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| 1 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need advicewell, officially we're married for financial reasons, so she's actually my wife. But we never had a ceremony or a wedding or rings, so i still call her my gf. | /r/askMRP | 03/02/23 09:54 AM |
| 1 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need adviceOddly enough it wasn’t your family disrespecting you that she cares about, it was how you responded. Eventually everyone gets horribly disrespected in front of their girl. You have zero control how people treat you, but you can control how you respond. Instead of treating the disrespect like a shit test and swatting it away or simply leaving the situation you you completely lost frame. yes, spot on. I learned that lesson the hard way. | /r/askMRP | 03/02/23 09:53 AM |
| 1 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need adviceshe was giving him ioi's. I was being 'ignored' by my family. I overreacted by being emotional. | /r/askMRP | 02/02/23 04:19 PM |
| 1 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need adviceI wasn't seeking validation, I was watching my GF (who otherwise had loads of respect/attraction for me) lose respect for me as a result of my family disrespecting me. And that hurt. Alas, I didn't STFU and I didn't walk away. Women have horrible memories, they will forget all your mistakes if you simply get back into the game and STFU. Ask any guy who turned around a dead bedroom. I have my doubts about this (but I'm not sure). Women don't love you, they love their image of you. If your image c… | /r/askMRP | 02/02/23 04:17 PM |
| 1 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need adviceThanks. | /r/askMRP | 02/02/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need adviceOP here. Her attraction hadn't dropped, until the moment that I showed weakness. Read this post for instance: forums.red/p/TheRedPill/894/reminder_she_is_not_your_shoulder_to_cry_on I am looking for advice on how to turn it around and I'm asking in MRP as I hoped there were people with a similar experience. | /r/askMRP | 02/02/23 04:12 PM |
| 1 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need adviceMeh. I don't believe anyone who is confidently wrong and gets iod's as a result, will feel happy. It's easy not to give a fuck when most people (or those who care) react positively to you, or respect you. I've been there for the past 10 years. Not giving a fuck becomes a whole lot more difficult of those close to you start disrespecting you, and you're no longer outcome independent. TRP says to have multiple plates so that when one plate breaks, you still have others. Kind of difficult when you'… | /r/askMRP | 02/02/23 04:10 PM |
| -5 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need adviceProbably I expressed myself badly. My confidence is just fine. I have no problems approaching or behaving normally in other groups. With my gf I'm just no longer outcome independent, and it's more difficult to be myself as I'm constantly overthinking and seeking approval. The exact opposite of who I used to be. As a result of my DLV I got some iod's and I want to do something about that. | /r/askMRP | 01/02/23 11:35 AM |
| -3 | I fucked up by showing weakness, need adviceYour self worth is based on the opinion of others It's not, it's the discrepancy between my confidence and how I am perceived in this context that bothers me. Who exactly should you be proving your worth to? And why? Have you ever been low value? It's often discussed why you should cut off old friends and start anew. Also Tomassi's rule of going through the garbage. Crab bucket mentality. It's very hard to increase your value for people who have known you when you were low confidence/value. I lo… | /r/askMRP | 01/02/23 11:02 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have experience with LTR’ing lower SMV girl?I’ve got a real problem with getting super excited about a girl and then immediately losing interest the moment she shows deep love back to me. It flips a switch in my head. Search for lightswitch effect on trp. It's the same thing, by showing her love for you, she's no longer on the pedestal and no longer higher value to you. Hence you lose the excitement and attraction. Very normal. | /r/askTRP | 04/06/21 03:44 PM |
| 19 | Anyone have experience with LTR’ing lower SMV girl?I am in a 4.5y LTR with a girl 1 to 2 SMV points lower than myself. We have 1 kid together. Captain - 1st mate dynamic, completely my frame. She knows she dates up and has already said she'll never find someone better than me. She is smart, cooks, cleans, takes care of me & kid, reads, appreciates knowledge, is emotionally stable, rp father, very low n-count, only girl friends, caring, ... No red flags up until now. Everything you'd want in a LTR. My parents and friends love her. Downsides: no h… | /r/askTRP | 04/06/21 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Ditch the GlassesI completely agree. With contacts I pull way more girls, first impression is a lot more better. After first impression, glasses are fine. And FYI, I get a lot of comments I look great with glasses, my glasses are stylish, ... | /r/askTRP | 31/05/21 02:01 PM |
| 1 | investing (hard to get woman) vs giving upI edited the main post with a clear question as for some apparently it us unclear what I meant. | /r/askTRP | 25/01/19 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?I am very happy to say I have found a mission. I'm implementing it and have started a 2 companies from it, maybe write a book about it one day. It drives me, and I have shit to do, give higher priority to the mission than to the LTR. Still it would make me feel better if I would be as infatuated as I was with my ex (unicorn) when I take a break from my mission, even though I know my current relationship is 100000 times better, stronger, .. than the previous one (which was a lot of arguing but al… | /r/askTRP | 21/12/18 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?rationally speaking, no. emotionally speaking, she doesn't come close to my ex. | /r/askTRP | 21/12/18 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?o rly? that's the whole point. | /r/askTRP | 21/12/18 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?she is the rational 'perfect' LTR in red pill terms. takes care of her looks for me, follows me (captain - 1 st mate), has a very low n count, she cooks, cleans my house, she is caring, doesn't do drugs or drink alcohol, ... she is madly in love with me, .. never disrespects me, etc etc etc | /r/askTRP | 21/12/18 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?We rationally know that she is not a unicorn. You can rationalize all you want, I accept how / what women are. Emotions have their own way though. We're looking for a new unicorn that infatuates us plenty (while knowing it's just our turn..) | /r/askTRP | 21/12/18 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?of course we're pedestalizing our exes, that's the whole point of alpha widow / unicorn widower and the thing i'm looking for help with. we've increased our smv, and pull girls of exual objective smv to our exes, but as our emotions pedestalize our exes, new girls can't meet her smv. of course i've rationally took her of the pedestal as you read, but that doesn't make my emotions do it. | /r/askTRP | 21/12/18 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?don't think neediness is at play, we can pull women easily. i think the 9th point in the second link makes most sense (altough we're fucking 8/10 right now, we should aim for 10/10 -> which don't make for good ltrs mostly). thx for your reply | /r/askTRP | 20/12/18 01:43 PM |
| 4 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?Disagree. Alpha widow: she dated a 10/10 (to her!) alpha, and he gave her so many tingles he actually becomes a 1000/10 alpha in her head, that not even chad thundercock himself can amog. The men in OP have dated women who are probably 8/10, but their beta mindset in the day made them 1000/10 in their own heads, hence even an objective 10/10 cannot compete now. | /r/askTRP | 20/12/18 01:40 PM |
| 1 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?agree | /r/askTRP | 20/12/18 01:25 PM |
| 3 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?Both things are related. If one selects a woman that matches his desires, he will be more attached. The problem with alpha widow is that the ex has an absurd high value in the mind/heart/gut/.. of the widow, too high for anyone else to meet, even though rationally someone else can have way higher value, just not to that person. Hence an alpha widow is a red flag for LTR. I feel like TRP denies/doesn't accept the existence of unicorn widower, while just recognizing its existence [in some men] cou… | /r/askTRP | 20/12/18 01:11 PM |
| 11 | Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it?Rationally, yes. My current LTR is as you say (I lead, have vision, she supports, .. just as TRP prescribes), and rationally, it works very well (captain + 1st mate). However, I sometimes still crave for my unicorn. Thát is the problem, and I'm not the only one who's having it. Hence, your description is only valid for rational argument, while I'm looking for an emotional 'solution'. Also your description makes that you can replace anyone with a rational better version (if you find one). This is… | /r/askTRP | 20/12/18 01:06 PM |
| 0 | How to feel like Chad after becoming him?Doing fine. Not depressed or anything. Just wondering from time to time. Thanks for the reply though, I see where you are coming from. | /r/askTRP | 07/09/18 04:43 PM |
| 2 | I Want To Have Oneitis and End Up In Nihilism / DepressionAt least someone understands. Thx for the reply | /r/askTRP | 13/08/18 09:54 AM |
| 1 | I Want To Have Oneitis and End Up In Nihilism / Depressionthere's no other comment on your name | /r/askTRP | 13/08/18 09:53 AM |
| 1 | I Want To Have Oneitis and End Up In Nihilism / Depressionyep, trying to ease into that, but in extension to vassily's post on threesomes, I don't think my girlfriend will ever be open to this. | /r/askTRP | 12/08/18 07:56 PM |
| 2 | I Want To Have Oneitis and End Up In Nihilism / DepressionWith oneitis I meant more feelings for a girl. The only thing previous missions did to me, was occupy me thus not allowing me to think of my relationship as much. Consciousness etc, .. create suffering, I know. Your judgmental post without any proper content/explanation gives me the feeling you should read vandaalen's link in another comment. | /r/askTRP | 12/08/18 07:54 PM |
| 1 | I Want To Have Oneitis and End Up In Nihilism / DepressionI did read it. In short, imo you're telling people to live the life before commenting or giving advice. I assume you're either referring to: the 90% which of course is a random metric, but I don't think 1 in 10 has a soft harem. my 'unicorn' definition: I know awalt and I know she might cheat on me. I'm describing the situation as is up until now men and hypergamy: we might not cheat as much as do women when in an LTR, maybe that's because we're (on average) lower value and it's more difficult t… | /r/askTRP | 12/08/18 07:51 PM |
| 1 | I Want To Have Oneitis and End Up In Nihilism / Depressiontl;dr: LTR is not meant for men | /r/askTRP | 12/08/18 06:13 PM |
| 1 | I Want To Have Oneitis and End Up In Nihilism / Depressionthanks | /r/askTRP | 12/08/18 06:12 PM |
| 9 | Übermensch ModeFuck being 'happy', that's just another myth pushed on us to make us content with mediocrity. You are better off being a sad and angry WINNER than a happy and content LOSER. I don't really agree, and neither do you I think: I am the happiest and most fulfilled I have been in my life. If you tell people that they have to swallow the pill, work their asses of, build discipline, .. while the result is not being happy but sad and angry, then who would like to swallow the pill? Who would want to live… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/18 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Looking for a guide on the mannerisms / ways of a leader in personal interactionsThanks! Looking at other leaders and noticing patterns might indeed be a starting point. | /r/askTRP | 21/03/18 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Looking for a guide on the mannerisms / ways of a leader in personal interactionsI agree. The point is: once you reach that confidence, which words/mannerisms can I use to express good leadership. Come down and sit on the couch this is a command Let's go to a chill place this is more like a proposal I would like to read about patterns, what works, what doesn't, .. | /r/askTRP | 21/03/18 02:15 PM |
| 5 | Looking for a guide on the mannerisms / ways of a leader in personal interactionsyep, that's not being a leader imo | /r/askTRP | 21/03/18 11:54 AM |
| 1 | What are your go-to's to invite women over, creating plausible deniability?Movie A movie is actually the same as 'let's fuck' to me. It's no longer plausible as her friends will say 'everyone knows that if you propose a movie, you're going to fuck' | /r/askTRP | 08/10/17 07:10 AM |
| 10 | Fucking on the first tinder date."now she's getting plowed like snow in Chicago" as well haha | /r/TheRedPill | 08/10/17 05:27 AM |
| 1 | What broke you?figuring out the whole SMV thing, higher value attracts, .. thought I made a major breakthrough no one ever discovered before. googled it and ended up here, of course everything made sense | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 10:50 PM |
| 1 | My LTR says sometimes I'm too confidentMaybe we lack context. But this is certainly a huge shit test. I do think you lack context. I know a shit test when I see one My girlfriend feels like I am arrogant too every now and then. And I'd rather be arrogant than a bitch. There's something in between too, you know. You can actually be too arrogant. If course being less arrogant doesn't mean you should be a bitch. Maybe we shouldn't assume common sense. | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 03:29 PM |
| 1 | My LTR says sometimes I'm too confidentHaha, she really was irritated about something else and might have taken more offense to my way of communication as she should have. But indeed a correct analysis, I have something new to improve/work on now! | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 03:18 PM |
| 1 | My LTR says sometimes I'm too confidentk | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 03:14 PM |
| 1 | My LTR says sometimes I'm too confidentYou're right. This time I think she really felt like I was being too arrogant, not so much a shit test. I went for the safe option by treating it as a shit test, but want to improve and learn. See /u/banllama 's reply for more context. | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 03:13 PM |
| 2 | My LTR says sometimes I'm too confidentHaha. I treated it as a shit test, and in that case I surely passed, since I dismissed her remark with an aloof 'ok'. | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 03:03 PM |
| 1 | My LTR says sometimes I'm too confidentYep, I might get a little arrogant / cocky sometimes. Thanks for the tip. I'll look into how arrogant I am / should be. | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 03:02 PM |
| 1 | tips on treating negative alpha'sWe banter all the time. But sometimes, the underlying tone is not 'humor' but rather 'sincerely talking someone down'. I'm talking about those occasions. If the comment is not over the top, not superficial, not followed by a laugh, something personal, .. then you know it's not banter. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/17 04:53 PM |
| 2 | tips on treating negative alpha'sThanks for your reply. Indeed, when living with alpha's, you need to live with their behaviour as well. From the looks of it, and I'm just guessing here, you came off as weak to them and they took this as an opportunity to try and turn you into a bitch. I've only known them after I swallowed the pill for a year, and I've been stoic long before that. But I might have missed a point where I showed some weakness. I've shown greater discipline in working out, working, making money, .. than them, so … | /r/askTRP | 17/05/17 04:46 PM |
| 3 | tips on treating negative alpha'sThanks for your help as well. I do lift. No, I don't deadlift 315 yet. Yes I have other things to do than lift 4-5 times a week. Why are you even on asktrp? Sure you know about lifting. Lifting is only a small part of TRP. And seemingly the only part you know of, given you can't provide any real insightful advice? So you're 'leading by example' or what should I make of this? Is your definition of TRP really 'lift and you will be the greatest of all'? Or should I take 'bitch about lifting and tal… | /r/askTRP | 17/05/17 12:03 PM |
| 1 | tips on treating negative alpha'sI really wonder what you think to accomplish with your negative attitude towards me. I do lift, I do have a mission, I make 100K+ a year and own 2 companies. I have a better life than most. Honestly I think that my SMV is about 8, of course context depending. WHY is it 'SO CLEAR' to you that I am a plugged in loser? Why do you insist on treating me as such? I'm just asking for help to a simple, stupid situation to make my life better. Your argument is to 'just go do something else'. Thanks for t… | /r/askTRP | 17/05/17 11:22 AM |
| 1 | tips on treating negative alpha'sok. I'm not fixated on this. this isn't what makes my day. it's a small annoyance that I want to get rid of. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/17 11:09 AM |
| 1 | tips on treating negative alpha'sI've been reading trp since 2 years and I've lifted since 2 years. I am taller and more muscular than both. There is a lot more to my life than the attention and opinions of other men. However, this is an issue that I want resolved. Of course I can 'just move', but there might also be a solution other than leaving. I guess more red pilled people encounter other alpha's that comment negatively, just looking for a good a&a, pressure flip, .. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/17 10:53 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop failing and actually win for once?You're not failing. You're winning. Also, Don't lie to yourself. You want to win races? Be better than your opponents. How? Apparently, put in more money. You don't want to? Then you don't want to win hard enough. Why do you want to win races? Fame & glory? Don't expect it to be so easy. You want to be ripped? Work out more, eat better, put in more time. No time for that? Then you don't want to be really ripped. Why do you want to have a successful youtube account? Fame & glory? Money? Up to you… | /r/askTRP | 08/05/17 12:34 PM |
| 1 | ONS got pregnantAlso read this post. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/63wmts/let_me_tell_you_about_the_time_i_got_16_free/ | /r/askTRP | 08/05/17 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Younger guys (< 30) of TRP, what troubles you or worries you most about getting older? Older guys of TRP, what do you have to say about those troubles and worries?worried about having low smv / handicapped / .. kids. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/17 12:14 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?I get it. It's hard to imagine having kids. Thanks for the serious responses. I'm wouldn't want children just to be proud of them, but I think I would want to be proud of my children. What are other (your maybe?) reasons for having children? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 07:13 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?I don't. I correspond lower SMV with a lower change on happiness. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 07:10 PM |
| 0 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?To be upper level SMV today you only need to be NOT FAT. To be an upper level SMV man you only need to be confident and smooth (and lift). To be an upper level woman you only need to be feminine, in shape, and NOT A BITCH. 'upper level'. haha. 80/20 rule. As a woman, you're born with looks, or you're not. I know looks aren't everything. RMV you can influence as a parent. Of course you can work on how you look, but if you're ugly, you're ugly. period. even if you're skinny, doesn't mean you're hi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 07:09 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?go through my replies. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 07:04 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?I'm not a parent, but I'd think your children's problems are your own since you love them? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 05:49 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?No, I'm not asking whether I'll love them. I'm asking whether my red pill mind will know they are low smv, resulting in a hard life, and since I love them, I would be sad because of their difficult life. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 05:00 PM |
| 0 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Indeed I'm not a parent. Hence why I'm asking parents (mrp, not trp) for advice. I don't really agree about your smv analysis though. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 04:56 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Thanks for the reply. Of course their smv wouldn't matter to me. I just think low smv would make their life hard and since I love them, it would make me unhappy. I do think smv is extremely important. It's also trp's main focus of improvement and better quality of life / Sexual experience. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 04:53 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Thanks for the reply + arguments. Not a troll. I do also believe I'd love them. But maybe deep down I'd know it's a hard life and I'd be really sad? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 04:51 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?I think 9 in 10 replies in this comment are tone policing? 'Troll', 'fucktard',.. Thanks for the other arguments. I'll let it sink in. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 04:27 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?I don't think I'm amazing. I do believe my smv to be 8. In another post I made, I said that even with trp knowledge, my life is only just mediocre. I wouldn't want my kid to be unhappy. And I do believe lower smv means less chance on happiness. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 04:24 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Pardon my scepticism: it's not what you say but what you do. Of course I don't know if you have a healthy sex life, given that you're on trp must mean you're self aware and I will take your words to be true. I'm afraid that having children will not be rewarding to me if they're low smv. Of course I can't say for sure, that's why I'm asking others. In between all the shitty comments, there has been 1 sincere comment stating he's not happy with the genetics of his child and would make another choi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 04:22 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Thanks, I'll look for the book. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 03:57 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Or they think getting children will make them happy, regardless of thinking about their children's future. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 03:56 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Actually I'm interested in the response. I agree with the commenter and I think it's too bad you scared him away by not accepting different views or being close minded. I'm not judging you for your values, I'm just posting here for you to challenge my view with some concrete arguments. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 03:54 PM |
| 1 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Thanks for your reply. If my children are not high smv then they just have to be realistic about who they can date. Ugly people with health ailments have been reproducing for thousands of years. Well I'm not sure whether low smv people are really attracted to one another, maybe they're together to beat loneliness and fantasize about high smv partners. Maybe they have children, because 'that's the way the story goes' instead of evaluation, like I do. Do you think women who settle for beta bucks a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 03:52 PM |
| -3 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Not a Troll post. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 03:48 PM |
| -2 | I would only want children if they are high SMV. Now what?Well, apparently I'm not a likeable person. I wonder how attracted YOU are to a fat woman with glasses and autism. If you knew your child had down syndrome, would you abort it? Well I sure would. You wanna hate me for that? Go on. I just meant for an intellectual discussion. So apparently I'm too harsh. Then help me how to change that instead of bashing my ass. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/17 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Women only date up: how to cope with being the settling one?are we as men ever satisfied Solid point. However same point for women. Branch swinging etc, .. Next goal in life is accepting what I have and being content with it. Meditation will help, since I rationally know that I'm in a very good situation/relationship. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/04/17 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Women only date up: how to cope with being the settling one?Yep. This is a nice story, all the best to you! In this story, imo, the man is the worst victim. He has to always improve, lead, keep smv high, while the SMV of the woman degrades. She will keep her tingles while he wont. If both show green flags (captain + first mate), then it comes down to SMV, in which the man will always 'lose' by 'settling'. But I do get your point and I should work towards accepting this truth of life/LTR. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/04/17 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Women only date up: how to cope with being the settling one?So what's the solution? Is it honest/respectful to think of Melissa Wondertits? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/04/17 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Women only date up: how to cope with being the settling one?thanks for the advice. indeed I have thought about being alpha widower alot. My ex still is one of the most attractive girls in my head. However I would never want to be in a relationship with her again, now that I have a clear view on red/green flags. Thing is, to me sex is way better with a hot girl that is into you, nice tits, nice body, nice face, who can orgasm by penetration. It's something I have to fight in my head. I know the world isn't fair, and this is not complaining, rather an obse… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/04/17 02:21 PM |
| 3 | Women only date up: how to cope with being the settling one?Yep, I feel you. What's the difference with how a woman sees a man and what TRP helps us to become? Actually you're telling me to rationally be content with this woman, which is the same as telling a woman to get with a low value nice guy. He is respectful etc, but she's not attracted to him. I know that's what life is, women's SMV degrades rapidly over time, which means that OR you are content with her green flags, OR you're not made for LTR. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/04/17 02:14 PM |
| 1 | What are some good books for 19yo to get back into reading as a hobby?I got me some red pill audiobooks, as I hate reading. Now I can't stand times where my mind is idle (traveling, running, ..) and I don't have an audiobook to listen to. You win so much time by listening to audiobooks, and it also sparked my interest in other books, mostly on the navy seals. What I've listend to: rollo tomassi - the rational male, mark manson - the subtle art of not giving a fuck, Olivia Fox Cabane - The Charisma Myth, William B Irvine - A guide to the good life, Ekhart Tolle - T… | /r/askTRP | 04/04/17 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Advice Request: How red is this flag.yeah, the point about dread game is that you need to apply it immediately to connect the dots for her. if she does ask the question, and you gotta talk about it, imo there's still two ways to go about it: needy / lower value: "i feel bad about you still talking to your ex, it makes me jealous/.. (emotional, scarcity)" -> pushes her away attractive / higher value: "it's a red flag and I don't want to invest my time in you anymore (aloof, abundance)" -> will draw her toward you, also having her re… | /r/askTRP | 31/03/17 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Advice Request: How red is this flag.Why not make it about her instead of yourself? If you're bitching about her talking to her ex, indeed you are coming across as needy. Why don't you give her the vibe that that is a (major) red flag and you don't want to invest your time & effort into someone like that? Punish bad behavior, reward good behavior. My LTR once gave me a notion of an ex (which turned out to be false), I punished her hard (implicitly, immediate less attention, ..), she immediately felt something was wrong. The attract… | /r/askTRP | 31/03/17 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Can you get out of depression when you don't want to?no, not yet. hence why i'm reading books, looking to start my own company, looking for a new project, .. | /r/askTRP | 30/03/17 07:58 AM |
| 1 | Can you get out of depression when you don't want to?If ever you get over this, let me know (really, send me a pm). I'm in the same situation (although doing allright in most areas of my life). In the past few weeks, I've read: - a guide to the good life (on stoicism) - the subtle art of not giving a fuck (what it says) About to start with A man's search for ultimate meaning. Do you meditate? I think meditation could be of great help. I should pick it up again! Also, check out the artofmanliness article on idleness kills manliness. Taking action w… | /r/askTRP | 29/03/17 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Just curious"these red pill tactics are not gonna work on me" How would you react? I am sure that there are a lot of women here who are just lurking and will know when someone is doing some of things that are being given as advise here. Its just that I've read a lot about male psychology, I've seen RSD, I've been reading TRP for a long time now just out of curiosity, and I find it very funny when a guy tries to hit on me with these stuff. Like, he is doing everything correctly, according to here, I should b… | /r/askTRP | 23/01/17 09:19 PM |
| 1 | books about male attraction?It's not about molding myself, it's about better understanding myself. As with MBTI, the description was very insightful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 10:56 AM |
| 2 | books about male attraction?to better understand myself, my feelings, ... why I feel a certain way, to check if my ratio and instincts are aligned, .. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/16 02:58 PM |
| 1 | When/how did you realise you wanted kids?They sound like awesome kids! You're very lucky / doing great. Are you still together with their mom? I just can't imagine having a(n ugly) daughter, or having a 'dumb'/.. kid.. | /r/askTRP | 04/11/16 09:39 AM |
| 6 | Words to Live ByThe Man In The Glass Peter Dale Wimbrow Sr. When you get what you want in your struggle for self And the world makes you king for a day Just go to the mirror and look at yourself And see what that man has to say. For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife Whose judgment upon you must pass The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life Is the one staring back from the glass. He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest For he’s with you, clear to the end And you’ve passed your most di… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/16 11:36 AM |
| 4 | You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you.copied from /u/all__fun 's cliff notes on "A Guide to the Good Life" by William B. Irvine When insulted - pause and reflect to think if the insult is true. If it is true, then there is little reason to be upset. It is not an insult to be told what is self-evident. When insulted - think about how well informed the insulter is. The insulter may believe what he is saying / or he may be reporting how things seem to him. Calmly set him straight. Consider the source of the insult - Do you respect the … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/16 11:26 AM |
| 1 | stance on charity?Sometimes this line is very vague. Especially if you don't decide on who you are helping, rather than a 'company' who takes care of everything. | /r/askTRP | 14/08/16 09:13 AM |
| 3 | Uncle Vasya’s Guide On Dating ModelsAs you stated, I indeed luckily landed a model a few years ago (I ended it because of too much fights, couldn't handle her whining). My question: did you ever get back to getting satisfaction from fucking non-model women? It seems that my attraction 'mechanism' is fucked up and I am no longer attracted to non-models, feeling 'entitled' to a HB9. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/07/16 02:41 PM |
| 4 | Collected Advice and Methods for BeginnersLogged in to say that sleeping on a hard surface is bad for your back. Buy a decent pocket spring mattress with a box spring or decent water bed. Go lie in a bed, check your body (or have it checked) before you buy it. Source: I have a bad back since 10 years, have spoken to dozens of specialists and physical therapists, MRI scan, ... | /r/TheRedPill | 05/07/16 04:01 PM |
| 1 | (canned) opener list?Indeed, that was also what I was referring to. To me an opener is saying hi and establishing the first topic of conversation. I'll look into Todd Valentine! | /r/askTRP | 03/06/16 11:34 PM |
| 1 | (canned) opener list?Thanks, this is practical info, although it's still situational. But I can work with this! | /r/askTRP | 03/06/16 11:33 PM |
| 1 | (canned) opener list?well this is kind of a non-response. An opener in my book, is 'defining the first subject'. If I say Hi, and she says Hi back, no decent conversation was established. | /r/askTRP | 03/06/16 11:32 PM |
| 0 | Dumb question: How to stare?a youtube vid would help! | /r/askTRP | 01/05/16 07:33 PM |
| 1 | 7 months since swallowing the pill, lifting, boxing, meditation, therapy and I'm still suffering from crippling oneitisI've been there as well, and I broke up with my ex due to too much drama (I wasn't stoic then). 1 year into TRP I was still suffering from oneitis: she's a HB9 and I could only get at most HB7. The clue here is you don't need to fuck any woman. You need to fuck a woman better than/equal to (your perception of) her. That'll give you a better view on oneitis, as your feelings for her will disappear. After that, you KNOW you're/she's not special/different. | /r/askTRP | 27/04/16 08:59 PM |
| 1 | 21 ways to take pussy off the pedestalthis only holds true if you have an abundance mentality and easy access to sex. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/12/15 04:36 PM |
| 1 | what's the difference between oneitis (ex) and alpha widow?Alpha widowes are women who are obsessed with an high value ex. The ex have discarded them. where is the difference in oneitis? In my mind the terms are completely different as men love differently from women. this could be a correct answer to the difference between oneitis and alpha widow there aren't as many high valued men I disagree. There's plenty of high valued men. As a man, you have a lot more freedom to improve your own value (as TRP prescribes), while as a woman, you're more bound to y… | /r/askTRP | 28/08/15 11:31 AM |
| 0 | what's the difference between oneitis (ex) and alpha widow?I'm not trolling. So you say we can change our oneitis. This means you think men can control the way they perceive others' SMV. I do realize and agree that a part of the SMV you attribute to an ex might be 'because of love'/blindness/.., but I also think a great deal of the SMV you attribute to an ex, is not 'false'. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/15 09:22 AM |
| 1 | What do you feel when someone cheatsTired333, consider this. I've been reading through the comments and you keep on showing blue pill behaviour, your comments being downvoted and all. All of us here on TRP understand your situation. Plenty (if not all) of us have been there, we've read about it a thousand times. TRP knows what to do. By arriving on TRP and, sadly, experiencing what you did, you started swallowing. What will happen? In as few words as possible: your mindset will change. It WILL change (at least if you're a smart gu… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/15 09:04 AM |
| 2 | hard to get an erection on first sexuel experience with new plateno alcohol, I do lift, no anti depressants. It's not that I can't get an erection (later on everything's fine), also I find my plate(s) physically attractive, it's just that I am very conscious in the moment and feel 'social pressure' about 'ok this is the time to have an erection'. Usually I get excited when we start kissing, but when we move down to business, I'm getting conscious and it goes flacid. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/15 03:24 PM |
| 1 | preselection (pos) vs player (neg) in Europewhether or not it's good to approach loads, or concentrate on 1 girl you like (if you already know how to approach) in less 'american' social situations | /r/askTRP | 14/08/15 08:40 PM |
| -2 | should you be look at girls you are interested in? - conveying interestWhen you're not showing interest, you're giving the idea that you're not noticing her. This will get her hamster spinning. | /r/askTRP | 14/08/15 06:54 PM |
| 6 | Why Confidence and Social Proof WorkI disagree with The correct statement is "women are attracted to confidence." I believe the correct statement is: "confidence is only attractive in men". Whether you like it or not, (hetero) men are also (in a non sexual way) attracted to other men who display confidence / alpha traits (also closely related to personal integrity etc). You're more likely to be around an alpha and follow him, than to be with a beta who doesn't get noticed. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/15 02:21 PM |
| 1 | female SMV and judgmental traitThen why do you even care if your SMV is zero now? Anyways, SMV doesn't only apply to sex. Read 'the world of status' post somewhere on TRP. A part of swalling the pill is accepting things for what they are. If you don't like it, you decide not to swallow the pill, remain blue. That's perfectly acceptable, but then you shouldn't hang around here anymore. If you would swallow the pill, consider SMV a reality and start working on it. TRP is the 'religion' of truth and reality. Denying that is your… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/15 08:52 PM |
| 2 | female SMV and judgmental traitYes, if your SMV is zero [at the moment], you are fucked. That's why TRP exists: to raise your SMV as high as possible, become the best possible version of youself, reaching the highest SMV possible for you. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/15 09:27 AM |
| 2 | female SMV and judgmental traitand her sexual attractiveness to men This post has nothing to do with attractiveness. It's more about the match, if she is fun to live with, .. As stated in the original post, it's about LTRs. A woman could be socially influential over other women, and be sexually unappealing to men (low SMV) at the same time. Agree, also something which I'm not stating. All I'm saying is that women with higher SMV will be more likely to be socially influential, thus becoming/being judgmental, which in turn is a… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/08/15 12:20 PM |
| 2 | female SMV and judgmental traitdont jump to the conlcusion that tunnel vision raises your leadership ability...on the contrary Agree. But people who think they can lead or who like to lead (because of their judgmental trait they will think they know better) are more difficult to lead, they're not followers. My post was not about leadership skills. More so to address the compatibility of a leader (man) and a (non-)judgmental woman. not everyone who is lower SMV than his/her friend is automatically a follower Agree. But they ar… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/08/15 11:52 AM |
| 1 | Does love exist? Frame needs some work.So, is there nothing you can do about her insecurity but 'plugging the dam with your finger'? How about being honest? How about 'the truth'? Red pill = the truth? How about red pill women? I think she needs to face the fact and practice self acceptance. Her emotions/.. are not your responsibility. | /r/askTRP | 17/07/15 07:55 AM |
| 1 | Does love exist? Frame needs some work.@better: I catch your drift. Although your relationship can show a lot of good signs (rationally: she's supportive, cooks for you, ..), it doesn't mean it ís a good relationship. The rational understanding is not the only thing that is important. It is known that women fall for higher value man (relative to hers), but the value gap (your own perceived value and her value, and vice versa) can also be too big: you can date any girl who is 1/2/3 and she will cook for you (probably do anything) if s… | /r/askTRP | 16/07/15 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Does love exist? Frame needs some work.I feel you, I've been in the exact same situation (only 4 years of LTR) and I sacrificed a LOT (that's how men love, right?). You can only be sure if the decision was right, if you meet someone better. If your gut is telling you something is wrong, you just know it's not worth the while. However, another factor is the easy by which you can get a new girl. If you're good at game/approach/.., then I'd say next and meet someone better. That'll be the best way to get over someone. If you suck at mee… | /r/askTRP | 16/07/15 03:17 PM |
| 1 | your gut isn't always rightI'm not arguing with the fact that your gut is never right. I know that in that case (as so many FR's / .. ) prove, your gut is right. I'm just looking at a broader picture here: gut is also oneitis or 'love', .. which is known to make blind. So in some cases, TRP also condemns your gut. | /r/askTRP | 30/06/15 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Why is cutting her hair short a huge shit test?Also, appearances give away what someone is like. So if she got fat/lazy/short hair, the would have no discipline, character, attention whore, pot/old, unfeminine, .. Perfect arguments for loving someone for 'who they are' rather than 'how they look'. | /r/askTRP | 17/06/15 02:23 PM |
| 3 | It's like pornography, you'll know it when you see itIn The Wedding Ringer, the best man asks the groom: why do you want to marry her? That thought helps me with my oneitis/ex! | /r/TheRedPill | 14/06/15 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Can you have too much self confidence?yeah, I meant I was looking for an LTR (explaining my high standards) the only thing hindering them would be you clearly communicating that you aren't willing to commit yourself anytime soon the so called 'player' as I've already communicated my interest in dating her | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Can you have too much self confidence?You sound a little bit like you are already beginning to catch oeitis, although nothing of importance happened between the two of you up to now. I know, and I'm still 95% outcome independent (I have a RP mindset), but as said, it's not that I meet quality (to me) women every week (looking for an LTR). I will mainting frame and heed your advice, thanks | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Can you have too much self confidence?I 'suffer' the same, been working/applying TRP for 4 months. My advice: in my case, my confidence is linked to female attention. If you're low on confidence, you won't get any attention, so you've gotta break the vicious circle: find and do what helps your confidence rise (ignore approach anxiety, ..). Forget your low confidence, show some discipline, get the reaction. Your confidence will rise. Theoretically, it's that easy (at least for me) | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Can you have too much self confidence?Yeah, I was also thinking: judge by her actions, not words. I've had a plate that said: you're too high on yourself, thinking you're the best in everything, blabla, but those words were not to judge her by, obviously (plate) | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Can you have too much self confidence?My guess is that she isn't sufficiently attracted to you up to now. She seems to be unsure of you. yeah, we don't really know eachother, I'm just being confident with 'meeting her next tuesday' instead of waiting for the next party. Not really sure on what to do at the party though. Chasing other women: she might think I'm a player, plus 'afraid' to go and search for her. Immediately gaming her: extremely self confident, to prove that I'm not a pussy (hold up the things I said). Also, I've got v… | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 07:56 PM |
| 3 | How to be more sexualIn my opinion, being more sexual is very easy: just make sexist jokes. Cleaning/cooking/.. is for women. It's a neg + sexist aka sexual! Never fails e.g.: your place looks dirty. Why don't you clean? And clean my place afterwards too, while you're at it. Or, if you're at your place: 'never mind the dirt here, oh wait, why don't you get at it now that you're here?' | /r/askTRP | 28/05/15 10:14 AM |
| 1 | I fail to initiate intimate contact, need some directionYay! Good for you :) | /r/askTRP | 19/05/15 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Critique my text game and let me know if I should next herIgnore the text/her. Go home, she'll hear about you later (from others). If everything goes well and you're feeling confident, text her 'I'm at place x' or 'See you at place x at 8pm', the day itself. This will re-establish some frame, not sure if it will suffice to bring back the attraction. Don't get your hopes up. Also, don't focus too much on the girl. You're more important than that. If you focus on yourself, have fun, .. she's a lot more likely to like you (which of course is the core of R… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/15 02:26 PM |
| 1 | How to treat female friendsYou've got your priorities wrong. Women friends will raise your SMV if they are attracted to you. If they're not, you're just an orbiter. Other women can sense this as well. Work on yourself. Make THAT your priority. Your SMV will grow. Outcome independence will follow. Attraction from your female friends will follow. You are the gatekeeper of relationships (as a man), so you have total control over your (by then) female orbiters. They will stick around if you want them to. Then (and only then) … | /r/askTRP | 05/05/15 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Critique my text game and let me know if I should next herAbout the LDR stuff, you're totally right. About the texting though.. This texting sucks. 1st of all: RP says: use texting only for logistics. But okay, LDR, w/e. So, analysis: blabla '... wanna meet me on Friday night for a drink at somewhere?' You're allowing her to lead. You're asking/begging for her presence, while you should be the one who is leading. Although the attraction is completely lost due to LDR, I don't believe you could have succeeded either way. What might have stood a chance: '… | /r/askTRP | 05/05/15 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Girl is (overly?) eager to come overAs you've commented above, don't stick your dick in crazy. It's on RP for a reason! Also, if she's just a 6, your dick won't be that happy. She seems to be looking for validation, wanting in on the shit hot sluts get as well. Riding the CC, .. Major red flags. Next. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/15 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Worried that my application of TRP is just a cover up for my insecurities, and the reality that I am not . What should I do?this. I've read that in gay world, there's still two types of men: one who acts as the girl, and one who acts as the man. Your posts sounds like you're the girl. Don't try to act like the man if you don't like the outcome. Don't make the feminist mistake of 'wanting to be the man'! Accept who you are, give it time, respect who you are. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/15 02:54 PM |
| 1 | I fail to initiate intimate contact, need some directionIt doesn't sound to me like she would want to have sex with you. You've acted all bèta over her, one move won't make you alpha. Your physique doesn't make you alpha, it's just a treat. If you want this girl, apply dread. Don't expect changes anytime soon. General advice: don't wait, next, improve yourself first, focus on yourself instead of women. If you keep being who you are, you'll never keep a relationship going, you won't last. Read more red pill. Priorities will change over time. Women are… | /r/askTRP | 05/05/15 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Girl is (overly?) eager to come overShe's taking the lead here, while you should be leading. She is not attracted to you. Nothing good can come of this. Expect drama. Next. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/15 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Men who have been to therapy: How did it go? Did it help you in any way? What did you get out of it? Any tips for guys struggling with self- esteem or confidence issues?I've been to plenty of therapists, all about 'love' and 'being able to connect', self assurance, self issues, .. I started going there once I had diagnosed myself with OCD: obsessive thoughts. Did my story, psychiatrist confirmed. Gave me some pills (anti depressants), sent me to a physiotherapist to do some mind & body stuff, sent me to psychologist. That one sent me to a sexologist, and after that, I went to a practitioner of alternative medicine who was waving his dongle and telling me someth… | /r/askTRP | 05/05/15 02:36 PM |
| 2 | how to get respect without making drama, among males?Well aren't I happy a guy like you read my life situation just like that! Also, kudo's for the advice and tips! | /r/askTRP | 28/04/15 04:42 PM |
| 2 | how to get respect without making drama, among males?Totally agree on that. The question is, how to treat someone like that? Especially when they seem to have success with other AFC's? | /r/askTRP | 28/04/15 03:31 PM |
| 1 | how to get respect without making drama, among males?Many of us probably joke around with their friends, banter, stuff like that. Back and forth, it creates a bond. But some people (I feel like I'm very good at picking up this stuff) have others intents with this banter, 'jokes' and witty remarks. When you're with friends, you don't want to hurt them, it's all just playful and everyone's laughing. Rather than having fun, these guys use this kind of humour to place themselves above you, they really want to put you in bad daylight (e.g. not looking … | /r/askTRP | 28/04/15 03:28 PM |
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