Women should be financially independent.

FI-REfox · 2022-03-20T14:49:00+00:00

I'm here for this. Even if it "makes sense" to stay at home fully or partially to run the household (especially if kids comes along), women need to consider the invisible cost of doing so.

I've heard friends say "why should I work when my whole paycheque goes to the day care centre?", but it's not just about the income you are making and immediately spending. It's about the Social Security/CPP credits you are losing that will reduce your benefits and could impoverish you in your old age. There's no reliable data source that I've ever seen behind claims that social benefits will disappear for North Americans by the time Millenials and Gen Z retire; these claims are merely certain doomer aspects of society gaslighting you into giving up your own power to support yourself. Redpillers certainly would love for you to believe that you need to be dependent on a man and HIS income or retirement benefits to not end up in the streets. Then you're really stuck for life, aren't you?

Hopeful_Reporter6731 · 2022-03-20T15:33:29+00:00

I’ve been thinking about this a lot. I don’t think a lot of women have truly experienced financial independence. Not because they are relying on men to take care of them, but because a lot of women are either in long term relationships from late teens/early 20’s, or jump from relationship to relationship so a man is essentially always there to help out whether it’s with rent, lunch, dinner, gas, clothes, vacations etc. Its freeing AF to be able to 100% take care of yourself, and afford everything you want (whether saving or just disposable income.) There is nothing like that feeling. It’s such a blessing. It also can raise your standards for men. If you, as a woman, can do almost anything for yourself, a man has no excuse! Also, when you do nice things for yourself, a man has to match that energy. I will say though, when a woman has her own money, it really makes your standards higher because you aren’t impressed by money; all you can really focus on is character/personality, and a lot of men lack there. This is probably why a lot of women with money aren’t married or even dating. Men with money can be LV, but those broke low value men are a different beast.

Edit: Some married women have told me they have a secret savings their husband know nothing about. Another married woman told me her husband thinks she makes less than what she’s actually making. Some women will read this and say “well they don’t trust their partner.” Relationships and marriage are risky! People change for the worse all the time, especially when relationships end. Always always keep money saved without your man knowing.

eatjables · 2022-03-20T17:37:43+00:00

My grandmother was an extremely smart person, graduated with a 4.0 at her uni as one of only two women in the Business major. I don’t think she was ever happier than when she was finally able to make her own money as an accountant for a small travel agency in her 50s, after raising three children, having her own coin was like her reaching her full potential.

No-Village-3946 · 2022-03-20T16:27:05+00:00

The good times won't last forever. You will fight and he will throw it in your face that you live and die at his mercy. He will up the ante on his bullshit because he knows you're not going anywhere. He will think less of you because you have nothing going for you in life. He will come to view you as a burden when your novelty to him wears off.

IndividualRoutine661 · 2022-03-20T12:37:01+00:00

So succinct and so very right.

Melodic_Narwhal_8968 · 2022-03-20T13:46:08+00:00

She is one of my idols!!

myheartisfulloflove · 2022-03-20T23:58:55+00:00

I sometimes cry in private because of the way my father speaks to my mother, who has been a homemaker since she gave birth to her second child, which she now has four children in total. She told me last week that if she could go back in time, she would tell her younger self to finish college, so that she could become someone. And my dad cruelly laughed at her and said, "Yeah. You could have been someone by now."

Never mind that it was because of all her sacrifices that he could have an amazing, high paying career that he can do remotely and have all the money and nice things in the world. Sure he gives her a big house and fancy clothes and what not, but she is always disrespected in return day in and day out. To me, that's hell on Earth. I was also a housewife for a few years and know how people treat you when you have but pennies to your name. I was so afraid leaving my ex-husband because he was the one that controlled all the finances and the streets may be my new home.

Please please please never give up your financial independence for a man. The nuclear family is a sham. Men leave their wives for all sorts of reasons, it's ridiculous. You only have yourself in the end, so please be selfish. It will save your ass in the future.

JoanGreenCat · 2022-03-20T13:21:01+00:00

It should be a no brained. I'm really shocked how young women are ok with just being a stay at home partner even without kids. You just set yourself to be a literally slave.

heartfeltrespect · 2022-03-20T14:57:15+00:00

Become financially secure before having children. Then you don’t have to give up anything.

KetoKittenAround · 2022-03-21T06:15:37+00:00

The thing is a woman’s secret fund (or what have you) when not spent or needed will go back into the joint funds.

Women don’t squirrel away money to fetter away on personal hobbies. It is for safety.

Men stay skimming and thieving for whatever BS flight of fancy gets their boxers stiff. Whatever benefits just them.

Title	Women should be financially independent.
Author	KindredMaximus
Upvotes	378
Comments	23
Date	March 20, 2022 12:03 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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