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Loved your take on this, ty !
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/25 05:10 PM
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Please… get this ‘dilemma’ to other subs, there are plenty
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/25 05:29 PM
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This is reassuring and a really great perspective on this, thank you !
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 03:21 PM
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Thank you sm for your reply ! Good luck as well girlie <3
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 03:07 PM
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I am 24 and yes I do, I have to plan for it and be disciplined but I can allow myself the evening off or the Saturday off depending on the period.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 01:15 PM
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this could be it as well, thank you for answering !
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 10:15 AM
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thank you sm for your answer
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 10:14 AM
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Thank you ! How demanding would you say your career is ? Does it impact the rest of your life in any way, positive or negative ?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 03:39 AM
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Thank you so much for this, it was really helpful
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 03:36 AM
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Thank you ! When you say that you wish you maybe didn’t devote your entire identity to it, what do you mean exactly ? Did you willingly delay the other aspects of your life because of it ?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 02:26 AM
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Thank you for your input
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 09:30 PM
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I would feel used and sad, which is why I am starting to wonder if it’s even worth waiting and seeing how it goes. This would be my only relationship in my twenties and I would probably feel lost at this point. Even if he proposed by then, I would not feel as loved and cherished. I am okay with planning but this seems too planned. And yes, I would like to know how/why my education plays such a role in whether or not he proposes. I want to avoid this by making things clear now. But I like what I …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 09:29 PM
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Thank you for this
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 09:24 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/25 04:48 PM
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I do agree. I tought we were but now I fear he will do this every chance he gets. Now my question is : do I tell him just that (sounds like nagging) or do I navigate this another way, more subtly, give it time,…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/25 01:26 PM
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We agreed on this together after discussing. He was fine with being engaged after 5 years, married after 7-8 if it was up to him only. But he also said that things would be faster if I was already stable, so I guess he only adapted to my situation (?) I guess I am conflicted between our age gap and the timeline that comes with it. I feel like he could make things faster due to his age and situation and that I could take things slower due to mine. But I don’t like feeling that he wants to take th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/25 12:40 PM
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Okay, thanks for the clarification. I’ll give these a look. Thank you !
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 05:25 PM
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Thank you, same for you !
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 04:52 PM
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Thank you for your advice!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 04:52 PM
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Thank you !
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 04:45 PM
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Your comparison level is not the same here I get what you meant. However, if I love my bouquet, I should “ask” for it better next time, or get them myself I guess. I did not once imply that he completely ignored the holiday or that his gift wasn’t good or that I am not grateful for what I received. I just want to inspire him. It’s a little gesture that means a lot to me (like a love languages if you want). It doesn’t for everyone, but it does for me, and he is in a relationship with me. I do see…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 04:44 PM
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Thank you for the toughtful response ! I understand that he may did not want to repeat it or saw any problem. I love this story because this is exactly what I eventually want to aspire in him, he is already a such a great boyfriend and I just want to keep this romance just as alive over the years. I’ll follow your advice! For what I got him, I cooked him somethings he told me he loves and gave him a massage. He likes these kind of gestures a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 09:55 AM
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Tell me what you think I don’t get then. You have only asked questions so far
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 09:23 AM
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Don’t tell him that and especially not that another guy gifted this to you already, just suck it up and keep it to wear from time to time.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 06:18 AM
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So I should be fine with not getting flowers on valentines because already I got one thing is what you’re trying to tell me ? I try to gift him depending on the event, yes. And right now I am not asking him to give me “everything I love”. I love many more things!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 06:10 AM
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Your response makes it look like I am trying to be the ungrateful girlfriend, but I am so grateful for him and the dinner we went to this year. I mean it and I’ve told him as well, so this is out the table. I just wished it came with flowers. So thanks for the second part of your reply
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 06:05 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 06:00 AM
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I know he isn’t, I’ve told him in the past the exact same sentence you wrote. I could also tell that I love them for Valentines Day specifically as well, but this would be verbally forcing a gift on a certain occasion in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 06:00 AM
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I am 23 and he is 28 so this is not that. I know this is big marketing as well, it just worked on me, let’s say. But I get it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 05:56 AM
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He knows I love them and it’s Valentine’s Day as well
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 11:52 PM
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I know it is ! I used to work on this skill a lot and got so much better at it, yet sometimes I felt really bad. It might be rooted in childhood, like a lot of things are, but I do consider that these are things we can and should go over. It shouldn’t define how we feel non stop
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/24 10:06 AM
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Right ! I’ll just stick with my ways of showing love and appreciation for him. I’ll try to not overthink this since men and women are different anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/24 10:03 AM
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Thank you for your final words, they sure warmed me up haha ! I guess it’s clear from this POV, when I want to make someone happy, I hope they’re just happy 😊
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/24 10:01 AM
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Great idea ! I’ll express my gratitude the way he likes it. thanks !
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 06:24 PM
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You’re right. I’ll keep that in mind when these kind of situations arise again and just focus on showing love my own way in the couple. thanks !
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 04:43 PM
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This is really nice of you ! I theorically understand the situation from a man point of view but I do sometimes refuse as well for the same reasons. We’ve been together for a while and I have shown love towards him many other ways but this feeling remains even now. I guess I will get over it sometime :’)
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 04:41 PM
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Thank you ! I understand both general point of view on this matter. I lay more on the « big wedding » side since I want to make it a great unforgettable event for me and for us. I hope to only marry once and will want to have a mini bachelorette trip, make a dancing entrance and everything else. Considering this, I was wondering if the timeline I expected was reasonable. But I think I found my answer through all the responses hopefully :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 03:34 PM
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This is really helpful to see it from this perspective, thank you ! I feel like reading all the comments made me realize that having this time frame might be a good compromise in the end. Planning for a wedding is time consuming, this extra time can go by really fast and it will allow us to have a well rounded ceremony.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 03:29 PM
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I would have to finish up with school as well so this might be the play as well.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:18 AM
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Some people seem to be able to plan so fast for it haha, it’s complicated to know how much time will be needed. But I understand there is no need to rush it just for the sake of it when it’s not as we want it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:18 AM
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We’re definitely not wanting to elope, so it won’t be as fast. We do want a big wedding but are wondering how big is reasonable. He also has a huge family so it kinda has to be on the bigger side. Maybe even a destination wedding.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:14 AM
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No, we are not engaged yet. We like to discuss our future plans in general and that topic came up. I also wanted to get some outside opinions. I seem to understand that planning a wedding takes a lot of time and that setting a two-year time frame instead of a one-year time frame can make things a lot easier. But it is not usual to take that much time.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:11 AM
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I don’t know why you assumed all that that’s why I am saying this. Your response just seems condescending and based on what you projected since I said no such thing. But again, handle your relationship how you want it. I just wanted to see how women here would react to this in general. So sending me to a therapist might be a reach lol. If you were looking for context, I am not insecure, don’t mind Andy of the things you listed and I am not looking for help.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/24 01:33 AM
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Nice perspective, thank you !
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/24 12:50 AM
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I’m not insecure and we do watch TV shows but well… Should we go to the strip club just to resolve my ‘issues‘ ?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/24 12:48 AM
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Exactly. It’s more about watching it together for ‘fun’. Just wanted to see other people’s perspective about it. « Is it really just fun or is there something to reconsider in these instances ? »
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 09:53 PM
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I understand the analogy but I saw it differently since it remains a runaway show. I see it as glamour and sexy, not ‘‘sexual’’ and provocative. However, from the male pov it is probably different.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 09:49 PM
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I meant that he thinks she’s hot, but nothing obsessive (I may have phrased it wrong), so yeah this is pretty normal. This is why I was wondering how other people navigate this in their relationships. Thanks for your input !
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 08:32 PM
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I could and love doing these kind of things already. As long as it is not from a place of insecurity or obligation (not the case here)
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 07:48 PM
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I know this obviously... I am talking about watching it together as a cozy date night activity But thanks, you’re clearly really happy to interact with my post
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 05:58 PM
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You’re right, I should probably just watch it with my girlfriends next time
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 05:55 PM
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I know he probably did yeah, what I am talking about is more about the full 40 minute show with all the models as well
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 05:53 PM
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Absolutely ! Just wondering what is yours
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 05:48 PM
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