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Good. Stay away lurker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/22 02:46 AM
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That book saved my life. Every person on earth needs to read that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 11:03 PM
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Oh sis, finding men off the streets ain’t it either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:14 PM
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“Most snakes aren’t venomous, why not trust to handle them all?” I say that, keeping several snakes as pets. 🐍🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:14 PM
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Thank you SO much for sharing this. Saving it. My question is, what is the phenomena of SO much denial across the internet of the harmful effects of this? Why is it so normalized? These are rhetorical questions, but really, it’s incredibly frightening to know that there are so many men out there (and women) lost to this consumption. It makes me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:05 PM
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So in other news, water is wet. 😵‍💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 01:28 AM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:28 PM
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I spent 140$ the other day on decorative pillows. This man belongs in a landfill. 140$ is insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:33 PM
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I told my current bf before we were dating and after he professed his love to me that I was (half-jokingly) a gold digger, and that I want someone who is going to provide for me (amongst many other things.) He laughed and said all I have I will give to you. He pays for all of our dates and gifts, gas, etc. If he wants to, he will. I’m not playing 50/50. So far it’s worked for me. Make men work and invest into your relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:27 PM
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Yup. Women like her should just steer clear from having children. If they are going to exploit them and take away their resources meant for them, hard fucking pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:06 PM
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Your husband is fetishizing you at your most vulnerable state. Many men feel powerful at the thought of having been the cause of a woman being made vulnerable by their act. Be very wary and think twice about having children with this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:42 PM
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Precisely. Can you also imagine the damage of growing up as that child and having knowledge that your own mother willingly put a moment where she is at her most vulnerable and yours, uploaded for view to hundreds of thousands of masturbating pedos and deranged troglodytes? What kind of world view is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:40 PM
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Selling women’s bodies has hit a whole new level in this era. This makes me feel eerily sick and worrisome on a deeper level. Nothing is sacred and private anymore. Everything, even childbirth, and breast milk for perversions, is monetized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:54 PM
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The more articles and Reddit posts on incompetent and abandoning men makes me realize that most men are just glorified sperm donors. Like, what else would they be good for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:28 PM
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This is so inaccurate on so many levels. Women should NOT play Barbara the Builder for a man. A woman’s time is worth more, ESPECIALLY if she wants children. So many women squander their youth on building up men only to have men discard them for someone else. A man who has good values, work ethic, and good character, and treats their partner with respect will never have to demand loyalty. For some odd reason, men are largely the perpetrators of covertly controlling and abusive relationships, so …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 01:24 PM
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You’re doing the Lord’s work. 👏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:10 PM
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Holy crap the insane shaming we put on women for even having standards for a ring, nonetheless the deeper rooted issue of him LYING. It’s actually INSANELY insidious if you look deeply into it, these pickmeishas are drinking the koolaid and want other women to be drinking it too. I wish there was a name for this sort of specialized socialization enforced on women that makes them suppress their desires and just bE hApPy for having the bare fucking minimum. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:36 AM
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I’m childfree and I will not be interested in a man who doesn’t pursue me. Being born a woman we aren’t dealt the same privileged hand as a man is. They will pursue me for the rest of the relationship, or there is no relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:04 AM
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Yes. Love as a feeling is not enough. Love needs to be action. We as a society are setting up women to FAIL by accepting shitty 50/50 relationships and cheap ass chicken nugget rings. No woman should be shamed for wanting a nice ring. A woman’s time is much more valuable than a man’s, a ring is one of many things a man can provide in order to establish equity for her time. I told my man I’m not settling for a cheap ring. Tiffany’s it is. If I am obligated to wear that ring till the day I die, it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:41 PM
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If he can’t afford a ring, he can’t afford a wife, kids, and a house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:05 PM
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I see nothing wrong here. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:15 AM
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I hope you are doing well. I really recommend reading Lundy’s book “Why Does He Do That”. Saved my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:48 AM
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I’ve yet to see an exception, so I agree with you there sis 😭 A truly awful situation all around. I feel for her greatly. She is unfortunately deluding herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:21 AM
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I would try to grey rock them sis, as best as you can. In the meantime, try to save up enough money to move out 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:17 AM
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My mind is blown. A year later after escaping my insanely abusive narc ex, I STRUGGLE like never before with memory. I literally feel at times like I can’t remember most of the relationship. It’s like a nightmare that I have trouble recalling if it was real or not. I’m slowly recalling it though, and working through it. My memory is regaining. It’s painful to remember or be triggered by those memories, but it’s part of the process of learning, and growing, and healing past the abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:10 AM
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This is awful. I know what it’s like to feel like her because I was with a man who was two decades older than me. 99% of the time it’s a grooming predatory situation, and will turn abusive. Men like that have NO business dating women their children’s age. Disgusting. There’s a reason why the large the age gap the larger the divorce rate, at 20 years there is a whopping 95% chance of divorce. This man is wasting this woman’s precious time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:14 AM
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My narc ex used every single one of these lines. They fucking identify themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:15 PM
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If I have to wear the damn ring until the day that I die, it better be nice. And many a stupid redditor forgets that traditionally rings are supposed to be insurance for the woman in case the engagement falls through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:50 AM
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Holy crap. My childfree ass has heard it all. Any doubt of going to a male gyno is destroyed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:40 AM
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Oh my gosh I would love to hear more. I think many women need to realize that OLD attracts LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:40 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 she said it. She called them out right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:16 PM
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Narcs operate in a very distinct execution of lovebombing, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering, and repeating these steps over and over again. This will establish a trauma bond. Your brain is chemically addicted to this cycle. The only way I got out of this was to remove myself as far as possible and immediately as possible and as safe as possible from the narc. Block, delete, EVERYTHING. When I left the narc abuser, as I have tried to COUNTLESS times, I realized he was escalating and eventua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:01 PM
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Thank you for the response. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:45 PM
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LOL my best girl friend and I always discuss a tactic when we’re out walking together what we will do if some weirdo men or predator comes at us. Besides my pepper spray in my pocket, we’ve agreed to start literally twitching, speaking in tongues, gesticulating erratically, bobbing our heads, and start grunting like gorillas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:36 AM
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Saving this quote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:23 AM
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I’m concerned about this, where the guy does a 180 on his cleaning habits. Since I don’t want to move in with a man unless I’m engaged and he’s vetted to be HV, what can we do as ladies to ensure he doesn’t flip the switch? I’m guessing is by close and careful observation, by spending time, even spontaneous show ups, vacations, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:04 PM
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An ex narc of mine CONSTANTLY called me his dream girl. Lovebombed the shit out of me. He also had no problem abusing me, verbally, emotionally, and escalated into physically abusing me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:23 PM
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Yes! When I read that, I was like THAT explains so much why those feelings of attachment are so strong. They chemically are practically the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:53 PM
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YES. Thank you for posting the studies. Men and women are not the same. There’s a reason why FWB will 99% not go anywhere despite the woman wanting more. Tens of thousands of years of evolution is not easily changed in the introduction of modern day casual relationships. There is NO reward for a woman giving up sex to a man if those three requirements aren’t fulfilled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:40 PM
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I highly suggest “Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists, and Other Sex Offenders” by Dr Anna C Salter. She addresses all of these questions and experiences in her work as working with victims of abuse and interviewing actual pedophiles and other predators. Basically pedophiles (who are mostly men) come in all forms of shapes and sizes, in all lines of work, and can even have relationships with people their age. Many of them do have attraction to people their age but ALSO to much younger, but others pre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:30 PM
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I want to shove this article in every libfem’s face. How dare people call this empowering. These poor women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:23 PM
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Men are LEECHES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:10 PM
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My anusive narc ex pulled this with me CONSTANTLY. PreFDS and in a trauma bond with him, I was constantly begging him to stop calling me names and yelling at me and abusing me. When he kept repeating over and over the same abuse, he got angrier and angrier that he thought I kept bringing it up and reminding him how shitty he was and how he hasn’t changed. Well, DUH. I’m now in a wonderful healthy relationship where communication from his side is endlessly patient, loving, listening, and proactiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:10 PM
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You’re a very kind person and I hope she gets to follow her dreams 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:38 AM
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That’s why women should always always ALWAYS have their own money, and spending and save and invest money like they are single and will be for the rest of their lives. You never know what could happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:25 AM
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😂 Same. It’s the only subscription that actually doesn’t cost you, it PAYS you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:23 AM
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The entitlement and ungratefulness that scrotes have to even have access to a woman’s body and no addresses to her own health astound me. Men like this shouldn’t even have access to our bodies like this if they’re going to be like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:02 AM
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Apologies for the late reply, it is "All About Love" !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:36 PM
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The boys who don’t wash their hands as kids grow up to be men who give you STIs and mess up your PH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:55 PM
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Agreed. I’m always absolutely skeptical and roll my eyes of the self-processed male feminist, because 99% of the time you know they are just libfem. And yes, I hate how that’s the main narrative for avowing to quit porn because it might disrupt their relationships or break their dick, it’s never about any ounce of altruism or empathy for the millions of women, children, (and yes, even men) trafficked into slavery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:25 PM
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Thank you so much queen. I have been making great progress! And yes that book was the breaking point for me, I am forever grateful for that book!!! Thank you for kindly checking up on me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:21 PM
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My boyfriend cries at the slightest thought of even unknowingly mistreating me. Men can do both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:41 PM
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Exactly what my narc ex put me through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:40 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Truly, he sounds like an amazing person, and I’m so happy he had someone like you as a life partner. I send many hugs and well wishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:27 AM
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That book is phenomenal, a must read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:40 PM
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One rare time, my HVM bf and I gotten in a heated discussion that we both were quite unaware of how we were coming across. Immediately as he recognized how personal the matter of the topic was to my experiences and I how did not appreciate how he was approaching it with sensitivity as he usually does, he immediately stopped and sincerely apologized profusely, and even broke down because he thought he was mistreating me. This man is very emotionally available for me, as well as being very stable …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:30 AM
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Always get your rings authenticated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:40 PM
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Oof I’m sorry girl. Are you childfree? I am. The amount of men I ghosted because I found out they had kids or wanted kids when I made it very clear I didn’t want to be a mom is too damn many.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:37 AM
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I also got in a somewhat heated argument over a liberal feminist about sex work and it being eMpOwEriNg. While I’ve thankfully never engaged in intercourse for money, I was a sugar baby (lite version, if you will) and in exchange for my company and attention and time was given gifts, money, etc. Even my brief stint in this world literally showed me how awful men, particularly OLDER men can be and how exploitative it is, and how damaging to your psyche it can be especially long term. The only thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:31 AM
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That’s a lot of words to say “I’m cheap and I don’t care.” What a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:44 AM
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Agreed. My abusive narc ex told me that if I got pregnant that he would at least try to talk to me into keeping it. I am a militantly childfree, always been, always will be. To know that if at my most vulnerable, that the person who made this happen would try and persuade me in that moment to go against my long held stances, I would feel absolutely sickened because of this deep, deep betrayal. Also, thank you for your most recent post on FDS, my long held suspicions are true about men when it co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:20 AM
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You are amazing. I also left a horrendously abusive relationship as well and I’m so grateful everyday for that decision. Because of that decision, I am infinitely happier, healthier, I am dating a HVM, I am safe, I am secure, I am succeeding, and I am loving, and I am healing. But I have to say, don’t give credit to the abuse, give credit to YOURSELF for having so much heart and empathy and love of fellowship for your fellow sisters in solidarity. I hope you and she are doing ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:16 AM
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That is actually the sign of an abuser who will escalate. My narc ex used to say that he would never hit a woman. He ended up eventually throwing my things away, punching my tv, slamming on the breaks when he knew I didn’t have my seatbelt on and bruised my knees, and then finally throwing a brick through my windowed door, shattering the glass into thousands of pieces. I knew I was going to be next, and knowing that, I knew I HAD to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:21 AM
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Phenomenal. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:53 PM
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I want this. I’m not talking particularly about the wedding, but about the love. A love where I feel 110% I can rely on a man and trust him to be a partner for my life. I don’t know if I’ll ever feel that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:16 AM
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Girl are you me? I have been so angry and frustrated at men ESPECIALLY now. With light of international women’s day, and just seeing the news of the abuse that we as women endure makes me so mad. I’m also a little resentment at my boyfriend because as many great qualities as he has, there are some things that he will never understand since he is a man. As amazing and emotionally available as he is, in the very end of the day, he doesn’t know what it’s like to not be able to walk at night and liv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:58 AM
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Agreed. I finally got my copy (on international women’s day no less) and it really helped me verbalize my anger, and turn it into a healthy outlet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:01 PM
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Yeah it’s all just some circlejerk of dad’s lamenting why no one is giving them attention for being ✨dads✨ and why women would ever presuppose him for being a predator. The sheer amount of likes and comments shows me there is a LOT of work that men need to do to respect women and children and their experiences. To stop thinking about mUh fEeLiNgs and start empathizing that the problem isn’t with a particular man necessarily, but TOO MANY MEN. It gives me flashbacks as a child when adults would p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:00 PM
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It’s so awful. I had an asshole literally say fuck me for assuming all men are predators. Like I did not say ALL men, but literally it just goes to show how ignorant and not empathetic they are to our experiences. So yes, we should always be wary of anyone who is strange, but ESPECIALLY men. The statistics are too large to ignore. I got downvoted for saying men’s feelings are less important than women and children’s safety. They really don’t give a shit about scaring or terrorizing us. Well, I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:42 PM
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At this point some men are just sperm donors. Poor woman. She’s cOmMuNiCaTeD enough. Now is time for her and her baby to pack up and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:23 PM
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COmMuniCaTe my ass. He knows. He already knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:16 PM
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No because that would be misandry oh no 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:21 AM
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Haha thanks queen 👑! I’ve had enough! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:20 AM
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Right-o. Men who whine about this don’t have an ounce of sympathy for women or children at worse, or, at best, are completely self centered and ignorant of the dangers of men. And you’re absolutely right. When we see men perform the bare minimum in childcare, it’s lauded. It’s met with a standing ovation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:19 AM
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HA exactly. Funny how men will say they’re the more LoGiCaL ones, but they get so emotional and offended when women act protective and skeptical of men because logically and statistically sex offenders are almost 100% male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:15 AM
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I’m so sorry. I’m a cat mom too and I have been assaulted as well. Although my childfree choice was made long before then, it was a reminder that I do not want anyone to ever force me to do anything I don’t want ever again. We are free women. I send you so many hugs. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:15 PM
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What if men just actually decided instead of investing their time trying for come up with dumbass manipulative cheap tactics they could actually put towards their own careers and self growth and actually become HVM and attract HVW. Oh wait, nah, that’s too much work for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:13 PM
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That is so sweet of him 💕💕💕 many blessings to you two 🌸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:09 PM
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Agreed. I will never make the first move, but a former coworker who I grew to be close friends with and eventually became someone I’m currently dating started showing me signs of liking me long before. He said he would have never admitted it because he didn’t want to burden me with his feelings or make me uncomfortable in any way (I had escaped a previous abusive relationship, distrusted men and still do and dealing with trauma, and was extremely stressed with contract work while also having sec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:09 PM
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Girl same. I’m childfree and this gave me chills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:59 PM
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I went to school with this guy, he’s hilarious 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:44 PM
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Girl I told every man I used to date and my current man that I don’t cook, straight up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:49 AM
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😭😂 I literally almost choked on my drink 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:47 AM
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It’s crocodile tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:30 AM
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I just wanted to say, you are an incredibly strong woman. I’ve been through this process and it’s one of the most grueling things I’ve ever had to do. One day the fog lifts. It does. Any woman thinking the pain will never end, it will. I forced myself to believe it will. I dug through the trenches of abuse and came to. I have a clarity of mind I’ve never had before. I loved myself so forcefully even when I couldn’t believe it, because I knew if I didn’t, I would be weak and go to him again, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:29 AM
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Goodness. I wish we could bill men for the amount of time of ours they wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:22 AM
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BRUH omg childfree woman here. Dad scrotes are so fucking resentful of us and our freedom. Sorry I don’t want to take care of your kid for free. These guys are just looking for a younger babysitter they can bang. Should’ve thought about that before you procreated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:37 PM
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IM SCREAMING LMAOOo wtfffff It just kept getting worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:34 PM
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Agreed! I’m an artist and have a degree in the field and the most of the industry is smoke and mirrors. I have skill and talent for sure but a lot of what makes artists successful is their ability to be an effective marketer, a magician assigning value to the product. A lot of artists have deprecating low self esteem and worth and it reflects in their salesmanship and they sell themselves short. Like most jobs, if men come in swinging their dicks around like a paintbrush, women shouldn’t feel as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:00 PM
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😭😂😂😂 I’m DEAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:46 PM
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Thank you sis for your lovely words. Agreed. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:34 PM
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That’s so awful, I’m so sorry :( I’m convinced that most men have some varying degrees of psychopathy. To be so unmoved by suffering is not human at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:34 PM
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I watched the pilot episode and I literally got so stressed out that I quit halfway through. Such a trashy show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:48 PM
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Agreed. My narc ex told me he hated it and me when I cried when he was abusing me. They want us to suffer but they hate dealing with the consequences of suffering. Abusers are barely even human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:39 PM
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I’m sorry your dad failed you and set the poor standard for your relationship, but I’m so glad you’re out of there. Abusers will justify it in any way possible just to try to get a rise out of you. The thing is, they are tiny and good for nothing. Many hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:27 PM
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You’re completely right. That’s why it’s good to have set boundaries. The second a man crosses a boundary that you have set and enunciated clearly and he has broken it is the second you RUN AWAY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:26 PM
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That’s so beautiful, I love the life you created for yourself. Keep carrying that crown 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:50 PM
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Yes!! So crazy how FDS literally changed my whole perspective on dating. No settling. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:37 PM
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This made me sick... A narc demon ex did this all the time and eventually threw a brick through my glass door. He also told me to die. It always escalates and I’m glad I escaped. I don’t want to think about what would happen if I stayed a moment longer. I hope this woman is ok. Edit: thank you op for making this a trigger warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:33 PM
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There’s a reason why I have watched Pride and Prejudice nearly 20 times in my life already, and this is it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:18 PM
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Please be easier on yourself. Being yoked from a narcissist is NO joke, those people are experts on fooling ANYBODY. Sending you love sis. You’re so strong and thank you for posting your support on FDS, I hope we’re just as supportive for you. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:42 AM
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Hey sis. Please don’t go after them. I won’t go into details but if you need even further details you can always look into my post and comment history. I was roped into a relationship with a narcissist who was two decades older than me and it was the most traumatizing abusive relationship of my life. A year later I’m still undergoing therapy after escaping. I met a wonderful man through work (although I think it’s too soon to tell of he’s HV since we’ve known each other for about 6 months) but i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:42 AM
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I see nothing wrong with this. 😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:54 PM
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Thank you, I needed this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:54 AM
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LOL queen energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:19 AM
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I don’t trust a thing he says. A predatory man would absolutely use his fame and power and money to pull the sEx aDdiCtiOn card to illicit sympathy. These kinds of men know what they’re doing. If the legal age were lower, they would go lower. The damage to victims is done already. Chris can apologize all he wants but it doesn’t make what he did unhappen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 10:52 PM
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Sounds like someone who possesses a dark personality. I’m sorry you went through that. Many hugs. I’m just happy you’re out of there. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:12 PM
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LMAO I love these hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:56 PM
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YES! I’ve recently entered a relationship but I thought HEAVILY about it thanks to FDS and also that I LOVE being single. Minding my own business. My new man adds only positivity to my life and makes it easier. So far it’s going great. I’m not afraid to be single again if it goes south. I’m so sorry you were abused. I too escaped an abusive relationship a year ago from a narc twice my age. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Sending lots of love 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:04 AM
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Agreed!!! It is a MYTH that older men are better lovers. My boyfriend who is my age (mid 20s) has NEVER had any experience with any other woman and literally can make me orgasm with 1 finger. I literally showed him ONCE and ever since then he can read me like a book. I am literally floored by how intuitive and responsive he is to my desires and he absolutely has such an amazing sense of emotional intelligence. A man who has an ACUTE sense for your needs will do anything he can to make you happy.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:55 PM
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God made women because man was lonely. Once you realize men can’t do without us, you realize women have the power of independence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:58 PM
81

OMG this is goals!!!!!!!! I wish I was your friend IRL 😂💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:51 PM
25

This book saved my life. Without it, I wouldn’t be here today. Please give it to your friend OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:10 AM
16

I ordered her book in English and in French, I can’t wait to read it. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:07 AM
29

Why when LVM describe their female significant others, they describe what the woman DOES, not what she IS? LVM recognize worth in a women on what services she can perform for him. HVM recognize worth in a woman for her character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:52 AM
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My ex was an international supermodel and he was also a narc. I don’t care what you look like, if you’re a piece of shit, you look like a piece of shit. PERIODT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:34 AM
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This is a very backhanded negging tactic that is thinly veiled as a genuinely thoughtful quote. It presupposes that a woman’s worth is in her appearance, and in her submissiveness, her obedience. It’s incredibly misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:29 PM
64

I choked on my cereal reading this ☠️☠️☠️ FDS ladies make my whole day omg hahahahhaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:00 PM
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This explains a portion of my ex narc’s behavior. His mother was a complete doormat (albeit sweet) and would absolutely give in to any of her children’s whims and desires. No boundaries or discipline whatsoever. Men who grow up like that absolutely treat women like trash. Thank you for this informative post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:09 AM
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Holy fuck I’m so proud of you. You deserve SO much better. I’m so happy you’re out of that. That took some serious guts for sure. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:59 AM
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Hello! Well for starters, I’m someone who is incredibly ambitious and independent. The contract work I did involves planning and executing a murals for the business we are coworkers for. So he’s seen me day in and day out work tirelessly towards my goals. He’s seen the way I pour my love to my best friends, my family, and my pets. I do try to take care of myself, but I suffer from burnout since my ambitions tend to take hold of me. He absolutely admires my warmth and drive and ambition and leade…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:32 PM
41

Agreed. Sorry but the way that the world works does not set up for women to be on equal. Us women having to pay for 50/50 to have equal treatment does mean we are equal, it just means we pay more into a system that does not benefit us, and costs us our money that is more hard earned than what a man gets. I’m childfree for many reasons, but a lot of a them are FDS centered, and opting out of motherhood is the closest thing so far to getting equitable. Just by the way of biology, we are disadvanta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:20 PM
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Lundy is a godsend, I thank him for saving my life since I got out of an abusive relationship a while ago. It has helped me understand and identify red flags in dating as well. He is a HVM and has dedicated his life to improving the lives of women and children for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:55 PM
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I’m so sorry you went through such difficult experiences. We are here for you and I’m so glad you realized your worth. There’s no shame in making mistakes, as long as they are lessons you can take wisdom from. I can tell you are relentless and have a big heart ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:49 PM
21

IM WHEEZING LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:34 PM
51

What the fuck. I’m so sorry and I hope he rots in hell. Sending you lots of hugs sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:13 PM
10

SAME lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:43 PM
30

She is the epitome of class. Beauty inside and out. ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:25 AM
118

Bruh 6 figure salary don’t matter shit to us women if you’re not generous. Less financially thriving men can be HVM and more generous then multimillionaire penny pinchers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:24 AM
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I’ve been following her very closely and she even inspired me to go back to studying French just so I can read it before I can grab an English copy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:57 PM
18

That’s amazing!!! Congrats on such a beautiful life 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:35 AM
21

I straight up told the guy I’m currently dating who professed his love for me that I’m a gold digger LOL. I clarified that financial stability is very important to me in a relationship and that I want a provider. Straight up. We’ve known each other and working closely for almost half a year (I’m a contracted worker). Of course there are many standards that I have, but that’s the bare minimum. So far, he’s been handing me money to get meals, paying for things here and there, surprising me with us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:21 AM
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That’s amazing!! 💕🧸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:39 PM
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That’s is fucking badass and I’m so proud of you. If you HAVE to write it down, write it down and send it to yourself so you can remind yourself why you don’t need to be with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:12 PM
62

A lot of men after they get a ring start acting like that. I hope that guy is off for a nice dive in the fires of Mordor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:21 AM
50

This is amazing and I’m saving this. Thank you taking the time to write this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:08 PM
25

Wow you know a lot about cars 👀💕 FDS queens on here know their stuff!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:15 PM
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Sis don’t even care AND she got the Chanel mini square 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:46 AM
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Right?! He got D-D-D-D-Dumped ☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:30 AM
32

I’ve never heard of this, thank you for sharing it! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:29 AM
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I’m so sorry sis. It breaks my heart to know so many women have gone through these things. Both are awful absolutely. The kind of therapy I required was different for both, but for me personally the emotional and spiritually healing is something that is wretchedly hard to repair and I’m still undergoing through it for dealing with the trauma of narc abuse. Sending tons of love your way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:43 PM
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I’m sorry that happened to you. Many hugs 💕 I was assaulted once and that was an awful experience, but nothing was worse than when experienced the most abusive relationship in my life from a narc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:11 PM
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I can smell the Mountain Dew and Doritos in this post ☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:05 PM
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How tf you have time to have a wife, girlfriend, and second girlfriend. If men could just invest in themselves to become better people they wouldn’t be lowering themselves to becoming community dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:03 PM
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I feel like when a man says he wants a “strong independent woman” he really just means “independent enough so we can split bills 50/50” and is just doing a performative woke-fishing stunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:02 PM
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Hello sis 💕 I think you already know deep down what decision you want to take. Him being cheap is not a good quality. Being conscious of how you spend and managing your finances is important, but do you want a man to be breathing down your back and making you feel guilty for occasionally enjoying the comforts of life? A cheap man will leave you with resentment. Shaming a woman for wanting a beautiful and enjoyable life is just stupid. I straight up somewhat jokingly told one man who recently con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:00 PM
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😂😂😂 oh my goodness 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:14 AM
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Awomen. If I wanted to split rent, I’d move in with my best girl friend. I ain’t splittin’ rent with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:07 PM
79

LMAO Midsommar was wild!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:06 PM
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Not that it’s my place, but I would absolutely call him out to him and family that it’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:05 PM
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You’re amazing. Make sure that the door stays closed. You got better things going on for you right now and the future sis. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:01 PM
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Very true, and research shows that women are better investors! Another reason why you should go to women for financial advice and mentor ship over men!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:00 PM
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LOL yes I absolutely agree with your post! But I have to say, I actually rejected a man because he was TOO clean. His whole house was SPOTLESS. Great right? But I noticed the tiny details of what was also wrong with that. When I got up to use the bathroom, and returned, he kept side-eyeing because I left the door cracked open slightly. He stopped midway through my conversation to shut it?! It was little details like that that made me think he had a underlying compulsion. This man showed me he ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:38 PM
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“If yOuRe NoT iNtErEsTeD, jUsT sAy nO” And men wonder why we can’t be upfront with our rejections sometimes. Because we’ll get fucking assaulted, that’s why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:31 AM
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I must respectfully disagree on the point of the “mom losing herself narrative” being inherently misogynistic. While I absolutely understand where you are coming from, that point devalues the experiences that many women around the world, especially women in poorer countries, not as empowering. Having the decision to have children when secure, mature, and in a country that provides ample maternity leave is a privilege that most women around the world cannot have (that of course should be the bare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:03 AM
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Thank you for sharing this. I am a diehard romantic and empath but this past year and especially recently after escaping an abusive relationship with a pedo narc twice my age I have successfully been abandoning my “dreams” of a perfect relationship and wedding and all the romantic related ideas. I have also been forcing myself to set down my boundaries unapologetically. I am INFINITELY happier, more than I have ever been in any point in my life. Reality struck me hard. Lovebombers, future fakers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:46 AM
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For sure! Every woman’s path is varied and different, beautiful each in their own way. I am a childfree person, there are many reasons I couldn’t be a parent. I am grateful I live in a day where I can make that choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:27 AM
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I choked on my drink 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:38 AM
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Awomen. Male desire is abundant and low value. A huge difference between a man wanting you and a man valuing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:58 AM
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ME TOO all her songs are bangers and very FDS inspired hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:00 AM
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I’m so sorry that the men you have encountered in your life have failed you. Despite what has happened, it sounds like you are coming out on top. You are an extremely capable and strong woman, I hope you safely leave your current relationship. Narcissists are a whole other demon. Sending you tons of love sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:51 AM
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😭😂😂😂 FDS ladies literally make me laugh so hard I’m in tears hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:20 AM
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That sub is insane trash heap. I can’t be there long without getting upset over the mistreatment of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:17 PM
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I swear, FDS ladies are TRUE COMEDIANS 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:05 PM
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I STILL have a crush on Milo Ventimiglio to this day. His character wasn’t the best, but damn, he was the bad boy I wanted when I was little teenager!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:59 PM
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😭😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:57 PM
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Agreed. One of the things I’ve been working on is being assertive. Setting down your boundaries doesn’t mean you’re an asshole, it’s healthy to do so. But man, do I sometimes feel like an asshole since I’m not used to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:00 PM
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I’m SO happy for you 😭💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:45 PM
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That is amazing, I think you gave me the courage to wear my ski mask in public sis 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:11 AM
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Hahah right! I thought it was adorable and wholesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:54 AM
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Aww you’re amazing! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:15 AM
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I was about to say, you know that’s what was happening there. Most shitty older men can’t leave a relationship unless they know they have a secure backup. Monkey branching mongoloids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:45 PM
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I absolutely agree, and I thank you for sharing this. I actually recently confronted my abuser in front of his coworkers about what he did to me. I’ll be making a post here eventually about it in detail but at the moment it’s too emotionally distraught for me but I essentially showed up at his place of business after I left him over half a year ago and demanded to speak to his boss to tell them that this is the kind of dangerous man that they are employing. It was the most terrifying thing I’ve …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:37 PM
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Girl, are you me? The most abusive relationship I ever had was with a narc twice my age. I was 23 and he was 42. 19 year age gap. I’m still undergoing therapy for it. Horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:47 PM
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This was such beautiful and moving writing. You have such a gift OP! This is one of the many reasons I actually am childfree and completely reject motherhood. My transcendence as a woman is unburdened by being attached to the traditional sense. Men today are mostly an abomination. The number one cause of a pregnant woman’s death is murder. Most first world countries want libfem ideals and nonsense like splitting bills on top of the hidden exhaustion of being a woman and mother. I reject all of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:37 AM
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NOOOOO 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:29 AM
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The only logical men seem to be today is pathological.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:21 AM
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I want to hug each and every one of these women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:20 AM
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That’s some narc shit. My narc ex was OBSESSED with the idea of eating me. Kinks are just ways people normalize really fucked up shit. He bit me so hard sometimes I would have bruises that took forever to go away and I had to keep telling him to stop. He would constantly bite my lip too, my shoulders, and my legs. Fuck that guy. And the way his ex tells it “making you feel like he’s never felt this way about anybody” it is EXACTLY narc behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:06 PM
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I absolutely see your point of view, but I think you are incorrect in that some of us actually want to DETER male attention and simply want to look good for themselves. I have a very baby face and weak chin and men assume I’m very approachable because I don’t look threatening. I don’t like it and prefer to be left alone, and plus, I would like to have a nicer chin just for me, and I want to appear more assertive. However, if I never had money for it, it wouldn’t be an issue, but would it increas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:54 PM
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LOL my narc ex called himself that. No dude. The fact that you have no savings and are tens of thousands of dollars in dent in your mid 40s and are a borderline alcoholic with two failed marriages and countless failed relationships and also an abusive fuck and straight up misogynistic pig with a hanging gut you can’t get rid of with your man tits sagging says otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:22 PM
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Her words and voice are like a big warm blanket around my soul. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:01 AM
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He handled it quite well and was as gracious as he could be about it, but knew he didn’t want to waste my time. I think I intimidated him and he left me alone after that, so it was good. Again, that’s just a brief encounter and I think that was trashy of him to say, even if it was “politely” said. But yes, I’ve dated a true narcissist and that was an absolutely shitshow that I’m still recovering from. I wish some men wouldn’t rope me into a relationship to abuse and triangulate. Those are the ty…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:21 PM
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Thank you so much. Escaping from a narcissistic was one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. And I’m STILL working hard to undue the effects of trauma from it. I am currently trying to work on trusting other men but I have a huge guard up. I find it very difficult to trust when men are kind to me even if it’s been over months of getting to know them I’m absolutely still suspect of it. Deep down, I think most men are terrible, selfish, and depraved creatures. On the plus side, I fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:29 PM
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I’m so sick of scrotes whining about wearing condoms. Sorry you can’t get hard enough naturally cuz all you do is watch porn. I also literally remember getting in an argument with one boyfriend because he wouldn’t spend the money on condoms that DIDNT fuck up my vaginal health. NEVER AGAIN. If you wanna fuck me, your requirements are must be CLEAN, HVM, exclusive, wear a condom 110% of the time, and if you don’t want to wear one, your ass BETTER be snipped OR you can pay for my sterilization sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:24 PM
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This happens WAY more often than you think. I will never OLD again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:19 PM
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Haha my childfree ass is like 🏃‍♀️💨 goodbye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:17 PM
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GOOD FOR YOU SIS!!! I had a VERY beautiful young man ask me out a while ago, stunning smile and gorgeous eyes, was focused on humanitarian work, and he asked me out but wasn’t looking for a relationship. I told him just the same, and he was quite dejected. Yes you maybe be an Adonis walking on this earth, but I don’t deserve to be treated like a piece of meat. I hope women everywhere reject hookup culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:15 PM
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I literally was banned formerly from the feminism subreddit. It’s absolutely run by men. I’m so sick of libfem’s catering to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:51 PM
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I literally heard on the radio the other day that a man was proud that he walked up out in the middle of the dinner on a date in which the woman was checking out her only fans. Men are not afraid to walk away if things aren’t working, I wish women we raised with that sort of confidence as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:50 PM
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Agreed. A woman’s inherent value isn’t based on her appearance. It’s her character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:46 PM
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No man, I repeat, NO man who gets in the way of YOUR success, is worth a single second more of your time. It is harder to survive as a woman economically. Do not give the patriarchy ANY chances to come in between you and your coin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:45 PM
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“He has always struggled with his blood sugar” Sis, I’m struggling to figure out why this man is a rapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:12 PM
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“My husband told me he needed to be non-monogamous to feel whole” nah your husband a slut and he belongs to the streets with his community dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:08 PM
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“Men are just disgusting in general, so... die” LMAO 😭😭😭 one of main reasons I am terrified of sleeping with men is for not only my spiritual and mental health, but my physical health 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:00 PM
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Why is there this sort of modern olympics sport of proving how low a woman will settle for a man like it’s some sort of award to be won? Our ancestors would be ashamed to see the modern woman stoop her standards so low. In fact, men need to be working even HARDER for our hand to compete for the resources we can give ourselves nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:23 PM
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This is EXACTLY the kind of tactics my narc ex would do to me. Eventually after years of abuse I started fighting back. He said he doesn’t take shit up the ass and then I started saying the same. Fucked up demons they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:56 PM
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Any person, any MAN who ever so harms my cats will end up in a grave. This woman is insanely brainwashed... and Reddit scrotes and pickmeishas are gaslighting the hell out of her. Makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:51 PM
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Precisely! I couldn’t have said it better myself. LVM love to see women tear each other down. Good for you girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:06 PM
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Exactly. Compliments from men I highly distrust as I’m sure they have ulterior motives. Women? I feel safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:16 PM
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Once again, shifting the onus to the victim instead of the perpetrator. People who ask that question clearly have never experienced or have empathy for abused victims. I’m sorry you experienced that, but I’m glad you’re out. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:13 PM
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This is exactly why we ladies DO NOT DATE POTENTIAL! Do not believe words, believe actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:18 PM
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It is absolutely porn induced. Some medications can cause it, but if he’s not, he’s pornsick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:14 PM
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I hope he picks you Laura 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:11 PM
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Girl I feel the SAME. I literally cannot even entertain dating right now or anytime soon. I was destroyed by a narc relationship and it took so much work to get out of it and heal, and I NEVER want to allow anyone in my life unless I’m sure they are vetted, high value, and are the one for me. The thing is, I’m way too happy and at peace with my life and I’m getting WAY more money than I ever did in my entire time dating. I can’t entertain diaries anymore. Why fuck it up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:00 AM
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YESSSSS I’m so happy for you!!!!!! Leveling up fantastically!!!!!! 😍💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:38 PM
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This is EXACTLY what my narc ex ALWAYS SAID. ALWAYS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:47 PM
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What fresh misogynistic hell is this? The modern man TRULY is useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:45 PM
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Post Leave-Me-Alone more like it 🥵🥵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:06 AM
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Disgusting. In almost all animals of the animals kingdom, it’s the males courting the females. Why have we devolved?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:27 AM
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Thank you 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:23 AM
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Couldn’t have said it better than me. I remember so many times doing this pre FDS for my scrub exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:45 PM
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This is absolutely true and every one of my exes said this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:38 PM
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I think this is very true. Women, especially such as myself who love extremely deeply, have trouble holding back in their relationships. I have been working on that so much. I don’t think women should give as much, your man should always give more. Men should always be chasing and supporting you. You are the prize. Give too much and men take advantage of that, and they fall in love with your hand instead of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:23 PM
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MANIFESTING THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:20 PM
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That’s amazing! I have a HVM mentor too! I work with him and he’s the owner of a brick and mortar business that has a very similar model to the kind of business I want to run. He gave me my first contracted job for his business fresh at the end of the college career and jump started my art career and wants me on board as a permanent member for another position. I’ve had “mentors” before (old men who just wanted to take me on a date, to which I would dip out because I could sniff the desperation)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:19 PM
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😭😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:49 AM
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Aww well it sounds so neat nonetheless 😂 thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:48 AM
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Try many thousands of dollars for wasted time, things of mine thrown out, and therapy. Then add interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 01:14 AM
1

Link? 👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 01:12 AM
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YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:28 PM
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Good idea. Also, someone needs to make heels with actual knives you can use in case things get dicey, like in the action movies. I’ll contact Louboutin today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:05 PM
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Maybe people think buying a Gucci belt is stupid, but not only am I fashionable but I have an extra layer of protection against fukbois.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:26 PM
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Yes, I am blessed with one best friend who I absolutely share my life with. Her family is a second family to me. Of course life gets busy. My point is, there is no excuse for a man who is interested in you to not text you the simplest and bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:37 AM
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Wtf that sounds illegal as hell to go through someone’s private information and contact you like that?!? I would report him to the company and tell them why you will not do business with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:53 AM
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It takes 5 seconds to text “good morning, I hope you have a great day 💕” My best friend and I of almost a decade text each other EVERY DAY GOOD MORNING. He’s not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:51 AM
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This but x2... the only thing that’s stopping me from growing my little cat family is money. I want them to live in absolute luxury 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:18 AM
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Girl yes. I’m so proud of you for not settling. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:17 PM
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AWOMEN. I can’t imagine living with a man. And splitting bills. Gross. I like my money and my peace and my property. Unless some HVM provider gets me a place where I can have as much space to breathe and work and do my art and decompress alone and he helps out with the house and cooks for me, I will HAPPILY live alone the rest of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:25 PM
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These are the same men who will shame women for being sex workers and cry “gOldDigGerS!” but demand sex after spending X amount of money. Like, what? Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:48 PM
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Kdiwjxkwkznwjs I’m manifesting this photo. You’re goals sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:16 AM
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He’s been posted here before and I really love his advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:47 PM
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I LOVE Marcus Lemonis! Any of you ladies who are actually thinking of starting a business, I highly recommend his show The Profit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:44 PM
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IM WHEEZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:52 PM
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AHH YESSSSS 💪🏻💪🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:49 PM
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Thank you so much for this. I am also a former sb although I did not engage in this lifestyle for too long, and kept it quite platonic, and dropped my SDs as soon as they were too touchy. It really opened my eyes in one way that I deserved a beautiful life and all that I wanted, but the expense of it was that of male validation, which is very costly and risky and emotionally draining. I got out of that but jumped into a relationship with an abusive narcissist. Now I’m HAPPILY single and actually…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:57 AM
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“My only mistake was being a girl” My heart dropped reading this. I hope you are doing ok for yourself now. You deserve everything your heart wants sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:24 PM
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I know this is fake, but this happens so much in real life. I want to live alone in my own house for as much as the foreseeable future. I really cannot imagine paying rent with a man. If I wanted to split bills, I’d rather move in with my best friend!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:49 PM
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This absolutely breaks my heart. I am an artist and I am very, very much guarded of my creative spirit. I notice that when I was involved with LVM before FDS my creative energies became diminished. As someone who is choosing to be single for the time being, I have found so much creative growth and success that I have never had when I was in these relationships. That is why we should always vet and only be with significant others who encourage us to our greatest potentials. It is vital for our ow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:41 PM
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Lundy Bancroft’s book saved my life. I will forever be grateful for that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:21 PM
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“He just kind of came over and never left” This is only acceptable for stray cats, not actual men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:30 PM
26

Sounds like he got a phone call from his wife he didn’t tell you about 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 06:23 AM
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Yes sis! I truly believe that! I need to start doing this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:34 PM
54

If us women would start charging for the emotional labor they do for men, we could really help bring that wage gap closer ;) good for you sis! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:59 AM
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He really was born extremely privileged. Not even wealthy, but he had conventional good lucks and was very successful with supermodeling. He had a lot of charm and charisma. He got scot-free off a LOT of things. He used to get so many things for free. Now that I know what he is, I see right through him. It’s completely phony. It’s so strange to see someone for what they are and then the whole world see the fabrication that they’ve constructed. Not to mention, he was a racist and a misogynist beh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:55 AM
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Lol I was having lunch with my two male coworkers the other day. One of them I know quite well, and he offered to pay for my meal (which I thanked him for) and the other I just met. We were all joking around about how I don’t drink and he made a teasing comment after I said “I don’t need a man to take care of me” (implying that if I did drink, I would need a man to hold back my hair if I were to get sick) and the coworker I didn’t know very well said “well em haha that’s pretty egotistical 😏” an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:46 AM
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Lmao narcs think that each and every one of them is special ✨ nah dude. You all the same, majoring in Abusive Behavior with a minor in Delusions of Grandeur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:27 AM
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Thank you for this comment. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:23 AM
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YES. As someone who qualifies as an empath, HSP, and someone who gives too much, setting down boundaries sounds like asshole behavior at first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:15 AM
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Please take it from me. My abuser put me on life insurance and made him the beneficiary. No, we were not married. I really hope this woman gets away from this man and protects herself and her finances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:46 AM
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My narc ex is the epitome of white male privilege. This fucker had 4 DUIS, and was fighting his 5th one (he flipped, crashed and totaled his car into a ditch) and he barely got any consequences. The judge even handed him his ID back and it was by accident and of course he just walked out knowing he got lucky. To think the many times he could’ve hurt someone out there on the road...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:42 AM
6

Wow they really don’t hide being pedophiles don’t they
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:12 AM
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My abusive narc ex who was almost two decades older than me said this, justifying dating me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:41 AM
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💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:55 PM
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Yes, and as a woman, it’s mUh biology to secure the most resources for myself in order to ensure my own (and family’s) survival. 👀👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:51 PM
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I really appreciate this post so much. I never have been an angry person. I was always kind, generous, and woefully naive. Poor boundaries. People pleaser. I grew up a little sheltered and that didn’t really help. I met a narc twice my age. He abused me, like they all do. And then I felt so much anger. Anger for being called these terrible things, at him, and then at myself, for not realizing my own self respect, dignity, and not walking away, for not setting my boundaries... anger, if used corr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:50 PM
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Holy crap. Your own mother not even defending her own child. You deserve better. And I’m sorry you went through that. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:42 PM
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Agreed. My narc ex was actually TELLING ME to not tell him anything that was happening in our relationship to my closest friends. He thought I was talking bad behind his back. Actually, if I have to cover up, nay LIE, or HIDE your true actions, OVER AND OVER AGAIN, there’s something severely wrong. It took me so long to realize he was abusing me. And even then the words from the book (Lundy Bancroft’s why does he do that) describing word for word, detail for detail, of what he was doing to me, I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:40 PM
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I’m so proud of you. And he’s not a HVM if he did all those things. And there are men out there who don’t watch porn and are high value. 💕 stay strong sis. Heal and take your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:38 PM
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Sit in the damn car for hours complaining about her boyfriend? Bicth I don’t even do that with my female best friends! If I were gonna complain about a bf that long the answer is clear, to dump him. She needs to drop him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:19 PM
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Sis YES 🙌🏻 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:14 PM
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I just can’t with broke men anymore. If you’re a broke man, you have no business dating. Work on yourself. Support yourself and then have something available to support a wife and a family if you choose. I don’t struggle for love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:41 PM
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LOL you ladies crack me up 😭😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:11 AM
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Ok I can’t crochet shit without crying out of frustration so that’s pretty damn awesome 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:15 PM
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Men: watches p-rn, pays for onlyfans, turns a blind eye to the harmful effects of it, iT’s PeRfeCtLy NaTuRaL, and supporting the trafficking industry, ignores girlfriend’s wishes for him to stop watching it Women: poses for photos Men: wait, no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 10:37 PM
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Even if he is depressed sis, it’s not excuse. I just recently called out and then blocked my depressed ex who was my friend. I told him once that in order to be friendship with me, the bare minimum is to let me know how you’re doing and if you need time alone. Doesn’t matter if it’s a day, week, or months. It takes 5 seconds to tell me this. I am not going to be spending my nights worried sick over a friend if they can’t even reassure me they’re ok after they say some concerning depressed stuff.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:00 AM
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I’m sorry your mom raised you with that mindset. A wise woman on here commented once and I won’t forget it, I’ll paraphrase: if you give a man too much too soon, he’ll fall in love with your hand, not you. You are the prize sis, don’t forget it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:56 AM
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If men could just find a healthy hobby instead of being predators, what a better world that would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:51 AM
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As a childfree woman this is one of my worst fears. What a shitty father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:10 AM
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My jaw literally dropped when I read the family made T-shirts of her face and joked about it. And it just kept getting worse. Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:38 AM
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That’s one of the most considerate gifts I think I’ve ever seen anyone get anyone. I couldn’t imagine losing my best friend. She def sounds like she has a keeper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:36 AM
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Oh in most cases I think it’s better if the man does it for sure 👍🏻 even better if both! In my case I actually want my whole tubes removed because of the lesser chance of ovarian cancer. It really does suck though that most insurances will not cover it and out of pocket is 10,000$, and recovery time does take usually around a few days to a well as opposed to a vasectomy which is usually $700-1000 out of pocket and the man just has to hold a bag of frozen peas to his junk for a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:32 AM
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$450 ON ONLYFANS A MONTH?! That’s fucking rent for a college student. He should just save up for a PS5 like all the other scrotes and leave this woman so she can actually find a better man she won’t have to struggle love with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:52 PM
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Noah, get the boat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:14 PM
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It’s a four letter word, and it ain’t love... 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:05 PM
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SAME. An abusive narc ex literally did not tell me until MONTH OF EXCLUSIVE DATING THAT HE WAS MARRIED. “Don’t worry I’m separated” like wtf bitch NO. Next time I date someone, I’m paying for a full ass background check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:02 PM
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Exactly!!! My narc ex was a former supermodel but he hit the wall BAD. Surprise, when you do drugs and drink all the time, it’s going to reflect. Now he looks like a puffy balloon. And his friend wasn’t that attractive either. Women take so much better care of themselves overall. Men who go after young women anyways are LVM/NVM because they know that young women won’t call them out on their bullshit like older women do. These kinds of men don’t want work on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:36 PM
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Girl you’re a 100% right. I used to think that older men were better but they ain’t shit. They got more baggage they don’t want to deal with and they’re so entitled and then they have the audacity to victimize themselves by saying that they only want them for their money, like they don’t want a girl because she is youthful and naive 😒😒😒 When I was dating this piece of shit old man I was talking to his friend of the same age and he was saying the SAME THING “I tend to date quite a bit younger but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:23 PM
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Agreed. My narc ex was twice my age and was into the whole DD/LG dynamic and I just sorta fell into it thinking it wouldn’t be so bad, and plus I was a naive people pleaser. I didn’t even think it was so bad because he was always insistent on making me climax (sounds good right? Well... wrong). Narcs will do things for an ego boost, even if it seems like he was doing it just for you. Turns out he began abusing me inside and outside the bedroom and it really caused me so much trauma that I’m stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:58 PM
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I WAS THIS WOMAN. Never AGAIN. I had really bad acne as a result of this for awhile. If a man really wants to fuck me with a condom he can get tested and have a vasectomy or pay for my sterilization. Fuck that. Hormones can be necessary for some women but no way am I letting a man fuck up my body so he can enjoy getting off his rocks easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:29 PM
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I bet :( but I’m so proud of you from getting out of that situation. It takes a lot of guts and hard work. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:30 AM
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Oh my goodness that’s awful... I hope you are in a better place financially and emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:10 AM
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This is exactly how I envision my life... the friendships I have are so invaluable and important. And there’s only a few I can imagine will be with me throughout my entire life. When I think about who I’m buried next to, I don’t think of a husband. I think of my best friends who are literally my second family, or just with my family. But in the end I want to be proud of all the decisions I made in my life. Did I stand up for what I believe for, even if it was heart wrenching and difficult? Did I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:09 AM
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Oh my goodness I hope you’re doing better 😓!! Please heal fast and soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:04 AM
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LOLLLL seems suspicious 🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:01 AM
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My abusive narc ex would SPIT IN MY MOUTH and I thought it was strange and later on after therapy and reprogramming and FDS I just now realized how reticent that act is of porn addict behavior and how disrespectful it is. I can’t even think about it without physically recoiling. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:09 AM
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Exactly. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:05 AM
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Tony is the ONLY man I will take dating advice from. He really is truly a HVM. I really also suggest Anna Bey as well, and Sheneka Adams. These two women’s channels seem to embody most of FDS principles, at least from my observation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:12 PM
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😂 Also, therapy is a little more expensive than flowers, but men REALLY need to invest in that. Plus, every time my ex got my flowers, it was always after doing some fucked up shit and then he would do it again. He said “every time I get you flowers, we always fight. I don’t want to get your flowers anymore.” And I’m like thinking UHHHH it’s because you do some fucked up narc shit and don’t actually solve the root of the problem which is that you’re inherently incapable of actual healthy relatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:10 PM
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Look at YOU! So proud of you! ✨ Sucks for him 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:05 PM
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Thank you so much and you too!! Absolutely 😊💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:04 PM
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Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:03 PM
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Right?! Thank goodness the vaccines are coming out, I think life will start returning back to normal soon! Imma still avoid men like the plague though 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:03 PM
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LOL. Where is the lie? EVERY woman in my life I know is always trying to improve herself, accomplish her goals and dreams. They have such sheer motivation and willpower and drive for their own successes. Then I look at men and how comfortable they are in their mediocrity. I can’t stand passive men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:58 PM
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Towards the end of my shitty last relationship with an abusive narc ex, when the pandemic hit, we were doing a grocery run. I told him, in detail, that if I were going to get the groceries (we had to go separately, because his temper tantrums were ridiculous and ramped up, he blamed it on the pandemic), that I needed him to disinfect them outside before bringing them inside. This useless sack of lard proceeded to go inside and prop himself up and scroll on his phone to troll people on Reddit. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:54 PM
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Why stop there?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:33 PM
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I hope Sam gets an abortion, otherwise she’ll be a single mother. Men take NO pride in providing anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:29 PM
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As an unmarried and childfree woman, I heartily agree. 😃 Everybody that I know who is in a relationship and or who has kids always seems so damn miserable and are always complaining...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:17 AM
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Good for you sis!! Gas money is no joke. I put 50,000 plus miles on my old car for him. Never the fuck again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:25 PM
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BIG FUCKIN ENERGY. My narc ex would literally shame me for being a workaholic even though I was driving two hours to and two hours back to come see HIS shitty ass AND go to school FULL TIME AND work a job and take care of my pets all while being abused by him. I thought I couldn’t do it. Turns out I can handle all of that stuff just fine, it was the abuse making me think I was having a breakdown from working too much. Without him, I can handle SO much on my own. It’s so crazy how much I am capab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:33 AM
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When will men realize they aren’t funny anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:56 PM
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Imma one up this girl. My narc ex was in his early FORTIES straight up missing the toilet and I would literally have sticky feet from having to use the bathroom at night because his dried pee would be on the fucking floor. Fucking. DISGUSTING. Granted he had a crooked dick so maybe that’s why he has trouble shooting 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:36 AM
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My response to that is “ok? But sounds like you’re the one who’s worried about being alone in his 40s, scrote.” 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:27 AM
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I’m so sorry. Many hugs 💕 you sound like such a badass and I hope you’re healing ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:25 AM
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YO I’m so glad to see a fellow childfree and antinatalist FDSer as well!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:23 AM
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THIS 👏🏻 IS 👏🏻 HOW 👏🏻 IT 👏🏻 SHOULD 👏🏻 BE 👏🏻 CONGRATS SIS!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:19 AM
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Some people don’t realize the kid question because they’re too young and inexperienced. They’re quite young. I ended my first relationship at 19 because I realized how terrifying bearing children and raising them is and 70 other reasons why I don’t want kids. I didn’t know I was childfree at the beginning. Now any future relationships I gauge their goals at the beginning and only then will I reveal my childfree status (lots of men lie about that because they just want to agree with you until you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:16 AM
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Oh my goodness. Yes. Towards the end of mine, he started to do this. He broke off my windshield wiper controller (when I did it to his after feeling insane after his abuse), and then he punched my TV, threw my belongings at the wall, and then took a brick and smashed my glass door, shattering it into pieces. He doused me in water. It’s taken me such a long time to realize I didn’t deserve this. And the most prolonged worst of it was his constant yelling... it was terrifying. I begged him not to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:07 AM
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Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:53 AM
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looks at bigger bank account and clearer skin and finding peace ever since breaking up with her ex I think the fuck not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:48 AM
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Is this post telling me to buy the YSL bag I’ve been eyeing on for the past month?! OKAY 👀👉🏻👈🏻 hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:19 PM
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You heard it straight from the scrote’s mouth. Men will HAPPILY judge you and take your money and pimp you out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:57 PM
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Bruh for real. My narc ex who claimed to be celibate for almost a decade had a curved dick. Not coincidentally, he was into incest p*rn. I’m VERY sure for almost all his grown life he was addicted to watching the most depraved content. Disgusting pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:36 AM
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LVM men really be acting like their dicks are the prize. Like bitxh really? If I can go to the store and pick out any dick of ANY shape color and size for under a $100 bucks, you ain’t the prize. Not to mention I won’t have the risk of STDs and unwanted pregnancy. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 11:30 PM
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Imagine if men could, oh, I don’t fucking know, have a fucking support network and emotionally talk to each other, instead of BLAMING WOMEN for not being emotionally there for them. Like get your damn homies to do it for you. Women are already doing so much emotional labor anyways and we need to stop! I don’t tend to rely on my male friends for emotional support anywhere near I do work my female friends because I don’t find men anywhere as near trustworthy as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:03 AM
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TRUE though I proudly call myself a gold digger. Yes I want love, but I also want money. I want both! The patriarchy can pay up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:56 AM
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I am childfree. It’s amazing. I don’t have to stress about my sons being abusers or rapists or murderers and I don’t have to worry about my daughters being abused or raped or murdered by their male SO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:53 AM
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Please make me Vice President 🥺👉🏻👈🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:51 AM
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I completely understand you sis. Men out here worrying if they have to foot the bill for dinner, while women out here wondering if men are gonna be axe murdering them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:51 AM
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I’m not at all trying to disagree with by and large how men reap benefits from marriage way more than women do and how they lead women on. But in this specific case of John Cena, I can myself as a childfree woman understanding his situation. John Cena was very clear to Bella on his terms from the very beginning. No doubt when you add love to the mix, it makes things complicated and you make think “well what if I changed my mind on these things?” It’s pretty clear that Bella was quite insistent o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:46 AM
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shakes fist in the air if only I were just born gay maybe I wouldn’t have to deal with too much of this heteronormative bullshit 😭 I highly suggest reading Judy Brady’s “I Want a Wife” essay from 1971. It highlights exactly what you have said here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:37 AM
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Lundy Bancroft has literally saved my life through this book. It is invaluable and I tell every woman I meet about it. I also escaped an abusive relationship from someone twice my age and this is exactly how things panned out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:28 AM
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Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That should be a REQUIRED reading at school. That book saved my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:18 AM
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If this happened to me I would silently disappear from his life. No more accusing, begging, excusing, or rationalizing. Just leaving with dignity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:51 PM
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I’ve only had this several times and I wasn’t having PIV sex. First bf. No ones ever done that since then. ☹️ it’s been almost a decade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:51 AM
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AWOMEN! I love the way you think!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:04 PM
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Oh my god. I’m fiercely childfree and stories like this always confirm it for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:02 PM
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Agreed. That book got me out of an abusive relationship and quite possibly saved my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:03 PM
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He is awful. Love yourself, you deserve so much better. Please find the strength to leave. 💕 we’re here for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:03 PM
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Wait until you hear that her role in The Professional was supposed to be even MORE sexual, there was an actual deleted scene where she propositioned Léon?! This was removed for the US version. And there’s more, look into the sick history of the director Luc Besson, who dated a 15 year old while being 31, married her, she had their child at 16, and then cheated on and left her when she was 20 for the actress Milla in The Fifth Element. Awful all around. He has r*pe allegations (not surprising). H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:26 PM
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This sounds like too much work. No thanks I’ll do my own thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:33 PM
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Men aren’t funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:57 AM
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Good. Now remove the whole site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:16 PM
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Girl YES! Leave that narc in the dust! And do NOT go back!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:13 PM
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Agreed. My best friend for life is in a “relationship” with her best male friend of more than a decade. He has bipolar and what sucks is he is more often than not a great friend, but I don’t ever see him progressing or wanting to progressing to make himself stable. He fails to hold jobs and he doesn’t put in the effort to make himself better. When he does, it’s never lasts. My poor friend has the biggest heart and I hate seeing her go through his cycles. He loves her more than anything though bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:12 PM
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Women with low self esteem (ie pickmeishas) will choose these old married men because it’s an ego boost to have a man prefer them over their wife. Little do they know it ain’t shit to have shit prefer you in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:36 PM
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Oh what’s one more cat! 🤷🏻‍♀️😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:49 PM
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ME TOO. I just had dinner with a coworker I work closely with and he’s very kind, and I suspect he has a sort of crush on me, but... that is my exact thought process. I don’t know if that’s because of him or because of my past relationship with a narc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:48 PM
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Having cancer is an awful awful thing. I couldn’t imagine. But my goodness, this man was never intent on marrying her. Men know QUICK if you’re the one. It doesn’t take four years. She hasn’t made the in sickness and in health taking of the vows because she wasn’t made a wife. I’m so sick of women performing wife duties without the ring. You know he proposed to her in desperation because he wants to ensure he has a caretaker, not because he actually wants a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:26 AM
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You deserve a man who spoils you the way you want!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:21 AM
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I’m so glad you did the right thing. :) The biting lip is cringy as hell. I hated it when my ex did it. Fucking hate being in pain. They just copy porn shit and expect the same results to come out in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:28 AM
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QUEEN I have your comment saved. Thank you for your wisdom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:25 AM
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That is insane. And how painfully unaware he is how loving himself more that way is actually not the genuine self love that is healthy and nurturing, but using her as a tool to further love for himself. It’s entirely self-serving. In doing that, he is more of a narcissist than he has ever been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:35 AM
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AGREED. My cats are enough for me 😍 when I come home they come galloping to me for cuddles and treats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:09 AM
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What the hell... The only good thing it seems to have is Keanu Reeves. Man I hate the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:06 AM
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YES SIS. Say it loud and say it PROUD. I’ve literally been feeling this so much lately. It seems like every problem in my past was due to men fucking up my shit that I had going. Funny how now that I actively reject them that my bank account is getting fatter, my skin is clearer, my mental health and physical health is better... coincidence? I think not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:05 AM
74

Meanwhile, my scrote narc ex years ago literally yelled at my best friend for no reason because as soon as she came over after I had an awful day I was so much happier on the phone. Fuck any man who comes in between my best friends for life. She was here first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:01 AM
5

Oh wow that’s so crazy 😟 I’m so glad too! We deserve better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:41 AM
5

Awe thank you 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:00 AM
14

what in the Ted Bundy tarnation Hannibal hell is this 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:08 PM
99

Oh my god... I’m sorry...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:01 PM
128

Yes. That’s when I knew things weren’t going to get better. He punched my TV, threw a brick through my window, and in retaliation snapped my car parts (I snapped his when he was abusing me). I wrangled the shower curtain begging him to forgive me for being upset at all the years of him calling me names, and then he doused me with water from the shower. I knew he was headed towards doing much worse had I stayed longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:01 PM
23

It took me DOZENS of times to leave mine. I honestly lost count. Women from all walks of life can be trapped in abusive relationships. Age, background, education, etc. One day it clicked. Everything seamlessly came together. I realized that there was nothing I could say or do anymore to make him stop abusing me. He was never going to get better. The cycles of that you can only know so well if you’ve been ensnared by a narcissist. I cried so many times during our times together. Once I left, I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:59 AM
33

🥺👉🏻👈🏻 that sounds nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:29 AM
4

As someone who is planning to open a niche small business very soon, I will fight my HARDEST to be maintain myself as its sole owner for this particular business. No partnerships. No one in this niche field of business has the passion nor has been studying the dynamics for the past several years that I do. I think choosing a business partner is as important as choosing a partner for MARRIAGE. Your business is your baby. That being said, some things are impossible to do alone—in that case, you ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:25 AM
34

This... really clicked something in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:14 AM
16

Go Jenny! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 01:03 AM
4

I choked reading this LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:02 AM
14

Fiercely childfree woman here. Like you said, it astounds me how blasé many women (and men) approach to creating human life. Like it’s just something to do not really giving it a second thought. That, and on top of it the absolute passivity and acceptance of her place. I truly do not think women were meant to be passive. Being passive is suppression by the patriarchy. Being passive has entrapped women. I can only hope the best for your friend. It’s awesome to see women like you who do not want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 08:47 AM
28

25 and had to use VIAGRA?! Wth?! And scrotes want to normalize pornsickness?! What is wrong with the world!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:54 AM
37

My Hispanic grandmother married at 15, first child at 16. Grandfather same age. Had half a dozen kids together. Granted, they turned out to be a wonderful couple and loved each other very much. But that is the RARE EXCEPTION. Not the rule. And their life was not easy and they were quite poor financially. It’s so wild how times were different less than a century ago. I’m childfree. I couldn’t imagine that kind of life. I think it would destroy my spirit. I’m so grateful to be born in this modern …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:51 AM
72

Same. They’re all pornsick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:48 PM
282

As someone who’s made it her life’s meaning to find homes for cats and who has several cats of her own, and just generally, is a human being with a soul, I hope this man burns in hell. Forever. Edit: Aww someone gave me gold :) you ladies are so lovely. This reminds me I need to donate to my local shelter! Please do the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:23 AM
5

You’re really not I promise 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:21 AM
2

I would absolutely watch this series.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:19 AM
2

Thank you for taking the time and chance on our community. The handbook was a godsend to me. And welcome 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:06 AM
2

I wish I listened to my friends and family. I didn’t. And now I’m going under extensive therapy from my past abusive relationship with a narc. I wish the pain would go away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:55 AM
9

I literally just joined. This is awesome 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:49 AM
26

That’s smart to do. I always was fed the narrative that breaking up over phone or text was “cowardly” but it wasn’t until I realized how dangerous men can be, especially abusers, most notably at the time of breaking up they are astronomically more likely to commit acts of violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:41 AM
39

Holy moley after watching that commercial and reading the comments... it saddens me. Say what you will about the company but apart from that the message as a whole is inspiring men to be GOOD MEN and the comments are such butthurt men who hate to be called out on their shitty behavior. I miss the days where men really were PROUD to be good men. That being a good man is something to strive for. To teach others about accountability and respect, and to lead by example. My dad is one of the very few…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:34 AM
10

Understandable. I think I’ve briefly entertained that thought pattern before. But I would encourage you to refocus yourself and ask yourself why you think you should date down. You are the table, you bring so many blessings! I wouldn’t want you to be resentful of all that you can offer while only receiving half in return. Why shouldn’t you meet a man who can bring you even more than what you give? Recondition yourself out of this. Women are so used to being giving in all areas in life while negl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:23 AM
16

To quote 21 Savage (not that he’s HV or anything that I know of, but it’s relevant) “some n***** make millions, other n***** make memes” and that’s the tea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:16 AM
54

When I used to use OLD any man who asked me for my snap got an automatic block. I don’t have TIME to waste taking pictures of myself and sending them all day. Be a man and ask me for my number. SMH they all just wanna send dick pics anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:12 AM
31

SAME SAME SAME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:52 PM
18

I’m WHEEZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:47 PM
2

Where is the lie 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:46 PM
1

LOL I can imagine wrangling 4 cats is like a disaster 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:45 PM
1

Ah when I get my own house I really want to do that! I’m into woodworking so I would love to create little “sculptures” that I can hang on the wall that the cats can go through and hang out and play and sleep in. Catifying your house is so fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:45 PM
2

Honestly that’s such a good approach. Kudos on you for that. I really want to, although I am afraid that if I really am in love with someone that I’ll give it up too soon. Best for me to stay away from them for now. Trying to incorporate those FDS principles can really be a struggle LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:43 PM
10

Oh he wasn’t just trash, he was the whole damn dump. Like in the movie Wall-e where the whole planet was covered in trash. That’s him 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:41 PM
13

I’m SO sorry you experienced that... a big hug to you sis. I hope you’re doing so much better and you’re happy and healthy. And fuck that POS and fuck cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:25 AM
9

I almost feel bad for them. Almost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:16 AM
225

Reading this makes me averse to having sex ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:14 AM
31

I’d go to the malicious compliance route and say she show up in the most sexiest, revealing, bomb ass slaying dress, and then decided to marry herself at the alter, leave him at the aisle, and then throw the wedding party for her and her real friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:08 AM
25

GHOST AND BLOCK. He knows VERY well why he brushes it off. And the fact that you’re coming to ask us if it’s a red flag is glaring proof that you are way too young for him to understand these manipulative tactics older men do to ensnare young unsuspecting women like you. Take it from me. My abusive narc ex lied about his age (on OLD it said 33, he was actually 42. I was 23.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:07 AM
7

Aww thank you 😊 I have 2, but I want to have a mansion and live like Enya and have at least 5... the more the merrier 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:59 AM
20

Yes I was able to get gardasil thank goodness! I believe it covers most of types of HPV. I still worry about the very slight risk though but it is quite a small risk that it’s almost negligible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:58 AM
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Honestly a huge reason why even if I do get to be in a headspace or place in my life where I could allow myself to date again, my biggest fear is getting STD’s from men. Like damn HPV can go hidden in men... I don’t want to get no cervical cancer from them 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:09 PM
1

“Some men are ‘never again’ of males, there is no hitting rock bottom after him...” Reverse the genders and see how dumb it all sounds. Wouldn’t that world be so much better if women started supporting other women instead of begging for men to see their worth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:05 PM
2

LMAOOO all his replies are just so pathetic. If it were me I would have ran off with the son. Cheating isn’t right but neither is being with men who are almost old enough to be my father. The pity party he’s throwing for himself is so cringy. She’s fucking 25 and his son is 20. I bet when he starts dating again he wouldn’t wait to tell the next victim (probably another twenty year old) his sob story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:03 PM
10

What a queen move. Put those dusties back in the dirt sis!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:45 PM
12

This is fucking gross. I hope she sees the light of day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:43 PM
12

Oh my god that is awful. I’m so sorry. Please whatever you do do NOT go back to him!!! Reach out to loving family and friends to hold you accountable, or a community, prayer if you’re religious. I highly recommend reading Lundy Bancroft’s why does he do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:33 PM
3

I want that book SO bad, she’s such a queen and I follow her on Instagram, I canNOT get enough of her!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:31 PM
43

Lmaoooo I’m the grandma with the C A T S sweater 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:28 PM
3

Aww thanks sis. For sure 💕 thank you for sharing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:26 PM
1

Yes yes I know we’re not supposed to respond to this, but girl I’m cackling 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:24 PM
113

I too, am a visual creature. I am always visually looking at men’s wardrobe and his tax brackets, as well as what class of Mercedes he is driving. Visually, I prefer men with fatter wallets. What? It’s only biology... 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:23 PM
17

I second this. This is the first time I’ve been single in my adult life and the time I have invested in myself and this is the most money I’ve ever had in my bank account. I just bought a damn Gucci bag and I couldn’t have ever thought I would be able to do that in my 20s. Men, on the other hand, tend to have terrible ROIs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:17 PM
12

When I first met my narc ex (he was early 40s, I was mid early 20s) he literally didn’t tell me he was still LEGALLY MARRIED aka sEpArAtEd (also lied about his age) until almost a month of us exclusively dating. I was blindsided. And then he had the audacity to tell me it was nothing to concerned about and that I was ridiculous for not trusting him. So I decided to go on a website where I could talk to men and get money because I was a broke college kid (it was strictly platonic) and he constant…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:14 PM
54

My narc ex was always so proud of telling people that he was celibate for nearly a decade while fully well knowing that he was a model at the time and girls would throw themselves on to him. It was an example for him to gloat, he even went on interviews about it. I thought it was in bad taste for a man to be discussing what he does or doesn’t do with his parts and then use it as an example of holier-than-thou behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:47 PM
7

If you’re going to be proud to have shitty standards and date old LVM men you might as well be taking his money too at the very least. Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:45 PM
28

✨ It’s the lack of special awareness for me ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:33 PM
77

This is so awful I want to cry. Every scrote who wanks off to this godforsaken site participates in ruining a young little girl’s life. I’m glad steps are being taken in the right direction though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:39 AM
17

Omg same 😭😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:16 PM
8

This whole interaction was embarrassingly cringy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:14 PM
6

1) The trauma bond changes your brain chemistry. The high highs and the low lows is what gets your brain hooked. He always seemed to be doing better for a small period and then he would crash and burn and abuse me. 2) I am an empath. To the extreme. I am somebody who until somewhat recently had terrible boundaries. Giving but never receiving. Empaths attract narcs like flies. They are their never ending supply. 3) I was seeking someone much much older who could offer stability in my life. Men my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:13 PM
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Being liked by older men is NOT a compliment! You are not “mature for your age”! It is a tactic to make you feel sPeCiAL and chosen by a man who has no business diddling with someone who could very well be his daughter. ALL older men who go after much younger women ARE Z/LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:52 AM
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I’m sorry to hear that you went through this. The thing is I had a really great childhood and I’m fairly close with my parents. Obviously they’re not perfect but they’re great at what they do. And I guess I hoped to emulate that and was displeased at LVM my age and for some reason I guess thought that older men would just be more HV. Boy was I wrong. Terrible men are present in all generations. The good thing is that we are out of it. I’m so glad for you that he’s an ex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:47 AM
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I hate entitled cheap men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:03 AM
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Nothing. And the thing is, older men telling much younger women how “mature” they are sounds so much like a compliment. So of course, these younger women are manipulated into appearing a certain way and like certain things that they like and acting a certain way, molded into the woman he likes. Take it from me, who escaped an abusive relationship with a narc two decades her senior. There is nothing in common and it should stay that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:02 AM
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You did the right thing girl! Women are not your enemies. That was manipulative of him to compare her to you... cheers to joining us! 💕 you’re on the right path for self growth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:56 AM
19

I couldn’t have said it better 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:04 PM
7

I saw nothing wrong with what she was saying. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:26 PM
27

What a MOOD! I love this! After corona is over I’m doing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:37 AM
89

Awomen. When women hate men, they will just want to be away from men. When men hate women, they want to invade and violate them in their spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:26 AM
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I remember when I was shopping with my mom and I was barely 10 dancing to some music, and this old man went up to me when my mom was distracted for a little bit and he asked me “if you dance in front of the store, I’ll give you this gold coin”. If I wasn’t taught about stranger. I never danced as a kid in public (or any age again for that matter). I think that’s when I first started to realize how dangerous and easy it is for men to prey on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:47 PM
23

As a childfree woman I absolutely cannot fathom the audacity of men and women alike inserting their business into my vagina. It’s hetrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:40 PM
20

Girl you know I would if I could 🥲💕✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:37 PM
24

I would LOVE to share but I unfortunately know that it could be traced back to my real identity so for the meantime I have to keep it hidden 😭 sorry! I know a lot of men scouring through Reddit would smear it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:32 PM
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Anyone like me and think that deep down all men will most likely fail you and are unreliable? Getting flashbacks from when my ex yelled at me for saying “ArE yOu On ThE RaG” during his narcissistic rages and I begged to be treated with respect. I don’t remember the last time a man actually went above and beyond to make sure I was ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:54 AM
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Back in my pickme days, I spent nearly a total of about 2 grand supporting my NVM exes. (At least one of them paid me back but it took 3 years. The other one threw out hundreds of dollars of my favorite dresses and paints and shattered a glass door with a brick and punched my TV and took $1000 of money he shamed me for how I earned it yet he still benefited from it.) So now that my art career is skyrocketing, the other day I bought a Gucci purse FOR MYSELF. I will never spend money on a man agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:50 AM
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Not that it was already bad but damn was it worse already. I don’t know where these men find their audacity thinking they can string along 20 years olds when they’re pushing 40. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:46 AM
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Bonus points if his profile says he “wants kids” 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:45 AM
50

That was a very classy response. ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:43 AM
12

I’d love to think my dad is HVM. He provides for me and mom. Although he is a little outdated and unfortunately right leaning and could be a bit more emotionally available, he is a great leader, role model, extremely respectful, loves to teach, very educated, hardworking, and disciplined. He rarely cooks but he is very clean and will always do the dishes and set up the table and will always offer to take us out if my mom is not feeling up for it. While we disagree on some views, he embodies a lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:41 AM
9

“I cannot leave my bf” Yes, yes you can. You are a WOMAN. You are the prize. You can leave. If I can leave an abusive freak twice my age and tried to dozens and dozens of times, you can leave this man who doesn’t add to your life. It doesn’t matter the reason. If you know you can do better, why are you with him? Does the prize settled for second best? NO! Be single, be FREE. The first steps are the scariest. Everything after that is a breeze. Trust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:36 AM
2

Awomen sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:28 AM
50

The first one hit me hard. Men don’t know how terrifying they sound like when they don’t control their anger. Or they do, and they like it because they’re monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:46 PM
10

Damn I want your energy!!!! Good for you! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:24 AM
2

It took DOZENS of time to leave a past relationship with a narc. The tipping point was when I finally came to realize that he will NEVER get better and that there is nothing you can do or say to change them. They don’t want to treat you better. Their words don’t match up with their actions. The cycle continues and it will never stop. You can plead, you can forgive, you can beg, you can give your absolute purest love and soul to them. But it will never be enough. Abusers don’t stop abusing. I wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:01 AM
3

For a period in my life I thought I was asexual but honestly it’s just because most men suck in bed and are way too selfish and perverted. I haven’t had any in more than half a year and I literally have not missed it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:01 PM
1

I was also a victim of this. Thank you for sharing your gift of being an amazing artist. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:59 PM
2

And the thing is: a lot of security means security from other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:56 PM
1

This made me triggered... girl he is bad. My narc ex did shit like this. Hot and cold. Unstable. Lovebombing and then abusing. You’re in a trauma bond and I really hope you can leave...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:55 PM
6

My biggest fantasy that involves a man is when he is directly depositing large sums of money into my bank account, cooking me meals, and then leaving me alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:51 PM
3

Stop focusing on MEN and start focusing on MONEY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:49 PM
16

I wish this woman was my godmother 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:46 PM
55

Every time grimes and Elon appear in the news, or if I even see a damn Tesla on the road, I get upset because that’s one more creative and artistic and talented woman who has given up herself in order to serve the patriarchy and Elon’s heinously grandiose visions and dealings. Not to mention the age gap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:39 PM
9

Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:36 PM
72

Every. Single. One. Of. My. Exes. Said. This. To. Me. God bless the next man, when I’m ready, who comes into my life, is actually worthy of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:34 PM
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I ain’t messin with no cheep cheep men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:06 PM
2

Good for you girl!! I’m also unapologetically childfree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:54 PM
2

Wow had I know those statistics that would’ve saved me YEARS of dating shitty older men abusing me. YEARS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:18 AM
7

Yeah, well Chad, your dick isn’t as big as my dildo. Blocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:09 AM
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Most women who walk this earth are absolutely full of genuine love and are very giving by nature. I am absolutely in touch with my femininity when I’m like this. But I can’t ever give much to a man, nowhere near the degree I give to my pets or my family or friends. Men will take that as a sign to take advantage of and abuse that power. So as a woman, I have to remind myself to hold back. Always make the man chase you. He will not value you if you give too much too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:08 AM
6

AMEN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:01 AM
5

My narc ex literally after a runway model show pissed in a basement hallway corner while drunk in mall we were at and I was in SHOCK. The mental gymnastics I leapt through to make excuses for his shitty behavior pre FDS has me shook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:59 AM
8

Yaaay! There’s a lot of ladies here who are too which is awesome! And yes same! I’m sorry you went through that :/ it’s an awful thing and I’m so glad I am now I am. I couldn’t imagine dealing with an abusive man for the rest of my life because of a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:06 PM
3

I’m sorry. I’ve similarly felt the same way. I actually was called manipulative because I felt suicidal being abused by my narc ex. It’s being pushed to the brink of insanity to be used as a supply. I absolutely agree. I am never shameful about how important money is. I don’t care if people think I’m materialistic or whatnot. Having your own money is FREEDOM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:31 AM
3

I wish I never had a boyfriend 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:57 AM
16

THIS, this, and THIS. You hit the nail right on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:56 AM
43

I’m a childfree woman and part of the reason why I’m so heavily against dating men is because I don’t trust men, period, and I don’t trust men who say they’re fine with not having kids. I will not trust a man with that statement unless he has a vasectomy. I really can’t. I’m not wasting years of my life with someone who changes their mind all of a sudden. It’s hard to reverse a vasectomy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:44 AM
17

Is she wearing a Maison Van Cleef & Arpels necklace? 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:35 AM
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Girl I’m childfree for so many reasons, but FDS related, it’s AMAZING. You never have to be tied to a man through your children in case shit hits the fan. You can literally walk away so much easier. I will never trust any man to pick up the slack as a parent. Most man’s genes aren’t worth being passed on anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:33 AM
14

LVM men: ”IM tHe ALpHa” Also LVM men: ”baby me”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:29 PM
13

That’s phenomenal. Nowadays men can’t be bothered to put their hands to work unless it’s button mashing their PS5 controller or their wanking off with their right hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:28 PM
26

Agreed. This is the time to focus on ourselves. No HVM man would be risking his own health nor others during this time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:32 AM
4

I’m sorry that’s so awful... I like to think that men like them get one day what’s coming to them. It doesn’t have anything to do with you... if he can do it to one woman he will do it to all of them unfortunately I think. I hope you’re doing well nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:00 AM
47

Elizabeth from Pride and Prejudice! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:23 AM
27

Sorry about your ex, sis... Men don’t know how the fuck to be alone. Pre FDS my ex who was going through his second divorce (and didn’t tell me until we were dating a month into the relationship, they were sEpArAtEd) and didn’t finalize it until we were 6 months dating. Monkey branching motherf*ckers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:23 AM
4

This man is pathetic...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:12 AM
10

Thank you so much for sharing this empowering truth. And happy thanksgiving 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:05 AM
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The comment about comparing women to cars was so unnecessary... 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:39 PM
22

I’ve been having a rough day but this literally made me laugh so hard, thank you 😂💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:59 PM
70

IM NOT CRYING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:56 AM
19

I literally wheezed at this haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 01:31 AM
34

That shirt is enormous, both in size AND the importance of its message 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 01:25 AM
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Thank you for coming and joining this community! You’re just going through the growing pains right now but you’re leveling up and you deserve only the best. 💕 many hugs to your journey sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 01:23 AM
12

OOOO 😍💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:26 PM
2

Holy crap that is eye-opening. Also poor puppies 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:19 PM
1

Good luck sis. Drain every single penny out of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:20 PM
3

I love this energy!!!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:18 PM
2

This is so touching 💕 I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:16 PM
11

She’s childfree, ie. They will not have children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:03 PM
6

We Stan for her 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:26 PM
13

Why. Why can’t men just get a damn vasectomy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:33 PM
14

I HATE when women use the term “bitching” or “nagging” when they’re frustrated with their partner’s REPEATED UNWANTED BEHAVIORS because you know she’s directing it at WOMEN. It invalidates our voice. If she was saying this to a man, she would not call his frustrations “bitching”. Just the micro-aggressions we have to deal with that reminds us we still live under the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:32 PM
14

Search power to freeze time Reddit and you will find it 👍🏻 idk if those comments got deleted or whatever but I saw screenshots from it before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:16 PM
15

I’m very certain that’s what it was!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:14 PM
121

Oh my god there was a recent popular Reddit post that said, I paraphrase, if you could do anything without anyone watching or no consequences, what would you do? And an ALARMINGLY high amount of them said rape. Like what. The. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:20 PM
12

This is BEAUTIFUL. This is the kind of energy I’m harnessing right now. Good for you queen 💕💕💕✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:54 PM
17

I love this energy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:45 PM
29

I literally choked on my drink when I read this LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:17 PM
5

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:33 AM
62

It’s Scrotese
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:31 AM
3

Omg thank you!! 💕 Aww yes! I of course have a second job until I can finally thrive off of it solely, but yes I will absolutely reach out to you probably like in a month or so (once I graduate!) thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:46 PM
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I just had my first large art show this evening and I’m finishing up a several thousand dollar mural tomorrow and my client wants to sign me up for TWO MORE contracts. My art career is skyrocketing and I’m about to graduate very soon. I would’ve never thought this would happen so soon. I want to cry I’m so happy... just bought a Gucci bag for myself and then I’ll be saving mad and getting into FIRE. Please pray for my continual success!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:46 AM
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I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, but I definitely see your point and I agree with some of them. Personally, I just don’t think it’s anyone’s business. We are allowed to stay in the closet if we feel it is safer there. I am mostly and unfortunately attracted to men but I would never reveal to them that there are a handful of women I have encountered that I was enamored with that if given the chance I would absolutely be with them. I just don’t think I have ever trusted a man with that i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:16 AM
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It’s not demonizing if they already demons, just sayin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:51 AM
27

O_0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:44 AM
16

Oh my god my narc ex did this. Constantly. It’s so fucking gross. He thought it was hilarious. No you fucking man child, excuse yourself to another room and do it there. I don’t want to smell or hear you. It was funny the first few times but now that you’ve done it twenty times a day it’s old. That shit is so unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:12 PM
9

Please correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t this the same woman who created a tiktok that was telling young women to give their man like 200$ or something?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:07 PM
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When I’m ready to date, I hope I can meet someone like him. He has immeasurable wisdom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:19 AM
2

Thank you so much, and the same goes for you 💕 there’s so much for us out there! Growth and joy awaits!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:00 AM
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Leave. Quietly gather your things, save your breath, and block him. Sis if he was in love with you he would not be doing this. He’s pornsick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:50 PM
5

omg that’s wild I’m not saying that’s her but that sounds so right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:31 PM
39

I wonder what would happen if women altogether gave up on hygiene like the way men do. How would they react...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:52 PM
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In a society brainwashed by libfem rhetoric, who claim that women can have it all while completely ignoring men out of the equation, these scrotes sittin back and relaxing like they’re the prize. Women, yes you can have it all, but you don’t have to do it all. Only partner with men who will put in their effort and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:38 PM
4

Same sis! That’s why we don’t write paragraphs anymore, or nothing at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:36 PM
11

I’m wheezing 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:20 PM
10

Absolutely. Love how he completely ignored your first response. Do not respond, block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:08 PM
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If they are or aren’t I don’t know why he’s reaching out to us when he could just post his questions on AskFDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:38 PM
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Oof girl don’t get me started. Grimes used to be one of my favorite musicians but then she got groomed by him. Their whole relationship is embarrassing and the lengths she goes to defend her pos redpilling asshole. She is sleeping with the patriarchy and perpetuating it by having children with him. It reminds me of my pickme days when I dated older men too. He is trash and suspect has a dark personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:19 PM
16

It’s the pillow without a pillow slip for me. I bet it got weird yellow stains on it or something 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:14 PM
16

That’s the way to go 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:12 PM
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Girl I’m in a similar boat. I escaped an abusive relationship a long while ago and I still get pangs of sickness just remembering what happened. Every day is a step in the right direction if you try your best to redirect those thoughts and put them into action. As soon as I start thinking about it, I start busying myself. It also helps to attend therapy of course. It’s a lot of work to rewrite your brain to move past from the trauma of abuse. I follow a lot of blogs about self growth, finding pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:10 PM
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That’s awesome! Good for you!! 💕 I definitely still love to meet people but I’m mostly on the introverted side so I need to have my alone time. Plus the pandemic has forced me to focus on myself too. That sounds like a solid plan!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:06 PM
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Imagine carrying a child for 9 months, going through the pains and risks of labor, raising it to be the best person it can be, and your son still turns out to be a pornsick broken scrote. Nightmares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:11 PM
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I am childfree for almost 70 reasons but absolutely this is a huge one. Being a mother is an often thankless and difficult job. Sacrificing my career, my body, my hobbies, my interests, my sleep, my sanity, and so much more while my male partner gets to further his life and can walk away much more easily than a woman can? All the while saying simultaneously that women need to “have it all” with career and baby? Hell to the NO. That shit sounds exhausting. My bloodline ends with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:09 PM
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These statistics make me feel absolutely shameless about securing my own financial future and chasing the bag. No I will not be with a man who is broke thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:04 PM
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“WHy cAnT yOu JuSt bE uPfRoNt aNd SaY nO” BECAUSE OF THIS, CHAD. THIS. Men are fucking crazy. I’m so glad you’re ok... please get a dash cam and report to the police... 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:46 PM
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Girl same. I know it’s a “dating” subreddit but literally I have no interest in dating anytime soon. I have so much going on for me and I don’t feel ready at all to dip my toes and deal with scrotes and disappointment and wasted time. FDS gives us the tools to glow up and protect ourselves in all areas of our lives should we decide to date, but the root of its essence is empowering us women to be the best version of ourselves that we can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:47 AM
13

Or just indefinitely 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:00 AM
4

Thank you so much for the kind words 💕🥺 I needed that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:47 AM
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Aww thanks girl 😭 I look at it now and I feel disgusted for letting himself explore that fantasy with me. I’ve recently come to the terms that he’s a pedophile. Who knows. For narcs it’s their nature, their pleasures, their wants, their needs, but most men are selfish anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:14 PM
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Ooof I wish because in my case, when I would jokingly turn it on him he was actually open to me doing it to him. 🤮 But yeah I remember one of our last arguments where I was sick of telling him that I needed foreplay, not continuing this daddy daughter jackhammer bullshit. This man was on this earth for almost 5 decades and he still didn’t know how to use it half the time and refused to listen. I feel bad to whomever has to deal with his crooked ass dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:10 PM
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Oh my god THIS. My narc ex would not shut the fuck up about that when I REPEATEDLY told him no. Men just get off on inflicting pain on women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:29 PM
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Are men really incapable of empathy? Do they not realize how crazy that sounds to suggest a woman that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:14 PM
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Oh my god that’s terrifying... so glad you’re safe now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:02 AM
5

Girl how did you learn how to do all of that?! I really love cars, and I want to learn more about regular maintenance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:01 AM
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Literally my ex to a T was afraid I was a gold-digger. When he literally was twice my age and still was paying off tens of thousands off his student loans and the ambulance that saved his life when he OD’d on heroin. 😒 Like bicth no. YOU a YOUTH-digger, and pretty much an everything-digger. Now I am a proud gold-digger and shameless about it because men will happily drain everything a woman has for his own selfish needs. What’s wrong with wanting to be with a financially stable and generous man?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:03 AM
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This pandemic FORCED me to level up. I’ve actually have made a ton of more money than I could have ever imagined thanks to the time and effort I have invested in myself rather than dating and wasting time with scrotes. It’s literally like my eyes are seeing the reality of applying FDS principles... it’s so wild. Post pandemic I don’t even imagine seeing myself date within the near future... all I can see is the bag and the coin LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:52 AM
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Oh my goodness poor woman. I literally felt my heart drop seeing this... it’s one of the many reasons why I will not use OLD ever again... I hope they find that POS and he pays for this On a tangent, this also reminds me of my narc ex pre-FDS when he literally decided to start some shit when it was late at night in Atlanta and he started walking away from me FAST and I freaked out because it’s a damn city you NEVER leave a girl in the freaking city because there are men out there who are prowlin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:49 AM
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I feel personally attacked by this post lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:44 AM
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AMAZING. I used to get so worried about the “honeymoon period” ending. Now I know it’s just a fucking myth that LVM men use as an excuse to stop putting as much effort into the relationship as they did with the beginning, and usually between 6mos-2 years typically the mask comes off. I can have everlasting beautiful love for the rest of my life if I wanted to. Don’t settle ladies for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:35 PM
5

Yaaaaas 🥰💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:37 PM
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LOL girl you’re so sweet! You don’t gotta own the shoe and the bag to be a queen! The loubs were a gift from my sugar daddy days (just went on solely dinner dates and sacs fifth Avenue shopping sprees so they can rant about their ex wives lol) and the Gucci bag I earned recently because I’ve been working my butt off and my career has been skyrocketing thanks to all the free time I have from not wasting it with dating men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:37 PM
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Mmhmm! That’s why I don’t date men who can’t financially provide for my time. I literally calculated how many hours of work time I WASTED being in a shitty relationship. Literally if we as ladies could all quantify how much money we are losing out on by dating scrotes, it would literally be a game change. Time is your most VALUABLE ASSET.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:33 PM
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Good lord. Like girl, grow up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:28 PM
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SAME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:23 PM
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My narc ex ALWAYS described marriage like this. Like dude, you married twice already and the last marriage you jumped into after dating her for ONE MONTH. Narcs always sabotage themselves lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:22 PM
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I have ALWAYS been held back by my past relationships. I’m now doing business deals with men. My narc ex would be flipping his shit if he knew I was working on a crew side by side with men and making thousands of dollars worth of commissions from men. He wouldn’t even let me be a bartender or have similar jobs as that because of the “opportunity to cheat would be prevalent” I paraphrase. Insanity. Fuck that. Imma get my bag and coin and there’s no man that can stop me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:12 PM
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I literally just came to this conclusion. I've had, if I may toot my own horn, an incredible amount of career success and more money in the bank than I ever had than while I was in a relationship. I have come to the conclusion that men cost me, in more ways than just financially. So until there is guaranteed ROI and subsequent profit, I will be avoiding $MEN for the foreseeable future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:35 AM
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That’s amazing and so sweet of you!!! If I had a girlfriend I would actually make an effort to cook for her LOL. men, however... nah 😒 haha When my best friend’s family cooks for me, I literally have to hold my tears back because I get so emotional about how grateful I am that they took the time to share their family meal with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:27 AM
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This is queen shit lmaoooo. Girl I did the same too. Cheap men would ask me for cOfFeE dAtEs back then and I would be like "sure" and then literally show up glammed in my louboutins and gucci bag. The SWEATS they would get when they realized how grimy they looked. It was hilarious watching them squirm lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:20 AM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again, that's why I tell men I don't cook (for them). When the occasion arose back them, I would literally cook crappy food. I don't want them getting used to me being in the kitchen. You want a homecooked meal so badly? Hire a chef with your money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:13 AM
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I love muscle cars and am saving up for one for when I'm in a great place financially of course, but like these kinds of men don't know how to budget for sure! (Until then, I'm driving my shitty car until the wheels fall off.) Fiscal irresponsibility goes hand in hand with LVM. And the same sort of thinking is with "gamer guys" as well. Always dumping thousands of dollars into hobbies that consume their lives and then whining to their pickme gfs to buy them the new ps5 since they spent all their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:09 AM
26

joe goldberg LMAO I mean they ain't wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:03 AM
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Sounds fake... Lmao jk jk but this is so precious ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:52 AM
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IM WHEEZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:12 AM
10

Yes, block and delete, and make sure to read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:09 AM
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Wow that is dedication and we love to see it!!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:33 PM
11

YUP 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:32 PM
16

... but WHY that long 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:54 AM
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This is exactly how I am planning my life! It’s so strange, I would have never thought I would be not only surviving being single (more than half a year ago), but I’m actually thriving. I’ve made so much more money than I ever have than when I was in a relationship. I sleep at night. I have so much more time to do what I want. I stress so much less. Of course I stress with juggling school, work, my business, and clientele work, and commissions, but it’s nowhere near what being in a relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:50 AM
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I’m definitely the same way. Thankfully I think it’s just something we have to work on constantly until it becomes second nature. Plus for me personally, I know what I’m doing is working when I start seeing what I accomplish and how I feel when I have great self esteem. It’s rewarding for sure! Don’t be too hard on yourself sis 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:44 AM
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I don't understand how any man would ever pass up the opportunity to go after Olivia. Especially after 6 months. If he isn't chasing you, he's not worth it ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:03 AM
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This is wisdom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:03 PM
8

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:56 PM
15

LOL sis same 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:53 PM
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Wow that’s messed up. I’m starting to do really well in my career even while in school and I can’t imagine ever joining finances. Men are the real gold-diggers. Prenup ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:32 AM
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SAME HERE. They’re. All. The. Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:25 AM
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You hit the nail on the head. My abusive narc ex was extremely adept at showing loyalty at face value, and as far as I know was very proud of himself for never looking at other women. BUT he would break up with me every other weekend and then who knows wtf he would do. He was also a fucking pedophile in his fantasies and in real life had some strange connections to messaging a girl throughout her teen years who was the daughter of the woman he lost his virginity to. No DOUBT he could have groome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:22 AM
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Hear hear!!! I’m so happy to see so many FDS childfree representatives here and in the White House!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:14 AM
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Financial abuse is not talked about ENOUGH. Thank you so much for sharing. That’s why I advise women to not enter relationships unless they are financially secure and have enough to leave a situation quickly and safely should shit hit the fan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 08:51 PM
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Elizabeth from Pride and Prejudice. She’s independent, headstrong, doesn’t back down, doesn’t let any man disrespect her no matter how wealthy he is, speaks her mind, goes against the conventions of being a passive woman especially in her time and society, is in charge of her own happiness, and her standards are high. She is also kind, protective, and values education 😃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:33 PM
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That is PRECISELY one of the most important reasons why female spaces should be safeguarded from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:25 PM
3

They are FANTASTIC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:34 AM
26

Ikr? I got second hand exhaustion reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:32 AM
33

What the heck kind of world do we live in where we can make up terms about the most effed up shit just to normalize it?! Poly-moNO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:31 AM
34

That’s why I tell men I don’t cook. 😒 either he better be one or I’m out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:16 AM
90

I LITERALLY for several years thought I was asexual because men turned me off SO much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:46 PM
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Exactly. I literally got in a tussle the other day with some Reddit scrote who was like “wHy CaNt I pOsT oN FDS / weLll wimmin can post on men’s subs 2!!!11 / wut about EKWALITY!?!!” Can’t we just have ONE female space. One. I got downvoted of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:39 PM
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Men are time/youth/mommy/sex/emotional labor-diggers, why is it bad for women to want financially generous and stable men? Call me a gold-digger then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:36 PM
16

Finally, a statue of a respected woman that isn’t naked for no apparent reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:10 PM
26

I remember when my narc ex said this to me. He was starting to abuse me verbally and emotionally and I left. Then he broke down crying saying he wanted to be the best man for me. As a naive empath who wants to see the best in people, my fault for believing it. Surprise, he repeated the abuse and it escalated. I don’t trust words anymore. I only see actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:07 PM
90

I’m an art student and went to Italy to study and I NEVER heard of her, why is this?! This is amazing. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:03 PM
6

Omg that’s fantastic 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:02 PM
101

Oh my god he’s barely recognizable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:01 PM
16

The only appropriate response to cat-calling is to bark like a rabid dog at them. 🐶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:43 AM
6

Ooof yes agreed, I don’t doubt it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:39 AM
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I know right? God bless this sweet woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:42 AM
24

There has to be some sort of internalized misogyny, or some sort of pandering to the male gaze. I'm sure her patrons are all entirely male because a female board would most likely, in my opinion, be opposed to this concept. I wish I knew the reasoning behind its making because Hambling's response in the article to her art is so dry and so shallow-minded. Men are not going to take it us seriously if we keep depicting ourselves in nudity as a ridiculous metaphor for "freedom".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:34 AM
23

Right? She's also identifies as a lesbian and I wonder if maybe she has some sort of internalized misogyny that led her to create this piece.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:27 AM
29

I was waiting for someone to comment this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:37 PM
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Her name is Maggi Hambling, and she is 75 years old. I would have thought that her experience having been through second wave feminism that she would have had more of a backboned representation of Mary Wollstonecraft. Instead I feel like she's representing libfem ideals in this depiction instead unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:28 PM
10

Finally someone said it! Men are not high value until they have been vetted extensively for a MINIMUM of 6 months. This is the standard probationary period. There is no "he is HVM but he has LVM traits". That is just a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:25 PM
73

Oooo how original. Naked women in art. -_- How distasteful and disrespectful to an accomplished woman. Pandering to the male gaze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:20 PM
2

Girl same. You can NEVER prove your valid, reasonable points and views with a narc. That is exactly what I was accused of too. I literally, pre-FDS, was constantly arguing and demanding respect and to be free from abuse. It's always gotta be some power play. Eventually I stopped giving a shit and when he would break up with me I would just go on dates with men. I eventually left for good when I realized the extent of the trauma bond and how it was never going to get better. The brainwashing is r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:12 PM
3

They’re so beautiful ✨💕 happy bday!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 04:00 PM
10

I’ve literally achieved 9/10 of these after dropping my narc ex. ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:58 PM
40

Oh god you too? Yeah surprisingly, experiencing extensive abuse dries my vagina up like the Sahara Desert. Out of all the people I slept with, he’s the only one I actually had to use lube with. Shoutout to my narc ex with his crooked ass dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:51 AM
2

Absolutely 💕 thank you for the kind words!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:58 PM
5

I asked myself this question today after crushing on my first love who has been an ex for a long time and seeing that he hasn’t changed was all the evidence I needed to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:18 PM
26

Don’t 👏🏻 fall 👏🏻 in 👏🏻 love 👏🏻 with 👏🏻 potential 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:25 PM
178

Ok I charge $500 a session. Tell me about your childhood, Chris 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:58 PM
20

They are 🤮 that’s why I stay away from OLD at the very least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:12 PM
67

Exactly. The whole world caters to men anyways. If men really care about mental health, they should be supporting each other fiercely. But I don’t see them usually do that. Women support each other’s mental health, so why do we have to extend the same emotional labor for men? Must we do everything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:09 PM
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God forbid women put in effort to look nice for their dumpy trashy ass troglodyte boyfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:58 AM
5

This is such a good quote. It’s extremely relevant to this memory I have of a past relationship with a narcissist. He would say some misogynistic bullshit that women, not being as strong as men, use words and emotions as their strength because they know that men are weaker in those areas. So apparently, when I say things like “please stop yelling at me, I can’t stand it when you do that, it hurts me when you don’t listen nor respect me and cuss at me”, it‘s apparently not supposed to hurt me tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:46 AM
2

That’s awesome! Ok I’m sold, I’ll check it out, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:30 AM
27

You hit the nail straight on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:30 AM
3

This is the kind of woman I want to be! Do you recommend this book? :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:22 AM
9

Yessss!!! We love this energy!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:09 PM
75

Same. I am childfree myself. I’m ready to go John Wick on any scrote’s ass who lays a finger on my pets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:09 PM
115

This is absolutely true. Literally when I got sick of enduring the extensive abuse from my narc ex I started standing up for myself and planning my exit out. Suddenly I’m the bad guy. That man still walks around like he’s the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 08:46 PM
120

Vet them and protect yourself ladies. Men are everything-diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:22 PM
3

🥰💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:51 AM
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Thank you, I appreciate it 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:51 AM
2

Thank you 💕 This could safe my life one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:51 AM
31

Stevie Nicks is a childfree HVW goddess I aspire to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:48 AM
19

Honestly I’d rather drink my own piss, but thanks Bear Grylls 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:47 AM
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My last shitty abusive relationship. I have never been drier in any other relationship. One of our last arguments was how I’m sick and tired of repeating myself that I NEED FOREPLAY. I never needed lube in my last relationships and that’s because they took their time with that. You can’t just stick it. Of course it doesn’t help that he was a narc and was extremely emotionally and verbally abusive. Surprise surprise, calling me every bad name under the sun makes me unattracted to your dick. Men d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:43 AM
292

Do you ever just get angry with how normalized this garbage is? Because I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:35 AM
19

Every, and I mean EVERY ex I had told me this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:47 PM
14

As a child free women myself I let it be known that I am not interested in wasting my time with men who want children. However I will not be the first one to answer the question. The man answers first, since many men will just lie off the bat and agree with you if you bring it up early. Any man who wants kids will usually say maybe or someday, which means, yes. So that’s when I tell them thank you but I am a definite no, and walk away. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:46 PM
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Your doggie is up there in heaven playing with my cat for sure 💕💕💕 sending love and hugs to you and your family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:43 PM
23

God I hated being this woman. Thank the Lord for my growth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:42 PM
60

I hope she bleeds him out of every penny he has and finds peace and prospers for her and her family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:40 PM
35

I’m at work and I literally SCREAMED lmaooooooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:39 PM
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Thank you so much for all this wonderful information! I’ve only just started scratching the surface and I can’t wait to learn more about self defense! For now I have just pepper spray haha. And ABSOLUTELY. I agree with you 100%. Saying that outside of this subreddit would be taboo but it’s the truth 🤷🏻‍♀️ Edit: what kind of special flashlight do you recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 05:11 AM
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I’ve been looking into getting into owning a 9mm for self defense once I live by myself in the city. I really love doing things on my own too but have been too scared to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:51 AM
119

There you have it folks. Men admit to being rapists if they had no consequences. I love being a woman but I hate my physical vulnerability sometimes..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:31 AM
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That too. I would’ve graduated so much earlier had I not been dealing with scrotes. Men are never worth the problems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:03 PM
49

I wish I never had bfs in college, all they did was waste my time and money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:00 PM
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A Christian myself, I’m sad to say that most men who crossed paths with me who claimed they were Christian were the most unchristianly people I’ve ever met. I actually don’t trust most Christians and keep my faith generally to myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:45 PM
12

Haha join us!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:10 AM
6

Is there doodoo in her brain? Because she is talking like she has doodoo in her brain. 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:45 AM
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Girl I’m feeling the same type of way. I’m planning my life as though I’m living without a man. Not alone though, I’ll have my best friend next door and we’re going to have dog and cat play dates and boost each other’s careers and go on vacations and make art together and sip lemonade and sweet tea on each other’s porches. 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:38 AM
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No girl no. Sounds like you were dealing with a narc or someone with severe mentally abusive manipulator. I literally felt like I was crazy when I was with a narc. I even reached out to my previous exes and asked them if I was crazy and they were like no what are you talking about. My best friends and family who obviously known me my whole life know I’m someone who’s kind, calm, and stable, although sometimes my anxiety can run a little high but that’s only because I care about a lot of things l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:33 AM
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Men aren’t funny 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:30 AM
11

Oh my goodness we love to see this!! Can she adopt me? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:23 PM
20

That’s so lovely! Accept all the beautiful things life has to offer you. Why the heck not? You’re not tied down to anyone or anything. Your life is yours to do whatever you wish!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:21 PM
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Absolutely the same. I was in a financially terrible situation with extremely controlling parents and I was desperate to get money. I also had an ex steal almost a thousand dollars for me and that was devastating. I was so pissed and angry for being taken advantage of and worked so hard to just try and make it out on my own and I ended up being a sugar baby (lite version) and would only just go on dinner dates and listen to them complain about their ex wives and whatever and also they would drop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:11 PM
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LMAO but yes ladies, don't fall for the sunken cost fallacy. Leave at the first sign of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:29 PM
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EXACTLY. Not long ago I had an 18 year old coworker and a 19 year old (very handsome quarterback/model) ask me out (who look much older than they actually are), and I'm almost a decade older than them (but I don't look like it). They weren't bothered at all by my real age, but I obviously told them no thank you. There's just too much of an age gap and life experience and even if they seem mature, they're literally still teenagers in their brains. It's not my job to raise boys to become men and b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:25 PM
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Age gap relationships NEVER work. NEVER. Please take it from me. I dated a narcissist who was nearly 20 years older than me. A man who has that sort of experience over you knows all the ways of pulling you in. At first they make you feel special, they make you feel mature, they show you a world that's unlike most men your age have. They'll say things "I'm a child at heart" and "men take much longer to mature". It's fucking bullshit. They know exactly what they're doing. You don't exist that long…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:18 PM
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This is why I reject motherhood. I don’t ever see men sacrificing themselves the same way mothers do. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:11 AM
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I’m so sorry for your mom’s passing. 💕 Husbands are more likely to leave their wives when they are sick x6 more likely than when husbands are sick. That’s why I have pretty much no faith in men. I even saw a post on a sub the other day where mostly women were saying they’d want their spouse to fulfill their sexual desires somewhere else should they fall sick. It was sickening to read the comments. The vows of “in sickness and in health” mean NOTHING to men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:08 AM
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My narc ex demon: "You're so emotional and immature, is it that time of the month? Are you on the rag?" (me, crying because I told him I'm hurt from all the yelling he does at me and I repeatedly told him I can't talk to him when he's yelling at me because it's disrespectful) Also my narc ex demon: \constantly verbally and mentally abusing me, punches my tv, throws a brick through my window door, shattering all the pieces, threatens to throw away my deceased cat, threatens to tie up my pet snake…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:10 PM
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Please take it from me. Do whatever you can to stay away from him. Yes, everything you're feeling and have gone through right now is exactly what I went through girl. I'm so sorry. I really recommend reading Lundy Bancroft "Why Does He Do That?" and especially "Psychopath Free" by Jackson MacKenzie (it's not just for escaping psychopaths but also other disturbed dark triad personalities) and of course reaching out to a therapist if possible. You will never "win" with a narcissist. They create th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:06 PM
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That is insane. The fact that there are men who don’t even blink an eye and already onto someone new. 20 years of marriage means nothing to them. They can’t handle being alone. Makes me never want to marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:23 PM
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I got whiplash trying to understand this post and it got worse and worse lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:59 PM
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Narcs are insane. You are so strong. Fuck that pos and live your life to the damn fullest girl!!! 💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:58 PM
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It sounds like something my shitty narc ex would’ve said if I wasn’t childfree and we had a kid. These kind of NVM are only thinking about THEMSELVES, not their family and their needs. 1) if you want kids, never have kids with a broke scrote, 2) vet like your life depends on it, 3) lay out your expectations. A good father is concerned for the well-being of his wife and child, not whining about his liFeStYlE and FuCk oFf and BiTcH. God I wish these men would just get a vasectomy and leave women a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:54 PM
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LOL love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:48 PM
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Just goes to show it doesn’t matter how much you give a man, what you look like and/or how high value you are, if he is LOW VALUE, you are gonna suffer the same. It doesn’t have anything to do with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:40 PM
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This is why I tell men I don’t cook. You can take your guests out for dinner on your dime!! I’m too busy earning my coin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:38 PM
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I’m so glad you are thriving and even despite all that has happened you realized you deserve not just “good enough”, but the best. Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful story. Plenty of virtual hugs to you, you are so strong and I’m so happy you got the help you needed 💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:19 PM
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I’m childfree for many reasons, but one of the largest is this. Most men actually deep down don’t care about women unless they’re about mUh pEniS or children about mUh LeGaCy. To see her writhing and contorting in pain trying to deliver human life while her useless cumstain of a sperm donor gets to watch her like it’s a football game and get pizza grease on his shirt really goes to show how fucking sociopathic men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:09 AM
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Practicing this for the next man who disappoints me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:57 AM
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Thank you for sharing and I’m glad you’re out of it. The most involved in sex work I did was being a lite version of a sugar baby (just going on dates and shopping sprees) listening to men’s problems and being their very expensive therapist, as well as doing chatting online with lonely men for money (I always blocked when it got sexual). Boy do I miss the money, but it does get tiring dealing with shitty older men. I’ve met some terrible awful men who have abandoned their children and wives and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:58 PM
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Being nice to men has only let them step all over me consistently cross my boundaries. I’ve started immediately doing a 180 and it’s crazy how much respect I’ve gotten and how much more men leave me alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:53 PM
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I just wanted to say I’m sorry that you had to go through that but I’m so glad you’re a wonderful mom to your child. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:51 PM
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Ahhhh we love to see it!!! I’m so glad you have a newfound joy for life! Girl I feel the same way. You can accomplish and enjoy so many things especially being single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:41 PM
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Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:36 PM
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Oh goodness I’m so sorry. You and your family deserved so much better. Good for you for navigating and thriving despite the horrendous lack of help from a crappy dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:32 PM
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Megan Fox’s ex is a shitty guy for sure. And it’s so good to see Courtney divorcing that disgusting old man, quitting her addiction, and supporting other women. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:35 AM
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Agreed. Men just never seem to get their shit together after a divorce and end up flinging all their insecurities and shitty behavior and bitterness on a good woman if they come along. I don’t want to demonize divorced men, but most men are demons so I’ll just leave it at that lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:02 AM
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Hahahahah oh no you good sis! I’ll join anything FDS related lmaoooo 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:03 PM
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Pffft I straight up make it clear that I don’t entertain broke men. I’m too busy making my own coin, a man can add to that and other areas of my life. I have way too many goals and you only get one life. If I’m struggling, I’m struggling for myself only, not for another man. Otherwise I’m happily single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:01 PM
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Oh shoot I may be strange but I’ll absolutely take a HVM if it means he’s asexual 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:59 PM
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SAME. There is no telling what a man can do. He can even be “amazing” for years and then suddenly turn on you and then leave you destitute and abandon his children if he hasn’t already abused them all. Being childfree helps you escape that situation MUCH easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:40 PM
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Yuck this is cool girl and NVM conversation 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:37 PM
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This is so true. My insanely abusive narc ex who was twice my age had an and ex wife (actually 2) who was around my age. Her father was extremely absent from her life. Now that I think about it, like WHY would he go after a woman who clearly had a shitty father figure and who clearly had some issues she needed to work on? He knew what he was doing. He was a man in his 40s dating someone who could have been his child. He knew EXACTLY. Predators look for signs of these because she was young and vu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:34 PM
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I will literally boycott it if they make that garbage. LOTR was my childhood. I’ll be damned if they do a sexual remake of that masterpiece. There’s literally nothing in the books that is lewd anyways, so it would even be inaccurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:32 AM
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If I was born before modern medicine and access to reproductive healthcare I abso-fucking-lutely would have joined a convent in Italy. But that’s amazing though for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:30 AM
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Ahh look at you!!! Glowing and such a go getter! Thank you for posting this beautiful affirmation and forgiving yourself 💕 you’re doing amazing 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:17 AM
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LOL that’s hilarious 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:03 AM
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I agree with everything but one part—this journey IS absolutely about love. Loving yourself! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:42 AM
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Girl count me in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:41 AM
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“Men are the prize” 🤢🤮 every sentence of this is vomit-inducing honestly...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 10:11 PM
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Girl sameeee. I’m actually excited for my 30s because the way my career is going now I’m going to have all my ducks in order and I absolutely can see things being less stressful as most of my stress nowadays is just goal/money related. Getting older and wiser is a blessing. I’m grateful to be alive on this earth. I’m also childfree so I don’t feel pressure like women who want children to have them by a certain time. And marriage is whatever, I’m planning my life without it so if it does happen i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:30 AM
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Yup. It’s just the same crap over again, cOmMuNiCaTe. Like the guy doesn’t like her anymore because she literally went though a SEXUAL ASSAULT. This is what’s so fucked up about men who put female virginity on a pedestal. And everyone is so oh boohoo to the man’s feelings. WHO GIVES AF ABOUT THE MAN’S FEELINGS, HE’S NOT THE ONE WHO GOT SEXUALLY ASSAULTED. WHY ARE WE SO CONCERNED ABOUT HIM INSTEAD OF HER. It makes me so mad. HE should be helping her through this, instead of just worrying about we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:35 PM
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Hey girl, I'm so sorry to hear this first of all... but, are you ME?! LOL. It looks like your mom is a serious pickmeisha. My mom is also one as well and although she has good traits, she's got a few serious bad ones, being jealousy, angry constantly, and major insecurity. The part where you mentioned you feel like you can't even talk about your emotions because "you have nothing to be stressed about" (which is ENTIRELY bullshit, it's a freaking pandemic and the economy is garbage! that's the ve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:16 AM
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Oh my goodness I actually commented on that post when it first came out, and I told her basically that she needed to LEAVE. I got downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:52 AM
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There was a thread somewhere, I think Twitter, where someone posted “what would you do if men were missing for a day” (I paraphrase) and all the responses from women were so innocuously wholesome, like “I’d be able to go running at night without fear” and other activities that prevented them from being leered or catcalled or in danger of men. And the men in the comments were so angry lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:57 PM
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Thank you! And absolutely true! You will definitely deny it at the time, but everyday you’re taking a step towards healing. Yes thank you! And it’s scary and hard at first, but what helps me is visualizing how my life is going to be and then what are some small realistic steps I can take daily to achieve that life in the desired timeframe? Then it’s less scary and absolutely more achievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:52 PM
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Aww thank you ☺️ yeah of course! Here are some things that I did that helped me, maybe they will help you! Forcing myself to get involved someway in the community. I really dislike social media, but I find it a necessary tool for business. So I make an effort everyday to post something funny or relevant or a question about art for people to respond. Feedback on my artwork is great work too. I also advertise my artwork, and people have started buying it! I also made an effort to expand my network…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:47 PM
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This is terrifying. I also used to live near UND campus...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:25 PM
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Yes, they are the narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. Just people with these traits you should avoid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 06:07 AM
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Oh my god that’s so awful. I’m so sorry. What a disgusting piece of shit your ex was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 05:34 AM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. I would absolutely read and reread the guide as much as you can to help give you the encouragement and confidence boost that I think you could benefit from! And take it from me. I became single and have been for awhile. I escape a very abusive relationship with a man who was a narc and twice my age. I have tried leaving so. Many. Times. I finally did. It’s one of the most hardest things you can do, and the scariest. At the time, my future seemed bleak. I felt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 05:31 AM
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I’ve come to realize how pretty much all the love languages are necessary for me in a HVM. Yes who doesn’t love GIFTS. Who doesn’t love QUALITY TIME. Who doesn’t love ACTS OF SERVICE. Who doesn’t love PHYSICAL TOUCH. Who doesn’t love WORDS OF AFFIRMATION. Everything balanced perfectly and in moderation. Edit: but i forgot to clarify, men can def buy me expensive gifts. I’m not picky about what color Birkin bag you can buy me. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:44 PM
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Girl same... my ex whom I amicably separated a long time ago reconnected, and I still remained friends (there were many subtle signs he was into me) for about more than half a year up until recently. He has bipolar 2 and goes through long periods of massive depression and then small periods of stability and then mania. But I can’t deal with the fact that during his bad times he doesn’t communicate at ALL. My best friend is dating a good man with the same disease who communicates when he’s feelin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:40 PM
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My response to that is: “Is he amazing though? Is he really? Otherwise if he really was, you wouldn’t be posting there sis!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:33 PM
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This is exactly what it is. Ladies it ISN’T LOVE. It’s a TRAUMA BOND.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:29 PM
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OP I am so sorry!!! Please when you do heal, make sure you leave quickly and quietly, and have all your arrangements in order WITHOUT him knowing, if you can. I HIGHLY suggest you have a police escort there in case he tries to pull you back into his clutches or hurt you in any way like he already has. In the meantime, use the grey rock method if you can. Make sure he doesn’t know where you live with your family. Sending you tons of prayers of safety and healing. Whatever you do, don’t go back to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:22 PM
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Exactly. We ladies have to realize that male attention is not that special. Desiring and valuing a woman are two totally different things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:15 PM
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I’m so sorry you had to go through that too. 😞 It is so sad how many ladies on here actually have been through narcissists (and other men with one or multiple dark triad personality disorders). The damage they do is horrendous. And it is so exhausting to heal from it. But I’m so glad you got out and hope you continue to thrive without those shitty people. SO proud of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:12 PM
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Aww thanks girl 🥰 Can you imagine I was so embarrassed by being abused. Why doesn’t my abuser feel embarrassed by the way they treated me? And he would shame me and tell me everything that I was telling my friends (which 99% of it was POSITIVE) was that I was making him out to be a villain. The mindfuck is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. So it made me retreat into a shell and I drew away from my friends, to prove I wasn’t saying anything bad about him to them, and ended up just saying “oh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:43 PM
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It really is!! That’s so awful and I’m so glad your friend escaped and is out there thriving. It’s so mind blowing how some ailments are literally psychosomatic. That’s why I can’t fathom how people think emotional abuse hurts less than physical abuse. Emotional abuse can cause the body to physically abuse itself. Both are abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:39 PM
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It really does! Had I known this would happen I would’ve left so much sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:26 AM
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Damn I see you have found my ex’s house 🤢🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:59 AM
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Girl you about to be a LAWYER like date who? Date this bag you trying to secure 💰💵💷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:58 AM
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Oh my goodness girl I’m so sorry that happened to you. I endured abuse from a narc and that literally caused me to break out everywhere and lose weight and feel like I was losing my mind. Keeping the abuser hidden and the abuse was like I was leading a double life. I literally would throw up too. I promised myself I would never ever fucking allow a man to treat me like that ever again. I feel like my body is now purged of toxins. Fast forward after leaving him, I have more bank in my account, mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:55 AM
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Thank you for sharing! I do agree that it’s hard to find good models of HV relationships on here, since a majority is mostly avoiding the LV. And you’re totally right about the idea of love and lasting relationships: love is not enough. You need that and compatible goals and values and a shared vision of the future. Best to you and your husband!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:47 AM
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Ok I thought it was just me noticing that too? Which is great because I’m so used to Reddit being a misogynistic cesspool of porndefenders. It’s good that people are realizing how damaging it is: to the consumer and the victims within the industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:43 AM
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You beat me to it. OLD is a magnet for N/LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:41 AM
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That’s awesome girl!! I’m so glad you’re able to feel at peace with the body you’re in. Dating literally stresses me out and makes my outlook on the world so bleak. I’ve literally been so much more comfortable being in my own body without someone objectifying it. I feel more me, not being on display for anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:40 AM
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So? 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:19 AM
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Most of my exes have been serotonin-diggers 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:00 PM
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These are the kind of men who don’t give a damn if their wives are sick. Husbands are more likely to leave their wives if they’re sick about x6 more than when husbands are sick. Take heed. If he doesn’t care if you’re sick as a boyfriend, he won’t care when you’re married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 04:55 PM
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Yup. It’s always the broke scrotes who are screaming about golddiggers. Pre FDS my broke ass narc ex who was twice my age who literally had like tens of thousands of dollars in student loan debt AND the ambulance bills for saving his life after he OD’d on heroin was always bitching about women being golddiggers. In the meantime, he had NO problem taking thousands of dollars from me in the meantime because he was perpetually struggling. 🤢🤮 most expensive lesson I learned was NEVER GIVE A MAN MONE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:02 AM
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Most men, who let’s face it, are LVM, actually say kindness, but they really just mean someone who is submissive and easily manipulated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:40 PM
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This is a nightmare. Imagine going to bed at night and sleeping next to a monster. That’s what he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:26 PM
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My ex who I thought I was good friends with has bipolar depression will slip into these bad holes and just isolate himself. I used to be understanding and then I just straight up got tired of asking how he was and then crickets. Sorry but that isn’t an excuse. My best friend is dating a man with the same disease and he texts her every damn day. I’m sick of the excuses. I’m too awesome of a person and have too much to offer to get half assed to no responses. Blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:21 PM
14

Exactly. Closure is bullshit anyways. Just move on with your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:18 PM
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Exactly. It’s so crazy and I relate to this because I’m the exact same age right now when my mother got married and was just pregnant with me. I have been childfree for as long as I have been conscious of knowing the ability to opt out of motherhood was a thing. Seeing the way that my mom and almost all parents I’ve ever come across clearly have such contradictory views on being a parent have always reinforced for me personally that motherhood will never be a thing. And it is! In the end it’s yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:50 AM
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He is FANTASTIC. I’ve watched several of his videos and I have never seen a man address so many topics of true intimacy with such wisdom. A true HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:45 AM
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That’s awful. At that same time, I love how she took the money and ran lol. That’s the price you pay for being a nosey nancy, mother in law!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:34 AM
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That’s awful... One time I went on a date with a similarly aged man (and he said that he hated his past wife.) I inquisitively asked why, and he said she was being so difficult, shortly after getting a brain tumor (cancerous) and then died. I feel sick knowing there are men as awful as that that would abandon their spouses. Their wedding vows in sickness and in health mean nothing to them. That story alone will always haunt me. I’d rather die alone than be abandoned and having spent my years wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:30 AM
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This is heartbreaking. This accomplished, successful woman gave years of her life to devote to him and their family, pooling her own money, and then even taking care of him until his last days and he still cut her out of the will. This is why age gap relationships always fail. At her career prime she was enjoying life and he probably felt so jealous of her success. While he remained some bitter shadow of his former short-lived glory and gave up on everything as his ass was aging and decrepit. LV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:10 AM
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Holy crap I want to give you a big hug sis!!!!! First of all, I’m so glad that you are out of that terrible situation! And this is CRAZILY similar to what I went through, I was 23 when I became involved with a narc who was twice my age and he was still married to his second ex wife!! Like it is so insane. I wanted to leave SO MANY TIMES. The brainwashing is real. Narcs are the most insanely manipulative people I have ever met. I’m just so glad you got out of there. Please reach out to me if you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:47 PM
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Every single one of these reasons is what I suffered immensely from a narc who was 2 decades older than me in my early 20s. Take it from me: there is NOTHING good that can come from an age gap relationship. Nothing. Great article. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:38 PM
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This. This is why I don’t tell men I cook and always have been. I can cook alright, but the patriarchy gonna start paying up somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:18 AM
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slams that m’fin’ upvote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:14 AM
83

Aww thanks for sharing this sweet story. :)! Also I’m glad to hear a fellow childfree woman here as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:12 AM
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Oh my god I had flashbacks to an abusive relationship... this man belong in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 06:45 PM
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Aww thank you! But I’m glad that it worked out great for you and that your kids are awesome lol!motherhood is insanely difficult from what I’ve observed and I know I would get insanely resentful just because the type of person I am unfortunately :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:13 PM
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There’s nothing like making pickmeishas feel so special from LVM when he compliments her by putting down other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:02 PM
33

Ooof that was the exact age and gap of my crazy fucking abusive narc ex but I got out. Hope your friend can do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:46 PM
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No. Women need women only spaces. Discrimination my ass. 99% I don’t go to parties because imma be harassed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:42 PM
15

Hey girl, I’m so sorry you experienced those terrible events. I absolutely agree 100% with what you’re saying. The world is a dangerous place thanks to male predators. I hope you are staying safe and healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:16 AM
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This is a wonderful article. If anyone wants to explore a great informative book concerning the origins of marriage and the reasons behind the institution and how it’s intentions have changed, I highly suggest Marriage: A History, by Stephanie Coontz for further reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:13 AM
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Manifesting this rn 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:08 AM
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Girl I feel the same. It’s one of the many reasons why I actually opted out of motherhood altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:38 PM
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I think this idea should be more accepted. I like my alone time so much, my space and owning my energy, and I want to own my own house. It seems weird for me to visualize a man living with me. It feels so alien lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:34 AM
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It’s not worth it 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:23 AM
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Me: You not gon get a second round lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:42 PM
4

Lmaoooo 😭😂 reminds me of a story back in the old days when I had OLD, there was this one man who in the first hello, sent 5 PARAGRAPHS about him in the process of divorcing his wife for some reason and how he has custody of his child, even when my bio CLEARLY stated I am childfree and am only interested in monogamy. I was so mad I reported him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:39 PM
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Exactly. The best way I can describe is that narcs don’t love you, they love how you make them feel. In the end, they don’t actually have true empathy or altruism; it’s all about them. I literally felt like I could not express ANY negative feelings about ANYTHING around him. And I’m a very positive and happy person. They are so emotionally shallow and so self centered. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:36 PM
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They all express how much they don’t care in different ways 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:21 PM
15

I’m wheezing 😭😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:52 PM
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God if this ain’t goals... I don’t know what is. Channeling this energy for my future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:06 PM
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I’m so sorry. Please let it be good news. Many hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:14 PM
23

Truth. Narc ex literally told me he hated it when I cried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:12 PM
50

OMG you’re so talented!!!!! 😭😂😳 this is gold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:21 AM
28

Rest In Peace, a true Queen, Toni Morrison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:19 AM
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There is nothing more powerful than women protecting fellow women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:14 AM
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There is such! The best known women-only community is a tribe called the Umoja Uaso in Kenya. They ban all men from living there. There are also surrounding other tribes that have adopted similar matriarchal systems; where the women are in charge of all managerial decisions and the men do the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:51 AM
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Imagine using your artistic God-given talent to objectify women. Shameful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:47 AM
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Her book keeps getting sold out! I’m so eager to order one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:29 AM
30

I see you’ve met my ex. 🤮 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:13 PM
8

This is amazing. Good for you for knowing your worth! Welcome to the community!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:04 PM
30

“But like, I’m 41 years old—“ EXCUSE ME hOW OLD 🤭 my god she don’t age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 10:58 PM
82

You can thank fragile toxic masculinity and the patriarchy for the reason why Vaselgel is not on the market today (and for the foreseeable future). They need the funding from large pharmaceutical companies, which are predominantly run by aging old white men, who more than likely believe that, if they even believe in birth control, that it’s the wOmAn’s rEsPoNsIbiLiTy to make sure she doesn’t get pregnant. Also, a lot of LVM have really weird twisted reason. I’ve heard of men who don’t want kids …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 10:52 PM
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Many hugs to you 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:31 PM
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I’m so sorry for you loss. Many hugs sis 💕 It’s almost about to be the passing of my old boy Fluffy. It will be 2 years in a little over a day. I still grieve for him. I always will. He’s up there with Zeus for sure 💕 Give your kitties extra hugs for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:02 AM
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I second this, being vehemently childfree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 11:56 PM
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“Boys will be boys” “Just be happy that...” “There’s no emotional attachment to them. Just eye candy” 🤮🤮🤮 ok in that case you wouldn’t mind if I just bumped uglies with any guy that’s hot right? There’s no emotional attachment... Pickmeishas really out there drinking the koolaid. For real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:37 AM
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Imagine if she had a disease like alopecia or had cancer and had to go through chemo and lose her hair. IMAGINE. Men already leave their wives if they’re sick much more often than when men are sick. I hope she leaves him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:34 AM
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Saving your comment. This is a goldmine for us ladies. Thank you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:11 AM
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I’ve been childfree forever and that will never change but I don’t think I’ll ever get married either... I just don’t think any man will rise to my standards. And that’s fine, I’m living life and planning my life as a single person anyways :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:14 PM
2

Every one of my exes has said this to me. Every. Single. One.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:25 AM
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Oh okay I thought you were just referring to a low effort proposal and I was like 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:59 AM
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Marriage should not be a casual circumstance... it’s one of the most impactful decisions you will make in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:17 AM
20

And pets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:14 AM
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Billie don’t give a FUCK she’s too busy flexin to worry about some broke ass basement dwellin neck beards’ opinions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:41 PM
13

Yes like this is something I feel could be posted on the aboringdystopia subreddit haha. But I’m biased and I look through the lens of the world from my childfree ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:54 PM
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You’re so talented! 🙌🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:37 AM
2

OMG I didn’t even know that’s what it stood for lol 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:35 AM
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lmao he can fuck right off. Did y’all see his embarrassing ass Instagram pic of him crying? What a desperate plea for attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:43 AM
9

I have a small hobby of collecting working vintage typewriters that are great for my creative writing. I only use it when my family is not inside the house, I know that clickity clack shit can get annoying if you’re not the one typing 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:42 AM
4

Not to change the discussion but it sounds like you know a lot about cars 😃 I’ve been trying to get into actually learning from the ground up a comprehensive guide on this, would you happen to have any suggestions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:38 AM
2

This is gorgeous. Also, if you love galaxy looking colors, I highly suggest looking at ILNP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:34 AM
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Please update us if you can... praying for your aunt. 💕 And how dare her pos husband complain of the price it could cost to save her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:30 AM
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WOW. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:37 AM
9

I want a high paying job that I’m passionate about and a long fulfilling life. An optional bonus is a partner who is attractive and whom I can have a connection. Some of these don’t have to be mutually exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:26 PM
2

As a woman, I want a man who has all the qualities I desire AND has money. Who says I can’t have everything I want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:02 PM
2

Of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:07 PM
2

This is amazing. I love to see stories of women realizing they deserve better and acting upon it. You’re doing great 😊💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:13 AM
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Trust your instincts! It’s a lame attempt to get you to stroke their fragile ego. It’s feigned humility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:09 AM
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I am so sorry that you had to go through that. It’s awful the way most male figures in our life fail us. Many hugs 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:05 AM
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There’s a reason why it’s called MENtal illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:02 AM
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Every man who has ever said this to me has failed me deeply, walked out, or has abused me immensely. It doesn’t mean anything if the actions don’t follow the words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:48 AM
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You forgot to change the ages to 19F and 43M 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:14 AM
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That is incredibly difficult I bet, but I’m glad you knew what you had to do. You deserve better. Many hugs 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:53 PM
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OOF this was me pre-FDS... 😭🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:06 PM
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If a baby can do it, a grown ass man can too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:04 PM
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I’m sorry 😔 I have regular nightmares about mine too. I think about him less as time goes on but it’s hard to forget the abuse. I know it’ll be gone completely one day but who knows when that day will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:56 PM
8

Holy crap I am so glad you are okay. My heart goes out to you. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:56 AM
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Haha she sounds like she is such a joyful and happy soul 💕💕💕!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:37 PM
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I’m so sorry you had to go through that. We give you tons of hugs girl. We’re a good shoulder to cry on. 💕 You don’t have to ever put yourself through that anymore. Welcome to FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:07 PM
33

My NVM narc ex qualified for 10-11 of these... insanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:04 PM
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Thank you for sharing this. Ladies, it’s OK to be single. In fact, this is the happiest, most productive I’ve ever been in any other time of my adult life. I can’t tell you how at peace I feel. How much time I have devoted to self care, relaxing, working, spending time with loved ones including my cats, my hobbies, my degree. I don’t envy people in relationships. I thought at first being single would be unbearable because I have a lot of love to give. But that’s why you can give your love to you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:02 PM
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This is such a wonderful and positive story to see today 😭💕 You are God’s gift and He only wants the best for you. My heart goes out to you and your family and your mother. She is smiling on you from heaven 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:58 PM
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I’m sorry you had to experience that horrendous tragedy. What an absolute nightmare. I knew that feeling too so well. I remember something similar, where he had thought about getting a gun to protect himself from his deranged crack addicted brother. But I knew that if he did, I thought that he would use it to threaten or kill me in one of his dangerous temper tantrums. Amongst countless other terrible things I can barely remember (I have really severe amnesia throughout that time because of the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:52 PM
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They’re lower than animals. I don’t know any creature that derives pleasure from seeing the one they supposedly proclaim to love in extreme anguish and suffering just for the sake of it. It’s all fabrication for their soulless and ever-hungry ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:51 AM
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I’m so sorry. The mental fuckery abusers can do is something unreal. I hope you have healed from that awful nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:47 AM
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Check, check, check, and check. They’re incapable of having healthy, normal relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:40 AM
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I agree women need to carefully guard their hearts, but let’s perhaps be careful on the language we use: it implies that she is responsible for receiving that abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:35 AM
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😊💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:33 AM
83

Exactly. Her screaming sent chills down my spine. I remember at my breaking point sounding exactly like her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:30 AM
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Thank you so much 😊 💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:30 AM
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FDS saved me from the most abusive relationship I ever endured, which may have cost me my life, so um, yeah, it fucking works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:52 AM
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My narc ex did this. This is CLASSIC. Abusing you until you can’t take it anymore and the only thing left to do in order to survive when you feel you can’t run away is to fight back. This was towards after years of abuse I began to fight back. I was sick of rolling over and exposing my belly. The thing is, you can never win with a narc even if you fight back. You win when you leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:48 AM
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Pickmeishas gonna pickmeisha. Please redirect her flight to FDS if you can. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:44 AM
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Normalize a roleplay scenario where a man cooks me meals while paying all my bills, while I lay in bed, and then leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:07 AM
15

Exactly!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:04 AM
4

Somebody time travel ten years ago and give him acutane and respect women juice please 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:03 AM
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Thank you, all is well now :) Girl SAME. I’m not giving details. Even when I’m rich and successful I’m still going to play broke. Always have a secret stash of fuck-you money on reserves. You never ever know when you need to walk away. I’ve learned lessons the hard way when it comes to money and dating. May God smite me if I ever allow a man to take another dollar from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:59 AM
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This is the most insane level of gaslighting I’ve ever seen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:55 AM
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That is awful I’m so sorry... I eventually got let go at my job shortly after my ex showed up at my work COMING DOWN ON METH. He literally looked like he crawled out of a dump and then proceeded to give me the bird as he left. It was embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:54 AM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:15 PM
4

I wish karma could pay my rent! For the pickmeisha who made this meme, it really feeds into her low self esteem that she needs validation from men online
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:14 PM
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This is pathetic karma farming. We all know that Reddit is overwhelming LVM male gamers. Hope sis gets picked, it’s so cute to be an indentured servant 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:12 PM
7

Girl same. I can’t even think about relationships without getting exhausted. I enjoy my life too much as it is without involving the huge risk of dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:09 PM
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Hello friend!!! I am somewhat new to the Baha’i community (I consider myself a Christian who has slowly started delving into the Baha’i principles and knowledge over the past several years). It’s so good to see someone involved in this! Not a lot of people know about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:04 PM
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This is true. An ex of mine who was in his mid 40s with a gut had a crooked smaller soft dick. Men in their 20s literally get hard within seconds and stay that way even with a condom on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:41 PM
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I literally had arguments with my NVM narc ex that I NEED to have my own room if we were to live together. Non negotiable. I need to have my own space. I knew we were going to have a lot of fights and I needed to sleep by myself. What a fucking miserable time. I’m glad I’m out of it. That being said, I love sleeping by myself with NO interruptions and I don’t have to wake up to a face full of regret dry humping me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:34 PM
12

Same here. I really like cars but I don’t know much on where to actually start learning practically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:26 PM
8

Exactly. They target people also with poor boundaries and very giving natures. They’re on the search for their supply which can never be satisfied Before I met him, I was an extremely empathetic and genuinely giving person. Narcs also target people like that and mirror their actions. It’s really insidious actually. Narcs fool empaths by acting exactly like empaths. And it’s actually lovebombing not actual genuine love. And then they begin the process of triangulation, devaluation, then discardin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:24 PM
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Thank you for posting this. Absolutely it’s worth looking in to. I hope that you are able to get your justice and I’m sorry you had to experience that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:20 PM
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I WISH I could have charged my NVM narc ex for every penny he had for all the time that he wasted of mine, the things of mine he threw away, all the tears he made me shed, sleepless nights, and trauma he inflicted on me. Oh well. God knows what he did. Mariah, you go girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:36 AM
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The trademark characteristic of a narcissist is actually deep insecurity. They project a false persona of extreme confidence but in reality they have extremely fragile egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:32 AM
7

You beat me to it. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:16 PM
15

They’re beautiful! I can’t get them because I have cats so I’ll just admire them from afar :)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:12 PM
60

Find a fucking roommate then, scrote 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:11 PM
16

That’s amazing!!! Now make a promise to your cats that he will STAY an ex!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:15 PM
30

Yes I have experience with this and one of my best friend’s recently dumped her bf of a year or so because he only liked her when she wasn’t successful, when she was struggling. Now that she’s learned how to code and thriving and applying for jobs he felt incredible intimidated. I’m so proud of her. My narc ex also was INCREDIBLY demanding. He hated that I hung out with ONE best friend and every time I was with her I was always crying because he would start fights with me knowing that my time wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:09 PM
9

His eyebrows? I thought the person holding the bread was the girl who made it?!!?? I quit lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:52 PM
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Thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:20 PM
30

Girl... read the handbook. This man actually isn’t choosing you. You’re just a convenient girl to be around. Full stop he is hindering your growth. 9 years is WAY too long, you were already way past in forever girlfriend territory. You have made so much progress. Why do you want to go back to step 1? Please block and delete! You deserve better. Stay sober.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:08 PM
2

Oh!!! That’s awesome!!!! 🙌🏻 I’ll be lucky as you one day!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:35 PM
3

I’m glad they were able to help out! I actually recently just lost my health insurance and although I could afford Medicaid as a student I’m really really spreading myself thin. My goal is to get a bilateral salpingectomy but I think they only do regular tubals and I want to be 100% sure ectopic pregnancies is nonexistent and ovarian cancer is reduced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:33 PM
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This is especially triggering (not your fault at all), I literally dated a narc who was twice my age who would constantly want to roleplay scenarios like this. Thinking about it more and more he literally was a Christian missionary who would volunteer and help children. I don’t know. It makes me sick thinking about what goes on his head. I was really sucked into the abuse and finally escaped but it still haunts me how disgusting the things would come out of his mouth. I slowly began getting less…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:08 PM
22

We all know how Craster ends, which is how all predators as such should go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:03 PM
63

This man sees a problem occasionally having to carry his chair back to his room instead of the problem of his wife actually carrying their own child for 9 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:00 AM
2

Somebody needs to capitalize on this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:26 PM
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Girl right. Men have really no excuses. The average cost for a vasectomy out of pocket is $700 dollars in the US. For women, getting their tubes yeeted is a more invasive procedure with around at least $10,000 out of pocket. I would be happy if part of my taxes goes to offering free sterilizations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:25 PM
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Oh LORD no. He FULLY grasps the concept of the seriousness of marriage, which is precisely why he wants to make sure that in case he can dip, he doesn’t have to worry about all the legal consequences of that. At the same time, he wants all the BENEFITS of marriage. It has nothing to do with government, that’s just a cop out. And notice his language too. “If that’s what you want, then sure.” He speaks as though he is passive about the whole situation. As he is doing her a favor. Then when shit hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:38 PM
28

Men will MARRY their pillows... their attention is low value ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:13 PM
14

“Something casual” “wants kids someday” Besides the obvious scrotacity, hmm... 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:11 PM
68

Jesus I wish men like these just had a vasectomy. Stop procreating children if you’re just gonna send pennies for a paycheck and only pop in once a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:39 PM
15

This really spoke to me. I am Christian as well, I struggle with this concept of forgiveness. I can’t believe looking back the insanity that my brain was enduring during being abused by a narcissist. Now that I’m free, out of the fog, I can’t picture forgiving that. I think there’s something insidious about mental abuse. It’s extremely covert and you don’t realize how deep you are in the hole until it may almost be too late. And you come out of it almost not knowing who you are, not trusting any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:52 AM
36

You’re not the only one sis... As someone who has a long time ago been assaulted, and who has revealed this to eventual later relationships, almost each and everyone of these men responded in a way that was centered around their feelings towards my assault. On surface level, they would be sympathetic, but they did not use language that was actually altruistically “I am sorry for the pain you had to go through”. It was always some sort of description of how they felt that I went through that, how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:33 AM
6

Typical age gap crap. Poor woman. She and her child are going to get abused by this trash. I hope she can get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:31 PM
21

Even if you’re childfree such as myself, qualities of a good father should always be present in a man that you’re with. I.e being compassionate, good values and morals, providing, leading, accountability, responsibility, trustworthiness, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:29 PM
50

There’s nothing more that I love than putting a scrote in his goddam place!!! I have been doing it all the time now and it’s hilarious and super empowering! The other day some guy flirted with me and said that he wanted me to call him “daddy” 🤮 he thought I was gonna play along and little did he know I would call him out on his shit. I said “oh you want me to call you daddy? Ok then. Here is my tuition, my gas, car payment, insurance, here is my allowance, here is my my phone bill, you can pay f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:48 PM
23

16 years? Can you imagine all that time WASTED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:42 PM
1

As a child free woman, this really reflects badly on the childfree community. Even men (or women!) who claim they just need someone to change their opinion really invalidate the position of women who actually don’t want kids no matter any circumstances are not taken seriously. Anyways good for you for setting your foot down about your standards! He seems like the type who would if you guys were to actually have a relationship would cry about “being trapped” by a baby even though you legit stated…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:40 PM
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Absolutely. While it may be gratifying in the beginning and funny, we really need to encourage others and work on ourselves to responding to scrotes. Say what you want to say in one brief sentence if you really have to, then block. None of this back and forth business. It’s not our responsibility to teach a man how to treat a women. That’s something that begins in the home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:36 PM
398

Do men just not truly care about their wives? Are they lowkey sociopathic? This is sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:30 PM
55

The dollar bill... I’m dead 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:39 AM
72

“Let’s make this harder for you.” blocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:04 PM
3

Here is my take on it: I get to make my money, and my own money is MINE. He gets to make his money, and his money is OURS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:03 PM
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Men will happily make their partner their live in bangmaid who births their actual permanent living breathing children, as well as making her pay half of the mortgage, but they’ll cower at the sign of commitment and a ring. Fucking ridiculous. Thank you for posting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:01 PM
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OP I couldn’t have said it better myself. Good for you for speaking against it. I’ve been banned from that subreddit (they reversed it but I haven’t gone back in there since). They only want their liberal feminism that caters to men to flourish, and they vehemently oppose any other feminist thought. That sub is run by men and pickmeishas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:56 PM
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That’s why I can never get into serious gaming: as well as it being a distraction, I feel like it gives the illusion of achievement. Gaming provides a safe environment for addicted scrotes that have trouble taking risks and responsibilities in the real world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:52 PM
24

Because nothing states “staying safe” like going to a stranger’s house for a date. Men are predators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:47 AM
30

I literally practiced this today. Was talking with a man and then he said something extremely disrespectful. I stated that it was disrespectful and then I was going to block him, to which I did. He made a fake number and then tried to call me and I blocked that one too. Scrotes are crazy. I sleep so much better at night knowing this fact that almost all men I come across are LVM and not worth sacrificing any of my peace for. Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:38 AM
3

I have no excuses not to succeed now. I’m so happy for her and her family!!! 💕💕💕 the dad though can choke!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:36 AM
24

my childfree ass is triggered lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:48 PM
9

This behavior sounds very similar to my abusive narc ex who was 19 my senior. You did what you could, inform a fellow woman. Not that it you should have to, but it is kind of you. I was saying the same things to people who warned me, so don’t be surprised she’s probably brainwashed by his abuse. I wish I was informed. Unfortunately some will learn the hard way, as I did myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:13 AM
14

I think I’ll just join a convent instead, thanks 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:11 AM
31

This is the kind of guy who is on old who says he’s looking for “something casual” but “wants kids one day”. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:28 AM
7

Exactly. Never give a man money. Learn from me back in my pre-FDS days where I lent my crappy ex 700 and didn’t see it for almost three years and he tried to extort me into going on dates with him for paying it back. I fought him tooth and nail and almost served him at court. Then my other ex simply threw out all of my belongings costing almost 400 dollars as well as destroying my door and only paid half of it. Those were costly and expensive mistakes but good lessons I learned. Keep in mind tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:21 PM
12

If he’s reaching friends of friends, 99% chance you won’t see that money ever again. Some men really have no shame anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:09 PM
8

Yes but it’s extremely rare and only probably a matter of time before they may expect it. I had one who wanted to take things very slow and offered to pay my tuition on the second date. He had just gotten out of a divorce and didn’t want to get too serious with anyone for at least a year but wanted someone to talk to and take to work events.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:02 PM
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As someone who escaped the most abusive relationship I’ve ever experienced from a narc twice my age, yes, a thousand, million times yes. No respectable man goes for a woman that young. I was naive enough to belief that it could work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:45 AM
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You are doing great girl. Remember, if you’re feeling like you want to go back to him, force yourself to write down all the terrible crap he did to you. And affirm to yourself you do not deserve to be abused in any way, shape, or form. Please also read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. Take time to grieve for the end of the relationship, and be sure to reach out to trustworthy and supportive and healthy friends and family as well. Hold yourself accountable to not return back to the abuse, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:42 AM
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Girl yes. My anxiety has been almost nonexistent after I got out of an abusive relationship. I work a lot and am a full time student, working on my thesis, and I’ve been at more peace than I’ve ever been. I’ve had a few guys asks me on dates but I block at the smallest yellow flag because I don’t even want to deal with the whole ordeal of dating. It sounds like a huge hit to my mental health. I’m at peace and happy by myself, and unless someone who is HVM can add to that, why would I risk the st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:21 PM
15

Men are the real gold diggers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:30 PM
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That’s always what I thought too. I actually briefly a long time ago became a sugar baby (lite version, only went on dinner dates and listened to them complain about their problems and ex wives) and got paid for it and expensive shopping sprees. I was in a period of time where I felt extremely emotionally taken advantage of by loser bfs and felt that if I’m going to sit and listen to a man’s issues and be emotionally drained, I refuse to do it for free: 5 star meals and expensive shopping sprees…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:29 PM
1

I’m sorry 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:25 PM
11

God save the next woman my ex dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:57 PM
3

Oh my god my sick narc ex had this. Literally his dick was crooked. That’s what he gets for being a giant abusive man slut 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:55 PM
2

I absolutely agree. Dragging it on is unnecessary and even more painful the longer you wait to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:41 PM
1

I can definitely understand that. At the same time, I understand that the husband would not be comfortable with that. The topic of children can make or break relationships. That’s why I think it’s so important that people know when it comes that how many children they want, how flexible they are, when they want them, what if they can’t conceive, what other options are there, what if they have disabilities, etc. before they even get married, even better before they have a committed relationship. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:06 PM
15

I feel conflicted on this. As a childfree woman, I suppose I have difficulty relating to women who desperately want children. Personally, that’s why it’s good to never stay friends with ex husbands... time for her to move on. This man doesn’t need to be anywhere near her and involve her in painful memories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:50 AM
5

Girl I said the same thing to my narc ex when he said that to me. It’s insane how eerily similar narcs sound. They all use the same shitty catchphrases
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:33 AM
6

I actually want plastic surgery to REDUCE male attention. I have a very soft approachable and sweet roundish face and I want chin filler or if I feel safe, an implant. It looks more respectable, and seems to be more fitting of how I really act and feel in real life. I need a more mature, meaner look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:14 AM
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I’m deceased ☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:52 AM
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I’m so sorry you’re going through that. Girl, SAME. There’s not a day where I don’t think about him either. Everyday I think about him a little less though. The kind of manipulation and trauma bonding a narc will put you through is so difficult to move past from. Literally it took me probably near 50 or something times of breaking up and getting back together. That’s how deep I was in the hole. I remember one time when we broke up I was so mad at myself, desperate to stay away from him to the po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:50 AM
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I had second hand embarrassment and anger from this video. The actual audacity. This is the kind of cheap man who will always be counting his pennies, alone, till the day he dies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:06 AM
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Holy moley girl same. It was the most insanely abusive nightmarish relationship I’ve ever been in. I kinda don’t know how I finally made it out sometimes. The amount of work I’m still doing after all this time to be in a healthier mindset and repair the trauma that has been done to me has been astronomically difficult. I swear though, all narcs say and act the same shit, like they all operate on the same corrupted fuckboy.exe program.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:52 AM
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Wow my narc ex was like this too. He used to say really mean things like “are you on the rag” ALL THE TIME when I would bring up something he did that made me upset or hurt my feelings. And of course when he said that, it made me furious. And the thing is, I almost never get mood swings, and my pms doesn’t usually affect me. I usually just get more tired during it. But he made it x1000 times worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:17 AM
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omg where did you find this pic of my ex’s underwear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:56 PM
73

Women out here carrying their actual NVM scrote of a husband’s baby for 9 months, risking health and possibly their life, go through the pain of birth, and he has the audacity to cheat on her with the woman facilitating the birth of his child. WHY ARE HIS GENES BEING PASSED ON!? Poor mother and child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:54 PM
13

The faulty thinking with liberal feminism and the pushing the 50/50 rule is that it actually does NOTHING to help bridge the equality gap. And I’m not even talking financial equality. I’m talking about the fact that most women are victims at the hands of men. They are rape victims, sexual violence victims, domestic abuse victims, other abuse victims, and that when women are murdered, they tend to be intimate partners and of course almost always men. The only statistic where men are the victims i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:37 PM
6

My abusive narc ex said this to me so many times. “You’ll never find anyone like me.” Yeah, gee, I sure hope so! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:32 PM
3

Yes, not to mention Diego cheated on her with her sister, of all people. They divorced then remarried. She is an incredible talented woman, just had some flaws unfortunately didn’t help being with a man as LV as Diego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:27 PM
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I’ve been in an abusive relationship with a man who was twice my age and wanted the whole daddy/daughter dynamic. Now that I’ve escaped it, I look back on those memories with disgust. I briefly dated a guy who mentioned that he liked that and I immediately left and blocked him. It’s insanely pervasive and perverse. If you don’t pay my bills, give me an allowance, feed me, clothe me, and put a roof over my head, and treat me with respect, I’M NOT CALLING YOU DADDY. Fucking delusional dickheads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:27 PM
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If your STBX husband reads this, my message to him is: fuck you, you piece of abusive piece of shit. OP, I hope you and your daughter make it out safely. Please, consider having police to escort you and have family there too. Please update us. Sending lots of love. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:21 AM
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I like to make them uncomfortable before anything. “Oh you want me to split the bill? I thought you were interested in me.” Watch then trip over their bumbling excuses. Of course, afterwards, pay your half if need be and then block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:36 AM
18

Girl same. Or if he can pay for my bilateral salpingectomy that would be pretty good too. A girl can dream...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:00 AM
3

IM CRYING god bless this man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:59 PM
25

☠️☠️☠️ yall ladies on here are legit comedians 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:54 PM
6

I don’t even talk to men on the phone that are romantic interests past 9pm, LET ALONE MEET A STRANGER NEAR A LAKE AT 10. Tf I listen to too many murder podcasts and forensic files to see where this is going 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:51 PM
1

Yikes. My ex did this and showed up at my place of work coming off meth. I should’ve left his ass then and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:50 PM
13

Yeah I’ve seen her videos floating around over here. It’s so gross how desperate she is for male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:20 AM
15

Yes very much. It tears me apart too much. Then again, almost every relationship I’ve ever been in with the exception of one has been a nightmarish rollercoaster or just plain stupid and a waste of time. It doesn’t seem special anymore. Maybe I’m just burned out. Same here 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:11 AM
8

Google translate isn’t helpful 😭 And LOLOL maybe he needs a brain scan 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:04 AM
43

Is it just me or did anyone else have trouble comprehending what this overgrown toddler is saying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:56 AM
39

I’m slowly becoming more convinced that love just seems like a neurochemical con job. And I say that, knowing that all my life, and probably still am, a diehard romantic. I almost approach any potential romantic partner with cold logical analysis at face value. It doesn’t help that the first thing I think about when I meet a man who is interested in me is, “how long until he disappoints me?” As time passes I am more convinced that it doesn’t exist. I see it all the time around me. (There are ver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:54 AM
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So homeboy want a girl in a relationship with him but him not with her. Ok good luck with that 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:36 PM
21

Sometimes I just feel like I should turn off my internet if this is how men are going to come at women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:17 PM
2

That’s an excuse older men say to trick younger women into putting up with their immature behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:53 PM
1

Please read the Handbook sis! Read it, and read it again. Also, do not communicate with men who you are romantically interested in until 7 am in the morning! Have a schedule, don’t let a man wreck your sleep. Second of all, that is TOO huge of an age gap. I don’t care what anyone says... a man who is interested in women much younger than him is a recipe for manipulation and abuse from his part. Take it from me, I was abused from a man who was 2 decades older than me. There is a reason age gap re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:52 PM
3

Girl I would totally just lie and just say you got a hella good offer on the furniture but just have your friends or a storage place hold it for you until you have a new place!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:41 PM
14

“First study, then approve, then love.” Wise words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:18 PM
15

Imagine if the woman did this. Imagine the roles reversed. Oh, the misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:16 PM
66

Ok like hiding someone’s shoes does not equal abuse? Wtf? I CRINGE when I hear anything that come out of this women’s mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:12 PM
22

YEEHAW! Im happy for each and every one of us! 🐣💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:07 PM
9

Where do they get these ideas? Nature setting? Tf, am I out here picking up sticks and berries?? I hate how I love his clothing line though. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:06 PM
28

Oh my goodness that’s amazing. Congrats girl, you for the rest of your life ahead of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:20 PM
29

mUh lEgAcY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:37 PM
9

Thank you for this. I’m sorry to hear about your ex, but I am so glad you are leaving. I somewhat recently left my narc ex and let me tell you I have never suffered such an insane amount of brainwashing... It seems almost impossible to escape from. And similarly, he was also a Christian but did NOT act like one; he did all the narc tactics and abused me. The words that came out of his mouth were awful. I eventually started getting sick of it, then fighting back eventually as a last resort, but t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:31 PM
4

As a Virgo woman, this is incorrect. I want a HVM man who is intellectual and easy on the eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:25 PM
20

This is a tactic that actually can be part in “future faking”. Men taking women on “grocery dates” to play house when they, in reality, don’t ever fully intend to make their date more than a forever girlfriend, if even that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:17 AM
51

My response to that could be, “High maintenance? Maybe you’re just low effort.” 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:14 AM
48

A man who hates himself should stay very far away from women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:11 AM
40

😭😂😂 sis spittin lyrics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:43 PM
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He got awfully high demands for looking like an oompa loompa 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:32 PM
77

I don’t understand the logic of men who don’t want children but lay all the responsibility of reproductive health on the woman. Wear a condom, or even better, just get snipped. Otherwise, men: stfu!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:30 PM
29

I can’t WAIT to read her book. I believe it will be soon printed in English.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:24 PM
20

Exactly. My father who is HVM has almost never demonstrated anger, except in the very very rare situations that allowed it. A man who keeps his emotions in check and in control is a man who knows how to deescalate situations. It makes me sick to see men yelling at women. If they can yell at women, they know how terrifying they sound. They know how hard their voice carries. A man who yells will eventually be a man who hits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:22 PM
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😭 acknowledging your mistakes is the first step on the road to recovery from being a pickemeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:58 PM
12

OH MY GOD my ex had pillows like this wtf BRB BARFING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:51 PM
30

☠️☠️☠️ I’m wheezing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:15 PM
44

That part infuriated me. Like ok I already know that myself like how does that benefit me?!???! This is why being an attention seeking pick-me is harmful. They think that is such a an honor to get LVM attention 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:14 PM
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Wow that second comment especially... I have a hard time acknowledging some men are actually humans and not sociopathic monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:34 PM
5

That’s awesome! I love to hear a positive story today :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:45 AM
3

Wow this would be considered “dressed up” for my ex 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:43 AM
14

Lol! Make sure this behavior is consistent and not lovebombing :) otherwise, I’m happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:42 AM
12

😳 sis you setting the standard! Good for you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:40 AM
51

That last sentence hit me hard. My narc ex was always telling me relationships were “forged in fire”. I am a naturally sensitive and soft person. I’d like to think my heart is extremely strong and can endure difficulties. But abuse is not one of them, and narc manipulation almost makes you think that relationships where you’re torturing yourself is normal. It’s sickening. Being with a narc is a whole other level of struggle. It’s like drowning in a lake full of hellfire, occasionally being allow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:01 AM
76

Why was he up til 5? Unless he has some sort of emergency or medical condition, he has really no excuses. Low effort! Glad you blocked sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:09 AM
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Even if you’re childfree like myself, I will never go 50/50 on finances. When women are out there harassing men, sexually assaulting, committing crimes such as domestic abuse, and murdering at the same rates against men versus men against women, then I will go 50/50. Going 50/50 doesn’t suddenly make me equal to a man. I don’t want equality, I want equity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:07 AM
20

It’s called Dead to Me! It’s on Netflix. It’s so good 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:54 PM
25

SAME. I can’t wait for the new season to come out 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:33 PM
3

Omg no you’re good!!!! I just feel super bad about what you’re going through. Many hugs 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:03 PM
16

This is absolutely narcissistic behavior. In fact this is incredibly reminding me of my narc ex it’s almost triggering 😞! You’re NOT crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:44 AM
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This is CLASSIC narc behavior, absolutely. My narc ex would do this CONSTANTLY. Break up with me, block me, unblock me, keep my groveling, lovebomb, then devalue, discard, hoover, rinse, repeat. My psyche was destroyed by the mental abuse, which eventually escalated into other abuses. This man does not love you OP... I hope you get out soon. Because the longer you stay, the harder it gets to leave and the longer the damage lasts and work to get better will be even more tremendous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:34 AM
19

May she Rest In Peace and her legacy live on FOREVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:27 AM
47

Haha she molded me into the woman I am now today! Thriving, ambitious, introverted cat lady. All that’s missing is the multi million dollar music deal and the castle. 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:36 PM
111

Enya is GOALS. As a little girl I would literally stay in a bathtub until I shriveled like a prune listening to her CDs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:49 PM
7

I almost choked 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:53 PM
29

And they have the audacity to do that when most of them drive a shitty fucked up early 2000s toyota with McDonald’s fries in all the crevices in the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:34 PM
62

Probably not 🥵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:32 PM
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LVM can’t even imagine staying single without having some sort of backup plan. Of course he waits weeks to tell you the truth. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:14 PM
1

Haha I think I will! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:28 AM
8

I instantly relaxed as soon as I saw this haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:58 PM
41

I LOVE spoiling my best girl friends. Literally my dream is to get a cute house and be neighbors with my best friend and our pets can play together. We would sip sweet tea and lemonade in the evenings and gossip. And we would do art projects and just grow old together. Men, who?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:52 PM
38

she’s hilarious and such a gem and she speaks the truth!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:49 PM
50

There you have it ladies— most men are intimidated by women who have more educated and have more resources than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:03 PM
1

Thank you so much for sharing this positive experience! I wish the best for you both!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:10 PM
15

The anal pic oh my god I’m triggered lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:37 AM
30

Girl SAME SAME SAME. I’m addicted to my single life already. Every time some man comes up and flirts with me through my workplace or asks me on a date I tell myself “I wonder how quickly he’s going to disappoint me.” Every guy that has been interested has literally had his mask fall off in 1-3 days. It’s exhausting and boring. I don’t have any inclination anytime soon to date. In fact, when this pandemic is over, I have a feeling I’m going to dread it. I don’t have it in myself to go through the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:36 AM
7

the sad ass bed in the corner killed me oh my god 😭😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:12 PM
19

Working on this now and yes it’s uncomfortable to deal with the guilt but I know in time it will be easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:39 PM
22

“Oh really? Well I prefer men who are silent.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:06 AM
17

Omg 5/6 my ex!! Tf I’m so glad I can breathe now but now you made me laugh 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:34 AM
3

I really love this :( what a positive and kind gesture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:32 AM
18

Stop blaming yourself. That’s the first step. This man has almost twice the life and experiences you have yet to experience (or hopefully never experience). This man is beyond broken, and very disturbed, and extremely adept at manipulating. I was in an exact age gap relationship as you have described here. He was also 19 years older. I beat myself up real hard about it. Why didn’t I leave sooner? Why didn’t I put up my boundaries? Why did I hope he was going to change? When I realized he was get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:32 AM
9

This is TRUE. I am a childfree woman who has been trying to get a bilateral salpingectomy. I have a doctor who is amazing and on board to do it, but my health insurance is garbage and won’t cover a cent. And I’m losing it soon. Plus I have no way of affording it out of pocket. so currently it’s out of the question. But it’s insane how the government can be so evilly capable of taking away someone’s reproductive organs without their consent, (and where are they getting the money to do this?!) but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:45 PM
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That comment towards how you should get therapy for your “views” infuriated me. I’m sorry, the statistics show that by and large, men are the perpetrators of abuse, crime, battery, assault, raping, and murdering, not to mention, almost every woman on this earth has been abused/taken advantage of and/or knows someone who has been by the hands of a man. IT’S BY AND LARGE NOT WOMEN DOING THESE THINGS TO MEN. To say that you need therapy for your views is just another form of victim blaming. It piss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:37 PM
36

My abusive narc ex would constantly cuss at his mom. Constantly. His poor mom was a little ditsy and she is pretty unaware of setting appropriate boundaries that well, but he never set his foot down in a diplomatic and respectful way. The yelling he did was insane. I should’ve walked away the second I heard him yell that way at his mother. It was eventually the way he was going to treat me. The irony is that he had poor boundaries with his mother, and yet he overstepped all of mine. Ladies, be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:29 PM
7

The mental fucking gymnastics that some women make to excuse and normalize their shitty male partner’s behavior never ceases to astound me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:29 PM
6

Red flag. My narc ex who was married twice always claimed he never met anyone like me. He was in his mid 40s. The most abusive man I’ve ever met in my life. Maybe I’m biased but take it as you will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:11 PM
3

For sure. They are pretty cars though I won’t lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:00 PM
118

I feel like Silicon Valley wannabes and Elon Musk redpilling worshippers buy Teslas... no offense to any ladies who have one here. But every man I’ve met who had a Tesla was cheap and rude as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:34 PM
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It doesn’t matter how rich a man is. If he isn’t generous, he’s BROKE. Move along sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:36 PM
15

My NVM narc ex couldn’t even wait until he got officially divorced when I started dating him (met him on OLD). I prefer to just steer clear. I think men who you meet in real life have a better chance of being HVM because they’re not wasting time swiping, they’re working on themselves, etc. that being said, depravity is everywhere: if a man wants to cheat, he’ll find a way to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:02 PM
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Girl, same. When I first got out of an abusive relationship half a year ago, I could only swipe for a few hours and then I just physically couldn’t stomach sifting through all the garbage on there. It’s too much. The chances of finding a HVM in OLD are slim. It’s saturated with LVM because it’s a low effort way to meet women instead of, you know, pre-COVID days, actually doing the work of approaching women. After a few tries of downloading and deleting, I finally just cut it out for good. It tak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:00 PM
26

Besides the obvious CLOWNERY that is going on here, wtf how can you not have enough money to get married but enough to buy a house and support children?!??!!? Are we just doing everything backwards now? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:00 PM
60

Abort it and the fiancé. This is nightmare fuel for my childfree ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:21 PM
56

I WISH I KNEW THIS. My last relationship with a narcissist man who was abusive and who was twice my age would never shut the fuck up about anal. I physically can’t do it. I’m sorry but I think 99% women who do anal and say they like it are pickmeishas LYING to gratify men. I kept telling him maybe later, it’s too painful, no I don’t feel comfortable, no, no, NO, and yet he would still try to bring it up. It sickens me to think about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:08 AM
21

☠️☠️☠️ I choked hahahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:58 AM
60

AMEN. Childfree for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:58 AM
7

The worst relationship of my life was with a narcissist. Ladies, who are especially empaths like myself, beware. These insidious monsters will never change. I most certainly would have died if I stayed longer with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:40 AM
11

Ladies we all know in real life the best option is to block and delete. But this is joke, and it made me laugh, its tagged humor for a reason. Peace and love 😩!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:27 AM
31

Personally my timeline is a little longer. I take more time to date before getting into an actual exclusive relationship. So usually about 1-3 months of dating, then maybe 2-3 years engagement, though talking about engagement and things at the 6-12 month of exclusivity. I want to wait at least 4 years to get married because I want to focus on my career and financially independent in case things don’t work out. I have a business I want to build and I want to sort it out before involving any legal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:47 PM
12

How is asking men to put more effort into dating DEHUMANIZING. Men really want to act like the victims in everything...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:28 PM
3

Girllllll there’s such a large number of childfree ladies like you and myself on here. It’s amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:43 PM
5

“Sex for a male is like air” Then suffocate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:40 PM
8

What’s terrifying about this concept is that these men don’t actually want love. They claim they do, but they don’t. They want slaves. They think that’s what love is. Servitude, that can be coded and run through a piece of hardware with a warm hole, without them having to ever give back. The degeneracy of men will be every more apparent. I say, let them have their female robots and leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:14 PM
25

Does he have a phone in jail or something? Because that scrote should be locked up...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:07 PM
33

The more days that pass the more truly disgusted I feel knowing that I was with a man two decades older than me in my early twenties. They don’t change. They keep going after younger and younger girls to manipulate, control, and abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:08 AM
27

I love Ashnikko 😭💕 all her bops bleed FDS energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:01 AM
7

Exactly. Oh trust me girl, I’m the same too. I’m an extremely empathetic person, but I need to be very vigilant and careful who I share my energy and empathy with because even if they don’t mean to, they will suck the life out of you. Breaking up friendships is hard... I would argue for me, the very few I had to break off it was worse than a breakup. There’s something about the loss of female friendships that just really hurts. Even if they are good people, are they people that help you grow and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:45 AM
14

That is beautiful. I’m so happy for your blessings ✨💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:39 AM
14

You’ve already done what you could. You offered them help and resources and they won’t follow. In the end, they are adults, not your responsibility to solve their problems, and unfortunately, it looks like they may have to learn these lessons the hard way. I would begin on the pathway to becoming more detached and eventually just don’t respond. It sounds harsh but... a good friendship goes both ways. They have to grow together with you. Friends can vent but you can’t let that be the only form of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:36 AM
9

Thank you! I’m eternally grateful for it. I tell my parents everyday how much I appreciate them. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:32 AM
13

That is wonderful. A world where all daughters should have high value fathers and all sons too in order to learn from example, a wonderful world that would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:31 AM
15

Thank you! I am really blessed and absolutely grateful beyond measure for both of my parents. I truly agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:57 PM
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My dad is amazing. He pays for EVERYTHING. He pays for my family, the house, the new car for my mom, our education (up to a certain point), he gave me allowances, he paid my rent for several years when I needed my own studio space for school, he pays for us to eat out if we want once every day. I haven’t ever heard him complain. EVER. He was raised to provide and work hard and he is the HVM I have ever come across. He and my mom raised me with good values. If my dad saw me treated any less from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:22 PM
9

The only time this technically “rewarded me” when I asked a man out was that the man was clearly very interested. Turns out, (I did not know) librarians at universities can’t date students as it is against the rules, it’s the same concept of faculty/teachers dating their students. He had the honor of respecting that rule and nothing changed, he was just as cordial and respectful as before. FDS is against asking out men. I HIGHLY agree. I wouldn’t do it again. It just doesn’t set the precedent fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:13 PM
40

So what she’s asking is... “Is my boyfriend raping me ok?” stares blankly into the camera like in The Office
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:07 PM
2

Yes!!!!! I have to admit. It’s a struggle if I’m in a loving relationship to not want to be a giver, but I have FDS to drill into my head that it is NOT in my best interest, contrary to the way we as women were raised, to be a big giver and pleaser. And I don’t mean that just sexually, I mean that emotionally and other ways as well. My desire to be a good giver will only go towards my pets and family and deserving friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:04 PM
36

I was really surprised when I first joined this lovely community to see so many childfree women here, and I’m so happy for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:01 PM
72

A lot of us younger folks I’m sure really needed to hear this today! Thank you 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:35 PM
27

Amen! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:32 PM
3

Wow he didn’t even try to suck in his gut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:21 PM
5

Girl don’t try to humble yourself before a man, ESPECIALLY when you detect scrotacity in alarming amounts You a supermodel inside out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:17 PM
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Part of this is why I will always remain childfree... no man on earth will ever be worth it for all this suffering that comes with bearing children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:16 PM
32

When you start using sex as something of a duty and not an experience you BOTH can be shared intimately, then don’t be surprised when you start to resent having sex. I learned this the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:14 PM
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I LOVE THIS. I’ve been trying to buy the book in French but it keeps selling out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:11 PM
23

My narcissist ex to a TEE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:04 PM
3

This is something I am actively trying to work on and I’m really getting the hang of it. I match people’s attitudes. If they’re kind to me, I’m kind. If they’re mean, I’m mean back. Even worse. I don’t tolerate disrespect. It’s amazing how freeing it is when you’re not afraid to take up space and to not hold yourself responsible over other people’s lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:43 AM
3

For sure. I’m not a Barbra the Builder. So I’m remaining for friends. I won’t be averse to dating other people post grad and post Covid, I don’t wait around for people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:40 PM
2

Thank you for your honest response. I see what you’re saying, it really depends on the effort and willingness and coping strategies that are good traits to have, perhaps even more reason to have more discipline than people who don’t have mental illnesses. I’ve dated men with cluster b personality disorders such as narcissism. It’s not something that can be worked on. Those people, I learned the hard way, pre-FDS, CANNOT be helped. But other mental illnesses can be for sure. At the same time, I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:33 PM
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You have every right not to involve yourself with that. 10 years is ASTOUNDING. Firstly, I am so happy that you are finding peace. I love my peace being single away from my narcissist ex. It’s unreal, having all this energy to give to myself! I wasn’t married to someone who had schizophrenia, but I did have very close contact with said narc ex’s sister who is a schizophrenic. And to see her suffering and making the people around her suffer was heartbreaking. Her mother knows no peace. Managing s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:23 PM
3

Absolutely. You have a preference and a standard for how you choose a partner. I think this why when it comes to romantic or even any type of friendship you have to set your boundaries and standards for what you can and cannot allow and handle. Just because someone has a certain mental illness doesn’t mean they can use it as an excuse. At the same time, I have experienced and been close contact pre-Covid with my narc ex’s sister who has schizophrenia. It was an eye opening experience and she had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:17 PM
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You raise an extremely good point there. I am sorry you had to go through that. On a similar note, there’s studies showing that in a relationship, men are often much more likely to leave the woman if she is sick, than if the man is sick. Women have been conditioned since childhood to bear the emotional load, as well as being a caretaker. It boils my blood. I guess in “sickness and in health” only matters if the man is sick and the woman is healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:10 PM
5

I understand for sure! I’m an introvert but I occasionally really enjoy moments that demand extroverted activity. I think I prefer being with more leaning introverts that still enjoy going out occasionally but extroverts tend to drain me and are involved in crowds that I don’t really enjoy most of the time, and TOO much on an introvert and I feel like I’m getting cabin fever if we stay in too long. I like a lot of personal, one on one or small group activities :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:51 PM
2

I totally understand. I think everyone has had varied responses: so far it really seems to come down to standards and preferences. It is a lot for someone to be a partner of who has those illnesses. Personally I would not date a BPD person for sure absolutely, just because of the unhealthy attachment style. The other ones I would need to see how they manage them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:48 PM
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It’s definitely for the most part a case by case basis. For example, I don’t mind if they drink responsibly. I personally don’t drink, I rarely will have a small edible. I don’t do drugs. I don’t mind if the other person is responsible with their drinking, but I won’t date non-medicinal habitual stoners, and heavily opposed to drug abusers. It usually follows a lifestyle and laziness seem to go hand in hand. That’s just generally what I observe. My narc ex took Xanax and would go bat shit insane…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:42 AM
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