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| 25 | THIS is why we don’t date men who insist on going dutch!! He’s the gold digger!!!I'm gonna go out on a limb here and guess that his parents raised him to save his own money while providing everything for him. Really common among people who have money but no class, not seeing the big picture like that. He's looking for someone who will play mommy to him in the absolute worst way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:58 PM |
| 8 | “DoNt LoOk FoR a SeRiOuS rElAtIoNsHiP oN tInDeR”We win by not playing their games. It's that simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 02:13 AM |
| 36 | “DoNt LoOk FoR a SeRiOuS rElAtIoNsHiP oN tInDeR”I would imagine that the guys saying this see it as a hookup app rather than as a dating app. You know, the same guys who will breadcrumb you and use PUA strategies specifically to get women to believe in a fantasy relationship they're not actually in, and then say "what do you expect from Tinder?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 08:18 AM |
| 3 | My new boyfriend made me join this sub?This is so wholesome, welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 03:36 AM |
| 100 | Beware of guys saying they want someone "smart and funny" on their dating profilesTranslation: "I want someone who makes me feel smart and funny." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 02:52 AM |
| 3 | Want to look LV and desperate? Be taken for granted? Put on your clown nose and go right on ahead.Hope it helps! Stay strong, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Are you sureee you’re looking for someone smart? Are you positiveeee you’re only 27?Whether consciously or not, they mean they're looking for someone who wants to be thought of as smart and is at least a bit insecure about it. Guys who are actually into smart women speak about it differently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 12:41 AM |
| 28 | One of my personal dating rules:Never date a man who states he is looking for a woman with "a sense of humour"What he's doing when he says this is, quite simply, trying to put you on the defensive. He's both testing and grooming you for manipulation. You're right, there's almost nobody who is truly humorless. But he doesn't want you to think about that. He wants you to think, well, of course I have a sense of humor, but to know subconsciously that he's looking out for the lack thereof as a reason to reject you. This primes you to look at the situation as, "he picked me for my sense of humor, and he migh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 02:47 AM |
| 24 | Are these red flags?An apology without changed behavior is just manipulation. This guy has no respect for you at all. And talking about how you're "so chilled" is also manipulation. He's trying to push you into attempting to be consistent with a "positive" image he's made of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 04:00 PM |
| 6 | Former Mistake Trying to Flirt AgainCongrats on the level up, sis, I'm proud of you for putting mistakes like him in the past. 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 10:02 PM |
| 23 | Former Mistake Trying to Flirt AgainIn what world does a shameless and pathetic pity play count as flirting? Y'all thinking it does should really think about what goes into that. Flirting is supposed to be something that lifts each other up, not just LVM trying to manipulate women's nurturing instinct in order to control our behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 04:28 PM |
| 27 | Narcissist pretending to be a victim, acts entitled to his girlfriends body, treats her like a fleshlight and acts surprised when she loses interest.Nothing about this is good. It sounds like she's using porn addiction as an escape from an unhealthy relationship with a guy she shouldn't be with in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 01:40 AM |
| 9 | "The Sociopath Next Door" by Matha Stout should be MANDATORY READING for all women. It is on the same level of mind-blowing as Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That?" The worst men out there are probably just straight-up sociopaths, have no conscience, and therefore irredeemable.Not all sociopaths are malignant. But that's a clear "Hey! I resemble that remark!" from them, as far as I can tell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 02:53 AM |
| 37 | "The Sociopath Next Door" by Matha Stout should be MANDATORY READING for all women. It is on the same level of mind-blowing as Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That?" The worst men out there are probably just straight-up sociopaths, have no conscience, and therefore irredeemable.Such a great book. One of the things that a lot of people don't think about is that if they're the type of person that is targeted by sociopaths, they can start to act like one by suppressing their own conscience. We become who we surround ourselves with. Unfortunately, for many reasons, sociopathic behavior is completely normalized in many communities. And you can bet that they'll often try to replicate their behavior in others, as long as it leads to an increase in their advantage. Everyone sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 11:32 PM |
| 120 | This might be the lowest value non-violent male everThis is what we call “financial abuse.” This is the kind of guy who will pressure her into splitting everything down to the damn penny, combined with expecting her to do the domestic work in order to show her gratitude for his “nice” $1800 apartment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 04:43 AM |
| 26 | LVM want you to think this is a pipe dreamYou can tell he's sketchy just from this tweet. Sure, he's saying things that we want to hear. But he's doing it in a way to create a hierarchy between himself and other men. It's entirely about the game, not caring about women or holding other guys to a higher standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 12:10 AM |
| 53 | Was talking to a guy friend of mine and he said "that alpha men don't want relationships", so I should give up on looking for someone with an alpha personality.He's not your friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 11:25 PM |
| 59 | When you are ”nice” and men automatically think you’re “flirting”You can't get personal with guys without them seeing it as flirting. You can have shared hobbies, or be colleagues, but the moment you start opening up to them about personal matters or being their emotional support in any way that isn't specifically goal oriented, that means you're establishing mutual vulnerability. That's something reserved for family or potential family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 09:04 PM |
| 6 | 3 Lies...typical scroteSo he’s counting it in a newborn’s foot size, named his Minecraft server Bolivia, or didn’t learn to hold his breath until he was nine years old? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 08:57 PM |
| 13 | LVM want you to believe that if you communicate better, it will make up for their refusal to hear you. Don't believe that shit. HVM will consistently put the effort in to understand your perspective.Congrats on the level up, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 01:55 AM |
| 10 | “There’s no one else like me!”I stopped using Tinder when it started giving me notifications that I had over 10,000 likes. As if I want to sift through that with the %age of LVM out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 03:44 AM |
| 36 | Starfish Sex = She Doesn’t Want to Fuck You. If this is a habitual occurrence, you’re definitely a creep and probably a rapist.Imagine thinking that lasting a long pounding is sexy. What a pornsicko. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 02:58 PM |
| 24 | DAE Hate when guys over compliment you."I hope you're sleeping for your appearance rather than your health!" Super classy. Probably thinks he's coming across as cute and attentive just because it's a reference to a conversation you had. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Welp... it happened to meDamn, I'm sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:39 PM |
| 18 | Case Study: Online Dating vs WomenOne time, I actually collected data after reactivating my OKC profile. Out of the 200+ messages I received in the first day, ~85%+ of them consisted of the following formula: Greeting, usually uninspired Comment on my appearance and conspicuous absence of any reference to my profile, other than my pictures, with an approximately 70% rate of blatant negging Invitation for low-effort date or hookup I found that having a picture taken in my friend’s dirty ass mirror, with a caption saying that my f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 10:27 PM |
| 9 | Is it a red flag? How to react in a HVW way ?Trust your gut, sis, it's not steering you wrong. Subtle put downs poorly conceal the disrespect that men are just hiding in order to get in your pants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 07:23 PM |
| 13 | Interesting side effect of levelling/growing up ... hard to listen to Drake lol"Basically" is an understatement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 05:37 PM |
| 13 | Intimacy Shaming: Anyone else experience these? Or am I the wrong one?Glad you got out! Guys like that are unredeemable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:26 AM |
| 86 | Intimacy Shaming: Anyone else experience these? Or am I the wrong one?He's trying to make you insecure and get you into a people-pleasing mindset in order to control you. This is an attempt to groom you for further mistreatment. Never tolerate that. ETA: It's also an attempt to put you into the mindset of competing with other women. So many red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:13 AM |
| 9 | Why would a man be a bachelor later in life if he claims he has always wanted a family?I think it's worth distinguishing between men who say they "always wanted kids" and men who say they "always wanted kids [after a certain career milestone that will give them a good quality of life]" or that kind of thing. But a HVM knows his priorities and will own up to having other ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 12:22 AM |
| 10 | Another trash take on Twitter implying that women have no agency of their own, and that we are simply what men create us to be.He's so performative. Tells on himself with that last tweet. I assume he will then slide into their DMs and play the woke signaling game to get pickmeisha nudes. If he were for real, it wouldn't be about getting him inbound attention like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 10:57 PM |
| 29 | Why would a man be a bachelor later in life if he claims he has always wanted a family?That's when the role-swapping stories come out where he's the one who wanted kids and his gf was reluctant, even though in reality it was the other way around or the reluctance came from the way he treated her... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 08:17 PM |
| 92 | Why would a man be a bachelor later in life if he claims he has always wanted a family?One of two options: They're playing you They realized they want a family as a status symbol and want to appear consistent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Rihanna Donates $4.2 Million to Domestic Violence Victims Impacted by COVID-19 LockdownsThat's a great idea! I was originally thinking of going to my women in security contacts as well as seeing if I could get a warm intro to Rihanna through my music industry contacts. The thing I worry about with programs like that is leaving too much of a paper trail. But I can think of legal entity structures that might mitigate that. So I'll see what my counsel says once I get the first seed funding from people who are personally invested in the cause. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 07:43 PM |
| 21 | Rihanna Donates $4.2 Million to Domestic Violence Victims Impacted by COVID-19 LockdownsCool, I hope it'll be possible to get community members involved with appropriate vetting and NDAs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 06:35 AM |
| 2 | Cheated on after toxic relationship (I’ll be honest, on both sides)The way you're describing this sounds like you were in a pattern of reactive abuse. Here's a good article on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 06:33 AM |
| 13 | Rihanna Donates $4.2 Million to Domestic Violence Victims Impacted by COVID-19 LockdownsI don’t know a single woman in cybersecurity who wasn’t inspired by either needing it or seeing someone else need it. More devices and more complex software means more potential for vulnerability. I’m really looking forward to when Tall Poppy is released to the public. My friend is one of their early investors and it’s got a lot of backing in the women-in-hacking community. My goal in packaging it in a game is to have something that it’s “normal” to spend a lot of time with. I want to make it so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 03:56 AM |
| 16 | Rihanna Donates $4.2 Million to Domestic Violence Victims Impacted by COVID-19 LockdownsOoh, I bet that’s a great resource! I just looked at their app store reviews and there’s a ton of valuable feedback to take into account. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 03:35 AM |
| 2 | Tired of LVM posts? Here's how to use search to customize your FDS experience!Glad it helps! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 10:30 PM |
| 167 | Rihanna Donates $4.2 Million to Domestic Violence Victims Impacted by COVID-19 LockdownsI want people to steal this idea. Edit: Aww, thanks for the award! It’s true, though. I’d love for this to inspire others to go out and do similar projects. Find ways to incorporate support into as many hidden places in society as possible. Make sure victims know that instead of being judged, they have somewhere safe to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 09:36 PM |
| 259 | Rihanna Donates $4.2 Million to Domestic Violence Victims Impacted by COVID-19 LockdownsI want to build an app to help domestic violence victims get help while hiding it from their abusers. Like a game that has a hidden mode that allows friends to check in, donations to a fuck-off fund, that kind of thing, but hides it all under cute graphics and scripted game interactions. Whispernet based referral only for that account tier, but the game is open to everyone so it’s not suspicious. And I want her to invest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 08:41 PM |
| 7 | This sub is turning into a LVM hall of fameIf you’re on the Reddit official mobile app, you can only use search. But here’s a guide with lots of information on different options! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 08:35 PM |
| 13 | Tired of LVM posts? Here's how to use search to customize your FDS experience!Try flair:"pickmeisha hall of fame" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 03:01 PM |
| 32 | This sub is turning into a LVM hall of fameHow many of us wouldn't have recognized just how bad it was without concrete examples to relate to? But if you want to customize what you're seeing, here's a quick tip: Search the sub with eg -flair:"LVM Logic" (replace between the quotes) in the search bar. For multiple post flairs filtered out, add AND in the middle, like -flair:"LVM Logic" AND -flair:"#JustLVMThings". You can use AND just once or multiple times. You don't have to capitalize it a special way, I just did that for readability. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 02:43 PM |
| 112 | LVM really get intimidated by women who have standards.Sounds like he's been on reddit too much, you're clearly fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 02:14 PM |
| 2 | What are 5 things you love about yourself?Thank you so much! I feel very lucky my parents raised me with figuring things out as one of my core drives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 03:52 AM |
| 1 | "I ignored everything I read in the FDS handbook, is this relationship still salvageable???"You got this, stay strong sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 03:04 AM |
| 5 | Don't even know where to startIn general, open is an established couple that hooks up with people, versus poly being about multiple full on relationships. Not that either one is worth it, lol. But it's probably worth knowing, I've known LV people who massively pressure their targets with "oh, it's not just about fucking other people, you just don't know what poly is really about, love is unlimited, I already feel entitled to your affection even though you're skeeved out by me," and sometimes they lean heavily on coercion and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 12:24 AM |
| 3 | Don't even know where to startI haven't encountered that, it sounds like an "open relationship" thing rather than a poly thing though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 11:26 PM |
| 11 | Don't even know where to startOh god, in my head I heard the “well, ACKSHUALLY” from a guy about how it’s his god given right to avoid showers and it’s unethical to judge him for it. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 08:43 PM |
| 11 | Don't even know where to startAll it means is “my partners actually know I’m seeing multiple people.” These people are almost never ethical otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 08:36 PM |
| 21 | Don't even know where to startI spent a few years in that kind of community, and I have stories, holy shit. I had specific things I was trying to accomplish to support my life, mainly having to do with the fact that a man once told me “I don’t know if I can afford you, but we probably both can together,” but all I really encountered was abusive culture and LV bullshit. If you have to talk about how ethical you are, instead of it shining through in every action you take, you are not fucking ethical. There is definitely a much… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.I can totally understand not thinking to block someone when they were the one who went non contact in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 06:25 PM |
| 26 | What are 5 things you love about yourself?I love that I'm smart enough to get to collaborate with some of the most brilliant minds in the world on a mission that is going to help a lot of people. I love that I am the most resourceful person I've ever known, and genuinely approach things with an "I don't know how to do that yet, but why would I have to?" attitude. I love that I managed to build a career in private influence without trying because I make everyone around me better just by being there, without any pushing. I love my relatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 06:05 PM |
| 5 | Welp... it happened to meEw, I have several friends in common with him. The opposite of my type... but you've successfully gotten this into the whispernet in his proximity. ETA: Oh, shit, I actually think he's affiliated with the similar-personality ex who tried a coronavirus pity play on my boyfriend. That community is such trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 05:48 PM |
| 14 | LVM in the time of CoronavirusHe didn't wash his hands... 😦🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.Not really that exciting. She texted and left him a missed call, the text just said that she got a concussion. That was enough to get him to text back and make sure she was safe. Once he answered, she started telling him a sob story about it happening a week ago. I asked him what he would have done if she really had alienated everybody else with her unmanaged personality disorder and needed help, and he might have called her an uber to the hospital or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 03:24 PM |
| 11 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.Proud of you. You don't deserve any less than to figure out what you really want and go for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 03:07 PM |
| 6 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.You're acting like you got an axe to grind and you're being unreasonable over it. Quit projecting your own shit onto other people. One of the fundamental truths about manipulative, personality disordered people is that they hide who they are as long as they're getting what they want. The girl I posted about did a bunch of really fucked up stuff to me, after they broke up. I guess she thought that would be the best way to get me out of the picture or something. I thought she was cool because we'd… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 03:05 PM |
| 135 | Men are co-opting FDS principles and it's concerningThe problem with men using FDS principles is they're trying to be women. No wonder they end up feeling so emasculated all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 07:44 AM |
| 4 | Ladies, level up and go to therapy....Spot on. I've also found some other great resources like this blog that I keep linking to people who need to read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 05:12 AM |
| 7 | Ladies, level up and go to therapy....It took me personally far too long to realize that people who didn't seem toxic on the surface, but tolerated shitty behavior, would not just expose me to the most toxic people but would then pressure me to tolerate things that were simply unacceptable. And they'd criticize me for ever calling it out or even so much as asking why they would tolerate that. Usually because they had an out of control anxious attachment style and couldn't stand the idea of ever disconnecting from anybody, ever. I en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 02:45 AM |
| 5 | How many of us talk so much shit because we want to punish our past Pickmeisha selves? Accountability and grace are NOT mutually exclusive!Proud of you, sis. Glad it helps center you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 01:32 AM |
| 3 | How many of us talk so much shit because we want to punish our past Pickmeisha selves? Accountability and grace are NOT mutually exclusive!Thank you, done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 01:32 AM |
| 8 | I think it's okay to read romance novelsI read this book called The Kiss Quotient that stood out. It was a gender-swapped Pretty Woman with an autistic lady protagonist. She hired a male escort to try to get over her issues being touched so she could try to have a "real" relationship involving sex. He was tired of being pursued by his clients and found fulfillment in actually pursuing her for once. Her autism was actually a pretty interesting stand-in for making some FDS type things more acceptable to the reader. She was very innocent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 11:43 PM |
| 21 | Ladies, level up and go to therapy....Not everybody does well with therapy. I don't. I found it to be an infinite parade of nothing but admonitions to stop second guessing myself, so I quit looking for external validation from therapy, stopped second guessing myself, and started surrounding myself with people who shared my values. That fixed everything, pending my ability to finish completely removing "undesirables" who act against those values. My friendships are fucking amazing, and I've become so much more of a community leader. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 11:28 PM |
| 42 | Comments are shaming the OP for not wanting to stick it out with borderline obese bf who refuses to eat like an adult even though she says she isn’t concerned about his looks and only about his health🤦♀️A guy could never keep up with my lifestyle or do the specific health related activities I want to share with a partner if he was fat. I am especially disgusted by guys who let themselves go after finding a woman willing to date them. It's just so fucking fake. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 11:16 PM |
| 16 | Just got dumped "for now", should I go back? NAH, SIS.Lmao one of my men tried to pull this shit once. He cofounded something with some of the biggest shitbags I've ever met because he thought they were his friends... you live, you learn, it was his first and I made that mistake too with the first company I ever started. But I told him that if he ditches me on the come up of my current project, just because he encountered a particularly costly setback and I don't think it's my job to shift my focus to his problems unless he's spoiling the absolute … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever left a good man for no real reason?He doesn't share your core values and there is something missing, regardless of whether you know what it is. Stop dating until you clarify that to yourself. If you don't know what you really want, you will end up settling for what makes you feel good in the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 09:46 PM |
| 59 | She screwed this dusty troll and he complains! This is the reality of LVM. They’re never happy because they’re deeply inadequate. DISGUSTING! Most of these women sadly find out most of those men barely scraped plane ticket money to get there!His...wow...his eyes are shaped totally differently from each other... and he's grossed out by leg hair??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 05:25 PM |
| 4 | Missing verbal affirmations in my relationship.People come from different norms. They have different defaults. Spending six months without even finding out some of the most basic things that make a woman he's dating feel loved? That is a LV default. It doesn't matter what the love languages involved are, he didn't bother learning hers for a whole six months. The only excuse he really has is if she behaved like a total pickmeisha and acted enthusiastic about his lack of the kind of affection she needed. She shouldn't be telling him it makes h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 05:17 PM |
| 20 | Missing verbal affirmations in my relationship.It would take a 15-second conversation with a real HVM to fix this issue immediately. And even then, I'd be sketched out that he has not bothered to figure that out on his own. He might have come from different norms but that doesn't exempt him from figuring out how to make you feel cared for. Which he should have been doing the whole time, regardless of whether he loves you yet or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:29 PM |
| 3 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?I think you might've read "make sure he leaves" different from how I meant it. Guarding the fortress, not assaulting him just to scare him off or anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 06:10 PM |
| 6 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?If you're in an area where calling the cops would be an issue, you can always get a couple large guys you trust to show up and make sure he leaves (with ZERO contact between you and the ex, of course). But don't let him speak a damn word to you. He clearly doesn't deserve it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 04:42 PM |
| 20 | Whose blocking and deleting game gotten better?Before FDS: Ignore most men, but still tolerate or brush off shitty behavior online out of some twisted libfem-originated sense of obligation to give everyone a chance. After FDS: Say hello to my little friend [blocks anyone who looks at me sideways, indiscriminately] I've really been starting to identify who in my circles were LV masquerading as HV. Since I started being that much more exclusive with my social attention in general, my circles went from being eclectic in value to... well... all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 07:12 PM |
| 34 | Here's a great(and fun) way to out filter men, that me and my friends have tried and has been proven accurateI find it's not about the books themselves, but his relationship with them. Is it about entertainment, a relatable protagonist, wish fulfillment, escapism, learning? How does he apply what he gets from reading in the real world? I prefer men who consume information strategically (investing intellectual capital with deliberate thought to returns), and who enjoy learning about opposing viewpoints without having to adopt them. If someone thinks reading or understanding something necessitates agreei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 07:02 PM |
| 19 | #vanlife- is that code for #nojob?I know people who do remote work from vans or RVs from national parks, to sustain an outdoor lifestyle, that kind of thing. It's a bit different from the van-by-the-river thing. But if you're not the kind of person who would do that kind of thing yourself, you're probably not their dreamgirl. They don't "date." They court people with the same lifestyle goals online or meet them on a trail somewhere. If you're not into the kind of lifestyle where you're taking your hunting dogs on trips all seaso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 04:02 AM |
| 17 | Taken from r/dating : is this a happy tale?He wasn't jealous of them hitting on her and worried they'd take her away from him. He was worried about his own inability to pull women in the same way because he was comparing himself as if in competition with her. Essentially, they break up and he can't have better stats than she does in the outcome afterwards... that means he will consider himself to have lost in that way. Because for men, literally everything has a winner and a loser. As long as they can find a way to make a comparison, the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 07:34 PM |
| 15 | Taken from r/dating : is this a happy tale?He's so self centered that he doesn't see the connection between taking her for granted and her being unhappy inside! And he claims that was figuring out who she "really" was. It couldn't possibly be a natural response to being taken for granted by a scrote who admits outright he let himself go as soon as he attained the prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Husband did a LVM thing todaySomeone should tell her how he's talking about her to his coworkers. Anonymously. Just a thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 02:26 AM |
| 20 | The Gaming Community and How it Shapes Vulnerable Young WomenI'm sorry you had this experience with the gaming community. It's really full of toxic and immature dudes. My pickmeisha days did not really overlap with my gaming days. In my gaming days, I learned how to play the guys' dominance games and win, which involved having to learn the rules. It's a version of "you flinch, you lose." They're testing where you fall in their own pecking order. And they assume because you lack a Y chromosome they can go for the lazy option to "win," which is to jump righ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 04:42 AM |
| 14 | I asked him why he's poly and the answer is what you'd expect.The only way I've seen poly work is in female led relationships, where a group of men is specifically working to provide for an equal or smaller number of women. The mid stage of FDS where we are seeing multiple men before there is a solid commitment is an example of this in action. It's not like it doesn't help them, either. If they don't learn how to put their focus on one woman and be appropriately attentive, they will keep bullshitting themselves with the "numbers game" myth that stands in t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 06:08 PM |
| 19 | Am I overreacting to this message?Watch out for when people ask questions that way, implying that there's definitely a right answer as opposed to genuinely trying to confirm something they have reason to think is true. Huge yellow flag for coercive and entitled behavior. Unless you had previous dates at 7, even that small assumption is pretty sketchy. He should be asking if that works for you, or what works for you. A guy who does what he did is setting you up to habitually agree with his decisions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 05:23 PM |
| 7 | Be careful and be aware of mirroring/trying on your personality.If you really "just click" with someone, that will still be the case when you take things at a healthy pace. In fact, it's a reason to take your time. If you can't enjoy the connection without feeling too attached or needing to accelerate things, that is a strong warning sign of emotional immaturity in one or both of you. He could be a manipulative LVM. You could be acting like a pickmeisha. But either one of those things, when a relationship is allowed to continue, can bring out the counterpart… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 04:28 PM |
| 30 | Being "too sensitive" is not a bad thing.. in fact you're almost naturally "leveled up" because of it!Anybody telling you not to trust your gut is trying to control you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 10:51 PM |
| 4 | What to do if you slipped up and appeared too available , next steps to take to draw back/take back control? How to get him to chase you over text ?My script for this is: Find a way to apologize for it without calling myself "too much." This could be something like, "Sorry if I don't text as much as I did the other day, I was waiting at the pharmacy and forgot my book." Or "My roommate insisted we watch a movie I don't like every night this week and I was bored, but I'm usually way too busy to text after dinner." Set expectations that it was nonstandard, then don't do it again. This implies that I had a short streak of increased availabilit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 10:04 PM |
| 2 | What's your Meyers Briggs?It gets better. ;) The extroverted thinking/introverted intuition thing can be super inconvenient, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 09:42 PM |
| 8 | Looking for positive stories of meeting a HVM after a bad relationship?Don't forget that you will never rebound out of a bad relationship into a HVM. If you think you do, 99%+ chance it's lovebombing. A HVM will wait for you to heal. He will be attentive enough to be able to tell whether you need friendship or space, then will respectfully make his move when he has reason to believe you're ready. The surest way to attract a HVM after a bad relationship is to fully heal and get back to being aligned with your inner self. That's when you shine the most. Eta: I forgot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 04:36 AM |
| 6 | The 3 dumbasses who comment on every one of my IG postsBlock those people early and often. You won't regret it. Hold your community to a higher standard and they will stop driving away higher quality audience. Which I guarantee you they are. Some of your other followers are over there wondering why you tolerate it and what that says about you. Part of running a social profile for an audience is that getting rid of assholes isn't an ego thing, it's also to protect your followers from having to deal with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 04:24 PM |
| 22 | Why Intelligent and High Performing Fall for Toxic Partners (Article)Watch out for toxic people around them, too. Some malignant narcissists collect flying monkeys that they "support" in developing toxic and controlling relationships, insulating themselves from direct blame. ETA: That's why I had to learn my lesson twice instead of just once. The second narcissist was a girl who inserted herself into all my connections and manipulated them into crazymaking behaviors in order to attempt to project her toxicity onto me. It was sincerely absurd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Getting involved with LVM is like playing with fire—my friend's bf was just shot to death, leaving her behind three months pregnantYou're setting off red flags for me because this isn't tough love, it's literally just shit talking a victim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Getting involved with LVM is like playing with fire—my friend's bf was just shot to death, leaving her behind three months pregnantI knew she was a Pickmeisha. But I've been out of touch with her, was shocked by the extent of where it went, and am concerned for her well-being now that I heard the news. This is probably not an appropriate time to talk shit, and appending "not to be harsh" doesn't really change that. The expected outcome was that it wasn't my responsibility to save her because I don't try to control people. Now that this has happened, it's the appropriate time to make sure she has access to support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:37 PM |
| 13 | Getting involved with LVM is like playing with fire—my friend's bf was just shot to death, leaving her behind three months pregnantYeah. Fuck. I met this friend during the time I was learning my lesson about having batshit narcissist girlfriends (not her), and when I healed my shit and got my boundaries back in order, I kinda left her behind. But I always hoped she'd work through her shit so she wouldn't keep trying to band-aid over her issues with relationships. Now he's not even alive to pay her child support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:39 AM |
| 16 | Helpless"I totally understand that all this values-based lifestyle stuff makes sense when things are good, but when things are tough, I have to go into survival mode and I can't look at the big picture" Uhhhhhhhhhh. So let me get this straight... you're in "survival mode" ... which means getting out of touch with the underlying goals and values that motivate you, because you'd somehow rather run around like a chicken with your head cut off than get straight with yourself so you can prioritize and execut… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:02 AM |
| 18 | Your well being is more important than their ego, period. Entitlement is a sure sign of low value. Don't let anyone degrade you for guarding your valuable time and attention!Giving explanations does more harm than good. They can look at basic norms of respect, integrity, and human decency for their explanations. If those are all being fulfilled, then they can just accept that things didn't work out. There doesn't have to be a reason. Why would anyone want to go around projecting their ex's needs onto their next, anyway? Look at the entire "nice guy" movement who latched onto our explanations of why we were dissatisfied with relationship norms and decided that trying… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 02:58 AM |
| 15 | Your well being is more important than their ego, period. Entitlement is a sure sign of low value. Don't let anyone degrade you for guarding your valuable time and attention!It's not abusive on either side unless it's part of some kind of breadcrumbing or push-pull coercive bullshit. Even HVM can sometimes have been burned by desperate pickmes reacting poorly if they didn't just ghost prior to making any real commitments. But it's something we definitely shouldn't tolerate from someone and then keep going back to them for more. That's a great way to end up in a relationship that actually ends up turning into a LV match made in hell, or even abusive. It's also someth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 11:21 PM |
| 21 | What the meanest thing you’ve said to a guy who deserved it?For goodness's sake, when you google people before dating them it's in order to think about potential broad topics of conversation in advance, or to measure the difference between how they present themselves in person versus online, not to facilitate an interrogation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 04:43 AM |
| 10 | Woman asks if she's the asshole for letting a man pay for their date, Reddit says yesIf you offer and he lets you pay, he's not trying to impress you. Seems like a great weed-out technique to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 05:25 PM |
| 12 | Daily reminder that neither being wealthy nor cultured means a male is safe: Famous opera singer has concerts canceled after "an investigation commissioned into sexual harassment allegations has found that the legendary tenor engaged in 'inappropriate conduct' with multiple women"Many men are driven to become wealthy because it's the best way they have access to of controlling others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 05:19 PM |
| 14 | What should you do when you have a tendency attract LVM and the "loser" type of guys?LVM cast a wide net. You don't attract them any more than anybody else does. You tolerate them more. Stop that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:13 PM |
| 9 | How he responds to praise is just as important as how he responds to "no."Ugh. If he thought a compliment meant you were trying to control him and would expect him to only do that, it says a lot about what his compliments really meant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 01:11 AM |
| 37 | When a woman refused to give her boyfriend money, he went to her house and decapitated her children in front of her before stabbing her to death. Supporting men financially can be DEADLY. They hate you for it, and when you withdraw from the abuse the results are often horrific.Just heard the sound of a bunch of scrotes frantically typing to try to search for this because of their broken sarcasm detectors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 06:07 PM |
| 7 | Getting called out for dating aroundHey look, another so-called man who's just a big pile of red flags in a trench coat! He shouldn't have made it this far after being so shitty to you. You'll do better next time, after you block this scrote and never look back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 06:02 PM |
| 11 | How to become a racist LibFem or TradWife Pickmeisha in one helpful illustration! Brought to you by the racists at r/TradWife!It might be worth being aware that the underlying basis of the conservative position isn't "if you pick a good man, you'll be safe from the bad ones." It's more like "if we set the bar that low, men will think they're all entitled to our attention without work." Which isn't wrong. Every life and relationship philosophy can be corrupted into its own LVM/Pickmeisha dynamic, no matter what truth is underneath it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:54 PM |
| 1 | “I thought he was HVM!”Thank you 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 05:52 PM |
| 16 | “I thought he was HVM!”What a great way of putting it. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. It’s the core of what’s taught in a number of elite philosophies. But people get caught up focusing on the specific behaviors, instead of thinking about the reasoning behind it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:44 AM |
| 3 | I cannot stress this enough, young ladiesPeople who have gotten through that kind of struggle and come out the other side are some of the kindest souls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:40 PM |
| 3 | FDS Therapy Tools: The Stages of ChangeI was raised FDS by my mom. Parents were both high value. Got caught by narcissists a couple times, first was one I actually dated, while the second was an absolutely malignant narcissistic pickmeisha who wreaked havoc on everybody she went near. I spent a year and a half with this batshit narcissist character assassinating me behind my back for implementing FDS principles (and wondering why people would think that about me and where it was coming from). This community shattered all the gaslight… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:13 PM |
| 7 | Apparently, my sister and I are "shallow" because she doesn't want to date a guy and I'm telling her she doesn't have toMen don't call it "pity dating." They call it "using this desperate bitch for sex." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:59 PM |
| 36 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?He's testing how well he can control your behavior by guilt tripping you. 90%+ odds this comes along with eventual cheating and "but I never actually said I was going to be exclusive!" after he "never asked you to be exclusive" but somehow "doesn't believe you're serious" unless you're exclusive with him. Run the fuck away yesterday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 09:50 PM |
| 8 | Apparently it is perfectly plausible to men to be so black out drunk that the entire memory of their girlfriend is wiped which prompts them to cheat (but constantly deny women’s stories of rape because she doesn’t remember one specific detail due to be intoxicated while raped)The cat meowed, the roomie meowed back, the cat meowed again, the roomie launched into "NOBODY asked you, you're just a kitty-cat!" 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 07:13 PM |
| 11 | No to drinks/coffee... but what about lunch?I would personally see this as a green flag, all else being equal. You generally learn more about a person's "real life" getting a glimpse into their daytime routines than their nighttime ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 07:03 PM |
| 25 | How do you heal abandonment issues and prevent it from making you clingy in life? Success stories?Therapists are valuable, but the most important thing I've seen for the most people has been finding not one, but three sources of support: 1 - The friends who don't even know about your issues and only get to see you at your best. These are your acquaintances or broader community that you have good times with but don't feel the need to open up to. These people remind you how the world responds to your best self. But if you focus too hard on this group, you won't feel seen or supported. 2 - The … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 06:53 PM |
| 21 | Apparently it is perfectly plausible to men to be so black out drunk that the entire memory of their girlfriend is wiped which prompts them to cheat (but constantly deny women’s stories of rape because she doesn’t remember one specific detail due to be intoxicated while raped)I blacked out drunk once due to hormonal changes, got angry at a boyfriend because he left a box on the bed, and immediately decided I could not wait for him to move it and was going to sleep cuddled with a pillow on the floor. My college roommate blacked out drunk once and very animatedly lectured the cat about something-or-another. People aren't "unable to control themselves" while drunk, smdh. They are fully cognizant in the moment that LV society lets them use drunkenness as an excuse, so th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 06:28 PM |
| 16 | Long post. In deep, child involved, need serious help.Are you sure his ex wife is crazy, with the behavior you're describing from him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 05:55 AM |
| 4 | Husband wants wife to sit by herself all day instead of enjoying her free time on work tripThere was no purpose to the overall story of mentioning she's the breadwinner. A guy asking for that kind of advice wouldn't typically bring in something that both makes him seem vulnerable and undermines his position without much rhetorical gain. On the other hand there are plenty of guys out there who really are that socially inept. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 04:46 PM |
| 15 | After First Date vs 3 Weeks Later (feat. me being a pick-me double texter and bread-crumbing)... he has been ghosted :)Red flags. With flashing lights and sirens. You dodged a bullet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 04:25 PM |
| 31 | Liberal Feminists really convinced a whole generation of women that Polygamist marriage is wrong, patriarchal, & oppressive to women but Polyamory is progressive and open minded and people are wrong for “shaming” them or being judgmental. It’s not bigamy if you call it a throuple! 🤡Polyamory is like one of those hippie commune fantasies. You occasionally might catch glimpses or hear rumors of a group that's hidden, not looking for attention, that is matriarchal and possibly fully lesbian and just works. But the poly scene is a bunch of cultlike control and compliance shit, and it is NOT worth wading through that muck. Male led open polyamory has its roots in norms set by a known abuser, Franklin Veaux. He co-authored the popular polyamory book More Than Two, and later wrot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 07:27 PM |
| 25 | I‘m afraid my hatred will keep me from forming meaningful relationships with menEarlier in my life, I realized almost all of my sexual and romantic "attraction" was just wishful thinking and I was totally barking up the wrong tree. I could be totally off-base, but your post kind of sounds like what happens when someone is really deep in the closet. It's common to end up trying really hard and projecting all your hopes onto them when you really want to want them, but you just don't. Then you end up building this aesthetic you're attracted to, but it's really more about the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:48 AM |
| 3 | Shows how stupid some men are in 2020Is it bad that I thought, "at least he seems to know what a clitoris looks like?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:20 AM |
| 12 | Female sexual desire and Long-Term RelationshipsWhen your partner becomes less desirable because they stop trying and let themselves go, and you wonder if something's wrong with you because of it... ugh... it's not worth it to even be friends with people who stop trying in life, if you want to get anywhere! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 08:32 PM |
| 12 | Should I friend dump a pickmeisha in my life?This person is your enemy, not your friend. She deliberately undermines you. You don't need that in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 08:18 PM |
| 136 | This guy seems to be doing all the right things, but something feels off. Advice?95% of guys should set off warning bells, and you should never stop listening to your intuition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:45 AM |
| 5 | Was I a HVW?That last bit... "sweet to cold" ... that is some especially coercive shit, he's trying to establish that you are required to be sweet and kind to him no matter what he does. You acting unhappy when he hurts you is the most basic of accountability and consequences! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Don’t fall for this LVM / BPD shit! They don’t actually care, and you’re not their mom.This is some scary ass love bombing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 03:58 AM |
| 18 | This week in my city a mother and her 3 young children were doused in oil and set on fire by their father and burnt to death. He prevented bystanders from trying to save them. Lead detectives first statement was to consider if he was ‘driven too far’.Oh no, was there another recent car fire besides the one by the white rugby player? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Imagine you were very broke and desperate, so you decide to sell your body to men, and you tell 2 friends.Acting aggressive doesn't make you an authority on the subject above someone who is actually on the spectrum, coaches others on it professionally, and first assisted on published research on the topic twenty years ago. You're exhibiting black-and-white thinking, extreme rigidity, and a disproportionately aggressive response to being challenged, all while complaining about those same things in others. It's not a good look. I suspect from the way you're responding here that you've never approached… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Imagine you were very broke and desperate, so you decide to sell your body to men, and you tell 2 friends.Dehumanizing my demographic isn't really something we can agree to disagree on, my friend. I am not arguing with your experiences, but the way you generalized from them was unkind. If you want to dig in your heels about that, it seems as if you are embodying the behavior you are complaining about in others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 07:14 PM |
| 6 | Imagine you were very broke and desperate, so you decide to sell your body to men, and you tell 2 friends.Libfems at least recognize that right now, almost every job is equivalent to selling your body and your health for money. But whoo boy do they go in the totally wrong direction with that. Instead of seeing it as just that... a job... which can be either a fulfilling part of a career or a way to fuel less profitable pursuits that genuinely fulfill you... and shouldn't be exploitative... To libfems, money is everything, not just a means to an end; your work is your life, and your very identity, be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Imagine you were very broke and desperate, so you decide to sell your body to men, and you tell 2 friends.All I can really say is, you might consider rereading the things you said about ASD folks, but replacing "ASD" with other marginalized groups of people, to see how you actually sound when you generalize like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 06:52 PM |
| 14 | Steven Spielberg’s daughter becomes a porn star to cope with childhood sexual abuse. Are we supposed to pretend this is “feminist and empowering” so we’re not called “whorephobic” by the Erin Taylor types or is FDS right to tell her to immediately cut that shit out and go see a therapist?Controlled recreation of traumatic conditions is a valid category of therapy - but it works by being guided and safe with a trusted professional, not by subjecting yourself to the same situation with only marginally more control!! It's so tragic that women end up thinking that's the only level of control they deserve. Consent culture has developed this dark side that says it doesn't matter how much harm you do somebody as long as they agreed to participate. There's no real sense of personal resp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 06:46 PM |
| 1 | So another incel went on a shooting spree.Venting is a skill that can be done well or poorly. It's meant for getting the nasty things you want to say to someone out so it's easier to be polite to them, getting validation and perspective for things that aren't socially acceptable to express publicly, that kind of thing. It's harmful as fuck when it turns into dwelling on that thing. Even worse when it turns into dwelling on it just because it feels kind of good to "vent" about, but it's just rumination (a symptom of uncontrolled depressi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 06:11 PM |
| 5 | How Did YOU discover FDS, and what convinced you to follow its principles?It's how my mama raised me. That didn't make me immune to some manipulative bullshit (or my own rebellion, oops lol) for a while, but right as I was already starting to pull myself back out of it, someone linked FDS in a group chat. It felt like coming home! And really pushed me to deal with all the outstanding shit in my existing relationships. Like when I tried to come out of lurking to vent about this insanity with multiple pickmeishas stalking and harassing me (and how much my guy's refusal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 05:58 PM |
| 11 | Imagine you were very broke and desperate, so you decide to sell your body to men, and you tell 2 friends.My career these days is advising powerful and prestigious people on the spectrum and their companies, and I know from countless examples in my network that's not inherent to ASD, that's just from being raised wrong. The "developmental delay" is from a lack of exposure to appropriate role models and resources to learn the right ASD-specific behaviors and coping mechanisms. It's always fun to be thrown under the bus with this guilt-by-association nonsense, though. On the other hand, autistic LVM s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 05:09 PM |
| 349 | Y’all. The AUDACITY!!He expected you to be flattered that he wanted to pay for the room after having a sandwich at least 3x the length of his dick, apparently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 03:09 AM |
| 50 | This so random!!It's not random at all, he's a fetishist. They copy paste that shit to every profile they see in hopes they'll find someone down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 09:55 PM |
| 28 | Me looking at the LVM of my past likeI looked up a picture of my NVM ex for a meme thread a couple weeks ago. Holy damn was I out of his league. He's now over 35 and straight up ugly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 12:00 AM |
| 41 | Boys with Oppositional Defiant Disorder are more likely to show symptoms "deliberately annoys" and "blames others" and are less functional in school and community; girls were more likely to internalize and have depression and anxiety.Autistic dudes have NO EXCUSE. I was all the "autistic boy" stereotypes growing up, I was terrible at masking, I had such severe social anxiety that all I did socially was play video games with the boys. All it took was actually paying attention instead of reading self-help books directed at people who were different from me. The boys never seem to get out of the "but I tried reading a book about it and it DIDN'T WORK I guess society is just screwing me over and it's not my fault" stage. Fuck th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 11:58 PM |
| 3 | Would you accept any low value traits, if the high value traits outweigh them?Esports > video games. It doesn't matter what a dude actually says about them. You can tell the difference by how the former is about personal and community development and exercising self-regulation, while the latter is just escapism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 07:12 PM |
| 10 | What are some ways to find more wealthy HVM's?Strangers? Learn what nice menswear and accessories look like, make eyes at them instead of actually approaching. Otherwise you can always pick a hobby or interest group that might be a huge sink for disposable income, or is itself considered high status. Country clubs or the right athletic club or gym can be good, but you have to fit in, whereas it's totally common for someone to be enthusiastic about an expensive hobby but poor enough to have to save money for it. Futurist communities frequent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 10:20 PM |
| 19 | Because our second class treatment never ends...My default response to that is to assume I'm expected to show leadership and favor/disfavor (depending on whether the meeting is desirable to be in or a boring obligation) by picking someone for the job. Usually people just go along with it. Especially if it's a whole coffee shop run, and I offer to pay for theirs "for the trouble" so they'd have to look spiteful in order to refuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 08:28 PM |
| 14 | Best and Worst Cities for HVMSF is absolutely horrible. The peninsula is less bad, east bay is a mixed bag and so is north. The worst part is the poly and kink communities combined with all the libfem bullshit into a cesspit of protecting and promoting abusers and abusive behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 06:04 PM |
| 4 | Oh my god--the audacity! I don't even know what to flair thisTranslated from man-speak: Being attractive = interested and available. That's all. They'll find whatever excuse they want to try to pretend this isn't what it boils down to. And to devalue you if they're not actually attracted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 09:18 PM |
| 13 | Sharing history of abuse with potential HVM?You're allowed to not like something without having to justify it, and a HVM will respect that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:52 AM |
| 35 | Is this negging?It's not negging, it's straight up gaslighting, and it's meant to do a whole bunch of manipulative things: Erode trust with your friend Create false competition Make himself appear more desirable by social proof Overcome whatever led to you two not sleeping together in the first place And so on and so forth. This is some lameass PUA bullshit. Ghost this loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 06:13 PM |
| 5 | Building Self-WorthSupportive friends that you talk to regularly. Kick the pickmeishas to the curb, they'll only bring you down. And you can use the same indicators for them that you do for LVM, basically, because all they're doing is parroting LVM bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 12:15 AM |
| 16 | I hate post like thisUgh I am SO disgusted by this "cool girls want cheap junk food" nonsense. I basically have to force feed myself to keep above 100lbs and I am tired of having it fetishized by LVM and pickmeishas alike! You want to eat like me? Spend twice as much money giving your body half as many calories? Deal with malfunctioning red blood cells and other metabolic issues? Get sick every single day when even remotely stressed? I will fucking TRADE you. A HVM who wants to share enthusiasm for food will take me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 10:41 PM |
| 28 | How to not stay a pickmeshia if no guy wants youI just wanna point out that "not even LVM want me seriously" is a bar you're NEVER gonna pass. LVM don't want anybody seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 10:31 PM |
| 39 | How much does race play a role in your dating life?It's just more false competition bullshit, trying to get women to hate each other for not being cookie-cutter male-pleasing doormats, ditch their support systems, and compete to be the biggest pickmeisha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 10:23 PM |
| 6 | Comedy hour: How has karma treated your LVM ex?The ex from half a decade ago who won the tech stock lottery and spent it all on oxycodone didn't manage to keep the nice rent-controlled apartment, has dropped off the face of the earth, and might be dead. The malignant narcissist from a decade ago who raped me didn't age well at all and alienated all the friends he had when we were together. He's still a roiling ball of insecurity, and he's ugly instead of just average now, which is impressive since his parents are both still decent-looking. O… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 08:35 PM |
| 16 | Examples of HVM in mediaSurprised nobody said Mr. Rogers yet. He's my gold standard for wholesome and stable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 07:40 PM |
| 29 | Men seem to think that attractive women are *trying* to attract themThe only way a woman would do something like be attractive in the first place is because she's available to anyone who finds her attractive, obviously. Excuse me while I vomit all over the place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 11:46 AM |
| 6 | What was your biggest Pickmeisha moment?Thanks, it is! I recovered from the trauma-response nonmonogamy and BDSM after a few years, healed my shit, and... well, the pickmeisha haters got a bit extreme for a while there, poly people are cultish and hate defectors sometimes, but that's what restraining orders are for. The poly community REALLY hates for HVW to have boundaries because the norms are set for LVM to hoard partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 07:57 AM |
| 20 | What was your biggest Pickmeisha moment?He violently raped me in retaliation for getting angry that he skipped a job interview (he quit his job less than a month after we moved into a nice new place together) to hang out with a group that included his ex, while forcing me to repeatedly say out loud that he wasn't raping me. And I stayed instead of kicking him out of the luxury apartment that I was already paying for solo. It still makes me sick to my stomach to think about a decade later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 07:27 PM |
| 15 | Be Less Agreeable to Scare Abusive Men AwayGod, yes, exactly this. Almost a decade ago I got into a relationship with a guy who had carried a torch for me for four years, despite my moving away. I let him convince me to move back and give things a try. That was one of the worst mistakes of my life. He had a fetish for the subjugation of intelligent and powerful women, and ended up violently raping and trafficking me (pushing me into camwhoring) after we moved into a new luxury apartment and he immediately quit his job. I got into this st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 07:16 PM |
| 3 | LVM really be wanting you to humiliate yourself proving you're "special" enough to treat with basic respectProud of you sis. Stay strong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Wow, guess I get to make progress on my rejection sensitive dysphoria (ADHD symptom) over this "throwaway account" thing because this is my only account and FDS/FLS is the first community on reddit I ever wanted to bother posting in or even consistently paying attention to. And suddenly I remember that feeling rejected by other women feels literally infinitely worse than feeling rejected by men. Although anything divided into zero is infinity so I guess that doesn't say much on its own, lol. Thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 10:42 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Edit: That got really long and deserves its own post. Instead I will change this to being soooo proud of focusing on building my friendships with a whole circle of HVW. It really IS high value versus low value out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 11:45 AM |
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