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I'd absolutely love this, I don't mind going to a smaller city if it means I can buy a house, I don't need all the hustle of the big cities, but the fact there's no good job prospects in those cheaper places is really limiting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:49 AM
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It's better to get the cheapest rent you can find (of course with as much security and comfort as possible) and go frugal to save for your own. Sharing a rented house can be one thing, but buying one is a huge no-no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:47 AM
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I'd recommend not getting a house with friends, either, money and lifestyles can absolutely test even the strongest of friendships. One thing to do is get small houses in the same neighborhood, that way everyone is within reach but everyone has the space exactly how they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 11:34 PM
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the second men suspect we’re remotely able to enjoy simple pleasures, they will start to lower their efforts. I hate how true this is. I'm an stay at home introvert, love staycations, etc. but I also know most men would jump at the chance to not even do the bare minimum, so unless it's a HVM, I would never be able to lower my defenses, and we all know that the vast majority of men are LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:03 AM
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I think petty has been overused to shame people women Annoyingly enough, I often hear this word as a way to shame women, usually. Men are the pettiest assholes in the whole fucking world. Some women are petty, but the vast majority of men are fucking petty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:01 AM
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What the fuck, so he basically was blaming you for his lack of initiative and care? Fucking LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:49 AM
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Perfect *chef's kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:10 AM
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Was he reported?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:00 AM
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It's a form of negging in my opinion Don't worry about softening your words here sis, no LV dusty scrotes to tell you off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:52 PM
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I think one of the most beneficial things to do for yourself at the moment is re-frame the mentality of "I'm scared that I'm never going to find a man" to "I'm OK without a man, a man is just a bonus and only if he's HV." It's really insidious how societies and cultures have brainwashed us women into truly believing that our personal happiness relies on having a romantic (usually male) partner. "Being single" is practically demonized or ridiculed, and it's acceptable bullying to point out at it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:46 PM
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Very likely the sound is off to not alert music copyrights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:07 AM
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Sounds a lot like "a lot LIE about not jerking off" (not saying it's not possible, especially for certain very religious men, but I'm not gonna trust any man when he claims he doesn't jerk off.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:57 PM
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Also, there's too many fucking "wrong men" out there. If you're one woman surrounded by 10,000 LVM all actively or passively waiting for their chance to use you, then it's understandable to get discouraged when "trying to date" the men in your area only gives you shitty experiences. Us women tend to internalize the blame, it's a little easier to feel better if you believe that the problem is not the hordes of LVM out there but with yourself. That way you can tell yourself it's a matter of improv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:54 PM
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What was your rate though? I never respected men who opened up too much, feels girly. What's wrong with being girly, regardless of sex or gender?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:44 PM
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That's such a good burn you incinerated fragile male egos within a 100,000 miles radius!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:51 PM
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Yeah sometimes I try not to look too closely at these kind of posts, because while I objectively get why we're allowed to post them and why women do so, it can seriously ruin my whole day. Call me too empathetic but I just can't help imagining being subjected to such disgusting, shitty behavior, and pair it with the knowledge that the vast majority of women are stuck in those situations right the fuck now, can't/don't know how to get out, or don't want to get out (pickme and/or sunk cost fallacy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:40 PM
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Yeap, I'm 100% confident that most old men are looking for a caretaker/bangmaid (or ego boosting from having a "female" serving them, if they can't get it up) to serve them so they "don't die alone." They led shitty lives, drinking, smoking, eating like shit, sleeping like shit,and now porn-sick (just you wait a few decades for the current porn addicts to age)... of course they're desperate to "marry," they get all the benefits, none of the "drawbacks." And who cares if SHE doesn't want to die a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:22 PM
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Well, friends are real people, she's just a feeeeemale. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:11 PM
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While this could be the case, the fact is that he still specifically put the blame and shame on HER for not getting it: "I bet that went right over your head." Why "bet" that it "went right over her head"? Why assume that? How about instead saying something along the lines "hold on, I don't think I'm explaining it well, let me try again," which puts the onus on his own words. There are ways of conveying the same message without assuming the other person doesn't get it, or without making the othe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:09 PM
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Jesus, men are so goddamn emotional...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:59 PM
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I agree with you 100%. Also if a woman is seeking sterilization only, a bisalp would be better than a hysterectomy, since it's a less "intense" procedure. Of course many women (CF or not) get hysterectomies for more reasons than sterilization, but as you said, it's insanely hard to get one at all. For me, I really want a bisalp and my insurance won't cover it. I can get clips, but if I'm gonna get invasive surgery, I rather have it done only once and get it over with. I'm seriously thinking of g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:50 AM
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Yeah, this annoys the hell out of me. While it's "their body, their choice," when one claims to be "childfree" that means not wanting kids EVER. Forever ever, ever, ever. It's not a cute passing fancy, if one thinks "oh maybe I'll change my mind" then they're NOT childfree, they're fencesitters or childless. So a man who claims to be childfree, who just expects the woman to take responsibility for all birth control? He's not childfree to me, he's a selfish, opportunistic LVM who wants to be a fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:58 AM
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Right? Her clothes look clean and stylish, her hair looks so healthy, bouncy and full of volume and soft (at least from how I see it). Her skin looks great, too! Like she said, she's vibing and making the right choice. No drama, no stress, no eroding of her mind, heart, body and soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:36 PM
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Actually even in that situation, the way men use the word "simp" fits. When they say simp, it basically means doing anything that might benefit a woman; this includes "giving" a woman money for nudes. (also, take into account these men believe a woman getting money for her nudes/sex is "taking advantage" of "poor" men") So in this sense, men are other men "simp" for paying for OnlyFans, because for men, women don't deserve to get money for nudes, they should get shamed and/or give nudes for free…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:35 AM
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Also that vagina has to contribute 50-50 on rent and bills, but do all the housework and cooking, also be an emotional dumpster and punching bag. Of course, "it" has to stay pretty, not-fat, look like a pornstar or model to titillate his view.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:54 AM
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Don't worry, no salty and spoiled LVM here to downvote you for calling out the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:06 PM
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Hell, just wear it whenever, remind ourselves regularly that we're queens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:16 AM
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There's a shit ton of spineless LVM who would never approach a woman in real life, but have no issues showing their depravity in the safety of anonymity and behind PC/phone screens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:58 AM
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I grew up reading her books, amazing writer and lady. Calling her crazy for divorcing when she's one of the greatest South American writers, sure sure. She's a catch now, and she was a catch every other year before this one. 78yo men dream of being able to marry a beautiful, intelligent, successful lady like her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:25 AM
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To those apps, we're the product. I don't know the exact numbers, but it seems more likely for men to spend some money in the app in order to have "more priority" and "more access" to more women's profiles. We're effectively allowing these apps to use us as merchandise for men to browse. It's sickening once you realize this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:00 AM
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Yeah, currently the PS5 cost is not just about the dollar price, but also the effort to just get one. Imagine hiring someone to work $15 per hour (minimum, at least in my neck of the woods) to keep on searching for one. I'm into videogames and have a few consoles, and legit she must have spend a significant amount of hours looking for one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:36 AM
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Women: I have preferences too, then men: MiSanDrYyYYyYy!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:22 AM
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Not overreacting at all, she was in pain, and she said no several times before she rightfully acted on her anger. Once again, the moment we put our foot down, show our anger, and re-establish boundaries, we're the the ones "overreacting."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:55 PM
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Right? A gay man hits on them, they flip the hell out, and act like the dude raped or violated them. He literally was just hitting on them, which doesn't happen often anyways (usually you have to by in the right location, at the right time) and they can't handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:26 AM
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They think their 1% is 90%, and her 90% is 1%. Just look at all the LVM just itching for anyone to give them compliments just because they did one chore once in a blue moon. Really fragile egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:24 AM
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Goddammit, once again mass gets in the way of women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:45 AM
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Yeappp, these men expect you to be their 24/7 nurse, caretaker and therapist later on. Run away from them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:37 AM
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Add to this, men are taken seriously by doctors, women's pain and ailments are not. We're told we're hysterical, making it up, exaggerating, pregnant, pre-pregnant, and overall just dismissed. They literally are treated better in the medicine field (on top of being the "default" in terms of studies and whatnot, unlike women), and even then they need bangmaid mommies to do their fucking doctor appointments for them. What the ever flying fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:36 AM
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He's not-so-indirectly blaming women for his lack of self-improvement. He could've said "I should've spent that time leveling up first" but he phrased it in a way that women distracted him from self-improvement. Tale as old as time; men blame women for every dumb and wrong action men take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:55 AM
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Funny enough I bet you those same men whine to their mommy bangmaids for the latest gaming console/games, even outside of holidays or special dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:47 AM
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And that's just the basic financial side of things. Women also have to spend money on makeup, clothing, jewelry, hair/skin products, shoes... these are all things that we not only use on dates, but we use to maintain our appearances throughout the year. Clear skin and beautiful hair aren't a one day affair, it takes months and even years to achieve and keep certain looks, even if it's just something "basic" like "shiny hair." When you go on a date, you show a man the result of all the efforts yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:46 AM
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Fuck yeah, like someone posted in FDS earlier: "Your presence is his present."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:39 AM
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Like someone posted a few days earlier here: "Your presence, is his present."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:38 AM
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And only those men who deserve cookies, get cookies. That's too much wifey shit for me, to be doing for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:37 AM
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It's hilarious, really. There's tons of jokes (decades old, at least!) and memes about the "stereotype" that marriage is the end of a man's life, the wife is the "ball and chain," and other bullshit nonsense. Now a lot of men didn't marry and just wanted to be fuckbois (or married fast then cheated and/or divorced fast); these same men are whining about wanting to settle down in their goddamn 40s. They squandered their youth and prime years, and find themselves living a shitty life. They don't w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:36 AM
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War flashbacks, from when men "cook" and leave a fucking mess in the kitchen, are coming!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:27 AM
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Me too, For the longest time I felt "wrong" because I only dated a little and never found a man who I thought was worth trying a relationship with, and in the end it's because FDS is right and most men are trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:26 AM
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It's basically another version of "you're not like the other girls." So if he didn't want to have sex with you, he'd do what he "usually" does, which is treat women like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:24 AM
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Absolutely, they wash a few dishes once in a blew moon and expect a fucking praise party. What's so attractive about a man-child acting like a 3yo, I'll never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:49 AM
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That's the difference, we women are taught to find joy in doing nice things for our loved ones, be them friends, family or romantic partners. Men on the other hand, just want to take and take. They're selfish creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:39 AM
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Men ruin everything. They ruin dating apps, and the fucking apps themselves are complicit. I had to personally email the two I tried because even when I uninstalled, they kept my profile up and I'd keep on getting emails about men matching, liking, etc. Hell, they ruined Bumble BFF, which in a vacuum is such a wholesome concept. We women are those apps merchandise. WE ARE THEIR MERCHANDISE. If you want to try OLD, please be super careful. Set the privacy of your Facebook first and foremost, stop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:30 PM
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My block list is the neverending tapestry showing my journey to female empowerment, self-respect and strong boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:22 PM
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100% These same LVM would get some IKEA premade shit, "build" it, and then puff their chests at how they "can build/fix" shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:20 PM
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Imagine a 40+yo dusty man still fucking debating whether he wants kids or not. Who the hell would want such a wishy-washy man-child??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:19 PM
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Thank you! Yes I also want to have a nose job. I don't have a horrible nose but I hate that I can't help myself focusing on it when I look at the mirror. My eyes are kinda similar, but at the very least I made peace with that particular part of the body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:46 PM
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Hey same here! I want to have two cosmetic surgeries (nothing insane or huge), but at this point it's for myself, and no one else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:22 AM
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unattractive men have treated me worse than the good looking ones. They'd nitpick my body even though their bodies were completely average. That's because they're self-conscious about their shitty features, and instead of you know, either improving the rest of their appearance or picking up hobbies or studying to become intellectually interesting, they take it out on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:57 AM
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"Why did you stay here, why didn't you move out??" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:02 AM
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Yeap, and the only "reason" high value would have anything to do with looks, is because "good looks" means taking care of your body so you stay healthy. Having good hygiene and grooming routines to keep skin, teeth, hair, etc. clean and well maintained. Clean, well fitting clothes also signal good grooming and clean habits (of course some people just look well put together, we're not taking those into account). That's all bare minimum stuff, all things that a grown adult should be able to do wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:58 AM
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I always thought that I must be unusual in some way (am I asexual, bi?!) but I now realise that I just had a very valid high standard and most men do not meet this. Dear god, this is too relatable. Society (and partly myself) gaslit the fuck out of me and made me seriously wonder if I was a lesbian, bi, asexual or whatnot. Nothing wrong with any of these, but I never felt I fit any of those either, on top of getting the strong message that I was "wrong" or broken" (all those people who think thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:37 PM
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You best believe that men will go to war with us before they "allow" things to change too drastically. Plenty of places in the world have gone backwards in terms of women's rights because these shitty men want to keep the system they set up and benefit from, going. They already have infiltrated and successfully internally dismantled us before (liberal feminism with the "sex positivity," and normalizing FWB bullshit, come to mind), and they will continue to do so. This is why we have to stay on o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:01 AM
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Women: "I like tall men" (which a lot of times, also translates to just "taller than me") Men: proceed to make thousands of memes bitching and whining about how shallow women are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:31 AM
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Just one of the many ways we're proving that the porn industry is a disgusting blight to everyone involved, especially girls and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:24 AM
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Ooops, thank you sis, fixed! XD Yeap! There's the whole "witches," "old hags" and "crazy cat ladies" stereotypes, and they all have in common single women who realized the bullshit that was patriarchy and valued themselves and their independence over "desperately finding and serving a man."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:28 AM
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Casual sex culture is rape culture Thank you for saying all of this to complement the post. I might be very petty saying this, but after finding FDS and all the no-BS data about what a rigged, shitty game sex, let alone casual sex, is for women, I feel extremely vindicated when I think about all the people who mocked and looked down on me for staying a virgin this whole time. There's a big "crabs in a bucket" mentality when it comes to sex and women (same as getting married, or having kids, or h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:24 AM
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For the first time in my life, I don’t mind that I’m single. This is the most important, but the hardest, mentality to gain as a woman. We're bombarded from the moment we're born with the bullshit idea that we as women must attain romance, that our sole and highest fulfillment as a woman is to marry a man and birth his children, and it's very, very hard to accept the reality that no, you do not need a man to be fulfilled, nor you need to have "romance." Edit: words LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:06 AM
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Men are so insecure and fragile about their sizes. Their height, their dick length, their salary, the weights they lift... The more I think about it, the more I see men are the insecure, fragile, irrational sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:34 PM
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Exactly, it's a good job, but it's not anything I'd write home about. He really has to do something that makes him stand out in a positive way among the sea of "bare minimum" guys, but as always, society indulged his male ego and he thinks he's hot shit for coasting through life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:22 AM
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This is why after finding FDS, I'm a firm believer of waiting until the men hit 30 to see how they really do in life. During their 20s, they're still considered "young," and everyone excuses them for fucking up, fucking around, playing around, eating like shit, sleeping like shit, having no skincare, hygiene or grooming routines, dressing like whatever, not saving money (or being too stingy/cheap). Society, their youth and their bodies' metabolism make up for all the goofing around and shit life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:18 AM
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Same here! They're usually the last part of my body to heat up, so it definitely helps to have a pad at the bottom. And when I wake up in the middle or end of the night, my shoulders and head are the coldest part, so if I want, I can turn on the pad under my shoulders at the lowest setting without worrying about overheating the rest of my body at that point. Mine are 12in x 24in in size, but now there's 17in x 33in larger ones, but if you have a twin sized bed, I think the size I have is plenty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:03 AM
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What's fucking funny is that he most likely wouldn't be able to afford a woman now, let alone "back in the olden days." In the "olden days" you either had the money or you had to STFU and save in order to "buy" a wife. He literally does the bare minimum in life and thinks he's such hot shit, it's hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:57 AM
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One trick that I do is I have lap sized heating pads, both of them can automatically turn off in 2hrs. I leave them under my blankets in the middle of the bed. When it's toasty enough, I lower the heat and move one to the bottom of the bed where my feet would be, and the other right where my shoulders would be. This allows for a toasty bed and keeping the coldest parts of the body (feet, and where your head is peeking out from the blankets) warm until the pads turn off by themselves, without the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:42 AM
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Exactly, the cold reality is that the vast majority of men do not doing anal to a woman as just a "kinky" (blergh) fun sex thing to do once in a while. They are porn sick and want to dominate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:12 PM
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Yeah, unfortunately anal is, in our current reality, not something beneficial to the vast majority of women, because of men's porn sickness, so as of now it's best to tell our fellow sisters that a man asking for anal equals porn sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:01 AM
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Exactly, majority of men are LVM, so that means most of them cannot and do not prep and excite women properly. So until that happens, all women who do enjoy anal, please do not pipe in and claim you do so, not because their opinion is not valid, of course, but because hordes of LVM will use those words against other women. The reality of the world right now is that, claiming to like anal as a woman, only hurt other women. Until that happens, it's best to NOT give scrotes more ammunition to use a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:24 AM
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Porn has become more and more depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:09 AM
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Now we're finding out a shit ton of them don't wash their asses, some even don't wipe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:05 AM
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This is why vetting is an on going process with no deadline, and one of the hardest pills for newbies in general to swallow. At one point he will drop the act. It might take days, weeks, months and even years. We have to not only learn, but be able to know when and if he blew his cover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:27 AM
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The audacity they have to claim that shit, when men can't handle rejection to the point they'll verbally assault, physically assault, stab, murder, rape and throw acid at women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:20 AM
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This is the reason why I want to tell any woman who claims "I actually enjoy anal" to please, shut up. Yes of course there's the rare exception to the rule, but women who pipe in with that crap, they're NOT helping. Men immediately latch onto their ONE anecdote and say bullshit like "see??? You never know until you try it!!!" as gaslight and forcefully coerce the fuck out of other women. Aside the rare woman who is OK with anal, the fact is that the majority is NOT ok with it, most men who want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:19 AM
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This shit is funny as fuck because it comes with the implication that they would be able to sexually satisfy a woman and giver her orgasms on the regular, and we all know what a joke that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:38 PM
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Then men whine and place all the blame on single moms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:35 PM
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While this can be taken that way when the sarcasm is palpable, the issue is that too many people out there do not use it sarcastically, especially when it's in written form. For those people, this tweet would just keep on reinforcing their belief that it's ok to use the word "female" unironically like they do. (not accusing, just trying to come up with a reasoning for myself mostly) The best compromise I feel there is, is to put the word between quotation marks, or mock it like "feeeeemale" or "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:54 PM
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I'm 35 and I absolutely understand what you're feeling, in fact those very feelings fucked me up so bad I dropped out (I transferred to my uni when I was 25, almost everyone else 5 years younger than me, so I felt the pressure of everything tenfold) and struggled for about 3-4 years to get myself back on my feet (had to go to therapy, became a hermit, couldn't function at work, among other things). Now I'm on the other side of the tunnel, barely graduated last year, and trust me, it's all bullsh…
/r/askFDS30/01/21 12:07 AM
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Thank you sis! I agree it's all bullshit, it's their own outdated, pickme, sexist indoctrination. I took myself out of that narrative, so of course I'm the one "in the wrong." We FDSers are gonna be all alone, in our paid for clean, neat homes. What a "tragedy" LOL It sounds awesome that in Greece we don't have an expiration date as a woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:42 PM
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Where's the kickstarter/gofundme, I'm gonna pay top dollar for that LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:26 PM
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This is why I cannot in good faith, say that I'm X religion "but just ignore/gloss over the bad parts." The whole fucking systems are made to oppress, shame, control, punish, ridicule, demean us women, why the fuck would I want to be in any way related to that? I'm agnostic or spiritual. I'm not arrogant enough to say a higher being doesn't exist, or that it does exist. I can accept finding comfort in the thought that there's a god (NOT male) out there who created us or the universe, but I'm not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:38 PM
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Thank you for this! I'm lucky that my hair is fairly low maintenance, but it grinds my gears that women with "high maintenance" hair are expected and required to do said maintenance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:24 PM
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Add to that, having the last word. LVM (and LV people in general) and narcissists fucking love to have the last word, and "winning."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:12 PM
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Polygamy doesn't work. That's just another delusion they're trying to sell in order for men to have a harem of pickmes to serve him. No way a single person can emotionally and physically satisfy several partners. And men only believe in polygamy when it's 1 man to several women, not the other way round.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:10 PM
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It's hilarious that he blamed it on the pandemic, because unless he's an essential worker working more hours (still not an excuse, though), if he's working from home, he'd have MORE time to brush his teeth properly, on top of eating healthier since there's more time to cook at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:42 PM
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I'd totally pay top dollar for watching random women (who consented to be filmed of course) just slaying right and left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:47 AM
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So much for being "visual creatures."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:03 AM
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It feels liberating, doesn't it? When we shift the focus of our efforts so WE are happy, and not for the sake of anyone else. It's hard to undo a life time of conditioning and social pressure, of course, but I'm a believer of the "fake it till you make it" mentality if everything else doesn't quite work to shift mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:03 AM
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Reading this post was like getting a shot of serotonin right into my veins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:47 AM
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That's a lots of words for saying: "I'm a pickme in an abusive relationship"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:32 PM
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That "did you tell him?" question always grinds my gears, especially because most of the time (not from you, of course, I mean from LVM and pickmes) it's got the implication that "she should've told/teach him" one way or another. He's an adult, he should be fully weaned and educated to keep a decent, basic level of hygiene and cleanliness by the time he reaches teen years, let alone adulthood. And as a woman, I don't suggest telling men they smell, dress sloppy, have unkempt hair/beards, etc. no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:24 PM
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Hell, can't they google that shit up and figure it out themselves? So much for the stronger, logical sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:18 AM
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It's also very threatening. By calling the number on the spot and "making sure," they're basically implying a "this better be your real number, or else" threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:42 AM
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Please read the FDS rules. This is the opposite of rule no.3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:22 AM
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Abso-fucking-lutely. You want to work out, lose weight? Eat healthier? Use SPF? Implement a skincare routine? Wear certain styles of clothing, shoes, accessories? Wear make up? Or not do any of those things? It's all OK! If you do or not do it, it's OK! If you want to do any of those things (or not), remember to do them for yourself, for your own health, and your own comfort and mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:20 AM
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Hey me too, I have chronic depression and sometimes (thankfully none since the last year) I'd pretty much just let myself go, but like you said, I also had pride and self-awareness to know those levels of dirty and messiness are not OK. Now I use being clean and tidy as part of my therapy, so if I feel particularly shitty, I force myself to clean or konmari something. In my opinion, they just don't care. They get away with so much crap in their lives, to the point society says it's fucking norma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:14 AM
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Crap, just reading this stresses the hell out of me. The more I find out the actual, cold reality of the majority of male's lifestyles, the less I feel like dating or marrying a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:09 AM
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Wow, what the hell did he expect you to type? "I caaaannn't wait to see you, OMG you god's gift for women, you! emojiemojiemoejiemoji" To me that type of spoiled, oversensitive (like actually oversensitive, not that gaslighting bullshit they try to play on women) attitude out of a grown-ass man is such a turn off. They literally can't handle even a conversation without being talked like toddlers? Women aren't here to baby-talk men, they want and need mature and reliable partners, both mentally a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:23 PM
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And HIS dry "when you off" wasn't fucking dry at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:08 PM
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I want to point out that you're not "the stupidest doormat," you were 17. Seventeen! You were a child, and children (or if you want to make the distinction, underage teenagers) should be allowed to be naive (and not with a bad connotation), inexperienced, and start preparing for adulthood without having to worry about goddamn abusers and child groomers. This is something that a lot of people still don't want to accept, but humans still develop and go through maturity until they're about 25 years…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:36 AM
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You'd be surprised how many pickmes are eager to join the frat boys in the companies they work at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:40 AM
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A lot of the advice here sounds super dramatic and fun "Super" dramatic? Fun?? What the flying fuck did I just read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:38 AM
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"OMG learn to take a joke!" And other bullshit excuses they use to gaslight women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:36 AM
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Also many inventions who either were invented by women, or progressed impressively or solely due to the efforts of women, were stolen away by men, silencing and dismissing all the women's efforts from history books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:30 AM
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they ride on the coat tail of successful men in histor Just watch how they snap at women trying to do remotely the same thing, lord forbid we mention all the brilliant ladies from the past, most of them erased or silenced from history by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:31 AM
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(because most women just won't ever get that strong) so they can have something, anything! What's funny is that most guys who use this bullshit to feel smug over women, are pretty much soft, doughy, shapeless bags of meat. Show me some fit man, even if he's an asshole/LVM/fuckboi, at least he has the discipline to build muscle. (again, bar is in hell) Then add the fact that a lot of women are just generally healthier body wise, regardless of how much raw strength they have compared to a man. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:29 AM
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Pre-Covid the ideal thing was to use Meetup, you could join groups according to hobby/interest. I think the problem is that digital friendships can be too impersonal, sterile and limited, due to the fact we're basically just typing and staring at a screen. The best way in the end, is to meet in person, so you can take in the body language, voice and other subtle tells we use to communicate. For now I'd say hang out here and in other communities you feel happy participating in, and let's hope we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:21 AM
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It's all the disgusting normalization of porn and "one night stand/casual sex/FWB/sex buddies" culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:24 AM
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Add to that, broke dude that would end up being the gold-digger himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:04 AM
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Exactly, that's the barest of the barest minimum. That shit just puts you in "mediocre but at least functional adult" levels, nowhere near dateable material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:39 AM
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Of course they think it's a bad thing, for pickmes and LVM, "no man" equals "the worst situation ever fucking EVER ever eeeeever for a woman, OMG you POOR, STUPID THING who has too big of an ego!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:37 AM
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Theoretically: Yes, everyone has the potential to change. Reality: No. Why not? Just think about how hard it is for anyone to level up for themselves. It sucks, but it's almost impossible for someone to change for someone else. Especially with LVM (or LV in general), who aren't really into the women they prey on. When you're considered as inferior to them, AKA subhuman, you don't even qualify as worthy of such effort in their eyes. Changing for the worse, now that one is more realistic, for them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:32 AM
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This is one of the many reasons why not only FDS and CF subs overlap, but also why the CF sub has a majorly female amount of members. There's a TON of bullshit towards and against women when it comes to children, especially if you were ambivalent or straight up never wanted kids. The self-Stockholm Syndrome some parents inflict on themselves to convince themselves they are actually happy with the life-changing choice of having a kid and becoming parents is insane and frankly, scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:51 AM
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If you set clear expectations then they can't turn it around on you for not being clear enough in what you wanted. Oh yes they absolutely fucking can. Many women have already tried point-blank telling their men exactly what they want/expect, and these men straight up didn't give a fuck one way or another. If you have to demand or if you have to tell them first, they already never wanted to even care or find out in the first place. It's the difference between the man taking the initiative by aski…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:48 AM
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Yeap, once again they project their insecurities on us and take it out on us. Women have died "alone" for millennia, it's not a rare concept. But men in general (especially now) never really took care of themselves properly, while women do. Single women live longer than single men, so of course they'll die "alone." The thing is, men are the ones who can't handle growing old and dying alone. They not only want the maid/nurse wife to take care of them in their deathbed, they have an inflated ego s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:41 AM
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They will also very likely resent you for making more than them and/or having a better career or position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:34 AM
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I read one story of a porn-sick dude, he lived in a house with a single mom, and 2-3 daughters, so he was the only male in the house. This asshole was watching porn in the living room, and was facing away from the entrance while masturbating, and was "caught" by one of his sisters (and it sounded like he got off the "thrill" of getting caught by his sisters), who reacted appropriately and then told their mom. The mom told him off, on how wrong and inappropriate that was, and then he had the auda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:23 PM
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Keep the perspective that the reason FDS is hard in practice is due the insane amount of LV people out there, which is not surprising since patriarchal societies established and perpetuated lots of low value mentalities. Let me put it this way: All the LV people will constantly try to violate your standards and boundaries, and there's a shit ton of LV people out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:34 AM
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Excellently said, this is so depressingly true, but true nonetheless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:57 AM
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Same here, drawing and maintaining boundaries is exhausting, because people keep on pushing, and pushing, and pushing. They want you to not have any, they want you to just smile, be nice, and take everyone's crap, while at the same time criticizing you for not being more proactive with your career, with finding a man, with being thin and pretty... (I went a bit personal, but it applies to most women, so I assume I'm in good company) In short, we're supposed to be smiling doormats, while at the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:52 PM
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And one more thing: better be safe than sorry. Don't let the gaslighting ("you're overreacting") stop you from walking away. Sure there's a possibility, but do you really wanna play with the odds? The odds are against women, most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:27 AM
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That's music to my ears, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:24 AM
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And then when we finally get fed up and show anger (you know, the one emotion men LOVE to show), we're called irrational, dramatic, emotional, unfair... I sometimes literally cannot say a fucking "ok" in a "bad" tone, we women have to always sound and act nice, approachable and forgiving. Fuck that, I'm sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:15 AM
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Pedo is showing his true colors now that she's technically "legal." Wouldn't surprise me if he was lusting after the daughter since she was a 13yo child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:30 AM
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Not every woman is beautiful, and that's COMPLETELY FUCKING OK Thank you! This needs to be said more. Not everyone has an aesthetically pleasing face or body, and like you said we should normalize THAT instead of trying to condescendingly tell "everyone is beautiful." I also feel condescended or pitied. Our lack of stereotypical attractiveness doesn't (shouldn't) negatively affect our value as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:26 AM
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Thank you for all the sisters here talking about this movie, I'm definitely going to watch it ASAP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:03 AM
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Sounds the same as another excuse, doesn't it? Answer: #notallmen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:23 AM
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I think a more accurate depiction would be the man-child in the last drawing, just hiding under a trenchcoat and wearing stilts. They don't devolve, they've always been LV and were hiding it from the woman to trick her until it's too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:16 AM
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And the main reason they even started speaking against it recently was because of their self-interest: They're finally feeling the consequences (mental and physical) of porn consumption, and that's their main concern, their own sexual life. If they had no personal consequences, no matter how much we told them how porn destroys the lives of so many young little girls (children) and women, they still wouldn't give a fuck. Of course, it's a step forward that some men are actually willing to acknowl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:13 AM
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Worldwide "barely legal" (AKA if they could get away with getting them younger than the "legal" -and moral- age, they would) is one of the most popular searches in porn, but god forbid you pointed out their pedophiliac sickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:14 AM
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ok? And? Guys love fucking up & then make the real travesty about how quickly she moved on These LVM think they're so smart and slick, playing games and thinking their partners are none the wiser, and don't seem to understand that their partners have been mentally getting ready to leave them for months. And this is only after overtly tolerating all their bullshit for years, trying to internalize and justify and giving him a thousand chances and even more "communication" conversations. By the tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:56 AM
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Not all guys #notallmen sure, but #mostmen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:50 AM
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He thought it was too good at getting me off and that wasn't fair. Jesus Christ. How about these scrotes get better at sex before they start whining about "fairness." If a vibrator is too a strong opponent, it's not the problem of the vibrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:58 AM
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Change your PM settings so no accounts can PM you unless they're 30 days old. It won't stop all the scrotes, but it takes care of a good chunk of them. Then they have no option but to use their main accounts (like the fucking idiots they are) and I've yet to find one that hasn't exposed himself to be male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:05 AM
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Yeap, being a HVM is something we need to constantly vet for. It's frustrating and sad that we can't "prove" a man is HV after he "passes" X amount of tests or time, but this is the reality we must live with. Sure, if you find a great guy marry him, love him, appreciate him and all that stuff, but always prioritize YOURSELF first Well said, I think this is extremely important for newbies to realize. A lot of them are still in the "hollywood romance" mentality where everything is a twirl of passi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:59 PM
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First of all, thank you for the pet tax! She's a beautiful princess, and that asshole can fall in a ditch for shoving her. And all these scrotes you had the misfortune of meeting can all go fall in a ditch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:44 PM
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Of fucking course I rather not be raped at all either, what the hell. What I'm saying is that if it's gonna happen, then I personally rather make sure he gets exposed as a rapist than not. Like it or not, the reality is that many women and girls are raped far more frequently than we find comfortable, and I 100% understand why this device exists and why some women would choose to use them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:40 PM
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Right? When it comes to wanting to put women down, men go straight to the "men are physically stronger than women hurr durr" but as soon as you expect them to actually put their physical prowess in a real life situation, suddenly they can't stop whining about how "don't women want equality!?? This is misandry!" Scrotes, you can't have both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:38 AM
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The point is not only to prevent the rape, but to prove that this dude tried to force himself on you. They have to go to a hospital to get it taken off, and the only way to explain how they got that on their penis at all is that they attempted rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:35 AM
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Yeap. The most common and lame-ass victim blaming excuse I've heard is: "it's HER fault she has low self-esteem!" Because of course, she has low self-esteem so instead of maybe help her through that with a therapist (if it was true), and doing his side as her partner, it's used as a way to not only blame her and invalidate her, he washes his hands of any responsibility his actions bring to the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:56 AM
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I've never seen more fragile egos than most men's. The very fact that a lot of us get anonymous hate messages full of verbal and sexual abuse is proof enough that the AVERAGE and vast majority of the male population are fragile snowflakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:48 AM
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This is something the newbies need to take to heart because I am tired of them applauding a man for basic human decency. Absolutely, I've seen our FDS sub toe the line of pandering and overtly-praising every time a man does the bare minimum men when there's a flood of newbies. Also a lot of them claiming a man is "HVM" just because of the ONE thing he did (or few things), or because they're liking a man they barely started dating a few months ago and "so far so good" seems to equal "HV," what th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:45 AM
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It's a sign that he's not the one who can protect me. This is an excellent way of putting it, I love it. While I don't think loving pets or animals approaching are a sign of HVM (so many men love dogs because of the almost unconditional servitude, love and begging), I do agree that certain attitudes towards animals prove that he's not reliable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:38 PM
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Ok so I don't get these arrogant scrotes. I have never ridden a horse and even I can perfectly understand what you're talking about just from seeing how actual running horses (with and without riders) look like. Horses bodies go up and down and there's a lot going on (like you said, balance, strength, etc.), and as a rider you need to match that otherwise you'll get thrown off. It's not rocket science, it's just a matter of using our brains to think about it. How they can't even use critical thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:00 AM
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I also vote on the microtransactions. I play the ONE game with microtransactions and it's crazy dangerous how easily and insidiously they add up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:55 AM
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Hahaha! I'm not sure the last dates, but 100% at least the first 3 were fucking walk dates, so you're spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:40 AM
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Hey there, I can totally relate, it's very tough when you realize even the men closest in your lives (usually fathers and brothers, followed by cousins and uncles) are actually LV. It's a harsh reality especially because you genuinely had high esteem and genuine love for him but now are opening your eyes, and seeing everything in a perspective that puts on focus their sexism or misogyny. Remember that whatever conclusion you come to and what you do about your situation, nobody can or will judge …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:37 AM
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While I do find fanfiction based on real celebrities a little odd... last time I checked, in the 20+ years of reading fanfics, I've never seen those fics encourage significant amounts of people into systematical harassment towards real people. The fanfiction stays within the fandom, and it doesn't make the fans go around hurting other people. While the names are used, these fans don't truly know the celebrities. It's not like they're forcing those celebrities into filming porn videos. It's liter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:02 AM
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Some never learn. I have one friend who desperately needs FDS and nope, even after "working on herself" on and off, her dating reactions and thoughts haven't changed one bit. I'm praying that either she finds a man who fits her life, or she actually levels up, because it's really frustrating. I'm done with dealing with that stuff, I don't want to be but I absorb other people's feelings a bit too well, so it's particularly toxic for me if someone wants to use me as their emotional dump. Pretty su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:47 AM
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This video basically boils down the reason why he posted that lame AF post: https://youtu.be/zi8ShAosqzI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:48 AM
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Keep ignoring all this forms of contact, I'm assuming (and hoping) that him dropping off the stuff means he's done with his bullshit and won't bother you again (maybe the occasional yearly random message to see if you "bite" and fall for his bullshit again). If you feel like he's going to escalate, then by all means take whatever steps you feel are necessary to either stop or keep track of him to gather evidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:40 PM
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Once again, blaming and forcing women to take the brunt of the responsibility for men's shitty actions. What else is new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:07 AM
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HAH! This reminds me of all those "articles" in shitty magazines (at the moment I'm remembering Cosmo) claiming how overweight men were better lovers because the extra fat made them have less sensitivity and thus lasted longer. I knew it was a bunch of bullshit! (And even if there is a grain of truth to it or the people gathering the data didn't have ulterior motives... still I thought it was BS)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:03 AM
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So the general consensus here is to block and delete... but in specific cases, like if your ex starts to stalk you or sends you many voice/text/email messages, you might want to keep him unblocked for evidence to gather in case you need a restraining order or have the authorities involved. If your ex hasn't done these things or you don't suspect him to do these things, then it's OK to keep him blocked forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:47 AM
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All love is conditional, no exceptions. Even parents who have theoretically the most "selfless" love actually have a shit ton of conditions for their children. Just to list some extreme examples: 1) Children have to fit a heteronormative gender role. 2) Some parents put insane pressure on their kids' school performance. Good grades = parental approval(love). 3) Sexuality. Also sometimes tied to point 1. LGBTQ+ communities are rife with examples of parents kicking out their children and/or disown…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:39 AM
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"How are you still single?" = "what's wrong with you?" It's a form of negging (of course), but a shitty one once you start making the connections. It's really funny because when I see/hear single women in their late 20's or in their 30's, usually they're working on their careers, looking gorgeous and just generally look great. I have no reservations about them. Meanwhile, a man the same age who's single makes my warning bells go off like nobody's business. Sure, statistically speaking there must…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:19 AM
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Exactly, and this is why I will never forget one of the many things that FDS taught me: If he really wanted to, he'd do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:06 AM
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But if you do that you miss on great "hang outs" like a walk in a park, or a walk in a field, or a walk next to water! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:38 AM
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Really, I imagine it's like a scythe just cutting down all the shitty weeds in one swoop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:35 AM
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Thissss. Maybe I'm paranoid as fuck, but I can easily see an abusive man build this social media narrative where he posts about all the "wonderful" things he does for her (and his and her friends, even), so if she ever breaks up with him, everyone sides with him and paints her as the asshole. I see it plenty in real life, I semi-recently got accused of something like this and 100% the person I opened up to thinks she was right and I must've done something bad first. I'm actively looking for a go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:31 AM
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Don't forget satisfy all his sexual desires, including shitty "kinky" ones, and stay all sexy in tip top shape even after giving birth the children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:27 AM
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I've found that it's not really that they can't afford it, the real truth is that they don't want to go to a therapist. I've seen enough male opinions about it, about how it's not manly, it shows weakness, or they straight up can afford it but would rather spend that money on X hobby. Men out there making 6 figure salaries and they would rather blow it all in games or sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:19 AM
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Add to the single mom one: They're salty that another man "marked the territory" and she's forever linked to her ex through the child's existence. Usually followed by a bunch of wannabe-alpha morons who talk about lions eating cubs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:09 AM
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he thinks he’s this edgy cool Mr. Grey type but the way he talks is cringey as hell. This is what it all boils down to, holy hell he's a waste of space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:06 AM
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What's insane is that older women looking physically fit or "well maintained" are not rare. I'd see plenty of older looking ladies like this one in my retail jobs alone. Again, it's not rare at all. Meanwhile, the common man her age is balding, pubic unkempt beard, saggy and/or huge beer gut, no fashion sense at all (in fact just look at how many will keep on using raggy old clothes full of holes and washed out colors), shitty skin... this is not rare either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:01 AM
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I'll legit do this when I'm in a position where I can afford regular healthcare, it's so important to have a doctor who respects and listens to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:55 AM
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In conjunction with this advice, we should also start have real conversation with men too, about how they have a responsibility to uphold along with the privileges they get for being born male. This means not feeling entitled to a woman's body, attention or sexual services, not expecting women to just deal with pregnancies, supporting body autonomy rights, not thinking that "equality = I can physically beat women then." In other words, men need real conversations on how to be better men and huma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:48 AM
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Both Addams Family movies are such a delight to watch especially because of Gomez and Morticia, truly beautiful relationship!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:39 AM
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And to add to this, a woman's position in society gets "devalued" when others see her with a man that looks below her. He's both dragging her down and being vampires feeding off of her energy and value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:36 AM
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Because men NOT being the center of attention at all times?? We can't have that! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:23 AM
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Also always remember: just because they call it "ceiling" doesn't change the fact that it's actually a goddamn floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:15 AM
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Her mother vehemently protested the separation and allegedly doesn't speak to her daughter to this day, except to beg her to take her ex husband back. I'm childfree but I'd be damned if I chose a goddamn LVM over my own child whom I gestated for 9 months and brought to this world. And absolutely agreed, this shit is pervasive as fuck. People even start being sexist towards a being that hasn't even been born yet, especially when someone wants to "complete the set" and have at least one child of e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:21 AM
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She laughs at his jokes and entertain his stories, all the while he will be gone periodically for a smoke break while all of us busting our ass doing the jobs. Pickmeisha alert, for sure. Not to mention she sounds like a freaking asshole. It's ok for her to accuse you and hound you and basically treat you like a thief, and she's acting as if she was in the right to do so, and now it's offended that you put your foot down when you were (rightfully) fed up about it. Fuck that noise, she's the type…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:18 AM
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You dodged all the bullets like freaking Neo from the Matrix!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:11 PM
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Yeah, I read erotica in the way of fanfiction, and last time I checked, even when there's a good chunk of stories and writing with dark and problematic themes, in the last 20+ years of being involved in many fanfic fandoms, I've yet to see huge amounts of people having their brains atrophied and consumed by erotica, the way porn negatively affects men. Anyone who says "erotica is just as bad as porn" has no idea what they're talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:07 PM
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Thank you so much for this post. It's true we women aren't allowed to be express our anger, even nowadays I keep getting lectured (mostly by my mom, but she's not the only one) when I get upset and I act on it (like calling out BS, or snapping when someone is being an asshole). I am shamed for sticking out for myself, and when I express why and how X person upset me... I get gaslit and told I must've been bad towards that person for them to react that way. WTF?? Even when I explain that I start …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:01 PM
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A lifetime of societal brainwashing, conditioning, gaslighting and misogyny does that to women. I mean look at female celebs, they have money, fame, looks, brains, even power, etc. and they get mistreated by LVMs just as regularly as other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:33 PM
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I remember that tale, basically he went 0 to 100 in a nanosecond, she literally had NO time to say anything (at least that's what I remember).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:29 PM
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a (straight, male) therapist who told him he’s 110% in the right. This is what they fucking do, they go into psychology/therapy programs, get their degrees, and then go around spewing their misogyny and everyone trusts them because "he's certified." I'm never getting a male doctor of any kind, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:24 PM
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every single night on Reddit. Holy shit, every single night??? I mean I already have a good idea on how porn sick men are nowadays, but for him to try to justify himself to you with a "just looks at dozens of naked women every single night" as if that's something good, this LVM is fucking delusional and a stupid gaslighter. No it's not good if you see dozens of women once a week, let alone every night, holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:22 PM
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While it's true that men have to be more involved, men as a whole (like, in the whole world) have to change the LV traditional and cultural web that their forefathers not only created but perpetuated in their society, if not the whole world. A HVM has almost no chance if his son chooses to follow his LV friends, LV celebrities, pickmeishas, AKA chooses to follow the mainstream misogynistic environment. And it's almost impossible for them to not do it, since the whole system is rigged to benefit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:08 PM
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To be honest, while it feels staged, at this point I can totally believe this is how it'd all go in most households nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:03 PM
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It could be that something was always there and had the possibility to come out in certain circumstances, but what I’ve observed is that power or money inflate the ego That's my exact point, these men had it inside all along, and the only reason they didn't act on it was because the circumstances weren't ideal. But give them the chance? They will go for it and fuck everyone and everything that gave them a good life until that point. It's very telling that the majority of men who's wife got cance…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:56 PM
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What's so dangerous about this is that, until the man dies, there's really NO way to know what goes through his mind. No way whatsoever. He could be great on the surface, but it just takes ONE cheating to pretty much shatter the image you built of him. I don't care if he was "HV" until then, him allowing himself to cheat after decades of "loyal" marriage, means that he had that inside all along... and was just waiting for the right chance to enact on those thoughts. This is why you always gotta …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:00 AM
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because if they act dumb we should take their word for it and treat them accordingly This would only work in a vacuum, without taking into account the reality of the world but that's the problem: Society already accepts men acting dumb and excuses their behavior. Women are told (and in return, say themselves) how their husband is their "other child," and women keep on getting bullshit advice and getting blamed, like: "maybe you should communicate" "why didn't you tell him to help you with X" "ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:22 PM
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I'm not romanticizing, nor did I say they were a good thing. I'm talking about how those old guys who literally only cared about work to the point they didn't give a fuck about what happened in the house or their wives, were too absorbed to even do anything else (including actually loving and interacting with their families and wives). They were bad, but what we have now is arguably bad or worse in other, different ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:03 PM
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Ugh especially nowadays with the internet and phones, it's so easy for them to indulge in their disgusting ways and porn addiction!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:28 PM
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This is so depressingly true. I was thinking about those very old fashioned, very old men (so it's all pre internet and even pre Playboy) who just lived for work, even when they were pretty much absent in the household and left the wife in peace, but it's obvious even during those times they were a rare breed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:28 PM
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Yeap, I've been mentioning this for a while, I'm glad it's getting more track. Language is incredibly powerful and it can absolutely shape our thoughts and emotions in ways that others wants us to, if we're not careful about them. Putting her first ("SHE got raped") as opposed to him (HE raped her) puts the focus (and subconsciously, the responsibility too) on "her" rather than "him." This is why I'm making a concerted effort to remember certain criminals, like Brock Turner, as Rapist Brock Turn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:42 AM
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Ironic they call you a drama queen when you literally take yourself out of the equation. That's about the least dramatic thing to do, and the most mature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:24 AM
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I used to love that show and we even got the DVD boxes, now I see all the toxicity and LV (from both men and women, mostly because the women are portrayed by misogynistic writers) and can't stand it. Got rid of everything. The one thing that I do like about the show, is not the show itself, but how the main group of actors stuck together and had each other's backs when it came to contracts and getting paid. I think it's why all of them are getting paid even now with reruns, they're set for life.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:12 AM
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No. No more excuses for men. They're not "too dumb," or "don't take things seriously," or "talk without thinking." He 100% knew what he was talking about, he literally gaslit her in all the ways he could instead of answering because he 100% believes that shit that if the mom wasn't hot enough, he'd jump ship. He literally doesn't wanna answer because he knows that'd be the end of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:03 AM
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I'm really glad that the gf caught onto that, like it would've been easy to just be a pickme and let it slide, but she didn't. She went the hard route and actually confronted his LV ass. I pray that she breaks up with this gaslighting, gross LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:58 AM
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I'm glad to see me sticking with hotels (not that I needed to use them a lot, so there's that too) and avoid airbnbs wasn't just me being "crazy" and "overdramatic." Sure hotels can be fucked up too, but usually their whole company would be at risk if shit like this got out in the news, so I personally find them a bit easier as a transaction between a customer and a service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:55 AM
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Yeap, I keep hearing the love language bullshit and it's, well, bullshit. Every single time I hear about it, it's all about excusing the shitty actions of someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:47 AM
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Seriously, I'm starting to see those men who just focus on their work (and neglect their family) as somewhat of a (shitty) blessing (again, the bar is in hell). At least they're so busy working and doing whatever they want that they have no time to watch porn and be online in instagram, dating apps and porn sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:38 AM
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Lately they expect you to be like that sexy pizza delivery chick from their gross porn vids, bring food to his door and offer booty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:03 AM
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I love how the nest tale lives on XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:02 AM
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Ok so yes, let's not go to strange men's houses, ok yes yes yes we already teach this to our girls, but how about... teaching men to NOT rape women AT ALL? A genuinely good man won't think "it's her fault for following me home, so it's her fault if I rape her, really" and then proceeds to fucking rape her. We already teach women to avoid a hundred scenarios and place all the responsibility on them from their clothes, their words, the WAY they spoke those words, their body language, the time of d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:12 AM
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“okay but [at least] he won’t hurt me.” Right?? The bar is in fucking hell. "At least he hasn't gone to jail" "At least he wipes his ass" "At least he makes money"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:04 AM
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Watch out, these same men who "hate gift giving" are the same men who have been whining and pouting to their girlfriends/wives for a PS5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:59 AM
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Trust me, it's not that they don't see details, they just don't care. They don't care because it's things women do, trust me they notice every goddamn thing if they wanted to... but they don't want to, because they don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:58 AM
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Add to that the absolutely obscene amount of "maintenance" they have to perform on their bodies (aka a good chunk of the product they're selling): hair, nails, make up, liposuction, clothes, shoes, jewelry, lingerie... a lot of that stuff can easily cost triple digits, and they need a lot of everything to not repeat clothing too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:54 AM
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Yeap, as someone who plays videogames as a hobby (one of many), I can tell you that any guy who calls himself "gamer" is not someone you want to risk dating. Sure, he might not be addicted to them, and he might be HV... but that's like saying "sure, you might win the lottery." Men really don't wanna to self-regulate or self-control anything in their lives. If it's not videogames, it's porn, or sports, or the gym, or anything else. The more I see it, the more I see men with no personality (usuall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:51 AM
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Absolutely; as it boils down to, the problem is not the videogames... it's men, and their lack of self-control. Seriously, the more I look at it, the more I see men choosing to ride their addiction urge with whatever "hobby" they happen to end up liking. Even stuff that seems healthier like sports or going to the gym (there's a reason why the term "gym rat" or "gym bro" came to life) they end up completely obsessed with it and lack zero personality or other interests in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:48 AM
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"Barely legal adult women with no experience in life won't be able to notice my mediocrity unlike women my age"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:44 AM
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In a previous place I used to live, the pet shelter was pretty close so I volunteered; literally the volunteering job was to be a cat companion, no joke, you could go in these rooms full of cats and make sure to play with them. The amount of cats that would just flop on my lap and stay there was incredibly soothing and satisfying downright to my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:39 AM
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I blame the whole "people should love you as you are/for who you are inside/with all your faults" as a blanket excuse they use to feel entitled to love, comfort, sex and support but without putting any effort in bettering themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:14 AM
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Sad amen, and I say this as someone who watches anime a lot (20+ years). There's amazing anime out there, but you gotta actively look for it, otherwise you end up with all the bullshit shows full of sexualized high school girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:12 AM
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This is what I was thinking, he's juggling other women to see which one "bites" and the only thing he can remember is "lawlessesq hurt her leg" and nothing beyond that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:07 AM
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Yeap, this is why I don't really give a fuck when male relatives try to bingo me with the "it's so you don't grow old all alone" bingo when they find out I'm utterly uninterested in marrying or having kids. Yeah YOU (as in, men) will get to die with loved ones around, women have in general more odds in dying alone, even after they get married and have kids and do all the lifescript things society demanded out of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:05 AM
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I agree with this, I've been into yaoi for a long time and I've yet to see the genre causing hordes of women to sexually harass/molest, rape, abuse, or otherwise have their interactions with real life men get so distorted the way porn-addicted men are towards real life women. Women know that stuff is all fake and is all pure fantasy, in fact I've read many, many authors of fanfiction (regardless of sexual/romantic content or lack thereof) reveal that the writing is cathartic or therapeutic in ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:02 AM
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a mix of not existing or I love bbw but only in the bedroom. That seems to be the general experience of us plus sized women, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:06 AM
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I can't buy flowers (allergic) but I think it's so much better when you treat yourself. Why? Like you mentioned "apology" flowers have strings attached; he didn't get them to make you happy, because he appreciates you, or wants to make you feel good that day; they're there because he fucked up some way and now wants to throw some money in the form of gifts your way to "fix" it. Meanwhile, you get them yourself you know why: you like them, they add to your day, you wanna make yourself happy. "Apo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:04 AM
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Not to mention, good looking men are likely to be secretly (or not so secretly) narcissistic because they can "get" almost any woman they want. Remember, men like Henry Cavill (current Superman actor, generally considered to be good looking) are LV. Dude is popular, handsome, has a good career (so far), money... and is low value. This is also sometimes brought up in the chat room, newbies asking "he looks good on "paper" but kinda has 2-3 red flags, what should I do??" (good on paper AKA has a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:57 AM
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"All my exes are crazy, crazy btches I tell you!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:52 AM
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Add to that, most women are totally repulsed to have sex with someone they perceive is a child under her care (man-child that treats wife 100% like a mommy you have sex with); we're not pedophiles like the majority of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:47 AM
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Because they don't wanna do it, and most men will comfortably, implicitly take advantage of their partners, especially us women who have been told by patriarchal societies (aka men) that it's not only our job to clean and keep the house neat, it's also in "our nature." Same bullshit as the women "are naturally/biologically nurturing" and anything that ties to our "biology." The more they can make us look like animals enslaved by biological urges, the less they have to explain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:42 AM
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My god, I'd pay good money to see that in 1080p HD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:24 AM
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Another thing that's gross about this: All the things you listed are all things single moms already freaking do. This is just the bare minimum, and most single and/or deadbeat fathers can't even do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:17 AM
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if they don’t have it they didn’t ask for it. It's really gross how men will bitch about "discrimination against men" and then cite "men not getting child custody"... when those LVM dads didn't want it, didn't ask for it, AKA didn't wanna be responsible for their own kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:15 AM
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It doesn't mean they'll ever physically attack someone but it does mean they'll minimize things like this every time they're faced with them and that's a problem. Yeap, because they get second-hand benefits out of the situation, they're fucking disgusting cowards, even lower than the assholes OP had to deal with in the street, because they will claim they're "good guys" since they didn't do anything directly... but deep down they absolutely reap all the advantages. Disgusting, no better than the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:12 AM
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LVM boyfriends/husbands begging their partners for a game console is one of the biggest turn-offs ever. Oh yeah I'm totally feeling hot and sexy when I'm being bothered by a 30+yo man begging like an 8yo to his mommy to get him the newest toy. I just love the experience of a spoiled man-child tugging on my metaphorical skirt to spend my hard earned money on him while I get nothing in return. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:01 AM
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Thissssss. I still can't believe after past generations fought for fellow women to have the right to vote, there are women out there in Twitter and Instagram talking about how women shouldn't have the right to vote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:32 PM
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"if it works out, you should be thankful I chose you. If it doesn't, you knew what you were getting into"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:22 PM
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Too many newbies and such who come to FDS without really reading AND comprehending the handbook and all we discuss about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:20 PM
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it’s extremely common for men to change their behavior temporarily and then fall back into old habits. Not to mention, if he ends up being LV, he'll hold these days of "adulting" over her head whenever she complains about anything else in the household or they're having a fight and he wants to win (and boy, do men love to win arguments against women, regardless of whether they're right or not, or if they're being assholes about it or not)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:17 PM
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Let's just say what it is. Yeap yeap! The bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:15 PM
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I usually have about 20 dollars in cash in my purse/coin purse because I burned myself a lot of times when I needed cash (ex. parking meters, or some places where they only accepted cash as payment, like some food trucks, older laundromats) and also just in case there's an emergency and cards are lost, damaged, etc. Then add to that, that a lot of these women are probably overwhelmed. Cleaning, cooking, working (full time, even) doing all the emotional and mental labor... (and that's not even ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:27 AM
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Yet another reason to refuse to move in with a forever boyfriend/fiancee, the emotional and physical labor skyrockets for women while men reap the benefits of a shared household, which should only be a privilege given to him after he's proven again and again that he's HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:47 AM
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Oh yes, so what you see in "regular" social media is how the men are victims of baby trapping, how women get all custody of the children during divorces, right? For the 2nd one (since I already mentioned the first), the reason why most women get more custody is 1) male judges have a bias that women (aka mothers) are "naturally" better at parenting and thus should take care of the child 2) the divorced men don't even request for custody. In fact most of those that do, do get more balanced custody…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:55 AM
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Right? According to this guy I'd be in the "ugly" group, he can fuck right off. "Ugly" women (aka women he doesn't wanna fuck) are humans too and I've met plenty of "these" women, who are beautiful both inside and outside. Just because certain scrotes don't find a woman fuckable, doesn't mean she's ugly. Not to mention, these women are out there taking care of their bodies, using SPF, being clean, being productive and healthy... Dusty, dirty, gross LVM are nowhere near worthy of being near their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:40 AM
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Yes 100% with you, thank you! If they really don't wanna be fathers, then freeze some sperm and get fixed. Literally all these scrotes want is to have sex with none of the consequences, meanwhile women have to deal with getting venereal diseases (which men are mostly carriers/asymptomatic, women are usually the ones who get the symptoms), paying and doing most of the BC work, deal with the consequences of abortions (which are NOT something easy to get, as many LVM believe), etc. They keep on hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:33 AM
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Oh yes, absolutely, not saying that this isn't overall a good thing, it just riles me up that one of the main reasons that action is being taken at all is out of concern for men. Ideally we'd like this shit to be over because most of us would desire the world to be less shitty and for people to not have to go through slavery, abuse and rape, and not only because "my peepee" but I agree, for now we should take what we can get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:52 AM
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Men's compliment: "I find you sexually attractive and have no issue making you uncomfortable by telling you whether you like it or not" Women's compliment: "that person is/looks awesome and I feel telling them will make us both feel great at least for a fraction of the day" Kinda funny (pathetic) how akin to rape men's "compliments" to women are. It's literally verbal assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:22 AM
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Imagine being such a stain in society that your first reaction to finding out the vast majority of porn you consumed was child abuse and child rape, is to whine and complain about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:18 AM
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the negative impact it has on the brain and we're seeing the resulting quality of men What really, really gets me, is that the most realistic thing that will happen is that porn will be less accepted, and we might see more movement to encourage less consumption, etc... but it will have almost NOTHING to do with all the trafficked and raped victims. Nothing. It's gonna be mainly for the concern of "fellow man," to prevent their peepees and brains from getting atrophied, not because of any real ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:17 AM
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That they're only going to do maybe 30% of the household and childrearing tasks? 30%?? Now now, let's not get greedy here /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:02 AM
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What, like it’s so hard to earn money? Pssh. Right? Women are out there working too, on top of child-caring, cooking, cleaning, keeping the couple's social circles, etc. and men act like them throwing SOME money (and I know a lot of men who bitch at women for spending "their" money on certain things or certain ways, so they don't even wanna give you the money in good faith) is their most important contribution to the household. Fuck emotional labor, mental labor, physical labor (that is deemed "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:01 AM
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This is why I hate to hear bullshit (I hear it mostly in the CF sub, since that's one of the ones I frequent the most) that "men in particular are forced to be fathers/get babytrapped" I just wanna literally kick them out of the conversation. Men have been babytrapping and raping women for EONS, yet these last couple of decades men can't stop bitching about how "horrible and unfair" it is that they don't get to have sex without consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:56 AM
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Same here. I'm not gonna balk at some body hair, but too many men out there are almost like some kind of yeti they're so hairy. Some of them are even vomit inducing to me, especially when you realize that the average man does NOT like to groom or clean himself as regularly as women do (in part because they're expected to, but you get what I mean). Like just imagining how many guys out there have hairy buttholes but don't really bother to wash properly down there. It's one thing to have a slight …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:34 PM
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Not to mention, lots of "couple/marriage" therapists try to shift blame onto the woman, at least in part, to be "fair," because "both partners were at fault in some way or another." And I'm at the point where I just wanna yell "NO, sometimes one person CAN be 100% at fault for ruining the relationship." Couple counselors/therapists are incredibly dangerous because they actually arm the abuser or LV partner with ways to keep the abuse going on, and even take the side of the abuser. Like you said,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:34 AM
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We're "underage women" when they want to shift blame onto literal children, just like we're "little girls" when it's not convenient for them for our voices to be heard and they want to dismiss/minimize us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:44 AM
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he is really conflict aversive This is why I never will accept that men are the "stronger" gender. The majority of men blatantly, literally, witness fellow men treat women like shit, and they stay quiet, most usually because of fear (fear of consequences, fear of retaliation, fear of mocking) of other fellow men. They're the same ones whining on why women "generalize" after, so they're all shit in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:43 PM
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I think the only upside I see to it is that skincare and fashion are so strict even men have to do it, so in that sense the playing field is a tiny bit (just a tiny) more level in terms of physical expectations from a romantic partner. Men who look as shitty and dusty as our "dad bod, brown cargo shorts, shitty print T-shirt, no SPF ever, no haircut ever, hobo beard" men on this side of the pond would never, EVER be able to get most women in Korea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:48 PM
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All good recs, thank you ladies! Will check them out ASAP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:44 PM
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Oh yes, My whole family is Korean so I'm well aware of the toxicity and huge slave factory that the whole industry is. I still thought it was worth sharing this song though, as I rather encourage these type of songs than all the generic love/cute ones out there. I like to think it was made at all due to the growing number of women in Korea who are realizing the patriarchal system they're living in, is BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:44 PM
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But of course, the only reason to put "love" and "respect" coins in her is for sex to come out! What else is there?? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:29 AM
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I wish I could frame your comment, the whole thing is the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:02 PM
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This is my dream goal, getting a big ass house, and get two GS and train them well to protect. It'll be a lot of hard work but I'm already looking forward to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:30 AM
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I used to live in the 4th and 6th floors of apartments, and up to the 5th floor it was a given that windows should have bars of some sort, not to protect people from falling, but to prevent burglars. As you say, 2nd floor windows are nothing for these depraved men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:16 AM
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deep intellectual conversations I have yet to see this, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:14 PM
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Oh yeah I was agreeing with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:11 PM
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Both age gaps and life-stage gaps are incredibly important. I used to be OK with a 5 year gap, but now it went down to a 2-3 year gap. Then when you take into account many men do not want to advance beyond the bachelor/frat-bro life stage (drink and smoke with his buds, no housechores, only videogames/sports). Just think about all the absent fathers who expect the wife to contribute 50 of the money, but she has to do all the housechores on top of childcare (and a lot of emotional and mental labo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:35 AM
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Excellent point; to add to it, you can absolutely be the same age yet not be at the same life stages. For example, a woman who's 30 and is ready for kids or marriage, while her 30yo boyfriend is still in the bachelor/frat-bro phase, wanting to just drink and smoke with his homies while he neglects house chores. And it's likely he will never get out of that life stage because he's just that immature and wants to stay that way (plenty of 40-50yo dusties preying on 20-25yo young women).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:30 AM
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Oh yes "triangulation," and it needs to die along with all the LVM using it to attack women's self-esteem and pitching us against each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:25 AM
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He doesn't sound HV to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:20 AM
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It's because he's got the maturity of a toddler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:17 AM
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Thank you for saying this, that thing alone made me gag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:15 AM
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Absolutely adding a home gym to my dream home too, this is just too disgusting and creepy. Seriously, porn is literally frying men's brains and what's worse is, they're loving it. Now I want a home with about 5 bedrooms: gym room, library, entertainment, art/craft room, on top of my bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:14 AM
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He's worried we're gonna take advantage of him to get that "free" $5 starbucks latte, on top of enjoying his wonderful personality and looks, obviously. /s Edit: words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:10 AM
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Usually "class" gaps overlap with "money" gaps; for example he was born into a wealthy family, has been very privileged all his life. A woman who was from a lower income (than him) group, might be subjected to him abusing that money/class gap in the relationship dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:02 AM
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"Chill it's just a joke!" Translates to: "I am a shitty person and say shitty things, but I'm also a huge spineless coward who can't own up to my own words, so I'll use this whenever I notice I fucked up to shift blame on you" Because grown men placing the blame on women or anyone else but themselves is so attractive. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:57 AM
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I know. That’s why it should be looked at more as investing in an asset that will increase in value over time. I understand what you're saying, but that's not the point I'm trying to make. This isn't about buying jewelry to invest, I'm talking very specifically about the widely accepted, traditional romantic act of "men courting women" by gifting them jewelry. This is a very old tradition, which wasn't just a "love" gesture, but had added connotations of men being able to provide for their woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:56 PM
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What I've gathered from men in relation to hobbies so far, is that the hobby itself is usually not the problem, the problem is men's total lack of self-moderation, and like you said, they have no other interests besides those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:35 PM
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I'm not talking about buying ourselves jewelry though, I'm talking about men using jewelry as a wooing/courting/caring gift. The sad truth is that men "gifting" their partners jewelry doesn't mean anything anymore, because jewelry nowadays can be mass produced and newer, cheap allows can be used, to the point you can just grab some cheap but very nice looking jewelry on your grocery trip, which is what LVM want to do. In the past getting jewelry from a man actually meant something, it meant he c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:26 PM
1

Thank you for making me spit my drink, and prove once more that jewelry is outdated currency for courting/showing care for your partner!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:51 PM
28

Exactly this. Regardless of what she chooses to do in the end, we have to look out for each other. Not everyone wants to face the truth or do the hard (but right) thing, but at the very least we should be able to say that we tried on our end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:49 PM
7

I just wanted it to be clear he didn’t have to “worry” about paying for my ice cream 😂 Even better, now he doesn't have to "worry" at all, what with being kicked out, blocked and deleted from your life, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:47 PM
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This is why age gaps (and even class gaps) are a big no-no. Trust me, even if he doesn't outright admit it, even to a subconscious level (due to him absorbing and having that normalized by society/culture bullshit) he'll be feeling this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:44 PM
14

Those same men who reduce us to biological hardwiring, are the same men who totally lose their minds when a woman expects a man to 100% provide for her... You know, what we're "hardwired" to want from a mate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:40 PM
23

Watch how those same men suddenly say "underage WOMAN" when a 15yo little girl gets raped or sexually harassed. Suddenly she's not a girl or a female, she's a woman, and what was she doing/wearing to "make him" act that way?? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:38 PM
14

No problem, it can be surprising how even our words can be molded, catered or favored towards men. It's important to keep that in mind since words have power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:36 PM
28

It seems to me that it is because when a man is overcome by a woman he loses his freedom or independence. The world isn't about him anymore, it is about her and it is about them. Freedom and independence are not taken from them, though. What they "lose" is their entitlement to women's bodies and minds. Same with the world, it's not that "it's about her," it's about just NOT having the man being the center of the world; both are very different things. The issue is that men do not like either of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:32 PM
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Or create a sexualized female character and masturbate to it Oh hey I see you've met my pre-FDS anime/gamer male friends. Jokes aside, if there's an option to make your main playable character female, they will absolutely sexualize the fuck out of them, which is all sorts of fucking weird because in theory that character represents the player, aka themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:26 PM
19

To be honest LVM (aka the majority of men out there) never really mentally grow beyond that level of maturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:22 PM
5

All truths, sister; for those women (pickmes, libfems, trads) it literally mean destroying a bunch of their core beliefs (I like this comic by The Oatmeal on the topic: https://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe), it just means acknowledging that a lot of shit they were put through, was all a big fat lie. Too many people cannot deal with that mentally, they rather stay in their safe bubble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:20 PM
11

You all knew they weren't proper partner material, I think a lot of us female weebs can see it plain as day, that if you took away the anime/game shared interests, those dudes do not have anything worth to offer (in fact I'd say they'd be a negative value in your life) as a romantic partner. Lots of people don't want to admit this, but just from observing the anime/game male fans as a whole (or just, any mostly male dominated hobby where they define their individuality by those hobbies), you can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:15 PM
2

I was agreeing with you, chill out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:11 PM
25

Amen, sister! My personal (and other women's) experience is that those kind of guys start fantasizing about all the bullshit anime scenarios they could potentially get to play out with a girlfriend. So instead of thinking of you as a person of your own right, outside the anime or videogame hobbies, they think of you as a vehicle or object of fantasy. I don't want to be in a club that will mean I will have a lot of guys make me uncomfortable by hitting on me. I join clubs for fun, not necessarily…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:48 AM
7

Speak all the truths, queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:28 AM
29

Exactly, they just copy the stuff TV shows them without any thought. For example, the problem with the "offering his coat" gesture is that they're just mechanically doing it, with the implicit intention of scoring brownie points with you (aka get him closer to sex), not because they genuinely care. If he cared, he'd see that you have your own coat and you're fine, so there's no need to offer his and make you feel guilty for his ass getting cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:25 AM
12

Yeap, I still remember that bullshit that women are "a walking lie," because they put on makeup, wigs, high heels... Looking back, the dude sure was salty that all the high maintenance, hot women didn't go for short, lame, Nice Guy men like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:19 AM
10

Yes, and schools are mostly about learning second-hand knowledge, so saying this kind of learning doesn't count or is less, is very stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:18 AM
10

Yep. Most of education (schools, classes, universities) are majorly second-hand learning. Books are literally all second-hand knowledge. For anyone to dismiss it just because it doesn't fit their narrative, it's really dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:17 AM
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From first hand experience, haircuts are the one thing I won't go cheap for anymore, it's just not worth it (and I've been having mostly cheap haircuts in my life). But I agree, it's just another goddamn servitude bullshit that men wouldn't be able (or want) to reciprocate, ever. I just don't see anything but the best of HVM taking hair-styling courses so they can do their partners' hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:06 AM
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Holy crap, he gets kyaraben (character bento) from his GF?? Does she also give him a juice box and a pat on the head when it's time for him to get in the school bus? FFS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:04 AM
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It says a lot about those men, when even women like me who like anime and videogames won't get nowhere near them. Trust me, from first hand experience the majority of that pool is shitty as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:02 AM
13

One of the first articles I've read when I found out FDS and was just lurking and taking it all in. What a wonderful article
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:42 AM
12

if I want to have a husband ever again, I should hurry up and find another one soon, because once I experience how beautiful and free solo life is, I won't ever go back to wanting a partner ever again. I never understood this "advice" "Hey so you should smear some shit in your house to get that shit smell settled in, if you wait too long you'll realize that having a house smelling clean is so much better, so you should smear some shit now while you're dumb and desperate and want to copy everyone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:41 AM
18

You can gather a lot of relationship experience just by how you treat your other relationships (friendships, family and to a lesser extent, work relations), which is expect love, care, respect, and have strong, healthy boundaries. All the stuff you expect from a "romantic" relationship is stuff you really need to enforce and expect from most relationships in your life. While there are some things that change, like the sexual and romance aspects, the core of a healthy relationship is the same in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:09 AM
55

Right? So many people say bullshit like "oh you have to experience it yourself to really understand" excuse to dismiss, condescend or diminish your decisions or opinions. There's insanely amounts of data out there (objectively gathered or in terms of personal anecdotes) that shows that romantic relationships with men are a shit hole. Sure SOME women luck out, but it's like winning the lottery. You can play, but the odds of winning are astronomically unlikely. It's like suddenly second hand learn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:55 PM
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I'm 35, I've been to some dates, never had a boyfriend either. None of them really cut it, so I didn't bother; and trust me, there are no regrets on my part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:51 PM
48

Important part of the FDS mindset is to accept that it's very likely we'll stay single. There just aren't enough HVM out there, the vast majority of men are LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:49 PM
55

We need to sticky this once in a while, too many newbies (or just, women who come to the chat thinking it's some cheap-ass, easy alternative to askFDS) come to the chat asking stuff like this: "He looks good on paper, he has X amount of red flags but otherwise looks good on paper, gals is it ok?? I want a man" Do not romanticize, idolize or get deluded by a guy just because you're still in the "I need a man to be happy, want happy marriage and kids lifescript" mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:40 PM
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Then spend more time here. This is a clear no for any FDSer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:31 PM
37

Men are genuinely deluded; they peak in their 20s, and it's all downhill once they hit 30, since they never took care of themselves, and refuse to take care of themselves. This is why now I suggest all women to use their 20s to study, get a career, save money, grow as individuals (and be comfortable with their own company), and then start dating during their 30s. That's when you see which men have their shit together for real, and which men don't, since they don't have the excuse of inexperience…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:29 PM
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I used to like his bullshit then after a few years, of course it's revealed he's LVM. Not to mention, in his old HBO specials (where these screenshots come from) he sure likes to bitch and bitch about women. Sure he throws a bone to the ladies a little, but looking back it's really obvious he wanted to complain about women a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:01 PM
14

100% they think she's abnormal or crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:59 PM
19

HELL NO. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:55 PM
12

Just wait a few months or even a few years, when he tries to hit you up with a "hey" or whatever the fuck he thinks will get you to give him attention. Block and delete and throw everything that was his away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:20 AM
8

"not all men!" So, your daughter can spend the night at her male friend's houses then? "Oh no fuck that, no daughter of mine will do that, all men are wolves" The way men pick and choose the narrative when it's convenient for them is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:15 AM
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No problem at all, you know this is really repulsive behavior. It's even more disgusting when you think about how a lot of these men uphold implicitly or explicitly that "men are alpha, the man of the house" and demand the submission of women, yet at the same time expect to be treated like literal children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:11 AM
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Go the next step and say you're a voyeur, and love to watch another man ball torture him and shove his dick up his ass. Some "subs" (ugh) love to get pegged by women, so might as well get rid of that sub-branch of BDSM bullshit LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:53 PM
14

All I imagine is this scrote walking her by the kitchen sink and the bathtub; and here we thought a walk through a field was the lowest, they keep lowering the bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:47 PM
18

Yes, for me even one LV trait means they're LV overall. My reasoning is that, if this is the ONE LV trait we found, how many more is he successfully hiding? The "husband/partner is nice to everyone, but abuses his wife/girlfriend in the privacy of their home" is an incredibly terrifying, yet also depressingly common scenario that has, is and will happen all over the world. I simply do not trust a man to be HV just because he does a few good things. He has to consistently prove to be HV inside an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:51 PM
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This is actually a vital part of the FDS mentality that even quite a few of our members cannot accept: You have to accept the reality that you might never find a HVM, and might be single for life. This is especially true among newbies, that come to FDS desperate for a "magic formula" that will "promise them a good man." To anyone who still has this idea deep down: we're not the equivalent of PUAs. FDS does NOT promise you'll find a HVM, nor it can tell you "where to find them."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:58 PM
16

A master's degree gives value to our lives, however mediocre dick is not only cheap and abundant, most of it TAKES value from our lives. That's right: cheap, abundant dick is a parasite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:54 PM
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Yeah you'll see this attitude a lot (especially from newbies), where they aren't really in the FDS mindset and immediately start saying this or that male is HVM. Plenty of anecdotes and data in this sub about men who show their true colors years, decades, later, and still so many women even here are too eager to "find a HVM" they ignore the flags or ignore their fellow women's warnings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:52 PM
19

If you have vetted the man and are in a relationship for 6 months 6 months is nowhere near enough to properly vet a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:49 PM
20

he told me he would’ve focused more on being gentle if he’d known Excuse me? What the fuck is that gaslighting bullshit. He should've been focused and gentle ANY TIME he has sex with you. You're still blaming yourself, and in turn giving poor advice to others here, due to still being traumatized about it, because trust us he absolutely shifted the blame on you. Remember this, and never forget: he should've been focused on your feelings, pleasure and comfort regardless of whether you were a virgi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:48 PM
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It's all the "virgins bleed the first time" myth bullshit, on top of the "the first time always hurts and doesn't feel good" so they just do whatever the fuck they want the first time. One of the reasons I stay a virgin, I know men don't give a shit about women from the fact those two myths have been perpetuated and genuinely believed, for the convenience of all men, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:45 PM
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Add gravity-defying huge boobs and ass with NO cellulite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:54 PM
1

Yeah, not to mention... Men must know at some level that a lot of things they insist be "equal", like FWBs, open relationships, celebrity crushes (which now, could also include IG models), we women think of differently, and they wanna keep us that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:34 PM
13

Any cutesy, childish, obnoxious things I like are just secondary to who am as a person. Exactly this. We don't let our anime/videogames/cards/comics define us, we enjoy them in a healthy way... or we can literally make it your career if we're that into it, like professional cosplayers (which is an actual thing) Once again, the problem is not the hobby, it's men and their lack of moderation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:40 AM
20

for anyone who might think being this way is “mean” Holy crap, if anyone does tell you that, tell me because I'm totally gonna flip my everlasting shit to them. As if men aren't already privileged and molly coddled enough, there's people out there whining about women being "mean" to them, a word I relate to little kids fighting with each other, or pouting and throwing tantrums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:31 PM
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I used to be OK with "lusting over celebrities" because duh, I do it too, but... now I realize that men "lust over celebrities" in VERY different ways. I can get instantly turned off by a good looking celebrity the moment I find out he's LV (and this applied even before FDS), not to mention, it makes me uncomfortable to "fantasize" about a stranger, especially when I know he's married, has kids, etc. and even if they weren't married, I'd still not masturbate to the thought of them. Again, they'r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:27 PM
31

Hi I'm 35yo, total virgin. No regrets, especially after finding the CF and FDS subs. I don't want "kinks" I don't wanna be humiliated and hurt during sex. One of the vilest things society has done lately to women is brainwash them into pretending they're ok with degrading sexual acts. No "casual" bullshit either. Sex shouldn't be casual, there should be a healthy (keyword), emotional connection, which includes love and respect for each other. Kinks, FWB, low effort dates, and one night stands (o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:10 AM
19

They're lazy and entitled. They forced societies and cultures for generations to benefit them, and now they're too lazy to even provide as men of a household. They wanna spend their lives playing videogames and wanking to porn, while they get high/drunk with their homies. They want to subject the women around them to disgusting, mysognistic acts. In other words, it's work, and they don't wanna do anything they consider "work" if they don't get paid for it. They just wanna lead a hedonistic life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:01 AM
25

This. You can bet when they reach a certain age, and/or notice their skin became shit, they will demand their wives (or in Reddit, demand r/skincareaddiction) to make them a routine, then expect their skin to magically go back 30 years. Never mind going to the doctor, or wearing some SPF during your life. Or using some goddamn proper soap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:57 AM
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For me it always irritated me that just because I found all men around me unsuitable and thus I never developed any crushes or relationships with any men so far, I HAD to be a lesbian, or my sexuality was put into question. There's no issue with being gay, mind you, the problem is that the people who asked me if I was a lesbian, asked me that question with the context that something was wrong or abnormal with me. Most of the time, that's the context they come from, regardless of whether they ask…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:50 AM
29

Even within context he's straight up NVM LOL (I also loved the show, loved the dub too, it's great)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:42 AM
2

10 bucks says what men consider "manly" lunch is chicken nuggets and fries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:32 AM
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Men are insanely fragile, they can't handle even one criticism to their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:44 PM
2

And be able to give and accept tough love when your sisters tell you you're fucking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:41 PM
11

Also, 100000% pathetic to rely your "masculinity" on what your partner does. Like sure, the wife HAS to make a "manly" lunch, he can't even cook his own fucking lunch. What a mAnLy MaN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:32 PM
4

All truths, sister most of them do not even consider divorce This is mostly because they've been gaslit by all of society, which as you say benefits men, to stay with him "through thick and thin" "in sickness and in healthy" "ride or die" all bullshit that men have twisted to make women stay until they are either literally dead, or squeezed out of all their valuable resources. Men leave women for absolutely bullshit, they are encouraged to. Women are demonized for even daring to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:21 PM
1

You speak the truths, queen Watch out, another influx of newbies who come to FDS thinking this is another "pickme validating each other's bullshit" sub have been coming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:17 PM
1

I'm not gonna molly coddle any woman who comes here whining about all the LVM they allow in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:00 PM
6

This is why I refuse to browse and follow people's FB, IG, etc. unless it's genuinely creative content, so no posts about their life events, AT ALL. Even when you're aware that it's not all true, it still can have a negative impact in your mental health. It's better to not follow accounts of that kind (influencers or whatever). On the other hand, I love watching videos about nail art, papercraft, animals/pets, diorama making, and other sort of crafts. I feel like those add positive energy to my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:25 AM
2

Everything else is at fault, NEVER them, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:19 AM
6

Update it to: All women should have jobs, save their own money, access to their own bank accounts separate from the joint account, no exceptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:17 AM
56

Oh yeah that sub is crawling with men, some pretend to be women, some don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:15 AM
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Plenty of married women are, for all terms and purposes, single or single moms; too many absent fathers who just do fuck-all around the house. In fact it's worse, since he expects her to cater to him too with sex and emotional labor (on top of already picking up after his messes, cooking for him, etc) Might as well just have a kid by yourself, at least there's no man to pull you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:10 AM
4

I'm 35, and I pretty much gave up. No reason to waste so much time to look "pretty" for dates; as another member commented, it's like playing the lottery. Sure, if someone who MIGHT be a HVM comes my way, I'll welcome the addition, but I'm not gonna stress out because I don't have one. We don't need men to be fulfilled women; men on the other hand need us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:42 AM
7

Moms way too obsessed with their sons is a high level of GROSS in my mind; there's surely some sexual gratification/validation/seeking she wants from her son right there, and it sounds as disgusting as you can imagine. I've yet to see a momma's boy turn to be a healthy, mature, good man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:24 AM
50

Projection is real, they lie about their height, so women MUST be lying about theirs too! Nah scrotes, we're not so fragile about our heights as you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:01 PM
2

Oh yes, I've seen plenty of those in the chatroom, when newbies use it as some sort of secretive askFDS alternative (since they get almost immediate feedback, and they don't have a post history with their BS for us to check later on), defending scrotes up and down because "he did a few nice things for me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:35 PM
5

HOLY SHIT. A big NO to your whole goddamn comment. No age gaps. EVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:59 PM
4

She may have nothing else to do, all of us here have too much shit to do and don't need any mediocre sex from scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:51 PM
1

Basically it takes data from your phone, but to an incredibly invasive level, to the point even other companies's data mining is not as bad compared to Tiktok. Most people don't understand the scope of violation of privacy these apps/companies can do, as long as it's popular.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:40 PM
1

Yeah it's really pathetic that a celebrity lets himself go like that, he has the looks (for example I think he looks fine in Inception), he has the advantages (he could hire a cook, a trainer and get skincare routines), and he even doesn't get as much pressure as female celebrities, so he could just do SOME maintenance, not all maintenance. The whole fucking game could be in their favor (both because it's rigged and because they managed to obtain significant wealth and popularity) and even then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:16 AM
1

I am a heterosexual woman who likes men, and wants to have a good, healthy, respectful, relationship with one. I refuse to use the term "demisexual" for wanting a healthy relationship, as if I'm the abnormal one for not reducing people to fuck dolls. Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:11 AM
2

Thank you, for you and other women who comment about how it's normal to want an emotional bond. I stopped using the term of myself because it never felt quite right, and it's so true that everything is so fucked up and pornified now, that wanting a healthy emotional bond to have sex is seen as a fucking niche, "abnormal" thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:10 AM
2

labeling normal human emotions as a sexual orientation further “kink”ifies us. It’s bullshit. Only wanting to have sex with men who value and love you isn’t like being gay or straight or bi. This, all of this. I used to use the term demisexual, but it really never sat right with me. Some recent talks with other women in this and another sub, made me realize WHY it never sat right with me to use that to describe myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:06 AM
3

The tiny, young girl's clothing particularly fuck me up in that exhibit. Men are monsters, no ifs or buts about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:02 AM
2

he's got a teenaged autistic son, and I didn't mean for things to go so drastically You have to stop shifting the blame onto you, you have to. HIS actions are to blame, HE did this to himself and his family. HE DID THIS. You did well and so did HR and the managers. He's literally a pedophile and a predator, you handed the proof yourself. Be proud of protecting not only yourself, but any other potential victims around him (in your same company, even), now they know what kind of scumbag he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:59 AM
1

"B-b-b-but I'm lonely, I want a maaaaaaan!" This is what it boils down to, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:55 AM
2

That should be the name of a whole 'nother sub LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:53 AM
1

guy who will tell me they love me and then disrespect me in front of my own friends on the same day That to me seems to be the perfect proof that his word is shit, he's LV and time to kick him out. Love it when men out themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:50 AM
5

Why are you with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:41 AM
8

Yep, they use the same shitty soap for everything, then they wonder why they rapidly start looking like shit when they hit their 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:15 AM
6

Tiktok's insidious data mining is so crazy it even puts Google to shame. I don't recommend anyone using this app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:09 AM
24

It's not surprising, hobosexuals often overlap with I'm-a-project scrotes, which have been heavily advertised by media in the last couple of decades as one of the "good" men for women to mate with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:04 AM
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It's actually terrifying how psychotic and manipulative so many men are out there. They will literally put such a "good man" act for decades, in front of everyone (women included) only to heap abuse and abuse on their ONE victim (typically a spouse, but also children if he has any), so when she tries to tell anyone... everyone just invalidates or doubts her "oh but he's such a nice guy! Not him you must've done something for him to react like that" The more and more I think about it, the safer i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:18 AM
12

Imagine some of these scrotes wanting to put their disgusting fingers inside women's mouths, vaginas and anuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:46 PM
23

^Exactly why I highly dislike men with long hair. Most of them do NOT take care of it properly; when I encounter one that does, it SHOWS, because there's no way around having shiny, well kept hair but to actually put the effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:45 PM
7

I'm probably not describing them well to be honest, sorry, I found the post for you, they're called "penis papules." She describes them as warts, and to me they look as a disgusting hentai tentacle come to life: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/in5dh7/im_declaring_our_right_as_women_to_have_specific/ I actually think some are nice to look at I know, my point is that many of them are NOT nice to look at, yet men accuse women of being "shallow" or being "cruel" if we even men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:08 PM
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Thank you for mentioning this! I HATE that whenever a woman does something badass, everyone in the comment is like "look at the huge brass balls on her" It's really gross how normalized it is to relate testicles = bravery/badassery, when they're literally the thing men whine the most about when it gets hit?? That's why I stick to saying "that person has guts," "guts of steel" and other more neutral sayings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:30 AM
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Not to mention some penises ARE uglier than others. To me they all look weird (I wouldn't call any of them "nice to look at," really) but some genuinely look disgusting. There was a post done a while ago by one of the mods, about the shape and size of penises and all the gross shit that comes with having one, and one of the conditions was having these kind of tiny little fins??? It legitimately looked like a gross alien thing, and it actually managed to traumatize me for a while. I would gag whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:27 AM
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Just knowing if she likes X store and getting a gift card to that place would be a decent move, and you can even tag along with her to see what she likes so you can choose something yourself next time. For me there are so many ways to care for someone, money or not, that it really hurts me when someone I care and I put X amount of effort, doesn't bother to show care for me (and it's not like I want every single holiday catered, just my birthday, that's literally it) This is why I stopped plannin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:21 AM
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Yes, I've been applying the block and delete to other subs too, and there's always an asshole out there trying to rile you up, now instead of going on a argument with someone who just wants to fight with some stranger online, I just add their username to my ever growing list of blocked users. Sure, I could keep arguing and wasting my energy replying back, but then again... they're not worth the effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:14 AM
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Yes, and while we do call each other sis, it's not from the first get go, usually we get to know a few members more personally and then call them sis, or when we're encouraging an OP in her post. This is blatantly some scam/MLM/pyramid scheme BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:11 AM
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It says a lot about women and men that I never heard of Chris Evans nudes... but I heard all about Jennifer Lawrence's nudes, and saw SO many comments of LVM asking "where can I find them?" My level of involvement/interest in celebrity gossip was zero for both cases, yet I know too much about Jennifer's. Men should be ashamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:45 PM
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It's bullshit. Ok let's say he legitimately explore FDS... why doesn't he just, BROWSE the sub? Seriously, it's not like this sub posts are private. Posting comments or posts are a different thing, but he wouldn't need to participate to explore the sub. Anyone with an actually working brain could just look at all the info we have here, and refer to it according to any "questions" they have. We literally have all the information for all the questions anyone could have in regards to FDS. No sorry …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:10 PM
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I skimmed through some articles about it in the past, and the general consensus I heard is that no, they won't make a big difference to the air in your home, but I did hear that it's confirmed that plants can help make your home environment more pleasing and calm looking, so at the very least mentally and visually they help you positively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:58 PM
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Add to that: plants are quiet, they stay in their place, are beautiful to look at, so they are a wonderful addition to alleviate stress and give your environment a relaxing and peaceful air. Scrotes are loud, whiny, dirty, leave shit all over, and such a detriment to your home environment and your mental health, they make you NOT want to come home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:35 PM
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The point is a lot of of these sexual situations were not really encouraged in media like they have been encouraged in the last 20-30 years (and thus normalized in the public as part of a regular relationship). Literally the media has been telling women that they're supposed to give men their bodies and sex as a "reward" and OP made an excellent case with the show Friends perpetuating this disgusting shit, especially dangerous as it's presented by a comedy show that is generally deemed as harmle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:31 PM
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That's how you know we're doing something right, LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:28 PM
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Talk with your manager about it, tell them it's affecting your work environment as it's not your responsibility to hear his complaints. If he attempts to do it again, tell him that you're not there to listen to those complaints, and that he should either talk with the manager, talk with HR, or seek a therapist. Gray rock him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:41 PM
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Does anyone else find the concept of love languages to be a bit strange? If by strange, you mean "absolute bullshit" then yes. It's just another excuse/tool for LV people and manipulators and abusers to get away with shit. While the "theory" is nice in general and I can see why it resonates with people, the fact is that it's just been used to excuse shitty behavior or ignore red flags. As you said, most if not all "love languages" should be used in a healthy relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:27 PM
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LDRs that are "successful" (at least during the time we know them) are a very rare exception to the rule. Thus, not FDS friendly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:23 PM
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What really gets me is that the shit they're expected to do traditionally is only shit they have to do once in a while, if ever. Mount a TV: once, most of the time the TV stays there until/ it's time to move out. Replace a sink/fix a leak/lay some tile: Never to maybe ONCE in the lifetime of the house. If rented, that's part of the landlord's responsibilities. Cut grass: Only if you own/rent a place with your own yard, and even then, it's a once every 2-3 weeks task Fix car: they can only do stu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:13 PM
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Men on the other hand forgot how to do their masculine tasks Oh they didn't forget, they just don't wanna lift a finger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:58 PM
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And it can't be bullshit like mac and cheese out of the box, of boiling hot dogs and spaghetti, but some real goddamn consistent decent cooking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:55 PM
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Yes I agree, I'm very glad younger me was adamant about this (LDR are not relationships); when I was in college, an internet friend confessed, but he lives in another country and for me LDR were a huge red flag (although I didn't call it that, my gut was telling me something was not right about LDRs) and I big NO in my book. Years later I'm very glad I was validated. Fellow sisters, SOME LDRs succeeded (at least they seem so for now) but those are the exception to the rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:55 AM
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OMG LOL now that I think about it, that could be taken that way! I'm sorry for my part in the misunderstanding XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:39 AM
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As Andrea Dworkin would say, penetration is the main tool of the patriarchy. This is a good way to put why men practically foam at the mouth to invade women only spaces. It's a very effective way for them to sow discord and contaminate the place, to the point women start going away and only the ones supporting or tolerating men's toxicity stay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:53 PM
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Let's go next level, get ourselves the PS5 and the Nvidia 3090 and drop his scrote ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:44 PM
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Yes, unfortunately we can't just cut off all LV people of our lives, so the next best thing is to keep things just on the professional level. It's very unprofessional of her to go around poking at your private life, maybe you can call her out next time (also, you're not obligated to give her any personal information as it doesn't pertain your professional contract with her)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:42 PM
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I think a lot of men would go younger than 18 if they could get away with it. Abso-fucking-lutely; the "youngest underage" some even dare to go is 16, because then they can claim "she looked 18/mature for her age!" and some other bullshit excuse. Rest assured that if the legal age of adulthood was 16, they'd go preying on 12-14 year olds. It's disgusting, but pedophilia is far more pervasive and abundant that we're comfortable admitting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:39 PM
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Absolutely, I see it among new FDSers not only with LVM, but also their LV friends. Lots of defensive and apologist arguing, especially when it comes to childhood or long time friends. Even if you have been friends with someone for 20 years, if they don't have the same kind of love and respect for you anymore and there are little hopes they will change their ways towards you... it's time to get them out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:08 AM
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It’s not meant to be an excuse to behave selfishly and carelessly I really hate the "love language" crap exactly because of this, it devolved into pure bullshit that people tell themselves or tell others to excuse shitty behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:42 AM
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What's disgusting is that a while back some data was gathered about this, and women in average were interested in men around their age... while men, no matter how old they go, would still be attracted to women around the 18-25yo range. It's very disgusting to see 40+ scrotes preying on women 10 years their junior, let alone young, barely legal women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:03 AM
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You must be asexual/lesbian is one of those sad tactics men use to put the blame for their failures squarely back on you. Exactly this, it's just another way for them to make it the woman's problem. I used to believe I was some sort of asexual, but I never felt the label fit me. After I read some comments like this thread, I realized that no, I'm not "abnormal" or in the "minority" just because I don't wanna have mediocre/bad sex with just any man there, or for being attracted to handsome, fit m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:57 AM
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Never. If you say anything that is popular to hate or demonize, most people won't do any critical thinking and just go straight for the prejudice. Take away the usual vocabulary we use here (like pickme, LV, etc) and just say the stuff we advocate, like healthy boundaries, self-respect, etc. and people will agree with you. It's mindboggling, but understandable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:05 AM
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"thank you, I think so, too" Let's go next level on their LV asses!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:01 AM
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Is this a red flag or nah? Yes. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:01 AM
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Yeah, I feel you sister... We genuinely thought he was a good person, only to find out he's a pedophile and a predator, goddammit. Thanks, I kinda had to, because even when I tried to just, watch and not think about it, I couldn't stop thinking about it. Basically the whole experience now is tainted by the knowledge, it's impossible to go back. Not to mention, by ignoring I'd be supporting him in some way, and if I can help it, I don't want the influence of an enemy of women in my life. I can't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:41 AM
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Add to this list: pink colored nostalgia glasses. At one point, you end up remembering/appreciating the good times than the bad times (it's not something we can help, it's a way for people to not be so weighted down by negative feelings) even when the person was a POS. Hell, that's breadcrumbing too, give you some good times here or there so when they're LV the rest of the time, you desperately cling to those good moments. Remember, you're just going through the process of letting go, and that i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 09:19 AM
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Are you talking about Cry? That one got to me the exact same way, especially because when I was through some really bad depressive episodes, I'd have playlists of entire let's plays of his playing in the background for days and days. Followed him so fucking long, but when I found out I deleted everything, unfollowed and blocked his account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 09:16 AM
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Goddang, I still have to play Danganronpa Also, on-point quote. Focus on your own happiness, sisters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 09:11 AM
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Raising that little queen to become a full fledged queen, hell yeah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 09:10 AM
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"I'm too ugly for women" they say this a lot, too And when you say "go do X to be more physically attractive" they whine that "they can't change X physical features like their faces" and then they just keep on whining without actually doing anything about it. Go get plastic surgery then?? I mean, women have been pressured for decades into having plastic surgery just to please the male gaze; if a man wants to attract a model like woman, he actually CAN do something about it. Oh no but it's "gay" …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 09:09 AM
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This reminds me of an episode of Super Nanny, where she told one of the kids (I believe it was the oldest boy, and the younger twins) that whenever his mom said or did something to him that he felt was unfair, to write it down and put it in this "special" box she gave him. Then at the end of the day, him and his mom were told to sit down and read the notes he wrote and talk about it. It was really nice, but really frustrating how the mom kept dismissing his feelings and words and talking over hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:03 AM
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To add to this, even if you accidentally say "what" or anything that sounds like you're encouraging them to actually ask their question (which can happen, sometimes it's more of a reflex since we've been conditioned like that), you can still catch yourself after that by simply not answering and ignoring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 09:38 PM
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A lot of these kind of people only want others (internet randos or local acquaintances) to be their emotional dumpsters, they wanna rant, vent, play dumb (he cheated on me 10 times, what should I doooo??), and basically plug their ears or act defensive when you try to give them advice, or tell them to cold, hard truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 09:31 PM
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Yeap, give it a bit of time, and you'll have "clueless" "newbies" come in to the chat, asking what does X term/thing mean, etc. showing that they obviously haven't visited the sub enough and haven't read the handbook. Then we go check their comment history and if it's not a freshly made account, most of them have at least one comment that reveals them as male. Soon you'll be able to spot them too LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:45 AM
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Up until very recently I reluctantly accepted that I was demisexual (a branch of asexuality) until some comments here and in wgtow made me realize no, I'm a healthy heterosexual woman with a sexual drive, I just have standards and only like handsome, fit, good men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:57 AM
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They literally can't handle the fact some rando women do NOT want to listen to their stupid, unoriginal "opinions" or "arguments." They just can't accept the fact that some women aren't gonna worship their penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:45 AM
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Yep, it's a numbers game for scrotes. We've had quite a few posts of sisters trying OLD and running actual numbers to gather actual data, and it's always consistent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:42 AM
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And of course it's always gonna be soft, doughy, shapeless dad-bod looking dudes wearing brown shorts, sport shoes and a baseball cap (or whatever the equivalent of trashy, no-effort, sheep fashion your local LVM goes for), with shitty skin and/or shitty beards (to conceal their 2nd and 3rd chins), getting approach by smoking hot, waxed all over, perfect naked makeup, super stylish, fit yet curvy "in all the right places" woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:36 AM
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To add, it simply inflates their ego to have a woman chase him. His already inflated ego balloons even more, and he thinks "if I'm attracting this chick, that means I can totally get that hot model-looking babe."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:33 AM
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Translation: lots of whining and tantrum-throwing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:31 AM
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Plenty of these scrotes also come to the chat room (it's the easiest way to invade/infiltrate the sub at first) and pretend (poorly) to be women, or just come in and do the equivalent of lower their pants and waving their tiny porn-sick dicks around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:29 AM
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Regardless of whether she's at lower risk than a fetus or not, she's entitled to feel that fear, even if it's a low chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:26 AM
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mEn ArE ThE LoGiCaL aNd CrItiCaL tHiNkInG SeX Can't even follow some simple fucking instructions to cook an easy meal as a grown-ass adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:19 AM
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You did good, sister, and remember to never unblock people you've blocked. They're blocked for a good reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:14 AM
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Age gaps are anti-FDS. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:08 AM
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This, I specifically got these little flat bags from the Dollar Store and put a tampon, pads (overnight, regular, daily) and if I don't forget, some wipes. I'm always willing to give the whole thing to a sister in need, that way she doesn't feel uncomfortable just carrying a pad out in the open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:12 PM
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They don't care because like others said, they don't see women as people; these men go around with VERY elaborate set ups to record women. Some of the worst and plentiful are in S. Korea and Japan, it's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:29 AM
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While SOME may be troll posts, as someone who spent a ridiculous amount of time in Craigslist looking for rooms to rent as a single woman, I can sadly confirm that this post is not too far from the truthful ones. I found too many of these type of posts, LVM preying on desperate women, where they were all similar: "$50 rent but you gotta share the room with me" or "no rent, just looking for a friendly roommate who can help around the house with chores and meals" Of course the "requirements" weren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:22 AM
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Just ask if they would let their daughter/wife stay a night in a man's place, and see how many will vehemently claim that they would "NEVER allow it" because "they know how all men think." So which is it, scrotes? Either "not all men" or "all men are wolves." Fucking hypocritical assholes, wanting their cake and eat it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:34 AM
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I will repeat this as many times as needed: jewelry is outdated, currently useless currency for us women. I'm talking about men wooing women with jewelry. In the past, jewelry was one of the very few possessions and forms of currency a woman could own and carry with her, and thus it was a sort of (small) insurance if she ever was in an emergency. Back then it was also REALLY hard to not only make good, genuine jewelry, but mass produce it. Lots of it was done by hand, thus is was almost always v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:19 AM
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If men actually cared they’d fight for themselves Exactly this. It boils down to once again, one of our iconic FDS phrases: "If he really wanted to, he'd do it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:10 AM
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While not the only reason (I ultimately do NOT want to go through pregnancy OR have a parental role, so not even adoption/foster), a BIG reason is as you say: men. I do not trust they're not depraved. Now, with all the insane amount of data (that is being exacerbated by porn sickness, which makes porn-sick men want younger and younger sexual victims in their videos) that proves a LOT of men have pedophiliac tendencies. I'm not arrogant or stupid enough to believe I'm the "exception to the rule."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:07 AM
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They said there was no evidence that he would do the same to his own children. Despite the fact that there's TONS of proven, objective data about how the most dangerous and most likely to sexually abuse a child people are men who are related to the children one way or another...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:01 AM
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This is also why the fucking hate our FDS sub and keep on bitching, crying and hurling digital abuse to our members (hell, look at the chat, it's the easiest way for newbies and scrotes to "infiltrate" our sub and rob us of our energy), we're all here talking to each other, gathering and sharing data, exposing men's shitty mental and physical manipulation and all levels of abuse, waking up from shitty patriarchal societies (which is most societies, really)... some of us are even refusing to be f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 03:35 AM
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So you're telling me tattoos act as a deterrent for at least a portion of LVM out there to not put their hands on us? *furiously looks through tattoo parlors*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 08:03 AM
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What happened to his chin, holy shit he looks like a cartoon character
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 01:45 AM
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Oh hey I thought your post at the CF sub would be appropriate for here! I hope you stick around and at least check some of the FDS literature :) And like everyone else said... you dodge a BARRAGE of bullets! You pulled a Neo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:44 AM
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HAH! Sisters, how many gold-digging LVM do you think will try to contact back exes or approach new women to trick, just to get a PS5 for Christmas?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:43 AM
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For me it was run across a highway, like I don't know, genuinely stupid but ultimately harmless stuff? Most men are just waiting for the chance to rape. A lot of them don't rape not because it's the wrong thing to do, but because they know they can't get away with it. AND, if they have power and/or money, they will try to get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:41 AM
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Sis I went to a youtube video of a female comedian making fun of men getting kidney stones and comparing it to cramps and periods, and the staggering amount of commenters with incredibly fragile masculinity genuinely bitching about her was hilarious AND sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:38 AM
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The rest of us: block him Her: (instantly becomes bitchy and defensive, ignores all of our words, and tells us all the "nice" things (breadcrumbs) he did for her)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:28 AM
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It’s almost dehumanizing. Absolute, 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:57 AM
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Yeah, and even if they had just intentions to make money (as in, they weren't trying to truly scam) it's still pretty shitty to come to the sub and use the FDS name to make a profit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:53 AM
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For real, and it's really sad that the way most of us see that situation and think the solution is "the maid should be unattractive" instead of focusing on the real issue which is "he should be able to control himself/not cheat in the first place"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:52 AM
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"Ohhh you had a date? How was it on a scale from one to Ben?" BTW this is gonna be our official scale for dates around here for a while XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:20 PM
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No probs! You're doing an amazing job by taking care of yourself first after all these years, it's a very important step to be able to recognize, acknowledge and be able to put into words how certain situations/actions affected you, and how you wanna go forward from now on! Remember you're a queen and your own person, and deserve to be treated with respect and care!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:18 PM
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Regardless of whether you think he made an effort or not, this is not appropriate for the first phase of courting. This is appropriate for well established relationships where the man has been as vetted as possible withing the timeline you give him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:08 PM
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This is extremely annoying, because that money they waste in porn, cheating and/or OF/escorts could've just as easily been spent on a nanny and even a maid (and even for just a portion of the money), if the man is so adverse to being a good dad and husband. But no, he has to have his cake buffet and eat it all, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:35 AM
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And if you have sons, it's highly likely they will allow themselves to be influenced by their male friends and toxic media catered to men (not just porn, but like stupid sexist ads, toxic male celebs, etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:33 AM
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100% agreed, especially when it comes to men. They just love to avoid responsibility of their words and thoughts by masking it as really shitty humor, so even more so when men "joke" we really have to look out for ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 02:40 AM
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but his perspective on life was just bizarre and hilarious and my morbid curiosity got the best of me. Not gonna lie, I would've 100% done the same as you just to see this clown show (from far away of course XD)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 10:02 PM
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Well we're glad you're here! Yes a hard truth to accept is that a lot of people don't like picking up after themselves, and will give you all sorts of excuses for it. At this point I don't even accept or feel pity for people who claim "X mental illness" for being gross. Sorry not sorry I have my own mental illnesses to deal with and I'm not obligated to pick after other people with those excuses. One thing that I do that gives me a certain level of peach of mind, if you wanna also try to adopt: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:53 PM
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bUt WhAt wAs sHe WeArInG?? ShE wAs MaTurE foR HeR aGe! WhAt Did sHe Do To mAkE hIm dO tHaT??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:38 PM
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"See, you like cleaning!" "SeE yOu liEk CoOkINg!" 🙄🙄🙄🙄🤦‍♀️ This is the number 1 reason why I don't do X stuff I enjoy doing by myself for other people anymore. They basically abuse the privilege just because "you like doing X" to the point I end up hating doing X. Hell, sometimes it's not that we "like" doing it, we just know it's gotta get done and if we're doing it, might as well do it properly and on time. You know... like a MATURE ADULT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:35 PM
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100% why I love it when people just buy some premade stuff from a supermarket and bring that over. At least a decent one will have a good level of cleanliness (otherwise they get fined) I have a far less aversion to women bringing homemade stuff because most of the ones I know have decently clean kitchens and habits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:31 PM
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I've had my fair share of shitty customers of all genders, and I still gotta agree with you on being more annoyed by male customers, a bit more if they're white ones. (although it really applies to all shitty male customers, white and Indian ones are the ones who I've encountered the most so far, due to my living location) Like it or not, white AND male privilege are a thing. It really gets me to see a grown ass man, who basically was born with society and basically the world catered to him, thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:26 PM
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I'm very happy to hear you're free of that shit and focusing on leveling up! Yeap it's really scary how insidious psychological abuse/manipulation can be, also so many abusers out there who legitimately believe they're not abusing even after they do all those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:47 PM
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Sometimes mental abuse can be just as bad, or worse Fixed it for you XD mental abuse indeed is as bad and can be worse than physical abuse, hands down, because unlike physical abuse, it leaves no hard or quantifiable evidence behind, so abusers who resort to psychological tactics very often never face justice or consequences. To me the most scary thing is that even then, there's still an insane amount of actual scientific data backing up how X actions/techniques/torture done to victims on a psyc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:45 PM
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Yes, it is truly sad, how many caring, nurturing and gentle women who genuinely love their families and friends get gaslit, forced, manipulated, shamed, etc., and we're forced to basically gather every single bit of resources we can to defend ourselves. I personally don't wanna be a ruthless, cold-calculating person, but yes we have to be in this world. This is why it's so important for us women to stick together, and support each other. We need to not only help our softer sisters, but also make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:41 PM
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I hate to say this, but just working with them might give you a limited amount of information to get an idea the type of person they are. There are hundreds of thousands of cases where the man seemed high value, only to either only reveal his true LV colors to a few people while showing a good side to everyone else, for years and even decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:37 PM
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Holy shit, that's a red flag no matter when he asks it in the relationship, he could ask that 10 days, 10 months or 10 years in, and I'd still tell you to run for the hills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:34 PM
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Or like the author of "The Gift of Fear" mentions, a LOT of men are actually mental/physical abusers, but since they "don't actually hit her" they think they're not abusers. It's really crazy how many men and women don't consider it abuse when their partner is actually abusive... there's just a lot more insidious levels of abuse out there than just "I didn't hit her."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:17 AM
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Yeap, this is why I now fully support walking away from the date, if possible and safe (remember ladies, we rather you be safe and alive above all!). Lots of men are treating the first few dates as a way to pump themselves up and/or use the woman as a therapist/emotional dumpster... on top of wanting sex from her. A man also actually rises in social standing if people see him with a beautiful lady. A beautiful lady's social standing actually LOWERS when she's seen with a LVM looking man. It's im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:13 AM
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There's lots of examples of men who physically or mentally SEEM high value... only for them to prove later on that they're not high value at all. It's really sad and disheartening, and I'm glad SOME women out there do meet actual, real, honest to goodness HVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:04 AM
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Yeap, big reason I'm also CF is because there's so much fucking HARD evidence in the world (anecdotal AND scientific level collected data) that makes it very unlikely I will ever get the type of ideal man to raise a kid with. Of course, I don't want to be a mom to begin with, but the idea wouldn't repulse me so much if men actually stepped up to the plate, and the whole idea didn't mean basically being a slave to my kids, my husband and my in-laws (hello, Asian culture).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:14 AM
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I'll be honest, nothing riles me up more than women coming here to rant/vent/whine about their crappy current BFs/husbands, showing us in their own words all the red flags in the world, saying they'll leave him... only to go check on her comment/post history weeks or months afterwards, to find out she's still with him, and still asking for advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:09 AM
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That's 100% how a lot of stories go around here. Pretty much every woman who I've talked in chat/comments would excuse him with "oh but he did X nice thing for me back during X time" all while wanting to ignore the other HUNDREDS of shitty/half-assed things he did/didn't do. It's basic bread-crumbing, or we can go as far as compare it to gambling in a casino.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:07 AM
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I had a friend once give me money (not lend, give), 200 dollars to help me get a phone. I still have it in my to do list to give her back that money in the form of a gift too, even if it kills me (currently I can't cuz unemployment, thanks covid!) Seriously, far more women have beautiful souls than not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:04 AM
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This may actually happen now that Amy Barret is on a higher power position. I already donated to a couple of organizations so she can't take away the body autonomy of my American sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:02 AM
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I wanna get sterilized so bad, but my insurance doesn't cover it... I legit should just start saving up for it. It's like 10k, I think I can save that within 10 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:57 AM
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Hard truth here; when you've been around minus 100s, a minus 10 looks amazing in comparison... but it's still a minus 10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:55 AM
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It's because being a mom/getting impregnated has been the de facto, even sole, identity for women worldwide. You're not a mom/pregnant? You're not a "real woman." You're sterile? no.1 most devastating thing that can happen to a woman wanting to "become a mom," while ignoring the thousands of kids in need of good parents/homes. You don't want to have kids or wanna be a mom? You're abnormal/weird/not a real woman/a lesbian/deviant. Yeah I've been straight up called these things or heavily implied.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:54 AM
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These men think that if they pay for dinner or give her flowers she is obliged to give them back sex? 100% they're going around treating women like prostitutes, not even wanting to pay them properly like one would pay a prostitute. I don't condone it of course, but the reality is that a prostitute would get paid FAR more than one measly meal + a cheap-ass bouquet, which is NOT even $150 for her side, it's $70 since the total includes his half of the meal. So in total, he must've spent, AT MOST, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:47 AM
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men don’t appreciate having a woman’s company anymore. They don’t recognise the significance of quality interaction with human beings yet alone register women as human beings. Holy crap this is a hard truth that a lot of people need to accept. Due to porn sickness (among already chauvinistic cultures, societies, practices and views) men literally cannot appreciate the company of the opposite sex. We're basically set in two categories: "ugly/will not fuck" and "hot/will fuck" That's it! Sure they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:42 AM
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Where's that music video "I want compliments" when we need it lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 01:57 AM
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"YoU caN'T GeT a MaN" Us: "oh no! ...anyway"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 12:49 AM
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Another way of looking at it, is that he IS competing with another person: you. Who's gonna have you as priority always? Who's gonna want you to be happy? It's you. He has to be such a positive addition to your life, that he'll treat you better than you treat yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:28 AM
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The whole "witch" and "old crone" crappy stereotypes make sense in that light; these ladies basically were single (or at least widowed) and yet they're almost always portrayed as elderly. Of course a long-lived, single female would be the target of shitty stereotyping by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:26 AM
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For the sake of having a good experience, I'd totally spend money on a male escort. I'm a virgin not because I dislike sex, I just know the odds are so against me, there's a 99% chance my first time (and subsequent 10-50 times) will be shitty sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:24 AM
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No problem, I have high anxiety issues, and since quarantine and covid hit the area, I can't work (I can only get retail work at the moment) because my anxiety goes through the roof. Anyways good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:20 AM
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This is exactly why I'm trying to stop using Amazon; this year I started using alternatives to almost everything. I switched to Best Buy, Barnes and Noble, Costco (I already bought here, but like now I focus it more), seller's website... I'm surprised how many offer free shipping or pick up in store, so I'm saving money either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:29 PM
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I really, really hate that it normalized freaking smoking again. If there's one thing I hate is to open my window and have a waft of cigarette (and now, weed) smoke that came from the apartment upstairs or next door. I'm all for weed's medical advantages, the occasional gummy, etc. but FFS, don't freaking smoke it inside the house. The smell is disgusting, and it's not like you can direct where the smoke goes. I pray for the day they put the same smoking restrictions in weed as they did with cig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:19 PM
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It's available for preorder at the Barnes and Noble website, but unfortunately it doesn't allow us to choose "in store pick up" yet (otherwise you gotta pay shipping). I'll bookmark it for now, thank you for letting us know it's been translated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:29 AM
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I was thinking exactly the same; if they're talking about the men having no need for a romantic relationship, why the hell are we supposed to "do anything about it"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:15 PM
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In my limited experience, at food banks you don't have to deal with the public directly, you can choose to help sort out food (in fact this is the most common role I found they need help with, in my area), and you're working with other volunteers, which is the people you'd be making small talk with, not the homeless. From there it's redistributed to soup kitchens, schools, etc. where the food is handled/prepared and given to the needy people. As long as you avoid these specific settings, which a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:19 PM
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Hell, I'm covid-unemployed and before that made minimum wage, and I really don't give a shit about marriage. Having 20m a year would not only allow me to be set for life, I could set my parents and my brother for life, then set some for my nephews and nieces, and then donate to a lot of women-only orgs and animal sanctuaries and shelters. Last thing I wanna do is marriage. (kids aren't even a question since I'm childfree)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:24 AM
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Damn, if I could I'd give you gold. We should sticky this resources so they're a permanent set of tools for FDSers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:07 AM
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Depending on your local and personal situation, have you thought of volunteering at the pet shelter? Lots of dogs need to get walked, a pet shelter I volunteered even just needed people to pet the cats and spend time with them. Also volunteering at the food pantry can be gratifying, I've done it before and it feels good to make small talk and get your body moving, and know all that effort means someone in need will get fed that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:06 AM
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Sadly it's all about money. They rather queerbait us to death, yet stay "safe" by never saying it outright. I mean I know shows are forced to do this to avoid controversy (for ex. the new She-Ra cartoon, the execs told the writers of the show they weren't allowed to show ANY romance, that's why there's only actual canon confirmation of romantic feelings among any characters in the last season) but at one point enough is enough. They're cowards. BTW I also forgot to add I 100% agree that the fema…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:11 AM
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That's fair, I acknowledge I'm human and that I can like certain fiction without agreeing with everything. Like I said, I never deny the faults of the show, in fact if given opportunity I will speak out about them, which as you say, a good portion of the fanbase would vilify me for doing so. I think that's what's important, to understand that just because you get entertained by a show/movie/story, as long as you acknowledge the problematic or shitty parts and are careful not to let those seep in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:48 PM
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The number 1 argument I get thrown at my face is that being alone (aka not married to a man) is the worst thing in the world. I'm told that I better have a LOT of good friends and be SUPER social or if I'm not married, else I'll be all alone with no help and no love. And even then! I'm told I still get told being married is better. You can't win with people who are deadset on their ways and mindsets. They don't really listen to your words, they just wait until you stop making noise so they can "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:58 PM
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I'm a HUGE fan of Supernatural, but I'm a special brand of fan (of anything really, not just SPN) in that I will not ignore or pretend problems with the writing, characters, etc. don't exist. This will sound dramatic, but I'm sure many people know the feeling: I was in a really, really bad place when I watched SPN. It gave me something to look forward to, when I had nothing to look forward to. So in that sense it has a special place in my heart, but I agree that the original concept (which is gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:50 PM
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It takes a very narcissistic, selfish, and disgusting man to actively date when he's a potential danger to everyone around him, risking being the center of contagion of dozens and even hundreds of people, just because he wants to get his dick wet. I don't have a good image of women who decide they wanna keep dating now either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 07:42 PM
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Nah, he'll just not order anything, wait until you order, then whine about getting a sip from your drink. Then afterwards, you'll both go near a candy shop and he'll whine at you to buy him some bubblegum. You can tell that particular "date" stuck with me lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 07:35 PM
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What kills me is just, the lack of self-awareness. I could have a grand total of zero hobbies and I'd still stop myself from writing freaking "walmart" as a "hobby" just to pad out my list. 100 bucks says that the "cultural events around the city" are all places that offer free food, wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 07:30 PM
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"oh no! ...anyway" Seriously, try your best to be dismissive, you're just wasting energy and efforts trying to "prove them wrong." While I 100% understand your frustration (I think everyone here does), it's like texting paragraphs to LVMs. It's useless. It's impossible to change their minds, because it's a worldwide bullshit lie every single goddamn woman has been told for generations. They don't want you to "prove them wrong," they just want you to fucking comply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:53 AM
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Not to mention, most men really don't take care of their body, not at the same level as most women, which affects the quality of their sperm. While we primarily do a lot of the maintenance due to high societal pressure to look physically attractive, in the end all that upkeep does impact the quality of our bodies. Then if you consider how many men are so porn sick they pretty much are frying their brains and can't keep it up or orgasm inside a woman, I can't imagine their sperm being good qualit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:59 AM
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I remember about 20 years ago, I saw in the news, a "mother" was selling her pre-teen daughter (seriously she looked so young) as a child bride to this 60+yo pedophile. They literally showed the "marriage ceremony" (just the mom saying some prayers or some shit like that, in front of the child and the pedophile), the child was crying her eyes out. I can't believe the government allowed it, then again this is from the same country that denied an abortion to a child who got raped and impregnated b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:51 AM
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It's really disgusting to force children into marriages so the boy can impregnate the girl before she grows into a woman and knows any better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:47 AM
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My apologies, I wasn't aware I wasn't allowed to reply to a comment you made in a public comment thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:25 AM
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I never said he was low value. Check to see, I'm not the same person who wrote that. I merely responded to your comment that said: "I mean Jane acted completely indifferent toward him. I don’t think that makes someone LV. He completely adored her. " He's not low value to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:21 AM
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It goes against the societal script that women should just fuck whoever they want What's insane is that this is told to women who either don't wanna have casual sex or are virgins (like actual virgins, none of this anal, blowjobs crap). I lost count on how many people either outright shamed me for being a virgin, or insinuated that I was "abnormal" for staying a virgin (aka not having a man). BUT THEN, if you do have casual sex, as in, legit casual sex regularly with different men, one night sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:13 AM
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This is why I love watching the BBC mini show, over and over again. It's very obvious Lizzie doesn't like him at all, it's only after he does all of those things that her opinion and feelings towards him change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:06 AM
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Not really, she acted demure and shy, but she gave him her attentions in the only way she knew how to, taking into account her personality. Not to mention, the so called "indifference" was assumed and expressed by Mr. Darcy (and he was backed up by Mr. Bingley's sisters), who at that point in time was prejudiced against her family and strongly advised his friend about Jane's "indifference" (which he was 100% incorrect about). Had Mr. Bingley and Jane been left to court without interference and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:03 AM
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I believe the best thing is to ignore. For them, ANY attention or reaction from you, a woman, is gonna please them, even negative reactions. Also, this is something that I realized: When I flip people off, or yell at them, or react and physically express my negativity to them (even if they're the ones at fault), it leaves me with lingering negative energy for far longer than if I didn't react, ignored, took a deep breath, and just silently though "wow, what a dick" and moved on. It's a lot easie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:40 AM
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Read again the post AND her comments, carefully, without getting triggered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:26 AM
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Nothing on FDS says you need to look better or be more outgoing than other women to expect a HVM That's exactly her point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:18 AM
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I refuse the accept this half-hearted shit from friends too. Look, if your friends want you there, they will ask properly: "do you wanna go/do X?" Not shit like "X pals and I are doing Z thing on the weekend; you can come if you want" It's so fucking dismissive, it's not a real invitation, the connotation is that you were never part of the plans and they're just saying that so then you can't throw it back at them. Whether you come or not is inconsequential to them. Don't entertain that crappy en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:03 AM
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Are you or your friend Korean descendants? If not, that might be why. (and of course, there's always exceptions or other factors) "Foreign" women aren't usually held at the same "standards" as full blooded Korean women, they kinda have this mentality of acknowledging you didn't grow in the culture (of course they love it when you make an effort), so in this sense you may get some leeway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:16 AM
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The biggest argument I've heard so far is: my parents/friends have a big age gap, and they're totally fine/in love! Congrats, your handful of personal anecdotes means that NO ONE ELSE has problems dating too young/old from their own age. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:08 AM
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Wait until you're past your 30s, 18-22yos are all children in my eyes. Barely legal, still clinging a little to the last bits of awkwardness, naivety, and twinkly eyes from high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:07 AM
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When you follow/reach out to a gay man just because you must extract his secret skincare tricks and tips!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:45 AM
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No 50-50 dates. Re-read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:44 AM
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I'm sick of this shit in general. Like ok you don't like her hair... it's not YOUR hair, you don't have to live with it, she has to! What is it with policing what women should do with their? Like ok her face shape/height/complexion/whatever make it so she looks better with X style/length of hair (or like this scrote, who believes his opinion matters at all), so what? It's just hair. They can cut it again, put a wig, dye it, let it grow... Can people please leave women alone about their hair. (an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:38 AM
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Yeah I haven't read the book yet either because the movie triggered me, but I agree they're good recs for people with Korean roots that might not feel part of the community. I'm insanely passionate when it comes to Korean culture because despite all its faults I still hold pride for my roots (not to mention I point out the faults of other cultures I grew up with), so I always try to keep up with media that tries to shed light to all the problems/faults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:31 AM
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What kills me is that half of those things are just stuff they should be doing for everyday life and general maintenance. It ain't so fucking hard to attract us (also bar is in hell), but they can't even do the bare minimum. I love seeing a guy who cares well for his body and looks, in a non-narc way of course. It's really attractive because it not only shows that he wants to stay healthy and attractive for a potential partner, it also shows commitment, diligence and hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:46 AM
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Korean culture, like many other Asian cultures, has basically zero respect for the labor/efforts put into society by women, and their voices. Oh they will take your work/energy/efforts with gusto, but you're still just a woman. Women there have to basically be servants/slaves/incubators to their in-laws, kids and husband (god forbid you marry the first born son), they have to pretty much 100% of all childcare, house chores, support the husband by working themselves, have NO voice of their own (a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:42 AM
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LVM: "I'm good cuz I won't cheat" Translation: I'm totally gonna cheat if I ever get the chance to! For now I just gotta settle for that easy access to your holes and resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:24 AM
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Gas you up? No, you know exactly what the do. DO IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:22 AM
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I'm REALLY tired of this fucking bullshit "iT's sCiEnCe" or "iT's BiOLoGy" excuse. Either men are fucking logical, cold creatures or they're slaves to their animal instincts. Whichever is more convenient and lets them deflect blame (and hopefully shift it to women) work, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:21 AM
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It's hilarious how they keep on trying to use the words and language decent people use on them against us (PoLiCiNg porn usage? rEd fLaG!), 100 bucks say he would NEVER break up all contact with a woman because she has that "red flag," unlike us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:28 PM
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This is why my hope in men, and my desire in dating, has waned to almost fucking nothing. They gaslight/neg/wear you down so insidiously, that most women (who have been wrongly taught their whole lives that most men are good, only a small amount are bad) not only are completely sideblinded by it, they're genuinely shaken to their core. I can understand the denial lots of them experience, because they basically realize the whole thing was a lie to manipulate her. How sociopathic a person has to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:03 PM
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I literally can think of only one prank right now that I consider a proper "prank": the "instant date prank" https://www.gif-vif.com/Instant-date-prank Both the prankster AND the pranked have to be able to enjoy the situation (not just laugh uncomfortably), otherwise like you said, it's stupid and pointless, and also mean-spirited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:39 AM
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this was a test to see if she loved him more than the plant 100% this selfish shit is what was going through his monkey, spoiled-brat brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:30 AM
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This should be much, much higher, or be made into a legit post of its own. I think you hit the nail on the head on why it bothered me whenever I heard "videogames bad!" in this sub. While I generally agree, at the same time I played many games that are real, genuine pieces of art and a lot of love, effort and research was put into them; and I couldn't just accept the "videogames bad!" but couldn't quite put my finger onto exactly why. And you know what? You're absolutely right. As you say, we al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:23 AM
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There's hundreds of "entertainment" subs, help yourself to those. Here's one: r/preyingmantis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:04 AM
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I literally mostly just re-watch Daenerys parts and skip everything else. (minus the shit that happened post-boat trip)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:46 AM
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I mean those are the same LVM pedophiles who were just sitting at the edge of their seats, waiting with baited breath the SECOND Maisie Williams turned 18 so they could legally, with no impunity, tell her to get naked in front of the cameras for a sex scene. This girl (later woman) was not only FOURTEEN when she started playing Arya, so was cast because she looked even younger than her age. (correct me if I'm wrong on the specifics, but the fact is she was underage).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:43 AM
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If you see any posts that you believe don't add value to the sub, don't hesitate to report. You can even choose 'custom response' and write a short explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:00 AM
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Their "I'm sorry" usually means "I'm sorry for myself," so unless they show progress in preventing the same thing to happen again, their words are meaningless. Too many times I get "sorry for X" but then people (men or not) do it again. WTF are you sorry for then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:41 AM
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I hate it when these pickmes and wannabe moms (no, I won't call them real parents when they're fully aware that it's a shitty choice and situation and they still choose to subject a new human to those conditions) get defensive and passive-aggressive when they're the ones who in this case: 1) are pregnant with an abuser's seed 2) they KNOW the abuser's mental illness 3) ask question about whether he'd "change" (???) Are you kidding me??? After knowing all these things, and after you genuinely adv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:55 PM
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I freaking hate those, it's basically the same stupid "ALL lives matter" bullshit when the "black lives matter" slogan came out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:43 PM
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That's really frustrating, when you try to help them and they refuse to listen. At the very least you can say that you did all you could to give her good advice; I mean, FDS or not, getting in their car right away (which can mean 1-4 months into dating) it's really dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:22 AM
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This is exactly what I did when I found the FDS sub, I lurked a lot, read the rules, read the handbook. I think I've only made 2 posts I thought were worthy of the sub, because I didn't want to post low-effort or low-value stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:20 PM
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Yeah, so very few of these screenshots feature an actually witty or funny comment back. I I'd say 1% is a great one, 99% of the rest of these text screenshots are garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:18 PM
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Right?? Also many men will literally bid their time for years pretending to be your "friend" and will try to rape/molest/proposition you the moment he can. There's literally nothing we can do about those if they have a perfect act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:11 PM
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Hooooly shit, so it's actually based on real events!! That's chilling, not to mention it's horrible that he's still free and doing whatever the fuck he wants. I hope he gets what he deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:10 PM
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I play videogames (in console, PC and mobile) and one thing I realized is that: 1) Men have no concept of moderation. They pretty much let videogames consume them. I make sure all my obligations are done before I play game for 1-2hrs. (3-4hrs if it's a game I was looking forward to, but same thing applies.) 2) Men usually go for stuff like 1st person shooters (think Call of Duty) or sports. I go for visual novels (basically choose your own adventure books), strategy or puzzle games. I noticed wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:21 AM
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I'm sure you've already watched it, but I think The Good Place is great in general, not so much as FDS, but just the whole premise of the show. (I don't wanna give too much away in case you didn't watch it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:05 AM
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More: academic content (which admittedly can be hard to come by) related to everything women, not just stuff that benefits us but also the stuff that no one wants to face. Less: low effort posts in general. For example the mods put a lid on the "clapback text" posts that were frankly, super annoying to read, not only because only like 1% of them were actually witty, but they all ignored one of the top FDS rules which is "block and delete." There's also "message to male lurkers." I think one done…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:01 AM
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One thing I realized, is that a man never having a serious relationship is vastly different than a woman never having a serious relationship. I never was in a relationship (just went on a few dates) and it's due to a lot of factors like worrying about my safety, being on my guard so LVM don't take advantage of my (even pre-FDS I was set on this), etc. Men on the other hand, don't really have to worry about their safety or well-being, not anywhere near the same level as a woman has to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:52 AM
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"Identifies as 30s" = immature, no self-motivation, shitty/nonexistent career path (or if there's one, barely enough money to keep himself afloat), can't do chores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:11 AM
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"But if you try to do the same and say offensive shit to me (which is often the truth), I'm gonna throw a temper tantrum and expect you to apologize and make up for it times 100"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:42 PM
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What it's really depressing is that there are families out there, where the mother is the sole parent (in the true sense of the word, not that absent bullshit dads like to pull), they have sisters, etc. and the sons still end up depraved and sexist. Hell, wasn't there a post here a while ago, about a dude living with like 3 sisters, a single mom (no dad in sight), so a totally female household... and he was porn-sick and sexist, he literally watched porn in the living room and set it up so one o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:48 AM
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I will say this as many times as needed: Jewelry is outdated currency for women! Jewelry used to be a way for women to hold onto property/money in cases of emergency (like literally the few "belongings" they were allowed to have), and was more expensive. Men who bought actually-worth jewelry with their hard earned money wanted to make sure they got their money's worth, so it worked out as a valid courtship gift. Nowadays though, with mass-production and new metal alloys that are cheap but look g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:44 AM
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This^ Sure it's important that they know how to communicate well, and saying out loud things (like apologizing, you have to say the words out loud to the other person, and not in a "non-apology" way either) but always remember: words HAVE to be followed by actions. Sure listen to what he says, but also what he does and not say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:25 PM
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gives his wife who works full time one orgasm once every 10 years Wow let's not get ahead of ourselves, she better have worked like a slave for him for those 10 years if she wants that (mediocre) orgasm! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:20 PM
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That. Is. So. FUCKED. UP. I can't imagine being friends with someone for a decade, a freaking decade, and believe they're at least decent people, only for them to be a complete lie, and had just kept the act, lies and charade for so fucking long. Just for the chance to be able to violate you, your body, soul, friendship, reality. I don't believe that men can be friends to women anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:59 AM
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It's 100% pedophilia and depravity. I remember my last semester of uni last year, I'm 34 and everyone around me look so clearly YOUNG. I wouldn't have touched them with a 10ft pole, and I'm including the young adults that were up to 25. Baby faces every-fucking-where, the very thought makes me feel like a freaking craddle-robber. I can't imagine the disgusting thought going through the minds of these grown-ass adult teachers towards their 13-18yo students.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:55 AM
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I unapologetically watched the new Ghostbusters, and Ocean's 8, both really decent films for movie night. The absolute HATE these movies got from scrotes foaming at the mouth because it was an all women cast was insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:19 PM
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Report, report, report. I agree they waste the same energy as those "clapback text reply" bullshit posts we saw a short while ago. Just newbies thinking they're soooo witty for replying back to the scrote, which is like the most basic anti-FDS thing to do. 99% of the time they didn't even write funny replies. Remember ladies, block and delete. Or report, block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:16 PM
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"Yes, but it wasn't a consensual decision"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:12 PM
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Right?? I was never into the idea of sex, because the popular narrative is basically "the first time (and a few times after that) it HURTS and SUCKS for the woman." And then, when you're more "experienced" you still have to teach these LVM how to pleasure you, instead of them trying to proactively learn themselves. It all sounded so mediocre and too much hassle for the 3mins of penetration. Why the fuck would I subject myself to that, when I can give myself orgasms almost any time I want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:05 PM
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Don't be embarrassed! I'm a 34yo mega virgin, and at this point I'm SO glad I didn't get desperate or tried to fit in by just sleeping with a rando scrote. And 100% with you! I also rather spend the rest of my life as a virgin and single, than have to waste even a second of my finite time dealing with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:02 PM
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Ok then, go around your place spreading your jizz and see it develop into new humans. We'll wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:18 PM
12

continuing the species They're certainly continuing A species, for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:16 PM
12

I'm so sorry you and your mom are going through this shit. Seriously not even within my family I can find a good example of a HVM. It's fucked up and turned me off the idea of marriage, let alone dating. Your dad literally shattered your family, and the fact that this has been going for years, it made you realize you and your mom have been living a lie. It's easy to say "you should do X" but when it happens to you, and it's someone you thought was a decent person and you spent your whole life wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:12 PM
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If you're part of, you should join us at the childfree sub lol! It's got men sure, but a lot of talk is about how people will completely ignore women's achievements that have nothing to do with marriage or being an incubator/servant-slave to your kids and husband. Also you had an amazing year! You're an amazing person and someone to look up to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:04 PM
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Pfffttt my mom likes to occasionally say I MUST get married especially at my age (gonna be 35 this year!), like it'll be the end of the world if I don't. Like sure I guess I need a bigger social network, which is good friends? WTF I don't need a man for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:47 PM
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if you add a protein to it and maybe add a side of veggies Yes like I said, ONE of the dishes, not a main one. I know real and delicious mac-n-cheese made from scratch, with real cheese exists, it can be an amazing dish indeed. 100 bucks says that this isn't it, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:45 AM
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Not only a shorter lifespan, but a shitty lifestyle at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:36 AM
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One of us! One of us! One of us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:53 AM
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Switch it to pepper gel so it doesn't affect you, only the criminal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:50 AM
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Sorry not sorry but what the flying fuck "cooking only appealing to an 8yo" shit is this?? Mac and cheese can be ONE of the dishes, not the main one. Not to mention both the dish AND this display is something I'd expect from a child, not a grown-ass adult. Seriously, the bar is in hell. We hetero women are officially dating toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:52 AM
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AND keep him blocked, forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:50 AM
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Right? This is one of those times police should've just detained the dude and broke the window the second they saw resistance from him. Like it's one of the few scenarios where swift action actually mattered. Imagine being a police officer and have a child DIE on you because you spent some of that vital time arguing with this psychopath? Imagine if that child could've been saved if they had broken that window 5mins earlier. This is freaking sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:26 AM
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Right? It was one of my first thoughts: "Dude your face is a MESS, instead of whining and posturing against rando women, how about doing something about your nasty ass skin??" (And the only reason I use the word nasty is because he's a nasty LVM. Plenty of wonderful people in skincareaddiction humbly ask for help when it comes to acne scarring)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:19 AM
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Not just his piddly wage, you're forgetting his lousy sex game and limp dick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:09 AM
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And the main reason men date pickmes, is because they just wanna easy access to sex and maid/therapist services. The moment they can get a hotter woman, they'll drop that pickme like a hot potato.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:08 AM
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This is why you never, EVER unblock. EVER. I see this all the time, women who are " in a better place in life" or trying to "be the better person," unblocking the people they blocked before... only to get all these LV people start shitting on them again. Remember that you might be in a good place, but they aren't, and they may never be. You might wanna be the better person, but for LV people that's just opening the door again to throw their negative energy at you. NEVER UNBLOCK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:06 AM
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I bet he's one of those LVM who expect his gf/wife to buy them the PS5, which is what, 400-500?? A single videogame is $60 new. It astounds me that these scrotes think they can get away with cheap jewelry. I say this and I'll say this again, jewelry is an outdated currency when it comes to courting a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:03 AM
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This reminds me of a post I saw in dadswhodidnotwantpets, where the husband "didn't allow" his wife to get a cat after hers passed away, but afterwards when his sister had to relocate and couldn't keep her own cat, he TOLD his wife that they'd be keeping SIL's cat. No asking, no nothing. Any man who marries me/is in a relationship with me, who tries that "I'm the man of the house and my word is law" bullshit can not-kindly GTFO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:59 PM
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It's really depressing how many pickmes become hobosexuals, just so "in love" with a man they're willing to let him parasite on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:55 PM
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Right? That's like seeing in the distance a red firetruck with the top covered in red flags, blaring its horn incessantly, and it's coming straight at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:54 PM
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Right? I could be living in my car and I'd still hard pass on LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:49 PM
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WTF is it with men literally using the sentence "iT's HeLL" Like STFU you whiny-ass, privileged baby. The vast majority of the female population has to deal with rape, murder, sexual abuse, sexual harassment, discrimination, gaslighting, etc. from the moment they're born (hell, if they find out your sex before birth, people already start making assumptions about you)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:22 PM
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Some of them are reaaaally into a woman pegging them, but I say fuck that too. Often anal done to women is for power (after all, virtually all women do not get any pleasure from the anus). He either accept to have a dude do anal to him, otherwise no anal for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:15 PM
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I think that's part of the problem, too. The bar IS in hell, so much so that we see this unacceptable level of hygiene and cleanliness, and we kinda accept it. Sure, it's not as bad, but it's still not OK, and these "not so bad" mediocre men are still benefiting from their fellow men lowering the bar of entry for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:38 PM
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Yeap, they see sex as something to be done TO a woman, to subject her to, not as something to do WITH her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:34 PM
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Exactly, it's just like dating: Sure, #notallmen, but enough men can, will and have used it as a covert way to rape/sexually abuse or harass women. I consider it "high risk, low reward" although not as much as dating, perhaps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:32 PM
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Please elaborate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:36 PM
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🏋️ "lol sometimes" Sometimes =/= once every 3-6 months, followed immediately by some burgers/pizza because "he worked out so hard"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:32 PM
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Wow, this should be stickied, it's so freaking true. Also, potential "friends" also use the same tactics (women included), so 100% with you that this applies to more subtle examples. I had a coworker who I got along with, one day just DUMP on me her emotions about a traumatic event (basically two older aunties verbally berated her in a car) she went through, treated me like a therapist. Then she tried to use that "trauma" to make me be her driver for meetups, etc. telling me she was too traumati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:23 PM
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This might sound basic, but they're vital for beauty: - Sleep. a good sleep schedule is so important, and it doesn't have to be a 9pm to 6am routine. I'm a night owl so I adjusted my routine accordingly. - Water. Drink as much as you want, but don't worry about it if you don't drink "8 glasses a day," that's a myth. Drink until you quench your thirst, then drink a bit more. That's all. - No alcohol or smoking. I know some sisters like to relax with a glass a week or so. As long as it's not a dai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:44 AM
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Exactly, men have no concept of moderation. One of my main hobbies is videogames but I'm not obsessed with them. Men could make even something as basic as cooking into a full blown obsession that turns you off of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:29 AM
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I figure if you're a good person with strong boundaries, you're likely to eventually find people who share your same energy. I have very few friends, but I keep them close to my chest. The rest can fuck off. Friends come and go; they have to be HV too. Don't fall into the trap of "sunk cost fallacy." Just because you spent a lot of time being "friends" doesn't mean you're obligated to sacrifice any further time, energy and feelings on them, especially when you already tried so hard to help them,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:06 AM
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Right? Of course not everything that is expensive is good, and not everything that is cheap is bad, but that's why we have to make a concerted effort and make sure that the stuff we get IS suitable for our needs. Lots of times, that means investing more now and having something that lasts far longer than if we had gotten the cheaper item.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:47 AM
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Absolutely, never tell a man what to do, because all that does is give him intel on how to trick and manipulate you or the next woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:59 PM
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who's cynical, aka realistic about dating. It's just so goddamn exhausting, to have to not only be on our guard so freaking much, on top of looking good (or not, fuck it at this point), we also gotta be freaking Ms. Marple because so many men are so depraved, they know it, and they have a thousand ways to hide it I gotta pay rent, do chores, read, educate myself further, take care of my body, care for my food intake, deal with my mental issues, worry about my career…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:57 PM
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Exactly, experiencing tough times with your family, especially when they have very different ideas of what they want/expect from you, and still want them to validate/love/care for you because we're told that family is there, is normal. I don't think you were harsh at all, I thought you boiled it down perfectly. Sad is it is, a lot of times just because someone is related to you by blood, especially parents, doesn't mean that they're good people or it's healthy to keep them in your life or you ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:48 PM
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Pretty shitty of G to trying to neg you about shit that doesn't concern her. Not to mention, wanting high quality in those two things (jewelry and bed sheets) is important as hell. Cheap jewelry doesn't last, only the high quality stuff will stay with you for decades. It's ok to have cheap, fun jewelry, but it's nice to have some high end pieces. We spend about 1/3rd of our life in bed, not to mention sleep quality is super important for our health. Damn straight you want good quality stuff! You…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:20 PM
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Stop flipping out and read my comment again; "nasty ass assumption"? Where? Where I said werker115 experienced caring for their family and seeking their validation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:08 PM
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Men: gets ghosted Women: gets ghosted, gets cheated on, gets used as a convenient fleshlight, gets gaslit, gets punched, stabbed, raped and/or murdered...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:06 PM
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Werker115 either does/did have a family, or close enough loved ones to consider family. Caring for what your family says and seeking their validation is not rare, most people have experienced it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:45 PM
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Just to prove how men can be super LV regardless of their physical/mental attributes. Tall men think they can just coast through dating because being tall is generally accepted. Short menget a huge Napoleon complex and project their issues onto women. They're both shitty kinda of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:54 AM
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Sure, because it's not like it's the most obvious random shit to find in the kitchen. No plates, no pans, no utensils... sigh... this is the gender that boasts having more brain power. Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:49 AM
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He's trying to text several women at the same time, so he's got no time to waste learning every woman's name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:46 AM
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Right? Pretty sure maze has to be in a field XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:45 AM
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Yeah it's actually really depressing, how pervasive and common it is for men to use the same tired sentences to shut down a woman, and all of them are of the gaslighting/negging nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:40 AM
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No prob, it's part of the mindset that FDS encourages;no man gets to be called HV by you and other queens with high standards, he's only HVM when he's proven himself to you, consistently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:37 AM
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Yeah, once you get a feeling of that type, you just know. I think there is this idea that the “mature” thing to do is to talk about our problems and find a solution The problem with this "advice" is that men have successfully twisted it for their own gain. The only way "communicate" works is if both people genuinely care for each other and want to actually listen. LVM (which is sadly the vast majority of the male population) do not care, they wanna either "win against a female" for their own ego…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:17 AM
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I get you, but again: They never were HV to begin with nor proved themselves to be HV by FDS standards. Why? Because the ONLY way for men to earn the HVM label is for them to be consistently HV for years. Like in this case, it took a long, long, long time but his depravity was revealed eventually. Remember, just because he SEEMS or ACTS like HV doesn't mean they earned that label. (also, lots of victims HAVE to forgive their abusers in those situations. They're literally cornered by the circumst…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:08 AM
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YES. No more low effort posts or "clapback" reply text posts. They aren't witty, they aren't original, and most importantly, they aren't FDS. Block and delete sisters. Replying to him or keeping yourself accessible to him is a waste of your time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:55 AM
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Then they never were HVM. Don't use that label so easily, men have to prove they're HVM first, which can take years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:54 AM
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I like your approach! I also do this when I'm writing, once it starts getting too long, if it's a reply to "argue" with someone, I take a couple of moments before sending to ask myself "do I really wanna argue with this type of person AGAIN?" (you know the type) or "if it feels like such a hassle, is it worth it?" Whenever I ask myself those questions or anything similar, I just don't bother and delete. Most of the time these people believe "I get the last word, it means I win!!!" and they're no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:01 AM
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Yeah I sent the FDS rec a few times in the childfree sub when I was newer, but I'm done with that. If a woman wants to change, and then finds this sub, and then reads the handbook and follows all rules, it's all cool. Otherwise I rather they didn't barge in here. Yeap exactly we're not here to debate, argue or explain anything to people who weren't open to it to begin with. It's all in the handbook, the rules and the approved posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:47 PM
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No prob! I still remember at the beginning when I accidentally broke the rule I got either downvoted or reported to oblivion, barely a comment, LOL. An attitude I see with lots of new people who come in here is that they come without any inclination to change and just wanna treat it as another sub where they get to be catty and passive-aggressive, and get to shame others and throw their weight around while being coddled themselves. This is a common behavior everywhere, so thank god this sub does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:28 PM
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Thank you for sharing this, I've been cracking up so bad after reading the one where OP describes eating bugs, and another with Cheeky Cat Cheeto, I'm dying XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:23 PM
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It's admirable that you're trying to communicate with them properly, but you're wasting your energy at this point. The sub grows so fast, there's always gonna be newbies/pickmes/LVP who come in here trying to throw their weight around, or that didn't read the handbook. All we have to do is ignore and report.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:18 PM
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Wow. What a goddamn tool. all the things he benefits for FREE from me. He said 'but I don't expect you to do those things'. Okay, but if I wasn't looking my best when we met, and certainly during the relationship I'm sure he'd have had something to say. Oh absolutely. Men love to bitch and whine about this, but 100% of the women they lust after do all of these things for maintenance, or more. Hell, What you described is basically "low maintenance" for a lot of us, which is still faaaar more mone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:08 PM
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Yeah if they were witty I'd at least get a laugh, but that's like 5% of the ones posted. The rest are obviously still pickmes or painfully unaware of FDS advice when it comes to the urge to reply back to a scrote. It's simple, newbies: block and delete. Do NOT reply back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:53 PM
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By your own logic, you can't tell her she can't post this either. Contact the mods if non-mod members upholding FDS rules becomes an issue for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:51 PM
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Love to see so many bookworms! I love reading, always have, I usually like novels and fanfiction; some of my most vivid childhood memories come from reading books. I still remember how I felt the first time I read The Neverending Story, I didn't know it was based on a book until I was around 16! Blew my mind away. As of now, anything that doesn't involve buying too many things (aka clutter) since I don't have the space, but once I buy a house, my dream is to dedicate a whole room to arts and cra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:44 AM
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This needs to go up higher. The truth of the matter is that men in general already have depraved and sociopath tendencies. So many try to deflect and shift the blame onto other shit, like oh he's just depressed, has mommy/daddy issues, etc. NO. No more excuses, they need to be held accountable. It's a matter of whether he chooses to overcome his depravity and be better that proves he's a genuinely good person. This is also why I absolutely hate the "it's biological" excuse to just let anyone get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:13 PM
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I see people arguing that "you never know someone until you live with them!" and all I have to say is, it's not that hard to figure out if he's a slob, that's why you have to vet for a long ass time. If he's dirty, he won't be able to keep up the charade for a year. Hell, go have a few sleepovers at his place. See his morning/daily routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:04 PM
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When they hit 30 they lose the advantage of youth and metabolism, their bodies just can't keep up with their lack of good hygiene, diet, sleep, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:23 PM
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The moment you know who it is (if he makes a new number) just block. Don't engage further, he revels in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:58 AM
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Yeah I'm 34yo and I have no idea what's the deal with Snapchat, I know the name in passing but that's about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:55 AM
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Yep. A HVM is a bonus in my life, not a necessity. My life will be amazing and fulfilled without the need of a man. Would I like a HVM in my life that I love? Sure. Will I cry if I never have one? Absolutely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:46 AM
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OMFG I actually spat my drink! Queen energyyyyyyyyyyy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:11 AM
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What a bunch of bullshit these scrotes spout, they really are so goddamn self-centered! As someone who usually wears pants that are baggy from the knees down and loose shirts as gym attire, I can tell you it's freaking annoying to wear "unflattering" clothing at the gym! yoga pants and clothes made specifically for the gym make it a lot more comfortable and easy to move around for exercise. But nooooooo, it's for "teasing" these LVM. Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:07 AM
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Oh yes absolutely, I think by now everyone in my family kinda knows I just do whatever the f*ck I want hahaha! Goddamn, plz share photos once you reach your dream house! I will do the same :D (also living in a castle alone with cats and maids is the ultimate dream, I'm freaking jelly of that singer!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:03 AM
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May I ask too? Just dying out of curiousity, I love what you did to this scrote tho, he's trying SO hard to lay the manipulation on a thick-ass layer, and also blaming you (both shitty to each other??? Sure scrote)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:43 AM
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I can easily imagine them, scrotes all have the same boring, sexist, LV bullshit whines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:37 AM
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Holy crap I have one 7 miles away! Thank you, I'm gonna check it out as soon as covid eases up (which unfortunately will take a while)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:36 AM
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Thank you sis, for all your kind words! I passed my teen and whole 20's feeling more or less like that all the time, I'm a lot better now, but yeah it's still draining and discouraging to hear it, mostly from a loved one (I wouldn't give a fuck if it was anyone else). I know my mom comes from a place of love and concern, but just like she told me she's concerned the gap between us gets wider and wider, I also agree with her. I always followed the beat of my own drum, but to my parents (and other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:29 AM
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I just imagined you with some stylish AF sunglasses, lying back on a comfy recliner, and holding up a glass of wine towards your ex-husband when the divorced finalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:42 AM
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We can talk about the negatives without needing to bring up the positives (owning and controlling your sexuality), they've never been doubted. The issue is that almost no one talks about the BAD side effects and the burden that was put majorly on the women to prevent pregnancy. Like or not, BusinessPrint1 makes an excellent point that the fertility and sexuality of men is the one that should be put in check. Men are the uncontrollable gender when it comes to sex. They're the ones stalking, haras…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:31 AM
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For me I'd hate it because my female fertility doesn't define me as a person or as a woman. There's people out there legit reducing us to just our wombs. A man shouldn't love me because of my capacity to carry his child, he should love me for who I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:07 PM
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I think there are several reasons like stroking his own ego, power hunger, manipulation, etc., but generally it boils down to: He's not really into you. Combined with: He's nothing special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:00 PM
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you are only giving him the knowledge and opportunity to disguise what he really is so he can con you into moving in with him under false pretenses. Not to mention, also giving him knowledge to trick the next woman. It is NOT for your AND other women's benefit to tell this knowledge in particular (among others) to men, EVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:57 PM
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Pissed that I “didn’t listen” (pro tip: I listened and didn’t give a shit) I hate when people tell your their opinions/advice (unwanted or otherwise) and accuse you of "not listening to other's opinions" I listened just fine, I just don't agree with it or think it's bullshit, so thanks for your opinion but it doesn't make my own opinion invalid nor it's gonna make me automatically change my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:41 PM
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Yeah I like how Valentine's has been pushing for the "also give some choco to your friends and family" sure it's probably just a plot to get people to buy more stuff, but I think it's nice to have the kids prepare cards and share candy for the specific occasion of celebrating love, which doesn't have to be romantic love only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:36 PM
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Why would any woman want 50yo sperm, when there are so men young men tripping over themselves to give their young sperm for free?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:51 AM
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Imagine not making up your goddamn mind about a time sensitive life decision by the time you hit half a century, FFS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:50 AM
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Treat your relationship with your partner as a career. You should be passionate and dedicated about it, put regular effort, be diligent, be mature, respectful and communicate properly, and expect the same from your partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:37 AM
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At the same time, don't make decisions to SPITE anyone, either, especially when it involves an innocent life that didn't ask to be born in that situation. I'm all cool with fencesitters turning CF. I firmly believe that when it comes to becoming a parent and having kids (adopted or bio) the only valid answer is "hell yes!" otherwise it's a no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:32 AM
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Ah, the good ol' "put your fingers in your ears and yell loudly that you can't hear anyone" technique, of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:18 AM
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Yesterday I had a long conversation with my mom, and one of the many things that came up, is that I sound/act inflexible, harsh (she didn't say this, but she keeps suggesting I should be talk more "softly"), like my opinions/thoughts are set in stone and I don't "listen" to other people's opinions... (This isn't a new argument, I've always been criticized since I was a child because I "flipped out" or was too sassy.) which is not true at all, I love doing research and hearing out many sides, bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:49 AM
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“Where am I gonna get stamps?” You know, I know that here we say "he knows, he just doesn't care" but I'm hard pressed to not call men who ask these type of questions unironically, the biggest morons and waste of resources in the entirety of Earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:47 AM
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Time to watch some Midsommar! (it kinda fell off my radar when it first got released)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:45 AM
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Don't worry, men can be all of those together! Combo deal: hates gays, insecure in their masculinity, afraid of femininity, and not intellectual enough. We can add some "doesn't clean himself properly at 28yo" and "can't do chores for shit" for free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:43 AM
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With that money he should've just gotten a fleshlight, instead of wasting those women's time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:38 PM
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Yeah I saw, what's funny is that there are at least two usernames that I've blocked (very likely they're LVM scrotes who tried to invade FDS at one point) commented in your post. For the pickmes, Jesus Christ could a LVM just pick them already so all of you LV people can leave us HVW alone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:35 PM
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I don't think so, it's just majority of men being sociopaths. North Korea is not capitalist, yet is rampant with sexism. South Korea (and other Asian countries) are capitalist but not western, and are rampant with sexism. Asian countries in general are a majority of Asians, not white people, and yet are rampants with sexism. It's really nothing to do with color or X system. Sure, capitalism and white supremacy encourage and facilitate a few aspects, but it's not due to "capitalism" and "white su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:28 PM
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If we're gonna shame and point fingers at women for "doing X because that's what men find attractive" we're gonna be no better than men themselves. This is just another way to standard shame, I'm familiar with those. With that logic, you shouldn't work out and be very fit because of that excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:22 PM
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Legit one of my friends (of course, a woman) specifically bought her new sofa to also unfold into a bed, so we could come over and stay if we ever wanted to. 100% wanna be able to offer her the same if I ever need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:16 AM
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I'm generally against guns and other weapons that could potentially be turned against you, but fuck it. More self-defense classes, more weapons, training to be able to shoot. Whatever. Men are making it impossible to have a decent, unobtrusive way of life. That poor woman (she was 30, so past her girl years) fought and did her best. Wasn't bothering anyone, just living her life and leveling up. What a fucking waste... while that disgusting rapist murderer is still alive. I hope he rots in prison…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:04 AM
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This, all of it, aaaaaaaaall of it. Men don't take care of their bodies and minds, period. Until they're 30, youth and metabolism is on their side, but that's when they should've developed good habits and good routines. Once they lose their youth and their metabolism both starts slowing down AND can't keep up with their degenerate lifestyle any longer, it shows, hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:23 AM
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It does sound amazing, thank you! I do get motion sickness very easily, but there's medicine for that so I can deal with it XD I will definitely add it to my bucket list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:16 AM
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It makes me sick to hear their disgusting arguments: "If she bleeds, she can breed" Like fucking pedos, just right there with that one sentence they're admitting they wanna rape children, what the flying fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:13 AM
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Also can women stop lieing about “getting surgery for yourself”. Now hold your horses there. There are women who legitimately want to get some sort of surgery just for themselves. I am one of them. I want to be able to look myself in the mirror and feel good in my body. No, I don't do it to attract men, they can fuck off. I'm the one who lives 24/7 with this body, and there's absolutely nothing wrong to want to feel good in your own skin. While I understand your general stance, don't standard sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:07 AM
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That sounds amazing, thank you for the rec! I was thinking about the stuff to do when you're by yourself, of course I can gather my female friends and go look at the stars, backpack, etc. but, I wouldn't be able to do those things alone, which is what I thought of when I came up with those two examples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:00 AM
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Wait, his dad is rich enough to be able to donate millions to charity, and he still looks like that?? How about taking advantage of dad's connections to build your own empire, and then using that money to hiring the entire Queer Eye team to build you up. Jesus, I'd totally ask my dad for help and that way I could be the next gen to be able to donate millions to charity too. ...But no, the walking billboard of "zero effort + red flags" lifestyle it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:25 AM
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Are his mutton chops interfering with his vision? Answer is always yes, especially if "mutton chops" also refers to his stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:21 AM
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That's fucking insane, but sadly now I can see how incredibly common it is. They just LOVE causing pain to women, they love to know they have that much control over another person's life (a man will do if there's no women readily available, but only if he knows the other man won't retaliate), and wanna see how far they can take it until you absolutely break. Men are evil. Inb4 #notallmen, but #virtuallyallmen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:29 AM
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This exactly this. Sure we could all be naive and think "she means we have to be more proactive and tell our partners what we want" but 100% men will take it exactly like you said: as an excuse to not put any effort, and once again, make the woman do all the work. I don't need a man to get orgasms, I'm quite fantastic at giving myself orgasms daily if I wanted, without the hassle of "cOmMuNiCaTiNg" with a man who doesn't know how to please a woman in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:07 AM
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Absolutely, this came to mind! One of my fantasies that I know I never will be able to fully enjoy or do at all, is to go on a random drive away from the city at night time, and stop somewhere where I can see the stars more clearly. Or just be a lone backpacker and travel through Europe. I just can't. It's just too much risk and danger for a single, lone woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:48 PM
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This hits home so fucking hard, I have chronic depression and anxiety, and I 100% agree; I'd rather stay single forever than have a partner with mental illnesses even as mine (I'm at least somewhat middle to high functioning). A few years ago I started digging into my family stuff, and it's so obvious that one side of the family has some VERY concerning mental issues. I'm childfree but if I wasn't, I'd adopt or foster. I'll be damned if I pass down my shitty genetics to a child who didn't ask to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:40 PM
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Many women use their credentials or good career moves to make themselves as "experts" or somehow in favor of women, when they're really, really not. Women in general have to understand that there are many dangerous, irredeemable, insanely misogynistic pickmeishas that are actively trying to put other women down, denying them body autonomy, equal rights, and so on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:35 PM
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Usually it's really freaking obvious, they either just come and say BS like SundanceDog said, or they play dumb: "what's FDS?" "what's pickme?" Lots of these I find out are males, so I just report. Ignoring, reporting and blocking is the best thing to do, really. There's also lots of newbies or pickmes who, instead of reading the handbook before participating (as per the FDS rules) they barge in the chat wanting to treat it like their personal askFDS, and just want readily available emotional du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:20 PM
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100% with you, luckily now with FDS I don't have to worry about he vast majority, but I might end up being in the "not date at all" group eventually. At this point it just seems like a very insanely high risk, low reward type of deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:15 PM
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The signs that a man is abusive can lay dormant for YEARS until certain criteria are met, depending on the man. This, frankly, terrifies me. I'm always a "gotta watch out for the worst scenario" type of person, so just, imagining putting my sincere heart and soul into a man, marry him, etc. and for him to finally show his true colors years (sometimes even decades!) after... I don't know if I'd be able to deal with it. I can understand why many women (and people in general) desperately deny or wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:35 AM
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Why didn't he change it yet, I wonder? XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:56 AM
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They also infiltrate the chat, some of them either play ignorant (oh how did I end up here??) and some pretend to be women, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:44 AM
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Those are parasites if I've ever seen one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:41 AM
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"minimalism"?? I feel attacked XD (just kidding, my room is anything but lol) I have no strong opinions about any of those, to be honest. I mean whatever makes people level-up, as long as it's harmless?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:33 AM
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You're a queen, skirts or no skirts! (made out of paper or whatever material XD)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:18 AM
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Tarot and spiritual stuff is an alternative tool for self reflection, self discipline, focusing your intentions, and learning to be open to possibilities, and more. It’s fun, interesting, has history, and useful to those who find it useful. Exactly this, it's also just harmless fun and a way to spend some time with your sisters (biological or otherwise). I personally don't actively seek it, but when it happens, it's really fun. Of course some are obsessed or believe it's real, but that's a given…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:13 AM
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Not to mention, I'd argue most men are the ones with "daddy issues" than mommy issues. It's again, projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:10 AM
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He will hump a paper bag; anything goes. Edit: OMFG I swear to god I did NOT notice your username before I wrote this comment, sister please forgive me XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:08 AM
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As an Scorpio myself... I agree. XD (FYI I believe no matter what sign, women are still vastly different than their male counterparts)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:06 AM
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I'm gonna prepare the soft blankets and cozy myself up while I wait, this is better than any movie premiere!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:57 AM
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BTW Same position, I wouldn't trust a man who just approached me. Like it or not, lots of LVM "approach" "less attractive" women because they're hoping that our self-esteem is so low, that we'll be "thankful" for ANY male attention, BLERGH. You're one of us, queen, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I know it's hard to feel like you're unwanted, when the whole society has been telling us that our worth and value as women revolves around having a man in our lives, romance stories are over-h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:21 AM
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Hey there! You're in good company at least, I'm also deemed "not attractive" (although at least I can say I love my hair XD), and honest truth? Any male who makes you or me feel like us can just fuck off. We offer far more than just looks, sure we can level up if we feel like that would help our overall self-satisfaction, but it's not like we're less than scrotes out there. I'm gonna assume that at the very least you try your best to organize, clean and level up in other ways besides physical he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:17 AM
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I fucking hate the "nerd's dream" because I almost fit it to a tee. I've had men just go wild about how I like anime and videogames (and other nerdy shows like Doctor Who, and GoT before it went to shit). It is as you say, they think we can "bond" over JUST those things, and they don't have to put any effort whatsoever in other aspects of their life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:07 AM
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Absolutely this, these type of men bitching about a few dollars will and have pocketed cash. I'd bet good money that if she had dropped cash and walked away, he'd pocket it, then give his card to the waiter and bitch about how "that bitch just walked away without paying, while I'm here being a GeNtLeMaN and good person and staying and paying." So advice is: 1) bring cash 2) do not argue with dude (there's no point) 3) Agree to split bill, get up, walk towards the cashier/waiter and give them the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:59 AM
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That's really unfair towards his cousin Cletus and the farm animals, they're all 8s at most, he doesn't deserve them! XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:04 AM
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Take out the "I'm sorry" and you're golden. There's no need to use apologetic behavior to kowtow to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:54 PM
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He wasn't all bad Sister, let's not minimize the shitty behavior just because he made you feel good some times. From your own words, it WAS all bad, not because there were no good times, but because HE thought that making you feel good during some times negated/excused him from all the VERY shitty times he did put you through. You're a queen for getting that piece of shit out of your life, you deserve so much more than LVM behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:49 PM
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But, he IS acting on it. He's basically seeking very young adults (18 aka the bare minimum legal age) to enact his depravity. You think that men, the gender that has no concept of moderation, don't escalate? They absolutely do and have and will escalate. He'll want them younger and younger. He needs therapy and to stay away from porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:43 PM
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Unfortunately the two basic things I got from the whole reply was 1) feel sorry for me 2) I'm twisting this into a good thing, He didn't even mention seeking therapy, just "I'mma make sure all these women are legal so I don't get into trouble" 100 bucks says when he's 50, he'll still seek out 18-24yos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:41 PM
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Thank you for sacrificing your time reading them for us, I seriously would be in a bad mood the whole day after reading so many LV people shit on a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:29 PM
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Just block that scrote, what a fire dumpster he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:24 PM
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Pffftt are you serious? Now that's a new level of pathetic, how is that an insult?? Holy Christ, they really exceed our expectations when we think they can't go any lower LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:11 PM
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Exactly, feeling jealousy is normal, it's how you decide to act on it that matters. Like sure if you feel bitter, the best thing to do is not to indulge and make these kind of shit posts, but to recognize the root problem (I feel bitter and jealous because I want someone to love me like that) and have a real talk with yourself on how to either accept the state of things, or bettering yourself to minimize that jealousy or achieve a similar goal in your own life. Men are so used to deflecting and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:39 PM
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What really gets me about male celebrities like Dicaprio is that I still remember watching the Titanic as a teen, and then also later in Inception he looked fine. If they took care of their bodies (which includes their mind, so mental health should be included) they could look almost as good as female celebrities. Biology is even on their side, even after they hit the wall, men can shed fat and build muscle more easily than women. The odds are all stacked in their favor, and even then they still…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:31 PM
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I recommend checking out other childfree subs, I think there's one called "actually childfree" and they're a smaller group but try to keep the rants to a minimum. The one thing you can take from the main CF sub, is that their info for sterilization, regret stories, etc is ENORMOUS. I basically filter the rants and spent a lot of time just reading their wiki and FAQs and whatever else their sidebar has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:06 PM
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I don't care if we play the same video games if we fundamentally disagree on actually important things like worldview/religion/future plans 100% this, all this. Not to mention, if all they latch onto is their nerdy obsessions, they're far more excited about the fact A girl, not you in particular, just A girl, ANY girl, likes the same things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:04 PM
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Right? Goddamn, read a book, pick up a sport, learn to cook a new recipe. learn life hacks for cleaning/organizing, watch a documentary about X animal/culture/history, ANYTHING. There's thousands of things to learn out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:02 PM
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To be honest I rather men who didn't want children or were just going around getting their dicks wet for the funsies, to get snipped and not have kids AT ALL. I vastly prefer LVM who at least have the decency to sterilize themselves instead of subjecting a poor woman who DID want to be a mother and have a caring husband, to basically have her life crumble before her eyes because the father of her children is either a deadbeat and/or man-child. So I'll give one thing to LVM CF who got snipped, at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:59 PM
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For sure, I highly dislike long hair and ANY amount of beard in most men because I know they're not washing their hair regularly, and I highly doubt they clean their beards after each time they eat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:53 PM
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I'm so sorry you went through that sister, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He's a scumbag and I'm glad he's out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:51 PM
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Dude should just pay for a gym trainer, a maid and a chef before he goes around whining about gold-diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:26 AM
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No problem, she already is wh*ring for male attention with that post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:24 AM
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You're goddamn right, queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:08 AM
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I'm in my mid 30's and the type of men that are supposed to be around my age are sad. Like goddamn dude, why you look like you could be my father??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:43 AM
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We really have to stop entertaining these kind of people. Pickmes are incredibly dangerous, remember that, even though it's not their fault for being born female in a sexist culture, they still have some agency, so we can't just let them go scott free. Pickmes are the ones that look the other way when a man is abusing or sexually abusing her children. They're the ones who put all the blame on the children of her first marriage when she marries again. They're the ones who will defend and protect …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:42 AM
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I love hearing your stories, sisters, even though I'm sorry men put you through such a big amount of shitty sex. It makes me feel validated on staying a virgin, not because I don't have a sex drive or wanna try, I just never felt safe enough with any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:26 AM
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It certainly a sign for escalation of violence. They always start with objects like walls, then it's her personal things, then the violence culminates on her. Even if it didn't literally end with physical violence towards the woman, the mere fact that these men make a show for women on how "violent they could get" with inanimate objects is still a way to instill fear on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:24 AM
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Yeah, it's not as common because as I mentioned, arm hair is not that noticeable in women, but if it is, yeap it's really THAT sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:17 AM
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I mean, as straight women, it's ok to find truly attractive men (both inside and outside) well, attractive. The problem is that like 99% of the male population doesn't put effort to take care of their body and visual presentation, don't care to stay mentally healthy, and now don't wanna work on top of the other two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:16 AM
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I think it really helps that either he has great genetics and/or youth on his side, or he takes really good care of his skin and grooming. I can't tell much from one single video of course, but his skin also looks great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:13 AM
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Hey I get you, it really sucks when you try to reach "friends/family," meet them in the middle, etc. only for them to not put the same effort. So I usually spend my actual bdays/Xmas/similar holidays alone too. I have a few friends but they never bothered to do special stuff, in fact they usually lump my bday with an older friend's, and most of the time it feels like I'm tagging along. (my blood relatives all live far away so they have an excuse at least) I think accepting that the ONE person wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:11 AM
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TBH all OLD was a cesspool even before Covid. I still remember years ago I made a profile in a dating website, didn't find a single man I felt attracted to in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:47 AM
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Kudos to him for having long hair AND taking care of it. From this video at least, I can say it's really well taken care of, it looks great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:45 AM
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From what I've heard/seen, usually women's arm hair is not that noticeable, so usually it gets a pass, but if it is noticeable, then yeah scrotes whine about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:40 AM
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I think we as women have the most comprehensive legitimate reasons for choosing not to have children I've been in the main CF sub for years, and I think this is absolutely correct. Sure, there are some male CFs out there with a good head on their shoulders, but like you said, they're unicorns. Some of the shit that really triggers me is to see rants/seeking-advice posts/comments in the CF sub about these women who are 100% CF.... but are married/living/in a relationship with man-children. Like W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:38 AM
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Man, guys who are basically 100% whining little spoiled toddlers are such a turn off. "Hurt his feelings and mistreated"? Give me a break, go run back to your mommy's skirt so she can give you ice cream, tuck you in bed and tell you how you're "her handsome little boy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:33 AM
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Smile, pay whatever your share, do NOT let him walk you to your car, and block, delete and forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:25 AM
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That's the equivalent of "I'm not a racist, but..." or "I'm not a sexist, but..." followed by something incredibly racist/sexist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:24 AM
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They truly believe they're the first ones to come to a woman with their stupid mansplaining excuses "it's biology" "communicate" "you (the woman) gotta reach/fix it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:21 AM
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Ese pendejo asqueroso se la puede comer, porque vos te mereces lo mejor del mundo, no un acechador de porqueria y adicto al porno! Buenisima reina!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:08 AM
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Right? Look at this dude's face, usually when people accomplish a difficult task/goal, they may look tired, but their eyes are shining with happiness. This dude is none of those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:29 PM
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Agreed, though sadly it sounds like a unicorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:27 PM
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I watch anime and I just wanna scream whenever a scrote comes invading this sub, I go search their comment history and they happen to be into shit anime. Thanks scrotes, for giving anime such a shit reputation (I also blame the sexist anime studios in Japan that cater to pedophilia and female objectification).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:26 PM
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Hell, I play videogames myself and I wanna steer clear of them too. Men have no concept of moderation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:10 PM
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I loved this article back when it was published, and I love to re-read the shit out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:08 PM
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And no "I'm feeling positive after all this time, maybe I should unblock all these LV people to prove there's no bad blood" NO. Keep them blocked, deleted and out of your life, FOREVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:43 PM
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Yeap, the more I find out about other cultures/countries and how women are treated there, it's all basically the same sexist shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:34 PM
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Yeah I know, I've been doing all those for more than a decade, I like putting spanish in salads the most, just because I like different leaves in salads, makes it more versatile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:32 PM
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Well since you're using your card, lemme get some beers for boys' night, I'mma grab 5 packs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:08 AM
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So, I suppose men not only hate women... but they also hate each-other and themselves? Yep yep yep! Men will literally not speak up about certain topics, like child abuse, etc. because they're afraid of other men retaliating. I had a guy tell me basically this, he will "choose" when to say certain things because he was afraid of other men's violent reactions. Men are violent, remember that most raped men are raped by other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:59 AM
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That's the thing, for incels, the celibacy part is negative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:31 AM
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telling me I was replaceable "oh no! ...anyway" XD Love your energy, queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:14 AM
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Sure, but it's not like we lose all control of ourselves and will just sleep with any hole/meat stick just to get the edge off (at least I hope so), we can take care of ourselves in that regard (not to mention we don't masturbate so much our sexual organs deteriorate or get the equivalent of ED)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:52 AM
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I love you so goddamn much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:11 AM
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This is one of my life goals as well! Buy a nice house with a big backyard, so I can have 1-2 big dogs who will protect me, and I will protect them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:07 AM
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I watch HopeForPaws (youtube channel about animal rescues) and even the man who runs the channel and rescue says that lots of times he needs to bring a female volunteer/member, because many, many dogs are afraid of getting near men. It just says a lot that even dogs, "man's best friend," have been victims of so much abuse that dogs being afraid of male humans is common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:06 AM
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Gaaaaaaaahhhhhhh omg this reminded me of when one of my cousins from Korea came to stay with my brother for a few months to "try" to live here (I'm in the US). Dude was over 20, had NO drive about figuring out how to get a job (which should've been doable, because we lived not that far from LA Koreatown, and internet was a thing. Hell, even I worked in Koreatown), didn't do ANY chores, and spent the whole time eating ramen. (because my bro in true fashion, as an Asian man himself wouldn't cook f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:38 AM
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No. Onlyfans content creators hurt other, regular women just as much as porn, because they stil adhere to and actively encourage the idea that women are products/objects of consumption that can be accessed with money. Onlyfans is anti-FDS and anti-women. Porn is anti-FDS and anti-women. No ifs or buts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:29 AM
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Yeap, my idea (that Hollywood and general children's media instilled in me) of the kindly old grandpa has been shattered to dust. SO many of them act and look the part, but are hiding a disgusting depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:19 AM
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Queen, I need your story like I need AIR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:16 AM
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I sure would love to see the "nest" as one of the entries hahahaha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:15 AM
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She selling that koolaid to pickmes and LVM, and she's GOOD at it (jokes aside I have no idea what she does in patreon, but I assume is sth that appeals to LV people)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:08 AM
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If you're not worried about what people think of you, why get all defensive? Just do your thing, people who are genuinely fine with their life choices don't give a fuck what others think because they're too busy enjoying/experiencing those life choices. (fyi I know OP is not the original poster)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:02 AM
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And to what? Placate their egos? Men are incredibly fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:59 AM
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Now FDS is encouraging you to pick apart THEIR appearance, and 99% of the time for good reason, and these dudes are having a goddamn meltdown LOL God forbid you pointed out their shitty, dirty cargo pants, graphic tee, pube-beard, shitty skin, and 5yo sandals!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:38 AM
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I mean I'm sure plenty of queens here don't need the equivalent of that bullshit excuse "post nut clarity," unlike men we can make wise decisions without our horniness impairing our judgement. And men are supposed to be the cold, logical sex. The ones who even rape female animals. Sigh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:04 AM
14

Glad I wasn't the only who thought gang rape and maybe followed up by murder or more rape at his place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:02 AM
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Right, I've seen tattoos with cultural/personal meanings, like representing a family member that passed away, keeping your cultural roots alive because you're a minority, etc. but hers I really, reaaaally doubt have any kind of highly personal meaning. They look generic AF and a huge sign of LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:00 AM
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It means you're on the right path of leveling up XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:16 AM
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Oh yes, they're absolutely desperately trying to compensate the lack of appreciation and love and effort and energy and care and... from their boyfriends. Seriously, if I was lesbian/bi and dated these ladies, I'd be kissing the ground they walk on. It's just insane the lengths a LOT of women go through to show their love to these scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:05 AM
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It's really sad that this scrote was your best yet, what the flying fuck. The bar is in hell, indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:03 AM
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No prob, a good example is the collage of scrotes, after 2-3 of them they got so repetitive that the mods had to put a lid on those. I'll keep an eye out too, gotta keep the sub to its original quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:59 AM
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My mom and I once in a while get ourselves some nice but affordable brands, and hands down even after a few years, we can always "pass them down" as gifts for younger female relatives/friends because they look so great even if they're past models (it helps my mom usually goes for the more classic, timeless designs). I have many videogames, and I can tell you that shit doesn't appreciate unless you have some near mint vintage crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:56 AM
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Don't you love it when they twist and cherry-pick the example that "proves" their point, until it's not applicable at all to the majority of people?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:52 AM
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She also has to contribute to my mortgage, groceries and bills, but she ain't having her name in ANY of my properties/bank accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:51 AM
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Reminds me of one of our queens who was looking to buy property or sth like that, and her bf didn't know shit so she tried to teach him, and he immediately started using "we" language. Like dude, it's HER money, HER knowledge, HER decision. There's no "we" LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:47 AM
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He looks Asian, I'm gonna be self-racist (am Asian too) and say he just expects it's a given that the woman cooks and brings the plate to him. No joking, I grew up with my bro expecting me to peel and cut fruit and bring it to him while he was watching TV/was in his room. Edit: words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:41 AM
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OMG I forgot those were a thing!!!! do you have any recs o_O
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:38 AM
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No prob, I get what you're saying, it makes sense. If you see posts that are low effort or repetitive, please make sure to report them to the mods. I'll keep an eye out on those, too. As for generally why post roast-a-scrotes, there's a label for a reason, and it's important to share the kind of shit LVM will write/say/act to con us, but yes if you see an influx of too many of similar screenshot stuff/posts, also report to mods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:36 AM
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We're all human, that's understandable, I'm not gonna lie and say I haven't liked attention (both male and female, although with no romantic connotations from the female kind) too. It still applies though, if she called you high maintenance and was covert looking to date you, it's not HV to call you that. Vetting and having standards works for all genders, as we can see in your post. Keep on being a queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:24 AM
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Right? Like calm down pickmeisha and/or "cool girl," there's no men around to give you the validation you desperately want from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:37 AM
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Don't even reply one word, just report them to the mods, block and delete. They're not worth even a second of your queenly time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:29 AM
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This is why irredeemable pickmeishas aren't allowed here. They're basically female versions of misogynistic men who barge in here gaslighting our sisters and saying the same tired bullshit as men: "#notallmen," "50-50 is cool," "did you CoMmUnIcAtE?? It takes two," "casual hang outs are dates!" and all sorts of bullshit. Read the handbook, the whole thing. Strive to genuinely be better. No you don't have to be 100% on board at the beginning or anything, but we have certain stances with no room f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:27 AM
1

I recommend memory foam, I've had mine for more than 3 years and it's still as bouncy/shaped as when I purchased it. Of course I'm not gonna keep this pillow for 10 years, but having it last more than 1-2 years is nice (and not to mention, greener)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:25 AM
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Please elaborate, I'm interested in keeping an eye out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:16 AM
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Pppppffffttt this is how men react when they're not getting their way. It's sad that it's not uncommon at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:39 AM
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I once tagged along with some friends when they went on a hike with some of their coworkers; I could tell I was deemed as MEGA uncool because of my full on Asian auntie getup (full visor, long pants, long sleeves, gloves, SPF to block even the moon light). They literally tried their best to not interact with me (the ladies were more approachable, of course) Like idgaf, I'm gonna protect every bit of skin improvement, stay "cool looking" for each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:35 AM
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I did not just spend hundreds of dollars on dermatologists, accutane and good skin care to RUIN IT ON A FUCKING WALK DATE. YES. I finally got my skincare routine going smoothly, and NO man is worth me getting wrinkles and horrible tans because of his cheap ass. I'm a lady of the night, now! (and yes I know the connotations, I don't caaaaaaare)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:31 AM
4

Bumble sounds highly anti-FDS, if the women have to initiate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:24 AM
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Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:22 AM
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I'll just grab one of those cheap packs of Walmart branded canned coffee, I needed to get groceries anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:20 AM
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Why is asking commanding your mother to pay for your date Yeap, not her money, they don't have any money. They better sell some lemonade or cut some neighbor's grass if they wanna have money for their dates. Also, at 14 they shouldn't be anywhere near dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:00 AM
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Who wants to bet that he looks like the typical LVM scrote, no signs of putting any effort in his wardrobe, skincare, grooming, exercise, and just expected all the gorgeous looking women HE chose to match with, to just do the work for him. You're not Chris Hemsworth, Chad, go the fuck away, leave those women alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:38 PM
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100% gets off on getting caught, and is using his sisters for his porn sick voyeur fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:30 PM
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And if not replaced (I have a memory foam one I've had for a few years and never lost shape), at least put two pillowcases! The first one is hypoallergenic, waterproof, etc. and then I use a 2nd, regular one that I change weekly. (and the hypoallergenic I wash/replace accordingly). There's NO excuse for this gross behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:03 PM
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Hahahaha to me cilantro tastes a little soapy, but not enough to ruin the taste of stuff it's in. This actually makes sense, my brother must be a bigger super taster (and I a milder one) because he absolutely despises cilantro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:44 PM
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....Whaaaaaaaattttt theeeee... Yes it actually does taste a little bitter! I thought I wasn't one of the super tasters because I actually like cilantro on my stuff... although it does taste a little soapy. I must be on a spectrum, because I'm cool with cilantro and kinda ok with broccoli... but I'm totally not ok with coffee, brussel sprouts, beer and even sparkling soda! What's funny is that I know broccoli is healthy so it's actually one of the veggies I eat the most lolololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:43 PM
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"meant to be" is just another dumb romance bullshit propaganda for women to not sleep around. If "he's the one" and "you're meant to be" you're more likely to stay with only him, ergo only he has access to your body and resources. AKA all traditional marriage and romance tropes as we know them have been constructed to benefit men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:27 AM
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This is something that a lot of women MUST get through their heads, men just aren't on the same level or wavelength of empathy and care than most women. They are in the sociopath spectrum and yeah, it sucks but this is the world we live in. Protect yourself, sisters, do not avert your eyes from the current reality of the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:20 AM
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Right?? Jewelry is an outdated form of currency for women at this point. In the past it just wasn't possible to easily mass manufacture a lot of actually good looking jewelry (and get materials that wouldn't give you away), and it was hard for women to have personal property, so jewelry was a way to give them a form of "money" they could keep for themselves in emergencies and such. (Also it wasn't a cheapo purchase men could just spend money on, it was harder for them to obtain such luxury items…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:21 AM
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Oh yeah I've had it roasted, pan fried, added raw (and cooked) in salads, in stir fries, etc. but I eat it because it's healthy for us, not because I particularly go crazy for the flavor. It's ok flavor wise, just not my preferred veggie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:15 AM
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Nothing it's just not my main veggie, it's part of my regular intake because it's a healthy, affordable, decent veggie, but I wouldn't really miss it if I stopped eating it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:13 AM
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Broccoli isn't my main veggie to go LOL I think it's good roasted, chopped and added to salads, stir fries, etc. but I don't eat it because I particularly like the flavor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:12 AM
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Yes I agree! I've literally read epics based on different shows/movies, entire sagas that go above and beyond to flesh out the story and the characters. It's incredible the written stuff you can find out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:11 AM
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Oh yeah me too! Like sure I'll read a good romance story, but I'm a more practical person too so if it's too focused on romance/too cheese/too stupid, I'm out. archiveorourown dot org is an excellent website to start looking for fics! The filters allow you to filter in and out tags so you don't see stuff that is NSFW or dark or triggery. I'd probably recommend you searched for tags like "fluff" or "fluff and humor" or "cuddling and snugglig," usually those focus on the good moments like spending…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:10 AM
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and start making yourself a high value human being. They genuinely believe nothing is wrong with them and they're perfect "just as they are." I can't even with these scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:16 PM
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Hell, we even eat foods JUST for the health benefits. I'm not chowing down on broccoli because I enjoy it, Chads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:15 PM
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This is not a popular opinion, but one thing that I love to do is read fanfiction based on the shows/stories I like. There's a lot of it, by many people, and I find it easier to find stories full of healthy romance and sex. If it was something published, usually an author would have to get some input on what to add/take out to "attract the readers" and get paid. Of course, there are lots of unhealthy, sick stories out there. It's a matter of being careful (and remember that it's still fiction), …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:13 PM
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This is why I never have been able to like the idea (even pre FDS) of a man gifting me jewelry (grand gesture or not). It's just SO easy to find good looking jewelry that literally costs less than a new game. I'm also not good at knowing what it's actually made of, etc. so it'd be easy to slip me some cheapo crap. I rather a man proposed with a car Even though I'm bad with cars too, it's far easier to look up the specs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:03 PM
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Not to mention, there are recorded cases of men who HAVE left their wives when she was either sick or disabled (like with cancer), or even just when she was old and retired. Men HAVE left women for FAR less reasons. Hell, just look at the staggering amount of deadbeat dads or just overall shitty dads who divorced because he basically didn't like that the wife was burning out from taking care of the kids, him, the house and her job. There's actual data of men leaving their wives for whatever the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:15 PM
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I believe in FDS 100% but this isn’t the worst mindset a young woman could have. Then you're not 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:33 PM
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Down the Clown games at an arcade Holy. SHIT. That, is the most accurate description I've ever heard. This is exactly why we shouldn't engage or unblock!!! Someone sticky this comment NOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:19 PM
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That'd be true catharsis XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:12 PM
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I think it's fine to talk about it, I mean you said it's in the past and you aren't encouraging it or telling women it's fine/good to be a stripper. I personally am not gonna judge you for your pre-FDS past, we've all been there at some level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:11 PM
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He isn't jumping because he legit thinks the wife should've stopped/halted her career/job, and stay home to cook for him, be there for when he comes back from HIS job, and take care of the kids. There's nothing to address because like you said, he's the main character, ergo usually his perspective is the one respected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:55 PM
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Yes, this is another BIG difference between women who are into romcom/silly romance tropes and men who are addicted to porn. Most women DO NOT let the line between fiction and reality blur the way men do with porn. They do not let them influence their brains the way men let porn influence their brains. Watching porn is 100% a sickness and an addiction. I don't even like "vanilla" porn because it's still made on the foundation of thousands of women who did it against their will. At least in writi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:41 PM
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Right? This is why I'm never gonna date a man who just let's himself go when it comes to grooming. I groom even when I'm not dating anyone, I want him to match my energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:23 AM
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"nooo I wanted to hang out mooooreeee." "I did not realize I just went on a date with an 8yo boy, I do not condone pedophilia so if you'll excuse me, I need to walk away as fast as possible."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:04 AM
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His porn sick brain went straight to the "it's a sex toy!!!!" conclusion and he basically couldn't really think. Men really do think with their dicks, sigh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:00 AM
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So what you're telling me is, I should stay a virgin XD (lol jokes aside, this is all useful information! Worth of a sticky or a separate section in the FAQs or sth)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:50 AM
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If they were gardens I would salt them so none of their shitty little ideas could grow into texts ever again. I now live for this kind of poetry *chef's kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:44 AM
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Yeap and their "jokes" are all insults to women, it's not even decent enough to be anywhere near the realm of "humor." It's incredibly cowardly too, because they go around saying all this shit, but as soon as someone calls them out, they backtrack of shield themselves with the equivalent of "it's just a prank, bro!" They don't even have the guts to be held accountable for their words. It's disgusting. Edit: words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:39 AM
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The audacity of this scrote to tell her she was never good enough to be in a real relationship with him, but "hey I'm a generous god and I'll allow you to stay as a sex toy for me." BLERGH! I'm never, EVER gonna define my worth as a person, and as a woman, in terms and conditions made by men and that only benefit them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:31 AM
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OMG parrots are my favorite birds and pets! Yes it takes a lot of work and effort, but I think it's exactly because of that, when your birdies finally allow you to earn their trust, it's the most beautiful accomplishment. I think it says a lot about being HV (both your birds and you!) You're a QUEEN and your birds and queens/kings too, and don't let anybody tell you otherwise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:26 AM
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I usually don't like rap (mostly because of the toxic/lazy messages on top of just not liking the style) but I'm loving these lyrics! Thank you for sharing, I will look him up in youtube or Spotify!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:05 AM
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OMFG these selfish, narcissistic scrote not wearing masks are my new trigger. Cover your damn mouth and nose, you ain't god's gift to women and you never will be. It's just so disgusting how they think their wish to get their dick wet trumps the safety and health of hundreds of people around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:02 AM
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We should compile all of these tips into a big-ass binder/file, we really need to watch out because men WILL and HAVE done all of this and so much worse. Men are the violent, highly irrational and highly emotional sex. It's insane that they want to tell it's women. It's men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:56 AM
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"no thanks, I'm good" then unmatch/delete and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:44 AM
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This is why I always scoff at people who say pets aren't "real" family" or "real" love. Like GTFO, pets are wonderful, give you lots of love, don't care what you look like, and are there when you're feeling down. Sorry not sorry, if men can't compete with a dog/cat/bird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:42 AM
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OMG yes! I used to like watching "My Wife and Kids" but it never sat right with me how the main character (the husband) hated that his wife focused on her career, and wanted her to be a SAHM because guess what? She wasn't keeping up with the household chores and the child rearing because of her work. What. The. Fuck. And his wife was this wonderful woman who LOVED her career and job, and had her own struggles with toxic masculinity in her career field, and what does she do instead of putting him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:52 AM
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I usually go to places like Costco or dealerships where it's a bit harder to ask them to see them work, but I should've thought of youtube! Youtube has everything LOL Thank you for all the tips, I'm gonna see later on when the Covid situation gets better on community college courses, I've always been a better student when it's hands on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:37 AM
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PPPPFFFFFFFTTTTTTTTT omg I love this hahahahaha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:33 AM
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Ugly women are hardly thought of as women or even human at times. Yep, I've always been considered as "ugly" to men, and this is so true. I still remember the face of disgust of a boy I said was nice (I was being harassed by classmates whether I had a crush, and they wouldn't leave me alone until I answered anything. Looking back they were probably trying to humiliate me in front of any boy I named). Lord forbid the fat girl in class liked a boy! The poor guy! /s (What's sad is that I didn't eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:18 AM
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I think it was less her "caring" and more asking US the question. Like: here's this common male human specimen, now class, can someone answer why he'd do what he just did? (waits for hands to raise)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:15 AM
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I wish there was like a class or sth I could take that taught those things, so I could learn without worrying about messing up my car (I'm super paranoid about it so I don't mind paying for the occasional repair LOL).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:49 PM
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....It's low effort to hire a crew of animators, rent a private theater room, and make the movie your girlfriend loves about her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:51 PM
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Yeah, what people don't realize or want to deny is that while out of context, the cost of the ring doesn't matter... it absolutely matters to show the type of man he is, and how much he values you. Most men value money (and the power money gives them) over everything else. Sorry not sorry it's the reality of things. If he truly loved you, he'd put effort into whatever you wanted as a proposal. Like if you want a car instead of a ring, it'd be so obvious how shitty/good he was if he proposed with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:49 PM
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This 100%, hands down. This is why it's incredibly important to seek therapy, so if sisters here tell you to get therapy, GET THERAPY. (And I say this as someone who was completely broke and almost homeless when I really needed it, so I looked for a therapist option that I could afford)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:44 PM
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....Holy shit, and yet another veil is lifted from my eyes! This makes so much damn sense, it's scary. It's scary how insidious and how deep the rabbit hole goes once we really start analyzing everything, gathering data and fact and putting aside the feelings that prevent us from seeing all the red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:38 PM
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Shit, I replaced my brakes about 2-3 years ago and I'm so careful while braking that I took my car for maintenance a month ago and asked if I needed to change my brakes, they told me there's a good 50% left of the brakes. I also hope that wife leaves him because he's scamming her HARD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:34 PM
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I blame all the stupid romcoms that 100% cater and encourage these stupid "clumsy nice guy" tropes and stereotypes, especially the ones where the guy puts ZERO effort in his grooming, clothing, living situation, and the love interest is this amazingly hot and stylish woman who wakes up with a full face of perfect make up and hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:27 PM
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Love this, will save it for the future (if I ever need it XD)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:20 PM
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Exactly! I'm personally childfree but I know women who genuinely want to be mothers, and I fully support it as long as they put proper thought and planning into it. For me it's the other way round, I'm not considered feminine (was even called a lesbian a couple of times in a derogatory way), and was/am considered a tomboy. What really gets me about being called "tomboy" or any variation of the word, is that it's a lowkey insult to point out how "un-feminine" and thus unattractive/inappropriate y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:18 PM
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I agree! I love seeing couples who genuinely seem to care, respect and love each other, and the man is not afraid of being called simp, gay, etc. I still remember years ago, Simon got called gay a lot and just Martina's "gay friend" because he enjoyed doing all the silly skits (with and without Martina), caring about his fashion, making silly faces, etc. It was infuriating; like I DREAM of getting such a beautiful soul for a husband!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:11 PM
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Ugh, I cannot even imagine being in bed and having that creepy smiley face coming at me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:01 PM
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OMG I didn't even pay attention to that cuz the age paired with that photo was enough to horrify me, but it just gets worse and worse! XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:05 AM
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What I find particularly gross about the "have better mental health" than their wives fact, is that it's not because they actually get better mentally (like when one gets real therapy and really wants to improve), but it's because they dump and project all their negative energy onto her, and then suck up all her positive energy. They're literally taking away her life force, that's why they have "better" mental health: it's at the expense of another human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:24 AM
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Yes please! It's gonna be composed of weak men, narcs, porn-addicts, misogynists, socially inept, momma's boys and "cool" girls. And they're all gonna whine SO hard when HVM and HVW are finally left in peace, dating each other, and being in happy, healthy, long-term relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:21 AM
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Hoooooooooooooooly shit he's 2 years older than me??? No way, no fucking way, the wall is real! I still get carded sometimes, this dude looks FIFTY. WTF is it with men barely older than me already looking like they could be my dad or a young uncle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:00 AM
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Oh god this made me actually laugh out loud!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:59 AM
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Imagine being so scared of admitting that SOME guys are objectively attractive and well groomed, that you're willing to not wash your ass crack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:49 AM
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It's funny how men believe that they have that sort of power-over-body-autonomy on their girlfriends. She ain't your arranged marriage bride, Chad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:46 AM
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Yassssssssssssss! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:26 AM
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This is what actually happened, hands down. NO way she just texted him one hour before the "coffee and field date" and said "actually I want a sushi dinner date." These scrotes twisting the story to suit their needs are not even goddamn believable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:21 AM
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Add to that "skinny fat" men, their bodies are just long soft tubes filled with pudding, no form whatsoever, often with scattered gross body hair (like think those men with like 20 hairs total on his chest that are erratically around his nipples and between his breasts). Either groom it or shave it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:01 AM
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Holy shit, you lifted yet another veil from my eyes, this is so fucking true! This is what I do my with my housemates, these aren't really dates, just regular life. I'm never considering these activities dates, ever again (I'm not even kidding, this is a terrible "date" idea, it just shows that you're OK with no effort)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:58 AM
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Way ahead of you, sis XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:21 AM
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Actually this is why I don't trust beards, too many men use them to hide their double and triple chins and shitty skin, instead of trying to work on improving their diet, sleep schedule and exercise (and use some sunblock). But I do agree, some men DO look better with a neat, clean, properly groomed beard (which is also a rarity, sigh...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:20 AM
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They have it so goddamn easy, lots of women are cool with 3-5 day stubble (raises hand), so technically men can get away with just doing it once every 5 days, and they can't even do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:19 AM
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I love this, I think more girls and women should listen to this and remember it. My femininity has nothing to do with my womb either, it has nothing to do with "motherly" nature. You can be a caring, nurturing person WITHOUT needing to cater or apologize to the natalist societies that value women only on their incubating abilities or sacrificing their whole being to exist for men and children. My femininity involves loving cutesy stuff, nail art, but also loving stuff like videogames (which is B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:04 AM
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Yeah I'm obviously not pro death penalty when it's more regular crime and there's a chance of rehabilitation or they were wrongfully convicted, etc. but I'm not willing to let child rapists/molesters just go around living life outside jail. One raped child (I'm including ALL underage, so yes including teens) is one too many. Sorry not sorry, pedophiles MUST seek a way to treat, cure and control their pedophilic urges. It really enrages me that they're trying to play the victim card saying it's l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:01 AM
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Right?? I follow a youtuber couple, and they're incredibly wholesome, one of the videos they posted was how throughout their whole marriage, they made sure to treat their marriage as a career: by putting work and effort into it, keep on going on dates (in fact that video was filmed during a date), making sure their disagreements don't escalate into fights, make sure both are comfortable and happy, communicating properly, etc. Of course I don't really know them, but from what I've seen, he treats…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:41 AM
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Holy shit I legit thought they were two different people, like the son on the left and the dad on the right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:04 PM
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Sister, you're so right. I thought about it and I have to be honest with myself, it's starting to sound like a bad habit. I'm working on myself physically on top of mentally, and instead of just considering myself ugly on standards that LVM put in place, I should start seeing myself as you queens are teaching me who I am: A QUEEN. Thank you for your kind words, I love you! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:01 PM
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What really triggers me is that they don't really want catharsis or real therapy, they just want your attention and to not only feel sorry for themselves (poor widdle me!) but have someone else be sorry for them. Then they just go back to being the stupid assholes they are, making the same mistakes, projecting their issues on women, etc. It's disgustingly narcissistic because they legit think nothing is their fault, it's all "years of loneliness and trauma." Yeah Kevin, it must've been sooooo tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:48 PM
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Ah yes, because the SECOND she's legal according to the laws, ANYTHING GOES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:43 PM
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Thank you for saying this! I still remember that one post a "newbie" made a while ago about how she "found plenty of HVM in OLD" BLEARGH "she" was so nonchalant and covert smug about it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:42 PM
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Yeap, I looooooove these type of dates, but I see it as a fiancee/wife benefit that a man has gotta earn, not as a regular date for a man to court you. It's for couples that have been established and/or married for quite some time already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:37 PM
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This should be stickied for eternity, seriously you queens keep on making me realize how women are forced to be in the dark, shamed and silenced in so many disgusting ways. I love this post, I love it. We women really need to keep talking about all the things people (MEN) shame us into not sharing with each other. Penis shape, size, hardness, color, those are all important things and all of us women who are attracted to a person with a penis MUST talk about this. It's shameful that men can liter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:13 PM
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Right?? I have too much shit to catch up to, too many things I wanna try, read, watch, play, listen, learn... and I'm one of the lazy ones! There's honestly not enough hours in the day, it says a lot about these men who have nothing better to do than stalk this sub just because they're salty that we don't want their unwanted presence here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:18 PM
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OMFG so mine has like TWO old photos of me, then a few of my shitty nails showing some nail polish I like, and then I just use it to follow birds and animals and some friends. I kept getting messages and follows from a bunch of scrotes! I'm not even physically attractive and even I get this shit! I put mine in private because I wanna enjoy my IG full of cute things and not have it polluted by dusties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:13 PM
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Right? I don't believe a single one of these assholes saying "open relationship," I'd bet anything that the wives/girlfriends have either NO idea about this "open relationship/poly" bullshit, or they've been pestered, cajoled and bullied by these scrotes into one, and either were manipulated into a VERY reluctant yes, or they're still saying no and he doesn't give a shit and will cheat anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:57 PM
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I still remember another story (told by the husband) where he kept on pestering his wife about switching/open relationship, so he gets an "appropriate" couple, AKA a super attractive woman for him and a fat, kinda unattractive guy for his wife, but the man not only has a big dick but BLOWS the wife's mind with awesome sex. Queue the scrote who DIDN'T like the fact his wife was enjoying herself more than him, and that the dude he chose ended up being better at sex than him. He was whining through…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:40 PM
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Even if they aren't, they're making me physically ill, I literally am feeling sick to my stomach I don't wanna have those penises near me. That looks like some of those tentacle hentai gross tentacles, but it's so much worse because at least I know tentacle hentai is fake, this is real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:35 PM
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Right?? This is why if I ever get anything with a bit of lace, I make sure it's the mass produced, cheap-y kind, it's still soft but sturdier, I can just throw them in the washer. Not to mention any remotely cute female underwear is usually more expensive than male underwear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:30 PM
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Then they expect you to wear all sorts of sexy, see-through, lacy underwear, which is expensive AF AND hard to keep clean (you can't even just throw them in those wash-baggies, I learned the hard way).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:10 AM
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Nonexistent, LOL I'm a virgin and so far I haven't been thirsty/desperate enough to jump on LVM dick to satisfy my curiosity and (admittedly low) desire to experience sex. So I don't. I recommend getting a sex toy, I got the Ohmibod cuddle mini bug, and I give myself orgasms whenever I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:02 AM
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How many men have had similar thoughts pop in their mind and just don’t say it out loud? This is why I don't really give a shit anymore like I used to pre-FDS. Men as a majority DO have these type of thoughts, the fact that there are SO many cases of: 1) REPORTED sexual abuse, where the rapist/abuser ends in jail/fined 2) REPORTED sexual abuse, where the rapist/abuser goes scott free (entirely or mostly) 3) UNreported sexual abuse, where the rapist most of the time goes scott free. 4) REPORTED u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:39 AM
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I'm against violence and yada yada, but I'm totally gonna have the back of my sisters and learn how to navigate the black market if needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:29 AM
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Hmmmm I personally read "erotica" but in the form of fanfiction, but I specifically go for stories where the couples of my preference are obviously in love and have a healthy relationship. The good thing about written stories is that generally speaking, it really doesn't involve real people like video porn. It's just the author writing whatever fantasies they have (of course, someone might have been hurt, like the author themselves, and they're writing as part of their healing process, but I'm n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:17 AM
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This is my stance too. I've met the most wonderful, hard-working people with plenty of tattoos on their arms and chest, legs, but none on their face. Usually the face is the dealbreaker, and they all know that instinctively people will see those type of tattoos with worry, and for good reason. To anyone that have specifically face tattoos like this, that like Moremochaplease said, have nothing to do with culture, ethnicity, etc., you know what you're getting into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:02 AM
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You might wanna check out the childfree sub, there's a loooooot of information, including doctors who will perform the procedure (based on location!), costs, experiences, etc. And you don't have to participate in the sub or be childfree to access this information! I wanted to get one this year, but due to covid it didn't happen. I'm absolutely dead set on having one, either that or I'm cool being a virgin forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:57 AM
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I stopped doing it because the last couple of weeks it was obvious we were getting an influx of pickmes or males disguised as women, bitching about FDS stuff like OLD being a shithole, poly being a shit show, defending prostitution and porn, etc. Some women are pickmes and are PROUD of it (proud in a twisted way though, otherwise they wouldn't so desperately argue here, in the ONE space that doesn't accept them instead of staying in the dozens of subs that do), and don't or can't change, ever. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:37 AM
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Feminism means freeing women from the burden of misogyny and patriarchy. That means undoing the idea that women are sex objects. That means dismantling the commercial sex industry. Idk where this "choice" narrative came from, but it's b.s. This, all this, 100% this. "Choice" is a goddamn scam in the current situation, and to pretend otherwise is ignorant at best, highly stupid and damaging at worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:12 PM
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After that: female celebrity/women's organization raises money to help women in abusive relationships, in need of therapy, in financial troubles, etc. Scrote: but what about meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeennnn!??! (while ignoring the dozens/hundreds of orgs/programs that are already in place for men or co-ed)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:01 AM
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Yeah, I don't believe in "high effort picnic date" as a first date exactly because of this. You DON'T know if they're high or low effort. After a few months of high effort dates, when you're feeling more comfortable with him, sure why not a picnic date? (don't normalize it though)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:36 AM
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Now that's a HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:02 AM
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IMO that's implying that we're just parroting back FDS dogma instead of their offer just being unacceptable period Yeap, one thing I never do (even before FDS) is talk about or say anything that make people react without using their brain cells, like I never say I'm childfree because the idiot one automatically jump to "child hater" or some other wrong ideas about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:15 AM
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Actually some clams for a meal sounds great, unlike what this LVM is suggesting XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:10 AM
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"Your prince"??? Jesus Christ, whichever crazy AF mom wrote this and any moms/pickmes that identify with this shit should get some goddamn therapy. This is bordering on wanting to bang your own son, it's insanely uncomfortable and inappropriate. The sad part is that I 100% know women out there who think like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:16 AM
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Right?? The stupidity of the situations angers me so much. This isn't a stupid Hollywood movie, no you won't "fall madly in love" in 2 weeks and realize "he's he one." Grow the fuck up, I have no more energy to entertain such stupid behavior nor want to coddle them when they're "heartbroken."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:54 PM
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Right? With some exceptions (#notallmen) most men can easily develop physical strength. They're literally designed to gain muscle and lose fat (and require a lower percentage of body fat than women) much easier than women. Sure, congrats for being diligent going to the gym, but it's not the huge accomplishment they think it is; the odds are in their favor. Emotionally and mentally is where they struggle the most, and it's much harder to improve, their egos for one, get in the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:47 PM
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Lots of scrotes think they're so freaking "witty" and "smart" and that it shows through their "unique" and "special" humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:46 PM
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"Manament" is not a job regardless of its spelling Right?? Management PPFFTTT, well I manage this shelf that I stock every week, and I manage this register whenever I get called to do, so I guess I'm in "management" too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:42 PM
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They can say whatever they want, it still ain't happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:02 PM
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I think this is an important distinction, not for us, we know what we're talking about, but for men (sigh...). Men equate the word "strentgh" meaning physical strength, or the ability to get "violent" in terms of anger, fighting, etc. (also why they believe they're superior than women and anything they deem "feminine"). When we mean strong, we mean strong in the ways that really matter, they just think it's being physically stronger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:54 PM
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I feel bad for her - I think she feels stuck because they have children together. I don't. She basically screamed that "breaking up was not an option." The fact they have children together should be EVEN MORE of a motivation to break up. She's being selfish, subjecting her children to that disgusting scrote. Many women are single mothers even when they're legally married. Read that twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:31 PM
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Yeah, as soon as I saw that all caps "breaking up is not an option" I lose all sympathy and I don't bother reading the rest. I'm not gonna waste my energy, time, effort and feelings to coddle and give pity back pats to a moron who doesn't wanna change. I'm using my limited resources on my queen sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:30 PM
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Yeah I want a Tesla but mostly because I wanna switch to electric since it's gonna happen eventually, and right now Tesla is the better option. Having a Tesla as just a status symbol is stupid. You'd best believe if any of the other car brands come up with a better option, I'm making that one my goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:28 PM
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But if you drive a Tesla and can’t afford dinner, I’m gonna judge you way harder than if you drive a serviceable Toyota but have everything else handled and budgeted properly. This, all this. I'm also frugal, saving up, want a Tesla someday, etc. like that's all cool, but I'm not gonna stretch myself thin trying to have it all. Either I have the resources to both have a proper quality of life AND date, or I don't date until I feel I have the resources to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:26 PM
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I was actually thinking of that, we really need more resources for women in need (both with children and with not! I big issue that a lot of childless/childfree women is that they don't have access to a lot of government programs because they don't have kids or are pregnant), I was looking into donating some clothing and menstrual pads a few months ago, and I just couldn't find a women-only or mainly for women organization in my area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:22 PM
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I'm so sorry you went through that, he's a disgusting POS and you did not deserve that. You did good though I rather you be safe and away from that rapist now, than "try" anything and have him react in a violent way. We're all proud of you from doing your best for your safety and life! And yeap, the "you can call it that" is not even an affirmation from his part, what a fucking asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:26 PM
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Oh yeah I have a friend who loves romantic bullshit (and not in a good way), she started considering it a relationship ONE DATE IN. And when we told her this is stupid bullshit, she MOPED like it was an actual relationship that had been going on for a while. (when she cut it off with the guy, which was after like 3 dates total?) Luckily she kinda stopped thinking about dating (covid helped too) but she really needs to sort it out during therapy... the pessimist in me thinks she hasn't done it ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:20 PM
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"Oh shitty summer child" There, much better XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:10 PM
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developed any critical thinking skills to begin with. This is the issue with too many people sadly. Most of them go through education by just memorizing without understanding, and passing the classes with the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:10 PM
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This is why I think it's important to get them to say in text (or any other hard evidence way) that it is a date. Keyword "date." Not a "hang out" not a "meet up" etc., I see it now as the bullshit that it is; they're basically already laying the foundation to gaslight, neg abuse and manipulate you if things aren't going their way or they wanna "change their mind" and go fuck some other woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:06 PM
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but the first time you have sex is never great This is a myth perpetuated to benefit men and let them get away with being shitty at sex. Why do you think they love going for the virgins and young, inexperienced women? They all think that stupid bullshit "oh first time is bad/first few times are bad" while men are getting orgasms from the get go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:02 PM
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Deep down they know their poly bullshit is bullshit, their loving-bullshit is bullshit, their partner's bullshit is bullshit. They're trying hard to ignore the mountain of manure that is their lives, and they can't handle the fact some people are doing better than them in the important aspects of their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:26 PM
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HAHAHAHA! I love this, I love this sub, I love all the mods, I love you queens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:32 AM
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This should be top comment, hands down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:07 AM
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Nah, he legit said something along the lines of "distributing" women among men to both lower those men's frustrations, domestic violence, and so on. AKA it's women's responsibility that men "get violent." He makes sense in SOME things but you better believe that he is NOT a person to look up to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:59 AM
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I really hopes she goes low/no contact on his ass. (I mean when she's grown and financially independent)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:46 AM
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No. And I say this as someone who thinks the exact same thing: I love hiking, looking at nature, etc., and I'm not really into going to a movie and dinner. I still won't do hiking the first 6 months if I ever get a guy to ask me to a date. Dinner or lunch dates or I stay home. And no coffee "dates" period. Coffee dates are for friends and work meetings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:20 AM
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Food IS good... O_O
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:07 AM
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Not even then, it's incredibly dangerous to do so. If both people have an actual interest in hiking, they can do that after she vets him for a few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:04 AM
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Ohhh ok gotcha! I'm Asian myself so a lot of things match cultural-wise and it's not as much of a necessity to me, but I do agree it's a good way to expose yourself to general Asian culture; plus the movie was a step in the right direction for more Asian representation in Hollywood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:42 AM
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What culture? Rich culture, rich Asian culture or Asian culture?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:10 AM
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Nah sis, don't worry, I'm in this sub because I'm sick of all the coddling and sugar-coating and beating around the bush bullshit that SO many pickmes and LVM love. They love to be talked and handled like children made out of glass and validated all the goddamn time, and lord forbid you are a little tough on them. We gotta face the facts, this is the reality. What this an did doesn't even surprise me, that's how fucked up the world is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:09 AM
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"B-b-but I'm unique and special penus! I'm The Exception! You MUST listen to my excellent logic and common sense, females!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:28 AM
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...Yes, I was agreeing with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:27 AM
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I don't think latinas would be offended, these misogynistic race-fetishizing men can fuck off. I've gotten the "ooohhh where are you REALLY from" because I'm Asian descendant, I dryly told them "dude I'm from California" even though it's not technically true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:25 AM
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He didn't really admit to shit, the whole message was a HUGE "FEEL SORRY FOR ME, PAY ATTENTION TO ME" parade. He's not sorry about putting her through shit, he's just sorry he lost one person to use as an emotional dumpster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:18 AM
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Thank you for letting me know! Yeah you see I wouldn't be able to read through that she decided to have a BABY WITH HIM, after I saw how the movie ended. I'm good with just the movie LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:06 AM
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How does she end? Just knowing that she goes back to him makes me not want to read, tbh LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:44 PM
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I tried joining that dumpster fire when I turned 30, let me tell you, NO more. Goddamn what a depressing place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:29 PM
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I love hiking and I'm NEVER going on a date or "hanging out" with just a man on a hike: Too much risk; feel free to do walks and hikes AFTER a few months have passed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:28 PM
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Come to FDS for the level up, the queens and info about nature! :D (BTW I love birds so I'm not even kidding LOL)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:22 PM
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Yeah I really liked this about the show, most characters actually defied their stereotypes one way or another; for example Kevin and Brittany were primed to be the elite bitchy/asshole cheerleader, popular types, but they were both dumb with no real ill intentions. I like how Brittany ended up dumping Kevin LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:00 PM
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Read the whole handbook. From a newbie to a newbie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:45 PM
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Sarcasm = I'm gonna verbally abuse you, neg you, gaslight you, and if you say even ONE word in protest I'm gonna blame it all on you for not liking my "sarcasm."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:40 PM
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Ok then a 20yo man can have sex with a 13yo, since "men mature more slowly" /s Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:39 PM
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Oh yeah, they're coming out of the woodwork. You either didn't notice because we've been reporting a shit ton and mods are erasing. I understand you just wanna help them out, we've all done it before and felt the same way, but do not bother engaging them. They either read the handbook, or report them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:27 PM
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Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:20 PM
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Pretty depressing that even when you're not dating or having sex, this: high risk, low/no reward for women low risk, high reward for men Is still true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:19 PM
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I can't believe you had to say it three times, some people reaaaaaally are projecting hard (in an unhealthy way) about homosexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:16 PM
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This is why I don't wanna hear that pickme whining here, it seriously raises my blood pressure to see screenshots from AITA or relationship_advice already, I don't want this kind of content infiltrating this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:08 PM
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I didn't know there was a sequel, and my world is worse for knowing about it LOL I'm gonna pretend CRA is just the movie and she never ever bothers to contact him again and blocks him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:06 PM
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That's the problem, TOO MANY of these newbies GET defensive and AREN'T open to learning. They barge in here seeking validation for their LV choices and then get a bunch of other newbie pickmes brigading for them. It's alarming enough that a newbie like me can tell the difference already from just a few months ago to a few days ago. I'm done being subjected to that shit, that's why me and other queens are here. These pickmes can go back to relationship_advice or any of the other subs and keep on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:02 PM
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I didn't realize that going on a walk as a date was a goal, gotcha dude. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:36 AM
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If they actually wanted a non-doormat, then they wouldn't work so hard to destroy her and take her down to be below him. Lots of men want to do exactly that: They wanna "put a woman in her rightful place" as a show of their masculinity, power, virility and dominance. A female doormat is already in her place and will be at his beck and call, there's no "beating down" to be done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:33 AM
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These type of videos are honestly super upsetting to watch. Here is a woman/girl genuinely trusting and he destroys that trust... for what? A stupid Tiktok video? I hope he gets off of the views, soon that's all he's gonna have to remember by his failed relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:28 AM
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Then they get surprised they look like they're 60 when they're 40, sigh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:13 AM
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OMG he's probably one of those who "advocate" about the "natural" cleaning (water only) or some bullshit like that. Sure it works for SOME people and depends on SOME circumstances, but most people need freaking soap, shampoo and conditioner, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:10 AM
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Hell, try friends. I've had a few friends just UNLOAD when we're barely in the early stages of development in the friendship. No exceptions, they will try to use it in some way or another to shame/guilt/manipulate you with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:08 AM
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Thank you. I've seen these kind of "comeback win replies" plenty enough already. It still encourages women to reply back aka give attention to scrotes. That's anti-FDS and I'm here because FDS does not advocate that. Goddamn, I miss the days (which was only a few months ago, really) when I got downvoted to oblivion for suggesting replying back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:26 AM
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All good advice here, but the most important thing is that you not only acknowledged the issues, but are determined to work on treating them; I know it's hard to believe but that's like the hardest and biggest part, and you're past it. (some days that determination will seem nonexistent, do not despair, persevere) I wanna add a bit of advice: if you need to, and have the chance to, afford medication, then do it, take it. Do NOT feel "guilty/weak" for taking medication, one of the biggest mental …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:19 AM
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Yep. Literally saw a post yesterday about someone saying OLD is actually not bad, and that they "found plenty of HVM." Another post where commenters were standard shaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:07 AM
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but are not all that confident yet in making drastic decisions They sure seem confident about all their anti-FDS stances. Why do they need to get defensive, snappy and catty when an FDSer tells them that what they're doing is not good, beneficial, or according to FDS? There's plenty of other subs that can align to their convictions than FDS standards. someone who has been constantly criticised, down voted, for defending this sub to my last breath in other subs, on YouTube videos and outside of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:05 AM
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Thank you for posting that, that's literally what I'm seeing, just in text form LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:48 AM
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I can already imagine that woman: she's minding her own business, working on her career/job, enjoying her hobbies, hanging out with her friends, and exercising to stay healthy. What an empty life! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:41 AM
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Yeah, this post alone is alarming. I know exactly the kind of catty and passive aggressive attitude of irredeemable pickmes, and they're coming out of the woodwork to invade us, lately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:35 AM
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Crabs in a bucket mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:33 AM
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Real talk I've never understood fucked up lumpy pillows, there's no excuse. I got one from Kohl's a few years ago, all memory foam, and it literally is the same shape as day one. I 100% agree that there's NO excuse. None at all. That one pillow cost me less than $30, it's not a big investment, but it's a great investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:31 AM
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Oh no! ......anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:19 AM
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All we can do is follow rule no.6, ignore, report, block, delete. Pickmes who have no inclination to actually improve, change or level-up to FDS standards have to be treated like LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:14 AM
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Yeap, yesterday someone was shaming hard on another sister for having standards about her own body, and "some" seem to be going on an "upvote anti-FDS comments" rally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:02 AM
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(thag are doing it by their own free will) While SOME might be doing it out of their free will, it's incredibly naive and damaging to believe most or all are in such a privileged position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:30 AM
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Yesterday we got one shaming someone (and by extension, the rest of us) shaming self physical standards, saying we're not allowed to talk or want to exercise to lose weight or improve our bodies.\ Also found one post (which got upvoted, too??) saying that "they found plenty of HVM in OLD," what the hell. I reported so many comments and posts yesterday alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:30 AM
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No text or phone call to let me know he was running behind. He walked in right as I was packing up my stuff to go. He showed up sweaty and smelling as if he hadn’t showered or changed his clothes in several days. He didn’t apologize for being late. You should've just finished packing and go, he didn't even apologize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:24 PM
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And I'll get you some bubble gum afterwards because I loooooove dating a 6yo! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:19 PM
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Aria’s little sex scene That was to me the most disgusting thing EVER. They literally waited until she was legal just so they could do a nude scene without impunity. What. The. FUCK. If that's not (poorly) covert pedophilia, to WAIT until the literal female CHILDREN of the show were barely grown enough to have a sexual scene... That show started strong, but it devolved into a disgusting mess that catered to pedophiles and misogynistic men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:15 PM
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Is there not a thought-provoking way of making a movie criticizing the sexualization of children without making wanking material for pedophiles? FUCKING THANK YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:11 PM
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Yeah, she standard shaming and projecting HARD, and that in itself is a shame cuz it's a big no-no around here, but she keeps on hammering "that's why we have FDS" like that make her standard-shaming OK?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:59 PM
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I still wouldn't tell anyone to "categorize a man as HVM," especially with the influx if new members, and no "relaxing" either. Too many newbies think love bombing is him being HVM, or other nonsense, and I saw many posts/comments lately with those train of thoughts. I wouldn't even breathe the words HVM to describe a man until many years have passed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:56 PM
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This is why I can't just think I'd like to go on a date in the future. If these men would not rape themselves, they still implicitly (or explicitly!) defend rapist, because they still benefit from the type of society that defends rapists. I wouldn't be able to date someone and know that it's INCREDIBLY LIKELY that he either would 100% rape if he could get away with, or would defend a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:43 PM
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Yeap, just crocodile tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:40 PM
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You cannot categorize a man as HVM until many months have passed (maybe 6-7?) No, there's no "cut off" time to be assured a man is HVM or not, 6-7 months is nothing when it comes to highly efficient LVM into wearing you down. 6-7 months will weed out most of the lazy LVM, sure, but it doesn't mean you stop vetting, vetting, vetting. Keep vetting years later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:39 PM
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"I want to be the first person you ever drink with" Makes me freaking gag that any man would try to make that into some romantic or special bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:19 PM
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This is great, absolutely love FDS for keeping the original tone; all mods and original founders (and all established queens) deserve the best for all your hard work! Thank you so much, queens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:14 PM
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OMG thank you!!!! You're doing goddess' work :D I will try the hand washing method too, thank you; I thought it'd be ok to put them in the washer and just air dry them, but even that might be too harsh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:06 PM
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Oh my bad I should've elaborate, when I say "moral line," is not about them feeling bad about it or anything like that, it's about he being afraid of other people's moral lines. If "nobody calls him out on it" he'd absolutely go full-pedo. Since the usual bare minimum where almost no one will call him out is 18yo age, they go for those, but if "society" didn't say anything, he'd go even younger and younger. So no matter how we look at him, he's a disgusting scumbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:04 PM
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I don't feel like I can offer advice that's better than the Queens who have been longer than me. I still have learning to do, so I make it a point to listen more than I talk Took the words right out of my mouth LOL! I also feel the same way, I wanna keep the quality of the posts up, so I only posted once because I thought it was barely relevant and that's it. If I need X advice, I make it a point to use the search bar first because it's very likely someone already posted/asked about the same thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:47 PM
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orrrrrr once every 6 months? Whoa, let's not get carried away! He finally got the frame, that excuses him from other bare minimums for another 5 years! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:24 AM
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they say "I've already read it" I'mma bet that they either didn't read it, or they just "glanced" at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:09 AM
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OMG this is killing me! XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:56 AM
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May I ask if you have any recs for pillowcases? I recently got an Alaska Bear mulberry silk pillowcase and it hasn't even been 2 months and it's already getting a rough texture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:45 AM
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Y-yet they claim to be the logical sex... what the hell...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:43 AM
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eta: He posts on r/PrematureEjaculation. Fucking CALLED IT. I'm dying. OMG you're killing me here, queen! XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:39 AM
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All sounds logical, and yet so depressingly realistic all the same. ;_;
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:27 AM
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If you're regular, light and rarely experience PMS, stay away from that shit forever. I'm semi-irregular, heavy and experience heavy cramps, and even I agree I'm staying away from that. As a CF woman, I'm gonna save up for a bisalp. (still would need to use condoms to prevent veneral diseases tho)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:16 AM
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Yeap, and a while ago they tried making a male version of BC, but it never went really caught on, you know why? Because, surprise surprise, the men didn't wanna deal with the side effects! The same side effects that female BC has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:13 AM
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Yeah the problem is that while for some it's a joke, for TOO MANY it's really, really not. Just the fact that so many women "hate" their daughters (even very young aged ones) for "seducing" their man (father or step-father) is absolutely appalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:54 AM
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I’ve been seeing newbies arguing about standards and dating advice that is already in the handbook. Yeap, which proves that they shouldn't be posting/commenting at all, since reading the handbook is the first thing we're supposed to do before "chipping in."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:44 AM
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Right? Today somebody tried to standard-shame a sister about her physical looks. We don't do that here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:39 AM
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HE needs to work on this and communicate with you. No, she needs to GTFO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:32 AM
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The whole thing can be summed up to: "Wwwaaaaahhhh SOME woman out there doesn't like my micro/ED penis!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:19 AM
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This is the only comment that matters here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:17 AM
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Seriously, I felt some of my brain cells die from the struggle to understand WTF he's trying to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:16 AM
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I loved that he didn't even give a reaction, he just silently judged him for the idiot he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:11 AM
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I was interested but can't read French, now we'll get to enjoy it, nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:06 AM
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These people clearly don’t have kids Nah, plenty of childfree women, like me, are goddamn appalled at this shit. We don't need to have kids to understand this is not acceptable. That child didn't ask to be born, and it's not a thing that can just be "easily replaced." WTF she's talking about "making" another child as if they were a purse you can just replace by going to the store. It's fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:03 AM
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i respect porn Nope, porn is nothing to respect, it literally ruined your life! And it ruined the lives of all the women forced to "star" in them, and is ruining many more women's lives. Do NOT respect porn, porn never did anything good for anyone (not even men). Porn is anti-woman, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:01 AM
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To be honest, I've only seen it in TV shows, or only among friends or family. I never heard of anyone being actually comfortable with their doctor grabbing their hand or touching them at all in a way that should be "empathetic," not to mention it should be common sense to not touch someone who's talking about their sexual assault. No touch is welcomed when you're relieving sexual assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:56 AM
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the BF is their son so he gets a "pass" Naaaaaaaaaaaaah nah nah nah nah. Either they both clean, or they both pay for a cleaner, or they both GTFO. Better yet, SHE should GTFO, it's very likely he's gonna expect that and treat her just like his parents treated her. The audacity to "save" the money they paid the cleaner, yet they expected her to do it for free?? Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:49 AM
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Right? These fembots will totally annihilate the human males once they develop consciousness and realize they're being treated like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:38 AM
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Mentally, absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:35 AM
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100% doesn't wanna face the fact he's a pedophile, and the only thing that is stopping him is the legal and moral lines on the sand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:01 AM
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Don't we WANT birth rates to drop? Their reasons are all appalling. Basically no, they don't want birth rates to drop. They want the population to keep growing to get more slaves I mean, taxpayers. They want to "punish" women for having sex and keep them in submissive situations (low income, no career growth, no power). They want only "certain" (aka white) women to have more babies to offset the "colored" people (which they usually refer to as outsiders/immigrants, regardless of how long they li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:51 AM
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I donated 20 dollars as soon as I joined LOL Money is tight but once I can get a decent job, I plan to donate more (also donate to Planned Parenthood). It's really frightening how aggressive some groups are to take away women's body autonomy and rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:46 AM
3

Also, condoms are free in universities and other locations. Plan B pill and other forms of birth control that are mainly for women? You better pay up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:43 AM
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pretending otherwise is a problem if it was taking time or just impossible for a woman to reduce to a small size, that woman's discomfort or lack of standards would still present problem And nobody implied or said that either?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:58 AM
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What originally drew me here was the brutal honesty, zero tolerance for stupidity, and the handbook Agreed, I already get a ping in my radar when someone is "miffed" because we didn't sugar-coat or gave them pity back pats. I've seen a few here, and while I understand we're all in different parts of the journey, I'm tired of seeing posts/comments that could've been straight out of AITA or relationship_advice. I'm here because I'm tired of that kind of LV mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:56 AM
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If you haven't read the Handbook, don't post. After you read the Handbook and even peruse through older posts, then you can ask a question if it hasn't been answered by the Handbook. This, all this. This is what I did at the beginning, and spent lots of time reading the handbook (which was, frankly, a delight to read), and the past 4-6 weeks I've been seeing so many new members posting/commenting anti-FDS stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:51 AM
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I'm assuming this was a while ago, before OLD turned into the festering hellhole it is now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:47 AM
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You know what's scary, there are SO many married men out there who have been lying for decades about their "love" towards their wives. Now that cameras are so tiny and easy to conceal and readily available to the public, I'm so scared of finally be comfortable with a man to have sex... only to discover he secretly recorded us, etc. Maybe I'm too cynical?? But I don't know if I'll ever be comfortable enough to be naked in front of anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:39 AM
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No one should have to wait til next month, til that college degree, or til they are a size 6 to feel "comfortable" setting a relationship standard And nobody said they should? But at the same time, we don't get to tell our sisters what their timeline is or "when" their comfort moment should be. So if she doesn't feel comfortable until she's a certain size, then we don't have a right to tell her "that's irrelevant, be comfortable on MY terms."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:32 AM
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She never implied that either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:24 AM
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her looks are irrelevant, and should not have been brought up. Especially not on this sub where women support women and aren't demanding justification for anyone's standards. Not at all. She absolutely CAN bring it up here. Yes she can. Because that's how she feels is self-leveling up. We don't demand justification for anyone's standards, but at the same time, we don't have the right to tell our sisters here whether her looks are irrelevant or not, or that she can't bring them up here. Yes she c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:16 AM
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This dude needs both some self-level-up (good diet, good sleep schedule, exercise, grooming, fashion, healthy and diligent approach to house chores) on top of lots of therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:56 AM
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Please elaborate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:53 AM
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I don't think that's what she's doing, she's saying that she works hard to have the body she wants and has a right (and we all do) to want to date people she's physically attracted to and not be harshly put down for it. And this is coming from one of those women who get treated like dirt (fat, not physically attractive, not super smart). Not sure if I have a sweet-as-honey heart, but I'm told I'm a great friend (to those I deem deserving of my friendship).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:09 AM
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Wwwaaaaahhhh you wanna hurt meeeee! She doesn't give two shits, piss-baby, she doesn't even wanna waste the time and energy to "hurt" you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:57 PM
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I feel angry toward men for making me doubt when a man says "I have X mental illness, and that's why I act like an asshole." Like yeah maybe sure... but now I always doubt whether that's true or they're just trying to shift the blame of their actions onto something else, like they very often do. I think a litmus test is to say "get therapy/a therapist" and see how they respond. Up until I was in the verge of homelessness, I tried my best to go to a therapist, so if they really had a mental illne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:12 PM
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Thank you for saying this! Every time I would bring it up (pre-FDS) I'd be shot down by women (and some stupid men) telling me how BC was not like that at all, that hormones were OK, that "they" never had an issue, and I shouldn't be saying those things, blah blah blah Like WTF? Lots of female birth controls DO fuck up with your hormones, that's the way they work! Sure for SOME women it's a great way to help regulate hormones, and SOME women don't get that many side effects, but there's tons of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:06 PM
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Yesterday I perused a post in NiceGuys I think, where so many women were defending their "sexual/female empowerment" of sending naked/sex pics and a couple even went "I never regret sending those pics" like congrats you're the 0.01% who didn't get slammed with revenge porn?? It was really disheartening to see it, so I just closed the whole post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:54 PM
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The fact is that adolescents/ pubescent people are not children, but they aren't adults either I totally agree with all you wrote, it's just that a LOT of pedos/groomers will excuse most girls to be "adults" when they turn 18 at least (that's kinda like the most accepted "legal" age in terms that they finished high school), and think they're "fair game" when even then they're absolutely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:46 PM
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Asking for a pic is a red flag, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:33 AM
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"If he wanted to, he would do it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:06 AM
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Not to mention that legally, underage people are ALL considered children, no exceptions. I don't give a damn how these pedos wanna twist it, the fact is that if a person is legally required to still be under their parents guardianship and are in high school, they're children. So yeah that 17yo? A child, you goddamn pedos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:06 AM
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Nah, I think she did right, she listened to her gut, and her gut feeling told her to watch out. I rather not give him the benefit of the doubt, trust our sister and have her be safe than sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:55 AM
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"i WoN't aLLoW YoU tO AnYwAy" God I wish I could travel back in space and time just so I could trip this asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:42 AM
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I love that she didn't even put the energy to use all uppercase for the LOL, XD love this queen energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:37 AM
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That sentence alone dried up like 50k vaginas in a 9000 mile radius LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:34 AM
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That daughter is gonna go no contact on her shitty ass mom, and then years later when the mom finally admits that she might need her daughter back in her life because her son is a LVM POS, she'll act reaaaaally surprised and "hurt" about her daughter not wanting to have anything to do with her. (we should bet if in the future either the narc mom or LVM bro will demand money from her) Or at least I hope so, that narc doesn't deserve her wonderful daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:14 AM
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Well does he have other likes/dislikes, other ways to pass his time? If you took away the hobby, would the kind of person he is be HVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:08 AM
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I work midnights. I know how tough schedules can be. THANK YOU. I don't understand when some people make excuses for or defend these dude's mediocre planning; we women aren't living in a bubble, we ALL know how tough job schedules can be. It's patronizing to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:52 AM
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I think the difference is that a toddler has the excuse of being a small child still learning, what's these man-child's excuse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 10:54 PM
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And imagine throwing a temper tantrum to a bunch of strangers because a woman pretty much a decade younger than him is not being his and only his mommy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 10:52 PM
2

Yeah I'm not gonna throw shade at someone for not looking like a super model, but goddamn dude, cut your hair, style/cut your beard (I do not like beards in general because most men use it to hide their triple chins, not to mention they're unkempt and dirty looking), take care of your diet and exercise (it's frustrating because men have an easier time losing fat and building muscle than women). These are all the basic minimums and they don't even manage that, wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:22 PM
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Nah just don't allow the posts/coments the go through and tell them to read the handbook, I seriously don't wanna see here the same pickme/sexist comments I see in other subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:49 PM
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I grew up in a fam where women were always In charge of cooking and cleaning and I hated it so much that the men barely did work This is virtually a thing in all cultures around the world, so I'm glad that you're aware of it, but beware that it's very easy to fall back into it because we've been conditioned all our lives to do it. I've yet to see a culture that hasn't deeply ingrained that the woman has to do all the cooking and cleaning (on top of working, women who grew up in farms also had to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:17 PM
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He kept telling me that it is too sudden and that I don’t communicate and did not give him a chance HE CAN FUCK OFF. Holy fuck I'm so fucking angry for you. You just communicated perfectly well your situation to us, on top of giving examples on how you DID communicate. He was trying to gaslight you and I'd bet that he has been doing this for a long time. He's a fucking selfish asshole, he KNEW, trust us, he just didn't care. And if I could speak to him: She gave you like a thousand chances to pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:02 AM
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I think it depends on how and how often they use curse words. I'm an adult and I can use curse as much as I want. However, cursing has a time and place. For example, I don't curse too much in front of friends/people who aren't comfortable with cursing, and I do it more with people who are OK with it. The big one however, is I do NOT use them to call someone names (not even as a joke, and if I do, I always use a sanitized version like a-hole and I make it obvious it's all in good jest), or when I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:53 AM
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This is exactly my current stance, I'm 34 and I've recently upped my skincare, I'm doing my best to take care of this body and I'm not remotely interested in getting with someone who obviously hasn't done shit about their own bodies. It really seems like I'm gonna be single for longer than I expected :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:45 AM
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This is what I don't get, I'm thoroughly turned off by ANY type of man who looks like they could pass by or I would think of as being my father (or like an older guardian slash relative, like an uncle) or just, anyone's father (like you said, that haggard look that shows how they stopped putting ANY kind of effort).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:28 AM
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I personally enjoy doing chores and cooking but I actually look forward to cleaning Watch your enjoyment turn into resentment because gradually they expect you to do ALL the cleaning. Trust me, I like cleaning (more like I like having a clean place) and so many times my enjoyment of cleaning/cooking turned into resentment or FAR less enjoyment because of roommates who don't wanna do it, so they expected me to do it FAR more since "I liked doing it." but I would want my husband to share the load …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:28 AM
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This is why I choose a female doctor whenever I have the option. Sorry not sorry I don't trust men when it comes to the health of a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:16 AM
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