This makes me feel so sad...

lunadelsol00 · 2020-11-02T08:46:53+00:00

I think this is the main reason I never want kids. I NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER want to be tied to a man like this. When a relationship is over I want to fucking leave and never interact or even see them again. That's not possible when there is a child. Seems like a nightmare to me. This poor woman.

KitKat1705 · 2020-11-02T07:02:59+00:00

Sounds like a divorce and a protection order are needed here.

theseviraltimes · 2020-11-02T06:44:03+00:00

What’s he gonna do? Raise the kid himself? Yeah, right....

Hostileovaries · 2020-11-02T14:59:20+00:00

If his cheating happened with another member of the military on base, it's a court marital offense. Link. In addition:

North Carolina criminal law defines adultery as when any man and woman, not being married to each other “lewdly and lasciviously associate, bed and cohabit together.” Under North Carolina criminal law, adultery is a misdemeanor. Link

She could even sue him and his lovers in civil court for punitive damages.

In North Carolina, innocent spouses have the option of pursuing a civil lawsuit against their spouse’s lover and alleging “criminal conversation” or “alienation of affection.” Through such lawsuits, injured spouses can ask a judge or jury to order that the “defendant” (third-party lover) pay compensatory damages, which are money damages based on loss of consortium (marital affection and fellowship), mental anguish, humiliation, injury to health, and/or loss of support. Innocent spouses may also request punitive damages (money damages to punish defendants for their bad actions). Although criminal conversation and alienation of affection are very similar, they are actually two separate causes of action, which require different types of evidence. Link

If anyone wants to share with her she could nail him and his LVW lovers to the wall if she can get evidence, get a divorce and have good financial options to start over.

TokiMarvel · 2020-11-02T07:05:17+00:00

Just go and work out the details later. It’s doubtful he’ll want to fully raise an infant alone the way she’s been doing.

hope-wallace · 2020-11-02T12:40:58+00:00

He is probly worried about having to send her his BAH pay if she moves out.

2020-11-02T14:41:22+00:00

This happened to me.

Except his family tried to coerce me into staying, and convinced me to drop charges when he assaulted me and a friend.

Now my stupid self has to do handoffs with the affair partner turned wife, and videochats multiple times a week.

The only excuse to marry a man is when he's rich ALREADY.

Summerisle7 · 2020-11-02T06:47:32+00:00

How can this be real? Are there really still people so naive and sheltered that neither they nor any of their family or friends has the slightest idea how divorce and child custody work?

oscine23 · 2020-11-02T20:44:32+00:00

She needs to call her mom (and a brother if she has one) and have them come get her. The end.

Title	This makes me feel so sad...
Author	crapcakes0987
Upvotes	217
Comments	38
Date	November 2, 2020 6:29 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jmikej/this_makes_me_feel_so_sad/
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