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sirogue/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 11:45 AM
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Sorry to hear your relationship got nuked by that poison. It sounds like what made you fall in love was him being emotionally available and kind. Do you feel that other qualities helped like confidence, non-neediness, etc? I ask because I am jaded with red pill and your case is proof against their poison.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/25 10:19 PM
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I think that the vulnerable side was the real him. I had a similar journey and red pill led me to believe this vulnerable side is weak and unattractive. So I'd be very insecure about being "too nice". The red pill guys I knew were bitter or emotionally blunted, the total opposite. It is sad to see your guy was loved and he may have been too insecure to see it.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/24 11:48 AM
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Thank you for the reply, I've decided to fully detox from all the negative stuff as a start. So much toxic advice in social media As far as the paranoia, I'm working on not validating these thoughts by letting them be. Like ERP treatment I tend to ruminate which perpetuates the paranoid thoughts Also working on having more abundance in my life so she's not my sole source of joy and happiness I've seen multiple times now how my thoughts about her texting were warped I don't want to damage her, ye…
/r/ExRedPill27/10/24 07:12 PM
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Thank you for your comment, I appreciate you taking the time to write here I am inexperienced, yes, and I do understand she can talk to other guys and more as exclusivity is not defined or agreed upon. And same for me as far as having other women in my life. I had an FWB I was seeing as well The problem I had is that in my red pill circle, out of all the possibilities a girl may not text right away, the possibility brought out the most was "she's got a better plate, she's banging another dude be…
/r/ExRedPill27/10/24 12:55 PM
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So true, I was just thinking how cuck-like these assumptions are. I'm reframing that there could be 1001 reasons that someone may not text back right away. Why do they fixate on the possibility that it's the girl getting railed by someone? What proof? And why torment oneself with this one possibility Update here, the girl is interested in me romantically. I was just projecting my insecurities onto the relationship The red pill had some good advice for me (build yourself up, don't be a pushover) …
/r/ExRedPill23/10/24 09:19 PM
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Thank you, there are concepts from red pill I do agree with (value yourself, work on yourself, don't be a pushover) but trying to take these good from the bad Update: we did go out and had a really great time. She's better about texting now. So I did get confirmation I'm not in the friend zone. It was good to get a reference point that infrequent texting doesn't necessarily mean I'm in the friend zone
/r/ExRedPill16/10/24 01:20 PM
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Thank you for the links! Going to check these out so I have better mindsets and healthier concepts
/r/ExRedPill16/10/24 01:16 PM
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Thank you for your comments, that third paragraph describes my experience almost exactly the same! It's crazy how similar our paths were. Red pill helped me to invest more in myself but the cost was paranoia and resentment That makes sense, I find the root cause is lack of love and so I've pivoted into self-love and creating a safe space for my emotions and to feel loved, valid, etc Damn, that is my experience growing up as well! I was a loner, kept to myself and pedestalized women a lot. Got wo…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/24 09:15 AM
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Thank you, that helps ease my anxieties surrounding texting. I've run across one such woman as you mention that only wanted to use me and thankfully this new woman is nothing like that old one Seems like key for me is to not imagine the worst but also not be naive and use critical thinking to judge if a woman is not a good fit
/r/ExRedPill11/10/24 06:08 AM
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Thank you for the kind words! Yes, I want to learn from others and I figure fighting would be counterproductive as I asked for feedback here You nailed it because I do have OCD in general, which consists of me doing compulsions over fears over and over again I hadn't considered this is me imagining the worst to be prepared, that makes a lot of sense What helped me calm down recently is reframing things. Like there's 1001 reasons she may text infrequently or how I'm jumping to conclusions. Your e…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/24 06:04 AM
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Thank you for the advice and confirmation that texting isn't that important so long as in-person is going great Will do, I plan to just keep seeing her as long as it's enjoyable for me and let her bring up exclusivity. I tend to have a habit to reassure myself in uncertainty and it can sometimes be intense and I want to avoid scaring her off by wanting to lock her down NOW It's also why I am very careful to not overtext and be very pingy and high-pressure which I think is ideal to counter my nat…
/r/ExRedPill10/10/24 01:03 AM
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Ah I see, I've noticed other cult-y groups that have some overlap with political groups/agendas (ex. carnivore diet group) Sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy then when it comes to them dating women Thank you for the info!
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 08:01 PM
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Thank you, that makes sense regarding cheating. I can see the anxiety about cheating or being broken up with becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy Interesting to hear the accounts of those "alpha" men, usually red pill says they're basically winning all the time so good to know their theory doesn't match reality In my case, I believe that being a "beta" (using their terms) is a wall to what I want (success in dating, career, etc) plus the stigma associated with it in red pill. I do believe in bein…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 07:50 PM
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Thank you, that tracks, I realized I have no evidence for my thoughts especially when I was proven wrong (ex. Infrequent texting = no interest). I'll be mindful of jumping to conclusions
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 07:43 PM
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Ah I see, yes the text frequency throws me off but makes sense as to how it's not necessarily a reflection on me, especially at this point in the relationship Yes, I'm looking back and see exceptions to their supposed rules and theories. I was just thinking earlier, only like a minority of men would have dating success according to their material Thank you so much for your words of encouragement! I really appreciate them and you taking the time to share your experiences as a woman that run count…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 04:12 PM
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That makes sense, if it were a guy friend, I'd be way more relaxed about the pace. I think it's the meaning I attach to romantic interactions where I wrongly see them as judgment on my worth But I wouldn't be like "Oh he's seeing another friend behind my back probably." With guy friends, I just figure they're busy doing something or otherwise occupied but I don't villanize them for it usually So I can do the same for romantic partners I'll take it easier and avoid attributing such warped meaning…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 04:06 PM
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Thank you for sharing your experiences, it's helpful to see one example of how a person texts and that everyone does it differently and that texting a certain way doesn't necessarily mean they don't care It's helpful to read your thought process as far as texting. Thank you!
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 03:53 PM
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Yeah, it's unhealthy, I admit, I don't like thinking this way I'll refrain from engaging in this type of thinking. It's hard but I also don't want to ruin a potentially good connection
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 03:47 PM
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I understand, thank you. I have little reference experience as to what "normal" texting is and recognize that my views on it are likely warped. I was proven wrong earlier but it's good to know what are reasonable expectations.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 03:44 PM
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I definitely feel that the gateway to it was vulnerability that they preyed on and stoked related fears Thank you for the clarification on how flawed AWALT is. Looking back, I have noticed how each woman has their own personality, likes, dislikes, etc. I think it was easier to put them all in the same category and disregard their uniqueness Ah I see, yes, I've felt that compassion = bad so I always hesitated with that because I tend to like being emotionally expressive in feel-good emotions (aff…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 03:17 PM
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Ah damn, I hate that I adopted their toxicity. I was always careful about them before but I feel that my bad dating experiences made me vulnerable because they offered solutions and answers. But I'm not that much better with dating, if anything I'm worse in some respects I noticed these red pill guys don't sound successful with regards to dating as well Thank you for the feedback, I am hoping that this will at least be a real-life experience to see with my own eyes how things can be and not in t…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 02:41 PM
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Thank you for the reply Yes, I understand it's toxic, I was looking for a way to not be in this state because I recognize it's not healthy I haven't talked about exclusivity (I'm noobish to this so wasn't sure when a talk like that happens) I think the insecurity is not so much about her and her behavior but how I'm framing things. That's why I posted here, to get a reality check Ah gotcha, I was just always told seeking any validation is a recipe for failure in dating so I'm insecure about need…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 02:31 PM
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I find any subreddit where they are trauma dumping will make me feel bad as well. Some spaces are geared to be outrage porn, which could be the case with the subreddits you are reading. People are addicted to feeling bad. Hence red pill, negative news, and possibly these subreddits. A detox may be in order. I get not wanting to be red pill but don't just fill your head from a different faucet. Everyone has their biases, something to keep in mind. I'd just steer clear of subreddits where you noti…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/24 11:39 AM
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