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| 4 | Help me get standards for menI'm sure people don't want to hear this, but that's the way it is. Thank you for enlightening us as a man but this is very basic information that this sub has been putting out for a decade now. This isn't news. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/26 11:51 AM |
| 10 | Help me get standards for menFirst thing is first, you are not ready to date yet. So put it on the back burner until you aren't calling your ex "bitch boy". Men hearing this attitude are not going to take on your trauma. Second, he broke your heart once. After that you did it to yourself. If you can't take any responsibility for your own part in the relationship then you will fail again. Growth requires self reflection and honesty. Now, your standards are only as good as what you can get. You can want these things but that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/26 09:59 AM |
| 2 | Movies that awaken feminine energyWhat do you mean by "feminine energy"? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/26 06:57 PM |
| 8 | My mom is increasingly getting more and more radical with her dating beliefs.Yeah, my mother, who married at 20 and is still married and successful, wanted her daughters to have careers. She is looking back at how she struggled when they were young. She doesn't see what she does have because she married young, had her kids young, bought a house young and then went back to college when we were all in middle to high school. But I think this might be natural to look back and wonder how things might have been but that doesn't mean they have a realistic idea of that. You have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/26 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Is this what most men would consider the female equivalent of getting flowers?I assumed that most flowers men are picking up are $25 at the grocery store. But you are correct that I am biased because I tend to find flowers a waste of money. Your take is also biased because you are assuming most men want watches. I haven't seen a man with a watch since I was a teenager pre-smart phone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/26 07:25 PM |
| 8 | Is this what most men would consider the female equivalent of getting flowers?That's a very expensive and very one time only "equivalent" 🧐 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/26 04:41 PM |
| 15 | Is this what most men would consider the female equivalent of getting flowers?If I'm thinking about him I'll do something like pick up his favorite candy, or a meal he loves that is annoying to make. If I am super appreciative I'll give a bj. We've been together nearly 20 years. We have a great sex life and it's not as though he only gets appreciation blow jobs. But of course he feels loved and appreciated when he gets to relax and receive. But this is different from early dating. If a new bf brought flowers on a date, I would not reciprocate with a bj to be "equivalent".… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/26 04:38 PM |
| 4 | Found 🚩 info about a guy I’m talking to- How bad is it?I think I see what you are trying to do here but there is a difference between a real life situation where someone seeks you out one-on-one as a resource and an online forum where you are doing a scatter shot info grab. The OP wasn't generally concerned. She was just... curious. The Internet stranger who claims to be the friend of the ex isn't the right source for information if OP is concerned. This is a very different situation than what you are asking u/wife_and_mama. Even if she said yes (sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 10:00 PM |
| 9 | hard for me to want to be in a relationship while knowing the true nature of menHe still grabs my ass and kisses me like when we met so yeah, I'm happy with the wife goggles. And it's not like he stopped aging either. I didn't come to a conclusion. We grew together and are irreplaceable to each other at this point. Sex is important but he doesn't need to be the hottest he's ever been for me to still want it with him and it works the other way too. And if he wanted to "trade me in" he could go for someone younger and hotter, but I am a combination of things that he finds app… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 10:56 PM |
| 11 | hard for me to want to be in a relationship while knowing the true nature of menOk so you just want to call our experiences a cope and wallow in self pity? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 09:51 PM |
| 4 | Found evidence of my husband cheating (?) with another woman a few years ago. Need some help on how to proceed from here.It's never good advice if it's coming from the place of having the upper hand. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 09:49 PM |
| 10 | I (29f) am struggling to support my bf (36m) when he is in crisis. Perspective/ advice would be really appreciated.Regarding the issue - I would consider making a boundary around this. Perhaps this is something that can be negotiated in therapy. Making you guess at his needs is poor communication and the way you are describing it, it is bordering on abusive behavior. And I do believe that people can engage in a questionable behavior without being abusers or irredeemable. But they have to recognize that what they are doing is not ok and fix it in themselves. Expecting you to help manage his long-standing depr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/26 11:04 PM |
| 18 | I (28F) are at loss as to how to help my boyfriend (28M) that has fallen to the recent redpill content craze. How do i pull him out of it?Yes, to second this, when my husband was on a political kick years back, I had to tell him at one point that he has male friends to discuss this with. Because we are both RP aware, I reminded him that men and women are different and his ranting in my general direction was not going to get him whatever engagement he wanted. Some things are best to discuss with your own gender. And then I stopped engaging. I might not be inclined to send OP's man to complain "to other men" because who knows what c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/26 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Musings on happinessI know that "happy". That light, carefree bliss. Life wasn't empty or meaningless, but it certainly was more... self centered and maybe a bit selfish, in its peace. I don't think the current discourse that focuses so much on sitting back and receiving is the whole point of femininity, but there certainly was an aspect of graciously receiving to it Yes. "Light and carefree" is a good way to describe the type of youthful "happiness" that I was talking about. I don't miss it. We had a lot of time b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/26 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Musings on happinessI don't think your man is weird here but of course I agree with you. I remember a psych doc who would always ask me what fun things I was planning because he thought having a full calendar was important. Meanwhile I was working and in school full time and just wanted my down time to be... Well down. Happy, the way we often talk about it, is fleeting. Which doesn't mean you can't be content with life, especially when you are doing things that are personally meaningful...that's just never the mess… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/26 08:18 PM |
| 7 | How do I go about letting men know that I have certain financial standards when it comes to dating someone seriously without seeming like a gold digger or hurting feelings?Milieu matters. And for the record, RPW was never intended to be a haven solely for SAHMs. Everyone is entitled to their own goals and values. My husband also works hard to provide for us and I bet he does it at a much higher level than yours. I finished college because it was important to him and looks good when I show up to the Christmas party with all the nerdy coworkers. I hate to play this "my man is better than yours" but dear Lord woman, your take is the least nuanced most male imperative… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/26 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Did your man want an independent woman or did he want to be needed?My relationship is a blend of kink and RPW captain/first mate. Some people here have tried to convince me to call it TPE (yes you P, I know you are reading this) so take that however you like. I have been with my husband since I was 24. I'm in my 40s now. When we got together I had my own job and apartment. He was completing a degree and liked that I was independent enough not to be a drain AND would cook for him. In time and as life allowed, he has taken over as the head of household (and built… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/26 03:18 PM |
| 6 | What do I do?I notice that you are 18 and that makes a lot of difference in this question. Usually on rpw we encourage women to work through problems in their relationship, but there are relationships and problems that aren't worth working through. At 18 the likelihood of you being with your boyfriend long term is very low. It is a time when you are learning about yourself and what you need in a relationship. But it's also a time where it can feel harder to break up. A year or two of dating feels like a life… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/26 11:46 AM |
| 7 | I sometimes feel like me and my partner are stagnantIf you aren't interested in listening to the endorsed partnered women here then you don't want red pill advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/26 04:51 PM |
| 2 | The Vetting Process: Be IntentionalWhat would you say are actionable ways to vet a current partner? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/26 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with my husbands new panty rules and looking for advice😂😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/25 10:49 PM |
| 5 | Dealing with my husbands new panty rules and looking for adviceI think the OP is coming to this from more of a kink perspective. That is a kind of control that can be a lot of fun and when handled properly, can last for quite a long time without being a the problem that you are describing. If you are someone who doesn't need that dominance in your life then it would feel like control and it could get overwhelming. If you are a kink-submissive type, then living without it is the part that feels overwhelming. A few experienced members here have already sugges… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/25 12:20 PM |
| 9 | Do most men really want a woman that brings them peace or do they like the chaos?Do you think this is actually helpful or do you get off being a brat to someone asking for help? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/25 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Bad friends or products of liberal dating culture?I won't speak for the furries specifically but you do know that RPW has always had a kinky contingent. It was more obvious earlier on but it's why the sidebar talks about Trads and BDSM subs using the same basic theory to get a happy relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/25 01:47 PM |
| 7 | When “normal” stops being functional and responsibility matters more than explanations?To younger women who feel unsure about whether they should accept what a partner explains as biology or normal male behavior, here is something worth considering. If something consistently makes you uneasy, that information matters. This works some of the time but not all of the time. Women don't tend to understand what is normal for men. It's not rare for a woman to view men as dysfunctional women which of course they are not. Beyond that, relationships involve compromise and sometimes taking a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/25 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women over 30 are seen as lower value by men or don’t get quality male attention?I deleted the comment because I thought better of my tone and content after I hit submit. I have been with my husband for 18 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/25 12:19 PM |
| 2 | Is it true that women over 30 are seen as lower value by men or don’t get quality male attention?It is true that there is usually a slight age gap in favor of the men being older. Women seem to prefer this as well for our own reasons. If we go strictly by women's fantasy, the 32 year old isn't interested in the 30 year old who is not making enough money. However, this explanation you give is rooted in the male fantasy about youth trumping every other quality, Men looking to get their dicks wet consider the fantasy. Men looking for a life partner have more developed parameters. And we do wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/25 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women over 30 are seen as lower value by men or don’t get quality male attention?I know this is the theory but this is an area where what men idealize and what plays it in reality are not the same. We care more about the reality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/25 01:31 AM |
| 11 | Tips to become a SAHMI work from home part time and homeschool my kids the other part. So I've got a bit of both. I'm neither encouraging nor discouraging being a sahm. You are discouraging it because it didn't work for you. Personal preferences aren't advice (per the sub rules) and it feels like that is what you are doing here. As for the rest, I learned a lot about cooking and cleaning when I was young and living in my first apartment. And nothing prepared me for kids because they are a whole other thing. No amoun… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/25 12:08 AM |
| 10 | Tips to become a SAHMI don't agree that you need to be groomed to be a sahm. Most of the things you will do in that role, you are also doing as a working mom. And especially in the Internet age, you can learn so much with a little research and reddit time. I'm not sure what part you struggled with but I have never heard the idea that you can't do it if you haven't been taught since childhood. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/25 11:27 PM |
| 10 | Tips to become a SAHMHave you told him specifically that you want to stay home with kids? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/25 10:24 PM |
| 8 | [F26] I'm trapped in a cycle of craving "Alphas" who treat me like dirt. How do I stop self-sabotaging and choose a good man?😐 so that just tells me that I'm right. It was alllll "women are lower than men" misogyny kink subs. So yeah, if you are interacting with men who like that, and you are asking to be treated as less than, then you are your own problem. But I think she also thinks that she's in the men's sub here not the women's. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/25 01:42 PM |
| 12 | [F26] I'm trapped in a cycle of craving "Alphas" who treat me like dirt. How do I stop self-sabotaging and choose a good man?Maybe stop spending so much time on misogyny kink subs. From your post history I don't believe for a second you are trying to change anything. I think you believe we are another kink sub and this is a game to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/25 12:43 PM |
| 8 | I read his private thoughts, he resents me for saying no to sexWhen you are with someone for whom kink is important, it's really important. If you have a dominant man and you expect an egalitarian relationship, then you are both in for a bad time. You can even be in for a bad time that starts to look or feel like abuse (even if it is entirely consensual) as you both strive for your desired outcome. So as his partner you have two options and I don't think you are going to love either. You can declare this as too major a sexual incompatibility to build a life… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 12:26 PM |
| 6 | I could use some help incorporating submission and STFULong time complainer/snarker here. For me it helped to have a mantra of sorts to repeat to myself instead of complaining/questioning. Something like "I chose this man and I trust him" but really whatever works for your situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 12:09 PM |
| 4 | I’m ready to date and put myself out there, but I’m really terrified.And not for nothing "men don't care about it as long as the bills get paid."....so they do care about it. 🙃 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 06:24 PM |
| 16 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’I wouldn't be interested in a man who said that her vague description of "husband material" is a lot to ask. I would be put off by the way this interaction went. But as a general topic of discussion, eh the right guy can probably ask the question and get away with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 12:47 AM |
| 81 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’At one point he asked me what I want from a man. I told him I want someone protective , masculine , likes to take the lead and makes me feel good. "I would be a partner who is nurturing, feminine, and excellent second in command/cheerleader/helpmeet/whatever sounds good to you here, and who feels good being with me" Offer up the complements to what you are asking for. If he doesn't appreciate that answer then you are not a fit. I am presuming that because we are on RPW you are bringing complemen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 12:12 AM |
| 4 | Dating with a promiscuous pastWhy do you think that it is "building on a bomb" ? None of the stats are strong enough to show causation and it's not just promiscuous people who seek divorce at high rates. Young marriages are notorious for that too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/25 12:07 PM |
| 8 | How to stop nagging?Nope. Not good enough. No means no. He doesn't have to qualify it with "actually" for it to mean no. And furthermore "we don't have to do it but I won't be happy" is manipulative. Still bad. Still coercion. Do better. It is not his fault that you can't bring your pet. You sound insane. Grow up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 06:40 PM |
| 6 | How to stop nagging?I can't believe I'm saying this on RPW of all places but no means no. A person saying no means no. It doesn't mean to push until you get what you want. This is egregiously bad behavior. Appalling behavior. And it is even worse because you are supposed to be the older and more mature person here. Don't "limit" TikTok.stop fucking coercing him to do it. Just stop. Stop asking him to do things that he doesn't want to do. This is predatory. This answer puts you firmly into coercion and predatory beh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 04:57 PM |
| 4 | Dating with a promiscuous pastToo high to attain. So you aren't good enough to find a man who meets your standard. It says more about you and what you offer than about men dearie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 01:30 PM |
| 6 | How to stop nagging?If you are 37 and he is that significantly younger and you are pushing him to be in tiktoks that he doesn't want to be in then you are a bad person here. You stop nagging and pressuring this young person because you are an adult and need to do better than this. How do I stop, you just stop. You and your tiktoks are not the most important thing in the world and if this is how you treat men then no wonder you are single at 37 and can only manage a man who is 17 years your junior Grow up before you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 01:28 PM |
| 6 | Dating with a promiscuous pastI was just discussing this with someone the other day and yes, in a way, but I don't need it. I have a healthy long term relationship. Do you have a husband or do you just complain about men on the internet | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/25 12:08 PM |
| 12 | Dating with a promiscuous pastWhy would you marry a man who you believe lies to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/25 06:05 PM |
| 20 | Dating with a promiscuous pastI don't understand what you are looking for here that is different from a week ago? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/25 10:11 PM |
| 8 | Husband is very deeply involved with crypto and it feels like a strain on the relationshipMarriage really is a different animal with different responsibilities to each other than any other pairing. You have your relationship style and way of interacting with women but it's not the same. As someone against marriage, you know that it's not the same. This isn't about going to the doctor, it's about being in a room full of doctors and talking about your undergrad biology degree. I'm honestly surprised you are weighing in here. Marriage is clearly outside your wheelhouse if even the OP is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/25 01:34 PM |
| 1 | What do men mean when they want someone with passions?It would not bother me in the slightest to be with a man who laughs about women who have nothing going on except a TikTok "hobby". Most of us use social media in some form or another but it doesn't make you an interesting person and shouldn't be your only form of entertainment. If it is then you are probably a pretty dull person and should work to change that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/25 01:24 PM |
| 5 | What do men mean when they want someone with passions?I think more men mock behind your back than you realize. Unless you are dealing with men who are also spending too much time scrolling social media. And if that is the case you will be back here asking why he never pays attention to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/25 11:56 AM |
| 2 | Feeling an indescribable grief for never going to be a homemaker (F25 with M31 fiancé)How old are you and are you in a male led relationship? Because it sounds like you have no idea what a good relationship can be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/25 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Feeling an indescribable grief for never going to be a homemaker (F25 with M31 fiancé)If you have a goal for yourself, why would you listen to the people who have been unsuccessful at accomplishing it? That's like telling someone who wants to attend college to listen to the drop outs opinions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/25 01:42 PM |
| 3 | AITA for wanting to leave my Bf after he said " You are just like a man"This interpretation makes you sound as though you have never had a healthy relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/25 09:14 PM |
| 5 | How do you know if a guy is just settling for you?Why struggle? Because some of us have integrity and understand how to appeal to male loyalty And some of us don't and can't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/25 05:39 PM |
| 5 | Husband wants to quit his jobPlease have him call his HR and find out what the cost of COBRA for a family will be. Health insurance is very very expensive and that is before you get into out of pocket expenses. This might not make as much sense as he thinks it does. (Source - am a personal financial advisor) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 09:34 PM |
| 0 | AITA for wanting to leave my Bf after he said " You are just like a man"If you aren't self indulgent then why are all your comments, mainly about you. I watched you hijack someone else's thread before with your own nonsense.. You were the one who was breaking up with him a week ago for abuse. Reading content and applying it to a good relationship are two entirely different things. We can discontinue this right now because I said what I had to say. Nothing further you can say will redeem him in the eyes of many of the women here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 10:37 AM |
| 7 | AITA for wanting to leave my Bf after he said " You are just like a man"Do you really think that you are the best person to give advice? No one who isn't broken wants to be in a relationship with an addict who hits them. Since that is your situation, your advice isn't going to be helpful or valid. Perhaps make friends in real life instead of trying to advise young women online. You don't have a successful relationship from which to give advice which makes it questionable at best and self centered self indulgence at the worst. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/25 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Is it pointless for me to look for a husband as a mentally ill 35 yo?"you're so nice, you're not good, you're not bad, you're just nice" If you think you are right here it is because you are mentally ill yourself and coping OR you have never actually had an addict or someone with bipolar or BPD or schizophrenia in your life. A former member here had to flee her schizophrenic boyfriend of years while he destroyed their home and told her she was the enemy. Platitudes are nonsense advice that help no one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/25 11:20 PM |
| 6 | Would you show up?I slept with my now husband of many years on our first date. I am not pushing that on others but if you are a keeper, he will keep you. If you aren't bringing anything but sex to the table then yeah, you'll only be around until you have sex. You've got to be better than that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/25 12:27 PM |
| 3 | New To RPW - Seeking Advice, Tips and Resources on VettingWhat behaviors do you think are brought out in men by "women not knowing their place"? That is what I was referring to. What are you STFU about that causes internal suffering? How is an adult woman NOT capable of keeping her thoughts to herself or her focus on her own paper? Presumably you do this in other contexts. Why is he different? You are throwing out a lot of highly charged words with very little concrete context. Emotions without examples sounds like validation seeking and not advice see… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/25 11:50 AM |
| 3 | New To RPW - Seeking Advice, Tips and Resources on Vettingnot RPW but male-led relationships and submissiveness in general have said (paraphrasing bluntly here) that a woman who doesn’t know her place/role/etc. can bring out those behaviors in a man. This is either kink or abuse depending on who it's coming from. You can have a male led relationship without being hit. You can also have a kinky sexual dynamic without being hit. Being hit is never a requirement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/25 02:25 AM |
| 7 | Early on in the dating process, how can I get over him hooking up with other girls?https://www.today.com/health/reason-why-men-marry-some-women-not-others-t74671 There is some information in here that might be useful for vetting. He says men start to look to marry when they are tired of the singles scene. It doesn't really sound like your guy is tired of the singles scene. You say he's divorced. Has it been long. Recently divorced men make for dubious prospects. But ultimately you are being foolish here. You've been on one date and are already twisting yourself in knots for hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/25 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Early on in the dating process, how can I get over him hooking up with other girls?How old is he? You only mention your own age. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/25 08:50 PM |
| 11 | Boys Sowing Wild Oats vs. Girls Staying PureYou hit on something important here. I'll put aside for a moment whether one should remain pure/keep a low n count. Sex is never all a woman should be offering. And too often I have seen women believe that virginity or youth alone is sufficient to get and hold onto a man. When looking for a man to share a lifetime with, you can't be one dimensional and you don't want him to view you as one dimensional either. Your virginity goes away and you grow and develop as a person. If you chose a man who i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/25 04:08 PM |
| 17 | Boys Sowing Wild Oats vs. Girls Staying PureHow does your parents example fit with advertising for older men to "teach" you online? I would personally be more appalled at my daughters seeking strange older men on reddit than having sex at 19 with an appropriately aged boyfriend. This is either a fetish account for you or you are frightfully naive about men and sex and going to get yourself in a bad situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/25 03:13 PM |
| 15 | Blocked by my match everywhere after a deep conversation, I feel really shakenA man saying he will take you on nice dates and pay for you is just a man playing the game. They all know that women expect that and saying it or even doing it once or twice isn't a meaningful gesture for vetting purposes. I'm Team: "you dodged a bullet" on this one. I'm sorry for you that you got vulnerable with him first. I'm sure it stings. Have you read the post about Incremental Reciprocation? It's generally more for once you are dating but I think the concept might help you avoid stuff lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/25 01:16 PM |
| 27 | Blocked by my match everywhere after a deep conversation, I feel really shakenIt sounds to me that he made you sell yourself to him. This made you feel like he was something worth winning. The brain is funny like that. In reality it's pretty weird to be asked to justify your own nature as a woman. And you have no idea if your hypergamy will be quieted until you meet and get to know this guy. He was looking for assurances that are impossible to give. I don't usually accuse men of insecurity but this seems very insecure. And if it's not insecurity (pretending to be rational… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/25 01:01 PM |
| 1 | I got ghosted/ slow faded after two good dates, did I do something wrong?That is fair if somewhat unique. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/25 03:34 PM |
| 8 | How to get him to lead decision-making?I remember being this age and I was absolutely going to marry my then boyfriend (and he agreed). We were great friends and he was good on paper. I really felt like I had figured that part of my life out. By acting like I had this "checked off" I failed to recognize all the ways that we were incompatible. Leadership and decision making were a huge part of that incompatibility. The relationship went on far longer than it should have. OP this may be your guy but it may not. Don't stop vetting and d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/25 03:00 PM |
| 4 | I got ghosted/ slow faded after two good dates, did I do something wrong?Twenty years of grinding? Ugh. Most twenty somethings women do not and should not want forty something men especially if they want children. Please stop pushing this narrative to young women AND men. Men have an easier time dating when they reach their thirties but it does not continue indefinitely. AND men who make it to their forties without marrying are unlikely to do so (studied) so it's an overall bad tactic to go for these men as a matter of strategy. This is a male centric strategy that n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/25 11:10 AM |
| 9 | How to ACTUALLY tell if a guy doesn't watch pornMy take away from this is that it's a method to determine if a man you are vetting is using porn/too into porn. I don't think he's saying that you should associate with people with a porn addiction. He's telling women how to attempt to avoid it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 01:36 PM |
| 24 | How to ACTUALLY tell if a guy doesn't watch pornAs someone born in the 1980s, I used to agree that porn was just a thing people did and it was not a big deal. But I have now seen too many problems arise for those who grew up with porn in their pockets. It is a bigger issue and more of a concern for women vetting than you understand. And that's ok, we were raised in a different time and you got married and had kids and never picked up a problem. Great! Plenty of other men (and women!) are not that lucky and it's one of the unfortunate pitfalls… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Should I pay for myself?You're still here? I had forgotten about you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 01:21 AM |
| 5 | How can I grow up?Shouldn't we be worried that a woman is being abused? You will think this is callous, but no we should not be worried that a woman is being abused. First off, while empathy is nice, truly worrying about someone that you have never met or spoken with is a poor use of your own mental and emotional resources. You should not be having emotional reactions to someone who effectively does not exist in your life. What we do have, is a young woman in front of us asking for help. She is also in the same s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/25 05:00 PM |
| 7 | How can I grow up?That is an unfair ask for a woman just getting herself on her feet. Mom is an adult and whatever is going on in that house SHE should have been the one taking care of OP. OP doesn't even want to spend money to get out before she is done school, taking on the burden of her mother's questionable life choices is also something that will have a cost as she starts her adult life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/25 02:30 PM |
| 5 | I feel bad for women who deep down want a soft life but media manipulated them into thinking men want another manYou sound irrationally angry here. This isn't about you....unless it is? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/25 10:14 AM |
| 3 | I feel like a lot of messages about red pill women end up being “women suffer so men don’t get their feelings hurt”🍿🍿 | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 06:43 PM |
| 18 | He wants me to work and homeschoolI actually do work and homeschool. I know a few women in the local homeschool community who do both. It's not easy. Since you are discussing/negotiating this here are some thoughts/advice /suggestions: I'm able to do this because I have flexible working hours. I draw a salary and I carry my phone and laptop with me so I'm on the clock from 9:30 to 4pm. If clients call, I have to drop what I'm doing and respond BUT most work can be planned for any hour of the day. Other moms do a day or two a wee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Should I pay for myself?I am a pick me and my husband picked me and takes care of me. I ALSO work in personal finance and I know how varied people's division of assets/expenses can be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/25 05:53 PM |
| 6 | Should I pay for myself?This is a ridiculous comment that is either Boomer (the world was different when I was a kid) or trad (I wish the world was different than it is) nonsense. Maybe she is a placeholder and maybe she isn't but you don't know enough to make that judgement based off the OP. Like it or not, splitting the bill has been common for years so to immediately jump to "he doesn't like you" is irresponsible. It its up there with comments that yell "dump him" for every small issue. Plus none of this is actionab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/25 11:07 AM |
| 7 | Should I pay for myself?You are welcome. Here is the old post about the concept. Good luck! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/mWdhFtuhCT | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Should I pay for myself?And what, friend, does your situation with your husband have anything to do with the OP? It's entirely off topic and sounds like you just want to brag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 11:32 PM |
| 21 | Should I pay for myself?This isn't a question of "should". If you are barely making ends meet then you cannot continue to pay without budgeting for it. However, you are also not entitled to his money just because he is now graduated and earning it. However, he is not entitled to yours either. This is a vetting moment. It is also a classic RPW "bring your man your problem" moment. You tell him that you love spending time together but the dates are pushing your budget over its limit and you can't afford what you have bee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 11:28 PM |
| 5 | Struggling with low self-worth, attraction patterns, and finding my place in relationshipsShe's choosing the hot guys AND waiting until marriage for sex. Based on her post history it's also only a couple guys in couple of months relationships. Asking Chad to wait is a big ask. But also, she's got a post asking about passing out on MDMA so there is very possibility a RMV component in addition to her choice in men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 05:32 PM |
| 4 | Women who embrace femininity and let men lead seem way happier… coincidence?Because there were things that are not favorable to women. The women who "fell for it" saw something in the lives of their mothers that made feminism sound appealing. I'm not a feminist but the movement could only gain footing if there were already grievances. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/25 11:00 PM |
| 13 | Should I meet him personally even if I am not his type but finds me attractive?"idk why I want him ...he's not my preference as well" He became more desirable when he acted less interested. I will not guess at his intentions or character but he is doing things that leave you off balance and make you try harder or want to win him more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/25 12:25 AM |
| 5 | Husband never really makes plans with meIt is beyond me why a woman would choose to bring not one but two children into this world with this man and in these circumstances. You know, I can see the benefits of having all your children with the same man. Even if you know you won't stay with him forever, you have kids who are full siblings and it probably looks better on the dating market (post divorce) to be a single mother with one former husband than a couple kids from a couple baby daddies. This is a general statement and not a comme… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/25 01:09 PM |
| 13 | Dating a millionnaireIf you said you were a first year accounting major I would believe you know what you are talking about. But I'm sure you have seen how financially illiterate most people are so it was worth saying just in case. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/25 12:43 PM |
| 30 | Dating a millionnaireHow familiar are you with economics or accounting? Payments/invoices are not reflective of actual profit. He could have millions rolling through the business while having much smaller profits and potentially lower take home. I have zero intention of debating with you what this man has but I hope you understand how accounting works and have made a realistic assessment and are not being conned based on your lack of knowledge. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/25 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Do you unmatch if a guy mentions anything sexual during the texting phase when online dating?Post nut clarity is a uniquely male thing. Women do tend to bond more over sex than men do. That isn't to say that men don't bond but it is different and they have an easier time NOT bonding, else there wouldn't be complaints about pumping and dumping. I don't think my experience is universal by any stretch. You want a man with some finesse and a guy letting you know about morning wood has no finesse. But I also believe that men in general will try to bring it up and if you (general you) treat t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/25 04:00 PM |
| 3 | Do you unmatch if a guy mentions anything sexual during the texting phase when online dating?You can and should have your own boundaries around sex but just this: Men who really like you and want a relationship with you do not make such comments before meeting you One of the first things my now husband ever said to me was "we should have sex, it will be great". I'd known him for about 10 minutes. I laughed it off and now we are 18 years later and life is beautiful. The thing is, sex is a big deal in our relationship. This blatant sexual flirting was absolutely fine for me and set the to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/25 02:10 PM |
| 6 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?It is viewed as a fantasy time here because it was the time of the post world war boom times. Our country wasn't destroyed by war, we stole a bunch of German scientists to help us do cool things, women left the wartime jobs they took and ceded them back to the returning men because one income households were doable. In vague overarching terms it was a good time to be an American (the rest of y'all were cleaning up Europe under our orders while we were taking over international banking ...good ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 12:03 PM |
| 1 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?I noticed in your post history that you are divorced. How long have you been actively dating again? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 09:51 PM |
| 14 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?Of my two sets of grandparents, one set renewed their vows at their 50th anniversary with adoration in their eyes. The other lived on separate floors of the house (with a floor in between no less!) and didn't speak to each other. The fantasy of 1950s America needs to die. Feminism would have been dead in the water if the women were all happy and taken care of and provided for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 09:47 PM |
| 2 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?Male led looks very different depending on the people in the relationship. It won't guarantee sexual compatibility and it certainly won't guarantee kink. While spanking is on the mold end of bdsm, there are men who won't even be into that much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Struggling a bit because my BF thinks I'm physically stronger than him and it might be trueYeah, what she did is the very definition of a fitness test (shit testing). And when there is only one acceptable outcome to you, then it's a really bad idea to play that game. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 11:22 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill Women-How do we reconcile when RP practices fail for well-meaning women? How does witnessing that impact you? This situation has really upset me.I differentiate because the leaders of the sub have differentiated since before the term TradWife went viral.. Red Pill is a way of understanding men and women. It gives us strategies on how to work together to have a happy relationship. Anyone can use the strategies, it is not a lifestyle choice, it is a way of understanding. "Trad" is a relationship structure that can follow RP theories but does not have to. It focuses more on the role each person fills in a more rigid way. To paraphrase the s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/25 06:08 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill Women-How do we reconcile when RP practices fail for well-meaning women? How does witnessing that impact you? This situation has really upset me.I don't know your family members situation and I won't say I think it's fair or reasonable.... But RPW has never been exclusive traditional conservative/TradWife. It is a set of ideas about men and women and what we each desire from a relationship. You can be the most trad of tradwives and have an unhappy relationship through your own fault. Being a virgin when you marry doesn't mean you understand men's need for respect (as a for instance) So when you say that a couple is really cold with each … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/25 05:38 PM |
| 5 | A Tale of Two FairiesFirst off, this post is a great example of "childlike vs childish" and it's adorable. At some point along the line, one needs to realize that for every pet peeve you have about your man, he has one about you. It's shocking really because you are absolutely spotless with no flaws when you are living alone. Then suddenly there is a man there, leaving socks on the floor and glasses next to the sink...in your spotless flawless space. And when you say something to him only to have him point out that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/25 09:11 PM |
| 27 | Am I settling or being greedy?If you broke up with him, how do you intend to position yourself to get a higher end lifestyle? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/25 03:29 PM |
| 58 | pregnant and want to be married.You aren't going to like this, but in your case I would caution patience. You say you "were raised Catholic" not that you are a practicing Catholic. And of course you were having premarital sex so you only care about the doctrine now that you've had an oopsie. Don't use a religion that you weren't previously following just to get your way. Unless of course you have already been to confession and have been absolved and have begun abstaining until the marriage. In that case you can disregard the a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageI think this is a case where you don't know what you don't know. I'm very glad my husband was happy to marry me because the commitment would have been meaningless otherwise and I would not have had his children. I know he is thrilled with marriage. The key is that he was willing to both take the risk AND is a strong enough leader to shape the marriage so it works for both of us. He's smarter than you (not because of marriage, he's smarter than most people) and a child of divorce. He assessed the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageIf you don't want kids, you find another woman, you don't date someone who wants different things or of course it ends badly. As a woman, I can have babies without being married. I can have them without a particular man. Most women want to have kids with a particular man who they love. It is a huge strain on the body and mind to be pregnant and we all know we will be the primary parent which is its own stresses. You find a man you love and trust to do or with. Presumably a man who desires kids h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageWhether women want them is irrelevant. Having your child is something that the woman brings to the relationship. In a time when abortion is fairly easy, having your child is very much optional. You seem like you are going through some stuff with these comments. You aren't usually so woman=bad here. Everything alright? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 06:16 AM |
| 3 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageAsk a woman to “put herself in harms way to prove your love for me,” and she’ll laugh in your face Most women would view pregnancy and childbirth as putting herself in harms way to prove her love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 02:32 AM |
| 1 | How long do you ‘vet’ a guy for?My husband initiated our relationship by calling me and saying "wear something cute, I'm taking you out for a ride" Then he called the next day and said "I want to have a proper date, this is what we are doing Friday" It was a good indicator of the type of man he is and the type of man he would be in a relationship. There were loads more things that I paid attention to (vetting) that he said and did and all those things combined made me want to be with him and only him forever. Now, half a lifet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/25 05:05 PM |
| 2 | How long do you ‘vet’ a guy for?I've been with my husband for 18 years. He had his ways of vetting me and I him. Tell me, do you HAVE a relationship with a healthy RPW dynamic? Submission doesn't happen in a vacuum, you need a man who can lead. Too many men want all the benefits with none of the responsibilities. If a man cannot plan a date, and I never said it had to be an expensive one, but it a man cannot plan a date because he's indecisive that is a sign that he cannot lead. But trust me when I tell you that my way got me … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/25 04:49 PM |
| 1 | How long do you ‘vet’ a guy for?It is a means of vetting for a type of man who can take charge. More than one thing goes into vetting but yes, this is one facet. You are a man, too bad so sad but if women's standards for attraction don't work well for you that is very much a you problem | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/25 12:12 PM |
| 7 | Discussion: degrees of submissionAs someone who started out as an Argumentative Bitch, once you reach that place of trust and commitment, it isn't ever necessary. It's self protective and if you have the right Captain and can recognize it, there are better ways to help reset a bad course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/25 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: degrees of submissionWould you say that total submission is the goal? No, I don't think I would. It's more one end of the spectrum to the other. And I think it can only be a spectrum because I could give a behavior to an RPW, a feminist and a bdsm girlie and get totally different opinions on whether its submissive, agreeable or abusive and I should run!! There just isn't a common ground on what *submission " means. It's very personal. I definitely felt a shift when we I got married Agree. This is around the time tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/25 07:51 PM |
| 4 | Discussion: degrees of submissionThank you. This makes sense to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/25 06:12 PM |
| 8 | Discussion: degrees of submissionLooking for Captain/FM instead of total authority is how to avoid ending up with a wife who is "the oldest child in the house" IMO. This is actually a good point though. Not every man wants a submissive woman. Or at least the brand of submissive/agreeable will vary from man to man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/25 06:11 PM |
| 11 | Discussion: degrees of submissionI do suspect that some women's idea of submission matches what u/redpilldad is saying though. It's a tough concept to wrap your head around and it would not surprise me at all to see some women demonstrating it by acting helpless. I mean I'm with you but no one would ever call me submissive except my husband 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/25 06:08 PM |
| 11 | Discussion: degrees of submissionPlenty of women submit too much or too early This is what I like about the "agreeable girlfriend/submissive wife" dichotomy (a concept not my own). I don't think it is wise from the perspective of a woman's well being to submit to everything he says right out the gate. From the men's side, what would your perspective be of a woman who was overly submissive from, say month one? I would think it would be a little boring because it lacks the push pull. My suspicion is that women who use submissive … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/25 04:11 PM |
| 1 | I messed up and need advice.If you arent leading in your relationship (and you are not if you are worried she's going to manipulate you-especially if she hasn't) then you have no advice to give the women here and you should leave and fix yourself first before you embarrass yourself further.... because the paranoia you expressed here is not respectable and we don't respect your advice or judgement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/25 11:37 AM |
| 3 | How often do you spend time with your spouse?I think you are being unfair. High level jobs sometimes require more work, attention and energy than your average 9-5. Running a business fits into this role. A wife who demands her mans attention when he's stretched thin is a selfish woman. This is especially true if his job covers the majority of the bills. Life has its seasons, sometimes time is more prescious and you take what you can. Her man isn't neglecting her if he is building a business that benefits them both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/25 09:46 PM |
| 0 | how do i make my husband agree to stay longer at my parents'?This is toxic? Girl, you need to be less sensitive. You were making guesses about her background and giving advice based on (incorrect) guesses. It was a case where you had nothing to give but opened your mouth anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/25 02:18 PM |
| 2 | How long do you ‘vet’ a guy for?For a male led relationship yes. He could hypothetically be a serial killer and still lead the relationship. It is unclear whether or not he is serious and the OPs gut is correct or he is communicating poorly and the OP is overreacting. It doesn't matter though because watching what he does is as (if not more) important than watching what he says. And in this case what he is doing is being terrible at leading dates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/25 12:10 PM |
| 2 | how do i make my husband agree to stay longer at my parents'?Just a lunch but I think u/Issa11111 knows her culture better than you do. 🙄 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/25 12:01 PM |
| 26 | How long do you ‘vet’ a guy for?Do you want a male led relationship? Because him being bad at choosing for dates is the biggest sign that that isn't happening. If you are an average liberal woman and he is an average conservative man, I can see why he might be cagey about politics. That said, there is a trust issue here. You don't trust his word. Same with the killing people thing. You don't trust that he means in self defense. And hey, maybe that trust isnt deserved and your gut is telling you something. 8 dates isn't a huge … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 01:06 PM |
| 39 | Community for women in relationships with RP men?The sub is for women who want male led marriages. The reason the sub makes the distinction is because we see a lot of RP anger phase men who aren't ready to be interacting with women, let alone married. We often see women who think that being an RPW means you have to be with a red pilled man. However the strategies we use consider what attracted men not a subset of them. So you will find women here with red pilled or red pill aware men, but also people whose relationship dynamic looks like what … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 12:01 PM |
| 24 | How long do you ‘vet’ a guy for?What has the last three months of vetting looked like, how often do you see him? What are your worried about that you can't determine after three months? Practically speaking, you should be vetting until you are married because new information can change things. But three months in and you should have a pretty good idea if you want to continue the relationship and you don't, which probably means it's a no go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 11:49 AM |
| 3 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?The comment was supposed to be an "I agree with you and .." I actually thought I wrote "I agree" but apparently not. For every vocal RP dude who isn't getting it, there are many more men who are aware, either from the Internet or because they figured it out another way. Women (and some men) think that the vocal Internet dudes represent all red pilled men and they do not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/25 10:45 PM |
| 5 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?I asked and he agreed with my assessment. He said "the requirement for the marriage was that you be my number 2" then he referenced the villain and his wife from The Venture Brothers cartoon because he's a huge nerd. I don't think he would disagree with this Probably because I see first how much I've just went along with him, and he sees first how much he's considered me. It's just that he has no problem saying that he's the leader and that that consideration is the responsibility of the leader.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/25 10:33 PM |
| 6 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?Preemptive caveat (that isn't to you but this is public): I absolutely chose this man and the direction his life takes and he always considers me, what I want and need etc Now what I meant was that his career is primary. With our fields, I could work more and make similar salary however, his career will always be top billing. We live in a blue collar neighborhood because that's where he wants to be. Our broader social network tends to be his friends (though of course I have my own). We work out … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/25 04:42 PM |
| 6 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?All an RPM is, is a guy who has figured out that there’s a second set of books I make the distinction here because so many people assume that being a red pill man means following Andrew Tate and the current iteration of influencers. First we predate them by a lot and second I think that what exists now is a pale comparison to the original crop of red pill writing. But also because my guy was a natural, he naturally slept with a bunch of women before he met me, he naturally arranged threesomes en… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/25 11:54 AM |
| 33 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?My husband is red pill aware but he figured out women all on his own so he's never been what people here refer to as "a red pilled guy" We are very happy for about 18 years now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/25 10:00 PM |
| 7 | Discussion: Male Led RelationshipsI see how very minor these are and they're not what I would call "submissive" but rather "agreeable" and "respectful" To me, it looks like more STFU and less control. Submission is a really charged word and I don't think it entirely describes what the universal core of RPW "should be". Particularly when we are talking about dating and early relationships - submission is a bad target. It's full of risk and I think women overshoot and end up as doormats because they thought "if i just submit and d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/25 04:35 PM |
| 7 | Discussion: Male Led RelationshipsTo me, it's like saying "It takes a lot of trust to have sex with a man who gets off it. What if he goes past the limit and disregards your consent when he wants sex?" I think the difference between Vas's girl and you is likely the long term commitment in the relationship. Assuming a sane and emotionally healthy woman it makes sense to have more hesitance with impact play in a shorter term relationship. Even if you trust the guy, there is still a difference in your levels of trust when you've be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/25 04:24 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Male Led RelationshipsIt's very possible that you did hear it from me. My mom told me that I needed a man smarter than me or I would walk all over him. And she was correct she just didn't get the full scope. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/25 05:46 PM |
| 5 | My mind is telling me no but my lady parts are saying yesIt sounds like they had a culture in common and so unless she told you that she viewed him as low value, your opinion of him is moot. Value is relative. Are you absolutely sure he had no other prospects? You are making assumptions about this man's prospects. For all you know he has a huge dick and a string of women that he's alpha widowed. And your friend was getting pumped and dumped in NYC where men outnumber women and the dating market is brutal unless you are the top of some hierarchy. That … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 06:12 PM |
| 8 | My mind is telling me no but my lady parts are saying yesOh no! He's short and quiet! He can't possibly be a decent man and a good catch with those huge glaring red flags. In the end most people are doing the best they can within their social sphere. Discounting men over things like height is how women are ending up mid thirties and single. I hope I am misreading your intent but you sound as though you need to disparage other people's successes in the dating market. Men have similarities that we can use to facilitate happy relationships. They are stil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 12:27 PM |
| 3 | My mind is telling me no but my lady parts are saying yesI met him when he was 26. And while I can accept that I may be an outlier, I haven't seen early sex be a deterrent to marriage in people I've encountered over the years (friends etc). And of course things would have been different at a different time. I would have been different at a different time too. But I'm not sure how any of this justifies the idea that early sex can only lead to marriage in the cases where men are unattractive. Now you are walking it back by saying "it doesn't matter if h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 08:40 AM |
| 4 | My mind is telling me no but my lady parts are saying yesFair enough. Too often people give advice for how to get a partner only to add later that they don't actually have said partner (it's not gendered either) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/25 12:50 PM |
| 11 | My mind is telling me no but my lady parts are saying yesThis is a huge cope in my experience. The men who are less likely to care about female.promiscuity are promiscuous men. Sex drive is something that you want more closely matched to avoid longer term issues with a high and low libido partner. So delaying too long when you are a higher drive person could be a problem later on I'm not telling anyone to rush sex but I am likely one of the people u/wife_and_mama is talking about here. My husband and I jumped into bed really quickly. He was tall, with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/25 12:49 PM |
| 7 | Do you just accept his need to be with other women?Women who say this aren't being feminists. Humans bristle at hypocrisy. The majority of women aren't ok with sharing hypothetically or realistically. The rhetoric of "you should be allowed to do it too" isn't even because we want to cheat, it's because we recognize that our men also don't want us to have a second partner and so that is the high price we put on them having another partner. Just because men want variety doesn't mean they require variety. Women are not obligated to put up with men'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/25 03:56 PM |
| 4 | Do you just accept his need to be with other women?How many though. You are throwing out profession and vague numbers and saying "these men will have a side piece". Of the number who you know have at least two women, how many of those are cheating openly and how many are hiding it? Being able to find a woman to fuck you and being able to find a wife who allows it are entirely different. And how many of those arrangements are one sided? Poly people don't tend to be one sided from what I've seen. I know women value income but it's not the only thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/25 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Do you just accept his need to be with other women?How many "high value men" do you know and how many cheat? What is hv by your definition This is an RP talking point based on behavioral economics and some tautological defining. I don't suspect it shows up nearly as much as RP claims - especially after marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/25 03:04 PM |
| 7 | My mind is telling me no but my lady parts are saying yesBased on my experience, I have to agree. The women that slept with me right away actually showed me they were serious Have you married any of them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/25 12:39 AM |
| 4 | I can’t keep up with his libidoThe red pill wasn't created by women or for them. The original RPW sub, male and female founders, was much more focused on how to bring something to the table and understand male needs in a relationship. Submission to your man is a huge RP talking point. We fought the men for years on the marriage issue. Standard RP tends to be vehemently anti marriage. I honestly don't know what manosphere spaces you have frequented. You can die on the hill of your values ( as you should) but what you are sugge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 03:11 PM |
| 4 | I can’t keep up with his libidoYou would have hated it when the red pill men were still taking an active role in the direction of the sub. If you think this isn't red pill then you weren't around here since 2016 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 11:50 AM |
| 5 | I can’t keep up with his libidoA big part of the sub is the idea that you can only change yourself. You can talk to your man, you can ask for change, you can clean up your own side of the street and hope he does the same. What you cannot do is force another person to change. So with this in mind, we will give you advice that is actionable for you. Because you are here and you are the person asking advice. But also RPW has never placed value solely on financials. A man can get whatever sex he can get. That doesn't mean that ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 11:45 AM |
| 52 | I can’t keep up with his libidoIf sex is his number one priority, you should ask him what he would prefer you deprioritize? You can't do everything and do it well. If you want to prioritize something you need to move another thing down on the importance list. I think you also need to have a conversation about what you need for sex to be fun for you. Tell him that bedtime isn't working for you and see what he suggests. Four times a week is doable but it's not necessarily something that just happens. I think people want to feel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/25 01:32 PM |
| 23 | Relationship to fwb?Askmen caught her out on this one. Based on her now-deleted comment history, this was a sugar baby situation with a guy outta Dubai (or something similar, I'm going by what the other sub describes). So she was probably never even a girlfriend in the first place and this might just be some delusion all around | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/25 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyIf you weren't breaking down in tears, I wouldn't have as negative an opinion as I do. Do YOU think you are being programmed to hate sex with him? His pushiness is annoying and I don't think right. I'd have some reservations about him as a husband, especially if you are looking for a male-led relationship. BUT Some men are just pushy and if you can write if off over all and everything else is good then maybe you just chalk that up to being a trade off you make to get the good parts of him. But y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 07:32 PM |
| 3 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyYes, it's not really surprising that this is an issue in a 3 year relationship. I thought that typically waiting for marriage equalled a quicker time frame. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 07:26 PM |
| 4 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyShe needs to hold her boundaries better, yes. But if she's vetting for a male led relationships, he is not showing the qualities of a good leader. I don't know if he's a bad guy in general but he's young and thinking with his dick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 06:47 PM |
| 17 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyYou have established the dynamic for this relationship. He hasn't changed based on any of your conversations so this is the pattern. And I think maybe you realize that or you wouldn't be posting. The thing to keep in mind is that this dynamic is unlikely to change when you introduce sex AND this is causing stress on your psyche which isn't going to disappear with sex either. Your bf who pressures you through tears will be your husband who pressures you through tears. And whatever damage this doe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 06:44 PM |
| 2 | After our engagement, I trusted him to provide while I prepared for our wedding/pregnancy plans for this year. He ended it and began dating right after.Oh my bad. Yes I meant that comment. My brain won't brain today apparently | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 06:56 PM |
| 1 | What is wrong with reddit?Oh gosh you are one of those. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | After our engagement, I trusted him to provide while I prepared for our wedding/pregnancy plans for this year. He ended it and began dating right after.Your link doesn't link. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 06:17 PM |
| 7 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedI think a lot of women fell into the resentment category. I can't say that I would have been better if it never made it to marriage, I just knew at the time that I wasn't ending it over a ring. Hard to say what would have happened to that idealism if we were still boyfriend/girlfriend at 40 🤷 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 06:16 PM |
| 3 | What is wrong with reddit?If your whole approach is that you are better than the women here then you probably don't need to grave is with your presence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 06:14 PM |
| 8 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedI think you are taking this as me saying that sexual attraction should trump all, I'm not. Again, speaking only for myself it went like this: I knew him and he was smart, interesting to talk to. He had a solid career path so I knew he wasn't a crust punk loser (this is relevant to me because of the friend who introduced us). We had sex and it was the best I'd experienced. He taught me to change the oil in my car because he believe in DIYing stuff. He came over in a tool belt and hung up a decora… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:51 PM |
| 11 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedI used to say that sometimes you need to chose the man or the marriage. I chose the man and while I did end up married in the end, there are a lot of things that we subsequently delayed in life by not being married earlier. If I had it to do over, I'd probably have expressed a desire to get married earlier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:40 PM |
| 10 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedNo one said that you had to take the advice. I'm sorry that your attraction is so very fickle. Mine is not. It hasn't changed for my husband over the time I've known him. Just like it didn't grow for my ex no matter how much he loved me or great a catch he was. And it's not the only thing to vet on, it's just an important one. I tend to share based on what has made me a happy life. That doesn't mean my path is the only way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:31 PM |
| 9 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedI'm telling you my experience and I have a pretty long relationship at this point so I'm at least speaking from the POV of a successful marriage. Birth control is a problem that you should be aware. What I don't think you are considering is that it is attraction and not just sex drive that it impacts. So that high comfort trait man that feels like the perfect partner, can turn into a needy second child a few years into marriage if you stop the birth control. I've seen this happen. Attraction and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:24 PM |
| 11 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedChoose character and looks first - then think about their personality. Character is what makes a man a great man. And his looks will keep your sexual appetite high for him. If he has bad character but a big charming personality, and you are their partner, you will soon pay for it. This is really interesting and I've never seen it articulated before. I haven't thought about character and personality being something you separate out but it makes a lot of sense. Personality is probably more related… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:17 PM |
| 8 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedSome people have to talk things out to know what they are feeling... Going along with this, there is a concept of people being a turtle or a tiger in an argument. The turtle is the person who pulls back to get space and think and the tiger is the person who leans in to gain connection and interaction. Figuring out how your partner is, particularly in an argument/fighting scenario can be a good way to give them what they need and deescalate conflict. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:15 PM |
| 9 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedAll the reasons you state are, in my mind, reasons to consider sexual attraction in vetting, not reasons against it. Now obviously you don't go for a man solely due to attraction, you have to balance it against other qualities as well. But Hormones, stress, and age can all put a damper on your sex life. If you don't start a relationship wanting him desperately, then when these things strike, you are already well on your way to a dead bedroom which is also a relationship killer. And personally I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:11 PM |
| 17 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedI agree with this one hard. My ex was great on paper but I was never attracted to him. It never could have worked in the long term and he deserved someone who wanted him. But man would it have been nice to get the messaging that attraction is important and you aren't shallow for requiring it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 02:38 PM |
| 4 | When integrity and obedience collide...While I'm willing to allow my husband the opportunity to convince me of his beliefs, my mind is still my own. A man who needed to control my thoughts would not be the guy for me. I believe that what you "owe" a man (in a relationship) is respect, deference to his decisions (if you agreed to this dynamic) and a willingness to listen to him with open minded interest. It sounds like your guy was asking for complete control over you in order to call it "submission". I'm quite leery of a man who refe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 02:34 PM |
| 3 | What is wrong with reddit?That's pretty wild. I think reddit often gets people who claim to be <something> as a preface to disagreeing with it. Ie: "I'm a conservative but I don't believe in <thing conservatives believe>". As a tactic it's dishonest but not uncommon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/25 04:57 PM |
| 1 | What is wrong with reddit?I am not the original commenter here. You prove nothing by citing a brand new sub with no content to compare to the rest of reddit. Why are you here? To argue? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/25 02:45 PM |
| 0 | What is wrong with reddit?Exceptions prove the rule. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/25 01:33 PM |
| 4 | What do you believe in?🤷 I don't disagree. It's pretty broad to say that anything that brings happiness is bad. With some stuff, like hook up culture, it probably makes sense but isn't limited to women's desires causing issue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/25 01:05 PM |
| 5 | What do you believe in?He isn't suggesting that traditional views are the problem. He thinks that traditional societies curbed women from doing what makes us happy because what makes us happy could be/is damaging to civilization. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/25 12:54 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offThen let me speak slowly for you. My husband drinks margaritas. This isn't noteworthy because he doesn't also say that he's a "girly boy because girls have more fun with their hair and makeup and clothes and boys are boring." In fact, his character can be shown in his no fucks given attitude about his drinking habits. The OPs man has feminine mannerisms, backed up by his words about being a girly boy. When words and actions match what else is there to say? You should not give a chance to a man y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/25 01:44 PM |
| 0 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offYes. You obviously read a different post than the rest of us . | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/25 12:24 PM |
| 13 | How do I come to terms with the fact that I am damaged goods, and won't find a decent partner?One of the rules here is that you have to be willing to receive advice. It looks like you just want to throw yourself a pity party no matter what anyone tells you. Your hips aren't keeping you from getting a man. Your sad sack attitude might be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 07:27 PM |
| 5 | Should i give up on the relationship..At 22, he's also too old for you In these age gap scenarios it is nearly always the young woman who has the higher dating market value. Even if the man is desirable to many, there are far more men chasing a 22 year old then there are 22 year olds willing to have an age gap. OP is the prize here and should treat herself (and her boundaries) like it | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 07:24 PM |
| 9 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offWith the other stuff this guy said, it wouldn't surprise me if he chose "girly drinks" for the exact reason that they are "girly" other than a taste preference. He seems to like his feminine affectations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 02:46 PM |
| 1 | I’m getting married in a few weeks, I’m not sure if I’m making the right decision, I’m so worriedWell we would have combined our finances sooner. Which would have allowed us to buy a house sooner. Combining our finances would have led to earlier combined savings strategies. We would have had kids a few years sooner and probably had more than we have been able to have. There are aspects of life that marriage acts as a gateway to. Further, there is the psychological aspect that changes (should change) from viewing your life as yours that you are planning for vs ours that we are planning for. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 02:42 PM |
| 11 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offI think when women cite things like "a fruity cocktail" it is a tangible stand in for a bunch of other behaviors that seem harder to articulate. It somehow sounds less weird and more concrete than "he has a feminine air about him" which is really the complaint. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 01:40 PM |
| 11 | I’m getting married in a few weeks, I’m not sure if I’m making the right decision, I’m so worriedQuestions: What do your parents think of him? Your friends? Envision him making average money, or losing his job for a year or more, would you still want to marry him? (You can answer this quietly in your head if you prefer. Sometimes women get blinded by the comfort we imagine a high income brings.) You say that he has issues resolving conflict. Have you seen him "break up" with friends over this? Has it been an issue with his job? His family? Your family? These are all possible concerns with a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/25 11:06 PM |
| 12 | I’m getting married in a few weeks, I’m not sure if I’m making the right decision, I’m so worriedI've been with my husband since I was about 24. We didn't marry until our 30s. And if I had it all to do over, I would want to marry sooner. We plan differently and make different life decisions once married. We worked harder to resolve repetitive issues once we were officially tied. No one should rush marriage just to marry young but if you are with the right person, waiting isn't beneficial. I would wager that people who successfully marry in their 20s are better off in the long run than those… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/25 08:13 PM |
| 2 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.I'm not a feminist you absolutely ninny. You threw a tantrum over the moderation. And you wrote this post. You have issues with pretty privilege and are calling it an issue of community. The world doesn't change for you because your emotional maturity is lacking. Get over it. The world does not treat people the same and never will. At best you are hopelessly naive but this "change because I don't like it" is what the feminists and the extreme left does. Learn to take responsibility for your self… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/25 12:02 PM |
| 4 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.Dating is the definition of a zero sum game. If you get a man, I do not get that man. That's a zero sum game. And you can say there are enough men to go around but appealing men tend to be appealing to a wide subset so there will always be competition. We aren't a sisterhood, especially now that we are so lacking in community. Competition isn't sisterhood no, but the sisterhood doesn't exist. Women can be awful to each other and not just with the dating market. I did not call you jealous. It wou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 11:20 PM |
| 5 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.This is what happens when you kill The Mall. Can't run to Forever 21 for a cute going out top that will die after one wash. I know how bad fast fashion is, but man did it make it easy to have your own look. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 06:05 PM |
| 5 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.It's on like six subs so I don't expect we will hear from her. Im in the suburbs so I don't see much club gear. I do get a kick out of seeing some of the more ridiculous styles from the aughts in Target. Pencil skirt that is too tight to be appropriate for work anyone? And Zoomers have no idea what low rise is and I will die on that hill 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 05:54 PM |
| 14 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.I mean, I'm sort of confused because it feels like the current era of fashion is like wearing a sack... especially compared to what millennials wore in the aughts. I see far fewer women dressing provocatively than even pre-covid. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 05:45 PM |
| 43 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.There is no sisterhood. You don't have to be quiet about it but you don't get to expect someone else to change their style because you are insecure about your own body. Dating is a zero sum game. If dressing provocatively works for me then I have no reason to tone it down so that you can more easily compete.* *Hypothetical "me" as actual me is married | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 05:23 PM |
| 15 | No intimacy /romance/ or funHelp me with the math here. Youve been dating for about 30 months. You were pregnant for 9 You are 18 months postpartum. So you got pregnant at 3 months while you were still living with new relationship energy and it's been bad since then. You don't know what a good sex life with this man looks like because you only experienced the very early stages of a sex life which is nearly always good. This is who this man is in bed. You can try to make changes but it doesn't seem like you are willing. He … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/25 04:13 PM |
| 1 | I envy the women who married well and seem to have a good lifeIndividuality isn't a universal value though. There are plenty of cultures that are more communal than the US. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/25 10:34 PM |
| 4 | i’m 20F I want to find a husband young, 30s is not the new 20s.I'll start by saying that I do not approach the red pill from a traditional conservative point of view. The fact that these things worked historically can lend credence to a strategy but it doesn't make it The Answer. We live in the here and now and there is a lot of history that we don't know. We did not used to marry for love and we do now. Attraction and compatibility are important and divorce is not uncommon when those things fall away. Wealth is not everything. It's not nothing, but it's al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/25 07:33 PM |
| 5 | i’m 20F I want to find a husband young, 30s is not the new 20s.I would not recommend to a 20 year old who wants a family that she entertains this idea initially. Male fertility does drop off no matter how unpopular this is to say. It's not impossible to conceive with an older guy by any stretch but it isn't the best solution for a 20 something woman who is being responsible with her own fertility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/25 12:31 PM |
| 0 | i’m 20F I want to find a husband young, 30s is not the new 20s.Should be self explanatory why I'm going to shut this down now You mean because I was condescending and treated you like you don't know what you are talking about. Hmmm imagine that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/25 11:37 AM |
| 6 | i’m 20F I want to find a husband young, 30s is not the new 20s.Isn't the prefrontal cortex involved in long term planning? It seems as though OP is demonstrating a sufficiently developed cortex by coming here and asking for advice to help her plan. Brain development is not an on off switch that turns on at 25. But beyond that argument for an extended childhood, if you really believe that a 20 year old is not in a position to make a good decision on her own then give her advice to aid her in making a good decision. Telling someone that they are too immature … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/25 11:02 PM |
| 8 | i’m 20F I want to find a husband young, 30s is not the new 20s.Marriage is a valid goal to have especially on this sub. You are being pretty condescending to the OP and I see no real advice. This is crabs in buckets behavior. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/25 09:58 PM |
| 1 | How long do you guys wait to have sex when you're dating?Ah yeah ok. Me either 🤪. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/25 10:57 PM |
| 2 | How long do you guys wait to have sex when you're dating?Are you familiar with the story of the Trojan war? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/25 09:21 PM |
| 6 | How long do you guys wait to have sex when you're dating?That's going to depend on the guy I think. I am not at all against pre commitment sex, I had it with my husband early on but he had enough women interested in him that he wasn't going to stay with me just to get laid. And there are enough women who get into situation ships that never lead to anything that I'm not convinced that sex is the key to marriage | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/25 08:39 PM |
| 2 | How long do you guys wait to have sex when you're dating?What do you mean by trojan horse in this context? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/25 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Once respect for him is lost, it doesn't come back.This isn't a venting sub. It sounds like you made your decision here and I'm not countering it. However there are some things you mention that are you problems not him problems. If you get the ick from carrying his stuff in your purse then you are going to have a challenge finding any man who meets your qualifications. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/25 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Once respect for him is lost, it doesn't come back.So put on your big girl pants and break up with him? What is the purpose of this comment? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/25 12:26 PM |
| 5 | If older women keep complaining about men dating young Girls why they don't date younger men too ?How does women not wanting to date younger men happen because they are bitter? It is such a tired response from men that all women hate age gap relationships because they are old and bitter. Most women are interested in men around their own age. Next would be an older man / younger women. Last is the young man / older woman pairing. Young men have sex appeal but otherwise he's a kid with less life experience than she has. Are there exceptions sure, but the idea that this is a desirable pairing d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/25 10:18 PM |
| 4 | If older women keep complaining about men dating young Girls why they don't date younger men too ?Yes. It does take gendered generalizations into account because otherwise the whole thing would be "well what does your partner like". And while individuals are different, there are still broad trends, which are what I say you are a step outside of. I'm not sure why you are so sure that your ideas are the best ones that deserve to be on top. Maybe we are all doing this and your views are simply failing to gain traction because not enough people agree with you? Civilization goes in cycles and we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/25 07:58 PM |
| 3 | If older women keep complaining about men dating young Girls why they don't date younger men too ?You can run around and "get experience". It is as close to socially acceptable as it will ever be. The problem that RPW points out is that a lot of men, individually, have an issue with promiscuous women. You aren't going to change individual preferences, all you can do is respond to them. Complaining that it's not fair is like men complaining that women prefer tall men. Yeah, it's unfair to the short guys, but you aren't going to change individual preferences. I didn't say that YOU find men wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/25 07:32 PM |
| 32 | No Such Thing as Red Pill Women?The rise of the Trads is probably the closest that we will ever see from an RPW "movement" and that seems to be more of a fantasy about keeping chickens than being a good partner. That aside, one of the things that has always interested me is the men who come here expecting us to be...different. It is as though they believe that by claiming Red Pill knowledge, we have somehow transcended female-nature. Based on this, I can see why men believe that there is no such thing as a red pilled woman. Be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/25 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Did I Ruin my Chances of settling down with a High Value Man?How is it brutal to say that men (anyone really) would prefer to be around someone agreeable over someone combative? I know that some people need that pointed out but to say it's brutal seems a stretch | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/25 01:27 PM |
| 3 | If older women keep complaining about men dating young Girls why they don't date younger men too ?You seem .. passionate about this. Not all or even most women find male virginity desirable. Also preselection is a thing for many women where a man becomes more desirable based on other women wanting/having him. Experience isn't at a premium but men who can get women tend to be more desirable than men who don't get women. Since you are a virgin at 25 you are already an outlier and it's not a surprise that your approach to experienced men may also be outside the norm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/25 12:13 PM |
| 5 | If older women keep complaining about men dating young Girls why they don't date younger men too ?The idea of dating a man considerably younger than I am gives me an extreme ick. It always has. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/25 02:50 PM |
| 4 | How do I detach and take someone off of a pedestal?how would I ever see someone as better when on paper he is everything I want Because as long as you keep hanging around him, you are going to feel this way. As long as he is around, no one else is going to compare. Once you actually cut ties and stop hanging out with him, other men will start to look like real options. Everyone is telling you this and you don't want to hear it. There is no magic trick where you get to be friends with him and still find other guys to date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/25 02:02 PM |
| 3 | Do not listen to older womenWhy do you think it is better to take advice from young women who have limited experiences and have yet to achieve their goals than older women who have "made it" so to speak? I'm not sure I see a better alternative but this is your post, so tell us what makes more sense than listening to old women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 10:22 PM |
| 7 | Do not listen to older womenI've been official with my husband since I was 24 years old. I have a lovely life with lovely children and a man I adore. And I had a great time being young and immature with that man before we were officially together and for many years since. But that doesn't change the fact that I am far more mature now than I was in my early 20s. That's just the nature of life but you won't see it until you are older yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 10:12 PM |
| 6 | Do not listen to older womenThen can I ask what brings on this angry rant? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 10:07 PM |
| 11 | Do not listen to older womenThere absolutely can be an infantilization of young women and it is important to let people live their own lives. But if you reach middle age and don't look back thinking "wow I was young and immature" then there are probably some problems with your middle age maturity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 10:06 PM |
| 16 | Do not listen to older womenThere is a lot of crabs in bucket mentality, it does not matter if you are old, young or in between. You should not get advice from people who lack experience. Neither should you get advice from people who have a life you aren't interested in living. Older men have their own motivations for giving advice and you should be equally careful that they are not leading you astray. Seek advice from people who have achieved their goals as long as their goals are similar to your own. Everything else abou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 10:02 PM |
| 3 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?Sure, but as I said below, it creates a risk that he finds out later. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 07:22 PM |
| 1 | What Working with Executive Men Has Taught Me About Submissiveness as a Strategyit was referencing more actual problem solving things like, "open this for me", I think you might have answered your own question without realizing it. In your example, you provide him with an achievable challenge, you aren't being a challenging woman. You can be agreeable and good natured and still offer him challenges in the form of "I'd really love to do/have ..." or "could you help me with ...". He gets to be a white knight because the task, not his girlfriend, is the dragon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 07:17 PM |
| 6 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?it's to get a bunch of relationships then ditch these relationships when they no longer serve them What prevents someone from using the information on the sub to do exactly that? What is missing in your opinion? Im talking about women who get into full fledged relationships, only to use these relationdships to have enough relationship experience so that they can be with another man, a better one, who will value everything she learned from being in another relationship before What does this look … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 07:06 PM |
| 6 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?I'm not against "lying" because it's immoral. I just believe that it transfers the risk from the early relationship to later in the relationship. If someone truly can keep an aspect of their life a secret (and not have it eat away at them) then it might be the best strategy. However, it becomes way worse if it's discovered down the line. I've got a friend who had an affair that ended her marriage and the AP's marriage. Then they broke up. Now she's dating someone who divorced when he caught his … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 05:15 PM |
| 2 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?You just have to make sure you don’t get a reputation in your community for doing so if you live in a small town sort of place. There is also the issue of the impression you are giving the man you monkey branch to. There is a strong implication of relationship overlap / cheating when we talk about monkey branching. If you start a relationship with a presently attached person (gender irrelevant here), you are going to get warnings about how the relationship will end the same way that it began. A … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 04:58 PM |
| 6 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?So what about RP women who have the same goal as men? What about them? If your goal is to get as much sex as you can, that's not really hard to do as a woman. Do you really need someone to tell you how to get on Tinder and order up a man for sex? The information in there in the wiki and could be used to manipulate men or find sex. That's not what women who come here are asking questions about though. yet it seems like there's no space for them to express that Try the sugar baby lifestyle forum o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 04:49 PM |
| 3 | 29F, pros and cons marrying into middle-class from upper/higher class?Finances are going to be different for different people. If you really want to make this about numbers, you can do some googling and get rough estimates. Put $80k into a tax calculator for an estimate of take home pay. Then you can determine the average cost to either buy or rent a home in Madison. Look at average utilities cost and cost for car insurance. Add an Internet/mobile phone plan. You can start to get an idea of what your discretionary income will look like. That would be what covers a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/25 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Should I forgive my man for being addicted to porn?I originally thought I was responding to an adult with minimal understanding of how a good relationship works. Then I realized that you are 16 and fancy yourself a feminist. Now I know that you have no idea how relationships work. If you are here to learn then I can explain this all to you but your attitude is setting you up for failure in long term relationships. You are young and learning and that is ok. BUT you have no business giving advice to adults on topics that are beyond your experience… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Should I forgive my man for being addicted to porn?Terrible take all around. Definitely not RPW. I do need sex, not anywhere near as strong a need as a man but I do. I have a few days refractory period and then I start getting cranky. It becomes harder to sleep. I get short tempered with the kids. Life is just a little harder. And yes, it is my husband's responsibility to give me sex when I need it..it's my responsibility to give him sex when he needs it. And with us both understanding that we have a great sex life. Now of course life gets in th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/25 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Teenage relationship and pornOP says in another post that they both had access to each other's phones. She was looking through his history to find something, while he was standing there allowing it. He forgot to delete the porn in his post history. It is hardly an issue of snooping or an overly controlling girlfriend. And I'm confident that "break up with her she's the problem" is not how my husband or his father-friends would respond. So perhaps I know better men than you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/25 01:27 PM |
| 3 | Teenage relationship and pornAnd if she's going to moralize at him, there is more than just the porn. He lied to her that he was over it and he lied for a year that he wasn't watching. I wonder what his dad would think about his son crying at his girlfriend for catching his porn addiction. Assuming he's a good father, "your girlfriend is wrong" would hardly be the rational response. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/25 12:34 PM |
| 9 | Teenage relationship and pornOP this is exactly the type of comment I was referring to. Your bf called it an addiction but some dude on the internet will now determine that you were the one lying. Why? Because he can't admit to himself or others that there are issues with porn. It is vitally important to these types that you be the one who is wrong and bad because that is easier than looking at the damage porn can do to everyone involved with it. Disregard opinions like this. He's gaslighting you when as an adult, we should… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/25 11:57 AM |
| 18 | Teenage relationship and pornThis is emotional blackmail and a huge red flag. The crying is what got to me. He's crying because he got caught. It's manipulative when my 4 year old does it and it's manipulative when her bf does it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/25 03:28 PM |
| 16 | Teenage relationship and pornI did a quick look at what other people have been telling you. I see where people are telling you that you are the bad guy for even questioning his porn use. So I want to say this: those people are simply naive about the damage that porn use can do to the user, the partner and the relationship as a whole. I say this because I used to be one of the people saying "most men use porn and you are ridiculous if you think otherwise." You call it an addiction, he calls it an addiction and that's what it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/25 03:27 PM |
| 12 | How to graciously receive gifts that aren’t my style— while staying in my surrendered feminine?I was glancing at your post history from this sub. You are 6 months long distance with a man who expects you to pay the travel cost, you don't like his style and he is pushy about gift giving / what he wants you to wear. None of these things are deal breakers (well long distance probably should be) but I am not convinced you are actually vetting this guy. You want to change his style, he wants to change yours...I don't know, is this really the man you want to spend your life with or is there may… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/25 06:07 PM |
| 14 | How to graciously receive gifts that aren’t my style— while staying in my surrendered feminine?Did you have control issues in the past? Are you trying to correct a relationship issue or imbalance? If not, then don't make the mistake of taking LD too far. Her book was written for women who are overly controlling with their men. She tells you things like "shut up if he misses and exit" because she's talking to women who would nag, harass or disrespect him for missing the exit in the past, or women who wouldn't even let him drive because he did it wrong. If you aren't that type of woman, the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/25 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Need advice on how to support my husband without pushing him too hardmaybe you're pretending to be ambitious or maybe I'm domineering in my expectations What did he say about this when you asked? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 08:00 PM |
| 7 | Vetting: *If he never changes*That's actually a great way to put it. Bf vs husband. I plan to use that. I have never believed that RPW is a dating sub. I think these ideas are best when you are at least committed in the relationship. As I said to Jenna, I don't think men are looking for women whose main quality is that they are submissive. Agreeable, yes, but then you have to be interesting and what they are looking for on top of that. When submission transfers to early relationships we see a lot of disfunction | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 05:44 PM |
| 4 | Am I doing too much or not enough ?So first of all, your comments really contradict the tone of your post. Or maybe transform in a mini version of myself so I could stay in his pocket time to time. This is over the top. Now, you may just like flowery prose but the emotions you are expressing are a lot and not the way most women will talk, even when really excited about a guy. No one can answer if it is too much for your guy except for your guy. What we can say is if it would be too much for us / in our experience. In my experienc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 04:53 PM |
| 10 | Vetting: *If he never changes*I think that women come here and see 'submission as strategy' and think men want a Submissive Woman whereas men think "I want a Woman who is Submissive" if they think in those terms at all. Meaning that few western men are looking for submission as the primary defining quality in the woman. A man wants a woman who is pretty, of interest to him and treats him well. So when we lead with submission as the main defining quality of what we bring to the relationship - that can get really boring really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 04:25 PM |
| 4 | Vetting: *If he never changes*You are right and I wrote and deleted gaming three times before I included it. I also went back and forth between including only obviously questionable behavior or including "questionable to you" behavior. For instance: my husband doesn't like to go out for meals. Food is fuel and while we have done the Nice Dinner thing enough over the years, it isn't his thing. Now, I love to cook and my ex was a huge foodie (thanks to daddy's credit card). This was an area that I actually did have to ask "wil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Recommendations for changing mental narratives towards husband / boyfriend / partner ?why did you delete? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Recommendations for changing mental narratives towards husband / boyfriend / partner ?You didn't answer the questions for asking relationship advice and that might help here. How old are you guys, what is your relationship status and how long have you been together. I understand what you are asking but submission in marriage/ltr looks different than submission in vetting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 01:10 PM |
| – | “Open Communication”Or are we just saying the right things without fully embracing the consequences? What do you think the consequences are? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/25 03:28 PM |
| 6 | My brief experience with dating apps as a young womanI have to wonder how the people giving this advice met their partners and if they have partners or are just waiting for the universe to send them a meet cute. I met my husband through friends, but that was around the time the first iphone came out. Just because that's what worked for me in 2007, it would be irresponsible to advise women in 2025 to skip an avenue as wide and well trod as OLD. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/25 03:08 PM |
| 8 | Having trouble with submittingYour post history has you calling your ex your husband five months ago, talking about how he wouldn't leave the house when you requested divorce four months ago and that you are divorcing not divorced very recently. So what is it, have you been divorced (separate, living apart, legally finalized) for a year or did this all happen in the last year. Because if it happened in the last year and you just started dating this guy it is all way too much too soon. Considering moving for him this soon isn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/25 01:20 PM |
| 6 | Help fixing my broken marriageDo you live in such a bubble that you can give this advice? You are talking about a couple who are figuring out how to utilize government social services. Do you really think that a charcuterie board and a date night with babysitter are even reasonable asks? I mean a charcuterie board? Honestly? Your perspective is too detached from reality. OP: Hey my husband and I get in a physical fights where the police are called. You: Just make him a cheese plate, that will fix all your problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/25 04:36 PM |
| 9 | Help fixing my broken marriageOk. At first I thought there were some cultural differences but if I'm reading correctly, you both come from the same culture ethnically and both come from the same culture based on location. So anything that he is doing/expecting that is typical of men in his culture, you would encounter if you were partnered up with another man of your culture. I asked this because it is not rare for us to see women come here who are partnered off with a man from an entirely different upbringing but they expec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/25 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Help fixing my broken marriageAnd is leaving an option or will you have to stay whether it gets fixed or not? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/25 12:49 PM |
| 14 | Help fixing my broken marriageI'm curious what country/culture you are coming from? That can sometimes play a role in getting a actually helpful advice. It sounds like there are real legitimate issues and it also sounds like you are unhappy because life didn't live up to your expectations. The first need to be tackled externally and the later internally. And do you have the ability to leave and support yourself and two babies? That's an important piece of the "stay or go" question | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/25 12:23 PM |
| – | Can a break from sex help ?That's all fair. And I can understand her frustration (to a degree) though my suspicion is that there is more going on here than the high libido partner getting the short end of the stick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 11:20 PM |
| 2 | Can a break from sex help ?Vas, you are going soft!! What advice would you give if a guy wrote: Happily married couple, over 15 years together 3 kids (teens and tweens) In our 30s/40s Great sex, couple and family life However, lately my wife has grown anxious of the ethots on my instagram feed. It's no big deal so I agreed to stop which I have. After that she has become anxious anytime she thinks I'm masturbating. We have sex regularly but she has the higher drive. Usually though she says our sex life is great. In the las… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 09:37 PM |
| 14 | How can you inspire a man to commit? To want to be in a relationship?While the red pill states that it is your job to secure commitment, you can only do that with a man who desires commitment. You can go through the wiki to see all the posts written about girl game and inspiring men to commit. For myself, I cooked for him, doing things like bringing him a cheesecake at work (so he could "show off" in front of coworkers). We had similar enough sex drives that that was a plus in my column (he has a high drive and not all his exes were the same). I took a leap of fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Am I overreacting or is this messed up?What you are talking about is negging which is a PUA tactic. Dread is about being a better man in order to bring sex back into the marriage. Dread Is strong medicine tightly focused on a single problem- a low sex marriage. Dread is designed to induce her to at least follow your lead when you initiate sex....however, submission is a choice, not something you force on a woman. Getting "submission" from a wife in all the other areas of your life, INCLUDING SEX means you have to demonstrate leadersh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/25 12:03 AM |
| 8 | Any success stories where your partner left you for another woman and came back?Once upon a time a friend told me "yes, it's possible that you could end up back together, but if you go through all the work to get over him, do you really want to do that to yourself" I don't know if that will resonate for you but it at least gave me pause at the time. If you need to tell yourself that you have a chance down the road, do that. But really, think long and hard if that chance comes. It is my experience that on again off again relationships are like that for bad reasons and would … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/25 07:40 PM |
| 32 | Any success stories where your partner left you for another woman and came back?He's not trying to come back right now so this is a bad avenue for your mental health to explore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/25 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Am I overreacting or is this messed up?Asking a question where you have a particular answer in mind is a set up. If you are feeling insecure, tell him what you need. If you went to him and said "I'm feeling ugly and insecure today, tell me I'm pretty" he probably would have hugged you and told you that you are beautiful. But instead you asked a loaded question. It's not wrong for him to be annoyed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/25 06:55 PM |
| 5 | Modern dating + 50/50 mentalityOk and? Is this "I don't dress for strangers and my husband/ltr really appreciated that and that's why he chose me" Because otherwise, good for you and we don't care. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/25 02:06 PM |
| 3 | I'm (25F) dating a great guy (36M) for 3 months, we haven't slept together,I (potentially) want to wait until marriage but idk if that's fair/potentially manipulative and have no clue how to have the conversation!Of course it could. You laid out the rationale that some men will have in your post. But if abstinence is a strongly held conviction then you shouldn't waiver on it. If it's not a strongly held conviction then decide where you are willing to waiver before getting into the conversation. You want it to be your choice not something you do from pressure or guilt. If he is strong in his faith then changing your life for the better should be a thing he can appreciate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/25 12:37 PM |
| 5 | I'm (25F) dating a great guy (36M) for 3 months, we haven't slept together,I (potentially) want to wait until marriage but idk if that's fair/potentially manipulative and have no clue how to have the conversation!Generally speaking I would say to be direct and be sure of yourself and what you are saying you believe and value. He's a Christian and acting in a hands off manner so it might not be as big of a deal as you worry about but you can't know til the conversation happens. Men tend to prefer direct though. As for specific words to use, I'll leave that to other women who have had this discussion while dating. I know there are a few around here who can advise... | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/25 12:32 PM |
| 22 | I'm (25F) dating a great guy (36M) for 3 months, we haven't slept together,I (potentially) want to wait until marriage but idk if that's fair/potentially manipulative and have no clue how to have the conversation!It's hard to bring up because you know that there is a chance he will leave. You are correct that there are men who will not stick around or progress the relationship if you aren't having sex. You won't know if he's one of them until you tell him. The right time to address this is early on before anyone catches feelings. Most people are going to assume a sexual relationship before marriage in 2025. If that is against your values (and that is ok) then it's a conversation to have in months one not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/25 12:20 PM |
| 7 | How should I view past sexual encounters that only happened because I was drunk?I take full responsibility for sleeping with my now husband on the first date. It was an effective strategy that worked to get me the man I wanted. RPW isn't a lifestyle, it's about strategies that help achieve your goals. That said my advice has to do with taking responsibility for your actions. I fail to see what my sex life with my husband has to do with that? Perhaps you simply don't understand what the red pill is actually about? Have you read the wiki? PS...I wrote an entire theory post de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/25 12:03 AM |
| 8 | How should I view past sexual encounters that only happened because I was drunk?Men can take responsibility BUT begging you for a kiss or whatever is not wrong. It's annoying but not wrong. And if you give in then you have told a person that what they were doing is effective. As for not knowing, well I'm sorry that your parents didn't teach you better but still. When I was younger I was cornered by a horny dude more than once. You leave. If force is used that's entirely different but otherwise, you leave. If you don't leave a bad situation where someone is pressuring you to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 06:32 PM |
| 1 | What do average men and women typically look like in terms of physical features and fat composition, such as body fat percentage? And what societal factors shape these standards of appearance?I didn't say it was a problem. There is a specific ideology to this sub. I am curious why you chose it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 05:18 PM |
| 7 | How should I view past sexual encounters that only happened because I was drunk?Putting yourself in a questionable situation and then succumbing to pressure is controllable on your part. You don't get to make bad choices then blame men for your choices. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 04:22 PM |
| 1 | What do average men and women typically look like in terms of physical features and fat composition, such as body fat percentage? And what societal factors shape these standards of appearance?I asked why you posted on RPW though, not why you posted period. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 04:16 PM |
| 3 | What do average men and women typically look like in terms of physical features and fat composition, such as body fat percentage? And what societal factors shape these standards of appearance?What made you post here? It's not a debate sub, you don't seem to be looking for information, you definitely aren't Red Pill minded and you aren't looking for a relationship. What brought you here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Does cleaning make us more feminine?There is someone for everyone! The right man will love you for you! The real problem is that you just don't know what RPW is all about. Maybe you just haven't been here long enough ;-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/25 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Does cleaning make us more feminine?Remember when the Axioms of RPW started with "to get a good partner you have to be a good partner"? No one told me that my mere existence made me a good partner. I've been doing too much all these years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/25 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Does cleaning make us more feminine?Hard agree to all of this. Enjoy your peace | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/25 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Does cleaning make us more feminine?Value to whom? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/25 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Does cleaning make us more feminine?A tree does not have the same needs as humans. It can exist in the natural world on water and sunlight. Humans need more things, things that are produced by someone's effort. And if we truly thought trees had intrinsic value, we wouldn't cut them down as easily. A tree that is taking up desirable space will be removed for convenience. If you want to be a person who is easily shunted aside for convenience...be like a tree and just exist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/25 11:33 PM |
| 1 | I’m starting to understand men and now I’m madWhy would anyone go on a relationship sub to complain about people/types of people they aren't interested in? Men like to complain about the fact that women don't notice men they aren't interested in. The implication is typically that if she would just notice all those Nice Guy Beta Orbiters waiting in the wings for her, she would be happily married in no time. As though we want to spend our lives having sex with men we aren't into. If you meant something else then by all means explain because a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/25 09:16 PM |
| 1 | I’m starting to understand men and now I’m madIf course. This is so obvious it doesn't need to be said unless you are a bitter dude attempting a gotcha | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/25 08:34 PM |
| 2 | At what point do you call it quits?Sometimes your body can hold onto to trauma and it comes out in ways that you wouldn't expect. I'm not saying that you somehow, consciously, gave yourself yeast infections. I'm not even saying that you didn't do your best to process what happened. But it is notable that the week you were going to have sex, you got an infection AND you haven't been able to get it to clear up. So it seems to me that there is something deeper going on than simply a drug resistant infection. I think it's entirely po… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 03:18 PM |
| 2 | At what point do you call it quits?The beta orbiter, classically, is a guy you are friends with/have no romantic interest in. He will hang out hoping that if he does enough for you, he will have a chance at getting you. These types are the ones you will hear complain online that "women only date assholes" because they think they are the nicest guy and doing all this stuff for her and she still doesnt' like him. It is a covert contract where they think "if I am nice enough or do enough for her she'll one day fall into bed with me"… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 03:09 PM |
| 4 | At what point do you call it quits?I'm not a "run" person, but if I'm being honest. I think both of them should be told to run. Its' a lot to expect someone in a four month relationship to take on the burden of your fresh trauma that predates the relationship. And he's handling it in a way that it going to cause fresh wounds for her. It doesn't matter if his intentions are good or his emotions are raw, his comments will still cause damage. If they were together for a longer time then it would be a different story. But they are la… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 02:54 PM |
| 2 | I am deeply bothered as a woman by seeing women work.it's hard to make friends at this stage of life. Not working makes it harder. What exactly should these women be doing with their time? This is a really good point. We see women in here all the time asking 'how do I make friends'. Your early 20s (the age of all those poor overworked baristas ::eyeroll::) is when you've left school and all your similarly aged peers behind. You don't have kids yet to bond with other moms. And generally you don't have a lot of money to spend on pricey hobbies, trip… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 02:40 PM |
| 7 | I am deeply bothered as a woman by seeing women work.it's hard to make friends at this stage of life. Not working makes it harder. What exactly should these women be doing with their time? This is a really good point. We see women in here all the time asking 'how do I make friends'. Your early 20s (the age of all those poor overworked baristas ::eyeroll::) is when you've left school and all your similarly aged peers behind. You don't have kids yet to bond with other moms. And generally you don't have a lot of money to spend on pricey hobbies, trip… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 02:30 PM |
| 3 | At what point do you call it quits?/u/OkAlfalfa4597 His age is a really important fact in all of this. Its a bit different if you guys were in your younger 20s. He still would be a jerk for the things he's saying but we are all less experienced and a little more volatile when we are younger. By 37 he is done cooking. This is the man you are getting. If he's mean, he's not going to get better. If he's impatient for sex, it's not because he's 17 and learning to control his libido. When you date in your 20s you can leave a little mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 02:16 PM |
| 4 | At what point do you call it quits?Even if we are being generous to him there are a bunch of issues: Early relationship is when you are setting the tone for the whole relationship. As you say, if you are in need of couples therapy at month 4, it is not a good sign. OP is struggling to have sex. She isn't ready for a relationship after her trauma. Maybe she's more uncertain about the guy than she wants to admit to herself and that is why her body is rejecting sex. Maybe it's just too soon for anyone. She needs to work that out bef… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 02:07 PM |
| 3 | At what point do you call it quits?I think one day they are going to figure out how to kick out all the ECs because we are with our partners for things like compatibility and shared values, instead of picking the richest guy in the room. I almost miss the RPW days of having the alpha-i-est alpha instead of a HVM. Sigh. I'm old. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 12:31 PM |
| 7 | I am deeply bothered as a woman by seeing women work.OP is in grad school and complaining elsewhere that it's so hard to find a job. I don't even believe that this post represents a strong conviction of hers. Also ...like...grad school is like sooo not RPW...I mean ...what wife needs like...an education 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 11:40 AM |
| 8 | I am deeply bothered as a woman by seeing women work.Personally I miss the days when I could focus on tasks for more than five minutes. The amount of mental energy the kids require far outpaces expectations from a desk job. If "exhaustion" is the metric for measuring good/bad then job is far easier than kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/25 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Pregnant and single. How do I fix things?But you offered no advice, sugarcoated or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/25 04:28 PM |
| 6 | I'm confused — I can't interpret my relationship in the context of redpillAny time we deal with people, there will be variability. Look at the social sciences, they tend to look at correlation more than causation because it's hard to make definitive statements that all people will respond in the same way. Red Pill is observations of the dating market, and gender interactions. There will be people who fall outside of the norm. If you and your bf are outside of the norm then it might look different from what RP describes. Also, 10 months IS still new and you SHOULD stil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/25 01:36 PM |
| 4 | Pregnant and single. How do I fix things?To me, this isn't a situation to snark and be like "oh well you screwed up, no advice but let me mock you" which is how your comments read. Using a unnecessarily harsh tone and calling it "honesty" is...well it's a thing people do and on the receiving end of it, those people seem like jerks. This woman has a rough road ahead and she has to contend with her own choices that were less than ideal. But she's doing that. The hormonal ups and downs of pregnancy are no joke. You don't always even reali… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/25 01:29 PM |
| 0 | Pregnant and single. How do I fix things?LMAO. I actually typed out "I bet you often saying "i'm just being honest"" and erased it in my last comment. This tells me all I need to know about you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 09:38 PM |
| -4 | Pregnant and single. How do I fix things?If you have never been pregnant then you absolutely cannot understand what she's going through and are just being awful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 09:20 PM |
| 5 | Pregnant and single. How do I fix things?about 20 years ago I volunteered at Planned Parenthood to help people walk through the crowds of protesters. One morning, a couple came through, she was in tears and there was a crowd of people, pro-life protesters and pro-choice escorts, circling her like buzzards. I didn't go back after that day. No one was there for her, we were all just staking out our side of the debate and the actual woman in distress, was caught in the middle. Now my values lean more pro-life but I remain hands off. If OP… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 09:18 PM |
| -5 | Pregnant and single. How do I fix things?Such compassion!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 08:57 PM |
| 7 | Pregnant and single. How do I fix things?It's one of those situations that you can never know how you will feel until you are pregnant. But of course, people think they know the best thing for internet strangers. :-/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 07:28 PM |
| 3 | Pregnant and single. How do I fix things?I do not wish to give you false hope. Even sugarcoated, this man is behaving atrociously. BUT We forget that pregnancy, especially the first, is an emotional time for both mom (obviously) AND dad. My husband and I were together for 10 years when we had our first. We planned it. He was the one that decided "it's time". We were older and financially stable. And still, about a week after I found out, we were in the middle of a crazy fight where I was yelling that I would just get an abortion (which… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 07:26 PM |
| 7 | What is/was your personal timeline for marriage?Simp does not automatically mean nerd. Google AI: Here's a more detailed breakdown: Excessive Attention: Simps are characterized by their willingness to go above and beyond for someone they like, often in ways that seem excessive or even desperate. Submissive Behavior: The term often implies a lack of assertiveness or self-respect, as the "simp" is perceived as being too eager to please or cater to the desires of their object of affection. Implied Desperation: While not always the case, the term… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 05:50 PM |
| 10 | What is/was your personal timeline for marriage?My husband is an engineer and very smart. I would never refer to him as a beta simp in a space where that is considered derogatory but you do you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 05:14 PM |
| 5 | What is/was your personal timeline for marriage?Are you married? You are giving Pumpkin a hard time but she's got her man. Do you? It's great to say "this is the way it works" but if you haven't personally had it work for you then it's just theory. I'm married and lived with my husband beforehand. It worked to get me the man I wanted and THAT is Red Pill | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 04:21 PM |
| 6 | What is/was your personal timeline for marriage?You are talking to a woman who repeatedly calls her man a beta simp. I'm not sure you and she will meet eye to eye on relationship values 😛 | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 12:58 PM |
| 6 | Moving in with my boyfriend — need adviceGenerally speaking I agree with RedPillDad here. It would take a lot for my husband to replace me. A woman being younger and hotter wouldn't be sufficient to turn his head. The way RPW handles the risk of this sort of thing is through incremental reciprocation. You give a little and see how he responds. You don't pour yourself into someone who isn't returning the investment and you won't be taken advantage of (or at least you'll quickly see it happening and get out). | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 12:38 AM |
| 8 | Receiving gracefullyMy suggestion, because this is what I do when I feel similarly, is to turn the guilt into appreciation. At least for me, I feel guilty because he does so much and I appreciate it so much that I feel like I am not holding my end of the "deal". We both give 100% but that doesn't always (ever) look like 50/50. Me: "You do so much for our family, for me, and I almost feel at fault here because I feel I do so little am so grateful for the load you carry." or Me: "Thank you. But you do so much... and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 12:23 AM |
| 3 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?This is really broken thinking all around. First, stop borrowing trouble. Stop reading about men complaining on the internet. You have the power to avoid the content that is upsetting you and you should. It's not for you and it's not about you. But you are seeking it out and then getting upset at what a subset of men you will never meet are discussing. Stop. Just stop. How are these men seeking you out? If you aren't in their spaces commenting...are they seeking you out from this post? Then tell… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/25 07:24 PM |
| 1 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?Could you expand on how testosterone makes men loyal? This is something I have never heard before. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/25 05:45 PM |
| 1 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?I guess my question to you would be where are you meeting all these men who accuse you of lying. And also, how soon are you discussing body count with men. Most women around here say that they haven't ever been asked. I'm also not sure why the opinions of men you don't want to date would impact your own behavior and values. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/25 05:24 PM |
| 1 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?That's tough all around. You have to worry about weirdos who don't believe you and weirdos who fetishize you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/25 04:55 PM |
| 1 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?Oh, I missed that you are gay. Yes, the gay community is entirely different as far as sex goes. You actually don't have the right experience to comment on this issue. Sorry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/25 04:42 PM |
| 2 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?I say this gently, wait until you've been in the relationship for longer than "recently". Hopefully, it is really the case that he doesn't care. However, sometimes these things seem ok at first and then eat away at a man later. I'm not wishing that for you but you should not use your relationship as an example for others to follow until you've made it to the finish line so to speak. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/25 02:56 PM |
| 3 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?You have to be careful about this interpretation. The men who are awkwardly asking about it on dates are socially awkward and this may be a reason to avoid them. There are however, men who will never ask but make assessments based on what information and behaviors you offer up. Among these, some will just quietly end the relationship without ever saying "you're count is too high". Men know that this is an area where women will get angry and call them insecure or incels or whatever because we don… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/25 02:54 PM |
| 2 | 50 and coming around to agreeing with much RP considerationsIt's so obscure that when I searched "Shogun Method Red Pill" it just pulled up a bunch of (pearl clutchy) articles about the red pill general not about the method. There is a subreddit but mostly what I'm seeing is that it's a specific paid for program. I almost wish it was more accessible because I'm absolutely fascinated by the belief that they can mind control women. I won't even discount it in it's entirety because we know that pua tactics can work on some women. But I'm not interested enou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/25 05:04 PM |
| 2 | 50 and coming around to agreeing with much RP considerationsI did a bit of googling on the Shogun strategy that she mentions. As best I can tell, it's an extreme version of PUA that (maybe) has some hypnosis type tactics as a part of it. I imagine that therapy is the place to unpack that sort of thing. It appears pretty far from normal RP so I don't think there is anywhere but therapy to deal with it. I might try and read more on it because I'm intrigued by the craziness at the margins but I've been here like way too many years now and it's the first tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/25 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Only attracted to dominant masculine men - helpAre you a man? I don't say this as a gotcha or 'you shouldn't be here' it just seems as though your view on submission comes from an inexperienced perspective. I'm reminded of a commenter a few years back who believed there is no "real submission" in the modern era because women have the ability to leave a relationship. Yours seems an idealized version of the submissive women from a male perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/25 02:16 PM |
| 2 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)I have a peaceful relationship where my husband is currently outside building a brick patio while I am meal prepping for the week and working on homeschool plans. We do not have a dead bedroom. I became calmer and a better partner after we married. We lived together for about six years before we got married. Once he had made that ultimate commitment, it became more reasonable for me to lean on him and submit to him completely. He demonstrated that he was willing to sacrifice his "comfort" for me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 09:52 PM |
| 13 | 50 and coming around to agreeing with much RP considerationsEverything around here is supposed to stem from an understanding to RP/RPW theory. There are a variety of women from SAHM's to women who are themselves the breadwinners. The main goal of the sub is to help women (utilizing RP theory) to attain their relationship goals. If that fits with what you are looking for then there is a place for you here. If you are trying to give advice from a feminist perspective or argue with the basics of the sub then there isn't. This sub is a relationship sub. Ther… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 08:58 PM |
| 5 | Only attracted to dominant masculine men - helpYou are welcome. Naturally submissive is how I have always been with my husband even if I couldn't articulate it until I found RPW years after the fact. With anything RPW you have to take the parts that work for you and your goals. If anyone tells you "X is the RPW way and you must do X to be an RPW" they are wrong. Good luck :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 07:25 PM |
| 14 | Only attracted to dominant masculine men - helpIf there is a "formal" RPW statement on submission, it is that submission is a strategy used to help women achieve their goals. One of the ways that we advise expressing this in the dating phase is through incremental reciprocation. But that pretty much means that you aren't going to wait and go all in at one time when you feel he has "earned" your submission. Rather, it can be used as a tactic to see how he responds. You give a little and you see if he gives a little in return and then you give… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Question for those in LTR or married, how many of you would describe your partner as "dominant"?It does make sense. You may be better off asking about women's vetting of their dominant men. Since you are looking for what traits these men had before they settled into married life I think that might get you more targeted guidance.... maybe. I | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/25 12:04 PM |
| 2 | How do I get over my fear of online dating ?I'm in my 40s. When discussing relationship experience, it tends to be relevant. I was merely curious but not enough to go through your post history. Your initial comment talked about cold approaching. I'm not sure that it's a cold approach if you have enough information to know if he's a good match. That would put you into contact with the person for a bit of time and that isn't a cold approach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 10:59 PM |
| 1 | How do I get over my fear of online dating ?How old are you exactly? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 09:05 PM |
| 3 | How do I get over my fear of online dating ?Of course men want to be approached why wouldn't they. However, the character traits of a man who doesn't approach are not the same as the character traits of a man that does. RPW is about male led relationships. If a man can't let go of his fear of rejection (whether actual rejection or couched in terms of 'muh #metoo') what other areas will he lack confidence in. There is also this: when this first came up on RPW, husband and I chatted about it. One of his exes approached him and he hooked up … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 05:52 PM |
| 14 | This is a bit tabooI'm with /u/Wife_and_Mama on this one. It sounds like a compatibility issue and I absolutely agree with the statement she gave you re: no longer apologizing. It's sadly common to see men complaining that women aren't into sex or women with complaints like yours (ie: he's not happy with how much she wants it, or his expectations make sex a chore). According to red pill - women are the gatekeepers of sex and it's men's responsibility to earn (for lack of a better word) sex. Conversely men gate kee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 04:01 PM |
| 8 | This is a bit tabooHer issue seems to be her partner not thinking she likes him because she isn't wet enough. If these strategies don't turn her on then it isn't really answering the question. It's not a secret that men will get hard from a woman throwing herself at him. Beg for his dick and mean it. Tell me how to "mean it" and then we are getting somewhere useful IMO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 03:35 PM |
| 7 | Question for those in LTR or married, how many of you would describe your partner as "dominant"?I'm curious why you are asking? My husband is confident and competent. He tends to fall into the leadership position in groups though I've never seen him seek them out. He is sure of his decisions and seems to thrive in the "head of household" position. I do trust his judgement because even when he's wrong, he takes ownership of an issue and course corrects. His expectations of himself and others are high. He can be kind of a jerk to others (a friend once described him as a dragon protecting his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 03:19 PM |
| 2 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)Seriously! A high school friends mom got an annulment because her ex-husband wrote in some official church related capacity that he didn't believe marriage was forever. When he cheated and divorced her, she was able to say that the church never should have sanctioned the marriage under those conditions. This whole thing rings of that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 02:43 PM |
| 3 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)I went through a bit of post history. The Reddit Catholics told her that she can't have a religious ceremony without a civil marriage a month ago. He's asking things that aren't even possible and she knows it. Her parents aren't coming to the wedding because they don't like him. Both of them live in some delusional world where they can have their cake and eat it and this marriage is not going to go down the way she hopes. And it seems like she's disappeared because she's not getting the advice s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 02:09 PM |
| 1 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)semen retention Tell me a man spends too much time on the internet without telling me. :-/ This guy is way too susceptible to whatever propaganda he reads on the internet...and all while couching it in terms of "understanding the truth". | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/25 02:01 PM |
| 2 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)You might be right and that's an even worse thought than simple callousness. I can't imagine being in the situation of telling everyone I know "hey, we decided not to get married but we're still playing house". Breaking off an engagement is one thing...this, this is doormat territory. I hope OP learns to respect herself a little more before the end. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/25 06:15 PM |
| 5 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)The part about her being a virgin is what gets me the most. How many (red pilled) men complain about the lack of 'debt free virgins'. This guy got himself an actual unicorn and he can't even take care of her properly. I'd be worried that this is one of the rare cases where the guy actually leaves her when she is 35. He'll say she's too old and he wants to marry a younger woman who is more fit to bear his offspring. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/25 06:11 PM |
| 6 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)RP men avoiding marriage but not relationships has been a trend for as long as RP has been around. Are you hoping that fewer people get married or worried about the men who aren't interested in marriage? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/25 05:12 PM |
| 8 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)But the Catholic Church requires the civil part to be done as well as the religious part and since she is Catholic, that's sort of important here, not what other faiths might do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/25 01:56 PM |
| 22 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)Marriage involves taking an oath to be with, care for and protect her forever... And he only wants to take that oath if no one can enforce it.... because then he can't run dread game on her. I gave up reddit for Lent and came back to this. Just oh my. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/25 11:51 AM |
| 29 | On my legal v spiritual marriage situation (again)He decided that with marriage he had no way of controlling your behavior. This is what you have laid about about his rationale. He also set a course and involved other people and then changed things up in order to ease his own discomfort with little thought for others. This decision at this point in the game is a character flaw. If you want an unpredictable leader who can only gain your respect by withholding love/commitment then you do you. But you are using a lot of words to justify not having… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/25 11:34 AM |
| 6 | Thoughts on his idea of loyalty?Why are you even trying to win this argument? You will not convince him that you are loyal because he already has his position mapped out and I bet he dies on this hill (in fact, I bet he dies on every hill). He's not any more loyal to you than you are to him. He is not willing to do anything for you because he's not willing to drop the porn. So there, that is your argument but there is no winning. There isn't a well thought out, rational argument that is suddenly going to make an addict say "yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/25 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Would you support arranged marriage coming back into style?We have quite a bit of that in our wiki too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/25 11:05 PM |
| 19 | Would you support arranged marriage coming back into style?We have two young daughters. The plan is to teach them the difference between men and women (age appropriately and over time), to model a happy healthy marriage (and as they are older discuss unhealthy relationships). Finally, we do it best to expose them to other kids from families that share our values, again over time. Not that we specifically expect them to choose a bit from a family that we know, but to give them exposure to boys (eventually men). Hopefully this will leave them with a bette… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/25 10:37 PM |
| 7 | I think I’m done doneForget about red pill, chewing him out may sound good for you to tell her to do over the internet. In reality it will not make it easier to stay and have a good relationship (if that's what she decides and I personally don't think that's likely) BUT ALSO it will not make things easier if she leaves. She has a kid with this guy, a son no less. She's going to have to answer for what happens next well into the future. If she makes a bunch of nasty comments to him, he's not likely to make this easy.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/25 05:47 PM |
| 4 | MIL made my engagement ring from old jewelry. Not sure how to handle thiswhy is OP husband just now finding out about it? My mother has my grandmother's (still living) original engagement setting. Coincidentally, she also has the original stone but in a different setting. I'm well aware of this as a daughter of the family. I am 100% sure without a doubt that my late-30s brother has zero clue about any of it. I don't think his lack of prior knowledge about heirloom jewelry is anything but normal for a dude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/25 02:32 PM |
| 3 | No flowers for ValentinesI did not once imply that he completely ignored the holiday or that his gift wasn’t good or that I am not grateful for what I received. That's why I was responding specifically to the idea that he's dropping the ball. It's not that you shouldn't communicate with him but to call this "dropping the ball" is a very uncharitable interpretation. I don't think that is what you are doing but it is what this commenter above was doing. Making negative assumptions (especially when you didn't communicate y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/25 05:02 PM |
| 5 | No flowers for ValentinesHe did take her out so it's not as though he ignored the holiday. I think you need to be careful about the idea of "dropping the ball". Early dating is a courting phase and usually both parties will go above and beyond. As the relationship progresses, expectations change and there should be some room for slowing down. If the OP expects her man to keep up the same level of courting for the next 50 years, then she also need to be prepared to keep up the same level of courting. That would mean, for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/25 03:07 PM |
| 6 | Single turning 30My problem with these calculators is that they do not take into consideration assortative mating. We mostly find people similar to ourselves. So for example, while a white, college educated man, at a particular age, with a certain career trajectory may be a single digit percentage overall - for women with similar stats (ie: in the same circles) there is a much higher likelihood of dating/locking down that man. That same man may be entirely out of reach for a high school drop out working at Walma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/25 08:10 PM |
| 6 | My (33f) bf (24m) has a hot female friend. Should I be concerned?I'm not sure what the right answer is but I'm going to play devil's advocate on a few of your points. Idk why he fails to mention this detail if they’re just friends. Perhaps he doesn't mention it because they are just friends and so it is not worth calling out in his mind. Generally speaking, you would only mention a specific person if there is a reason to do so...like if they are not usually part of the group. If she is "one of the boys" then she counts as "the boys". I know nothing about this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/25 04:11 PM |
| 17 | My (33f) bf (24m) has a hot female friend. Should I be concerned?You have made a strong case for the friend being a problem. I'm not sure there is anything that people are going to say to the contrary because everything you presented supports your fears. Can you tell us why you might be overreacting to his friendship? Why perhaps you SHOULDN"T be worried? Internet strangers can only give advice that is as good as the information provided and yours is onesided so you will get onesided responses. Also, I have to ask, are you guys at the same point in life? A 9 … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/25 03:23 PM |
| 1 | What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career?Sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/25 07:39 PM |
| 3 | What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career?This is not red pill women advice. You probably should read the getting started post before you attempt to give advice. "You deserve..." is the height of blue pill. Next you can tell her to be herself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/25 07:26 PM |
| 3 | What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career?I want to be clear, he does not sound like a bad man. My concern is that the life you are setting yourself up for will be so wildly different than your current life, that you will grow to resent him. It sounds like he shares this concern. I can absolutely see where his honest and upfront nature are appealing. That sort of thing demonstrates confidence which is highly attractive in a man. As far as your take on there not being particularly good prospects in any direction: this is where you need t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/25 08:55 PM |
| 5 | What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career?Are you guys from the same country/ethnic background? I don't know why you don't understand these things he's saying. Big picture you both are worried that he doesn't make enough money. These are very straightforward statements he's making. What confuses you? -He says what I am looking for is a high earning man or someone with wealth because I want kids and he doesn’t have that but can only work towards this with effort and sometimes even effort doesn’t pan out? Practically speaking, he is right… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/25 06:48 PM |
| 4 | What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career?glaring incompatibilities of life expectations between us? You want kids. He wants kids only if he can pay for them. He does not have a job to pay for them. You are 29 and he is 30 and thinks that in 5 years he'll be ready. You come from wealth and he does not. This will mean living a much smaller life with much more work and less security than you are accustomed to. Money is a big cause of divorce. There will be a lot of friction in this area. He is in another country, presumably away from his … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/25 06:17 PM |
| 15 | What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career?I think you might be living a fantasy here. If he didn't complete an undergraduate degree then he is not going for an MBA. If he didn't complete an undergraduate degree then finance might be a bit of a stretch to jump into. He can only support you in a sharehouse situation. This means you are nearly 30, talking about moving together to move towards marriage and kids and you are going to do that living with other people...likely other single people. This will not be an easy living arrangement. do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/25 05:35 PM |
| 7 | How to instigate desire?I agree that she probably needs to work on her prior hang ups. And I'm throwing this out as a discussion (to maybe lead to insight for OP): What happens to men being responsible for inspiring sex? Yes there are certain expectations in a relationship but OP is upholding hers as best she's able. It's not really her fault that he's not sparking desire in her. It is known by RP that choreplay doesn't spark desire but it is his expectation that because he's fulfilling his role, she should desire him.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/25 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Seeing romance during valentines will make me sadI'm glad it helps!! Yeah, if you are already doing a lot and feeling burnt out then you really need to have a talk about it. There are things that you are mentioning that are...red flags isn't the right word....but things that you need to decide if you can live with forever. It's ok to accept some imperfections. The internet likes to tell you that you can do better and there is some perfect guy out there for you, but the thing is, there is always something that isn't ideal. It's more about findi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/25 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Seeing romance during valentines will make me sadIf he used to pay, and has expressed that he would still like to, that's all a good indication that this is temporary due to the new apartment. In your shoes I think I'd do two things, well three. First, I'd do something quiet for myself on Valentines day. Wine and a book, spa, movie night with a friend. Just something to not focus on him being away and you feeling left out. Second, I would figure that if I wanted romance, I'd have to do some of the heavy lifting. If you are concerned about mone… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/25 09:04 PM |
| 16 | Seeing romance during valentines will make me sadI get you. Based on what you wrote it would be easy to say "this is a vetting issue and if you aren't happy, blah blah blah" but if the relationship is fulfilling in other ways... My husband isn't the gift giving, romantic date type. When we were younger it bothered me the same way that it is bothering you. Mostly, I would remind myself of all the stuff he does for me. He was the guy that would drive an hour away to change my tire. He paid for my health insurance years before we were married (a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/25 08:39 PM |
| 13 | Seeing romance during valentines will make me sadIs this an otherwise good relationship or is this a specific instance of a more general unhappiness? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/25 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Fast proposals from menSo are you married? How long did you date for? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/25 07:11 PM |
| 9 | Fast proposals from menIs it possible in your eyes, that a man can have genuine motivations? It's my experience that the older a couple is, the faster a relationship goes. You have been through other relationships and have an idea what you want and what you don't. You get quicker/better at judging people and frankly, less inclined to deal with some nonsense that might not have been a big deal at 20. Especially people who want kids will push a relationship time line faster if they are getting near the end of childbeari… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/25 06:37 PM |
| 5 | Enhancing your SMV later in life?In our 40s we've hit the age for (ugh) perimenopause. I haven't yet met a woman in this age range who doesn't have some complaint that could be attributed to the wonkiness that our hormones start to go through. My biggest advice is to get your doctor to test your hormone levels on the regular. Since our hormones impact pretty much everything, this goes to both SMV and RMV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 03:38 PM |
| 5 | Says he needs to see what God says about us. Should I move on?Seriously! /u/acorn735764 before you go defending the OP up and down this post, you should probably look at her post history...even just her post history on this sub. The people being cynical and stern with her are doing it for a reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 03:13 PM |
| 2 | How to present concerns in a way he will understand.I don't know honestly. It looks like you need a mental shift and I don't know how to advise you on how to get that. Even here, I made a comment and you responded, then went back to edit and be defensive. I saw you argue with Vas the other day about whether nurses have it hard when that wasn't not the topic of the thread. You've debated with me before because what I was saying does not match up with your very specific situation. And that sort of behavior sounds to me like what you are describing … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/25 03:07 PM |
| 3 | How to present concerns in a way he will understand.This illustrates your issue. You are incredibly argumentative/disagreeable and you don't stop to recognize what someone else might be saying. If you act with your husband like you are in this comment then you will continue to have issues. All of this "it's not my fault how he interprets what I say" welp, it's not but with that attitude nothing will change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/25 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Agree or disagree? Women peak earlier than men.oh sweet summers child. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/25 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Agree or disagree? Women peak earlier than men.Source? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/25 02:34 PM |
| 15 | Women Breadwinners and How to Get EnergyHave you struggled to find men that accept your career Ask for and accept your n count Allows you to go out twice a month Those do not seem like big asks that would set this man apart but I am not in the dating market and I don't know how bad it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/25 11:34 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend "refuses" to provide, but still expects me to clean his apartment?I am reminded of an older couple that I know. They aren't specifically FIRE (cause they are older than it's existence I think) but he has money in the millions put away and hasn't worked in several decades (since his 40s). She, on the other hand, was a nurse and worked until typical retirement age with normal retirement savings whereas his was a lot of family money. The entire time they've been together, she's been paying the mortgage on "their" house because he has another property that he's be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/25 05:54 PM |
| 24 | Boyfriend "refuses" to provide, but still expects me to clean his apartment?My mom taught me to make a distinction between what I want and what I want to want. Sometimes we imagine that something would be nice to have but we have zero intentions to work towards having it... usually because it's not actually that important to us. RP says "watch what he does not what he says" which is a similar idea. If a person says they want something (marriage, to be a provider etc) but nothing he does aligns with that goal, then he just wants to want it. Right now his words don't even… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/25 07:20 PM |
| 1 | is it my fault ?You don't like men do you | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/25 04:09 PM |
| 1 | "men prefer younger women"Knowing three men do something does not equalall men. And the topic of the thread is married men leaving a spouse. I just don't think it's as black and white as you do. It's still overall a fantasy that men have and a very very small number get to live out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/25 12:19 AM |
| 2 | "men prefer younger women"Nothing is "always" true (but death and taxes). This hyperbole ruins your argument. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/25 07:28 PM |
| 4 | "men prefer younger women"He does but also, having a baby is rarely an excuse to not have sex for a year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/25 02:09 PM |
| 2 | "men prefer younger women"Because relationships are complementary. For everything that you are doing for him that he desires, he should be doing things for you that you desire. There are more expectations of men in a gender roll relationship than bringing the bread. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/25 02:07 PM |
| 3 | "men prefer younger women"What I’m trying to say that the fantasy can always be a reality for a man Strictly speaking, yes there are always younger women while there are not always successful men. Good men are in a more limited supply than young women. But the fantasy is still a fantasy. Sex is easier to get than a whole relationship or replacement marriage. If a man wants to cheat then there are women available, young and old, paid for and not. But a upgrading his life is not going to suddenly be easier than finding his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/25 01:52 PM |
| – | Do woman really get the ick easily?There is definitely a problem with people thinking that the next best thing is just around the corner. And yeah, it's probably worse with women because there are always men out there (on dating apps) willing to give them attention. I don't know the answers, but I do think some of it aligns with red pill theory that women would rather a confident dominant man. The question becomes what that means to her and what she is viewing as red flags (and how realistic they are will just depend on the woman… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Do woman really get the ick easily?I'm not disagreeing that some women think there are so many options that they reject for silly reasons BUT some of that is also going to be a dominance threshold thing as well as how much your excitement aligns. If I need a highly dominant man and you are rearranging your schedule for me, that might be a turn off. Likewise, if I'm interested enough to go on a date but you are so interested that you are changing up your current plans -- that might make me feel like we aren't on the same page/comp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Do woman really get the ick easily?I guess I can't really speak for other women but I'm going to anyway: The 'ick' is (shouldbe?) a gut reaction. It can be that something is a sexual turn off or something that just feels wrong or off. For all that women talk about princess treatment, we want that from a man with options, not a guy who is treating us well because no one else will have him (see also preselection). To quote the infamous Whisper "women want to be treated good by a great man, men want to be treated great by a good wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Do woman really get the ick easily?They want women to endorse their views but if women don't endorse their views it's because we are coping and dumb. I bet this one is secretly hoping that we will validate that 'the ick' isn't real and he has no reason to worry about women feeling that way about him. Barring that, that it's just a few women and they are bad for having those feelings. And if people didn't agree with him then we'd be "not real RPWs" | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 09:25 PM |
| 4 | How did you get over your fear of having kids?The possibility of dying in child birth is lower than that of death from driving a car. This isn't a "fear exists for a reason" sort of thing, it is a "too much antinatalist propaganda* sort of thing. Have you had a kid? We have a member here who almost died during child birth and went on to have three more. Letting fear guide your life on this one is silly and if you don't have kids yourself then you are only fear mongering. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 01:13 PM |
| 10 | Sometimes guys post their financials, red flag or?Yeah it really strikes me as a response to the current dating market rather than a flag one way or the other. But women want to believe they aren't shallow so my guess is that men who do this will get more matches but the women will swear (to themselves even) that it was some other part of the profile that they are responding to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/25 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Should you give wifey treatment to a boyfriend? I mean you have to show him you’re wifey material before he puts a ring on it first right?But you aren't speaking from a western perspective correct? Culture matters. And yes there is nuance but your comment was pretty unnuanced. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/25 10:21 PM |
| 7 | Should you give wifey treatment to a boyfriend? I mean you have to show him you’re wifey material before he puts a ring on it first right?It worked for me 🤷 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/25 06:36 PM |
| 26 | What are you guys thoughts on “black cat” energy on TikTok?Logically, cat-energy will stand a chance of working only if your man is a cat person. And perhaps it's a stereotype but I think men in general are dog people. Now I don't know if you have a cat or if the person you got this off of has a cat, but your implementation is missing some part of cat behavior as far as my experience goes. And your outcomes are pretty predicable based on your behaviors. I just “pulled my energy back” and didn’t say anything. Cats may be independent but they aren't anti-… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/24 12:20 AM |
| 9 | Attractiveness, success, and loyaltyI think it hits on an important concept which is that there will always be trade offs. You can get most or even all that you want but there will be something you don't want. Or you forgo one quality because there are other qualities that are more important. You want the good to outweigh the bad or even neutral. So speaking literally yeah you can find a guy who is all of those things to some degree. But broader picture, thought experiment level, it holds some truth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/24 03:43 AM |
| 1 | When she says , same level or higher. What exactly do you mean by this?Men are not allowed to ask questions and generally discouraged from participating unless they are older, partnered and have Red Pill experience. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1hfytfq/when_she_says_same_level_or_higher_what_exactly/m2f7b26/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/24 01:04 AM |
| 3 | how did you know that you found 'the one' for you?It doesn't look like you have participated on RPW before. What brings you here asking this question? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/24 11:41 PM |
| 8 | I’m abrasive and want to be sweetNo, don't let him leave and call it a day. This is quite possibly fixable. In addition to Laura Doyle, you are going to want to read at least a few chapters in For Women Only. It will help you understand how he's perceiving some of this stuff and from there you can develop your own mechanisms for dealing. Respect and Love, Insecurity and Affirmation. Now, I think that there is some snark from your husband that is not super great BUT I'm going to assume here that you snark at him (abrasive) and h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/24 01:28 AM |
| 13 | I’m abrasive and want to be sweetI guess too I’m worried about what to do when he’s annoying AF. He makes messes everywhere he goes, he “helps” by doing the laundry and ruined my clothes, he took over the cooking even though I love doing it. Maybe you could walk us through what some of the issues are? "I want to be sweet" is pretty vague if there is actually stuff going on in the background. If all that is happening is that you are getting cranky when you are "off" in some way, then you need to work towards being able to identi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/24 08:40 PM |
| 9 | Why do the men I date eventually become complacent?This is nagging and is the exact opposite of red pill advice. You don't have a relationship worth emulating if you have to constantly remind your man how to behave. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/24 02:45 PM |
| 3 | Repost: Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire — A Guide to Marrying RichThese are the same study. It focuses (due to who responded) on a particular culture (Dominican) which could be a confounding variable. It also found the worst cheating to be people working an overnight emergency shift. So the type of person working that shift may be more likely to cheat but that doesn't speak to everyone with "MD" after their name. Yes doctor's cheat but there is probably more to it than just "high paid doctors cheat" | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 03:49 PM |
| 8 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...To go a step further (and I'm only being mildly serious) openness correlates with more liberal politics ergo, male feminists are cheaters 😇 AMFALT | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Resentment in marriage and struggle to want to tryMarriage is supposed to be for a lifetime. A month is a very small amount of time in that context. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 10:57 PM |
| 6 | Want to marry rich? Consider these things first.She is laughing at us on other subs. I certainly have no interest in interacting with people like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/24 06:09 PM |
| 6 | Repost: Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire — A Guide to Marrying RichStats can tell is what might happen not what will happen. IME everyone ignores a red flag or two for the person they think is the one. We have to because no person is perfect. Caution away but understand that a woman faced with a seemingly great guy who simply has a "higher than likely" chance of cheating because he's in a higher tax bracket and a high status profession....she's ignoring your warning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/24 04:28 PM |
| 10 | Want to marry rich? Consider these things first.OP, there is a lot about what not to do in this post based on how you were raised. Have you found a partner and do you know what to do in a relationship? Otherwise this is a lot of very specific conjecture that doesn't help most women, not even the ones who want to marry a wealthy man. There is a difference between "don't do this because I saw it fail once" and "this is what worked for me to get a happy life". | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/24 04:20 PM |
| 7 | Want to marry rich? Consider these things first.It is way more consequential to have a man leave you and the kids (or leave him) when the household income is $60k than when it's $600k. In one instance your lifestyle drops but you are still comfortable in the other you are living below the poverty line. You don't have a good handle on what it is like to live in a lower tax bracket. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/24 01:30 PM |
| 9 | Want to marry rich? Consider these things first.There is no "red pill woman life" we are not and never have been exclusive to trad women. Many endorsed members work or have worked. Most are living closer to a middle class existence. I'm basically an old lady around here now. I know what I've seen of my parents marriage but it isn't the be all end all example of what happens when you marry young and I wouldn't hold it up as such. Further, now that I'm over a decade into my own marriage with kids of my own, I understand that what I saw growing … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/24 01:25 PM |
| 3 | Really drawn to RP and "traditional" lifestyles, feeling conflictedI think it's reasonable to say that women are encouraged by feminist friendly sources to get jobs that put us at the same level as men. This isn't a dating strategy but a life strategy as you note. The stuff he lists are results of women doing well and taking care of themselves. I don't think any woman thinks "I'll get a nice car to get a man" she thinks she will get a nice car because no man is there getting her one and she can afford it. BUT then she wants a man who has as nice of a car or bet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/24 01:08 AM |
| 11 | Really drawn to RP and "traditional" lifestyles, feeling conflictedThis is sort of existential crisis territory you are in. I'm going to speak to my experience with working and having a family and the value of each but ultimately, only you (with input from your man) can decide what is right for you. I don't see these types of values reflected in society at-large. You aren't wrong but also, our society is deeply dysfunctional these days. A nation needs new children in order to have a future and what we seem to value is building better workers. We would rather lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 11:53 PM |
| 17 | Struggling with abstaining with new boyfriend.there’s no reason to abstain for anything other than other moral reasons. Pregnancy, STDs, bonding with an unsuitable man to name a few. I'm not a wait til marriage girl but there are absolutely valid reasons to abstain that aren't morality based. Reasons to wait/go slow | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 01:37 PM |
| 34 | Resentment in marriage and struggle to want to tryFrom what you write, you will ultimately lose this man and your marriage if you don't change. He is already pulling away and you can articulate many of your problems but you don't want to change them. If losing him isn't enough if a motivator then I don't know what is. But it takes time to break a relationship and as much time to fix it. Laura Doyle doesn't work overnight. And if he's always been this way then you married him this way and are now complaining that you don't like the choice you ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else’s father encouraged masculinity? TWThis attitude can't possibly be something in need of improving. It can't possibly be holding you back in any way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/24 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Who pays for dates?With what exactly? What do you think is unrealistic here? Do you understand what the expectations are of the subreddit you decided to comment on? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/24 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Who pays for dates?Very few women on this sub expect a 50/50 relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/24 08:30 PM |
| 9 | Anyone else’s father encouraged masculinity? TWYou have more excuses than anyone I have encountered. I'm honestly not sure why you are still on a self improvement sub. Is it just to let us know how hopeless you feel your life is? Because that is what your contributions seem to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/24 03:25 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on manosphere?Yeah. I think there was a need initially for men to have a space to share experiences without women telling them they were wrong or bad...but 20 years down the road so much has gotten distilled into absolutist sentiments that just further the gender wars. I am so glad to not be Gen Z OR in the dating market. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Newer to RPW, are RPW conservatives or liberals?I'm not suggesting that you aren't liberal or moderate. The right and the left push their values in their own way. Neither side of the American spectrum is more coercive than the other - it comes down to what they value and see worth fighting/legislating for. But the left dominates the discourse. From college campuses to the media the prevailing attitudes are on the liberal side - so your perspective of what the right actually thinks is probably a bit skewed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 10:25 PM |
| -1 | What are your thoughts on manosphere?It is true that sometimes women are terrible. It's not wrong to discuss negative traits to avoid in the opposite sex. We women do it all the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Newer to RPW, are RPW conservatives or liberals?It sounds like you are getting your perspective on American conservatives from the fear mongering on the American left. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 04:41 PM |
| 14 | Do I look feminineYeah, i think that people are afraid of being "tricked" so they are more likely to err in that direction if things seem too unnatural. The make up isn't doing her any favors in this regard either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Friends after break upI do not disagree but there isn't a lot of information to go on so she will have to do that reflecting on her own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 03:24 PM |
| 6 | Took the red pill years ago and reinvented myself to be a feminine, submissive woman but now I’m 30 and STILL single. Please help me.I was just going to say that sex acts aren't really a defining characteristic of femininity. But you beat me to the punch here :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/24 11:19 PM |
| 8 | Friends after break upYour ex is 54 years old. You are in your 40s as best I can tell. A lot of this drama belongs in your 20s: You are questioning whether his salary and savings are a red flag. You are both giving each other the silent treatment. Three months ago you were lamenting that you put a lot of energy into dating without an LTR panning out - so I'm going to assume that this relationship is 3 months old or less. You want to reprogram so I'm going to assume that there is additional conflict that led to that p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/24 11:15 PM |
| 4 | [Discussion] the reality of the wallAging happens whether men are jealous or not. Fertility declines whether men are jealous or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/24 11:06 PM |
| 2 | How to make friends who are also Red Pill Women?Homeschooling groups are often open to Moms whose kids are too young to do school, Yes we are part of a Wild & Free group that is technically homeschool but the kids ages range from 4 months to 12 years old. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/24 05:06 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] the reality of the wallI haven't actually noticed a ton of difference in regards to "post wall" aging, Pregnancy definitely makes it harder to tell what is normal aging. I could see small barely there signs of aging around 35 and then I had two kids back to back and it seemed like i plateaued for a stretch. By 40 it was more noticeable -- like I finally HAVE to dye my hair to hide the grey instead of dying my hair because I'm bored and want to change it up. And I still run into people who think I'm younger than I am -… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/24 04:40 PM |
| 2 | [Discussion] the reality of the wallI once joked to a friend that 'the wall' is like an event horizon where everything (dating) speeds up as you approach 30. In your experience, do relationships move more quickly the older you are or even before 30ish vs after 30ish? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/24 04:35 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] the reality of the walland never had a chance. So, are you saying that the wall has not had an impact because you were never going to find someone to begin with? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/24 03:59 PM |
| 9 | How do you feel comfortable being intimate and getting naked with men when you are over 30? Or when you are post-wall?Consider the demographics of PPD. They post them. Last I checked it was predominantly younger sexless men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 11:43 PM |
| 12 | How do you feel comfortable being intimate and getting naked with men when you are over 30? Or when you are post-wall?I'd be careful about the graphs and studies. There are a lot of things that RP considers "studied fact" that are anything but. For example, their "proof" about pair bonding in women is based on a study of prairie voles. But pull up a chair and lets' talk about the wall: The wall is supposed to represent the point where the balance of power in the dating market shifts from men to women. Men tend to date women who are their age or younger and they are mainly (but not only) attracted to physical ap… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 11:41 PM |
| 3 | Do you wear high heels if you around the same height as you’re boyfriend ?I did this (wore only flats) in high school with a boyfriend who was the same height as me. Now I'm old enough that I wouldn't care. Heels and flats produce different attitudes for me. Heels are sexy and flats are dainty. Depends on what look/mood I'm going for (and how much I have to run after children) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Do you wear high heels if you around the same height as you’re boyfriend ?Oh man, even before childbirth, my knees were the first sign I was getting old. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Is this okay?I'm in a really solid relationship (married) with a wonderful man who takes care of his family and sets our course (leads). But I didn't meet him until I was 24 and so I have had the opportunity to experience some of the less pleasant parts of male nature and terrible behavior. I can think of three times (off the top of my head) that I have had to get up and walk away from a situation. And I want to share that with you so that you understand that you can do the same. I remember being told when I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 09:58 PM |
| 5 | How do you feel comfortable being intimate and getting naked with men when you are over 30? Or when you are post-wall?In my experience, yes and with very little change resulting from age. Before you go listening to what men on the internet say, remember that you don't know the following about them: age - younger men are going to be less interested in older women. older men will be interested in older and younger women marital status - do you really want to know how a single guy thinks he will feel about his non existent wife? he's guessing and so you can't take his opinion seriously. level of attractiveness in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 09:50 PM |
| 7 | Got proofs of his cheating.There is no RPW way out of a serial cheater. If that's who he is and you can't leave then you need to carve out a way to handle this that you can live with. Personally, I would stop looking for evidence. All it is going to accomplish is torturing yourself. If you think his parents can exert pressure on him, then by all means, tell them what is going on but if they can't you will just need to find your own peace within a bad situation. It may be that willful ignorance is the best way to preserve … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/24 03:46 PM |
| 15 | Husband admitting to manipulationIt sounds like he's not thrilled to need to manipulate you. So I guess you guys are on the same page. Was he wrong about you leaving the cafe? What advice are you looking for here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/24 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Is worth ending my engagement over libido mismatch?Do you track your cycle? This may be impacting the weeks you have feelings about your sex life vs not caring so much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/24 02:47 PM |
| 7 | Got proofs of his cheating.I asked last time and you didn't answer: is leaving him an option right now? I am not saying to leave, in asking if that is on the table. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/24 11:07 PM |
| 11 | Whats everyones opinion on the 4B movement?Everyone knows there is an election and someone lost. No one protesting seems to understand the Dobbs decision and the relevant parts of the constitution. You are wildly naive to believe you are accomplishing anything other than giving a lot of people a good laugh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/24 09:29 PM |
| 9 | Whats everyones opinion on the 4B movement?Oh they threatened it then too and they didn't follow through with it then either. It's a tantrum they are throwing online and won't amount to any more than that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/24 06:22 PM |
| 3 | Genuinely asking..I don't generally pay attention to Nick Fuentes one way or another but... This is supposed to be funny. The primary issue that conservatives voted for was the economy. The liberals took the trump win and immediately claimed it was due to sexism. So some people are having fun with it. I'd call it satire but really it's flat out mockery of the women crying on the Internet about their imagined loss of rights. Don't take it too seriously | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/24 09:41 PM |
| 2 | How did your mother shape the red pill woman you are today?You are obviously my long lost sister because you describe my mother to a T | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/24 09:36 PM |
| – | What makes a good teammate not soulmate in marriage?It's rather incoherent post | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/24 09:29 PM |
| – | What makes a good teammate not soulmate in marriage?My suspicion is that the OP is a young man with no relationship experience and thus does not belong here. Overall the whole thing is too vague. How is teamwork defined. How is passion defined. It's all mumbojumbo. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/24 09:27 PM |
| – | What makes a good teammate not soulmate in marriage?It is absolutely possible for love and passion to last if you nurture the relationship. These things strengthen a relationship rather than being disruptive. Do you have a boyfriend? This is a very odd view of relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/24 09:17 PM |
| – | What makes a good teammate not soulmate in marriage?Why is [corporate buzz speak] more important than love and passion? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/24 09:07 PM |
| 2 | What with the trend of women claiming their partner doesn’t notice other women? #observationThis is a copy paste from Google so forgive my laziness: "Clutching pearls" is an idiom that refers to a reaction of exaggerated shock or offense, especially when someone is trying to convey that something is morally wrong. For example, you might describe someone as "clutching pearls" if they react to a comment with phrases like "Well, I never!" or "Oh my stars!". "Clutching pearls" can also be used as an adjective to describe someone who is easily shocked or offended by things they perceive as … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 08:03 PM |
| 6 | What with the trend of women claiming their partner doesn’t notice other women? #observationIf your man has been unfaithful or flirts with other women or whatever then it is a different thing than what I'm talking about. That is a lack of respect for you on his part. But to be insecure because he notices beautiful women with no additional action then that's on your plate and your thing to deal with. All men notice. It is the nature of male sexuality and denying it or pearl clutching won't change it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 03:05 PM |
| 7 | What with the trend of women claiming their partner doesn’t notice other women? #observationThere are probably two parts to this (IMO) Some women truly are unaware or willfully ignorant of men's visual nature. This is the case even in the comments here...HERE where nearly once a year we post the FWO chapter on "Men Are Visual". And that author is a good Christian woman married to a good Christian man who doesn't want to notice other women but admits that he still does. We have demonized male sexuality enough that it can be difficult to think "male gaze = bad, but my man is not bad". In… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 12:10 PM |
| 5 | The Woman He Supports and The Woman He Wants to Take Care OfAnd it's a bit of a cop out to say "well just don't live in a high COL area" as though that's a reasonable solution. My husband's job is very tied to our location. So it's either HCOL or no job. Our families and roots are here. It's unfortunate that so much goes to housing but that's what it is unless we want to make dramatic lifestyle changes (leave family behind, work in different fields etc). You play the hand you are dealt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/24 05:48 PM |
| 6 | Is it normal to speak this way?Even if you lose all the weight and suddenly he is interested...do you want a man that can only maintain year long relationships before moving on to the next relationship? You will not change his dating habits by losing weight. You are not so special that he will see the thinner you and suddenly be the marrying type. It sounds like other women have already thought they are the one that will change him. Learn from their mistakes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/24 10:00 PM |
| 5 | do guys find girls with high sex drive unattractive?I get what you are saying in your last paragraph but anecdotally, I've experienced sort of what he's talking about above. In past relationships my sex drive would start high and taper off over time. (This hadn't happened with my husband which is why he's my husband but that's another story). From a man's perspective it could have looked like a bait and switch or manipulation ie: I got the relationship so sex was no longer necessary. In retrospect it spoke to the fact that those relationships wer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/24 02:56 PM |
| 7 | 15 years difference of ageYou could try a sub that is specifically for age gap relationships but to a certain degree, if you are seeking out a specific flavor of advice, you don't really want advice. Age gaps are hard. For every good one there is one of these situations. Since people on advice subs regularly encounter bad relationships, the default setting is to assume that a relationship will be bad. I'm not presenting this to you so that you will worry, just so you can see what other people have in mind when they worry… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/24 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Where to go for guidance?Now, knowing the type of person you are This is pretty condescending. There is nothing wrong with wanting to do everything you can to save a marriage before jumping to leaving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/24 04:47 PM |
| 7 | 15 years difference of ageIt has never occurred to me to hop online to make simple life choices. Why that has become so prominent is beyond me. By the time she is finished "researching" which type of facial tissue is best, I've already blown my nose in a piece of toilet paper and moved on This may not be an age gap issue as much as a personality difference. I will definitely research something to death before making a decision (I'm an elder millennial) and I come by it honestly because my mom (younger boomer) is the same… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/24 03:50 PM |
| 15 | 15 years difference of ageHe told me that life isn't only about teaching and knowing something in theory, it's about confronting realities until we figure out who we are through the struggles He's not entirely wrong. When you are the same age as your partner, you go through these struggles and learn together. With your age gap, he has already (likely) gone through things and (hopefully) grown his character as a result. Vetting questions to discuss: Is he willing to be a leader through difficult times and help you grow as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/24 03:45 PM |
| 7 | Help with managing work and domestic/household tasks?I will be a little disappointed if this commenter doesn't come back to explain or defend this advice. Personally I think it's crazy but I'd rather see someone who is sure they are giving good advice come back to defend it when pushed rather than just drop weirdness and disappear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/24 06:48 PM |
| 12 | Help with managing work and domestic/household tasks?So your suggestion is that she should burn herself down to keep him warm? They aren't married. Are you? Do you enjoy being the most submissiviest of good girls? Your advice has been way out there the last few days. Touch grass friend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/24 01:16 PM |
| 12 | Help with managing work and domestic/household tasks?Could you tell us what it is that makes you want to be with this man? And what is making you stay in spite of the differences in how you both view a partnership. And, sort of a side question, have you guys discussed your views of monogamy? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/24 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show and celebrity crushThis is an extreme position. You probably don't want to read the parts of the wiki about how men are visual. :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/24 08:03 PM |
| 3 | One year Later - Old Love BloomsIt's a genuine question though. She's here giving a field report that things are working out for her. Your impulse was to tell her do things differently. Why? What is it that you see that disturbs you enough to tell her to change up her plan? I know this is offtopic from the OP so I hope the mods don't mind too much but... It seems to be really natural for women to come here and find negatives in a variety of situations. We all have things that trigger us to actually type out a comment rather th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/24 10:08 PM |
| 3 | One year Later - Old Love BloomsWhy are you trying to convince someone who is happy with their relationship to do things differently. Not everyone wants a team approach, especially here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/24 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Partner says I’m like a manFor Men Only is much more pared down than FWO. And I dont' think that it's quite the revelation that FWO is either but I think that the OP in this scenario might find it interesting. As an INTP, I tend to be "not like other girls" and so I enjoyed reading it for an understanding of where women broadly are coming from when it doesn't fit with my own internal experiences. I think that it might function similarly for someone autistic. Otherwise I tend to agree with you on the value for this sub of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/24 12:47 PM |
| 10 | How to meet men? Is online dating advised?Consider studying in the STEM building or in the library where those majors tend to go. This would at least put you in proximity to these men as well as whatever you are doing online. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/24 02:49 PM |
| 13 | Partner says I’m like a manYou are welcome. And yeah, the thing about RPW is that it can only ever provide an outline of "what men want" because every man will look for something slightly different. The broad strokes can help you get "a man" but then you have to dial in to what "this man" wants once you are dating. A few weeks back someone was here asking for help and guidance with her marriage. Everyone was telling her how to be a soft place to land and giving her a hard time because she usually info dumped her day onto … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 08:01 PM |
| 24 | Partner says I’m like a manWithout specific examples, I tend to agree with /u/RatchedAngle that it is an issue of vulnerability and needing him. Usually I recommend that women read "For Women Only" but there is also "For Men Only" and it's all about what women tend to want/need/be in a relationship. Since you are asking for a step by step guide to what it means to be a woman in a relationship - this may be up your alley. It will give you the language to identify where you are different from the average woman and maybe hel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Wives, how do you respond when someone asks you about your career, finances, or other things that aren’t areas you manage in your household?Are you uncomfortable or insecure about the way others view your situation? These sound like fairly innocuous questions and I don't think there is a particular reason to stress over the answers. So I guess my question to you is what part makes you flounder or think you sound stupid? What is the emotional root of your post? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/24 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: "Wife Privileges"Have you read the post on incremental reciprocation? That handles this very question. The answer is that it's in the vetting phase and if you took on everything and are getting nothing then you erred somewhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/24 12:49 PM |
| 13 | Should I categories this behaviour as cheating?While I do not envy you your situation, I actually see a pattern of improvement. The first time he did something that there was enough going on that it was scandalous. Then it became confined to his phone. He gave the first woman enough attention that she felt comfortable enough to say "i love you". The next two we don't know the type of relationship exactly but he did block them when found out. After that we are down to complimenting women he works with which does not rise to the level of "chea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/24 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdJust as an fyi: it was used on a man's blog as an example of a good personal ad circa 2014. It appears from the original post that there were no pictures on the platform. Beyond that I'm not interested in debating more but I wanted to clear up those possible misconceptions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/24 12:58 PM |
| 6 | Not so “ex gf” need adviceIts less about mommy’s feelings more about her underlying concerns. You carefully never list them. You never say if she is right I get where you are coming from but I have a mother like OP's. She has things to say about everyone her children have ever been with. And there is usually some validity to make it really stick in your head. However, what she does is sow seeds of doubt. Nothing she says is intended to help or guide her children. It doesn't matter if she's a little bit correct because it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/24 11:39 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdI too read as a request for a stable adult man...which could take on a variety of forms and income levels. I did not immediately think of it as financial beyond established in a career. I also enjoyed the writing style which I suspect a lot of the disagreement is ultimately about. And thank you 🙂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/24 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdThis is not a hill I will die on, especially against you my love 🤪. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 07:41 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdI thought a major part of RP is that men don’t want to be picked for the stability/provision they provide, Men do not want to be viewed as a wallet and nothing else. Yes this is true. However, if you are looking for a relationship with traditional gender dynamics, you are going to be looking for men that understand that this is the "role". Also there is a lot of fearmongering amongst the younger RP men about being beta bux. That doesn't necessarily mean we should cater to the fear of men who are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 03:13 PM |
| 8 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdReally? I think it's a decent format to approach it as "this is what I can provide for you" rather than a whole lot of "I love to travel and expect more from you than I'm willing to give" Edit: It's also an Ian Ironwood post so the write up is coming from a guy but it's also from 2014 and I wonder if that is just enough of a different time and that's why people are raising an eyebrow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal Ad/u/free_breakfast_ , /u/euphoric-chain-5155 , /u/lateralthinker13 , /u/vasiliyzaitzev What do the men think? Is the OP to overt? Would /u/No-Comfort1229 's version be more appealing if you are looking to date with marriage as a possible end goal? Which version stands out more? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdBut you aren't willing to do it for any man willing to take care of you financially. You are missing the underlying assumptions of a personal ad. No dating profile means "I am this person for anyone". It means "i'm looking for a relationship and this is how I will be with the right man" Are you sure you aren't just miffed because she stated a racial preference? Also I don't think stability reads as "i'm looking for a provider who makes a minimum of six figures and will allow me to be a SAHW.". S… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 02:06 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdThe downside to a post in this style is that it doesn't tell the "buyer" why he should buy. Men are visual, yes, but they are also interested in functional. So telling him who you are isn't bad but it doesn't tell him what he gets out of dating you. I personally think that too much "This is who I am" starts to sound self absorbed. Creating something that tells him "this is who I am in relationship to you (as my boyfriend- the unspoken part)" gives him a way to imagine himself in a relationship w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 02:00 PM |
| 8 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdMy mother claims that she told my dad "I want to be married and I'd like to be with you, but it doesn't have to be" Now I don't know that I'd explicitly state that but it is the underlying assumption when you are dating someone. You are doing these things because this is who YOU are in a relationship. You are looking at who HE is in the relationship and if you both fit each others needs. But if he doesn't, then you will go be "you-in-a-relationship" with someone else. And it is especially true t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 01:36 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdIt sounds like you disagree with the "ad" as a whole. What do you suggest would be better phrasing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 01:20 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)I did not call you a man. I don't know where you are getting this idea from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)And I just asked what the problem was with a masculine writing style or even a man writing the post. Which you didn't answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 07:18 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)And for the record - I just checked the original author and it was/is a woman. So y'all are missing out because you somehow think she writes like a man. But do you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)You only need to listen to what you find value in, complaining that you don't like that something sounds like a man wrote it is concern trolling though and that's not cool or allowed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 06:11 PM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)RPW is probably the wrong space for people that feel that way. The sub was started by the men from TRP and to this day we have endorsed men and mods who are men. We are so disconnected from what men actually want in a relationship that leaving them (the ones who can communicate well anyway) out of the conversation makes us no better than a bunch of feminists talking about how we think men should be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 05:06 PM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)What's the problem with it? We've had male contributors from the early days of the sub. Idk who wrote this but your take away is that it's too masculine a writing style? There isn't any content that you found valuable? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyWith big decisions the man should of course consult and seek counsel from his partner (and should have her in mind as he decides) This is the really important part to understand from the women's perspective. Presuming he's a good man it isn't about him deciding for himself and then the woman follows. The man is making the decision while keeping in mind both the desires and what is best for all parties involved. It's actually quite a bit of responsibility on him to balance competing needs and wan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/24 04:57 PM |
| 11 | How to forgive my husband for cheating for like 5/6 thSo interesting! Would love to hear the tldr on those papers if you read them. It would probably make a fascinating post (in general and possibly for vetting purposes?) cc /u/youllknowwhenitstime | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/24 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyThere is this really interesting thing going on with your comments around submission. From an RPW perspective: you actively choose a man; you take an active role in your relationship by telling him your feelings, wants desires and then you actively choose to trust him and follow his lead. In the moving example that someone else gives, there is an assumption that he is doing what is in the best interests of all parties involved, you him and the family unit. If you have vetted well, then this isn'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/24 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategySome traits of passive people include: Avoiding conflict: Passive people may avoid confrontation or conflict, or back away from people and situations. Lack of assertiveness: Passive people may not speak up for themselves, or may have difficulty making decisions. Putting others first: Passive people may put the needs of others before their own. Hesitant speech: Passive people may hesitate when expressing their opinions, and their speech may lack rhythm or flow. Saying "yes" when they prefer "no":… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyI think your perceptions might be a little broken here. You think that doing things: like avoiding arguments by asking for clarification, bringing him your problems, and praising him in front of others, are coping for domestic violence. In another comment though you are arguing that passivity is better than agency and makes you a cool girl. Going along to get along (passivity) is a way better way of ending up in a domestic violence situation than submitting to a well vetted man. If you don't lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Book RecommendationsI don't have issues with nonfiction. For fiction I tend towards some form of fantasy and there are a few things I just couldn't get past how grating a narrator's voice would be. But I'm also kinda picky...about lots of things! 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 05:34 PM |
| 2 | Book RecommendationsYeah since I had kids all I can manage are audiobooks. They are a wonderful option but you have the added burden of finding not just a good book but a good narrator. I've passed on books that I might actually like because I couldn't stand the narration. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 05:28 PM |
| 19 | Back to Basics September: How class affects male preferencesSo you didn't really read the post huh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 06:11 PM |
| 2 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.You are welcome and good luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 04:00 PM |
| 21 | For those of you ladies who wear makeupThere is no trick. If it is important to you then you just do it. Build it into your morning routine and force yourself until it's a habit. But also, light make up is completely acceptable. I bet there are even women here who don't wear any. It is not a requirement by any stretch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 03:37 PM |
| 10 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.The first thing to remember is that the red pill on reddit both are for relationship goals. We both talk about how men and women interact. Men's red pill formed because a bunch of men started sharing experiences and finding commonalities. They then used things like evo psych to back up their lived experiences. Now, this didn't go like this: "My wife is just so amazing" "yeah my girlfriend is really great" "hey we should talk about all the wonderful things our partners do and why they might do th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 03:33 PM |
| 3 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.What is your goal in researching/swallowing the red pill? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 03:09 PM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]The problem for women is that desire drives them to choose the men who are typically unwilling to commit. This is where we talk about pre commitment and post commitment risk. Men with seduction skills who are good in bed absolutely can be held onto. It requires getting as close to the balanced that this post talks about. One must be a bad girl (whore) but also provide something more than the sex he's getting from other women (madonna). It also requires the ability to vet even when hormones are r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 08:36 PM |
| 20 | how to make my dominant man listen to me.Do you have a "major thing" in mind when you ask this question? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 10:38 PM |
| 2 | PSA: Safeguard Your Privacy! 🚨I was in a now defunct external RPW-esque chat awhile back. It was supposed to be only women but somehow a dude slipped in. No one realized it until he messaged one of the women to explain how we were all wrong about a topic we were discussing. It's so easy to forget that you aren't in a private space and you don't really know who is behind the keyboard. And it's not a problem until it's a problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 02:46 PM |
| 5 | Husband being inappropriate onlineUndetermined, which is why I used the phrase "can of worms". If the OP goes from having regular sex and blow jobs to having no sex and no blow jobs, no matter how valid her reason, her husband will respond. Obviously, we would hope that he will respond by self reflecting, ending his social media simping and become the bestest husband in the world. The reality is that people don't often behave in this manner. There are a myriad of ways he could behave if/when she removes sex from the equation and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 01:55 PM |
| 8 | Do you let men help you?Agreed. Honestly, I think what bothers me most about it is the idea that in order to 'live in your feminine' or however the kids are saying it these days, you have a responsibility to bring out the masculinity of any man who approaches you. Your first sentence pretty much hit the nail on the head for me, "it's not my job to stroke the egos of strange men'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 12:47 PM |
| 13 | Do you let men help you?Yeah, it's nice to be pleasant to people when you have real world interaction. This is good behavior and makes society better However I am under no obligation to worry about a strangers masculinity or how he perceives my comments/lack of need for help/etc. It occurs to me though that there was a post earlier in the month about practicing your femininity on acquaintances/partner's friends and this is an extension of that idea. But personally, once you get out of my inner circle, I probably don't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 12:09 PM |
| 3 | Reading: My ex texted me after 5 months of no contact. What does he want?I think u/jenneapolis mentioned it elsewhere: this is a creative writing piece used to illustrate a point not her real life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 11:50 AM |
| 2 | Diffrence between trp and rpw?It used to be that you had to first go on on the desktop and agree to view a quarantined sub. That was when it first happened years back and I don't know if it's changed. It sounds like it hasn't since you aren't able to access it. I was just reading a post on there the other day so it's definitely still there. cc: /u/CountTheBees | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 10:39 PM |
| 4 | How to help my husband be masculineA couple things: overall I thought your advice was good and I was responding to how lifting can increase masculinity, so I'm not disagreeing, especially with your first comment. Exercise and lifting weights and all that good stuff is known to have overall positive effects on confidence which the OP does specifically call out. I was responding to you on why lifting would promote masculinity. Testosterone is way broader than muscles and sperm count. Among other things, it can even have an impact o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 10:36 PM |
| 1 | How to help my husband be masculineYup yup. And no, we are in our early 40s and my husband is still happy to go every night. I too thought it would dial back with age but nope. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 10:22 PM |
| 6 | Reading: My ex texted me after 5 months of no contact. What does he want?Personally I don't think there is a good reason to even answer it. I don't think on again off again relationships work, the bad habits you got into the first time around rear up when you get back together and you end up in the same position. But nihilism aside, you are right that simply asking the question immediately probably goes a long way to ending confusion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 07:54 PM |
| 6 | How to help my husband be masculineLifting weights helps increase testosterone which, for obvious reasons, helps with masculinity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 06:22 PM |
| 7 | Reading: My ex texted me after 5 months of no contact. What does he want?Sometimes I think they just want to see if they can as an ego boost. I stayed friends with my HS/college ex for a long time. Like we were both married for a few years to other people long time. He would say that we would be each other's second marriage. I was terrible to him and he wasn't so great to me. The relationship was dead long before it ended and the idea that I'd go back to him or him to me is laughable. But I think he liked the ego boost of pretending he had me if he wanted me. There w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 03:35 PM |
| 13 | Reading: My ex texted me after 5 months of no contact. What does he want?Reading this is strikes me as a really great example of [male vs female nature]. Men are happy to be in "relationships"by relationship, I mean any sort of pairing from ONS to FWB to committed with many women while women prefer a single best man. The man in this writing exercise has already rejected the woman. In no part does he actually want to get back with her. He is looking for female attention in the easiest way he can find it. He remembers the good parts and doesn't focus on the negatives b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 02:46 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend broke up with me over my weight and now he wants to get back togetherYeah, none of it sits right for me. In the end, they should both be red flags for each other. It doesn't sound like her behavior was ideal either. Which means him coming back around is suspect (to me anyway) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 02:22 PM |
| 1 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”She has also been through a few accounts. I remember her being here when I started. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 02:15 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend broke up with me over my weight and now he wants to get back togetherEven if all that happened is that he found out that dating is hard and he can't do better.... ...does anyone want to be with the guy that realized after the fact that he can't do better? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Career vs WifeI always say that we weren't going to have kids...until we did. We said we would travel and do things that we couldn't do with kids. We did to varying degrees, but in the end, you live your life in the day to day and so much of the "without kids" stuff is not day to day. My husband was working and focused on his career (as men do) and I didn't have a particular focus. It went from "we can traveletc" to "well why not" I think there is a common idea in young adulthood that you will do so many thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 01:57 PM |
| 1 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”🤣 The only person I'm sure has been around longer than I have is WifeandMama. Otherwise I might win the prize for "Most Needs-to-Get-Off-Reddit" | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 12:58 PM |
| 12 | Husband being inappropriate onlineDon’t force yourself to touch him if you feel disgusted by his behavior This is my initial instinct as well. I am concerned that it opens a can of worms. I also don't think she should be forcing herself to be physical with him if she's disgusted. And I don't have any thoughts on better ways to get through to him other than removing her attention. But again...can of worms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 12:48 PM |
| 1 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”Yes because I'm saying things that people don't like so I must be wrong. Obviously I know nothing about the real goals of RPW in spite of having attained my own RPW goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 08:11 PM |
| 6 | Dating as a fat girlHow long have you stuck with any identity or stated goal? Bluntly, you aren't relationship material right now. It's not because you are fat. It is because you can't stick to anything. At this point, it looks like something that needs to be explored within therapy. You have been through too many identities and groups in too short a time. There is something inside of you that is causing you to seek out ideologies but not stick with them. The best case would be a severe case of ADHD but there are c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 02:05 PM |
| 4 | Career vs WifeWhoever is the full time working parent does not have the relationship with the children that the stay at home parent does. This isn't a statement about how anything turns out in the long run. You simply do not have the same relationship with the person that you see 24/7 as you do with the parent who works 40 hours out of the week in addition to their other responsibilities. You had what men have. Men don't have it all either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 11:24 PM |
| 1 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”The ultimate goal of RPW is to have a good relationship with a good man. This doesn't have to mean marriage, it doesn't mean no sex until marriage and it doesn't even have to be the tip top of the hierarchy. These are all goals and values and up to the individual. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 04:07 PM |
| 11 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The Glory Hole Experience'One of the complaints lately is that there isn't content for the married ladies. Stuff like this is GREAT for people who are paired off and looking to add to or hone their relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 04:06 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The Glory Hole Experience'I think you should do it anyway. We won't always know what is helpful to everyone because only a small number of people actively comment. Even if it gets push back from the loud voices, there are people that will read and take something like that to heart and never say a word to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 04:03 PM |
| 3 | Book Club: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Ch. 1: The *Im*proper Care and Feeding of HusbandsYeah, sometimes it seems like this type of content is more for people who are already doing well to gloat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Book Club: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Ch. 1: The *Im*proper Care and Feeding of HusbandsI think the thing that is getting lost here is that she was/is a radio show host (now YouTube I believe). The language is almost surely intended to be bait to some extent. She's the Just Pearly Things of the 90s. It's just content creators doing the outrage thing to make more people tune in and pay attention. (And to be clear, I'm not defending it, just identifying it. I don't like PearlyThings for this reason and i doubt it is any better in book form.) cc: /u/_Pumpkin_Muffin | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 12:27 PM |
| 9 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The GFE'Remember last week when I was talking about nuance? Many posts about being in a relationship, assume a baseline of a healthy relationship with a good man. But then people read what we write and instead of assuming that we are talking about a healthy relationship with a good man, they speak about why it isn't good in an unhealthy relationship. I also used to write (when I used to write) with the assumption that I was dealing with fully developed women with a preexisting backbone. Posts about subm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 08:59 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend is punishing me for going to a partyWords and tone are important. This is particularly true when someone is in an emotional state or dealing with emotional problems. There are two people in a relationship and two people who need to examine what they have contributed to a problem. No OP is capable of changing her man. She can change herself and her own behaviors. Now the hope is always that she has a good man who changes for the positive with her. When this doesn't happen a woman can decide a. to accept him as he is because his oth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 05:22 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend is punishing me for going to a partyWe are on RPW. Let's not do this "a real man would" nonsense. Women don't get to decide what is "a real man" we decide who we will date and give our attention to or not. However, what it means to be a man is outside of our understanding and expertise. Even on RPW where we try to understand men, we will still only come so close. This is shaming language and I can only assume that you are using it because you are offended on behalf of the OP. It can go both ways, a real woman is more respectful to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Looks or money when it comes to datingHow is high attraction a negative? "Attraction spectrum" brings up the Kinsey scale on google which I doubt is what you meant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 02:21 PM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyAside from the piece of the post I just linked, I'll add this: I think that passivity is the worst way to view submission. That would take away all agency and responsibility from the woman. We still have a responsibility to ourselves, our partner and the relationship. A better word might be "agreeableness" as defined through the Big Five personality scales. But submission is ultimately about respecting your man and demonstrating that respect. Demonstrating anything is active. You can't passively… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 02:20 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as Strategy/u/FastLifePineapple linked this post above and I think that it might help explain a little bit better what we mean by submission. In more specific terms, how can you show submission? If you aren’t a bdsm sub with strict rules and a diet of bondage and spanking, then what does this look like? Ask yourself what you can do to demonstrate that he is the head of the household and you respect him as your partner and husband. This can be small acts of service, like feeding him first or thinking to bri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 02:16 PM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyHe once said that he was an arms dealer. He'd sell his guns to whoever wanted to buy and let us fight it out in our personal lives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 02:13 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as Strategy"Submission" as a concept never worked for me. It is so vague and meaningless and everyone has a different idea what it means. Whisper's writing has always been a challenge for RPW. I personally loved his content but it took a high level sometimes metaphoric approach to the theory. I suspect that the original crop of RPWs were more well versed in RP theory and also were the types to come in with a backbone and an established relationship. His old stuff generated so much back and forth and disagr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 02:10 PM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyMe: clicks link, 'huh did I write this' .... 'oh there are show tune references, I definitely wrote this' | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 02:02 PM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategySo one of my takeaways when I read For Women Only was that everything described applied, in some degree, to about 75% of men. She reported on a lot of questions, they certainly weren't in all exactly 75% but generally, 3 out of 4 men had a trait. Based on that, a sliding scale for these traits makes total sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Hypergamy as an InstinctI also think (but am not sure) that divorce is more likely when the wife out earns / has a better career than her husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 07:11 PM |
| 11 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyThis is one of my favorite wiki posts and it's not gotten any traction today! There is a really important lesson in this which relates to the strategic nature of RPW. We can be submissive as a strategy and not simply because we are being doormats or following any man. The respect chapter in For Women Only gives some insight into what is important for a man in a relationship. The ways you might apply it look different pre and post committment but ultimately, submissiveness/deference is a way to c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 07:05 PM |
| 7 | Hypergamy as an InstinctBut there is no such thing as perfect and it's not odd for desirable and undesirable traits to go hand in hand. The best case scenario is one where you maximize the "pro" column and minimize the "con" but there are always going to be cons. It's ok to be single if your choice is to settle beyond what you are comfortable living with but understand that you will never get a "perfect" partner, even just perfect for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingYeah I do think he did well saying that before but if it was a turn off for him why did he want a relationship in the first place I agree with you that they both made a mistake here. I do think that women will happily give things up for a man they believe is awesome. My going assumption is that the OP gave up the public dancing originally because she wanted to keep him (ie: he was worth it initially) and as problems arose in the relationship, she started to feel like he was less worth it and res… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI do not think that girls looking for an occasional threesome are representative of women in general And I'm not suggesting they are. I think I'm saying that yes I know these women exist and also that it's hard to know who you are talking to on RPW. We have had enough sugar babies through here giving/looking for advice that I just don't assume that just because a woman is here it means she's a tradcon good girl. Broadly you probably could filter women into "follows tingles" and "thinks tingles a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 06:26 PM |
| 1 | This subreddit might change my lifeIt is a RPW belief that you can't change a man only yourself. This isn't appropriate advice for this subreddit...or at all...I mean, put him in a life and death situation? That's something for an insane woman to try. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Hypergamy as an InstinctThis is a really solid answer and you've had great contributions lately. /u/happyspinningseal can we give her a star? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Hypergamy as an InstinctSure but what do self ratings have to do with your perception of your partner? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 03:19 PM |
| 5 | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI'm way more leery of the content that comes from RP spaces these days than the older stuff. I think the newest stuff is distilled rage bate and little else. And yes, I think that a good deal of that comes from men who don't have any experience with women (and don't wish to put in the work) or from the younger generation who has been on social media for so long they don't know how to talk to people in real life. But I think there is some truth to the older content. When I did the threesome thing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 03:18 PM |
| 2 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingA few months after we met , my now fiance put pressure on me to quit my favourite hobby- belly dance. This is the first line in the OP's post. About 2 months after we met, he told me that he does not want me to perform belly dancing any longer. He told me that he is jealous, he doesn't want me other men to look at me dancing. He said he is embarrassed of me. He told me his family would be furious if they found out. He said they would be beyond ashamed of him if they found out. So, I have not per… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 03:01 PM |
| 10 | Hypergamy as an InstinctThere is a lot of variation within a group. Red Pill hypergamy (not branch swinging or cheating necessarily) is the idea that a woman wants someone better than herself in some way. This can mean that he's smarter, a better leader, more dominant, stronger, makes more money etc etc. This works because men require respect to feel loved. You cannot respect someone who is not respectable and it's easier to respect someone who you perceive as having attributes that are "better" than your own. ie: I'm … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingWell the general red pill line is to disparage women for following their tingles. And I think that's not entirely wrong. If you aren't also vetting for a good relationship, it's not hard to allow good sex to override good judgement. There absolutely has to be a balance. I think that it is hard to communicate to another person what that balance should be. Sometimes I find it hard to tell if a woman is genuinely not into this man or if no one will ever be good enough for her. I agree with this har… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 08:54 PM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: 2024 Dark Femininity EditionRed Pill is about understanding and accepting reality and utilizing it to your benefit. It would not be what it is today if there was not this utilitarian component. Pink Pill / Dark Femininity / Whatever You Want to Call It is the strategy piece of Red Pill for women. It is not the absence of truth, it is the strategies that arise from said truth. There is little that is impossible. Sure there are things that are unlikely, but armed with information and strategy, many things can be accomplished… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingIt's important to be aware of the hypergamy urge... because you want to find a man that curbs it. That doesn't leave you wanting to look for someone better. And this is a hard thing to push because I think sexual attraction is such a large part of this. Obviously you can have great sex with a terrible man and we don't want that. However, I believe so strongly that there has to be a specific sexual pull combined with him being a decent man in order to curb hypergamy long term. Its' a fine line th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingThe difference that the Red Pill recognizes is that women will hop from one partner to another looking for one single 'best option'. Men will be perfectly happy to have a main girl and find other women on the side. He won't necessarily desire to leave the original relationship, he'd rather keep multiple partners. Reality often means that these things look the same from the outside but the internal aspects of it are a bit different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 07:37 PM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyI don't believe so. I think the theory is intended to explain primal behavior in the absence of other forces such as emotional intelligence Yes, just because these are instincts does not mean that we are beholden to them. We have higher level thought. Understanding what the instincts are is an important piece of the puzzle. If we can't recognize it in ourselves, how can we combat it (when it's negative) or utilize it (when it's positive). | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 07:32 PM |
| 3 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingWhy, in your opinion, is a woman shaking her ass seductively NOT disrespectful to her primary relationship? Why, in your opinion, is a man being uncomfortable with this behavior (from day 1) disrespectful? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 07:27 PM |
| 4 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingHe did that. He told her early on in their relationship that he is not comfortable with it. She chose to give it up and now that she is engaged to him, she is starting to resent it. Whether you agree or not with his feelings on the matter, he didn't handle this incorrectly. It is not his fault that she chose to stay with him (and give up dancing for a crowd) and now she is changing her mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingOnly makes sense for a fiancé (therefore soon to be husband) to be more strict and demand more from a woman than a boyfriend would. I actually disagree with this because I think that it would qualify as a bait and switch. I understand that a man may start a relationship and feel less possessive of the girl he's dating vs his future wife BUT I think that as soon as he realizes he's not comfortable with [whatever] he should disclose that and allow her to choose between [whatever] and the relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 10:37 PM |
| 3 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingThis is a really good point. I didn't think about it in the reverse and I bet very few of the people arguing that it's not sexual haven't considered it either. I can appreciate the "don't give up your passion" argument when it's something done in private/class/just for your partner. The idea that your passion must include others watching you means (to me) that it's not dancing that is your passion, it's being watched. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 10:29 PM |
| 4 | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingIf you haven't been with him for long, then I agree that it might be better off to end the relationship. I learned this with my ex. My eye wandered a bunch but for a variety of reasons, I just thought this was normal. When I met my husband and my eyes never wandered, I realized that my ex and I (long broken up at that point) would never have worked. That said as /u/RatchedAngle says above, you have to be willing to be single. If single is better than the man you are with then it's probably not t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 10:26 PM |
| 6 | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingRight! There are no Disney princes out there. The guy who seems better probably has his own issues. People are complex and so there are always going to be trade offs. But what really blows my mind is, as you say, when you see women trade their really pretty good partner for a guy who everyone else knows is subpar. I've seen this up close and personal twice in my life within my peer group (and I'm pretty introverted, two failed marriages with horrible replacement dudes is a lot). | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 10:19 PM |
| 10 | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI agree. I'm not completely anti-hypergamy in certain situations. Obviously once you are married there is every reason to stay the course. When you aren't married and haven't been together for long, hypergamy can be your gut telling you that he's just not the guy for you. The big key though is that you need to be sure that you aren't simply jumping to what you think is better. If hypergamy is tickling your brain (or your bits) and you realize you are better without this guy period then it's prob… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Tattoo of husbands nameMaybe because ribs are just less popular in general. The ribs are a particularly painful spot to get tattooed. This may have something to do with it's popularity or lack thereof. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/24 03:31 PM |
| 89 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingA few months after we met , my now fiance put pressure on me to quit my favourite hobby- belly dance. A few months after you met, you should still be vetting him. You have a right to choose a man who supports your hobby. That would be an ideal time to decide that your values are incompatible. My fiance pressured me to stop because he was jealous about other men looking at me dancing and was embarrassed if his family found out. None of my previous boyfriends ever had an issue with it and supporte… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/24 03:12 PM |
| 2 | how to show my man that i respect himMy first comment was a hypothetical spoken to a person whose spouse doesn't trust their compliments. As we are on the internet, I'm talking to the people who are reading as much as the person who is directly responding. Honestly, the first comment I made to you was a hypothetical because I had initially assumed you to be a man. The situations you are proposing aren't the norm. I don't have friends who take without giving back and I don't have a man who would take a compliment as sarcasm. Boundar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/24 02:34 PM |
| 15 | Unhealthy habitsAre you willing to accept him as he is now even if he never changes? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 06:57 PM |
| 8 | Unhealthy habitsWhat are you looking to accomplish? You've been together for a while so I can see the desire to work within the relationship but you are also unmarried so you are still vetting. What is your desired outcome here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 06:41 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsThat's fine. We can agree to disagree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 05:42 PM |
| 8 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsThis exchange is why I said that paying on dates is not a "red stop sign". Its a value judgement that can't and shouldn't be applied across the board. We can all agree that active addiction is a no go, we can't all agree that not paying on dates is a no-go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 01:21 PM |
| 2 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsI feel like I spend altogether too much of my reddit time acknowledging caveats and exceptions. Sigh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 01:19 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsI think it's mostly an issue when it's unaddressed. I've seen too many posts where the man in question has some issues and he "doesn't believe in therapy". Now I don't specifically believe in therapy for all things, but if the thing is bipolar or depression or schizophrenia or something with severe ramifications and he doesn't see a reason to get help... To me that is a no go with or without matching luggage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 12:01 AM |
| 1 | how to show my man that i respect himIs the snark really necessary? This isn't a script and I think it's sad that you can't come up with genuine things to say about your husband to verbally demonstrate respect. Further, this comes from a book where she interviewed and surveyed a bunch of men of various ages and walks of life. The book tells women what the majority want. So if a man is as you describe then he's just not the majority but this stuff will work for most couples. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 11:25 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsFor the most part, yes people are individuals. But you can't make excuses for everything. In the example I gave, if you aren't being introduced to his family but you have met all his friends then perhaps it makes sense to accept (until proven otherwise) that there are reasons that have nothing to do with you. If no one in his life knows you, that's a problem. I'd like to think that by my age I could pick out interest or disinterest the way you are suggesting. However, I think that take experienc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 11:00 PM |
| 9 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsYeah, most people working at McDonald's aren't making it to six figures which is why fast food is the metaphoric short hand for a dead end job. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 10:55 PM |
| 10 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsI personally think quality men need an outlet outside of their relationship. A few years back my husband got really ...err...passionate about politics. After listening to him yell in my direction on and off for a few months I had to remind him that he had plenty of male friends who would be a better outlet that me. We talk about pretty much everything but it is a huge strain to be the ONLY person with whom he talks about everything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 05:35 PM |
| 12 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsThis one gets me all the time. "He's promised to make me a SAHM but he won't find a job other than McDonalds and I support him now but he promises that it will be different when we have kids" Though I'm surprised your answer wasn't mental health issues. I feel like I see you banging that drum all the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 05:30 PM |
| 4 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsWhat do you think is red flag about "no hobbies/friends" (I agree but for the audience to understand). | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 04:48 PM |
| 4 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsI agree. Can you say what this looks like from a vetting perspective? What would be "anger issues" rather than simply "getting reasonably angry". | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 04:46 PM |
| 20 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsAny sort of addiction I'll add to this, addiction is not "matched baggage". The last person who should be dating an addict, former or otherwise, is someone else who is a former addict. It is a recipe for disaster not for mutual understanding. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 04:33 PM |
| 3 | How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to do something sexual anymore?You present your emotions and he decides how to proceed. I understand this and I didn't argue with your initial advice as it is classic RPW whether or not I agree with it. But you took the most mundane of possible sex acts and used it to say that a woman should not be allowed to have new boundaries in a relationship because it might upset their men. We are allowed to discover that things we have tried in the past no longer work for us. That goes both ways. You used a blow job as an example to ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/24 08:19 PM |
| 13 | Spoiled life over 40 in bad circumstances: what would an RPW do?I'm sorry that your man has dropped the ball on life so much. If divorce is the only way forward, you will probably get the best advice on a divorce sub. I would recommend talking to others who have gone through it to help temper your expectations as well as to get the best advice on how to proceed. And because of the general themes of this sub I feel compelled to add: the dating market will be difficult after this. If your reason for divorce is to get away from someone who is a drain on your li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/24 07:53 PM |
| 11 | Spoiled life over 40 in bad circumstances: what would an RPW do?Was he like this when you married? What happens if you step back and stop picking up the slack for him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/24 06:30 PM |
| 18 | Spoiled life over 40 in bad circumstances: what would an RPW do?What is the problem in your marriage that makes divorce the obvious answer? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/24 06:12 PM |
| 3 | How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to do something sexual anymore?Conversely: My husband and I have had threesomes back before kids. When we had kids, I no longer felt comfortable with that aspect of our relationship. I felt closer to him and the idea of sharing made me sad. I also don't think it's right to have that dynamic when there are kids in the picture. Am I forever required to have another woman in my bed because I did it in the past? Would it be better if I asked him to come up with a solution and his solution was that we'd send the kids to grandmas a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/24 06:00 PM |
| 3 | It's Probably Not Love At First Site | A Guide for the Early Stages of Datingand ohh yes…….n count makes a huge difference if you are looking for a HVM….. I wrote some of the content in the wiki about the reasons to keep a low n count. I just want to start off with that before the accusations of giving bad advice start. And I am absolutely sure that men have a number in their head where they just can't deal. I am also sure that being a virgin isn't a 100% plan to getting a man. A lot of the talk around men's need for a woman with a low n count is actually a preference th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/24 01:38 PM |
| 5 | It's Probably Not Love At First Site | A Guide for the Early Stages of DatingYou are the 3,846th man (since I've been subbed here) to come in and claim to be high value/alpha/the kind of man we want. Its tired and no one believes you even if it is true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/24 01:57 AM |
| 3 | It's Probably Not Love At First Site | A Guide for the Early Stages of DatingI'm sort of laughing at the men who are coming in an disagreeing with this point of your post. I have to assume it is men who don't have a lot of options and see this sort of dating as unfair. Because honestly, due to preselection, men starting with a few options and narrowing it down should help their chances. And in my experience, men who have options, aren't as hung up on things like n count or dating multiple people (in the early pre-commitment stage) | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 09:22 PM |
| 5 | It's Probably Not Love At First Site | A Guide for the Early Stages of Datingmy ex’s brother. Of course I never did anything An acquaintance of mine had her husband cheat with his brother's wife. Didn't know them at the time so I don't know the whole story but WOW. I don't even know how a person could consider that (in actuality, not in your "I picked the wrong brother" sense). It is a reminder though that not every woman controls her hypergamy the way we recommend around here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 09:17 PM |
| 4 | how to show my man that i respect himIf your relationship is troubled such that your man thinks your compliments are disingenuous then you should check out The Surrendered Wife. I love For Women Only but a messed up dynamic like you describe is probably more Laura Doyle territory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 09:12 PM |
| 2 | how to show my man that i respect himThere are summaries of all the chapters in the subreddit's wiki. I liked the book because it walks you through everything really well but if money is tight then I think you can get most of the information from the book through the wiki. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 09:10 PM |
| 6 | It's Probably Not Love At First Site | A Guide for the Early Stages of DatingPersonal anecdote to go along with what you are talking about: I dated a man through college and into his first year of law school. There was a lot of good and a lot of bad. When I met his law school friend, I developed a crush on him. Whenever were at the same gathering, I secretly wished I was dating the friend instead. Nothing happened (the opportunity was never there and I can't rightly say what would have happened if it was) and me and the ex broke up (as was inevitable). Then after I was d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 05:38 PM |
| 6 | how to show my man that i respect himThis is a short sighted perspective. Taking it away from gender for a moment consider the idea of Love Languages. Assume you have a couple where the man's love language is physical touch and the woman's is gifts. If he is affectionate in the day to day and great in bed then he will think "I'm showing her I love her every time we sleep together or grab her butt when I walk by" but he won't think "I should pick up a treat for her to show her I love her". The woman on the other hand may buy him his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 05:04 PM |
| – | An unlikely match that I’m struggling to get overI’m a Palestinian woman and he’s a French man, whose family is Jewish, but he is an atheist. Politically speaking, there is an element of not fully seeing eye to eye. I know this isn't specifically related to your question but we've had a couple posts lately where the cultural issues were a big red flag. While I won't suggest that it is impossible to date cross culture or cross religions, it makes things more complicated. From an outsiders perspective (me: white american sorta-catholic) this par… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 04:51 PM |
| 3 | how to show my man that i respect himYou are welcome. It's from the book For Women Only by Shaunti Feldman. Definitely worth a read. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 04:35 PM |
| 56 | how to show my man that i respect himMen and Respect and Love In practice Saying to him: “I respect you” doesn’t have the same impact as him saying to you “I love you”. Instead, te needs to hear things like: “honey I’m so proud of you”, “I trust you”, and “thank you for what you did”. There are six areas where men need to be shown respect. Respect his judgement This means respecting his knowledge, opinions, and decisions. You show this by not questioning his knowledge or argueing with his decisions. Defer to him. Many men expressed… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/24 10:39 PM |
| 2 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?Just to be clear, since you think this is an "either / or" scenario: The man she is dating could be bad for her and she should move on. AND Musicians/writers/poet types tend to be less commitment oriented than other groups, making it terrible advice to intentionally seek them out. FINALLY YOU are the one that suggested she needed a romantic guy. You pulled this out of your own interpretation of the very little information that the OP gave about her situation. You are obviously projecting your ow… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/24 01:59 PM |
| 2 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?Dylan isn't a reference to Bob Dylan but I see where you made that assumption. This is a type of dude that anyone who has been to an American college has likely run into. The inspiration from that post came out of guys that Ruby had actually encountered and this behaviors. The problem with your advice here is that you've met and hung out and dated these guys but none of them committed to you so even with your anecdotal evidence, these aren't settle down guys. We will have to agree to disagree bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 11:01 PM |
| 2 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?I'll also add that stats and observed generalizations about gender and dating is pretty much what RP derives it's ideas from. RPW is based around the idea of male led relationships. This may simply not be the sub for you if you are against both those things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 09:32 PM |
| 2 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?I...am not disappointed with my life so I'm confused where that even comes from. You deal with individuals as individuals but you deal with groups by statistics or "most likely" or generalizations. In the case of giving advice for an online strangers prospects then you must deal in generalities. If she breaks up then she'll be looking for a new men out of the pool of "Men" not an individual. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 09:28 PM |
| 5 | Asking a man for money he said he’d give meYes exactly! I don't think it's terrible to display a level of practicality. If this continues long distance then you are going to have to have many discussions that are more practical than romantic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 12:25 PM |
| 18 | Asking a man for money he said he’d give meDid you ever get back to him with the final cost? The way you are outlining this story, it sounds to me as though you haven't gotten back to him with that but you are waiting for him to bring it up again? If that's the case then it's firmly your responsibility to bring it up and if not then... You should ask again. This is vetting. If he doesn't give you half the cost then would you even consider going to meet him anyway? Get this sorted out before the trip as it gives you information about his … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 12:01 PM |
| 5 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?Yes seriously. I say this with the least amount of snark possible: you aren't married or in an ltr right? The men you are meeting that are willing to read you poetry are not the men that are interested in long term relationships. Therefore this makes for bad advice. The existence of a particular type of man does not mean that type of man is available or good for marriage/long term relationships. Obviously there are outlier for anything, but overall this heightened romantic reading poetry by the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 11:53 AM |
| 5 | Struggling to remain submissive… advice neededSubmission is for husbands not boyfriends. This is really incorrect according to RPW theory. Submission is a strategy that helps you appeal to a man's protective/provider instinct. If you reserve it for marriage, you are lowering your chances of getting to marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 05:14 PM |
| 17 | How can I be more demure, more mindful? 🧘♀️😌Demure: reserved, modest, and shy (typically used of a woman). Coy: (especially with reference to a woman) making a pretense of shyness or modesty that is intended to be alluring. There are different levels of submission/dominance in a relationship. Finding the type of man that works with your dominance threshhold is more important than being super submissive across the board. That said, RPW takes the approach that submissive is a strategy that triggers the male protective instinct. It is a way … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 04:25 PM |
| 6 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?"Two very specific individual men like the things you like so your boyfriend is wrong for not liking them" Dude, this is anecdotal and doesn't actually give her any advice. So what that Carl Jung (a psychiatrist NOT a scientist) wrote a paper that you don't remember on astrology. That doesn't change the fact that it's rare to run into a man who is into astrology. Feels like you are grasping at straws in order to look down on her boyfriend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend (36m) is thinking of taking a sabbatical and start a businessYou are starting with a cultural divide and you are currently seeing some of the disadvantages of that. While I am sure it exists: the Muslim idea that his money is theirs and her money is hers is not one that you run into a lot in America. You are more likely to see the pooling of money or his money is his, hers is hers and they share some expenses. Have you guys discussed your expectations for finances. This is the time to do it. You sound as though you really don't want your money combined or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 01:53 PM |
| 14 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?Men and women have different interests and preferences. It doesn't matter if you like pop music and he likes classical as long as you can make room for each others preferences. Oh and most men do think astrology is stupid. Put that one aside, you aren't likely to find a man who shares your interest in astrology and you may not like what you have to give up to find the type of man who will. (for example: you won't find an engineer who is able and willing to financially provide for a wife and kids… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 01:33 PM |
| 11 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?There aren't a ton of guys who will write you songs and read you poetry on a riverbank. This is delusional. We aren't living some Victorian Era rom com. Most men find astrology stupid. Full stop. The other things she mentions have many genres. It is down to a matter of preference. The OP hasn't even said what types of movies, music, poetry she is consuming so we have to trust her opinion that they are "girly". The OP might be able to get a man who shares her interests more closely. She will like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 01:21 PM |
| 8 | Boyfriend (36m) is thinking of taking a sabbatical and start a businessYeah, this may be the best way into a SAHW scenario. If she takes the risk on him now, and he does succeed (big IF of course) then this a situation where many men would be happy to give her an easy life because she was there for him when he was nothing. Otherwise she better be offering a lot to find this type of man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 10:32 PM |
| 14 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?If men are approaching you but you can't convert to a relationship then the problem is your "relationship market value". That is everything that you bring to a relationship beyond your sex appeal. This post is probably a good read for you "The moment after I first bedded a girl, that is when I would meet her for the first time." The man who once told me this knew what he was talking about... he had loved a lot of women, some for a single night, some for years, one until breast cancer finally too… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 09:56 PM |
| 4 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?How often are you intoxicated for these encounters? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 07:59 PM |
| 4 | Is SMV real?It’s basically what The Red Pill is based on It's actually one small aspect of the red pill. Perhaps you need to read the wiki or the pinned posts on the sub as someone else suggested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 11:34 PM |
| 3 | Is SMV real?I work in personal finance. It is extremely unlikely that she received inheritance that wasn't hers to collect. She may have convinced him to remove your names from stuff while he was alive but if money was in Trust then she shouldn't have been able to touch it. That is what a trust prevents. And she wouldn't have been able to collect an insurance policy where she wasn't the named beneficiary. Now if she was the executor or Trustee and did shady things - that is illegal but would have to be sett… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Is SMV real?Right, you can't have a relationship with no compatibility (not a healthy, long term one anyway). But you won't get a relationship if there is no attraction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 06:47 PM |
| 4 | Is SMV real?I might even be true, but I don’t like the insinuations… To quote The Lion King "yes, the truth can hurt but you can't either run from it, or learn from it" There are lots of unhappy people. The tools that RPW provide can help you make the best of the cards you are dealt. Understanding what men find attractive (both sexually and for a relationship) can help you optimize your search for a partner AND help you make the most of your relationship. If, for example, you know that generally men like lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 06:23 PM |
| 19 | Men don't care about loyalty or faithfulnessWhat men have you heard compliment their exes after a breakup? If he dumped you then he doesn't like things about you. Loyalty is important. Most men aren't turned on by a woman just because other men like her. Preselection isn't built into them the way it is for us. Now if all you mean by loyalty is "doesn't cheat" well yeah that's the base assumption in a relationship and barely counts as loyalty. Loyalty is more "she stuck with me when I lost my job and couldn't take her out on dates for a wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/24 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Interested in a man 10 years youngerI'm always a little shocked that people suggest this as though it's THE answer to delaying childbearing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/24 05:00 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?So I'll ask YOU this question, Delia. What do YOU offer men, that they want, and that other women do not? If you can answer that, you have the answer as to what you should bring to the table. I offer men nothing but my husband a lot. What I offer now is also probably a touch different than what I offered when I was dating but I'm pretty sure that his interest started because I was cute and cooked for him and was sufficiently fun in bed. I'm not so much looking for myself here but I thought it wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 05:05 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?seemed perfectly normal in daily life and transformed in a party situation. I didn't see them as fun girls, but in the context of a party atmosphere So this is the part I'm curious about. It sounds like they don't carry themselves in a "party girl" way until they get to a party. From that I would assume that a party girl who had a change of heart could "hide" her past as long as she changed her present behavior. Thoughts? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 04:14 PM |
| 3 | How important is physical attractionIs his appearance fixable (ie: is it something like he's too fat)? You probably need to stop sleeping with the roommate if you intend to make this relationship or any other work well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 03:47 PM |
| 4 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?Do you think domestic skills alone are enough to pull in a good man? What do you mean by engaging in the relationship (other than provisions) Side note: I laughed at "know when he needs to hire someone" cause my own husband would never hire someone to do his domestic handyman stuff and I so wouldn't mind a contractor on occasion 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 03:44 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?Do you think this is what will bring a man back for a second third fourth date? Or is this what a man seeks when he's specifically looking for a family? How did you approach it when dating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 03:41 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?How do fun girls move? Do you think a woman could intentionally change her stripes so to speak? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 03:16 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?More is generalizable than you think. Check out the summaries of For Women Only on the wiki. That's more about how men think than what they want but in every category examined it's about 75% of men that share the qualities assessed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 03:14 PM |
| 7 | How to find men who are very successful and single?Ok fair. But you will still eliminate men who aren't interested in a Muslim woman. Men of faith will want to marry within their faith. As you said, some men aren't interested in virgins (just as some will only want virgins). My point is that your pool is smaller than you seem to realize and you don't seem to be interested in the obvious avenues to get you the type of men you want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 03:11 PM |
| 6 | How to find men who are very successful and single?It is way more far fetched than you are hoping. What percentage of those men are Muslim? And what number are single and marriageable. Then how many of those are YOU attractive to and how many are attractive to you. The numbers decrease quickly and you won't find them if you don't leave the house and don't tap your family connections. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 02:59 PM |
| 2 | How important is physical attractionIn all humor and light heartdness, tell your husband Rand did not understand Aristotle. He's also read Aristotle so I imagine he knows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 11:20 AM |
| 3 | How important is physical attractionGo ahead, just say how long you been married and that's all you have to do for me to go back on every word you want me to go back on. I have been with my husband for the past 17 years. We just celebrated our 11th anniversary And he is into Ayn Rand. I'm just too tired to communicate clearly apparently. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 01:42 AM |
| 4 | How important is physical attractionBecause so much goes into women's attraction beyond the physical, I'm with you that taking a bit of time to decide if neutral turns into "wow I can't live with out him". I just don't agree with the idea that lust fades so therefore it's not important. My college BF was great in every way except I wasn't attracted to him. After enough years with my husband, I can say that it's a really different dynamic to desire the man you are with rather than simply loving him. Love isn't' enough. And yeah, wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 11:44 PM |
| 3 | How important is physical attractionI think that equating encouraging the guy to get into fitness who I assume was just a lil chubby with saving a hoe is a bit of a reach... an obese person? Sure, but I was imagining just a bit hanging over the belt You gave a long screed based on your assumption that he was fat. I don't think the OP even says this. And it's only different from a dude white knighting some girl who doesn't have her life squared away because you want it to be different. We are told all the time that fat women are fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 11:39 PM |
| 5 | Finances with a babyI didn't give advice on this post because it initially made me angry for her and that is the worst state to give advice in. It all sounds terrible and it all sounds one sided. Maybe it IS as awful as she's saying or maybe there is something else going on. Having your first kid is a lot on both mom and dad. When I got pregnant with my first (planned and we were in our late 30s), my husband and I had a few serious brawls. I remember one time responding to something he said (and thank goodness at t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 11:33 PM |
| 8 | How important is physical attractionI know that everyone is a little different but for me, I chose a man who I was wildly attracted to and the lust hasn't burned out. I think my relationship is much stronger and happier for the fact that we are still attracted to each other. I would advise my children to make sure they are very attracted to their partner from early on because having to have sex with someone that you aren't attracted to really isn't great (they will of course be much older when I give said advice). | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 07:22 PM |
| 6 | How important is physical attractionThis rant is entirely off topic and also ignores the fact that she's been seeing this guy for two weeks and isn't attracted to him. Just like men shouldn't be Captain Save A Hoe, women shouldn't be getting into a relationship with the intention of changing a man. If he's fat and they've only been on three dates that is his problem to fix not hers. You are setting her up for failure by encouraging her to date a man who she isn't attracted to with the intention of getting him to change. The rest i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Fiancé lied about talking to another girl when I had proof - Move on or stay in the relationship?I’ve had anxiety lately, and really bad dreams about him cheating on me. Do you have an idea what caused the anxiety to flare up? Has he been acting differently? Have you had outside stresses or wonky hormones? Why after being certain that he's your captain are you getting cold feet now. What has changed aside from this incident? The feelings predated you finding anything so I'm wondering what else is going on in the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/24 08:40 PM |
| 7 | Boyfriend wishes I was more girly and funYou are right that he has to do it for himself. In this case I don't think it would help even if you COULD do something for him here. I'm sorry you are in this situation. I don't think the question is 'should you change' rather: should you stay or go. That's one that you have to answer for yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/24 08:25 PM |
| 9 | Boyfriend wishes I was more girly and funIt's been incredibly frustrating for him and I think he resents me for making more money. From what you have shared, this would also be my assumption. If this is the case, it might improve if he is able to get his career going and "catch up" to yours. Of course there is no way you could be sure he wouldn't become resentful again for future unforeseen reasons. If there is anything that he objects to that resonates for you (ie: if you struggle chatting with strangers/acquaintance/whatever) you cou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/24 08:08 PM |
| 12 | Boyfriend wishes I was more girly and funHas anything changed in either of your lives recently? How is your sex life? Has it tapered off or still the same rate from early on? Do you see each other more/less than initially? Basically, is anything different, no matter how unrelated it might seem, going on that might be impacting his view of you / the relationship. It is curious that these are coming up after a year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/24 07:54 PM |
| 7 | Update: Boyfriend hesitant to propose due to his pastBig Congratulations!! May you be a sane bride, your wedding be everything you (both) hope for and your honeymoon be rain free :-) And can we tag all the people who told you to leave him in your last post? On a personal note, my bff got engaged after dating her man for a year while my (now) husband and I had been together for like 4 or 5 at the time. You totally have my sympathy on watching all your friends go through it while you are still holding on to promises. But you made it. Go post ring pi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/24 06:45 PM |
| 4 | What does your husband do for work?I understand. If you are tight for money and he's not finding other work, the commission aspect isn't terrible. Sales jobs can make bank because its' all about how much you hustle. Otherwise, a good job can take a while to find. But, he should probably reach out to recruiters and put them to work for him. My husband is a rocket scientist and I work in finance. His job doesn't help you any, except that I'll say he's highly qualified in his field and it still took him a minute to find his current … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/24 08:35 PM |
| 15 | What does your husband do for work?Can I ask what advice you are seeking? You ask what our husbands do but that doesn't seem entirely relevant to your concerns with your husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/24 08:17 PM |
| 4 | The Burned Haystack Dating MethodI wasn't suggesting it as a strategy, just a discussion related to the post. That said, morals and ethics are personal. And if I am trying to find the man I will build a life with, then an effective strategy is much more important to me than whether or not I upset some guy for only going on one date with him. To me, loyalty is reserved for a husband not a prospect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/24 01:50 PM |
| 7 | How did you stop obsessing over your husbands career?You don't share the same emotions, you don't think the same and understanding that and appealing to different communication styles is not placating a man like a toddler. Don't condescend like you somehow know what you are talking about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/24 01:31 PM |
| 5 | The Burned Haystack Dating MethodThe effort required for dating in the apps-era would make me want to take a nap so I don't blame you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/24 07:42 PM |
| 6 | The Burned Haystack Dating MethodI think these are personal decisions each woman has to make. Personally I could never manage 5 guys. I'm reminded of a method where you go on an absurd number of men for a date or two with the intention of turning them down. This demonstrates to you what your dating pool looks like and gives you parameters (best available to worse available. Then after you hit the absurd number (seriously I think it was something like 60 - it's a statistical method so you need a lot), after the absurd number of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/24 07:02 PM |
| 8 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?I would recommend asking this question in a sub that is more closely aligned with your culture. We can only speak from our own experience here. If you aren't in the west then the cultural rules and expectations are different (as you note). That means the majority of the women here (RPW) will have little experience from which to guide you. We can fall back on RP theory but that was created in western societies and based around the dating markets in those societies. Anyone not from your culture is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 07:56 PM |
| 18 | single mother by choice?I realized I didn’t have enough support around me to make it work I remember thinking that I had a super flexible and low key job (which I do) so I would just bring the baby in the office (which I did). I had days where I got no work done because she wanted to be held, but not held sitting down at my desk, oh no, she needed me to pace around. Or the times she would crawl around the floor at meetings (thank goodness it is a relationship centered business and the Boomer clients thought this was ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/24 06:39 PM |
| 3 | How can I stop worrying/obsessing over my looks?Did you read that correctly or are you just trolling. I find it hard to believe that you know men who would dump a girl over short eyelashes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/24 06:24 PM |
| 39 | single mother by choice?Single mothers get so much slack in these communities, I;m just curious why? Because this is a dating forum and many many men are not interested in being with single mothers. There are a couple reasons behind this but overall, it's a turn off to a lot of men. Is a single mother by choice (ie: with sperm donor) a bad thing? It's your life and your choice. I am a mother and I would never ever do it without the kids father. It's too much burden on me and the stats are bad for them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/24 06:20 PM |
| 3 | How can I stop worrying/obsessing over my looks?Men appreciate beauty. Women compete for men. Men set the standards and women push beyond the standards from (often unconscious) competition. It takes understanding men more than the average young woman does in order to realize that what we think are "standards" are to a large degree not set by the men we are trying to attain. We assume that if others are doing it then it is what is required. And of course most of this is not on a totally aware level. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/24 01:43 PM |
| 8 | Low effort on dating appsI agree with what /u/CountTheBees and /u/youllknowwhenitstime on this and here is my addition to what they are saying: Men joke about how all women write the same thing (making us interchangeable and not at all unique). There is nothing about these that screams "I am putting effort in and so should you". Further, a lot of it is about what you want him to do for you (put together furniture or plan the date) I know that you are sending info based on the prompts but consider adding what benefits he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 02:04 PM |
| 4 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?I understand where you are coming from but... My mom is a tough and there were many times as a kid that I wondered why my dad put up with what he did. Now as an adult I respect more that he toughed it out and the fact that my parents are still together. While I don't want their dynamic, it did teach me that marriage is about more than temporary happiness or temporary problems. I'm with my husband for life. I'd bet that both my siblings are also dedicated to a lifetime relationship with their par… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 01:49 PM |
| 9 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Is it possible that he is trying to get a rise out of you for some reason? Some people need you to have a wild reaction. It could be an addiction to high emotions, or perhaps he reads your non-reaction as a lack of caring/love. These are only two suggestions and I can think of other possibilities as well. This isn't a 'you' problem of course but digging in to why he keeps up these bad behaviors may help you determine a best course of action. Personally, the next time he compares you to her, I'd … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 01:41 PM |
| 3 | Does cum make me happy?Right, there is more than it being just about semen but its' also more than just the emotional connection/sex itself. If it was just the connection then there would not be a discernible difference if he pulls out or not and there is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/24 10:53 AM |
| 25 | Does cum make me happy?I feel all around calmer and more blissful/contented when he finishes inside me. I don't get that same feeling if he pulls out or if I go down on him to completion. It's not related to my own orgasm because that usually happens before his. Beyond that it's not something I've paid particular attention to but it is something I've noticed over the years. I'd suspect that the mechanism is more than simply semen in vagina but again, it's not something I've paid enough attention to to say what else is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/24 10:10 PM |
| 27 | Does cum make me happy?I find that this is the case for me personally. I don't know about the long term benefits but I do find there is a difference when he finishes inside vs pulling out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/24 10:00 PM |
| 3 | Having a debate ..about rolesThis is purely a theory on my part but: When cars were initially invented they required strength to both start and drive. Even now, my husband owns a motorcycle with a kickstart and I can't get that going on my best day. So at least at first, it would make sense that driving was masculine at least in the same way that we consider mowing the lawn or taking out the trash to be masculine. It was easier for men with their higher levels of strength than it was for the average woman. Combine that with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/24 05:28 PM |
| 14 | dating a man who is doing 'better' than meThis is probably a bad mentality to have. You don't want to be better than your partner. You need to respect him in order for him to feel loved and if you feel like you have to be better than he is, it will be difficult to cultivate that respect. You are looking for a partnership, his strength against your weaknesses and the reverse. Don't turn dating into a competition. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/24 03:22 PM |
| 3 | I (22F) that my bf (23M) might be manipulative, should I finally go?Fault is a funny thing. The man who touched you while you were sleeping is at fault for touching you. You are at fault for putting yourself in a situation where someone could touch you inappropriately. It was in your bed. You weren't groped on a train or in line for coffee or any other place where you have every right to expect bodily autonomy. But once you let someone into your bed, then you have allowed someone untrustworthy into your private space. You could have prevented this by taking bett… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/24 03:14 PM |
| 18 | I (22F) that my bf (23M) might be manipulative, should I finally go?I don't think it's that simple. She's in an open relationship at her request. She's not sexually attracted to her boyfriend and says he's no good in bed. The assault is her bringing a casual date back to her place and allowing him to sleep in her bed. After sex he touches her in her sleep. In fact, she tends to attract abusive men because she was asking questions here awhile about how to not attract these types but she obviously still engages in risky behaviors by bringing new men back to her pl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 07:29 PM |
| 38 | I (22F) that my bf (23M) might be manipulative, should I finally go?You can break up with your boyfriend if the relationship isn't working out. You don't seem to like him enough anyway. However, your post history indicates that you are a hot mess and perhaps what you really need is to put all the risky casual sex encounters on hold and get your mental health in order before you decide to date again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 04:55 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?swing the other way and cultivate the 'Be the Prize' mindset You know, there is a subtle difference in the language here but I think "be the prize" is probably a good lesson for us all, men and women. "I am the prize" is definite. You are already there, complete and worthy of being won. No effort is required and anyone who doesn't see you as a prize isn't worthy. However, "be the prize" is instructive and fits in with RPW's goals of being the best version of yourself for your desired man / type … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Are my perspectives delusional?Oof. That adds a lot of interesting context to this whole thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 01:40 PM |
| 8 | He’s not planning our weddingThis is an unnecessarily negative view of marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 07:01 PM |
| 3 | RPW vs. Pink Pill: Misconceptions and Understanding the DifferencesI think it has more to do with what is helpful to us. I read AWALT as "all women have the potential to be like that" and in that same vein "all men have the potential to be like that". By understanding ourselves we can rise above our base nature. So we' know, for example, that all men are highly visually stimulated. They are all going to notice the woman on the beach in the string bikini with the balloons on her chest. That doesn't mean that all men will cat call that woman. But if women come in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 03:23 PM |
| 14 | RPW vs. Pink Pill: Misconceptions and Understanding the DifferencesI've seen this issue across the spectrum so I think this is more of a woman probably (or a people problem because I know the men run into similar things but I'm going to say 'women' cause we're on the pink girly sub). Over the years we've seen young women get into relationships with subpar men and you think it is chalked up to youth. Then you will see a 30 something holding on to a downright incompatible man and you think it's because of her age and timeline. You see wives holding onto their hus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 02:41 PM |
| 12 | Are my perspectives delusional?So is this what I deserve? First and foremost, no this is not what you deserve period no caveats. But But I think you broke this relationship with this man and I don't know that it's redeemable. This is the situation that drives men to TRP in the first place. A man is young and with a woman he adores and when she ends it, he doesn't understand what happens. He then goes to the internet and finds other men telling him that "all women are like that" and "she's not yours, it's just your turn". He i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 02:16 PM |
| 5 | Are my perspectives delusional?His “multiple businesses” will likely fail. While I don't disagree with you on this, he's 21 so he's got time to fail a few times while still finding his way into being an entrepreneur. If not for the rest of the story, I don't think that this alone is a reason to end a relationship with a young man. Failure can be a learning experience on the road to success. He's young enough to bounce back and still do well in the long term. But everything else is a mess. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 02:00 PM |
| 6 | Anyone else struggling with a persistent husband after giving birth?I wanted to add my personal experience because what you are saying is exactly how I felt after my first. It was a long labor and a long time pushing. I had a couple tears and was sitting on ice pads for a week after the birth. My six week exam hurt but I got approval that I was all healed up. I was still afraid to have sex and was giving BJs as liberally as I could manage under the sleep deprivation but my husband wanted sex. In the end he kindly but firmly pushed me into at least trying. He was… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 01:21 PM |
| 10 | How did you know your husband was a provider?Wow this is kinda crazy. Did you know him well before you went on a trip to a foreign country on date three? Seems like a huge risk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/24 06:41 PM |
| 4 | how do I (20f) help a customer (33m) feel comfortable in pursuing me?RPW is largely about getting and retaining the relationship period. If a man dates a young woman and breaks up with her because she's immature that is not a good thing from our perspective. We don't want to just get a man, any woman can get a man to sleep with her. We want to keep the man as well. If you are putting yourself in situations where there is a wide gap in maturity that will result in the end of the relationship, that poor vetting and a waste of your time. Can you recognize how having… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 04:21 PM |
| 4 | how do I (20f) help a customer (33m) feel comfortable in pursuing me?Men: We don't care about anything but youth Also Men: Wahh women are immature and are the oldest child in the house. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 03:40 PM |
| 2 | When “whatever you want” isn’t enough?Why did you delete? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/24 01:51 PM |
| 4 | When “whatever you want” isn’t enough?But what does he say when you tell him "i'm stressed and you didn't do the thing you said you would do?" Have you broken down in front of him because you are overwhelmed? What does he say? Whose "job" does he feel like these things are? Does he view them as functions of being a SAHM while you view them as Husband Maintenance Jobs? You describe him as both competent and incompetent. You picked examples that are pretty extreme in their potential for problems but are also fairly unique situations. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/24 01:28 PM |
| 8 | How to politely manage a friend who is a bit of an energy drain when I have a newbornI agree with everyone else about someone needing to set boundaries with this woman but perhaps for this particular occasion: Make a statement on your group chat or where ever that as a stressed out new mom your rule for the event is happy talk only. You want to catch up with everyone but aren't in a headspace to do more than keep it light. And then if it veers off with her or anyone, just put up your hand and say "happy talk please". You could even get your BFF to be the one to do the enforcing … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/24 01:18 PM |
| 5 | When “whatever you want” isn’t enough?It is disrespectful because it's an treating him like he can't handle his shit on his own. Can he? If he can then the problem is your own and you gotta figure out how to let go more. And you are mothering him, or at least managing him. The strategy is to guide him into some completed tasks to make sure he is actually capable of completing the tasks that you are asking of him. (It strikes me from your description that perhaps there could be some undiagnosed adhd going on but I'm no expert). Then … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/24 01:08 PM |
| 14 | When “whatever you want” isn’t enough?I have a suggestion that isn't RPW approved. You are the de facto leader right now so accept that and delegate. Instead of "whatever you think" say things like: "the water heater is broken. I need you to fix it. Please let me know when it's done so I can check it off the list." "The dog needs to be either rehomed or euthanized. Please take care of that for me and let me know the plan. I'm also open to other suggestions" Then drop the "let me know when it's done" part once he gets the hang of han… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/24 12:14 AM |
| 13 | Bf wants to be in full control of meSee, I don't think we can know if she is "that" or not. Even submissive women have boundaries and want to have their voices heard. It's not about having no agency in your life (unless it's a total power exchange but that's the far end of the spectrum and a very specific thing). Not being able to be submissive to any man doesn't mean that she won't be happy following the right man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/24 08:33 PM |
| 12 | Bf wants to be in full control of meAgree. This level of control says to me that he's either got a TPE sort of kink or has been over indulging on the men's content (without quite understanding it's nuance) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/24 08:11 PM |
| 14 | Bf wants to be in full control of meOk so some of these are things that you can work on and some are things that may simply be a step too far. Like he’s taking the time because focus needs to go somewhere else to better us Your partner is his own person and can't and won't be available to you at all time with the same level of attention. It's not unreasonable for him to have time that he needs apart from you and you should have a life outside of him (friends, hobbies, etc) that keeps you busy during these times. Punishing him (goi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/24 08:06 PM |
| 5 | Bf wants to be in full control of meDoes he happen to follow any red pill content online? What content? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/24 07:41 PM |
| 7 | Bf wants to be in full control of meWas he always like this? How old are you both? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/24 07:32 PM |
| 24 | Bf wants to be in full control of meCould you give an example of the sorts of things he is asking that you are struggling with. This post is very vague (and could use some line breaks) which makes it difficult to determine what is actually going on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/24 07:21 PM |
| 9 | Ideas on threesome with future husbandMarriage changed my husband and it surprised me. He was always possessive (men are with women they love) but when we got married I really became his. I was his responsibility. (Having kids with him made him mine more than marriage). All of your hesitations are reasonable and it seems to me that at a minimum it would be worth tabling this fantasy and living as newlyweds for a while before you try something new. You can't know how marriage will change your feelings for him or his for you. I've see… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/24 01:58 PM |
| 12 | Ideas on threesome with future husbandI've had what would be deemed "successful" threesomes. It occurred a few times with different women over about a year period before we had kids. My husband was way more into it than yours and I was game. There were drawbacks though and we were together for something like 8 years at the time. First when I tried to find a woman, he got surprisingly jealous that I was spending time with her without him - which was supposed to have been the game plan. He had had threesomes before and I think he was … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/24 01:23 PM |
| 18 | Ideas on threesome with future husbandMay I suggest that you kick this ball into your soon to be husband's court. Tell him that you are always game for a threesome if he decides that he's interested and for the time being you will leave it as dirty talk. This is in line with having a "male led relationship". It respects his desires (or lack thereof) in the whole thing and it leaves the door open if he does decide that he wants to take it out of fantasy world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/24 01:08 PM |
| 4 | Considering moving cities for my boyfriend?I would only move if YOU wanted to move This was your first sentence. This is absolutely stemming from our "Independent Woman" culture. The idea is that you shouldn't do anything for a man. It should only be for yourself. That's great. But if you do nothing for a man and only for yourself, you end up with no ring. There are exceptions but that is not the rule. He is your boyfriend but he's asking you to commit to him like a wife. Asking to close the gap on an long distance relationship is not be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 07:05 PM |
| 6 | Considering moving cities for my boyfriend?But that is never going to be her case because at worse she goes to another city, where she has a bunch of friends, for two years. Then she moves for school. Her plans already make this a temporary move whether he proposes or not. So she can make a temporary move and potentially gain the guy or she can live for herself and not reach that goal. Being a doormat isn't any good but if you lean too hard into being a "strong independent woman" then a man isn't going to be interested in wife-ing you up… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 01:53 PM |
| 13 | Considering moving cities for my boyfriend?I've moved two times in two years. Yes it isn't fun but this is the rest of your life that you are planning. It sounds like if you close the gap, you may even be engaged or married before it's time to move again which opens up all new possibilities. All the reason to not move to a boyfriends city are moot here. He is ok with you not moving in with him. You have friends in the city. You seem confident that you can find a job in the city. If you go for a second degree then you are already planning… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 01:38 PM |
| 4 | Considering moving cities for my boyfriend?I had a conversation like this with a friend once. "If you are married and you both get jobs on opposite sides of the country, someone loses out. If you are just partnered then both people get to have their jobs on either coast" This guy is 41 and still single. Sometimes you need to make some compromises before marriage in order to get to marriage. This advice will waste time for the OP and has the potential to lose her the man if he gets tired of waiting around to be in the same city with her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 01:03 PM |
| 7 | BF (26M) that I (26F) have been dating for 7 years says he should have more say in the relationship than I do. How would you react?So much this. I also feel like the fact that they were drunk on vacation, in their twenties, with no kids, makes the "drunk" part a big nothingburger. It's hardly a testament to their every day habits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/24 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Need an insight 😫It doesn't matter why he's doing this. You ended things with him and that will forever color anything going forward. He may be trying to get your attention just to get a win. That doesn't mean that a relationship is any more viable now than it was before. Ignore him and stop wasting your energy. It will prevent you from meeting someone better suited. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/24 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Provider mindsetIt's ok to misread someone's intent but you are doubling down and blaming punctuation...on reddit. Probably not worth the emotional energy you are putting into this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/24 08:04 PM |
| 8 | BF (26M) that I (26F) have been dating for 7 years says he should have more say in the relationship than I do. How would you react?The condescension is unnecessary. The OP has stated that she has some hang ups from watching her mother growing up. Imagine this from her partners side. He is carrying the weight in the relationship (OP: He has also “sacrificed” more in our relationship financially and emotionally (as much as I hate to admit it).) and not just financially (OP: By “things”, he means planning, taking care of me & our friends, etc) in fact, what he does say is that it's not about money, it's about her not being the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/24 08:00 PM |
| 6 | BF (26M) that I (26F) have been dating for 7 years says he should have more say in the relationship than I do. How would you react?Respectfully, are you new here? The drunk argument aside, the captain-first mate dynamic (he leads, you follow/are second in command) is pretty much the basis for all advice on this sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/24 06:37 PM |
| 5 | totally different timelines on marriage and it's only bothering me now, how can I proceed?As someone who was with my now husband for six years before we eloped, there is some truth to this but there are a few important factors. My husband introduced me to his friends and family early on. In fact I was the only person outside of his childhood friends who met his dad. Big indicator that he was serious. We lived together. He moved in with me and then we moved together. When we moved together it was not just for him to finish school but he considered the field that I wanted to work in an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 04:17 PM |
| 7 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.You are right. Everyone should follow your list. Everyone will get perfect men who have all of these traits, nothing else is important and nothing should be left out. There is no variability between men (or women) and if there aren't enough men to go around just stay single. Or in short, everyone wants your man. If you can't tell, I'm sort of done debating this with you because you ignore the things I have said to dig in your heels. Best of luck with your man. I'm sure he's flawless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/24 01:24 PM |
| 9 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.I'm unwilling to accept that these standards are universal because I've been here for a really long time and I know that everyone had different qualities that they find important in a man. I know that not every woman is herself high value and able to get a high value man. I am honestly unwilling to accept that there is a universal anything because people are people. Before women were chasing the concept of high value, they were chasing the concept of alpha. If you were here 7 years ago you would… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/24 01:06 PM |
| 6 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.Why is it all or nothing. Life is about trade offs. You might get a very intelligent attorney who is great to you, emotionally stable and reliable but he's not really ambitious and is happy to open a small practice and take enough clients to have a great work life balance. This man is a great match for some woman, not you, but some woman would be happy to snatch him up. I could come up with all sorts of mixes that include many but not all of the qualifications you are looking for. At this point … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/24 12:42 PM |
| 9 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.Being high value has no meaning. You yourself are trying to define it here and your response to me is to say "the only men worth anything are the ones I decide are worth anything". That is fine for YOU but you can't decide what is valuable for other women. I never said anything about your list being bad for you. I said that it's not universal and you can't make a universal list because women have different value systems. i’m okay with fewer men being considered high value. Women need to be picki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/24 12:22 PM |
| 5 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.I understand the point you are getting at but not your reasoning. What traits are conflicting between "husband material" and "father material"? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/24 12:00 AM |
| 5 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.Honestly, I don't like the term "high value man" as I find it generally undefinable which means that it isn't useful for communicating an idea. This list however, isn't terrible as far as qualities that one might look for in a person. She's list a bunch of positive character traits. There really isn't anything that I would consider shallow or not thought out. So if your concern is with the term "high value man" then I sympathize, but if your issue is with the idea that we should know our values … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 10:27 PM |
| 10 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.Wouldn't that be nice. Just as nice as if men ditched rating us on a 1-10 scale. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 09:16 PM |
| 9 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.Ok. So I have been thinking about this and I see that everyone is telling you pretty much the same thing. While I don't think that there is a single list that we can come up with for "traits of a high value man", I do think this is a good list for people to begin to think about what is important to them and that is a conversation worth having. There are traits that we can agree on average demonstrate a man of good character. There will probably be a few things that are nearly universal and then … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 08:53 PM |
| 13 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.How do you account for the fact that there are plenty of really good men who will not meet every single criteria on the list. Or the fact that there are qualities missing from the list that will be very important to some women (but not all). Or that there are qualities on this list that will not be important to all women. High value is a nebulous term because your combination of values is unique to you and is heavily swayed by your upbringing and culture. Even when we used to talk about alpha an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 05:35 PM |
| 13 | How do I become increasingly feminine?You can do a search on the sub as this topic comes up regularly. People have seen you delete two posts on RPWives so you are probably not getting engagement from the regulars who frequent both subs because they aren't interested in wasting their time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 12:14 PM |
| 3 | What Is Your Opinion On 50/50 Relationships?Men do not need to compensate you for the way that biology made you. If you feel this way don't have kids. Further, your way that he should be compensating you is that HE should do more work, HE should pay EVERYTHING and he should be involved with the kid. What do you do? Get pregnant for 9 months, nurse for a year and repeat that one ore time? Then do nothing the rest of your life but coast? You are incredibly entitled and it's clear you don't have a relationship with a man you trust and I'll b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 12:12 PM |
| 4 | How can I understand this man's intention in dating me?I did not say that women are the victims nor did I say that men are at fault. This is what the tragedy of the commons is about. Everyone acts in their own rational self interest and it destroys the commons for everyone. Your self interest is saying "but i wants to have sex" and so you do. Women's self interest is saying "I want this man and sex will get me there" so they do. (Aside: yes women are horny but if a woman is having sex with you she probably wants a relationship with you) Taking n-cou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/24 06:20 PM |
| 12 | He has anime girls on his wallpaperI've been in an on again off again relationship. We thought we were on the path to marriage but we kept breaking up. In the end we broke up for real and married different people and are both much better off for it. The fact that you keep breaking up is not a good sign that the relationship is solid. Listen, if you were 25 then waiting to see what he's going to do would be different, but you aren't, you are 31. It doesn't get easier and the pickings don't get better from here on out. But I unders… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/24 06:13 PM |
| 14 | He has anime girls on his wallpaperFirst: When kids are "maybe" instead of "never" you should plan you life so that you can make the choice to have them. If you chose this man you are choosing to not have kids. Second: Based on everything in these comments, you have a problem. You want to be the one to fix him and it's not going to happen. Fixer upper men are never a safe bet but sometimes if you are young enough you can grow together. He is grown. He is not changing. I say this because he's in my age range and the age range of m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/24 05:35 PM |
| 18 | He has anime girls on his wallpaperThere is an excellent chance that you will struggle to have kids with this man. Men's health and age matter when it comes to conceiving a child. That's before you get into actually raising them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/24 05:14 PM |
| 6 | How can I understand this man's intention in dating me?You realize that your behavior is a part of the reason that you can't find women who fit the criteria. I'm not moralizing. People can do what they wish with regards to sex and dating but but It's a tragedy of the commons sort of situation. When women are competing with each other for men's attention and men are asking for sex, women will have sex with men that they think are worth holding onto. It's a logical strategy because if they don't then someone else will. So do you, but recognize that wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/24 04:29 PM |
| 3 | Am I Being Unreasonable or Manipulated?You are worried about your career and that is all well and good and not unreasonable. However I think you should be open to the idea that when you do have a kid, your entire approach to work may change. Not every woman wants to be a full time mom and you might not but having a baby in your arms changes things. Some women have a really difficult time going back to work. Some take a lower tiered job so they can spend more time focusing on the kids. Some don't have that option and will be a little … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/24 11:25 PM |
| 1 | To B or to DD: Where do you draw a line for your partner’s preference regarding your appearance?Aww do you feel good and moral now for shaming the bad bad man? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/24 11:14 PM |
| 11 | Should I be ok with getting married only in a church, without getting a marriage license?There are scenarios requiring divorce that are no one's fault. A friend of a friend divorced her husband because after years together and several adult children, he met his birth mother and it sent him off the deep end. She held out for a while (a while being measured in years) but, it became untenable for her to stay. You really never know what can happen that forces the dissolution of the marriage even if you don't want it to end. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/24 04:16 PM |
| 12 | Should I be ok with getting married only in a church, without getting a marriage license?It is trust on either side. You (your family) don't trust that he will take care of you in a divorce (or whatever other legal protections marriage offers). He doesn't trust that you won't take advantage of him in a divorce. Whether or not you trust him is your decision. It's not wrong to want to protect yourself. But you must be clear that HE is protecting himself by "not wanting the government involved". | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/24 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Who is wrong here?Putting aside bad behavior on anyone's part: Are you ok? Have you been screened for PPD or PPA? Because it's not really normal for a mom to try to give away her new baby at 9 months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/24 01:05 PM |
| 6 | ”women expire after 25” no bro ur just into minors.You have to be able to behave in a way that they won't know the difference. If you aren't jaded and you aren't holding your past against your present bf then sure, no issues. Experience can absolutely leave a mark on your psych though, depending on what that experience is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 08:10 PM |
| 8 | ”women expire after 25” no bro ur just into minors.I don't think you get to decide what is normal for men. But I also think you are conflating internet trolls with all men. Internet trolls are hoping to get a rise out of you. And they DID get rise out of you when you aren't even the women they are insulting so it WORKS. Internet trolls have called me so many things and you just have to laugh and disregard because usually it's either not true or they don't know if it's true (I can't tell you how many times my 5'4 110lb self has been called 'fat' … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 08:08 PM |
| 14 | ”women expire after 25” no bro ur just into minors.Women call men who they disagree with incels. I've seen a lot of this. Men call women they disagree with old and used up. It's the internet. You are taking it too much to heart as though this is a reflection of people's real life persona. It's not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 07:24 PM |
| 12 | ”women expire after 25” no bro ur just into minors.I'd decline a man younger than me absolutely hands down. Women tend to like men similarly aged or older (by a few years or a lot of years depending on the woman). Men tend to like women who are similarly aged or younger. That doesn't mean they will get women who are considerably younger but if we are talking strictly about what gets their dicks hard, then yeah a beautiful youthful 20 something will get their dicks hard. And if a man is looking to have kids then they stand a better chance with a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 07:23 PM |
| 17 | ”women expire after 25” no bro ur just into minors.Women call men incels. In the same way that men default to insulting our looks because it's bothersome, women default to insulting men's sexual prowess because it's bothersome. If someone is trying to insult you, they don't care if it's hypocritical. They just care to hit your buttons. This obviously hits your buttons as well as the buttons of many women. It is irrelevant that they also will age because they are trying to bother you so whatever bothers you is what they say. It really has nothing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 07:19 PM |
| 60 | ”women expire after 25” no bro ur just into minors.Liking women in their early 20s does not make a man "into minors" Men AND women on the internet can be bitter trolls. You DO have a peak in both looks and fertility. It is up to you whether the decline is slow and graceful or hard and fast. Are you looking for advice or a discussion or what? The sub doesn't allow rants so I'm unclear what you hope to get out of this post? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 06:36 PM |
| – | Jealous about his ExYour troubles aren't going to be fixed by talking to online communities every time your anxiety flares Particularly because there will ALWAYS be people in the online communities who agree with you and cause you to double down on your anxiety. These are the OMG GIRL LEAVE HIM YESTERDAY types who think they are helping but don't realize that this more of a reflection of your anxiety than of your relationship. Going online may give you a lot of advice but it will also lend fuel to the anxiety fire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Was this cheating?Gently, because I am really not trying to be a bitch here, making mistakes only teaches you what doesn't work. Life rarely exists in binary. It's cool to say "hey this didn't work for me" but that doesn't automatically mean that you have solid advice on what will work | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/24 11:35 PM |
| 6 | Has your husband always made sure you are / will be okay (financially) even before marriage, and after marriage? Basically taken care of you and truly cared about youI think the millennials, for better or worse, got different messaging when we were teens/twenty somethings. This new "trad" movement seems to come with entitlement and naivety about men's side of the equation as well as what is realistic to expect of your life (ie: what you were saying about the imagery/luxury that appears attainable). Not that TV gave us realistic views but I didn't know anyone growing up who said they were looking for a man to provide for them exclusively, there always seemed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/24 07:57 PM |
| 4 | Has your husband always made sure you are / will be okay (financially) even before marriage, and after marriage? Basically taken care of you and truly cared about youHe's a bitter man who doesn't really belong on RPW. Not sure why you think it's a good idea to defend him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/24 04:39 PM |
| 4 | Has your husband always made sure you are / will be okay (financially) even before marriage, and after marriage? Basically taken care of you and truly cared about youIt does not exist anymore or Simps do it all the time Don't catch an attitude, it's not my fault you aren't communicating clearly. That often happens when you get emotional about a topic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/24 04:06 PM |
| 14 | Has your husband always made sure you are / will be okay (financially) even before marriage, and after marriage? Basically taken care of you and truly cared about youI know a man who is in the middle of a divorce and has now bought his soon to be ex wife two houses (she didn't like the first one) after they jointly agreed to sell the family home. He is still going to take care of the problems that she's running into with the house and watch her dog when she goes away for a long weekend. He's also been banging a girl 20 years younger than he is for the last four years and his soon to be ex is unaware this is going on but it's the reason that he left her and s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/24 04:03 PM |
| 6 | Has your husband always made sure you are / will be okay (financially) even before marriage, and after marriage? Basically taken care of you and truly cared about youSo does it exist anymore or doesn't it? Your two comments contradict each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/24 03:33 PM |
| 3 | What Working with Executive Men Has Taught Me About Submissiveness as a StrategyI tend to end up with men that are high on dominance and don’t like being told no, It's all preference and trade offs. My husband is like this (hence the story) but I think it stems more from the fact that he has deeply thought through <insert decision> AND taken into account what I want/like within the given constraints. Being told no or shut down without thought is taken as a lack of trust or disrespect. And that makes sense. It's basically saying "I know you, I know you think deeply about thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/24 05:33 PM |
| 6 | What Working with Executive Men Has Taught Me About Submissiveness as a StrategyI actually do this with my husband sometimes. This past week we were looking at cabinets for our never ending kitchen reno. He picked ones that made sense to him and my immediate gut reaction was that I wanted to throw them out the window and cry (hormone much). We went back and forth about the reason he thought they were the best option and I was so against them in that moment that I just said "I'll think about it". It wasn't 'yes' just to say yes and be agreeable. It also wasn't 'no' because I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/24 04:47 PM |
| 3 | Was this cheating?Glad to see someone call this out. The original comment has a post history indicating that she is "carrying the weight of her marriage" which is not going to lead to solid RPW advice. The OP jumps on it because it gives her some way to feel in control regardless of whether it's good advice that will help her be happy (it's not). Watching this drama unfold has become exhausting. And if she follows this, I know a man who will be even more exhausted by the hoops he has to jump through for his not-y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/24 11:26 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend doesn't want me at his girl best friend's birthday partyThis was a really bitchy response. Not sure why you felt it appropriate to snark at someone who disagrees with your opinion. And this all IS your opinion even if you did a lot of drugs and were a party girl in the past, that just means that you self selected for other partiers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 06:40 PM |
| 5 | Was this cheating?Relationships subs, are really susceptible to the "BREAK UP NOW" people. People read your pain and they get angry on your behalf and they want to punish the "bad" partner. There is rarely nuance or a measured approach to YOUR LIFE taken by these people. They want the quick fix of seeing the bad man punished and you vindicated. It doesn't matter what the situation is, it doesn't take into account any nuance of your own issues within the dynamic. It's a quick fix that makes them feel good to shoot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 05:39 PM |
| 16 | My boyfriend doesn't want me at his girl best friend's birthday partyYeah, whenever an ex is crazy, even legitimately crazy, you need to ask "who made her that way". Not saying that there aren't independently crazy women but it's a vetting question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 04:30 PM |
| 26 | My boyfriend doesn't want me at his girl best friend's birthday partyWhen you discuss this or something like it, take the focus off of trust. Tell him instead that your feelings are hurt and you are feeling left out. He can't argue with these points and he can't be upset that "you don't trust him". As for this situation, it is a vetting opportunity. You now know that he doesn't have boundaries around male/female relationships. You know that he's not willing to step out of line to bring you along. And since he's obviously going to this thing, you will see whatever… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 04:01 PM |
| 5 | Was this cheating?If it's related to PMS then perhaps you need to talk to a doc or naturopathic doc about your hormone levels. You could even start with a sub like r/pmdd to see what sorts of supplements they might recommend for balancing hormones. This isn't a way to live your life where once a month you get massive bouts of anxiety or existential dread about your relationship. This doesn't have to be your normal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 03:37 PM |
| 14 | Was this cheating?Happy marriages can and do exist. I am not sure that, at least at this point, a happy marriage can exist for you. But if you are going into a relationship while telling yourself "relationships can't be happy" then you have a nice little self fulfilling prophecy here. You were thinking about turning off sex (relationship destroying) you are going back to something that happened in the past to dwell on (relationship destroying). These ideas are coming from you. You dont' believe happy relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 03:30 PM |
| 18 | Was this cheating?Marriage is marriage and divorce is divorce. You are making a commitment to stay with this man for your lifetime and you should only go into it if you intend to honor it. You aren't more married if you do it in the church or the courthouse. You are agreeing to the same terms and if you are going into a marriage thinking that you'll take the "less rigid" approach DON"T GET MARRIED. It sounds like you are and have been trying to blow this up. Whether this is due to your dysfunction or his, you are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 03:21 PM |
| 5 | My partner’s behaviour is confusing me and is always criticalBecause you have no savings or prospects, you are feeling trapped. This is going to make it harder to make a decision. It makes it hard to stand up for yourself because you will fear for your wellbeing (even if you don't fear him physically). You will have a hard time deciding if you want to leave because you have so very many steps before you can get out on a good footing. Take the focus off of him for a while. Give him space to do his thing and you do yours. You dont' have to hold a grudge but… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/24 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Should I study/work in different fields to meet people I’m more compatible with?I am lucky enough to not experience what you did with coworkers because my boss is likeminded enough and even though our clients are all over the map, I don't have to debate with them (or see them very frequently). However the older I get the more exhausted I get by the direction that my field (personal finance) is going. Everything is about the companies and regulators covering their butts. I open the company portal and they are celebrating some special interest group of another instead of givi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/24 03:14 PM |
| 6 | Are you honest about dating other men?So masculine men are no longer competitive and interested in winning? I'm so glad I'm out of the dating game. I am not advocating a strategy here, but just as "women make rules for betas and break them for alphas' so do men break rules for Staceys. And the reality of RP strategy is that it is amoral. That doesn't mean immoral, it means that we recommend what works. Yes if a man catches you lying to him he may feel betrayed and possibly break things off. It is a risk. And with any risk you weigh … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 06:37 PM |
| 5 | Are you honest about dating other men?Congratulations. It's going on 17 years that I've been with my husband. I didn't do anything you suggested and still have a great relationship. Your way is not the only way, not even the best way but at least you aren't a single woman giving advice that she thinks might work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 05:44 PM |
| 5 | Are you honest about dating other men?But the reality is that people make concessions all the time when they are dating. The fewer women a man has access to, the more his ideals go out the window. The comment above is filled with pride. I agree with that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Are you honest about dating other men?If a man started expecting my fidelity from the first date, he'd be out. If a man thought that he had the right to my whereabouts after a few dates then sorry, I'm not interested in you. But honestly, men cave to these things all the time. You want to believe that you are going to stand up for your boundaries but women offer their attention and the plans go right out the window. But I bet this post made you puff up your chest and feel good didn't it. :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 04:47 PM |
| 4 | Are you honest about dating other men?Are you married? If you are married then great, your advice worked for you. This is very high maintenance and will turn off many good men. It would be nice to know if it has actually led to a proposal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 04:39 PM |
| 1 | I know 50/50 in marriage is bad, but I’m having trouble understanding what that really is::shrug:: I didn't marry for money. I married a man I respected and was impressed by. It's worked for me. I think people are foolish to put the focus solely on money. But you do you. You and I will never agree so it's probably best that we don't interact. :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Meeting my man’s sexual needs and my own emotional needsLike u/arknemesis00 is suggesting my husband and I engage in some roleplaying in our sex life. It has zero to do with wanting other people and is just something that can add to sex. We have sex pretty darned frequently and have been for the last 17 years. My husband is the man that made me never look at another man and something like cheating or an open relationship would be incredibly unfulfilling for me, he's the best I've ever been with. So yes based on my experience, you are wrong, so very v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/24 10:40 AM |
| 21 | Anyone else petrified of losing their looks?This is not typical or healthy to dwell on. I'm near enough to your age that I know I am aging and not at peak beauty anymore. I take care of myself and I won't say that physically aging makes me happy (especially when it hurts 🤪). What you are ruminating on is something else. You are worrying about problems where none exist or are even likely to exist. Is your life so dull that this is what your brain has to focus on? Do not borrow trouble. And if this is a recurring thought and you are going b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/24 10:25 AM |
| 8 | Is your man your biggest emotional support?What does any of this mean? What does it look like to have him regulate your emotions? What does it mean for you to do it? What is a typical problem that he tells you "it is what it is"? What is emotional labor? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/24 10:19 AM |
| 13 | Is feminine and masculine energy toxic.There are some aspects of femininity/masculinity that come out of personality testing (Big 5). So for example, women tend to be more agreeable (Agreeableness. Agreeableness is the general concern for social harmony. Agreeable individuals value getting along with others. They are generally considerate, kind, generous, trusting and trustworthy, helpful, and willing to compromise their interests with others.) And so you will see traits that fall under this umbrella being deemed 'feminine' in nature… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/24 03:12 PM |
| 16 | How Do You Know if You Have Found a Man with "Matching Luggage?"I doubt this guy with multiple DUIs and is still married is going to be able to go out there and find another girl in their 40s who is a size 2 who wants him… FTFY I don't believe the OP is real because this whole thing beggars belief if it were coming from a 20 year old. Still, going by all her statements, I see no reason to assume that it's weight and not some other third option (he's married and playing, she's got personality issues, something else) that is causing this not to work out. And I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/24 05:24 PM |
| 9 | How Do You Know if You Have Found a Man with "Matching Luggage?"Yes. I recognized (in my head) that height has a lot to do with it and I'm small so I'm real bad with size. I'd be more inclined to take her word if she wasn't also stressing about her 3 "+" partner count at 46 and how even a felon wouldn't date her. When you get into that sort of hyperbolic language, it calls what you say into question. IMO anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/24 04:04 PM |
| 17 | How Do You Know if You Have Found a Man with "Matching Luggage?"He's not going to marry you. I have a friend who went through this. She started seeing someone before he was divorced. It's been 3 years and the divorce is pending still. This is not a situation to trust and you are being delusional about this relationship. You have been together a few months. You moved in very quickly. He's still married. He asked to marry you in an insanely short amount of time but it's irrelevant because bigamy is illegal. This baggage is so mismatched that... oh I don't know… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/24 03:32 PM |
| 38 | How Do You Know if You Have Found a Man with "Matching Luggage?"Is a size 8 fat now? Currently I am the provider but he is stepping up at my insistence. and asked me to marry him but is now backtracking Unless your weight went up after you started dating, then it's unlikely to be the cause of the backtracking. Plus he can't get married now anyway since his divorce isn't finalized. Your description of him hits so many typical red flags that I have a hard time believing you even see him as a viable relationship candidate. You are either: 1. leaving out a lot o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/24 03:20 PM |
| 6 | Well.. this is easier said than done! Whew.It is likely the attitude that living together is a trial run for marriage that contributes to the statistics. I joked with my husband this weekend that he didn't know but we were married from the moment he moved into my apartment. I think that mentality is why we didn't split not because I understood that he wasn't going to clean a bathroom and he understood that I will leave all my clothes on THAT CHAIR in the bedroom for the rest of our lives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/24 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Women who are provided for by their husbands, how did you / he ensure you'd be okay no matter what?So you didn't bother to read more than the title huh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/24 04:24 PM |
| 6 | Why men are so jealous ?Men's jealousy tends to be worse over physical straying and women's over emotional straying. I wrote a paper on this for college in the aughts, it's hardly new information. You are being a jerk here and I'm not really sure if it's because you don't like the words she used or if you don't understand that she's not particularly incorrect. Either way it's not a good look. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/24 06:00 PM |
| 8 | STFU gone too far? Field report/ advice/ general discussionThere are a couple things that stand out to me from personal experience and the experiences of those close to me. First: STFU does not fix all problems. Over the long haul, you must be able to communicate with your partner. You don't want to avoid conflict to the degree that you are no longer engaging with your person. It is more about picking your battles. You don't want to argue about the trash every week. That's a moment where you STFU and deal with the fact that you have different ideas of w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/24 04:12 PM |
| 5 | I know 50/50 in marriage is bad, but I’m having trouble understanding what that really ismissed the point of the question Curiosity. Many men would tell you that they wish to be seen than more than their wallet. Personally, I am attracted to things other than money so money is not something I prioritize. It is rare for a woman to admit that she is prioritizing money over everything else, though of course financial security is something that we all consider in some form or another. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 07:57 PM |
| 7 | I know 50/50 in marriage is bad, but I’m having trouble understanding what that really isIs the only way you see your man as a protector / hero if he is the sole breadwinner? I get that this is your ideal (and I suspect a bit cultural) so I won't push back on it from a practicality standpoint, but I am curious if you hold the belief that a man's biggest contribution to the dynamic is money? Can he be a protector/hero/respected if he isn't able to provide financially? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 07:04 PM |
| 52 | I know 50/50 in marriage is bad, but I’m having trouble understanding what that really isI don't think the problem is the split itself. If you are aiming for complete equality, you will inevitably miss the mark AND you are likely to be constantly monitoring each other to make sure what you are doing is fair. You aren't equal and it's hard to determine what is equal. IMO true 50/50 would mean that you each cook and do dishes every other night and you both mow the lawn and take out the trash every other week. Most people are making up "equality" as they go along and it is when someone… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 02:25 PM |
| 5 | Feminine Role Models in Media?...women will self-insert, becoming that heroic character. If the lead character is portrayed as flawed or unattractive... I agree with you here. I vaguely recall reading that this very thing went into the creation of female characters for romance novels. Something about the characters were required to be sort of bland but without major flaws because the reader wants to self insert and so the characters must be relatable enough to do so. The character was rewritten to make her the sympathetic pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Discussion - dead vs active bedroom - what really is the normSo i put up this question and then disappeared but I've been thinking about this answer for a few days now. I think that the "wanting to want" is a concept that we don't talk about but is probably more important than we realize. I learned this from my mom when I was younger. She would talk about how she "wanted" a someparticularyear Ford Mustang. This was a thing she'd mention offhand occasionally through my childhood. At some point she explained to me that she doesn't actually want to have the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 02:45 PM |
| 5 | Bait N Switched by a Dylan...Right! I feel like a giant whore around here these days with all the "no sex until the ink is dry on the marriage certificate and your wedding party has walked you to the bedroom to ensure that your marriage is consummated" There are many reasons to not have sex too early for your own benefit and protection none of those reasons include "he won't leave me if I wait". sigh I'm old. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?Prostitution existing isn't what we are talking about with the dating market in any era.. Stay on topic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/24 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?Let me guess you read Sex at Dawn and think you are so smart now | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/24 10:52 AM |
| 3 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)Is forced abuse a real thing? It sounds like at the very least you are an accessory to abuse. My husbands mother took her kids away from their father and moved across the country. She thought she was protecting them but they don't speak to her now while they do speak to dad. Your perception isn't the only one that matters here. But you do you. There is no possible way for this to end badly for you. 🙃 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 04:19 PM |
| 1 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)I asked because my work is in personal finance but in the US. I don't know how alimony and day work in Spain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 03:59 PM |
| 2 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)What country are you in if you dont' mind my asking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?Then why are you here? Just to argue with what everyone else is saying? Why bother? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?That won't get you far on this sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 09:02 PM |
| 4 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?You can have your beliefs. What is unnecessary is the condescending attitude darling. I will say responsible men exist Yes and the OP can't know if hers is one or not without more vetting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 08:59 PM |
| 7 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?They really want to hold on to any illusion that makes them feel good No. This is an absurd take away. We live in an era when sex is easy and plentiful. Move away from RPW and couples are having sex to establish relationships. Now, we don't recommend doing that here because there ARE men who are happy to play the field and are not interested in a long term relationship. The OP here has already had sex. She isn't protecting herself, her partner count, her health. She already had sex so she is una… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 08:50 PM |
| 8 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5 years, 3 kids)Ah ok. So you are just looking for validation not actual help. I'll step away then because that's not my thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Decoding Your Man's Love Language Through His MBTIThat's how far from my comfort zone I've ventured lol. LOL. That's because extroverts are just exhausting! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 06:30 PM |
| 6 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5 years, 3 kids)In 13.5 years he has never physically abused me, but during verbal fights (which started 2 years ago) he has used the B word against me several times. I'm asking about this. It sounds like the slapping incident is part of a greater picture of issues between the two of you. It is specifically noteworthy that it occurred around the issue of his child respecting him if he has been feeling disrespect from you for several years prior. The slap isn't great but you spend the rest of the post talking ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 06:29 PM |
| 9 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5 years, 3 kids)While I understand that you are here because of the slapping incident, it seems like this goes back to whatever happened 2+ years ago when he started calling you names during arguments. What in your opinion is the cause of that shift? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 06:08 PM |
| 4 | Decoding Your Man's Love Language Through His MBTIN vs S can make a big difference in love expression imo. N types, in particular INxx types, tend to feel "different", "out of place", and will place a heavier weight on feeling a "deeper" intellectual connection. This is an interesting observation. I mentioned on the last thread that many (if not most) of my very close friends fall into "The Rationals". In fact, the three people that stayed in my life the longest (from middle/high school onward) were NTs, as is my husband and a few women that I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 05:37 PM |
| 5 | Decoding Your Man's Love Language Through His MBTII can relate to this (at least parts) for both myself (INTP) and my husband (INTJ). I will educate myself on you and learn how you operate. I will take pride in you, boasting about your accomplishments even before my own. I have absolutely seen my husband do these things. He prides himself on knowing me and paying attention to what I want. He's made some incorrect assumptions over the years because (as best I can tell) he would prefer to know what I want rather than ask what I want. I've also ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI dont' blame men who check out of the whole marriage thing. I am in favor of marriage and I believe the whole "strong families are the building blocks of a functional society" but I've encountered enough men over the years who have had those families ripped away from them and it's (understatement incoming) no good. But you are right that we basically hold each other hostage. Good relationships will feed off of each other. One person doing their best encourages (should encourage) their partner t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/24 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?Something I found that helps me, absent any seduction from him, was to carve out time pre-sex to get myself pretty. This can range anywhere from showering and fixing my hair to doing full make up like I'm going out. The act of standing in the mirror and making myself feel good and sexy helps to jump start the desire for sex even if he is skipping step 1. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/24 03:41 PM |
| 7 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?Yes the idea that women marry "their second choice" or "a beta bucks that they aren't attracted to" is black and white thinking that doesn't really play out in any reality I've seen. Typically couples start marriage very into each other. If nothing else the excitement of the whole thing can give a new relationship energy boost to a relationship (from what I've seen). Something happens down the road in sexless marriages, I don't believe it's a problem at the onset. The story is he doesn't do this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/24 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?This is a bit of a tautology no? If the sex is good then the sex is good :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/24 07:52 PM |
| 5 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?Why the attitude? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/24 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingIt's a constant source of confusion. It goes something like this: Men want sex and there are a few options to get that. Women want commitment and marriage is the highest level of commitment so that is the dominant strategy. Marriage is a valid goal for a man who has gone through TRP bootcamp but there are a lot of disadvantages for modern men who marry (this is mostly because of the risk of divorce not the risk of marriage itself). LTRs are a valid goal for an RPW but there are disadvantages for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/24 05:43 PM |
| 14 | Does he have relationship trauma?Even if it wasn't his lack of commitment, if he doesn't know why the relationship ended, that isn't a good sign. Things were going wonderfully and she just ended it out of nowhere? That's so unlikely it beggars belief. He should understand what her issues were, whether he finds them valid or not. If he can't talk about what went wrong, then he will likely repeat the same mistakes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/24 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI mean, RP men say "dont' get married" and RP women say "only get married" and then both focus on the relationship rather than the marriage as it's own institution. I struggle with the word "love" because I've never not felt that for my husband and we have been together something like 17 years now. We have certainly had hardships but I've never hated him or even not loved him. I get what you are saying though, it just seems to be a different approach to marriage than my personal experience. I've… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/24 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI always remember the neighbor woman grown up who said "you have to really love the man you marry because some days you will look at him sleeping in bed and think: i could smother you with a pillow right now". I'm not sure "love" is the right word but I know what you mean and I agree. If you think that life is always going to be the high of 'love' or 'infatuation' or whatever it is that we feel in the early stages, then you will be disappointed with the ebb and flow of life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Giving up on good men existing due to hearing so many bad experiences irl or online, do they even exist? I also need advice on how to stop being so *dumb* letting my feelings & attachment control meNo no, it's to ignore the comments and delete the post obviously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/24 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingMy experience has been that the crushes were ephemeral In high school I remember a friend describing it as "a breeze blows through the window and you think, i like this person now". I believe the random, non-relationship between the breeze and getting a crush is about the way that it happens at that age :-P. Ephemeral indeed. The crushes did occur more when the relationship was struggling. I think this is what I am ultimately suggesting. Hypergamy is neither good nor bad, it's all about how you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/24 03:33 PM |
| 7 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI'm honestly curious-- There were problems in the marriage. But compatibility-wise they were actually well suited. By the end of a decade-ish long relationship it had spiraled into the ground. She did the nagging harpy wife thing and he did the passive aggressive man thing. I just used hiking as a very shortened short hand here. The appeal was someone who was out and active. However her husband went to the gym, went out with her in the city and was all around better on paper than Mr. Outdoorsy. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/24 03:27 PM |
| 4 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey Branching:-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingYes. I agree with all of this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 05:49 PM |
| 7 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingWell monkey branching is an aspect of hypergamy, there is a cause and effect going on there. Hypergamy doesn't have to lead to monkey branching but you don't jump from one relationship to another if you don't think you are getting a better deal out of the new relationship. And yes, eventually you do need to find the right person and stop. A young woman who is constantly relationship hopping is probably on a bad path. That doesn't mean that it's NEVER the right decision. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 05:49 PM |
| 13 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingIt's actually not a financial issue. The definition used in the social sciences deals with socioeconomics but RP was never super concerned with that aspect of it. Most RP men from a decade ago were trying to NOT be "beta bucks". They didn't want to be the guy chosen for his finances, they wanted to be the guy chosen for his sexual prowess. It's the insertion of the trad movement into RPW that has put such an intense focus on finances. I'd also argue that since we acknowledge that men and women a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 05:42 PM |
| 16 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingThat's a good one. I also like to think in terms of being content rather than happy. Happy is fleeting and can turn into looking for the next thing and the next thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 05:23 PM |
| 20 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingAnd, well, sometimes it IS better to break up. Coming back to add - Hypergamy has always been a topic that interested me because the men do hate it so much but they call it a drive that women have. With RP's partial evo psych origins, this indicates that there is a reason that this drive both exists and prevailed over time. So we have to recognize that sometimes it's going to steer us in the right direction. I wrote this thinking about a friend who left her very good and decent husband for Mr. O… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 05:22 PM |
| 17 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingRP says that hypergamy IS monogamy because a woman is always looking to secure her best single option. RP would assume that if given the option, the woman would leave her husband for the affair partner. Of course, the actual social sciences can't nail down human behavior 100% and RP is at it's core, crowd sourced experiences given voice. Nothing is ever going to be entirely accurate for all people. But the hypothetical woman is getting something from her AP that she isn't getting from her marria… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 04:34 PM |
| 6 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingAre the pros the qualities... Yes this is clearer than what I wrote but you've gotten my intent. You want a man with the most qualities you need and want and the best values match. Ideally his flaws (which there will be) will be ones that you can accept and live with if he never changes. And actually, just yes overall. You put actionable vetting questions to my chaotic rambling here. Thanks for that. :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 04:22 PM |
| 7 | Marrying a man who's not taller than youYeah, I don't know if it's something she will be able to change. That she is feeling envious isn't a good sign. But I do think she's naive to believe that she's just going to find another man who is as great as she claims this guy is and he'll be her perfect height. She can possibly get "tall" (though again, I'm a little curious what that means to her - big difference if they are both 5'2 vs both 5'10) but she'll likely give up something else to get that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 03:41 PM |
| 25 | Marrying a man who's not taller than youAttraction is important but so is a man with a good character who wants to be with you in a committed relationship. This: But then another part of me is like "there are plenty of guys out there, I'm sure there's someone else who's got a beautiful heart and who also happens to be taller than me." And I don't want to marry out of desperation/feeling like there's not a lot of good men out there who meet my physical preferences. Simply isn't true. You don't say how tall you are or what height you ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 02:51 PM |
| 3 | MBTI: The sixth love language?Pick the lesser of two evils Pick the greater of two evils Marry and I/ENTJ and let them decide. Choice two and three may have overlapping results | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/24 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..I know right! She's an uber liberal vegan who does not agree with hunting. Husband brought up the overpopulation of deer and how that's not really a net good for anyone and her solution is to give birth control to deer. The scary part is that she's a PhD in like biochemical engineering. It's not the most off putting thing she's said/done but it's up there. Thankfully she now lives on the other side of the country and I don't have to interact with her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/24 10:46 PM |
| 2 | Lesson learnt after breakupWhy isn't it a problem to have no goals in life? It doesn't make a bad person but it makes a bad partner if you have goals (like marriage and a family) and they do not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/24 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..Well then we could go back to at-fault divorce. That would have been a legal deterrent to spousal infidelity. Otherwise, you remind me of a woman I knew who wanted to give birth control to deer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/24 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..Some mod needs to ban you friend, you don't belong in this sub | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/24 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..The last one was a married dude. "I was promiscuous but my wife told me she'd leave me so now I'm monogamous." Yeah because you didn't know the expectation of marriage if she didn't mention that | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/24 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..The funniest part to me is that he would marry a super atractive guy. He doesn't even realize that the women who put up with this are doing it for a lifestyle more than because they are so attracted to their man. I would even venture a guess that women that allow him to cheat are the ones who are less attracted to the man and are thus willing to out source some of the sex | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/24 03:03 PM |
| 3 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..Ah yes the land of "as long as we have enough laws, people won't do bad things" | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/24 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..It's not and you probably don't understand women enough to give advice here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/24 12:50 PM |
| 5 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..This is the second time in a week that someone suggested that simply having stated boundaries will prevent a partner from cheating. I'm blown away. Truly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/24 12:46 PM |
| 11 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..You have no idea what you would do as a woman. Your hormones, your body, your risks and risk tolerance and the way your brain works would all be different. This is you being a dude and telling women what you'd want them to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/24 11:57 PM |
| 2 | MBTI: The sixth love language?I'm not going throw any downvotes your way but it was my husband who got me to take the MBIT the first time. I'd never heard of it and he was curious as to how i tested. And free_breakfast is a man as well last I checked. So this may just be a you thing and not a man thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/24 08:09 PM |
| 2 | MBTI: The sixth love language?will typically look to and serve the best interest of their loved one's before their own This is definitely at least close to how we approach our relationship. I suspect that in part comes not from our MBIT but the fact that we are two first children which I think gives us feelings of responsibility towards others (in this case each other) But I completely understand how shared NT makes for super natural communication lol. My childhood best friend is INTP and we get each other fairly naturally I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/24 07:22 PM |
| 2 | MBTI: The sixth love language?our idiosyncrasies and everything are so intertwined We were discussing this last night. We've spent so long working under the philosophy of "I work to be the best person I can be for you and you work to be the best person you can be for me" that there isn't a way to compare the relationship to others. RPW principals would work in any (most) relationships, but we couldn't just swap each other out with another partner and expect the new relationships to look the same. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/24 05:15 PM |
| 5 | MBTI: The sixth love language?I've always felt like our souls would be the same color. I'm not sure how else to describe it. I would not ever have used the color language but I think know what you mean. Initially I was just drawn to my husband and could not have articulated why. Over the years I've told him that I was created to be his wife because we are so well matched. I don't believe in soul mates but my husband is someone I immediately clicked with and that has only deepened over time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/24 04:35 PM |
| 4 | Red pill friends?Just be aware that the mods won't let you advertise it on here. There is a rule about that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/24 01:48 PM |
| 3 | MBTI: The sixth love language?Gosh its' been so long since I've looked up the MBIT that I don't think I remember the specifics details of our types. But I am an INTP and he is an INTJ and we work well together. He is much more decisive in his thinking whereas I can be more flexible and ambiguous in mine. It certainly makes the leader/first mate dynamic easier to lean into. I need some one to impose some structure on me or I'd (happily) meander my way through life. I have just enough "J" to not get bogged down or drive him cr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/24 01:46 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?You uh, know that I'm not trying to convince you of anything. I'm approaching the housing/rent issue as a practical matter. Money is my field. I wish you the best in this relationship going forward. Good bye. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/24 01:31 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?Also, if you cared to look, you would see that the majority of the responses strongly advise against living together. Yes, I have read all the comments on the thread. A long gone mod taught me about using the comment view for the sub and so I've always read it that way which shows everything that is happening in very quick fashion. That's how I've seen that you don't ask questions for people who say "don't" but you do ask or push back on people who say "do" which leads me to believe that you hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/24 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?I think at this point the OP is arguing with people here as proxies for her boyfriend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/24 08:19 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?You are right that people will change across a lifetime but there are a few things that might come up prior to marriage that you wouldn't know unless you are more closely tied together. I'm specifically thinking about a man with a pornography (or other) addiction or who is having an affair. Now these can be hidden even with someone you live with but they are certainly easier to hide when you live apart. There is also a matter of becoming complacent in a relationship. Moving in together is much m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/24 04:21 PM |
| 7 | Ask what he thinks is attractive…it may surprise you…In my experience, once you get outside of RP influencer types, it is not promiscuous men who are knocking promiscuous women. It's specifically men with lower partner counts that don't like that they can't find women who share their values. I think you are reading into this incorrectly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/24 03:53 PM |
| 6 | Ask what he thinks is attractive…it may surprise you…I don't think it's hypocritical to realize that you can't get over something. It would be hypocritical if he said "it's ok for me but not for you" but even then RP recognizes that men and women view sex differently. To be hypocritical the starting premise would have to be that we are all the same. But you are also assuming that he holds himself to a different standard which is not evident from /u/sunshyneshanny 's comment | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/24 03:36 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?I think you will find whatever perspective you want. There is a case to be made either way. It might be worth discussing with your man where you can find points to compromise. The classic is to wait until engagement. It is a more serious step but still gives you time to live together before the actual wedding. It is far easier to call off an engagement than a marriage. You may not like this or he may not but it's worth discussing. A final red pill point to remember is the whole "women make rules… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/24 07:46 PM |
| 21 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?The big question you need to ask yourself is whether or not this is the hill you will die upon? There are reasons and stories on both sides of the debate. On RPW you are going to primarily get support for NOT moving in because of statistics and other people's stories and whatnot. It is certainly a difference in values but it is one that will be meaningless after you are married (as opposed to something like religion, or wanting kids that will follow you forever). This goes a couple ways: You put… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/24 07:13 PM |
| 3 | How to love my man in his love language?First, I think that at 6 months, particularly if he is doing all the things you describe, you should be doing thing for him. This is both a healthy balance and a vetting tool. I'd be honestly surprised if cute texts and notes were taken poorly at this point. If they are, then you observe that they are an why and that is part of your vetting. Husband material men are not going to run screaming because you write a love note. Now as for planning dates: don't get so caught up in the financial aspect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/24 05:05 PM |
| 5 | Living with boyfriend: need ideas for sexy loungewearMy husband is like this. It isn't the be all end all but he prefers when I have them professionally done and he has definite color preferences. Every. Single. Time. nails come up, some guy comes in here and says "men don't care about your nails" and I think it's both a preference and a "ask the fisherman" sort of thing. Little things like this go towards the visual image you are trying to convey and even if a man does not notice or "care" they still help to contribute to the overall image. It's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/24 04:55 PM |
| 6 | I feel as though tradwife content has rotted my brain and my marriage is struggling.First of all, please get this notion that I am triggered, jealous or unhappy with my life out of your head. I am here because I AM happy with my life. I have a phenomenal, brilliant husband and my life is set up in a fashion that works for our family. I quoted what you said so I'm not putting words in your mouth. I'm trying to explain to you that a woman who spends her days high is not a happy woman or a woman to emulate. Something in her life isn't working for her or she wouldn't be high all da… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 06:12 PM |
| 6 | I feel as though tradwife content has rotted my brain and my marriage is struggling.It is definitely a recognizable pattern. And I didn't give you stand alone advice because others seem to have said the things I would other wise say but: I think that some of what you are working through with your husband is just normal growing pains. I've been with mine for 17 years now and things are solid and we are on the same page about pretty much everything. That hasn't always been the case. It's a lot harder when you are younger and still getting your financials to where you want them an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 05:56 PM |
| 7 | I feel as though tradwife content has rotted my brain and my marriage is struggling.Your friend Betty hit the jackpot for sure and you deserve to have the same type of life There is something wrong with someone who is spending their days stoned. Is it the relationship we can't know but OP used it as an example of what her husband didn't want and your response was to say that this woman hit the jackpot and the OP deserves the same type of life... the type of life of a woman who is stoned all day. It's one thing if a person is in the vetting stages. Then you consider what you wan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 05:20 PM |
| 11 | I feel as though tradwife content has rotted my brain and my marriage is struggling.No one has a right to a soft lifestyle and smoking weed all day is a way of checking out of life when you have nothing else to do or motivate you. This is a terrible answer that is based around the same drivel on tik tok that is hurting the OP and her marriage. ETA: u/Common_ad6209 do not take advice from Sugar Babies. They have too much of a transactional view of relationships (we have seen this repeatedly on this sub over the years) and it can be toxic to a real marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 04:42 PM |
| 6 | I feel as though tradwife content has rotted my brain and my marriage is struggling.Does a police officer really earn that much(?) Police and firefighters can make six figures. It is dependent on overtime, area, length of service & position. I don't watch Mrs Midwest so I can't even surmise what her actual situation might be, except to say that she likely brings in money from her channel at this point. It's also impossible to know what people's money situation is beyond their jobs. I have a friend who lives at poverty levels in the US. She and the husband switch off low income … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 01:33 PM |
| 6 | I can't help but feel lied to by Red Pillers. Help me understand?You have to remember that many men who would qualify as "high value" for women are what RP calls "naturals". They wouldn't consume RP content because they aren't going online seeking advice on women. So the idea that a "normal high value man" wouldn't consume male RP is not really far out of line. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/24 01:23 PM |
| 3 | Leave everything behind to find love?Upfront and proactive communication is, actual, advice. So it is your honestly held belief that if she said to this man "I'll leave you if you cheat" that he would not have cheated? As for my path, there were many opportunities to stray. Nothing that you said here refutes my point. Nor did I say that men are dumb. Nor do I find your self descriptions a compelling argument towards any point that we have been discussing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/24 01:04 PM |
| 6 | Leave everything behind to find love?Men certainly can contribute guidance on what men want to a degree but you have to give actual advice not just personal anecdotes. What you are writing here is only vaguely advice. It reads: I was a promiscuous, my wife threatened what would happen if I cheated so I don't cheat. That's not really advice. What actually happened is that you found a woman or a life path that was worth leaving a promiscuous lifestyle. You know the consequences of cheating (and let's be honest, you would know them ev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/24 06:57 PM |
| 2 | How to be not bitter?Yeah this is similar to what I'll do. "I'm cranky, not at you, but I'm cranky and I'm sorry if I'm being a bitch" | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/24 10:00 PM |
| 3 | How to be not bitter?Could you give a concrete example of what you feel bitter about? This is vague. It sounds like you are saying that you get upset and know that it's things that might not be his fault but you are getting bitter at him anyway which is a bit confusing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/24 06:22 PM |
| 7 | The case of dating a man in a bad financial stateThis depends a lot on the man, his skill set and ability to rise in a company. It also depends on their class-expectations. A stock boy might not be making enough to support a wife and kids but a store manager can make good money. A quick Google tells you that the store manager at a place like Home Depot can make 6 figures. I don't know and you don't know if this guy has the chops to make it up to that level but there is certainly a path. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/24 08:41 PM |
| 16 | How can I convince a guy to stop talking to me?If you owed him anything, you already provided it when you told him that you don't chat this much. He kept pushing so you have already done "the right thing" and he ignored you. You are debt free to this dude. But beyond that, work on this aspect of your personality. Feeling like you owe your date something is how you get pressured into decisions you would not otherwise make. No one is owed a relationship with you. Be polite but firm. Know your own boundaries and if someone tries to cross them (… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/24 06:14 PM |
| 4 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?Well I've been married to my husband for a long time and with him for even longer. I'm here because for a while, I liked helping other women have happy relationships. Then it turned into more of a dating sub in here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 06:04 PM |
| 8 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?Unattractive people pair up and get married. And there are attractive women who are single and don't get asked out. Not sure if you are trolling or just spending too much time on the internet but this isn't reality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/24 11:36 PM |
| 8 | laura doyle sets you upAs a non-religious person, I am absolutely blown away by the frequency of this one. "He lies/cheats/has a high n count/etc but we met in church and i believe he'll be the strong spiritual leader for our family" You know, when it comes down to it, a lot of the vetting failures are probably just down to ignoring the signs in favor of your own mental narrative. How you teach people not to do that, I don't know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/24 06:22 PM |
| 8 | laura doyle sets you upIt's certainly possible that it's a SMV/RMV issue but I also see a lot of women who think that a man with an exceptional bank account is worth ignoring all the red flags. That and "He promised to make me a SAHM" are often among the phrases about why a woman should stay with a clearly questionable man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/24 06:11 PM |
| 3 | BoundariesFirmly and calmly. Laura Doyle says to use "I can't" when you can't do something. I suggested below "That doesn't work for me" You don't have to fight, you don't have to rise to a fight if he doesn't like it. You are simply stating "this is what I am doing" or "this is what works for me" and hold to it. If you have explained before then you don't need to start justifying. A boundary is a serious thing. It is something that you will not allow to be crossed. He might not be happy about it, and the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/24 04:58 PM |
| 3 | BoundariesIt isn't your job to make him happy at your own expense. If you want to not eat the apple core, the first is the classic RPW bring him your problem, not your solution (I can dig up the post later if you aren't familiar). That would go something like "I really dislike the apple core and I can't eat it, what should I do" and then see what he says. In the situation you describe, he eats the core instead and that is a solution. You have your "boundary" (not eating the core) and he has his non-waste … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/24 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Am I being gaslit or am I the crazy oneWe use an app on Android. Honestly the best part of it isn't safety, it's that I can see when he's coming home for dinner without calling twenty times. :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/24 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Am I being gaslit or am I the crazy oneYeah. Technology isn't perfect. We do the location share and when I woke up Saturday morning, my phone was telling me that the husband went to work and came home at like 1am. When I asked about it he asked me if I was having delusions. I was not. The phone was. The key is that we trust each other enough that the technology glitch didnt' have me wringing my hands about whether or not he was telling the truth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | BoundariesWhat is an example of something you are trying to set a boundary for and how do you say it when you are telling him you don't like it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/24 03:52 PM |
| 7 | BoundariesI don't think other people's boundaries are going to help you and this is an awkward question to answer. I'm not sure I have specific "boundaries" with my husband. He didn't cross any lines when we were dating and I made a point to ask myself if I could live with any given behaviors for the rest of my life. I never came up with a "no" answer. If he hit me, I'd be out fast enough to make his head spin. That is a boundary that doesn't need to be discussed because it's obvious. We also have an agre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/24 07:16 PM |
| 22 | Dating and being "older"Caveat: your value as a human is not what we are discussing here. In any exchange, the value (worth) of something is what someone will "pay" for it. So in this scenario, a person's worth on the dating market is who is willing to date and commit to him/her. She can't decide what she is worth, the men she is dating decide what she is worth. She gets to decide what the men she is dating are worth to her. So perhaps she is not interested in the men who are out there. That's not unfair but they are t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/24 11:17 PM |
| 23 | Dating and being "older"Yes. When you are older, the good ones, who want to be married and have stayed married, are taken. So with that in mind, there is a good chance you will need to reevaluate your requirements and strategy. I'm not sure how you can assess a lot of these characteristics in one or two dates. Further, attraction is physical but it's also mental. You could be nixxing men when there is potential attraction that could develop as you get to know them. The men available at this point have either never been… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/24 08:41 PM |
| 7 | 29F & don’t think I’ll ever be in a relationship with a man at this point, am I the issue?And yet you're blaming her and saying that she doesn't want to do self-introspection? I mean she reached out to the community and is asking why and if something's wrong with her and what's going on. This morning she (OP) posted the exact, verbatim same post she posted a day ago but with one line at the end and the title changed. Perhaps you didn't see it before the mods removed it. Perhaps you aren't great at seeing beyond the words that an OP is saying to assess the broader situation but I thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 10:15 PM |
| 13 | 29F & don’t think I’ll ever be in a relationship with a man at this point, am I the issue?It's not the only thing by a long shot BUT the vast majority of men (and many many women) are not going to be interested in a sex free relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 10:04 PM |
| 2 | How to bite your tongue...People with a type A personality may be ambitious, hardworking, competitive, and have a sense of urgency toward deadlines. Type A individuals may display aggression and intolerance, and may provoke easily. People with a type B personality may be easygoing and laid-back and approach tasks with less urgency Though it actually originated from a study on heart disease. Type A were the people who were more likely to have cardiac incidents. Type A was first described by a pair of cardiologists, [Meyer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 07:45 PM |
| 1 | asking for therapy after a betrayal?You are welcome. I hope this works out for you :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 07:09 PM |
| 7 | asking for therapy after a betrayal?I am personally leery of on again off again, having done that with a pretty decent guy who I was simply not compatible with. However, my life is not yours and if you really want to give this a try this is my advice to you - Drop the therapy thing. Don't make suggestions for what you need unless you are 100% sure that it's a deal breaker for you. Backtracking because you aren't sure gives the impression that he can walk all over you. Normally I wouldn't worry about this sort of thing but he's che… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 06:47 PM |
| 2 | asking for therapy after a betrayal?If you are asking him to do therapy, do you truly believe that he's changed enough to get back together? There are a few risks I see: You don't believe he has changed and this impacts your interactions with him for the negative You don't believe he has changed so you don't really go "all in" He has not changed and you get stuck again because break ups are hard He has not changed and you waste more time going on again and off again Now that you have said you want him to do therapy, if you back tr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 05:53 PM |
| 13 | Need advice on how to approach my man without sounding like I’m nagging or complaining!!This is a little bit surprising to me. The fact that he is not even open to discussing the issue AND acts dismissive of your feelings seems like attitudes/behaviors that would be present in other forms. You say that he pushes you to be your best. Does this mean he has a lot of requests and requirements of how you should be in a relationship? Does he hold himself to the same standards? And for the record, you should not feel guilty for your sex drive. Sex is the glue that holds relationships toge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/24 03:27 PM |
| 5 | Need advice on how to approach my man without sounding like I’m nagging or complaining!!Oh definitely. If it's bad now, it will not get better as he gets older and she will always be markedly younger with a younger drive. You are also much more set in your ways by 40 and IMO change (especially change that isn't self motivated) is a lot harder. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/24 02:32 PM |
| 9 | Need advice on how to approach my man without sounding like I’m nagging or complaining!!I thought the same thing. We are a few years into our 40s here and there has been no drop of off sex for reasons beyond "we have more kids and less time than we did at 30". If he's getting blow jobs all the time then it's not about libido and it's not about his right now age. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/24 02:14 PM |
| 22 | Need advice on how to approach my man without sounding like I’m nagging or complaining!!Even though you live together, you are still vetting him. Is the relationship so good otherwise that you are willing to live with this for the rest of your life? Always assume that this man in front of you is the man he will be forever. You change your behaviors to make things work when you are married because you have already made the commitment. You do not try to change an unsuitable partner while you are dating. This is what sex with him is like. And by the way, he is pursuing you. He's pursu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/24 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Is there any solution for this?There are men who would not say anything. This is still an issue that will weigh on anyone. If you do something nice and a person tells you how you got it wrong, it will slowly drain the desire to do things for that person. If you put thought into a gift for someone and they reject it, it absolutely is personal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/24 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Is there any solution for this?This is a covert contract. You are doing something for him and in your head you have decided how he should be responding. You are setting yourself up for failure. How does he feel about giving and receiving gifts? Perhaps you are going all out on the gifts when he would rather have more physical touch or quality time with you? What is his love language. You should do these things because you want to. If you are feeling resentful then either dial it back, stop, or have a conversation with him abo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/24 08:38 PM |
| 61 | Why do so many men dislike us for being "hypergamous"?You are talking about different things though. Hypergamy is a woman getting the best man she can get (preferably across or above her in some measure that she's judging). However, the numbers are such that if you have this: think there's a large percentage of men that SHOULDN'T date and have sex because they're not masculine enough. Then you will also have a high percentage of women who aren't dating or having sex because there are no available men. No one is owed a woman but no woman is owed a r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/24 06:10 PM |
| – | Married to abusive RP husband but don't want to leave and be single momHe choked me that one time years ago when I was 18. So he's never been physically abusive to you since then? You didn't answer any other questions I asked and you didn't give a definite answer to this one. Please give concrete answers about what exactly he is doing to you that makes him a bad man. Otherwise I can only assume this is meant to generate a lot of sympathy for yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/24 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Married to abusive RP husband but don't want to leave and be single momDoes he continue to hit you/get aggressively physical? Why does he think you suffer too much? Walk us through a disagreement/request. There is a lot of loaded language in here with very little actual information about what your day to day looks like with this man. If you are asking for an opportunity to fix this relationship, then you have to take responsibility for your own part in the problem. We can't change him only help you change yourself. And if he is hitting you still and this is all his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/24 02:41 PM |
| 16 | They are trying to section me for my beliefsI understand the difficulty of cost and I don't know what your life and finances look like but if the risk of staying home is that you end up in a mental hospital... that's a pretty big risk/reward calculation going on. Further if you wish to become involved in revolutionary politics, home with your woke mom is probably not a great base of operations. In Catholic terms, Jesus had the 12 supporting his missionary efforts. Once he was crucified for speaking out, they continued to carry his message… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/24 08:34 PM |
| 19 | They are trying to section me for my beliefsHow old are you? You are not going to convince your mom that she did everything wrong. That isn't something a parent wants to hear from a kid and it's not something an adult wants to be told, unsolicited, about her life. This is an opportunity to learn to keep things to yourself. It isn't necessary to share everything with everyone. There are plenty of ideas that are very unpopular to the point of getting you in trouble these days. Generally red pill women ideas are not likely to get you arreste… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/24 07:53 PM |
| 25 | They are trying to section me for my beliefsIt seems like perhaps there is more to this story than simply trad values. And I'm assuming that trad values are what you mean by "the red pill women movement" because we aren't really a movement. What are you specifically saying to your mother than makes her think you belong in a psych ward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/24 06:06 PM |
| 3 | I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how.Is this Surrendered Wife? As I said, I prefer For Women Only. There are actually summaries of that in the Wiki if you don't want to start another book. The author surveyed men and then wrote about the commonalities that she found in regards to relationships. It's going to be similar themes but with better explanations (in my opinion). The Surrendered Wife (from my memory) starts with the premise that you are a bit of a control freak and need to learn to let go. In that situation, handing over th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 03:12 PM |
| 1 | I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how.It's not those things in the way that you are throwing out here but you are emotional and bitter and spending the time explaining to you how these things work in a healthy relationship is sort of beside the point. I think you need to figure out what your ideal life looks like before you can figure out how to move towards it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?Either he's so loaded that money will never be an object or he's smart enough to pick a partner who won't be a financial liability This is the part that I was commenting on though. Sure, people sort based on intelligence. That doesn't mean that you have to either work or marry someone with a considerable income. There are always trade offs in life, in this particular case, one of the options is for the couple to make less money overall and take care with their budget in order to keep the wife at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 09:40 PM |
| 1 | I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how.I guess my question then would be "what do you want"? It's possible that you will get over this in time. If the only option is to let time pass and see how you feel then that is the only option. I might personally consider taking sex off the table while you work through your own feelings. That may be destructive long term but you also shouldn't be forcing yourself to have sex with someone in this particular situation, even your husband. That is of course NOT AT ALL Red Pilled advice but you've m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?In my life the people I know with a SAHM are NOT the ones rolling in it. It's the working class and the military men who seem to have their wives stay home, not the engineers and lawyers. People who say that it's entirely about the financials are coping. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 08:58 PM |
| 7 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?It's not women working that men, even staunchly RP men, take issues with. It is the attitude and correlations that come with it. But that takes a lot of words to hash out so the simple minded "influencers" just say "working women bad" and also "women want you for your money bad". There is no middle ground there and women are rightfully confused. In the end more people need to take a look at their lives and admit that they are average. Average is not finding a 7 figure a year man to support her a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 05:04 PM |
| 9 | I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how.The gentlemen over at married red pill talk about "the stay plan is the go plan" and I think that is how you might want to approach this. Start working on yourself in a way that you are better off whether you maintain the relationship or leave the relationship. (Add "If you can" to the end of each of these) Get to the gym or perhaps better, pick up a hobby that allows you to use move your body (belly dance, yoga, pole fitness, something else I haven't thought of) revamp your wardrobe so you feel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 04:15 PM |
| 3 | I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how.The general rule of thumb on RPW is "you can only change yourself" so even if there are things that HE should be doing, you'll be told what you need to do to fix yourself. Unfortunately in this situation, what you are asking for help with is "how do i trust him" and that is hard to fix on your own. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds like you guys aren't really doing anything to rebuild the marriage. He is getting treatment for his addiction but you just went back to business as usual with the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 03:45 PM |
| 3 | I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how.It is not always possible to forgive and move on even when you want to. But as you say, there are kids and it's your marriage so it's certainly worth a shot. What have you guys done/what are you guys doing to work on this. Even though he's been off porn for a year, it sounds like you've only been "turning the page" for a month or two? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 03:29 PM |
| 10 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?Sigh. We've come full circle now. RPW started out having to convince women that their career was not attractive to a man and being a boss babe would not get you a man. Now we've hit the other end where people think that having a job is unattractive and every man is looking for a stay at home tradwife. In reality, many RPWs will still work or will work again. It's your priorities and your mindset that are important, not spending your life in OR out of the workforce. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 03:11 PM |
| 4 | Deal Makers and Deal BreakersThe 3Ds are a fantastic heuristic and I hope it becomes a common idea around here. I don't have anything to add but this was so striking and simple that I had to comment on it. I hope that it makes it's way to the wiki because it's such an easy way to assess ones own relationship performance. Am I being disrespectful? Am I being an unnecessary disruption? Am I showing indications of disloyalty? Should all be something an OP asks herself before she considers what he might be doing wrong in a rela… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/24 03:32 PM |
| 11 | should i save myself for marriage?Women bring more than virginity to the table. If that is all you want then do not be surprised if that is all you get. And once that is gone, it is gone so I recommend a woman with some qualities beyond her vagina. Men, good men, also bring things to the table. Not all men are good and not all men bring things to the table. Women are often expected to work (men not providing). Not every man knows or is willing to defend himself or others. Etc etc. You seem to believe that women are the only ones… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/23 01:34 PM |
| 23 | should i save myself for marriage?Men are allowed to want whatever they want. However there are men who want a virgin while not having the same sexual values themselves. There are men who want to be the provider to a working spouse. There are men who want to be the leader but not make decisions or bear responsibility for anything. To be worthwhile to a woman a man has to value her beyond her virginity. We live in a culture where people want a lot out of each other without being willing to bring anything to the table themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/23 01:05 PM |
| 22 | should i save myself for marriage?If you place this value on sexual intimacy, find a man who shares similar values. Allowing him to go off and have casual sex while in a relationship with you is not the best path to a future monogamous relationship. There are men who may not be virgins themselves but value sex closer to your own approach (and of course men who are virgins and share your desire to wait) this is what you vet for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/23 11:53 AM |
| – | should i save myself for marriage?Saving yourself for marriage is not a bad thing. The way you talk about men is an absolutely toxic mindset that will repel "the good ones" | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/23 11:49 AM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentOh goodness forbid that we do anything extra. That would just be a travesty. Sorry that you don't finish from PIV. I'm multi orgasmic with my man so its all good over here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/23 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentI did not say to give blow jobs to the exclusion of all else. Relationships involve reciprocity. You are the one throwing around terms like misogynist and pick me. You are putting up strawmen but I'll play: If a woman doesn't give blow jobs then is she not entitled to orgasms? or to cunnilingus? Should I only cook dinner on nights when my husband takes out the trash? What is the laundry to chopping wood conversion rate? What you are saying is selfish and self centered. I said that blow jobs are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/23 06:20 PM |
| 4 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentWell I'm married with kids and I give blow jobs because it makes my husband happy and when I make him happy, he responds in kind. And honestly, gtfo about your "men who love women" great that you don't have to do it. Great that your husband doesn't care, but you are being an asshole here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/23 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentThere is absolutely no need to do sex acts that make women gag or feel uncomfortable when men get more than enough pleasure from other things Your dislike for blow jobs is coloring your perception of the advice. It is an act that allows a man to lay back and receive. That is something different for him than the standard PIV. It's a thing you do to show the man you love that you do love him. Should it be expected? No. Should you do it if you are so stuffed up you can't breath? Also no. But I find… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/23 05:18 PM |
| 28 | Is there anything that can be done to repair the mess that I’ve made by lying?Does he see the sexual validation seeking that you do on Reddit? You are talking about lies you told but it appears that there might be some behaviors that contribute to his concerns as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 10:29 PM |
| 23 | Withholding Premarital Sex Age 40+I've been married for a while so perhaps it's gotten worse but these expectations were there in the aughts. The manosphere/Red Pill originated around then and based their assessments of culture from around then. Club sluts, raver girls etc etc have been around for a looooong time. Perhaps you didn't see it when you were younger but it was there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 02:20 PM |
| 10 | Am I doing the right thing?Nah. This is a 35 year old man. If he was a leader then he'd have a plan for his career and would know what he wants in the relationship already. I'm all for patience when people are in their 20s but if you don't know what you want by 35 then he either doesn't want her or is too indecisive to be the head of a household. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 03:22 PM |
| 12 | How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are takenDo you often engage in this sort of self limitiing decision making? I don't know the exact situation or area you were in in CT. However, it is most likely a one time issue and you are allowing it to stop you from expanding your search for a partner. You admit yourself that 40 is old in NYC. The logical next step would be to expand your pool outward. You have CT to the north and NJ to the south which both have transit lines. Having gone to college in NJ, I know for a fact that the train lines run… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 03:17 PM |
| 5 | How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are takenWhile that is valid, it is still unlikely that men are going to come to you. It's not impossible, just very very unlikely. But why on earth did you walk? There are quite a few trains going in and out of that city due to the massive numbers of commuters. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 01:01 PM |
| 9 | How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are takenNo matter what the mutual fund advertisement says, everyone picks their portfolio based on past performance and a fund managers history. Saying the past does not predict the future is true to a degree but it's most CYA territory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 12:33 PM |
| 7 | How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are takenYou won't succeed by importing 40 something men to NYC. People who want to live there either do live there or moved there when they were younger. Instead of thinking you can get men to go to you, why wouldn't you go to them? Forget about levels and market value. You need to know what your personal goals and values are and find compatible men. Go out with anyone you match with a time or two and see who is asking you out for more dates. Those are the men you can get. Within that subset of men, fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 12:30 PM |
| 4 | Making myself more desirable, receptive and not reticentI think that the highest percentage of any racial group marries within their race. It stands to reason then that you will have the highest chance of success seeking out men within your race. If it works out that you meet someone else, then cool, but I think your initial comment makes a lot of sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/23 02:34 PM |
| 2 | How do you handle the pain?They absolutely are! Having unwanted sex is inherently, inescapably painful. For you | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 04:25 PM |
| 5 | How do you handle the pain?Is there a reason that you can't accept that you may work differently than other women? You are arguing with everyone and saying things are self evident when it's only self evident for you. A lot of women have receptive sex drives where we can get turned on after we start. It sounds like you don't. If you are sure you were attracted to the man, wanted sex with the man, the doctor has nothing to offer and this is just the way you are, then perhaps you are not in the majority here. Have you ever r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 04:12 PM |
| 1 | New relationship advice needed (this is a positive step in my life)Does he want to take things slow or is this something that you unilaterally decided? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 03:09 PM |
| 6 | About to get engaged and terrified/anxiousI'm glad. My parents set a questionable example and my husband is a child of a nasty divorce. We had a lot to learn but it was worth it. Good luck!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 03:37 PM |
| 10 | About to get engaged and terrified/anxiousEverything you are afraid of are choices you make. I don't mean the choice to be afraid but rather, there is a choice to lose intimacy, there is a choice to be mundane. My husband and I were together for 6ish years before we got married, living together for most of it. If we had a time machine and went back and got married 4 years sooner, nothing would change. We still would have been there while the other was getting through school. We still would have gone out with friend, taken our road trips… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 03:07 PM |
| 3 | Male acquaintance wants to "hang out"Are you 12? This is an attitude that belongs in elementary school. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 04:25 PM |
| 3 | Male acquaintance wants to "hang out"oh yes, that is just what the women's sub would consider high value, a man who can't control his feelz. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 04:00 PM |
| 5 | Male acquaintance wants to "hang out"But if the OP and her bf have an agreement not to hang out with opposite gender friends/colleagues/whatever then there is no benefit to the OP to hang out somewhere "safe". She would be going against the agreement she has with her boyfriend, who should be more important than the random guy texting her. This behavior is the sort of thing that would be a problem in a relationship and it's bad advice. To set a standard and negotiate around it to your own benefit is a sure way to piss of your partne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 03:36 PM |
| 41 | Ladies, is it important these days to be your husband’s ‘personal porn star’?My thought it that this post and your responses come across more like you are involving us in your sex life than that you actually have a question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/23 07:57 PM |
| 9 | It’s possible to fall in love twice with the same man?It's hard to see what is actually going on to give actionable advice here. You've written a diary entry not an advice post. If you are making a hail mary move where you are leaving if it doesn't change and you don't mind blowing things up - tell him that you love him but he has let himself go and you are no longer turned on by him. that he is the only one that can change your attraction to him for the better and that you hope he does. Then see how he responds. But I also suspect there are things… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 11:49 PM |
| 3 | Difficulty navigating through my relationshipYou entirely missed my point but it's fine. I'm done here. Life to get back to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Difficulty navigating through my relationshipThe attitude that you have is good. Whether it is this man (and my fingers are crossed for you) or another, what a lot of women now don't realize is that the work doesn't start and stop with the ring. You build a relationship over a lifetime. And a good relationship involves a give and take. If he is taking care of your needs then it's only right to take care of his. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 07:33 PM |
| 6 | Difficulty navigating through my relationshipYeah, I've been married for over a decade. And I've been here longer than you've been a grown up. I know self indulgent advice when I see it. "I have suuuuch a good man and yours is terrrrible" I'll bet you feel very pleased with yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 07:30 PM |
| 4 | Difficulty navigating through my relationshipI'm not really sad. It's terrible advice. What kind of man tells his girlfriend...? The kind of man who has a vision for his life and does not compromise on it? He's trying to bring her along with him. A man with self respect? A man who is confident that he has options but he wants this one to work out? I hope my daughters marry the men they break their rules for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 07:14 PM |
| 5 | Difficulty navigating through my relationshipI believe that it doesn't hurt to try. You still have time on your side too. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 07:07 PM |
| 6 | Difficulty navigating through my relationshipTell me you are single and bitter without telling me... | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 07:06 PM |
| 14 | Difficulty navigating through my relationshipHere is my two cents: You aren't getting married to this man if you don't do these things. Whatever advice your family may be giving you, your boyfriend had set the prerequisite for marriage and it is that you get better at your housewifery. Your choices are to continue to find reason to not do it and then an already tumultuous relationship (post history) will eventually hit an end point or you can do it and see where it leads. If you don't step up, this could drag out for a long while. He may k… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 04:04 PM |
| 28 | How Interesting It Would Be to Have a Fit and Fresh Episode About the Mosuo TribeThey hold positions of power and authority, and they are free to make their own choices about their lives. In what Western nation are women not free to make their own choices and hold positions of power and authority. Where are relationships not based on mutual consent? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 06:44 PM |
| 21 | Do you ever feel bad about using red pill tactics?Is it wrong that I'm so disgusted and disheartened by the content of RPW in the last couple days? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 01:46 PM |
| 8 | I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my family.You asked. Now let it go and see if he comes back and has a suggestion. If he says "let's do x" then say yes even if it sound miserable to you. If he just lets it drop then don't force the issue. If he says "what do you want to do" use the phrasing "I'd love to..." ideally, you'll let him chose the activity. He's not going to trust anything at first so my guess is that he won't bring it up again. Let it go if that's the case. And if you are still staying with family, take yourself out for a trea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/23 12:48 AM |
| 11 | I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my family.I read your update. That must have been really disheartening BUT he gave you and opening since he doesn't want to make a decision yet. I hear that as you having a chance to change things. He told you what he is looking for, the woman he fell in love with and you were that woman and you can be that woman again. So here is your pep talk: You can do this. You can work to understand where your husband (and men in general) are coming from. You can understand what makes them tick and learn how to appl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 08:42 PM |
| 11 | I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my family.Good luck. And come back if you have questions or concerns as you get through some of the reading. Make as many posts as you need. This community will help you get through this and hopefully as you change your husband will soften towards you and you'll end up in a very happy relationship. I am crossing my fingers for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 11:11 PM |
| 39 | I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my family.It sounds like your reaction to your trauma, your anger issues and your difficulty dealing with SAHMotherhood has firmly pushed him away. I understand that from your perspective, he's not doing anything for you or to help you. Remember that your husband is a fully autonomous human and he also has feelings and stresses. You need to change your perspective. Maybe you are right and maybe not but the first thing we need to do is be charitable about the motivations of the men love and agreed to spend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 10:03 PM |
| 13 | I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my family.only bringing up issues when he is not busy or tired or in a bad mood What issues are you bringing up? How are you going about it? initiating sex regularly Does he respond positively? How was your sex life before the baby? Does you initiating regularly mean you are back to the way things were before kiddo? therapy for my anger Have you made progress here? What does your anger look like in the day to day? How often are you getting angry? What do you do when you get angry and he's around? journali… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 09:16 PM |
| 18 | I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my family.Ok. Let's put a pin in what he's done wrong in the past because you cannot change the past and you can only change your behavior at present. Maybe he was the biggest asshole known to man but dwelling on that is not going to save your family. So what have you already tried to do to correct any of your issues? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 09:01 PM |
| 50 | I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my family.First off, you don't actually sound like you are willing to change to save your marriage. Hopefully, this is just my reading of it but this: My husband is only affectionate when he wants sex. He’s said several times that I need to just shut up and listen to him and I’d be a lot happier. Basically I’m not allowed to be upset ever because I’m ungrateful and should be thankful for all he does. I’ve come to the realization that unless I just entirely submit to my husband then I will lose him and my … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 08:50 PM |
| 5 | What could a childless-homemaker wife offer a man over a working wife?I never mind if an interesting discussion springs out of a questionable OP. I don't think it's against the rules. And usually you see the ECs flock to the more theory oriented posts which makes for some cool commentary. I also don't think she'll get very far with her sales pitch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 07:40 PM |
| 3 | What could a childless-homemaker wife offer a man over a working wife?Oh this makes complete sense from the tone of the post then. I have nothing nice to say so I will move on :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 06:22 PM |
| 9 | What could a childless-homemaker wife offer a man over a working wife?Respectfully, this entire post reeks of cope. Thanks for this. My initial thought after reading was "who are you trying to convince" | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 04:58 PM |
| 4 | He said he likes that I'm soft, and it made me feel uncomfortable and scared (?)Can someone explain to me why women wanting a BF (aka a pick-me) is such a bad thing? Here is my guess: Did you ever watch Parks & Rec? In one episode, Donna and Ann go to a singles event and Ann tries to cozy up to Donna for moral support. Donna tells her: "Dating is a zero sum game, if you get a man, I DO NOT GET THAT MAN". We all know this (consciously or not) and some women will snipe and put down other women accordingly. A girl who goes out of her way to please men is a threat because she m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 04:53 PM |
| 6 | He said he likes that I'm soft, and it made me feel uncomfortable and scared (?)It's not something that you are going to see all that often. That doesn't mean that it doesn't happen. The culture war is such that a lot of RP or Trad women won't necessarily announce to you "I was a feminist and now I'm not". If you say that you aren't a feminist, many women (and some men) will reeeee at you that you don't want women to succeed and are betraying the women who pushed for you to be able to whateverwhatever. And that doesn't get into the women who live traditional lives but still… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 04:33 PM |
| 3 | He said he likes that I'm soft, and it made me feel uncomfortable and scared (?)Is that hard to believe? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 03:53 PM |
| 8 | WWLDD? What would Laura Doyle do?My man and I had a very tumultuous early dating life so it took me many arguments to learn when and how to say things (and him too) and now we barely argue. If we do, it's over in a hot minute. Defending myself has been the hardest to shake. I've found that it's easier to circle back around to something once the argument has fizzled out. It's never that you have to go through life with him thinking you did xyz when you really didn't do (or mean or say) xyz. But when people are angry (or stressed… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 04:02 PM |
| 5 | WWLDD? What would Laura Doyle do?Yeah but it's sort of irrelevant what you can come back with since you aren't the OP ya know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 03:20 PM |
| 32 | WWLDD? What would Laura Doyle do?If he is just miserable about everything then IMO you might not be able to salvage the vacation. I don't know if it's RP or LD but in your shoes, the next time he is mean or flips I would calmly tell him that I'm not going to let him take out his frustrations on me, which he's been doing for a week. Then I would take a nap and wait to see if he comes to me. If he comes to fight, I'd repeat that I understand he's having a bad week but it's not right for him to take it out on me and I'd go back to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 02:46 PM |
| 6 | How can I decide if I want to continue this relationship?This In the grand scheme of things the quality of sex in a relationship is unimportant. contradicts this Because it's a physical need and the glue that holds the relationship together. Without it your relationship will not last | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/23 08:36 PM |
| 16 | Whats an argument against men can sleep around but women cant.Right? This is an entirely different post if it's a friendly debate versus 'my SO wants other women what should I say to him' which is what i suspect is actually going on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 05:50 PM |
| 3 | Whats an argument against men can sleep around but women cant.I agree that for men, wanting many women and for women wanting the best man are instincts. I also agree that we have higher order reasoning capabilities that allow us to override our instincts. What makes no sense to me is the argument that "it's your responsibility (that men are like this) because your ancestors made these choices". The corollary to that would be "modern men are responsible for AF/BB because historically as a gender, most aren't good enough to reproduce". | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 05:49 PM |
| 70 | Whats an argument against men can sleep around but women cant.You've posted here before and on a lot of other subs asking about multiple wives. You need to deal with your personal problems at some point rather than just scouring the internet for arguments. A man that thinks like this (like what your post history suggests) is a liability if you want a faithful monogamous marriage. No one can tell you what you value. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 01:54 PM |
| 7 | Whats an argument against men can sleep around but women cant.If throughout history you never had wanted anything to do with these men, that would have been okay, but you too, in the part of responsibility that obviously belongs to you, decided to lay with these men, even besides knowing they did not truly love you. Are you suggesting that we are responsible for evolution? And that men throughout history have not said whatever necessary to get laid? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 01:52 PM |
| 6 | Supporting husband through tough timeIn addition to the already solid advice... Express your appreciation for him. Acknowledge that you know he's working hard for you both and that you appreciate him. You can get into specifics here (your post is pretty vague) but I find that verbal affirmations make more of a difference than you would realize. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 10:41 PM |
| 3 | he became sick after an amazing first date, and keeps canceling on me after making plansI see all the advice to keep your options open and not depend on this guy and that to me reads as the commenters being desperate on your behalf. Don't date if you don't want to. You will run through potential partners when you aren't really feeling it. Putting aside THIS guy, if you go out with someone amazing but you aren't feeling it because you are holding out hope for the current guy...you have eliminated a prospect for no particular reason. Certainly keep an open mind to people you might me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 10:01 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Sex & Feeling SexyThat's what I had before kids. Technically, I still have that job it's just that adding kids to the mess has changed my overall work load (and focus) significantly. I fondly remember the days when I got home from work, went to yoga, came home made dinner and that was my evening. I'm hearing "MOMMY!!! IS X A LETTER" from the other room to interfere with my reminiscing | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 05:39 PM |
| 8 | A cheap date is disrespectful to us young women.The thing that tickles me most about these sorts of posts -- they act as though men have no agency. Like men are just lining up to pick them and have no goals or desires of their own. Men being the gatekeepers of commitment -- right out the window. And that doesn't even get into whether or not it's possible to be attracted long term to a man who you can walk all over. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 12:51 PM |
| 6 | A cheap date is disrespectful to us young women.you got offended that young women have every right now to pick you. LMAO this is a funny thing to say about /u/VasiliyZaitzev | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 12:16 PM |
| 12 | A cheap date is disrespectful to us young women.RP is predominantly created out of and intended for a western market. RPW is supposed to aid women in finding a good relationship with a good man. We aren't going for pragmatism here and if we are then your advice isn't even logical or pragmatic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 12:15 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Sex & Feeling SexyHearing about his accomplishments or that he had a productive day I'm with you on this one. Mine is an honest to goodness mad scientist and I like to listen to him talk about work even though it all goes right over my head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Sex & Feeling SexyYou have my sympathies. I hope all is going well and your three months goes fast. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 12:09 PM |
| 14 | Discussion: Sex & Feeling Sexyon’t EVER stop getting ready for your husband, if anything you have to put more effort and look pretty everyday This is such good advice. I was taught many things about relationships but not a single one of them centered around teh sexual aspect of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/23 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Sex & Feeling Sexyn my last relationship I started a bed time routine to be ready if he wanted to get down We definitely have some rituals of sorts. Some of that is me getting cleaned up (because taht does help me) and other stuff like wine and specific music all helps move the brain over. I agree with you that keeping a light buzz (so to speak) through the day makes it easier to get going later. I used to do that more often (usually flirting while we're both at work) . Now I have to shift gears so often between … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/23 04:22 PM |
| 6 | Discussion: Sex & Feeling SexyYes to all of this. I'm not sure if I'd say my sex drive is up late 30/40 but sex itself has been better than it was when I was younger. I have assumed that it has something to do with being more comfortable in my body but I also dont' discount that having kids did something to ... i don't know, change things. Our kiddos are young still but old enough that they have set bedtimes (early) and we made a separate space in the house for us that is as far away from them as we can get. I had planned to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/23 04:18 PM |
| 4 | Are beauty competitions trashy?What's wrong with that? You'll notice that I didn't tell her to do the competition or not. I asked her to examine her motivations since her answers are very hot and cold. Sometimes, we come up with a solution when we have not fully articulated the problem. I suggested to her that she may not fully recognize what the problem she is trying to solve (because she is so ambivalent about beauty pagents and does not seem to want to fit the role of a beauty pageant contestant.) Further, depending on her… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/23 01:00 PM |
| 8 | Are beauty competitions trashy?Age, not marriage, should be the limiting factor for things you decide to do. If you have a man who does not support the things you are interested in doing then you have the wrong man. That said, you may want to dig into what your actual desires are here. You think they are trashy but want to do it anyway. You want to be in a beauty competition with women who will be wearing make up and likely dressing immodestly but you want to do it without wearing make up or dressing immodestly. You don't go … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/23 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Are beauty competitions trashy?How on earth do you think she will make any change whatsoever by going into a competition where she intends to not live up to the standards of the competition. This sounds like feminist "you are beautiful on the inside" nonsense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/23 07:15 PM |
| 10 | Are beauty competitions trashy?Why would you compete in a competition where you aren't actually trying to compete? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/23 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Keep seeing this questionYou're right. I have no idea what the mods might find inappropriate as I've only been here a very short time and have no relationship with any of them. I'll leave you to yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/23 08:10 PM |
| 3 | told friends I never say no to sexI get the ick from the line of questioning and my takeaway from watching is that she did too. She started to say that she didn't want to get too into what she does for him (implication would be that it's sexual) and the interviewer kept pushing. I'd say 'sure' too and my husband gets it whenever he wants. I don't see this video proving anything about that couple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/23 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Keep seeing this questionThis isn't really about OP having a problem. And being a good partner is one of the goals of the sub. If your anger is simply that the message is coming from a man then you may need to check in with yourself about why you feel that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/23 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Keep seeing this questionThis is a mixed bag. RPW teaches that women are a soft place to land and yes we should be available to support our partners. However men should also have male friends who they are able to talk to about their lives, interests and hurdles. We acknowledge that men and women are different. There are issues that we will each encounter over our lifetimes that are better suited to hashing out with friends than with a opposite sex romantic partner. One person cannot be everything. It is a dance and the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/23 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Why does this man act like thisEveryone is talking about him swiping on everyone as the reason this is occurring. An alternate take is that he finds you so forgettable that he keeps swiping because he doesn't realize that you are the same person. Then when you match up he realizes who you are. It's pretty clear at this point that you are just holding on to false hope. Whatever the reason, this is a waste of your time and mental space. Have you heard the phrase "he's living rent free in your head" because he is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/23 05:34 PM |
| 4 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?Men and women serve one master. Their biology. It’s inescapable Lines like this say more about the person stating them than humanity in general. Without discounting the role of biology, thinking that we are only biologically motivated is sad and leaves no room for improvement. If this were the case, RPW should pack up and go home. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/23 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Maintaining respect in marriage/ltrYou are welcome :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 11:58 PM |
| 5 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?Albeit not due to monogamy My husband made the point before that if you read Tacitus's Germania he praises the very strict monogamy of the German tribes. As in - you married once, as a virgin and if your spouse died there were no redos - strict. He was writing this way to show a contradiction to where Rome was at the time (circa 100 AD) on those same values. As Rome grew and declined, there were some similar progressive values to what we see today. It's all part of the civilization cycle. Having… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 08:32 PM |
| 7 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?I am cool. My husband made me badass enough to keep up with him. :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 08:24 PM |
| 8 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?Some of this may be the age you are at. You should start to see more people making fewer hind-brain decisions as you get to your late 20s and beyond. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 08:22 PM |
| 11 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?There was monogamous marriage in ancient Rome as far as I'm aware. It predates modern religions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 08:20 PM |
| 18 | Maintaining respect in marriage/ltrIn any relationship there will be fights. You won't be on your best behavior, no amount of RPW-ing will avoid them completely. So you are right to a degree that you should not be naive enough to think it will never be you. However, I believe that if you are doing stuff "right" on a regular basis, disagreements don't have to devolve into a year long bicker-fest. Telling yourself that divorce is not on the table is, I believe, truly important for the maintenance of a marriage. In the day to day yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 08:10 PM |
| 13 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?Then the question to be asking is "how do you keep a marriage vibrant" rather than "is marriage emasculating". Being married does not automatically put you into a woman's frame. After all, men created and then upheld marriage for generations. If it was a female institution, it likely wouldn't exist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 07:23 PM |
| 10 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?My question for you is this: If you play out your theory, what does society look like? What do men (all/most men) get and what do women (all/most) get? I see a lot of hand wringing with no practical application. There are ways to sustain a healthy marriage but that doesn't seem to be your end game here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 07:05 PM |
| 15 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?A man acting in his evolutionary interest would note the instability such an arrangement wreaks on his children, and many decide not to pursue it for that reason. I'm not forcing any man to get married, which you know but I'll state for the record. But this ^ that you said below -- anyone thinking about sexual strategy from a mating perspective, should be questioning if it's actually good strategy when the failure rates of fatherless households are so high. And I'll never forget the woman I knew… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 06:57 PM |
| 22 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?It's almost as though 'mating strategies' are for producing offspring rather than just getting ones dick wet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'tsMy actual least favorite of all the starting phrases is "do you want to..." "Do you want to get me a drink?" "Do you want to run out for milk" No, no I do not want to do those things. I will, but don't make me want to do it too. But that's irrelevant to the post, just my personal request pet peeve :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/23 08:30 PM |
| 4 | Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'tsI definitely started writing it with that exact issue in mind. Whisper used to say it all the time when comments were "he should ...". But it occurred to me that you don't function in only one sphere and if you are doing it here then what other interactions are you bringing that mentality into. So yeah, it makes for terrible advice. It doesn't take into account the fact that the man in question has his own agency, wants and values. If we all lived in a traditional society where we agreed upon th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/23 08:24 PM |
| 8 | Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'tsI mean, absolutely he should kill the spiders. What sort of man doesn't do that. Clearly not a HVM. A HV-alfa-M wouldn't dream of his woman even seeing a spider. Oh you mean your man doesn't do that, well I guess he's just not a Real Man then. But yeah exactly that. I always loved "should just means I want" and I say it to myself sometimes. It's an interesting way to reframe things in your head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/23 06:23 PM |
| 4 | told friends I never say no to sexI see what I see and you are getting push back from others so I'm not the only one taking your words the wrong way. A lot of people come on the sub, it doesn't automatically mean you are like minded. although I would like to point out that Can't say that I follow pop culture, particularly at that time, so I have no intention of debating this with you because I remember nothing beyond the fact that it happened. Celebrity is a world that has little to do with our own and we will never know the act… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/23 09:08 PM |
| 5 | told friends I never say no to sexYou may have started the comment saying that it was not degrading but everything that followed was "reflect on why you are willing" which implies that there is something wrong with OP's willingness and that OP doesn't know her own mind and should second guess herself. It's as though you don't quite believe that this could be an acceptable (or even positive) situation for her. It's like saying "I love you but..." or "I'm sorry that you feel that way..." It comes across as though you don't actuall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/23 08:43 PM |
| 11 | told friends I never say no to sexPersonally, my sex drive is very receptive so even if I'm not in the mood, I can get going pretty easily. Though I'm not sure why you think the OP needs to "reflect on" her willingness. Sex is hugely beneficial to marriage. People who aren't having regular sex are the ones who should reflect tbh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/23 05:36 PM |
| 9 | told friends I never say no to sexWhy not? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/23 01:46 PM |
| 3 | should i use him or drop him ?I did not endorse sociopathy. You laughing at someone is closer to sociopathy than me telling you not to laugh or anything I said directly to her. What the man in question wants it to use the OP. He is dangling career prospects in front of her to get her into a "romantic" position with him. He is married so he doesn't want a long term prospect. He is offering her things to see him so this is transactional in nature already. But sure look foolish because you want to get a dig in on a woman on the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/23 03:40 PM |
| 4 | should i use him or drop him ?Why the laughter. A young woman is asking for help navigating a situation in her life. If you had any value at all, you'd comment without being immature..or you know...not comment on the bright pink girl sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/23 02:44 PM |
| 4 | Sell my small company to create less stress in our family?Like I’ll internally feel like a failure for giving up. Building a business and selling it for money is success. I'd imagine it would be better financially to sell it while it has value and if the landscape is changing (in a way you don't like) you are more likely to taper it off in coming years until there isn't as much value left. It just feels like I’ll be giving up the last thing that’s “only mine” (even though I don’t like it). The answer is obviously to give up the thing that you do not li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/23 02:40 PM |
| 15 | Feminine but not girlyDo you want to change for him? There isn't a wrong answer. It sounds like he has either done a 180 or has hidden his desires for some time. You've also been with him for a long time so you might find it preferable to save the relationship or you may be thinking you don't recognize this man you are with anymore. Regardless of which way you decide to go, my advice is to read For Women Only (we have summaries in the wiki) and then perhaps Empowered Wife. These should give you a solid handle on what… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/23 11:55 PM |
| 6 | Feminine but not girlyAnd yet, this isn't about you or your girlfriend ::sigh:: | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/23 11:25 PM |
| 18 | Feminine but not girlyHow long have you been together and how old are you? Are there issues in your relationship that might have led to him seeking out these sorts of ideas? You are focusing on the superficially "girly" aspect of RPW/Trad but then you mentioned that he wants you to be more submissive (and cook more) so there is something else going besides how you dress. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/23 11:21 PM |
| 13 | should i use him or drop him ?You should not draw this out in the manner that it is going. By which I mean, you should not pretend you will have a romantic anything with him in order to get the internship. All the red flags aside, you do not want a job that you are not qualified to do. You also do not want a job where there is even a whisper that you slept your way into it. I cannot speak to the first, and in all likelihood, neither can this man offering to pull strings for you. He is obviously interested in flaunting his st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/23 06:34 PM |
| 1 | He is smart, sensitive, intelligent, I am attracted to him, everything I have looked for. But he isn't generous so I dont know what to doDid your husband pay for everything the entire time you were dating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/23 06:23 PM |
| 8 | He is smart, sensitive, intelligent, I am attracted to him, everything I have looked for. But he isn't generous so I dont know what to doWhy is it manipulation. What is he manipulating her into doing? As a relationship grows, it becomes more about the individuals as people and how they can work together. Initially we put our absolute best foot forward, make up and hair all the time, cute skirts and dresses, sunshine and light with no complaints. But one day you are going to start wearing jeans because that's what you wear. Did you manipulate him by dressing nicely when you first met him? Or did you respect him as a new person in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/23 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedI believe I owned all of those in high school...except they were low...like really low...rise...like if they weren't skimming your butt crack they were too high :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 09:09 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedI was just whining about this to my bff. I didn't like when we transitioned to skinny jeans and I'm not happy we are transitioning away from them now. Obviously I do not like change! The problem I'm running into is that shirts are getting shorter so you need high waist and/or wider leg cuts to look proportional and not like I'm trying to be my 21 year old babysitter. I just can't revisit the baggy light-wash denim that I was wearing in middle school in 1996, I remember a time when jeans weren't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 09:07 PM |
| 5 | How can I make my man to feel like he's "conquering" me?Could you talk about how this worked with you and your husband? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 02:31 PM |
| 1 | What do you bring to the table?I have no doubts that we will survive as a species but I think hard times are ahead. Enjoy the decline and all that but do it while having kids because it's going to get rougher as we get older and having a multigenerational family will buffer some of the pain IMO. Or don't and depend on social security being there in 20 years :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 04:05 PM |
| 1 | What do you bring to the table?I think the key is exactly the approach you are taking though: MUST HAVE vs NICE TO HAVE. Knowing what is truly important (it's not being 6') is key. But my point isn't exactly that you can't or shouldn't have a list, it's that the man also has a list and you have to match up with his as well. It's like, if I'm looking for the perfect shoe, list out everything I want in a shoe, I find it, and then the shoe looks up and me and goes "eh, you don't have what I'm looking for in a person, I'll wait f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 03:48 PM |
| 4 | What do you bring to the table?it's about what they ACTUALLY do. Right. Storytime: before my husband and I got together we were friends and hung out weekly (with other friends). He brought a girl he was dating to meet us and we ended sneaking in to the township pool to go skinny dipping after hours (yeah yeah, it was years ago, I will hear no criticisms :-P). It was fun. I was nervous but had fun. The girl he was with complained the whole time. She was having none of it and hey, fair, it wasn't her thing. It was however, my h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 03:36 PM |
| 2 | What do you bring to the table?"And that other women don't" makes the average woman realize that they don't have anything to offer above and beyond other women. On one hand, most of us are pretty darn average and so there are going to be other women who offer the same basket of goods that you do. It can be a kick in the gut to recognize (especially for millennials on down) that you are not a unique snowflake. And on the other, it's a fantastic approach to a dating profile and / or getting what you want in a man. It requires y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 03:28 PM |
| 1 | I broke his trustNowhere did I say that you should or should not talk about it. Time is a zero sum game. Whatever you spent bonding with your new partners was lost to your kid. Whatever you spent with your kid was lost to your new partner. Yes there is time spent together but that's not the whole of it. This is fine and you need to behave in accordance with your goals. Let's not pretend that it is the same dating with a kid as it without. The man in question has prioritized his kid and I wholeheartedly agree wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/23 01:46 PM |
| 2 | I broke his trusthe MUST have other priorities Oh yes. I agree that in any single parent situation, the kids should be the priority. doesn’t mean he couldn’t be happily taken and have a healthy relationship. This is more debatable. Building a relationship requires time. If you are dedicating the vast majority of your time to other things, then you may not be able to spend the time required to build a happy healthy relationship. And of course that is just speaking from his side of things. If I was with someone wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/23 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: The Slut, and how not to be one.It's an interesting assumption. In my life, I have found that it is easier to say no when you've never done something before. After the fear of the thing wears off, it's much easier to say yes. It's the mentality behind "once a cheater..." or why a subset of people have multiple divorces. So it's probably easier ot stay a virgin than to maintain an n count of 1. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/23 04:35 PM |
| 20 | I broke his trustThis whole thing sounds to me like two people who aren't really into each other. He has other priorities and she looked to branch swing at the first opportunity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/23 04:28 PM |
| 31 | I broke his trustHow did he know you were active on Bumble? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/23 03:28 PM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: The Slut, and how not to be one.I don't think that promiscuity has to be damaging and certainly isn't the only thing that can give a person baggage. But I do think that there are aspects of promiscuity that are a problem and it is reasonable for men to consider this aspect of a woman when they are doing their vetting. Simply the idea that there is always someone else out there is a damaging one. Eventually you need to pick a chair before the music stops. If you love the thrill of the chase or the validation of someone new or t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 10:01 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: The Slut, and how not to be one.I think there is more than one answer to the "what makes them different'. Some are party girls, some have mental health issues, some have attachment issues, some buy the narrative that this is what they are supposed to be doing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 09:49 PM |
| 2 | How can I (f 17) be better for my bf (m 18)Yeah I get what you are saying. Some of my hardline on boundaries here is because they are young and have been together a relatively short time. Also because he is being wishy-washy on his boundaries. It's not a boundary if it's ok one minute and then punishable the next. And of course it's waaaaay different being married because that is an agreement to work through problems in a way that dating is not (and in many cases shouldn't be). But overall I can agree to your point here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 09:47 PM |
| 1 | How can I (f 17) be better for my bf (m 18)To me a boundary is very similar to a deal breaker. If drug use is a boundary, punishment is not the appropriate solution, a break up is. To soften it with a less severe example - if a woman teases her partner in public and he sets a boundary that he won't be with a woman who teases him - then he can remove himself from the situation to assert his boundary. He can stop going out in public with her or he can end the relationship. You really don't get to punish another adult that you are in a rela… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 07:12 PM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: The Slut, and how not to be one.Recreational sex is often a lifestyle choice, not necessarily a lack of ability to gain commitment. It's having fun with Chad, Tyrone and crew. The thing is that no one disagrees that a woman having a lot of casual sex with a variety of partners is slutty. And it does follow the definition that Whisper gives - she is having sex but not securing a relationship. There is something about her that makes her not relationship material. That something can be as simple as "she wants a hoe phase". RPW is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 07:02 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: The Slut, and how not to be one.One of Whisper's contentions has always been that it is not a high n count that makes a woman 'not relationship material' there are other factors that cause the high n count and those are what make her not relationship worthy. A woman who only wants to have sex with random dudes is not relationship material because she only wants to have sex with random dudes. Overall, women favor having a partner over not having a partner. What is it that makes this casual sex woman different? And how will that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 06:36 PM |
| 3 | How can I (f 17) be better for my bf (m 18)It's not great but they are young and stumbling through the initial phases of dating with all the mess and confusion that can entail. I remember at 17 my then-bf slapped my ass, hard, in the middle of a gathering of friends. It was so uncomfortable to me and I got very angry at him and told him never to do that again. He didn't and we moved on. He wan't a bad guy, he was just 18 and thought it was a good idea. I'd consider it a possibility that the boyfriend here has some sexual kinks around dom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 01:58 PM |
| 23 | How can I (f 17) be better for my bf (m 18)Oh sweet girl. Even if what you did was inappropriate, it is not his job to punish you. You have been together for 6 months and while that seems like forever when you are 17, it isn't that much time to determine whether you are good for each other. On RPW we say that you are still vetting. That means you are trying to decide if you share values (you share a vision for similar futures, you have similar faiths, you have similar ideas about life, marriage and sex), if you are both good together (yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Is it my place to “correct” my dads gf?They are in relationship or dating No. The ones I have in mind are single single. Not in relationships, not specifically MGTOW, not regularly dating. If age was all there was then you should already be married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Beginning TTC woesThat reminds me of the joke: [78%] of statistics are made up on the spot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/23 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Is it my place to “correct” my dads gf?You are single yes? So your experience doesn't tell you whether you can find a relationship as a young person or an older person. Age is not nothing but there is a lot that goes into compatibility. Further, everyone, even the Chadiest Chad and the blondiest Stacy have to make trade offs to get what they most desire while "settling" for traits that they do not. And sentiment is great, I know a lot of men who have very strong opinions about how women should be and what is acceptable to date. They … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/23 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Is it my place to “correct” my dads gf?Age is simply not the be all end all to dating. Yes I know this is RPW and I know that age is a factor but it's not as important as you constantly claim. Honestly, you probably shouldn't be giving advice here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/23 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Is it my place to “correct” my dads gf?Do you have experience with men? Because everything you say sounds like you assume Fresh and Fit are gospel and not derivative hacks and you have no real life experience with people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/23 03:56 PM |
| 24 | Should I take my husband’s word and just drop it?Then, IMO, you need to stop rolling this around in your head and you really need to stop asking others for advice. Once you have made the decision to stay, it doesn't matter if it's true or not and it doesn't matter what other people think about the situation. You are the one in the marriage and you are the one that has to live your life. This might be a case where journaling can help you get out your anxieties without allowing others to feed into them. The hard fact is that whether he cheated o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 06:01 PM |
| 8 | Should I take my husband’s word and just drop it?Why are you going with this line of questioning? The OP already says she is insecure and it seems like you just want to push her to acknowledge that she should in fact be insecure when really, you don't know. I'm really confused what you are trying to accomplish. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 05:35 PM |
| 27 | Should I take my husband’s word and just drop it?Do you want to be back with him? A quick post history glance shows a very difficult man. If you want him back and things are getting better, then you have to just drop it. I do pause and wonder if you are asking "should I let it go" because you are looking for reasons to not continue to rebuild. This is very short, as are your post history posts, so I won't pretend that I have a feel for your situation, but all together it left me wondering if you have lingering resentment that is effecting your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 05:14 PM |
| 4 | Upper middle class men do care if you have an "education" or a "good job".After reading this conversation, I can assure you that being a guy does not make you an expert in anything here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/23 04:32 PM |
| 4 | Upper middle class men do care if you have an "education" or a "good job".You can't know what other people's live look like and where the ball is being dropped though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/23 03:46 PM |
| 6 | Upper middle class men do care if you have an "education" or a "good job".I wouldn't worry because with this attitude, you won't get to the changing your name stage anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/23 04:03 PM |
| 17 | Biological clock ticking ⏳️I noticed that after friends got married, down to a one, they considered children. Some ended up having them, some did not. I believe that the security of marriage triggers something in women. My personal opinion, after being childfree with my husband for a good long time, and then deciding later to have kids, is that if you think that you might want kids, you probably do. I realize that everyone here is saying that it's FOMO and that your logical brain is overriding your clock and you should li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/23 10:57 PM |
| 5 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?Extensions require upkeep. I have a friend who did extensions recently and she's been raving about them. Apparently, while they do require upkeep on a monthly basis, on the day to day they are so easy to roll out of bed and be ready. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/23 03:49 PM |
| 19 | Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?I feel almost bad? I had a meltdown one day in my 20s because I had fake nails, fake (dye) hair, wore make up, altered my height with heels and I forget what else. I felt like if everything about my outside was changed in some way then how could I be a real person. And now that I'm older I laugh at my younger self. I laugh because the outside package is not the whole of who you are. Highlighting your hair shouldn't change your sense of self. Doing it for a guy is exactly what you called it "a li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/23 03:44 PM |
| 42 | I don’t like that my boyfriend is a gamer.If you are dating then you are still vetting. It's validating to get everyone on the internet telling you "yeah, I don't like gaming either" but that is quite irrelevant. Assume he will never change. Can you live with what that means for the rest of your life. Can you do something to change your own attitude? Have you discussed your frustrations with him and if so, how has he responded? How much does this actually bother you? Do you respect him? This is a non-exhaustive list of questions that yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/23 02:28 PM |
| 7 | Sad that my husband likes lingerie model types and not me.If your sex life is good then it's very likely that he is attracted to you as well as the models he likes to look at. Models are a specific body type. I'm in his ideal weight range but certainly not model height and with a lower body weight comes smaller boobs. In reality you don't get everything. Ask him for guidance on how he thinks you should get closer to his ideal. He will have to help or make concessions in some way (healthier eating means his dinners are healthier too, gym time means he h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 02:38 PM |
| 6 | Sad that my husband likes lingerie model types and not me.Has he told you that you aren't his type or that you are fat? Or are you just basing these insecurities on what he looks at online? Is your sex life good? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 12:26 PM |
| 8 | How does this community feel about double standards? Do double standards exist?I cannot imagine being so desperate that I sent pics like that to a married man. How tacky. My thoughts on double standards are that we are all different people and so it is sometimes necessary to have different strategies and expectations. These may come down to being dictionary definition double standards but if it works and people are getting what they want then it's not worth more thought. Example: my older kid would get upset and we taught her to take deep breaths to calm herself. She would… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 12:46 PM |
| 3 | My (29F) husband (31M) got mad and left me on a Café for a trivial reasonBut the idea of RPW is to choose men who we think will lead. Most RPW wouldn't knowingly choose an RP man (and certainly not one who isn't done cooking) but Wouldn’t that mean going to the restaurant he picks? that is a valid question for the OP, IMO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 02:28 PM |
| 8 | For ladies in the "danger zone" approaching The Wall (25-29): what happens if you get a bf, date exclusively for 1-2 years, and then break up? You've effectively wasted your time being loyal to one man who won't marry you. Do you date other men while in a relationship until you get a proposal?This is something that we don't talk about here but I feel the same way about kids in my 30s. If I could go back I'd maybe start five years earlier (because I was 35 with #1) but in so many ways I'm in better shape than I was in my 20s to have kids and I don't think I'd do it earlier than that if I had a redo. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 02:09 PM |
| 1 | RedPill women who used to be on the “liberal” sides, what made you open your eyes?Ignoring the top part because it has nothing to do with what I said and I don't care about your political rant. What words have I said that don't follow my belief that feminism is about granting OP the choice When she said that others dismiss her, you said it was only certain people who don't matter which was dismissing her I'm not interested in this conversation continuing. I wasn't even speaking about you initially but now I think that you are just as bad as the rest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 10:12 AM |
| 3 | RedPill women who used to be on the “liberal” sides, what made you open your eyes?Yes but I was not responding to the validity of liberal v conservative politics. The OP said that sometimes the left insinuates that being a stay at home wife is not a choice and you invalidated her statement by brushing it off and saying that it's only certain (implied, dismissable) people. In my experience, there are a lot of liberals that will be dismissive of lifestyle choices that they disagree with. It's not really about choice, it's about the choice that they agree with. You find it in a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 10:38 PM |
| 2 | RedPill women who used to be on the “liberal” sides, what made you open your eyes?So yes but... Many many people follow mainstream news sources and The Current Thing. The message can come from well meaning people who you like. Two former employees have made under the breath comments about clients with SAHM/Ws. Nothing sinister but they disagreed with the premise that women should make that decision for themselves. Both had working wives, both encouraged their daughters down that path. Legally we can do what we wish, there is no need to follow anyone's path but your own, but t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 06:57 PM |
| 3 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?You are very insistent on speaking for all women, RPW : some of us prefer men with experience OP: I'm insecure so you must be settling 🤦🤦🤦 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 06:32 PM |
| 7 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?Did he ask you about your body count first? It came up organically when we were dating. Also would you prefer that his body count was less? No. I prefer that his is higher. It doesn't bother me and I have always preferred men with more experiences across the board. How do you deal with comparing yourself to his exes or thinking about whether the sex you guys have is his favorite sex? I don't compare myself to his exes. When we were dating the thing that made me insecure were the exes with higher… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 12:37 PM |
| 2 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?He is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 12:05 PM |
| 4 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?I've been with my husband for 16 years. Past partners have had about zero effects on our lives together except that the sex has been pretty great from the get go. Statistics are not destiny. Resentment is in your control. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 11:55 AM |
| 2 | RedPill women who used to be on the “liberal” sides, what made you open your eyes?yeah, your situation is way more complicated than a one off comment from me or the other person. And I was very abrupt in what I said because I wasn't specifically talking to you or giving you advice. I'm presuming because you are here and because you are reading Laura Doyle and doing all the things, that you are making an effort to save the marriage. If I'm right, then I strongly disagree with people who want to come in and tell you that you chose wrong to begin with. Maybe it's true but after … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 12:18 AM |
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