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You will get banned and are unwelcome. The entire point is that we DON'T CARE what gets mens dicks hard. We are real people with real desires for our own lives and our looks have nothing to do with our right to live a good life, free from men making value judgements on us as people in relation to how attractive they find us and if they'd 'do us' or not. WE DON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR DICKS - FULL STOP. We are aware you all think about your own desires and dicks and dehumanise us as real live people wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/22 02:10 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 11:07 AM
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It's a step. Obviously, 98% of domestic abusers are going to fly under the radar. The only thing that will change this is the mass, wholesale move of society to caring about girls and women. Can you imagine? It won't happen. At this stage - a women gets raped and she's most likely lying and nobody will believe her. A man rapes a woman, he gets caught (so, so, so, so, so, so so rare - did I put enough sos' there? -not sure) and all he needs to do is cry that his future is ruined because he raped …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 05:32 AM
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Because they do (sleep around). The projection is REAL. Their thoughts don't make a complete evolution beyond their own personality. You can't fight it but the minute you get accused of something you know you wouldn't even think of doing - RUN. don't walk. He's just told you exactly who he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 04:38 AM
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This is a great question. I actually thought the father of my ex, would be a great Dad because of how he was interested in activities with his relatives kids. Turns out, it was all for show. In public, with others kids and ours, wow, wow, WOW!!!!! He loved doing sports, teaching kids fishing, blah blah blah. But inside the home? How dare those kids who are his even speak to him? Why TF should HE be interested in their homework, sports or thoughts? But when with his siblings? Oh my, what a FANTAS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 04:36 AM
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Interesting! I guess, like everything, circles differ. In my day, whole groups knew who had the big d**k and every one of those d**ks tried to show it to me at some stage, lol. My instinct again then, comes down to FDS principles - vet, vet, vet. Sooner or later, even during over the clothes play prior to any sexual interaction, which should be long down the road, you're going to find out what the situation is in his pants. Again, FDS shows that only by vetting will you ever know the things that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 04:09 AM
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Yeah, it's a mans' world but most women don't realise from the dawn of man, that every single thing we value is based on what men want or desire. None of our world, including finance, income, life in general is based on how a matriarchal society would have set up our lives. However, the reason men are so resistant and hostile to being ruled by a matriarchy is they perceive that we would be as cruel (sexually or otherwise) to them as they have been to us throughout history. They don't understand …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:59 AM
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They told me my info was 'unhelpful' - I answered that within 5 minutes of posting it, I was awarded a helpful award and other silver etc. awards within hours of posting. And still according to the moderators here, knowing how dangerous relationships are for women as compared to men in warzones - it is 'unhelpful' information. My title was ''keep vetting, relationships are dangerous''. Hopefully you get this before they find it and delete it. It makes me suspicious of their fundamental motivatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:45 AM
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Apparently, if you don't think porn is normal and you love having control of your life, you get sent 'concerned' messages from micro peens on reddit. In this way, you know you are rejecting the narrative being pushed onto women. We are 'lonely' 'old' and 'sad', hahahaha.. Man, I love the life I've made. And most men who see it , try to muscle their way into it. Door slammed. I will say, when you get older your girlfriends get better and better - I've got a whole possie of women who I do differen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 09:59 AM
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lol, It's misogyny that women even make money doing social media in the first place. If they were valued for the same things men were valued at, there wouldn't be a need for selling sex. Men make that market,not women. Personally, I don't think it's empowering but needs must for many women and our unpaid labour is completely ignored. Imagine if we were actually paid for the hours we put in caring for others. I did read a paper many years ago that society would grind to a halt if women just stopp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 09:49 AM
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I had a post taken off here that showed the amount of men killed in war compared to how many women died in relationships over the same time. This very sub is also not wanting to lay the truth out there for women to see, plain and simple in black and white. Men are very rarely worth it and it's more dangerous being in a relationship for women than it is for a man being in a war zone. I rarely come here anymore because of it. Even this will be blocked because for some reason, this knowledge is dan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:48 AM
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My experience is they usually try to show you their d**k in any way they possibly can. Or will tell you in some way. Also, all their friends always know. I knew one guy whose friends all told me he had a PHD. a Pretty huge d**k. They are never secret. You know the friends and if he has one, they'll tell you. I've never known an owner of one who didn't let everyone around him know, in some way. Edited to add - I had a gf who kept getting micro peens - in her experience when the dude was chatting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 06:51 AM
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I never had a crush that wasn't instantly killed by getting to know that person. What comes out of most mens' mouths when you get to know them, is a crush killer, IME. They manage to topple themselves off that pedestal pretty quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:42 AM
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Yes, also turned out to be a swindling, lying bag of s***. Completely fabricated who he was. Tinder needs to be cancelled, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:29 AM
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Gottman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 07:35 AM
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Even when men go to countries to help - they rape. All the rapes by men in the UN in Haiti, means there are now so many single struggling mothers there and these men were there to HELP. Instead they raped and impregnated young teenagers. Why even are men? So worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 07:33 AM
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Absolutely Gross. My ex husband made every single thing we did as a family a dreadful nightmare with his morose, negative attitude, as well. Living with such a disgustingly, selfish pig who was constantly in a bad mood was draining. This dude should do his wife a favour and leave. In my experience, getting rid of a man like that is heaven. The house is light and free again, the kids can laugh, you can enjoy friends and your kids don't feel like they are the WORST BURDEN in the world because they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 07:30 AM
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And many have never had the chance - more baby girls are killed worldwide. Just existing as a baby, child or woman, puts us in danger just because we are female - so basically just existing. what a dumbass moron. never learned history, can't read statistics and believes his opinions matter. those who don't know and don't know that they don't know, are fools - shun them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 07:11 AM
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I also could not find with the info that was given. Edit: Also found it on twitter and some of the men defending this ''it's satire, it's a joke, can't you take a joke?", is nauseating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 10:42 AM
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Also, 'I don't do DRAMMMAAAAA" (yeah, you just create it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 08:05 AM
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Crikey!! That is sad. Maybe she lives a super insulated life and just listens to her stupid pornified boyfriend? All women in their 30s, still look young to me, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:28 AM
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She thinks that her being a cook means the restaurant industry is the most sexist - hahahahahahaha - EVERY industry is the most sexist when you are a young woman working in them. It is the SAME for every young woman, all over the world in EVERY industry. She has mistaken her experience as being the only one, when she isn't grown up enough to know, it doesn't matter where she works - it will be sexist. And the porn industry is honest? holey guacamole. She seems to have zero critical thinking or r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 10:45 AM
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Do you have a HR department? I've been in similar situations and my best advice is starting documenting EVERYTHING. As soon as you get home - date time and what he said or did. Then when shit does hit the fan - pull out your book. Also, everything I've read about women who drive big ass trucks are that they are highly prized, because they treat their trucks better - don't crunch the gears etc. they need less maintenance. Is it really likely they'd let you go over a man who can't even drive a tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 09:31 AM
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Also, the - if you don't have sex with him, he is going to get it somewhere else. This is why women are putting themselves in danger of dying from sepsis, after childbirth by having sex with their partners. Or letting their husbands use them as fleshlights. If he can't behave in a way that makes you WANT to have sex with him - THROW him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 11:42 PM
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Men would rather try to change our minds i.e. gaslight us into not believing our own lived experiences and overwhelming statistics - than doing anything to change themselves so the human race as whole can level up. Instead they want us dragged into the mud with them. And this is why FDS is important. I get questions too - which I ignore. why can't men read and educate themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 10:33 PM
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My youngest was 10 when their dad left. Don't worry - it isn't hard not dating. I didn't for 10 years and made sure I emphasized that as a family we were a team. I was also scared when my ex got a girlfriend, I almost went out of my mind, especially when he started leaving them with her and her kids (and she had teenage sons) to go to work. I lost it at him when I found that out. Luckily she turned out to be not too bad for them, but my kids said ''They aren't our kind of people'' and now as adu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 10:26 PM
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I did it - when I was divorcing I knew that meant I was going to be single for at least ten years. It really wasn't that much of an imposition. Sometimes I went on disastrous dates when they were with their dad (that was enough for me to know I was not missing out on anything) but there was no way I was letting a man anywhere near my kids. I think, my kids who had friends whose mothers did not do that, can now see how much I gave up and are thankful they had a real home they could fully be thems…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 10:15 PM
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We need to start socialising our daughters to see all women - esp. older ones our allies. I made sure I had good friends so if my kids needed someone other than me to speak to - I knew my girlfriends would not say the wrong thing and I did the same for their kids. This is heartbreaking and I can't imagine how confused teenaged girls are today with all the messages online that they get. It was definitely better growing up without the internet. This child will sooner or later be sexually assaulted…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 10:04 PM
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It never fails to confuse me how butt hurt men get when women tell the truth about them. Can't they see how manipulative, angry, arrogant and lazy most of them are? Words like honourable, ethical, kind and self-aware seem to have completely by passed most men. Whatever they pretend to be - all of them are only that thing - christian, deep thinker, environmentalist, philosopher, whatever - 99% of them are only that thing from the waist up. The rest of the time - they are all the same men. But sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 09:53 PM
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If I could get back the years and years and years that I spent trying to figure out if my husband had autism, aspergers or oppositional defiance disorder or was just a straight up arsehole, I wouldn't need to work now. I found out recently that when I married him - other people thought he was autistic. It didn't matter, he wouldn't get help. And yes, I do think he does have some kind of neurodivergence, even today because I can see glimpses of it in our kids, but much like you can't save an alco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:13 AM
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I used to write long letters like this to my ex husband. He wasn't even reading them. Yes, when lives are intertwined, it is hard to split. I'm telling you from a 24 year old marriage - that going ahead with marriage to a man who you have to nag and be a mother to, is going to turn into the hardest thing you've ever done, that you will look back on this time with deep, deep regret. Cut your losses and run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:05 AM
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It's amazing how all these dusty d***s think they are the prize. Due to selective breeding in many countries and the thousands of women and girls that are killed every year - they are like a bag of rice. They are not special. It is literally more dangerous for us to be in a relationship with a man than it is for him to go to war. Let that sink in. They need to be going above and beyond to reassure us that they are worth to even be anywhere near us. They really need to get over themselves. I've a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 03:21 AM
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I've been in this situation (more than once) - one of those times I was punched in the head and had photos and a doctors report and still they wouldn't prosecute (he was rich) and the amount of self work, I've had to do to not walk around enraged at law enforcement and men is phenomenal and the resentment will also rob you of productive hours and joy. If they did prosecute - his lawyer would draaggggg you through the mud. Just read a court case of any man who has actually murdered a woman during…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 11:23 PM
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Like wise. In fact when I was 12 and realised I could no longer beat the boys at running and jumping etc. and they were getting muscles that were making them perform better and do things like jumping fences in one go, I was angry and part of me wished I'd been born a boy. Getting my period sure did not help. Fortunately, it didn't take long to realise their growth spurt for most of them, somehow stunted their brains and I continued to out perform them academically. To this day, when I watch the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:37 PM
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Women have been brainwashed - I notice the man knows exactly what it is. He knows she isn't respected, he knows how every man who looks at her thinks she's selling sex and has no brains. It doesn't matter how much women scream how empowered they are. Most of the world refuse to be gaslit by their delusions. I also find this pursuit of money at any cost rather distasteful in todays world. It galls me that people who are the richest , are the ones the media are constantly shoving in our faces as s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:25 PM
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Heartbreaking. He showed his true colours and she was made plans to leave. A very dangerous time. Male violence against women needs to be taught in schools. Teenage girls and young women need to know that men do not have the same feelings as them. Instead magazines like Dolly etc. aimed at teenagers talks about anal sex etc. We Need to be talking about male violence all through high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:02 PM
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Good to know - so is this list a list of books that women should read? If so - I missed that entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 01:12 AM
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Interesting. I watched a discussion where women who run groups or therapy for women who are victims of domestic torture and they refuse to use the term PTSD and pathologize the mental health problems the victims are experiencing. They are framing their extreme reactions as normal and not pathological. This makes sense to me. Having an unhinged reaction to being victimised, abused and tortured is totally normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 10:23 PM
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The road to hell is paved with good intentions. There is a reason that is a well known proverb. I'd be a rich woman if I had a dollar for every time my ex tried that ''positive intent'' BS on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:40 PM
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Quiet --- GTFO with that. Who are the creators of this - I'd bet my savings on it being men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:52 AM
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The sad state of libfems today. No homework, no deep thinking - it's all just fairy floss. I've written lesson plans for girl children who have been rescued from the sex trade. Part of that is increasing self esteem. Once you do that and take that deep dive - which I did, in order to make sure I knew what I was doing - there is no going back. These women are young and they have not been exposed to the reality of the ''secret lives of men'' - yes, MOST men and while we stand firm, they are leadin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:28 AM
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A father. I'm so sorry you've had this experience. The person I am now, would just stop speaking to him. No trying to work this out. I wouldn't be able to get it out of my head. I might tell my mum about it though. He is betraying her. Or I might even say, ''Great news, I've got a job as a porn star - you'll have to be careful what you click on, Dad''. I am a total smarta** though and I've just been through a cutting my whole FOO off situation , so you should gauge your own family dynamics and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:11 AM
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It's one of my chief hates. It turns me off instantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 04:34 AM
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lol, I dated a millionaire for over a year and he only met 2 of my kids - both times we were nowhere near my home. He never came near my home. When I was contemplating divorce, I knew part of that decision would mean I wouldn't be dating for at least ten years, until my youngest was 18. I knew that stats and I don't take chances. I stuck to that. I didn't really have the time either. Single mothers need to stop centering having a man. It's just too risky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:05 AM
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Yes, I've made this argument to men as well, when they are complaining their jobs are so dangerous. When I point out how dangerous it is for women just to be in a relationship, be pregnant, or have sex, compared to their ''oh woe is me, my job is so dangerous', they usually become abusive. It hurts their brains that an industry that killed 3 men a week would be over-hauled to within an inch of its' life and yet we don't care how many women are killed just by being married. They don't want to kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 01:30 PM
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Totally agree. Most women who manage to get out of prostitution are far, far worse off then before she started. That does not happen in jobs for men. You never, ever work your way up the ladder via prostitution. You end up on a scrap heap. I can't comment for nurses - in my country they are pretty well looked after, but I do know that even in this profession, the most successful, despite being the least represented tend to hold the most senior positions. I find that about my own profession as we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 01:25 PM
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I was about to say that. I show disgust very easily but men who are self focused and don't care, never ever notice that I'm disgusted with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 11:18 AM
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I was married to a man who would constantly tell me ''You're a big girl, you can look after yourself." , as a way to explain why he never had my back. Even then, I don't think he'd have sat back and allowed me to be transported to Afghanistan if I was pregnant with his child. He would have been acutely aware of how that would have looked to mine and his own family. This man is so cold, he doesn't even care what his own or her own family thinks of him. And it seems, even she can't see how f***ed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 11:14 AM
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What until you try to tell some guy that despite them thinking that more men die on the job and do all the dangerous jobs while women have life on easy, that prostitution and trafficking kills far more women and girls every year than any mens job ever will. They start making excuses that I'm not comparing properly blah blah blah. Um What? - Thousands of women and children being raped, beaten, killed and given STDs every year isn't as bad as working long hours as a trucker or oil rigger? Can you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:31 AM
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Newflash!! Discussing mens depravity and centering womens' experiences in the dating world, is toxic to men!! It hurts their feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:20 AM
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ok, I put it at nearly the end of the video - you'll have to put it to the start. Sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:49 PM
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I was a promotions girl - at night clubs, football games etc. - not even anywhere near strip clubs and the harassment I got was a nightmare. Walking through crowds of football fans in a short skirt and heels was so traumatic, that I refused to date any man who watches football after that and I never will. Pigs - all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:13 PM
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I love Sheila Jeffreys. She is unapologetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:10 PM
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He's so disconnected from ''the baby'' - he'd be a lot happier if he could see value here and bond and play with his child. There is nothing in this world like the love and smiles from your own baby and he's missing out. In the future - like so many men before him - he'll blame his wife on why his child takes no notice of him. My ex had the temerity to ignore our children and then blame me for ''keeping them away from him'' - he didn't even speak to them when they asked him a question when they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:44 PM
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Christ, imagine being ''promoted'' to being his GF - sounds like a less than minimum wage job where your begging for scraps and being verbally abused by the manager. A lot of men see no value in women as humans in their own right. They have one job - being fuckable. This attitude is only going to get worse as more boys grow up on porn. It is imperative that we find a way to educate young women the danger they and their daughters are going to be growing up in. And it has to start at around 9 yrs …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:33 PM
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He has regular birth control pills? I was not aware that there was a generic one that did everything on every day, across the board. There are so many iterations of BC pills that the first sentence he says is 100% a lie. idiot. In Australia, he wouldn't even be able to get them at all, let alone some form of blanket BC pill that somehow magically knows when you should be on oestrogen or progesterone or both and how much and when. Men, why do they even bother? This dude literally spent time makin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 01:47 PM
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'They are launching a coordinated attack against me'' - Why though, Marilyn? If you had been a superb boyfriend, women wouldn't be feeling the need to come together and bond over their experiences with you.. He gave himself away with that one sentence. And this is also why men try to keep women apart.Also, he is ugly AF and clearly has issues. He's a beacon of dysfunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:39 PM
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That word feminist has been so morphed - almost like the word woman, that I wonder if either of them even have any meaning anymore. A feminist apparently - is whatever you want it to be, as long as it aligns with your own world view. Same with woman, lol. We are going to hell in a handbasket when words don't even have meanings anymore. Edited to add : dating (done safely) is the only way to find someone. So if you desire to have a partnership, you are going to have to go through this process. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:40 AM
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Yeah, they also always bring up the kama sutra and the marquis de sade, as well. There were not hundreds of those books spread throughout the land. The bourgeoisie were pretty 'eroticised'' - a lot of them also died of syphilis. And I doubt farmers in India had any idea the kama sutra even existed. India also now has a very hidden but very real epidemic of HIV. Their arguments - as you already have found out - are just primary school levels of critical thinking, esp. around todays porn and how e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:36 PM
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Men have been telling us in plenty of ways that they use tinder and other apps as hook up and free sex, low effort apps. We have experienced it, they have said it and women have also been MURDERED and RAPED (often without recourse because they get blocked shortly after and the apps themselves don't care) from using apps. So again our situation is much, much more risky. I have a feeling women are abandoning these apps in droves and because men have misused these apps so deleteriously (for us), th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:15 PM
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I agree that todays porn has plumbed whole knew depths of depravity. However, I can assure you men like my grandfather - honourable, kind and smart - never saw a playboy, video or erotica and I have no doubt that he masturbated . If by statues you mean like David and other paintings from that era, without the means for everyone to see them in that era, how did they even know they existed? Men have been on this earth for thousands of years without porn, so there has never been a need for it for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:06 PM
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A woman selling another woman down a river of lies and unhappiness. Why would you let this happen to anyone? It is not fair on someone to take someone back, if they are longing, longing, longing for someone else. And talking about toddlers and their mummy love, like some cut price freud, is not going to stop this man from continuing to long for somebody else. He's already proven he would destroy his marriage for an outside distraction. Why would you council him to go back and destroy it all over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 12:06 PM
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They must have gone to a sh*t therapist, if a therapist actually helped her stay with him after he cheated because she was ''old and ugly'' and ''he had needs''. That's malpractice and downright cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:06 AM
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Yeah, while we are busy recovering and literally keeping a totally defenceless human alive that would die without us - 24/7. He's all - BuT wHAt AbOuT, meeeeeeee, cries, watches porn, masturbates and starts resenting his wife, who is literally sustaining a human life with her own body. Welp. What about the menz.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:49 AM
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How do they think men masturbated before porn? Are they stupid? They need a quick, easy release? Can't they do that without porn and if not, why not? If they are using it to get them into the mood to masturbate, then they're using porn to prompt something in their brain that wasn't there without it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:46 AM
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Once again, men have found a way to centre themselves and claim victimhood in something that is 100% only affecting women. Well done! Every day they reach unplumbed depths of delusion. Reading NYT and the whole article about menstruation not mentioning women once and calling us ''menstruators'' today, like we are just cows in a field that bleed, really made me see that men want us to be things. menstruators and incubators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:40 PM
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Will their kinks never end? I just read about men having a kink and taking hormones so they can breastfeed babies. The thought of that makes me want to throw up. And wearing nappies and on and on and on. If you can think of it - a man somewhere is going to get a hard on to it, no matter how disgusting. And if this is an attempt at reverse psychology - he's a total amateur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:34 PM
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Listened to a presentation by 2 chinese political lesbians yesterday (very brave of them - one of them had a shaking voice which could have been natural but sounded like fear) - they are hardcore in their philosophy. Even more so than western radical feminists. They also spoke about ghost marriage and how if you die, your husbands family can sell YOUR DEAD BODY to be married to someone else. I think I'd become a political lesbian too. Ewww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:15 PM
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My experience is it's because he's been caught cheating and he's done it to show her '' she was obsessed with me for no reason, and I've blocked her - I never ever saw her, I swear''. I had some man tell me exactly that - his ex is a stalker etc. etc. etc. , and he blocked her in front of me. He was cheating on her with me. I got her name, contacted her, we went out for drinks and his arse was toast, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:05 PM
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'love is pain' - Can't wait for the tell all divorce stories of him being abusive during the marriage. I can see it coming a mile away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 09:32 AM
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How do parents allow this, with their daughters? How has society gone so wrong? My mother was like this and looking back, all she wanted was a man to take me off her hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:16 PM
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I love my women friends. And yes, on the whole we are socialised to see women as the enemy. I was actually beaten up badly by a gang of girls in my neighbourhood as a 17 yr old. Knocked two teeth out (one was my front tooth) and broke a rib. To this day - I still have to spend money every time the cap comes off the bottom one - so no, not all women are great, but I never would have been friends with those chicks anyway. I've been super fortunate with all my friends and everytime I have moved, I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 08:52 PM
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Brilliant. This really has potential as a slogan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 08:45 PM
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This attitude to sex by FDS is one of the biggest 'complaints' in threads where people are talking about how toxic we are. A lot of men feel we are denying women something that can be just plain fun and enjoyable and we are turning it into a big deal. For the scrotes in the back: It is not FUN for us. The risk to reward ratio is the OPPOSITE of yours. We literally get nothing out of it but worry and feeling used. Either be better at your casual sex game, where we don't have to worry about STDs, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 08:43 PM
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In my whole life, I've only ever met one married couple who were not living lives of quiet desperation behind closed doors. They truely supported each other, admired each other, respected each other and totally loved each other, even after 20 years and still do. Having been privy to the inside of many marriages - I've never seen one that is like that for BOTH parties. And so many husbands have tried to hit on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 10:26 PM
8

I'm pretty sure Mary Donaldson was cheated on numerous times. Frederik partied while she was at home with the kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:18 PM
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A woman paying for an adult, married mans holiday? A married man who is using her daughter? Oh, Hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 02:50 AM
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I've started calling it male violence against women, when someone made the point that even when we talk about their violence, we don't put them into the name of it. it is MALE violence. same with teenage pregnancy - we focus on the girls and never mention the fathers, who statistically , in most cases are in their twenties, with a average age of 25. We should be calling it adult MALE impregnation of teenage girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:21 PM
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yes, students do here also but when we mark through turnitin or canvas, we are instructed to turn off student names. I'm surprised that policy isn't worldwide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:13 PM
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Hmm, if you make a good argument and justify your reasoning, he has to mark you on your critical thinking and argument. His personal views should have no bearing on his marking. Also, all marking should be done anonymously, so he literally shouldn't know if you are male or female. What is it about this prof. that makes you worried that a solid, cogent and well thought out argument would not be marked fairly by him? There is also plenty of evidence to back up any philosophical position that sex w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:17 PM
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I love her. Well done, her. Again - he doesn't give a shit about what someone goes through until it affects him. I hope she sticks to her decision, leaves and never looks back. What a damn douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 09:35 AM
19

It's the same reason they don't care about DV or believe we are exaggerating it. Nor do they think rape is a big deal. If it doesn't affect them, they don't care. But let them pay child support, get caught for raping a drunk girl in an alley or at a party, or have a girl leave because he called her a 'bit**" and he'll cry like a baby, because then it affects him. Empathy is a muscle you have to actively bring out in boys - they have it when they are little and that is very clear because they can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 02:03 AM
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Insecure men are not date worthy. They will do atrocious things to assuage their feelings of insecurity. Lying about height is the tip of the iceberg. Don't be the titanic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:57 AM
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Nineteen, I guess? She needs to stop thinking about love, get her head out of the clouds and find her birth certificate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:59 AM
119

I can't feel sexual unless I fully trust someone and I believe they have feelings for me and only want the best for me. Hence why I guess I go years at a time without sex. Having sex with a man because I'm afraid he will leave and go elsewhere means me giving my autonomy away. If I don't trust you to walk through my front door and into my personal space, then you sure are not going to be granted entry into my body. I also require written proof of the absence of STDs - that convo also means the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:57 AM
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Don't people do biology in high school anymore? What about drinking someones blood could be attractive in the least? Same for urine drinkers. Why are people so stupid? However - a caveat. If you have a baby and you've crash landed in the desert and your milk has run dry, you can give the baby your blood to help him/her survive until you are rescued. Drinking blood in starvation may also help you, but I'm guessing if you're blood letting something, then you have an animal and you can drain the bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:45 PM
9

Yeah, I don't forgive and forget either. There is some great literature about the alternative ways to move past extreme trauma, without going the forgiveness route, which can be very damaging to someone who is suffering. It's trying to enforce some weird cognitive dissonance onto someone in extreme suffering to try to get them to forgive their oppressor or perpetrator. There are alternative pathways that do not require someone to forgive, but does allow them to diminish the tremendous pain they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:38 PM
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Empathy and porn. I think it's a chicken and egg conundrum. It's a downward spiral that degrades the further it goes. Did men make porn because they lack empathy? When reading history - it's pretty clear to me that men have never had empathy. They've got a weird ''power at all costs" mentality and they think violence=power. The more violent they are, the more they are willing to annihilate = the more powerful they feel. With porn, we have seen the escalation of violence. I watched a doco re the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:20 PM
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A lot of men are like this - literally can't do anything on their own with a gigantic caveat. He sure as hell, can and will leave her to do her own chores alone. This dude is a moron - but is bet some loser women will find it ''sweet", until it sours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:45 PM
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Yeah, it was horrible, especially seeing my big sister (who was my best friend) scream at my 3 year old daughter ''YOU SAY NO, BAD GIRL". Really, biatch ?- not screaming at your 9 yr old son? I told her I wouldn't come back ever, unless she got help for him from child services. His father (her husband) was showing him porn (which she now denies). She refused to get him help and I refused to be a part of that f***ed up family. My daughter does not remember or know, and as I was already a copter p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:47 AM
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First of all he's lying about how much he is using it. Always, multiply what they admit to. Just like in health we double the amount of alcohol they admit to. And men who say they'll stop anything ''if it makes you uncomfortable' - aren't doing it for the right reason- they will just end up hiding whatever it is, from you because he doesn't see the problem. Ditch him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:56 AM
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In this day and age - I would never leave older boys or even the same aged boys, playing alone, especially with girls. I'm so done with porn and men who don't see how horrific it is making the world. I'm judgmental and scornful and I think men deserve it, at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:54 AM
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My sisters son watched porn and sexually assaulted my daughter. The incidence of that will be skyrocketing for sure. What was worse was my sister tried to gaslight me, like it was a normal childhood thing. Have never spoken to her or gone to a family gathering again - not in the last 20 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 10:30 PM
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Yeah, I've heard that a few times too. It's so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:46 AM
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It's usually never reciprocated - that's the problem. I LOVE giving gifts to people (and getting them) but my ex, never got me a single thing I would ever want. And when the kids were little, I would spend hours doing crafts with my kids, do paint foot and hands prints etc. for his fathers day. His answer for why I never got a mothers day present? ''You're not my f***ing mother, so why should I get you anything?". When the kids were older, I could give them money to spend at the school stalls, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:45 AM
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More like she's exhausted and the kids are finally grown and she isn't going to hang around wiping a grown mans dirty hand prints off the walls for the rest of her life. Her whole life has been about everybody else. I went through that before menopause. And I take HRT now. I wonder what would happen if they correlated divorce with age of kids? My husband literally told me that if I loved my family and him, I should be happy having zero life of my own (just like his mum). I shouldn't want to be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:56 PM
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Well, they make up entire personalities to get you to marry them and then the acting stops. Their whole lives are begotten by deception and pretending to be things they are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:43 PM
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hypocrite thy name is man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:20 AM
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Love it! well done. I'm still formulating mine and I've got a huge deadline looming that I've been ignoring. Your post has given me the oomph that I need. : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:15 AM
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lol, if only!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:27 AM
74

Yes, it's alarming how insecure women have been made in relationships that they have every RIGHT to feel safe and secure in. It's a feeling, many women will never have. And it's sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 05:35 AM
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I have to admit, I haven't read the book, but i can vouch for the author being astute, kind and thoughtful. I'm probs a bad feminist for not reading it, lol. In my practice, I started hearing young women telling me the reason they were never going to breast feed and I became quite alarmed.I have left ALL SM - I am nowhere, unless it's professional. And I can't stand even looking at twitter - It's too hard to make sense of, the threads are all f***ed up. No SM is like going back to being the way …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 04:38 AM
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Well, I wear make up - I grew up in the 80s and 90s and everybody wore loads of wacky make up (think goths). I didn't step foot outside without it until I was 50 years old. And I have to say, that the amount of people who say my skin is enviable and ask what I do, is probably because it's never actually seen the sun and I'm Australian. I don't wear it so much now because I'm lazy and covid had me indoors for months. I don't think I'll ever stop it entirely - it's way too ingrained, but it's only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 04:09 AM
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He just literally almost killed someone and didn't even have a crash cart on hand and I bet he can't do chest compressons or mouth to mouth, in the event she doesn't come back around. He just gave someone - DEFINITE - dead brain cells and increased her risk of stroke. These measly men damaging our sisters, daughters and mothers, make me sick. And vanilla is not wanting to die now? I bet he's never sensually fed someone chocolate or dabbed it on her nipple and tenderly sucked and licked it off, u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:30 AM
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lol, she really doesn't want to tell him the truth about whatever is really making her get turned off by him. He probably stinks and she doesn't want to hurt his feelings. Or he's just bad at sex. My ex was a smoker, nothing more disgusting then that. After ten years he noticed I had to drink a bottle of wine before every time I had sex with him. And something I NEVER knew for the 20 years I was with him and only learned when I fell in lust with a man I was ga-ga over - is that not once when I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:12 AM
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I knew a woman who was married over 40 years to a man, she had never lived with. They had a great marriage. She only moved in with him at the end when he needed care. I know another woman in her 70s who has had a boyfriend for over 40 years and never lived with him. They have a lovely relationship (although, I think he did cheat, sooo.. pinch of salt needed there). One of my best friends is engaged and will never live with her fiance or husband. I also don't want to live with a man and would rel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:04 AM
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Oh, mumma - get a reality check or your daughter is going to be traumatised. Mumma bear - you have turned into a koala - how are you going to protect your girl, like this? You are selling her down a river of scum. She;s not even 17 yet. Get a backbone and don't be so easily led by reddit scumba**s. (My comments keep being deleted for words - but they never tell me which ones!!) Male violence is never ok, no matter what room it happens in and during what activity. I have been firm with my girls. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:23 AM
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For over twenty years I got ''sorry, I was hungry, I was tired, I was stressed, I was ....." - he must have thought he was a two year old toddler. None of our kids ever had as many tantrums as that id***. You are a grown man, if being hungry makes you punch a wall beside your wifes head or spit on her, or throw things - get something to eat, you absolute loser. I'm more angry at how ''supportive and understanding'' I was for years about his anger issues instead of seeing him for what he was. Lov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:09 AM
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Men said way worse things about Gabby Petito. That case made me almost never speak to a man ever again. Men want us not to view them the way we do because ''not all men'' and 'it's the tiny minority', and yet the internet that has allowed them to spew the insides of their heads into the world, shows us exactly what most men are like. They did this to themselves. We can collect statistics now that clearly show their sick violence, we can see the porn they search for, make and consume, we can see …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:03 AM
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I had a convo with the Author of Fat is a Feminist (susie orbach) issue about the fact that men don't even know what real breasts look like, women are declining to breast feed their own babies so they don't ''ruin'' their breasts (for who?), women are getting labioplasty - so now men don't know what real vulvas look like and now they want hairless, vulvaless, balloon breasted women who have pumped up their lips so they look like their vulvas are on their face. I sat next to a table of women at a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:45 AM
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And these men aren't doctors with medical teams on standby when they are almost breaking a very breakable hyoid bone. They are morons who know nothing about first aid, anatomy or physiology. I always talk about this in my anatomy and physiology classes. We tell people things like chronic cortisol production makes us fat, but who tells young people that chronic, small amounts of 'breath play', makes you brain damaged and at risk of early stroke? I can't imagine getting turned on by putting my han…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 02:55 AM
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Here is an observation - they are only doing it to young women. Not once has a man harassed me on reddit and I'd say my comments are particularly scathing of men, in general. So there is some sick, whining insanity that they feel they can harass and influence the younger women from FDS and probs just think us older ones are ''bitter old, witch like hags'' who are ''unf***able'', lol. Another bonus of getting older - I no longer get harassed by men, incessantly. I did read a reddit thread the oth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 09:13 PM
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And women need to know that 'breath play' is giving them cumulative brain damage and increased risk of stroke over time. They don't need to pass out for brain damage to be happening, every single time a man cuts off their air supply. It is so sick to be able to get turned on by violence. And it's sick to want to do harm to people you love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 12:58 PM
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Yes, you did the right thing. Well done! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:39 AM
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I also did the drugs, alcohol thing. Luckily, I didn't become a heroin addict like my little sister. I was also raped around that time by being roophied (sp?). But I always knew I hated the casual sex thing - I guess that's why the losers around me decided I needed to be raped? My hatred of casual sex ended up backfiring on me because I didn't want to sleep around, I ended up marrying when I was 21, after getting engaged after 6 months. So, you could reframe your hypersexuality as yes, being tra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:37 AM
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That's exactly how I feel, right now. Also, I'm really working on myself and wonder if the two step forward, three steps back that I'm experiencing is due to - at the heart of it - being lonely. I've met many struggling women who are having difficulties which really stem from them being alone in the world. Thankfully, they don't mass murder people when they are lonely. I've started looking into singles meet-ups and also singles group dinners - haven't tried one yet though. When I did online, I a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:05 AM
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I watched a doco on Tig Notaro yesterday and her quest to have children. Really, inspiring. I think someone who loves and wants kids so much can only be a force for good and she was prepared to do it, while single. Being a single parent is easier than with a man, IME. As soon as he was out of the house, we could be ourselves and the house felt lighter, free-er(sp?), and funnier. All statistics point to the lack of finances as being the major problem for single mother households and gives a disti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:28 AM
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My ex husband went to anger therapy and because the other men there were worse e.g. they had almost physically destroyed their exes, he decided he wasn't abusive at all. And because he'd never punched my face in (because he knew being twice the size of me, he'd kill me) then his abuse wasn't abusive. Breaking my stuff, calling me names, driving dangerously, spitting on me, pushing me and throwing me, ignoring me for weeks, telling me to ''fu** off, almost daily'', walking out on me, screaming an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:16 AM
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Same - hentai is a hard no for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:04 AM
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5 years is too long to get over someone you weren't married to or had children with. Also, it's not a good idea to fall for men who ''hate'' their own traditions. They are actually extremely conditioned by them and it will almost never work in your favour. I had a traditional aquaintance who never even knew his wife until their their wedding day and he told me his wife cries every night for hours. His mother finally got him a wife in his thirties. The reason? I believe he is totally gay and tota…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:52 AM
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If you can't talk about anything of concern in a relationship including about sex, (which I know is hard) - then you are in the wrong relationship. If he lies about fundamental stuff to get you into a relationship with him, then he will lie about big stuff to keep the wool over your eyes. You can't build a relationship on lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:39 AM
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I've lost my whole FOO because of it. My family is anti-academic and have done nothing but belittle me getting an education and becomming a ''mainstream'' health practitioner rather than a woo idiot who pretends I can heal people with my hands and fictional thoughts. I was also best friends with my sister, we spoke twice a day - I lost her when she tried to convince me that her son molesting my daughter was ''kids play'' - yeah, that's a no from me. I stayed away from every single family gatheri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:30 AM
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Same for coffee preference. In my over twenty years marriage - not once did my husband make me a cup of coffee I could drink - he was doing it on purpose. The next relationship - he knew exactly how I liked my coffee within one week and it was the easiest thing ever. Beware of passive aggressiveness in men - it's stealthy and will wreck your perception because they are always so Innocent. They aren't - they do it on purpose. If you can't learn how to make a coffee for someone in twenty years, yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:05 AM
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And more women are dying during sex than ever before. There is a violence during sex epidemic, which is literally killing women. It is also increasing womens brain damage over time and the risk of early stroke. This is no joke. Now, not only do women need to worry about STDs and pregnancy but brain damage over time, prolapsed anus's, stroke and death. WHY on earth would we want to have sex with a man who consumes porn? 'BuT We KnOw It'S NoT reAl" - they are as easily manipulated as easily as any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:00 AM
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Mine used to call me names and then say "I can't make you feel anything, you are responsible for the way you are feeling". I know for a fact if I was verbally abusive to him, his reaction would have been waayyyy worse than crying. 'I'm feeling blamed''= 'how dare you take offence or be hurt by me being mean to you''. Men HATE shame - with porn they use the left hand for themselves while the right is always pointed in blame and shame to the images he is slobbering over. It's a unique cognitive di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:47 AM
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lol, my first thoughts! WTAF is this and what is happening?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 07:05 AM
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Article is sitting at -6, atm. I guess there are quite a few angry, 'men' also reading it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:24 PM
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This sounds dangerous. If your anxiety is so terrible when alone - you will subconsciously look past glaring red flags in a man due to your fear. This mindset is setting you up, to put with anything in order not to feel alone or anxious. And I can tell you, that most men will sense this - and if there is one thing men love, it's a weakness they can exploit and use to manipulate. And considering your mental health will be so anxiety riddern at the thought of him leaving, you won't even notice any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:56 PM
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Exactly, you can be as racist and violent as you like - if it's for masturbatory mens' consumption. We're living in a culture where men being able to watch the most vile degrading stuff towards women is totally OK - as long as his d*** is hard while he is doing it. Modern feminism = do and say what you like to me and I"ll feel empowered by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:30 PM
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He probably gets a buzz out of having a woman who will just ''be there'', waiting for any time he is bored. He doesn't need sex to get an ego boost for having someone who will just let him come and go as he wishes and will also flirt after months of silence. The strip club comment would make me delete and block him from my life. I will no longer have anybody around me who ''jokes' or uses or goes to strip clubs, uses por*, sees women as a commodity to be looked at and used for their erections. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:16 AM
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He'll definitely start drinking again. JLO is heading for another fall with this NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:04 AM
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Thanks! That was helpful. I only have women around me - it's only when men contact me, I feel put upon and because I've completely devolved into my inate self, I just nod and then don't do it, lol.. I become seriously unreliable - which is absolutely the total opposite of what my reputation is, when I'm being rewarded with pay for my performance OR if I like you and you are a fellow woman and we can elevate each other - I've only ever had one women act like a man and try to take advantage of me.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 05:36 AM
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Especially now they are consuming so much de-humanising violence on women in the name of their erections. Of course, they don't see us as worthy of friendship. Men are like leeches to women - they always, always want something from us. Even if it's not sex and it's at uni or work - they will try and use you to get your labour and free advice. Every meeting an academic man has set up with me - has resulted in them wanting ME to supply THEM with something. I forward them resources, so they can do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:13 PM
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Men can't deal with shame - it makes them rageful. Hence, why they constantly push all the shame that belongs to them, onto women. They are also angry at women for ''making them ''need'' or desire s*x from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:31 PM
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Right? That's scary. I read something written by a man saying that his ex is a bi**h who never loved him and doesn't know what love is, because you're not supposed to call the cops on people you love. Um, what? He then called me a Karen, for the comment I left, basically saying women should call the cops more, not less. This guy sounds like he might be the same. Conditions of loving them are ""you put up with everything and never complain, leave or call the cops''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:53 AM
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Gaslighting on an international scale. It never sat right with me, ever. I always have major cognitive dissonance when trying to make OK, the sheer mindf**ery against my own known facts about things eg. por*, s*x work etc., lesbians with p*nis*s. etc. The sooner we get rid of this ''it's empowerment'' being sold to us when it's really just violence, we'll be making headway, that is rapidly being lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:02 AM
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Well, he did get her to give up smoking - so there's a positive, I guess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:59 AM
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You have to wait until you're about 45, IME. I have blonde hair and men have said these exact words to me- numerous times -''you're smarter than you look''. I always think ''Actually, I'm smarter than you''. I don't know of a way to win AND have a relationship - I failed that spectacularly. But, being 50 now and not GAF, is the best - and I mean the absolute best. If my bones didn't also creak and my fitness seriously go down, I'd vote these years as the best (I broke my ankle and slowly getting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:57 AM
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Why are we even letting them out in public? They should be the ones kept indoors and given curfews. I've been watching a series of presentations at an Andrea Dworkin memorial conference and some of the women, who've been feminists in Dworkins time, have viewed whats online and the sheer violence of it and been stunned at how badly, our society has gotten worse since Dworkin died. Another younger woman, related her experience of doing a PhD on porn and becomming almost immobilised by her research…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:48 AM
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I often wonder how many men are actually speaking dirty to each other for this very reason. We know statistically far more men use OLD and sex chats etc. than women participate. We know they are depraved and will do anything for money. It makes me laugh to think of thousands of hairy, greasy sickos (eg, they are trying to have ''being sexually attracted to animals'' a legitimate identity,), sitting at home talking dirty to each other under the guise that one is a good looking guy and the other a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:35 AM
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I agree it's a very rose tinted view of our social security system. Many people cannot navigate this system and many systems have been made so ridiculous that people with obvious disability and mental illness are being let down badly. I'm aware we have homeless people -and it's likely to get worse the more people vote LNP. I work in health and I'm also aware of the long waiting times for people without private insurance for certain care. I'm also aware in healthcare how stealthily the LNP are sl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 12:33 AM
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What a turn off. I've offered to pay - but only one man has ever let me and I insisted, with him because I knew I would never see him again. I think It's an age thing - Men I meet now, absolutely refuse to let me pay. Even when I'm with girlfriends we take turns but my richer friends definitely try to pay for me more often than I let them. I'm the funny, POVO one they like to go dancing with. Also, when men take me out, they always ask me advice, so I kind of treat it like a consultation if they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 05:39 AM
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I've been married - I'm not keen to do it again. I knew a lady once who had been married for over 40 years and she had never lived with her husband - they lived in separate houses. That blew my mind, considering how long ago they got married. Although, she had to live with him in the end to look after him. They were very happy by all accounts and didn't have children. I think childfree couples are happier (from my perspective they seem to be). I also have a massive fault where I go into caregive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:38 PM
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Yeah, mine was a chameleon as well. It just proved to me, that his behaviour towards me was on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:31 PM
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At least 500 000 a day in one country. I bet that's a conservative figure - there is a neverending avalanche of predators in every echelon of society where women are - work, transport, sports, online, on streets, shopping centres, beaches - every single place. but NoT aLl MeN. Men don't believe us, even as they sit in front of their computer searching for 'hot barely legal' and yanking their sorry selves for dear life. God they are boring as hell and dangerous. I think feminism made a mistake wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:27 PM
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I had to get over it because of the way my kids text me. It used to annoy the crap out of me, but now I'm meh. I do remember asking my kids years ago when they were still kids what WTF meant and they wouldn't tell me, hahaha. I finally figured it out. Now if it was a grown man - well both of my last relationships were with ESL dudes, so I had to overlook a lot of terrible spelling. And my ex-husband never texted me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:12 PM
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I don't think you can be self aware AND as arrogant as this guy at the same time. You'd have to suspend any and all notion of reality, just for starters. I would hate this to be my relationship story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:07 PM
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So we have a few advantages to being able to get on your feet here. Of course there are T&Cs - but if you do it right, you can make it work for you (I did when I was left with kids and no income) We have youth allowance for youths out of work or in university. If they are out of work, they must apply to jobs and also attend workshops on resume writing, interviewing skills etc at a 'job centre'. If at university - you do not have to look for work. In Aust. we have 12 grades prior to university - …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:46 PM
3

EEK! That is taking a huge risk! No wonder he was in such bad shape. I wouldn't be surprised if they contributed to his demise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 07:46 PM
3

I agree about speaking badly about the dead - I believe it's origins are from the concept that now they don't have right of reply, but really? Some humans are bad and I'm not changing the narrative of their shittiness, now that they're a corpse. I've seen a few young men now with obesity who are on "oestrogen blockers" for hypogonadism.The increased expression of the aromatase enzyme in the adipose tissue of obese men leads to a greater conversion of androgens to estrogen. This results in reduce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 07:29 PM
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Great comment. You hit the nail on the head - their entirely abberrent to protecting the tribe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:36 AM
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I wonder if American men are so against socialism because they don't want young women have options, when they are desperate? I'm lucky that we have a safety net in Australia, there is no need to do sex work, and you can scrimp by, until you're on your feet here. Young women need protection. When I do see homeless young women (rarely), I get so worried about how unsafe they are and my heart breaks. I'm glad you got through it and out the other side. Well done. Also there is nothing stopping young…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:16 AM
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Any time you have to look through a mountain of rubble to see a ''diamond in the rough'' - RUN! Especially with kids. My kids NEVER met any man and no man was allowed into my home, while my kids lived there. My youngest was well past 18, when I finally relaxed that rule. Strange men and children - do not match, especially when you have to peer through the gloom to see something that still needs more work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:10 AM
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Wow, that answer was so long, when they could have just replied ""You're a nasty, shallow POS and you need to tell her that and then get into therapy, so you don't use any other person on this earth, who is doing their best - when your best is a turd in the toilet''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:00 AM
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Hahahahahaha - my experience is when I act like this - the man goes batshit crazy and tries to make me put in more effort. They don't want to put in effort, but they sure can't stand it when you match their energy. They WANT you to be obsessive about them. Until they don't. She will get burned quite a few times, I imagine, until she learns that she's setting herself up for some crazy manipulation, to come her way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 05:56 AM
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I can't stand the biology argument. A 50 year old man, has dessicated sperm - autistic and other problematic problems with offspring - not to mention - higher miscarriage for the women using his off sperm. And after years of drinking and eating junk food - their sperm shouldn't be anywhere near a young fertile woman. He wouldn't even be alive, if not for modern medicine and the industrial revolution - so he should unalive himself if he's so hellbent on acting only on a biological basis, with no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 05:52 AM
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Yes, they'll expect you to remain independent, even after you BOTH have kids together. He'll resent anything you ask of him in the way of help with the kids or anything else and treat you like shit anytime you might need him. And then he'll hate you and say ''you don't need me'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:20 AM
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Money means less to me than self respect. Especially, when it's about my father. I doubt there will be much there, anyway and to me - the fact that it has pretty left me without any family makes it not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 06:33 PM
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I'm here with you - my brother is contesting our Dads will because he was left out of it - because he refused to see our Dad for 30 years. I want nothing from the will- I could care less but I'm here to tell you, you find out a LOT about people, when money is involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:02 PM
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I don't understand it either. In so many instances, I've been able to see huge benefits of certain actions within relationships - that my ex would see as me being ''demanding''. When in reality the pay off for him, was just as high. They sabotage their own relationships and it's ability to thrive. It seems they don't value real connection or intimacy. I think they really do just want a slave for free. But they want to slave to like it. So they have to lie about their real feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 01:46 AM
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In other cultures, you just have to pretend he isn't having affairs and pretend that all the strictures on you being truly independent, are for your own good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:10 AM
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I can tell you exactly why - having been the ''ride and die'', while he builds a career. Guess what? At the pinnacle of what should have been OUR empire - he left. I'd worked harder, was smarter, brought up the kids, blah, blah, blah. They don't respect you for giving up your life for them, they treat you like a live in slave, who are now ''taking half his savings'' - while they hide most of it, anyway. Meanwhile - he's had decades to build a solid career and you are left to start at the bottom …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:08 AM
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I'm with you - I'm constantly perplexed at how weak they are against sexual urges AND aggression. They are exactly like dumb oxen, ramming some gate to get through. I've never felt that and that to me, at least, makes me way superior than any man who is driven by testosterone. From the outside it looks as idiotic as heroin addiction. Weakness. It's really only because they are such aggressive animals that they run the world. It doesn't make them better - it makes them physically stronger but men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:59 AM
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He got to the third date and didn't get his objective. He then found out you are a virgin and to him, that rang alarm bells of ''Damn, how much more time would I have to put in, to get what I want?". There is no need to think about him - if it was a non-virgin - and after third date she said 'no, I'm not'' - his logical (to him), thought would be, ''oh, ok, so I probably just need a couple more dates to be in". And he MIGHT keep trying if he thinks the pay off is just around the corner. Reading …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:40 AM
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Not only have they created it - they refuse to believe it's their fault. Men blame women! I stop almost every argument a man starts with me over how women have ruined the world, by asking him to first name a country where more than 50% of the people in govt. /power are women. There is no such world. And if men are running the world - who created this shit we are living in? not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:25 AM
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I used to beg my ex to treat me like I was his sister or any distant cousin or a workmate. He treated everybody better than he treated me behind closed doors. It's to keep up appearances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:59 AM
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Or, You're so selfish and demanding - for expecting the slightest bit of support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:57 AM
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100% - unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:52 PM
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Yeah, this is a total mindf*** - and all of them do it. They don't really believe it - they know they are lying. My daughter and I say liberally to each other now ''I don't know what you're talking about''.. everytime one of us, brings up an annoyance. We KNOW it's bullshit and to us it's funny. e.g. "mum, so you know how annoying it is when you mix up all the folding on the lounge?" Me: "I don't know what you're talking about''. Laugh...llaugh and then, Me: ''yeah, ok, I'll keep my pile seperat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:36 AM
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Yeah, it's rough - you spend years being gaslit and brainwashed and then you've got to really dig deep, and constantly validate yourself against and onslaught of modern media, just to be in alignment with your one true self. This whole world is working against women coming into their own power and standing firm. And some days, you've just gotta lie low and take a breath... (hugx)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:25 AM
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This is what honour looks like in this situation (and how I would deal with a similar sitch): My partners friend starts touching me . Me- " Get your goddamn hands off me, you pervert''. and then I walk out of the restaurant and ring my partner and tell him, exactly what happened. If he continues to be friends with that person - I break up with him because this is massively problematic. If he doesn't believe me - I break up with him because this is massively problematic. This way, I know I've act…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:17 AM
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And the very next thing after accusing you of being ''insecure'' is to call you ''controlling''. "Yeah, I'm a ''controlling'' b**** who doesn't want to be married to a disgusting pervert - but sure, try to gaslight the situation and enforce that I'M the one with the problem and it's not you, who is an aberration of humanity..." Every day, I wish more and more young women before they get involved with men, find FDS, so men can't mess their minds up even more than this modern, men run media has do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:50 AM
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Ha, ha, ha - I CAN say it.... what a mu***f****.. I love her and I love how exhilarated this made her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:48 AM
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Yeah, how dare the ''average woman'' think highly of herself when in reality the ''average'' woman is thousands of times better in every way to an ''average'' man. We are almost talking about two entirely different species, at this point. Just our general avoidance of violence puts us streets ahead of them in evolution. Ugh, me man, thump... I think the average man thinks way too highly of himself, IMHO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:45 AM
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I agree. Taking this clip into account, he is completely contradictory on some of his on views. He has said some really on the nose stuff. Now, knowing he is a drug addict, I wonder if half the time he isn't just drugged out? Also him saying he can't control crazy women because he can't beat them up like a man, is pretty off and enforced monogamy, so loser men can get sex? Blergh. And, no matter how I look at it - if someone has a preferred way to be addressed - HOW is that any skin off my nose …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:41 AM
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Cancel. The fact that you were too uncomfortable to tell the truth is a massive red flag. Also, he is a nutjob. His hill to die on was a flu jab,lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:27 AM
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Just the anger justification would have me walking away. When men try to justify bad behaviour - sooner or later, you're going to be on the receiving end of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:25 AM
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It's disgusting. If she's dead and can't defend herself - and she then gets her name entirely dragged through the mud by the defence - it should be automatic, murder by first degree. It should just be acknowledged by now that men are liars and will throw their own babies under a bus, if it gets them out of trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:17 AM
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I don't know. I also don't get it, that if a total stranger punched you or grabbed your boobs or spit on you - they'd be charged but for assault but if it's your husband, it's ''domestic violence'' and ignored. To me, it should be the same as any other assault or even worse, because this person is actually supposed to be caring about you. I was actively turned away from the copshop after being beaten up by a partner. But when my boobs were grabbed by a total stranger, the cops were chasing me to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:14 AM
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Haha - that's gold. I'm going to use it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:03 AM
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I've never met any but I've never been attracted enough or liked a man enough to care that they faded away, when I didn't put out. Unfortunately, the one I was attracted to (since my marriage ended) and waited only about 1 month to sex and the one I chose because he looked good on paper (didn't wait very long), made me rethink my massively flawed attraction to men who are wolves in sheeps clothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:00 AM
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Actually, I think most relationships with men are about power. Not just sex. They treat the whole thing as a power struggle in which they must always be the victor AND the victim - simultaneously. As soon as they know you are vulnerable eg. pregnant, new baby, no job, ill - they see it as an opportunity to treat you as ''less than'', and they know you are too vulnerable not to put up with it. That's how my marriage felt anyway - the times I was most vulnerable was when I was treated the worst. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:54 AM
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The amount of women who have been brainwashed into believing porn is ''normal'' is directly proportional to the amount of women who are also incredibly hurt, disappointed and disgusted, when they find out how "normal" their husbands actually are. It's sad how gaslighted women are into divorcing themselves from their own natural and innate instincts. They feel hurt and disgusted but they are brainwashed into believing their feelings are what's wrong with this scenario. It also happened to me in m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:39 AM
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Exactly! I'm incredibly angry to this day about some exes for hiding who they really were. They know their options will be reduced if they say upfront ""I'm a sick arsehole, I love watching rape and degrading stuff, I also go to strip joints, like it's a normal pub" . Ok dude - go find someone who is fine with that - don't trick someone you know won't like it. They take our choices away, by lying. They don't give a shit about our right to choose the type of person we associate with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:29 AM
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Man, this shows so well, that men know exactly what they are doing. What they don't want are consequences. He knows it's hurtful and doesn't care. He also knows her vision of him will be detrimentally affected if she finds out who he really is. Because of stuff like this I just presume men are sickos and depraved until they prove otherwise. It's a way more realistic way to approach having a man anywhere near you or the people you care about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:22 AM
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Oh boy - I've got hundreds. I've been negged from here to kingdom come. My favourite is when they say ''you're not as dumb as you look'' - I've had that a few times. I once got a vice-chancellors award and as I crossed the stage to receive my cheque/award, the VC took my hand, lent down close to my ear and said, 'you better make this worth our while.". I assume he meant - get my honours and go on to represent the university.. Yeah, I got my first class honours and left that uni for an even bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:28 AM
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Again - a mans' ability to do the most convoluted mental gymnastics in order to make sure he is never the 'bad guy' but always the victim, is just astounding. They have no ability to self appraise from a place of truth because whatever it is - no sex, too much sex, porn, getting caught for porn, not getting caught for porn, enthusiastic sex - he is a victim of it all and nothing is ever, ever, ever the fault of his f8cked-upped-ness and nothing she does will ever appease him, because HE is the v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:20 AM
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Right? Men are always saying ''I'm not a mind reader'' and ''I don't know what you meant'' - this joker did not make himself clear by saying up front that he would think it's a waste of his time, if she didn't give him sex for his couple of drink investment and then gets mad when she doesn't read his mind before they even met AND he showed up in track pants and sneakers. He must believe he's got a solid gold d***. They don't say up front they just want sex because they know nobody would meet the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:34 PM
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Exactly - in almost every way - a man can make himself the victim of women. Find a mans problem and there will be a woman blamed for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 01:39 PM
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Men are so boring - and every single one of them prove Maslows heirachy wrong - the minute a man has all his needs met - he just completely degrades into an animal with money. Good works? Community? Nah, degrading sex, porn, drugs blah blah blah - so mindless and basic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 01:01 PM
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When I was weighing up whether to divorce or not - my mum had a friend over who was with her fiance - they were like '''leave, you are miserable and we never would have found each other if we'd stayed in miserable marriages' They went on and on about how lucky they were, how in love they were - they were totally smitten and he was just saying how thankful he was to have met her.... I was impressed. The next time I asked my mum about them - thinking they must be married by now, she said xxxx got …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:48 PM
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This is such a good question. I often feel the same esp. after putting on weight. However, I've noticed over the years that people who aren't what I'd classify as ''good looking'' being thought to be so, because they dress well, have their hair done and have confidence. But objectively without all of that, they'd be quite plain. For myself - I'm waiting until I've lost the weight because it affects my mindset too much but it really shouldn't be a problem because high value people don't view huma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 01:06 AM
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I don't get it either. I can't imagine using another human this way. The way men think is so transactional. I guess it's what they mean by 'women are emotional''. Maybe they actually mean - ''they care about other people and have empathy'' or ''they aren't wired to treat humans like it's a dog eat dog world and aren't trying to use everyone''? I can't imagine going through life caring so little for the way I comport myself in the world, in terms of caring for others humanity. Men see it as a wea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 12:44 AM
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And what's even worse - when you divorce them - because they actually did the least in the relationship but made the money - you are taking half of THEIR stuff as if they've gained no benefit from you being their unpaid slave for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 12:31 AM
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Yeah, my abusive husband used to say this all the time to me - usually after screaming at me, spitting on me and calling me names and then ''I was responsible for my own feelings'' and ''I was CHOOSING to feel that way''. e.g. hurt, angry, miserable. Talk about a mindf***. I'm still angry at him a decade later - he took all of my good years and I hate him for it. And he thought I was going to be friends with him after we divorced, lol...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 12:21 AM
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He has never said he was a hero for not leaving her and he feels exactly like the men who commented ''that doesn't make him a hero''. The media keeps making him out to be the greatest hero on earth for not leaving her - he is totally nonplussed why they make a big deal out of it and he stresses constantly that he wasn't doing anything special by staying with her - there was never a question for him. The also were not married when she was burnt . He bought her the ring while she was in intensive …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 11:45 PM
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What is wrong with men? Everything they touch turns to shi*. It's also the reason I use -user-names that are masculine, most men assume I'm a man. I get talked to entirely differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 11:16 PM
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hahahaha - defend us from dinosaurs!! I'd like to see that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:43 AM
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The windshield wiper thing is weird. I thought it was only my husband that did it - but when I was separating I was on a blog/web/forum for wives of passive aggressive and abusive men and it turned out to be really common. I mean, it's such a weird thing to do - maybe they are a hive mind? And the dangerous driving is a well known habit of abusive men. Passive aggressiveness is also abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:36 AM
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Don't forget the anger issues!! This guy is a walking red flag and the way that shirt strains against his gut? blergh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:26 AM
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OMG! Killing a plane full of people because the USA told you to stop flashing your pee pee in public. Unfathomable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:19 AM
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Yeah, I agree - men really will cheat with anyone. The most beautiful women in the world get cheated on. I did all of that - and it wasn't so hard to make sure she was always in the loop etc. really because I was having major marriage problems at the time - separating from an abusive and volatile marriage and didn't want to be the source of drama in someone elses or have any further drama, than my own marriage was causing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:13 AM
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lol, and he'll say - I hAd No InDicAtIoN shE wAs UnHapPy - it was out of the blue!! SHe sHoUlD HaVe SaId SoMeThInG!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:06 AM
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I agree. The one time I couldn't avoid it - when doing Uni assignments and being paired up with a married man and needing to work closely with him (over years of undergrad), I also got his wife's mobile number, made sure she had mine and duplicated every single text I sent him - if he got it, she got it. She received every text I sent him as default. Often, she would ring me if he wasn't answering his phone. I was open and transparent, as I possibly could be. I befriended her and told her where …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:15 AM
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So many men are ---- empty. I can't begin to understand the amount of disconnect they must have to do the things they do but it's prevalent. And yet, they are so attuned to their own feelings, their own 'being hard done by'. It never ceases to amaze me how much they can centre themselves in a narrative or experience, when at that moment, they should be the bit part, the supporting role. They believe their needs should be centre stage at all times, no matter what story is unfolding and that playi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 09:57 AM
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Hmm, well I don't understand it then. I don't understand how you can be attracted to a stranger or want to even touch or be touched by a stranger. To tell the truth, I've only ever been attracted to one person (not my husband - he had to grow on me). I can't spend too much time thinking about it - because when people talk to me about loneliness or sex and ask do I miss it - I don't really get what they are talking about. I don't understand people needing sex and today I listened to a few lecture…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 09:42 AM
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Yes, I understand that - and most women I know 'wait because they are not attracted until they form a bond''. It's not a tactic - we don't want it or will enjoy it unless we are bonded to that person. I've never thought any different or heard any different from women around me. I've assumed my whole life that is the default for women. Not the ''I want to but am going to wait for safety'' or ''the I am attracted to him and want to have sex but he is not my type'' - which seems to be fed via media…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 09:13 AM
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Yeah, I did say to a guy once - you talk about your penis like it's the holy grail and the best thing you own and yet you'll stick it anywhere. It makes no sense, how highly they think of their own anatomical feature but then degrade it by their actions. One of those things are wrong. It's either special and it should be for special occassions or it's a piece of shit that can go in any garbage dump (like holes in a wall!). They need to make up their mind. I'm pretty sure most of them are garbage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 09:04 AM
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I agree - I'm going to have to ruminate on another similie that describes their lack of humanity because it is actually insulting to the animal kingdom. My beautiful belated pupper totally never took me for granted and gave me unparalled undivided love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:57 AM
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You don’t get it because you’re not a guy.” The greatest get-out clause of all time. I don't need to be a guy to know it isn't true for men that have honour. My grandfather, not once in his life would have felt this way. The fact that the men of today can say this with a straight face, as though their lack of humanity is somehow built into them and not the outcome of centuries of entitlement and benefits and the sheer amount of violence that they perpetrate and consume, just stuns me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:54 AM
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They never NEED to get laid. It is not a survival imperative. Frankly, any 'man' who has ever felt this way - should be in a cage. They've devolved themselves into senseless amoebas. We were so busy caring for others and our tribes and children, that we let these things rule the world by sheer force of strength and look what we have now? They've devolved the whole world into a consuming, senseless, avaricious, violent hellscape. It's time they stepped down 'cause we all know in our own lives whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:48 AM
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Isn't this what everyone feels? Most women I know don't feel sexual attraction to anybody but one person they've formed a bond with. I never feel attracted to anyone, ever. I literally don't know any women who are attracted outside of a relationship. Honestly, this was the accepted way to be when I was growing up. Having spoken about this to many women my age - we all feel the same way - and that is absolutely nothing - unless we are in a relationship and only to that person. I think the media l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:43 PM
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100%!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:28 PM
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I want, I want, I want = where's my damn order, already? Talk about demanding. Ahh, men they think the world is their smorgasboard - the only unfortunate thing is that when they realise they aren't special and they can't just dial up their women like a pizza order - they become deranged and violent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:27 PM
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lol, right? Such a cope. Seethe away, scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:20 PM
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'More power to him for shooting his shot" - what a deranged way to feel about other humans. " Don't like her, don't give a shit about her, not attracted to her, I don't even care that she exists in this world BUT I'll stick my dick in 'it'. " - how disconnected to your own humanity do you have to be, to be able to use and devalue people like this? They are like senseless rutting animals and really they should be in cages. And they talk like their feelings are normal!! Seriously, they sound like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:17 PM
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Men have this zero sum thinking about a lot of things. I once had a guy say ''why do you even care about that when this other thing is going on and is way worse (in his opinion)" - Um, dude I actually have the ability to care about more than one thing at a time. because I care about one thing, doesn't mean I don't give a shit about anything else. It's a weird way to think - but it does show how many men have really inflexible thought patterns and their brains are - well, broken. It's scary to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:47 PM
30

Agreed - it's a void. When you try to converse or have a deep convo with them - you can sense an emptyness - there's something missing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:35 PM
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I don't know any polyamorous people and I'm not or ever have been poly - so you can ignore me. But - do you think you need to change your friend circle and start surrounding yourself with people you resonate with and who share similar values? Alcoholics need to do it to get out of that life without getting dragged back in. At times during my life when I saw that the group I was associating with wasn't good for me - I've changed my whole set of friends and I've been super particular about who I b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:08 PM
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Committing to one person is what true intimacy is, because it forces you to fully open your heart and to love and to receive their love. It’s terrifying, but no other love feels better. So true and well put. Vulnerability is scary and those who get there are the bravest. I guess you could say then, that polyamory is for the weak and the cowardly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:00 PM
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"It takes two to tango.. What did you do to contribute to this and what can you change? "- this two to tango bullshit, er - when one is abuisve, a cheater etc. it's not two. In fact most of the time the women is bending over backwards to UnDeRsTaNd him because he had a rough childhood or some other bullshit excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:55 PM
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Unbelievable - that is disgusting and terrifying. Chop his dick off. Trying to lure her to his property? Chop his damn h**d off. Worthless, dangerous arsehole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:18 PM
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Yeah, why should women need anything out of a relationship - isn't just being in his orbit enough, already? jeeeezzz /s eyeroll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:24 AM
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Wow - I would not have guessed that. Reddit never fails to have someone who knows something on it! Well, he's certainly pitched his marketing to the right crowd because the women on those threads love him. I don't spend much time there but I have noticed red pillers, piling on and being their usual self. Is it possible he doesn't even moderate those threads? And if not - then if he's going to run a site that is bound to attract angry and aggressive men - then he should be way more responsible. G…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:01 AM
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Ha! I've definitely overcompensated in the binge watching department since my kids have grown up, lol. I am now a bonafide binge-a-holic. Seriously, if he was looking after 2 under pre-school aged kids, then there should be no time for him to watch multiple streaming platforms. And making her clean when she gets home! So he doesn't even do that. I never left the kids with my ex - because I'd come home to a bomb site (like she does, I bet) and he'd be asleep on the couch with the front door wide …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:56 AM
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I have never met a bunch of people who gossip more than men. It's funny how their conversations with each other are soooo boring cause they're constantly talking about who has got what. What care does he own? Oooh, look he's got a rolex... And then when no women are around, it's just straight up filth. But we all know what great conversationalists men make, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:43 AM
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I for one do see changes in men coming. Whether they can sustain it, is another matter. Often, in the younger generation of men, I see signs of acknowledgement of the systemic bullshit that women have faced. One of my favourite websites, which when I'm feeling down and need a good laugh, I'll go and have a read is ''wehuntedthemammoth". It shows me at least one man gets the awfulness of the manosphere. Also my son is great and has cut male friends out of his life, who have gone all redpilled. He…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:23 AM
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Yeah, when I see shows like this, before I've even checked who wrote it - I know it's a man. My daughter and I just sit on the couch and are gobsmacked at how unreal women are portrayed in movies written, directed and produced by men. Do they even know who we are? No - they spend their whole lives projecting. It hurts and infuriates me how clueless and stupid most of them are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:14 AM
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What a pathetic father. When I was a SAHP, I didn't have time to sit on the computer - I was TEACHING my kids and actually NURTURING them. They knew how to read before they went to school - they graduated top of their grades in high school and got into good Universities. I saw that as the only way out of poverty. That took hours, days, weeks, years of work on my part. What the hell kind of parenting is he doing that he can sit around and play during the day? Poor kids. What a neglectful parent. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:11 AM
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lol, I can also almost hear scrotes who read this saying ''effing bitches, they are trying to get us to lose our jobs now." With high dudgeon, they will proclaim what a mob of bitches we are for bringing consequences, while simultaneously being as dumb as a rock, that they are the ones who caused the whole scenario, with their filthy, pathetic actions. "AcTioNs HaVe CoNseQueNcEs" said every scrote, until it applied to him, then he's wah wah wah.... And he was dumb enough to try and lie his way o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:59 AM
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Great work! You should be proud of yourself. Also, the arrogance to lie straight to you face - jesus - there is no way they'd try that with a bigger dude. Yep, spread the word - they only understand consequences when it hits them in the pocket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 12:50 AM
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First off - great work by his affair partner in reaching out. We need to nurture and encouragement women to form networks and affiliations with each other, that make it difficult, if not damn near impossible to play us off against each other and effectively, take two women for a lying ride. This should be taught to all girls/women from 14 upwards. Men are not our allies. Secondly, lucky she has found out now. He is a new grad - he still has years to go before he realises the career he wants. By …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 12:46 AM
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Yeah, I hate ''practical jokers'' - they are a pain in the arse and almost never, ever funny - and often quite harmful. My exes family used to have food fights - which I thought was the most deplorable, arseholish thing I'd seen a family have ''fun'' with. It's not funny. And now when most people have a phone on them - pushing them into a pool or whatever, could seriously f**k up their lives for weeks - considering you can't buy anything or pay for anything until you get a new phone and sim. My …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 11:52 PM
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Gah, I can't stand that ''women initiate divorces'' as if it actually reflects badly on US. Their logic is we do it for the money except statistics show women who have been long term married, without a career and divorced are the fastest growing poverty population in Aust. they are also the fastest population becoming homeless. I am Waaaayyy poorer after divorce and using all my decades building up a man and having children and so is every other woman I know in this position - meanwhile he walks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 11:45 PM
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In my understanding the term morphed from a guy just being physically unkempt, into him also having a bad personality - sitting at home in his mums basement, underachiever etc etc. The way I intended it to mean when I used it was that when a man wonders why we are single, very often they will presume we must have a bad personality behind closed doors (because they are projecting their closet neckbeard onto us) - in the closet means he's hiding he is gross and has a bad personality and is an unde…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 10:17 PM
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Same happening in Australia. It's out of control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 08:47 AM
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And even then - it's a crap shoot that it will continue. Better to at least start out high before it plummets. This guy is a cheater waiting to happen, he's so luke warm about his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 08:46 AM
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They think it give them confidence but there is nothing more annoying than a coked up arsehole who thinks everything he says is totally important. Then you gotta deal with the crying come down the next day and the rages after a full night. I have never noticed anything confident in that. I've literally seen grown arse men, bawling with depression on their come down Sunday. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 08:41 AM
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You're going to have to gauge how your gut feels to him while in the room. Any uneasiness should be a warning. Personally, I would never go to a male therapist - I feel when it comes to womens trauma, men are like vampires - they get off on you telling them. It gives them a line they too can cross. Also, just generally, I think men are missing something vital (haven't yet figured if it's in their DNA or their socialisation) but whatever it is, it means they will never be able to empathise proper…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:23 AM
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lol, that'd be right. They also use UnIvErSiTy oF LiFe. sure dude, we've all actually done that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:12 AM
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lol, they can't stand having LV behaviour done back. I once had a date with a professor who told me he cheated with a student and his wife forgave him and then she cheated and he had a heart attack and lost his job. He said ''it's different for a man than a woman''. They honestly think their cheating shouldn't be hurtful or cause anger and it's just 'meh' but if she does it to him - he has a damn nervous break down or a heart attack - in the case of the professor. Idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:55 PM
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I think also a lot of men are passive - he put in what he thought was a great effort - 4 x dates and didn't get into your pants. Most men put in a good effort and when they think you're hooked, they take their foot off the gas and expect you to take over because it's too much work for him to keep it up. I dated this guy once who took me on a couple of dates - same thing he started to become passive and so nothing ever happened. I think he thought the texting and two dates was enough to get me ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:44 PM
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If he is not doing everything to help manage his condition - ie, trying FODMAPS, trying fibre, reducing caffeine and sorbitol, taking reducegas tabs, etc etc. then she needs to leave. If I had diarrhoea 10 times a day - I'd try to fix it and I sure as hell would be too EMBARASSED to leave streaks for someone else to clean up. A grown man who expects someone else to clean up his shit is no man. He's a toddler and he's also not looking after his health. I was disgusted by my ex husband in the end …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 09:52 PM
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School of hard knocks = I can't read and I'm mad about it I speak sarcasm = I'm an abusive bastard I want someone who can take a joke = I'm an abusive bastard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 09:24 PM
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Also, it'a a lot of projection. Men think - if we are a catch and can get a man anytime that we like - that we are doing what they would be doing. F***ing every single man we can. They can't comprehend that we wouldn't want to do that because if it was them they'd be wh**ing around as much as they could. I've had that projected onto me a lot. I had an ex who honestly thought if I went out and got hit on that I wouldn't say no and I'd just give it up. Every man and even some women who talked to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 09:19 PM
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lol, he didn't get it - he wanted you to accept who he was and STAY. He thinks you're breaking up with him because you can't accept him for who he is and he's all angry and defensive. Except you HAVE accepted him for who he is - and it just means, that you don't accept it in your personal relationships. It doesn't mean you don't accept him. You're not telling him to change. You've drawn a line and really it is the ONLY thing you can do - fighting with someone to change, or allowing them to wear …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 11:42 AM
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I punched her to the ground =/=i did not beat her? That's next level mental gymnastics. All abusers think this way. They all have a line that is set arbitrarily by them, that always without exception puts them on the good side. My ex didn't think he was abusive because he never full on punched me in the face and broke my nose - that was the line in his head between being abusive or not. not the holes in the walls, not the spitting on me, not the pushing me around, not calling me names. Nope - be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:56 AM
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I'm not on tiktok and my experience tells me that women won't listen to the truth about their relationships, until they are open to hearing it. I mean I was totally clueless that I was in an abusive relationship - I knew it was awful, I knew he was angry and mean and I knew we had constant trouble because of his inability to give a shit about anything I felt. I knew he was violent and rude. I knew he treated me with disdain and disrespect. But until a professional said ''he is abusive'', I'd lab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:44 AM
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I love that my stunning daughter shaves her head down to a number 1 or 2 and dyes it different colours. I think she looks amazing but I know how men think and it makes her way less approachable, which makes me feel a little better about her safety out in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:38 AM
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Yeah, but before he died, he made sure that she would have a fight on her hands to get anything from the marriage. He divorced her, put her out of his will after over 20 years of marriage, stipulated she was not to get anything and she still looked after him as he died. He was real mean evil bastard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:30 PM
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I agree. My gut feeling is that men won't level up to be able to win a 'scarce' women, instead they will react violently. I've read a few journo pieces that indicate not much has changed for women in China yet. but I have not accessed any research. I guess this is a wait and see. India is also going to experience this disparity between male vs female soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:42 AM
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Hmm, I fell in love with an Egyptian. Also an athiest( and smoked weed, snorted coke) and a millionaire. Have also dated a practicing muslim. Boy, are middle eastern men romantic and intoxicating, eh? Everything western men are not when it comes to proclamations of enduring love that transcends the mighty Gods themselves, middle eastern men have in spades. hahahahahaha They also harbour distinct beliefs about western women - primarily because most of the porn they watch is overwhelmingly done by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:45 AM
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Ok - What? She has been with this joker for 11 years and he BLOCKS her and then 'they're happy as larry"? There is some middle, epic sized manipulation by him between these two statements.All the excuses she gave - that he obviously gave her are never a reason to BLOCK your GF and mother of your child. If I had a penny for every time my ex husband had a tantrum and was abusive because he was ''tired'' - straight after that excuse was usually ''I was hungry'' - I'd be a millionaire. Do you know w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:31 AM
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Well considering the high rates of female infanticide in different countries around the world - very shortly (already started in China) we are going to experience a sharp decline in female vs male population. That may change things, although reports I'm reading says it has not so far. I think we need to teach women that if they feel like they need to ''compete'' with other women for their partners affections - then that relationship is no good. I meet many young men who absolutely see what women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:39 AM
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Crikey!!! Every single one of those statements whether I was Bi or not, would have me shutting it down and running for the hills, quick smart. A good rule is, if you feel the need to ask if it's OK or not - it probably isn't. Fuck those guys. Another good strategy is turning it around in your head - if you would never say something like this out loud to someone you care about - then you shouldn't allow it for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:55 AM
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This is such a powerless feeling. I hated having nowhere to go with little kids. That power imbalance will cause many men to use it, in order to either be abusive, dismissive, treat you like a slave or take that power and rip the rug from underneath you (like he's done to her). I will never put myself in this helpless situation again. I feel for her. This just shows that you should never trust them. I never had parents to move to - if I was her I'd straight up move to my mums and take the kids o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 09:09 PM
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So then it's more like renting someone's body to use for your dick? Wow - that's soo much better./s Their mental gymnastics in order to push that shame off themselves is next level. No Bro - you a dirty, disgusting dick. End of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 08:48 PM
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Just confirming that FDS is right. Interesting, how oblivious they are to the fact that they ARE the actual problem. I'm baffled every time. hurrdurr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 11:46 AM
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Why would they trust our lived experiences? after all, ''women don't even know what they want''./s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:44 AM
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Wow, seems like Chris Martin has a type! lol...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:38 AM
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Good point and I agree. And on a micro scale (peoples personal lives) it goes on every day - eg. that teacher touched a kid - let's get him fired, that salesperson is a sleaze - let's not go to him ever again and I'll warn all my friends about him, and on and on. It goes on every day that we make a decision that someones service or friendship is not up to our standards that we deserve or expect and we warn others. This just happens to be on a macro scale - if a huge movie making conglomerate doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:36 AM
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Yep, exactly. My daughters would not put up with what I thought was just 'normal'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:42 AM
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Is the argument "AgE iS jUsT a NuMBeR" ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 09:20 PM
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It's great hearing positive results from this message. May you both prosper!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 09:10 PM
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It's the context - it would be like having one dyslexic kid and praising the others on social media for being such a good readers. ''Yay, xxxx read her first sentence today without prompting - so proud!!" - on social media. I mean I told all my kids they were good readers but if I had a kid who struggled - I would not praise the others for something they struggle with in the public domain - it seems like a public sledge. Sure, behind closed ''yay - she's healthy'' - but nobody is dumb enough abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 12:02 PM
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Goddamn - I love this younger generation of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 11:56 AM
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What the actual f***? So he wanted to sledge his ex by saying something his son is going to read one day and feel like his great big hero Dad, who he probably thinks is the best dude in the whole world, hated that he had health issues and is glad he f.i.n.a.l.l.y had a healthy child? I'm speechless - you don't get much f***ing lower than that. I'm Australian, so you know what we would call him over here - yes, that word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 09:26 AM
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I've never gotten to the end of his movies. I can't stand men who whine and are neurotic. And the beautiful women that fell in love with a whiny baby-man? I call bullshit. He's basically an older Seth Rogan or that other idiot - except Woody was a whiner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:27 AM
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I agree if they hang around being passive - they put themselves in the friend zone. There is nothing less romantic than a lukewarm guy - how do they expect us to muster desire for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:19 AM
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Also real women have inconvenient feelings and needs. It was hard enough before porn to get a man to see that he had a whole person with hopes, hurts, desires etc. let alone now all the women they see are permanently horny for the worst sex in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:17 AM
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Yeah, sometimes I feel like that - wanting to be ''seen'' and loved for who I am. Most of the time I accept that it will never happen for me. That acceptance took a lot of hard work, but I'm OK with it. When I reflect on all my single childless friends my age who have this desperate need to be in a relationship - the only difference I can see, is that I have kids and come home to my daughter every night. Some have even said ''at least you have kids''. So maybe it doesn't hit me as hard in those …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:38 AM
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I can't watch him. or james greasy franco or seth rogan. I get the same vibes of all of them. They would be dangerous in a pack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:16 PM
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If his gf is talking to her friends about the relationship - then he's done something wrong. And it's obvious shes talking to someone else because HE WON'T TALK TO HER ABOUT WHATEVER IT IS. Mine complained to me about it - and I said well who am I supposed to talk to? You ignore me, yell at me and refuse to discuss these issues. If there is a problem and a woman hits a brick wall - yeah, she's going to talk do her friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:15 PM
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It's behind a paywall. But his twitter has plenty of support. If it was their daughter they wouldn't find it 'totally fine''. For some reason - the fact we have to remind men that young women and teenagers are not fodder for their sick fantasies but actual humans with value, is appalling. Why do we have to keep saying - what it it was your daughter? On another note - how can we raise young women who won't hit up celebs to sleep with them? (Assuming those messages are even real) A HVM wouldn't ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:05 PM
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Well, I wouldn't still be standing there by the time he finished ''impressing'' me to even get the 'ring'. I'd be so bored, I'd have left already. If she's into it - great, they could be a match made in heaven. If she's not - he's made it all about him - he was the star of the "show" while she stood on the sidelines. It looks something Kevin would do from ''Kevin can f*** himself." Some loser who thinks everything he does is the pinnacle of manhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:11 PM
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The stores make me so despondent, so enraged and feel so helpless against a system that protects male violence. There are really no words for how overwhelming it feels, like I can't contain all these feelings all at once. Sometimes, I really, really despise these men and the system they have created. These systems are so entangled, judiciary, political, economically, educationally, religiously etc. and they all work like interlocking mechanisms to protect men and their interests. When one cranks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:34 AM
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Daughters sure don't love their mums unconditionally, lol.... My girls tell me when I'm f***ing up - but I did bring them up to be equal to me. I never wanted a dynamic of power between me and my kids. However, my son totally does love me unconditionally. He's the only kid who'll always answer my calls, no matter where he is or what he's doing. And yeah - men are the most conditional, entitled beings on the planet. However, they expect you to accept every f*cked up about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 11:35 PM
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That is hurtful as hell. I just can't imagine her not being devastated over him saying 2-3 more years. I wonder if she just takes it or there are tears and recriminations behind closed doors. I've had arguments with my ex-husband about stuff like that - his response was I just shouldn't be upset about anything he puts on the internet because it's not real life - so basically my feelings were wrong. Maybe she has given up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 11:02 PM
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yeah, the characters they play creates a halo effect for them - just look at Bill Cosby - talking to kids, being an upstanding husband and actually being a rapist. And how so many people wanted to believe the myth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 10:59 PM
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Oh, hell no - the thought of clipping my ex's gnarly toenails makes me physically retch. Blurggggg. It used to sicken me when he'd clip them and leave the clippings all over the carpet - gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 10:54 PM
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Yep, anal was never a thing and if it did happen and other teenagers found out, the rumours were that he was secretly gay (that was a thing 30 years ago). I've been asked once in the last 5 years, never before that. I said ''you first''. He didn't ask again. Nobody should be going in through the out door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:43 PM
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It's because they are cowards. I can see scrotes reading this and in their head going '' he was no longer interested'' and you know what? That's fair enough - I've experienced, a slow fading feeling that was hopeful at the start. But you know what someone with honour and courage does? They tell them, they face them and in the most empathetic and kindest way possible you explain your feelings and make sure that it does not affect their value as a fellow human being. In contrast - what do men do? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 04:09 AM
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Well, I haven't got it yet - I don't want to jinx myself but many a slip between the cup and the lips. And trying to get published in journals is a confidence destroying endeavour. I'm super stressed about finishing in time. My field broadly speaking is Obesity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:08 PM
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Mens anger is justified, womens anger is ''crazy'' and ''unhinged''. Except that in reality, it is the opposite. Men become unhinged when they are angry. This is why the number one feature of men is - hypocrisy. In this world we live in what is good for the gander, is never OK for the goose and that goose will be killed and cooked if she acts like the gander. I swear, I'm living in upside down world. The amount of men who can't see they complain about the exact same things they are doing is stag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:06 PM
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I agree with this - in every relationship I've had, he was rushing me, professing feelings, going to great lengths (I mean seriously, I've had 4 proposals!! which I never took seriously as I'd just met them), texting me day and night, driving hours to see me etc. And I usually try to pump the brakes, whiles he's rushing me into being into a serious relationship and then I slowly start to fall into feelings and feel that this might be it and I let myself relax and be in a relationship and BOOM - …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 09:34 PM
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I would now. back then, I was tired,fragile, hurt and truly believed I was the unloveable, horrendous, selfish bitch he told me I was. After all, my mother had done a pretty good job of paving the way for him. No man would get away with that now. And yes, it was such a minor incident in our terrible marriage that I let it slide without a whimper and ate my meal in silence but when I think back, I really can't believe the audacity of that chick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:30 AM
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Ahhhhh, memories. I remember a wedding anniversary where I'd given birth to two children 15 months apart - this was a rare night out and I felt ugly and sleep deprived. He spent the dinner chatting up the waitress to the point she literally pulled up a chair and sat down at the table with us. The good news - I got my figure and sleep back (eventually) - it did take 10 years. He got fat, his teeth and hair fell out. I'm about to finish a doctorate and he's with a women who has 6 children to multi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 07:36 AM
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It would be banned if it affected mens lives the way it affects women. If they were being murdered while having sex(see website wecan'tconsenttothis if you have a strong stomach), having horrific internal injuries while having sex, being compared to bigger dicks, coerced into having things shoved up their backsides and sustaining lifelong injuries and needing colostomy bags, being slapped, strangled and throttled to death during sex, if young boys were being sold by the hundreds and raped on cam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:33 AM
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I think your instinct is right. Subconsciously, he has thought ''she let those other men get away with that stuff - therefore I should be able to get away with it too." - what he fails to understand is you didn't keep these other men around and he's going to go the same way. It's also the reason you never tell a man if you were molested as a child or sexually mistreated by a man as an adult - his first instinct will be to see if he can also get away with doing the same to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 10:09 PM
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I don't understand how men can even think ''it's a small minority of men''. Every, single woman I know has been abused in some way or in a relationship with a ''nice guy'' who was ''clueless'' about how hard her life was looking after kids, etc etc , while he sat on the couch watching TV or days on the weekend off fishing or watching sports or at the pub - because HE worked hard all week. If every woman has met these men but men say it's such a small minority - then the problem is not that women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 09:56 PM
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Agreed - it turns my stomach. I wish all women could see the truth about the way most men think. There is no empowerment in this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 10:31 AM
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Men like to think casual sex is mutually beneficial. I've been on this earth for a long time. I've had casual sex, so have most of the women I know. Not ONE enjoyed the experience - not ONE. When we leave in the morning we feel disgusted with ourselves and him. Not once have I heard a woman say that sex with a stranger she never saw again, was the best sex of her life. The best sex for women is always when there is a connection and it feels sensual and mutually intoxicating and slippery and safe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 09:56 AM
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As Hannah Gadsby says: 'If the only way you can say you're a good man, is by comparing yourself to someone worse - then you have drawn a dangerous line.' She has a talk about all the lines men draw to make sure they always stay on the side of the ''good man''. Men also move these lines in different situations. eg. the locker room line, the boys line. Except men shouldn't be the ones drawing the lines - that should be the victims place. Imagine if that was the case? We drew the lines of when we w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 10:34 PM
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ok I found it - it is behind a paywall. i got it thru my uni. I downloaded pdf - how do I put up a pdf (legally) that you can access? Maybe I'll have to copy/paste the whole thing, so I am not violating copyright laws?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 03:03 AM
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Plenty of men will argue that as soon as a girl gets her period she is ready to have children. They also believe that the girl wants to be engaging in sex. I have literally said to men ''no, when we are 12, we are kids, I was a 12 year old girl, I've known hundreds of 12 yr olds girls and had my own and I'm telling you from our perspective, we want to be kids and we want grown men to leave us alone - and I can also tell you, that you going near them, is harming us irreparably'' - They do not bel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 08:41 PM
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I've spent years pondering this. The conclusion I came to is men - if given any power whatsoever - will never be magnanimous - it turns them nasty and megalomaniacal. They use every single little bit of power given -''you give them an inch and they'll take a mile'' and ''Absolute power corrupts absolutely." On a micro scale it means the man, if he makes the money - in his mind you are his slave and he gets to do what he wants. On a macro - well we can see very well what it means on a macro scale…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:16 AM
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lol -"I don't know what you're talking about." was my ex husbands favourite rejoinder. Now, my daughter and I say it to each other liberally when the other has a complaint. It ends in gales of laughter now. With my ex. I spent years of frustration trying to explain, re-explain, change my tone, change my words - all to get ''I don't know what you're talking about''. If another man ever in my life looks at me and says ''I don't know what you're talking about'' - that'll be the last time he sees me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:07 AM
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Yes. I can't stand wishy washy morals and ethics. When you refuse to stand for something, you will fall for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:12 PM
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lol, you even hint at insulting me and you'll never see me again. You insult other women? Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:09 PM
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I can't listen to Joe for more than 1 minute. To me he sounds like a knuckle dragging troglodyte. I also refuse to behave like a white man in order to succeed. I only have successful female mentors - including ethnic minorities - they usually help other women and don't fuck and use everyone as they climb up the ladder. I've seen successful white men force themselves onto publications they had nothing to do with. I'm never going to do that. The problem with becoming like a white man to succeed is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:26 PM
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This knocks it on the head straight away - as soon as you hear something you don't like esp. about yourself, say very curiously, "I beg your pardon?" and this then FORCES them to repeat it louder - I guarantee you that they WON'T - they will say ''nothing''. They know it's going to sound bad when they repeat it louder. So say again ''no, I'm sorry, I didn't hear you - please repeat what you said." Again they'll double down and refuse to repeat it. Leave it alone then - I've never had to do this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:17 PM
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I called the normal every day expression my ex had CBM. Cat's Bum Mouth. He was a very arrogant, resentful, angry man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:43 AM
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You haven't failed and this isn't the end. She's being a smart arse. All is not lost. Maybe we should have a forum for mums of teenage or older daughters? A lot of us grew up in an era where none of this info was available (no internet, no computer) and so for a great deal of our daughters lives, we probs didn't show the greatest boundaries with men, in front of our daughters. It is never too late to lead by example and foster open and positive relationships. If you want to DM with me to discuss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:50 PM
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yep, I'd believe this. I'm writing a thesis on a subject I no longer care about - to get my DR title I have to finish by Feb 2022. I've done soul searching, talked to my daughter and decided to continue to completion and then give it all up. I'll use my 'Dr' to segue into elevating the plight of children and women in poverty. I've decided I'm so angry, so apopletic that I'm not going to be able to live my life, unless I go out screaming. Step 1 though, is put my head down, get that idiotic title…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 11:57 AM
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As a parent - the way I got around it was going into the schools program that was set up for families who were financially struggling but anybody could access it. You got a laptop for your kid - but the IT at the school looked after it, put controls on it and monitored them. The kids could take them home, go on facebook, play games etc. but if they went anywhere even a bit dodgy they were either blocked or a message was sent that they had been looking at --whatever -- and they were in trouble. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:32 AM
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Yes, mine threw a massive tantrum over a broken down car. And I didn't meet his parents a lot before we were married but over the ensuing years, when I'd listen to stories when they were all together - apparently my husbands anger and temper tantrums were legendary and they laughed about it. What they didn't know was he'd just taken that legendary temper and put it all onto me, behind closed doors. Except his Dad - his Dad indicated to me, more than once that he knew our marriage was not what wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:26 AM
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I agree with this - mine watched other peoples kids gladly, loved kids, was the eldest of 5, so watching all of that would not have prepared me for who he really was, when the mask dropped and we were already married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:06 AM
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This breaks my heart - my husband was also like this. And I tried for 20 years. I don't think there is a way to fix this when the man is so stuck in how HIS life has changed and has no empathy for how HER life has changed. His resentment will continue to grow and his negativity towards her, will eventually see her believe that she is unloveable and demanding. How to vet for it? I've pondered it a lot. Yes, there were signs of toxicity prior to childbirth - but not before the wedding. Literally, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 11:47 PM
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We don't believe it will be better for society - and women and children - we KNOW it will be better. The evidence is pretty clear. Men - always trying to get us to wallow in the mud with them but wanting to blame us if we do. They have to have this cognitive dissonance - otherwise they'd all be spontaneously combusting. Imagine if they didn't tell all the excuses to themselves that they do when they buy trafficked children to ruin? You know they push that shame straight onto the child or prostit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:43 AM
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It's becoming like facebook for old people. I'm now getting dudes trying to connect with me, who have nothing to do with my industry at all, saying ''hi, would love to get to know you''. Men ruin everything - their rapacious thirst knows no bounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 01:38 AM
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This is a good question - I always try to reverse the situation. If I had a male good friend, who I really respected but was not physically attractive and he got fit, started brushing his teeth, got a job etc etc and really levelled up - would I try and make a play for him? I don't think so - because attraction to me is more holistic - it's not just physical - so once he's in the friend bucket - he is not getting out no matter how good looking he is. I have had plenty of male good friends try to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:34 AM
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I agree - I've had men start talking about how much they like pleasuring women and cunnilingus and it's their favourite thing. They are just saying it, in case it increases their chances of using us as a masturbatory aid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:47 PM
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Getting sexual before we even meet is a massive turn off for me. I presume they are checking to see how much of their time we are going to waste before we let them use our vaginas to masturbate into. I also have to presume - because years ago - I may have put up with it - that some naive women will play along and others actually do also just want sex. They wouldn't do it, if it didn't work sometimes, right? This whole situation is caused by men because they refuse to be clear about their intenti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:46 PM
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He wanted you to feel the same as him about porn and accept that your assumptions are wrong. The great thing about boundaries is that you don't need to convince anyone of anything. You know your line and you hold it. He could easily have a boundary of ''my gf must let me watch porn or we break up'' - which it seems that IS his boundary- but he wants it to be your responsibility. And yeah, the next comment on your attractiveness to you? oooohhh - think of michelle obama - when they go low, we go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:24 AM
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Or the invisible man! That was freaky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:18 AM
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I think they sense which ones they can take advantage of easier. I never get hit on - on my way home on the ferry. But one night after a few drinks - yep, bang. I probably looked tired and able to be taken advantage of (I was tired, lol but not stupid). This guy probably saw you as too smart to fall for his bullshit - as you heard he uses the same spiel on everyone - he tries the most likely first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 04:38 AM
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lol, me too. I thought once blocked - nothing was able to ever get through. This is surprising to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:49 AM
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If he can't rise - don't pull. Kick him out and do the work yourself - it will be easier, quicker and less hassle than getting a dullard to care about their lack of contribution, recognise it and then do something about it. They are already supposed to know this stuff as a fully grown adult man. My son lives with his fiance and his sister (my daughter) and when I stay there, he does not need to be told to wash the dishes etc. he just does stuff - like they all do. Men shouldn't need to be ''game…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:43 AM
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I found her movie ''home again'' abhorrent. Inviting three unknown, homeless scrotes into her home with her two young daughters? This kind of thing is why victim blaming happens and even I would have a hard time not saying ''what did she think was going to happen'' - if her kids ended up molested. Obviously it's a romantic movie so they turned this atrocious potential train wreck into a happily ever after, big conglomerated family deal - which is the actual last thing that would happen in realit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:34 AM
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I don't think they notice they are dissatisfied or realise they have a problem. Neither are they disappointed or frustrated. Trump looks to me like a man who is eminently happy and has no idea that his connections to people are fake and nor does he care. OJ Simpson is definitely not dissatified. I could go on and list hundreds if not thousands of men - even my ex husband. There are absolutely men who do shitty things, have meaningless lives and are totally satisfied with them and don't suffer be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:25 PM
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You're right - I've worked on weight loss trials and the men strip it off so easy, while the women are eating hardly anything - esp. the short post menopausal women. I try to cheer them up by telling them - it's the only thing that men are better at...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:59 PM
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I was curious to see if Elite Daily was affiliated with Elite Singles and may have published this to gain more women on their OLD platform. But they weren't. Instead I found one of the reasons that many young women today are so confused because what the world tells them women should be. Women have MEN telling them who they should be both overtly and covertly. Elite Daily Elite Daily is the ultimate digital destination for millennial women who are discovering the world, and themselves in the proc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:45 PM
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Agreed - they are illogical creatures. And lol, yours was probably butt hurt you didn't need him but coudln't admit it to himself. He was projecting HARD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:56 AM
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They don't want an emotional connection. My ex once said ''you're the one with all the complaints - I don't have any about you'' - he was happy as a pig in mud. He had a free slave and child rearer while he ignored me for days, refused to go anywhere with me, spent hours on his own, barely looked at me. If I asked him a question ''How did you sleep'' he said ''none of your business''. He worked - THE END and I should expect nothing else. To him that was a great relationship and if I wasn't happy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:24 AM
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Voluntary hardship? lol, we know who he is trying to get to volunteer for that in the relationship. I doubt he's experienced one day of actual hardship - hardship is not being a gym bro. Again - another vacant, shallow, empty man who is just fine with who he is. At this point, they are like zombies - all empty and meaningless and wanting to use others until they too, feel empty. He equates being a soft man with being emotionally available. Being present, emotionally open and available and allowi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:55 PM
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Exactly, they aren't having paroxyms of guilt or existensial crises. They are empty inside - they are perfectly happy with who they are and what they've done and don't seek anything deeper. I always find it unsettling when people say - well, they have to live with what they've done - they live with it just fine. I think it makes the victims feel better - it doesn't affect the perp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:45 PM
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Absolutely, yes I can see what you mean .You are correct they don't have inner peace but they also don't miss it - the don't even comprehend it as missing, the way we would. They don't feel bad about lacking meaning or miserable because they'll never be truly loved for themselves - they are devoid of knowledge that life could be deeper. A lot of them feel totatlly satisfied with their shallow lives and who they are - it's societies consequences they don't like. most of their negative feelings ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:52 PM
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I was telling my kids years ago that there is no reason to get married or have kids and yada yada yada, when my youngest child (girl) about 9 I think said '' Well, I have to get married''.. we were all like, no you don't - why do you have to get married? She said '' Because I'm allergic to dishwashing liquid'' (she is). She was going to get married so she had somebody to wash the dishes!! That's my girl.. Anyway - that's when she learned about rubber gloves and dishwashers (better than any man).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:00 PM
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I agree. WTH would you get married for, if you could only guarantee day by day they won't cheat? Marriage is a contract. Don't sign a contract if you don't think you can stick to it - simple. Any man who can't promise forever an still marries is basically tying a woman to him for free labour and sex and saying ''well I'm going to keep my options open''. Nah, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:01 PM
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I really liked it too!! thanks. :) I do think she's a bit naive about terrible men having to ''live with themselves''. My experience has shown me - disgusting, awful men live with themselves just fine - they aren't bothered by anything as pesky as a conscience or shame. I'm pretty amazed by what I see as wasted lives that men live daily - so empty and devoid of richness and depth or an inner life and it doesn't bother them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:54 PM
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I've heard this a lot and I don't understand it. My ex husband even said to me when we were breaking up ''you don't need me'' - my logical reply was ''Isn't that a good thing - it means I'm with you because I want to be and not because I need to be?''. He didn't get it. This was the stage of trying to ''make it work'' - bad mistake. And he then tried to annihilate me financially to get me to crumble. He'd refuse to have the kids so I couldn't work as well. My reply to him trying to drive us all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:57 PM
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Yes, I can totally believe that about trafficking - to get access to women, men will fake feelings. Men acting noble and actually helping a vulnerable woman without expecting anything in return or using her vulnerabiity for his own gains, just appears out of the realms of reality. Even psychologists for rape victims take advantage of their female patients. It's why I only go to women professionals for everything. I'd rather my money go towards someone who has no sexual thoughts about me in any w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:45 PM
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And assault by a partner is more likely for a pregnant woman than the risk of pre-eclampsia. When I read that statistic from the NIH - my whole world tilted. Of all the things we should be worried about in pregnancy - being assaulted in DV shouldn't be one of them. So so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:04 AM
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Overwhelming evidence but men will cling onto their "needs" over our lives and the lives of their sisters, mothers and daughters. Honestly, at this stage their affliction of having no control over a part of their body, should be in the DSMIV and it should be heavily medicated. Testosterone levels are falling worldwide - so there is hope. Won't be in my lifetime though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:46 AM
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How ironic, just got my first inbox from some moron asking what is wrong with ''a man getting a little release from porn''. I teach uni students daily and he wants me to spoon feed him information on why porn is dishonourable and dangerous to girls and women. AND it was on a comment I wrote about how lazy men have become by thinking they are going to be able to brute force and bluster their way through life the way they have for generations. How ironic - me saying men are lazy, that a lazy man w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:38 AM
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When it comes to a meaningful and fulfilling connection with a man that includes exclusive, mutual pleasure, I also feel a deep sadness sometimes. As I'm older and my marriage was a farce, it's really taken me to dig deep and accept that the kind of relationship I feel would be possible with a self aware, honourable man without a gigantic ego is not possible and that I will likely die without experiencing it. It MAY be possible if I put hundreds and hundreds of hours into meeting and vetting men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:21 AM
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I'm glad that I pretty much only work/play in female spaces and in my professional capacity I've only ever had one man I needed to ice out. I've had more problems with male patients being really creepy and having to remain professional and polite, while somebody is pushing your boundaries hard take guts. I'm so upset reading the above story but it doesn't surprise me at all. Men are actually starting to realise that they really are losers - more and more evidence shows that in almost every arena…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:07 AM
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I've found a lot of women in their 40s have definitely let that ''wall'' thing cloud their judgement. Like they HAVE to take the dregs because that's A. all that's left and B. all they can get ''post wall''. I've watched nearly all of my friends put up with absurd behaviour from men just to be in a relationship. I believe it comes from a place of insecurity that they'll never get another man. I've used OLD a long time ago and every single time I've usually been turned off over text first but if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:35 PM
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Wow, Yes, I'd be feeling really wary of marrying a man with such disrespectful friends. Always look at the 4-5 closest people to someone and they'll tell you what kind of person they are. You don't get one ''good guy'' in a bunch of disrespectful arses. Birds of a feather flock together. I'd be tempted to postpone the wedding and take some time to really - with fresh eyes and a clearer head - assess more shrewdly who I'm about to marry. Also, if you haven't noticed this behaviour before in this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:19 PM
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People who don't feel good about themselves constantly strive to drag others into their way off life, in order to give it legitimacy. If others are doing it - it must be OK, right? It's the same for every addiction. I found out very early, that indiscriminate sex wasn't worth it for the feelings I felt the next day and also the risk. I've been celibate for long stretches of my life. This latest one, has lasted 3 years. Prior to that I've gone 6 years. When I'm in a relationship, then I'm "sexual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:32 AM
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There is no way a man would treat another man this way. Your reaction wasn't even as bad as it should be. Why TF should you putting up with somebody pinching you? It's weird, it's uncomfortable and it's your skin! Honestly, to me after working with special needs kids (one of whom had a licking tick - he licked people uncontrollably) - I'd say ''Listen, do you think you may have some cognitive deficits, because I used to work with special children and they also couldn't control their impulses and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:26 AM
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You just described my childhood and marriage. It's so debilitating to not ever be able to have an emotion unless it's total happiness. I'm glad that you are in your 30s and recognising it. Try not to fall into the same habit in relationships, like I did. xo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:17 AM
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lol, I do that now too. ''You're being overly emotional''. It stops them instantly. I also say ''calm down'', a lot. Given OP has brought up Gabby - a dude was a total dick about it the other day and I said, ''you need a shower, go take a shower, you're overwrought, get in the shower, don't be so emotional, don't you think you'd feel better after a shower?''. I just kept repeating it until he STFU. I'm going to add it to my repertoire. Honestly, ladies - I LOVE being 50 - the shit I don't care a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:11 AM
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WTF? That would be terrifying no matter what colour that arsehole was. Surely, there is a law against this? I was right - Intimidation or harassment may constitute a criminal offence under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 in England & Wales or the Protection from Harassment . I hope she goes to the cops, they find this video and he gets charged. Reality - cops will say ''not really worth it".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:23 AM
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lol, I would not take that bet because you'd be sure to win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:26 AM
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They're going full systems rogue. The internet has made them lose all sense of normalcy. He probs expected you to respond like his favourite internet fictional women would respond, lol.. I think it's great - it's so much easier to weed them out now. The 80s/90s were a mess of subterfuge. Guys these days can't even gauge what's wrong or right in public - they've messed themselves up badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:40 AM
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Gah, the easiest way to shut this down is to start evaluating the men and comparing only great men to her husband. Men are hypocrites - it's their single, unifying trait. They can dish it out but very ,very rarely can they take it. They WOULD NEVER put up with the same shit they expect you to. If a man says 'how about anal'. you say ''you first''. If a man says swinging, you say ''great, let's look at the other guys and see how hung they are''. It shuts it down immediately. The next step of cour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:28 AM
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I've got to say - I love music and singing. Singing in an environment of 'everything you do is wrong and I'm gonna sit here and glower until your mood is dampened' really sucked. Once he was gone - we all sang, walking around, cleaning, cooking, whatever. Now, I only live with my youngest daughter and I LOVE hearing her moving around the place and singing. It's really brightens my day. Even our neighbour has commented on it. I can't shit on this dude for his love and I enjoy reading something po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:18 AM
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Yes, and ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:55 AM
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There is absolutely no way that last guys clock, is as good as mine. What a braggart. :P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:05 AM
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Anyone at anytime could go through all my stuff - and my kids know my pins and passwords and vice versa - and nothing I do is going to 'squick' someone out. If my partner is not the same - then I don't want him. Yes, if you suspect - you should snoop. We need to protect ourselves from sneaky men. Their privacy comes secondary to our safety. If I ever found anything like that on a partners device, my respect for him would nosedive so far that I wouldn't be able to be with him. She needs to leave …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:19 AM
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Be nice. Smile. Also - don't be nice or smile - or your boyfriend will get jealous and kill you. A had a guy once who couldn't even take it if I spoke to a cab driver. He was constantly telling me I was too nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:08 AM
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Meanwhile, men of the 90s: https://imgur.com/a/5Q6e2tq
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:09 AM
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Meanwhile - men from the 90s be like: https://imgur.com/a/llJbSFF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:50 PM
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They've got a real problem with 'non natural coloured' hair on women. To them it appears to signal ''woke, feminist'' - the worst things a woman can be, apparently. I absolutely think, it's seething jealousy that A. Women have hair and B. They get to have it any colour they like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:33 PM
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Yeah, this type of indifference to somebody's feeling is death by a thousand paper cuts. Each one will be argued as 'you're being too sensitive/emotional'' and ''it's no big deal'' - until one day it is. I too, wish that day had come a lot sooner for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:30 AM
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Everyone who even has discussion or meeting about my work or gives me advice in any way, ends up as an author on my papers and vice versa. There is a strict protocol and order for the amount of work and order of authorship in academia - there is NO WAY that if someone did my research for me and then I wrote the manscript that they would not be equal first author on that paper. And anyway - that's just really shady - we expect first authors to do their own research - they may use research assista…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:16 AM
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I think the biggest myth that men have is that a woman who is ''alone'' is 1. actually alone and 2. pathetic. Women grow and nurture strong relationships and have much stronger and more nourishing friendships than men - so we don't need them for that - like they need us. Women when left alone are able to function at a higher level because our time is freed from all the things a relationship takes from us. They don't seem to get, that we put in far more of ourselves, thoughts, actions and time th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:02 AM
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If only!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:59 AM
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When a man is happy you're going out with someone other than him, so he can stay home - that should be the end. But it often isn't - it will go on for years more with him defending his position and absolutely not understanding just how devastating this is to her feelings of the importance she holds in his life. This will erode her and he won't even know the divorce is looming, as he digs in his heels. Essentially - at this fork in the road he has chosen football and divorce over keeping a marria…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:12 AM
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It doesn't really down here - you have all the same legal right as a wife - if you live with someone for 12 mths in Aus. and I think live with definition is 3 or more nights a week - so you could be spending only 4 night a week for a year and have the same legal rights - So that really wouldn't work - she could still take half your stuff, even if you never married her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:44 AM
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Ok - Ima tap out for the day. I thought it wouldn't escalate today beyond photoshopping a MIL head onto porn. I was wrong. What even are men? Something has gone so wrong with them - it's getting so far beyond my ken and my head hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:40 AM
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Terrible. I don't have much love for cops - a lot of them are just legal bullies and predators hiding in plain sight. RIP Sarah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:36 AM
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He's a straight up rapist - he has bragged about having sex with women too drunk/passed out to consent. When he was going to come to Australia - there was a HUGE backlash and Australia wide petitions (yes, I signed) and our Immigration Minister said he would be denied entry, if he tried. He is a failed human - he belongs where all failed/broken things go to die - the dump - under a few hundred metric tonne of garbage. We also denied entry to Gavin McInnes from the Proud Boys when he wanted to co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:19 PM
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Yeah, I was all teen-agey angst over leaving society blah, blah, blah and when I found that out about Thoreau - not long after because I always want to know the person behind the story - I was just so embittered. Crushed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:52 AM
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Yes, another female co-worker measured the stairs tread (horizontal part) and height (how high you step) and she showed they were actually different heights and treads- I think that was more a shocking building job (our city is well known to have corrupt building practices that have pushed through shoddy plans, in favour of developers) - the building cost millions but when it rains, the toilets back up so I'm not really surprised by the stairs - even though the main staircase is the ''feature'' …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:24 AM
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If I could give any message: One for you to remember - It's going to be OK and you'll be Alright. I sent this to my niece after a few months of us still struggling with my sister (her mum) dying (she said it helped - I hope it will help you): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5-KJgVsoUM Lol, also I'm super old. I made my kid listen to the War of the Worlds (H.G. Wells) soundtrack by Jeff Wayne(narrated by Richard Burton) the other day. I remember being scared out of my head, as a kid listening to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:41 AM
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''Walk around a mall'' - to me, malls are business only. You stressfully find a free park, you get in, you get out. Yes, my daughters hate me for it, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:22 AM
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Ooohhh - I'm going to see if I can find it. Australia is a Bast*** about giving us media in the same century as the northern hemisphere - unless we pay by gold or stealth. I have neither.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:07 AM
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Haha - it would be so telling that most of them would actually CHOOSE to do it. We wouldn't even have to force them, lol... Sad but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:11 AM
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Phew - that totally explains why I keep falling up AND down stairs....... It's astounding to me when men cry foul about them not being able to learn in the education system. I laugh my head off - "Dude, we weren't even allowed to go to school! This whole system was set up for you! Then we came in ON YOUR TERMS and started beating you at your own game (statistics show boys learn better with girls but not vice versa) and now you're crying like babies. If you don't like it - change it" And you know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:00 AM
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I'm not surprised. I was forced into an abortion after my marriage by my own husband. I know other women who have been forced into abortion as well. It's also a statistic that a womans first experience of violence in her relationship is most often when she is pregnant - again, I fall neatly into overwhelming statistics. They marry you, they impregnate you and THEN they start abusing you. Reproductive abuse is rife. I read a published article the other day that cited statistics that pregnant wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 01:25 PM
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You should read ''Facing the wind'' by Julie Salamon. About Bob Rowe - a lawyer who killed his whole family (including his special needs son) and pleaded insanity because his son was special needs. He got it, spent less than 10 years in an institution - got out and started another family. It's written in a SYMPATHETIC tone to him by the author and the tone that sympathises with the horror of what he did, shows exactly how men with ''special needs'' children are seen by society as a whole. They m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:49 PM
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Dear Reddit, I'm a f***ing hypocrite, but I've come to seek solace in the hypocrisy centre of the universe, otherwise known as ''the male viewpoint'' or ''the male experiences''. Please accept my submission of complete and utter hypocrisy and shield me from the depths of cognitive dissonance. Thanking my fellow men - for our hypocrisy shall be never ending and a nipple we can all find succour upon. Regards, another generic hypocrite who will dish it out in spades but ShALl NeVer Take It!! All va…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:15 PM
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Ugh, I hate marriage advice directed towards women, to bend themselves into a pretzel. There should be more marriage advice of ''Just leave'' - especially when there are no kids. Men leave at the slightest infraction, they are all too willing to expect forgiveness but give none when the shoe is on the other foot. I'll never bend myself to try and get somebody to see my worth again.. Go where you're wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:49 AM
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I really wish I did - because it was such a succinct page that she got me to read. But I do really like Lundy Bancrofts book and George Simon 'in sheep's clothing' and I believe at the time I also read Patricia Evans 'the verbally abusive relationship' and also another great read was ''psychopath free'' by Peace. I'm sorry I can't be of more help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:00 AM
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People are still out there saying ''we don't know if he's done anything wrong, yet'' - OMFG!! My mind is almost breaking with the delusional thinking these people have and yes a lot of them are women. I feel like we are screaming into a void and getting echoes back when it comes to male violence, abuse and rape. And it seems so obvious to me, that I don't know how they can't see it, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 07:36 AM
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Yes, I only give one go - if it doesn't gel straight away I move on. That being said - I also make sure I develop a close connection with my primary health carer and she knows to only refer me to other women, that have good reputations. It took me quite a few GPs to get to her, though. But when I move somewhere new, I consciously build a strong group of women around me both personally and professionally. It takes time, but it's worth it. I'm sorry therapy didn't work for you. I think I can safel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 07:26 AM
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I realised I was really turning my friends off and our stories about our respective husbands etc. were so starkly different. So I paid to go to a psychologist (I only go to female professionals, drs, lawyers, etc etc). She said why are you here. I said 'because I need an outlet and don't want to annoy my friends''. Within the first ten minutes, she stopped me, said "take that book off the shelf behind your head and open it to page.... and read it... it that what your marriage is like?". I read i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:43 AM
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Why would you try to educate? He isn't a child. Yes, grey rock. If you must be around him (eg. work, family) make your communication short and utilitarian. You don't have time in your life to put up with this. Also, if he does it even when you are keeping communication utilitarian, my go to is to say "I beg your pardon, could you repeat that?" and make him repeat it - they NEVER ever do and it usually stops them making those remarks around you. As soon as they have to say it again - it shows how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:50 PM
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I've now seen a number of male body language experts on youtube and every single one shows me I'll be dead before women are taken seriously about domestic violence. Some of them are outlandish in the things they are saying about Gabby and their judgement of her. They are so far off it just seems like wilfull ignorance, spite or both at this point. Edited to add : I watched his and he is the first man I've seen that has been able to see through Brians act, esp. him laughing when they told him he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:24 PM
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Proven wrong time and time again. Proven: we make better doctors (more empathy), better drivers of cars and huge trucks (women are now preferred drivers of big trucks in Aust. because they treat the vehicles better and they don't wear out as fast), this list could go on and on. What we aren't better at is violence - that's pretty much the only thing men outstrip us at by far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:09 PM
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Same. Not sure if I'll ever try again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:47 PM
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Not sure? How much does anonymous sperm cost from a clinic? I'd rather have sperm that had been screened, personally. But the premise of having a child without a Dad - I can certainly agree with. My kids filled and still do fill me with joy and all of our lives would have been better without their father. Once he was out of the house - our lives improved immeasurably - except financially but they still tell me they were glad he was gone. His presence was oppressive. The energy of our home totall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:36 PM
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Good on you. I'm not Jewish but there is no way I would let a holocaust joke slide, EVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:32 PM
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Instead of seeing women and girls as having mental health issues, or psychiatric disorders after being abused and violated, a trauma informed perspective would support those women and girls as being traumatised by the repeated acts of violence, and treat their trauma in the following ways: Their trauma is normal Their trauma is justified Their trauma is proportionate Their trauma is rational Therefore, instead of seeing trauma responses as abnormal, disproportionate, unjustified and irrational b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:04 PM
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It's just so tiring. Why even are they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:52 AM
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Yeah, he was punching way above his weight and he knew it. He was jealous of her and tried to make sure she never realised she was better than him in every single way. I agree - never date down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:40 AM
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OOh yeah, I used to get that a lot. Abusers hate you having any emotion that isn't happiness. I spent 20 years pretending I was happy, happy, happy!! whenever he was around to try and combat the oppressive dark scowling and mood he brought into the house - but outside -why - he was the nicest guy EvEr. If you cry that's bad and heaven forbid you are EVER annoying about anything - especially anything they do (usually on purpose). We need to start normalising crying as a normal response. We need t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:30 AM
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I just looked that up - good grief - the horror!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:02 AM
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In my mind always, is that almost every single man has a secret - and just a light scratch on the surface will unearth, ungodly trespasses and horrors. Whether it's him pushing his first girlfriend for sex when he was a teenager, the horrible things he watches and on and on and on - there is always something. It's really hard coming to that realisation but it's necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:01 AM
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I agree but in this case the father made this go viral and because she had so much onlin presence people had something to grab onto. If it wasn't for all the media - she would not have been found so quickly - let alone at all - if those campers hadn't seen all the coverage and gone through their footage. There are down sides for sure - but there were some advantages to it blowing up and it does seem it was her Dad, that really kicked that ball off and then it had a momentum of it's own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:54 AM
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If you felt harassed - you were harassed. Full stop. Don't let others try to talk you out of the way you ''should'' feel. I've been touched so many times by men, without my permission. I've been licked, grabbed, spat on, spoken to, shouted at, by complete strangers. Last year a man grabbed my breasts - it was only this time, I finally went to the cops. They already knew because they had it on CCTV and 3 other women had complained. They had wondered who was the one who happened to be recorded was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:51 AM
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I've found this to be a big difference in city and country people. People in the city think any small friendliness is flirting but when I go home to my island, I can revert back to eye contact and good mornings when I walk because they are all doing it too. I don't look at anyone when I'm walking in the city or it's surrounding suburbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:22 PM
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NGOs also found that in giving money or aid to men, he took it and helped himself. NGOs now give aid to women because it has been documented and found that if women get aid, the whole community benefits because they then help children and their spouses. Men are documented as being selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 10:56 AM
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Yes, I've become so sad over my lifetime that because of men, I have been unable to experience a mutually empowering relationships, where we both hold each other up and celebrate each other and our sex lives would be based on mutual enjoyment and deep, emotional connection. They always ruin it. Passive aggressiveness, competition, game playing, violence, lying - they can't adore women the way we would adore them, if we didn't have to be protecting ourselves all the time. They always need to feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:42 PM
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Yes, exactly. Boys would also hide under stairs and try to look up our skirts. They thought it was funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:22 PM
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Even if a man ''provides'' you the ability to stay home and care 24/7, around the clock through child birth, sleeplessness etc, they then f*** you over because they are usually entitled arseholes who leave you and you are then poor without any experience to get a job. They see it as ''taking all the stuff they worked for'' if you even get anything - they do not see any of the contribution you made for decades. I would NEVER tell a young woman today to give up her job to have children with a man.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:11 PM
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I've been doing this since school - 40 years ago. And my daughters do it - they chose to wear the boys shorts as a school uniform. It's actually rare for us to wear skirts or dresses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:53 PM
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It's not worth it. They always try something on and then become resentful. It's definitely seen as you leading them on and they will blame you. I've only ever kept one friend through a process like this and it's because he is the exception, not the norm. The rest are big, entitled babies who can't understand why you won't f*** them - because really, this is what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:48 PM
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Don't we have parades and medals and days for men who go and fight other men in the wars that men make with each other? Then in my country, they get the best health care. So yes, they are treated like kings for doing something that is stupid - war is stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:23 AM
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Absolutely - they have conditioned their brains to protect themselves from their own depravity and hypocrisy. The level of delusion is off the charts when it comes to porn. And if I hear the word ''need'' in relations to their PP, one more time, I think I may scream!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:01 PM
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Can you imagine how butthurt a man would get if you did this to him? The mantrums would be extreme. He would probably dump her. This is why men are hypocrits - they sure know how to dish it out but they abso-fricken-lutely cannot take it. I think their hypocrisy is the thing I hate the most and the fact that they are completely self-delusional when it come to level of hypocrisy most of them have for their own behaviours and what they will put up with from women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:46 PM
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life is not supposed to be utilitarian. When our society devalues art and arts contributions, we all suffer. We should not view life only via our own lens. This is how dictators and extremists are borne. I am a scientist, one of my children did a fine arts degree (despite winning a national prize for science!) and is a talented artist. She works in an exclusive resort for the rich (she has to sign non disclosure agreements about some of the guests) that has nothing to do with art. However, they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:03 PM
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Well it would have helped me having my journal - no man who has ever been with me and f***ed me over would want my journal, my texts to them or any emails I've sent, to ever see the light of day. They couldn't afford what I've journalled to be made public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:01 AM
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They are Australian. There was a segment on him on 60 minutes that I watched recently. He really is a HVM - but this was taken ages ago so it's unlikely his wife is still alive. She had dementia and he was her carer. He adored her. I admit I had tears in my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:52 PM
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9 year olds need routine. They should definitely be fed and in bed asleep well before midnight! No wonder he is whiny. I think sons of single mothers grow up more responsible. I think it's more a reflection on him being the youngest and not because he's male. I think there is a definite trend of the youngest child getting it easier and being more lazy - lol, you can tell I had a little sister who got away with everything and was lazy! I find when kids know what they are supposed to do, are taugh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:30 PM
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I don't think it's OK for men to have pubes growing out of their faces. The whole idea of having course, wirey hair literally coming out of their face makes me cringe. Back hair? No way. I really don't like hairy guys. And they smell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:01 PM
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95% of men - if you just slightly scratch the surface, you're going to find horror. They have a very thin veneer over heinous hypocritical horrors, I have found. I often wonder what is is like for them having to pretend to be so much, to so many, while knowing all the other stuff they consume, think and do.. Except - they protect themselves from themselves and never once use self reflection to shine a light on their own shallow characters - in most cases, they actually believe thier own lies and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:32 AM
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As someone who lived a toxic marriage for decades always ''trying to get over and move on'' after each incident. It can never go backwards from the first incident. It's over and they should accept the mess and separate for good. It's a dreadful, wasteland when trying to make a toxic marriage work. If my ex and I had split the first time he was an abuser, I may have been able to have a cordial relationship with him as the father of my children. But NO, marriage is sacred and needs to be worked on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:06 AM
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I never got him. I grew up in the 80s when goth was huge - went to goth clubs, had goth friends. But this dude is ugly and has always looked evil to me. Most of the male goths I knew were actually pretty gentle souls who had crap childhoods. As with any male cohort there will be true evil among them and there was, usually in the form of the older creepier men that hung around abused goth kids. Manson looks evil and is just plain ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:15 PM
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"It wasn't my intention'' - I heard this for over 2 decades. Guess what? The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:55 PM
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lol, the last date I went on - as soon as I saw him I made sure I paid half or more for everything. At the end of the night he couldn't wait to see me again and he LOVED how I took turns to pay.... The first few minutes I was with him I knew I had no interest - me paying was his death knell and he never even knew it. If I want to see a guy again - I'll let him pay.. If not, I pay my way and never speak to them again. I honestly never have a problem with men paying - I think it's a generational t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:52 PM
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Two words - SUCKED IN!! I knew from the age of 16 that casual sex and ONS felt like shit and I never, ever wanted to go there. It's so easy not to. He f***ed himself up and I meet men all the time that are no longer able to have a relationship - they have cheated and shit on people so much, that they no long trust anybody because they think everybody else has cheated and shit on people too. This makes them unable to connect on an intimate level or trust anybody. Any basic human knows that doing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:42 PM
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I agree - by instinct when we care about someone our effort goes up. And so often without us even realising we are running on a treadmill, while they stroll alongside. When you realise the input effort to show care, respect and love has become mismatched - in an effort to bring theirs up, we do MORE..... and they do less. This is the moment to cut your losses - not after repeated CoMMuNiCatIion...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:29 AM
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As I mentioned before every man I have met has been a hypocrite. Most would never put up with the treatment that they dish out. They have a sliding scale for themselves and a hard line for women. They give themselves a pass on such shitty behaviour. Men who buy women to use for their d***s but revile those same women or who watch porn but wouldn't want their daughters doing it make me sick to my stomach. To be clear, I sure wouldn't want my daughters doing it either but I don't consume any porn …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:38 PM
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''We put on a front'' - lol, except it's completely empty behind that front. It's a shop front with and empty store. You scratch the surface and NADA. So many men walk around without anything inside them. It's like a desolate wasteland! And no, we don't grow into empathy - anyone can tell children have natural empathy just by watching them. It's the ones who hurt animals etc that are showing derangement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:33 PM
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I find that wealthy men have no problem splashing cash on me - so no problems there. Overall, through all my experiences if has come down to respect. A HVM to me can have any income or height, but he must respect me and contribute the same energy to the relationship, have empathy and above all, be kind. I have met very few men who once in a relationship continue on as the same person they started as. Especially once children come along - and they cannot see the extra workload of their spouse. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:27 PM
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Yes, if I have cash on me, I usually tip in Australia. My daughter works in hospitality - so I know she would never get a tip via a credit card. It's getting harder considering everyone wants you to pay with card now due to covid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:32 PM
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I've never met a HV Dean. Maybe we should have a list of red flag names? Dean would top the list (esp. in Aus).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:30 PM
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Did he think showing you the tattoo would make him appear more desirable? I had a guy once tell me he had 4 children to 4 different women in an effort to make himself seem more desirable. I immediately thought he was trash. Also found out later he had LIED about it. He made up a lie that made him instant trash but he honestly thought it made him more desirable?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:28 PM
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lol, You could go even simpler - just "I am a carbon based lifeform. You?'' If he has to look that up - then you know he's an amoeba.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:16 PM
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As an Australian, reading all these tip stories scares me. I'm so afraid of going to another country and inadvertantly doing the wrong thing. If you have a job - that job should pay you a proper wage. I wonder what would happen if en masse, every single waiter/waitress went on strike until you got a minimum wage. Even my daughter at 17 was getting AU$25 - paid to her as cash in hand (yes, illegal) for washing dishes in a restaurant. An inexperiences waitress in AU gets $19.50/hr Mon-Fri, on publ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:04 PM
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I refuse to ever have another relationship where the other deploys the silent treatment to avoid discussion or as punishment because you said something they can't handle. eg. You hurt me when you.............. I endured it for over 20 years in my marriage and it is cruel. The next man I met who tried it even once - I broke up with him straight away. I will not have head games played on me. If you want to be with me, you need to be an adult, put your big boy adult brain on and be ready to engage …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:35 PM
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She and his family are already making excuses for his attempted murder and this will be written off as an anomaly and not the norm with football players - which it is. I don't understand why woman like footballers. I worked one night as a promotions girl at a football game over 30 years and that was enough for me to decide I wanted nothing to do with any man ever who watches, plays or is attached to football in any way(managers, coaches etc). I have a friend who almost entirely dates footballers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:22 PM
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I wish they would all get convicted of statutory rape. They all deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 06:34 PM
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I don't think this question is very well thought out. It's way too general. Do you know an over 50s middle class white woman (I presume that's the demographic you are talking about when using the slur Karen) who has kicked somebody in the balls and then lied about it? Edited to add: this slur, IMHO is being used way to liberally to shut down older womens valid complaints. The extreme examples that have made the news are just that - extreme and cannot be generalised to the general population of o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:55 PM
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I have wild curly hair - I usually wear it curly. In my 40s I decided to go to job interviews, publicly speak, etc. the way I was going to continue - with my curly hair. Surprisingly, it hasn't been a hindrance. I've always complained it makes me look unprofessional and messy, but maybe it's something we are internalising ourselves because of all the ''straight hairs'' around us? I used to wear it glued to my head and up in a tight bun - now when I do that, nobody recognises me because they are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:36 PM
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Back I also don't behave this way with my brother - ewww. But my ex husband and sisters are next level - exactly like this. It totally skeeved me out visiting them and watching them together. He definitely treated his sisters better than he ever treated me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:20 PM
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My ex husband loved me doing this and it would have been harder to get rid of him. I can't go against my self respect like I did in that marriage - if a behaviour is coming at a cost to my self respect now, I simply won't do it. Hence why I will not be friends with my kids Dad - I have explained and they totally agree that I shouldn't have to continue to entertain his presence with niceness because he is their Dad. I will never do this. I just go silent and leave now. If that didn't work - I'd c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:35 AM
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The projection of us being animals who act on instinct is very real. They can't comprehend we don't have the same urges to destroy, hurt, maim etc. I tried to explain to an ex who wanted me to read a book about overcoming the ''chimp brain'' that made people do bad shit, that I don't really have an internal conflict that I have to fight against, that makes me cheat, hurt or lie to people. And that it's pretty easy for me not to do those things to the people I love or in my workplace etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:20 AM
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The problem with men, is they don't speak about their hardships or feelings BEFORE they do something catastrophic to the relationship. They do terrible shit and then use their previously unvoiced hardships to justify their shitty behaviour. If they addressed their hardships healthily before they undermined and destroyed their relationships and made her a proper partner and she still said ''nah, it has nothing to do with me'', then they may have a point. But that is not what happens 99% of the ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:16 AM
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Woah, that was a wild ride. He found her/it tied up and instead of compassion - he felt horny. Also technically the male hybrid at the end had half her DNA - so that rape was also incest. Whoever dreamt this story up is disturbed. Also, I don't know any lab that expensive where 2 lone scientists could get away with working in such secrecy from their bosses or anyone else. There would surely be security cameras around at the very least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:44 PM
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And the other saying that goes with this one that my mother used to say "Money can't buy taste" or ''Money can't buy class''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:23 PM
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Shows very clearly that men who choke and hurt you during sex, can do so because they have no respect for you. They HATE you when you allow them to hurt you. BDSM'ers are gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:23 PM
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If she has ever watched or been around a Type 1 having a low - she would know that they go into survival mode and start eating like a maniac, in order to safe their own lives. There is no way, if he is so low that his cognitive functions are that compromised that he would be ABLE TO HAVE SEX and thus USE glucose without ending up in a coma. He is a LIAR and using his illness to rape his wife. I bet when he's low at other AKA real times eg. during the day - he eats or drinks something - doesn't w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:17 PM
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We legally have cooling off periods in Aust. Even on home contracts we have cooling off periods otherwise the contract is illegal. I would not sign a contract that had no cooling off period. I would wonder what the catch was. These shaky economic times have people feeling desperate and I hope he can get himself out of the financial situation he has found himself in. People do suicide over financial situations so I'm sure it's something that you really need to take notice of. I'm glad you were ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:45 AM
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I saw that. That ugly, hideous man also flew to Australia to leave his sperm all over the place. He is travelling the world giving his sperm away. PUKE> You can check out how ugly he is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGhbcTGZmkI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:22 PM
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No. I have a son and 2 daughters. All of them are responsible. Teenagers are more influenced by their peers - you need to keep an eye on who their friends are. Also, my son is my oldest and his sister was born 15 months behind him and she was a WILD toddler, lol. I was always running after her - I guess that level of responsible paid off in him. Now she is a very talented artist, so all that drawing on walls paid off! All my kids are adults. My son lives with his sister and the same girlfriend h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:49 AM
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Yes, that's what I ended up doing. And immediately, my workload got lighter and our household became much more joyful. What an energy suck husbands are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:24 AM
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I remember my ex husband asking me ''why the h*** he should get anything for me for mothers day, because I wasn't his f****** mother'' despite all the fathers day gifts HE got. I managed one year to get a sleep in. To get this, I got up early , packed the bag you have to take everywhere with young kids, got the kids ready, fed them and they were basically at the door ready to put in the car. All he had to do is take them to the park. I went back to bed for an hour. He came back crowing how many …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:36 AM
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Yeah, I caught that caveat on his emotions as well. Weird - to have to qualify having emotions in a 'manly way'. What even does that mean? Yes, her leaving a safe country to go to a COVID ravaged hellscape for a man is a huge red flag. How many years building a career etc. is this going to set her back? And what thanks will she get when he thinks HE is the one being generous by letting her live in his place? If she was my daughter, I doubt that trip would have happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:27 AM
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Haha - or we could go the quadfecta : Holding a stubby, wearing stubbies, a wife beater and thongs.... Add in black wrap around raybans and you've won!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:51 AM
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From one of the safest countries in the world to one going through a hellish second wave. We won't let her back in without a strict quarantine, costing her thousands. Very poorly timed. She had to go there because he could not have come here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:03 AM
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Education : School of Hard Knocks (Aussie slang for ''I look down on education'' Wearing a wife beater ( aussie slang for bonds singlet - dark blue or white) Sitting in car with dark sunglasses on photos of cars Fishing and camping - hard no middle finger up or any rude gesture in bed - nope any question anzwered with 'nunya'' meaning none of your business
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:47 AM
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First mistake is using text as a means to have conversations. Texts are for quick nothing messages. Never have serious conversations over text - they have the ability to go totally wrong without the nuance of tone. He should have phoned her as soon as he saw that long text to discuss her concerns. He didn't and that is a sign she should give up. That is one of my non negotiables in relationships - phone calls or in person, no long texts about problems in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:11 PM
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In Aus laying pipe means taking a shit - so this had an entirely other meaning for me........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:31 AM
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I just can't. Does his new gf know he is doing this? Is she complicit? Are there two such low class, evil, dumpsters of humans together who have made a child? This world is doomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:32 PM
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And they all rate their dicks as something so precious and great and yet will literally put it through a hole in a wall, into god knows what. I said that to my ex - if you love your dick so much, why do you not give a crap where you put it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 10:13 AM
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Um, applying to jobs in academia is no small matter. The applications are hard and the positions are very competitive. You don't do that and if you get it - then think about taking it. You take it. I don't mean to rain on your parade but applying for academia jobs in another country is a red flag and I don't think he's being 100% honest. A fellow academic did something similar to a girl he was dating here - never told her at the end of this stint here he was required by this govt. to go back hom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:07 PM
8

He smoked. He let his teeth fall out despite my entreaties for him to go to the dentist (we had plenty of money). He never washed his hands (left black marks all over the walls). He called me names constantly, was surly and told me to f*** off , at least weekly. Is that enough reasons why I wouldn't want him touching me? In fact, because I still did love him (puke, what was I thinking?) and desired sex, we still had sex that I instigated (after he showered) and I had drunk quite a few wines. Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:23 AM
19

I just pretend I don't even know who they are. I ignore them. They are dead to me. The fact I don't acknowledge their existence means 100% of the time, they have never approached me. That's just how I want it. They are too unsure of themselves to even take their chances approaching me. If they did - I'd be "Sorry, do I know you?". If it was my ex husband of over 20 years? I'd do exactly the same and he knows it. He stays away. If at something for our kids. I do not speak to him and behave pleasa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:33 PM
17

On a date with a guy and he asked if I ever went to bars on my own. I said, I don't go drinking in bars on my own". He said "Then why are you drinking with me right now?". (1 glass of wine) Um, we are on a date?, I'm single and this is not a bar?... Talk about a red flag - I could see the control issues a mile away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:36 AM
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My ex if I complained about his abuse would say ''what about when I did....."'. which would not be anything big just normal stuff you're supposed to do. In the end I didn't want him to do anything for me because he used it as tokens to cancel abusive actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:57 PM
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lol, then even her parents are dumb. She did this for clout (and no mistake, I was petrified watching this) but as a parent, I encourage my kids to call the cops. Only a dumb parent would do otherwise. Although, I was sexually assaulted last year and I didn't go to the cops until my daughter encouraged me to, because of past experiences with them not giving a damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:45 AM
9

My mum kicked me out when I was 16. She said the minute I finish high school, I'm out. It is not always the kids fault. This kids looks scared and alone. Exactly how I felt. My mum was a psycho - and then I went and married someone just like her. Didn't even know I was being abused for years because it was normal to me. Nothing in this video indicates this kid did anything bad enough to be kicked out. Even if my son or daughters had turned into a drug addicts I would not have abandoned them - I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:12 PM
8

This is horrifying. That poor girl/woman. Being told that and then being told that they can't examine me would mess with my head so much, I'd fear insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:57 PM
6

feministcurrent.com - are links allowed here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:03 PM
5

Yes, I had an ex who also did that with me and also took me to his work (business owner) and would disappear - at least, I could do my own work there. But trailing after him while he shopped and looked for things for his properties, bored me to tears and wasted my time. I have a life that doesn't include being a pet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:01 PM
17

It's now her professional name. He should have no say in that. Frankly, it's none of his business and him having a problem with it, is a huge red flag. I'd be wary of keeping in in my life. I separated just before I got my degree after 20 years of marriage. There was NO WAY I was going to have my husbands name on my degree after the roadblocks he put in place that caused our separation. I fought hard to get my degree in my maiden name considering we weren't divorced yet and have now changed my n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:51 PM
5

The best thing you can do when you are a single mother, is not let any man near your children ever. I didn't date while my children were growing up. No man entered my home. It's as simple as that. It makes life easier and your children will thank you for the safety you gave them. Please keep your child safe - it's an incredibly creepy thing to say to a mother of a child. I would kick him out and never speak to him again. The creep meter went WAY off the charts. You have to be aware that pedos wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:20 PM
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If this was genuine research he would have a study number and an ethics approval number. There would also be a part that tells you the purpose of the study and explains consent etc. and that participating means you have consented. There would also be a contact in the university you could contact to discuss the study more prior to consent. This is absolutely not real research - this is some kid hoping to get some dirt to take back to his shitty subreddit like a triumphant toad. That he doesn't kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:00 PM
12

He should rent a mum, like they do in Japan. You can rent a whole family plus friends in Japan. No sex allowed though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:28 PM
9

This is why, in Australia, I love compulsory uniforms. No worrying about clothing. My girls chose to wear the boys uniform in primary and high school. Shorts and a shirt, throughout their schooling. This was allowed and conformed to the dress code.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:48 PM
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They spend so much time trying to manipulate situations and other people, both women and men and yet women get the label 'manipulative''. Men are the most manipulative POS's on Earth. Everything has an angle and nothing is straight up. And when you don't play games they simply don't believe you because they are such manipulative a-holes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:06 AM
9

Bit different when you're over 40 and have kids, IMHO. I sure didn't want to be on his FB and I didn't want him on mine until at least a year in. We don't treat FB the same and a lot of us, don't want our private lives all over social media. It feels like a huge invasion of privacy. We don't use insta outside of business and reading stories disjointed by a word count on twitter is just plain annoying. I barely post anything or spend much time on there and after watching The Social Dilemma, I'll …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:52 AM
9

And this is why I work out at home. They lose my money and my business. I try to only hire women, I only see women healthcare providers, I only have women bosses, I chose women supervisors for my honours and PhD. If I want to buy something, I try to ensure my money goes to a woman. I don't buy designer shit that is made by men. It's a con job. I would go to a woman only gym but they are not plentiful or close. I have never felt more supported after deciding to surround my personal, academic and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:29 AM
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They also suck in Australia AND New Zealand (married a Kiwi - divorced a Kiwi)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:14 PM
5

You should ask if he'll get a vasectomy and then get it reversed when you are ready to have kids. Or he could put his sperm on ice and get a vasectomy. I wonder what his answer will be. Why does he have a say in what you do with your own biological processes? Also BC doesn't cause abortions and in any case abortion is none of his business because he doesn't have a uterus. It is time for you to talk to a caring, health professional about your reproductive health and options. PS. I would never tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:49 PM
45

As a parent who went through my ex getting a girlfriend who he used as a free babsitter. The 'drama'' was mainly around that they didn't know her, I didn't know her and if he wasn't even going to be there why were MY kids HAVING to be in that house. She smoked over them, she eats junk food etc. I am the better parent and if he couldn't free up his time to do his part of the parenting then I wanted them with me. NOPE - and that was drama - me trying to protect my kids. I would bet this is why the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:52 PM
5

Correct! I'm dressed to the nines most days(tailored pants, collared nice shirts and suit jackets with leather shoes or boots) and even other women say things like 'they saw me walking ahead and didn't say anything' - intimating, that I looked intimidating. Of course, I say - 'Just say hello - i will always reciprocate with you - I'm just wearing my armour''. Others who are closer, know it's because I have been touched, groped and licked and dress in a way to make sure I'm unapproachable. Mostly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:35 AM
8

I had my last kid when I was 29. I'm now 49. Two of my kids are out of the house. Pros: I love having adult children. Cons: No career, at the total mercy of a disinterested spouse, poor etc. I am now starting a career and doing everything backwards. My colleagues are years younger than me and in a way, I think it keeps me young. Nobody thinks I'm my age and yes, to my daughters hatred, we get 'mistaken' for sisters. Just a dumb pick up line that pisses her off.! If I could go back in time, I wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:56 AM
12

Most men have and do totally waste their whole existence on earth on meaningless, shallow stuff. Women have the ability to rise above being basic rutting animals and we can be FREE of our biology making us slavering, violent animals. We have deeper and richer relationships with our children and friends - so much deeper. I would hate to have the disgusting shit inside my head that most men are walking around with. I remember an ex of mine getting me to read a book that he thought was the best - I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:18 PM
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There is no such thing as focussing too much on med school. Women have to be 5x productive as men to be seen as equal. Focus on your school, not what some older scrote is doing. Keep him at arms length and if he is useful to your future, maintain civility for professional reasons. Otherwise, get your future for yourself sorted - this should not entail finding a man. A man will only subscript you to do duty to his own career. Good luck in your wonderful, lifelong career!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:30 AM
3

I usually just try to have a normal conversation with them and the crush goes away immediately. They open their mouth and something stupid always comes out and my attraction is crushed. If I can't get to know them, I just use the crush feelings to work on myself as you are doing. But in my experience, talking to a man makes me not want anything to do with him and from there is is easy. Eg. I kinds liked some man in my professional group but he insists on mispronouncing my name. Attraction dead a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:39 PM
2

I detest it. I was married for 24 years and by the end I thought 'bitch' must be a term of endearment he used it so much and never in a joking or lighthearted way. Hearing it triggers me badly. I don't understand, with all the words we have at our disposal to use, why we would choose this one. But I don't understand a lot of modern culture - the downhill slide in language skills is one of them and name calling of any kind, tops that list. I have spoken about this to my brother though and we were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 09:24 PM
7

My go to attitude - backed up by my psychologist and statistics - was to NEVER have a man around my children while they were growing up. Not in our home, not in their life. The risks are too high. I divorced when my youngest was 10 and that meant nobody in my life for 8 years. That was the decision I made and I have to say, taking that possibility off the table meant I could concentrate on our lives without outside interference. My youngest met no man until she was 19. If you must have a man in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:41 AM
1

We are also too busy to make content. We are of the generation that got divorced with nothing and are having the hustle in our 40/50s to make sure we can retire before 120. We are also often looking after adult children - because there are no jobs for them and they are in uni. We are also looking after our parents. A lot of advice re dating doesn't apply to us because we already had children and got divorced. I'm 49, doing a PhD, working 3 jobs in the most expensive city in Aus - supporting my y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:32 PM
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