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The way I see it is that Scott pretends to play both sides. Oh I understand that women are in danger, but men commit a lot of suicide. It's like this time after time. He is manipulating all of us to try to put us against each other. We can all see it how we want. You see him against men, I see him against women and men. Yet are moms and dads raising healthy sons? No. From what I can see, fathers sit back and ignore their kids other than bullying their sons into never expressing an emotion. Men a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/25 09:26 PM
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I know there are women out there who claim to love hookups and describe seeing a guy at a bar and wanting to jump him, Those are the "cool girls." They aren't actually cool at all. They are stupid for falling for a scam perpetrated by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:12 PM
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A $10 lunch sounds like a cheap prostitute honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:09 PM
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Nevermind that the sex is NEVER incredible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:07 PM
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You can get yeast infections, bladder infections, BV, etc... from men. I knew my husband was having an affair when I got a UTI. I had never had one in my life, ever. But, suddenly it shows up? A bit of snooping on his computer revealed that he was cheating. I am glad I looked and held him responsible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:57 PM
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A lot of women just want watermelon sugar and long foreplay. It's not that hard to do. If a guy does it right, he can make you go first, or he can make you almost there by the time you have sex. You would think guys would want that, but they seem to persist on being terrible in bed. She Comes First should be mandatory reading for every man before they ever have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:54 PM
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You should get one of the ones that has a clitoral sucker. That blew my mind and changed my life. I got one with the sucker and an internal vibrating dildo as well. My husband is good in the sack, but I am going through perimenopause, so orgasms can be very difficult for me. I have never had anything blow my mind more than that sex toy. Reading the reviews on Amazon is hilarious as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:39 PM
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They play the part of the object [that the man is fucking] and claim empowerment. Anything to justify their pickmeshia behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:35 PM
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They universally suck. You might get one guy out of 50 who is good in bed and cares about your pleasure, but who wants to sleep with 49 duds to find that one who is good in bed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:34 PM
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Even with intimacy, it doesn't mean the sex will be any good. I learned that quick in my dating days. I refused to fake it, and none of them even cared. I broke up with about 4 people for just being careless and selfish in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:31 PM
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Wouldn't it be great if you could have a sex partner who may not be an SO, and they would be concerned about your sexual needs and be good in bed? I know this sub is against hookups. I am too, because I know what men act like with hookups. But if these same guys were really good in the sack, and cared about your pleasure, it might be different. But it's not different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:30 PM
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Even in committed relationships, sex can be so lacking. I haven't dated in many years, but out of about 5 relationships, only one was good in bed and cared about my needs, not including my husband. He has always been the type to give me what I need, which is one of the many reasons why I married him. It sucks to be in a relationship, and have bad sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:25 PM
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I am convinced that LVM men are somehow responsible for that "feminist" trope. Some guys somewhere started telling women it is empowering, and the dumbos bought it. There is nothing freeing about having a rando peen inside your body, with no real pleasure from it, because they are terrible in the sack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:16 PM
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But you can win if you play it right. Reading FDS helps to teach how you can win. By winning I mean breaking up and blocking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:55 PM
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He was playing games straight from the players handbook. They love to neg and fuck with women. Glad it didn't work on OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:44 PM
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Yes. Get a Google phone number or something like that. Don't tell them where you live until they prove themselves as HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:43 PM
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That was my first thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:41 PM
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I rarely believe those crazy ex stories from men. I know how men are and it's far more likely that they are the problem. They like to pretend they are clueless and dumb so they can get away with bad behavior. It reminds me of how so many men do a shitty job at chores so their SO will take over and do it for them, as though they are children. They are so capable in their job but can't vacuum the floor well? Bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:37 PM
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Yes. It's a public service!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:35 PM
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That is gold. I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:34 PM
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I think more men would pay if all women would refuse to go on a second date with men who refuse to even pay for coffee. I see no problem with letting a man know the problem. If all women did this, men might stop slacking and become higher value. I regret my younger years where I insisted on paying for myself, so men wouldn't be able to expect something. I was a fool. Men shouldn't expect sex over a 20 dollar dinner. It would have weeded out the bad dudes if they did expect it after spending 20 b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:37 PM
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They play dumb to get out of cleaning, chores, responsibility while also claiming to be the "logical intelligent gender" This is perfectly put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:31 PM
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Yes. And say something. I would say, "Really? This is the special place? It doesn't seem very special." Then I would leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:18 PM
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Nevermind that maybe he should wait until his messy divorce is over so he doesn't involve some poor woman in his drama. It's very selfish of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 08:00 PM
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If I were dating again, I wouldn't talk about my exes, and wouldn't tolerate much ex talk with an SO. It's so useless. Plus the exes aren't there to defend themselves or tell their side of the story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:58 PM
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When a guy says his exes are crazy, fucking run because it’s him This. So much this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:56 PM
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They frame it as helping so they can get praise like a small child. Women need to reject this behavior and let men know they either do their fair share without getting a pat on the back, or they can hit the road.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:50 PM
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You can be sure the minute you forgave him, things would go back to the way they were. It's sad how transactional men can be. They only do things to get what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:46 PM
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I agree that most of it is faking. Sabotaging chores so your SO will do them is more common than not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:44 PM
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Also explains why so many scrotes strictly go for women of 25 years and under, This. So much this. It is disgusting and purposeful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:30 PM
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It's a game. Just be honest and tell them not to contact you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:11 PM
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And to being pissed that his SO is getting tons of sex when he can't get any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:14 PM
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LOL. I have seen this situation way more than one time. The men can't get anyone, the women strike gold. So sad too bad. Those dudes deserve it. You want to open up the marriage? You get what you get and don't have a fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:10 PM
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It's a way of turning feminism against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:48 PM
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So much excuse making. I literally saw one not long ago where everyone suggested she communicate with her husband that she doesn't constantly want him hanging out with and texting this other woman who is in love with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:31 PM
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This is so spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:29 PM
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I have a friend who calls her husband king. It makes me gag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:52 PM
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Congratulations! I have an MS in counseling. The program was hard, but also so interesting and so much fun. It's pretty easy to get absorbed into the reading and lectures, b/c it is such an interesting topic. I think you will really enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:17 PM
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Teach your children to break up with leeches who see their SO as less than, and do not do their fair share. Not doing your fair share, and seeing your SO as a servant is leeching. It's also not healthy to have a partner who somehow thinks they deserve more free time than you have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:28 PM
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I am bi. If something happened with my husband, I would exclusively date women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:50 AM
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cough cough, looking at you latino moms I did an internship at an overwhelmingly predominantly Latino HS, and the girls were always telling me that their brothers got to do whatever they wanted while mom and sister waited on him and sister got to be the only one to help with housework and cooking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:54 PM
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Me too. Leaving is the best thing to do. It would be really humiliating to choose to stay there and put up with that level of douchiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:15 PM
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What a rude and crass thing for him to say. You did not overreact. I would have done the same as you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:10 PM
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I've been married for 25 years ANd have never done my husband's laundry. I have no interest in washing my partner's dirty underwear. He has never asked me to do it either. EVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:47 PM
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Gag. What a fool she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:46 PM
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Men are gross. I only dated one super clean guy. He has never been married and is almost 50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:44 PM
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I did it for me because I was spending time there. I would tell him to come over my house and be totally honest as to why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:42 PM
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And they better be willing to clean up with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:34 PM
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Women stay married regularly to sex offenders and blame the person who was raped, etc... It's so vile. Women even marry these men knowing they are sex offenders. I have seen so many stories on other subs about this. So much desperation. I would rather spend my time knitting, cooking great meals, running, working out, and talking to good women friends than date anyone who was trying to treat me like a PIckmeshia, much less men who are rapists and commit sex crimes. Star Trek TNG is a better optio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:02 AM
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I believe such shows are deliberately aired to encourage pickmesha behaviour. It was written, directed, and produced by men. So, your ideas are totally valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:00 AM
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I went on on first dates with so many guys ( about 7) who clearly told me they were not interested in a relationship. I walked out on all but maybe two of them, explaining that I did want a relationship and it was a waste of my time and theirs to continue the date. All but maybe 2 of the guys called me the next day changing their tune and saying that "maybe" they were open to a relationship. I told everyone of those guys that I was taking them at their word that they did not want a relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:53 AM
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I hung out with a guy like this. He liked me, but kept talking about his beloved ex who wanted nothing to do with him. I told him I wasn't interested (he was a newbie in my friend group) more than once. Like I would date a guy who was still hung up on the woman he could never have. He made it very clear that he wasn't interested in any kind of relationship with anyone. I asked him, "How could you be when you are still hung up on a woman who has no interest in you? You are love sick and will comp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:44 AM
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Be sure to communicate about your expectations Yes, and DO NOT be embarassed if his are way different than what you want. I had friends when I was younger who were so afraid to let guys know they wanted a committed and monogamous relationship, because they felt rejected when the guy said no. The reality is, when you talk to them about and they say no, you quickly let them know that you will not be dating them any longer. It's just as much you rejecting them and letting them know they have little…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:42 AM
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I've aged a lot too, and grown a lot. Although I thought the women were a bit sad and unrelatable then, I feel more so now. I also see way more flaws in the men than I did back in the day. That show is what men who hate women (Darren Starr) wanted women to behave like and settle for, so they created this show to make women feel empowered. These women are the opposite of empowered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:33 AM
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I think the writers really hated women and it shows I do too. The writers and producers were men. So many women thought the show was liberating and amazing. In reality, it's a bad message people like Darren Starr wanted to feed women about how we all need to be the "cool girl." Looking back, it was a terrible and misogynistic show. At the time, I always thought everyone but Miranda was horrible and sad. In reality, she settled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:36 PM
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She was obsessed in a very unhealthy way. I saw it when I watched the show. I thought she an Big deserved each other though. They were both very LV. He cheated on his wife with Carrie, and he put up with him marrying someone else, being his mistress, and him leaving her at the altar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:29 PM
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Insecure is a great show about black women and dating. It's on HBO. You can get HBO Go for a month or two and watch all of the episodes. It's so funny. It's written and produced (partially) by a black woman whose name is Issa Ray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:24 PM
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Me either. I kept seeing surveys about which STC "girl" you are. I wasn't any of them. I could not relate. After my first LVM boyfriend I learned my lessons. All my friends loved the show. One such friend stayed with her husband who she found out spent $50,000 on prostitutes. I clearly let her know that I did not support her. Our friendship faltered for a while. She finally got smart and left him. She is married to an extremely HVM now. We are close again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:55 PM
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Feminism with men writing the scripts? AKA, we will manipulate women into thinking this is how the cool girls are, and if they want to fit in, they have to accept crap treatment from men and be "easy" and compromise everything they want. It's so vile. All women need to realize that TV and movies are super fake. They are not at all reflective of reality. They are 100% a fantasy of how men want women to be, or how LVW are (Girls.) Hollywood is still controlled by men, many of who are exploitative.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:50 PM
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I seem to remember Darren Star, who also wrote Desperate Housewives. Gross. So it's some loser dude's fantasy about women? It's particularly gross when men write shows about women. It ends up being a fantasy of how they want women to be, and is designed to brainwash women into thinking this is how women are or should be. But, Girls wasn't much better even though it was a woman led production. It was full of brainwashed Pickmeshas who wanted to cater to shitty men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:43 PM
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Me too. I care less and less what other people think for every year that goes by. It is so freeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:37 PM
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I am older too, and everything I read, I think, "That is nothing new at all." Men haven't changed all that much. What has changed is the availability of sexual partners through dating websites. There is an illusion (and it is an illusion) of more choice. The thing with more choice for both men and women, is you have to weed out way way more LVM and LVW. Since you are meeting online, it's easier to lie and disguise who you really are as a person. You can even warp your appearance through software…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:28 PM
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I was thinking just now how great Harry, Steve, Aiden, and Smith were. But, I didn't see every episode, and I keep seeing comments like yours that remind me, "Oh yeah, he did." Or with Aiden how he was passive aggressive and a baby etc... I always thought that Big and Carrie were terrible people and deserved each other so much though. I haven't seen that show in so long. I think it was so glamourized when it came out, that I very much overlooked the flaws in the men, b/c all of the women were so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:58 PM
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With Smith, when I watched, I just thought that no way can a guy be that hot and that loving. But, often times in reality, the less attractive men are the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:54 PM
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Even worse if they try to kiss you after making you pay for your own coffee. These guys have some nerve. It must be working for them though, b/c they keep doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:38 PM
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You can respect boundaries while breaking things off with the person and blocking them. We are allowed to have boundaries too. Boundaries do not mean putting up with things that go against what you have determined are in your best interest. Ladies, I have not dated since the 1990's. It's much worse today with internet dating, but many men still behaved the same way as guys do now. I cut them off, even walking out on dates with no regrets. I felt powerful and good about myself when I cut off rela…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:34 PM
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They also do fake feelings when you don't sleep with them. They make empty promises for the conquest aspect. I haven't dated in a long time, but even many years ago, I went out with a few guys who said on our date one that they did not want a relationship. I literally left the date and told them that us continuing the date would be a huge waste of time for both of us. 95% called me back telling me they might want one after all. MY answer was always no. I let them know that I was going to honor w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:28 PM
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I don't get why it's so hard for women to tell a guy that they want a relationship, so they aren't wasting anymore time. Is it embarrassment? Desperation? I would find it far more embarrassing to settle for an ugly guy who doesn't want a relationship than telling him I do and taking control by cutting him off. I couldn't feel good about myself if I settled either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:23 PM
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No matter how society’s BS dresses it up, it really is all about securing female labor & caretaking for him. Yes. And older men are looking for a nurse or a purse. My husband's uncle lost his wife at 60. He was literally one of the ugliest men I have ever seen. He had women all over him, and he got them to cook for him, clean his house, etc... while dating multiple women at once--and they all knew. I didn't get it. I would rather be alone than deal with that. He was ugly and had nothing to offer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:03 AM
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Yes, but 99% of those men don't know or care about how to give a woman pleasure. They just want to hit it and go home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:50 AM
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And as you know, the problems go way beyond not being able to get it up. It goes into weird ideas about how sex should look and be, and men having no idea how to please a woman, b/c they think women get off from being pounded in doggy style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:14 PM
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I would cancel the trip and let him know why. I would tell him that the iron my clothes thing isn't cute at all. I would let him know that I know I deserve way better, and just ditch him. It's not cute or funny. It's terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:06 AM
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You pay, and tell them later via text that since they couldn't even be bothered to pay for a coffee date, that you don't want to see them again. I would tell them that since they had no desire to impress you on the first date, that you have no desire to see them again. I am all about honestly, and blocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:53 AM
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maybe it was a one time thing but I don’t like when people do that It wasn't. It was a normal thing, or he would not have done it. It's very generous to say it's a one time thing, but it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:50 AM
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That's b/c he showed you what he wanted you to see. It's kind of sad, b/c with an LDR, you should be able to put on your best face for a long time. He has given up trying to put on his best face (which is also lucky for you, b/c you can see him for the LVM he is. He is so lazy, that after 6 months of not much time with you, he can't hide that he is mean spirited and ugly in his behavior. ) Remember, not all men are capable of being HVM. I don't think your SO is an HVM at all. I think that he is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:23 PM
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Self improvement is great. It has such a high return. Not only will it bring you healthier habits and a better life, but when you are ready, it will make you a more desirable partner, who can attract a more desirable partner. I almost divorced my husband 5 years ago, and decided after looking at OLD, that I would almost rather stay single. I have a story about one seemingly awesome dude I met online, but it was so much work just to get down to that one decent guy out of hundreds. I think that th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:09 PM
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It's designed for low effort. It's swipe based on looks alone and go. It's all about hookups for the most part. I checked out some online dating sites when I was separated from my husband 5 years ago. I did fill out a profile on one, and like most women got a ton of replies pretty much the moment my profile went up. I deleted all of the one or handful of word messages, which were a lot. Then, I only responded to men who had filled out a reasonable amount in their profiles, and who sounded like d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:56 PM
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It gives them the idea that they have a ton of choice. It makes them lazy. If a date doesn't work out, they think they can just move on to one of the thousands of other women on the site, not considering that those women might not like him or want to date him with his LE ways. They also enjoy the rush of talking to a new person frequently. I don't think OLD is great in that aspect. I think it creates a lot of bad habits in many men and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:30 PM
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I am married, but I let my husband know that I am PMS'ing, and just sort of stay to myself, cry, watch sappy movies, or whatever. I find that it's an introspective time for me, and try to value the emotional release I get from rolling with it. I prefer to be a bit more isolated, as I can get irritated with really small things. It works for me. I really enjoy alone time anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:24 PM
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I would automatically nix anyone who talked about their ex in the first few dates. They should be there to impress you and woo you. Talking about your ex is in no way impressive or wooing. It's kinda gross really. That tells you that he thinks about his ex so much that it spills over into him trying to date other women. He should have way more to offer on a date than ex talk. He doesn't though. He wouldn't even pick up something as inexpensive as a cheap coffee. If he can't be bothered to buy yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:08 PM
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Also, not offering to pay for something as small as coffee is a big problem. It costs between $1.50-$5.00. That's a very small amount of money, and he wasn't willing to take the lead and pay. That means he isn't willing to put in even minimal effort to impress you. Aren't dates where we show off our best qualities and try to impress someone? I think it's also a huge red flag that they dated for 10 years and never got married. I'd be interested in the story behind that. I agree that the second da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:00 PM
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You should read the FDS handbook. A pickmeisha is a LVW who will do anything to get a man, including disrespect herself. I am sure there are other nuances, but that is the best way I can put it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:48 PM
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Or go up and pinch his dick or balls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:46 PM
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He is showing you his true colors. What you are seeing now is likely a fraction of how difficult and unpleasant he can really be. People can only woo and keep up their act for so long. This is you finding out he isn't an HVM. He sounds really disrespectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:41 PM
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He wouldn't even spring for a drink at Starbucks. That is really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:39 PM
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Yes, and if they are HVM, they will wait for sex. They plan on sticking around and aren't trying to rush you. When they try to rush you, it means they are just looking for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:37 PM
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I was going to say the same. I would pay my part and not go out with him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:35 PM
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What he's really saying is that he wants a woman that views herself as worthless so he can abuse her. Why would anyone be proud of that? You just hit the nail right on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:28 PM
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her man Women like that always seem t refer to their SO as "my man" as though he is just a placeholder to keep their bed warm. All they care about is having a man, no matter how awful he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:36 PM
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It is a rude thing to talk about, especially on the first few dates. It was a red flag for me back in the day for sure. I wanted to get to know these guys, while they were ceaselessly talking about an ex they were not over--like I was their therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:51 PM
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She has what I like to call, "warm bed syndrome." All she wants is a man to warm her bed. Nothing else about him matters. She just wants to say she has a man, and that is it. The quality of that man means nothing to her. My MIL and SIL are like that. They really think they are nothing without some sorry ass dude to warm their bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:48 PM
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Absolutely. The man took the vows or whatever. He is the one who violated the agreement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:47 PM
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They love the idea of pitting women against each other to fight over them. It's so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:46 PM
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If he leaves, let him go. That shouldn't be hard. I don't get why someone would want a guy like this. It's gotta be warm bed syndrome or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:37 PM
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I have friend who was telling me about a guy she was sleeping with. He sounded dreadful. I asked if she had an orgasm with him. She told me no. I asked why she was still having sex with him, and she was dumbstruck. She said, "I have no idea." So, I reminded her that he is getting his but doesn't care about pleasuring her, and that was not right. She took a second and said she had never thought about it that way. It was like a revelation for her. I mean, I would walk out on a sexual encounter whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:36 PM
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Yes. they are setting it up for the woman to be the bad guy if she is grossed out by this. Love the answer though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:32 PM
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Don't get me started on the weird dudes who like to plan "swimming" dates. I have read about those over and over. I'm not swimming in some nasty apartment pool people have pissed in so you can see what I look like in a swimsuit and what I look like with no makeup. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:33 PM
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Even younger teen girls get that BS. My daughter's little boyfriend, when she was 15, told her he liked her without makeup, and sent the pick he liked of her with n makeup. She had on a lot of makeup, just in more earthy natural colors. Of course she busted him on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:30 PM
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Then they get upset when their slave doesn't want sex. What do they expect? Having another child in the form of a grown man to care for is sexually repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:30 AM
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I just wonder what exactly DO these lazy men bring to the table? It's a great question. I don't get why women stay with these men who leech off of them and expect them to take on all of the house work, childcare, and emotional labor. Those husbands are like having another child. How can you be sexually attracted to a man like that? Being a mom to a grown man is gross and not at all sexually attractive. It's sexually repulsive. My husband started inching up on that behavior, and I lost all sexual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:26 AM
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You should file for proper support and back support. I know you already know that though. I am sorry your ex is a deadbeat dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:53 AM
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I should also clarify she had 2 deadbeat ex husbands and $0 child suppo My MIL was like that, but she moved on to husband #2, who was and is a POS. He treated my husband and the other 2 like garbage. He has a daughter he doesn't know by some other woman. The kids have been gone a long while, yet he still behaves like a manchild wanting to make huge life decisions and moves that would ruin my MIL's life. He thinks if he moves here or there that his life will suddenly improve. He doesn't realize h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:50 AM
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This may seem OT, but it's not that much. I have a friend who does my hair who is stunning and has a great figure. Her husband expected her to work full-time, care for 3 kids, the house, and keep her figure up through workouts. She was exhausted. She basically cut off sex, b/c it was one of the few things she could cut. She wasn't very attracted to him, of course, b/c he was taking advantage. She went to part-time work without asking. He actually rose to the occasion and has been promoted severa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:13 AM
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It would be nice to have forced custody if the dad is an okay guy. One human should not be able to put the care of the child totally on another person. It's terrible. Women rarely abandon their kids, it always seems to be dudes who do it. It seems like such a common thing in both marriage and divorce where men put 100% of the responsibilities on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:06 AM
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Bake the potatoes and put them in the fridge. Then, spend 10 minutes making them "twice baked." Best potato you will ever have. I put bacon butter, cream, sour cream, and cheese in them, along with salt, pepper, and garlic. I whip them, put them in the potato, and cook them until the are warm and melty--about 40 minutes. The actual hands on time isn't much-- 10 to 15 minutes. Quesadillas are also an awesome quick meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:04 AM
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A lot of employers have not gotten the message that the recession is over. They are still running their business in recession mode, even though they know better. They got to this comfortable point where people felt lucky to have a job, and they had one person doing the work of 3 people. They never got out of that mode. It is ridiculous. It's called taking advantage. I live in a big city, so I would look for a less demanding job. But, you may not be able to do that. That employer thing is so para…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:48 AM
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I wanted to be a chef, because I love to cook and am great at it. But, it's such a difficult job, and you work with a lot of very difficult people. I love making sauces, dressings, and the like, and am quite talented at it. But it's a grind. I admire anyone who gets into it--especially women. I am glad I researched it before I went to culinary school. It's low pay for a lot of very, very demanding and stressful work with difficult people. I am convinced that it was easier for me to get a master'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:45 AM
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This is why I refuse to work more than part-time. I make bank hourly. But, If I am going to do more around the house and cook meals (which I actually like doing) no way am I pulling a 40 hour work week on top of it. We both know that both of us are happier when I work 15-20 hours a week, do some things I already like doing as my extra contribution, and my husband gets to come home to a great meal, decent house, and relaxed spouse. That was established long ago. At one point, my husband acted res…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:31 AM
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But you are deficient in a whole other way if you expect your female spouse to do it while you take 1 hour shifts on the crapper (gross) while also having her do all of the child care and housework. Only a LVM would treat a woman like that. I am always shocked at the number of women I see doing it all--like they need to prove a point. They let their LVM walk all over them and act like they are the king of the world and need their new mommy to take care of them. This is why it's super important t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:22 AM
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Then stop dating them. They aren't a HVM if they just want sex. You know they are giving you BS--you even said it. Just get out. HVM aren't going to be a dime a dozen. Things like waiting are meant to weed out LVM. I don't think you can necessarily turn a LVM into a HVM. Some HVM may act like LVM sometimes, but truly LVM cannot just become HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:06 PM
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I feel like so many things have been turned around on women. Like some men expect women to earn but still do all of the housework and raise the kids on their own. They want a woman who cooks and caters to them, but still works and brings in half the income. This is men seeing their wives as LV. We are in this weird middle space where we are expected to do it all. I reject that. A partner has to be willing to do half the work if I am expected to be an equal earner. They can't act like I am lucky …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:32 PM
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As a once HVM married woman, I agree. I have turned into a Becky, but am enlisting myself as an HVW once again. I want to hear from married HVM's, as I need to get myself back into that space. Once you become a LVW who is married, it's hard to pull yourself out of that funk. Men are very eager to treat you like a LVW the minute you become one in any way. We both went from HVM/W to LVM/W once we were married for a while. As I am inching into becoming a HVW now, I can see my husband's behavior cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:53 PM
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But if you find yourself disagreeing too often with multiple posts, I don’t think your comments would be useful to you or to the rest of the members. I was thinking this. If this sub doesn't work for you and you disagree too much, it's not the sub for you. It's like so many other things in life. If it doesn't work for you, move on. You really shouldn't have the goal to come in and try to change people's minds about something they are devoted to and that works for them. This is not your method to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:29 PM
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He will also value you less as a person. You become a Becky when you make yourself so easily accessible to him. If he can please himself with pics of you, what motivation does he have to seduce you and please you? I do agree with the tendency of men to get revenge or show off. It's just not worth it whether it is because of possible future revenge or demeaning yourself in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 08:11 PM
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I couldn't agree more. He needs to wait until he can see you naked in person. It will make him long for you. It lowers your worth and their motivation to contact you when you seem desperate and send nudes. They really will have less respect for you. I sent nudes to my husband upon request once when he was on a trip and away. I sent pics of my breasts without my face in them. His contact with me immediately fell drastically. I just pulled back and did not text him until he texted me first and the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 08:03 PM
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When I was dating in the late 1980's and early 1990's, guys didn't really even try to seduce--even with making them wait. They got all of their sexual education from porn (which means they weren't HVM,) and never tried to please me the first time. I let them know once I finally slept with them (when we were committed) that I wasn't pleased, and that them getting off was not enough for me. I was very, very honest. Then, I withdrew and did not sleep with them again until they chased me and practic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 07:50 PM
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Even worse if they want to do what I did with those partners sexually. Gross. That is just them looking for a reason to be mad, jealous, or even entitled to what you did with previous partners. What if you tried anal with a previous partner, but hated it? Since you did it with one guy, the new guy would feel entitled to it in order to feel like you like them as much. Gross. What a horrible question to ask. It should be either, "None of your business" or an insta dump. I would personally be tempt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 07:37 PM
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I agree. I don't think any good can come from that question. It is a judgement question, plain and simple. Anyone who asks is looking to judge you as a whore or prude. It can also lead major jealousy issues--which is part of the judgement. It is no one's business. There is literally no legit reason to ask this question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 07:24 PM
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But a guy who is stringing women along and being manipulative just to get set is frankly an asshole. They are also really creepy. Getting a woman to violate her own boundaries based on lies is really, really creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:48 PM
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Yes. There are definitely men who will try to tell you otherwise. They see it as a challenge, b/c they are sadistic or something similar. Some men like tearing women down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:46 PM
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If I met a guy who was physically exactly what I wanted and he was a shithead, I would not fuck him. Period. Even if I had zero interest in a relationship, I would not fuck him. A man has to have something to offer besides looks to be sexually attractive to me. I would fuck an average guy who was smart, funny, empathetic and respectful than a good looking asshole. The sex would probably be way better too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/16 12:28 AM
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But you could say that about any trait. I like dark curly hair and slightly crooked teeth, but just b/c a guy has dark curly hair and slightly crooked teeth doesn't mean I'm going to want to fuck him. Even if he has all of the physical traits I like, also doesn't mean I am going to fuck him. If he is serious, stupid, or an asshole, it's a no go. It's a combination of things that invovle both personality and looks that make me sexually attracted to a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/16 12:22 AM
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For me, intelligence covers not only competency, but (and this could fall under competency) a guy who knows what he is talking about. He reads and keeps up with current events, he understands that evidence is important, and he doesn't just talk out of his ass. There is a much older guy at work who is into physics and he knows how to explain it. He has all of these cool gadgets in his office and shows me all of this cool stuff by demonstrating it. That part of him is super sexy, although I am not…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/16 12:10 AM
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I think you got it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/16 12:06 AM
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responsibility, intelligence, and emotional maturity are important in a partner, but aren't really sexy per se. I find those things super sexy, especially non-cocky intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/16 12:04 AM
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I like shorter men. I dated a few that were 5'5-5'7.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/16 12:00 AM
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I know tons of ladies who have the hots for Jon Stewart. Colbert, not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/16 11:54 PM
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A lot of ugly guys want women way out of their league as well. No one wants ugly, men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/16 11:26 PM
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