dOn'T dEhUmAnIzE sCuMbAgS

Pahapan · 2020-09-12T03:03:57+00:00

I have a side account that I sometimes use to post on other dating subreddits to try to help women who're being led astray by LVM/PickMe nonsense. A woman posted detailing how she'd gone on 3 dates with a man and made out with him on the 3rd date. Immediately following he cooled off a lot. imo, he either got the impression that she wasn't going to put out with minimal effort or he decided he's not all that into her, resulting in a change that she picked up on. Then he left for a 2 week long vacation and hadn't contacted her in something like 12 days, and is still no contact, despite posting on social media. Her male therapist encouraged her to ignore her gut, be a PickMe, and reach out to him, despite her being the one who was showing way more enthusiasm in the first place and despite her having been the one to text last. A LOT of people in the comments (primarily men, of course) were trying to sell her the notion that there's nothing wrong with being the one to reach out and a lot of "wHy sHoUld He bE eXpEcTeD tO wHeN sHe WoN't".

So I commented this, holding back to make it more palatable to the average person and making it clear that I'm talking specifically about disingenuous and scummy men. But it still struck a nerve, lmao. FDS is categorized as a HATE GROUP, the same as actual hate groups that've produced murderers. Because that's totally intellectually honest. And this is precisely why the rest of Reddit (and the world tbh) is very much NOT woman friendly. They literally don't give a shit about women, they desperately want to continue the normalization of the misuse of women because it benefits men and it allows PickMes to continue avoiding their cognitive dissonance. This mod is a woman in her 40s whose flair is "Professional Foster Girlfriend". 🤦‍♀️

They label it dehumanization to simply point out that there are not nice men who use women and that women should guard themselves against being used. Yuppp.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-09-12T04:16:31+00:00

So now we aren’t even allowed to advise not to blatantly chase a lukewarm man, because that advice is associated with FDS? Even though FDS wasn’t even mentioned and I’m guessing your alt has no history here? Fucking ridic, man.

petaline555 · 2020-09-12T05:38:14+00:00

It's horrific that FDS is considered hateful in any way. I lose all respect for anyone who could read the handbook info and call it hate.

They stick on the men paying for dates, but so many sad women are supporting their "man" while he contributes nothing. It's basic self preservation.

Then they want to go in on sex work. It's degrading and disgusting to me, they don't even try to be tolerant of my opinions. But it's game on just because I don't want that mess in my life.

The worst is that they consider it hateful to not want to be with someone who is mean to you. Like they want to erase consent and force women to accept normalize abuse.

Who in their right mind would equate saying "no, thank you" and walking away to hate speech?

heleninthealps · 2020-09-12T05:40:15+00:00

I really hate this censorship in all these datingover30, relationship_advice etc, but at least our sub is still growing.

I think and hope that there's alot of ladies out there that after getting the "communicate" advice or the "keep chasing him, his almost yours" advice some must have caught on to the bullshit and seemed out answers in other subreddits because their gut won't shut up.

Which is why this sub got around 2000 new members the last 7 days from what I can see. Well be 100,000 before Christmas.

2020-09-12T08:36:44+00:00

The pickme 40 year old foster girlfriend mod who removed your wonderful comment is a loser and her opinion doesn't matter. Sorry not sorry.

_bethiebabes · 2020-09-12T07:00:39+00:00

You should post the screenshot as a new comment 😂

chateauduchat · 2020-09-12T13:28:54+00:00

How is asking men to put more effort into dating DEHUMANIZING. Men really want to act like the victims in everything...

Lavender_flow · 2020-09-12T10:40:41+00:00

I fucking hate pickme women with every single fiber in my being, they really throw other women under the bus constantly. You said absolutely nothing wrong or "femcel" language. Speaking the truth is apparently "dehumanzing" yeah, because a lot of these guys dont act with a single ounce of humanity or empathy. So for the 40 year old foster pickme girlfriend- FUCK YOU. You are one of the problems of todays society.

klausolas · 2020-09-12T17:25:25+00:00

A little off topic but, what is a foster girlfriend? And please don't let it be what it sounds like.

Davina33 · 2020-09-12T15:31:14+00:00

I know which sub that is from straight away. Such a shiteshow.

Title	dOn'T dEhUmAnIzE sCuMbAgS
Author	Pahapan
Upvotes	127
Comments	16
Date	September 12, 2020 3:01 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ir4wx7/dont_dehumanize_scumbags/
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