I posted this another sub for black women, but I also wanted to hear your thoughts :)

Hi!

I am a 19 yr old almost 20 and I focus way too much on school (pre-med 😩) & I’ve never been in a relationship or date that often. I decided to start going on dates and meeting new people.

There is this guy he is 31 yr old Indian/white guy(don’t know if age gap is a red flag) he is very sweet and he is a physician fellow about to a attending physician next year. He gives me advice about medicine and does not say anything degrading or disrespectful and we seem to get along. He doesn’t bring up sex or anything like that just mainly getting to know me. He is also a good connection to make. We’ve been texting everyday for the past two months... he never calls (don’t know if that is a red flag) and we’ve met up only once for lunch. One thing he did this weekend that bothered me is he ghosted me for 3 days and then just hits me up randomly. Men do this to test how much disrespect you will allow. I remind myself I have to high standards or they will walk all over you. I don’t know if I should ditch him, tell him how I feel, or act like it didn’t happen.