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none. Right now I'm thinking it's mostly psychosomatic.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 01:09 AM
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Checked a couple of days ago: 112/67
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 07:23 PM
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OYS #69 35, bachelor, 5'7, 168 lbs Gym: 6 times a week, Boxing/Muai thai 3 times a week Been an interesting few weeks. COVID: After 2 years of evading the virus, I got hit with the Rona. I definitely caught it while out at a mission-related conference. Woke up in the middle of the night with a sore throat and minor headache. I kept hydrating myself and after 2-3 days, the symptoms disappeared. But on the 5/6th day had some difficulty breathing. I wasn't sure if it was just a panic attack (more o…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 02:18 PM
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Stats. 🙂 Max- BP: 295 lbs MP:175 lbs , injured SI joint so don't do squats or deads, but last time I checked around 350 & 370 lbs respectively. Spinning 3 plates, fucking 1-2/week. As for Mission read UM. There are seven life areas. You can have a Mission that encompasses several, one that is sequential. Many options. I relegate other life areas into my vision. But will check this out. Thx.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:14 PM
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​ How much are you lifting and how much are you fucking? Not sure if you're asking my stats or if you're making a comment about me lifting more than I'm fucking. ​ And are you sure you want your career to be your entire Mission? Good question. Worth thinking about. What are other components of mission aside from a career that engages you?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:09 PM
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OYS #68 35, bachelor, 5'7, 169 lbs, 16% BF (Navy method) Turned 35 over the weekend. Reflected on my progress over the last 5 years since I started unfucking my life. I was an angry man before I started OYS. Now I live in accordance with my values. Most of the time, at least. I improved my mental models, tripled my income, lifts broke through the 1000lbs club, spun plates, and quit my job to follow my mission full time. Now, for the next 5 years, I'm looking forward to scaling all of these found…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 04:31 PM
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Eat a lot, learn to fight, and look into 5/3/1 by Wendler. Helped me pack on a lot of muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 10:33 PM
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Are you jacked Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 09:51 PM
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OYS #67 34, Bachelor, 5'7, 169 lbs, 16% BF (Navy method) GYM: Hitting the gym 5 times a week to lift, and boxing 2-3x a week for cardio. A high level of activity keeps me sane. I usually go out early morning to start the day off right. In the past, my workouts were about 45 minutes long. Now, 45 minutes is my warm-up and mobility work, then I start my hypertrophy program. Been incorporating slow eccentric movements which have been kicking my ass. LEISURE: Took a month off and traveled abroad for…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 01:18 PM
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OYS #66 34, Bachelor, 5'7, 172 lbs, 16% BF (Navy method) Mission: Hit a big milestone last week. I have yet to celebrate as I'm focusing on the next beachhead. But I booked myself a trip in the next week to a tropical location I've always wanted to visit. A treat to myself for such a great year. Social: I linked up with a friend/business partner that I haven't seen in over 5 years. I got frustrated with his lack of effort and basically soft-nexted. After my milestone last week, I invited him to …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 01:24 PM
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OYS #65 34, Bachelor, 5'7, 178 lbs, 18% BF (Navy method) Lockdown was lifted again this week, so I'm back in the gym. Been lazy about working out at home so went up a few pounds. I'm back to 178 and working back towards 170. Hypertrophy program is currently being run, but I'm considering mixing in some 5/3/1 boring but big elements. This is my major focus for the month. I've not owned this category very well over the last few months. Mission is going well. Signed another lucrative contract this …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:47 AM
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OYS #64 34, Bachelor, 5'7, 178 lbs, 18% BF (Navy method) Frame: Better. I no longer have a desire to save any family members or friends. I've shed that ego. I have no authority to take on that responsibility. I've stopped acting in order to get a preferred reaction from someone else. Dancing monkey. I've used general tools of RP praxeology in other parts of my life. Replaced so-called wife with general issues that tend to give me anxiety. Passive dread in all areas of my life. Zero covert expect…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 02:35 PM
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OYS #63 34, 5'7, 177 lbs, 18% BF (Navy method) Since I started owning my shit, 2021 has been my most successful year to date. I came here to fix my mental models. A lot of my actions had been soiled with covert contracts, I sought validation, and I wasn't my mental point of origin. I was driven by resentment and anger. Now I'm mostly driven by what I want. I still deal with residual guilt, but I've shed a lot of that weight thanks to the vets on here but mostly because of the work I put it. But …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:18 PM
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OYS #62 34, 5'7, 178 lbs, 19% BF (Navy method) Been traveling the past month and I've let a few things slide. Since quitting my job and living the mission full time, it was the first extended period of time I was away from home. There were many long hours that ate away at my life management time. There were a lot of wins during this trip but took note of my failings and will be better prepared in the future to manage my time away from work. Been thinking a lot about where I want my life to be in…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 01:20 PM
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haha that's cute. 175 at about 15%-17% BF will work just fine for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 02:51 PM
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OYS #61 34, 5'7, 180 lbs, 20% BF (Navy method) Bench: 300 lbs, Squats: 360 lbs, Deadlift: 380 lbs, Press: 165 lbs Generals: Need to lose 5 lbs, work on mobility, eat better food. A few plates broke this past week because I wasn't giving them the attention they needed/desired. Don't have time for maintenance. The good thing is that the plates left behind understand the score and the terms, which is where I want to be. Finally achieved my most sought-after goal last month. One that's been evading …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 01:47 AM
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But I was determined to share what I learned and my 10000 foot view with everyone. I have no desire to talk about fight club outside of this group. Leadership is with regards to my mission - which is the fire that drives me every day - and is going very well for me. And now I feel I can impart something. Why dont you find yourself finding ways to lead regardless of who will listen because you believe so deeply that you have something to share? Great point. I guess that's the missing mental motel…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 06:45 PM
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unpack that for me. How's that different from the rest of the sentence? Living in accordance with my values.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 06:01 PM
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OYS #60 34, 5'7, 175 lbs, 18% BF (Navy method) Despite my progress, I'm still battling with a few negative thoughts. That I'm not enough. That I need to do more. The rationalization is that it'll make me better, but I sense it's some residual validation seeking. But it's a struggle that I'm gradually overcoming. Being grateful for what I have. Life has never been better. I've transitioned away from the state of mind I had last year when things started to go well for me. I had anxiety that it was…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 03:21 AM
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OYS #59 34, 5'7, 175 lbs Got back in the gym a few weeks ago and may have overdone it with volume. Pulled back a bit when I injured my tricep and glute med. My SI joint is unstable so need to work on rehabbing. Progressing on mobility. Still need to focus on eating clean. Under 20% BF but above 15%. Finished my memoir last week and made some great discoveries. Carved new avenues on how to move forward with my life. Over-arching ideas allowing me to own my shit on a vision level rather than just …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 03:56 AM
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OYS #5834, 5'7, 175 lbs Things are better when I'm at peace. I have to keep reminding myself. An individual with abundance is calm and relaxed. He is still proactive but he is peaceful in the manner with which he moves. Self-assured. Mindfull. I had one of my better days last week talking a walk around the block thinking I'm where I've been hoping to be for far too long. In the past, I worried about whether I was lucky. Now I'm just thankful. I focus on incremental changes. Small steps, day by d…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 03:30 AM
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OYS #57 34, 5'7, 173 lbs After about 6 months of rehab I'm finally able to sit again. I had pulled my QL and the surrounding stabilizers weakened. Strengthening my glute medius has taken strain off the QL, so I'm able to sit without feeling my back flare up. I was concerned that as offices open up, I'd be hindered as I could barely sit for a minute without my back seizing. It seems to be tracking in the proper direction. I'm healing and I'm thankful. The important thing is to focus on improving …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 08:19 PM
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It was after that interaction that I realized I’m not really afraid of my wife anymore. ​ But you still need her validation... ​ When I told my wife where I would be
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 06:00 PM
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I need to do that No you don't. That's still nice guy, approval seeking behaviour. You're going to end up resentful because people aren't going to be thankful for what you've done for them. Be productive for yourself. If people are on board. Great. If not. Fuck em. If someone asks for help, help them out but don't keep a scoreboard. Don't be out here putting yourself on fire to keep other people warm. It's not about nobody caring, it's about you caring less.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 05:54 PM
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OYS #56 34, 5'7, 172 lbs Things have started to re-open and I need to continue holding myself accountable as I did during the pandemic. Things went well for me as the world slowed down. I accomplished a lot of my goals. Now with everything going back to normal I have to maintain the same mental models that got me through the last 12 month or so. That means weekly OYS, vigorous accounting of myself. I love where I am, but I'm not yet where I want to be. I want to be less driven by validation-seek…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 03:46 AM
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OYS #55 34, 5'7, 174 lbs I turned 34 last week. I took a few days off and headed up to a friend's cottage to be closer to nature. Materialistic items that I used in the past as gifts to myself no longer hold the same value. I get a boost being out in the wild. Getting in tune with a primal part of myself. I took time to reflect on the past 54 OYS and how my life has changed. Slowly, but surely. Most of the things that I wanted for myself I have achieved. The problematic areas that were in my con…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/21 01:12 PM
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OYS #54 33, 5'7, 174 lbs, 19% BF (Navy), Bachelor Cut down 2.5 lbs from last week. Body fat still not where I want it to be. Need to cut down carbs for this week, keep protein high. Been suffering from Sacro-iliac pain for the last 5 months or so after pulling my QL. Pain is consistent. Physio, and chiro have only been palliative for the moment. Did some additional research and found that my left glute medius is weak causing my QL to overcompensate, which has been making it difficult to sit the …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/21 12:29 PM
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Noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/21 12:15 AM
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OYS #53 33, 5'7, 177 lbs, 18% BF (Navy), Bachelor Got a call this morning that one of my favourite uncles passed away from Covid. A great mentor. A great friend. But I felt nothing. Just a matter of fact. He's dead. He's gone. Nothing more I can do but be a source of emotional strength for those around me. The incident has however pushed me to get my vaccine which I'll book this week. This week marks the first full month of living my mission. I officially transferred from my day job. I'm fulfill…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 10:51 PM
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OYS #52 33, 5'7, 177 lbs, 18% BF (Navy), Bachelor One of the mental models I wanted to instill this year was to stop delaying action. In the past, some important tasks would have been pushed til later in the year. They would eventually be completed, but I would not have properly prioritized them. Outside of the main tenets of my map to lift, build frame and STFU, a lot of things were relegated to the future. I've made a concerted effort to notice these blind spots and bring them to the light. At…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 02:31 AM
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OYS #51 33, 5'7, 174 lbs, Bachelor The plan to quit my day job and focus on my mission FT was scheduled for sometime this summer. I said fuck that and submitted my two weeks notice yesterday. All of my contingencies are in place. Financially, I'm set to make this change. In the past, this would have be a daunting decision. Fear of failure, fear of humiliation. But I've now come to the point where none of these matter to me any more. The cost of not acting is greater than the benefit of remaining…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 01:16 AM
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OYS #50 33, 174 lbs, 5'7, Bachelor I'm at a point where I've accomplished everything that I wanted. I didn't have lofty goals, just goals to unfuck myself. I now realize how low and average they were. But you can only eat an elephant one piece at a time. I'm starting to thrive and getting used to the feeling. I want more. For my own sake. After having the great year that I've had, I've spent the last few months modulating my map. Focusing primarily on 4 beachheads. Financial goals, social goals,…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 12:26 AM
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OYS #49 33, 174 lbs, 5'7, Bachelor Resentment. Creeps up here and there. When it does, it brings hell with it. For a few reasons, last week triggered a few battles with myself. Victimhood. My mental state may have been more vindictive and confrontational than usual. I consciously tried to remind myself but I succumbed to the anger. The result was not good. I failed. I had some daydreams/fantasies of getting back at people/things that did/are doing me wrong. Unjustifiably so. Unsure as to how it …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 11:24 PM
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OYS #48 33, 175 lbs, 5'7 I dreamt about my late grandfather recently. He's been a big influence on my life. I look to his example for many things I do today. And in the dream he told me that I would learn more from his failures than his successes. Still trying to figure out what those would be. Another milestone reached. I'm debt-free. Paid off my last account this past week. Didn't think it would happen. Which leads me to consider all the other limiting beliefs that I still cloak under realisti…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 12:32 AM
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I came here thinking my marriage had a problem, when it was I who had the problem the whole time. You'll go far.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 12:50 PM
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During this phase of your OYS, spend less time on what you will/should do. Instead, replay last week's fuck ups. Explore these scenarios. Analyze these incidents in the same way you laid out the administrative assignment issue. You'll go farther/faster.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 12:47 PM
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OYS #47 172 lbs, 5'7 Things are improving. My tight QL is gradually loosening up. My finances are on the right path. Should clear my debt in two weeks. I have the opportunity to double my income in a year by focusing on my mission. I just need to deal with the anxiety of the unknown as I move forward. There's one major thing that I need to do in order to make these new goals happen. It involves doing less, rather than doing more. Over the last few weeks I've noticed my desire to work more, work …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 11:33 PM
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OYS #46 168 lbs, 5'7, 17% body fat (Navy) Things have been hectic these last two weeks. For good reason. Essentially working two jobs as I work to transition out of my current job to work full time on my mission. I'm engaged. I'm content. But it feels like there's not enough time in the day to do the small things I need done. They get completed, just feel like I'm rushing from one thing to the next. I'll have to manage my time better. My back is gradually improving since I pulled it 3 weeks ago.…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/21 03:28 AM
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I work at an office where there’s more or less a 1/20 ratio between men and women, so the opportunities are plenty. Now that I’m less nervous during social interactions, there’s signals I’m noticing that I never really noticed before when I was fat and quiet. Don't shit where you eat.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/21 03:57 AM
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OYS #45 33, 5'7, 172 lbs, 19% BF, Bachelor All I did was reach over to my right. Felt like a rubber band snapping in my lower back. I remained immobile for the remainder of the night. This is the result of not owning my shit when it comes to flexibility and mobility. Sitting down at my desk for hours on end. Overtime galore. Hard work this past year led to a lot of progress. But with progress, there's always a price. The question is do you get to choose that price? This is the sacrifice I made, …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 01:29 AM
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Buy and hold. Invest like a dead person. What it sounds like you're doing is buy and selling stocks in order to time the market. Slippery slope. If you're going to trade stocks, allocate a small percentage to play around with - 5% to 10% max. The rest, park it in 1) some low cost exchange traded funds (Vanguard has some good ones) and 2) some government bonds. Read Benjamin Graham's Intelligent Investor.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/21 04:41 PM
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Have started talking to friends about stocks/shares. Started a practice account to learn how to navigate it and increase my understanding. Will start investing small amounts this month to see how I do. That is gambling. Not investing.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/21 04:00 AM
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In the past, I’ve engaged in butthurt sulking when she says something hurtful like that, but this time I actually felt ok about it. I mean, it still hurt, but I don’t need to waste my time on someone who doesn’t value it. Next time, give less fucks. Laugh about it. Agree and Amplify and keep it moving.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/21 03:54 AM
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So my question for you is: How do I get to a place where I approve of myself? What does knowing that I'm worth it and I deserve the good in my life actually feel like? First, you need to get out of your head. You're intellectualizing this way too much. It's mental masturbation. Larping. Inactive. Asking that question alone is low value. The best way to feel that you deserve the good things in life is to actively work towards them. As such, focus on tangible and actionable goals (Lifting, finance…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/20 07:18 PM
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OYS 44 33, 5'7, 169 lbs, 18% BF, Bachelor It was searing pain that woke me up at 5 am this morning. Lower back was so inflamed that i felt like vomiting. Even considered going to the ER. But reconsidered: this is a muscular problem (also a mental one). I'll have to book a chiropractor visit. I called around 7 to book an appointment for 8:30. I get to the practice only to be told by the clerk that the Chiro had intended to take the day off and would not be coming in. Earlier in my journey, I woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 05:07 AM
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You internally acknowledge that you're worth it. Whatever good thing that happens, you deserve it, you're worth it. Entitlement is only dangerous when you start feeling bitter.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 02:55 AM
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It wasn't meant to be. Cynicism is for the lazy. From what I read, you sound very cynical. As such, it's going to prevent you from achieving whatever it is that you want. That's for you to define.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 05:20 PM
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My bucket list sounds negative with no vision/mission. It maybe is a reflection of my current state. I don't know any better. Makes you sound like a defeatist loser. Pick a target, aim for it, and then iterate as you progress. Better than paddling around in a circle. Formulate your vision and mission (which you started with your edit). That's the whole point of the OYS. The fuck do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 05:03 PM
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Happiness is a vague term. Sure. But aren't all words? It's the meaning we ascribe to them that matters. Which leads to a mental model. And yours is dripping with cynicism. It'll prevent you from maximizing your potential.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 04:58 PM
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Thank you to everyone reading and commenting I know your time is not free and I am grateful for it. ​ In fact, I’ve been letting myself and everyone who loves me down by not giving the world the best of me. You have a self-worth problem. First step towards redemption is eradicating statements like that. They are validation-seeking.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 04:43 AM
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I told her I'm not making him do anything You sound too defensive. Along with her saint and rules comment, this is a shit test that you should be knocking out of the park considering how pedestrian it is. STFU is the default strategy for newbs. You need to learn how to agree and amplify. And stop using sex for validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 04:31 AM
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I got a little consumed with stock trading. I'm not sure if it was the money or it was the validation. It feels good when you are right. I added some more fund to my trading account in anticipation to santa claus rally next week. I guess it is the money that motivates me. Sounds like gambling. Bucket list has too much of a negative connotation. Break it down into Vision and Mission. Vision is how you envision your idealized life to be. Mission is the plan of how to get there.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 04:21 AM
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He’s happy as shit. I see wasted potential That's a very cynical mental model. You're going to conflate the two: any time you're happy it's because you're wasting potential. Why do you value maximizing potential over maximizing happiness? Why can't you pursue them in tandem?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 04:14 AM
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This bitch literally told me that she uses sex to try to manipulate me... I didn’t know whether to call her out on the fact that she is a manipulator, or to just STFU. The only appropriate answer is to laugh and then leave the house to do something productive. Never show butt hurt after she rejects your for sex. It's extremely unattractive and makes you sound/look like a bitter bitch. I am pissed at myself for doing that the next morning. I was still pissed at her, but was so horny I couldn’t he…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 03:55 AM
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OYS 43 33, 5'7, 169 lbs, 18% BF, Bachelor I joined this group in order to fix my mental models. I'd been working out for over 15 years. Pick up since my late teens, so no issues with women. But I struggled with my mission. Not that I didn't know it, but that I was unable to attain the benchmarks for myself. It was NMMNG that revealed that sliver of despondency which kept me from capitalizing on my potential. I was an almost there. At the precipice. I thought it was the world. But I actively kept…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/20 03:41 AM
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OYS 42 33, 5'7, 167 lbs, 17% BF, Bachelor I've had a lot of opportunities in the past that I squandered away. People who reached out to me to help me get to the next level. Or provided advice that I didn't seek out, hence did not trust. It's made my progression slow. But I've noticed things change over the last few months. For the better. I attribute this to shedding a sense of victimhood I'd not seen before. And it's also made me happier. I was a cynic without realizing it. I'd get anxious and …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 02:16 AM
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Right now, I'd say it's both. I'll proceed towards action, but there's still that element of anxiety. Then I get neurotic about resolving the issue. This is the negative feeling I'm working to address.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/20 06:29 PM
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OYS 41 33, 5'7, 167 lbs, 15% BF, Bachelor Today was a breakthrough. Over the last few years I've been working on my mission as a side hustle. It's in the creative/tech field. It's brought me a lot of frustration because a lot of elements were out of my control. So I stopped worrying about that, and focused on my own efforts. Amplified my sweat equity. My day job paid the bills, but my mission kept me going. Today I was offered my first paid contract. It's literally taken me 10 years to get to th…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/20 01:26 AM
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OYS 40 33, 5'7, 166 lbs, 15% BF, Bachelor Things have been good lately; heading in the right direction. I'm thriving and it's a new feeling. But I can sense my nice guy mental model telling me that I don't deserve it. All of my goals are aligning themselves to fruition, but there's that nagging thought in my mind that this is just temporary. Transient. My life truly can't be this satisfying. I'm deluding myself. Missing the forest for the trees. As if scarcity mindset or crisis mode should alway…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 02:24 AM
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k.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 02:36 PM
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OYS #39 33, 5'7, 166 lbs, 15% BF Paid off one of my major debts. Seeing account balance at 0 is surreal. Thought I'd be happier than the indifference I currently feel. One more account to pay off and can continue saving. ER fund already in place, looking to buy some ETFS. Opened up a new TFSA with a brokerage firm this past week. Did not get the internal Sr. position I applied for. Once again, I was indifferent. Learnt a lot. Director gained some new insight regarding my benefit to the company. …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 12:04 AM
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I gained 2-3lbs. Make sure that most of that isn't fat. Depending on how long you've been working out these could just be noob gains, but 2-3 lbs a week seems excessive. Keep an eye out. 1 lbs to 1.5 lbs is ideal.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 10:39 PM
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This OYS could have been cut down by half. You're too much in your head overanalyzing things that don't matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 10:30 PM
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Held up OYS for 2 weeks due to uneventful time. Just grinding. Nip this in the bud, now. This is how you slack off; and a month goes by without OYS. Do it every week to force an examination of what's important. What's below the surface.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 10:12 PM
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OYS #39 33, 5'7, 165 lbs (15% US Navy Calc) The biggest sources of my frustration right now are income and career trajectory. While not broke, I should be making more. I also don't feel that I'm as challenged as I'm intelligent. While both are important, I would say the latter is more the cause of my frustration than the former. Recently applied for a Sr. Position in my department and I've begun working on a start up. Have a product in place, now working on funding. This has always been a strugg…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 06:20 PM
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OYS #38 33, 5'7, 165.2 lbs, 15% BF Did fuck all regarding my mission this past week. I need to look into organization of limited partnership, and speak with the other general partner about split and drafting the agreements. Had an interview on Monday for a more senior role in my department. Pitted against colleagues who've been here longer, but don't do better work. Whether I get it or not, great learning experience for my blind spots. Resume has been revised and will continue applying for other…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 03:13 AM
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OYS #37 33, 5'7, 164 lbs, 13% BF Finally put together a financing plan for my start up. Will create a limited partnership with about 10-15 investors at 60% equity. Will bring another general partner who's also a lawyer, will split 30/10. Funds to be placed in escrow until i reach the minimum amount to start creating the product. Plan is to raise the funds in a 6 to 8 month time frame. Weight's been fluctuating 3+/- lbs. Bumped up my calories, but it seems that my metabolism has gotten faster ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 12:29 AM
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OYS #36 5'7, 165 lbs, 15% BF Gained about 1 lbs first week of bulking. Aiming for .5 lbs, so will be in a holding pattern for this week to catch up. Saw my physiotherapist who's been tracking my mobility, or lack thereof. Plan is to work TFL tightness, hamstring, ankle tightness, and T-spine. Great progress over the last couple of months however. Core's stronger, lordosis almost cleared but been slacking on stretches. Need to ramp it back up, every night before bed. Younger brother doing better …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 11:55 PM
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I waste time at work by looking at Reddit. I need to reflect on why. You don't like your job. You don't have a mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/20 02:00 AM
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First, I’m afraid she finds her “true love” (she’s very attractive and always had a lot of attention) and I hate to think that I’m just an episode in her life. The funny thing is I don’t think I even love her anymore but just thinking about her being married and possibly having more kids makes me feel almost desperate. On the other hand, I remember the same feelings with my girlfriends back in my 20s so I’m sure it is just my ego and it shall pass. But I’d love to hear if there are some mental m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/20 01:41 AM
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OYS #35 33, 164 Lbs, 13% BF Navy Method Finally hit my goal of 13% body fat, been cutting for 2.5 months and have shed about 10 lbs. Been better with tracking my food, and eating cleaner. Need to do bloodwork to see where I'm at. Taking this week to transition my calories back up to 2000 kcal, but thinking that this is above my maintenance levels. Looking to slowly, cleanly bulk up to 173 lbs, with about 1 to 2lbs weight gain each month, trying not to go over 15% BF. I'm giving myself about 6 mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 03:13 AM
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OYS #34 33, 5’7, 14% BF When I first started with these posts, one of the flaired members asked why I was here. I'm not married, no children, hit the gym regular, and spin plates. What value did I gain from posting here. Or give, rather. For a while I couldn't express it, all I knew was that there was something of value for me in this space. It was slow, I posted every month just to gauge my progress but it was fleeting. I knew it was important, but was unsure what I was trying to accomplish. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 03:40 AM
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OYS #33 33, 5'7, 171LBS I want to start a business. Did some research about creating a start up. Name and branding elements all in place. Business plan this coming week. Need to focus on MVP. This has been a sticking point for a few years. My ideal life has me running my own company, with multiple streams of income. I've not owned my shit here. It should be my priority. Victimhood mentality started to rear its head back up this past week. I have to remember to compare myself to who I was yesterd…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 12:45 AM
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900 kcal during deload weeks. Back to that next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 12:07 AM
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I tweaked my trap while bench pressing. Probably cause you're flaring out your elbows, almost at a 90 degree angle. Keep them tucked closer to your sides, that way you recruit your lats/back muscles instead of your neck, traps and shoulders. I won’t make the switch immediately, but I’ll buy the books this week. No need. There's a breakdown on T-Nation by Wendler himself. There are a few apps on both android and apple stores you can use. I'd advise you start slow.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/20 05:04 PM
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I replay shit I should be letting go of quickly. This tells you the cons outweigh any benefit (validation) you feel you are getting from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 04:33 PM
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I have not been consistent with daily journaling or guided meditation. This is mental masturbation. Don't fret on daily journaling, if it matters it'll appear in your weekly OYS. A few days distance lends perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 01:35 AM
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OYS #32 33, 5'7, 172 LBS I've been focused on getting rid of my nice guy mentality at the expense of my mission. Another symptom of still being all up in my head. Chopping wood, carrying water, but towards what? I've failed at making the mission the priority. My health and weightlifting are on the right path. Cutting, so eating at around 1500 calories, I'm hovering around 15% body fat aiming for consistent 10-13%, my strength is back to 1000lbs club levels, finances heading the right direction, …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 01:04 AM
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How do I make money if typical fat fucks quit? Get the basics about form and then dump him. Run Stronglifts 5x5. It's the defacto plan for beginners. Keep your heart rate up during the workouts. High Intensive Interval Training will attack those love handles faster than running on the treadmill. More importantly, eat right and count your calories. Figure out how what your total daily energy expenditure amount is, and subtract it by 500 calories. That's your new target, it'll help you lose about …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 02:11 PM
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The first step is to get my heart and lungs back into shape and drop at least 30 lbs before getting into weight training. Bullshit. Start lifting now. It'll help burn fat while also build the foundation for muscle growth. And remember, you are not doing this for her. Don't be a dancing monkey.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 10:20 PM
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OYS #31 33, 5'7, 173 LBS Focused on being less of an autist this week. The realization that being a smart ass was just another tool to seek validation revealed that I was still struggling with being a nice guy. I've actively tried to suppress victim mentality, however, been having dreams about past experiences where I felt I was maligned. Usually recurring, with the same characters. This victimhood goes deeper than I thought it did, and needs to be redacted. It's holding me back. Last week was f…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 09:59 PM
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Calm down rambo. Just because you're asserting your needs doesn't mean you need to be a dick. She needs comfort and leadership from you. But if you don't give a fuck about her, then stfu about her. Your mind is all over the place and it's pretty clear you haven't internalized the readings nor decided on what you want. What would you consider an ideal life predicated on you being your MPO? In this future vision for yourself, is there a place for her? If yes, then you need to bring her along. The …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 10:07 PM
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OYS #30 33, 5’7, 173 lbs Still internalizing NMMNG. Specifically with reference to my wants and needs. A majority of my anger is still derived from not having my needs and wants met. Anger is as a result of the things that I can control but fail to own. My attack plan is to stop having a victim mentality. Enforcing my boundaries, and making all my needs and wants actionable. Tracking them. The biggest challenge to my frame at this moment is mainly my brain trying to find a way to help my young b…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 03:37 PM
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It is recurring. Stems from a false victimhood mentality I'm working to stomp out. The anger is a reaction to my failure to own the things within my power to change.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 03:42 PM
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OYS # 29 33, 5’7, 173 lbs, 18% BF US Navy Method Re-read NMMNG and finally acknowledged a major validation-seeking behaviour. I can track it back to being a child when I was validated for speaking a certain way. Appearing to know more than others. Speaking above and beyond them. In adulthood, I overcompensated and failed to communicate properly. This has held me back and made itself prevalent during a recent job interview. The hiring manager provided some feedback and I realized that people have…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 10:39 AM
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What do you mean by "behaving authentically?"
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/20 01:22 AM
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I need to pay for premium MyFitnessPal so I can track macros. No you don't. Use the diary feature.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 04:01 PM
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Let's go to this museum on Saturday. Then let's make a campfire and s'mores Still asking for permission. Instead of using Let's, make it a declarative statement. "I'm taking the kids to the museum on Saturday. I need you to do this, this, and this." Give your FO something to do as part of that mission. Throw in a some gaming in there, tell her you've got something special planned for her, yada yada.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 03:57 PM
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As I see this change in my wife’s sexual energy unfold, I can’t trust that this is real. I expect the rug to be come out from under me and her to say, “haha, did you really think that was real, you faggot? I want a divorce.” She is deepthroating my cock and I can’t get it out of my head that it is some sort of trick. It feels surreal and unreal. Like she is in on some joke. It can’t be that a few months of actively trying (and in some areas/moments succeeding) to not be a faggot would create suc…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 03:47 PM
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Had an apppointment set up to get braces Get invisalign.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 03:27 PM
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OYS #28 33 I generally use AM when dealing with conflict, but I find sometimes this escalates and polarizes the dynamic even more, sometimes to a disrespectful level. What am I doing about it? Thought about using Negative Inquiries if shit tests persists. My mental model says use AM in the face of manipulation. My instincts still tell me to shut off the aloofness and nip that shit in the bud without jumping up and down screaming “you better respect me.” Still trying to figure out where on that a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 01:14 PM
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I embrace her and provide verbal reassurances. Hold her tightly with her head on my chest, letting the minutes tick by. Feel her holding my arms around her. This was a shitty comfort test. You passed. Sort of. Remember that women make rules for Betas and exceptions for Alphas. She's just confused. Unsure if you're really an Alpha or a shitty little beta. That's her problem. Not yours. Your issue is you lack frame and you're not attractive enough. No point arguing, verbal intercourse is optional.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 11:47 PM
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but she surprised me. A man living in his own frame doesn't get surprised. ​ When I have brought up her being distant, she is adamant that she is unhappy and the problem is her internally; that she sometimes becomes distant, but and it has nothing everything to do with me. FTFY
/r/askMRP07/06/20 06:06 PM
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OYS# 27 I turned 33 today. I'm thankful. I've had a good 33 years so far. I'm a lucky bastard. On all fronts everything improved this past year. Got my finances back in order. Became stronger than I've ever been, benching over 300 lbs for the first time. Flexibility improved drastically because I put myself through the paces. Moved to a part of the city I've been looking at for a while. Creatively, I've been producing better and better material. Plates were spun, good sex was had. Challenges sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 05:02 PM
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The stay plan is the same as the go plan.
/r/askMRP18/04/20 05:13 AM
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OYS# 26 I thought I'd fully swallowed the red pill. These last few days have revealed otherwise. Not because of any acute incident. Or maybe it's because of COVID-19. That's irrelevant. I was initially under the misapprehension that swallowing the red pill was about actively owning your shit. I've come to the realization that this is not enough. My view of the world hadn't fully embraced accepting things as they were. Without judgement. Without rejection. Without solipsism. To fully swallow the …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 07:44 PM
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Send her over.
/r/askMRP03/04/20 09:24 PM
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OYS #25 32, 5'7 175 lbs Bench: 310 lbs, Squats: 365 lbs, Deadlift: 385 lbs, Press: 175 lbs Broadcaster passed on the project we brought to them. Brushed that off, and looked for other partners. Funding source should be confirmed in the next 2 weeks. Another propective collaborator reached out to me last week. At this juncture, my mission has been the most fickle aspect of my map. I'm pursuing but results are not emerging at the pace I'd like. As such, I'm taking hits to the frame. But watched on…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 01:36 AM
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Ain't no morpheus without a Neo to put in the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 01:00 AM
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I personally think the emotional side will take longer To unfuck yourself, the general rule is 1 month for each year of marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 04:41 PM
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Internally, I am afraid of myself, of being an empty shell. I cannot come with any interesting thing to do. You're missing a mission. Something to get you out of your head, so you can conquer the world and beat the depression bug.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 03:49 PM
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I had a heart to heart about our marriage in the last few weeks, and talked about things we have never talked about and she became a different person overnight, sweet, loving and actually trying, and reciprocating kisses. Hysterical bonding without the sex. She's trying to keep her beta buxx from growing a pair of balls and checking out. Don't fall for it. Also, verbal intercourse is optional. I thought we had a chance, but I realized yesterday there is no chance based on what I discovered. It’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 02:44 PM
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I couldn't come up with anything to say at that moment Work on Agree and Amplify. Amused Mastery is how you pass shit tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 06:46 PM
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If she goes starfish, Go caveman.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 06:43 PM
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Cute little deer
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 01:18 AM
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Her: “You are different now, and I’m having to adjust to it. It’s hard.” She's looking for leadership.This is a perfect opportunity to lay out and expand the vision so that she has a roadmap.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 10:20 PM
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Internal:. Shit is bad. I know I've lived as a nice guy, with covert contracts, seeking validation from anyone. I just don't know how to fix it. Anytime I do anything, I wonder how someone will react. Trying to do stuff I want or stuff I think needs to be done, but can't help but think of how my wife, boss, family, ect will react. Will I get rejected or get a gold star? Don't know how to internally stop this. Give less fucks. You're scared of the repercussions; that it will all turn out bad. Jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 10:17 PM
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I will sure as fuck keep winning Says the guy who: -didn't own his shit or lead in his finances and now has to deal with creditors/delinquent payments. -didn't own his shit or lead with his partner and now has to ask his wife's permission if his parents can stay over. A "win" that ultimately led to both your mother and wife crying. You're a drunk captain. A "win" that led you here. -didn't own his shit regarding his health; is ditching a self-prescribed goal to go on a carnivore diet, and then D…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 10:01 PM
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All of this just to say pua without frame makes you a pick up autist.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/20 05:32 AM
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Dripping with happiness.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 02:02 AM
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Mind if I derail for a bit? I appreciate the effort you're putting into all this is you whipping out the slideshow.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 10:43 PM
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I'm gonna honestly need more time to think about the bigger picture. STFU and do the readings. You know nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 10:33 PM
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This week seemed to be going smoothly, but I blew up on one occasion when my wife was acting like a toddler and getting hangry in the car. I need to work more on STFU and being the oak. One possible physiological cause is that I have been low on sleep this week; going to fix that with a stricter schedule and melatonin if necessary. The problem is you give way too many fucks. Next time she gets hangry/annoying treat her like the little girl she is and tease her about it. This is too trivial to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 10:17 PM
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My dad was a manly in many ways but he was also a drunk, controlling of my mother, and beat the shit out of me a couple times a year. I became bigger than him, learned how to fight, and eventually got over it. OYS #29 and you're still talking about this? Right, you're obviously over it. Seems that being physically stronger definitely resolved this issue for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 09:08 PM
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Mission: Be the man I want to be. Be better today than I was yesterday. That's not a mission. That's a vision. Even then, a pretty vague one. Learn the difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 09:03 PM
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I fully swallowed the pill about four years ago. It did not go down easily. Bullshit. You don't fully swallow the pill until you start owning your shit, and by your account history, and the fact that even after years of "swallowing the pill", you're still here talking about chatting up 9s, buying strange from escorts, having no clue what dread is, it's obvious that you're so ego-invested that any attempt to tell you otherwise is a lost cause. You're a validation-seeking whore who after 4 years o…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 08:17 PM
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Slowly I turned, step by step. Jesus, I need to learn to STOP FUCKING ENGAGING. Our hamsters fuck each other and we have Nice Guy/Batshit Crazy hamster babies running around the living room. After discovering the validation issues mentioned above, I've settled down enough to actually see the shit test today for what it was. Halfway through the first DEER statement, I just started smiling, laughed a little, and took her to lunch. Quietest lunch we've ever had, she told me as we left. Yep, it was.…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 07:09 PM
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Frame seems to grow in stages, and I can see my next step. I can envision it and define it, and begin to step deeper into it. The next stage logically flows from you outlining all these areas and owning your shit without your wife being a reference point or barometer.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 06:23 PM
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That is what she does. Major disrespect and abuse and they whine and nag non stop for days until i break and give in and things are sorta back to normal Such a fucking pussy. No boundaries, no abundance, no balls.
/r/askMRP03/02/20 11:23 PM
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Since my last post, I've been keeping my head low, avoiding conflict with the wife but things have gotten considerably worse. This is your problem. Reactive and in her frame.
/r/askMRP03/02/20 11:20 PM
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OYS #24 32, 5'7 178 lbs Bench: 310 lbs, Squats: 365 lbs, Deadlift: 385 lbs, Press: 175 lbs Booked another meeting next week with a national broadcaster for a project I'm working on. Solid team, solid idea, so the mission persists. Had 4 dates last week, fucked two, and got LMR from the other two who did everything to me except fuck. Stopped me every time I got close to slipping in the tip. They got fingered, titty fucked, and rubbed me off to completion. Need to work on qualifying these chicks m…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 12:27 AM
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Gentlemen, stop wasting your time on this askhole.
/r/askMRP23/01/20 08:57 PM
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OYS #23 32, 5'7 176 lbs Bench: 310 lbs, Squats: 365 lbs, Deadlift: 385 lbs, Press: 175 lbs Only thing I've actively been concerned about recently is my relationship with one of my brothers who's 23 and a mess emotionally and personally. He refuses to call me despite my attempts to stay in contact. Only calls if he needs money. It's a one way relationship it seems. I want to be able to guide him down a good path. If he weren't blood, I wouldn't give him another glance. He has many character flaws…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 06:54 PM
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I didn’t come here to get advice about how to get my life in order or how to get in shape. I don’t need that and my wife would divorce me if I started lifting and got buff. Not her thing so please stop. Troll. Someone ban this fucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 06:11 PM
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OYS #22 32, 5'7, 178 LBS, Bench: 310 lbs, Squats: 365 lbs, Deadlift: 385 lbs, Press: 175 lbs Focus is on the mission. Brought two new partners on board, we have a meeting set up with a large broadcaster towards the end of the month. Need to put paperwork together. Scooped up two new potential plates. One, I went on a date with on Friday, kissed, nothing further. The other, on Sunday, ended up back at her place. Tried to escalate, but her rhythm was one step forward, two steps back. Stopped and r…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 12:49 AM
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I've laid low, doing chores around the house, making brkfst, putting away all the holiday decorations, etc. this morning I get a long txt about telling me I was wrong. Mommy put you in your place.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 03:07 PM
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About 18 months ago wife decides she’s having a midlife crisis “ ... cares about me, but is not in love with me.” This leads to a period of emotional turmoil, and discussions. I can't figure out what's going on, and remain largely clueless. She decides she wants to get fit, so joins a gym and starts working out. She was getting railed by the local meathead who doesn't blame his own shortcommigs on his wife's "midlife" crisis.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 02:55 PM
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I've been trying to connect better with my son and am starting to have more success. He withdraws from me frequently in favor of his mom, video games or just being by himself You should try doing activities together. Hunting, gym, pick up ball, martial art, whatever. Jack Donovan talks about this in TWOM. Just a recurring activity where you can accomplish something together. Fairly effective in building that bond, and he can learn a lot from you as long as you don't act like a bitch. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/20 12:27 AM
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It's been a while since I've posted, because I haven't been doing anything worth reporting, until now. Force yourself to post each week, you'll find things worth reporting on. Right now, you're waiting for external sources to fuel you to own your shit. Your breakthrough emerged due to a therapy session led by another person. This should have been gleaned in one of your OYS posts. I sense a lot of learned helplessness in this post. Unfortunately, the divorce will change a lot for me. It will forc…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/20 12:12 AM
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5' 7', 200 lbs (+5, see below), 22% At 5'7 200 lbs, you sound fatter than 22%. Put down the Twinkie. ​ Physical/Lifts: Symmetric Strength Score: 88 (Advanced). Fuck is this shit. List your lifts or gtfo
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 11:55 PM
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OYS #21 - Year Recap 32, 178 lbs, 5'7 MISSION: As much as I've focused on my mission, which is in the creative field, progress is being realized too slowly, if at all. Many meetings, pitches, a lot of progress on the creative front, but nothing concrete to the point that I'm signing contracts and being remunerated. Either I'm aiming too high or I'm not as good as I think I am. I'm inclined to say it's the former, as people in the industry have attested to my ability. The question now is how to f…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 09:44 PM
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Head over to r/redpillwives
/r/askMRP24/10/19 11:55 AM
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OYS #21 32, 177 lbs, 5'7 LIFTS: Bench: 300 lbs Squats: 365 lbs Deadlift: 385 lbs Press: 170 lbs FRAME:Last week's OYS was to come up with two new frame-related goals I want to focus on for the next few months. After some introspection, I've come to the conclusion that leadership and setting/protection of bold boundaries should be my next areas of attack. Need to come up with leadership goals as well as events (social/career/mission) that I can initiate and lead. Setting and protecting boundaries…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 02:36 AM
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Some dude also said: Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/19 07:10 PM
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I like all your fancy words and the sprinkling of french Thanks friend
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 07:06 PM
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I'm never again letting a goddamn soul on god's green earth fuck with me 'till I'm breathing my last breath, buried underground, or generally screwed and institutionalized. This is out of your control and your stance is very reactive. Great fodder for what you're trying to avoid. Just like there not being 'the one', the existence of the pussy pass, life being poor nasty, brutish, short, there will be shitty people whereever you go. These are all tough, bitter pills to swallow. Re-read the Medita…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 05:57 PM
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Been following MRP and RP guidance since Jan this year. Reading, working out, and letting go of shit and fear. Bullshit. You haven't swallowed the pill until you start owning your shit. Weekly. Which you clearly haven't. Your mrp journey is predicated on you, not on your wife. Don't post here again. Head over to OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 05:21 PM
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Lifts: Bench 1x160 on DB, have not benched with a bar in a while. Squat: 415x1 Deadlift: 455x1 Conventional Back row: 285 OHP: 215. These numbers don't make sense. Your OHP is 215 but your bench is 160.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 02:38 PM
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OYS #20 32, 176 lbs, 5'7 Bench: 300 lbs Squats: 365 lbs Deadlift: 385 lbs Press: 170 lbs GYM: Only two sessions last week with one muay thai class. Popliteus tendonitis still bothering me, need to go see a physiotherapist. PLATES: 6 new numbers, 2 dates, one lay. Had one girl open me while we're headed to the subway. Had my headphones in, she walked ahead, turned to me and smiled. Told me that she liked my swagger and she wasn't usually in the habit of stopping strangers. We just happened to be …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 05:47 PM
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OYS #19 32, 176 lbs, 5'7 GYM: Finally hit 300 lb bench press. A milestone I've been chasing a while. Wendler has been very helpful. Next goal is 315 by 2020. Adductors getting looser and looser. Still failing on lordosis and tight hips. PLATES: 8 new phone numbers, 3 dates, one lay. Need to approach more 8s and 9s. HEALTH: Came down with a head cold early last week, hydration definitely helped me get over it. Must get the flu shot. SOCIAL: Despite plate spinning, was able to invite a good friend…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 05:36 PM
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I asked on the ride if everything was ok. She said she didn’t like what happened this afternoon. I said “ok, what?” She just said I was acting weird. I told her I wasn’t trying to make her feel uncomfortable, I was just having fun. Conversation was over after that. You need to STFU more, deer less.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/19 05:37 PM
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Also, OWS is 'own your shit' not 'imagine your shit' try focusing your thoughts on the week prior, not the month after you write. Good point
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 09:10 PM
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OYS #18 32, 175 lbs, 5'7 After several injuries, will be breaking 300# bench press next week. Working on fixing my lordosis and tight adductors, need to own stretching. As such, deadlifts and squats on the back burner. Hit 1000 lbs club this time last year. Now the goal is 1500 lbs. Muay Thai increase to twice a week. Goal is to break 100K income by the end of the year. Have 3 months to do this. I have to increase sourcing. Look further into the pareto principle and find the 20% I should be focu…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 01:27 PM
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I will know when I have been succesful in my mission, it is when they do not come anymore. Ha! *grabs popcorn
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 01:43 PM
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Thanks, deer. You sound like a bitch who lacks frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 06:15 PM
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To follow the MRP plan, without question, analysis or external judgement. It is probably the best "Path" to success a man can take. The path it will lead me on I can hardly see further than a week ahead, so I just have to get out of my tower of truth That's bullshit. MRP is a toolbox, a praxeology, never a mission. You can't see further than a week ahead precisely because of this faulty supposition: you lack a mission based on what YOU want. Too scared to be accountable in case you fail, so you …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 01:08 PM
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I have been leaving my conquering mindset and frame in the gym for years I doubt that. Your sabre-rattling with red-sfpplus is a good example. Easily triggered and you seem high strung. Working out is about building frame - mind as you say - not about maxing out out your PRs. The latter should feed the former. But your desire to conquer is destabalizing your frame. The gym helps, but you conquer the world with your mind. Solipsism. Acta non verba. You need to really analyse this whole "conquer" …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 01:31 PM
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"How much weight are you going to lose? You know I don't like skinny guys." Why do you care? Are you doing this for you or for her? Just ignore or laugh it off. Use amused mastery " you don't like it, but my girlfriend does." She might laugh, she might call you an asshole. Either way, who cares. Your map is the only arbiter of what is and isn't acceptable.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 10:00 PM
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Give less fucks
/r/askMRP20/07/19 09:53 PM
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Why the fuck do you care what we think? Too much inaction and passivity. You need to decide what you want. Try both out and see which one aligns best with your goals. Don't ask us to make the choice for you.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 09:48 PM
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Who cares. Work on building attraction. Look up spiking buying temperature. And always ask for the number at the highest level of the interaction, preferably when she's laughing with you.
/r/askMRP08/07/19 05:09 PM
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I have read the Married Red Pill post about Depressed Wives and other common posts and the mantra of "it's your fault" however while I acknowledge my own responsibility that post doesn't provide me with insight or a roadmap Lies. You haven't read shit, or should have read harder. The accepted knowledge is not that "it's your fault" but that it's not your responsibility to manage your wife's feelings. It's your fault if she treats you like shit. It's her fault if she does it to herself. Don't set…
/r/askMRP07/07/19 11:33 PM
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OYS #18 32, 5’7, 173, 15% BF BENCH: 295 LBS SQUAT: 365 LBS DEADLIFT: 385 LBS MILLITARY PRESS: 175 LBS MISSION Back in full gear. Fully pursuing the mission. Fully engaged. FINANCES Paid off an outstanding loan. With mission in full tow, should break 100k gross income by december. SMV Dropped some body fat and noticing more IOIs. The struggle here, is that I don't want to lose muscle gains while pursuing lower body fat percentage. Really need to own this. Should be closer to 10-12%, but every tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/19 01:56 AM
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What I want, really, is to have ultimate power over all people, in all circumstances, so I can never feel pain or feel challenged. But that's obviously a bullshit non-starter. Having questions when you acknowledge the answer is right in front of you is a sign your mind is a mess. Your questions arise from trying to hack / rationalize your way into something you know is a non-starter: affecting things/people that are out of your control. You have weak frame. You DEER with every answer. You're ego…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 01:21 PM
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​ I was just sick of getting initiation turned down... butthurt, covert contract, lack of abundance, little bitch. This is red pill 101 stuff I would wake up when she is coming in, try to initiate, get turned down, and then often lie there stewing a bit. the fuck are you doing? stop skimming the sidebar and read the fucking thing. From my perspective, the move has been without any “butthurt”. You're right. You sound like a bitch. Get up off your ass and do something productive. Your primary upda…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 09:59 PM
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Your mind's a mess. No basicallys, essentiallys. what the fuck do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 09:29 PM
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Dick Whitman FTW
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 09:42 PM
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If money and time weren't an issue, what would be the one thing you would do for its own sake to make your life worth living? The one thing you would do that wasn't tied to your wife or anybody giving you validation for doing a good job. The one thing that keeps you engaged, makes you feel that you are doing something worthwhile. That is your mission. Find that and orient your life around it. It's the hardest thing you'll ever do.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 09:15 PM
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You're a lazy mess. You know what you need to do, but won't act. Why? Cause it's too much work. There's a special circle in mrp hell for dickheads like you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 02:38 PM
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You're not happy because you don't have a mission. Man needs a mission. At this point your validation is based on your results with your wife. Subconciously, you're realizing that this isn't enough. Mrp fixes the man. Work on your mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 12:52 PM
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The 4% rule was based on data up to 1994. A study completed in 2013 by morningstar shows that a WR of only 4% leads to about a 50% profitability over a 30 year period. Meaning the other 50% run out of money. They found that a sub 3% WR, at 2.8% for a 40/60 stock/bond portfolio brings that number up to 90%. Hedge that remaining 10%, take into consideration fees, inflation, market volatility, and increase the time horizon to 40 years because actuarial stats show life expectancy steadily increasing…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 08:12 PM
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OYS #17 32, 5’7, 176, 17% BF BENCH: 295 LBS SQUAT: 365 LBS DEADLIFT: 385 LBS MILLITARY PRESS: 180 LBS BIRTHDAY I turned 32 this week. Meant nothing special to me but pampered myself. Did a few things that I like and took a day trip out to a locale i'm fond of. Loved it. But in the next few years I need to start planning events with friends. YEAR IN REVIEW I usually make goals that I want to accomplish for the next 12 months. This time I'm going to review the past 12 months. FINANCES While I did …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 05:03 PM
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You're not throwing bait. You are creating a covert contract. That's why you're so angry. Kill your covert contracts. Red Pill 101. You're not going Rambo, you're a larping little bitch.
/r/askMRP27/05/19 09:47 PM
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Date 2, bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/19 05:34 AM
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OYS #16 31, 5’7, 175, 17% BF BENCH: 295 LBS SQUAT: 360 LBS DEADLIFT: 380 LBS MILLITARY PRESS: 170 LBS **VISIONTo live an outcome independent life filled with AM, Abundance and a rock solid frame.*\* Read Mode One which got me focused on my manner of speech. I tend to be circuitous in my style and almost like to play it safe. Maybe that's not the proper term. More machiavellian, to manipulate the circumstances. I tend not to express how I feel about a certain situation. I try to butter people up …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 03:13 AM
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OYS #1531, 5’7, 174, 17% BF BENCH: 295 LBSSQUAT: 360 LBSDEADLIFT: 380 LBSMILLITARY PRESS: 170 LBS **VISIONTo live an outcome independent life filled with AM, Abundance and a rock solid frame.**Better this week, meditation has helped. Amused Mastery always on point. No major validation seeking behaviours to speak of. Give less fucks. I am however missing that fire, need to boost intensity, add that to my vision. MISSIONIn the next 2 months, start a media company, and produce one media product. Le…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 12:18 PM
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OYS #15 31, 5’7, 174, 17% BF BENCH: 295 LBS SQUAT: 360 LBS DEADLIFT: 380 LBS MILLITARY PRESS: 170 LBS VISION To live an outcome independent life filled with AM, Abundance and a rock solid frame. Pretty consistent. Reminding myself not to take it all so seriously. Get out of my head. However, have noticed several validation seeking tendencies that I need to nip in the bud, meaning I need to amp it up on the abundance. Give less fucks. Reread NMMNG. MISSION In the next 2 months, start a media comp…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 02:12 AM
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OYS #14 31, 5’7, 173, 15% BF BENCH: 285 LBS SQUAT: 355 LBS DEADLIFT: 375 LBS MILLITARY PRESS: 160 LBS VISION To live an outcome independent life filled with AM, Abundance and a rock solid frame. Inconsistent the last few weeks. Every year around this time this form of emotional/mental compromise rears its ugly head. I've gotten better at catching myself. Noticed that I also have not been meditating. Started again this week and noticed improvements in my mood, memory, and focus. My mood has suffe…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 01:33 AM
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Why the fuck do you care about getting an enthusiastic response from her? Stay out of her frame. You need to address the validation seeking. The more you focus on yourself, strengthen your frame, be OI the more inclined you'll be to LEAD her to better sex. Right now it's a covert contract, using her for validation. If you build, they will come. If not, who cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 03:09 PM
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You're right. I should be more precise with my language. More thankful. But can one have gratitute and still be ambitious? I want more. Does that mean I'm not thankful? Is that the root of my resentment? More for me to think about. Thanks for references.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 06:07 PM
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OYS # 13 31, 5'7, 173 LBS YEAR END LIFTS: BENCH: 285 LBS SQUAT: 355 LBS DEADLIFT: 375 LBS MILLITARY PRESS: 160 LBS YEAR END SUMMARY: I officially swallowed the red pill when I started OYS last December. Prior to that, I'd read the sidebar, internalized a few tenets. I thought it was enough, but I've developed so much in the past year that I need to check myself more often. There's still so much to do. A lot of the material that I read this past year has further internalized my frame. Of these, "…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 01:52 AM
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OYS #12 31, 5’7, 175, 17% BF VISION To live an outcome independent life filled with AM, Abundance and a rock solid frame. This has been a difficult challenge this past week. Mainly with respect to my mission. I'm not where I want to be despite putting in all the work I've put in. I have to wary of the bitterness, but it's symptom that I need to do something about it. Maybe it's the direction that needs to change. This is primarily the main obstacle to my vision. I'm outcome dependent because I n…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 04:34 AM
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OYS #11 31, 5’7, 175, 15% BF VISION To live an outcome independent life filled with AM, Abundance and a rock solid frame. I constantly have to remind myself to implement AM. I've been catching myself delving deeper into serious/spartan mode. Usually due to stress, frame battles. A red pill life is fun. MISSION In the next 6 5 months, start a media company, and produce one media product. Leverage those around me, and capitalize on in-kind services. Find great partners and put together a scalable …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/18 02:17 AM
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Remove that last line, pussy. Nobody cares. OYS is you writing to yourself. To hold yourself accountable. Assume that no one's reading. That's how you become your own mental point of origin.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/18 01:11 AM
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Your texting is atrocious. Your attemps at AM come off as try-hard and uncalibrated. Text is for logistics: terse and straight to the point. If she doesn't want to come a simple "K" would suffice. If she changes her mind, tell her when to be ready, if she aint ready by then, leave without her. Don't dangle the option in front of her like a child. Tldr: Your texting is just cringy, your butthurt shines through. So does your pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 01:22 PM
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OYS #10 31, 5’7, 172, 13% BF VISION: To live an outcome independent life filled with AM, Abundance and a rock solid frame. MISSION: In the next 6 months, start a media company, and produce one media product. Leverage those around me, and capitalize on in-kind services. Find great partners and put together a scaleable business. LIFTS: I finally reached the 1,000 pound club this past weekend: Bench: 285 lbs Squat: 355 lbs Deadlift: 375 lbs After rehabbing my left knee for patellar tracking over th…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 11:59 AM
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I tried to give direct feedback stating I did value her opinion. Then realized a day later this was just DEER Don't use logic. Fix her feelz. She literally and figuratively needs hand-holding.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/18 12:23 AM
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OYS #18 Complete reset. I have to start over. Be precise in your speech then.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 10:14 PM
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Jeez. STFU. You sound like her girlfriend with all this comfort. And she repays you by telling you how she was alpha widowed by chad's cock. And you take this as intimacy. You're a cuck. Have some self-respect. Your hamster is in overdrive. All the tests you think you aced, you failed. Why are you scolding your wife? Take your own advice and stop getting involved in things at her job that are none of your business. Who cares about Chad? Don't mate guard. What level dread are you? Also, STFU. Kil…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 07:18 PM
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There is no start over. You can't retake the red pill just like you can't restart your life as if the past never occurred. You've got to plow through with the knowledge of what made you falter and adress it. Restarting is a palliative, digging into why you half-assed it and doing something about it is the cure. You will fail, you will fall. Just make sure you fall quickly and forward. Sidenote, you ironically finish your post with acta non verba; yet a pillar of this OYS is talking through your …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 04:54 PM
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Your wife gave you a comfort test. And you failed. While you understood what happened doesn't seem like you addressed it; which is a shame. This is a good opportunity to give some comfort and show leadership by explaining the vision.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 04:39 PM
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While you're at it, make sure to to tick "no frame" off in your checklist. I’ve got a trainer haranging me on IM on a daily basis, and that helps. I set a goal of 140 kg deadlift by the end of the year, he says its doable. Why do you need someone to harang you to follow through with an integral aspect of your map? Are you a bitch who needs handholding? Emotional support? What kind of person does that sound like to you? Why is your value predicated on someone else's validation? Unless you're a pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 12:47 AM
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That's why you keep it simple. "Be Happy" Is it really that simple? There's a big gap between not allowing external factors to affect your frame and reaching a state of "happiness." The first I can control, but the latter I feel just happens to you. I know, I've heard that an RP man is a happy man. But "being happy" just seems like fake it to make it, while living in the absence of depression and bitterness is a state that is totally acceptable for me. Yes, I aim to thrive and progress, but is i…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 12:43 PM
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OYS #9 31, 5’7, 172, 13% BF FRAME: I don't have a wife. Never married. No exclusive girlfriend. The main reason I started to follow this sub and begin owning my shit was simply to address one thing: my frame. I had covert contracts with almost everyone close to me. I was bitter and entitled. RP helped me take control over my emotions and accept the things that I could not change. As I removed my covert contracts, my relationships with family and friends improved. I moved away from a philosophy m…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 03:30 AM
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Now you you need to re-read the sidebar and internalize it from that perspective. There's a reason why the 1st Iron Rule of Tomassi is Frame is everything. That's where you start. Now stop being a little bitch and sidebar.
/r/askMRP18/09/18 03:35 AM
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You don't have an anger problem, you have a frame problem. Hence you have a leadership problem. Men test ideas, women test men. Your wife is testing your frame because subconsciously she's wired to do so. And you're failing. And you know it. And you're bitter. You think you're angry at your wife, but you're truly angry at yourself. Angry that you can't control your emotions; that you can't lead your wife, that you're a worthless sack of shit. You're fully locked into the dancing monkey program. …
/r/askMRP17/09/18 03:59 AM
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OYS #8 31, 5’7, 174, 15% BF BP: 285, OHP: 180, BS: 320, DL: 385 FRAME: The last month has been interesting. What's been more effective for maintaining my frame is FOGGING . Ultimately the plates just defeatedly tell me "I know you don't care." I crossed a threshold recently. I've been having some mild panic attacks on planes over the last few years due to a traumatic experience I lived through while flying the Atlantic. Claustrophobia that would make it difficult to breathe. While not paralyzing…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 11:20 PM
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OYS #7 30, 5’7, 174, 15% BF BP: 285, OHP: 180, BS: 314, DL: 380 FRAME I feel like I’m on 1000 foot rope with myself. With my Map. Have been putting in the work for the past 8-9 months, but now starting to see the results. The tug. Coming along nicely. Not as reactive to the whims of fate as I was a few months back. Mostly accepting whatever transpires and being OI. Focusing on the process. Something that’s really helped is letting go of the resentment and anger. Let go of fantasies of foes getti…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 12:23 AM
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OYS #6 30, 5’7, 174, 16% BF FRAME Slow and steady. Studying the BIG 5 Ocean personalities, and realized that I need to pull back on agreeableness. As for the Dark triad, the only misgiving I have concerns the narcissistic side; false reality of the world could cause grievous miscalculations. Keep working on modulating my mood and being unreactive. Delay gratification. Keep bitterness from creeping in. SOCIAL Very good. Making a point to see friends every weekend. Mostly related to my side-busine…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 11:55 AM
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OYS #5 30, 5’7, 173, 17% BF In my last OYS, /u/SteelsharpensSteel mentioned that I haven’t been outlining what’s holding me back, mostly journaling my progress. I guess that’s a conscious choice, as soon as I start chronicling my failures, I start getting angry. I’m working towards stepping away from the anger. But I have to also aim at objectively assessing my weaknesses without entertaining the hulk. I would say the three main points are the following: 1. Finances: My disposable income is shit…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 01:58 AM
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OYS #4 30, 5’7, 173, 15% BF FRAME I've been depressed. Usually occurs when I'm outcome dependent. Thinking about all of the things that I want and can't have at the moment. I think the fact I was sick this past week definitely affected my mood. Just been negative despite my best efforts to be positive. Especially this morning, asking myself what the point of all of it is. I currently despise my job. Currently despise my city. Currently despise my friends. I could change cities and focus whole-he…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 12:11 AM
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I'm bitter. Unjustifiably so. Working on it. Can you expand as to why you're asking that question? I feel like there's more that you're saying, just can't figure out what.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 03:23 AM
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OYS #3 30, 5’7, 173, 15% BF It’s been three weeks since my last OYS. Business trip for two weeks to visit a regional office. This fucked up my daily routine, but overall things went well. FRAME Learned a few things about myself these past few weeks. I realized that I am still angry, and in denial. To solve this, I’ve decided to let got of any resentment I’ve harboured towards anything relating to my past. The moment I feel that resentment creeping in, it’s either irrelevant or hilarious. Easier …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 12:36 PM
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This. You need to game your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 06:48 PM
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Your hamster has dug so far into your wife's frame that you don't even believe in your own agency. The problem with this mindset is that you won't be able to oys since your wife is to blame for everything. You know the truth. You've always known it. You're not a pretty unique snowflake. You brought yourself here because your masculine imperative saw a problem that needed to be fixed. And that problem is YOU. It doesnt matter how you got here, just internalize the fact that you're doing this for …
/r/askMRP18/01/18 05:44 PM
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Look carefully at the last sentence. This is your ego, romanticizing the anger, recasting a destructive and negative mindset into one side of an artificial polarity between "useful anger" and "complacency". This is a false dichotomy. Duly noted. Subtle and will take time to internalize. It seems that a lot of perceived self-worth is pegged to ego, hence the protection. When in fact it's just getting in the way of self-actualization. It seems that what you're saying is one's self-worth should be …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 01:09 AM
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My creative endeavour is my passion. It is my mission. It's the only thing I don't need motivation for. It's automatic. However, I've come to realize that it's been compartmentalized. It doesn't seep through everything that I'm doing because I mostly view it as a part time thing. The sticking point now is how to monetize is so I can do it full time. Some more OYS moments required. Maybe it's not a question of money, but internalization. But I see what you're saying. Remove the anger fuel and use…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:49 AM
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OYS #2 FRAME It seems that I’m still in the anger phase. As u/man_in_the_world, u/weakandsensitive and u/StandardIlluminant pointed out, I’m still bitter. The past still casts a long shadow. I feel I'm owed. Entitled. As such, I’m in a constant state of scarcity. The question is how do you remain driven without operating from a place of scarcity? Is that even possible? Is operating from a place of scarcity even a bad thing? I can work on getting rid of the anger, but I don't want to be complacen…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 12:39 AM
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Too much comfort, i think. At the start, I got them doing and saying things that their boyfriend's would swallow the red pill for. But overtime i have caught myself giving more comfort than I should, and the sex starts slowing down. The more of an asshole I am, the more sex I get. Surprise, i know.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 04:09 PM
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K.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 04:02 PM
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TBH, had it up to my neck with autoerotic asphyxia. The rest makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 04:01 PM
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Good point. Something to think about.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 03:10 AM
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1st OYS 30, 5'7, 171 lbs. 15% BF (bachelor, 0 kids) I found myself in MRP because I was unsatisfied with myself as a man. A little back story: I was raised to be a nice guy. Beta. Raised by a step mom who was not only physically abusive but mentally and emotionally detrimental to my well-being. My frame was a tumbleweed blowing in the firmament. Father wasn't around much, worked in another country. My weak frame seeped into other parts of my life and made my teenage years difficult and inconsist…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 03:10 PM
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"I decide on me, you decide if you're with me." Great response. A lot of insight in there. That pendulum feels very present this month, oscillating from great to god awful. But that's the game. I didn't have a specific goal in mind that day, so I wasn't anchored. Should have been more OI. As you stated, working on modulating so those peaks and valleys are less steep and further apart, but I can sense and feel there's progression occurring.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 12:58 PM
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Yeah. I thought this was pretty much cognitive dissonance rattling her brain.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 12:51 PM
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More of an oak. Got you. Acknowledge the apology, but make her works towards your acceptance of it. DGAF. Noted. Thanks for that.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 12:50 PM
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She explicitly said what you are inferring. She took it as a challenge to try breaking my frame. Not knowing that it's very counterproductive. But it was my doing. So i'm going to own up to it. The general consensus is that the cockiness/alphaness needs to be dialed down a bit. Subtlety and hard next. Thanks for that.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 12:46 PM
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I'll reign things in a bit. Pull back on the plowing through, and have a little more finesse around the rougher edges. I'll keep my hands off the nuclear codes as well. I realize that when I don't know what to do, get frustrated, hit a wall, it's my go to option. Too much energy to waste on a plate. Thanks for that. Exactly what I needed.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 12:39 PM
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I find a natural opportunity to bring it up indirectly in a conversation. "Most girls [do this]." Or make a sexual reference to something else. An observation. I sprinkle these statements throughout the conversation to let her know that I'm comfortable talking about sexual things, sex isn't a big deal and that I'm not a judgemental weirdo. I also try to incorporate humour into the statement. A joke, w/e. If she laughs, you know you're in. It also puts the conversation into a man-woman frame whic…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 12:35 PM
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outcome independence Cocky Funny/Amused Mastery
/r/askTRP29/04/17 02:33 AM
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wise words. The consensus is pretty clear on this one. thanks.
/r/askTRP29/04/17 02:30 AM
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duly noted. Lack of leadership on my part. Changes to be made.
/r/askTRP28/04/17 11:25 PM
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As per my past experience, when I escalate past this moment (verbally at least) conflict ensues on her end. I can see the frustration. I may have assumed incorrectly that any further escalation would have blown me out. In the future, I'll suggest a change of location (instadate)
/r/askTRP28/04/17 11:23 PM
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Her body language basically yelled "attraction is not my choice, I don't know what these feelz are." But she seemed a little guarded as well, was unsure if escalating would have caused me to lose the set. Hence the post.
/r/askTRP28/04/17 11:22 PM
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damn, that second paragraph made it click for me. Now on that coffee break: do I hold back and acknowledge my unlocked achievement status and let the lay happen on its own (barring logistics) or do I continue Kino/game/escalation?
/r/askTRP28/04/17 11:22 PM
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