No flowers for Valentines

leosandlattes · 2025-02-19T00:11:31+00:00

Your boyfriend is not a mind reader! The next time you guys are talking about gifts, mention how much you like flowers and how much you appreciated that beautiful flower bouquet.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2025-02-19T01:42:01+00:00

I thought this was going to be a "he did nothing for Valentine's day" post. You went to a nice dinner. That's pretty normal. Maybe there's someone out there who got a nice dinner and flowers and is lamenting he didn't get a jellycat too.

You "make him" think about getting you flowers more by telling him you like receiving flowers - this is even easier if he's ever given you flowers in the past, as you can say, "I loved when you got me flowers for my birthday/that one date/etc and would feel so happy if you did that for more special occasions" with a big grin and fond look in your eye. I do NOT recommend the "hinting" strategies suggested here - they have low rates of success and without knowing a lot more about your man I can't say if he's the type who would be likely to respond well to hinting. Just tell him what you want.

ActuallyASwordfish · 2025-02-19T00:56:14+00:00

In his eyes, he got you nice flowers last year and he may not want to repeat his gift as it can come off lazy to just do the same thing every year.

I would def not bring up your disappointment with this years lack of flowers, but next year or next time your anniversary comes around begin saying things like, “Oh that bouquet you got me two years ago was so beautiful. I know our anniversary/Valentine’s Day is coming up, I’d LOVE to get one of those again!” “Oh I just loved those flowers you got me last time, I really can’t believe how beautiful they looked and how much I just loved having them around!”

My husband made me tiramisu last year and I literally Harped on about how much I loved it for like a week. Well… our anniversary rolled around and he basically ended up making me tiramisu nonstop for like three weeks. I’m talking a cake every four days. It was so good (I was pregnant and he even did decaf coffee with goats milk as the cheese instead of mascarpone!!)

Now he makes one for every holiday/anniversary. I just mention it a bunch during holiday season as a reminder and he’s like “oh right my secret skill… tiramisu!!”

Just don’t pressure him about it now, because he didn’t let you down on purpose and he did take you out to eat. Did you get him something he loved?

CountTheBees · 2025-02-18T23:46:29+00:00

Genuine question. How was he supposed to know you really wanted flowers?

ajcfknowsnothing · 2025-02-19T02:10:19+00:00

I LOVE flowers. Like genuinely it is the most important part of the gift process for me (F, 39) from my boyfriend (M, 48).

I was very clear, not bossy but direct (think Laura Doyle's expression of desire) the first holiday that passed with him when we were together that Flowers are the most important part of my experience of receiving gifts for holidays. I don't particularly care about cards (he's not a Gooey one to begin with), I don't care about chocolates. I'm a pretty utilitarian person, and much more appreciate a small home upgrade or act of service to jewelry. (He's a very Blue Collar Guy and this is very in line with his skills.)

But flowers are important. Super duper important. And every time he brings me them I ohh and ahh and send him three text messages over the next 3 days over how much they brighten my life.

Just be real direct (not pushy or rude, but vulnerable) and let him know that they are an important part of the holiday/holidays to you. And received with gratitude when it happens.

(And don't bring it up in regard to this holiday. It will feel like you are telling him what he did wasn't enough. Bring it up before your birthday, or a few weeks before an anniversary. Keep it positive and upbeat!)

VasiliyZaitzev · 2025-02-19T04:01:23+00:00

Out of curiosity how old are you? How old is he? if everybody’s super young, did he spend his “I have $X amount of cash to spoil my girlfriend” on dinner rather than flowers? Would you have preferred only flowers in place of dinner? I’m just making sure that this isn’t a “young and exploited segment of the workforce“ problem.

Valentine’s Day is a giant scam. It is a total Hallmark holiday. Do I get my girls flowers? You’re damn right I do. I don’t want them to be the only girls walking around without flowers. I get them the “Your Boyfriend is amazing and your co-workers will be massively jealous” bouquet.

This does not change the fact that Valentine’s Day is a giant scam, which it is.

TheBunk_TB · 2025-02-19T01:34:43+00:00

Next time tell him you like receiving flowers No need to rely on non existent mind reading abilities next year

The_Gilded_orchid · 2025-02-19T00:05:41+00:00

Comment on how lovely flowers are every time the two of you walk past them, then fondly reminisce about the bouquet he got you, and how loved and cared for it made you feel.

Alvartisk · 2025-02-18T23:41:19+00:00

Walk past people selling flowers (which is a lot during Valentines) and be like, "I love flowers, they're sooo pretty"

Prudent_Influence_62 · 2025-02-19T15:42:28+00:00

I would find opportunities to bring up the beautiful bouquet he got you and gush over it. “I will never forget that gorgeous bouquet you got me for our first Valentines. You have such great taste!”

The more you praise him for his efforts and reflect on the good things he’s done, the better things will get with time. I told my husband for the first several years of our relationship that I would love to be sent flowers at work. He never sent me flowers at work and didn’t buy me flowers for a few years, and when he finally got me some I was so appreciative and excited. Now he brings home flowers all the time and gives me them for every occasion. Teach him how you want to be treated with loving appreciation.

AutoModerator · 2025-02-18T23:35:00+00:00

Title: No flowers for Valentines

Author silentandveryquiet

Full text: This Valentines Day, my boyfriend (1,5 years relationship) took me out to dinner. This was a great and thoughtful moment which I showed plenty appreciation for.

However, he didn't get me flowers. And as much as people may say this is marketing, I wished I received flowers. Last year, for our first valentine, he got me the most amazing bouquet with chocolates and we went out for dinner.

I can buy myself flowers, but I don’t want to. How do I "make him" think about getting me flowers more, and especially on those days. I also gifted him if you're wondering.

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HalfwaydonewithEarth · 2025-02-23T08:11:47+00:00

If you are giving him regular sex he has no motivation.

Most guys are only putting out minimal effort to maintain the status quo.

He also could be struggling financially.

RepeatMyNameBro · 2025-02-18T23:40:44+00:00

Well, this is why so many men rather take a fly to Thailand

Title	No flowers for Valentines
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Date	February 18, 2025 11:35 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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