents' are very reasonable to be concerned about fuckboys. Plus if your parents believe you can be a doctor, I'm sure you can do it!
/r/askFDS11/02/21 09:28 PM
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Since you can't choose right now for yourself, I'd start talking to your parents so you can pave the way for them to have the same standards as you, and get them on board with expecting a man to cook, clean, be affectionate and do childcare without needing to tell him constantly and without expecting a reward afterwards. If your parents have bad standards or their priority is to get you married even if the man is not adequate, they are going to consistently suggest LVMs for you to marry, you wan…
/r/askFDS11/02/21 07:25 PM
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This guy is trash for suggesting friends with benefits after you told him about your sexual trauma, it doesn't matter how much he cried. So because you were abused you're not relationship material anymore? He probably thinks that women that experienced sexual trauma are unstable, or he doesn't want to be extra careful around sex long-term with you because of your trauma. He supposedly has enough empathy for you to cry but then he decides that he can only be with you if it's about sex. If he had …
/r/askFDS11/02/21 05:03 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:02 AM
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Best comment right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:01 AM
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This is why my "nice guy" friend made me so horny when he put his arm around my shoulders... Just kidding, the first reaction was thinking "what the fuck?" and the second, to recoil. We all know when an apparently innocent touch doesn't feel right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:00 AM
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I do think that some commenters here should hold back sometimes in how they express their dislike for certain appearances. Personally I don't like to comment on things people can't change, and I hope no one here stoops to the level of analyzing a person's appearance the way incels do. That being said, some of the heat comes from women speaking in more detail about what they like, that men simply aren't used to. For men it's something like being thin, having a medium build, being muscular, being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:43 AM
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This guy is too fucking funny 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:04 PM
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The way I see self-confidence about our appearance, which I think you share too, is that we are not on a scale of 1 to 10. It is a "do I like myself? Even if I'm aware that I have flaws, do I feel I like myself?". It is more of a yes or no question, not a rating. This way of thinking is also helpful to not compare yourself to others, because what is considered a 10 changes so much depending on what trends we have. Nowadays it's big lips, in the 1920s it was thin lips. It only matters that you li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:55 PM
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Personally I think teenagers have no business dating. Once she is in her early 20s she will be more mature, still naïve in some areas, but she will definitely have more awareness and self-confidence than at 17. People say that if you don't want to be naïve in your early 20s about dating, the solution is to date while you're still underage or 18/19. What they're really saying is "go through horrible or underwhelming dating experiences in your teenage years so you will be horrified enough to not t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:47 PM
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He also pees in bottles and leaves them all over his room until my mum empties them for him Okay I think I have seen everything now. What the fuck!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:25 PM
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I'm not the same commenter that you were responding to, but I was attracted to age gap relationships although I thankfully never went through with one. I'll tell you some of my perspectives and what I observed in the age gap community. A lot of the times those girls don't fit in with their peers, if they're more nerdy, they become attracted to older scholarly type kind of guys because they seem more interesting and intelligent than boys her age, who play Fortnite and throw a fit when their footb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:13 PM
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Handsome men can do bad things too. Just look at Armie Hammer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:52 AM
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If women are legbeards... what are they?? They literally have a lot more hair in general than women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:19 AM
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Here I thought that we were a small subreddit (compared to others that have a million subscribers) but we have already made it to Qanon! This is so bizarre but hilarious at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:05 AM
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You sound very well informed. Do you have some favourite resources that talk about this? I tried to look into this the other day but most of what first appeared were studies saying how "liberating" and totally not pathological BDSM is how there's such a stigma apparently around BDSM. Bitch where? The ones who are against it are a minority, the rest actively encourage it or are like "oh just different tastes" as if it was between strawberry and chocolate flavour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:13 PM
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And, no, watching porn isn't the same for women as it is for men. I want to feel special and desired. You're telling me that seeing titles like "man DESTROYS thot's asshole", and porn actors insultig and degrading the porn actresses is not conductive to a fantasy where you feel safe, desired and valued by a hot man instead of hated and taken advantage of by a man with demon eyes? Who would have thought /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:27 PM
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That's the real reason this piece of shit typed this letter. Someone who goes on a date and assaults someone is not the kind of person to be bashful to the point of being embarrassed by something as silly as his handwriting. Spelling mistakes can be corrected by simply looking up the words in a dictionary. He didn't want the handwriting of his letter to be matched to other pieces handwritten by him. He still didn't confess and he still typed instead of handwrote the letter, his apology is worthl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:19 PM
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It is comical that they always think being rich equals being a HVM 😂 Just from that concern he is clearly not one. The only HVM I know who has talked about "gold-diggers" (we were talking about actual escorts) labelled them as "misguided ladies" and that the Johns knew what they were getting into. At best he thought that men who do shit like this were "stupid" for being swayed by their dick to that extent. At worst they were sleazy, rapey men. Unless this guy is planning on visiting an escort we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:07 AM
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The people who said "trust me" were also the ones who were clearly doing rash or dangerous things lol. Trust is earned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:06 AM
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Splitting his degree? What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:59 AM
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Make him super angry? I don't think this is very FDS, we shouldn't be doing tricks like these. While I agree that you don't know someone until you see them angry, causing that ourselves unnecessarily is a LV trick. If I was a HVM I would think this is manipulative and leave. Personally I don't enjoy being angry, so if someone had made me angry on purpose as a test I'd consider the relationship done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:49 AM
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You definitely are onto something. I've been told by men before on how to communicate to them, how they've hurt me, but in a way that doesn't hurt their feelings. What the hell? People call this constructive criticism but in this type of instances that's bullshit. Yes, he did something. Me saying he did it, without lying or exaggerating, just plainly saying this is what happened, and this is how and when it happened, is not being mean or argumentative. They can't handle the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:03 AM
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He is also wrong. It's not "snapping", most of the time perpetrators have entertained the idea for a while. This is another reason why we should avoid stingy men like the plague, or incels/red-pillers who act as if you're out to get their money. If one day I get divorced, have my own money to live comfortably and my ex was never an asshole to me, I won't ask for alimony. If he was ever an asshole, took advantage of me, or treated me badly towards the end, I would definitely ask for alimony. Men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:10 PM
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Just the fact that she has signed the Giving Pledge (promised to donate half her assets - $17 BILLION) to charity, and has already donated $4.2 billion during the pandemic makes her far more deserving of his wealth. He's using it for more capitalistic enterprises, she's using it for good. They also forget that MacKenzie contributed to the creation of Amazon and worked in it in the early days. It's not as she didn't lift a finger either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:59 PM
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I will never forget this group of Middle Eastern men ignore women in bikinis and miniskirts in a beach but turn and stare at the butt of a woman wearing an abaya and hijab that was passing by. This guy has no idea of what he's talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:54 PM
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That too many of them see us as inferior. That what I thought were just friendly interactions or honest attempts at dating were just ways of trying to put their foot in the door to have sex. One guy who invited me to the cinema had even made a bet with another guy about who would lose their virginity first (as I would later find out), and I was one of the targets. Thankfully my mother, a very FDS lady, thought something was fishy and forbade me from going. That sex with men is more likely to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:17 PM
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Compare this man to idiots in internet comments saying "If I see a really drink girl being dragged by two men that's none of my business. You females are entitled. If you're really equal why do you expect me to go out of my way for a woman when I wouldn't do the same for a man?" I've seen this type of comments too many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:54 PM
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Great idea! But the surveys should be given to their partners, we all know they're gonna think they do as much as her around the house if the male libfems are self-assessing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:46 PM
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"Very little overlap" 😂😂😂 She's missing the point. Yeah prostitution is "work" but it is a job no one should be doing. Being against prostitution because it is violating, degrading and sexually exploitative has nothing to do with "demeaning sex workers". We don't think they're immoral, or "sluts" or worth less than "normal" women. We don't think they're going to hell or that sex is wrong. If anything we are warning against the dehumanization and even physical risks they're experiencing/going to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:33 PM
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I'm so glad FDS helped you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:32 PM
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Lol that's what it's on paper and what all kinksters on the internet keep repeating. That's what 99.9% of male doms say but deep down they're thinking "I'm obviously benefitting more than you here though, but let's hope you don't realize that".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:23 AM
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If I was one of her parents I would want to make this man have one testicle less
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:19 AM
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These fuckboys are getting so boring, honestly. "B-b-but I'm so confused! How could this have happened? I didn't do anything wrong. I have no problem using people for their body the same way I would treat a tissue, and she's suddenly crying. It's her fault for having any expectations of me that I would be a decent person, amirite mate?" They're very dumb, malicious, or both. Dave, you have the depth of a puddle, you're not a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:15 AM
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This is such a great post, this is how I felt for years, the reason why I was so annoyed at the suggestion to "just communicate!" but I couldn't quite put my finger on it. It is very hard to be assertive when for years people gaslighted you, nitpicked you, encouraged you to be a good girl who didn't appear "problematic" even though you knew you were right. My personal mantra every time someone asks me to do something I don't want to do is: "No, they're nothing to me, they're irrelevant to me, it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:05 AM
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She's still coming to terms with the abuse, she doesn't realize the full extent of it yet. In a year you will see her in other comments saying that her partners sexually abused her. One day it will click that BDSM in the bedroom and abuse outside the bedroom do not exist in separate bubbles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:54 AM
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You are not broken. You will get over this, it will be easy since he clearly ain't shit and you know it was 100% his fault. His ex even thanked you. It hurts now, but it will start fading very soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:52 AM
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Maybe John Stuart Mill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:51 AM
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Ask him if he's ever watched porn or looked at women inappropriately instead of averting his eyes. There, he's going to hell 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:50 AM
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There is some good advice but what ruins it for me is pretending to be someone you're not and using gendered slurs like "thots". Using this kind of words as an appropriate descriptor is just cringy to me. There should be more energy into doing HVM for their own satisfaction and improvement of their life and not so much about faking. Helping others would also be a good motivator. Whoever wrote this is probably a teenager/very early teens. I hope he grows and steers in a better direction. He shoul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:33 PM
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Every time I say that teenagers have no business having sex, I get accused of being a religious prude. If it's not that, they say it is gonna happen anyway. It didn't for most of my high school, and it especially didn't for me because my parents warned me that teenage boys mostly just want to fuck. THIS is why teenagers have no business having sex, especially not teenage girls. Oh but mention this and you're "demonizing boys". For these people, if a teenage girl is traumatized and has to go to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:10 AM
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Sometimes they're not even that horny, they just centre their whole idea of self-worth on how much sex they can have and the ambition that gives them the most satisfaction are dishonest conquests. What an empty life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:08 AM
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He sounds so boring. Why is he so stressed about answering texts? Maybe because he doesn't have anything to say aside from "I just want to interact with you when it's about sex". Any man that asks about sex on the second date is LVM. Reddit would say that there is no harm in asking, she can always say no blah blah. No dude, the audacity is insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:54 PM
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In what world is bringing home-cooked food DAILY being "just friends"? It's not even common with friends of the same sex, but you know in what situation is that normal? Housewives preparing meals for their husbands She sounds like the comments have been gaslighting her so much. He can't do anything to make it right except have some introspection, realize he likes his friend, break up with OP to not waste her time, and ask his friend out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:09 PM
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Same. I wanna add that it's not that my hair is bouncy and looks blow-dried naturally, it would look even better if I treated it as high maintenance. But it's not required and i don't really feel it's expected, we're allowed to look less than perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:00 PM
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The Old Testament is pretty useless to modern life. It's full of bigoted ideas. I agree with you on Jesus, not so much with God, why would he condemn women to painful childbirth just because of what Eve did? If we include Lilith in the canon again then it is even worse...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:06 PM
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Then go somewhere else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:38 PM
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Before FDS, if I was in her place, I wouldn't think it was enough of a reason to break up. Not anymore. Thanks to FDS, if that happened to me I'd have a moment of clarity and think "life is too short to have to deal with this shit", and I'd break up. Edit: Yes everyone farts, but if your partner repeatedly asks you to do it somewhere else, every night, because they smell really bad, it's not a big deal to get up and go somewhere else. He is doing this on a schedule. Surely he can feel them comin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:34 PM
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I love that the UK seems to be one of the few countries where radical feminism is not as uncommon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:25 PM
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It's a relatively new phenomenon. Most politicians who end up in a congress/parliament are 50+ years old. They probably wouldn't stumble upon it themselves. It takes time for this technology to become known to the wider public, then for the public to think it's harmful, then to reach the government... etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:24 PM
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A girl's hair requires far more maintenance than a boy's Only if you want to. It's not a requirement for being a girl. I never go beyond washing and brushing, and going to the hairdresser when it gets too long. It still looks nice and I receive compliments for it. People need to start separating being a woman from the huge amount of effort, time and money a woman would have to spend to look like a model in a photoshoot. It's not the "acceptable" or "normal" way to be a woman. Why do we have to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:48 PM
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I thought the same. If he had no way of preventing it, he shouldn't be blaming himself. If he failed to pick her up, refused to go with her somewhere or something like that, I'd understand, but if he had nothing to do with it? The fact that he's going to therapy, and is apparently attentive to her are good signs. If, despite his therapy, he still doesn't have enough self-control and awareness to see that she is the one who was assaulted and must feel worse, then he'd be a LVM. For now he could g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:33 PM
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Having bipolar disorder and being "in a bad place" totally explains why he asked her to bow to him (lol the absolute infantile despotism), and totally explains how he magically snapped out of it once the cops arrived and he got scared of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:04 AM
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"It's okay to not like being abused, it's just not your cup of tea. The issue here is sexual incompatibility. Break up and move on, he will find someone who is into what he likes and so will you" Pretending his "preferences" are as valid as hers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:52 AM
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"Maybe he doesn't know how" 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:45 PM
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The three types of MBTI types that I wouldn't date are also the ones mentioned in this thread. FDS really is god-sent. Also what's with men's aversion to S types? Almost every time a guy mentions is MBTI results, he says he's an N even though just from talking to him it doesn't seem like that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 10:13 PM
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Men will say that it's not the 1950s anymore and they don't expect that, so we're exaggerating. Oh yeah? Then who are usually the ones taking the initiative with planning and doing housechores and childcare? Who has to explain to the other how these things work? Who bothers more to google? Who doesn't "help" unless they're asked? They don't expect it explicitly, but they sure don't take on the role. Props to the fathers who do this, I know several like that, at least as far as I can see, but usu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:46 PM
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They don't get that wanting to marry with someone who has at least your same level of resources or more is not the same of getting with a man only for their money. If a couple wants to buy a house or have children, it is very unlikely that they will be able to do that with only one salary in this day and age. If it's important for the couple that their children are really taken care of and one decides to be a stay-at-home parent, the other better be earning enough (although I don't recommend any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:42 PM
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So he only wants to fuck whether you say yes from the start or you are offended by it at first. But he's "testing" women to see if they are easy. Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:26 AM
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Right when I thought he couldn't get more ridiculous. Yes, men more than a foot taller and who are twice the weight of the women they meet for a date regularly worry about being raped by them and are at risk of being physically overpowered by these women. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:24 AM
85

More proof that the men who complain that "she is legal!! I'm not a paedophile! would go younger if they thought they wouldn't be thrown in jail. It's so disgusting how recent and common this trend is. The other day I argued with a Redditor because he implied that teens that are 15 or older aren't really children. That if a man is ogling them it's not as bad as if he was ogling children under 10. Again, disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:40 PM
3

You're not going to be cancelled. It'd be difficult to regulate something that happens in the private sphere, but more regulation specifically detailing what is punishable by law if someone reports it would be good. Imo anything that causes blood, heavy bruises and/or psychological distress should be illegal. Of course, this is very simplistic right now, but we have to start drawing a line somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:41 AM
4

No... it's not most men Dan. I've seen underwear of several dudes and there were no streaks. I didn't even know this was a thing? What the hell is happening in the U.S.?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:34 AM
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I'm surprised that she speaks about it so honestly, how she doesn't try to appease anyone, and how much strength she must have needed to do this. Her talking about this is going to save some women from abuse. Watch the BDSM fans say that what he did wasn't "true BDSM", that she just got unlucky but that she is "one of the few" and that BDSM is a totally healthy and valid thing to pursue. Bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:57 AM
50

Usually yes, but I've met a few who weren't brought up like that at all, so things like expecting him to pay on the first date doesn't compute in their brains. They have no concept of "being a man" because their parents never taught them, despite benefiting from sexism. Of course, once they learn you do have this expectation they think it's too much work and unfair. They are the ones who think society is already 99% equal, and for them going through pregnancies, periods, being targeted more for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:02 PM
18

Can confirm, it will go away or at least be reduced enough that you can make decisions in your interest. At the time, I didn't conceptualize it as not feeling guilty, I genuinely thought I was a horrible person for simply not wanting to be a puppet and emotional punching bag. Until I decided that if I had to be selfish and a horrible person to not deal with that stuff anymore, so be it. I embraced being a "horrible" person. Months and years later, I realized I wasn't horrible at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:13 PM
21

I kept skipping lines automatically despite wanting to read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:29 PM
504

"He doesn't know he's supposed to" A summary of men for over a decade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:25 PM
231

Sadly when women laugh in situations like this men hear "oh everything's okay then"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:22 PM
152

Another excerpt from the article: Lorenze claimed to Star that at first Hammer was so 'charming,' drawn to the handsome actor fresh off a recent breakup. But things took a turn when Lorenze claimed Hammer 'eased me into darker and darker things... he manipulated me - and I liked him - which is the scary part.' Lorenze categorizes her experience with Hammer as 'traumatic,' saying she's seeing a therapist to sort through what happened. She said: 'Consent is really complex, and saying yes to someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:54 AM
127

I'm very confused by what he's offering. He speaks about it like a professional transaction, when one of these women rejects his mentorship, he gets angry because she not only rejected his job but also his "personhood"? And the way he says the relationship is what matters the most, not what he teaches?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:33 AM
2

Women grow up traumatized by being over sexualized by age 12 and as a result think men's bare minimum is respectful and romantic. For real. The absolute worst disrespect and sexism I've experienced and witnessed was around that age. The kind of behaviour that would get an adult into jail is allowed to roam free in schools because people think boys are too young for any real consequences. I was never more of a radical feminist than back then. Boys (different ones) later became a bit better so by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:13 AM
3

Every time I tell my mother the kind of abuse that young people think is cool and kinky, she asks me why girls nowadays are so naïve. I know it sounds victim-blaming but she's actually baffled at how harmful the collective lowering of standards has been. This is the reason. You find psychologists stating their opinions and not based on research, or conveniently choosing one study with surveys using self-assessment to prove how BDSM is so much cooler and "healthy" than normal sex. The mainstream …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:54 AM
32

"I really don't like this back and forth of the courting process" = I don't like that I have to do any semblance of courting at all and I want to cut to the chase to gauge how soon I can get sex. I'm glad you learnt your lesson OP, the next time you see a similar first message don't even bother responding. Sticking to FDS is hard at the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:01 AM
94

Guy who has probably pressured women into blowjobs gets angry and insults person who says pressuring people for blowjobs is not okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:13 AM
10

What the other commenter said is a good idea. Talk about social media, you could bring up sex and porn by talking about a scandal related to social media and sex, like Armie Hammer's DMs. Your way to be neutral is for your opinion to only be about how surprised you are. "Who would have thought! Everyone's talking about it! I wonder how it got to that point". That way you are not saying you are for or against that kind of behaviour. If he says something about how outraged he is that this "poor ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:59 PM
44

So true! Being vanilla requires imagination and effort, you need to observe what the other likes and think of things they might also enjoy. The kinksters rely on what they see in porn or what seems to be the most popular trend lately in the BDSM community, then they try to replicate it. They also repeat the same phrases and names, kitten this, master that, it is scripted. Has anyone else noticed that they need so much planning to have a "scene"? There is so much talk about specifics, it's as if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:56 AM
31

Even if that was not for children, isn't it bad enough that she glorifies kidnapping adult women? I don't really see the child resemblance because I see many adult women making similar "style" choices. Does she know how many psychos actually do that and rape and murder women? As someone who is into True Crime as a hobby, I don't find this the least funny or kinky. She should imagine the kind of terror victims experience once they realize they're going to die and while they're being raped. Maybe …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:22 AM
34

This is so true. To give an example, when I was in school as a teenager there were several girls who took no shit from predatory creeps. The kind that would get up, scream "YOU'RE A FUCKING CREEP" if they received that kind of attention from older men. To draw attention to him and shame him, instead of saving him face by keeping quiet. Nowadays you would think people would congratulate them on their reaction, but back then it was things like "yeah what he did was wrong but she didn't have to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:09 PM
10

Imagine if a woman confused and convinced those commenters to agree to engage in abusive stuff she wanted. We're taking into account they're in love with her and she's been so perfect until that point. Slowly, she'll destroy their self-esteem and make them feel scummy after they have sex. They can't go to the police because she technically didn't do anything illegal or they don't have any evidence. It's that easy. I don't know if those commenters lack imagination or if they're being maliciously …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:42 PM
48

Interesting that even he says that despite his fetishes, he respected his wife too much to pull her hair or do any of the BDSM shit he wanted. This guy, whose first choice for a dinner guest would be the Marquis de Sade, the worst of the worst in terms of paraphilias and sexual torture, says the he respected his wife too much for that. Next time a man or pickmeisha on Reddit tries to argue with you how harming and doing other depraved acts to their partner is not indicative of how much they love…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:37 PM
17

I only consider men who have had few relationships and nothing casual, but this is yet another reason to avoid the ones who have engaged in casual sex multiple times. Ladies, when a man gives any indication that he's fucked anyone in sight or when the topic comes up, don't express your dislike immediately, because he'll lie so you don't walk away. Pretend you think it's normal and go along so he tells on himself. I did this recently (not even on purpose) and it just kept getting worse and worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:31 AM
31

I know the "accidentally slipped in" case you're talking about. What do we expect from Saudi Arabia really. I don't know what it will take for the government and the clerics to lose power, but for the sake of women in there, it can't come soon enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:28 PM
14

They could appreciate the artist's skills, geez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:59 PM
17

Another one with this look. It's either the couch potato type or those who pretend they wear a suit everywhere and are oh so sophisticated. The latter are also the ones who fall for get-rich-quick scams 😂 I only read the first slide because I'm not gonna lose brain cells for this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:54 PM
101

So angry to see cases where the charges were dropped, he was found not guilty or was only charged for manslaughter which seems to carry a sentence of less than 10 years. Even in cases where other people say he was a violent man or did domestic violence, how can the jury be fooled into thinking it's just a "whoopsie"? You know who does violence? Who does it to a point that they murder someone and allegedly have a "whoopsie" moment? Those who don't care that much about the victim. If someone cared…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:51 PM
2

Oh absolutely. Afterwards you're the sensitive one that makes it difficult for him to please you, according to LVMs. I'm sorry he was a malicious asshat, but he's still a LVM while you're levelling up and waking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:56 PM
4

This called me out so much. I can't believe I didn't see that back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:45 PM
5

Reminder that they don't say "you must do this kink because I say so". They argue and gaslight you into thinking you're being too much of a prude, that most women actually love this, they try to convince you that you're getting as much pleasure off his kink as him, that in a relationship you need to care about what the other partner wants or feels, that cOmMuNiCaTiOn involves reaching compromises, that you're too judgemental, too closed-off... etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:42 PM
3

Amazing. Common sense is slowly taking over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:37 PM
11

"I don't want to disappoint you though" is a classic. They say it when they know they're not making any effort but don't want to be told off. So they use this phrase to make it seem as if they care and it leaves all responsibility on you. It's indifferent to him if you two do what he was supposed to plan, but he uses this phrase so you end up doing most of the work for something that was supposed to be his job or responsibility. You wanted a date (for example), and he seems regretful that he "ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:32 PM
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There was never an angry word?? That's a red flag if I ever saw one. Honesty and standing up for yourself can lead to arguments and disagreements. Being people-pleasing and gaslighting yourself into thinking you're not that angry at him or that it doesn't matter is what makes men think that there was never a problem and you're fine with anything. Coincidentally everything he wanted she also wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:54 PM
3

Someone's angry he doesn't have a mother-girlfriend who likes him unquestionably, immediately, and who never asks anything in return. "How dare she ask what I studied at college! Clearly she's only after my money, I think women who I don't like but with low self-esteem deserve to be used because they asked a few questions and I get triggered! I don't have enough integrity and more important things to do to not use them to increase my ego"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:40 AM
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"I understand he doesn't have to feel the same way I feel, and when I said I love you I didn't expect it in return at all" What's the point of being in a relationship with this man then? I'd understand if she said this of a crush that she knows it's probably unrequited, but with a man you're in a relationship with and having sex? Seriously what are you then? She thinks they're in a relationship and he sees her as some stranger that he has sex with sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:10 PM
3

I had a conversation today with a guy about this. Every time I mentioned men posting nudes or suggestive images of women around them he said that some porn studios make it look as if it is real people but that they're actually porn actresses. I reminded him that some of these pictures were very clearly taken from social media or were blatant creepshots. Child porn? "Surely if it is child porn the police would have already shut it down". This type of thinking isn't out of malice, but out of the c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:55 AM
5

They're easier to find than people think. Maybe in some cultures it's harder than others, but I met two men that don't watch porn without even meaning to. Of course, the ones I met where the conversation got personal enough to talk about this. I have probably met more unknowingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:37 AM
11

That sub is a cesspool. But I was curious so I checked the post. The funniest part was a man pulling the "women do it as much as men" and a woman destroying this guy with peer-reviewed studies and long quotes from each study, addressing every point he made. His answer? "B-but you just pulled garbage studies! T-they must be garbage if they show up when you google the keywords!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:17 PM
6

This poor woman has her priorities so wrong. Being a good girlfriend doesn't mean being a housewife! She's humiliated that her food might not be good and not that she's married to a LVM? What does SHE want? What does he do for her? She needs therapy to stop sacrificing herself at the drop of a hat. I don't mean this in a negative way, I feel so sorry for this woman and I wish a professional would help her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:02 PM
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The seemingly HVM dad wasn't enough to not turn him into a LVM... However this shows that men need to be more involved in their children's lives. Children imitate the parent that is of their same sex more. If dad acts like a LVM, the son will learn how to be an adult man from him, while the girl might be disgusted or unfortunately expect that from men, but she won't think that's something to imitate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:56 PM
9

"But that's the beauty of Margo, that I can do this to her and she won't mind." Honestly it's good news that he decided to be with a sex doll instead of a real human. This sentence alone shows that he'd be a abusive to a person. He sounds self-aware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:44 PM
1

Please just a disclaimer for the lurkers that we don't actually believe this. It's irony to highlight all the myths about women who have sex: that labia become larger the more sex they have or that their vagina becomes looser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:40 PM
3

Cheesy? CHEESY? More like incredibly disrespectful and tacky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:36 PM
8

"It's nAtuRaL, it's NoT hArMfUl because I'm not addicted, it is just to ReLiEvE sexual tension, it doesn't have AnYtHiNg to do with her or our relationship, the porn actresses mean nOtHiNg To mE, men just have a hIgHeR LiBiDo We NEED it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:31 PM
8

What?? Their bodies were the gifts? If that isn't materialistic I don't know what is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:19 PM
19

This is what I did. They don't think "she treats me so well, I should do the same", at worst they think "lol, sucker" and at best they're confused as to why you would treat them so well, but they shrug and continue as usual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:18 PM
10

Tell me again how women play games more, are so cOmPliCatEd and don't say what they're actually thinking? Tell me again how women shouldn't assume that men just want to use them for their body and sleep with them? With guys like these how do men expect us to not assume? This woman was lucky that he revealed his true intentions. They know that if they said it, instead of no Tinder matches, the woman would leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:01 PM
3

Sounds like a "not my problem" situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:43 AM
3

I find it funny that we don't see this type of online challenges of men proving they would tolerate certain things and that they're boyfriend material. Many Tik Toks of women and men telling other women they should always pay 50/50, humour his kinks, go through thick and thin. It's always keeping women in check, to make sure they know what's expected of them. Where are all the Tik Toks of men "proving" they are boyfriend material by answering yes/no on whether he can cook and clean, he understan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:37 AM
6

The men who say they are traditional will also say to your face that they have the last word in all decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:55 AM
6

He knows full well the answer is "yes". Yet he insists she's being unfair, wanting to start a fight, childish... etc. He is the childish one. How utterly manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:43 AM
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We can be as grossed out as we want, but worse than livestock? Recognize LVM for what they are and have nothing to do with them, but let's not use dehumanizing language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:30 AM
6

On a more positive note: I'm proud of the weebs. It's a first step at least. I'm pleasantly surprised that the video is not entirely about ED and their ability to orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:21 AM
2

Wow science fiction turned into reality! Love to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:15 AM
9

Translates to "if they don't complain about what I do, what I do can't be bad". Sometimes they know deep down, they just say this phrase to other people to ward off criticisms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:13 AM
10

I love that the BIL gave it to him straight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:09 AM
12

Everyone knows that the only way to know if a guy isn't worth it is to sleep with him even though you will likely not have an orgasm! /s Nevermind the hurt for being ghosted or mistreated either, all that is important is to throw caution to the wind and go so far for a man who may not even care if you're dead or alive /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:14 AM
11

Yeah it was the TMJ woman. For real, telling someone to stop smiling when they're feeling happy is such an evil thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:15 AM
11

This hits too close to home! I never watched my ex play videogames, but I listened to him talk about his hobbies, which I wasn't interested in, asked him questions about it to show I was engaged... etc. But when it came to him listening to anything that he didn't find that interesting? Watching a movie he didn't like so much? Doing something he didn't particularly enjoy but that I did? He literally acted as if it was unbearable. Constant complaining, looking away, asking to do something else. Bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:19 PM
5

Why is a soul shallow? I don't get that part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:38 PM
42

Men really think that men like this are RARE Oh honey no, there are enough that so many women have shit experiences with these men. They will bash this woman for being stupid, but when FDS says that your socio-economic background or willingness to pay is important, they get angry. They don't see an epidemic of women with low self-esteem and standards as an epidemic, but as a convenient and natural status-quo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:28 PM
85

"It's not for my sake, but for hers" This is similar to how men promise, unprompted, that they would never do anything bad to you. He knows it's for his sake, but is afraid of getting roasted so he tries to shift the narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:22 PM
58

When I was reading the article and it came to AITA posts, I wondered if AITA posts by men are really them being annoyed at their partners for benign things, and thought that the example provided was just an exaggeration What do I see next in this subreddit? An AITA post by a man asking if he's the asshole because he told his girlfriend to smile less in photos. Why do men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:19 PM
5

What program is that? It looks cool Comgrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:22 AM
10

We should start a HVM Hall of Fame thanks to this man. He sounds so sweet and I'm glad he has a family that supports him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:03 AM
13

It speaks volumes of how incapable she thinks he is that she really made a plan for him 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:35 AM
35

I'm convinced that there has been a change because of FDS. I only noticed those changes after FDS acquired more members. There are probably many women who lurk this sub without taking the step to follow or comment because the rest of Reddit hates it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:33 AM
12

This story is wild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:14 AM
8

Honestly it's quite funny It was not his intention but I bet most people laugh when they read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:12 AM
3

Does he listen to himself? I don't know if it is pure audacity or not realizing women can say no to this ridiculous proposition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:05 AM
3

If this was in an advice sub, people would say that it's a bit weird but that it's what he likes and you have to respect people's hobbies and interests. I recall this kind of arguments from wider Reddit sometimes and it's amazing I could stretch this logic so much, too much. His parents did him a favour, but he's too consumed by his dick to notice. God knows what kind of porn there was there too for his parents to suspect it was illegal or child pornography.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:00 AM
1

But men wear their hearts in their sleeves! Men say what they mean instead of playing mind games! Women are so calculating and manipulative!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:45 AM
44

This sounds like a rescue mission. Has anyone sent her a DM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:31 AM
3

Key point here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:54 AM
8

For real, it's so easy to end up like how OP did. If you're surrounded by disrespectful little shits like that, and you follow society's conditioning for women, this is the expected result. The only reason why I didn't was because my mother started warning me about men and boys early on, and even then I slipped up sometimes. At first I was even angry at her because it feels pretty shitty to learn that a joke was not actually meant as a joke but an insult, but it was necessary. I'm glad you don't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:25 AM
21

As women we are always taught to please others, be coddling to those around us at the expense of us. What I think many men don't understand is that we're not taught this by someone explicitly saying "don't complain and smile, what this other person wants is more important than what you want". It manifests as someone getting disproportionately angry when you voice your complaints, or someone telling you how miserable they feel after you told them that you don't like something. Once you soften you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:24 AM
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Even before FDS, when exes or other men told me that I was "very reasonable, logical and you don't go crazy" I initially took it as a compliment, but deep down I knew that there was something amiss. Most weren't bad people, but it's exactly as the author in the article says. When you understand everything you are just setting yourself up to be convenient. Even when I raised issues, I always watched my words so they didn't seem too harsh, I really didn't want to seem like a crazy high-maintenance…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:08 AM
2

This has to be fake or he's bullshitting her so hard. How many times has this worked before?? "Condition" my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:54 AM
5

Same. They only focus on the comments of FDS women who mention a physical flaw because confident, attractive people don't feel the need to be talking about it all the time. And even when FDSers mention they're ugly, it's because it's relevant to their comment, and I've never seen it together with "I don't have any options because I'm ugly". Beauty is irrelevant when it comes to how well a man can treat you. Beautiful women may attract more quantity, but not necessarily more quality. However men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:45 AM
2

Maybe they think beautiful women have a plethora of men offering exaggerated gifts and dates because that's what they do to get their foot in the door. Imo there is a difference between someone whose idea of a date is always a nice dinner, being polite, a little gift once you know each other better... etc. and those who offer generic but expensive dinners and gifts at the start but will soon stop once he thinks he has locked you down. The way he talks about it makes it sound like the latter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:36 AM
2

I had a very similar experience! I'd say there is some attempted manipulation going on but all that emotional intensity is real, he must have a deep void within him. He's not interested in you, he's desperate for someone to fix him or to not feel alone. Don't feel sorry for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:18 AM
6

If you had put this comment in any other subreddit, you would have had responses like: "Yeah I'm sorry you went through that and all but PLEASE don't generalize, don't assume that men are creeps until proven different" And the rest of the comment will be more and more lines about not generalizing men while he completely brushed off your traumas in one line. There is always at least one guy like this in the comments. You're doing well, even if you hadn't gone through any of that, you'd be justifi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:47 AM
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"Sex magic" lmao The women there should really watch out. Believing that type of nonsense is how you end up in the harem of a cult leader.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:14 AM
2

I'm glad that he's been given the death penalty, but the fact that the possibility that these murders were consensual was even considered worries me. Is this something that would have been considered in court anyway or is it the popularization of saying women can consent or even like being raped, tortured or murdered?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:10 AM
22

I stumbled upon a thread once that had several men complaining about how "normal" women didn't want to date them once they learnt they had paid for sex before. These men really said it was so unfair of the women who rejected them. There was some subtle reference to how men were so oppressed and discriminated against because women just didn't understand male libido After all, it was just another job right? At least he paid! He's supporting these women, would it be better to let them starve instea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:38 AM
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Personally, so many boys became worse after puberty because they're trying to fit in and they cave in to peer-pressure. Being mean to others becomes a way to look cool, not watching porn and listening to sexist songs because they're sexist or have no appeal to them means that they're gay, not scoffing or getting angry when a girl wins instead of them is also being a weak b*tch. Now we have the "simp" phenomenon too. Make sure you stay as a strong presence in his life to counteract this kind of i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:25 PM
2

I can see how that can happen. It's also a "if I can get over it or if I experienced the same lady issue and it wasn't that bad what do you have to complain for?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:57 PM
1

I'm sorry but being against abusers is one thing, being against science is another. There can be fantastic doctors out there, most of the ones that make already know it's not about seeing sexy pussies every day by the time they finish their training. I just want to be treated ASAP if I have something that concerns me. If something doesn't seem right I'll seek a second opinion but if not there is no reason to only want female doctors. The most sexist societies have the most separatism. Society al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:54 PM
2

Why is him not paying misogynistic though? I understand it doesn't show much commitment, but how does that become woman-hating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:39 PM
4

Same. If someone took an interest I'd think it's so unusual. My friends and I only usually talk about surface things, for any serious long term problems it's better to have a professional to not be a burden for something they can't really help you with anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:36 PM
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If it was such a fun liberating job they wouldn't mind their sisters or daughters becoming porn actresses. Can you imagine that they'd encourage them the same way they do to become a doctor or a teacher? Of course not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:31 PM
6

One of the arguments they use is that if women were nicer to men and cared about their mental health, men wouldn't take it as romantic interest so often because it would be normal. But... do women expect men to care and ask them about their mental health? Genuinely curious, what experiences do you all here have ladies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:16 PM
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I've literally read men online saying that autism can't exist in women because it is a hypermale trait. That they just say they're autistic to be trendy and that their symptoms are a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:58 PM
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It's as if accounting for how meds affect women was asking to research an extremely rare genetic disease that barely anyone has in the world so it is not worth putting many resources into it. No, we're "just" half of the global population.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:54 PM
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Yes you should care about what your partner wants, but from an individual's perspective, not from the supposed perspective of all members of his gender. Say you know your partner wants a SAHM who will give up her career for him, because after all, men don't care about women's achievements or intelligence right? If you care about this, where does this leave you? Even if you try to reach a compromise it will look something like this: You work part-time for him, and in the end you have less money a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:53 PM
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He tried, and failed. Good for OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:43 PM
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Although he shares some FDS thinking, he is also repeating many things from the manosphere. The best dating advice for women is to not care about what men want in women. Only how to vet for what they want, look out for abusive men, and how to improve their life in everything else not related to romance. Women with less confidence or ambition will read what this guy thinks men want and may try to mold herself into that. Things like "men don't care how intelligent you are" will only do harm to rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:37 PM
4

Wow the "husband" is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:08 PM
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"There is no right or wrong way to do sex" (in the last picture) Ma'am did I just hear that right? This is when you realize how normal it has become for people to accept violent sexual behaviour towards women. Pretty sure that scaring the shit out of someone during sex is not the right way to do sex. "Poor guy, imagine how hurt he'd be if he knew you consider him a sexual abuser. Maybe there is another explanation, that you didn't say you didn't want to be choked" is basically what they're sayin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:28 PM
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Wow the level of disrespect is astonishing. This is the kind of behaviour I'd expect from a sexist high school bully. Divorce this guy ASAP and have no mercy with him. Get child support and alimony too if you can. If my husband spoke to me that way he'd be dead to me. I'm sorry for what you're going through, but looking forward to when you get rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:28 PM
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It's because the ones who are having successful relationships usually tell them to be themselves. Because those men are more charming, respectful or fun. So they try to be themselves and it doesn't work because they're not any of those things. Instead of trying to improve they go for the low-hanging fruit that is manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:13 PM
1

This is the kind of teenager (at least he sounds like one) who thinks he's so edgy. No dude, we've seen guys like you countless times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:09 PM
2

Open doors for men in honour of equality and watch them never open one for you 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:32 AM
5

How could he miss the point of "I feel like I have three children" so much?? Did his personal hangups really blind him that much? A man wanting to be held and nurtured triggers feelings that they are dealing with a boy, not a man. See, wives and girlfriends usually like to hug, help and cuddle their male partners. This bizarre interpretation sounds more like he has insecure attachment and he's asking for attention and validation constantly. If we add that he talks about mothers and sex so much i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:30 AM
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They're also trying to catch the liberal feminist pickmes who keep repeating that the patriarchy harms men as much as women. The only way to fix the wrongs of the patriarchy is to give sex to men without taking into account our needs. Maybe I just live in a liberal city, but very few men have the concept that they have to be masculine and that not being so is shameful. This post reads like one of them and it sounds like bullshit. If you didn't receive enough love as a child it manifests into man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:17 AM
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There were other guests watching, and they did nothing, men included. This is why I always scoff at men in Reddit saying that women need men for protection. I can count on one hand the number of cases I've heard of a man defending a woman from another man. The rest of the time they either watch or are the aggressors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:57 AM
5

This one made me laugh the loudest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:33 AM
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I just feel so sad for her. I hope she sees the light, and, as mgtow love to say, divorces and "financially rapes" him. He is so utterly shameless and so selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:17 AM
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Right? If a big scary man pissed on them they would make a big deal out of it. But because women are supposed to be nice all the time it's okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:28 AM
2

Maybe several tests to assess sexist views and biases to prevent the bad ones from working as a therapist could work too? It seems to boil down to lack of accountability and the failure to recognise that a doctor's sexist views can affect his patients. People seem to think they're just a few bad apples instead of something that should be screened for. I also had a male therapist and he helped me a lot too. Not your first therapist though, what an absolute piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:17 AM
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If Christina really did write this y'all are coming at the guy's appearance for no reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:06 AM
2

This has to be fake or a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:58 AM
10

They usually downvote comments like yours because "he's entitled to his opinion". Lol and you're entitled to thinking it's hypocritical and funny but they don't like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:58 AM
2

I laughed at that too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:45 AM
8

Thank you for making this point. People keep missing the point and it's so annoying. I couldn't care less about the notion that women have to be chaste and feminine. They really get angry because they think you're some kind of 1950s church lady telling them to be pure and ladylike when you say that women shouldn't be the pursuers. Women shouldn't simply because it usually doesn't benefit them. Not because it's immoral or unfeminine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:33 AM
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What an unfortunate coincidence: I just read about a 63 year old Russian professor who killed his 24 year old "girlfriend" and was caught trying to hide her dismembered body. She was a beautiful postgraduate student. I can't believe she wasted her time on someone like that, although he probably manipulated her horribly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 01:41 AM
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Run away from men whose favourite director is Stanley Kubrick, Tarantino or Scorsese too. It's not usually because of the direction, but because they idolize the horrible male characters in their films.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 01:25 AM
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Honestly that man needs to read FDS. He doesn't seem intentionally malicious, so maybe there is some hope for him. There is no way their relationship can be fixed though. All the commenters saying "hopefully she will come back", no, it would be a tragedy if she went back. Let him do his learning alone, she'd just be an unintentional test subject.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 01:15 AM
7

You're such a good artist! These paintings are so expressive and smooth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:40 AM
20

Sounds like he is already an alcoholic then. I'm sorry but you should leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:37 AM
5

Exactly my thoughts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:35 PM
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What's interesting is that men aren't as outraged when this happens. It was all a "lAcK oF cOmMunIcAtIoN" and "no one is at fault", but they become angry when a woman teases or uses a man, insinuating that one day they may be together. And in this instance she's not even using him for sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:29 PM
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Correction: It wouldnt be okay or encouraged for women to be insecure. Any minimally decent man I know is attracted to self-esteem and confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:19 PM
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Hopefully FDS becomes more famous and we can rescue more women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:00 PM
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I'm holding some hope for brain plasticity, but it would take a long time for anything to be "repaired". Doing NNN is not gonna save them at all. The behaviour you had to put up with was so disgusting and evil. I bet some LVMs reading your post might think I'm exaggerating when I label it as evil because it's so normal to like these things for the average man. It shouldn't be normal, it's absolutely dehumanizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:55 PM
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I hope most people would see a man doing this as crazy too. First time they're meeting and proposing? Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:37 PM
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I watched a documentary of this and I thought the men are all lazy? These women provide for the family and take care of their children (although with the help of their female family members) while the men are doing what exactly? I guess that lower blood pressure is because at least they are in control of their life and the men leave them alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:34 PM
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That looks so impressive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:09 AM
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Yes because all the women who got hurt by men expected it 🙄 The LVM's response is working against his sex. If sooo many men leak their ex's nudes, isn't he admitting that a large portion of men have no integrity?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:48 AM
6

No, I actually eat children for dinner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:31 AM
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Right? If your day really is ruined when a woman doesn't compliment you get yourself a therapist because that shit is not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:27 AM
7

Haha nice trick! Moving on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:15 AM
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We're still going to expect men to pay on a first date despite this NVM's tantrum 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:07 AM
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He gets rejected every day? Talk about being dramatic. If he can't handle dating apps he should stay away from them. That's the only way he can be getting rejected every day. At this rate he will end up like those incels who extrapolate the female population of their country and say that they were rejected by millions of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:03 AM
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I agree with you if this is an already established relationship But I think it's FDS-compatible to mention some of the ways you like to be loved (if they are something specific that he wouldn't guess otherwise) at the beginning to scare off the ones who'd have a problem with it. Of course there are the ones who will lie, but FDS is not 100% foolproof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:54 AM
5

Worst pickmes I've encountered are the ones defending brutal BDSM and porn because they do that too and are perfectly fine. Sure that's why you get so defensive and engage in porn subreddits so that random LVMs compliment what a good girl you are. Deep down they're not completely convinced that they're not being abused or foolish, so they try to convince others to reduce that uncomfortable feeling. They don't have empathy for themselves, as if they'd have it for a woman they don't know on screen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:51 PM
5

And we should give men compliments because they absolutely won't mistake it for something else!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:37 PM
5

I was gonna offer $25. I should have been more ambitious considering how much this reads like a delusional fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:36 PM
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What's actually happening is that women play dumb because we don't want to interrupt a conversation with "I know what you want, and the answer is no" when what he's been doing could also be interpreted as just being friendly. Or we think he's just anothet guy looking for a hookup and playing dumb for a while will make him lose interest and go away. Or because we think the guy will have a bad reaction when rejected, so we opt for this "soft" approach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:30 PM
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Have you noticed that whenever LVMs complain about how women don't ask men out it's really in the context of hookups, FWBs or situationships? I've never seen a man on Reddit talk about how he wishes he can find love by a woman asking him out. If a man likes you enough, he will. I have a really shy friend who spent two weeks agonizing on how to do it and when he asked the girl he liked out, it came out pretty awkward, but he still did it (she said yes). Everyone does things that make them nervous…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:05 PM
1

The fact that he's 44 makes it so much worse. I know 10 year olds with more maturity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:39 PM
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"Male PPD" Is this a joke? He may have other mental health issues but men don't go through any physiological changes when they have a kid. Although to me it sounds like he didn't think things through and doesn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:24 PM
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"It paints relationships as disposable" No, only the ones not worth keeping. Why is a relationship not disposable even when it does more harm than good just on the mere merit that it is a relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:47 AM
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That's a good thing. If you had continued you would have ended up walking on eggshells or toning down your real opinions. He's too afraid to state his opinions like you do, or not convinced enough in his own too, so he uses you as a proxy. Any statement not sugarcoated with "maybe", "I may be wrong" or "does that make sense?" would have been too opinionated for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:36 AM
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I can't remember the last time I received a compliment from someone who isn't my family lmao I'm not complaining, it's just strange how the manosphere lives in an alternate reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:20 AM
2

This hit too close home. This is what I'm looking for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:32 AM
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I used an app where only men pay (AdopteUnMec), they even have to pay to signal they're interested, but it's only available in a few countries. Profiles were generally higher quality. Most of them had good pictures, and you could filter results by age, eye/hair colour, hair length, ethnicity, height and weight (if they indicate these details). Men could not send you messages unless you indicated so for specific profiles. The only drawback I found was that you could see who had viewed your profil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:50 PM
2

Never It helps that in my country Halloween is not so commercialized. It is still about scary things, not dressing up as anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:39 PM
2

He sounds so bitter, I don't think his sons are going to turn out like him actually. I have a feeling that they'll get sick of him and do whatever they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:11 PM
11

Now libfems will start saying that posting a bikini picture sitting on your bedroom floor every day and sticking your ass out is still empowering because of... reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 08:54 PM
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Today in another episode of a man saying the male sex are animals who can't control themselves and would fuck any woman. And they say FDS is sexist lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 08:45 PM
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That's the cherry on top of the irony
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 08:40 PM
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If it takes the cuckolding fetish for men to start realizing that being degraded and humiliated as a kink is not cool and normal, I welcome this fetish wholeheartedly. A taste of their own medicine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 08:39 PM
3

How difficult is it to look up psychology studies proving that sex is not a basic need? The same people who include sex as a basic need will also argue that men are more logical, yet they fail to even provide sources? Some scholars argue that some degree of social contact should be considered a human right. Meaning that solitary confinement would be a violation of human rights for example. But that's as far as it goes. Humans only need some positive social interaction with other humans as the mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:56 PM
11

One of the comments is saying that the archbishop who told her to devote herself to prayer signed under a female name 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:49 PM
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How do they know the sex of their users though? I'm not sure that these results are representative of FDS standards, I doubt gangbangs are something that a FDSer would enjoy, and they're in all the screenshots you provided. In their imagination yes, but men who are willing to do gangbangs are usually trash. As a side note, all that lesbian porn and threesomes is because at least lesbians touch the clit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:21 PM
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Respectful, can have arguments without having rage fits or using low blows, does housechores, is determined, has similar values to me, is observant, similar social background, has exciting conversation and has a sense of responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:43 AM
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This guy is probably a stock image, no need to make fun of his hairline lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:33 AM
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I've met two if that helps, they exist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:30 AM
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To me not shoving your dick down someone's throat forcefully is such a basic and easy thing to do. Men who can't even do that deserve no attention. Thankfully I've never been with a man who took it for granted, and they were pretty delicate about it. I always felt in control which is what it should be. Men should always be respectful and aware that you're doing them a favour. All women should stay away from entitled and violent men, no matter how much they whine about it being their kink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:30 PM
6

An insecure LVM, tell me something new today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:20 PM
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They're the trashiest of the trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:11 PM
7

This is what porn actresses go through but even worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:26 PM
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This is so dumb. So if women like high value, and he is trying to fake it, isn't he admitting he's low value? The example he gave at the bar is so childish. I would have just thought he's rude or weird. And do they seriously think we can't spot when men are being fake to appear more interesting than they really are? If this poster is older than 19 I'm gonna be disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:23 PM
5

Imagine only making female friends as a counterattack for an imagined attack on your manhood. Or he could stop being so sensitive instead of trying to control his partner's friends to soothe his sexual anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:19 PM
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Some of the people who say it's empowering think that it's an easy job and that they're cheating men out of their money. That is the attitude, that they are so smart and sly for getting money from men for seemingly nothing. I'm talking about the ones who are proud of it and encourage other women and girls into sex work. They don't realize they are suffering mental trauma, that being used like a thing takes a toll over time. They value who they give attention to and their body so little that they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:12 PM
4

Surprised pikachus are always good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 10:08 PM
4

What was his reaction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:24 PM
2

Sounds like delusion with extra steps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:23 PM
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I'm so tired of women who support porn. They are always so defensive because deep down they know they're not that happy about it but they lie to themselves. When they talk about reclaiming their sexuality, it is invariable for the male gaze. Sexuality when it comes to porn is always about women trying to be as sexy as possible (for men), or to do humiliating or painful things because they say they like turning men on. Why is it never about men doing things for women to turn women on? Why is it n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:20 PM
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It's been 7 years since I stopped using porn as my go-to when I wanted to masturbate, and 2 years since I went on a porn website. I'm 23. I feel far more connected to what actually turns me on than when I watched porn. I usually felt empty or unsatisfied when I watched it. It made me so disgusted of men, and so hopeless of finding a man who is not into any abusive or weird shit. Stop watching porn, not only because it lowers demand and decreases their revenue, but for your own sanity as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:11 PM
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Oh no, this shouldn't be a controversial opinion at all. Being tied down for life to an ex who is trying to make your life hell at every turn and using the kid is far worse than being childless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:56 PM
8

Then we agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 11:29 AM
13

That makes more sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 10:53 AM
9

I guess another side of this is not caring about how your labias and vagina look. Thankfully I didn't know that "ugly" labias or labiaplasties were a thing until recently, so I never really bothered to look at my private area in detail. Only when I shave or wipe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:32 AM
8

Spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:28 AM
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Personally I don't think wanting to marry someone after a few months is good. It just screams lack of common sense and judgment to marry someone they essentially just met for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:25 AM
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We're not saying a woman is not capable of applying FDS strategies or that she is LV for asking him out first. My concern is that not everyone in this subreddit is used to FDS and has practiced it much, so if they get the memo that asking men out is equally as good as men asking them out, it may be easier to fall into pickme tendencies. And most men aren't stereotypical douchebags, they will reciprocate here and there so it's not as if the woman will have to initiate everything. But at first he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:17 AM
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I'm saving this comment as a reminder that there is hope. After I found FDS I thought of using your friend's strategy, glad to see it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:02 PM
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I'd say 1/3 will brag, and the rest just want casual sex or situationships. The majority aren't scumbags, but they're still too half-hearted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:09 PM
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It's not kidnapping him but it will set a precedent. The moment a woman asks him out, he will automatically think "oh then I don't have to do any courting". He won't appear totally or clearly disinterested. It will be hot and cold, he will give you some affection but over time you'll notice he won't sacrifice himself that much. He will reciprocate lowkey because he is horny, but not because he's that into you. That's the trap. He's not a total scumbag and his lack of effort can easily be attribu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:07 PM
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It should not matter to young women if men are so horny they cry I would laugh but one look at the sex advice or dead bedrooms subreddits reveals how much they can act depressed if they are not having sex. Some seriously argue that sex is a human right and that women not sleeping with them is harming them 😂. Humans need positive social interactions, but sex is an extra, they won't die or suffer greatly from lack of it. Lack of social contact at all on the other hand...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:52 PM
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People are always criticising FDS because they think we hold back from having sex due to arbitrary standards. No, until they prove themselves, we are dry as the Sahara. No one is lusting after their lack of effort, or at least, not for long. They are against women having full information. Apparently it's better that they do not care if they are sleeping with a respectful man or one who wants to humiliate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:46 PM
6

They can't have sex lives anymore without some degree of pornification it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:38 PM
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We need to mass report this. Use the hashtag #RedditHatesWomen again in Twitter if needed. Leave one star reviews in the app store of Reddit explaining this subreddit in your comment. That's what we did when they finally banned several misogynistic subreddits around July.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:37 PM
3

Another example of LVMs justifying their depravity as normal, human needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:47 AM
4

That part of "if he feels like it" sounded wrong to me too. There is a difference between taking her to a restaurant because he thinks she will enjoy it, or him feeling like going to a restaurant and inviting her to the ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:13 PM
5

For real. Arguing with a man over this is exhausting and fruitless. Better to move on and decline a second date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:08 PM
2

Since when is a restaurant unusual for a first date? Before I even knew FDS this was the standard of everyone around me. This is basic. I wonder if he kisses the ground she walks when she does things for him too? Or is it only when money is involved? 🤔 I agree that people should show some appreciation when someone does something for them, it's essential in a relationship and I don't think anyone in FDS wouldn't show appreciation, it's polite as a minimum. However the way he is phrasing this make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:06 PM
2

STDs can remain dormant for months or even years. So even if he has no symptoms, he could have one. More info here: https://www.verywellhealth.com/asymptomatic-disease-and-the-std-epidemic-3133039#:~:text=Chlamydia%20is%20the%20most%20common,dormant%20for%20months%20or%20years. It is even recommended that both partners get tested before starting a new relationship: "The only way to tell if you or your sexual partner has an STD is to be tested.5 Before starting a new sexual relationship both you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:57 PM
5

This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Every person that has said "you can trust me" or "do you trust me?" shouldn't be trusted. Actually trustworthy people know that they don't need to proclaim or ask it, it is shown in their actions. People who get butthurt over not being trusted are dangerous. Not only because they are insecure, but because their lack of judgment can have dire consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:34 PM
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If she can find other patients affected by this doctor, she could team up with them to share the costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:30 PM
4

There should be a psychological test that vets for arrogance and selfishness if one wants to become a doctor. You have a perfect GPA? Doesn't matter, you're still a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:28 PM
11

When RP men say they don't care about her salary or that she was perfectly content becoming a SAHM, this is what really happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:25 PM
6

The way he says he didn't force her to agree to an "open" marriage just proves how many guys don't understand consent still. Consent obtained by insisting and gaslighting until the other person agrees is not consent. Saying that it is the only way your sexual "needs" are going to be fulfilled (implying that you'll leave her if she doesn't agree) is not consent. The fact that she developed an emotional connection to the co-worker reveals why they really had a dead bedroom. She needed more of an e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:11 PM
1

That was so cringy to read omg. I'm glad you did this experiment though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:32 PM
6

I think there is some truth to it because I've met a man who didn't even dare cry at his grandmother's funeral because his family had taught him crying was unbecoming for a man. In these extreme situations I think this attitude is more common in men. But women don't get sympathy for any kind of crying. People think a woman is crying for attention, they dismiss her thinking it must be her period or see it as an annoyance. In fact we even have assholes trying to wind us up to get us angry or make …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:50 PM
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Why don't more women see how imbalanced it is?? They've been brainwashed to think of any unreasonable expectation as "he's entitled to his opinion and there is no harm in asking". Then they go to relationship advice subs and they start believing that because he cOmMuNiCaTeD, she has to meet him in the middle somehow. They keep reading about how so many women say they "actually" enjoy doing degrading/painful things for their boyfriends. How it should go both ways so if his "boundary" is that he h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:37 PM
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Oh there should also be a category of "clitoris touching for more than 1 minute"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:32 PM
3

Yeah 5 minutes /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:11 AM
3

Oh the third one called me out. I told him how I thought he could improve, but it was "too complicated" for him to follow. Then when I was not being the sweetest person ever, I was being mean when I told him it still didn't do anything for me. Eventually it turned into the second one. Why even say anything when I still won't orgasm anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:07 AM
1

I feel so sorry for her that she's been with this prick for 3 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:53 AM
1

So like women usually but instead of sex they're getting an orgasm every decade?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:41 AM
25

Lol what a little man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:20 AM
44

Then they complain about how they're expected to defend women from other men. The ones who complain are the ones who aren't even doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:19 AM
12

What a bunch of vultures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:17 AM
7

Her voice is so beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:35 AM
4

I found it hilarious that men in the comments were so wilfully delusional. Why is it so hard to understand that a lot of women really do operate under those principles when dating? Everything she said is true. I've had men mention other women in an attempt to make me jealous but I was always like "Ok?". I didn't understand what they were even trying to do until later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:55 AM
4

Funny that in other threads bisexual people have said that women are more willing to try new things in bed and that men are adamant on what makes them feel good and what they are used to. Women refusing to do certain sexual acts because it goes against their dignity is not being close-minded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:35 AM
1

Kind Determined Inquisitive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:31 AM
24

They really can't wrap their heads around how universal it is. If a woman has had several bad relationships before a good one, they think it's just part of life. Here's a revolutionary thought. Maybe men can try to do better in dating? Maybe those aren't "incompatibilities" but flaws of character and intentions he didn't try fixing? You know, changeable things instead of "oh well those are just life circumstances that no one ever can control".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:32 AM
31

No but didn't you know? Most domestic abuse is MutUaL, women are jUsT aS bAd. This is what is really happening in most cases. Especially when they record that women are more likely to do "verbal abuse".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:22 AM
30

All these RP/PUA types are always screaming at the camera to look more alpha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:28 PM
5

I will never get over LVMs asking other people how he can control his own thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:28 PM
14

You are replaceable They're desperate to find someone to calm their acute loneliness, anyone that will accept them will do. All those passionate words are not sincere, it's just love-bombing like everyone else has said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:24 PM
10

🤢 oh god the last line. That's so pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:59 PM
61

It's the word princess that's triggering people. That and that she doesn't mention immediately the things she does for him "in return".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:37 PM
14

Get a cat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:28 PM
2

He fundamentally misunderstands why we need strategies. It's not about the quantity, it's the quality! He thinks pretty women don't need a strategy because more men approach them. That's precisely why they need one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:27 PM
3

He could be the most gorgeous man on Earth and the richest one, that the moment he said anything from the RP he would become transparent to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:24 PM
136

They also found a way to blame women and feminists for male circumcision when the guy who popularized circumcisions in the U.S. was the Kellogg's guy. Other male physicians at the time promoted circumcision to prevent masturbation and STDs. Outside the U.S. circumcision is most popular in patriarchal cultures, performed by men onto other men, following rules from books written by men for men's benefit. They can't become any more stupid. MRAs real motivation is that they resent the fact they don'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:16 PM
17

"Radiating light" where the hell does this narrative of women being pure beings of light that only need to focus on being virtuous and kind? Do people like this really think that radiating light will inspire LVMs to be better and to treat you right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:12 AM
9

This line must be one of the few good things he had to say about women. As expected of his time I guess, he was quite misogynistic. In Emile, where he laid out what children's education should be, he suggested all the cool things for boys while the purpose of girls' education was to learn how to support men better because women were only useful as mothers or wives. In Discourse on Inequality, where he envisioned what humans state of nature could have been like (think of it as prehistory), it see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:02 AM
8

This is sooo complicated Oh I've heard this before. I just gave up in the end. Never again. What FDS says about not accepting the bare minimum is so true, at the time I thought I should just be grateful he even wants to try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:59 PM
5

I'm sure there are some idiots who become gynaecologists because they're creepy, but I've met some good doctors. Plus they deal with lots of unsexy things like yeast infections, stuck tampons or STDs. I assume they get desensitized to female genitals = automatically sexy at some point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:46 PM
7

I'm still mad at myself that I was dumb enough to start believing answers like the ones Reddit gives women. At least I'm happy that I realized that gaslighting bullshit, FDS has been a great support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:05 AM
3

I get what you mean and I know how hard it is to get to the point where you finally have enough confidence and clarity to say what you want. So proud of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:59 AM
3

I feel attacked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:54 AM
18

That's disgusting. To take advantage of a teenage girl is truly a NVM thing to do. What the fuck. That memory and the fact that I felt like "no" wasn't an option Women definitely feel this way more than men. It's part of the reason why everyone is always so adamant on "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" and why they're always blaming victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:49 AM
9

Imagine being so insecure that you think traumatized women asking for a female doctor is discriminatory. In a disingenuous interpretation it may be, just like choosing carrots over onions is discriminatory. But he is the one with the power here, and the patient is the one in need of assistance. That power-dynamic is literally the opposite of how discrimination in a political sense works. His ability to put himself in others' shoes is non-existent. I don't even think I know any men who would be p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:44 AM
3

So he is allowed to be completely hysterical over something really trivial and she is the one chastised for "shaming men for showing emotion"? Miss me with this shit. He is "allowed" to show his crocodile tears, and she is absolutely allowed to recognise them for what they are and leave this clown. It's so unnecessary to deal with that kind of bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:15 AM
1

That is so dumb. I didn't even finish reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:51 AM
4

It could be helpful to ask them why they think so. If it's a string of general statements or overly saccharine ones that don't ring true to how you see yourself, he most likely means being a doormat. If he follows it with some explanation that proves that he's being paying attention to you, it's probably more genuine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:47 AM
5

No you don't understand. They need explicit cOmMuNiCaTiOn at every step of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:41 AM
8

I respect thieves more than I respect men who go to escorts/prostitutes/sex workers/camgirls. The ones who try to negotiate an even lower price are the lowest of scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:06 AM
7

He sounds as if he is trying too hard to convince himself, especially in the last paragraph. Have you seen that scene in Game of Thrones? Any man who must say "I am the king" is no true king.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:42 AM
21

Translation: He needs you to tell him what to do all the time, even with his own life. When even housechores become a kinky play, bdsm is no longer contained to the bedroom, it has become a "lifestyle". Do you have enough energy to maintain sexual tension constantly? Most likely though, he's not even that into bdsm. He just has some inclinations and he is sending you that message trying to make it seem as if you'll have most of the benefits. It may seem "feminist" at first, but honestly doing ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:29 AM
3

He's not a good actor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:11 PM
6

Exactly what I was thinking but you put it better into words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:10 PM
5

So he tries to hurt or anger you, and when you call him out, he's hurt you called him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:09 PM
7

"Represent his presence" 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:03 PM
8

Oh god I know that type. They're either putting up a façade or they do feel everything with a lot of intensity. The latter will justify their bat-shit craziness with talks about how passionate they are and how they only get so angry/dramatic/hysterical because they love you so much. Professional gaslighters either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:56 PM
1

So well-written. Hope more LVMs read this so they realize that no, vast majority of women don't like pornified sex acts. It really hit like a truck that gay conversion "therapy" uses similar tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:04 AM
1

The industry has gotten a lot more competitive. They make far more than if they worked at a sweat shop, but they definitely don't become millionaires (unless they become really famous) even if they worked all their life like people think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:46 AM
6

That's so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:43 AM
4

In my experience, abusive people tend to be very charming at first. For example, men will do grand gestures like buying you flowers, paying for some expensive hotel and a trip... etc. They also appear to be a gentleman. They know almost no man nowadays helps a woman take her coat off, or help her to a chair, so they do gestures like this with a lot of parsimony that an unsuspecting person may take as "wow he really cares about me". Once they get comfortable, their abusive tendencies will come ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:31 AM
14

I'd like to see his reaction if his wife was doing the same with pictures of men who are hotter than him and have a bigger penis too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:21 AM
1

I don't move out of the way and look at them in the eyes. Usually they move in the last second, others have been annoying enough to bump into me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:18 PM
1

Is this supposed to be so that shy girls message him trying to prove to themselves that they are not shy? The rest sounds like he used thesaurus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:15 PM
6

I hate this kind of microaggressions. Men can mock the word all they want, but how many have been injured after a date? How many women have tried twisting their fingers or pushing them to the ground and playing it off as a joke? I'm so sorry that happened to you. He was an absolute asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:59 PM
19

I found FDS in a negative comment. The more, the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:40 PM
7

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:38 PM
27

What they hate though, is us congregating to share them and warn others. So true. I'm not sure where men who complain about FDS have been living all their lives. This kind of advice is what normal women have given other women since forever. I see it in incels a lot too. They have the impression that women are accommodating angels, and then act as if the world and society betrayed them when we want different things than them and we have the audacity to criticize them. LVMs are used to people on R…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:33 PM
5

Another good one I saw in that thread is that we make men jump through hoops and loops for our "arbitrary" standards. No, we want men who already behave themselves. #1 advice here is to drop men who don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:12 PM
3

Walk alone at night in the woods. I don't live in an area that has any dangerous wildlife. I looove the woods. And if I had teletransportation, I'd visit certain countries without having to wear a veil, cover a lot of skin or having to be accompanied by a group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:18 PM
6

Relationships seem to work best For him. Not for her 😂 Also lol at the last sentence. So immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:13 PM
44

It's because most men are gamers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:11 PM
72

Lie #3: A man is either good-looking or respectful and nice, he can't be both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:58 PM
6

I bet the comments thought it was only a roleplaying fantasy or that this is not "true" BDSM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:02 PM
37

Men: I support feminism! Also men: No, not that kind of feminism, I meant the one that gives me sex and doesn't change my worldview!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:45 PM
7

I was expecting to see it in a ditch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 12:05 PM
36

Like a man who buys pads for you and notices when you're running low on shampoo? Now that you say it like that, it's true. I'm glad I'm on FDS because before coming here I had already given up on finding a man who notices little things like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:55 AM
6

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:22 PM
3

Start recording him when you think he's about to get violent, disrespectful or threaten you again. Better to have 10 false alarm recordings and 1 good one than none at all. Gather all the evidence you can to file a restraining order. But most importantly, change your passwords (including bank passwords) and make a new Reddit account. Don't focus on how he makes you feel that you are not worth it. HE is not worth it for treating you like that. Abusive men ain't shit, especially those that are in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:19 PM
22

I think "ok", and keep them in the friendzone forever. It's obvious when a guy likes you, and when he "friendzones" you or just keeps dropping hints but never getting anywhere, I think he's too chicken to ask me out. Or worse, I see that they're trying to make me make a move on them. If you're not even brave enough to ask me out or tell me you like me, I don't consider you as a romantic prospect. Guys think that telling her you like her or asking her out is bad advice and turn to this games simp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:03 PM
21

Same. I only gave them sometimes to my ex because I wanted to. He was always respectful, didn't think he was entitled to them (never even asked for them), and because he was careful to stay still while I did my thing. He was always considerate about blowjobs. So refreshing to have a man who doesn't expect the gross shit from porn. If a guy even shows a glimpse of entitlement or disrespectfulness, he can expect to get blowjobs from himself. I'm as disconcerted as you about submissive or masochist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:37 PM
42

Whenever a guy sees a bit of the light and makes a post on Reddit saying he's very "dominant" but he feels sorry for the girl when he does that, LVMs and pickmes reassure him in the comments: don't worry! You'll find someone who is into that! In other words: You'll find someone who has self-esteem low enough, lacks assertiveness or is outright afraid that won't tell you "no". Telling LVMs that he'll find someone else who is into painful, degrading deepthroats is just telling him that there will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:29 PM
8

Insecure much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:22 PM
16

What are goras?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:14 AM
17

Where did you read this? I'd like to read it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:54 AM
71

This has to be a joke. The language is too telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:36 AM
23

It's so prevalent in porn, that unless there was other fishy stuff, I'd just think they are spoiled and immature. What are they gonna do if their partner has stubble? If they've been too busy to shave? Throw a tantrum? Think she's letting herself go? If it was for me I'd prefer that men would have little body hair, but I don't have the audacity a lot of men have to demand they shave or wax from head to toe or call them disgusting and dirty. I can still be attracted to someone more hairy because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:46 PM
4

What do you expect from someone who calls others "fatties"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:26 PM
9

And they expect you to go on walk dates and netflix and chill to prove you don't want a free meal from them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:09 PM
2

Men who use your physical appearance as an opener are a no no. Good on you for blocking him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:04 PM
2

Tbh I don't think that testosterone and estrogen are linked to courting behaviours the way we want them to be. I'm suspicious that he associates testosterone with "male energy". I agree that having sex early is the surest way to get used though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:01 PM
30

Pride and Prejudice is the best FDS book out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:45 PM
13

Every man should read this post, then maybe they wouldn't complain so much about their wives losing their libido (provided there aren't any medical problems that explain it). Those commenters suggesting that she didn't make an effort to turn him on are so spoiled. Men are almost guaranteed an orgasm and they can be ready for sex in a minute (at least physically). Women can't just will their vagina to be ready if they're not turned on. No matter how "egalitarian" she wants to be. It's good to mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:15 AM
9

What do you bet that people will completely miss his points and blame single mothers or women in some other way? Great find, OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:04 AM
5

I'm adding this to my reading list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:59 AM
2

This guy runs a sub with barely any followers and makes 99% of all the posts. I always thought he was in high school, and I still do. Just ignore him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:43 AM
6

That's so funny. They're salty but sexually attracted at the same time. Amusing to see really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:37 AM
4

This is the best comment 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:36 AM
5

An absolute classic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:35 AM
4

FDS has an instagram page? He's going to love my Mr. Burns profile picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:34 AM
9

Is he seriously asking how he can control his thoughts of cheating? He sounds like a child. Does he not know himself well enough to figure out a way of doing that instead of asking strangers? One thing is to ask for advice on what to do from a logical standpoint, but asking people how he can control his own thoughts? What the hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:31 AM
79

Is there a way to mass-produce this guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:11 AM
12

I think it's because there are always comments wondering about how pushy the poster is or isn't when it comes to this topic, especially if it's a male poster about the lack of libido if his girlfriend/wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:11 AM
25

This is cute but I agree, you defo shouldn't be on a relationship where the guy wouldn't get worried in this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:04 AM
36

Love to see it. It's pretty obvious he changed plans last minute to see it she'd feel pressure to go to the bar. Before blocking him it would have been funny to say "I literally don't care".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:56 AM
6

I know! It's so annoying to watch. Yeah a few caresses, a dimly lit room, camera shots of her opening her mouth as if she was feeling good... and then jackhammering. What a letdown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:49 PM
15

I'm still baffled by that. Even in amateur or gone wild videos on Reddit, almost no one touches her clit while they're having penetration. Why?? Just why?? There are many women who could have an orgasm with penetration if they touched her clit at the same time, or is penetration supposed to be just for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:39 PM
21

Teenage girls are supposed to have an interest in reading tips on how to give blowjobs (according to Teen Vogue) but most men of all ages can't do a simple google search?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:35 PM
5

"Little to no effect on men" so long as pickmes exist and shameless men exist. More likely to be depressed Bcause men who are into casual sex or casual relationships are more likely to treat them badly and suck the life out of them. Women do the opposite. Less likely to have a stable marriage She has psychological damage after numerous men who treated her badly or didn't value her. Men don't have the patience for that (maybe warranted if she really is hard to live with). But women who marry men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:24 PM
20

This paper provides a summary of what's speculated so far: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1079063214525645#:~:text=Greater%20male%20fragility%20and%20sensitivity,than%20women%20to%20exhibit%20paraphilias. They also conducted a study and their conclusion is that sex drive accounted fully for the differences between men and women. However every time a study is done on this they find other correlations that also affect paraphilic interest to some extent, like sexual compulsivity, ant…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:50 AM
8

Holy shit, those are some skills! Reminds me of the pendant in The Illusionist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:22 AM
2

I've had something similar happen to me too. I can't read their minds but both times I got the vibe they wanted to show their friends a flattering picture of me to boast or just simply being entitled to women's attractiveness. I usually don't have my face on my profile or my face is not the focus of the picture, so I don't think it was negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:47 AM
7

Right on the money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:28 AM
13

I was in the original thread and I saw several guys being like "so because he did a mistake years ago, he's condemned to not have a partner for the rest of his life?" The answer is... yes? What did you expect? How is a woman going to trust a man who admits he raped another woman? Her safety is more important than his feelings being hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:20 AM
14

I find it funny that some guys will say that cats "are assholes who attack them for no reason". No Kyle, you just failed or ignored the warning signs that the cat did not want you to touch or approach them. Run from guys who take it as a personal insult that a cat does not submit to their orders too. Some dog "lovers" believe they are the shit because a big scary dog obeys his orders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:29 PM
7

I could feel him sobbing pathetically about his blue balls through my screen. Good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:16 PM
24

Because you're not turned on from whatever they are doing or not doing. So it feels like it's for their benefit. You agree to it because you're used to that underwhelming sex, or always expect sex to be better but while you're having sex or after, you don't feel right. This is what we get when men online normalise to other men that "sex is more important for men because it means more to us/it's our main source of emotional intimacy/reassurance in a relationship". No you're just a tool, there are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:13 PM
26

It would be funny to make a post about this as if it was serious and then use the same excuses people on Reddit use. "But if they all consented what is the problem? It gets their rocks off like you would not imagine. He's an adult. Stop being so old-fashioned and get out once in a while, there are many masochistic men who would love do this! We even have a safeword for when they are one punch away from being driven away in an ambulance!" "I treat them like dirt, but they love it because it's the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:51 PM
2

These idiots have never been in a professional setting before. When I was younger I addressed everyone as "Mr. or Ms." in emails, until a professor told me to call them Dr. I thought "oh this is the appropriate etiquette. Cool they let me know". That was the end of it. If I know they have a PhD I call them Dr. It's so confusing that this went to entitled b*tch. All I saw was a wholesome husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:51 AM
7

I wonder how he knew there would be water at the bottom in the spot he dug in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:42 AM
2

At this point I'm starting to think redpillers have a humiliation fetish and they are so conflicted about it that they get angry at women. That post is a joke 😂 Yes we'd like a partner that wouldn't run away if we're in danger (just like we'd do even if we have to use a weapon), but most men will never experience a situation where they will have to "protect" their partners physically from violence. So I really don't understand why they make such a big deal out of it. Muscles don't guarantee that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:33 AM
5

He was only famous for like 2 years but god is he annoying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:31 AM
4

He could be the best looking guy on Earth that I would never stoop down to being in a harem. I'm sure most women on here can agree on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:29 AM
6

He has such an arrogant expression. I always steer clear of guys that look like that. The fastest swipe left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:11 AM
21

All their emotional well being depends on access to the woman's body Oof. I always felt the same way when I read these men complaining about their wives not doing anal as if it was going to plummet them into depression, but I never knew how to articulate it as well as you. "My needs! I have a right to ask for fetishes that only or largely benefit me, and if she refuses, I have a right to divorce or break up!" Yes sir, it's a free country, but don't pretend you loved your partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:03 AM
5

Yes you are. You don't even sound like you actively did anything terrible, it was lack of proactivity. If you do things to fill your life, by the time you meet a woman, that will be proof that you changed. You still sound pretty anxious. Do things that you enjoy but be determined in continuing and finishing them. That will help you the most with developing self-confidence. Maybe you could try speaking with your female relatives more so you become less anxious of women? Keep working on your goals…
/r/askFDS13/09/20 01:20 AM
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I find it very ironic her report was labelled the "The Hate Report" by Playboy magazine and that Time magazine said her research was just an excuse for her "male-bashing". Reminds me of how FDS is seen across Reddit. I often don't agree 100% with posts I see here, but it is undeniable that standards and opinions which actually benefit women were long overdue. Mainstream feminism has lost its teeth. Edit: What a madlass, she renounced her American citizenship because of how vilified her research …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:33 PM
11

Common shouldn't mean "morally permissible"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:13 PM
21

Adorable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:10 PM
2

Absolutely! Details are everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:56 PM
6

I will never understand dudes like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:25 AM
5

Preach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:15 AM
28

Ah but then you will bring this up to other kinksters and they will say that it wasn't "true" bdsm, that they weren't "true" doms or that those kind of guys are the minority. If a movement keeps attracting certain kind of people or abuses keep happening in its community, the movement itself is the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:23 AM
13

I was gonna ask this. Good that you did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:17 AM
9

Some people will think that it's depressing that we get so happy over posts like this, and that therefore our standards must be actually low. They envision a man who wouldn't do this as some kind of thug who tells her she is annoying and doesn't lift a finger. But there are intermediate levels: The ones who freak out and you end up having to calm them down instead of them taking care of you. Because you know, you are the one who just got burnt and not him. The one who will wait for instructions …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:31 PM
3

This is why even if you have a crush on a LVM, you don't need to tell him about your feelings. Really like the drawing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:14 PM
6

If he knew anything about information security he'd know he's talking out of his ass when he says he'll find your IP. As long as you don't click on any links they send you (even if the URL looks legit), reply or load images/videos that he sends, you'll be fine. IP addresses don't reveal your exact location anyway. It will tell you the country and maybe a city. Does he not realize that his entire message just screams saltiness at not being able to make a woman come?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:31 PM
6

I would have stopped responding after he told you to prove your appearance on snapchat. His logic is bullshit. We don't have anything to prove to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:16 PM
2

We're gonna get banned with this kind of memes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:14 PM
17

This going to lead to a lot of resentment from her, and with good reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:13 PM
45

Gonna try this if his mother dies /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:09 PM
16

That kind of message to be more eXpLiCit and dIrEcT is just to encourage women to do the chasing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:06 AM
5

Gee, I wonder why he is with someone who is 9 years younger and hasn't even left university
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:38 PM
9

Apparently she said that post was ironic and that she thought it would be obvious from the language. I'd guess she's making fun of girls on Tumblr who do think like that, especially the ones that are into older men. Quite common in the tumblr "teleiophilia" community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:32 PM
5

Does anyone know what she did that was so terrible in her post history? I can't access it. Judging by the comments she "leads men on". Do they think that any girl that flirts with them is 100% planning on having sex/be into a relationship? Just from flirting? When I was her age I flirted a bit without any intention of going anywhere further. At that age you are testing the waters of what you are comfortable with, testing how the opposite sex in general responds to you, your male bullshit detecto…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:16 PM
3

It depends on the fanfiction websites though. Wattpad is a cesspool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:57 PM
34

Men interpret "crazy" as woman with daddy issues, mental illness and some trauma. They put them in the "sex" category because her mental issues prevent a long-term relationship. Every time men talked about their crazy ex, they say she was good on the sack but did meth/was bipolar/had some trauma that made her fly off the handle... etc. I don't recommend saying you're crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:50 PM
3

Age gaps that large are always a red flag, especially when you are under 25.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:46 PM
4

They start by being friends and hoping it turns into something more. No way that a 31 year old guy is seeking friendship only from a 19 year old girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:46 PM
25

It's quality over quantity. If all his relationships with these women are a way to inflate his ego, his "achievements" mean nothing. Only insecure idiots would be impressed by him juggling 3 or 4 dates every week, especially after he says their age and brags about their appearance. So trashy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:30 PM
11

It is going to be impossible to prevent him from watching any porn while he is underage. Install as many parental controls as you like while he is young, but when he becomes old enough he can always google ways to disable them. You should emphasize respect and empathy for women, mention the abusive porn industry when he is old enough, how these girls are most likely doing it because of sexual trauma or validation... etc. That way even when he sneaks a watch due to hormones, he won't become delus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:56 PM
7

They think it is never going to change and that it's just nature... If that were true the crime rate wouldn't have been steadily decreasing since the end of WW2.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:51 PM
9

The fetishization of virginity is so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:50 PM
3

"Millennials are more into being equal haha" "So you're traditional haha" "You're so serious" "Why won't you listen to my negs HAHA"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:34 AM
1

Today I saw a tv show about people living in the Alaskan wilderness. The man spent all day cutting down trees, trying to hunt bears or caribous, setting up traps for smaller animals, walking long distances... etc. It's definitely hard work. He still said that he preferred doing all that all day than spend an hour looking after his grandson. That an hour felt like an eternity. If traditional female roles were as easy and cool as they painted them out to be, men would have started flocking to them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:48 AM
8

Reminds me of threads in AskMen. Apparently blowjobs are also the solution to all problems. Do they not realize how primitive they make their sex sound?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:34 AM
3

Narrator: it did not give men any protective emotions It would tear my self-respect so much to knowingly put myself in potential danger, with the sole purpose of finding out if the man is horrible or not. If he wants to feel protective he can figure out how to do it in a way that actually helps on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:30 AM
4

Sometimes I think I live in a parallel universe. This seems so unnecessary, so counter-productive, why would anyone do this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:21 AM
9

There is so much toxicity coming from the U.S. It's sadly expected that English-speaking countries would get influenced first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:26 PM
17

That's so bizarre. Is this in America?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:20 PM
12

I wonder how many STDs a king with a harem full of concubines must have had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:12 PM
71

Tbh I prefer average length (5-6 inches) because if it is too long it hits my cervix and that's absolutely not fun. I do need generous girth though. Trimmed pubes are better. That being said, I don't really think it's necessary to call genitalia that doesn't suit our preferences "disgusting". It's like how porn sick men call certain looking labia disgusting too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:48 PM
54

Omg hahha I love everything about your comment, but especially the last two lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:40 PM
87

Don't forget the kinkmeishas who love porn and argue with you even more than men about how bdsm/rough/CNC porn is totally fine and there is never any abuse or rape involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:30 PM
88

I think it's relatively harmless but they should say this to other men too. I give polite compliments to men and women, but they make it sound as if giving extra compliments to men on their appearance is going to fix their depression. Maybe women get more compliments because we tend to interact more with other women, who give us compliments. But men interact more with other men and they are not getting compliments. Oh I wonder what the solution could be...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:25 PM
77

They only say that because in their minds, they think we actually want them, but we are holding back because we want to look more unattainable to boost our ego or we are prudish. That's not how it works. I don't feel enough attraction, much less love, for men with unclear intentions, and especially not if they want to be with me just because they're lonely and they guess we could be good together. That's actually how they think when you look at those comments more closely. We shouldn't settle fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:03 PM
31

This proves you're strong enough to stick to your principles. You were probably a bit attached and tempted to continue seeing him, but in the end didn't, that's what makes a difference. By breaking up you're not wasting your own time, and it guarantees better success in the future. Either by finding a HVM or breaking up again with someone who is not right for you. Training this assertiveness will help you in more ways than only in a romantic sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:49 PM
2

My ex didn't care at all. A few times when we were having sex after my period I spotted a bit and he freaked out... but because he thought he had hurt me. He was relieved to know it was just spotting. If there were pads or tampons on the shopping list, they were just another item to buy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:42 PM
2

Even if he's good in bed, doesn't cheat and is the same age, it still wouldn't be fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:37 PM
1

You were the one who was wronged but you ended up having to console him. Both of you have past trauma, the consoling should have gone both ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:33 PM
2

I can guarantee that if you started doing something he didn't like (say, finger his ass), he would take half a second to notice even if he was very turned on. If he doesn't it's probably because he froze up (happens to rape victims). HVMs actively look at their partner's reactions, if it goes well it's a turn-on, if she doesn't like it it's a turn-off and they will stop and ask what's wrong. The only men who can continue while being completely oblivious to their partner's reactions are those who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:32 PM
29

"But they're just names, it's not that big of a deal haha" "I meant no disrespect, it was only a joke" "I've met girls who didn't mind being called those names, how was I supposed to know you didn't like it?" "You're being sensitive" "I called you a slut, but because it's funny/a compliment really"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:17 PM
7

Aside from the obvious LVM-ness, it is always a bad sign when you write a lot more text than the guy. Minimum effort on his part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:12 PM
6

I'd rather have self-respect than your money, no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:10 PM
3

Or one of those guys that call themselves "master" even though they are single. If anything it should be the submissive the one who decides to give him the title after he's proven his salt as a "dominant". But no, they want the power imbalance from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:09 PM
4

Sweden introduced the concept of "negligent rape " in their law for cases where the man never checks if the woman wants to have sex. This is far better than cases where the victim is interrogated with "why didn't you say no?" "did you give him any indication that you didn't want it and did you make sure that he understood it?", "don't you think he may have misunderstood considering you were wearing lingerie?". Why did society never think of asking the man "how did you know she wanted it?", "if s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:00 PM
1

The profile picture alone is a no. You can tell from a mile away he is arrogant and not in a good way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:45 PM
2

How is that app?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:44 PM
4

These standards seem so basic, they're only 3. Short men still have girlfriends and are getting married (I know plenty in real life) why do these Redditors feel so attacked when one woman would not date them? Also why does the pickme consider not being willing to date anyone a bad reputation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:39 PM
4

Never scramble for a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:28 PM
8

Not all cars! Not all roads! Okay but if it happens you risk a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:25 PM
15

No better way to ensure your partner dries up like the Sahara than letting her know it is a chore to have sex with her and that you'd rather masturbate. Good luck with sex after that lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:15 PM
10

Then mock them when they wear uncomfortable clothes to make themselves more appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:05 PM
41

It depends where you are. In my experience people seem a bit taken aback at first, but if you're amicable with them, listen and be polite in general, they still appreciate you. You will just be known as the direct woman. A few will still not like you but it is impossible to be liked by everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:03 PM
15

No better cure for loneliness than remembering you could end up with a piece of shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:54 PM
19

For real. Yes, he is wrong to feel that way wtf. If it had been a fleeting thought that he never expressed, and immediately knowing it is wrong and dismissing it, maybe he would have a right to feel that way. But walking out on her after she was raped? He's a snowflake at best, he should have the integrity to support her even if he's somehow annoyed. Imagine if the tables were reversed and a woman did something very cruel to her SO. He gets mugged and has his leg broken, she gets angry that he c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:52 PM
9

2020 it's the year we stop normalising that kind of shit as just another "mid-life crisis". No, if you're going through a mid-life crisis, pick a new hobby, start working out, go to therapy (if you have the money), stop watching porn, think of ways to improve your marriage... etc. So many options and some people still think it's not that bad that he cheats with a woman half his age and makes the whole family suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:08 PM
9

With low-quality implants (that are still considered implants) they can even get lymphatic cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:57 PM
13

Men should generally put more effort, but labelling everything as "masculine" or "feminine" can work against your favour. If you have your own personality and it is not strictly feminine, why change it? Whether you're a tomboy or a lady in heels, the only thing that is going to make a man put effort is himself. 100% agree with you on the rest. Being accommodating is a sure way for them to not take you seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:57 PM
5

FDS doesn't encourage FWBs, especially if you're a young woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:40 PM
16

It's funny how men on the internet complain so much about how they are expected to help in this kind of situations... yet I've barely seen any clips of men defending women from other men. You complain about something you've never done?? If I'm ever attacked in person I have zero hope that people around would help me, especially men. They already act as if walking a woman home is outdated and an exaggeration, while women demand you text them when you get home safely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:51 PM
11

I can't believe this guy made yet another embarrassing tweet about his marriage. Does he genuinely not realize??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:33 PM
4

Sounds sarcastic just to trigger you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:40 PM
64

Guaranteed that if a young woman or teenage girl is very friendly and doesn't actively avoid getting too close to men, one guy at least will eventually take advantage of her. If they were extremely rare it wouldn't be guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:18 PM
25

Sounds like it hit close to home, the guilt-tripping at the end really revealed it as personal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:25 AM
3

Love your response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:11 AM
3

I feel like there is some porn-sponsored Ministry of Truth to make the public believe bullshit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:33 AM
5

This is honestly so disgusting to read. Yes, the rape "kink" itself is the problem, people always say "that's not true bdsm", "it's just part of experimenting" or in this case "you didn't use the safeword the right way". Miss me with the no true scotsman shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:30 AM
11

This did not go the way I expected it to go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:24 AM
6

It's so mind-boggling to me that posts like this exist, easily available, and on the same platform you have people swearing up and down that porn doesn't alter men's perception of women at all. They're straight up lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:59 AM
2

That first commenter... no you don't need to be "called out", you need to be dumped. Learn to control yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:24 AM
26

Yet men still complain that we have this kind of standards as "mind games" or "playing hard to get". When they see evidence like these comments their response is "but not all men!". Okay bro what is your solution? That women leave it at chance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:03 PM
22

Men who are desperate to fuck "ANYONE" are men I do not respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:00 PM
76

I thought that going 50/50 on everything was a good thing. That it would make my partner feel valued and that it was only fair that I gave as much as they gave me, especially if I considered myself a feminist. It's not as if I envisioned relationships in an unequal way before, but reading subreddits dedicated to relationship advice and the like made me realize the kind of things men would like but I didn't think of in my relatively traditional upbringing. However after some real life experience …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:50 PM
5

There was another post years ago of a mother who said on Facebook or Twitter that the character of her 8 year old daughter (I think it was around that age) was raped on Roblox. Sounds like a shitty game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:23 AM
7

"Sweet and polite... at times"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:22 PM
73

For those saying that "can't women talk about their sexuality"? You should compare Ex's and Oh's or even It's Raining Men to this WAP video. If the WAP video (at least from what I see in images) was really about women's sexuality, we would be seeing hot men, hot men acting sexy to women, hot men doing things to turn women on, things like that. Instead we get bombarded with crude statues of boobs and butts, again, as if women were reduced to only those body parts at a butcher's shop. Do you reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 12:15 PM
15

The more the sexual objectification of women is promoted, even by the very few women who become millionaires from it, the more men benefit from it overall. That women earn money from objectifying themselves is the better of two evils.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:57 AM
19

At the end of the day, they are still sexualizing themselves to an extreme, which perpetuates the objectification of women. I get that at first it seems empowering that they are earning the money from sexualizing themselves instead of the money going to men, but as long as women are so objectified, there will always be men earning money from the exploitation of women. There are very few female artists who become millionaires from sexualizing themselves, compared to how much men benefit overall f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:55 AM
14

I only needed to see some screenshots of the video to know I wasn't going to watch that garbage. I've never liked a song from those female artists anyway, so what's the point? It seems like it is another Anaconda music video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:05 AM
1

Why do guys like this think Hollywood and porn are real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:41 AM
3

You just know that he only clicks on profiles that have revealing pictures or Instagram poses if he thinks all of that is so pervasive. He's just mad that those hot women don't match with him. He wants someone hot who he perceives as dumb, but dammit why does he have the suspicion that he might be the boring, superficial one? He hurt himself in his confusion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:27 AM
12

He looks so not his age that after seeing the photo, my brain could not read 45 and read 60. Then I read the comments and went back to the title. Totally his prime lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:13 AM
7

It may be unpopular but I find most classic Disney movies and a few Hollywood ones cemented the FDS values my family taught me. The focus was not on wanting to be treated as a "princess" but more on how men who were interested would want to treat me. For me it was a given that if a man was interested romantically, he would be respectful, make an effort, help me but also know when I could handle myself, value my opinion, apologized when they did wrong, value personality and intelligence... etc. F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:51 AM
8

Yes I agree! I get that Cinderella grates on some people because it's another "powerful man rescues poor woman" but as you say, he wasn't a significant character at all. The only princes that showed more personality were Beast and Aladdin, although Aladdin's initial trickery always bugged me until the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:38 AM
5

Pathetic psychopaths lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 04:32 AM
13

Tbf if it's that long it can hit the cervix. Length is more of an issue than width
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:57 PM
22

Whenever I've done this I have been "mean" and "too direct". When it comes from a man they appreciate the straightforwardness, but they're used to women sugarcoating everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:28 PM
22

One I've been seeing lately is "let's talk about the universe"...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 06:04 PM
2

Some will say they're too shy to hold hands 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:10 AM
8

They are conveniently leaving out that men intentionally kept women away from resources, so the second-best way of getting resources was to forcibly be with men. Yet they completely ignore this middle step and equate men with resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:58 PM
14

So us not wanting to have sex immediately until we are reasonably sure that the guy is decent and will care about our wellbeing during sex and after is behaving like a prostitute. But having sex with men who only interact with us because they want to have sex, and then forget about us or keep using us is not behaving like a prostitute? Damn right sex is important for us. Why shouldn't we care about our health, emotional wellbeing, safety and likelihood of orgasms? "But if he's a decent man he wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:52 PM
7

Oh god that sub 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:57 PM
45

I would have answered "so what you are telling me is that you're an idiot". The ex being 19 is so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:16 PM
36

Is he religious?? It cracks me up that he thinks he has a say. He's also trying to pull a "not like other girls".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:09 PM
16

Lol he's so sensitive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:53 AM
-8

Honestly I think that the ad wasn't sexualizing anything. I just saw a normal kid eating a banana, I know that fruit is usually associated with dicks, but don't scenes like that have the woman basically making out with a banana? As for cars being associated with picking up girls... from what I remember the car seemed like an average SUV. Maybe I'm too optimistic, but I doubt whoever designed the advertisement had anything sexual in mind. It would be like the worst image possible for the company …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:40 PM
2

Can someone send this website to the FBI? Idk what website it is but involuntary pornography is illegal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:55 PM
4

I don't think this is that bad? There are women here who want a sporty partner, and he was honest and told you it wasn't going to work out instead of wasting your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:54 PM
2

Oh this is definitely not about self-defence. A drink thrown at you is rude but it doesn't endanger your physically. The only reason why he slapped her was because his ego was incredibly bruised. I've seen it a couple of times. Girl does something that bruises a man's ego slightly, and he sees red. These men are so sensitive that they will retaliate 10x worse than what was done onto them, because they have a pathological need to always come out on top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:00 PM
6

"Know I'm supposed to be unhappy without someone, but aren't I someone?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:52 PM
5

Lol why does he even frame it as her duty to give him spontaneous bjs? The entitlement is unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:43 PM
3

Jesus the responses. "Do what you want but personally I would leave" "Maybe draw the line at blowjobs" Wtf kind of responses are this? All this shit about "safewords and limits" and not shaming others for their choices is making people so unbelievably stupid. It's a complete disservice to this woman to be so indecisive. She needs to leave him ASAP. He's a piece of shit who doesn't deserve to have a sexual partner again in his life. Someone who loves you wouldn't be so desperate to have a nut at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:37 PM
4

If a short man said he prefers hot and thin women, would the mod ban him too? Hint: Obviously not lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:25 PM
3

Nowadays we have to accept everyone as valid, telling them to improve is hate speech apparently. It's the idolatry of "choice" above all else that makes the internet so crappy sometimes. Oh your fetish is making sex toys out of alligator carcasses? Don't worry sweetie, there will be someone who is into what you're into. Anyone who tells you it's weird af and that you should stop doing it if you ever want a relationship is a bully. Similarly, if men are only into walking dates, doing the bare min…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:22 PM
7

It's that they were never told to suck it up and shoulder responsibility. Yeah they might be able to keep a job that has a lot of pressure, but that has benefits for him, both in salary and prestige, but taking care of someone while getting little in return? Girls are raised to suck it up when taking care of others isn't fun, while many parents act as if it's the end of the world when the boy complains that he doesn't have a PSP while watching over their baby cousin. There are many good men and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:49 PM
5

This. Women have been more of a gentleman to me than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:38 PM
6

This is what relationship advice on Reddit doesn't get. You shouldn't have to ask for this, the moment you need to "cOmMuniCatE" that you want him to take care of you, he's already failing. Nobody notices how unfair this is until you realize that it's almost a given that women take care of their sick or injured partners, without them having to ask. Only motivated by good will and compassion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:36 PM
2

True. Even if you act like the perfect lady, there will be men who won't respect you. If one wants to be a lady it should be because of personal values, not because she wants to be picked by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:28 PM
1

This shit is way too funny You either drop a man like this, or keep him around just to laugh at the bullshit he says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:17 PM
5

Important distinction here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:54 PM
4

That's not really what FDS says though. We all agree that we can't always tell how abusive or emotionally unavailable men can be because they lie and pretend at first. But once the woman does realize, I think FDS encourages women to protect their own kids and break up with the guy. With daddy issues situations, it's harder at first to blame someone who has so little self-worth that they never stand up to the father to defend their kids. But at the end of the day, preventing this is one of the th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:06 PM
3

Wtf 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:55 PM
7

I've refused to do this for over a decade already. People acted as if I grew another head when I said it was sexist for men to rate women so casually. It's such an arrogant thing to do. Sometimes men asked me to rate them or choose which one of their friends was more attractive, and I said the same thing, I don't rate people because it's disrespectful. Plus they asked me to do those things just as a way to see if they or any of their friends were more likely to have a chance. Don't rate men ladi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:49 PM
2

I don't think we have the whole story here. If it happened how he is telling it, I don't think he'd be the asshole. Maybe suing her is a bit far, but then again, the mother is downplaying it as acting out, so maybe this is the first time the daughter faces actual consequences for what she does. If she wasn't a minor and she did this to someone else, she'd be in jail. Better to learn while she's still a minor than later. If the daughter was a son, I think we'd see him more as a danger to society …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:40 PM
16

Those are similar to mine, but an important ones for me are: Finishes the job Go-getter I've met many people who start doing something and then give up because they say it's too hard. People who don't bother trying something because they think it'll be too hard, even with mundane things. I tend to find this extremely unattractive. I don't expect people to take big risks or sacrifice themselves excessively unnecessarily, all within reason, I'm just referring to things they could very well do if t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:31 PM
6

Yes it would be a waste of your time. Don't go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:23 PM
23

It's because women are rarely sexually satisfied in fwb and because the man only wants to see you because of your body. If he has no feelings for you, it's harder to have the motivation to make you feel good and not focus on his own pleasure only. Plus there is no actual friendship in fwbs, just some random texts at 1am for a dick appointments. It's another way for them to get easy sex without making any effort. I've heard that the mods are on the fence about fwbs, some think it could work for o…
/r/askFDS30/07/20 12:16 PM
1

Perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:15 PM
4

She'll get tired of giving men infinite chances eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:10 PM
12

OP said this time frame is suited for her cultural context. I live in Europe and I'd only start considering marriage after 3 years of being in a relationship more or less. Even if he wanted to propose after only a year (which I doubt), I'd need time to get to know him properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:08 PM
1

There is nothing that kills libido more than having sex out of obligation or knowing that sex with your partner never leads to an orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:58 PM
5

Does this have to do with Erdogan's rise in power? I heard that he made the country a lot more conservative than it was before him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:41 PM
2

It usually means that he's desperate for anyone to hook up with or have a relationship with because he can't live with himself is he's alone. So you're just a placeholder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:34 PM
8

Exactly my feelings. Only reason I'm gonna text anyone every day is if the conversation is interesting and entertaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:33 PM
29

I didn't read further than "crying is blackmail". This is so dumb that I can't even get mad because it's not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:28 PM
9

This is why it's never advisable to be a SAHM. I'm glad that she seems sure if herself though, judging from her comments, it seems she's going to divorce him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:18 PM
7

I'm completely floored. She needs to divorce him ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:07 PM
10

Nice to see a fellow 1984 fan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:35 PM
20

If the last man on Earth was a red-pilled man or an incel, I doubt any of us would chase him. I'd rather befriend forest animals, they'd be much more pleasant company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:33 PM
17

This is textbook red pill lore. Only reason they do this is because they know it's not the typical approach in nature, so they try to twist it around to increase their sense of self-importance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:30 PM
39

The last sentence really summarizes what this is about. The only difference between a consenting and a non-consenting person that engages in violent BDSM as the submissive, is the level of brainwashing, sense of self-worth and agreeableness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:19 PM
57

This is like saying guns aren't the problem, it's poor education about guns... while the U.S has the highest gun-related death rate among developed countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:37 PM
2

Lots of us would do this in a committed relationship (although shoes and a suit are not equivalent), the problem is that the kind of women who promote this proudly are way too preoccupied with the 50/50 and this leads them to attract guys who won't do anything for them unless she does it first or it is exactly the same thing. For example, he has a car, she doesn't, and she needs a ride? Well it's not as if she can give him a ride, so he won't pick her up even though he could. She gives him a gif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:30 PM
10

And it will be equal to her because he gives her a lot of love and affection... except she gives him those things too, but he won't lift a finger for housechores. Then of course they'll find a way to twist it as "he just has a different love language, mine is acts of service and his is words of affirmation. That's how doing all the housechores in exchange for a few compliments is equivalent" 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:15 PM
5

Men on the internet have really convinced libfems that the worst plight men can experience is paying for dates. And since libfems pander to men, I see a lot of these "feminists" spend more time defending the strict 50/50 than saying anything about the porn industry, "kinks", disrespectful men... etc. They played themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:09 PM
3

It's not only how sad or lonely you feel. Once you're free of LVM/NVM bullshit, you have so much more time and mental energy that you previously spent wondering why he was acting the way he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:05 PM
8

It is really worrying how most of these posts have a "is it normal"?. This just proves that these women grew up being gaslighted and were never taught to simply not put up with something they don't want, regardless of whether it's normal or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:59 PM
24

She's saying "porn" but what he likely looks at is hentai. Niche fetishes are a lot more commonplace in hentai, then he later specifically sought out actual porn about lactating. I agree with you that he's a sick loser though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:56 PM
12

I don't know how she didn't laugh in his face, I'm here reading it and I can't stop laughing. It would have taken everything in me in person to not laugh at something so ridiculous. He sounds exhausting and she should definitely dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:52 PM
6

I'm on board with this. Sending flowers is just a nice human gesture that is not necessarily tied to a romantic relationship. It's also good to know for yourself that you are the kind of person to do nice gestures like this. I'd send them to him but shortly before he goes to the funeral parlour. If he finds the flowers there with no warning and his family sees it before him it may become awkward for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:08 AM
23

Maybe their their self-esteem depends on being the cool/sexy girl. If you don't support sex work, they take it as an insult because it's become part of their identity. And I mean, when you think something is totally fine and someone comes to tell you you are making a mistake, it can be pretty annoying. Everyone has assumed that most people warning us don't know what we are going through so they must be making a mistake. I've been guilty of this, but then some of the people warning me were right.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:01 AM
6

Then people pretend that FDS women are the evil manipulators and that men are always wearing their heart on their sleeves. Ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:36 PM
11

Liberal female feminists: Volunteering to do all the feminine roles like cooking, cleaning, being pleasant when they talk, taking into consideration others' feelings, decorating, spending a lot of time, effort and money into looking pretty, doing all the kinky things he wants to prove she's not sexually repressed like in the 50s.. IN ADDITION to volunteering to pay for both of them in dates, carrying heavy stuff for him to prove she's not a damsel in distress, soothing him and giving him baths b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:26 PM
9

When men risk more than women from reproduction, when men are usually the ones giving and not taking, then maybe we could start talking. Until then, never do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:12 PM
17

Yeah men who complain about feeling pressure to be gentlemen are soo oppressed. Except... no one is actually forcing them, they're only bitter about it because they're used to being low-effort and lazy, and a single expectation feels like the weight of the world to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:10 PM
11

Meanwhile we can never expect this of men. Usually if women can get anything above the bare minimum, they think they snatched one of the good ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:03 PM
19

It's the surest way to be taken for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 08:59 PM
3

By vigilant, I meant others around them, not the victims themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:30 PM
23

Ugh I missed that detail, that makes it so much worse. Anyone who thinks they've found the love of their life after only 4 months needs a reality check. Even if it was the love of their lives, your own children always come first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:24 PM
0

I don't mean that the victims are at fault, but usually no one external is going to remove them from that situation. I wish that people were more vigilant, but they aren't. Victims are not at fault of abuse, but sometimes they can do something about it. If they do nothing, it will continue eternally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:22 PM
2

I agree with you. When I meant "abusive" I was referring not to actual domestic violence, but to the kind of LVM behaviours that are emotionally abusive. I'm speaking for experience. I used to think that I would just have to put up with it because it was relatively normal or that maybe I was exaggerating. I didn't have the risk of being killed, but I did wonder why were these things happening to me. Until I realised it was all his fault, that I didn't have to deal with that shit and that I shoul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:18 PM
3

Wow what a piece of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:24 PM
3

I found the nudes of a Youtuber that her NVM husband had likely posted. It was from years ago from when she was thinner, she had just had a baby with that idiot. LVMs and NVMs can spread your nude decades after you sent it. Sadly I was only 90% sure it was that Youtuber, so I couldn't send her any warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:23 PM
2

It's sad that every time I see stuff like this, it sounds like it came from a fictional book and not something that I'll see in real life. He definitively sounds like a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:20 PM
9

My grandma is very FDS-style and she told me that you can't truly trust a person until you see them angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:16 PM
144

Imagine being more afraid of offending some newbie guy than of fucking up your daughter's violin competition that she has worked so hard for. It's clear as day that this woman is desperate for the approval of the boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:12 PM
10

See, he should have felt bad and told her this before he had sex with her... so that he wouldn't have sex at all. I don't respect men who do this. You're willing to hurt someone like this instead of just jerking off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:07 PM
6

You mean if he's already done before you've had an orgasm? I don't understand this post sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 11:53 AM
3

I think it's more pointing out that if you're suffering because of a LVM, it's not a natural phenomenon. "Why does this happen to me" should be said if it starts raining and you didn't bring an umbrella. When you're suffering abuse it's not that you just happened to be unlucky and that's how life can be sometimes, it's that the abuser is choosing to be an abuser and that it is possible to separate yourself from that. Of course it's not that easy if you're financially dependent on the abuser or s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 11:17 AM
5

This is one of my standards as well. People don't realize how important it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 11:02 AM
52

I think it's probably the first one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:21 AM
14

Wow this seems really well explained. Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:38 PM
33

I finally see someone else on Reddit mentioning this. When idiots send love letters to male serial killers, people take it as proof that women prefer assholes. But female serial killers have romantic admirers too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:35 PM
18

Number #3, #5 and #6 are typical male Redditors when it comes to any gender discussion. I unfortunately seem to encounter #7 and #8 a lot in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:28 PM
119

This applies to any characteristic tbh. E.g.: Date a paranoid man? He starts acting like you are the paranoid one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:12 PM
11

Omg I'm wheezing. Thanks for linking the report
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:28 PM
14

Bro you have the whole squad laughing here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:19 PM
4

It's like someone politely communicating that no sir, you can't steal the Mona Lisa. It should be obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:53 PM
1

Well okay, this hit me like a truck. Not a toxic relationship but definitively one I should have ended before it did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:43 PM
1

A LVM treats someone he sees worthy well, but treats the rest like garbage. Reminds me of a poor woman on AITA whose husband treated her relatively nicely, but called the woman he cheated with "trailer trash". A HVM will treat everyone respectfully regardless of status or romantic interest. Definitely agree with you that being a HVM is in character, there are plenty of rich assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:41 PM
10

The best route is to stop engaging, indifference and assertiveness. Block & delete for dates from OLD, but with people that you've known for longer sometimes it's not that simple. There is no use in yelling, raising your voice or expressing anger like that. When someone does something disrespectful or harmful, you tell them how it is the first time, but there will be no second chances. What makes people respect you more is not how you express anger, but whether you carry out what you said you wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:32 PM
14

I made this mistake and it backfired incredibly. I can't believe men blame women or society on men not getting compliments, start telling other guys to not be thirsty af then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:24 PM
4

Same. This is why I don't really believe that men and women can be friends. I would have no issue only being friends with a guy, but every time I've treated them in a similar way to my female friends, they start getting romantic/sexual ideas. That's why I keep men at a distance emotionally speaking. I simply can't be close friends with someone that I know is interested in being more than friends with me when I'm not into them that way. With men on the other hand, don't assume he's interested in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:21 PM
56

Yeah it's awfully suspicious. Even if you're busy, you still have 1 min to text someone that you're not likely to make it at the established time or sort of predict how long it's going to take (assuming it's not his first day on the job).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:10 PM
6

Accurate as hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:02 PM
7

This just proves how this type of men prey on vulnerable women with low self-esteem. Some girls really get tricked into the idea that these men are only appreciating beauty, that it's "artistic", that it's okay so share nudes and stuff like that because they're so nice to make her feel sexy... no, they just smell the desperation from a mile away and you're just another object out of the countless nudes they look at. A woman can get a HVM partner to actually appreciate her without any disrespect,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:02 PM
7

This is what we should be doing. Calling out people on petty disrespect like this, and demanding that people be respectful towards us (and anyone). Remember AOC every time some guy calls you a "slut", a "bitch", a "cunt"... etc. and later says it was only a joke. We've all experienced this. By speaking out, she is raising the standards of how women should accept to be spoken to, and she's stopped normalising this behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:52 PM
21

You're confusing being opposed to something to being angry. And where was she emotional? She kept it cool throughout the whole speech. It is not tougher to just take it and act like she's not bothered by it. This is how men get to abuse women all they want, because the moment she says what he did was wrong, she gets accused of being a little baby. Apparently the solution is to just take it, or stoop to their level and call him names too? No. One should be assertive and express that the person sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:45 PM
15

This is so important, and one of the things that make people respect you more. If you insult yourself or think you're not good enough, that's the message you're giving to people on how they should treat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:07 PM
27

Same. Every time I think I've already seen everything, the universe proves me wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:05 PM
2

That's so spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:04 PM
1

That's so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:03 PM
6

Regardless of dom or sub categories, I think it's just wrong that one side does all the caring and the other doesn't get any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:49 PM
34

Gentlefemdom is leaning into mommy fetish even if they say it's not. It's basically everything we see in porn of catering to male pleasure, but here you have to act like a mother and call him a cute little boy. The subreddit is all a bunch of instructions towards female "doms" framed as "remember to do x, y and z because it gives us tummy butterflies UwU" instead of instructions given in a douchey manner like in regular porn. Even when it's "normal" femdom, it's the same except they like being d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:47 PM
29

Wow, everything here was a mess but the fact that he was considering basically doing revenge porn is the worst of all. So good that you dropped this guy like a hot potato
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:52 PM
11

Maybe if MRAs wasted less time blaming women for everything and focused on legitimate issues like male circumcision or the suicide rates, people would take them more seriously. All that woman hating ends up with cases like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:35 AM
5

Good advice, I definitely should have seen this sooner but I'll use it from now on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:25 AM
5

Yeah it's as if the moment we don't constrain ourselves to only one view, they stop and think "wait you can do that?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:00 PM
12

That's the kicker, they delude themselves into thinking that it's male nature to be sex crazed and have no self-control, when men I know have told me themselves that they look down on insecure horndogs who have no self-control like this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:58 PM
3

I think he's going to hurt himself in his confusion one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:55 PM
2

Oh poor man, how dare she tell him to pay for the lock he broke?? I have absolutely no respect for men who slam doors, punch walls or break things when they're angry. I don't care why they have so little emotional control. They should go to therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:53 PM
5

How can he say this and not realize how telling it is on his personality and insecurities lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:43 PM
97

This is typical LVM behaviour. Once a woman has the reputation of being easy or having lots of sex, they get enraged that she doesn't want to do those things with him too. They actually take it as a personal affront against them, some random in that woman's life. Apparently she can't possibly want a real relationship, love or not be in the mood. It must be that she looks down on him because she "gave" it to all those other men. LVMs like this always have some sort of inferiority complex. They ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:33 PM
2

Well said. Having a Gucci bag that you got in exchange from putting up with some creep shouldn't be an accomplishment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:19 PM
5

Guys who describe themselves as feminine often give the impression that they'd almost never initiate anything (including sex), you'd have to protect them (but they wouldn't do the same for you) and would be jealous of feminine traits that you have that they don't. This impression of femininity might make them appear like they wouldn't be the average douchey fuckboy, but they will lean more towards wanting a mother figure. Now I have no problem with a man who looks a bit feminine (David Bowie, k-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:40 PM
19

He could have spent less time asking her questions about herself. Instead he wasted time on this roundabout way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:22 PM
3

That guy was up to no good. Obvious low-effort, douchey behaviour and he was only interested in sex. The fact that there are already rumours on how he treats women is a huge red flag, among others. You weren't being insecure, you were secure by not falling for this guy's bullshit. Progress, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:21 PM
1

Doesn't surprise me that she's 18... When she grows older she'll wisen up and she'll stop trying to pander to LVMs Because really this is the lowest value you could ask for, the most defining features of the guy she describes is horny and hungry, something that literally every human does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:09 PM
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I pity the women who are so poor and unskilled that they don't have other options. That being said, I've seen so many pages and post promoting being a sugar baby to college girls. That's usually not the demographic that would be desperate for money, and yet they target these young women and convince them of things that are not. I know you're not personally interested, just using "you" as a way of speaking. "Easy money!" - Yeah except for all the emotional labour, tip-toeing around the client's f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:02 PM
4

Bingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:04 AM
7

I can see why others see that you're perpetuating the myth of "men act right for the right person", that in a way, makes women responsible for men's actions. However, I can also see where you're getting at. HVMs should treat all women respectfully but it IS harder to do things that require effort when you're not mad about someone. That's why it's the responsibility of HVM to ensure they're not wasting women's time if they're not crazy about them. A lot of men (I'd say the majority) enter relatio…
/r/askFDS18/07/20 12:07 PM
16

Women only need men to the extent that they're uneducated, poor or have enough low self-esteem. It's not a coincidence that very sexist societies prevent women from getting an education or a job, and constantly put them down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:35 AM
6

I'm the same. Definitely don't want a FWB, it's just that normal daily stuff is boring. In the end it feels like a job to talk every day about mundane things. I don't care that you went grocery shopping or had a shower today. This doesn't mean they can't ever mention it, but if it's a habit, yeah it becomes boring. However if I talked every day about interesting topics, I'd be excited about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:12 AM
58

Lol what about their agenda of manipulating women into sex early? That doesn't count? Everyone can call anything an agenda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:07 AM
4

Sometimes they don't even gain anything from it. Asserting something that is true but might hurt the person means that you're willing to take the risk that you're wrong as well. They have more sympathy for men because they're from the same sex. They're too afraid to be wrong, and don't feel like her right to know trumps that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:50 PM
186

Imagine their shock when it turns out women don't orgasm spontaneously when they touch a dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:41 PM
8

That's exactly what it is. Good analogy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:09 PM
92

Nah men are not wired to be like this by nature. Everything he said points to what he thinks he's entitled to based on society's standards for men in relationships. I've seen men marrying acid attack victims, disabled women, and women who are considerably less attractive than them. This guy wants to bring all men to his level so he feels less shallow. But when women say something like this people act as if they were killing a puppy. And most of the time is not even that a woman cares about her p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:45 AM
6

I think it was that since I'm suspicious of "consensual" violent sex, I must want women to be raped? They thought my problem was with women having consensual sex. They missed my point so badly. Idk, the mental gymnastics are strong on that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:49 AM
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Oh I have a nice list of stuff I've been accused of because I said violent kinks have to be questioned instead of cheerfully and immediately accepted: Sanctimonious Supports rape Anti-women Hates rape victims Sex-negative Infantilizes women Dehumanizes women (this one's my favourite)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:03 AM
1

Lol what about guys who sound unpleasant but then they actually help you with actions? Still trying to figure that one out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:36 PM
3

"Open-minded" Please don't dislike anything I like, don't have a different opinion, and agree with me on everything. Otherwise I will think that you're judging me. It could also mean that he has a list of fetishes he wants you to participate in. And if you don't even try it a little bit, you're a close-minded prude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:20 PM
3

I've noticed this too. I almost never see a self-proclaimed male xSTx or xSFx.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:14 PM
6

Yeah it is. Teenage boys start doing it and it usually works, so it continues into adulthood. If they complain that they don't want to do a chore because you're just going to scold them again for doing it wrong, answer "then do it right and I won't have to complain". If they refuse to collaborate in housechores (yes, they do this even if you've coMmUniCatEd), do not give him anything. Only make food for yourself and don't leave any scraps he can eat. Make only your own laundry. Buy at the superm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:10 PM
2

This is too funny 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:39 AM
10

What I separate is finding a man handsome and sexual attraction, which means "I'd actually fuck him". I find many men handsome, but it's like looking at models in a magazine. You turn a page and there's another handsome face. It doesn't really mean anything to me on its own. I care too much about his personality, compatibility and my safety to consider fucking a guy purely from his looks. To answer your question, you have to keep in mind that I don't know all the male population on the planet or…
/r/askFDS15/07/20 01:01 AM
12

I bet there are many examples on Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:39 PM
3

Even better, one who actually irons them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:24 PM
9

That's so he can brag about how much women like him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:09 PM
30

I love it when they're so incredulous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:58 PM
25

This is what the sequel to "romance" stories featuring controlling guys should look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:53 PM
46

Jesus wtf. I bet that if you tell her she's wasting her time she'll get defensive and say you're slut-shaming her. That's what sex positivity has done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:50 PM
5

I think it's worth keeping in mind that we all have different tastes. If he doesn't bring you flowers because you don't really care about them, but he gives you thoughtful gifts just because that you like, that counts as a success. I fear that some women here haven't seen in real life a HVM, so they will stick to a strict definition and may consider something that deviates from the type as a failure. FDS are a set of guidelines that you use to best suit your situation and taste. Personally I'm h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:48 PM
7

Yeah I've noticed more and more that when men put "I want an independent woman", it's code for "I will fight you to the last penny" or someone who will take care of them. They won't take care of her though because they never said they are the strong, independent type, so that's not his role ;) A HVM would think it's obvious that she has a job, is earning a salary within his standards and can handle herself. He'll just ignore the ones who don't have that. No need to point it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:39 PM
8

Nooo, why do guys always complained about being judged? If it was baseless assumptions then that would be an unfair judgment, but they don't use it only in those situations. Pointing out that something doesn't make any sense or that they behaved badly isn't judging them. Giving constructive criticism isn't judging harshly. Having a different opinion is not "judging him"! It's so insecure. Men who complain about how you judge them are a yellow flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:33 PM
3

They want someone intelligent enough that they don't get bored but lord forgive that she's smarter than him. They will find a way to insult her intelligence, say that her achievements don't mean anything or aren't that important (especially compared to his) then joke about how they're critical of their own intelligence and achievements so it doesn't look like the attack it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:09 PM
38

And when they have both of those things they still use porn lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:01 PM
9

Why do I have a feeling that if he was single, he would immediately notice if a woman near him did what his wife did. We hear all the time about men having the sacred hobby of videogames that allows then to ignore everything else around them. Why do I never hear "yeah my wife spent hours reading a novel while I fed my kid dinner and put him to sleep". If he expressed his annoyance that she didn't see that he was doing it all alone, everyone would be sympathetic to him. It wouldn't be "maybe she'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:59 PM
113

This is so normalized among men, but if their wives/girlfriends told them several times that they don't find them attractive or that they'd rather fuck a completely different man, they wouldn't like it one bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:47 PM
158

This translates to "I like male validation too much to realize I'm devaluing myself"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:28 PM
16

Trusting a man doesn't mean he gets to disrespect her like this. I trust my mother, it doesn't mean I'd let her harm me. I repeat, trust is not permission for disrespect or harm. It usually is an explanation for why the victim doesn't immediately tell the perpetrator to fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:54 AM
36

What does it for me is how they pretend that it's male nature to leer and stare. I know plenty of men who are polite enough to not do that. It's entirely their choice to be creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:47 AM
5

Damn this is a hard pill to swallow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:45 PM
6

For me reading romance novels and smut webcomics helps. I know that intuitively it seems like you'd only be more consumed by this hunger, but virtual food is better than no food I guess. Be careful not to indulge too much because it can waste your time a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:44 PM
10

I would have told him that he was as classy as those women on Tinder/Bumble given his quest for hookubs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:31 PM
31

I would also like to see less memes and inspirational quotes. They always get like 500 upvotes while more thoughtful post barely get 50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:24 PM
11

They did what now? runs to Youtube
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:20 PM
13

Porn and what sex positivity has turned into, folks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:02 PM
15

In what world is having had 3 girlfriends not considered a "success" at your age? That's pretty normal and I'd say even more than the average. Shouldn't the success be how happy these relationships were instead of how many? That girl was weird. Yeah women in our twenties want kind, genuine guys too. One of my exs is like that, and that was one of the main reasons why I became attracted to him in the first place. What's wrong with being adorable? I liked it when he did something adorable. There i…
/r/askFDS12/07/20 04:00 AM
24

Yeah sorry, I should have specified I was referring to Western Europe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:34 AM
20

Meh, she makes some fair points like how it is not necessarily empowering to have one-night stands with strangers. The rest is just promoting that wives be servants and therapists to their husbands without getting the same in return, and using the "let women be women" as an excuse for it. One thing is different dating approaches due to sex differences (women risk more), and another is believing that women should not be engineers or that her opinion doesn't really matter since her husband has the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:38 AM
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