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It's a good thing that I dgaf anymore what someone thinks. I'm simply limiting your access to me. That's all what it's about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 08:25 PM
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Many may have good reasons to disconnect from family (unavoidable toxicity), but if they didn't replace those connections w friends at least... You'll either be stuck with an abuser of some form or in the best case- someone that solely relies on you for emotional support. Neither is acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:10 PM
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They have very few (if any) people in their lives that they can depend on, be it a friend/ relative/colleague. Beware of any slandering of their character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:56 PM
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Don't have to convince yourself anymore if you're planning your escape already. Best of luck and do not delay the departure for longer than you reallyyyy need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 05:43 PM
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They're both unblocked on my side. I've overplayed my part in this twisted & exhausting game and I'm sure I'll be in a better place mentally by the time she reaches out. Then I'll share whatever she wants know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 06:43 PM
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Yeahh, I do not regret this decision at all now that some time has passed. I guess I was just weirded out in the moment because I personally would've done the complete opposite. But I'm not her and she's not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:58 PM
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I just don't understand the cognitive dissonance that persists to this day- how is the man "smarter and superior" in the workplace etc but when it comes to keeping his eyes only for his woman he's suddenly the weak one that cannot resist the temptation and it's another woman's responsibility to keep him from straying? I'm sorry you had to experience that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:11 AM
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You're absolutely right. Now when I look back with my one foot finally out of his web, I can see that he always made decisions that served him best. He never sacrificed anything at the expense of his own comfort. He was the first man ever that played me this way and I am so lucky to not be part of it anymore. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 07:28 AM
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I mentioned the trauma bond part for a reason... It's not an excuse, but it gives context. Every time I felt something was not right or we'd have an argument too many that month, I'd end it but we chalked it up to us being dumb young students and it always seemed like the "next time would be better"(🤡).He always knew how to get under my skin just how I knew how to get under his. I know about the stalking because I would see the subtweets from him every time he thought I was talking about him, or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 06:31 AM
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That's most likely the case, it boils my blood even thinking about it. Part of me just wants to send her the screenshots proving my truth, but from now on the rule of running far from men who badmouth their exes unprompted will be deeply ingrained in me. I suppose you're right, and I do actually pity her. She loves someone who doesn't feel the same, nor truly respects her and her time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:25 AM
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She's at her home country atm, so it was definitely herself that did it. When I used to be less busy and back in my hometown, I used to snitch on men that I knew were taken and I saw them on a dating app. Not one girl dumped them. You cannot help someone that doesn't want to be helped unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:17 AM
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If anyone comes up with a technique to apply this method when one has an ADHD brain- I'm all ears! 😆 I've already managed to be able to keep my finances and family traumas under wraps, but the rest is still so hard and I immediately regret it after blurting it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 11:49 PM
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I do not know how much clearer that man has to be for her to see that she's just a placeholder until something better comes along? What future marriage is she even talking about? She needs to be slapped in the face with the FDS handbook and drop the loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:42 PM
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That woman needs to leave that Uber boy alone and find a man that already has what she wants. Spending that amount of money for him to throw it back in her face? They have a miserable ride ahead of them and she's the designated driver unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 09:59 AM
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Reminds me of my ex also. Always washed up, never had to ask to take the trash out, folded clothes meticulously etc. But he held the holy trinity of views - sexist, racist and a homophobe. We soon parted upon my discovery of how serious the issue was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:58 PM
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Exactly! He's a b o y f r i e n d, he has made no commitment to her in the eyes of the law, he's given her nothing to feel such entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 07:15 AM
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It's a rule of thumb! Men's egos are too fragile for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 09:13 AM
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As someone who experienced unexplainable hairloss a little while back- I was RELENTLESS in pursuit to recover/cover up. I had weaves as soon as I realised that the loss isn't slowing down, I went to specialists in dermatology, pulmonology (i've got allergies), my gyno and my gp, did blood tests, took supplements and applied ointments. I was covering a half inch bald spot at the back of my head with an eyeshadow so it's not visible to anyone. And I was completely out of the dating pool until I re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:53 PM
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Given your history of attraction to LVM, I'd say it's worth unpacking in therapy and keep seeing the guy as long as he's not putting any pressure on you. That's just what I'd do personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:11 PM
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I've ventured out into their sphere the other day, out of sheer curiosity. This is one of the artificial methods used to gauge how good of a mother/wife you'd be based on your reaction. Will you throw yourself at helping him? Will you thoroughly empathise? One of the commenters said "I like to pretend that I'm going through something sad just to see how much she is willing to tolerate". Whiny men are not it. Men's expression of a true struggle is covert and when it's genuine- women usually are t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:10 PM
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oh absolutely. i am very careful with who i choose to discuss this with. proud to say that one girl that i made friends with last year is actually well on her way to the epiphany. but years of systemic brainwashing is hard to overcome. especially as we come from a country where pickmeism is utterly rampant, more so than in the western world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:59 PM
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It's always worth trying, but immediately change the topic if I see the convo going nowhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:57 PM
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I personally think it's somewhat worth it, but only if they themselves show interest and ask questions in order to understand you. Usually you can tell if it's sincere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:54 PM
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Yes! I can count on one hand the number of times someone had to do this to me. If they ever did- it was the first and the last time because I'm not an asshole. If I found myself not caring about the situation or the person- I just let go of them, not keep them in a pathetic limbo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:19 PM
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Honestly she sounds like she was disappointed WAY too many times by him and laughing is the only thing that she can do besides crying. It doesn't even sound sincere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 11:41 AM
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The daughter sounds so done and I'm so proud of her. The mother is a 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:13 PM
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Yup, you'd think that the people closest to you would want only the best for you. Well, they do, but what we consider best for us can starkly contrast their view of "best". I refuse to settle just so I'm finally "accepted" into this warped world of "normal". Apparently me being alone in my 20s with my cat and having standards is "odd". Ahhh I'm heated, I'll stop now haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 10:22 AM
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Constantly gaslit by my grandmother. I get it, old age values etc etc but I constantly have to explain that a guy not being an alcoholic and not physically assaulting me- does not automatically make him a good match for me. She wants me to settle so bad and it's so difficult because I adore her and this behaviour has started very recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:35 AM
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Also ND here (Adhd) and am looking forward to the answers. The first thought that comes to mind- use the friends to lovers method? Because of the pandemic I didn't get the opportunity to make any friends after I moved to a new place, but that will change soon and I'm just looking forward to expanding my circles and seizing the romantic opportunities that way. It feels way more natural and the chances of idealising and hyperfixating may be smaller? Idk. I for sure feel your struggle though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:12 PM
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Absolutely do not get involved. HOWEVER, if you feel like it's doable- use your colleagues to network, get involved in leisure activities with them to expand your social circle and eventually you might find someone that way. It could be your colleagues brother/his old classmate, or cousin etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:25 PM
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This is more exciting than anything I've ever experienced in a partnership ahah Let's gooo! 💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:29 PM
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Deleted today before I even read this! Too many men are just SO not interesting and the audacity that they possess is through the roof. I was done. Just got selected to partner with someone very famous and respected in my industry and am starting a course in 3 weeks that will kick off my career. It will be a summer of learning, career opportunities and networking! 😌💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:47 PM
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Yesss, same! Ignoring the gut feeling always ends badly, and I hate that it makes me feel so paranoid moments before shit goes down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:31 AM
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My 17yo sister once sent this to me and I was SO damn proud in that moment that she already is beginning to understand the game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:11 AM
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I've just escaped one! They were so subtle with it too- no shouting, no name calling and so on. He seemed like a hvm at first, buying a second property at the age of 25, EMT job and then other extra jobs, car owned outright with no credit, no drinking etc. But we had a very similar upbringing and neither of us has a good relationship with our parents. However, I went to therapy and he did not. That should've been the first red flag because the unresolved mommy AND daddy issues are simply not wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:41 AM
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Most ladies here have covered it, so I'll say what subtle things to look for. They treat their wealth and status as a side effect of their honest work, not something that was their goal. Paying for/buying things is done in a discreet way, no weird ick on your part about it because he's so natural with it. He does care about your career/ goals/values more than if you went to St. Barths before like he did. Huge focus is on books, inspirational figures, appreciation for nature, philosophy and arts.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:35 PM
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