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"Yeah? You like this don't you, yeah?" Uh no, at best it tickles, at worst it feels like you're ploughing a field in 1645.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:06 PM
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Fathering a child isn't exactly an achievement. Nature made sure it's really easy for men. They shake their hips, 2 minutes later nut, and could've still accomplished this half-passed out. Carrying a baby in your womb for 9 months is a totally different ball game in the process of procreation. Because humans have half the brain enough for cognition, we've invented "father's rights", but men are using this argument at will only when it suits them. How about "father obligations"? Like; don't try f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:27 AM
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I agree with that. It should be easier for a woman (or man, but the roles are statistically rarely reversed) to be taken serious if she calls in with concerns about her ex being a liability to her. When I broke up from my abusive ex, the resources I needed most were not available. There was no safe house I could enter without a psych evaluation process of weeks to months first. When I applied for a therapist, they told me, sorry, you are in the middle of breaking up so we need you to solve your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:32 PM
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First indicator of NOPE. Glad they expect it, easier to swerve them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:10 PM
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If he'd propose and we'd have celebrated our engagement, that's when I'll feel ready to move in. Before that time, we can visit each other's apartments to 'play house' and see how we get along in that context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:58 AM
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Not living my best life out of revenge, but I admit I do get satisfaction knowing my abuser has a shit life after I dumped him, while I'm soaring. It just goes to show what a dead weight he was. Without carrying his ass, I'm shining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:22 AM
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He bought his pregnant wife chocolate and strawberries on V-day at 11pm from the eveningstore. So cute, she had a candybar just in time before her eyes closed for sleep. He said she don't deserve a b-day present because she got mad when she put her foot down. But he wrote happy b-day on FB so maybe he's not so bad, that deserves points right? And he got amazing qualities! Like occassionally wiping his own ass. Meanwhile she got him a Nintendo Switch. This woman's mind working overtime coming up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:21 PM
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The only time my date genuinely made a bad judgement call to forget a reservation, he was absolutely mortified. It was etched on his face how disappointed he was with himself. We ended up going for a nice glass of wine, and next time he saw me he went the extra mile. No sex expected, none gotten, of course. This man really be tripping to think that a casual "the place is packed, let's do subway and book an hour in a crusty motel" would fool anyone. Where's the fucking shame? He ain't shit, and I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:22 PM
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Excellent tip! I have experienced the necessity of this one first handed. That one time an LVM gave me 3 "Tylenol" that I didnt recognize as I'm not American (which the little shit knew of course - he knew exactly what was up), and it turned out to be his high dose anxiety medication. He nearly poisoned me. In his grandmother's house. Wow, everything about him turned out to be a joke. He was trying to fake it until he made it, and crashed tragically. I was so bewildered I wondered why'd he even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:34 PM
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Damn, I'm really missing out on OLD, what a CATCH /s 😂😂😂🤡 Also: you really know his social life is limited to online gaming when all he has is crusty bad selfies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:11 PM
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Is there a brain installed in this man? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:10 PM
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I only search for LaTinA BiG Ass Gang BanG because I miss you... I'm sorry sis, I hope dark humor at least makes you laugh at the situation a little. Smh... Glad you're here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:38 PM
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I don't think I'll refer to it as such again, to avoid confusion. In essence, using gendered terms doesn't reveal anything about the quality/nature of the energy afterall. It's just how the mainstream internet approaches the concept. Valid point, and thanks for bringing it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:34 PM
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Could also just name it "doing" and "being" energy, or "active" and "passive" energy. I see your point why it's problematic that the terms are gendered. In intersectional feminist theory this is problematic, but going into semantics is losing sight of the point. Both women and men harness both energies. To find information about this, you'd have to youtube/google feminine energy in dating. We have a lot of "doing" energy in many areas of life that require action-forward, organizing energy. Asser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:55 PM
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Yeah, what a pig. Men just suck. I'm appalled to learn that PornHub has no content control, and you can just upload with only an e-mail. Wtf. Meanwhile to order a pair of shoes, I have to fill out every possible personal info. But porn consumption is fucking free, no checks, no rules, just one giant cesspool of male depravity. I am not even fully opposed to certain pornographic materials, but now knowing this, I really can't accept PornHub exists the way it does. (Men who downvote this; really? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:29 PM
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This is the most vile and disgusting thing ever. 🤢🤢🤢 Petition to shut it down: https://www.change.org/p/shut-down-pornhub-and-hold-its-executives-accountable-for-aiding-trafficking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:20 PM
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Yes, I've used the top examples like "why are you single" or "why do you date other men, when you have me" (which are LVM questions) and those answers, just so I don't end up explaining myself but neither channeling negative energy. But those dates honestly didn't last. If you need to answer such questions early on, fully agree it's not a good sign. Next. With Brexit screwing his work schedule, one of my rotational dates is close to burnout and became flaky early January. That guy had been consi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:08 AM
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Really? Interesting. A little nudge only if needed has come a long way for me! I've got 2 rotational dates currently, men organizing and paying my dates, my rent, my groceries, making me breakfast in bed, doing chores for me... A fast improvement from past dating experiences lol Edit: saw you gave concrete feedback on my examples, appreciate that! Edit2: I've been part of a dating community for divas for the past 6 months before stumbling on FDS. FDS spoke to me, because it's based on the same p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:29 AM
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Thanks! Enjoyed reading how you handle it. Good suggestions : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:15 AM
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Men are pretty dense 😂 sometimes they need it clear, despite best intentions. Even great guys didn't come equipped with mindreading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:03 AM
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Thank you for this question! I hope to see examples of comebacks and strategy examples from other women too. I've been absorbing new information, and playing around with my answers to men, so any wisdom shared is welcome. Will be so helpful to read how other women tackle certain situations. I'm sticking to mostly dating scenario examples here, as it's FDS. ///////// Him: why are you still single? Me: because, you're really, really lucky? ; ) ///////// Him: why are you dating other men, when you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:07 AM
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But you are meaning it to have the connotation of 'soft' or 'polite'. I think you really misunderstand me. I believe we have different connotations and associations with the concepts I use. I dont believe it's healthy to suppress our frustration, anger or disappointment. I don't believe I have to be polite either. I don't believe in forcing myself to be anything less than connected with myself. Masculine energy is the "doing" energy, while feminine energy is the "being" energy. I like men who ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:01 PM
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I haven't found a wax that my skin reacts well to. Last time I thought it'd be cute to wax 3 days before my vacation for hassle free smooth legs. I got a rash that took 2 months to disappear. Terrible! Tips to prevent this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:03 PM
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Yes, I agree, communicating terms is important! Your terms are the only terms that matter. Truthfully, I first believed a relationship should transition from dating to gf/bf to living together to engagement/marriage. But I've changed my view on this, and I believe I'm either single or engaged/committed. There's no sex involved, but I believe my company is enough benefit ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:51 PM
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Shaving too much damages and dries out skin, causes ingrown hairs and boils, can cause red or dark spots, only effective up to 3-4 days, and damn... that itch!!. I've embraced the bush. It's not bikini season.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:25 PM
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I realized afterwards that you've been NC, but a sincere man would've asked you to have a face to face meeting at a place of your choosing so he can have an honest heart to heart. Had you said "no", he'd have respected it. Only an LVM thinks breaking NC with a 5-page letter is going to convince you. Since you're NC, this text is WILDLY inappropriate. He's pulling on your heart strings purposefully. Dated a guy who oozed the same vibe. Superficially charming, smart, slick, and totally a gaslighti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:09 PM
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I agree with the other ladies here. The only man who has had the audacity to send me essays in text like this, was a diagnosed sociopath. You don't discuss this in text message. A sincere man who needs this many words to convince you, would make the effort to come to you face to face, so you can see the sincerity. Arrogant thinking a drag and flood of messages is sufficient. It reads like somebody who took it upon themselves to be their own lawyer on stand, and know they're smart and charming, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:48 PM
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Yeah, I wouldn't have replied to him like this. That's not the soft but boss feminine energy to connect with a man's heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:18 PM
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From the horse's mouth, a HVM told me this: "A girlfriend label is nothing serious; it implies you're only trying, not doing. I don't expect you to be exclusive to me, nor have sex with me, until we're commited. I don't sleep with other women out of respect for you however."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:06 PM
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If you're in an exclusive relationship without a serious commitment towards the future, you are at risk of being a placeholder/forever girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:58 PM
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Like this rephrase 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:52 PM
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They're following me outside of this sub too. I post something elsewhere, and they derail the whole thread to unleash their bottled baby clown rage. 🙄🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:03 PM
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They blame the women for not communicating what they want or starfishing, or being boring because they don't enjoy getting spit on while jackhammered. Don't they realize that when women first start having sex, they can't know what they like? It's about learning through the experience of intimacy what you enjoy. Connecting with each other, exploring your body. But these men are porn-informed, so will push their "education" on you. Women are still fed the image that they should be both shy and a v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:49 PM
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Rip my ladyparts when I dated a totally pornsick dude who wanted to spit on me, and yank my hair aggressively, choke me, but fingering me was scary and he didn't enjoy how it looks down there. I also had to moan more on command. I was young, in love, and stupid. Looking back it feels like sexual abuse. So degrading and uncaring. Every man I've had actually good sex with, starts vanilla, and spends more time on emotionally connecting through the experience, than positions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:33 AM
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I agree. What I care about is simply being with a person I respect and adore who has an interest in building good memories together, and has a caring personality. The aim is a solid, loving, long-lasting relationship. Take what resonates from this sub and implement it in your way in your life. Vetting hard and having standards is what everyone does... Those blokes over at Tinder sub who see who responds to "anal?" are also vetting and setting standards for themselves; one based on sexual gratifi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:57 AM
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Because you're not a jackass whisperer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:37 AM
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I once wanted to post a Tinder success story on there, about dating a guy who didn't press me for sex for 3 months and just took me out and fine dined me. After I saw the average content there I noped out. Just felt vile to post there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:02 PM
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Every other day I have a man with extreme cognitive dissonance in my inbox. Cursing at me for being lame and a golddigger with a useless life. If you feel so insulted by FDS content that you take it that personal, you ought to realize you have a problem. Only if you know deep down that you are trash would you message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:57 PM
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I'm just baffled that it took her 3 kids and a stroke for it to start to dawn on her that her husband has no interest in their children or her health. This is a really sad marriage and a very sad woman. kickhimout2020
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:22 PM
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This! 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:14 PM
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In the end, there will always be a couple core wounds or annoying traits about a person that you will have to deal with. It's about whether your crazy matches, and you love each other with each other's flaws included, not whether there's no flaws at all. That being said; the LVM is the guy who takes no accountability and responsibility for keeping their crazy in check, or self-developing. They got no growth mind. And they use it as an excuse why it's okay to abuse, neglect and mistreat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:36 PM
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I wouldn't say he's a close friend, and he moved back to another city in another country a year ago, but I definitely do feel platonic and friendly about this past-fwb. When I met him it was clear from the start; we are not available for anything serious, he's only in town 3 days a week for a business project, and we're only doing an fwb if we can also respect each other as people. After laying some boundaries and sharing our expectations, it was pretty much smooth sailing. We'd hang out to do o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:59 PM
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For real. Back in my Pickmeisha days I supported a broke ass man. Also dated another guy for a few months who asked for gas money, and hardly even took me on a date. It's always dudes who literally ask and expect a handout. I need the support and the gifts to come from the heart. I might ruthlessly vet men now who aren't generous, because stingy is just a sign they hold me in contempt, but I never hold my hand up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:13 PM
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Haha same, I was thinking to myself, "wyd friday!??" Blasphemous words! Get out of the church 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:43 PM
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This man is once again proving that men have no capacity for honest, emotional communication. He's clearly got issues with the pregnancy, but rather than TALKING IT OUT he chooses to completely dismiss the pregnancy and sleeps on the couch. I'm just shocked at the effort he goes through AVOIDING the need to touch base with his wife. All that energy should've gone to heart-to-hearts, pampering his wife and finding solutions to work together. What a manchild. He's doing everything he could to brea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:46 AM
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I am definitely sad/disappointed with how things turned out with him because I did really like him. I felt that. They are actually quite good guys. They seem HVM. I was really shattered he turned out be that fucked up. It's that the guy I dated did give me a disclaimer at some point (you know, SEVERAL months into growing attached to him later) of all his red flags, that I could at least respect him for the honesty of knowing he has issues. But working on those issues....? They prefer to keep thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:44 PM
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They're so afraid of abandonment, that they keep the door wide open, hands gesturing, exit lights flashing, so they can say "See? I told you, you'd leave. See?". 🙄🙄🙄 Go see a therapist man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:26 PM
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I've been here too! And for the first couple months, I didn't figure it out. Commitment phobic men LOVE the initial stages of dating a woman. So sometimes you only find out after 3-6 months, if you're not careful and clever to spot the early signs. I felt soooo blindsided once I became aware!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:02 PM
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The unavailable but good man is a tricky trap sisters... He will... Treat you chivalrously and generously, including; dinners, movies, romantic getaways, bringing you gifts, rescuing you in a pinch, making sure you are safe Does not expect sex; sex is either really good or absent Does not get jealous he's a Rotational Date Respects and celebrates your individuality and achievements Is good with animals and children Often has a successful career; is hardworking and conscientious by nature But he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:36 PM
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I had an LDR, and he eventually moved to me. But that wasn't rosy either. I was 18 and he was an escape from home. I projected so much hope on him, but it was the most toxic relationship of my life. He was so dysfunctional, he threatened suicide if I'd leave him. He became a homeless drunk after I dumped him. Harshest reality check that I was cutting myself short. Never again!!! Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:37 PM
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Classic story of the Pickmeisha believing love conquers all and transcends time and space, caught in the fantasy relationship of LDR. If we just give and give and give, surely we'll get rewarded? I feel for her; bitter ice cold reality dawned on her. This is why I don't do LDR. It's only the promise of a relationship, not an actual one. At such a distance you have close to zero opportunity to see how a man treats you, or treats himself and the important things in his life. All interactions throu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:05 AM
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Men caring more about their porn than their ED 🤷 Byeeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:23 AM
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I completely agree that his wording is very irritating and lackluster. If this was a guy I've only recently started seeing, it's a big turn off. Whether the crack of the whip is silence or a snarky comeback to set him straight, in my opinion, is up to OP who has more context about this man's actions up to this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:19 PM
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LV-men: \cries in incel**
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:47 PM
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You are right on this, sis! Thanks for your perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:32 PM
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Sami Wunder offers wonderful advice to reignite a man's attention when a marriage is in a rut. The FDS rules basically re-apply; Lean back, stay in feminine energy, do your own thing, wait on him to approach you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:28 PM
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"I remember! So why is my phone not ringing...? ;)" Do agree he seems quite lame about it. So it's your choice! But if I'd reply, I'd be a bit snarky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:22 PM
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I think he's asking if now is a good time to call. I agree that he could've just called, or phrased it differently. Maybe give him benefit of the doubt, and see if the conversation is good. If he's a drag, can always cut the conversation short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:13 PM
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I've invested a lot of time in analyzing my own attachment style, and connecting with feminine energy to become HVW and attract HVM into my life. Thais Gibson and Sami Wunder have wonderful channels on Youtube for this. I have no clue about the percentage of HVM, but I will say that growing up with a very LVM father (ASPD, ex-cocaine dealer, misogynistic) I was brainwashed and programmed to feel a sense of familiarity with LVM. What was normal at home + my crippled self-esteem as a result of it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:45 PM
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Even as far as FWB's go, that's a very unattractive profile. I had an FWB once with a man, who still courted and fine dined me, had intelligent conversation, took care of me when I was sick, handled some chores for me. His profile was a list of interests, and an honest disclaimer he was going to move out of town. At that moment I was open to an FWB. First time we had sex, he stopped in my doorstep and asked for permission to enter my bedroom. He sought explicit consent for everything. Even thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:06 AM
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Most male friendships I have admittedly are with gay men. But I did manage to build a few friendships with straight men that have been stable and platonic. Some real gems. A strong indicator of being able to have a true friendship with a man, is if there is no sexual tension on either side. If the dick is behind the steering wheel, they become literal dicks. Men who use friendship to hide their true motive are sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:24 PM
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"Porn is part of a healthy male's mind". Did I honestly just read that? Look at all these pigs and trashbags smelling up the comment section to cover a bro's shit. LVM all over the internet congratulating each other for their vile porn addictions. P.S. For the lurkers. Suggested to my date to stop watching porn, because it's ruining our perspective on sex and causing us to be programmed in how we masturbate. He agreed, and quit porn. He's actually getting sex with a real person in return, so unl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:36 PM
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The best guys I've dated, are the guys who: Feel pleasure being generous, kind and accomodating. In fact; they feel put off if I try to reciprocate, because I'm stepping into their zone. Their reward is knowing I'm safe, happy and full of loving energy, and they'll go the extra mile to provide it. They want to be the hero of your heart. They don't use me as an emotional tampon or their surrogate mom. Understand 'dating' isn't the same as commitment. They're respectful that I might date multiple …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:46 PM
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The guys who challenge me to a conversation end up seeing I'm reasonable. They see being in FDS is not for as simply a reason as "GimmE MoNeyZ". They don't reply anymore when they run out of gas trying to convict me of being a golddigger though. No apology, nothing, when they realize they're wrong. Probably off harassing someone else until they can cherrypick something a woman says to fit their women-hating narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:40 PM
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Wow, just wow. Stay with mommy, Eric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:53 AM
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God's gift to women 😩 With that attitude you'll literally only attract women who will use you for your dick and money. No way, you don't believe in love and marriage!? I'm so intrigued how that happened...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:54 PM
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The reason why I don't have sex for at least 3 months of lavish generous kind treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:49 PM
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The guy I'm dating likes to observe old couples together, and see if they're happy. If the man treats her chivalrously, if they smile, if they seem comfortable around each other. He pays a lot of attention to such observations. He's also very HVM. If I have a bad day, he shows up with a bag of groceries, cooks me eggs benedict, tells me to stay in my PJs and holds tightly. He's always so full support. Going abroad for fieldwork? He offers to pay my rent if my finance is tight, and wants to take …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:45 PM
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Yes, lists like these can be a powerful wake up call to somebody. When neglect and abuse was your standard from infancy, it's hard to conceive of having the boundaries and standards in place along with the self-esteem to enforce them. It was quite a battle to get where I am today. Thank you for your support, sis 💖 All the more reason why I believe I deserve a HVM. Everything I have in my life, I build my own, and I ain't going to let a man kill my vibes! He has to make me feel amazing to add val…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:19 PM
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Not texting first is how you keep positive tension in a relationship with a man, adds a little mystery, builds curiosity, and it gives you the security that when he texts you have his attention. Overtexting isn't good. It kills having anything to talk about on dates. Space is good because you have your own life going on, with you know, girlfriends, family and kids to text. Space allows a relationship to breathe, so you can focus on your own goals and keep yourself high-vibrational and happy. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:55 PM
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Very useful list. Sadly, I recognized almost all 30 of them. If only I had a healthy example as a father, but he checks most of these items too. I ended up getting involved with an abusive man for years. This is one of the reasons why I absolutely won't settle for less than HVM. The impact of having a healthy supportive husband and father on your family unit can stretch beyond a lifetime. It affects generations. I want the cycle of abuse and trauma in my family to end with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:20 PM
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Proud of you for taking the trash out, sis! 2020 will be a year to let love in with HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:00 AM
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Ikr 🤣 I have cringe-worthy scrawny small-dick incels in my DM's saying I ain't a prize. Projection much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:30 AM
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This happened to me before too. He used to box... Like 5 years ago. Only training he had been doing since was beer training. If you're too insecure to use a recent picture of yourself, why date? Lying about who you are is not the start of something healthy. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:20 AM
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I'm also in support of a eco-friendly, consciously consuming lifestyle. I don't want to be swimming in riches, I just want to be financially stable, a cosy home and go on vacation every once in a while. I like to thrift stuff, and I'm careful with my possessions. I'd love to grow my own veg and have some chickens for fresh eggs and meat. I also give men who live a humble lifestyle a chance, because it aligns with my values. But I just don't like stingy men. I don't like men who are stingy with t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:23 AM
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That's so thoughtful and sweet! That's what makes a keeper. My date went through a lot of hassle to obtain a button for me. He saw a little girl with a jacket full of buttons, and spotted one of Audrey Hepburn. He asked her if they could do a trade, asked the parents if they minded waiting, and raced home to give her TWO buttons in exchange for her Audrey Hepburn button. He gave it to me after taking me out to the zoo and dinner. The cost of that button? Zero. The amount of care and effort? Pric…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:50 PM
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I tell them: That's cute but I like to get to know men before I sleep with them. Probably that'll turn him off, and if it doesn't, it'll be the last time we talked anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:01 PM
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He even confided that he just moved in with his girlfriend. He's on the internet trolling self-loving women while she shares his bed. Lord have mercy on that woman. I hope she finds this sub and starts asking herself some questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:48 PM
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Yes! I tried explaining this to him, but he was like "a richer man will come by and then you'll dump him" and "the marriage will inevitably fall apart and the man won't have a safety deposit". A HVM would never think like this. And why would I leave a HVM that I committed to, unless he turned out to be LVM in disguise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:42 PM
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I had an entire conversation string with a guy, and he was so offended that FDS is spreading a message that "devalues men on a tight budget". You can be on a tight budget, and STILL have a generous caring mindset, STILL want your girl to feel like a Queen, STILL show up for her, share your resources, pamper her, take care of her, and make her feel like she's MORE rather than less. If that's not your automatic attitude towards a person you're in love with, tf makes you think you're entitled to da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:23 PM
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LVM have been DM'ing me since I'm active in this group, saying I'm a spoiled undeserving brat. Excuse me. But if a man can't afford to date me, he can't afford children. If a man doesn't think I deserve pampering now, unconditional of titles, sex or keeping score, he will not pamper me when I'm cleaning diapers at 3am. No consistent effort for romance and generous caring treatment now, means even less effort when we're tired from rearing kids. I'm sure this man was not HVM even before they got k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:03 PM
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"He really trying in this hard life". I'm sorry but is he trying to create a trainwreck or what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:55 PM
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Cue the LVM who want to debate you in DM's because they are mad better men make them look bad 💁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:43 PM
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I met this guy on Tinder of all places. He is Polish, but we live in Netherlands. On our first date he asked if I wanted flowers, and I said nah, so he came with a book I had casually mentioned I still want to read. He didn't mention sex or try to kiss me. He just took me on dates like zoo, concerts, dinners, movies, even offered trips to visit romantic castles, cooked for me, held doors for me, did chores for me, bought my cat toys. First time he touched me was after 2.5 months of dating, when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:26 AM
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I've been seeing a guy who insists on cooking for me, even if I invite him to my house on my free day, and he worked until 9pm. He wants to pay my rent while I am going abroad for my thesis fieldwork. And he also wants to take care of my cat fulltime. Not saying he's the one, but this HVM supporting wife and her debts will be a situation I'm going to encounter, and just saying FDS works. Because if I had not ruthlessly upgraded my standards, I'd still be dealing with unsupportive men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:54 AM
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She's being a bro!? She's not even a woman to him, just because he feels emasculated by her height. Ugh, the girl could also work on her response for LVM. He is not cute, he is trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:22 PM
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Dated a narcissistic boyfriend in the past. I was 17 and not from the best home (according to my dad women are "whores" and my dad worked as a hustler and in the sex industry. Ladies, the damage this has on your daughter's is one reason to never get with a LVM. The stuff I had to go through to gain self-esteem after systematically being degraded, omg). Anyway, that boyfriend provided a "way out", a fixation, and I thought I loved him. He was pornsick and only wanted to have sex without looking i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:11 AM
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Truth here. I've been seeing a guy like this. Last October, he invited me on a vacay with his family. So I spend time with his mom, stepdad, brother and sister in a beautiful location. He took me windowshopping and asked me what kind of rings I like. But we're not a couple. He seems to understand I'm not a woman you date, I'm a woman you marry. Yet he's always got some excuse not to; I'm a 5/10 it wouldn't work, we're so different like we don't read the same books, I don't have what it takes to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:59 AM
37

I once fell for a dude who lovebombed me, turned out he was just trying to get his ex to be jealous. Mistake of his to introduce me to his ex-girlfriend and play her off as a friend. Once I sussed it out, she and I became good friends. I dumped his ass. He goes back to her and asks "on a scale from 1 to 10, how'd you rate me as a boyfriend". She said 6 (could've been 1 in my opinion), and he went off at her while she sugarcoated the truth with that 6. Smh, LVM. That girl and I still talk several…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:27 AM
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Embracing the sisterhood! Embracing the queen mentality! Embracing the high vibrations of knowing our worth! Thank you women for getting together and lifting each other up, to say NO to lowering ourselves to be with a man, and YES to unapologetically knowing we deserve what we need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:53 AM
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A past relationship like that kept me browsing over at r/RaisedByNarcissists and r/NarcissisticAbuse couple years ago. After I broke up from that relationship; never again. It may have been all I was raised with, a petty selfish mean father, and a petty selfish mean ex. But I decided never to let myself be fooled into believing I deserve less than full respect and caring treatment from the point I broke with the past. Those men try to fool you into believing you're not a Queen. But you were born…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:16 PM
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Dated a man who gave me everything from day one without demanding anything in return. But it didn't work out because he lost the means to date. He gave me a personal gift based on our conversation when we met. He always took me home safely, without even expecting a kiss. He treated me to concerts, dinners, movies, museums, trips. He held open doors and carried my heavy stuff. If I invited him over, he'd insist cooking for me in my own kitchen, even if I had a day off and he worked. He was not on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:21 AM
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Sis, you overexplained yourself. You don't need to justify yourself. If a man can't respect your time, and you need to be available at his demand, that's a fuckboy. You just say something like; I'd like to see you but I am busy, and I don't plan last minute. And leave if there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:35 PM
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