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Send him a before and after of Fiona as a human and an ogre lol. "Which one is more appropriate for your exacting standards?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 10:03 PM
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The moral reason: Because why would you lie to someone you're planning on marrying? The logical reason: Because you don't want him learning the truth from someone who isn't you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/20 04:51 PM
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Is every single woman in the world now a liberal feminist? Are there really no more countering views of what it means to be a woman? I have this same conversation with my mother about music sometimes. "Is everything out there just crappy mumblerap and identical pop songs?" she asks. "Is that all there is?" No. What you see is what is marketed to you. And what is marketed to you is what sells. Media about being a "strong independent woman" is what sells these days. Whether that's because people l…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 12:20 PM
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I definitely had to read it a few times because I felt like there was a good point in there somewhere. But it took some digging to get to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:08 PM
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Yep. I've read that abuse often doesn't start until after a child is born.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:54 PM
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I actually don't think I disagree with her. But let me know if I'm reading it wrong. IMO, a lot of female artists talk about love, sex, and relationships, but it's usually framed as "empowerment," so we can sing even breakup songs (like thank u, next) without having to interrogate our feelings about them. Lana Del Rey sings about similar subjects, but from a position of having been used, hurt, or taken for granted, which is difficult enough. But then she doesn't even try to make it empowering --…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:11 PM
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It's a list of things a woman should have addressed in HERSELF before she starts to date, not a checklist of qualities a man should have in order to be considered. Make sure you understand OP's post and intention before being condescending about it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 10:46 AM
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Emotional wellness (past traumas dealt with, receiving/surrendered mindset, feeling positive, methods in place for dealing with hamstering) What if I never get there? This is a serious question. I can cook and clean, and my career and finances are in great shape, but I've struggled with anxiety, depression, and binge eating almost my entire life, and I've never really dated because of it. I'm 30 years old now, and doing only slightly better than I was 10 years ago despite a lot of effort and wor…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 10:15 AM
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Because they have money. Honestly I think these guys really do think they can just "buy" a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:45 PM
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Sounds like he's with her for the sex and she's with him for the money. Sad. This is just one more reminder that money alone does not make a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:12 PM
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I love the fact that I now associate cute stories about men doing nice things for their wives with FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:51 PM
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I remember when this song came out, it used to piss me off every time I heard about it, and whatever poor friend of mine was with me at the moment got to listen to me rant about the paradox. 9 years later and it's still infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:48 PM
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From what I understand, men don't want to date single mothers because the child is like visual proof that their wife slept around before them. But these are your cousin's kids. All they're proof of is that you're a wonderful person who puts others first. I can't see this putting any good man off.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 12:23 PM
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Measure yourself and buy from barenecesseties.com! I've got big boobs but a small back, so I can't always find bras in my size. I almost always get my bras online. They have lots of sales too!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 01:06 AM
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Ewwwwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 11:45 PM
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Sounds like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:51 PM
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Saw similar posts after a female porn star committed suicide a while back. Awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:17 PM
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I think it's partially because of the way women are enhanced in the media -- magazines, tv shows, insta, etc. We rate ourselves against gorgeous models who starve themselves and get plastic surgery and hair extensions and wear multiple layers of "no makeup makeup" to make themselves look perfect. We're rating our natural bodies and faces against exceptional beauty which has been artificially enhanced to perfection. Of course we're going to give ourselves lower numbers. Men, on the other hand, co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 07:43 PM
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I thought that 'flirting', meaning touching one's hair and doing the whole 'gaze and look away' and laughing a lot, was very beneath me. Wow -- are you me? I had a single mother who taught me that the worst thing in the world I could be was a "floozy" who was "boy crazy" instead of focused on my studies. So I didn't flirt or stay in shape or learn how to do anything but the shortest hair and most minimal makeup. It's still hard now to put on heels or red lipstick without feeling that same shame …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 08:21 PM
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but I've found that mainly means are you open to trying things, are you not too fussy, are you not controlling, is it easy to make you laugh, are you up for being spontaneous, do you get along with other people, are you not a doormat Exactly! That's why I said sweet and agreeable. At least in my experience, I was taught that having "a good personality" meant being well-read and well-traveled, having a good sense of humor, being informed about current events, etc. etc. When all that really matter…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 05:27 PM
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For me really recognizing men and women's behavior was actually watching reality tv shows :D Love Island in particular - every time a new girl walks in the men become very excited. I recently started watching the Bachelor (and Bachelor in Paradise) and it REALLY destroyed my belief that men look for a soulmate who has a good personality and shared values. The things I thought mattered are almost meaningless. Men want the prettiest, youngest girl with the best body that they can get. And if she's…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 04:09 PM
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Thank you for this! I just turned 30, so I started online dating and I am horrified by some of the men in their "30s" who try and talk to me. I've been looking in the mirror thinking, "I'm 30 too. Do I really look that old?" It never occurred to me that maybe some of them are just lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:26 PM
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1) it would be completely unprofessional 2) it could affect my unbiased marking of students work and 3) if other students found out it could ruin the classroom dynamic as they would start to think I was treating that student differently to others. Wow! I've only ever thought about it as morally wrong, but these are 100% logical reasons to ban teacher/student relationships that have nothing to do with upbringing, culture, or morals. When you put it like this, it's hard to see how anyone could def…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:09 PM
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I'm offended for you. JFC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:23 AM
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I think they want to believe that if they amass enough wealth, all women will want them all of a sudden. This is exactly it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:43 PM
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I'm black and, honestly, reading this stuff breaks my heart. I was raised to love, respect and support the black men around me, and I've always done that. So it hurts when I read things like this and know that the men that I would die for talk shit about me and women like me for fun. When the black men I knew in high school only dated white women I assumed it was because I went to an all-girl high school and didn't know enough boys. When the black men I knew in college only dated hispanic women,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:43 PM
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Only the last two are meaningful. A man going above and beyond for you when he barely has anything himself? That's a HVM. A man who leaves the toilet seat down is doing the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:39 PM
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This is horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:47 PM
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Oh my God that's horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:16 PM
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Probably because it means you're being ~mysterious~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:28 AM
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My mother always taught me that a ring is a symbol of a man's love and affection for you. It doesn't have to be big, it doesn't have to be expensive. It has to be GOOD QUALITY. Not a piece of junk that will make your finger turn green and fall off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:57 PM
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if he's not used to buying you gifts and paying for dinner then anything you will ever ask of him will seem too expensive in his eyes DAMN that's good advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:56 PM
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lol 'I remembered your reddit user" aka you blocked me on everything else, so I've been following your reddit obsessively since we broke up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:22 PM
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Materialistic for wanting a $2 card? Okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:52 AM
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oh god that's awful. is she even married yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:06 PM
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I cannot WAIT for my hair to turn grey. As a brown girl, I think silver locs are the most beautiful hairstyle in the world. Can't wait to rock the hell out of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:17 PM
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Or the 8th grade teacher he harassed in school but never stopped having a crush on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:45 PM
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Lol true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:42 PM
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The dream lol. I wonder how many pool boys she has on speed dial...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:16 AM
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These testimonials always feel like a girl trying to convince herself that she isn't completely ruining her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:39 PM
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I used to think that polyamory was a cute idea -- mostly because I watched a bunch of unsatisfying love triangles on tv and kept thinking "why don't you idiots just date each other?" But reading that sub and relationship advice makes me think that anyone who claims to be "poly" really just wants an excuse to sleep around. Ruined the whole idea for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:32 PM
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"Somewhere between curvy and BBW" Bet she feels insecure because of her weight, which is why she's going after older men. Girl needs to date a hot guy HER OWN AGE. Unsatisfying sex once a week is not what you should be dealing with in your 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:23 PM
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I'm 95% sure that shot is from Mr. and Mrs. Smith, and 99% sure that quote isn't in the movie. Source: watched it a half a dozen times when I was a teenager
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:09 AM
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Right after being cast in a starring role as Elvis in Baz Luhrmann's newest film. God, men are so predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:14 PM
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There was a post on reddit a couple weeks ago about a woman whose father was watching it WHILE IN THE ROOM WITH HIS SLEEPING GRANDCHILD. It's already sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 10:07 PM
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Married: I refused to be poked and prodded like an animal by doctors and have my beanbag examined in medical facilities. ... I put my foot down, firmly. Divorced: The only thing I regret right now is not having a son...That would have been sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:26 PM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:03 AM
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All candidates will move the country in a different direction. Choose the candidate whose direction aligns most closely with yours. Don't see someone who ticks all of your boxes? That's fine. Vote for the candidate who WON'T set your interests back 100 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:16 PM
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Reading TRP just makes me never want to date. How am I supposed to know if the guy is honest or lying? Being sincere or just manipulating me? I want marriage and kids, so I know I have to start dating at some point, but stuff like this makes me dread it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:55 PM
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"At least she's thin." The compulsion to neg is so strong that he does it even when the woman isn't around to react to him. Shameful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:21 AM
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Chivalry. I grew up in my great-grandmother's house, and I'm used to men having manners -- standing when a woman stands at the table, pulling out her chair, opening her door, etc etc. It makes me weak in the knees like nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:51 PM
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I'm 5'8" and part of the reason I never dated was because I used to wear heels to feel pretty and boys my age HUMILIATED me for it. I stopped in high school and am only now getting back into the habit at 29. I didn't want to date short guys because they made fun of my height. I felt ashamed for wanting to date tall guys because I was called shallow and superficial for it. So, for that and many other reasons, I just didn't date. Now, of course, I know that those guys just felt emasculated because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:44 PM
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Yes please post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 07:14 PM
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I had the same exact response. "Hmm, not bad, makes sense, this is actually pretty goo -- WHAT THE FUCK?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:47 PM
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I read something recently that said to give every new guy 2 dates. That way if someone's having a bad day, or is awkward around new people, or is just lying to get into your pants, you'll have 2 days worth of data to look at. Food for thought. But I definitely don't think you're picky! Selfishness is a good reason not to date someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:11 PM
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I would have to say that. I HATE chain restaurants. But I love little dive bars and homey neighborhood diners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:07 PM
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Agreed. All that, and she won't even hold his HAND in public. If their marriage is embarrassing for anyone, it's him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:11 PM
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Yes, that's true. And my original impulse is to say that it is all coercion. But I don't disagree with the comment saying that a woman should make her boundaries clear, especially with a stranger. I've experienced something similar (it was a friend, in my case), so maybe I'm just victim blaming myself. Sometimes you can be too close to something to see it clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:17 AM
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If he's a stranger, no. If he's a friend, teacher, or employer, yes. There's no reason not to set and maintain boundaries with a stranger. There are a million reasons not to enforce boundaries when a relationship already exists between two people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:03 AM
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Thank you! I always feel bad saying that but it's how I feel as well! I feel like a queen at work -- I show up, I show out, and I handle my business. With a man? I...kind of want to feel like a princess. Which weeds out the fuckbois lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:42 AM
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I believe the old school term is "beau"? Edit: Beau, suitor, gentleman caller. I'm partial to "gentleman caller," but that's because I want to be Marilyn Monroe lol. I like these terms because they imply that the men are working for your affection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:41 PM
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I know that spelling doesn't really matter in the scheme of things, but seeing stupid mistakes on a profile brings out the crotchety old English teacher in me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:51 AM
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Ooooh Henry Higgins was one of my first crushes lol. This is a hard one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 12:50 PM
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So my filter should be 26-36?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:44 PM
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Listening to this now and I LOVE IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:05 PM
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I'm 29. I don't feel like I've reached the wall only because I've been fat almost my whole life, so I was never all that attractive and never got that much male attention. You can't lose your looks if you never had them in the first place, you know? But I am aware that "29" looks and sounds a lot more attractive than "30," especially in online dating, so I'm trying to lose as much weight as possible by the month before my birthday, so that I can leave nun mode and start dating while I'm still te…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 12:15 AM
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An eternal mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:37 PM
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I grew up with men constantly calling me a giant and telling me to stop wearing heels. It's amazing to hear that there are other kinds of men out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:29 AM
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I'm trying to get to that level of self-confidence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:18 AM
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You're 100% right lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:18 AM
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This is honestly my nightmare. I'm always so so scared of psyching myself up for a date only for the guy to make fun of how tall I am and just bounce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 01:50 AM
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I don't mind cheap food -- I love diners and taco bell -- but I HATE applebees. And Fridays. And all those shitty chains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 09:07 PM
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I actually see this with myself. I struggle with depression and I notice that when I'm in a good space, I feel like a good person, and I smile and talk to people and I do good things for people for no reason. When I'm feeling depressed, I feel like trash, and I put on a nice facade so that other people don't notice. There's definitely a difference between goodness and niceness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 08:55 PM
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Making notes for my OLD profile....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:04 PM
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It's more like "get your shit together November-February" for me, since I plan to start dating in March, but my daily tasks are: staying under my calorie limit, at least 30m exercise @ gym or home, and washing my face 2x day. The goal is to be slender and toned with glowing skin. Can't wait!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 10:39 AM
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That's so interesting because I actually loved that movie! The girls turn classic male fantasies against him and he kind of deserves it. To me, it felt like vicarious revenge against all the men who have sexualized/objectified me in my life. The type of energy that says "You want a schoolgirl fantasy? Choke on it, asshole!" while torturing a grown man. Although, to be fair, I haven't seen it in a while, so it's possible I'm misremembering the film.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 10:05 PM
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Pejorative. The tone is pejorative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 12:36 PM
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"Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate" by Patti Stanger aka the Millionaire Matchmaker. Some things I remember off the top of my head: don't sleep with him too soon, keep a few men in rotation, be hot but approachable, have your own life/hobbies, don't accept low-effort dates, etc etc. I loved her show when I was a kid and now this book is like my second bible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 12:34 PM
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Nope! Wouldn't be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 03:03 PM
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You know what? I've actually already bought that book, but I've been putting off reading it! I'll take a look today. And the 2am fever question sounds like an excellent litmus test. Thank you so much for your advice!
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/19 04:21 AM
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my standards were high and if I wasn't willing to compromise on some of the less meaningful requirements (height, hairline, career), I might not find anyone I think I'm in this situation right now. I've never really dated because I have abandonment issues and social anxiety (already in therapy lol I'm working on it) but because of that, I have really high standards. I'm trying to get rid of my requirements, but I don't know how many to keep, if that makes sense. What's the difference between a r…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/19 01:10 AM
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Imagine being a beautiful black woman and bugging begging a mediocre looking white guy to date you. I can tell there isn't a spark just by looking at the picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 11:54 PM
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I've found that the more accustomed I was to looking/presenting my best, the better I carried myself in the early stages of dating someone. I was able to focus on evaluating this person, not worrying what they would think about how I looked or what I was wearing. I looked like a million bucks, and I felt completely comfortable looking that way. Thank you for this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/19 06:34 PM
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My experience using OLD 5 years ago at 180# is drastically different than it is now at 130#. Granted, this may just be a cultural shift over time and generally matching with an older crowd, but I attribute quite a lot of this the weight loss. THANK YOU. I do think it's worth it to practice and go on a few dates at my current weight, but after I get to 145 (130 is beyond me) I'm definitely remaking my profile and starting over. my schedule is booked with dates with attractive, well-off men. From …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:08 PM
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I learned a lot on dating from Tinder Honestly that's what I'm using it for. Thanks for backing me up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:06 PM
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If you are looking for hookups only, go ahead, but Tinder is garbage! Thanks for the warning! I'm not looking for hookups at all. Maybe I should say something to that effect on my profile?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:06 PM
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my experiences were equally underwhelming if not all-out terrible, whether I was thin or bigger Thank you! That's great to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:05 PM
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young and need the dating practice Young? Not really. Need the practice? Most definitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:05 PM
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Let them initiate conversation This is HUGE for me. I always initiate on dating apps, because I thought that's what you were supposed to do. Sitting back and letting them message me takes so much anxiety out of it. Thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:04 PM
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they're never my type physically I'm into tall dudes with muscle, which I feel like is most people's type? But I do see the value of only matching with men you find attractive. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:04 PM
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If you have confidence people will come to you Lol this is what I'm working on. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:03 PM
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Amazeballs. I bet his "bigger" girlfriend was only like 5 or 10 pounds overweight. And all he can think is "why would anyone want her?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 12:23 AM
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There are some guys who will lie about having well paying jobs just to get girls in bed, so, in addition to everything else, try asking for pictures of his hobbies or things he's done recently -- the last vacation he took, or last concert he went to. That way you can be sure it's legit and not made up to get into your pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 12:08 AM
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I'm losing weight now, but when I hit goal, my plan is to join an expensive gym, rotate between churches in expensive areas (yes, I'm a Christian lol) , and volunteer. That and go on OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 09:17 PM
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She felt it would give a man power over her if she let him pay I remember my mother explaining this to me when I was a child. Never let a man pay for something you NEED -- your light bill, your groceries, etc -- because it gives him power over you. Let him pay for things that you WANT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:05 PM
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lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 12:43 AM
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All the articles I saw were tongue in cheek ones like "Internationally acclaimed human rights lawyer dates older, struggling actor" lol. Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 01:56 PM
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When guys "spin plates," they're sleeping with multiple women, and not sincerely committing to any of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 11:59 PM
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It's like that stupid sub about the wall -- it's supposed to show how drinking, drugs, etc, makes women age faster, but it's really just a bunch of guys apparently angry at the fact that women age at all. Like, are you trying to wife up a septuagenarian? No? Then stop obsessing over how they look!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 03:49 AM
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"I put a picture of him crying on Facebook...I'm not sure what I did wrong." This doesn't sound like something a sane woman would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 04:20 PM
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As someone who is also trying to lose weight to find a captain, I would suggest that you focus on behaviors, not results. You won't go from 230 to 136 (normal bmi) in a week, or a month. If you're anything like me, waiting for your scale to motivate you won't work. You can't see 2 pounds weight loss in the mirror, and waiting to see that runs the risk that you'll lose motivation and end up right back where you starter, if not heavier. Instead, try to start new habits -- counting calories, walkin…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 09:00 PM
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He always makes me feel like it's my fault Classic abuser tactic. This isn't RPW, this is abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 04:18 PM
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Ohhh. Thank you for the clarification!
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 09:07 PM
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By deleting your post? Interesting method of discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 08:11 PM
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I get what you're saying, and I think I might even agree with OP. But referring to other women as "fat hairy slobs," and "ugly girls screaming for equality" just seems unnecessarily mean spirited and divisive. RPW aren't all gorgeous 20-year-olds with perfect figures.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 06:13 PM
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Being both a feminist and an RPW, I am a little shocked and disappointed to be reading this post, and I'm struggling with how to respond to it. It feels petty and mean-spirited instead of thoughtful and understanding, which is how I usually view this subreddit. As someone who was pretty until I turned 23, got an office job and started getting fat, I have always been a feminist who believed in *equity* between men and women. Yes, even when I was being asked to model and was getting free desserts …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 12:37 PM
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It's a fetish, not a preference.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 12:25 AM
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I do have a lot of weight to use It's not your RBF, it's your weight. People used to tell me that I gave off a bitchy vibe, or had RBF, and that's why no one asked me out. That was a lie. It was my weight. Start eating less and exercising more and all of a sudden those excuses will magically stop coming up in conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 11:07 PM
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Agreed. I'm subscribed to them as well -- I take any advice I can get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 03:49 PM
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Join a sports team. College is when I settled into my introversion and terrible eating habits. Now I'm fat with no friends. Hard to find a husband that way.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 12:13 PM
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The same reason tumblr banned all their porn: money
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 04:11 AM
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I get that. I just know that none of my friends have boyfriends who spend a lot of money on them. So the specific scenario of "get an expensive gift after an expensive dinner, then act like a bitch at home" would never happen. Maybe I just don't know any generous men lol
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 07:10 PM
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I don't know any women like this. Is it possible that only men who have had bad experiences with women write about us online?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 06:54 PM
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Loving the positivity lol. You do you, girl. There's nothing wrong with going after what you want. And you sound like you're well on your way. Ignore the haters! ETA: This is the same person that was rude to me when I asked about getting into heels! You know what's really pathetic? Spending all your time leaving nasty messages on reddit to women who just want to better themselves. Sad.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 03:07 AM
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Got it. Thanks for the helpful advice!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 09:44 PM
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I'm not thin, white, or blonde, so trust me I'm in no danger of being called "Barbie." But are you honestly saying that every woman in heels and dresses is pretentious and making a bad impression? Because that's...quite a statement.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 08:25 PM
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Oh wow. Yeah I can definitely see where you're coming from. I'm sorry that happened, and I hope you're doing better!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:48 PM
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I mean, I like them and think they're pretty. I just don't think others would agree. Does that make any sense?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:42 PM
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I'm single, and I'm never sure whether to wear heels so I look pretty or wear flats so I don't look intimidating. Guess I should split the difference and wear what I truly want! Now to figure out what that is...
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:03 PM
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Just a little bit of sacrifice haha. And yoga twice a week to balance it out!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:01 PM
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Ohhhhhhh. 170 kilos is almost 375lbs, which is definitely obese. Now the comment makes sense. Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:00 PM
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Thank you! I feel a lot better now -- I was scared for a while. And I love the boot >wedge>pump transition! What do you do for work, if you don't mind my asking? I always wanted to work in fashion, but because I was too fat to model, I never felt comfortable even thinking about the hundreds of other jobs in the industry.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 06:57 PM
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Yeah. I have no idea. I don't know any women who wear red lipstick and stilettos to work but I think I could get away with a low, chunky heel. Thanks for the reminder! There is a good reason not to stand out too much at work.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 06:50 PM
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I know the risks, but I'm thinking of low heels, not super high stilettos, thank goodness.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 06:49 PM
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Thank you! I really do want to be that person that wears a dress every day, but I sprinkle in a pair of jeans every now and then for some reason. I used to be such a nonconformist. Guess I gotta get used to it again.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 06:48 PM
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Oh, I know! My plan is to stick to 1-2 inch heels most of the time, and only break out the 3-4 inch heels for special occasions (where I'll be sitting most of the time).
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 04:08 PM
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make me feel pretty and dainty You know what, I do always end up feeling this way eventually, even though I feel like a pretender when I put them on at first. I'm going to try and remember this. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 04:08 PM
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I remember the first time I wore a neutral-yet-visible lip color to work, I got all these comments and felt so self-conscious. I remember that happening with every girly thing imaginable -- makeup, nail polish heels, etc. Every time I've tried to make myself look pretty, a man in my life has complained about it, which is why I'm only now getting back into it at 29. I guess I should have doubled down instead of giving up on myself. But I'm doing it now!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 04:07 PM
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before jumping into typical high heels That's smart. I guess I look at high heels and think "oooh pretty" but also get anxiety about them. Something on the more practical side would definitely be a good place to start. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 03:26 PM
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just wanted to be invisible This is the state of mind I've been working to get out of. I'm glad you're not going back!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 03:20 PM
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But I do honestly want to know where you're getting your numbers from. If I've been using the wrong BMI calculator, I'd like to know for the future.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 03:18 PM
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I love boots and booties, so just finding some with a heel should be an easier change than moving straight to pumps. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 03:07 PM
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Boots are cool transition too Ooooh this is smart. Transition to heeled boots in the fall/winter, then just wear heels when it gets warmer and no one will notice. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 03:06 PM
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170 at 5'8" is obese by BMI standards So, I appreciate the weight loss advice -- I've been a self-loathing binge eater for many years and am now in therapy for it -- but to be honest, I have no idea where you're getting your numbers from. Every BMI calculator I've ever used has 170 in the overweight category. Now that you've worried me, I've just looked it up on multiple charts and the highest weight for a normal 5'8" BMI appears to be 164, which means I'm only 6 pounds overweight, which is 1) a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 03:05 PM
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Yep, I remember from years ago that kitten heels and stilettos hurt my heels, so I'm sticking to blocky heels for now. I've never worn naturalizers before, though, so thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 02:41 PM
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I like your style lol
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 02:40 PM
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I promise no one's paying as much attention to you as you are. This is something I'm trying to teach myself. Thanks for the reminder!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 02:39 PM
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Not the OP lol. I totally agree with you! If you're in a relationship and neither of you cares about the other, the relationship is over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/19 07:59 PM
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I don’t think playing games to combat someone playing games is the best dating advice at all. No, but not GAF about someone who DGAF about you is actually a really good idea. ETA: And if you both DGAF about each other, you should break up. Sorry, I thought that was clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/19 07:44 PM
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This sounds about right.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 06:56 PM
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I try to do something from both styles. I'll wear a feminine dress with studded booties and a leather jacket, or black skinny jeans with pretty pink heels. And I always wear a lot of rings and bracelets. I do have a nose ring, but it's a tiny diamond stud, not a huge hoop or anything. I'm still single, so I don't know how well it's working out for me lol. But it's what I'm used to.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 03:52 PM
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I think part of the program is social programming. When I was little, I took dance classes, loved pink, dressed up every time I could, and spent all my time doing my dolls' hair so they looked pretty. By the time I graduated college, I had no feminine hobbies, wore jeans and black almost exclusively, and had an afro that was half an inch long. People made fun of me for wanting to be feminine -- called me silly and shallow, etc etc -- so I stopped. It's only recently that I've come to terms with …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 12:58 PM
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Being a people-pleasing introvert is good for your grades, but terrible for your weight, social skills, and dating prospects. Go join a sports team or something!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 03:06 AM
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I 100% agree. But I have done enough therapy and soul searching to know that I am not my debilitating shyness, or my mental issues, or my excess weight. Am I giving those things up to find a man? ABSOLUTELY. But I'm also finding myself. I've lost weight, started therapy, and begun wearing makeup/heels. It's improved my confidence and self-esteem a little bit. I do at times hear the little voice in my head that says "how dare you even attempt to look attractive!" But I'm working on shushing it.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/19 11:40 PM
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The same thing we all get, I guess -- some kind of assurance that he won't be alone if/when things get tough.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 02:53 PM
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The definition of feminism is: the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes. I believe in that. When it becomes misandry, I disagree with that, but, to be clear, it's the misandry I disagree with, not the feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 12:48 AM
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That's fair, and nothing works for everyone. I just know that I've spent a decade hating myself and my fat and my weight. I've spent time and money and energy trying to work on my self control and my discipline, only to give up whenever anything goes wrong because "I'm not worth it anyway." For me, suffering is too attractive an idea. It's easy to berate and castigate and punish myself. And the easiest way to punish myself is to make sure I don't lose any weight at all. Loving myself is the only…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 10:07 AM
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Oooh yes! Strict with the kids, but soft with the husband. Perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 04:02 AM
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I don't know if this is bad, but one of my role models has always been the Joan Fontaine character from Rebecca -- kind, unassuming, supportive, and always makes her husband smile. Even when things go to shit, she does the best she can to be there for him. Also, she looks adorable in her twinsets!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 03:56 AM
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It's hard, I know! What's been working for me is only weighing myself once a week. Then, the rest of the time, I'm just focusing on building good habits. Have you tried something similar?
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 04:46 PM
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Thank you! I love these!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 04:45 PM
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Thank you! It's funny how my "find a man" journey has actually turned into a "find myself" journey.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 12:40 PM
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Happiness doesn't lie on the horizon of your ideal weight So true! For so long I was the person who didn't buy new clothes, or try new things, or meet new people because I'd do it "when I got skinny." But the person I am now deserves those things too. A great way to put it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 12:36 PM
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My BED is the reason why I originally got into therapy. Eventually, you just get tired of starting over, you know what I mean?
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 12:35 PM
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Thank you -- I'm faking it till I make it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 02:30 AM
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An awesome analogy! I'm similar, unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 02:29 AM
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It's extremely psychologically damaging and will absolutely lead to punishing themselves with extreme diets and exercise, yo-yoing and generally going nowhere and feeling worse. And feeling worse usually leads to eating worse and bingeing. The other thing I've noticed is that obsessing over weight and hating yourself for it makes you a miserable person, which makes you miserable to be around. An RPW wants to be light, and fun, and happy -- a soft place to land. That only happens with self-love, …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 02:28 AM
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I made new friends that gave me so much positive affirmations of the work I put in This is good to hear! I don't have many friends in my hometown, so I'm hoping that the positive energy I'm putting into the world results in something similar. Congratulations on your success!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 02:22 AM
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Your self sabotage is simply a habit not an ingrained part of who you are Amen to that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 02:20 AM
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love myself where I was first That's the goal! Any tips? I've just been meditating and listening to youtube affirmations, but I'm sure there's more I can be doing.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 09:27 PM
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I'm glad I could help! Thinking about it as a journey of self-love instead of self-improvement was really mindblowing to me, so I figured it might be equally helpful for someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 09:26 PM
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Ive been on that journey for a couple years. For me, the hardest thing to do is accept that it won't be a quick fix. But I'm trying to take it day by day. And that's the best that any of us can do.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 09:25 PM
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This is a good one. I'm in chorus, and our conductor never tells any section that they're singing too loudly. What he says is to "listen louder than you sing," which I think is a similar idea.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 04:59 PM
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I like sheer colors in light pink or nude because 1: they look longer (I love long nails) and 2: if something chips off, it isn't the end of the world.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/19 11:32 PM
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He's in his 40s, married with kids, kind of famous in his field of work (which happens to be mine also). He is fun to be around and seems to enjoy my company, but also said he likes me and implied being open to sleeping with me which I brushed off. I am not very experienced with communicating with men so meeting him has been beneficial in that sense. I am trying to learn how to act appropriately which is the reason I am seeing him besides his helpful advice carreer-wise. Not to make light of you…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 02:55 PM
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And before that she was married to Lenny Kravitz. My literal role model.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 12:38 PM
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In order of importance: lose weight, wear skirts and dresses, take time to do your hair/nails/makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 10:16 AM
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Cater 2 U by Destiny's Child! I listen to it every morning when I force myself to clean the kitty litter lol
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 10:20 PM
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I just started a gym membership down the block from my house, so no excuses. My goals are to go to the gym 3 times a week, bring food from home for my work lunches and stick to my budget.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 06:57 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 08:57 PM
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I'm a zen, supportive, Christian woman who wants children and an old-fashioned relationship, so I think I have that to offer. But I'm still trying to increase my RMV and SMV before getting into the dating world. As part of my journey towards mental and emotional health, I've been declaring to myself every morning that my goal is to become a delicate, delightful housewife (or a sexy, successful trophy wife, depending on my mood lol) for my husband who loves me. To that end, I have a daily to-do l…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 08:23 PM
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I switched to boxing (heavy bag only, no sparring), and it's been great! There are guys there (teaching and taking classes), so I can work on getting comfortable, but we're not so close that it causes me anxiety. I have been thinking about a private lesson, though... Good luck to you as well.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 06:17 PM
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Not OP, but thank you for this! I've always been uncomfortable with strangers in general and now, after a bad experience in my early twenties, I'm anxious around men in particular. I took one (just one) co-ed jiu jitsu class with tumbling, sparring and grappling practice, and it left me on the verge of a panic attack because of how uncomfortably close I had to be with my (kind, careful, appropriate) male partner. Ballroom dance, on the other hand, sounds like exactly the right way to get used to…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 03:29 PM
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My suggestion would be to get rid of your other clothes, and also to get/stay in shape. When I was younger and slimmer, I only had skirts, dresses, and pretty shoes in my closet. (Maybe I had one pair of jeans that I kept for bumming around the house.) I felt comfortable in those clothes, because that's "what I wore." Now that I'm older and fatter, I have a lot of jeans and big sweaters and sneakers. I feel comfortable in these clothes, because now it's "what I wear." Dressing feminine is like a…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 03:21 PM
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Do men not like long nails? I was under the impression that they were a sign of good health, like long hair or clear skin. EDIT: Thank you all for the informative responses!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/02/19 05:34 PM
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It's one of my favorite movies. And fashion inspirations haha
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 11:39 PM
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It seemed natural to me that if I could choose to be anything I wanted; why couldn't I choose to be a SAHM? Have you seen Mona Lisa Smile? It's about a group of women college students and their feminist professor in the 50s. One of the main characters asks that question almost word for word in the film.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 11:18 PM
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I started nun mode in August with the goal of being more social and meeting more people. 6 months later, I've joined a chorus, gotten a roommate, applied for a mentorship program, and started a new job (where I work with a really cute guy). I'm not where I want to be yet, but things are looking up! I'm grateful for these new opportunities.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 09:27 PM
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I have always been pretty red pilled about relationships. My mom and dad had a perfect (to my 6-year-old eyes) relationship. She had a high-powered job, but quit to raise me and take care of the house. He continued to work to support us, and they ADORED each other. When he died, their marriage became the pinnacle of all romantic relationships to me. So I've never been interested in casual dating, or sleeping around a la Sex and the City, or being a woman who orders her man around all day. I spen…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 11:48 PM
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Thank you!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/19 07:10 PM
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Just general advice. I had a mother who, because she was grieving the death of my dad, taught me that sex and romance were useless and to focus on my education and career. So I never even considered dating until I turned 28 last year and wondered why I was so miserable. I'm a little lost when it comes to the opposite sex, but posts like this, not to mention this sub as a whole, help a lot. I'm losing weight, learning to cook and putting myself out there. Hopefully it helps!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/19 06:53 PM
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I've been trying to work up the courage to ask this subreddit for advice for a month now -- I'm not sure I ever would have done it. Thank you so much for this post!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/01/19 06:39 PM
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Well, I've downsized from 40 to 17, so I'm on my way! I'm trying to reach 7 -- one of each major color.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 06:30 PM
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A friend of mine just recommended her book to me! I'll make sure to look her up.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 06:29 PM
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Great advice. I have too many that I've never worn.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 06:29 PM
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That's what I'm trying to find. I have so many lipsticks that just look okay on me. I want to only keep ones I love. But thank you. I'm probably going to end up with a pretty big number!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 10:58 PM
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Adding organizers is a good idea. Part of the reason I'm trying to get rid of some is the fact that I'm running out of space. Maybe I should get a nice makeup drawer or something. Thanks for the idea!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 10:57 PM
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Thought I had a dozen or two. I had 40! You might be right hahahahaa
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 10:55 PM
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Yeah, I need to work on choosing flattering colors as opposed to just colors I like the look of in the tube. You live and you learn, I guess!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 08:37 PM
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No little sisters, but I do have cousins. Maybe I'll let them take a few!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 08:37 PM
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Thank you for the easy steps! And you're right, I should hold on to the ones I love. Great advice!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 08:08 PM
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Mixing my own colors is a bit (a lot) outside my wheelhouse, but I'm glad to hear it isn't just me. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 06:21 PM
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Yeah I'm trying to do this. I used to think you were supposed to have one of every color, which is why I had so many. But they didn't all look good on me. I'll try and focus on quality instead of variety for the future. Maybe I'll still end up with a couple dozen haha. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 05:54 PM
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Oh that's smart. I'm trying to make makeup part of my daily routine in 2019, so having at least a natural color, a work color and a going out color makes a lot of sense. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 05:52 PM
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I hadn't even thought about that. Some of them are from a while ago. I'll go through and throw out the older ones. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 05:20 PM
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I disagree. Makeup increases my confidence levels, makes my mood better and gets me noticed at work, not to mention how it makes conversations easier with strangers who are more willing to be nice to an attractive lady than a bare faced slob. (Not saying that women who don't wear makeup are slobs, but I'm more likely to look nice when I have makeup on.)
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 03:00 PM
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I'm in!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/18 11:02 PM
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I'd HIGHLY recommend a mix of both public and private. I went to public school from kindergarten through 5th grade, then private school from 6th through 12th. It was really good for me, since I socialized with kids from my low-to-middle class neighborhood as well as rich kids from the private school I attended in the city. Totally different people. Totally different lives. It really broadens your horizons not being stuck in a bubble. EDIT: And yes, people do go crazy in college, but if you have …
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/18 09:53 PM
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I love romance novels, but I only read regency romance and BDSM-themed romance. Oddly enough, they're pretty similar in terms of character, even if the plots are wildly different, as you can imagine! The men tend to be strong willed, stoic and protective, while the women start out as either innocent and closed off or aggressive and unladylike. Either way, after meeting a man both attracted to and well-suited to them, they find love and happiness by learning to show their submissive, feminine sid…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 05:53 PM
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If you stay in good shape and rock the femininity, you will be attractive to men. Stay in good shape. This is of the utmost importance, and I wish someone had said it to me when I was your age. I'm almost 5'10". When I was younger, boys loved me, even though I was taller than all of them, because I was feminine and kind. But in high school, I got very sick, gained a lot of weight, and...never lost it. After that, boys started to be intimidated by me. The flirting and chivalry stopped, and the jo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 08:10 PM
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First off, I'm sorry this happened to you. I've been in situations like this before, and no matter what you want to call it, it sucks, so I hope you're being kind to yourself and spending time with friends/family/chocolate as needed. In my experience, this isn't 100% a him problem. It's partly a you problem. There's a thin line between being agreeable and being a doormat, and sometimes it's hard to see where the line is. Setting boundaries is hard, but it's important to have them, both so that y…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 03:18 PM
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Yeah, my mother used essential oils, but I'm nervous to because of the pet thing. Thanks though! It's absolutely what I would be doing if I didn't have a cat.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 06:55 PM
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I have candles everywhere, but I'm broke so I don't want to use them lol. I've never heard of renunzit, though. So I'll check that out, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 06:53 PM
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There's a target right by my house, so that's great!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 06:52 PM
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How do I keep my house smelling nice? I have sinus problems, so I'm always congested and can rarely smell anything. I tidy up daily, have lots of plants and clean my apartment once a week, but I have a cat, so I just want to be sure I'm doing everything I can. Any little things I can try to keep my place smelling fresh?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 03:43 PM
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I definitely agree that art is a great hobby, and it's so nice that your husband supports you like that. Writing is more my speed than painting, but put me in a museum or a art supply store and watch me change my tune! And kayaking sounds amazing! Terrifying, but amazing! As soon as I have the money, I'll see if I can join a group of beginners. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 11:46 AM
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I am definitely a nerd! I play a lot of console RPGs, so tabletop role playing groups seem cool, but I've never played before, so I was nervous to join. Maybe I can find a meetup for beginners? Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 11:43 AM
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A learning co-op? I've never heard of that before, but it sounds cool! I've been meaning to learn a little bit of coding, so maybe I'll try a class instead of an online tutorial. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 12:09 PM
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I'm already signed up for boxing (evening boxing classes are mostly women, so I'm giving morning classes a shot), but I hadn't considered co-ed sports. I really don't think I'm in good enough shape yet, but I'll definitely look into it. Maybe I'll start with something a little less intimidating, like hiking. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 06:17 PM
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There are plenty of subs where this would be an appropriate question. Why don't you go try one of them?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 06:04 PM
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If you want to attract a man who gives you straight answers, you have to be the kind of woman who can match his values. So true.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 10:03 PM
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I don't know that I agree that "there are probably very few black RPW." I'm black, and most of my female frinds and family are pretty traditional when it comes to relationships. Although maybe those are just the women I've surrounded myself with. In any case, congratulations on the weight loss!
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 02:23 PM
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I agree that you shouldn't be wearing stilettos at work, but I've recently had a similar idea -- that I should be wearing heels more often. I've decided to wear heels every time I go out to a place that isn't work, i.e.: dinner after work, movies on the weekend, etc. To get used to it, you could try what I'm trying -- wedges and boots with a chunky heel. Chunky heels might not be as sexy as stilettos, but they're definitely easier to walk in, at least when you're first starting.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:54 PM
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Same! I want to be fluent in 5 languages as well, but I find that there literally aren't enough hours in the day lol. Do you work on each language every day, or work on one language per day and just cycle?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 10:36 PM
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I agree 100% with this. I used to masturbate for the exact purpose of not having sex, but it didn't end up that way. What happened when I masturbated frequently was that I didn't ever feel like I needed a man. Even if I met a man that I liked and might have been interested in, I never made an effort b/c I knew that I could just go home and get off without any stress or strings. It's still a bit of a struggle, but it's amazing how much more attractive men are now that I don't masturbate. I feel l…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 10:24 PM
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I'm going to echo the Christians here and say that it plays an enormous role. I actually didn't recognize my RP tendencies until this Lent, when I gave up porn and video games and devoted myself to prayer and my Bible. Christianity teaches that women are strong and kind and holy, and that we can be all of that through our submission to our husbands and to Christ. Pretty beautiful, if you ask me.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 10:09 PM
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