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Conversationshittybillz/r/seduction02/01/25 07:49 PM
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There is no easy fix. You just have to keep doing it and eventually it’ll feel easier.
/r/seduction06/07/26 10:53 PM
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In my experience it’s almost impossible to bring a girl home unless you’re physically escalating first. Ask yourself this; do you wait until the end of the date to try and kiss her, or do you kiss her throughout the date? Hold hands? Anything? You won’t bring a girl home if you haven’t touched her. If you’re kissing on the street or in a bar, you can say “let’s get out of here” and there is a good chance she will follow. If you kiss her as she’s getting into the car, you’re banking on insane che…
/r/seduction19/06/26 06:38 PM
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Online dating
/r/seduction17/06/26 01:27 PM
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lol no. That’s my online dating strategy which worked for me, but I did prefer meeting women while out. I only figured OLD out in my 30’s (I’m 34 now). In my 20’s all my success was when I was out.
/r/seduction13/06/26 01:49 AM
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This may be unpopular but I don’t flirt sexually at all via text until I’ve actually slept with them. Be flirty and fun and plan the date. Keep your messages short (match her length and reduce by 20% or so), and do not verge into sexual territory. When I was on the apps I could get a date basically every night if I wanted. Had it down to a science. Flirty and playful but not sexual, don’t hint at sex, don’t subtly suggest it. Don’t even say you’re gonna give her a massage. Get the number quick, …
/r/seduction12/06/26 09:10 PM
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No. Read her body language and what she’s saying, and if you assess that she isn’t into you, politely excuse yourself and say it was nice to meet her.
/r/seduction01/05/26 04:29 PM
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Don’t do dating coaches. Post what you look like and let us assess. Regardless of your looks though, just keep going out, solo or not, and keep getting rejected until you get better at it.
/r/seduction13/03/26 11:07 PM
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I wouldn’t. It depends on your morals I guess. If she’s this obsessed with you you’ll get another chance in the future without the potential negative consequences
/r/seduction10/03/26 06:11 PM
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Exactly this. OP put himself in a tough spot, you have to TALK to her, not dm her. She will lose respect for OP if he’s too scared to actually chat.
/r/seduction15/01/26 06:38 PM
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This post is kinda insane man. You stuck your dick in but didn’t move? A girl of her calibre wouldn’t leave you? Demote her? None of this sound like you have a healthy relationship with women. I recommend working to view women in a better light. Their value isn’t solely their attractiveness. You specifically mention leaving her on read often, and you’re extremely concerned with being needy. You’re playing games, this doesn’t sound natural, it sounds like you’re manufacturing ways to ensure you d…
/r/seduction29/12/25 10:58 PM
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Don’t ask her out right away. What I do is flirt/banter, then hint at a date, like “oh you love white wine? I had you pegged for a red wine gal” then she asks why, etc etc… “ok well I’m excited to take you out to a wine bar” Gauge response. Couple more messages, ask for number by saying “what’s your number? I’ll text you and take you out for wine, but don’t hate me if I go with the red ;)” It’s always half serious and playful. Then when you text her say something like “it’s red wine guy”. Then S…
/r/seduction20/12/25 02:38 AM
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Probably boring. “How are you?” Etc. You want banter and only banter for the first 10ish messages. Then hint at a date, gauge her response, get the #, follow up via text and book the date.
/r/seduction20/12/25 02:11 AM
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Texting isn’t 100% useless. It can at the very least signal interest. If the girl was in the fence about you both, or even if she slightly liked you more, your friend showed initiative and signalled interest. Any chance you had was gone when he started moving forward with her. The only chance you would have had is if she thought you are way hotter and in that case, she would’ve had him include you while they were texting. That’s unlikely, so 99/100 times, in this scenario, you’ll be on the losin…
/r/seduction14/12/25 12:14 AM
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I was probably an 8/10 in my 20’s (34 now) and I had long stretches of being single. I think 6/4 years of my 20’s I was single. I’m kinda picky personality wise. I like a specific kind of gal. That reduces my potential matches. On top of that, I’m a little awkward and my humour is strange (super dead pan), which further reduces the potential matches. I did fine at the bar picking up, but it was rare things would go much further than that. Also I did end a 3 year relationship when I was 25 and pu…
/r/seduction25/11/25 04:55 PM
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Different strokes I guess. On the other hand I’ve never taken a woman home where I hadn’t at least held her hand, held her, kissed her, etc. I’ve slept with around 80 women (I’m 34). My tried and true method is flirting, waiting for them to invade your personal space or follow you around the venue, get closer, kiss, hold hands, arm around her, then invite her back. When I get those queues I estimate a 95% success rate on bringing her home. If you feel more comfortable with an alternative method …
/r/seduction22/10/25 02:02 PM
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No no no no. Bad.
/r/seduction06/10/25 11:23 PM
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I like to casually approach in the line to get drinks. I’m not a big dancer so that was a better method for me. Stand next to some cute chick and strike up a casual convo. Crack some jokes, see how it goes, ask to sit together (or dance if that’s your thing) and slowly escalate physically.
/r/seduction01/10/25 11:28 PM
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Echoing this. I call them “rowdy pubs”. Basically it is a pub where people are walking around. They could be ordering drinks at the bar, playing darts, pool, small dance floor. Not a bar where people are sitting down only, this disqualifies it as a rowdy pub. This is where I have had the most success in the 10 years ive been approaching ( I’m an old fuck)
/r/seduction20/09/25 03:23 AM
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The guys he fucks are not straight lol
/r/seduction19/09/25 07:59 PM
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Yes. I had a work event downtown and stepped out for a vape and this random chick walked up to me and asked to play some rounds of pool in the neighbouring bar. I went in, played pool, and ended up taking her home that night. Maybe the most serendipitous hook up of my life. I wasn’t on the prowl at all. This was a random Tuesday lol
/r/seduction01/09/25 09:42 PM
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No, more than that. Usually “what now?” Or “where to next?” something along those lines. Also, if they ask about what I have going on the next morning lol. This is usually after we’ve kissed and held hands and all that. It’s super rare for me to get a girl back to mine if we haven’t been a little physical while out.
/r/seduction21/08/25 10:54 PM
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I've had women hint to me that I should invite them back, but I've never had a woman outwardly ask me to come back to hers during a first date.
/r/seduction20/08/25 06:14 PM
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I had a hoe phase from age 25-29, but I’m currently going through an unplanned one right now (aged 34). I regret nothing. It’ll put me at ease later in life knowing I ate my fair share
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:22 PM
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Only time this will work is if you know for a fact the girl has been fawning over you for a while. For a strictly platonic friend, no bueno. Maybe if it was during a night out and you’re flirting throughout the night, kind of a spontaneous situation, but that’s not quite what you asked. My opinion is a hard no to this strategy
/r/seduction09/08/25 05:46 PM
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All of the above. I find social circles and cold approach (night time while out specifically) the most effective. Dating profiles certainly work but personally I get better results in person.
/r/seduction04/08/25 05:51 AM
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How much older? I am 34 and find my sweet spot to be 27-33 year old women. I did date two women in my 30’s both 7 years younger as well. I think a big advantage, as long as you are taking care of yourself, is you can still get with mid 20’s women, and now the 30+ year olds are unlocked too. To answer your question, I chalk it up to maturity and confidence. Older men typically dress better, aren’t drunk slobs, can communicate what they want, and can hold a conversation. Women mature faster in gen…
/r/seduction26/06/25 05:13 PM
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Typically you want to get theirs, but off of apps I’ve actually had a lot more success sending mine. I know it’s more masculine to ask for theirs, but there is something about saying “sounds like a fun night, shoot me a text and we will make it happen (number)” Maybe the confidence paired with leaving it up to them to take it to the next step? Not sure. I have about a 90% success rate doing this. I usually do this after 10-15 messages or so. Flirty light banter, and vague plans made that need a …
/r/seduction20/06/25 04:53 PM
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Sorry I forgot to answer your main question. Yea at least 50%. Maybe a bit more
/r/seduction18/04/25 10:45 PM
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Yea I back off if I don’t feel a fun vibe. I take it as either disinterest on their part or they’re just not what I’m looking for, either way I politely excuse myself
/r/seduction18/04/25 10:19 PM
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I don’t think the first attempt at gaming was bad, but her response should have discouraged a second attempt. Lesson learned
/r/seduction10/04/25 08:48 PM
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Yea me neither.
/r/seduction07/04/25 04:57 PM
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I live in Canada. I will say I never did great at clubs, too loud and busy. I do much better at rowdy pubs. People walking around, games, maybe live music. I just took a woman home this Saturday. This one was unusual, because we didn't kiss until we got back to mine. Intense flirting and touching though, just no kissing. She asked me around midnight if she could come over, kinda unusual. didn't even get her number until the next morning either. If you are able to kiss and touch, your problem isn…
/r/seduction07/04/25 04:45 PM
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If you're getting physical at the club the next logical step is sex. Don't overthink it, women want to get laid too. Often times they are hoping some guy sweeps them off their feet and takes them home, but they think about it differently. We think of it like "My game was so good, I was able to CONVINCE this woman to go home with me". They think of it like "He was so sweet it just kinda happened, I didn't expect that!". But the result is the same. If you are holding her, dancing with her, kissing…
/r/seduction07/04/25 04:09 PM
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Depends on the vibe. Sounds like this girl was really feeling you, you probably could have scheduled something on the spot. I don't think you made any true mistakes. Sounds like a good interaction, and you were genuinely busy, so you couldn't take her out that same day. When the vibes are strong, you want to strike when the iron is hot. I think asking her out the next day is totally fine. Not seeming too "eager" or letting her kinda stew on the question of "does he like me?" only works when she …
/r/seduction07/04/25 03:57 PM
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No problem. I’ve gotten so much help from this sub so I try to give it back here and there
/r/seduction04/04/25 12:41 AM
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I agree. Coffee to car sex is pretty wild hahah. You guys must have been vibing hard
/r/seduction03/04/25 11:33 PM
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No, I don’t like that. I’d say “hey there is this new coffee spot I’m gonna try, do you want to come with?” Personally I avoid coffee dates. Doesn’t lend itself to romance imo. Are you consistently talking to her, or are you barely texting? Also, how old are the two of you?
/r/seduction03/04/25 11:18 PM
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Yea that’s way too far ahead imo. You dont want to be a pen pal for 3 weeks but you dont wanna ghost for that amount of time either. You could periodically chat once per week or so leading up to it I guess. Can you invite her to something sooner in between? Make it seem casual, like you’re going regardless. “Hey there is this event I am going to this Friday, want to come with?” That’s probably what I’d do.
/r/seduction03/04/25 08:07 PM
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Candid solo pics. Well dressed solo pics at dinner or somewhere fun. A photo with a dog or cat. Maybe one group photo but only if you are as good or better loooking than your friends and as tall or taller. No pics with women unless it’s your sister or mom, and it’s obvious.
/r/seduction22/03/25 08:02 PM
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Your answer was better than complimenting her for no reason. My first thought is to just invite her to one of the parties you’re talking about
/r/seduction12/03/25 09:44 PM
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Really? I don't. I hate the feeling of wondering or ambiguity regarding where I stand. I'd rather be told 10/10 times.
/r/seduction03/03/25 04:39 PM
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I usually assume the sale. “Ok, let’s get outta here”. If you’re making out and all that you can be forward. “Sleepover tonight right?” Or a little more subtle like “I hope you’re ok with the left side of the bed, I can’t switch from my spot”. If you’re making out and being physical, the things that would prevent her from coming over won’t change based on how you ask for her to come over. If she truly can’t, whether you’re smooth with it won’t change whether she comes over, so don’t worry about …
/r/seduction23/02/25 07:51 PM
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Read my comment above. It’s all about reading her openness to being kissed. If she’s initiating ANY contact, like lightly hitting you or even shoulder to shoulder, you have the green light. I’ve been rejected when I go for a kiss maybe 5 times, I honestly can’t remember a specific time but I know the feeling and it’s definitely happened before. My point is, if she’s invading your personal space and initiating contact, you can kiss her. My buddy would find an excuse to twirl a woman to initiate c…
/r/seduction21/02/25 09:02 PM
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I went to Ireland and it was probably the easiest place I’ve ever been to for picking up. Awesome country. Openers are tough, I never used pick up lines of any kind. It could be as simple as “I like your outfit” but that only works if it’s actually unique, like at a festival or something. Usually I’d open with an observation. “Wow the bartender is totally ignoring you eh? I bet I can get served befor you” or “you’re taking shots already? What are we celebrating?” It’s hard to give specific examp…
/r/seduction21/02/25 08:56 PM
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I didn’t do a lot of groups, but I would with my one buddy who I referenced. It’s really just involving the whole group and having fun. Lots of give and take. I wouldn’t target the one I liked right away and obviously. Make sure they all like you, and then if the vibe is right ask them to sit with you or play pool, darts, whatever. Then you can get a sense of who maybe likes you, and weigh it with who your top choice is. Then it’s the same as what I wrote above, but a little sneakier I guess? A …
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:52 PM
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Maybe it’s a self confidence thing but I’ve had way less success the last year. I also haven’t been going out nearly as much. I’m gonna get back into it this summer though, wish me luck
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:49 PM
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There are single attractive women in the pubs I go to. I specifically choose certain pubs because of this. I want women aged 24-34 in a standing rowdy pub. I avoid bars where the demographic is 19-21 or cocktail bars, clubs etc. know your area and choose wisely. What do you mean by groups? I would approach full groups only once in a while. Ideally the bar you’re in has people walking around, ordering drinks. My main spot where I’d begin is in line at the bar. You can stand there and look around,…
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:47 PM
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No actually, canada. We call them pubs too, or bars. Target is just any woman I find attractive. Convo is simple, usually an observation or a dry humour, like “I didn’t know YOUD be here” with a straight face. I think the main thing is gauging her interest within 30 seconds. I’ve walked away from a woman I’ve approached in a minute or less dozens of times because I can just tell I’m forcing it. Find someone who can match your energy and who’s smiling and engaging. I wish I had some secret sauce,…
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:18 AM
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Yea I am white. This was mostly done from age 24-30. I’m 33 now. I dont go out enough now and I feel rusty as hell anytime I do
/r/seduction21/02/25 01:44 AM
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I suck at dating apps but I’m good at this. I’ve probably done it 50ish times since 2016, and I’ve been in 2 relationships spanning about 3 years during that time. I recommend rowdy pubs, not clubs. A pub where there is pool, games, etc. some place where if you’re walking around it’s not unusual. Then start chatting a woman up, slowly escalate, and make an excuse to go home eventually. I’d basically always kiss them before suggesting home. Gotta get a little physical before suggesting home. I kn…
/r/seduction21/02/25 01:21 AM
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Ok. Yea if you’ve slept with her twice there is at least some investment. Could have been the friend factor
/r/seduction06/02/25 10:56 PM
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Can you expand on the "she felt I was searching for her" part? She said that? How did she say it?
/r/seduction06/02/25 09:51 PM
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For me it comes down to how physical we are. If we are cuddling in a booth and kissing, I’ll ask her back. If we’ve barely made contact, probably not.
/r/seduction05/02/25 02:03 AM
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You're right. It works for me because if they're out of sight, they're out of mind
/r/seduction24/01/25 11:06 PM
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I never block, I mute them if I do have them on insta, if its phone number I just leave it
/r/seduction24/01/25 10:28 PM
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Same. Even if I go out with her, and she either ghosts me, or im not getting good vibes via text, or its difficult to schedule date #2...I will forget her by the next day.
/r/seduction24/01/25 10:27 PM
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Surprised this hasn’t been said, but he may have followed you by accident lol. She may have told him about you and he searched you and followed you. This exact same thing happened to me, my buddy followed this girl I was seeing by mistake
/r/seduction19/01/25 01:38 AM
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I’m 33 and I do fairly well still at bars and pubs. Honestly I avoid clubs though. I feel kinda weird being surrounded by 20 year olds. If it’s an upscale clubby cocktail type bar it would be ok.
/r/seduction18/01/25 08:45 PM
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For me it’s just exhausting. I’ve been at this for 15 years, I’ve had multiple relationships and countless dates. It’s just frustrating when I meet someone I like, we go out, and it doesn’t work out for whatever reason. I hate re starting the process. I’m just tired bro
/r/seduction15/01/25 02:41 AM
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Yea sure. I’m in sales and feel like I’m a strong communicator, but I haven’t had success communicating feelings prior to actually dating. Usually the feelings aren’t reciprocated. This is specific only to women I’m seeing casually. It’s not so much a fear, as I haven’t had success doing it when I bring it up first. It has worked once with a woman that became my GF, but we were seeing eachother for like 3 months at that point. For the most part I avoid it. I let my actions do the talking. I wait…
/r/seduction03/01/25 02:20 AM
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Damn, Ok. I’ll take your advice, and I appreciate it. I was hoping I wouldn’t have to verbalized it all but you make some convincing points. I appreciate it, thanks
/r/seduction03/01/25 01:29 AM
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I typically hate to verbalize feelings though. I’d rather show her. I like when the girl eventually brings up feelings and then I can communicate.
/r/seduction02/01/25 11:23 PM
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I have had a ton of success at bars and clubs, basically no success at raves. I’m not one to grab a girl to dance before even speaking to her so it’s never been my thing. It’s harder to verbally flirt. If you’re shredded and handsome you’ll do well at a rave though.
/r/seduction30/12/24 12:14 AM
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By initiate I think she means whether you get back together. It sounds like you're primed for a nice hookup, and you should feel free to initiate the physicality. My only advice is to keep your emotions in check and not fall for her before she's ready, if she ever is.
/r/seduction06/12/24 06:02 PM
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They want sex maybe as badly as men. They just have to pre-qualify more intensely than a man, because the wrong guy could be dangerous or clingy/needy, and make them regret it. Also, they run the risk of pregnancy. You have to come across as a good person, not needy. Flirt, make them think about sex with you. Then you have to be bold and make a move. Women want to be seduced; they are rooting for you (as long as they don't disqualify you immediately). The way I think about it is similar to a cro…
/r/seduction05/12/24 05:24 PM
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Long story. Short version we just aren’t soulmates. We are still friends though, it wasn’t a bad breakup, we both kinda realized it
/r/seduction30/11/24 01:57 AM
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My ex got this done a few times while we dated. In my experience it’s best for the woman to do most of the work, then introduce the guy later. Flirt, be touchy, make out. Then ask if she’s attracted to the man, and ask her to make out with him. Off to the races after that
/r/seduction29/11/24 07:48 PM
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Joke, but honestly feels accurate.
/r/seduction29/11/24 02:28 AM
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Do it the same way you would under basically any circumstance. Talk to her, create banter, joke, make her laugh. Recognize if and when she is invading your personal space, and when she does, look at her lips then back to her eyes, pick up body language queues, and if it feels right go for the kiss and escalate from there
/r/seduction26/11/24 11:37 PM
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Don’t bring it up again. You didnt say anything wrong. Your answer was better than “you’re not too young for me”. If you bring it up again it shows you’ve been thinking about it, which isn’t good at this stage. Just see how it goes next time and ask her out.
/r/seduction25/11/24 04:52 PM
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Keep dressing well and all that, but tone down the conversation. I like women who I can be myself around. I want to poke fun at you, and vise versa. I want to have funny silly banter that distracts me from life and all its hardships. I want a woman who likes me for me, and who I don’t need to be “on” for. The guys may see you as too high maintenance, which would 100% make me back off.
/r/seduction23/11/24 08:28 PM
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Exactly this. Every GF I’ve ever had has come back because of this. I dont do it so they come back, I just need to end things in good terms and I treat them right, so it just happens that way
/r/seduction12/11/24 05:06 AM
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Don’t ask her out as an intro, make flirty small talk. Don’t give her options, lead and pick what you’re doing. I find a good way to ask women out is reference an inside joke when you ask her out. For example, “I’ve been meaning to check out X, you should come with me and we will put how bossy you are to the test. I think I can handle you 😉” Something like that. Flirt with the idea of going out for a bit, like “how many dates does it take to get some of your cooking!” And periodically reference …
/r/seduction31/10/24 11:21 PM
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Prolonged eye contact is a big one for me. Holding a look or quick glances over and over.
/r/seduction28/09/24 06:59 PM
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The one time I got actually got the date I did. The other two times there were no coworkers. The tattoo girl had no customers or colleagues and she said yes but when I learned her age I left with my tail between my legs lol. When I asked out the doctors assistant there were people in the waiting room but they were all older folk and I didn’t care. When it comes to the successful attempt I could just sense that it was obvious she wanted me to. It was all women behind the desk and when I asked her…
/r/seduction28/09/24 04:06 AM
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Yes. Three times. I used to sell tech services to small businesses so I’d visit businesses constantly. Once was an optometrists assistant and we went out a few times. Once was a doctors assistant and she rejected me, and once was a tanning salon girl and she told me she was 17 (I was 25, oops), she looked older I swear. I only do it when I’m very confident they’ll say yes. Lots of eyes and flirting. I got rejected because she didn’t give me any signs, she was just so beautiful I had to try. Just…
/r/seduction28/09/24 02:27 AM
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You're going to give up but you haven't even tried lol. Come on man, you never know. I met my last girlfriend at a music event. I stared at her for about 5 seconds and in my head told myself "I really need to pee, and if she is still there when I get back I will approach her". She was still there, I approached her, and we had a wonderful night. We didn't hook up that night; we dared each other to ask strangers weird questions or do funny dares, etc. I got her info and took her out the next week,…
/r/seduction27/09/24 03:44 PM
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So you did zero research before moving your whole life to an unfamiliar city?
/r/seduction21/09/24 02:53 AM
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Genuinely nice guys are not the nice guys girls reference. “Nice guys” are needy unconfident guys who look at relationships as transactional. If you were genuinely nice but confident, not needy etc, you can pull women.
/r/seduction13/09/24 05:19 PM
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Genuinely nice guys are not the nice guys girls reference. “Nice guys” are needy unconfident guys who look at relationships as transactional. If you were genuinely nice but confident, not needy etc, you can pull women.
/r/seduction13/09/24 05:09 PM
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This guy knows
/r/seduction08/09/24 09:58 PM
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I agree with the prior post, I just want to add one thing for you. Don’t kill her attraction with needy behaviour. You can literally fumble a girl by over texting. Be attentive and into her when you’re with her, but when you’re texting, match her energy and be slightly aloof. Don’t get ahead of yourself, take it slow. You haven’t fumbled yet, just cool off a bit
/r/seduction08/09/24 05:03 PM
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Openers are basically useless. Do you want to come off as saying something scripted? No. It's the same with sales; do you want your prospect to know you're reading off a script? Of course not. Come in genuinely and say whatever you want. Only thing I'd recommend is not immediately praising her good looks. Make a comment on the venue, or just straight up say "Hi my name is Bigboy and I wanted to talk to you". If you have ANY shot with her, she will make it a little easier for you. It should be a …
/r/seduction06/09/24 02:52 PM
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That’s exactly what women say after they get picked up by a man tbf.
/r/seduction21/08/24 01:35 AM
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First and foremost, to have proper flirty banter the girl needs to be engaged. I’ll post some texts with this girl I’ve seen seeing recently. The context is that she’s bossy and I don’t like when she tells me what to do, she said goodnight and I told her I’ll have whatever night I want. This is a few of our texts: Her: how was your neutral night? You left me in suspense Me: I made sure I had a bad night so you wouldn’t win. I finally broke free from you shackles Her: oh you broke the shackles? S…
/r/seduction17/08/24 03:35 AM
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Sometimes good sometimes maybe shit
/r/seduction15/08/24 07:35 PM
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No man, don’t give up so easy. I was terrible with women, I was a virgin until 21. Negative game. Somehow I got a GF (she pursued me, basically made it as easy as possible for me). We broke up when I was like 24. I tried to meet women but kept failing spectacularly. Finally I read a few books, listened to podcasts, subscribed to this subreddit. Started getting better. Actually pulled girls from the bar in one night, absolute insanity for me. From 24-30 I got with about 50 women, got another GF a…
/r/seduction27/07/24 10:26 PM
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I did this a month ago. She told me she likes words of affirmation (which I don’t really do) and loves when guys make their intentions known. I went against everything I have learned and told her I am interested in her at the end of the date. Completely backfired. Don’t listen to women, stay true to what we learned. Sorry for your loss brother
/r/seduction26/07/24 04:10 PM
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Nope, you're fine. Don't overthink it. You're in an ideal spot. Ask her out, take her to a spot near your place, do everything you've been doing, go back to yours, and give it a shot.
/r/seduction18/07/24 07:28 PM
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You're golden. She's just not at that point yet, and that's OK. Don't take this as a "we must be dating to sleep together" she is just vocalizing this so you don't have expectations to sleep with her and so you don't see her as a slut. Go out with her again, keep doing what you're doing. Build trust and attraction. Try to get her home again and turn her on. She may even resist the second time around, possibly even the third, but unlikely. She likes you; you're absolutely fine. Don't put any weig…
/r/seduction18/07/24 05:30 PM
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Why does the PUA aspect minimize this post?
/r/seduction12/07/24 04:26 AM
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Why not? Limiting belief. As long as you’re not disrespectful you’ll be fine
/r/seduction12/07/24 04:25 AM
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No sensation? The alcohol definitely will numb things a bit, but for me it still feels great. How drunk were you? The second issue could be that you're jerking it too much. When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I wasn't having sex very often, and I was jerking a lot. When I did have sex, I'd basically never finish. You may be squeezing too tight, which can mess up how sensitive you are, especially if you are circumsized. I'd recommend jerking off way less, stop watching porn (use your …
/r/seduction10/07/24 03:54 PM
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Same lol. Sometimes I don’t want to if it’s a girl I’m not 10/10 attracted to
/r/seduction08/07/24 07:00 PM
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I actually like this except for saying the phrase “suck dick”, just sounds a little gross
/r/seduction06/07/24 09:18 PM
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“Women mean what they say” Hahahahahahahahahaha
/r/seduction06/07/24 05:50 PM
1

Doubt it. As much as my initial comment may not come across as sweet, I am an empathetic person and I’d realize if they weren’t into it, and the strategy I noted is for women I’ve always slept with more than once, The only women I’ve ever slept with only once are one night stands from the bar, which I don’t use these tactics on
/r/seduction06/07/24 01:01 AM
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No, you’re wrong. Girls say that so they don’t feel like sluts and to give themselves a reasonable excuse, like “I didn’t think it was gonna happen but the moment was right and it was so spontaneous! Girls aren’t saying this because it’s a strict boundary, and if they are, I’ll stop after my first attempt. They’re saying it so you don’t have expectations and they can decide without any sort of external pressure.
/r/seduction06/07/24 12:56 AM
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Yes, many times. Women say one thing and do another. If a girl says "we aren't having sex btw" I figure my odds just went way up as opposed if she had never said anything about it. How I've done this in the past is make a move and start kissing or whatever. Get her going and try once to escalate. She will probably stop you, and if she does, respect her boundaries. Keep making out, hold her, play with her hair, snuggle, etc. Sporadically make out with her. Eventually, she will get really turned o…
/r/seduction05/07/24 04:49 PM
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Don’t do this. Ask yourself whether you want her first impression of you to be dishonest? Women like bold men. Skirting around the fact that you are hitting on her, doesn’t do you any favours
/r/seduction26/05/24 06:56 AM
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Yea, the commenter below me is right. Too early to put any sort of title on it. Next time you're out with him you can just say that you like him and would like to see him more often. Gauge his response. Avoid using any terms like "seeing eachother" or "dating". Just say consistency is attractive to you, and you'd like to spend more time with him to see where it goes.
/r/seduction24/05/24 04:10 PM
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I initially thought you were a guy, and I was going to say, "Let her bring it up," because I feel like the girl bringing it up just works better. Can you answer some questions for me? How old are you guys, how many dates have you been on, and have you slept together, and if so, how many times? Answer those and I can give you an answer
/r/seduction24/05/24 03:53 PM
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I’ve reflected and I can remember a lot of instances where I didn’t take a girl home after kissing, but most were in university for me. I didn’t have much game then, so I’m not surprised I couldn’t close. Since turning 24 or 25 until now (I’m 33) my success rate is extremely high when breaking the kiss barrier. Maybe it’s where I’m from, the cities I live and go to and the types of bars. Not sure
/r/seduction24/05/24 02:45 PM
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I see. Maybe something I'm doing is weeding out the girls that aren't closeable.
/r/seduction23/05/24 07:53 PM
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Really? I can count on one hand the amount of times I’ve kissed a girl and haven’t brought her home. Maybe it’s becaus se most of my game started around age 24-30 so girls were older, more experienced and willing to go home with a guy
/r/seduction23/05/24 06:53 PM
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The kiss barrier is the biggest one, IMO. If you can get that far you're golden. You will still get the odd girl that won't come home with you, but from experience your success rate after making out consistently throughout the night gives you about 80% odds to pull Before I mention what to say or how to get her back to yours, I want to specify that once you kiss, the physical touch barrier has been shattered. At this point, you can put your arm around her, hold her hips, hold her hand and take h…
/r/seduction23/05/24 03:18 PM
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Exactly this. I wasn’t that into a girl once and she baked me banana bread. It was sweet but it didn’t change my feelings towards her. Another girl I was into brought me back a little key chain thing from Dominican Republic. I loved it and kept it because I liked her. No matter what OP will be fine. There is no negative outcome here
/r/seduction23/05/24 02:57 PM
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I’ve done this. I usually max out at 2 personally but 3 is solid. Depends how much I like them too. If I’m only kinda into 2, I’ll add a 3rd. If I’m really into both or one, I won’t be looking for extra
/r/seduction22/05/24 04:59 PM
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I'm not sure. My best guess would be that sexuality is becoming more liberal with the new generations. The group of friends I grew up with didn't sleep around, my number was 5 when I was 22 or so. I'm sure most of them have counts around 3-10 now, most are married. I moved across the country (Canada) and wanted to get good with women, so I made an effort to learn and apply it. I don't know many guys with numbers over 10-15, so I'd say I'm not very common. I do know a few with high numbers though…
/r/seduction07/05/24 06:29 PM
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Yea, I can't pinpoint the exact number that would throw me off. If a girl is 25 but has 50 I may be a bit worried. If she is 30 and has 50 maybe not. 100, regardless, would likely throw me off a bit. I'm not saying 100% deal breaker but I'd want to know some broad details. Maybe trauma or something else led her down that path
/r/seduction07/05/24 04:18 PM
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It’s not astronomical, but around 60. I’m 33 btw. A lot of that was done between age 24-29 when I was single 5 years straight
/r/seduction07/05/24 04:00 PM
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I don't hold women to standards higher than myself. I've slept around and have a fairly high count; I wouldn't disqualify a woman because she did the same. However, if it's a lot more than mine, like 25% more...I'd maybe second guess. 50-100% more? I'd wonder what she has been doing...drug addict, escort? It would depend on her age too. Mid-twenties with 50% more than me? I'd have to understand how and why and then go from there. It's not a black-and-white question. Everyone is different, and pe…
/r/seduction07/05/24 03:02 PM
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Yea I’m sure mine can too, but I can usually get to the date, so I don’t think that’s where my issue lies, probably similar to you.
/r/seduction03/05/24 03:33 AM
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I'm the complete opposite man. It's a different skillset. I suck at tinder dates, I feel like I don't present my authentic self properly, and it feels like a manufactured experience (meeting online). I'm fine on dates when I had met the girl previously, but online dating is tough for me once I get to the date. In terms of picking women up, I'd just say it's mostly about recognizing signals, being bold and making moves. I find success when I'm out by going to an area where a lot of people are sta…
/r/seduction02/05/24 04:12 PM
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In May? Pretty bad. You should wait until at least august
/r/seduction01/05/24 08:24 PM
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You may be a different type of girl but I’ve had girls literally tell me I should just go for it and not ask. It kinda kills the moment and reduces how “bold” they see the guy, which is a problem. Consent is important, yea, but when a girl is at your house and you’re cuddling watching a movie, you can just go for it
/r/seduction23/04/24 03:18 AM
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You don’t need to ask lol. She’s over at your house and if she’s kissing you it’s natural for your hands to wander. Respect her wishes if she stops you but don’t stop and say “can I touch your bum?” 😂
/r/seduction23/04/24 01:24 AM
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Blocking her is a reaction. What you want is no reaction. She shouldnt affect you. If you need to mute her, do that.
/r/seduction22/04/24 05:21 PM
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33M, between 55-60. I went kinda nuts from 25-30. Didn’t date anyone, just went out and got good at taking girls home. I was at 1 until I was 22 lol. For all you late bloomers out there, you got time.
/r/seduction22/04/24 03:55 PM
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Your opening is when you’re out at the bar. Lower inhibitions, social atmosphere… it’s ripe for the taking. Grow a pair and flirt with her while out, make out, invite her home with you.
/r/seduction18/04/24 02:44 AM
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This sounds profound in a weird way. I’m similar tho. I either end up laid or drunk as hell walking home
/r/seduction15/04/24 02:14 AM
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Yea. It helps me whenever I’m approaching. Girls are rooting for you, they’re on your side. They don’t want an awkward interaction, they want you to have game and sweep her off her feet. Until you give her a reason to be against you, she’s on your side Hope this helps
/r/seduction09/04/24 04:34 PM
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Hard to say. Do you have a car? You c pick pick him up and have a date night and then when it’s about to end ask if he wants to come back to yours.
/r/seduction07/04/24 04:47 AM
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We need some more context. How long did you spend with her, was there any physical contact, kissing etc. Regardless don’t wait too long. The contents of the text will change based on how things went concerning the above questions though
/r/seduction07/04/24 04:34 AM
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Yea sounds like you may have to be assertive. Maybe he’s embarrassed he doesn’t have a car or maybe he’s having money trouble and doesn’t want to go out or Uber? I’m guessing. I’m trying to figure out why a guy would put off spending time with a girl he’s shown so much interest in. Usually a guy will find a way lol. Maybe go to his place? Watch a movie, make a move. That’s my best guess
/r/seduction07/04/24 03:18 AM
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Try again. She may give you another shot. This time just remember she wants you to make a move. She will be disappointed if you don’t. Girls will give you openings but won’t initiate typically. If you don’t make a move too many times she will think you’re not interested or you’re not bold, either will sink you
/r/seduction07/04/24 02:52 AM
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No not reallly. Just be a little aloof in the first part of dating. Show her your feelings thru actions in person, don’t tell her via text. Don’t text her too much either untio you’ve slept with her and there is investment from her end
/r/seduction07/04/24 02:31 AM
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Couldn’t agree more with everything you just said. When I do go out (not as much as i used to) and a girl is showing interested I try to close that night every time. I tried with the girl that ended up as my GF too but she made up some excuse why she can’t. I guess I built enough value tho because she responded to my DM and let me take her out. The rest was history after that
/r/seduction04/04/24 09:34 PM
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Hmm. Not necessarily true. I got a GF from this strategy. You have to make an impression though, spend time with her during the night. Can’t just be a quick convo and a contact exchange.
/r/seduction04/04/24 08:28 PM
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Hahah I was coming into say the same thing. Half the posts now are so ridiculous I kinda think some are trolling
/r/seduction21/03/24 02:21 AM
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A little anxiety, a little more regret comparatively. I’d recommend Start off doing easier approaches. Go to a bar, women are hoping to be approached there. On the street is a more difficult game (but rewarding). If you’re feeling that much anxiety, make it easier for yourself and try approaching in more common approach friendly spaces.
/r/seduction19/03/24 10:03 PM
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Stop listening to whatever PUA you’re subscribed to. This whole thing is a mess. Don’t flirt on social media when you have a GF you bonehead. You can flirt a little in person at social gatherings, parties, or whatever, but subtly, and never cheat. Flirt with your girlfriend too, that’s how you stay sharp. As long as you’re not saying stuff like “are you mad at me?” Or “good morning my angel, let me know when you wake up” you won’t come across as needy with your GF. Just stay masculine. Don’t ign…
/r/seduction19/03/24 03:15 PM
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If you’re traveling thats your reason for being alone. Go to the bar a little early, get a beer or two, chat with the bartender to get social game going. After a beer or two start introducing yourself to people, men and women. Make some acquaintances. As the night progresses be a social butterfly. Make it fun to be around you. Talk about your travels. This is easy mode dude, you have a built in excuse as to why you’re alone and you’re foreign, which is great. Make sure the venue is appropriate f…
/r/seduction12/03/24 04:08 PM
2

No need to play those stupid games. You’ve already slept together. If you like her and want to reach out, then do it.
/r/seduction11/03/24 07:53 PM
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Like that’s it? You’ll have to play the numbers game and ask like 500 women depending on how good looking You are. Tinder may be your best bet
/r/seduction05/03/24 03:03 AM
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I met my ex at a concert. I did what I do at normal pubs to get chatting with her. I’m not one of those guys that just grabs a girl in the crowd and starts dancing, just not my style. What I do is hang out near the bar, and get in line to order a drink. I scope out the other patrons and stand beside or behind a cute girl. While in line I strike up a convo. Then you have maybe 3-5 minutes to chat with her and assess whether it’s a good fit. If it goes well, get drinks with her, keep chatting, may…
/r/seduction05/03/24 12:30 AM
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I take it you’re young right? Just based on the description. This isn’t a corporate job right? Should be fine
/r/seduction17/02/24 08:26 PM
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Depends how clueless you are lol. I try to pay attention how close she stands to me, whether she ever initiates contact, If she goes out of her way to talk to me. If those things are happening she likes you. Anyways, women respect men who take a chance and are bold. If you ask her out and she’s not interested, she will say no. She will probably be nice about it because it sounds like she appreciates you as a friend at the very least. She will respect you having the balls to take a risk. There is…
/r/seduction17/02/24 07:47 PM
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Do it squirt?
/r/seduction26/01/24 03:20 AM
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You’ve actually annoyed me. You are not ugly AT ALL. You’re a handsome guy. Get some confidence and figure it out. There are people on this sub that are in way less favourable positions than you
/r/seduction20/12/23 06:32 PM
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Don’t justify the fact he may or may not be passive. We all have no idea. He could be a great guy and you will be a part of a very difficult time for him. I’m not here to preach, do what you want, but it’s bad karma and imo it makes you a bad person.
/r/seduction18/11/23 03:17 AM
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Yup. That’s why most books and advice reference working on yourself so it’s actually authentic. When you’re actually busy and have options its genuine. When it isn’t genuine it gets tough to keep it up
/r/seduction01/11/22 11:46 PM
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Yea fair. Hard for me to gauge without more info. You won’t go into details for my sake or yours? If for yours no worries, if not I have a few questions: How many times have you hung out, how many times have you hooked up (not sex) and how long has it been since you met her? How long does it take for her to respond and are they short messages?
/r/seduction31/10/22 11:30 PM
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I’ve met girls at concerts, but not when they’re dancing in the crowd. If there are drinks being served at a bar I just get in line beside an attractive girl and start talking to her. If you’re hitting it off, ask her to dance. This wouldn’t be at a big performance like The Weekend, I’d do this at a local bands concert or an EDM venue or something.
/r/seduction31/10/22 10:54 PM
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When she says this she may not honestly know if she wants to have sex, but at the time she’s saying it she is unsure or actually doesn’t want to. If you react like it’s no big deal it relieves some pressure and she can just enjoy her time with you. I used to see this girl who only slept with long term boyfriends. There were circumstances preventing us from dating (long story) so we were never exclusive but we kind of were for a few months. Anyways, she’d always stop me before things went below t…
/r/seduction31/10/22 10:27 PM
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She came back… pretty surprised. We were both at a concert and she knew I was going and DM’d me. Spent the concert together and went back to her hotel room and hung out until 5am. She apologized for ghosting and explained that she liked me a lot more than she expected and it kinda scared her off because she’s working on herself and she’s young (23). I explained I have no expectations and we can just go out here and there because it’s obvious we like each other. She agreed and asked me to message…
/r/seduction31/10/22 08:59 PM
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Nah I’m canadian. Calgary alberta
/r/seduction24/10/22 01:46 AM
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Thanks. Currently doing that. The ball is in her court so I’ll leave it. She is going to the same Halloween concert as me next weekend so perhaps I’ll run into her
/r/seduction22/10/22 05:24 PM
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What are you asking? Are you referencing a typo?
/r/seduction20/10/22 11:57 PM
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True. She really went heavy handed with her comments and behaviour. Also she was supposed to leave at 10:30 but pushed it to 11 and then 11:30 then suggested we go home, so it doesn’t seem like a planned hook up to me, but you never know
/r/seduction20/10/22 10:16 PM
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Hmm true. Thanks for the thorough comment. She’s a really sexual person which is why I went with the lube joke, I wouldn’t have said it to a timid girl. Ok I’ll keep your timeline in mind. I suffer from the classic “if I like her she doesn’t like me as much, and if I’m luke warm on her, she is all over me” so I need to try and behave like I don’t like her as much like I do with other women I think
/r/seduction20/10/22 10:15 PM
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Haha possibly. If that’s the case she’s pretty good at it
/r/seduction20/10/22 09:11 PM
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Ok thanks a lot. I felt like I played this so well and honestly felt like she liked me more than I liked her, thus the confusion. The sex was so good tho I can’t get her out of my head, I’m like an addict hahah
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:31 PM
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What would you say in that final text in that situation?
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:10 PM
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I forgot to mention after my meme I asked if she wants to go out again and she said “of course” and then I asked her out for Thursday. Could just be sparing my feelings I guess
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:03 PM
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I think the above post is the most accurate response. If you get another chance you must make a move. Arm around her isn't good enough. 90% of women won't make the move. They'll do things to make you feel more comfortable with making a move. Could be something as subtle as making her lips easier to access by lifting her head up a bit while cuddling. Theyll try to help you, but usually won't actually make the move, so you have to.
/r/seduction25/08/20 01:10 AM
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It hasnt been long enough to bring this up. Not really worth the chance of making her feel uncomfortable or starting a fight. Also, not to discourage but i dont think this is the right subreddit for your question. Try r/relationships
/r/seduction06/12/18 09:36 PM
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You're back in business bud. I don't think you were ever out of business actually. She just wanted to set some boundaries and allow you to see her as a girl that you don't just bang and then leave. My initial guess is she legit likes you and doesn't want you to see her as some slutty club girl. Seems like you know what you're doing, but I'd be remisced if I didn't say that you shouldn't convince her to have sex thru speech...playful jokes are fine, and she's clearly thinking about it, so I would…
/r/seduction18/08/18 10:29 AM
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"Going out for a month and have had 1 short date" Is that it? The whole thing seems insane if you've only been on one date.
/r/seduction09/08/18 09:50 PM
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Probably comes down to your aura/personality and how you make these girls feel. They don't sound super excited about you, you know? They see you as safe, good looking and a reasonable option for a long term relationship. Women don't date guys they don't see as attractive, at least highly sought after women don't. Thry jusy figure that since you are a reasonably attractive and nice guy that youre the relationship type. You need to change something about what you're doing to come off as more sexy.…
/r/seduction05/07/18 01:56 AM
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Sick movie
/r/seduction27/03/17 06:28 PM
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